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smallandmechanical | I have pure OCD traits and have been technically diagnosed, but am curious as to if the types of obsessive ruination I have may actually be an adhd thing.
Having ADHD, obsessions can be anything, and often might be a new hobby or interest, or something I am thinking about buying, or a person. When I become passionate/obsessive towards a hobby it is fun, I love that drive even though it’s fleeting.
I’ve always had an obsessive thought process - just in the sense that, I think about EVERYTHING in detail. Sometimes it’s a good thing, and makes me very self aware, or introspective. But when it’s bad, like about a conflict or insecurity in my relationship or something, it’s very destructive.
I know that I’ve always been like this, whether it’s due to some personality “disorder” or not - but I’m curious, do other people with adhd struggle with the same thing? | 2021-12-05T17:43:57.000Z | r9kwnk | 2 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD and obsessive rumination. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9kwnk/adhd_and_obsessive_rumination/ |
jasonlou89 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T17:41:19.000Z | r9kumz | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I just thought I'd share my supplements in hopes of helping someone here. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9kumz/i_just_thought_id_share_my_supplements_in_hopes/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T17:40:34.000Z | r9ku1l | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I'm having a really tough time adjusting to the meds. I could definitely use some support as I feel it has supercharged my anxiety and executive dysfunctions. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ku1l/im_having_a_really_tough_time_adjusting_to_the/ |
baileyw13 | I’ve been taking adderall XR 30mg @8a.m. for about 6 months now with amazing results. About a month ago though, I started waking up multiple times during the night. I don’t feel rested at all. Could the meds be causing this, or is it just my ADHD torturing me? I’m just confused because this started out of nowhere. Anyone else experience anything like this? | 2021-12-05T17:38:18.000Z | r9ksat | 17 | 15 | ADHD | I forgot what a full nights sleep feels like. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ksat/i_forgot_what_a_full_nights_sleep_feels_like/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T17:37:53.000Z | r9kryr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone get adderall withdrawals if you haven't taken their medicine in a bit? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9kryr/does_anyone_get_adderall_withdrawals_if_you/ |
CayKar1991 | I ask because my mom... scares me sometimes. I don't know how supportive she would be of my looking into testing to see if I have ADHD.
My old school doesn't exist anymore though. And it was in a different country. So.
Any thoughts on how I could phrase to my mom that I'd like a copy of all my old school records? | 2021-12-05T17:35:33.000Z | r9kq78 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | What's the best way to get old school report cards from strict parents? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9kq78/whats_the_best_way_to_get_old_school_report_cards/ |
___whattodo___ | Like your mind was already having a conversation with yourself all night over whatever it is. It's not uncommon for me to wake up in mid thought about something and then ruminate half the day over it. It's so fucking annoying and waste of my time and yet I can't stop thinking about whatever it is. Trying to solve the problem, look at it from different angles, apply it to other scenarios, etc... Then poof hours have gone by. | 2021-12-05T17:34:21.000Z | r9kpba | 51 | 179 | ADHD | Do you wake up with thoughts already racing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9kpba/do_you_wake_up_with_thoughts_already_racing/ |
caiyzik | I think there are some neurotypical people here that have family members, friends, and other loved ones with ADHD.
Neurotypicals, How does your brain work?
It's really easy to look at ADHD symptoms as a whole and come to the conclusion that "everyone experiences that" or that it's caused by depression or whatever. But I am interested in the things that we DONT experience. | 2021-12-05T17:16:30.000Z | r9kbdn | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Neurotypical people, what is your brain like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9kbdn/neurotypical_people_what_is_your_brain_like/ |
adamskiG9877 | I have an interview at Oxford university next week and have been trying to prepare. In doing some mock interviews, I realised that I am really bad at answering factual questions. I often forget the question or don't really take it in once they've said it, not remembering the context literally 20 seconds later. Also, i find it really hard to actually answer the question simply and maintain a train of thought. Not sure if this is me being stupid or an ADHD thing.
I consider myself good at the subject I'm applying for, and know a lot of things about it, but just really struggle to explain them clearly. I am just getting frustrated as the answer is always clear in my head but comes out as a jumble of thoughts, often with random facts mixed in.
Has anyone else has a similar interview experience? How might I improve this? | 2021-12-05T17:13:26.000Z | r9k8y2 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Preparing for university interviews is impossible! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9k8y2/preparing_for_university_interviews_is_impossible/ |
HashtagDickSandwich | [removed] | 2021-12-05T17:07:09.000Z | r9k3ye | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I inevitably get tired or bored with people, is this ADHD or something else? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9k3ye/i_inevitably_get_tired_or_bored_with_people_is/ |
heyugonnafinishthat | I was diagnosed last year at 29, and tried CBT for a few months. I didn’t find it very helpful—I think it was a bad fit with the therapist, but I’m also not sure if CBT will be useful to me at all.
People who have had good experiences with CBT—what did you like about your therapist? What kind of stuff did you work on? What did you take away from it?
Thanks! | 2021-12-05T17:07:06.000Z | r9k3wv | 7 | 6 | ADHD | People who had a good CBT experience, what did you like about it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9k3wv/people_who_had_a_good_cbt_experience_what_did_you/ |
larch303 | I just saw this somewhere as a symptom of ADHD and somehow it just struck me.
Why would ADHDers do this? Well, it’s simple, getting good at something requires planning, and a lot of ADHDers suck at planning.
It’s funny because I used to be the opposite, I would never give something up even if it was very clear that I was not good at it after years, and by not good at it, I mean not even able to somewhat do it. The reason I never got good at it might have something to do with planning, as while I was motivated to continue going to scheduled practices, I wouldn’t really do much else. | 2021-12-05T17:05:57.000Z | r9k30o | 20 | 92 | ADHD | “Abandoning hobbies that you are not immediately good at” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9k30o/abandoning_hobbies_that_you_are_not_immediately/ |
AkaBoss01 | I wanted to share a few things I’m feeling, and I hope to get some support.
I struggle with believing people love me, and I’ve cut ties with a lot of people. I also believe my parents hate me, and my relationship with them is strained.
I lack the intrinsic motivation to do things, and I struggle with doing things, even if I genuinely enjoy them. My mom thinks I’m just escapist and lazy, and she is hellbent on refuting my claims about MY FUCKING FEELINGS.
I struggle with noises in my surroundings, and there are spells of time where I have laser focus, and they distract me only then. I lose focus, and get really angry then, only for them to blame me and say I’m a horrible human being.
Besides these things, something I struggle with is that I tend to remember only bad memories, and tend to forget that people have actually been good to me. I feel bad looking back at the good times, and I regret cutting ties with people because of my distorted memories.
I really don’t want to live anymore. I don’t have anything to live for, and I don’t think people care about me. | 2021-12-05T17:05:16.000Z | r9k2gp | 3 | 2 | ADHD | My struggles. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9k2gp/my_struggles/ |
zepuzzler | These are the moments when I feel so overwhelmed. I don’t know if non-ADHD people feel this way often as well, but I feel like with my ADHD I can see all the related elements in a project at once. So all the things that must be done in order to, say, finish a minor house renovation project like painting and patching a wall, just endlessly unroll in backwards order through my mind and I don’t know how deep to go. Then that project gets put next to competing priorities like cleaning the house and getting through the mess on my desk and THEY get interlocked in my mind.
So maybe I should patch that one spot so it’s drying while I answer those emails except my home office is full of stuff waiting to be put back after painting so maybe…and on and on.
It happens on really basic things too, like whether I’m going to make the bed first or get dressed first, or put on the water to boil or feed the cats before I have my cereal. Because running things in parallel saves time. Why just be eating your cereal when the laundry could also be running and the water boiling and the cats eating?
IT’S SO MUCH. 😳
These things can make me a good project manager. But it’s hard to know when to stop. Even when I think, we’ll this is untenable, I just need to cut back on some of these projects or responsibilities, then I find myself problem-solving that and again it all unrolls before me. | 2021-12-05T17:04:33.000Z | r9k1x1 | 34 | 194 | ADHD | Before I can do the thing I need to do, I need to first do this other thing, oh and another thing before that, and another thing before that… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9k1x1/before_i_can_do_the_thing_i_need_to_do_i_need_to/ |
Hazim7628 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T17:01:43.000Z | r9jzlh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is being ADHD like having 'restless over too much rest' in a nutshell? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jzlh/is_being_adhd_like_having_restless_over_too_much/ |
InexorableBliss | I have been in this trauma healing journey for years now and I finally feel more content will all my emotions. The problem is that now I do t have the same drive and speed that I used to have because it was fueled by bullying myself and constant stress. I feel happier but my life seems to have slowed down to 25% of what it was and feel like I do t have time to more than just take care of myself and my job.
I feel like my hyperfocus is gone and I really miss it to get a lot done in a short period of time or finding new hobbies. Is anyone going through this? | 2021-12-05T16:59:33.000Z | r9jxpm | 1 | 7 | ADHD | ADHD and trauma healing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jxpm/adhd_and_trauma_healing/ |
[deleted] | I am an undergrad student diagnosed with ADHD-PI taking two grad level courses. I have to write 2 15-20 page papers. I am having a hard time, and I always have a hard time, structuring my thoughts and getting everything in order. It feels like I have a million different ideas, and I don't know where to put them or how to order them or make anything I write sound coherent.
I have tried to make outlines, but they end up being vague, and it still feels difficult to see how different points connect with each other. I feel like outlines might be easier with shorter papers, but with these longer ones, it feels like I am losing my way and nothing I write makes sense.
I want to go to grad school, so I know I need to figure this out, but I am having trouble finding advice beyond "make outlines" that works for me. Or advice I do find is tailored for middle or high schoolers:/ | 2021-12-05T16:59:07.000Z | r9jxe0 | 15 | 8 | ADHD | If you're in academia with ADHD, how the hell do you write coherent papers? | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jxe0/if_youre_in_academia_with_adhd_how_the_hell_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T16:52:01.000Z | r9jryd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Suggestions for functioning on days after little sleep ?!? 🙀 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jryd/suggestions_for_functioning_on_days_after_little/ |
savethebeesclub | Whether you count all of your time getting distracted between sentences as time writing the essay or not, I’m curious how long it takes you. I’m working on my final project for one of my Master’s classes, and I was so proud of myself for starting it so early (2 days before the due date). Yesterday, I wrote 11 pages in one day, although I spent most of the day distracted on my phone. | 2021-12-05T16:51:35.000Z | r9jrmc | 11 | 4 | ADHD | How fast can you write an essay? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jrmc/how_fast_can_you_write_an_essay/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T16:39:11.000Z | r9ji55 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone here ever been successful with having their insurance company cover something to help with their ADHD? If so, what was it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ji55/has_anyone_here_ever_been_successful_with_having/ |
friendlynbhdidot | I'm working on a project for a class today, and I noticed that I kept backing away from the work to adjust something minor to my environment.
*It's too dark in here; I should turn on this lamp. I don't think my trackpad will be enough, so I'll dig out my mouse. This playlist is wrong.*
I'm no stranger to procrastination—it's the only way I've ever managed to clean anything in my apartment in a timely manner. This feels a bit different, though.
I don't know if it's my brain looking for even the slightest out from focusing on something or if I'm just really sensitive to the slightest discomfort when I'm trying to dig down and focus on something. Does anyone else have this problem? | 2021-12-05T16:35:58.000Z | r9jfnf | 12 | 7 | ADHD | Do you feel like you nitpick a lot when you have to work on something? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jfnf/do_you_feel_like_you_nitpick_a_lot_when_you_have/ |
Prestigious_Agent687 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T16:34:23.000Z | r9jefq | 30 | 0 | ADHD | Listen Up For all you Men out there on a Stimulant. Do you notice your hair falling out? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jefq/listen_up_for_all_you_men_out_there_on_a/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T16:33:50.000Z | r9jdyy | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How an adhd bookworm reads, is it just me? My process of rereading a book I like: The scan, the thorough read, and the mega scan. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jdyy/how_an_adhd_bookworm_reads_is_it_just_me_my/ |
lacelaceylace | I feel like the concept of fidgeting is being explored more these days with the introduction of fidget toys and such. Though it is common to fidget with the hands (such as rubbing hands together or one I do a lot, making a flicking motion with my forefinger and thumb repeatedly), there are other more darker ways people fidget.
My personal problem comes with my hair. I often touch, twirl, or play with the edges of my hair, which is a lot more harmful than one would think. My hair is thick and curly, often when I touch it or twirl, it clumps up and I end up pulling it out. This got so bad, at one point my hair was noticeably shorter and I couldn’t figure out how to stop. All I could do is look in horror as I pulled out another hair clump and set it aside in a small pile (and my mother and aunt would shame me saying if I stopped touching my hair then maybe it’d be long). I only recently realized this was fidgeting and not something I could control so easily.
With fidget toys, I can easily forget them and they don’t give me the same sensory satisfaction that my hair texture does. I look back in videos and see me staring blankly, twirling my hair, it’s pathetic. I’ve yet to hear anyone talk about this, specifically hair twirling and fidgeting.
The other one I know is common and I wish there was a fidget toy or a substitution and that is skin/scab picking. I’m not sure why it’s so satisfying, but if I have one I will excessively feel, touch, then pick my scabs. I’ve heard people pick their scalps too which I’m guilty of. The downside to this (other than putting germs on your scabs or causing unnecessary bleeding) is the scars. I’ve got scars on my legs and arms from mosquito bites I’ve scratched so hard to cause them to bleed to make scabs. Then I’d play and pick those scabs. My body would repeatedly try to heal itself but I’d pick over those scabs too until they leave scars. It’s not pretty, my legs look awful. But even worse I’ve heard of people keeping sharp objects and purposely causing bleeding to make scabs to mess with.
I feel like the darker parts of fidgeting aren’t talked about too much. It’s more than just playing with toys or squirming around. I can’t control it. I once tried to force myself to stop touching my hair so it could grow, but it only worked for so long.
What’s your experience with harmful fidgeting and what are ways you deal with it? | 2021-12-05T16:33:08.000Z | r9jdfd | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Harmful fidgeting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jdfd/harmful_fidgeting/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T16:32:19.000Z | r9jcte | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hyperfixation help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9jcte/hyperfixation_help/ |
GlitteringMidnight98 | How can get myself running everyday ? I used to run almost everyday when I was I teen once or twice a day then I suddenly I quit for no particular reason. Now I am 25 years old I am still wondering why I quit , I was very active and healthy but on the other hand I was a little bit obsessed ( body dismorphya?) . | 2021-12-05T16:26:17.000Z | r9j865 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Running for my health and boost dopamine. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9j865/running_for_my_health_and_boost_dopamine/ |
overwhelmedbutter | How do you differentiate anxiety and depression from adhd?
It's an essay, so, here's the TLDR:
How can you tell you have adhd, if you've had anxiety and depression since childhood, and the symptoms overlap a whole bunch?
So, I've been lurking here for a while, but I've finally come around and managed to put into words a question of my own, which is: how can you tell if and which parts of what you're experiencing is due to anxiety and depression, and which are from adhd?
Specifically, if anxiety and depression have been ongoing, longterm things as well.
I'm 20f and I've been dealing with depression since elementary school, due to a friendship turned toxic situation which was what seems to have started it, though, it didn't go anywhere after that situation was over. And as for anxiety, looking back, I feel pretty confident saying that I had anxiety before that too, even some memories of it from kindergarten.
I haven't been diagnosed with adhd, and it's actually not a well-known or diagnosed thing in my country, as far as I gather. I've found maybe one specialist that when searching for someone that specializes in adhd, and she's a neurologist.. I'm considering seeing her, but it'll probably take a while to get around to that, considering both her waiting time and me getting myself together to feel ready enough to do it.
However, I'm already in therapy (a little over a year now) and have just had a change of therapist, and I think the new one is actually also a psychiatrist. I'll probably bring the possibility of adhd up with her also eventually, but I have a hard time actually explaining why I think I might have it. I just kind of blank out when asked, and scramble to gather any of the reasons, quite insufficiently. And then, if they think it's not the case, I never bring it up again. Or at least, that's what happened with my last therapist. Basically, I'm not very good at advocating for myself or such.
But then on the other hand, I was already searching, trying to figure out for what THIS was way before, cause depression and anxiety didn't quite cover it? I don't know? I just remember thinking, maybe bipolar, for a while, cause of the mania/hyper and the depression episodes going in a cycle, except mine changed much more frequently, and weren't as extreme in some sense?
And then now, for a good while, I've been leaning towards it possibly being adhd (together with the depression and anxiety), and even if it's not, it's been useful to read how other people cope, what techniques they use for dealing with similar issues.
The thing is a lot of symptoms of depression and anxiety look similar to adhd, plus count in how it presents differently in different people, and then the actual personality, etc. of the individual, and I'm so confused.
And, one specific thing is the fact that my symptoms and all the emotional baggage and everything has sort of slowly poured out into the open after leaving the school system at 15/16, and I think before that, I might have been miserable, etc., but it was so intense, controlled, rigid, etc. that I was always tense and holding it all together enough to function "normally" and fit other people's expectations, even outdo them.
And, so, the problem there is that I simply don't remember. My symptoms in the last few years have been stronger, more obvious, and I'm way more aware of them, but one of those is a certain kind of shitty memory. And the memory of my childhood to adolescent years is vague and consists mostly of very specific scenes of moments and overarching states/feelings. But I have no clue how I felt most of the time or usually and stuff. And what my mom remembers doesn't sound like a kid with adhd. So, I don't know.
As for the actual symptoms and so on. I'm currently in a state where I'm just about able to juggle attending an art school (it's the type that counts as just slightly more than a hobby, not a university or anything. Classes are 3x a week, each for ~3 hours), helping around the house (currently living with my parents and younger siblings), taking care of myself, like hygiene, eating, etc.,but not at a healthy rate, just enough to not make things worse, and then therapy once a week, a tiny bit of socializing and then there's the time..the one in which I ATTEMPT to do the things I like/want, whatever that means, from starting an art career to researching small and huge ideas for all kinds of widely varying projects to writing an actually finished story, etc.
But my symptoms, to name a few that I might associate with adhd:
*The inability and taking forever to start a task, even if it's an easy and quick one or one I actually want to do.
*Having to split things (text, actions, assignments, etc.) in to tiny bits and steps to be able to do almost anything.
*The racing thoughts in several directions at once, forgetting what I was just now thinking, hopping back and forth, and not just worrying, anxious or negative thoughts, but just generally.
*Having to really consider and put a lot of energy into communicating, so I would get my point across and the other person would understand what I'm saying, instead of the hectic way I talk to my sister. Actively, thinking what and how I'm gonna say the next thing, and also thinking about what the other person said and how they said it and what they meant and if they're finished with their thought/the entire topic. And the how to transion to the next thing...etc. And this urge that I have to explain everything exactly and perfectly and make sure the person truly understood what I was trying to explain.
*Also, some possible signs in some other family members, but I don't want to self-diagnose, much less attempt to diagnose anyone else.
Aaand..I'll stop here. It's an essay, yet I still feel like I haven't quite said everything I wanted and in the way I wanted.
Anyhow, thanks for reading all this! | 2021-12-05T16:23:28.000Z | r9j5y3 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | How do you differentiate anxiety and depression from adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9j5y3/how_do_you_differentiate_anxiety_and_depression/ |
Stutters658 | Hey all. Ive been diagnosed 4 years ago and I've been working on managing my ADHD ever since. As I'm sure most people here can understand, it has not been easy. The main issue comes from the fact that I seem to be hyper sensitive to stimulants. I'm a 170lbs male and even 10mg of Vyvanse will have very unpleasant side effect. I become over stimulated very easily, my heart is racing and I feel very jittery. Concerta feels the same at the 27mg dosage, in addition of wrecking my digestive system. Most people I know with ADHD (from this sub and in real life) take much higher dosage and say they dont feel any effect or that it makes them sleepy. At first I thought maybe I was misdiagnosed so I went trough the whole diagnosis process all over again with another specialist (Thankfully its free and easy to access in my country) and they confirmed my diagnosis.
I'm not sure what to think of all this. Do I have a disease that my body cant tolerate the cure for it ? why is my body unable to handle stimulants if my condition is caused my a lack of natural chemical stimulation ?
Do any of you here feel the same way? are there people that are just unable to handle stimulant? | 2021-12-05T16:21:05.000Z | r9j45f | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Hypersensitivity to stimulant | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9j45f/hypersensitivity_to_stimulant/ |
Buanonstudent | [removed] | 2021-12-05T16:19:56.000Z | r9j37e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Newly diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9j37e/newly_diagnosed/ |
angrymice | Do interruptions trigger anxiety in you?
Even before I was diagnosed with ADHD, I often found that interruptions in tasks would cause a lot of frustration and anxiety. I realized that my anxiety was tied to a fear that I wouldn't be able to return to the task.
This was a problem at work, but my work is relaxed enough that I was rarely obligated to do something immediately (plus for a long time I wasn't doing anything work related anyway, so it "interruptions" were more like immediate tasks which are much more helpful). The bigger issue was at home where I have a 7 year old girl with ADHD, and a 4 year old boy who is either a very 4 year old boy or possibly has ADHD (he's too young to be diagnosed or treated). I would be trying to do the dishes, or cook dinner and would suddenly be asked to play or use the bathroom or help paint, and suddenly my anxiety would just skyrocket, because I believed I would never be able to finish the task. This was, and still is, really hard with the 4 year old who often has a million ideas at once for what he wants to do, and none of them lead to any conclusion.
Adderall had helped, but it still lingers. I think mindfullness is helpful, but I sometimes forget that I need to practice because my anxiety is just too high to allow me to think. It's been bad enough sometimes that in I need to yell for everyone to stop, but that just causes more issues. | 2021-12-05T16:17:22.000Z | r9j199 | 19 | 75 | ADHD | Becoming anxious when tasks are interrupted | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9j199/becoming_anxious_when_tasks_are_interrupted/ |
legbiffi | Hello everyone
Does anyone used to struggle a lot more with facing responsibilities? Avoiding it to the max rate possible? And after medication, you can set up a day tuned on what once was a nightmare?
Because now I felt like I let 28 years of my life went by thinking I was somehow broke, lazy, or just with peterpan syndrom.
I can usually be patient because Im rational, but it used to be more of a struggle.
I still have problems with panicking around daily jobs. | 2021-12-05T16:15:16.000Z | r9izpz | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Struggling with life responsibilities | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9izpz/struggling_with_life_responsibilities/ |
New_Adagio_3635 | I am in a very deep hole right now, where I just want a place to belong and feel loved because I dont right now :( I am even shaking while writing this.
Some background information about me: I had a very rough childhood because I was bullied in school beacuse of my inatentiveness and quirky traits so I found peace and safety at home with videogames and a seemingly loving family. My parents were always the type of people who would rather secure the peace in the family than to adress and validate everyones feelings and were also raised to suck things that bother them up most of the time. I have very little friends and I dont feel save in a lot of places. I do go to therapy and try to learn new ways to cope and life a good life.
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I had an incident some time ago. I had some friends that weren't really good for me with whom I smoked a lot of w¨¨d and who were trying to lead me into a direction in life that I thought wasnt the best for me. At the same time I god prescribed methylphenidate for the first time in my life. I think the combination of both the w¨¨d and the methylphenidate kinda made a barrier inside me disappear and I leashed out on my dad with some pretty hard and panicking words in the kind of that I thought that we have never had a functioning father-son connection and that I never really felt connected to him. I don't know where these words came from, obviously from a very dark place in my brain. I couldnt see my family for a few weeks after that and my mother stated to me that she will take care of my dad first now. I never felt more like a fuckup more than in that time and I just didnt know who I was back then. I then got off of the meds and minimized my w¨¨d intake drastically, through the help of my cousin got back together with my father where we both cried hugging eachother and telling ourselves that were sorry. I love him so much and I feel so bad even now that multiple months have passed. I also got newly prescribed wellbutrin and its working very well for me. My mom isnt the same towards me as well since then. She acts more distant than before, like always being suspicious of me.
My father was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer and my whole family isnt doing very well since everyone is under a lot of pressure.
I recently had a discussion with my mother and I could tell that she was frustrated about everything that is happening rn in our family. She basically told me that she would kick me out of the house if I was not vaccinated against corona already. The discussion continued and came to the topic of smoking w¨¨d. I told my mom the truth that I occationally do smoke w¨¨d but only if Im in a really good mood and just want to enjoy my time and not out of anxiety and thats about one hundreth of the amount I smoked before and that I really feel myself having everything under controll. She then told me in a passice agressive way that she hopes that such an outbreak will never happen again. Later on I confronted my mom about what she has told me before and she litterally told me that she is afraid of me and is distancing herself and will care for my dad at all costs. MY OWN MOM FEARS ME.
I just dont know what to do, where to go or what to do with myself. Im in such despair and just feel so unloved and uncared for by everything. I just want a save place where I feel loved because I have a really hard time doing that for myself right now | 2021-12-05T16:10:24.000Z | r9iw1p | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I dont feel safe anywhere | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9iw1p/i_dont_feel_safe_anywhere/ |
kingevillemon | Hi all
So I've just been told I need to wait 1 year to get my diagnosis through the UK health care system. Im thinking about going the private diagnosis root but I've heard it can be really expensive. Has anyone gone down this root and how much does their medication cost?
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Was thinking of getting a private diagnosis while I wait on the waiting list through the NHS then hopefuly they can diagnosis me again and give me cheaper medication?
Was thinking of getting a private diagnosis while I wait on the waiting list through the NHS then hopefully they can diagnosis me again and give me cheaper medication? | 2021-12-05T16:10:17.000Z | r9ivyt | 7 | 1 | ADHD | How much does a private ADHD Diagnosis cost? (UK) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ivyt/how_much_does_a_private_adhd_diagnosis_cost_uk/ |
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Ok_Ganache4842 | I’m not sure where I read/watched this piece of information, but it was like a mini mind blown situation.
I spend all day, sitting around, waiting for the magical thing called motivation to kick in. I do this despite knowing I have a brain that literally has less motivation than other people. Yet still, I wait.
So this thing I read is that people with ADHD shouldn’t rely on motivation to get shit done. That’s why habits and routines are good, because they take less executive function and motivation to complete.
**People with ADHD who consistently get shit done, especially when you don’t want to, how?**
Is it a mind shift that helped? Some strategies that worked for you? Pure force of will and a deal with the devil?
Edit: after reading some of the comments, my anti-work brain tried to find the easiest solution was like, “How can I become more socially anxious again after many years of hard work, medication and therapy?” | 2021-12-05T16:06:31.000Z | r9it2s | 157 | 468 | ADHD | People who get shit done even when they’re unmotivated, please share your secrets. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9it2s/people_who_get_shit_done_even_when_theyre/ |
frutfly | I've heard many people with ADHD say that caffeine makes them tired or sleepy, since their brains are wired differently. For me, I find it either does nothing or gives me a small concentration boost. Is the exhaustion the case for everyone, or is it dependent on the person? What do you usually experience?
(This post is unrelated to substituting caffeine for your meds. Please take them!!) | 2021-12-05T16:03:55.000Z | r9ir4h | 580 | 1,491 | ADHD | Caffeine doesn't make me tired | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ir4h/caffeine_doesnt_make_me_tired/ |
blessings-stranded | i've noticed in the past that i tend to hyper-fixate on something during anything sexual. easiest example is masturbation. if it's porn, i can't really get an erection unless my brain understands what specific thing is causing the majority of my arousal, so it has to pick one. maybe that's the tits, power dynamic, theme, whatever. like in a weird way i cannot just simply "watch" it. my brains NEEDS to understand which one specific thing to be mostly aroused by. like at least around 60%.
i also noticed that i can't overstimulate myself either. i tried, but it doesn't work. the orgasm was actually pretty shitty and a let down, because again, my brain was trying to split its attention to 2 things and i just can't do that. it almost kind of sucks to know that i can't really stack pleasure like that. i don't benefit from having multiple options at the same time. guess that means threesomes are off the table.
in some cases, there are simply too many perfect factors at one time that my brain basically shuts off and loses arousal somewhat altogether because it knows its incapable of picking something. those instances probably suck the most, since its really just a case of something being too perfect and me having no clue what to prioritize. its like my arousal just grays out.
with that being said, i very easily CAN change what that "one thing" is as long as its a progression. the last thing needs to naturally end and the next thing needs to be as good or better. that's actually pretty much the only way my arousal can continue to increase from the baseline (which is already quite high).
i only really just now made the connection to this thing i've noticed & adhd, so now i'm wondering how common this is. i am comorbid with BPD, resulting in me being very hypersexual. so i could understand if this post is a miss for the overwhelming majority of people here. | 2021-12-05T16:03:47.000Z | r9ir0z | 2 | 13 | ADHD | adhd & the absolute need to focus on something during any sexual activity [male perspective] | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ir0z/adhd_the_absolute_need_to_focus_on_something/ |
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AshenForce | I have been thinking about my friendships. All my life I have been part of a group of people who call themselves friends. We hang out as a group and have fun. But there has never been in my life a friend who considers me their number 1 friend. I never have or will I be the maid/matron of honor. I only been a bridesmaid for two weddings and one of them was my cousin's. I feel at times I am the pity friend. Someone who people are friends with because they feel sorry for me. Just another friend that really does not matter much even though I am always ready to give good advice. It is painful to be the last chosen for anything. I deserve it really because I suck at being a friend. There is no real grounds for a decent friendship. I am only there when we meet as a group and I am horrible with making time to schedule stuff. The only way people can get time with me is by pushing themselves into my time. I am too afraid to be the one who initiates. I am only married because my husband was willing to pursue me and could see I was worth it. Most people just do not need or want me. Sorry, there is no real solution here. I am starting to see a therapist for this but I am not sure if there is any hope for me. | 2021-12-05T15:56:08.000Z | r9il6d | 5 | 11 | ADHD | Not the #1 | 0.87 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9il6d/not_the_1/ |
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IkBenPluiskip | Hi everyone!
My Psychiatrist prescribed me 10mg of Methylphenidate (Tranquilyn) about a month ago now. There's definitely been improvements compared to being unmedicated, but I'm starting to think I want to experiment with 15mg. The Psychiatrist I had unfortunately didn't describe anything to me really - during the appointment where they told me I had ADHD, it was literally just that and then I was told to pick up my prescription, then I had to leave as she was running 50 minutes behind schedule. I never got a chance to ask her how to order a new prescription (I had to go through that process myself with trial and error), and I was never told what I should do if I wanted to discuss my medication further. My assumption is that I'd phone my GP for an appointment so they could feed back to the Psychiatrist and then I'd assume I'd get a Psychiatry appointment, but I really don't know.
So, considering I'd like to try out 15mg and I have no idea how to go about doing this officially, would any of you based in Scotland/the UK have any advice for me?
Thanks for taking the time to read this <3 | 2021-12-05T15:51:01.000Z | r9ihjh | 6 | 1 | ADHD | How do I go about getting a dosage increase? (Scotland, UK) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ihjh/how_do_i_go_about_getting_a_dosage_increase/ |
sitwayback | I’ve always been prone to poor circulation in my fingers and toes / they get really cold and then can’t rewarm on their own. I’ve noticed a dramatic worsening since taking adderall, and I never would have made the connection but it’s also making me really tired, so I was googling side effects and made the connection. My blood pressure is normal, but as I read more this could be related to circulation issues exacerbated by the med. Has anyone else experienced this? What medications did you use as an alternative? Do all stimulants do this?
I’m just so cold it’s miserable. | 2021-12-05T15:50:59.000Z | r9ihig | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Stimulants & circulation/Reynaud’s | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ihig/stimulants_circulationreynauds/ |
brainhack3r | This is a really annoying issue I've been trying to resolve lately but I find that I lose things often.
Cell phone, wallet, car keys, etc.
One trick I've been doing is to count the number of things I must have with me at all times. The problem is that the number changes. For example, I don't need sunglasses at night but then if I don't take them with me I forget where I put them. | 2021-12-05T15:50:58.000Z | r9ihic | 165 | 350 | ADHD | Do you guys find that you lose little things constantly? Your keys, your wallet, etc? It's killing me! | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ihic/do_you_guys_find_that_you_lose_little_things/ |
abethemediocre | Hi Friends,
I was diagnosed with ADHD-PI about a month ago and I have been wondering if I am just imagining the symptoms or if they are really there. The psychologist that diagnosed me said if ADHD was cooking me like a steak, I'd be medium well; I'll leave that for you guys to interpret. My mom is a PA and she believes the diagnosis, but she feels guilty about not noticing it earlier. On the other hand, my dad is more skeptical. He thinks I'm probably just lazy or disorganized, which surprised me because he's usually the more empathetic parent. My very intelligent, high achiever roommate doesn't believe in ADHD, and he got drunk and told me last night he doesn't respect me anymore (I think he means well, but that hurt). Other people's opinions really matter to me, for better or for worse. All of these opinions have left me very distraught.
The diagnosis has kind of put me into a spiral. I'm racking my brain to look for evidence for both possibilities. My memory is terrible; childhood only comes to me in bits and pieces. I was a straight-A student and captain of my high school academic team until my junior year when I moved to a boarding school far from home. They kicked me out after a year for bad grades, which really shattered the whole "gifted kid" identity I had built. My first five semesters of college have each ended with a worse GPA than the one before. I went to the disability services people after I was diagnosed but they kept trying to get me to do an interview. I forgot the first one and missed it, and the next one is after finals. I'm really stressing out because there's a couple of classes I've not done enough homework in to pass. So now that the interview can't be done, explaining my situation to professors just feels like an excuse, especially this late in the semester, and especially after my recent performance. I just pulled an all-nighter to work on a presentation, but I haven't completed any work all night. All I did was watch YouTube, read news, check socials, etc. This is why I'm biting the bullet and officially joining the sub (instead of stalking, like I have been doing).
I know I'm really smart and have a lot of ability, but I feel very aimless. I've switched majors a bunch of times. I keep taking career tests and getting different results every time. I guess I'm not asking for career advice in this post, but you get the idea.
**TL;DR ->**
I was diagnosed with ADHD-PI about a month ago and I have been wondering if I am just imagining the symptoms it. I've gotten several differing opinions from people I trust, which confuses me. My performance academically has gotten a lot worse over time. It's finals week but I sleepy. Also, SAY HI! (It's my first post on reddit)
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What are the things that help you to know when you're making excuses (as opposed to explanations)? What is the best way to conduct myself if people don't believe the diagnosis? How do I let go of the doubts that I have? | 2021-12-05T15:50:39.000Z | r9ihad | 9 | 6 | ADHD | Having doubts. Am I just lazy? When is it ok to tell people? (First Reddit Post) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ihad/having_doubts_am_i_just_lazy_when_is_it_ok_to/ |
CompleteCampaign7898 | Hey there, having a bit of trouble managing some stuff that’s ongoing.
Been referred to psychiatrist after both GP and Psychologist said I almost certainly have ADHD. Got hold of some dexamphetamines and the difference in my mind was substantial.
Have a history of stimulant abuse which seems more like poorly guided self medicating in retrospect. However, whenever I take dexamphetamines I get super anxious and depressed when they begging to ware off. It’s almost like I’m trying to outrun the chaos brain and it’s scary. I feel like immediately all the cravings from the stim abuse now make sense and they’re back - it’s a way of getting away from the adhd brain.
I don’t get high but I crave that stillness. The ability to not be frightened all the time and have a successful train of thoughts that I can manage, or not to beat myself up for not having everything all done at once.
Looking for advice or guidance as I’m torn - I want to escape the chaos if I can but I don’t want to end up just swallowing stimulants and getting sick or something.
What is a generally high dose? What is excessive? And is it possible to become addicted if you have adhd? I was addicted to the other stuff but I can’t stress enough it was the ability to sit still that I seek. Not getting pumped up or going out or partying, just the ability to not be angry and overstimulated all the time. | 2021-12-05T15:47:58.000Z | r9ifc0 | 14 | 2 | ADHD | Dexamphetamines and undiagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ifc0/dexamphetamines_and_undiagnosed/ |
rbt8462 | is it possible that my psych prescribed me a placebo without my consent?
so, i’ve been with this new psych for the last 6 months, and i’m really happy with him for the most part. i also have some other mental health diagnoses and he’s been an absolute godsend in helping me get on the right medications. however, he is very funky with my vyvanse. he has been delaying my pick ups for my script by a day for the last few months, so i’ll have to go a day without my meds (i know some people respond well to med vacations, but for me personally, it’s extremely detrimental). i also expressed concerns about my dosage because vyvanse is advertised as a 12-14 medication, yet i’m lucky to get 5-6 hours out of my dose, and he told me that that was “completely normal”, which i definitely do not believe? if i’m only going to be medicated for 6 hours, i’d much rather take adderall or ritalin, since those have generics and are wayyyy cheaper.
so today i picked up my script, and took my 50mg pill. it has been 3 hours and it is not taking effect. i don’t want to come off as paranoid or delusional, but it’s making me feel like this is not real vyvanse. i know the degree of effects can vary in some ways which is normal and expected, but i truly do not feel like i have the medication in my system at all.
i left my last psych because he was horrifically unprofessional and discriminatory because of my addiction issues. he would pull me off meds with no warning or concern for withdrawals (particularly seroquel and cymbalta, i don’t take any controlled meds besides vyvanse).
tldr: i feel like my doc prescribed fake vyvanse because im a recovering addict and he thinks i am drug seeking. | 2021-12-05T15:35:19.000Z | r9i6aq | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Is my medication a placebo? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9i6aq/is_my_medication_a_placebo/ |
IvanTheTerrible_13 | So I was watching this tv show named Rick and Morty and there was this line that I got OCD to check where I'm going wrong in understanding.....here's the line and what various kinds of meaning I'm understanding
Crows : We train ourselves to stop training,trained are untrained ,all training is complete
Rick : Bcuz no training is needed
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The meanings I understand are down below :
First meaning: training completes they become untrained
Second meaning: trained becomes untrained
Third meaning:trained becomes untrained bcuz training is complete
Fourth meaning : trained becomes untrained ,we are trained
Fifth meaning : trained becomes untrained ,we are trained (so now I understand why the character said no training needed)
And now I got something else and that is....they stop training bcuz they r trained which is the original meaning but I'm still little cloudy
What I'm trying to say is whenever I get confident and happy that I got it what it meant only at that time some different meaning I get understand.....and the chills I get from it is bcuz damnn like I will whenever try to get these things I won't get it exact and it feels that I'm getting it exact....is this shocking reactions my mind will continue giving me ? By disappointing me ? | 2021-12-05T15:33:14.000Z | r9i4mz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What is happening with me ?The horrors of not understanding not comprehensive not attentive | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9i4mz/what_is_happening_with_me_the_horrors_of_not/ |
Snowbunny3212 | I'm genuinely on the verge of tears right now. I've always been passionate about (vocal) music. After YEARS of wanting to learn it and my parents treating my ADHD as a disability where I HAVE to focus on my studies or I'll not do well in them at all(I did well in my studies even pre-diagnosis), I finally managed to convince them to let me learn months ago. It took me a while to form the habit, but I dedicate 1 hour of each day(not the same hour) to brush up on what I've learnt after I finish revising for my studies, while also not compromising on my studies. They think I spend all my time "practicing" because they call at the absolute worst time. My grades are still really good but they think this isn't worth my time so they're forcing me to quit. I wish I could pay for these lessons on my own, because this is one of the only things that makes me feel good after I do it :( | 2021-12-05T15:30:24.000Z | r9i2kx | 79 | 241 | ADHD | Parents forcing me to leave something I enjoy despite maintaining my grades | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9i2kx/parents_forcing_me_to_leave_something_i_enjoy/ |
butteredbuttons | its like…………the absolute worse? im not sure how else to explain other than everything is pretty understimulating (even with things i know i love) and im pretty sure it’s the main reason why ive been super depressed lately 🥲 the only thing that’s helped is maybe playing some games and opening the same three apps hoping to feel something but everything is kinda sucks right now and i wont be able to get my meds back until a little later
was wondering if this was normal for you guys after spending long periods without meds? i usually take adderall but might consider wellbutrin to see if it will help with depression too | 2021-12-05T15:23:39.000Z | r9hxqe | 5 | 12 | ADHD | do any of you experience chronic brain fog when taking breaks from meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9hxqe/do_any_of_you_experience_chronic_brain_fog_when/ |
UMA_335 | First, my partner has not been diagnosed with anything. I suspect she has some combination of ADHD and OCD. She has briefly seen two therapists but did not click with either and didn't want to return. I have tried to find a physciatrist for her to talk with as well. I have contacted 5 in the area and all were on a wait-list. Why is it so difficult to find mental health help? Anyways... to my question.
My general question is: How much am I supposed to just accept that she deals with some sort of mental difficulty and let her do what she needs to do to get to a place she's ready to start a task versus stepping in and trying to get her back on task?
Example:
We are going to cook dinner, I've got everything ready to go and I've said something like "hey can we get started cooking dinner? Can you do X task?"
She says sure! Then begins to straighten pillows on the couch, checks something on her phone, checks on the cats, etc... Ok, not a huge deal this stuff doesn't take too long, she comes to the kitchen and my mind says cool, we are ready to get started.
In the corner, on the kitchen counter is an "odds and ends" basket we throw random stuff in. It has gotten kind of full and needs to be cleaned out. The basket is there whether it's cleaned out or not so it does not really take away space from where we are about to prep dinner. Has been like this for at least a week or two. She decides it HAS to be cleaned out to prepare the counter space for making dinner tonight.
I ask if we can do it after dinner. She begins cleaning it out and repremanding me for each item I may have put in there that shouldn't be there. I ask again calmly if we can please do this later after dinner. She now has everything pulled out on the counter and is handing me stuff. I am starting to get upset. I tell her I am getting frustrated, I'm going in the other room, tell me when you want to get started with dinner. She then begins bringing me stuff from the basket to the other room to put away continuing to tell me how I shouldn't put stuff in it (fair point I guess but we both do it). I start to get mad and frustrated and much less gentle with her. She gets mad I'm snapping at her and not helping and things start to go downhill quickly.
***Should I just help clean out the basket in this situation even though it really bothers me? Should it bother me? She tells me I shouldn't react the way I do, I should just help her and she basically trys to make me feel like I have no reason to be upset.***
It is starting to feel like every task we set out to do is like this. Dinner, leaving to go somewhere, her getting ready for bed, sitting down to watch a movie, just everything. I'm starting to get really frustrated and I don't want to make things worse for her but my patience is wearing down. Am I the "asshole"? Do I just need to accept this is who she is and not push back when this happens? | 2021-12-05T15:19:44.000Z | r9huw2 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | My partner constantly gets side tracked and I need advice how to handle it. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9huw2/my_partner_constantly_gets_side_tracked_and_i/ |
RastahRu | My adderall has been fucking with my blood pressure lately and making me super intense and irritable with people. However I’ve been thriving in school and getting all my work done, staying organized around the house and just overall feeling good about accomplishing things I use to never be able to pre medication. What should I do? I don’t want to stop taking the adderall and going back to being a hot mess, however I don’t want my blood pressure to continue being sky high all the time and feeling just irritated when ever anyone speaks. | 2021-12-05T15:17:48.000Z | r9htfv | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall messing with BP and relatinships. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9htfv/adderall_messing_with_bp_and_relatinships/ |
boneriffic12 | Hello!
If you're like me, bullet journaling is great for keeping yourself organized with bills, appointments, goals, reminders - basically your entire life in a book. While I admire some of the artwork I see others do, I've found that needing to draw all of the pages can be an obstacle to me using the system.
This website [101 Planners](https://www.101planners.com/) allows you to create your own templates that you can print and glue into your book. It's been immensely useful for getting me to stick to the bullet journal system and keeps everything organized and clean which I also appreciate.
Hope someone else finds it useful.
[Here's a couple of samples I made](https://imgur.com/a/D4sH5Ey) | 2021-12-05T15:08:21.000Z | r9hmlp | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Bullet Journal Templates | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9hmlp/bullet_journal_templates/ |
LadyMoiraine | Hey all,
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For those of you who have ADHD and PTSD, do you notice an overlap in symptoms? My counselor and I agreed that my diagnoses (ADHD, PTSD, PDD) tend to aggravate each other. An example would be when I have a PTSD flair up, my depression flairs up and stays "up" after the PTSD has left the chat.
Or, when my executive dysfunction causes me to fail at something I'm excited about, it causes my PDD to kinda rear up as well.
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Has anyone else noticed anything like this? How do you keep your multiple diagnoses from tag-teaming you? I have had one episode so far where my counselor agreed that all three were flaring up at the same time, and I want to avoid it again if at all possible.
I am on Wellbutrin XL at the moment, and am between insurances/psychiatrists and have known I'd be in this spot since over the summer so I'm not on proper ADHD meds at the moment, I'm hoping to get those going here in the next month once my work health insurance kicks in | 2021-12-05T15:08:01.000Z | r9hmbi | 5 | 4 | ADHD | For folks who have ADHD and PTSD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9hmbi/for_folks_who_have_adhd_and_ptsd/ |
Fearless-Lion9703 | Am I just the only one that is constantly lacking motivation, or any inspiration to keep doing my work? Like I spent the whole weekend doing my English assignment that I procrastinated on and that was due three days ago, and yet I am still not done. The weather is depressing as hell in the winter, cannot concentrate on anything any more. Like my head keeps blanking out, keep getting distracted etc, you know what I mean. Is there any advice or tips for this? I desperately need to catch up on my works I missed out on, and stay on top of things. But apparently I am just endlessly looking at my screen for hours not getting inspired or an idea.
PS, how do you guys use your time management wisely? like how do you guys organize your day without loosing confidence or motivation.
Please any tips, advice, ideas, or something that could help.
Thank you. | 2021-12-05T15:06:27.000Z | r9hl42 | 5 | 14 | ADHD | Lack of motivation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9hl42/lack_of_motivation/ |
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BassBuster | Hey guys, I'm having issues talking to a professional. I live in South Jersey, and there aren't a lot of good psychiatrists around me. And the few good ones don't take my insurance. I recently tried a few online diagnostic services (Circle, done., etc), but because of a bipolar diagnosis a few years ago they won't accept me. It seems to be part of their terms and conditions. I should note many therapists have told me they think this is a misdiagnosis.
I'm struggling to find somewhere to get an ADHD evaluation. I have a psychiatrist appointment through my insurance in late January, but was hoping to do something sooner. Any advice? | 2021-12-05T14:51:35.000Z | r9ha43 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Online Services Won't Accept Me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ha43/online_services_wont_accept_me/ |
Radio_Alarmed | When I try to focus more on study or work, I forget about my daily life tasks like working out and house chores.
I have even thought that maybe I want to ruin myself as a reward of getting 'productive' things done. I eat sweets too much instead of proper meal and don't feel like going to gym even though I like it when I'm not working.
I want to keep the balance between this base routine and my main "job". But I have never succeeded. It was always either the one or the other.
Is there any tip to keep them properly?
(Sorry if some sentences are broken, I'm not a native English speaker.) | 2021-12-05T14:37:34.000Z | r9h0e7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you keep your "healthy" routine when you're focusing on a project? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9h0e7/how_do_you_keep_your_healthy_routine_when_youre/ |
incarl8817233 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T14:34:02.000Z | r9gxx9 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Does anyone like both amphetamines and methylphenidate equally? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gxx9/does_anyone_like_both_amphetamines_and/ |
Doug1844 | Hi- I am recently diagnosed adult ADHD age 54 male and healthy except I have FM with always some pain. There are meds for FM which work by increasing NE (norepinephrine) on spinal tracts, so I am intrigued as to whether being on these ADHD meds may help my FM. Which one, Concerta or Vyvanse, might have a better effect for me? | 2021-12-05T14:32:55.000Z | r9gx56 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta or Vyvanse ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gx56/concerta_or_vyvanse/ |
dugfunne | Trying like hell to get my health in order. Meal prep has been the hardest aspect of it because I’m overthinking it. Can you guys suggest an app or something or a method to planning it out.
The thought of eating the same stuff for the unforeseeable future makes me freeze up and not start. I know I don’t have to eat the same exact thing and frankly I don’t think I’ll care it’s just the thought, ‘this is it this is your life now deal with it’.
I wish I had the money to just pay one of those meal prep services to take the thought process out of it and just go on auto pilot for the next few months till habits kick it. | 2021-12-05T14:31:59.000Z | r9gwi3 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Want to meal prep butoverwhelmed by the thought of it and can’t get started… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gwi3/want_to_meal_prep_butoverwhelmed_by_the_thought/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T14:27:32.000Z | r9gti4 | 5 | 14 | ADHD | Selective mutism? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gti4/selective_mutism/ |
Witty_Username-Here | I have a follow up with my psych in about 2.5 weeks. We’ve been having a hell of a time finding an effective dose/med. We titrated from 5-30mg of Adderall XR over weeks- nothing. Now we’re trying IR, over the last few weeks we’ve titrated from 5-20mg 2x a day.
I keep reading about crashes on IR when it wears off- but I never notice them on the days I take my meds. My Psych is very adamant about 1-2 days off a week to avoid tolerance building. When I told my General Practitioner this, she looked at me funny and said “but you have adhd every day.”
I have been taking Sat/Sun off for now and have been miserable, flat. I want to sleep a lot. I am also diagnosed with MDD that’s been well managed for last year (meds+therapy) so this is extremely frustrating and defeating to feel all over again.
TLDR: 20mg Adderall 2x a day- no crash on days I take meds but increased depression and lethargy on my days off. Psych wants me to do break 1-2 days each week. Is this still considered crash even if I don’t experience it until like 24ish hours later? Does this happen to anyone else? | 2021-12-05T14:27:13.000Z | r9gtau | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Depression on “break day” of Adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gtau/depression_on_break_day_of_adderall/ |
Awkward_Occasion3803 | I'm a few days into my meds now, and suffice it to say, they are working incredibly well for me. Daily house chores no longer make me feel like Sysiphus pushing his boulder up the mountain, I've been able to actually engage with studying, I just do things whenever I set out to do them and don't put it off for a nebulous "later". I'm less anxious, less frustrated at insignificant crap. My place is CLEAN. So far so good, right? However.
Before, I was drifting in a fog with nothing to compare it to. It was generally pretty chill. Nothing to worry about when you can't see ten feet into your own future. Another wasted day? Yeah, whatever. Lost another friend because I forgot they exist? No problem. Surely it's all going to sort itself out.
Well, meds have lifted that fog and now I realize that I'm in the middle of a vast apocalyptic ocean, drifting among dilapidated ruins. I have wasted years of my life doing absolutely nothing. I have ghosted every single close friend I ever had, and my ADHD means I was never properly socialized, like some feral fucking child. I'm several years behind my peers emotionally, and don't know how to do taxes. Really, my only saving grace up to now has been my incredibly supportive family. I don't know if I'd still be here without that support.
And the scariest part is, now that there's no fog, I can't hide behind blissful ignorance anymore. I see all the mistakes I've made before my diagnosis. My life is now, without a doubt, my own huge, heavy responsibility.
I realize that is good for me. I realize that it is good that I can take accountability and control of my life. It is just... scary. I think it will stay scary for a long time.
TL;DR started medication, and, as it turns out, reality is real. Can't deal. If you can, please commiserate or share tips or stories or whatnot. | 2021-12-05T14:25:00.000Z | r9grtg | 7 | 14 | ADHD | Medication is giving me an existential crisis. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9grtg/medication_is_giving_me_an_existential_crisis/ |
PIGORR | I'm 18M and tried to medicate against adhd, that in Portugal is poorly addressed, and all I got was meds against being distracted, and around that time, 14 years or so, I started the dread and dark phase of a teenager and started to have countless anxiety attacks, around that time I started to address the bullying that I received for years and stuff. My parents got scared because they thought that was because of meds, probably so but not entirely because of that.
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So today I wanted to address adhd again and now that I am in the university I wanted to not study to exams based on 4 days of crushing pressure because I can't don't have time management. I said that I wanted to inform myself more about and what should I do. What I got was «take vitamins I think that it worked with my headaches» said my mother (yes don't ask why is this related, it is what she told me) and they said that it was ok to live under pressure, and I was like «but I don't have to...» and got the classic «LIFE ISN'T EASY, YOU CAN'T LIVE RELAXED».
Should I go to the doctor, without them knowing, and see what medication they will recommend, I need dopamine desperately. | 2021-12-05T14:23:44.000Z | r9gqzp | 18 | 87 | ADHD | I just told my parents that I wanted to medicate against adhd and I recieved an «just study and is not that bad to do everything under pressure, because life is not easy». Should I head to doctors and inform myself and medicate? | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gqzp/i_just_told_my_parents_that_i_wanted_to_medicate/ |
TheYeetles | After 18 years of goddamn life, I have finally been diagnosed with severe ADHD, on top of anxiety and depression.
I started medication about 4 days ago - Lisdexamfetamine is the medical name of the tablet. Anyway, I cannot fucking sleep. It is literally torturous. I cannot eat and I cannot sleep, and I feel like a zombie. An empty shell of a human. I have no idea what the fuck is happening to me and I just want to be normal, man.
It feels like I can’t even close my eyes or relax, even though my dosage is only at 30mg right now. I just want to ram my head through a wall, or knock myself the fuck out somehow. I’m usually okay in the morning when I take my meds, but when it comes to nighttime my mood completely drops and my anger shoots through the goddamn roof. I also have indigestion and chest pain despite barely eating anything since I started this medication.
Please help me guys. I am actually losing my shit, it’s 1:15am on a Monday and all I want to do is shut my eyes, but my brain is not giving me any mercy. What the fuck. :(
Edit: Thank you so, so much to everybody for their replies and support. I have a doctor’s appointment booked for Wednesday and I’ve written all of your medication suggestions/advice down to see what he suggests. I’m hopeful that I’ll see my psych within a few weeks as she cancelled this week, but I’ll go over these things with her too.
I didn’t mention in the post that I’m also coming off SSRIs (they’ll be finished in a few days) and I also take birth control, (it’s the pill - which I finally decided to have a much needed break from) I appreciate everyone that took the time to offer me some great advice and to wish me luck.
I feel so much more informed after reading these comments and doing some research, I’m so relieved that I found this sub when I did, I needed the help of people who I can truly relate to. Hopefully it’s uphill from here. Stay safe everybody, try to keep your chins held high. I wish all of you the absolute best in life/throughout your mental health adventures. :,)
Edit 2, almost 24 hours later: Woah! I can’t fucking sleep again. Fuck these meds, I cannot wait until Wednesday. Thank you sincerely ADHD, you son of a bitch. | 2021-12-05T14:16:09.000Z | r9gltw | 114 | 127 | ADHD | I cannot fucking sleep. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gltw/i_cannot_fucking_sleep/ |
hrnogfcniyhh | [removed] | 2021-12-05T14:12:19.000Z | r9gj9q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Was anyone else on ADHD medications as a child/teen and how do you think it affected you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gj9q/was_anyone_else_on_adhd_medications_as_a/ |
kasia000218 | Dear cyclists - what are your tips for storing clothes and bicycles? Such that they would be ADHD friendly XD I often lose gloves, or different parts of the outfit all over the house and then I look for everything xD
This is a huge obstacle for me because it discourages me from going out.
Photos of your organization are welcome. | 2021-12-05T14:09:05.000Z | r9gh3r | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Organization of a cyclist with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gh3r/organization_of_a_cyclist_with_adhd/ |
elisbross | I don't know if you guys have this issue but it happens to me a lot when I am having a meeting for example and I am trying to explain something. I sometimes get lost on what I was going to say so I just start talking with bigger detail, use some filler words before I remember. Therefore, I have to be really focused so I at least minimise this issue. I also don't understand how people are able to give lectures and talk without notes. I always jump a lot from topic to topic, forget something etc. I always must my notes prepared so I don't forget anything.
Not sure if this is really ADHD thing or if this just common amongst other people. | 2021-12-05T14:07:17.000Z | r9gfxo | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I get lost when I talk | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gfxo/i_get_lost_when_i_talk/ |
kasia000218 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T14:05:27.000Z | r9gepp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Organization of the ADHD cyclist | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gepp/organization_of_the_adhd_cyclist/ |
actualkon | So i have undiagnosed ADHD. Currently I cant get a diagnosis due to family, insurance, etc. Thus I cannot be medicated. Is there anyone out there whose not medicated who has advice on how to finish things? I can finish important things like work because consequences, but when it comes to video games and writing (my hobbies) I just. Cant finish things lol. It's the most frustrating thing for me, personally, especially cause writing is what I think I wamna do as a career, I enjoy it a lot and I love telling stories, but oops cant finish anything I start! | 2021-12-05T14:03:20.000Z | r9gd9q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Advice on how to get things finished? | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gd9q/advice_on_how_to_get_things_finished/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T14:03:05.000Z | r9gd4a | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Anxiety/restless in group work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gd4a/anxietyrestless_in_group_work/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T14:02:57.000Z | r9gd0e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Taking herbal sleeping pills on Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gd0e/taking_herbal_sleeping_pills_on_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T14:01:30.000Z | r9gbxz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Taking herbal sleeping pills on Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9gbxz/taking_herbal_sleeping_pills_on_vyvanse/ |
TheFishtie | [removed] | 2021-12-05T13:57:41.000Z | r9g94j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I got diagnosed this week!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9g94j/i_got_diagnosed_this_week/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T13:56:06.000Z | r9g80o | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Half dosing during the weekend | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9g80o/half_dosing_during_the_weekend/ |
bengadude | Hello, I've been diagnosed with adhd last month at the age of 20, ive received methylphenidate SR 20mg, felt like it was working for the first and second day, afterwards it had only helped me with the sleepiness I've always had, not so much with my adhd. a few days ago, a month after using methylphenidate I've received an amphetamine prescription, made 50/50 of levo & dextro. Once again I don't feel any improvements with my adhd, I don't feel like I'm using an amphetamine. I wasnt told how I'm supposed to feel, or wether it only helps when doing certain tasks, I don't know what to do, increasing the dosage is not an option, and with amphetamine being the most potent medication I don't have anything else to try.
More things to note: caffeine under 400mg goes unnoticed by me, I've been taking SSRIs for years and I don't feel them either. please help
Edit: amphetamine dose is 10mg | 2021-12-05T13:48:00.000Z | r9g2w6 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Methylphenidate & amphetamine not working | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9g2w6/methylphenidate_amphetamine_not_working/ |
bbo221 | Hi! I’m a few months into meds (Xaggitin XL 36mg currently) and I’ve found that I can definitely do house work now and other things that I couldn’t do before (success!!) however at the moment I have an assignment to do and I can’t get started on that just like before meds, however I can do the chores I needed to do :))
Any tips on how I can get around this?
Also any other xaggitin XL friends here? What’s your experience with it so far?
Thanks!!! | 2021-12-05T13:47:06.000Z | r9g2d8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Medication helps executive dysfunction for everything except doing my assessment work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9g2d8/medication_helps_executive_dysfunction_for/ |
Unlucky_Actuator5612 | I’ve tried different antidepressants in the past and they didn’t work at all. Been trying stimulants for adhd and initially every time I up my dose I feel like my depression is gone and then it slowly comes back. Is this just the euphoria?
I’m still on a pretty low dose tbh. I’ve been increasing very slowly.
Has anyone got to a dose that keeps depression away as well as helping their ADHD?
Obviously everyone is different just curious. | 2021-12-05T13:43:12.000Z | r9fzuz | 28 | 13 | ADHD | Anyone used stimulant meds to treat adhd AND depression? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9fzuz/anyone_used_stimulant_meds_to_treat_adhd_and/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T13:43:01.000Z | r9fzqx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Am i really lazy or is it something else? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9fzqx/am_i_really_lazy_or_is_it_something_else/ |
Glittering-Mammoth85 | Hey All! I’m on day 4 of this and the side effects are not fun! But I’m loving being able to get things done! I’m hoping this doesn’t last long but wanted to see how others have handle it and your experiences.
Right now I’m feeling nervous, anxious and constipation. My stomach hurts a lot!
I have stomach issues I’m dealing with using a functional doctor but I needed to get on some medicine for my adhd ASAP!
Backstory I have had the most stressful year of my life besides when I was a kid. Their has been death, divorce, a lot of moving, dealing with my dads estate and starting my own businesses so that’s why I needed to get on something to help stay on track of life.
But I’m not sure if that why my anxiety has become heighten with the medicine!
I’m waiting to hear from my doctor and see if this will pass once my system gets adjusted.
Like I’m said I love being able to finally have these monkeys in my brain not be all over the place anymore and I can get things done but I don’t know about these side effects! 😬
Thanks! | 2021-12-05T13:34:54.000Z | r9fui5 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | guanfacine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9fui5/guanfacine/ |
foxylady0406 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T13:23:47.000Z | r9fnhx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My toxic trait is.. aka how my adhd fails me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9fnhx/my_toxic_trait_is_aka_how_my_adhd_fails_me/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T13:20:48.000Z | r9flmq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ritalin slow release start working around 2-3 hours for me is this normal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9flmq/ritalin_slow_release_start_working_around_23/ |
functioningdisaster7 | Using a newly made account for this post. Wanted to briefly share my story which may be helpful for people on the younger side who feel things may be hopeless.
I'm in my late 30s.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I had lots of issues in elementary school, middle school, and high school. I was not a good student. I had some brain imaging done, which confirmed my scans look different than a "normal" brain. Never really got into large trouble (like jail etc), but I don't think people would have pegged me for a successful life. I took medicine on and off as a child.
However, around halfway through high school, I discovered programming, and I was really, really good at it. It captured my attention like nothing ever had - I could do it for many hours in a row without being distracted. I had finally found something that I could do, because I \*wanted\* to do it.
In undergrad, I started to hit my stride. I was excelling at math, and CS courses, and got by \*just enough\* in the courses outside of those subjects to survive. I have discovered that it's very difficult for me to pay attention to things I don't want to do, but for the things I do like to do, I can do them endlessly. I took the GREs, which is a pre grad school exam. In this same fashion, I got a horrible 430 on the English portion, but a 790 in math (800 was a perfect score at the time).
I went onto grad school, and eventually got a PhD in computer science. Grad school isn't like undergrad - it's specialized, and you're there to learn what you want to. None of the "you must take N biology and 4 Spanish courses" BS. People often think doing a PhD is insanely hard - but if you like the subject matter, it's not, for that reason! Early education was hard for me, because of the breadth of "boring" courses required - but grad school is specialized.
Today - my annualized income at various jobs has ranged from 165k to 200k. I have been steadily employed since graduation. I have struggled a small bit with interpersonal relationships at work sometimes\* as I can come off somewhat strong - however I have never lost a job, and have received several promotions competence-wise. I have a great overall life in adulthood - I am very fortunate.
\*To this day, I would say the biggest two downsides of my ADHD are:
1. I have been diagnosed with poor dopamine production, and as a result, I seriously lack empathy. Human suffering does not bother me. This is a struggle because I normally cannot relate to the sadness of others. This has caused issues at times - but I have accepted this and try to be upfront about this. To my partner in life, I was very explicit about this. This does not prevent me from loving however, and does not take away any of the joys in life. Being immune to sadness is a weird kind of thing.
2. I can be a bit pedantic and a bit of a perfectionist. This has also been a struggle, because life is filled with imperfections, and I can dwell on those. Things that seem irrelevant in the grand scheme of things, can drive me insane. I \*recognize\* this, but it's still hard sometimes to "walk the walk". I actively try to work on this.
P.S. When I was a young adult, around 20, I stopped taking medicine, because it changed me as a person. I do sometimes ponder how I would be today if I kept taking it. I think there would be various pros and cons. Maybe it would help with the empathy side of things. However, I'm scared that it could change the parts of my brain that I \*do\* love - and wouldn't be me anymore. So I often debate "staying myself" vs exploring what life could be like on medicine again. | 2021-12-05T13:10:19.000Z | r9fezk | 1 | 3 | ADHD | a hopeful story for some people here. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9fezk/a_hopeful_story_for_some_people_here/ |
Rubik_- | I (21m) have trouble to send texts or call at least once a week to my girlfriend who is also high sensitive so she needs the contact. We are in a long distsnce relationship so we dont see each other as often. Its come to the point that its becoming a problem and its affecting the relationship. Im afraid that if this keeps up it will be the end of our 3,5 year relationship.
We primarely keep contact trough text via whatsapp but if anyone has a better way we might consider it.
If any of you have been in a simular relationship or have other simular experiences I would love to hear about it.
Any tips are appreciated | 2021-12-05T13:02:56.000Z | r9fab3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ldr problems please help! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9fab3/ldr_problems_please_help/ |
Rubik_- | [removed] | 2021-12-05T12:53:19.000Z | r9f4g3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Having trouble with keeping contact with my long distance relationship | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9f4g3/having_trouble_with_keeping_contact_with_my_long/ |
cherry_doughnut | So it's weird because I know how to cook and kinda like cooking, but often on my days off I won't eat until like, 6pm because I can't make myself cook. I sort of get into this game of chicken with myself where I'm like, "I've got ingredients, I'm not ordering food", and I either end up not eating or ordering at like, midnight. Does anyone deal with this?
Also, advice with just being more organised with meal planning and stuff? I guess I get really temperamental with what food I want to eat which makes planning difficult, because if there's nothing I'm feeling I just won't eat which isn't ideal. | 2021-12-05T12:49:30.000Z | r9f2ak | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How to make sure you eat enough? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9f2ak/how_to_make_sure_you_eat_enough/ |
Broodlemur01 | Wondering if there are people experiencing the same issue like I do.
Mostly if I try to describe a direction or a Situation to somebody else, they get very confused about it and often look at me, while I try to keep the thread, like "dude come on get to a point" what totaly stresses me out and makes me loose the tread.
I already found out, that I usually miss keywords cause they just rush through my brain.
so is there anybudy experiencing the same or similar and what do you do about it?
I do medication regularly and have some coping strategies, but not jet for this kind of struggle.
thanks for the help.
edit: opponent in titel should say interlocutor | 2021-12-05T12:48:58.000Z | r9f1zr | 110 | 517 | ADHD | Can't describe stuff without getting my opponent confused or bored to listen to me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9f1zr/cant_describe_stuff_without_getting_my_opponent/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T12:47:28.000Z | r9f141 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I abused my ritalin yesterday won't happen again tho. Did I develop tolerance to it just one day? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9f141/i_abused_my_ritalin_yesterday_wont_happen_again/ |
itsatheory | I’m newly (unofficially) diagnosed. My psych started me with adderall and I cried. It was the first time I felt normal in years. Well, I was working 80 hr weeks and not getting enough sleep which is normal for my job at times, but the effects on my body were exacerbated. I had high blood pressure, but a normal EKG. I tried extended release adderall and it wasn’t the same. I tried Ritalin and it gave me headaches. Started back on regular adderall and I was able to function amazingly. I purchased a new heart blood pressure device and well…. Results not good. 145 over 98. | 2021-12-05T12:46:59.000Z | r9f0u1 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Night sweats and high blood pressure | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9f0u1/night_sweats_and_high_blood_pressure/ |
Curious-Leg2486 | I couldn't find any where to share this so I decided to share here. I met someone and he was so kind, suportive person, I liked him so much. It feels like love, I've never been in love that's why I don't know how it is. When I met him I was depress, confused... I was not in good mental health situation. I shared it with him. He was so calm and I surprised and I said wow he is super nice person. We just had so short conversations he never talked more and I never asked. Two months ago I found out surprising thing in his old posts, about his ADHD. That time I didn't have any idea of ADHD, I searched about it and found out I have ADHD for years and didn't diagnose, that moment I just cried of happiness, bc I was so confusing about my feelings. I hated myself bc of all symptoms. My past relationships was not good bc of it. Nobody understanded me. I realized his ADHD is so bad. Mine is so better. I think he understanded this of our first conversation but Idk why didn't say me. He just tried to cheer me up. Maybe bc I was so sad. This person mean too much for me. Idk it's ok I feel this way or not.
I like to find a way to date with him but afraid to annoy him. And you know I afraid of rejecting. | 2021-12-05T12:38:13.000Z | r9evux | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Meeting someone with ADHD | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9evux/meeting_someone_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T12:37:57.000Z | r9evpr | 739 | 849 | ADHD | Overly private? | 0.77 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9evpr/overly_private/ |
KingToblerone | Hi guys long time lurker first time poster here. I just wanted to share something embarrassing I did in an adhd hyperfocus induced state. Hopefully it can be released from my brain if I talk about it.
So there's this girl who lives next door to my roommates that I've been really attracted to for the past few weeks. I asked her out and she said no. That she just came out of a relationship. But still she remained super friendly and things were fine. She comes over the odd time to ask for things and we have chats and when I see her im just entranced by how beautiful she is. I can feel my adhd brain lights switch on in anticipation as soon as I see her. Any other girls that had my attention were just pushed to the side of my head as soon i saw her.
Recently I had been getting the feeling that she was flirting with me but I wasn't sure if she is just naturally flirty or if it was intentional. She kept asking me probing questions. For example i have her added on ig already and if she needed something she would text me there.. but then she randomly tells me to put my number into her phone "because she might need it". Then the same night she texts me to come over at like midnight because she "needed help with something" (I missed her text that time so I didnt) So here's the embarrassing part.
Because I liked her so much and felt like I couldn't really pursue her partly because she is moving to a different county and partly out of doubt in my romantic skills. I felt like I needed to get the feeling out of my head so I wrote a poem about her. Somewhat deep, well I wouldnt say somewhat more like quite. Quite deep.. Nothing inappropriate just like idk a mild love poem. Hard to explain. When I finished it in my state of hyperfocus I was so proud of it I sent it to her. She responded with "wow" then "thats so nice" then nothing. And now I'm just thinking of how creepy it must come across to recieve such a thing out of the blue and how desperate I must come across and how this isn't the 1900's and how just dumb I am to not have the self control to think before doing such a thing. If I had any chance with that girl I feel like it is ashes now. I know there are other girls in the world and ill probably get over it but also... Ill probably just move to Alaska change my name and become a fisherman. :) | 2021-12-05T12:37:17.000Z | r9evbi | 8 | 3 | ADHD | Something embarrassing I did. | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9evbi/something_embarrassing_i_did/ |
concertastic | [removed] | 2021-12-05T12:29:27.000Z | r9eqo4 | 6 | 0 | ADHD | Concerta 54mg advice - Non-adhd | 0.18 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9eqo4/concerta_54mg_advice_nonadhd/ |
Muddyperspect | Hi! I’ve been on vyvanse 30 mg since mid last month. Totally life changing at first. but as I’ve gotten used to them I don’t notice any difference anymore. I don’t have an appointment until the end of this month to increase my dosage but wanted to know if there’s something wrong maybe with the way I take them that’s decreasing the effectiveness? They take a few hours to do anything, probably closer to three but I wake up at 5:00 every morning, take them with some food then fall asleep again for a little while. I usually take it with water but I’ve been using Gatorade as well. Sometimes I do miss meals but not that often as it doesn’t curb my hunger at all :) | 2021-12-05T12:22:37.000Z | r9emul | 9 | 1 | ADHD | Meds don’t work? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9emul/meds_dont_work/ |
Iamtheshadowperson | [removed] | 2021-12-05T12:19:32.000Z | r9el5n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why do we click on something we're really really interested in and then save it for later, inevitably never opening it again? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9el5n/why_do_we_click_on_something_were_really_really/ |
katherine7777777 | Hi everyone,
I am a later in life diagnosed adult. I got diagnosed on Thursday at the age of 24. I know it's more likely to be diagnosed in childhood, especially if it's causing a drop in their grades or disrupting the school day. My brother got diagnosed in Jr. High School. I always flourished in school. I got great grades, tested well, and turned in assignments. Everyone just chalked up the behaviors to something that was not ADHD, though it should have been. Adults, did anyone else feel like they were having an identity crisis after diagnosis? All the things that I got extremely shamed for, other people experience too. I had no idea. Growing up, I would try time and time again to explain what was going on in my head. But those explanations worked. They were "excuses" I started to hide things about me because I thought I was just a shitty person. I have always been told I'm a lot. The inability to do boring or long tasks, speaking too loud and too much, racing thoughts, and all the others were just seen as me not trying hard enough. For 24 years, I've been convinced that these were faults and I couldn't do anything to change it. Now I am suddenly told that with the right tools, I can change these things. I don't know how to wrap my brain around the fact that this was never my fault
On the other hand, I have had talents for many things. I usually rotate stuff to do every few weeks when my hypertixation changes again. I was such a fast reader who managed to still absorb the information at a very young age. I'm good at multi-tasking. I learn things extremely quick. I have prided myself on those traits, and now they might just be because of the ADHD?
I don't know how to feel other than lost. I figure if anyone could understand where I am coming from, it would be you guys | 2021-12-05T12:16:49.000Z | r9ejlh | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Adult diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ejlh/adult_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T12:15:18.000Z | r9eirm | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I find it very difficult keeping habits - any advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9eirm/i_find_it_very_difficult_keeping_habits_any_advice/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T12:11:28.000Z | r9egkp | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I’m stuck I can’t get anything done | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9egkp/im_stuck_i_cant_get_anything_done/ |
petalstormss | TLDR; I'm spent from my first two months at my first full-time gig. How does anybody have the time to work, look after themselves, do the things they love and see the people they love? I'm out of ideas.
I'm currently in my first full-time job (not an easy thing to get hours in retail or hospitality 😮💨) and just over two months in, I'm starting to get really down.
Let me make it clear that I LOVE the job. The mix of tasks I need to do, the pace, my co-workers, the actual space... I don't think I've ever been so happy at work. I genuinely enjoy it! And more than any other job I've had it links into my interests. I get to be genuinely excited about the things I deal with and talk about at work.
So why am I still struggling...?
I feel like I have no time. I have a commute but I have had for most jobs and honestly enjoy the bit of downtime it gives me. But say I get home between 6pm and 7pm (depending on which bus I get, if I need to pick up groceries, etc) that gives me 12 hours at home till I gotta get up again, and I kinda wanna sleep for most of that. I get home and I feel too spent to do anything but watch TV or play games, eat, and talk to my partner.
I usually get my two days off a week separated, and even if not, I feel like I need that time just to kinda exist without doing shit. So that leaves me with literally zero time to, y'know, see friends, do things I'm passionate about outside of work... just literally none of it. I don't even feel like I get to be fully present with my partner.
I just about manage to shower twice a week, I only eat cos my partner is happy to cook for us. Im always behind on chores at home. These things have improved with meds, but just from disastrous to less than adequate, y'know?
I can't afford to work less - me working part-time the last few years has made things so difficult financially that we're still not back out of those struggles yet. I don't get how people can do this and also have hobbies, go on days/nights out, see friends and family.... HOW?!
And because I enjoy work it's not even like I don't want to go. It's maybe the only place in my professional life where Ive felt respected enough to be given responsibility, comfortable to be myself, and genuinely a part of something that I think is important. I don't necessarily want LESS time there - I just wish days and weeks were twice as long so I could actually have a life.
I'm still able to enjoy so much, so I don't think I'm depressed or anything. I'm just spent once I'm out of work. When I think "well I basically have to work 5 days a week like this for the next 50, 60, god knows how many years..." I just break. I can't handle that. There is so much that makes my life worth living, but that isn't living.
I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels like this, but on a day-to-day basis, it makes me feel so alone. People around me (neurotypical, mostly) seem to juggle all of the things. I physically can't. And I don't want time to have run out and for me to have not even had a chance to spend time with loved ones or had a crack at my biggest dreams.
I feel kinda hopeless atm. If anybody knows anything that may help me, please let me know. | 2021-12-05T12:05:08.000Z | r9ecy8 | 62 | 564 | ADHD | I really don't get how anybody working full-time has enough time or energy to do the things that make life worth it. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ecy8/i_really_dont_get_how_anybody_working_fulltime/ |
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