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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T17:38:19.000Z | r8up6q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone ever feel high on Concerta? (Not talking about first time) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8up6q/anyone_ever_feel_high_on_concerta_not_talking/ |
Atelanna | Hi all, looking for some help.
I was using Nike Training Club with pre-designed workout programs and loved the feature. First time in my life I managed to maintain exercise routine for almost 5 months now: every day was planned for me, and I didn't need to drive to gym. However, this feature disappeared yesterday in Canada. From my previous experience, I know I won't keep exercising if I have to be choosing workouts or convincing myself that today is the day to do it.
Can anyone recommend an app with a good variety of workouts (I am mainly interested in strength/yoga) that has the programs/plans option? | 2021-12-04T17:37:10.000Z | r8uobj | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Looking for workout app with premade programs/plans/schedule | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8uobj/looking_for_workout_app_with_premade/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T17:36:07.000Z | r8unjw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Military folks, how’d you do it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8unjw/military_folks_howd_you_do_it/ |
ciel-v | I don't actually know if this is a symptom of ADHD and emotional dysregulation. But I only have enough emotional capacity for one friend. Not one specific friend, but only one friend at a time. And not like a USB cable that I can attach and detach to different people at a whim, but more like a long-term connection that takes a lot of build up, and a lot to take down.
It's more akin to how people would feel about their significant other. But it doesn't always have to be a partner. Either way all my life it feels I've consistently only had one space for this one person in my mind and emotions, a bond held very closely to my heart. I might have other transient friends around, but when they're not present in my life constantly everyone tends to fade away. And I find it hard to maintain connections with these friends, because it's like my heart is always half-absent talking to them. I know I should care more, and I know what I should say and ask, but I never do it because it just doesn't feel right asking about their life when my mind isn't present and truly concerned. And it really cripples my emotional connections with everyone else. But I just don't have enough emotional capacity for that.
I'm only able to feel truly present, with heart and soul, when it comes to the one person. Only with them do my locked-up emotions open, both ways. I feel an intense connection to them and their life. All the feelings I knew I should have felt about my other friends are suddenly present and visceral. I want to know all about them, what makes them tick, their thoughts and emotions. Even all the little things I always struggled to find a response to in other people: like what happened at work, or how their family is doing. And even when that one friend is gone, it's like my emotions are still locked up with them. It's been 1.5 years since my friend left me. And I'm still struggling to pick up the pieces and find myself amongst them.
Sorry for rambling. I just hope to find at least someone that understands, just a bit. | 2021-12-04T17:35:52.000Z | r8undi | 71 | 398 | ADHD | I only have enough emotional capacity for one friend | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8undi/i_only_have_enough_emotional_capacity_for_one/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T17:35:36.000Z | r8un6u | 3 | 9 | ADHD | Today I recollected a teaching an old youth pastor gave about love and the opposite of love, and it sucks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8un6u/today_i_recollected_a_teaching_an_old_youth/ |
karl_karou1603 | How do you get help or get out of that mood when you know the problems are so small and you can’t help but feel crushed by them. The smallest things makes me feel completely out of energy I can’t help myself but believe I shouldn’t be this sad for that. It’s like the smallest imperfection means the whole day is ruined and I don’t know how to get out of that mindset | 2021-12-04T17:27:27.000Z | r8ugz5 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | When the smallest things crushes you | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ugz5/when_the_smallest_things_crushes_you/ |
ManicPxieDreamGoblin | [removed] | 2021-12-04T17:22:14.000Z | r8ud53 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Gift Ideas for people with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ud53/gift_ideas_for_people_with_adhd/ |
theskyisblueright | 32M. Seeing my GP on Monday. She asked me to complete an assessment and bring along with me. Life’s been a disorganized mess. I’ve jumped from one job to another and have never really figured out what I want to do with my life. Every new things excites me and then the excitement dies down.
I went to college and did well so a bunch of my friends think that I can’t have ADHD because I’d have been a shitshow in college if I had/have ADHD. I just feel that there has to be a better way of living my life. I’m not lazy. I’m motivated to do stuff but just get too distracted, keep wanting to try new things, can’t even read a full page because I just want to get to the end of it.
This sub has helped me a lot and I am really looking forward to getting better. Hoping to hear success stories here to find motivation. | 2021-12-04T17:20:58.000Z | r8uc6k | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I’ve read a lot of comments here about how diagnosis and medication has been life changing. How exactly has it been life changing? Looking for motivation. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8uc6k/ive_read_a_lot_of_comments_here_about_how/ |
DevilBakeDevilCake | On days where I don't take my ADHD medication or take a lower dose (usually a couple of days a week), I will usually drink a lot of tea or sometimes energy drinks. On the days where I'm taking my medication, I try to avoid caffeine altogether. Since you're not supposed to take caffeine with stimulant medication and anyway, meds should do everything caffeine does but better? Right?
Only I'm increasingly finding that whenever I go back on my medication after taking a break, it doesn't work properly unless I ALSO have caffeine. At first I thought it was a tolerance build-up and tried taking a longer break from it (using caffeine to get through the day as usual) to no avail. If anything, it worked even worse than before.
Which has me wondering if the sudden caffeine withdrawal on my medication days is actively stopping it from working properly. I know caffeine withdrawl can cause side effects like fatique and poor concerntration but wouldn't have thought that was the case here, since stimulant medication is a lot stronger and more effective than caffeine. But maybe the brain doesn't treat stimulants interchangably?
IDK, would anyone here be able to enlighten me? | 2021-12-04T17:18:15.000Z | r8ua3z | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Can caffeine withdrawal negate the effects of ADHD medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ua3z/can_caffeine_withdrawal_negate_the_effects_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T17:14:05.000Z | r8u723 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I’ve read a lot of comments here about how diagnosis and medication has been life changing. How exactly has it been life changing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8u723/ive_read_a_lot_of_comments_here_about_how/ |
pattyozz | I'm feeling very frustrated seeking help for my new ADHD diagnosis from doctors who say they are familiar with ADHD or even experts, but who clearly don't understand that the anxiety and depression they see is BECAUSE of my ADHD, and that this is so debilitating for my life so please treat it like the emergency that it is for me. It has taken me months and years to finally get the diagnosis and I have to wait another week to get a prescription finally, and I am feeling so angry that the people who I am supposed to go to for help don't really understand what it is like and I am tired of it taking SO LONG to find meaningful support for this problem. Even just trying to find the right resources is so overwhelming to me that I have a hard time committing to do so.
Can anyone recommend any books or resources written or developed by professionals who have ADHD, that are presented in a way that would be more easily accessible to people with ADHD? Is there a directory for therapists who specialize in ADHD or who also actually have ADHD? What should I expect to encounter on this journey of treating my ADHD? I am worried about building tolerance (some drs say take it every day or as needed, who is right?) and having to start all over again. It keeps feeling like the finish line is just out of reach. | 2021-12-04T17:11:13.000Z | r8u4x9 | 6 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD help from professionals who have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8u4x9/adhd_help_from_professionals_who_have_adhd/ |
Suiscend | So, I woke up and stayed in bed for a couple of minutes and then I got out and went to go get the puppies. I cleaned the balcony ( the puppies sleep on the balcony ) and back to my room with the puppies. Played some games and read some stuff. ( up until here is normal ).
Around 12:40pm I went downstairs with the pups. I put the dishes where they belong and then i cleaned the rest of em. I also cleaned the counter and sink.
I went upstairs to take a shower, but I noticed my bathroom is a bit messy, so I cleaned that up. And then,,, I went to tidy my room.
It is now 2pm we vibing!
Thanks for coming to my ted talk. | 2021-12-04T17:07:15.000Z | r8u1zg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Productive | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8u1zg/productive/ |
Wise-Yesterday6131 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T17:05:11.000Z | r8u0fn | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Should I talk to my doctor about ADD | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8u0fn/should_i_talk_to_my_doctor_about_add/ |
SnugDuchess | I recently got diagnosed, and I’m 23. I take adderall (which has changed my life). Thing is I work from 11am til 7:30, and usually take adderall at the start of work.
I am pretty much unable to get things done in the morning when not on my meds, so I’ve been doing a half when I when I wake up and half after lunch at work. It seems to not trail off as harshly which is nice.
I’ve made plans to incentivize myself to do things. I love video games, and lifting weights. So, I made a tracker to log my workouts, and for each week I do well in workouts, I reward myself with a part of the PC I’m building.
Making my goals into a game, and having a specific plan have changed my life.
Grateful for this community! | 2021-12-04T17:04:36.000Z | r8u00v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Figuring out meds, and some things that have worked for me | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8u00v/figuring_out_meds_and_some_things_that_have/ |
SocialAddiction1 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T17:03:53.000Z | r8tzg9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What tips do you have for “controlling” hyper focus? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8tzg9/what_tips_do_you_have_for_controlling_hyper_focus/ |
Some_Bath7976 | Hello, I’m on 25mg xr of adderall in the Morning and 10mg ir of adderall at lunch. I notice I have a pretty fast heart rate when I take my meds compared when I don’t I’m usually between 90 like 110 or even more. I’ve been on meds since I was a kid (I’m 25 male now) I have an appointment with my doc in 2 weeks. How can I lower my heart rate? Does anybody else experience this? | 2021-12-04T16:25:34.000Z | r8t5lh | 14 | 3 | ADHD | How do you control your heart rate when taking ADHD meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8t5lh/how_do_you_control_your_heart_rate_when_taking/ |
Cinipax | I find myself overthinking a lot and getting this tight feeling in my chest about the dumbest stuff but I can’t help the anxiety that comes with it. I try to focus on stuff to get over it, and I won’t talk into it fully with my gf because I believe she isn’t a therapist she’s more of a support to be there for me to get better myself. Any tips or is this even adhd related or something completely different? | 2021-12-04T16:20:39.000Z | r8t1t5 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Is it normal to have anxiety from overthinking | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8t1t5/is_it_normal_to_have_anxiety_from_overthinking/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T16:12:16.000Z | r8svcd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just been diagnosed 24F, friends and family seem to doubt it? Should I go on meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8svcd/just_been_diagnosed_24f_friends_and_family_seem/ |
jannnnneeeee | Hello! I was diagnosed as an adult woman a few months ago. I am 24. I had been diagnosed with GAD in high school, and it wasn’t until I became a counselor myself and became familiar with the DSM-5 that I realized that many of my symptoms I had strictly attributed to anxiety could possibly be attributed to ADHD. I subsequently met with my psychologist, who diagnosed me and I was then prescribed medication. The diagnosis and treatment thus far have helped me gain a much better understanding of how I function and effective ways to manage my symptoms.
Anyway, I have always been a fairly sensitive person (physically, emotionally). Breathing sounds, chewing sounds, snoring, clothing that touches me the wrong way. Hate all of it. I fully recognize that it is my responsibility to manage this sensitivity in the best way that I can, as I can’t depend on others to ensure my comfort. However (!!!), my current situation with my boyfriend is frustrating me to a pretty significant degree and I would love to hear others’ perspectives if you have or haven’t experienced something similar.
When I have a long day, whether a lot of shitty things happened, I had emotionally tough client sessions, or I’m just plain tired, the last thing I want is physical touch. It makes me irritable, and my ability to think rationally is significantly diminished. As a counselor myself, I understand why this happens and the self care necessary to manage it.
But......my boyfriend fails to understand that this is not a reflection of him, and it is just my sensitivity. I have explained to him exactly what I have described above. He continues to be defensive, stating that I don’t like having sex with him and I hate him...etc. As a therapist myself, I understand how his perspective was formed. Your girlfriend doesn’t want you to touch you. Yeah; objectively you could draw the conclusion that she isn’t attracted to you. My frustration lies in the fact that he isn’t taking the time to actively listen to my explanation. I’m wondering if empathy and attempts at understanding are skills that can be effectively learned (sooner rather than later), or if his behavior is leaning more towards a fixed personality trait that can’t be shifted, at least not for a long period of time.
I apologize for the length of this post but would appreciate any feedback. Thanks! | 2021-12-04T16:12:00.000Z | r8sv48 | 4 | 8 | ADHD | Sometimes (especially after a long day) I am just too sensitive and don’t want to be touched. Boyfriend personalizes it. | 0.79 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8sv48/sometimes_especially_after_a_long_day_i_am_just/ |
ihobble42 | Has anyone else been falsely accused of diversion (aka not taking your prescribed ADHD medication, and then selling them)?
I didn’t take my stimulant the day of my follow-up because it was my day off, and I stupidly thought my doctor would prescribe me something else that same day. She made me wait another 3 weeks for my new dose. 😑 Later, I read my chart and found that she thinks I am guilty of “diversion”. I confirmed it meant what I thought it did.
Her shadow also tried to dispute another one of my diagnoses, saying it was “over-diagnosed”. I have been with my provider for 6 years, and she would know my diagnosis, not some newbie doctor who has spent 3 minutes with me.
I want to file a formal complaint, yet I am so furious and also don’t want to look even more suspect.
What should I do? | 2021-12-04T16:08:07.000Z | r8ss69 | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Falsely accused of “diversion”? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ss69/falsely_accused_of_diversion/ |
francheskii | [removed] | 2021-12-04T16:06:48.000Z | r8sr7e | 2 | 0 | ADHD | New to Adderall | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8sr7e/new_to_adderall/ |
umamibot | **TL;DR - haven't been formally diagnosed with ADHD but I realise the symptoms I'm showing are threatening to ruin my life, what should I do?**
A couple of years ago I was diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder and discharged from (CBT + DBT) therapy, not given medication, or any course of treatment because they thought I was performing well at school, looking healthy, and I seemed 'better' (CAMHS discharged me as soon as I turned 18). I was also given a diagnosis for bulimia but received no treatment despite being on the waiting list for a year because U.K e.d services are unreliable.
The context for my diagnosis + having to go to therapy was I've been a high-performing student for most of my academic life and offered a place at a very very very hard-to-get-in university. I used to be obsessed with organisation and was super meticulous in everything I did. I was known for being an overachiever. However, right before my final exams I had a huge mental breakdown from the pressure and my straight A's became C's. I didn't get in.
Now I'm supposed to be an adult and cannot do any important tasks without procrastinating.I'm actually writing this post when I have 3 extremely important deadlines coming in the next 4 days for essays and exams. I'm a broke student who is supposed to be saving to help family members abroad + move out of my parents' house after graduating, but all the money I get from my minimum-wage job is spent ordering food and clothes, getting my hair done/dyeing it, and going out when I'm supposed to be doing homework. I also drink way more than I'm supposed to in order to cope with overthinking and just feeling depressed. I have no impulse control. I can't get over my failures and I constantly obsess over them. I've also relapsed on my bulimia despite my dentist finding tooth decay and gum loss and telling me I need to keep my oral health under control if I don't want to lose teeth in my 30s-40s.
Two loved ones who have ADHD told me that I could have been misdiagnosed with anxiety because my symptoms really look like ADHD, and eating disorders could be comorbid. It's starting to make sense because as a child, I would pick up random talents like musical instruments/art/gymnastics/swimming, get very good at them, and then quit them. Now they're mere hobbies to me and I feel like a stupid man with too many hats
Where do I start and how do I deal with myself if I'm not able to get immediate psychological help????? | 2021-12-04T16:03:54.000Z | r8sp0h | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Not diagnosed but symptoms are actually going to ruin my life | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8sp0h/not_diagnosed_but_symptoms_are_actually_going_to/ |
shayshay8508 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T16:00:01.000Z | r8slr0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did I take my meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8slr0/did_i_take_my_meds/ |
megaboymatt | Woops!
This morning was hectic when I got up. In those situations I can usually forget to take it. My little girl is I'll so was being a bit of a hand full. My boy then got up. I genuinely don't remember taking my medication then, and couldn't see any evidence that I had done.
When I left to go to the gym I got around half way there, remembered that I hadn't taken it. Drove home, took the pills and went to the gym.
Now... And for the last couple of hours... Well... Things feel a bit weird, but trippy, bit out of focus. I want to be productive but don't know what to do. My kids friends are over whilst my wife and her friend are out.
I don't know now if I'm just, I don't know weirdly bored sat her whilst they play and freaking myself out a bit or if I have actually taken double my normal dose... I kind of feel almost stoned if that makes sense.
Edit: had some berocca, went for a walk and drank *a lot* of fresh fresh orange. Tried to lie down for a bit once my wife got home. Seems to be wearing off now, slightly, feel a bit wired but not out of it. My wife was stunned by the state of my eyes! | 2021-12-04T15:58:16.000Z | r8skj8 | 14 | 6 | ADHD | Think I might have taken double my medication by accident today... I feel a bit trippy... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8skj8/think_i_might_have_taken_double_my_medication_by/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T15:56:02.000Z | r8siv4 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | My parents refuse to let me see a psychiatrist | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8siv4/my_parents_refuse_to_let_me_see_a_psychiatrist/ |
AnimalCrossed24 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:55:51.000Z | r8siq5 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Could not stop hyper-fixating on poem | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8siq5/could_not_stop_hyperfixating_on_poem/ |
Effective-Box-6822 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:52:35.000Z | r8sgf2 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | How are teens who do not take medication affected when they regularly use substances? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8sgf2/how_are_teens_who_do_not_take_medication_affected/ |
Effective-Box-6822 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:46:46.000Z | r8sc5h | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does thc / marijuana use exacerbate symptoms of untreated ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8sc5h/does_thc_marijuana_use_exacerbate_symptoms_of/ |
friendlypetshark | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:41:27.000Z | r8s85s | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Does elvanse making me tired mean I need a higher dosage? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8s85s/does_elvanse_making_me_tired_mean_i_need_a_higher/ |
RexWreckz | Hi there, I've recently gotten on Adderall and I'm struggling to find food to eat with it. I know that Vitamin C can blunt the effects of Adderall but vitamin c is in a lot of foods I like to eat especially for breakfast. I also also don't know what I can eat for protein or nutrition, I've probably lost around 30 pounds the past year due to not being able to find proper food, and I'm already a slim person, while also most likely having malnutrition.
I also have gone vegan in the past year so any animal products isn't an option, and I also have allergy sensitivities to stuff like soybeans, wheat, peanuts, walnuts, corn, so there's a lot of other options out the window.
So all this considered, I'm not sure what I can eat in the mornings or in general.
Any suggestions on food or nutrition would be helpful | 2021-12-04T15:38:14.000Z | r8s5wf | 12 | 2 | ADHD | Struggling to find what to eat | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8s5wf/struggling_to_find_what_to_eat/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:32:22.000Z | r8s1md | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What's The Best Part About Having ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8s1md/whats_the_best_part_about_having_adhd/ |
ullii | Hypothetically speaking, imagine a society (or country) created by, run and inhabited by people who all have ADHD.
What would that look like? Would it even work? Who is going to do the boring and repetitive paperwork jobs? Or would we build the society in a way that had no need for those jobs?
Would it be peaceful or utter chaos? | 2021-12-04T15:32:12.000Z | r8s1hv | 5 | 3 | ADHD | What would an ‘ADHD society’ look like? Would it even work? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8s1hv/what_would_an_adhd_society_look_like_would_it/ |
ihobble42 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:26:52.000Z | r8rxgf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Falsely accused of “diversion” - file a complaint? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rxgf/falsely_accused_of_diversion_file_a_complaint/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T15:21:51.000Z | r8rts0 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Help, I should be studying. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rts0/help_i_should_be_studying/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T15:17:27.000Z | r8rqm0 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Is being obsessed with one task a sign or ADHD? Or just persistence? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rqm0/is_being_obsessed_with_one_task_a_sign_or_adhd_or/ |
ReasonableCornFlakes | She gave me a few quizes and tests and a report she gave me said "ADHD: Very probable", but I had an EEG and the result came normal so she discarded ADHD. I looked up ADHD and EEG online and found both that EEGs can be very reliable but also that ADHD people can have tests come out normal.
I don't want to appear like I'm hunting for a diagnosis, so if the EEG is to be trusted I will be okay with it. However, I still feel I'm being discarded too quickly but I don't have another psych available to get tested, so should I ask her to reconsider?
and how can I ask her? I feel I'm just questioning the reasoning of a profesional that works with children already, so I have to be the one to be wrong, but it still feels off that she discarded me like that.
She is great btw, awesome psychologist | 2021-12-04T15:16:53.000Z | r8rq7i | 8 | 1 | ADHD | My psich made me a test where she said I was "Very probable ADHD" but when my EEG results came she said no, should find a second opinion? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rq7i/my_psich_made_me_a_test_where_she_said_i_was_very/ |
FatcatNo7 | (15yo, F) I was diganose with ADHD right befor summer this year and have been diganose with Dyslexic from 9yo.
I was put in to special ed not to long ago becuese normal class's where to big, fast-pased for me, I did not get the help I need from the teachers and for some mental reasons
too.
Somedays ago one of my new teachers in the special ed class said to me " I dont understand why you are here, You seem so normal and fine to me." Teachers in my old class's would also say how I seemed fine and how my grades where not failing, even tho I know my grades could be much better if I just got the help and time I need. (Note that the teachers lessons I find very fun and intresting so I have a easy time focusing and working + being on Adderall)
I dont know how I feel about this or how I should feel. Im happy that I look "normal and fine" but at the same time Im not. I feel like no one really understands me. As if my struggles are not valid because they go unnotice by most others. But when I dont hide my struggles I get call lazy, annoying or just attention seeking.
I just wanted to rant/vent about this. | 2021-12-04T15:15:11.000Z | r8roze | 3 | 4 | ADHD | A Teacher Call Me "Normal" | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8roze/a_teacher_call_me_normal/ |
moosepooo | I, like (some? most? ALL?!) of you, procrastination hard. Of course if there is a critical deadline, things start to become clear and I begin to be able to hyper focus and I'm actually pretty efficient. Have any of you found techniques to create meaningful artificial deadlines that help keep focus? I've tried breaking big projects up into bite sized pieces, add deadlines to add urgency. All with little to no effect. Are there any tactics that you have that are effective? | 2021-12-04T15:09:20.000Z | r8rkqf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Artifical deadlines and procrastination | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rkqf/artifical_deadlines_and_procrastination/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:02:35.000Z | r8rfuf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did anyone else get taken off their meds at a young age and were told "you'd grow out of it"??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rfuf/did_anyone_else_get_taken_off_their_meds_at_a/ |
sajast | [removed] | 2021-12-04T15:01:50.000Z | r8rfbj | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Adderall dose question | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8rfbj/adderall_dose_question/ |
OssOfSoyce | [removed] | 2021-12-04T14:55:06.000Z | r8radf | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Neuropsych testing is NOT useful for diagnosis. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8radf/neuropsych_testing_is_not_useful_for_diagnosis/ |
marloesadel | How does your ADHD affect your experience with owning pets?
For example when I was younger I had a hamster. But I had to feed the hamster once every two days and I could never remember to feed the poor thing. Once every two days is something that just doesn't work for my brain.
I love cats and dogs but having an animal in your personal space, walking through your house, just seems very stressful to me. On top of that having animalhair everywhere just seems horrifying to me. My minds becomes a mess when my house is not clean.
I also hate fast moving pets. Because their fast unpredictable movements scare the crap out of me and just make me feel exhausted. Even though I love the pets, the fast movements are just too much for me. (Same way I hate walking through a crowd as unpredictable movements always scare me.)
I do own a pet now. I have a betta who has his own fish tank. I find that this is a great pet for me as he has his own space. I never forget to feed him, because it is a daily activity, which makes it easier to remember. He doesn't move very quickly or unpredictably so he doesn't scare me at all. He always swims up to the glass when I enter the room. It is amazing to watch him explore every corner of the tank and swim through the plants. Having more plants in my room is relaxing as well. The only downside is that obviously I can't hug or pet him. | 2021-12-04T14:48:00.000Z | r8r5bp | 9 | 8 | ADHD | ADHD and pets | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8r5bp/adhd_and_pets/ |
medic301 | So I was on vyvanse a year ago and lost my insurance. Now I’m back on insurance at a new job in a different state. I now want to get back on vyvanse. Pre covid my last doctor wanted an in person visit before he would prescribe vyvanse to me. So here is my question. Is that how all doctors do it or could I do a virtual visit and still be put back on vyvanse? | 2021-12-04T14:34:07.000Z | r8qvtq | 7 | 0 | ADHD | Getting prescribed vyvanse | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qvtq/getting_prescribed_vyvanse/ |
TheCaptainADD | This is my experience over the last 7 months roughly and some medical history.
after having seen a therapist and tracking my mood all summer k noticed a clear pattern. My mood was always above 6 and often closer to 8. even considering very traumatic events (loss of a best friend, ending of a serious relationship)
I also didn’t sleep very much, 6 hours on average. I also ate very little. I attributed it to my medication, however in the middle of the fall I noticed my mood deteriorated, my motivation slipped, and my sleep increased. Now it’s to the point where right around sun set (5pm) I become overwhelmed by fatigue.
I’m having a tough time determine if this is simply SAD or if I’m bipolar. I’ve seen some of the best doctors since I was in the 6th grade.
Anyways I decided to come to Reddit and see if anyone else had similar feelings. I know that we are hypersensitive to feelings and emotions and I wonder if it’s just me. | 2021-12-04T14:32:02.000Z | r8qubk | 9 | 1 | ADHD | Seasonal depression or bipolar? Is it just me? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qubk/seasonal_depression_or_bipolar_is_it_just_me/ |
neolithic-and-hungry | I have a hard time actually making decisions. I can analyze my options just fine I think, but it seems that no matter how meticulously I analyze it doesn't actually help me make a decision. This is particularly distressing currently since I'm looking at colleges and careers and majors and whatnot. How do I actually just decide? | 2021-12-04T14:31:15.000Z | r8qts9 | 9 | 2 | ADHD | How do I make decisions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qts9/how_do_i_make_decisions/ |
bobbobbobby88 | Need advice for studying! Give me your best tips for how you study with adhd. Even being medicated I find it hard to stay motivated and focused.
Memorization is my biggest struggle right now. I feel like no matter how many times I read something I’m not focused enough to retain the knowledge.
Thanks! | 2021-12-04T14:26:59.000Z | r8qqu5 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | How do you study? Advice please! | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qqu5/how_do_you_study_advice_please/ |
Alfaridwan | Hello everyone i dont know if this the right forum for me to post, but i have been thinking that i might have adhd for quite sometime after taking up some online test and read about other experience with adhd
Iam just afraid that i might dont have one, and iam just a lazy bastard who use adhd as an excuse, iam afraid what am i feel if i dont have adhd, i mean its not like i want to have one
I terrified of the fact that maybe iam just lazy and i dont have the willpower to fix it | 2021-12-04T14:24:12.000Z | r8qoxq | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Iam afraid taking an adhd test to the psychiatrist in the next 2 days | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qoxq/iam_afraid_taking_an_adhd_test_to_the/ |
TeddyStonehill | I work from home and I set my own schedule, so I have no outside incentive to go to sleep or wake up at any specific time.
Because of this, my natural sleep schedule has drifted overtime to the point where I’m basically nocturnal, and now that it’s winter I barely see the sun at all.
Which is bad because I also have really intense seasonal depression, and being able to see the sun is really important to mg mental health
But I keep hitting a wall trying to change my sleep schedule because I know that any imaginary rules or boundaries I place on myself are just that, imaginary. I’ve tried setting bedtime alarms but I just ignore them, same with wake-up alarms.
The problem isn’t my ability to fall asleep (although I struggle with that sometimes, too), it’s that I can’t make myself get into bed or get out of bed at a set time that would be healthy for me.
I also struggle with work/life balance because I can’t hold myself to a set work schedule and just kind of work on and off all day until I get my work done, so I kind of feel like I’m on the clock 24/7 and I’m super burned out even though my actual work isn’t usually all that demanding.
I’m really struggling with my mental health and I was just wondering if anyone has any suggestions for how to try to fix this? How do you set a schedule for yourself that you’ll actually follow without the benefit of outside structure? Does anyone have any techniques they’ve had luck with? | 2021-12-04T14:20:59.000Z | r8qmu5 | 3 | 4 | ADHD | How to set a schedule with no outside accountability? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qmu5/how_to_set_a_schedule_with_no_outside/ |
Glittering-Run-3245 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T14:20:06.000Z | r8qm5q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What do you think about whn you think for hoyrs while doing nothing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qm5q/what_do_you_think_about_whn_you_think_for_hoyrs/ |
GoodVibesMichael | [removed] | 2021-12-04T14:14:49.000Z | r8qil3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Vaccine and Adderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qil3/vaccine_and_adderall/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T14:09:17.000Z | r8qewn | 1 | 3 | ADHD | emotional dysregulation and non existing impulse control | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8qewn/emotional_dysregulation_and_non_existing_impulse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T13:53:09.000Z | r8q42z | 8 | 0 | ADHD | Advice needed. Concerta crash or fast metabolism? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8q42z/advice_needed_concerta_crash_or_fast_metabolism/ |
mynoserunsmorethanme | I find that if I have to get in the shower, then I will take my meds, clean my teeth, wash my face, go have something to eat and drink (etc. - proper morning routine). After that, I just find it so much easier to get on with what I need to do, or what I want to do.
Most days, my partner goes to work in the morning and we have an agreement that I will make her packed lunch before she leaves. I then go upstairs and shower whilst she eats breakfast.
However, there are some days that she is working nights or is away for whatever reason. On those days, I don’t get in the shower until the afternoon (if I’m lucky) and pretty much the whole day is a write off.
So, I’m asking for some help please. Any ideas for ADHD friendly things that I can put in place that will force me to get in the shower early in the morning would be appreciated. | 2021-12-04T13:48:51.000Z | r8q1ei | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Any ideas of things to make me get in the shower? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8q1ei/any_ideas_of_things_to_make_me_get_in_the_shower/ |
Skwonkyidiot | I just started a membership with Cerebral because I do not have insurance, and I travel for work. I have been untreated for ADHD and Bipolar II for several years now due to not having insurance.
I was recently prescribed Strattera through them and it works for me but I am having awful side effects ( blood pressure spikes, headaches and a constant pulsatile tinnitus in one ear that is very loud). I have been on Adderall in the past and had way less severe side effects from it.
My question is: how does Cerebral go about referring you/treating you if you need a controlled medication for your ADHD? I would love to go the non- stimulant route but Strattera really just isn’t agreeing with me :/ | 2021-12-04T13:48:29.000Z | r8q15v | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Cerebral and medications? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8q15v/cerebral_and_medications/ |
Bitter_Ad_5669 | It's wonderful! Out of all the meditations it's easily the best for me because I don't feel the urge to constantly move, it keeps my mind occupied waaay easier, helps vision which in turn helps anxiety, helps general anxiety, Massive focus increase, motivation increase and a shit ton of other benefits. You only need to do it for 10-30 minutes which tbh doing it, time passes hella quick and you'll feel hella good way faster than closed eye meditation. So what you're gonna need to do is either use a candle or a picture something you can stare at, for example a white dot on a black background or a candle flame and focus only on one point. You'll stare at it till it becomes uncomfortable or 30 seconds - 2 minutes, or until your eyes water, then you'll close your eyes and you'll see that image. The thing here is to keep that image in your mind for as long as possible then when it disappears, you'll repeat the process again for a total time of 10-30 minutes. Also focus on your breathing while staring at the dot, point, flame, whatever, and when your mind wanders bring it back to your breath. Only do like 10 for the first week or so then work your way up. | 2021-12-04T13:43:06.000Z | r8pxsw | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Try out Trataka meditation! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pxsw/try_out_trataka_meditation/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T13:42:47.000Z | r8pxlc | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Can you get pills to help with your concentration if you have a history of pharmaceutical abuse?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pxlc/can_you_get_pills_to_help_with_your_concentration/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T13:39:42.000Z | r8pvmi | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Little ADHD trick, I'm expecting a package | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pvmi/little_adhd_trick_im_expecting_a_package/ |
_PotatoCat_ | So lately my main stim has been binge eating, and its not healthy because i always go for the snacks because i dont have to wait for it, and i find myself eating even when im not hungry. But when i refrain from eating i end up chewing the inside of my mouth and sometimes it bleeds. Does anyone know healthier ways to stim? I’m thinking of trying chewing gum but i dont have any atm. | 2021-12-04T13:38:49.000Z | r8pv2l | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Stimming problem | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pv2l/stimming_problem/ |
MayorMcCheese70 | Recent late diagnosis, So after a terrible time experiencing sides from a regiment of Wellbutrin, strattera, and sertraline to theoretically treat adhd the last half year I was able to convince the shrink it hasn’t helped my life at all, in fact it’s made it more stressful and difficult. The tri med combo literally caused my prostate to swell and cause bladder problems, bowel problems and the list goes on…..
They finally prescribed stimulants and put me on adderall IR 10mg. I was excited to try a need med in hopes of improving things…. I promptly took my pill yesterday had drank a cup of morning green tea and then and fell asleep about 45 mins later and slept till almost noon.
I was sometimes second guessing if I had ADHD problems, I feel like its safe to say after being able to crash after taking stims has convinced me I do have issues.
Been a wild ride of a life and see where this thing goes next….. | 2021-12-04T13:32:27.000Z | r8pqwg | 6 | 18 | ADHD | Yesterday was my 35th bday and my first day taking prescribed stims for ADHD!!! | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pqwg/yesterday_was_my_35th_bday_and_my_first_day/ |
Lalelu9 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T13:32:13.000Z | r8pqqo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Your favourite way to busy your hands | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pqqo/your_favourite_way_to_busy_your_hands/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T13:30:31.000Z | r8ppn2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Loosing hope. Ritalin MR 30 mg + 10 MG in evening. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ppn2/loosing_hope_ritalin_mr_30_mg_10_mg_in_evening/ |
ThePandasNads | Hi all
Looking for some advice on what helps you stay organised and on top of things.
Still waiting on diagnosis but I've never related to a group of people more than the folks in this subreddit. How do you guys stay on top of things?
I started with lists on my phone which graduated to lists on a fridge and then a big ass whiteboard in my kitchen but I feel like these all eventually became visual white noise and I stop picking up on them and forget about them. Currently trying alarms/reminders on my phone but worry that this will eventually become the same way.
Thanks. | 2021-12-04T13:28:19.000Z | r8po7b | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Tips for organisation with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8po7b/tips_for_organisation_with_adhd/ |
Hsosaa | [removed] | 2021-12-04T13:26:19.000Z | r8pmyg | 0 | 1 | ADHD | VVYVANCE TOLLARENCE please help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pmyg/vvyvance_tollarence_please_help/ |
KMartyB | Why hello, fellow ADHD reddittors...I saw someone else with this issue too. How do you make ADHDers cool? Maybe you can't...been our issue our whole lives LOL.
Anyways. The point. The point! So, I have an issue hearing in any place with really loud background noise. Restaurants with loud music, sports games, concerts, even the supermarket. Not that I CANT hear, I hear TOO much. I can hear everything so it's really hard to focus on the words of whoever is trying to talk to me. I find myself craning my neck and turning so my ear is as close to them as possible. I guess my question is two-fold. Is this an issue you've dealt with? How do you manage?
And then the other part - have you managed by finding another way to communicate? Example being ASL. I have wanted to learn ASL my whole life. And now it makes a lot more sense. I already feel like I am a hand talker, an emotional talker, and I feel the need to not talk sometimes. Like, people need me to talk but all I want to do is just nod and do something in silence. | 2021-12-04T13:23:24.000Z | r8pl5d | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Communication and ASL | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pl5d/communication_and_asl/ |
MintyMarshmallow04 | For about 6 months, my teachers have been collecting information about me possibly having autism before sending off what they found last week. My mum came in a few days ago and said I might also have ADD which is very common in those on the spectrum. Even my closest friend randomly said that jag have it due to how much I struggled with focusing in my classes and how hard studying is for me. I might not have ADD but does anyone have any suggestions on how to make studying easier? Cause right now it feels so impossible. | 2021-12-04T13:23:20.000Z | r8pl3p | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I might have ADD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pl3p/i_might_have_add/ |
ifiufiweallfiforfifi | Having a frustrating time at work (technical writer) mostly related to an incompetent supervisor.
And obviously daydreaming about finding a new job instead of trying to figure out my current work situation.
Anyway, was wondering what jobs y’all have (and hopefully also happen to like).
So, fellow introverts with inattentive ADHD: what’s your job? | 2021-12-04T13:07:35.000Z | r8pbmz | 35 | 12 | ADHD | Question for introverts with inattentive ADHD: what’s your job? | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8pbmz/question_for_introverts_with_inattentive_adhd/ |
Glittering-Run-3245 | Hi team - attention loss is the motto of my life abd something that has brought serious issues. Thansk beforehand to all of you for reading things 😍😍😍
I rarely take the right decicions, I normally want to do things but the moment they become an obligation or are very long term, I cannot take them anymore. Might work for a day, then not schedule properly, then avoid it because surely something has fallen out of the plan, etc. i do things i can complete very quickly, even if not easy.
I forget things very easily: I am writing and email, somebody calls me via teams and the email is forgotten forever. I am trying not to do more than one thing at the time but still sometimes I do not even realise. This is leading me to forgetting emails from my manager or the people of my team that require my attention
I lose track of what people are telling me, even if we are 1 to 1 or in a group conversation, even with a client. I find myself looking at the ceiling, thinking of last night’s dinner, what i am thinking of doing later or if i am in a depressive mood, just a spiral of thoughts that make me lose track FOR MINUTES, it is so embarrasing, then I hacve to lie or pretenc the audio broke up so they do not realise I am somewhere else mentally
I forget the metro card continuously, even within the same trip, sometimes I have to take all my handbag inside out to find the stupid card and get out the metro
If I say I am gonna do something, then almost certainly i will forget or not do it at all
none of the organisation systems has worked for me: trello, to-dp, etc, even notebooks, agendas, nothing!!
In my studies i never got anything beyong a 6/10. I could not study at all or keep concentrate in the same task for more than an hour. I have had to work my life around this fact forever, I really wonder sometimes how I made it to becomne a manager of 13 people who are spread around the globle with my mental deficiencies.
If anyone feels similar, or know how to find a way to improve this, please message me. I am also in treatment for anxiety and depression, which does not help either. Thank you any sould that sheds some light on this. | 2021-12-04T13:06:18.000Z | r8paxc | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I am a manager and I hace serious trouble concentrating - I need help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8paxc/i_am_a_manager_and_i_hace_serious_trouble/ |
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NewDude2137 | Im going to a party this evening and there will be only two people that i already know, the rest of them will be Total strangers to me. So i need some tips and tricks to remember peoples name. Beacuse i always forget the names specially when im drunk and its always awkward when someone told me his name 3 times already and my ADHD couldnt save this information. Help me guys! | 2021-12-04T13:01:59.000Z | r8p86x | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I need tips and tricks for remembering names | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8p86x/i_need_tips_and_tricks_for_remembering_names/ |
unhiddenhand | M (34) Not diagnosed or medicated. Any advice on how to deal with your own birthday party with over 60 friends, family and guests? I need to thank everyone for coming, be individually sociable and a good host - without hypervigilance making me flighty. Also I'd like to NOT get stuck focusing on one particular rivetting conversation and lose hours of the experience and neglect other interactions as a result. I accept these traits about myself, but would appreciate any tips on how to manage. | 2021-12-04T12:58:39.000Z | r8p5w7 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Birthday party advice | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8p5w7/birthday_party_advice/ |
jkiwi95 | Context: I’m a high school teacher. When I was younger, my hyperfixation was morbid reality.
During my lesson, we were learning about extreme sports. And we got to the question of why humans take risks and the consequences.
My head instantly goes to this video I watched of this guy windsuit flying, hitting a pole and dying. My brain told me “SHOW IT. MENTION IT. SHOW IT!! SHOW THEM THE VIDEO NOW!”
From the outside, it looked like I just stopped talking. From the inside, I was battling myself and thinking “Why would I want to traumatise these kids? You’re a terrible teacher. Stop. Don’t do it. No. Show it. No don’t.”
I didn’t show them the video but it just saddens me so much that I have so little control over my brain, despite my knowing what’s inappropriate. Sometimes, I’m disgusted by what my brain thinks up.
I was just diagnosed last month and only now does it all make sense, how fatigued I was every single day. It doesn’t look like much from the outside, but the internal struggle to act right is so exhausting. Luckily, now I know it’s not because I’m a terrible person or that I’m just mean.
Share your intrusive thought battles so I know it’s not just me.
TLDR: My intrusive thought told me to show vid of a death. I didn’t but the internal struggle to control impulses constantly is so tiring. | 2021-12-04T12:56:35.000Z | r8p4rk | 107 | 507 | ADHD | I almost showed my students a video of a guy dying | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8p4rk/i_almost_showed_my_students_a_video_of_a_guy_dying/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T12:45:38.000Z | r8oyil | 16 | 0 | ADHD | Adhd and oxy? | 0.25 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8oyil/adhd_and_oxy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T12:40:24.000Z | r8ovgj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adhd and opioids? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ovgj/adhd_and_opioids/ |
sabystars | When I was in highschool, I was special ed tested and it was a long process and at the end of it all they told me was that I had 145 iq and adhd and depression. They then told me they expected great things from me. They never gave me any help for adhd or anything they were just kinda like haha see ya later. My psych wants to look into adhd for me because he thinks its extremely likely too. Has anyone else had an experience like this? | 2021-12-04T12:40:08.000Z | r8ovb6 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD informally diagnosed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ovb6/adhd_informally_diagnosed/ |
BoyToy_CarrotBoy | This morning it took me about an hour to start brushing my teeth. Like i didn't even start after that hour but i just grabbed my toothbrush and stood like that for 30 more minutes. Than i was finally able to put some toothpaste on and brush me teeth. It made me so sad
I'm also really struggling with my pets today. I have 3 birds (2 caiques and 1 quaker parrot). Today they have been kinda grumpy and they really are a handful. Today i just can't handle that so i haven't taken them out of the cage a lot. I did give them a lot of new toys so they have something to do but i just feel so bad.
Sorry if this doesn't belong here but i kinda needed to get it of my chest.
Edit: thank you all for the kind words. The support in this subreddit is amazing <3 | 2021-12-04T12:32:57.000Z | r8orbr | 32 | 25 | ADHD | I'm having a really bad adhd day | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8orbr/im_having_a_really_bad_adhd_day/ |
SmittenAngelot | Hi!
So, I (26F) have been dating this guy for a few months now, and he's great. He's also my first boyfriend, so I've been treated to all the wonders of RSD times a thousand for the first time, getting worried over the smallest thing and it's caused anxiety and a lot of frustration in our relationship.
I only learned recently what RSD was, so that's helping me put things into perspective, but even though I could always have a rational to explain the problems I perceived in a non-catastrophic lense, the feelings don't go away.
One of those non-problems is whenever he posts things online after we've messaged each other goodnight, sometimes as late as two hours after. I \*know\* he has a lot of issues falling asleep, I \*know\* that it doesn't mean that he hates me and never wants to talk to me again. I can rationalize that maybe he meant to go to sleep, but didn't manage it, or simply that he didn't want to talk to me anymore because that would keep him awake.
But it still bothers me and if my mood was bad to begin with, it just sends me spiralling.
I don't want to ask him to cut himself off from social media after we say goodnight or to tell me goodnight when he's 5 seconds away from sleep, that would just be selfish, unreasonnable and just risk he doesn't message me at all in the second case.
TL;DR: I feel like RSD is going to ruin my relationship and would like advice on how to handle it better. | 2021-12-04T12:29:45.000Z | r8opi5 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Advice on how to handle RSD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8opi5/advice_on_how_to_handle_rsd/ |
Working-Mistake-6700 | I can't even get myself to sleep on time. Exercise is a huge no go. My brain just thinks one more episode or scene and then it's 3 hours later and I have work in 5 hours. I forget to wash the dishes or send my rent. I want a new psychiatrist because my current one won't believe I have ADHD even though I'm diagnosed. But God forbid I have time to find one of those when I can't even sleep on time. I feel like a failure of an adult because I have no control over my actions sometimes. It makes me feel lazy and stupid. | 2021-12-04T12:28:06.000Z | r8oold | 15 | 143 | ADHD | I wish ADHD didn't come with such a lack of self control. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8oold/i_wish_adhd_didnt_come_with_such_a_lack_of_self/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T12:24:32.000Z | r8omnu | 9 | 5 | ADHD | Gaslighted when 'not taking meds' | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8omnu/gaslighted_when_not_taking_meds/ |
kfhxo | so, i do not have adhd (not diagnosed anyway) but i can strongly relate to a lot of the symptoms. the one that’s bothering me the most today is hyperfixation.
i have been speaking to someone for 4 weeks and got along really well, hyperfixating on them to an unhealthy obsession, now we’ve stopped speaking and it’s like there is the biggest cloud of sadness over my head. i just can’t get rid of it and it’s ruining my day and making me feel like shit. i can’t go through another stage of getting to know someone because i cannot keep feeling like this.
and then what, he texts me and then all these sad feelings go away? i feel like that is so unhealthy and i can’t rely on someone for how happy/sad i feel about the day.
i suppose im writing this because there must be others that go through the same feelings and it’s nice to hear im not alone. | 2021-12-04T12:05:24.000Z | r8oc2b | 8 | 3 | ADHD | Hyperfixating | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8oc2b/hyperfixating/ |
Flounoe | I’m starting Adderall for the first time in my life tomorrow and I just realized that I got the Aurobindo variety. I’ve heard pretty much only negative things about it, so I was wondering how I would go about asking my pharmacy to give me a different kind. I pick up from CVS- if that means anything. | 2021-12-04T11:47:58.000Z | r8o2b1 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | How to ask my pharmacy to change my brand of Adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8o2b1/how_to_ask_my_pharmacy_to_change_my_brand_of/ |
CHAAES | As the title suggests, I often fall into sleep out of waiting mode, like yesterday I would have met my freind at 21:00, and it was like 17:30 when I started feeling like I could do nothing cause I didnt have time, then I just layed there in my bed, panicing, but still fell asleep.
This happens so often, and it makes me miss out on my friendships. I dont even know what to tell my friends cause its so embarassing and stupid, I dont know how they feel about it, they moght zhink im zniterested or dont have the discipline to stay awake for them. | 2021-12-04T11:24:46.000Z | r8nq8k | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Falling into sleep out of waiting mode | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8nq8k/falling_into_sleep_out_of_waiting_mode/ |
TheActualFatCat | I don’t know if this is the correct place to put this but I lost about three hours to this yesterday and I figured I would just toss it out there.
I was daydreaming about getting stranded on a deserted island and I was just thinking about if I would do well with no meds and no internet.
How do y’all think you would do? I couldn’t parse out if I think my adhd would help or hinder in this situation so that’s more so what I’m asking about, rather than survivalist skills. | 2021-12-04T11:10:41.000Z | r8nijq | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Stranded on a deserted island | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8nijq/stranded_on_a_deserted_island/ |
anonRexus | Out of curiosity I did an IQ-Test at our local Mensa. Well, what should I say? I didn't fulfill my criteria although other people consider me "bright".
After I talked to the examiner they told me, that the test they used is not designed for people with ADHD. I analysed my test and at the beginning it was quite promising but after the first half you can see a drop of correct answers. Of course, some can argue that the test is designed to get harder (it wasn't, the examiner told me) over time.
Nevertheless, I myself noticed my mind wandering during the test ... I looked out the bloody window instead of answering the questions ...
Is there an IQ-Test which delivers a "correct" result for people like me / us? Is this even possible? | 2021-12-04T11:05:32.000Z | r8nfmw | 65 | 33 | ADHD | ADHD and IQ-Tests | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8nfmw/adhd_and_iqtests/ |
slurpeetape | Last week I started medication and have noticed a drastic improvement both at work and personal in composition skills, including important work emails, gchats, text messages, or even jotting something on paper. I've gone from spending 15+ minutes typing, editing, and agonizing over a short five sentence email to sending it out in three minutes with confidence. I'm composing texts and chats very quickly now without errors. This has been a really bright spot for me at work, since this has been a HUGE flaw of mine. No attention to detail and making very simple mistakes again and again, yet still spending so much time trying to put a message together and not liking how it looked. This was something that made me feel ashamed. So this was definitely a highlight to my week, and I'm really excited to see how this helps me down the road.
Has anyone else noticed anything similar? | 2021-12-04T11:04:49.000Z | r8nf8m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Improved composition skills | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8nf8m/improved_composition_skills/ |
coldestj | [removed] | 2021-12-04T11:00:11.000Z | r8ncfe | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and sleep | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ncfe/adhd_and_sleep/ |
Smart_Letterhead_360 | So I’ve been on Vyvanse and switched to xaggitin as it stopped working. When I was on Vyvanse I would have experience lack of hunger which is pretty common but Xaggitin doesn’t have the same side effect on me. At least not to the same extent which I’m pleased about because it makes it easier to care for my body but has anyone else experienced the same? I usually hear the opposite and I know the side effect is listed on my leaflet and has been mentioned by my psychiatrist so I’m a little confused | 2021-12-04T10:49:51.000Z | r8n727 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Xaggitin and hunger | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8n727/xaggitin_and_hunger/ |
MrBlackBook | Hello. I have ADHD Inattentive type and I want to be a writer so bad, but my ADHD is really making that goal impossible. When I want to write, and I feel inspired, I open up my laptop to write and, boom, suddenly all inspiration and motivation I had to write suddenly disappears. Other times I manage to write a bit, but u get so hyperfocused and critical that I end up deleting it all and stopping. I can never seem to get past chapter two and I really REALLY want to finish a book some day. Has anyone got any tips on how to zone in and keep focused?
Thanks y'all! | 2021-12-04T10:43:34.000Z | r8n40h | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Can any writers give me tips and tricks to stay focused and engaged? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8n40h/can_any_writers_give_me_tips_and_tricks_to_stay/ |
LuckyGreeno777o |
my life would be so much better if i could only use my frontal brain properly.
I notice it every day how my life slips away that I could have.
This is mainly due to the fact that I cannot plan or can think about something longer than 10 seconds. Above all, you don't get your problems solved that way and if you don't solve problems they get bigger and bigger.
It's a burden that I carry around It's like my brain just won't go along with it.
I want to decide what I will do today, plan and organize everything.
I want to fulfill my duties so that the pile of problems doesn't get bigger.
But IT won't let me! I only have seconds!
I can't decide which city i want to live in within 10 seconds!
I can't solve problems in 10 seconds!
What can you even solve in this time?
What decisions can you make in 10 seconds?
Jump left or right? Dodge if something falls on your head?
That's exactly how it feels like a fucked up jump n run game that I'm stuck in.
I want to be proactive and plan but it just doesn't work.
What frustrates me the most is: no matter how hard I try I don't get any results. | 2021-12-04T10:39:35.000Z | r8n25o | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Avoiding decisions and strategic thinking | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8n25o/avoiding_decisions_and_strategic_thinking/ |
BlossomedApples | (Previously posted with the wrong flair. Oops! Sorry!)
Hi! I have a number of conditions, including ADHD (which was self-discovered about a year ago and officially diagnosed 3 days ago) and epilepsy (which was diagnosed I believe about a year ago) so I’m on lacosamide for seizures and I think it’s only since then that I’ve noticed the ADHD enough to have pursued a diagnosis. Does anyone else with ADHD and epilepsy take lacosamide and do you find that your symptoms have gotten more noticeable since being put on it? Please let me know! Thank you! | 2021-12-04T10:35:56.000Z | r8n0g0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Lacosamide and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8n0g0/lacosamide_and_adhd/ |
BlossomedApples | Hi! I have a number of conditions, including ADHD (which was self-discovered about a year ago and officially diagnosed 3 days ago) and epilepsy (which was diagnosed I believe about a year ago) so I’m on lacosamide for seizures and I think it’s only since then that I’ve noticed it enough to have pursued a diagnosis. Does anyone else with ADHD and epilepsy take lacosamide and do you find that your symptoms have gotten more noticeable since being put on it? Please let me know! Thank you! | 2021-12-04T10:34:25.000Z | r8mzqh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Lacosamide and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mzqh/lacosamide_and_adhd/ |
bennymc123 | In stark contrast to the 18173638 videos out there telling you the blue light from phones stops you from going to sleep, I totally can't sleep at all without it.
If I don't have my phone and a few videos to watch then I just stare at the cieling for hours - and I mean hours. Then the anxiety kicks in cos it's 4am and I have to be up with the kids in 3 hours.
If I stick my phone on, I can be asleep in 20 minutes.
Anyone else? How do you deal with it? | 2021-12-04T10:29:17.000Z | r8mx2o | 58 | 131 | ADHD | Falling asleep without stimuli | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mx2o/falling_asleep_without_stimuli/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T10:28:15.000Z | r8mwit | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Stimming-Acne | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mwit/stimmingacne/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T10:26:55.000Z | r8mvv9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else only have enough emotional capacity for one friend | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mvv9/anyone_else_only_have_enough_emotional_capacity/ |
bennymc123 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T10:25:23.000Z | r8mv39 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else unable to sleep without a video on? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mv39/anyone_else_unable_to_sleep_without_a_video_on/ |
misterezekiel | I recently visited my psychiatrist, I was successful and got my dose of Vyvanse increased to 40mg, and so far I’m doing really well, so that’s good. However, it seems my doctor does not understand ADHD (at least for adults) or how amphetamines/stimulants work.
So I first tried to explain to him thst the first day I took 20mg Vyvanse I felt pretty good, hands were warm for the first time ever (cold hands a sigh of low dopamine), I felt pretty calm and relaxed, I did not feel like I had just taken a “stimulant” at all! More like a benzodiazepine. The second day was not as good, then after that it was like I was taking nothing, I did notice tension in the facial muscles but they have all but gone now.
His response was, thst was most likely a placebo effect, it takes 10-14 days before the medication works. Please tell me, am I wrong in thinking he’s completely and absolutely wrong? And he’s treating it like an SSRI/SNRI?
The other one was, I said I think the inattentive diagnosis might be wrong, my wife and I (who was with me), read through the diagnosing criteria for hyperactive and I easily meet 6 or more of the requirements and think I would be combined.
His response, you are definitely not hyperactive, you would be running around like a child, you know, those hyperactive children, you wouldn’t be able to remain in the seat. This I know is completely wrong! My brain is very hyperactive, ask my wife whom I send 500 messages to a day, she told him this as well.
So I have to wait till Feb to see him again to give the 40mg plenty of time to work 🤷♂️, but I think 40 will be ok so I’m not worried about that, but should I be concerned about the ADHD type possibly being incorrect? | 2021-12-04T10:22:26.000Z | r8mtmi | 20 | 6 | ADHD | Psychiatrist doesn’t understand ADHD or Amphetamines? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mtmi/psychiatrist_doesnt_understand_adhd_or/ |
rakistang_konyo | I just want to know if Ritalin is useful for stuff other work or school because I am planning to use it when attending social gatherings.
I'm just wondering if it's worth it or just a waste. I want to take Ritalin for such purposes because when talking to other people, I usually drift away mid conversation, and when driving I go on autopilot like 70% of the time.
Can Ritalin help with those types of stuff? It helps me a bit with work. For other stuff im not sure. | 2021-12-04T10:22:12.000Z | r8mti1 | 10 | 7 | ADHD | Do you take Ritalin for reasons other than studying/working? | 0.82 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mti1/do_you_take_ritalin_for_reasons_other_than/ |
ArugulaAlternative | Well the title is self explanatory but to elaborate.
My gf has and always has had problems in her life, many out of her control , but quite a glorious amount of self sabotage.
Since last summer she has gotten the idea that she has untreated ADHD and frankly it has become a sour point for me. On a hand im aware that I cant understand , and I should never belittle someone's mental health, on the other hand , she hasn't gotten a diagnosis and is not keeping her appointments with the doctors even when I really try to help with that , which as I've read here is a possible symptom but those are not the problems im facing, I want to help and support.
My biggest problem is that I'm constantly belittled for not reading enough about ADHD , and not accepting all manner of behaviour in the name of ADHD, once again there is No diagnosis or a hope of getting one anytime soon.
Yes I made my best friend make a loan for me to go on a trip abroad after my sister, of course thats how ADHD behaves.
Yes I have bursts of anger , explode , insult you , but is not my fault.
Yea I abuse alcohol , ecstasy, but you can't say anything about it.
Of course he beat his wife half to death in an insane fit of rage, see what happens when ADHD gets left untreated in adults ?
You are not reading enough, you are not listening , you are normal im not , I don't work like you.
If I do anything that she dislikes, she will make me pay in guilt. You were annoying me so I canceled my kid visit over the weekend, of course he must be sad but it's not his fault or mine, well its kinda yours because you made made angry.
Frankly I have been reading a lot , especially on this sub and articles and im not sure what's the truth.
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I guess my question is more relationship based than ADHD related but what am I supposed to do?
I'm extremely exhausted mentally , am doing insane decisions like suddenly quiting my job and trying to sell my car while day drinking on a Thursday .
Could she have ADHD and how can I try to help , or is ADHD something she has concluded through tiktok and online articles?
Ps. I'm aware I might not make sense now , after the gingerbread house building failed, I got yelled and insulted so I'm drinking again
EDIT: I left , I feel horrible for braking up with someone with real mental issues, someone that I care for, but I couldn't take it anymore, couldn't go through the process with her as she asked me to. | 2021-12-04T10:20:48.000Z | r8mstr | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Am I dating someone which has ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mstr/am_i_dating_someone_which_has_adhd/ |
1niltothe | By discipline I mean sticking to agreed actions regardless of how you feel.
The times when I have been most disciplined, this is what was happening:
**People:**
* accountability partner (one message a day, penalty for missing an action).
* life coach (couple of sessions to help clarify actions).
* clinical psychologist (in person or just podcasts etc).
* books, blogs, podcasts etc. (little and often for morale).
**Tools, resources:**
* 3 actions a day, taken from a 'master list', shared with accountable partner.
* Morning 'risk assessment' GDoc to anticipate challenges over the course of the day.
* Having solutions to all challenges written down, to minimise decision fatigue.
**Time structure:**
* Different parts of the day, different actions. Not indoors all day.
* Having social appointments booked in with people, a rhythm, not isolated.
**Duration:**
* About 2 weeks. After that, need to let go.
* Accountability partnership loses its intensity, becomes a bit more slack.
* I start to become resistant to the culture of discipline and self improvement etc.
It's this last part that I'm still curious about. Whether it's possible to extend this to more than 2 weeks, or find a longer term way of doing things that is more consistent. | 2021-12-04T10:20:21.000Z | r8mslc | 4 | 5 | ADHD | What structures were in place during your most 'disciplined' periods of time? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mslc/what_structures_were_in_place_during_your_most/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T10:13:59.000Z | r8mpdj | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Podcast Recommendations | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mpdj/podcast_recommendations/ |
tarotharo | [removed] | 2021-12-04T10:08:10.000Z | r8mmgc | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Just realised i fixate on other people's opinions on me and always have. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mmgc/just_realised_i_fixate_on_other_peoples_opinions/ |
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