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happytireddog | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:50:42.000Z | r9e536 | 28 | 45 | ADHD | I’m struggling | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9e536/im_struggling/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T11:43:47.000Z | r9e1i0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I’m angry at the light 🗿 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9e1i0/im_angry_at_the_light/ |
Cats-and-Chaos | I’m not sure if I have ADHD (though go through periods of suspecting it) and need to be careful about over-identifying and labelling myself HOWEVER, going on the assumption that I was late for the party when they were wiring the pre-frontal cortex and handing out dopamine, has anyone got any tips for stimulating/regulating the emotional part of my brain so that I will clean my house!?
For instance, if I chug a lot of coffee and blast some music will that help? Coffee tends to make me agitated more than anything else but I’m willing to try because right now I’m lying in bed despite my partner being less than happy when he left for work this morning.
The idea of cleaning (like most tasks for me) causes me to feel tense, frustrated, and a bit overwhelmed. I procrastinate EVERYTHING. Once I get started (though right that’s the current hurdle) I struggle to keep momentum and very easily give up or let myself become distracted by things that are more fun or interesting. Even breaking it down feels overwhelming because then there’s LOTS of tasks. Sometimes the starts align and it feels possible and manageable
to get stuff done but I don’t see that happening today without some help.
I’m totally seeking a ‘magic wand’ here but if there’s something that works for you I’ll give it a go because this NEEDS to be done within the next 5 hours. | 2021-12-05T11:40:37.000Z | r9dzwn | 18 | 4 | ADHD | I need some emergency house cleaning tips! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dzwn/i_need_some_emergency_house_cleaning_tips/ |
demcrazykids | Soooooooooooooo. This post may or may not be an example of how I talk *a lot* and I'm sure many of you can relate to that alone. Anyway, buckle up for my rambles, friends, I need your help.
**Tl;dr — How do you keep yourself from interrupting or taking over conversations and pushing people away as a result?**
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I have a massive issue with interrupting people, interjecting with off-topic commentary, and dominating the conversation with my one-track-mind monologues. I do my best to be aware of these behaviors, apologizing for them when I can, and attempting to remember to allow the other person to continue whatever they were saying. Despite my many endeavors over the years to improve this behavior, I still constantly steamroll over other people, and it's ***destroying*** my relationships.
I recognize that I've had these problems for as long as I can remember, yet it was only last year that I learned I have ADHD (both Inattentive and Hyperactive-Impulsive types/Combined type) and began to understand how the "impulsive" part of my diagnosis is what has been affecting verbal and written communication in this way.
I would like to think that I have improved at talking and writing as I've gotten older (I'm in my mid-30s), and even leading up to my diagnosis, I felt like I had made leaps and bounds in this department. I try to be more cognizant when I exhibit this impulsivity so that I can change, yet it's still sabotaging most of my social interactions. In fact, I think the *only* people who aren't bothered by my rampantly impulsive communications are *also* ADHD and/or autistic. It's my understanding that we're naturally better at conversing, empathizing, and understanding those like us due to #DoubleEmpathy. Yet for those who aren't like me but who have stuck by me thus far anyway, I want to learn how to forge more meaningful relationships with them through improved conversations. They deserve an actual back-and-forth and they deserve to have their contributions heard and acknowledged instead of every interaction devolving into u/DemCrazyKids taking over the conversation. *Again.*
No matter how much effort I feel like I put into developing better, more mindful, and present communication, it's a constant struggle. Over the years, I've unintentionally pushed away friends, partners, and even family through this persistent impulsivity. Since it was never just one time, but over, and over, and over again, they all saw this pattern of behavior as proof that I must be "selfish," "self-centered," and "disrespectful." I wish I could say these aren't words that have actually been used to describe me, and quite frequently at that, but what perhaps bothers me more is how far they are from the truth. Or rather, how far they are from my intentions, and so nothing I say seems to matter; my intentions don't seem to matter to them, either. Admittedly, I recognize I may be *unintentionally* acting this way due to the very nature of how ADHD (and ASD) works. I've only been on this journey of self-discovery and self-improvement for about 14 months, and I will be walking this path for a long time, no doubt.
Long before my diagnosis last year, I already understood to some degree that I have impulse control issues. But it felt like no matter how much I made myself aware of these bad habits and tried to cover my mouth so I'd shut up, or stepped away from a chat conversation so that I didn't jump in with my easily-distractable brain's completely-irrelevant side commentary, it was never enough to satisfy the most important people in my life. In the end, all they see is that I'm *still* doing this, I'm *still* interrupting them, I'm *still* going off-topic, and I'm *still* taking over the conversation with my infodumps or monologues, or otherwise talking about myself, me me me (I know it's common for us to share our own experiences in order to express how we are relating to someone else's experiences, but the only people who understand this are people like us). So to most people, this behavior must mean that I don't respect them enough to let them contribute to the conversation or I don't respect them enough to acknowledge their feelings when we talk about this behavior. Because if I try to explain where it's coming from now, if I try to apologize for my ADHD, they think I'm trying to use my ADHD to "justify" my behavior. They don't believe that I am trying to acknowledge it and take responsibility for it, no matter what I say, because I just do it again, and again, and again.
It makes me very frustrated and at a loss on how to go about changing behavior that's so deeply ingrained and ultimately produced by what I understand to be a chemical dysfunction in my brain. It's hard enough to feel like I don't always have control over myself, but it's so much worse knowing that other people either don't or can't understand what's going on in my brain and how much I *hate* this impulsiveness. If there was a button I could push to turn off the "Interruption Matrix," *I'd smash that button so hard.*
As a result of my constant impulsiveness, I sometimes think of my ADHD like a demon or a ghost possessing my body — I can see myself writing or saying things that inevitably upset people, not in the content itself but in the timing of it, yet I can't seem to make myself stop every time before it's too late and the damage is done. I don't *want* to hurt my friends or family; I don't *want* potential partners to think I'm uninterested in what they have to say when I interrupt them for the zillionth time and word-vomit all over the conversation.
Instead of feeling like a victim of my ADHD, I want to feel empowered by my knowledge and understanding of it. Finally knowing that I have ADHD is just the first step in my journey toward a happier me and so I've read *dozens and dozens* of research articles and have joined lots of little support groups and subreddits since my diagnosis (insert meme about hyperfixating on ADHD because my ADHD made me hyperfixate on my ADHD). I want to arm myself with tips, tricks, and a full toolbox to help me learn and grow. Yet, the only so-called solutions I can seem to find to stop myself from interrupting everyone simply includes just being more aware of it\*,\* apologizing for it when it happens, and allowing the other person to continue. I think I can earnestly say I'm *very* aware of it by now, and I do my best to stop myself, apologize, and allow the other person to continue. Still, people continue to get incredibly and understandably frustrated with me because this pattern of behavior continues. Even today, I feel like I'm on the verge of losing someone with whom I reconnected and grew really close this year. I've been watching them withdraw from me for a while now, and today, they got super frustrated with me for the gazillionth time because I interjected into our conversation with an off-topic paragraph in our Discord server. It was like I had horse blinders on, and I barely even saw their attempts at striking up a different conversation until I'd finished typing up my wall of text. Then, while I did apologize for it, and I attempted to make an effort to acknowledge what they were saying, my brain train was still on a very different track, and I made the mistake of circling back to my own topic, an action I regret and wish I knew how to better avoid. I wasn't *trying* to be disrespectful, and I wasn't *trying* to ignore them. At the time, I felt capable of having *both* conversations, but I still greatly rue the fact that this behavior was upsetting to them, and that it's not the first time it's happened. Since they haven't stopped talking to me (yet), it's unlikely the last time I do this, too.
This encounter tonight ended up causing a very unpleasant conversation between the two of us that devolved into them feeling like I wasn't listening to them or acknowledging their feelings. Meanwhile, I was also hurt by some of the things they were saying. I didn't feel they were listening to *me* or acknowledging *my* feelings or listening as I tried to apologize and acknowledge where this behavior comes from. They tried to say that their sister, who also has ADHD, never interrupts people and has always been super polite in conversations ever since she was little, suggesting that I should therefore be able to control my impulses because she can. I asked what type of ADHD their sister has (I haven't met the sister myself), and they admitted they didn't even know. Then immediately accused me of hyperfixating on their sister's ADHD "because of (your) ADHD." I was already riled up because I felt like they had been attacking my ADHD, and by extension, me, but at this point, I tried to calmly explain that, "no, I'm not hyperfixating on *her* ADHD at all" as I wasn't even the one bringing her up and I asked a single question for context. *They* insisted on bringing her up, so I thought it made sense to understand *why* they felt her experience with ADHD was relevant when in truth it looked very different from mine.
Upon reflection, I don't think it matters what type of ADHD she has because the real point here should be that it's disrespectful to try and compare her struggles with mine. We clearly have had different journeys and different experiences, but it's also demeaning and belittling to compare trauma or troubles. It's not fair to her, and it's not fair to me. We might have a similar diagnosis, but who's to say our ADHD is even close to the same? I don't know much about their sister considering they're barely on speaking terms and they *only* seem to bring up their sister when discussing my ADHD (may the gods help her if this person treats their sister the same way they treat me when it comes to the ADHD and ASD; they're a great person and a very good friend, just not when it comes to these topics, I figure out of ignorance. Just as I am learning about it, so too is my friend, though). In the end, it's very possible that we don't have the same type of ADHD at all, and therefore, it's a very different experience for us. If it was the same experience between someone with only Primarily Inattentive type and someone with Combined Type or someone with Primarily Hyperactive-Impulsive Type, there would no reason to have three different types of ADHD. But I think most of us can probably agree that these are very different experiences, and they deserve to be recognized as individually valid, not compared to each other as though the accomplishments of one create a baseline for the expected behavior in another.
Setting aside my friend's borderline-ableist thinking, it comes down to this: How do I keep the people I want in my life from *leaving* my life when they get fed up with how my impulsiveness is constantly affecting our communication? How do I adjust how I communicate to avoid disrespectfully steamrolling over every conversation? How do I learn to control the impulses that compel me to word-vomit all the time? How do I help my friends understand that I *am* actually trying to stop myself and that despite that, sometimes my ADHD brain is still ... well, I'd like to think I'm getting better, and my friend says I'm improving, which is why they were "frustrated" tonight and not "angry," but sometimes my ADHD behaves like a hungry toddler in a candy store, and everything is right at the level of their grubby little hands. There is no concept of impulse control in these moments, and by the very definition of this, it means it's an impulse and I can't control it. It is beyond my control. That's not to say I am not trying to control it — this very post is proof that I'm trying to.
I don't know if it makes any difference to clarify this, but I have mentioned I'm also autistic (Diagnosed at the same time as ADHD; double the diagnosis, the double fun?) So even though I do talk a lot, and even though a decade or so of working in call center environments have helped develop my communication skills, I can still sometimes be ... how should I put it, *really fudging* *bad at werds*.
In a combination of my oft-rigid autistic thinking and ADHD impulsiveness, I can be rather reactive and I don't always say the right thing, much less say things with the right tone or inflection on the first try. I would like to believe I've improved on this too as my awareness grows, and especially when I have time to think about what and how I'm communicating (sometimes I write emails to purposefully slow myself down and think but this isn't always an option). Yet, given my proclivity toward words rushing freely from my lips or typed out at 100 WPM in a chat message without regard for the consequences, this behavior leads to disaster time and time again.
The thing with my ADHD is that I don't typically describe it as very "severe" but rather "very loud." Not in volume, per se, but in severity nonetheless. I feel like my traits are obvious to anyone with even a passing understanding of ADHD. Despite the fact that I was only diagnosed last year, my half-sister considered that I was ADHD about a decade or more ago when I lived with her for barely a month (we didn't grow up knowing each other, so this would have been the most time we'd spent together up till that point). Of course, at the time she didn't bother to tell me she thought I had ADHD, and I went on struggling for many more years to come. Anyway, because my ADHD feels so very "loud" and is quite ubiquitous in my life, my autism tends to get overlooked and sometimes dismissed altogether. I was diagnosed with ASD at the same time as the ADHD, and by someone whose specialty was in adult ADHD and ASD and particularly how it presents in women (while I've come to think these gendered stereotypes may or may not do more harm than good for the ASD community, I don't know if I'd have been diagnosed when I was had I not been evaluated by someone with a wider scope of understanding in how the traits of autism present in different people). My therapist eventually referred me to a psychiatrist for additional treatment for my ADHD because therapy on its own wasn't enough, and that old geezer she referred me to insists I'm not autistic because I can carry a conversation (It's almost like he forgets he's treating me for the VERY LOUD ADHD THAT MAKES ME NEVER STOP TALKING BECAUSE OH MY GOD THIS IMPULSIVITY IS CRAZY IT'S LIKE THERE ARE NO STOP SIGNS ON MY MOUTH-BOX). My therapist laughed when I told her, and reassured me that *she* is the expert on ASD, not him, and she can confirm I'm definitely autistic; he doesn't even treat autism, so his opinion on it doesn't seem to matter. I continue seeing him for ADHD despite his opinion on my autism (or lack thereof) because at least he agrees that I do have ADHD and that it does affect my life very significantly. And after insurance, he's pretty cheap.
Moving on, there is a deep-rooted "otherness" that's often associated with autism. This life-long phenomenon has made me feel disconnected from plenty of social circles, and it's one of the primary reasons I am so keen to maintain what friendships and relationships I have somehow, against the odds, managed to develop. I appear to possess strong social skills in some ways (or perhaps only pretend to through decades of autistic masking and the adoption of certain hobbies), but I fall drastically short in other ways (like keeping my impulsive nature from consistently sabotaging the conversation). So it's imperative that I find a way to overcome these communication barriers.
Due to extenuating circumstances over the past couple of years, my tribe has gotten very small. Therefore, my remaining connections and bonds are even more precious to me. I struggle enough with communication without impulsiveness rearing its ugly head all the time, and I am not sure I'd easily forgive myself if I wasn't trying everything possible to learn and grow from my ADHD so that I can nurture these relationships. I don't feel like my Adderall improves my impulse control very much (at least at my current dose? I'll admit I'm still figuring the medicine thing out, and as I mentioned above, my psychiatrist is a bit of a doofus with whom I regularly argue about my treatment plan because of our disagreement on my diagnosis). Meanwhile, there's only so much a therapist can help with (can't even afford her services right now and I miss her. Sadface). So in the end, I will have to figure out some of this without my therapist, and I'm hoping other ADHD brains will help.
Therefore, I put it to you, my fellow dopamine-dysfunctionals — how do you deal with impulsive communication? To those of you who also struggle with impulsivity, what helps you establish healthy methods of verbal and written communication when your brain insists on spewing out ill-timed verbiage? The more I fight with my impulsiveness, the more I'm tempted to turn myself into Billy from Hocus Pocus and just sew my own mouth shut before I make things worse. I know that my ADHD is not my fault, but it *is* my responsibility and at this point, I'll try anything. I've already tried so many things over the years, to mixed results, and as of tonight and the argument I had with this friend, I made a post-it note reminder and on it wrote three things,
* Stop interrupting!
* Stop interjecting with another topic!
* Stay present + mindful!
I stuck it to my computer display so that it remains in my visual range (if I've learned anything about my ADHD, it's how visually dependent I am). Nevertheless, I suspect this won't be enough, and so I'm putting this up for discussion.
So please, for the love of green M&Ms or whatever is holy to you, *please* shove some meaningful advice into my inattentive, hyperactive, and evidently *far-too-impulsive* brain. Thanks. And if you've actually made it to the end of this without skimming and skipping to the closing remarks, double-thanks. Your attention span is enviable, please share with me your secrets, too. ♥
Edit; Yes, yes, I know it's HUGE ... and well, huge. I tried to edit it down a bunch and rewrote it multiple times. I spent a lot of time trying to organize my thoughts for it, but it's still a small novella on its own. So again, I profusely thank anyone who takes the time to sort through this. ♥♥♥
Edit 2; I'm reading back through the comments on this again and my monster of a post. People have always lauded me for my way with words (I'm no author, but I suppose I'd consider myself an amateur writer at best). Meanwhile, it's only been within the past year or so that I've realized how much I struggle with putting my *own* thoughts and feelings into clear and understandable formats. I wondered, perhaps it's related to just how difficult the past couple of years has been for me? Either way, I'm genuinely grateful to those who pointed out that I flounder with conciseness when trying to deliver personal reflections and situations. I won't shame myself by pointing out *just* how much time ~~more than an hour but less than twenty-four~~ I spent the other night writing and rewriting this post until I felt it was, in fact, straight and orderly. Fresh eyes tell me that this reads like a veritable mess, and my eye twitches at some of the errors I overlooked in my emotionally-activated state. The funny or perhaps even sad fact is that it seems to represent me well, at least lately.
In closing, I leave this [meme](https://i.redd.it/kjg9ipg8bct61.jpg) I found, which reminded me of this post. Oh yeah, and the friend with whom I'd argued which led to this post in the first place has been very patient with me since we discussed these issues and since my awareness of them has grown (the post-it note has helped too!). I've asked them for assistance parsing the insight and suggestions found in the comments to gain his perspective as a non-ADHDer as well as helping me in general so that I can action them appropriately. Again, thank you so very much. ♥ | 2021-12-05T11:34:01.000Z | r9dwrk | 10 | 6 | ADHD | How do you prevent impulsive communication from affecting your relationships? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dwrk/how_do_you_prevent_impulsive_communication_from/ |
Embarrassed_Rise_303 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:24:33.000Z | r9drsm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hi guys how do I tidy when I’m completely overwhelmed by the mess? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9drsm/hi_guys_how_do_i_tidy_when_im_completely/ |
NoM_NoM_Sn1p3r | Hey Brains,
i had my final examina 3 months ago (i fucked up one out of 7) and i have to repeat the one but thats my last Chance, i had this whole 3 months to study but didnt, now i have 12 days left and i cant get my ass up to do it!
My biggest Problem is i dont know what to learn, like i cant break it into smaler pieces and dont know where to Start.
How do y'all deal with this Kind of stuff? | 2021-12-05T11:23:52.000Z | r9drfg | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I need to study! Help! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9drfg/i_need_to_study_help/ |
White_widow23 | I’ve started taking Wellbutrin 2 weeks ago and I’ve started my period a couple days ago.
Usually I have mild cramps that last only a day, but this time I’m having very strong pain and it won’t go away. Ibuprofen isn’t really helping either. I haven’t had cramps this bad since I was a teenager.
Has anyone else experienced something like this?. | 2021-12-05T11:22:23.000Z | r9dqmq | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Wellbutrin and period cramps | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dqmq/wellbutrin_and_period_cramps/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:19:16.000Z | r9doy3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What Happens after you get diagnosed with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9doy3/what_happens_after_you_get_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:14:07.000Z | r9dmc5 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | how exactly is complex trauma linked to ADD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dmc5/how_exactly_is_complex_trauma_linked_to_add/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:13:56.000Z | r9dm91 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What happens after you get diagnosed with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dm91/what_happens_after_you_get_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
Far-Engineering1215 | Hi! Im not totally sure why im writing this i think i just need to vent.
I just recently started realizing that adhd is a big issue for me! Im 26 and i was diagnosed with adhd (inattentive) when i was a child. I got meds for it and my grades went up but i always felt like a robot while taking them which led to me quitting them 2-3 years later. I recently (in the last 2 months) reevaluated myself after looking at some tiktok channel about adhd and realized how much of it i still carry with me and deal with. Ive always thought of my adhd as a character trait i just couldnt change and had to deal with on my own( while failing university for a long time( i live in germany so college doesnt cost a fortune). All of this while being in therapy for depression because i thought i was worthless and stupid for being unable to deal with daily tasks and challenges. Im now in recent days realizing how much of that was probably related to ignoring my symptoms and blaming myself for them.
I feel weird because for a very long time i saw adhd as part of myself and just the way i am. Looking through posts here i also commonly have the feeling, that im reading posts that i wrote myself because the thing being described are so similiar to what i experience on a daily.
But because if my growing frustration with adhd and leaving it unchecked for so long ive started hating that part of me.
When i want to sit down i get extremely frustrated because it feels like my brain is everywhere but sitting at the task im supposed to focus on. And when im able to tame my brain long enough to focus i get the urge to just get up and do something else(most times to the point of physical discomfort like a weird feeling in my stomache). When someone talks to me and theres background noise or music playing i need to constantly ask them what they said because i dont understand them properly. I get so obsessed with things that i cant do anything else which has led to many failed exams, missed assignments and other things.
I guess im just realizing now how ive seen all of these things as just a part of me that i cant change (because i demonized medication in my head after watching too many documentaries) and now that ive started reading up more and seeing that they can be treated im relieved but also in hindsight frustrated with myself.
I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to discuss this but my week has been hell because every symptom i have has been more noticable, i have 4 assignments that needed to be done and im emotionally raw because of so much potential change. I feel like ive been close to tears all week but even if ive wanted to cry to get some catharsis i havent been able to so it just feels like everythings boiling up inside me and making me even more jittery than usual.
I usually dont post anything but i feel like i just needed to get things out. Sorry about the terrible formulations | 2021-12-05T11:12:21.000Z | r9dlj6 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I have finally started taking care of my adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dlj6/i_have_finally_started_taking_care_of_my_adhd/ |
JohnReg0289 | She also has anxiety, but says she doesn't think she would be able to cope with an ADHD spouse and child. Does me having ADHD automatically mean my child will have it too?
I have always wanted kids and heard having ADHD can actually be a strength due to hyperfocused parenting.
I feel really bummed out and dont want to end things with her as she is important to me. But also dont want to regret not having kids. Then again, do I want a child to suffer what I went through? | 2021-12-05T11:11:04.000Z | r9dkxg | 26 | 10 | ADHD | Gf does not want to have kids because of my ADHD. | 0.82 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dkxg/gf_does_not_want_to_have_kids_because_of_my_adhd/ |
my_adhd_is_secret | Quick disclaimer - there's no advice here. Just sharing an experience and looking to hear from others.
Okay so I find that my days pass really quickly. I never have enough time to do the things I want; it seems like there's never enough time.
Yesterday I took a day off my meds and the day was so slow. Sure, I was bored as heck and everything I usually find interesting on meds became a chore (video games, TV, etc) but that feeling of never having enough time just disappeared.
I definitely don't want my days to drag, but I'm starting to wonder whether I'm losing days because everything is flying by me. | 2021-12-05T11:10:25.000Z | r9dkms | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I took a day off medication yesterday and the day was so long | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dkms/i_took_a_day_off_medication_yesterday_and_the_day/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:10:10.000Z | r9dkhc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how exactly is complex trauma linked to ADD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dkhc/how_exactly_is_complex_trauma_linked_to_add/ |
JohnReg0289 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:08:15.000Z | r9dji2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Gf doesn't want to have kids because of my ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dji2/gf_doesnt_want_to_have_kids_because_of_my_adhd/ |
danielrosehill | [removed] | 2021-12-05T11:06:43.000Z | r9diod | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody managed to replace caffeine complete with a medication(s)? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9diod/anybody_managed_to_replace_caffeine_complete_with/ |
DannyDTR | So I’ve been on sertraline for almost 3 months and it’s helped with my depression but lately I feel very blah, almost apathetic. I picked up drawing again at the beginning of the pandemic and was learning to code but I struggled too much and now I just watch endless YouTube videos and switch back and forth between them — some are less than 5 minutes — because I get bored so quickly/easily.
What do y’all recommend? What do y’all do when you are so under-stimulated? | 2021-12-05T11:04:03.000Z | r9dhd6 | 4 | 8 | ADHD | How to find drive? I feel constantly under-stimulated. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dhd6/how_to_find_drive_i_feel_constantly/ |
Searth0425 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T10:55:10.000Z | r9dcnu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Floating rock mentality | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9dcnu/floating_rock_mentality/ |
gravesandstone-6810 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T10:34:23.000Z | r9d2h9 | 2 | 6 | ADHD | quick tip for yall who have low motivation and energy to start doing things: | 0.87 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9d2h9/quick_tip_for_yall_who_have_low_motivation_and/ |
NimblyBimblyMeyow | Howdy!
So I deal with sleep issues, adhd, and lately worsening depression. I have been taking adderall IR 60mg (30mg IR 2x daily) for a few years now, and it’s been amazing. I also had finally started talking to my doctor about my sleep issues a little bit ago, and he started me on Hydroxyzine which was INCREDIBLE. I didn’t have trouble sleeping, and I didn’t wake up the next day feeling terrible. However a few weeks ago my depression hit me hard. I started having these really vivid suicidal thoughts, and it’s probably the lowest I’ve ever been. So my psychiatrist had me stop taking Hydroxyzine, and put me on Seroquel.
Now with Seroquel, I knock out so hard, and fast. But when I wake up the next day, it feels like I never even slept because I’m just that drowsy. I could probably sleep for the whole week if I let myself on this stuff.
I’m literally so drowsy that my adderall isn’t even effective anymore. I accidentally took a third dose of adderall because I was so drowsy that I couldn’t remember if I took my second dose or not… And even at 90mg of adderall, I felt nothing.
No motivation, no energy, nothing. The weird part though? My brain was actually quiet. So quiet in fact, that I was completely content with just sitting at work, while doing absolutely nothing. I didn’t even fiddle on my phone for my whole shift.
Anyone else have experience with these two together? Does the drowsiness eventually go away, or at the very least just get better? | 2021-12-05T10:10:36.000Z | r9cqr6 | 15 | 1 | ADHD | Seroquel helps me sleep, but the drowsiness I feel the next day is making my adderall useless. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9cqr6/seroquel_helps_me_sleep_but_the_drowsiness_i_feel/ |
katsuretsu_ | This may be a strange question but for those of you who take Ritalin, do you ever decrease your dose (or not take it at all) when you're taking the day off? Asking because for me, with my usual 20mg dose (8hr) Ritalin is great for long working hours, but taking that amount on rest days seems to exacerbate stuff like stomach being weird, energy levels being weird etc. But I dunno, what do you guys think?
Edit: I've been on it for around 5 months. | 2021-12-05T10:04:43.000Z | r9cnm1 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Question about taking Ritalin on rest days. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9cnm1/question_about_taking_ritalin_on_rest_days/ |
kittensandchocolate | Hey everyone, unsure how to go about this, but my (23F) partner (28M) has ADHD, among a few other disorders. I'm trying to work out how to be as supportive as possible, without being naggy/irritating.
He has a LOT of trouble remembering to do housework (dinner, clean bathroom and sweep once a week, dishes we do a week on, week off as a new schedule). Is there anything I can do to help him remember these things. He doesn't remember on his own. And after our last chat, he said he didn't want me to remind him of anything, which I've stuck to.
But it drives me nuts that he will take 5 days to remember to do the dishes, and take 2 days to do them, and usually forget a few dirty things as well. Even more irritating is he is AMAZING at work, he is super organised, gets everything done, he's a superstar. But as soon as he gets home, he doesn't give a single f*ck. I refuse to clean for him and have been trying to get it through to him how important keeping home clean is.
I don't know if I'm being OTT and too much, and I need unbiased, or at least a less biased POV. Any advice is more than welcome. Thank you in advance. | 2021-12-05T09:52:56.000Z | r9ch5z | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Advice on supporting my partner. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ch5z/advice_on_supporting_my_partner/ |
sparkly____sloth | [removed] | 2021-12-05T09:40:11.000Z | r9capk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Starting medication soon, what should I be aware of talking to my doctor? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9capk/starting_medication_soon_what_should_i_be_aware/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T09:18:51.000Z | r9bzrl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Started Vyvanse 3 days ago | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9bzrl/started_vyvanse_3_days_ago/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T09:17:26.000Z | r9bz1i | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I want to quit taking adderall because im scared of the withdrawal effects | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9bz1i/i_want_to_quit_taking_adderall_because_im_scared/ |
Cutie_Corgi | Mine is this spicy peanut butter ramen recipe that's become easy to make for me (it's also super cheap to make) to the point that I've made it almost every day for lunch for the past few months. Sometimes I'll even eat it at night when I'm hungry or after I get off of work. I'm sure I'll get sick of it at some point, but I'm still jamming pretty hard on it at the moment.
What about all of you? | 2021-12-05T09:17:19.000Z | r9byz2 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | What's your current food fixation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9byz2/whats_your_current_food_fixation/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T09:11:17.000Z | r9bw0e | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Its after 3am and im lost. (Long post) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9bw0e/its_after_3am_and_im_lost_long_post/ |
Sam-Hinkie | I switched to a new prescription the other day and my insurance didn’t cover it so I’m taking a very small dosage that was paid for.
I know remember how fucking loud my brain can be when I’m trying to focus on schoolwork and it’s so aggravating. I’m trying to knock out some schoolwork a week before it needs to be done so I can really focus on finals. With the low dosage, which might as well be nothing, trying to do schoolwork is nearly impossible without the last minute before it’s due to anxiety hyperfocus.
It’s just crazy how when trying to read something it feels like my brain is just a room full of people talking and the one guy that tries to talk but voice gets drained out by all the talking is how I feel when my conscious tries to read | 2021-12-05T08:50:10.000Z | r9bkyz | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Reminder of how loud my brain is when trying to do schoolwork | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9bkyz/reminder_of_how_loud_my_brain_is_when_trying_to/ |
DaernMothburn | Hi! Recently started seeing someone I think could be a potential lifelong partner. We are late 20s / early 30s. They're undiagnosed (all adhd symptoms present) and struggle with additional mental health disorders / symptoms. I'm ADHD and Bipolar-II and managing symptoms fairly well with therapy and meds.
We set some healthy boundaries tonight and had a great discussion about some of our symptoms. I'm concerned, however, about codependent relationships. I'm worried I'll have a hypomanic episode and crash that leads to crippling anxiety and/or panic attacks while they're experiencing heavy anxiety and then regression.
How do you maintain a healthy relationship while also dealing with eachother's disorders? What do you do when one person regresses? How do you know if a codependent relationship is developing? | 2021-12-05T08:48:51.000Z | r9bk9f | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Relationship Advice? From couples both w/ adhd or other please | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9bk9f/relationship_advice_from_couples_both_w_adhd_or/ |
Calprior | [removed] | 2021-12-05T08:46:13.000Z | r9bivn | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Mind Valley - Superbrain by Jim Kwik (full course £28) | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9bivn/mind_valley_superbrain_by_jim_kwik_full_course_28/ |
Affectionate_Dark945 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T08:20:31.000Z | r9b5iq | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Keep making dumb mistakes at work,is it adhd or am I just dumb | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9b5iq/keep_making_dumb_mistakes_at_workis_it_adhd_or_am/ |
bipbopbip666 | Context: Where I’m from we do two years of pre-university/college school and assuming we don’t take longer than 2 years we start University at around 19-20 years old. After my pre-uni I took a gap year with plans to travel but that went down the drain because pandemic. So I started University this year and I just turned 21 this week.
I am currently still undiagnosed because waiting lists are insane and for a while I put off even looking into getting evaluated because: procrastination.
I always suffered at school but I got by with either really good or really mediocre grades.
Thing is, I am now studying industrial design and the amount of work is insane but it also requires a whole new work ethic/strategy.
It was way easier for me to shit out a bomb essay in 4 hours before the deadline, but design assignments are a whole new breed to me, and I can’t rely on my trusty emergency work mode anymore.
I had 5 classes this semester, I dropped one before the add/drop deadline because 5 was too big of a load. Now I can’t drop any more without a doctor’s note saying I am unable to be in class/doing work for at least 3 weeks.
So out of the 4 classes I currently have, I’ve FULLY given up on one, I stopped showing up to classes and eventually the work got too hard for me to figure it out on my own.
In another one of my classes, I have good grades for now but I didn’t turn in 3 or 4 mini assignments in time and I still have not done them. If I don’t do it all this monday it’ll make 5 missing assignments.
My other classes are going okay but I am struggling, always taking 10 steps back and struggling to barely catch up.
I feel so defeated. I want to change my major (switch from industrial design to graphic design) but I’m terrified they’ll decline my application because of how I performed this semester.
I don’t know what to do, I regret letting it stretch out for so long, I wish I took care of my diagnosis last year of the year prior so I would at least be eligible for accommodations.
I just want to be done with school and start my career. I wish so badly that I didn’t have this fucking disorder.
I feel like such a failure.
Please tell me I am not a failure for failing 1-2 classes in my first semester of University.
I feel like every time I fail, my dream of becoming independent and being done with school is taken even further away from me. It stings even more after spending a whole gap year wasting my time.
Help, people who’ve been there before, I could really use some words of encouragement. | 2021-12-05T08:12:10.000Z | r9b175 | 2 | 13 | ADHD | First semester of University, failing a class, on the way to failing another one | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9b175/first_semester_of_university_failing_a_class_on/ |
someguy8079 | I'll be honest with you guys, I didn't know where to post this and just googled the premise, and this sub came up. I've been wondering if I have ADHD for months now, due to a real lot, and this is like the 5th time I've made a vent post and this sub came up. So, if you wouldn't mind the read, I'd love to hear you take and if maybe it would be worth getting tested. Thanks.
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I have enough faith in myself to believe I’m in the right, but I think there’s always value in an outside take.
Essentially, I’m “giving up" on nearly everything I try, and I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t make me fee a bit guilty and lazy.
I was let go from my last “real” job at a golf course in early 2020. As a college student, and with the pandemic, I decided not to look for work. Mid-year I took up an online customer service job, but I was in bad shape mentally and not the most outgoing person, so I gave it up pretty fast. By the end of the year I needed cash, so I took up gigging (DoorDash, Grubhub, etc.) and did that until the snow came. By then I just wanted to relax, school was stressful and against my better judgment, I took unemployment. I lived on that until it ran out mid-year this year, and I didn’t extend it. A LOT of guilt came with that, but I can't change the past. I somehow managed to spend all of that money, because I just compulsory buy shit and that's another huge source of guilt. Anyway...
I started gigging again but work was much more scarce than the previous year. At the same time, I was working on myself (in retrospect, performing CBT on myself) and came to the conclusion that I needed to drop out of college my senior year (I’d been contemplating it since Sophomore year). Yes, I could have finished it out, but I came to realize that my major was just a hobby and nothing more, and I didn’t want to waste another year of my life/take on more stress. I’d rather keep my credits and apply them to another major down the line, instead of going through with a major I didn’t want (film, btw).
As I searched myself, I found that carpentry interested me, so after a month or so I found a guy willing to hire me with no experience. Now here’s when I really began to feel like I was giving up too easy. It was just some guy and his partner, not much of a company and I was their first employee. I was told we’d be doing mostly carpentry and trim work, but when I arrived it turns out that demo still needed to be done. On the 4th floor of an apartment building. As expected, I took on all the grunt work of sweeping and collecting the trash, doing some light demo where they trusted me to. I must’ve emptied 50 of those 32 gallon trash cans full of sheetrock. It sucked. By the end of the day, my hair was white and I was coughing up dust all night (even with a mask on). At one point the boss had me pulling nails from the wall, and by the end I was pulling up staples from the floor for about an hour. Mid-way through the day, I’m sweeping by wire and using it to collect a pile (not wanting to mess with their power tools). The boss sees me doing this and belittles me by saying (\[name\], you gotta lift the wire, buddy” in such a condescending tone it brought me right back to high school. I hadn’t felt so small in years. We worked 9 hours that day. I was beyond exhausted (and dirty).
The next morning, I texted him saying that it was too much and I wasn’t coming back. I never got paid for that day. That showed me enough of his character. Throughout the day he had made small remarks like the earlier one, but that one in particular got to me for some reason. It really was the way he said it, like he genuinely believed I was a damn fool. I felt it in my gut right after that I wasn't coming back. I was hired as an apprentice, not a slave. I didn’t learn anything but instead carried out the work they didn’t want to do. I was prepared for hard work, not to be completely used. But I always find myself taken advantage of.
I decided carpentry wasn’t for me, and moved on. I did bits of gigging here and there the next few months. Mostly I was trying to find peace within myself. I’ve been incredibly insecure and people-pleasing my whole life, and needed to just take some time to work on myself. I really didn’t know who I was- just some kid who pushed himself way too hard in school to impress people he didn’t like. I got tired of being weak and all that.
Last month I decided to look for work again, something simple to get me by while I continue to take time for myself. I decided on the UPS Personal Vehicle Driver position, a seasonal job that has you delivering packages from your own car. At $21 an hour and temporary, I was ecstatic. To put a few grand away in only a short months time would be fantastic. Well, I thought so, anyway.
After a week or so they scheduled me for a phone interview. They never called. So I rescheduled as I had seen a few posts online about this issue, and rescheduling worked for others. Still no call. I finally reached out myself and was interviewed on the spot (by a support technician?) and they told me I got the job and to expect an email with details.
Well, I never got that email (or even asked if I accepted the job, actually), and suddenly my location had changed on my profile. There was no building address, but I was due to start that Friday. The city was decently far from me (45 mins) and I was really hoping to work in my hometown as the ad stated. Not to mention, nobody had informed me of this change. On the Wednesday before, I checked the site and had some paperwork to fill out, but still no email. On Thursday I called again and the support person told me not to go in the next day as my background check had not passed. It had been about a week and a half, but what else could I do?
The following Wednesday I get a call from the same number- asking why I missed my orientation. I told them I had no address and someone from their line told me not to go. They asked for the person's name (as if I would remember?) and told me that my new first day was the next Monday, and I’d get an email with details (here we go again).
Luckily, I actually did. The location was unfortunately the same, but I was ready for my first day. When I arrived, there was someone else in the same boat- and we were promptly told that there was a disconnect between the support HR and local HR- we were actually supposed to be in a town another 45 minutes away. For some reason, I accepted this and went there. It was the correct location, though the front door was locked and I had to go in through a truck terminal to find an office. Once inside, I was greeted by two rude employees who demanded to know why I was bothering them. They set me up with paperwork (about union dues and all that, despite being a contractor and not in the union) and checked out my car- all good. They said I’d be getting a call and email from someone else (seriously?)- and again, I thankfully did. This time it was for training, which consisted of 2.5 hours worth of anything but that- simple safety and policy videos, not how to do the job. I got a call the next morning at 7am about coming in for my first day (???). When I called back, I was met with loud chatter, a loud “what???”, and then put on hold 4 times before the guy who initially called me answered- and then told me to expect a call tomorrow as he was busy. Groan.
Tomorrow morning came and I got a text- not a call- asking if I wanted to take a route almost 2 hours from my house. I ignored the text as it didn’t seem like it was for me (I had no training or anything). Hours later, another text comes from what I thought was an automated line asking me to come in to the branch I was at the first day- I agreed. The man from the phone the day before came out, shoved some papers in my face, asked me to sign one (my soul?) and told me to meet some guy at a location 45 minutes away. By this time I was ready to walk, but decided to hold out until I at least tried the job- maybe it wasn’t bad once I got going. I met the driver and told him I had no training or anything- he told me the basics, gave me a phone with the system, and sent me on my way.
Well, the actual job was the easiest fucking part of the process. I almost enjoyed it, except for how far and unfamiliar the route was. The driver assured me that I would likely get a route in my hometown, though, and was only covering for an absence today. It was pretty self-explanatory, so I didn't NEED training- but it would've been nice. And I got lucky that all went smoothly- had their been an issue, I would've been fucked. The roads were shit, windy, and confusing, half of the houses were missing numbers, but I got it done and I can’t complain about the job itself- like I said, I almost enjoyed it. I had one undeliverable package since the address was mis-labeled on UPS’s end, and one other task undone as it was a pick-up, and the driver told me that he’d take care of it.
I head back to the hub (as the driver told me to do, not my actual fucking bosses) and am met with an empty office. I call the number and am told to go to an OMV office- I see no such labeled place. I find a room with people in it, go in and ask- it’s the right place. A woman suddenly gets flustered asking why I have a package and where my phone is- I hand over the phone and the package, and before I can explain, start getting grilled. Why didn’t you deliver this? Why didn’t you finish all your tasks? Keep in mind, I don’t know these people and they don’t know me. They don’t know it’s my first day or anything. In fact I have no clue what department this is or what these people are doing here- half are dressed like drivers. Once they calm down, I explain and they take care of it- without showing me how to. By the end, some guy pulls me aside and lectures me on the importance of letting UPS know when I can’t deliver a package as it’s just as important as the ones that do get delivered- as if I tried to hide the non-delivery or something. Once they had their fun with me, I ask for a vest- that’s right, I never even got a vest or a badge, so I was this suspicious kid driving around an unfamiliar neighborhood slowly and delivering packages. The guy comes back with a generic yellow vest, not a UPS one, and I go home. Again, I felt so small, almost violated. Maybe mentally violated. Whatever that feeling is, I despise it with every fiber of my being. I’m beginning to love myself and I don’t need that shit, not anymore.
The next day I get the same text- asking me to come in for the same route. I decline and go back to sleep. The day passes.
This morning I receive no text- until about 10am, from some guy named “John” in a group chat asking 10 or so people if we want to work today. I don’t answer, but many do and ask where and when- the response is, verbatim, “Here at building at 10:30.” ?????? What building? Who the fuck are you? What route? It’s already like 10am? Am I expected to wait on a text each morning to let me know if I have work or not?
I ignore the text and carry on with my day.
Soon after, I get a text from the bot number (which periodically texts me things about safety and shit) using my name and asking if I want to come in today- it’s already maybe noon. I ignore it again- fuck this.
Then maybe an hour later, I receive this text:
“All, you're expected in on Monday and working every day, unless there are reasons that you are unavailable from now until Christmas unless there are circumstances we are aware of. Please confirm that you're working on Monday.”
I block the number, shut my phone, and enjoy the rest of my day. I’m done.
And that’s another job I gave up on, day 1. Well, day 45 at that point. I just feel like I have more respect for myself than to be treated and tossed around like that. I’m not bending over for these people. I don’t expect to be bowed to, but where’s basic human decency? Can I get some basic courtesy from any of these jobs or people? Or am I asking too much?
I worked in a sort-of retail job for a little over a year, and a warehouse job for half a year. Also the golf job for about a quarter of a year, but I had no intention of quitting when I was let go (damn you COVID)- but even there, they never let me know I was let go- I just never heard back. What’s with the lack of human decency? But anyway, having those jobs means at the least I know I can put in the work at shit jobs. I don’t expect a fantastic, perfect job at my age. But I do expect to not be demeaned and belittled. To be treated as incredibly expendable, to not be treated as a human. And I would expect anyone else to have the same respect for themselves. How can you take on this work? I’m so fortunate that I don’t need need it, I’m not desperate enough to accept this bullshit.
I should also mention that I got my first job at 17, working as an office assistant. It was a small lawn and garden place that, again, didn’t train me, and didn’t have much work for me. I was always asking what to do, and usually would get met with “clean” or “just be quiet for a bit.” Not long into it, I’m fired for “not doing enough”- which is bullshit when there isn’t work to do. They were hesitant to hire me since they had just hired someone else right before me, and I think they just didn’t need me and didn’t want to tell me. Whatever.
This turned into a real shitshow, but so do all of my posts. Look, the bottom line is this- after reading my of-course biased story, is it me? Am I giving up too easy, or am I just constantly pulling the short straws on jobs? Even at the warehouse job, the other employees (again, much older than me) were pretty unfriendly towards me, and I kept to myself. Not so much demeaning as these other jobs, but I did also feel small there. The only “decent” job I had was the customer service/retail one, which honestly wouldn’t have been so bad if the work wasn’t. It was the only job I had employees my age and felt kinda welcome. It has its moments of disrespect, but nothing compared to the rest. While I'm at it, I may as well mention that I don't have any friends and miss working with people my age. I really took that job for granted, but I think I was also only 17.
I don’t want to be that guy who puts in 5% and gets back nothing, wondering why. But at the same time, I feel justified in my decisions. Of course I didn’t handle them all the best. I could call UPS right now and probably straighten it out. But it’s really a principle thing for my since I don’t need the money. And I don’t really think I’m that uptight or picky- I just really think I was majorly disrespected and don’t need to take it.
But is this just how the world is? Will I ever be respected at this age? It doesn’t help that I look quite young, too (I’m 21 btw). But it seems that no matter where I go, I get backed into a corner and take the easy way out. I have no issue quitting things- I trust my gut instinct. But when I find it going off for nearly everything I do and try, well, I can’t help but question it. Again, I do trust myself and genuinely believe I’ve always been in the right on these decisions. I’m just as deserving as anyone else, why take shit?
I acknowledge that I could have done more and stood up for myself. But should I have to? Is the default for employers to just walk all over their employees?
I plan on starting my own business next year- I’m beyond frustrated with the job market. And seriously, I get it. I’m not opposed to hard work. I hate coming on here and essentially just making excuses. Like I said, the carpentry job and UPS job BY THEMSELVES were fine- I let the people around me ruin it, because, let’s face it, who you work with determines how the job is. I enjoy an honest days work. That’s why I want to start my own cleaning company- work on my terms, choosing who, where, when, etc. Fuck being pushed around and belittled, I have value as a fucking human being, and I’m tired of pretending my whole god-damn life like I don’t. I’m ranting now, but even my grandparents and such make me feel small. What is it about me? Is it because I don’t respect and value myself, because honestly I never got a chance to and am just learning how to now.
But I’d really like to hear from you now. How rude of an awakening am I in for out there in the world? The retail general-public experience I have was a spa day compared to how employers have treated me. So, put simply- is it me? | 2021-12-05T08:09:31.000Z | r9aztl | 0 | 3 | ADHD | Giving Up (too much) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9aztl/giving_up_too_much/ |
uncoolcanadian | It took me the whole school year to complete 2 courses in my final year of highschool. I’m honestly lucky I graduated. Only made the adhd breakthrough with my doctor maybe a month ago. Stoked to finally have a tiny bit of a grasp at what I’m actually dealing with so I can actually get treatment.
Did anybody else struggle to get an accurate diagnosis with anything because they literally couldn’t remember the symptoms? Lmao | 2021-12-05T08:08:19.000Z | r9az6c | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I can’t believe I didn’t see the signs earlier | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9az6c/i_cant_believe_i_didnt_see_the_signs_earlier/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T08:05:34.000Z | r9axq6 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | ED caused by adderal | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9axq6/ed_caused_by_adderal/ |
uncoolcanadian | I know this probably gets said a lot but fuck the medical system. Last week I had an appointment cause we are trying to figure out the right meds for me, (currently on concerta but I’m a massive human so I tend to need larger doses and I’m fairly certain I need a bigger dose cause I’m still not noticing much difference), anyways this appointment was a phone appointment due to COVID and now the doctor just prefers it cause it’s easier lol. Anyways he was an hour and 30 minutes late to our appointment. He called me at 12:45 when our appointment was for 11:15. He told me to make another appointment for a week. I called the clinics front desk right then to make the appointment, and of course they were closed and since it was Friday they would be closed for the weekend. Obviously I entirely forgot that I needed to schedule an appointment and I just made a new appointment yesterday the day I was supposed to be seeing my doctor and now I’m not able to get in to see him until the end of January and I’m stuck on meds that barely work, for 2 fucking months without any adjustments. Fuck | 2021-12-05T07:59:28.000Z | r9au5g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | The medical system sucks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9au5g/the_medical_system_sucks/ |
Fun-Charge-2092 | How the hell do I do anything without a hyperfixation? Genuine question. Like I really like other fandoms but I can’t think about them or write anything about the characters, even though I want really too, all because I’m stuck in a particular fandom.
I’m so frustrated and angry with myself. |TW WARNING:| I’ve been so frustrated to the point where I’ve contemplated doing the unalive.
I can’t be stuck like this anymore. It’s painful, I see everyone move on why can’t I? I want to do more. Why can’t I just love writing or singing or art instead?
WHY CANT I MOVE ON or better yet HOW CAN I MOVE ON
How does everyone do it? I’m so confused, like do you drop it? Or multiple at the same time? How??
I don’t want to do this anymore. | 2021-12-05T07:54:52.000Z | r9arq1 | 3 | 6 | ADHD | Hyperfixation Help me please I’m so tired | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9arq1/hyperfixation_help_me_please_im_so_tired/ |
HellScre4m | The fact most people around you are never satisfied with your performance, no matter how hard you try or how self critical you are, they just want someone to blame and you are the best case available, especially if you have a low confidence, as I see many adhd individuals are coping with low esteem and fear of criticism and rejection. They project their own miseries on you, don't step back, fight back, let them know you're strong. | 2021-12-05T07:51:57.000Z | r9aq9l | 1 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD taught me | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9aq9l/adhd_taught_me/ |
Remarkable-Pepper-44 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T07:48:02.000Z | r9ao5q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why can I do school work longer than my friends? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ao5q/why_can_i_do_school_work_longer_than_my_friends/ |
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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T07:28:11.000Z | r9adnt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else get super tired physically but mentally insane | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9adnt/anybody_else_get_super_tired_physically_but/ |
InternetTheory | [removed] | 2021-12-05T07:26:06.000Z | r9acmz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how do I ask my parents to get tested for ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9acmz/how_do_i_ask_my_parents_to_get_tested_for_adhd/ |
ohhhhellznaw | My sister believes I need to take my daughter to this Clinic. What do you know about this clinic and what has been your experiences there. I believe they have clinics around the US treating ADHD, depression and other disorders. It is an investment. Just want to make sure a get real world feedback from people. Are they the only ones that do this type of treatment? | 2021-12-05T07:25:34.000Z | r9acec | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Debating to take my kid to the Amen Clinic. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9acec/debating_to_take_my_kid_to_the_amen_clinic/ |
IronMosquito | Recently I've been feeling burned out. i find it hardest to work during this time of the year, with the stress of the holidays and exams, plus the seasonal depression... and of course, adhd. It just makes it hard to do anything other than procrastinate. But today, i finally managed to keep my mind on one track and I installed a shaving mirror in my bathroom. My mom has a bunch of little projects for around the house, and since I'm good with tools I'm the one who volunteers to get them done. It was an easy job, just required that i drill some screws into the wall. But just being able to get up and finding the motivation to DO it made it feel like a huge win and really improved my mood.
Anyone else have any personal wins like this recently? | 2021-12-05T07:25:31.000Z | r9acdf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finally managed to install a mirror today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9acdf/finally_managed_to_install_a_mirror_today/ |
ohhhhellznaw | [removed] | 2021-12-05T07:22:53.000Z | r9aazr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone have any experiences with the Amen Clinic? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9aazr/anyone_have_any_experiences_with_the_amen_clinic/ |
tricksterfae | Holy moly was it a day. The first 3-4 hours I felt nothing and was beginning to worry it had had no effect. But around midday the magic happened. I walked the dog, cleaned 2 surfaces in my room and shaved. I would've called my insurance to sort out something with my car too until I found out they are shut on Sundays. It may not be a lot, but in those few hours I accomplished more than I do in an entire weekend. The idea that this could be my normal, is so mindboggling.
Edit: Also I don't know if this has anything to do with ADHD or my treatment. But I was playing League and losing all my games and even getting flamed in a few. But it didn't bother me at all. Usually one or two bad games like that would upset me for a few hours, but not only did it not bother me, I kept playing and having fun! This feels like super powers | 2021-12-05T07:20:14.000Z | r9a9lc | 1 | 5 | ADHD | First day of Vyvanse thoughts | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9a9lc/first_day_of_vyvanse_thoughts/ |
echocardigecko | We have 2 kids and it's really stressing me out. They're only kindergarteners at this point but I'm wondering what the odds are. I saw online that it's 50% if one parent has ADHD but couldn't find anything for both. My husband does so well and isn't medicated anymore but it's also clear it still affects him. | 2021-12-05T07:16:49.000Z | r9a7ud | 51 | 28 | ADHD | I have ADHD. My husband was diagnosed with ADD as a kid. What's the likelihood our kids also have it? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9a7ud/i_have_adhd_my_husband_was_diagnosed_with_add_as/ |
ohhhhellznaw | [removed] | 2021-12-05T07:16:42.000Z | r9a7s5 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone know about the Amen Clinic? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9a7s5/anyone_know_about_the_amen_clinic/ |
mjesecizvijezde | I’ve completed my second week of vyvanse, 20mg, after being recently diagnosed in middle age.
The change in life was/is phenomenal. I felt present. I actually realized what “being present” meant, vs just trying to conceptualize the idea.
The biggest impact it had on me was all my ruminating just stopped. I realized that I had constant dialogue in my head. Whether it was dialogue I’d imagine having with others (over ongoing issues), or ruminating about upsetting interactions or topics.
Other thoughts I’m usually bombarded with are simple tasks that need to be completed. I could be engaged in a task (i.e.: sweeping) and something else would catch my eye as I’m sweeping (I.e.: “oh, the recycling needs to be put away”), and then instantly I’d stop and question should I continue sweeping or should I put the recycling away first?
Then I’d get agitated over my conflict, frustrated with myself that I was struggling with such a simple (and non-crucial) decision, and then berate myself for not being able to make such a simple decision. And this was my brain, all day long. And it was exhausting.
Or I’d be completing a task and suddenly stop, having lost focus and begin ruminating again.
Despite all this, I still accomplished most things but I struggled throughout the day and my anxiety levels and resulting agitation were through the roof.
Also, I was exhausted from the moment I’d wake up till the moment I’d go to bed.
The greatest impact vyvanse has had on my well being is my constant state of anxiety practically disappeared, because the rumination stopped.
My thoughts were quiet and engaged in whatever I was doing. I’d still notice things and file them away (“oh, there’s recycling to be put away, too. Okay, I’ll do it once I’m done”. And then I’d do it. No dilemma and indecision.
Also, I wasn’t exhausted throughout the day. There have been afternoon naps and when I’d fall asleep, I’d sleep hard. But otherwise, no drudging through the day. No great bursts of energy. Just feeling “awake”.
Also, no grazing food through the day, which for someone who is overweight, is very nice.
As far as my mood goes, I find I’ve been kind of flat, but that could be because I’m comparing my mood to always being anxious (incidentally, anxiety that never seemed obvious to anyone else as I’ve mastered controlling outward indications of anxiety - but not the eventual agitation).
The last two days, I’ve noticed, about midday, that my ruminating is creeping back in. Where i was able to complete tasks with my thoughts only on the topic at hand, I’ve begun having those dialogues or analyzing past situations.
There have also been a few instances where in a quiet moment, such as while washing my hands, my focus has drifted off back to stressful thoughts, in which I get lost while I’m absentmindedly holding my hands underwater.
I notice this and try to redirect myself, but after having almost two weeks of no rumination, I’m so afraid of losing the sense of peace and calm I had acquired.
As an aside, I switched to decaf on day 1 (to mitigate the chance of elevated heart rate) and that’s been just fine as I never drank a lot of coffee to begin with. I still drink a cup of coffee at night.
Another thought I’ve contemplated is that perhaps I need to consider that maybe upsetting life events might interrupt the calm the medication has brought me. (There’s been some conflict at home recently).
Anyway, thank you for reading. I do have a scheduled appointment with my doc in two weeks to discuss how things have been going.
Has anyone else struggled with rumination, and if so, are you able to manage it? I tell myself to “stop” once I notice it, but it doesn’t really work and certainly doesn’t do anything to abate the resulting resurrection of anxiety that always accompanied my rumination. | 2021-12-05T07:09:53.000Z | r9a4ap | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Meds not as effective | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9a4ap/meds_not_as_effective/ |
ohhhhellznaw | [removed] | 2021-12-05T07:09:31.000Z | r9a449 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone familiar with the Amen Clinic? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9a449/anyone_familiar_with_the_amen_clinic/ |
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boomingbooms | I use Amfexa (eu Adderall) and am very depressed and irritable when I am not taking any medication or when I am on the rebound (3.5 hours after last dose). Do you have the same experience? When I use it, it works well in terms of focus, but also in mood. I take the last dose at 1600 . And then be done with it at 1900! I take it three times! in the morning, at noon, and around 1600! 5mg! | 2021-12-05T06:58:33.000Z | r99xwd | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I use Amfexa (eu Adderall) and am very depressed and irritable when I am not taking any medication or when I am on the rebound (3.5 hours after last dose) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99xwd/i_use_amfexa_eu_adderall_and_am_very_depressed/ |
gimmeboots | [removed] | 2021-12-05T06:56:58.000Z | r99x55 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else feel a sense of relief when a hyper focus has ended? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99x55/anyone_else_feel_a_sense_of_relief_when_a_hyper/ |
Silly-Thanks-8857 | I feel like I’m constantly dehydrated. I have a few signs of dehydration and I wake up and my pee is very dark (I don’t know if that’s normal). I just am constantly drinking water and my pee still usually looks dark even after a bottle or 2 of water.
Like I’m 5’1 weighing 105 lbs and drinking around 100 ounces of water a day. So an ounce per pound pretty much.
Should I be worried? Should I drink even more? (I can’t drink too much at once or I’m always in the bathroom. I drink small amounts frequently throughout the day). Am I alright and should just keep doing what I’m doing?
Background:
1. Before taking adhd meds my pee was perfectly fine
2. Currently I’ve been switching around Ritalin products and dosing and such for a while and haven’t figured out what works for me. Right now I take 2 Ritalin la twice a day at a low dose (20mg each) | 2021-12-05T06:38:25.000Z | r99n55 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | How much water do I need to drink with adhd meds? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99n55/how_much_water_do_i_need_to_drink_with_adhd_meds/ |
dat_boi_256 | Preface: I am severely inattentive type, not hyper at all.
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The last few years ADHD has really caught up with me. I have had a series of severe setbacks in my life and I'm at the point where I can't think straight or organize, I have no energy, doing the tiniest most insignificant task stresses me out to a ridiculous degree, and I spend months at a time procrastinating and going nowhere in life. I was always successful despite this until college when everything fell apart.
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I have a prescription for adderall which helps but it can give me so much mental anxiety, a huge pit in my stomach, on edge feeling, tense robotic autopilot, etc, that I just don't know how I will ever feel mentally and physically okay and be able to make something of my life. I am chronically tired and sluggish and get nothing done without adderall, but a lot of the time when I take it, I am strung out and severely anxious and still get nothing done on adderall.
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I have certainly had successful days with adderall, but if I am stressed out about something (which is often, and the past few months pretty much all the time), adderall just makes it 1000x worse. Like horrible pit in my stomach, physical tension, unable to take my mind off stressors and worst case scenarios, like even if I go running at the end of the day to try to calm down, I basically tune out the music in my headphones and the outside world and can't get my focus off the stress. I havent taken it in months and I've had some of my most unproductive months recently, but I know that my anxiety will be even worse if I take it.
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Is dexedrine better? I feel it may help for the sort of wound up physical robot feeling I get, but I doubt it will fix the mental hyperfocus on whatever I'm currently stressed about. I am so envious of people who can take stimulants without anxiety and feel great and productive on them. I have tried strattera which just gave me side effects and didn't work.
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I just don't know what to do, and as school comes closer I have no idea how I will ever pull this off. I'm paralyzed with anxiety from the moment I wake up, and my piss poor executive function makes the anxiety worse because I waste days, weeks, and months without getting anything done. I don't even know where to start. I can't even force myself to check my email without getting extremely stressed out and putting it off for sometimes weeks.
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I'm at the point where I feel like being on stimulants and benzos is gonna be the only chance I have to ever make something of my life and not be in constant much stress combined with adhd paralysis. But then that is a huge hassle to get a doctor to prescribe that. The time I was on klonopin was the best I've ever felt, and I was finally able to live my life like I always wanted to. Now all I do all day is sit paralyzed by stress and ADHD waiting to go to bed because when I'm asleep I won't have to think. The stress is constantly on my mind, I'm constantly tense, I have a pit of anxiety in my moment from the minute I wake up until I'm too tired to stay awake any longer at night.
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I already do a lot of therapy and a lot of the time the therapist has me do the simple tasks I've been putting off during the sessions and I feel so stupid that I can't even do it on my own. But my overall anxiety and function outside of therapy is only getting worse.
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Has anyone been in such a hopeless situation and gotten it under control? | 2021-12-05T06:30:15.000Z | r99ips | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Can't even function, paralyzed by ADHD and severe anxiety | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99ips/cant_even_function_paralyzed_by_adhd_and_severe/ |
khris_0284 | Does anyone here know how safe adhd medication is for type 1s
So I have type 1 diabetes and my I always felt like I might have adhd so I got it checked with my doctor and he told me I do, but then proceeded to tell me that there really isn’t any medication that I could use without being affected by it in a bad way. (Btw I’m 17) and he said that using adhd meds could fluctuate my blood sugar levels and that would be bad, but anyway I was just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience/situation and what they did. I’m pretty sure I just need to either wait till I’m older or deal with it, but I would really love being able to focus on something without forgetting it or getting distracted, and then proceed to forget what I would be told. Any ideas or things I haven’t thought of would help | 2021-12-05T06:27:19.000Z | r99h5s | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Diabetes and adhd combined?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99h5s/diabetes_and_adhd_combined/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T06:25:06.000Z | r99fx4 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Why don’t I ever learn | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99fx4/why_dont_i_ever_learn/ |
khris_0284 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T06:24:00.000Z | r99fbe | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone here know how safe adhd medication is for type 1s? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99fbe/does_anyone_here_know_how_safe_adhd_medication_is/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T06:18:49.000Z | r99cfu | 1 | 2 | ADHD | How can sensory overload be managed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99cfu/how_can_sensory_overload_be_managed/ |
k1w1_simpson | TLDR: A psychiatrist prescribed me an anti-depressant after presenting them with my diagnosis, and it hasn't changed anything. How normal is this?
BACKGROUND: I recently got diagnosed after finding college much more difficult than it was for my peers, and my mental health was not doing the best either. I always knew I had difficulties and even suspected I had ADHD but didn't think I would benefit from a diagnosis. This year in college, I started seeing a counselor hoping that maybe they could help me with some of the difficulties I was experiencing in school and my mental health. After a few sessions, he recommended I might as well get diagnosed as it proves to be beneficial for some other students. I went through the process of finding a therapist and getting diagnosed relatively quickly (in 2ish weeks), and the university even gave me the grant to cover the expenses. It also allowed me to have accommodations at school, such as extra time on tests, which is already proving to be helpful as well. However, in my report, the therapist recommended that I start taking medication as well as it might prove beneficial. Since she isn't a psychiatrist, she cannot prescribe medications, so I looked back to my school's Counseling and Psychiatric services again. I met with a psychiatrist, told her my story, and agreed that medication would benefit me. However, she laid out a timeline of the different drugs we would try to see how they work out for me. It seemed the drugs that have historically been able to help people with ADHD were way down the list and a few months away, and until then, she's going to put me on an anti-depressant (150mg Wellbutrin generic). I decided to be patient and took them for a month now and have only experienced side effects that make my symptoms worse. The side-effects included fatigue, loss of appetite, and muscle soreness which made it even harder to function over the past few weeks. I discussed this in our meeting this week, and she still wants me to try them for a couple more weeks because the survey I took showed my stress levels had been lowering. I'm not too fond of the prescription posts in this sub, but I don't know who else to ask.
QUESTION: Is this a standard practice or something unusual this doctor is doing?
What should I do if this isn't seeming to help me? | 2021-12-05T06:14:34.000Z | r99a52 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Is anyone else prescribed non-ADHD meds that actually work for them? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99a52/is_anyone_else_prescribed_nonadhd_meds_that/ |
Suiscend | [removed] | 2021-12-05T06:12:49.000Z | r99976 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anxiety or hungry? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r99976/anxiety_or_hungry/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T06:11:27.000Z | r998ga | 8 | 69 | ADHD | I hate myself and I don’t fully understand why | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r998ga/i_hate_myself_and_i_dont_fully_understand_why/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T05:59:32.000Z | r991ci | 5 | 1 | ADHD | How do you guys control impulse spending? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r991ci/how_do_you_guys_control_impulse_spending/ |
dubletC | [removed] | 2021-12-05T05:46:29.000Z | r98u1f | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Bo Burnham and Huey Lewis and The News and The Presidents Of The United States | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98u1f/bo_burnham_and_huey_lewis_and_the_news_and_the/ |
180limes | TLDR: My dad has adhd and can't be medicated and is an incompetent parent because of it. I just want to know if there's anything I can do to aid him in parenting me. everything written after this is a vent about my situation.
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both my dad and I struggle a lot with this disorder. He's in his late 50s(diagnosed in the 80s) and has heart issues so he isn't medicated and as a result, can't really be a parent.
Currently, we have an issue with our power so the lights flicker, my computer cuts out at random times, I can't run the clothes dryer or washing machine for laundry and the oven and microwave don't get hot enough to cook food so we've been eating takeout for the last week and a half. I really don't want to have to wear dirty clothes or get painful cysts from not washing my sheets so I try reminding him to call an electrician by calling/texting him, leaving notes near the coffee maker and asking him a few times a day yet the response is always "Okay, I'll call, just wait a minute" and he doesn't call. I also was supposed to get my braces off last year(I had a panic attack when he was bringing me so I couldn't get out of the car to go) and whenever i get the courage, I'll try asking him to make some sort of dentist appointment for me and it's always the same shit... "Okay, i will. just wait a minute" and he never does.
I'll try telling him about something new I learned or show him something that I made and was proud of and he either mumbles while playing solitaire or scrolling through tiktok or will forgot what was going on and walk out of the room while I'm talking. He'll start to make plans to do things together and if I bring it up later in the week, he'll vaguely remember what he promised and say "Well do that later" and we never do it.
He'll just up and leave to go on hunting/fishing/business trips and will forget to tell me or answer his phone so I could be freaking out thinking he may have gotten in a car accident and he's on a boat somewhere having the time of his life... until he comes back home to get his favorite pair of slippers he forgot and off he goes again.
Actually, the only times he's ever competent as a parent is when I have tears rolling down my cheeks and am begging him to go to the store since most of our food is moldy or smells weird or crying about how I'm out of my medication and I don't know how to get a refill. I don't think I have enough tears in me to be able to cry everytime I need him to follow through with something so... What should I do? | 2021-12-05T05:43:16.000Z | r98s59 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | How should I help my parent manage his adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98s59/how_should_i_help_my_parent_manage_his_adhd/ |
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Fun_Twist_9583 | Hi! I just found this Reddit and in an attempt to try and figure things out I thought I’d try to reach out to others. I’ve been looking into ADHD for around 3 or so years ago but just barely got tested because I was scared I was wrong. I finally got tested and the results said that because I didn’t have noticeable signs before the age of 12 and I have other problems that need to be addressed that can cause focus problems such as anxiety, depression, and insomnia, I could not be diagnosed with ADHD at this point in time. They did provide a list of suggestions to help but they mostly consisted of the usual “keep a calendar or to do list” “work on your sleep schedule” and they even suggested a book on how to be a productive adult. I’m at a loss now because I have tried many things to help me focus but they haven’t worked out in the end. I’m following the suggestions for the time being but I’m wondering if there are other things I should look into that are similar or if I should seek another opinion. I’m worried that because I’m female and did pretty well in elementary and middle school, and have a hard time remembering how I was as a kid, no professional would think ADHD and just assume it’s the things I’ve already been diagnosed with. If anyone has any advice or similar experiences, please share. Thank you! | 2021-12-05T05:37:29.000Z | r98ook | 19 | 7 | ADHD | Testing concluded I don’t have ADHD | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98ook/testing_concluded_i_dont_have_adhd/ |
FakeZirconis | every time something traumatic has happened to me in the last 2 years my adhd got significantly worse. i also read a very old post from here about how the memory loss isn't really memory loss, it's more like, you weren't really paying attention anyway, not enough to form a memory.
i'm wondering if anyone has experienced what i have and if they noticed their forgetfulness improve on either scale (although i'm assuming the bigger scale than the smaller one) as they became less miserable, traumatized, etc, and more at peace. | 2021-12-05T05:34:47.000Z | r98n4u | 8 | 30 | ADHD | memory loss getting better as life/situation improved? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98n4u/memory_loss_getting_better_as_lifesituation/ |
Starrphyre | For me, this task is flossing.
I can’t use my usual strategies for it, because:
- it’s at the end of the night, so my will power and meds are long gone
- it’s difficult and uncomfortable, so no multitasking or distraction (my teeth aren’t the straightest, even after aligners)
-the consequences are expensive and painful, but only last a day so it’s easy to forget.
- how do I reward myself for doing it if snacking defeats the purpose and sleep is way more inviting??
- no cheating; I used a water flosser thing, still had cavities 2/3 checkups
Please let me know if there is something I’m missing or if you have another strategy for kryptonite tasks!! | 2021-12-05T05:34:23.000Z | r98mwv | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How do you handle that task that is your ADHD kryptonite?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98mwv/how_do_you_handle_that_task_that_is_your_adhd/ |
FakeZirconis | [removed] | 2021-12-05T05:33:27.000Z | r98md0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | has anyone noticed the memory loss get better as their life/situation improved | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98md0/has_anyone_noticed_the_memory_loss_get_better_as/ |
Jackoej | When I was a child (circa. ages 6-10), I was diagnosed with ADD and prescribed ritalin (i also tried strattera, from memory they both made me nauseous). I took this during primary school and stopped taking it at the beginning of high school (can't remember why). Since the years have passed, i've completely forgotten about ADD and never thought back on it. It was only until i restumbled upon it through social media and It started clicking and everything started to make sense. I stumbled accross this reddit thread and all these posts are so relatable and it's been such a sign of relief to realise that my everyday 'norm' and chaos is actually because of this.
I've booked in to be reassed as an adult, however my appointment is not until June next year (sigh.. so far away).
I just wanted to understand everyone elses battle with ADD / ADHD and how they feel mentally.
I used to think I was depressed, however I have nothing in my life that is a 'negative', I'm not sad at all and I don't have any thoughts of regret or anything at all. Everything in my life is going amazing which I'm so greatful for.
The easiest ways to describe it for me is having the symptoms of depression, without feeling sad or having any prior issue that would make one depressed, though having the symptoms such as;
\- spontaneous anxiety
\- bad emotion regulation
\- I cannot make my mind up at all. I can't choose what I want for food. I can't choose what movie to watch, this is debilitating. I don't know what I like. I struggle to buy clothes. Anything that involves making a decision is really difficult most of the time.
\- I can't start anything I know I won't finish right away, and when I do start something I barely finish it anyway.
\- If I start something It needs to be done perfectly, and if it isn't 100% completed perfectly It frustrates / annoys me and makes me demotivated to do it.
\- doing 1000 things at once, and being easily distracted without completing said task
\- bad at keeping routine, however once I get into something it's insanely fixated and then just completely stopping once i get over it
\- Nothing excites me - No amount of activity, conversation, buying new things, holidays, etc. The thought of any of these things does nothing for me and doesn't incline me to persue any of these.
\- No interest in anything - everything seems so dull and just 'meh'.
\- If I'm having a conversation I'm listening but nothing is absorbed. It's like i'm gazing into the abyss. In any of these situations I zone out and yawn excessively. I can't remember the names of people well at all, I can't recall what I've just heard in a conversation with much accuracy, I can't recall what I've just read in writing after just reading it with much accuracy. For example, I've just typed this post up and can't rememeber or recall what I've just written without re-reading it.
\- Not enjoying the moment
\- No hobbies, can't get into anything and nothing is interesting at all
\- Brain / mind races however it's empty (if this makes sense it's like lights on no one home??)
\- Absolutely 0 patiences at all and always in a rush. I'm always at 100miles an hour with no stopping. If i'm not at 100miles another, i'm 0 not wanting to do anything, with no energy or motivation at all.
\- Caffeine addict (consuming excessive amounts of coffee without any energy boost / perk up from it - it does nothing)
\- Extremely fidgety and can't sit still
\- forgetful, only way I can do life is with multiple lists, writing things down and using an online calendar
\- Poor motivation & Never have the energy to do anything
\- Poor Sleeper (wake up multiple times a night)
I don't know if this post makes much sense, However I think I am just trying to confirm that my previously diagnosed ADD is still alive and thriving in me and that's what's causing these things in my life.
I'm not to crash hot on taking medication, however I think it's getting to the point where the above is so detrimental to everyday life it may be the best option moving forward. | 2021-12-05T05:33:22.000Z | r98mba | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Reassessment of ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98mba/reassessment_of_adhd/ |
aviph1088 | I love reading and listening to books. I’ve recently subscribed to audible. The problem is that I get distracted very quickly and I would have to jump back 10, 30 seconds every god damn 1 minute or so. This is frustrating as hell. Because of this I have hard time comprehending contents of the book and waste much more time than when I just read the book. This happens even when Im on med. | 2021-12-05T05:27:17.000Z | r98ikf | 14 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD gets in the way of listening to audiobooks. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98ikf/adhd_gets_in_the_way_of_listening_to_audiobooks/ |
jeffreyfirer666 | I'm a grade 12 international student in canada and I have to apply for universities this year. I stress a lot about my assignments, tests, and my marks.
but every day, I procrastinate for a few hours until I realized that I really have to do my homework. I don't know if it is my ADHD problem, but it's just hard for me to face the reality and do the things that has to be done.
about my concentration problem
as I start to study, do homework, my mind just flows away very very very easily, thinking about games, social media, or even a fantasy world that suddenly came up to my mind. even I had already take medicine, it's still so easy for me to be distracted by my surroundings or my overthinking mind. that's what happened during my procrastination time. after typing a few sentences or a few lines, my mind just flows aways.
more serious concentration problems
I think part of the reason that I easily got distracted is because I don't really like studying and it gives me more excuse to avoid the fact that I have to study.
but what happens is it is also hard for me to concentrate during gaming time. I always think of tons of other stuff when I was playing, for example I could come up with what am I going to write for my next paragraph of my essay, when I was playing games.
it really lowers my efficiency a lot and wasted my time a lot. I could now barely keep up with my assignments and tests
is this really a part of my ADHD, what should I do to get my concentration back
p.s. wow I wrote a long post, thx for looking at my post, and btw are there anyone have the same situation like me | 2021-12-05T05:25:29.000Z | r98hha | 1 | 1 | ADHD | anyone having concentration problem same as me, what should I do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98hha/anyone_having_concentration_problem_same_as_me/ |
gentlejupiter | [removed] | 2021-12-05T05:18:47.000Z | r98dfz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Psychic Intuition | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98dfz/adhd_psychic_intuition/ |
googloog | So I forgot to lock the door for the second time in a few months and my roommates were pretty upset with me (nothing stolen but our house was unattended for several hours). After the first time I did it I tried a lot harder to really remember to lock it but today I was in a rush and was in and out of the house to get things I forgot, I know I locked the door at least a few times but obviously not the last time.
I feel so helpless because no matter how hard I try to remember to lock the door I still forget sometimes and it’s really important to remember!!!!
I want to tell my roommates that there’s just things that are really hard for me because of my ADHD but I’m afraid if I tell them they won’t trust me, and I can’t blame them, I put peoples belongings and pets at risk by leaving the door unlocked. Like why can’t I just remember to do things all the time?
What makes it worse is the advice I got from my roommates is like “just slow down and make sure it’s locked” like bro, I’m not gonna remember to slow down that’s the point !!!
Anyways I’ve been crying about how stupid and worthless I am for the past 30 mins and I needed to vent | 2021-12-05T05:13:36.000Z | r98ac1 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Why can’t it do anything right | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r98ac1/why_cant_it_do_anything_right/ |
noiacel | I have pretty much every symptom of ADHD & was recently diagnosed it (though to be fair I was only asked a long list of question, none really tied to schooling or my work which I thought was odd)
But despite this
Caffeine ‘works’ for me. To an extent. Sometimes I feel like it doesn’t(?) & it depends how tired I am. But it generally helps me focus. Makes me more alert. I can drink a bang energy drink (HIGH caffeine) and genuinely feel a buzz & it then helps with my workouts.
This worries me though because it sounds like everyone here gets tired after drinking caffeine.
So this makes me doubt my diagnosis
Any thoughts on this?
Edit: maybe it’s possible I just assume these things are true and have never monitored myself closely enough? Except the gym example, I hit my best set the day I tried a Bang Enrgy drink before my workout. But anyway, my entire life I’ve lived off of caffeine. | 2021-12-05T05:10:58.000Z | r988lu | 26 | 8 | ADHD | Caffeine works for me & does NOT make me tired | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r988lu/caffeine_works_for_me_does_not_make_me_tired/ |
Logical_Ad952 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T05:07:16.000Z | r9868d | 3 | 3 | ADHD | How to study for GED without medicine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9868d/how_to_study_for_ged_without_medicine/ |
Top-Requirement-2102 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T05:02:33.000Z | r983bd | 1 | 10 | ADHD | ADHD as a spiritual calling | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r983bd/adhd_as_a_spiritual_calling/ |
MataNetaX | I always try to stick to techniques like pomodoro and the five minutes rule but I always stop using them after 2-4 weeks, I have been thinking about a way to reward myself but I I cant find an effective way without me rewarding myself later for doing absolutely nothing.
Do you guys have any technique??? | 2021-12-05T04:58:27.000Z | r980jh | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How to be persistent with rules that I create for myself to increase my productivity??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r980jh/how_to_be_persistent_with_rules_that_i_create_for/ |
lildogass | Hello,Im a 22 year Old college student who was recently Diagnosed with ADHD, I have been having a very hard time sticking to my deadlines and getting myself to study or sometimes even do basic tasks such as Shower. After being Diagnosed I was prescribed a combination of Lexipram and
Atomoxetine. It was such a relief..I could finally sit down and read a book . Do things that I was supposed to do. I did procrastinate studying though. I had to get off the medication because it gave me ED and switched over to stimulants. I have cycled through various types of stimulants such as Concerta, Aderall, Vyvanse and Biphentin. All extended release. None of these stimulants seem to actually work or stop working after the first two hours. Has anyone experienced this? If so please let me know what helped you. | 2021-12-05T04:57:56.000Z | r9805v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Medication Not working | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9805v/medication_not_working/ |
collegecolloquial | This is a rant but there is no rant filter
I love reading and i love books and i love English and i love literature
But i struggle so much
Because i either cannot focus on the book or sitting at the angle reading requires makes me anxious/upset or my eyes stop working or i forget English
I want to read so bad but adhd makes it nearly impossible
I literally do not know what to do about it and there’s nothing i can even do to unwind except get excited to read and then not be able to | 2021-12-05T04:57:45.000Z | r9801l | 122 | 218 | ADHD | I want to be able to read. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9801l/i_want_to_be_able_to_read/ |
anthrohuman_ | So I am a 22F and am pretty sure I have ADHD-Inattentive type. I have a test in February, so I haven’t officially been diagnosed but my mother and brother both have it and they both think I could have it too. I’ve been on this Reddit for awhile and found so much solace and peace in knowing I’m not alone because I relate a lot to so many of the symptoms that I’ve seen on here and read about on other sights. But I was talking to my mom recently (for some background, she isn’t really educated on ADHD, and was told that ADHD goes away in adults, so I’ve had to rid her of that misconception) and she said that she doesn’t really want to hear about ADHD information anymore, because she doesn’t want to start displaying more of those symptoms because she learned about it.
I was a bit disappointed and confused because while I don’t want to disrespect her boundaries, I told her I don’t think that’s how it works. But it’s making me question whether I have ADHD-I anymore, like maybe because I read so much about it, I’m starting to display symptoms more than I would. I thought it could just be me recognizing the symptoms as ADHD, but maybe I’m wrong. I thought that I was helping myself by learning more, but maybe I’m hurting myself. I also thought I was stopping myself from masking, but it might be psychosomatic. Is there any help I could have? | 2021-12-05T04:49:59.000Z | r97v8z | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Can I make myself display ADHD symptoms even if I am undiagnosed but might have it? | 0.63 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97v8z/can_i_make_myself_display_adhd_symptoms_even_if_i/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T04:44:15.000Z | r97rpd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I study for my GED with no medicine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97rpd/how_do_i_study_for_my_ged_with_no_medicine/ |
Fluttercakez | I’ve been realizing that my Adhd has been part of the reason behind my emotional problems. This year, I have found a really well educated and understanding therapist. She has opened my eyes to scientific reasonings behind mental health. So, I have greatly grown as a person by having more knowledge of my mental health. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 8. Through out my childhood and adolescence, I have always had great sensitivity to putting people down, to rejection or negative criticism. My reaction would be getting teary eyed, feeling shameful, and worthless. I was always told I was too sensitive. I feel like ever since I have entered into adulthood, this rejection sensitivity , has gotten worse. So, I was wondering if, any of you guys have felt the same way. | 2021-12-05T04:31:39.000Z | r97jug | 4 | 10 | ADHD | Do you ever feel like your rejection sensitivity because of adhd, has gotten worse in adulthood? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97jug/do_you_ever_feel_like_your_rejection_sensitivity/ |
divergentsocialist | I'm having a horrible family emergency, which has made concentration like pushing a boulder up a hill. I have to split things between school, family emergency, and trying to plan how to deal...for the most part, everyone has been very responsive except for one professor...who has always been kinda weird about my accommodations:
* through my school services, i requested accommodations, and before the semester starts, she requests to talk on the phone b/c she needs clarification. she told me to be communicative b/c she's new to this and she's gotten in trouble before. she also asked another professor this quarter...if she got a student with accommodations.
* \*on top of my family emergency, my accommodations allow me to ask for a extra days--she said she could try, but it was like pulling teeth, and that she wanted to be **fair to all my classmates**
* she recently sent out an e-mail saying, hey if you need help, I'm flexible since I already gave two students accommodations. It felt like an outing almost.
Not accomd. related, but as I was trying to talk to people setting up to present, I kept asking how they'd prefer we sat. She snapped at me, "are you presenting today?" "no (of course you know that tho)" and she said "then let them set up!"
I don't know what to do...I keep obsessing about it. I also want to file a complaint with my DRS, especially if it happened before...but also feel bad doing that. Just looking for some support/help/anyone felt like this? | 2021-12-05T04:27:00.000Z | r97gsz | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Feeling invalidated/upset by how this one professor reacts to my accommodations/adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97gsz/feeling_invalidatedupset_by_how_this_one/ |
bornstruggling | To a final exam tonight. I receive accommodations, so I get extended time — for this particular exam, I got 6 hours to complete it (I’m in grad school). Exam consists of 4 lengthy writing prompts.
2 hours into taking the exam, I’m about to crawl out of my skin sitting in the same spot under triggering fluorescent lights…..so my DUMB ASS has the bright idea that in order to have more variety, that instead of finishing one question and moving on to the next, to CIRCULATE through the 4 questions like the fucking Wheel of Fortune for the next four hours.
& yes, this resulted exactly how you would expect it to. Didn’t finish a single problem. | 2021-12-05T04:22:56.000Z | r97ecp | 7 | 15 | ADHD | Requesting “My ADHD legit fucked me up” stories…not the “oh silly me *tehe*” ones….I mean the Martin Scorsese ones… I’ll go first | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97ecp/requesting_my_adhd_legit_fucked_me_up_storiesnot/ |
GilmoreSquirls | I have a vague memory of itunes or windows media player showing album covers in my Library like CD's. Very large and visually present.
With Spotify I have to remember my options and then go find them. Or click extra buttons and shit.
I realized always end up using YouTube (premium) because of the large photos (thumbnails) for a song or full album.
Unfortunately youtube has an amazon-like suggestion algorithm. Oh you listened to Third Planet by Modest Mouse? I know what you like. Here's Third Planet by Modest Mouse.
What do you guys use that helps you organize your.music and not forget it? | 2021-12-05T04:18:19.000Z | r97bgo | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Which music streaming service has the best interface for if-i-dont-see-it-it-stops-existing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97bgo/which_music_streaming_service_has_the_best/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T04:12:28.000Z | r977mr | 5 | 0 | ADHD | Help… Having a meltdown combined with a PTSD based panic attack. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r977mr/help_having_a_meltdown_combined_with_a_ptsd_based/ |
afsdgsghdehrersad | Hey guys, Currently in the trial phase of vyvanse.
Started on 20mg which was doing basically nothing, then went on to 40mg which had a fair amount of good effects, however I noticed it was giving me terrible anxiety and kind of making me freak out. I spoke to my psych about this and he suggested i try 50mg, I've started taking 50mg and it almost feels so much better.
It feels even less 'speedy', much less anxious, and it feels more 'subtle' yet i'm still getting all of the ADHD reducing effects. I would expect taking more of it to give me even worse anxiety, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Has anyone had similar effects? | 2021-12-05T04:07:00.000Z | r97422 | 11 | 4 | ADHD | More vyvanse = less worse effects but more good effects? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r97422/more_vyvanse_less_worse_effects_but_more_good/ |
geekcheese | I woke up, had my coffee, and sat down to get to work.
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So far today, I have;
\-Scrubbed my entire bathroom-Done the laundry-Christmas shopped-Cleaned the entire upstairs of my home-Found a charger that has been missing for months-A bunch of tiny tasks that took less than a minute that I've been unable to do for weeks-Walked my dog-Organized my desk drawers-Way too much Tiktok
And now I am untangling Christmas lights while I watch a movie that I really liked in 1997 bc something randomly reminded me of it.
Trust the process, I guess.
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Also, notice "feed myself" is not on the list. Shoutout the the Italian guy I married who keeps me alive | 2021-12-05T04:04:32.000Z | r972fs | 8 | 21 | ADHD | I have a final due tomorrow. | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r972fs/i_have_a_final_due_tomorrow/ |
locustrun | I am a student in my sophomore year and am planning to take summer internship next summer. There's one thing that is recently concerning me. When it comes to activities that requires high focus AND is done alone (e.g. revising for a test, reading, making notes) I only can do max. 3 hours a day. And yes, I did that in 30mins interval with breaks along the way.
After I logged in 3 hours of focused work, I would get VERY VERY sleepy and could sleep for 3 hours (mind you the night before I had sufficient sleep for 7 hours). Then the moment I wake up, I would force myself to get back doing the task, but after 15 minutes I would get sidetracked.
I had my Aderall to see if that helps but my mind kept racing and then I would on and off back to the task but 10 minutes is the longest I could stay on the task and then end up procrastinating on the task for hours until the night come.
I felt that my brain experienced an immense fatigue even though I only worked for a relatively short amount of time and had a sufficient (if not more than sufficient) sleep. This pattern keep repeating over and over. I don't have much problem working on a task if its a group work or discussion, though.
This is really concerning since I know that jobs require at least 8 hours of focused work and I am deadass afraid I would not be able to perform to target.
Any thought? suggestions? advice?
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TL;DR: Only can do focused individual work for 3 hours a day and looking for way to improve | 2021-12-05T03:55:58.000Z | r96wnd | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Very limited work span? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96wnd/very_limited_work_span/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T03:47:17.000Z | r96qzz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96qzz/getting_diagnosed/ |
Un-UsedUsername | [removed] | 2021-12-05T03:47:04.000Z | r96qtx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What songs help you relate and accept your prognosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96qtx/what_songs_help_you_relate_and_accept_your/ |
Cornholiolio73 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T03:45:14.000Z | r96ppw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My daughter and ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96ppw/my_daughter_and_adhd/ |
Squirrelies | [https://www.yahoo.com/now/noramco-announces-submission-drug-master-123000013.html](https://www.yahoo.com/now/noramco-announces-submission-drug-master-123000013.html)
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Looks like Noramco is ramping up to produce generic Vyvanse for when the patent expires in 2023. This is going to be huge as it is really expensive right now and the only medication so far that has helped me.
I have used it in the past after paying nearly $350 for a month supply back in... 2016(?) and just recently had my provider prescribe it to me again to see if the price went down but seeing the same price made me dig into the googles to find this.
I am not sure when in 2023 it'll hit the market but I hope it'll at least be \~$50 or less... Does that sound like a reasonable price for a newly generic drug? I haven't really followed drug prices much so I am not sure if I am totally off-base with that assumption. | 2021-12-05T03:42:13.000Z | r96nsr | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Noramco ramping up production of generic form of Vyvanse for 2023 patent expiry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96nsr/noramco_ramping_up_production_of_generic_form_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T03:35:37.000Z | r96jma | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Beat juice helps with my focus | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96jma/beat_juice_helps_with_my_focus/ |
zuhaiscoping | 💔 the podcasts just don’t be hitting anymore, I’ll zone out then I’ll zone back in and realize I missed a bunch of stuff I would’ve liked to have heard. I know I can just move it back but any tips on how to more efficiently listen to podcasts beyond that? Tbh don’t really know if this is even an adhd thing | 2021-12-05T03:30:27.000Z | r96gb6 | 7 | 8 | ADHD | Trouble Listening to Podcasts | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96gb6/trouble_listening_to_podcasts/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T03:25:28.000Z | r96db2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What generic brand of Adderall works the best for people? I notice huge differences. And how many weeks is a full reset. I’m guessing 4 to 6. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96db2/what_generic_brand_of_adderall_works_the_best_for/ |
siganme_losbuenos | I've never been diagnosed or anything but looking at the list of symptoms, i think I might have ADHD but also, i might just be looking for an excuse so I don't have to feel guilty about how much I feel like I'm failing at life. I feel so stupid and like I can't do anything right. There's so many things I need to do but most of my time outside of work is just me trying to put myself back together emotionally. I'm always depressed or anxious or something. I don't have time for mental health. I'm already so behind on life. I'm 23 and all I really do is work and try to figure out why I'm crying this week. Then I think "oh you don't really have a problem. You're just looking for pity so you can feel better about yourself and that doubles the low self esteem.
I talk to people and I seem to be good at making a good impression so they think I'm smart and responsible etc and almost assume I have my life together and then I'm terrified of them finding out that I'm actually a failure. I got good grades in school but it doesn't even matter because I graduated high school and now I'm just floating. I just want a break but I'm always taking a break and responsibilities pile up and then that makes me anxious and I need a break again until it tumbles down on me and I've done it again. I've failed again and have to find some way to fix it but only after I cry about it.
Idk what I'm looking for honestly. Maybe an "it gets easier" would be nice but I know life isn't necessarily like that. I know I shouldn't ask for a diagnosis here but it'd be nice to here if this is relatable. | 2021-12-05T03:22:30.000Z | r96bg2 | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Maybe I'm just a trash human being | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r96bg2/maybe_im_just_a_trash_human_being/ |
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