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ADHDDIAGNOSED | Hi everyone, bit of background, I’m 51m, diagnosed 6 months ago and medicated with elvanse/vyanse 50mg upped from 30mg after the first month because it was wearing off at around 3pm, to cut a long story shorter, I’ve spent my entire life not knowing my direction in life or what I want to do as a job, constantly flirting from job to job when boredom or disinterest hits, the jobs I have done have just been what was available at the time I was needing work, with no thought as to if I want or would like to do it, just as a means of living and paying bills, making many mistakes in all the jobs I have done countless times. Now I’m medicated and had coaching sessions and have rebuilt my confidence and have a brain that can almost pass as workable 🤷♂️🤣 and have chosen a career I’d like to do that I would like that is constantly changing, outside, rewarding etc, i need a bit of advice, to gain the qualifications to do this job I need to sit in an classroom environment for 8 days for 9 hours each day and learn various things with varying topics, then take 4 exams in the final day, the problems I might encounter are these, even medicated I’m worried my short term memory will let me down, retaining new information is still hard for me, also zoning out still happens if I’m slightly losing interest which won’t help me in a classroom, I’m fine when I can be repetitive with things and it becomes second nature but won’t help me there and then in these few days, have any of you found how to improve your short term memory or how to retain new information, maybe by timing your meds differently, any help would be greatly appreciated, Thank you friends 👍🏻😁 | 2021-12-04T09:58:14.000Z | r8mh5r | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Need some pointers now I eventually know what I want to do in life at last !!!!!’ | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mh5r/need_some_pointers_now_i_eventually_know_what_i/ |
BlossomedApples | [removed] | 2021-12-04T09:55:06.000Z | r8mfn1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just got diagnosed! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mfn1/i_just_got_diagnosed/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T09:47:27.000Z | r8mbuu | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Parents want to hinder me from getting diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8mbuu/parents_want_to_hinder_me_from_getting_diagnosed/ |
thatboii_lukse14 | I lost all of my old friends in like 3rd grade and I had really strong friendships with them and since then I am going thru different friend groups faster than ever about a year ago I stopped talking to my day one friend. All of my friends now are mostly new ones. I only started hanging with them a few months back and I have two female friends but I'm always scared of losing these friends. Nobody usually checks up on me and I don't either cause I'm scared I might come off as weird or something and I begin to overthink. I'm always in my head and it takes so many effort to have a normal conversation. Sometimes I get out of my head without even noticing and have a great conversation but as I notice I'm having a good conversation I always get back in my head. I'm always thinking about my relationships with people. I can't be alone for 3 days or I will start getting completly out of control with my emotions and when I meet up again after a couple days I feel like I'm strangers with them cause I'm just stuck in my mind. I want to tell some of them how I feel cause some of them probably think I don't wanna talk to them or something. When I really want to have a strong friendship with them. | 2021-12-04T09:39:32.000Z | r8m833 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Too scared to be lonely | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8m833/too_scared_to_be_lonely/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T09:37:57.000Z | r8m79z | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Non-ADHD Partner | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8m79z/nonadhd_partner/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T09:36:21.000Z | r8m6hk | 1 | 2 | ADHD | My ADHD journey and eventual success | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8m6hk/my_adhd_journey_and_eventual_success/ |
lilacia1 | Hey All.
A few days ago I posted on here…to share how overwhelmed I was. I just wanted to come on here and announce that I have completed my homework. It is about 52 days late /: but I’ve dragged it for so long that it just feels so liberating to be done.
Having ADHD definitely has been challenging during my senior year, but I love this community so much and I appreciate all of the helpful messages. | 2021-12-04T09:24:54.000Z | r8m0t9 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Finally can breathe. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8m0t9/finally_can_breathe/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T09:20:33.000Z | r8lyp3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Life has been hard after high school. Question for those who have managed to stay motivated. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lyp3/life_has_been_hard_after_high_school_question_for/ |
OddHelicopter3026 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T09:10:54.000Z | r8ltyl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Think I have adhd , need some clarity if I do . | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ltyl/think_i_have_adhd_need_some_clarity_if_i_do/ |
Limp_Pay6682 | I'm 23 M .
I have ADHD , i knew for years now but my mom kept denying it ( even tho she is a doctor ) , so I went to specialist and I was indeed diagnosed with ADHD with a score of 73 on WURS scale. Also I got a score of 7/9 on DIVA-5 test for ADHD on adult life.
My doctor prescribed me Methylphenidate 18 mg ( I can only find Concentra in my area ) , and TRITTICO 50 mg / day every night. This is my first time taking meds as i was always careful and scared of pharmacy .
Any tips ? I'm freaking out a bit. | 2021-12-04T09:06:53.000Z | r8lrya | 6 | 1 | ADHD | I'm starting to take Concentra 18 today and I'm a bit scared . Any tips? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lrya/im_starting_to_take_concentra_18_today_and_im_a/ |
Spare_Equipment_3644 | I have so much pressure and guilt internally revolving around sleep. Unmedicated, I don't sleep. Medicated, it's not easy but definitely attainable. And if any of my meds are changed due to circumstances it's almost worse than when unmedicated.
Rationally that makes sense. But I (28/f) feel so guilty if I am up past 1AM, even on weekends. I know I am likely trying to mimic my spouse, who can fall asleep anywhere at anytime he chooses to.
Do you have strategies for coping with similar situations? | 2021-12-04T09:02:04.000Z | r8lphs | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Sleep Validation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lphs/sleep_validation/ |
Lurkinghypocrite | [removed] | 2021-12-04T09:01:37.000Z | r8lp9e | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I got diagnosed with ADHD and it makes so much sense yet accepting it is so difficult | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lp9e/i_got_diagnosed_with_adhd_and_it_makes_so_much/ |
ShareYourFarts | I lose a lot of shit. Constantly. Like, I think I have lost every fall jacket that I have owned since I was a child. When I got my diagnosis as an adult it all clicked as to why I lose things, but even on meds my life often feels like some sort of wierd perpetual scavenger hunt. Often I'm my own worst enemy because I'll often zone out while I'm putting my shit away and then put stuff in the most obscure places mindlessly.
However, while I may lose a lot I also can pretty intense at looking for things once I've lost them. Its like nothing else matters anymore, even if the thing I've lost isn't really that important to the thing I'm doing. I can go hours straight, no breaks, jumping from one lead to another (a lead being a random obscure thought in my head of where I might have hidden my things on myself). And when I find the thing that I'm looking for, holy shit, it feels euphoric. Like I've found a piece of myself that I've been missing my whole life. That feeling usually last a few seconds until I realize I've lost 10 more things and made a huge fucking mess in my quest to find the useless list object that I now hold. Sometimes I wonder if my subconscious brain just loses stuff on purpose just so I can get dat high when I find it lol, like some wierd self sabotaging, self generating addiction.
Anywho, adhd is odd, heres [wonderwall](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bx1Bh8ZvH84). | 2021-12-04T09:00:05.000Z | r8lo9h | 3 | 17 | ADHD | The rush I get from finding all of the shit I lose feels better than drugs | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lo9h/the_rush_i_get_from_finding_all_of_the_shit_i/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:57:47.000Z | r8ln52 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Starting on 18 mg Concentra today . I am a bit scared , any thoughts? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ln52/starting_on_18_mg_concentra_today_i_am_a_bit/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:57:29.000Z | r8lmzg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just got my Master's dissertation results and I'll be graduating with a distinction! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lmzg/i_just_got_my_masters_dissertation_results_and/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:57:21.000Z | r8lmx5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Help , how should I feel after taking my meds ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lmx5/help_how_should_i_feel_after_taking_my_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:56:54.000Z | r8lmp3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling focused when working | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lmp3/feeling_focused_when_working/ |
SubstantialBakedBean | I know this is a very specific question that probably doesnt apply to many, but I'm not really sure where to go to for advice about this so I'm starting here.
I work as an aerospace engineer for a UAV company. My day job involves a lot of desk work which I've been struggling with to the point I had been worried about being fired. I finally got diagnosed with ADHD-PI in October and have been put on (currently) 50mg Elvanse (Vynase) and still titrating.
When I'm not doing my desk job at work, I'm also one of our autopilot operators when we fly the aircraft. This bit I love, i could do it for days on end.
However, we have recently out of the blue been told we need a CAA Class 2 medical before we do our next big flight. The CAA states this, in regards to ADHD:
"This condition is diagnosed (according to DSM-IV) when an individual demonstrates inattention, hyperactivity or impulsiveness sufficient to cause significant impairment in social, school or work functioning. The impairment should have appeared before the age of seven years for the diagnosis to be made and may improve with age.
Therefore, anyone applying for pilot licensing who has been diagnosed with this condition must undergo neuropsychological assessment to assess the likelihood of them being able to perform safely as a pilot. An individual with ongoing ADHD will not (by definition) be able to complete pilot training. Medication used for this disorder is normally disqualifying."
To me, this section seems largely misinformed. I can drive a car, and am a glider pilot. Personally I find that ADHD makes me hyper aware when I'm driving or flying but I get it wouldn't do that for everyone. I take Elvanse to survive writing requirements, not because I wouldn't be a competent pilot without it.
Despite this, how can you say that the use of medication to treat a disorder is disqualifying?? That to me is on the same lines as telling somebody that using glasses to pass their eye exam is disqualifying, but they don't do that!
Also what the hell does "An individual with ongoing ADHD will not (by definition) be able to complete pilot training". By definition? Who the fuck wrote this. This makes me so angry. Acting like people with ADHD couldn't possibly finish a pilot training course. What, do they think we can't learn to drive either??
Anyway.
I'm fuming. I wasn't diagnosed last summer when we flew the same UAV, and we weren't even asked for a medical that time round. Now I have been diagnosed, suddenly it's needed and suddenly I might be told by someone who knows nothing about ADHD that I'm not competent to do the job I've been doing competently for the last three years. Can I just.. not tell them? I don't know what to do :( | 2021-12-04T08:56:38.000Z | r8lmkq | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Civil Aviation Authority seems to think ADHD will stop me being a competent pilot. Do I omit the truth about medication in a medical exam? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lmkq/civil_aviation_authority_seems_to_think_adhd_will/ |
Accomplished_Habit_6 | Just wanted to share my little success with people who understand the struggle:
I just finished ordering my husband's Christmas presents... with time for them to actually get here for Christmas!
Every year I neglect to consider that shipping takes time, so Christmas morning I end up doing the lame "well there are two things here right now, but these four will be here in the next 6-10 business days!" I always feel so bad, cuz the fun of it is to have something to unwrap on Christmas day.
Well this year is going to be different!! All of my stuff is scheduled to get here a solid week before Christmas, and it just feels great to have that little victory!! | 2021-12-04T08:53:36.000Z | r8ll3o | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Christmas is looking good for once!! | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ll3o/christmas_is_looking_good_for_once/ |
kaleboat | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:51:06.000Z | r8ljy5 | 24 | 15 | ADHD | A post about the nightmare that is ADHD + noise | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ljy5/a_post_about_the_nightmare_that_is_adhd_noise/ |
spiralisedcat | TLDR: Want to totally declutter ALL my stuff. Will it help me actually relax?
So..... Ive recently come to the conclusion following a lot of research (mostly consisting of me yelling "Yes! I can relate to that SO hard!" every time I read another list of symptoms or another post on here lol!) that I have some form of ADHD.
I was listening to a really good (so far anyway!) audiobook written by a doctor who discovered he had ADD when he was 50. He gave a little story about someone trying to tidy. He's putting books away, notices two volumes of poetry by the same author are not positioned next to each other, so picks one up to move it. Opens the book, reads a poem, needs to check an interesting reference in another book and gets lost in a rabbit hole of greek mythology for a hour. Yep, yep and yep.....can totally relate.
Tidying for me is ridiculously hard. I get so overwhelmed just even thinking about it that I get worked up, furious with myself for not being able to do something that comes so ridiculously easy to others. And then play Diablo for way too long to 'relax' and calm down, where Im really just procrastinating YET AGAIN. I have a decent job that is full of pressure and deadlines all day (which Ive recently realised Im good at because I work on a deadline/instant reward = motivation basis).
And I keep thinking 'Hang on..... I can do THIS job of all things and keep on top of way more work than I should really have (short staffed)......but I cant manage to tidy all my clutter?! Grrrr'.
Since I was 19 and bought my first house, Ive longed to walk in from work to a house that is clean. Organised. Everything in its place. NOT 1 garage FULL of junk, clutter on every surface and hidden in every drawer.
It definitely does not help with that urgent "always feeling like I should be doing something else' thing either......because I actually really should!
Im considering minimising everything I own. Literally if I havent used it / looked at it / worn it in the last 6 month... its going. Completely and utterly decluttering to the point where Mari Kondo would quit her job and hand the batten firmly over to me lol.
Has anyone done this?
Did it actually help you feel more relaxed and organised??
Also..... Anyone have any tips on the procrastination front? I really struggle so much for motivation unless there is instant reward / gratification (or fear of missing deadlines etc). This is going to be such a long slog doing this, that Im terrified I'll just talk myself out of it every time. Which is worse than not starting at all!
If I dont start, I can believe that I CAN do it. If I start and I can't l.....that belief is shattered and a downwards spiral will ensue!
Thank you in advance! | 2021-12-04T08:46:53.000Z | r8lhyg | 9 | 3 | ADHD | Is this a good idea? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lhyg/is_this_a_good_idea/ |
CJude | Hi there I started medication a week ago, I was given a chart indicating dose times for the week where I slowly Increase my dose till I'm comfortable or I hit the limit being 30mg a day. I was told at least for the first week to trial half my dose in the morning and half at lunch which works out to be 10mg @7:00am and 10mg @12pm for now. My understanding is the main peak affects are meant to last 4-6hours I'm finding I hit 11am and the first dose is about gone and I'm flat back to scatterbrain and yet again around 4pm from the second dose, I want to hear if anyone else has tried spreading their doses out within an interval that it stops the rollarcoaster effect such as 10mg at 7am, 11am then 3pm, and how this goes for them/ how their sleep may be impacted. My main goal is to feel consistent and to be able to spend my free time after work being (4:30pm onwards in a functional state until it's time to cool off and go to bed which ideally I'd like to be asleep by 10:30pm.
Any form of ideas/advice you feel is relevant or keen to share I'm all ears even if I know it already I'm happy to hear opinions on the chance I get to be further educated.
Thank you so much for your time, you should be seeing me around here more often being a part of the community from now on 😁
PS: I'm a 20 year old Male, 70kg if this is relevant and will also be discussing with my doctor when I get the chance to see him next. | 2021-12-04T08:36:31.000Z | r8lczv | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Dosage time frame (Dexamfetamine sulphate) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8lczv/dosage_time_frame_dexamfetamine_sulphate/ |
hannahkv | Hi y'all! My boyfriend has pretty severe ADHD and really struggles with remembering to communicate as well as with double-booking, remembering appointments, showing up on time, and other executive functioning stuff.
It's starting to really affect our relationship. He tries really hard to please everyone but gets very overwhelmed when people ask for his time, I think because he struggles to keep track of it and also make time for himself. I get very disappointed when he cancels stuff at the last minute, forgets things, etc., and I really need advance planning of things to structure my life, which he's not great at. As an example, tonight was the only night that I would be free for like two weeks, which I'd told him repeatedly before. I texted him today to meet up and he said that he forgot that he'd committed to a dinner with somebody else a week and a half ago, but never told me about it. I felt very hurt and disappointed.
I think having a shared calendar app would help me to see what's coming up for him and prevent some of the inevitable disappointment, as well as spending soooo much energy on tedious scheduling details.
**TLDR: What do you do in your relationships to handle the scheduling and logistics stuff, when one person has ADHD or an executive functioning issue? Are there any apps or tools that have been helpful for you?**
Thanks so much in advance for any advice. I want to be understanding and supportive and find a solution, but it's hard! | 2021-12-04T08:27:45.000Z | r8l8af | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Shared Calendar App Recommendation for Couples with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8l8af/shared_calendar_app_recommendation_for_couples/ |
precum1 | Anyone else find they feel the need to eat meals in front of YouTube/tv show? Alot of the times I'm not even paying attention to it and just have it the background, but I find it super uncomfortable to eat while it's quiet or in a cafeteria setting with other people with a video playing. I find I either lose appetite , or eat really fast barely chewing the food just to get it over with.
Is this an adhd thing or maybe more an anxiety issue? | 2021-12-04T08:18:17.000Z | r8l3hq | 8 | 4 | ADHD | Can only eat meals while watching a video? | 0.7 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8l3hq/can_only_eat_meals_while_watching_a_video/ |
Cdino699_ | The hardest part for me is having a million different things going on in my head but can’t focus on just one at a time. I get so overwhelmed and can’t control my emotions it goes from sad to angry to anxious. I’ve tried figuring a way to help it but talking about to other has been the best help for me.
I would appreciate for anyone replying to this to be open and really not be afraid to let it out. I find it to be really helpful to speak to people who understand the struggles I think of and go through. | 2021-12-04T08:16:09.000Z | r8l2ft | 982 | 1,956 | ADHD | What’s the worst part about having ADHD? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8l2ft/whats_the_worst_part_about_having_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T08:12:34.000Z | r8l0kr | 4 | 3 | ADHD | I hate thinking about what life could have been like for me if I had known earlier | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8l0kr/i_hate_thinking_about_what_life_could_have_been/ |
Cdino699_ | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:09:30.000Z | r8kyvj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What’s the worst thing about having ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kyvj/whats_the_worst_thing_about_having_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T08:02:18.000Z | r8kv1a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What is the worst part about having ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kv1a/what_is_the_worst_part_about_having_adhd/ |
reptilehomicide | Hey hey.
So, I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2016 when I was 27 years old and have been on and off (mostly on) stimulants since my diagnosis. However, this summer I switched stimulants and was prescribed Adderall for the first time since my diagnosis. I’ve noticed that since switching, I am very quick to anger. To clarify - I am not becoming angry more often than baseline, the problem is that when I do become angry, it comes on very quickly. It feels as if I lose my ability to think about whatever it is I’m about to say or do to consider whether or not it’s a bad idea. I will, obviously, bring this up to my doctor at my next appointment, but has anyone else experienced this side effect? | 2021-12-04T07:49:28.000Z | r8ko3l | 5 | 6 | ADHD | Slight loss of control? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ko3l/slight_loss_of_control/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T07:46:05.000Z | r8km9g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Chronic Stress, ADHD, & Epigenetics | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8km9g/chronic_stress_adhd_epigenetics/ |
seanph420 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T07:42:26.000Z | r8kkfy | 5 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD or not? Why do symptoms vary to much? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kkfy/adhd_or_not_why_do_symptoms_vary_to_much/ |
marbleme | So you know that whole thing where focus becomes a trillion times better at night? I experience that basically everyday and I like it but also find it kinda useless cause I also need to cut myself off and go to sleep. Does anyone have any advice on how to change that or flip it around? Anything useful based on your lives and experiences? I'm so tired of being absolutely useless during day time and being all zoned in and focus as soon as it's a few hours before time for bed! Thanks ahead of time :) | 2021-12-04T07:38:29.000Z | r8kif2 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Changing the time of focus | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kif2/changing_the_time_of_focus/ |
v3rsatile_ | Got my diagnosis (29F) 4 months ago. Medicated now. Still learning how ADHD affects my life. Seems like a lot more than people think. Affects everything. There's limited information how to live life with ADHD friendly ways. So quite new thing for me. Also graduating from university right now and having cognitive behavioral therapy because childhood trauma. Healing from trauma is hard work even without ADHD.
Seems like I have quite severe symptoms and stress makes it a lot worse and bc of that can't sleep or exercise enough to function. I have a job and friends....still. Bad days are really bad. Don't really wanna speek about this with people, only who understands me is my sister but she has hard times herself right now. My therapyst is awesome but I feel I need more support somewhere but dont have energy to explain myself also. I'm so tired of this hard mode life and that my brain never stops, hard to connect, feeling something all the time. Drugs help a lot but when tired and stressed I give up even trying to go to sleep or control my ADHD. I don't know feels like whatever I do its never enough to have a moment without disturbance.
Sorry about bad the grammar, not first language. | 2021-12-04T07:36:31.000Z | r8khck | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Just so fucking tired of this, how to help myself? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8khck/just_so_fucking_tired_of_this_how_to_help_myself/ |
AutoModerator | Feel free to discuss your new diagnosis here! | 2021-12-04T07:36:16.000Z | r8kh7s | 37 | 4 | ADHD | "I Just Got Diagnosed!" Weekly Thread | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kh7s/i_just_got_diagnosed_weekly_thread/ |
blueberry-spy | I picked up a book about learning in a whim today, so of course my ADHD ass immediately thinks of 12 different skills or special interests I want to get better at.
Forget that the whole thing requires focus for a minute, how would I even decide what to learn?
I want to get better at art, but also practical stuff like Spanish or writing or public speaking or a work skill because I really want to get an edge in my career. Then I start thinking that I need to work out more, and I'm totally off track, no longer thinking about learning a skill anymore.
I never know where to put my efforts, so I just... don't. Being a jack of all trades would be fine, but I get overwhelmed by possibilities and don't end up doing anything.
I'm defeated even before I begin by lack of ability to prioritize 😅 | 2021-12-04T07:35:16.000Z | r8kgoy | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Can't choose which interest(s) to pursue! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kgoy/cant_choose_which_interests_to_pursue/ |
Responsible-Drag4719 | I’ve (14F) been lurking in this sub for a long time now, but it’s my first posting.
I’ve just recently got diagnosed with ADHD predominantly inattentive. My main issues include emotional dysregulation and executive dysfunction, which I believe many of you guys relate to.
My ambitious personality mixed with executive dysfunction has lead me to have super low-esteem to the point I’m giving up on things before trying. I’ve been thinking of trying meds and have talked to my mum about this before, which she immediately discouraged. She says that “it doesn’t solve your problems” and “you’ll rely on it too often”. Although it might be true, I don’t think I can go on any longer. My grades has been plunging and I’m questioning about my ability everyday, it’s driving me crazy.
Medication is badly stigmatised in my country so it’s almost impossible to convince anyone. I just want to feel partially normal or at least do something without seeing myself sitting there, self-sabotaging myself. I don’t think they understand how largely it affects me emotionally, not just whether I can achieve my goals. On top of that, they don’t even view my ADHD as a disability, so they think that medication is no need and that only people with “real issues” need it.
What do you guys think? And what should I tell my mum to convince her? | 2021-12-04T07:32:32.000Z | r8kfa5 | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Adhd medication? | 0.63 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kfa5/adhd_medication/ |
DaRealBigMac06 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T07:30:30.000Z | r8ke4k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it normal to find it hard to finish TV shows or movies without getting bored? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ke4k/is_it_normal_to_find_it_hard_to_finish_tv_shows/ |
fballman1985 | So today I was asked if I could describe what the physical feelings are when I feel anxiety or that sense of fear that comes over so many people that have ADD or ADHD. I’m just over 40 years old and was not diagnosed until a few years back.. As I thought about how to describe those feelings, it was pretty easy as I just described how I was feeling at that moment. I was then asked a 2-part question that shocked me: Describe how it feels to not have those feelings, and when was the last time I felt that relief for longer than a few moments.
I was shocked to realize that I not only struggled with what not feeling anxiety/fear feels like, but I caouldnt even remember the last time I went a day without feeling that way in at least the last decade.
Just wondering if any of you feel similar. It’s just crazy to realize how much this can debilitate a person and especially all the happy care free memories it robs from what you could have had over one’s life. SAD. | 2021-12-04T07:30:19.000Z | r8ke1r | 77 | 348 | ADHD | asked to describe feeling fear/anxiousness vs not. I was SHOCKED at my realization… | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ke1r/asked_to_describe_feeling_fearanxiousness_vs_not/ |
Quinn-Ivy | I have done this a few times within the past several years. I overspend on credit cards, then stress how I will pay them.
After I typically use this as an excuse to burn myself out at work and pay off the debt with my extra earnings. I paid off 10k, 6K and now going on another 4K.
I have been lucky since this has resulted in me making more money and being successful in my career, but I never get anywhere with my debt.
I have tried waiting a few days before buying something to see if I still want it. I am on Adderall XR. Also, getting stuff in the mail and searching for items feels like a fun scavenger hunt that gives me a rush.
Am I crazy? Can anyone relate? | 2021-12-04T07:29:00.000Z | r8kdca | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Debt & Impulse Control | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kdca/debt_impulse_control/ |
basecamper09 | Hordes of Books lying to be read, cobwebs on the walls, cluttered shelves, email inbox, constant battle at work - somehow keeping the job intact by doing bare minimum, feelings of regret, occasional spurts of motivation, lots and lots of planning, scribbling ideas and waiting for an exit option, years and years of staying in same place, same work (even though hating it), drinking alcohol to numb down from time to time, fleeting relationships, running away from commitments, disarisffaction with work, personal life, physiqe, ocassional joy during a short trip, a small chat with a friend over phone etc - All these are symptoms of what?
ADHD/Depression? Anyone else reltating to these? How to overcome? | 2021-12-04T07:27:07.000Z | r8kcbm | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Anyone relating to these? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kcbm/anyone_relating_to_these/ |
feartv2 | I 21 (M) suffer from chronic ADHD and have been off medication since about 16. When it comes to romantic situations I find myself overthinking EVERYTHING, needing constant reassurance, losing myself (placing all of my self worth on the partner), inpaulsivity when it comes to important decisions, struggle with patience, and am scared of stupid things like not getting texts back because I did something or she is talking to someone else. Not to mention obsessive thinking ( always thinking about them and what they are doing) and tendencies (is. Checking snap score, snap location, etc). Finally I have struggled with emotional control, I often get too emotional and have emotional regulation issues.
I know a lot of my fears are irrational but a lot of my negative thoughts, even my past has lead me to believe these things. I am getting back on medication here soon and am in talk therapy once again, but I am so tired of pushing away any romantic partner with because I cannot seem to get my head right. All these problems lead me to struggle with anxiety and even some depression. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated | 2021-12-04T07:26:35.000Z | r8kc1p | 19 | 17 | ADHD | ADHD Relationship issues | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8kc1p/adhd_relationship_issues/ |
brownsniffer | [removed] | 2021-12-04T07:17:24.000Z | r8k7de | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hands in the air for bosses who think adhd a joke | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8k7de/hands_in_the_air_for_bosses_who_think_adhd_a_joke/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T07:17:20.000Z | r8k7cf | 64 | 67 | ADHD | I feel like I have to pick between the greater of two evils - to medicate or not to | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8k7cf/i_feel_like_i_have_to_pick_between_the_greater_of/ |
alynds129 | Hi, I think I want to try something other than adderall, I’ve been on it for like 8 years and the lab that makes isn’t great and I’m having a lot of bpd symptoms on top of the Med just being kind of crappy. Doesn’t last long at all, stomach ache, I just feel like there has to be a new Med by now. Vyvanse was ok but only for an extended release, j think it needed a short acting added to it, but they don’t make one and u can’t take Vyvanse (Er/XR) with a short acting adderall add on in NYS. I’m looking for a solution . | 2021-12-04T07:16:52.000Z | r8k73z | 9 | 1 | ADHD | I need a change from my adderall.. it’s not cutting it. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8k73z/i_need_a_change_from_my_adderall_its_not_cutting/ |
Quinn-Ivy | [removed] | 2021-12-04T07:16:30.000Z | r8k6xo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Impulse Control & Debt | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8k6xo/impulse_control_debt/ |
JarJarJacobs | *sitting in a chair scrolling social media*
“damn I’m anxious maybe I should smoke a little bit of wėed to calm my nerves”
*continuing to do nothing while my anxiety gets worse*
“damn I’m still anxious maybe I should lie down”
*lying in bed scrolling social media*
“damn I’m still anxious maybe I should find something to do with myself”
*debating 5000 options before ultimately continuing to scroll social media*
“damn I just wasted a bunch of time, maybe I should just watch a movie or something”
*searches for 3 hours trying to find the absolute perfect movie- mostly on social media*
“damn I’m putting too much thought into this and I’m still anxious, maybe if I smoke some- wait, I wanted to do that *4 hours ago* and I STILL haven’t done it??”
——————
This shit sucks, man. I’m even medicated now and I still can’t get out of bed or make the tiniest decision. I don’t even enjoy the simplest stuff like TV and drugs because it seems like there are 10000 mini-steps I have to take before I can actually do those things.
Honestly it’s kind of impressive how much time I’m able to waste like this. Sometimes I think I’m exaggerating but then i look at the clock and I’m like “nope, I really DID just throw an entire evening in the trash”.
It’s just so much *effort* to do anything, and for what? Ugh. | 2021-12-04T07:11:05.000Z | r8k466 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Literally every night for me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8k466/literally_every_night_for_me/ |
MostProbablyPetra | My GP thinks ADHD is something adults can't have, only children. And that they grow out of it. And that if an adult manages to get to adulthood without diagnosis, it's pointless and the stigma will hurt them more than the help. I don't agree with this but he did scare me... I'm struggling a lot and now questioning whether or not I should bother trying to get evaluated. Thanks to anyone that can offer me some clarity. Is it really bad for your future jobs or quality of life in general to be diagnosed, or is he just making that up? | 2021-12-04T07:06:18.000Z | r8k1on | 300 | 472 | ADHD | Is there any reason not to get evaluated as an adult? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8k1on/is_there_any_reason_not_to_get_evaluated_as_an/ |
ChristianSal2003 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T06:59:16.000Z | r8jxmp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hey, I'm an inattentive and I haven't met any other inattentive peeps. If you are inattentive let's have a chat. I'm feeling kinda lonely. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jxmp/hey_im_an_inattentive_and_i_havent_met_any_other/ |
FaithInStrangers94 | I’ve realised the only way is by brute forcing myself - if I waited for a natural inclination to start working on anything I would achieve absolutely nothing.
It often feels like I’m starting things prematurely or haphazardly but honestly that’s the only way I get anything done.
I write this as I realise I’ve just finished editing an essay in my underwear with one sock on and breakfast half made - I know if I waited for all the conditions to be right i wouldn’t even have started yet though.
Do you guys feel me? | 2021-12-04T06:58:47.000Z | r8jxd1 | 21 | 84 | ADHD | Do you have to brute force yourself to do things? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jxd1/do_you_have_to_brute_force_yourself_to_do_things/ |
pinklana | Okay this sounds really silly, but I have this theory about myself and my ADHD.
For context, I (19f) have just been diagnosed with ADHD-pi through my doctor. Since then, I've been having a lot of self revelations (yay, figuring out my weird brain!). As a kid, I always thought there was something wrong with me because I had ZERO idea what was going on ever. I could never pay attention to what the teacher was saying, or what the assignment was asking or where I was supposed to be. However, because of my fantastic masking skills, nobody ever suspected a thing (hence why I ended up having to seek a diagnosis for myself). I don't feel the need to mask much anymore (although maybe that's because I'm no longer in school).
Okay so here's where my silly theory comes in. Since high school, I've been a bit of a partier. I'm also a huge lightweight, so I get drunk pretty easily (not complaining, my bar tabs are always lower than my friends). But something I've noticed is that people always seem to think that I'm sober when I'm most definitely not. At parties, I always get comments like "you're the most sober pinklana, can you help me with this?" or "why aren't you drinking pinklana?". I've always just laughed at these comments without thinking much of them.
But then today it hit me. IT'S BECAUSE I'M MASKING. Whenever I get drunk, and I feel that sense of not really knowing what's going on, or feeling a bit out of it, my brain responds the way I trained it to throughout my ADHD riddled school days. I get this weird anxiety about people seeing me being spacey and that mask from my childhood slips right back on.
Does anyone else have experience with this?
TL;DR I subconsciously mask my drunkenness like I used to mask my ADHD in school growing up. | 2021-12-04T06:56:02.000Z | r8jvvo | 4 | 12 | ADHD | People never know when Im drunk | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jvvo/people_never_know_when_im_drunk/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T06:51:16.000Z | r8jtfa | 2 | 1 | ADHD | idk if i should continue taking vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jtfa/idk_if_i_should_continue_taking_vyvanse/ |
Mammoth_Prior6157 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T06:43:50.000Z | r8jpjg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else have to be on their phone/eating something when watching tv???? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jpjg/anyone_else_have_to_be_on_their_phoneeating/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T06:34:55.000Z | r8jl1o | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Hmm maybe I have ADHD [long] | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jl1o/hmm_maybe_i_have_adhd_long/ |
teefgoat | It literally just has:
-brush your teeth
-put your clothes away
-finish off birthday gift (I’m painting a set of jenga to make drunk jenga for my friend’s bday, it’s tomorrow of course)
I also have school work but I’ve been good with staying on top of that, I just have been paralyzed the past three days and haven’t done any school work or house work overwhelmed with the idea that both need to get done. I also keep procrastinating emailing my accommodations consultant about getting an adhd coach. I also missed the deadline yesterday for finding an internship for uni, I just watched the clock hit midnight :/ this shit sucks
Update?: I just brushed my teeth !! :) I got up to turn off my light (it was already off lol) and figured while I was up I could brush my teeth. Thanks adhd? i guess? | 2021-12-04T06:26:34.000Z | r8jgbp | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Just made a to-do list of stuff I’ve been trying to do for the past 3 days, I thought I had a mountain of chores (felt like it at least). Looking at it written down just feels ridiculous :/ | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8jgbp/just_made_a_todo_list_of_stuff_ive_been_trying_to/ |
Anonymous_celery | Hey guys, anyone experiencing virginal dryness from adderall?
I just realized that this recent condition i developed is the side effect of adderall after ripping 2 guys’ weewee😅….
How is adderall causing virginal dryness?? If its just the medicine making me be dehydrated in general i can just drink more water; but if this is caused from some other reasons then i guess drinking more water won’t be a fundamental solution:(
Please share your experiences! | 2021-12-04T06:13:17.000Z | r8j8uz | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Dealing with side effects | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8j8uz/dealing_with_side_effects/ |
thedrew224 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T05:55:26.000Z | r8iybq | 15 | 1 | ADHD | A friend probably took too much adderall | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8iybq/a_friend_probably_took_too_much_adderall/ |
GeminianBrilliance | [removed] | 2021-12-04T05:54:47.000Z | r8ixxr | 0 | 1 | ADHD | OFF ADDERALL FOR 3 WEEKS AND ITS KILLING ME! HELP! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ixxr/off_adderall_for_3_weeks_and_its_killing_me_help/ |
MyLeggggggggg | Hi everyone, I recently got diagnosed with ADHD and, after speaking with a counselor, I was advised to seek help from my college's Disability Services. Does anyone here have experience with seeking for Disability Services (work or college, but especially college)?
Im sure the process may vary but, what was your experience?
What sort of accomodations did you receive? What helped?
I got a letter from my doctor with the diagnosis and recommendation. I think I just have to give them the document to get the process started. But, strangely, I am terrified of this process. I am not sure why. I think I am scared of being a "fake"...even through I have suffered so much and multiple people have diagnosed me already. I still have a fear that the Disability Services office will not believe me. It may be an irrational fear but, it's there and it's making me second guess starting the application.
I'm also scared of how my professor will react. I always look at him and nod during lectures...so he thinks I focus a lot but I'm often zoned out. He'll probably think that I'm faking it or something once hearing it from the Disability Services office.
I know I'm not being as strong as I should be and, I shouldn't care what people think...but, it's SO hard for me. I always care what people think. Even if I shouldn't. I can't help it. I don't know if any of you can relate 😞
Edit: Thank y'all SO SO much for your responses!! I read every single comment and, reading y'all's experience and advice was extremely helpful!! Thanks again, I really appreciate it!!! 😄 | 2021-12-04T05:45:34.000Z | r8isn9 | 35 | 19 | ADHD | College Disability Services | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8isn9/college_disability_services/ |
New_Cryptographer401 | [removed] | 2021-12-04T05:38:40.000Z | r8ioni | 1 | 0 | ADHD | BVD, lazy eye, covering one eye growing up, and sinus pressure related question (how you can relieve it by pressing on your brow and nose bridge. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ioni/bvd_lazy_eye_covering_one_eye_growing_up_and/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T05:35:13.000Z | r8immo | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Feeling extremely defeated | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8immo/feeling_extremely_defeated/ |
Specialist-Known | I (24F) was diagnosed with ADHD at the beginning of November, I'm on Vyvanse and so far it is going very well. Between therapy, self help & medication I am feeling better than I have in years.
While doing my self help readings, one of my books asked "How long have you had these problems?" and it led me to think about when & why I realized my brain worked differently than other people's (I had no idea it was ADHD, I just felt different.)
I realized that when I was about 11/12 I started list writing in order to feel some sense of stability or structure in my life. To keep myself accountable and organized. Not list writing of things to achieve or to do lists, but every single night before bed I would write the exact same list for the next day:
-Wake Up
-Make Bed
-Shower
-Get Dressed
-Make Lunch
-Pack Bag
I would cross each thing out as I did it, and re-write the list EVERY DAY. For a lot of my life, I thought the way my brain worked was due to trauma from my childhood, and that maybe the lists were a way to organize my surroundings with all the chaos around me, a way to feel some sort of control; and maybe in part it was, but its interesting to look back now after diagnosis and feel so validated, because I know that that symptom was not normal.
What symptom/quirk in yourself did you have that made you realize you function differently, and at what age? | 2021-12-04T05:31:38.000Z | r8iki9 | 5 | 3 | ADHD | When did you realize your brain works differently? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8iki9/when_did_you_realize_your_brain_works_differently/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T05:29:16.000Z | r8ij1e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | First year teaching, looking for advice. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ij1e/first_year_teaching_looking_for_advice/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T05:15:40.000Z | r8ib63 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Pharmacy is out of meds, workweek is long and busy, how do I get through this?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ib63/pharmacy_is_out_of_meds_workweek_is_long_and_busy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T05:13:58.000Z | r8ia4r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I actually make decisions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ia4r/how_do_i_actually_make_decisions/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T05:13:19.000Z | r8i9qy | 9 | 0 | ADHD | Tiktok convinced me to pursue an ADHD diagnosis | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i9qy/tiktok_convinced_me_to_pursue_an_adhd_diagnosis/ |
Vini_boy69 | I was wondering if I was the only one that gets extremely easily annoyed by small things like phone notifications or like cats mowing. This creates a lot of conflict between my mom and I but I just can't help but get mad at small sound like them. Do somme of you have trick to calm yourselves when such things happen? | 2021-12-04T05:09:23.000Z | r8i7fb | 6 | 6 | ADHD | I get extremely easily annoyed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i7fb/i_get_extremely_easily_annoyed/ |
Think-Caterpillar760 | Wonder if Social Media has ever made your ADHD issues worse?
Personally, I noticed I'd develop some peace of mind each time I'd deactivate/delete my Insta/FB. I'd also feel like I'd be able to focus better.
Unfortunately, at this point in life, it's become really difficult to stay off these apps. Because I rely on them for networking and basic communicating. I've been considering setting some fixed time in the day to check my notification but I'm not sure I have that much discipline. | 2021-12-04T05:05:48.000Z | r8i5ce | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Social Media. Instagram/Facebook and your ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i5ce/social_media_instagramfacebook_and_your_adhd/ |
thinkinginkling | [removed] | 2021-12-04T05:04:09.000Z | r8i4cz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | anybody else have impulse control so good that your life is basically boring and meaningless? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i4cz/anybody_else_have_impulse_control_so_good_that/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T05:02:36.000Z | r8i3bt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Social Media. Instagram/Facebook and your ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i3bt/social_media_instagramfacebook_and_your_adhd/ |
AutoModerator | Just started meds? Talk about it here. Please remember that we don't allow asking for or giving medical advice. | 2021-12-04T05:00:13.000Z | r8i1nl | 132 | 16 | ADHD | Weekly "I'm new to meds!" Thread | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i1nl/weekly_im_new_to_meds_thread/ |
figyelem | I used to be pretty good at staying in touch with friends and okay with family. I had a big circle of friends, but my career was stalled and I wasn't good at relationships. Now my career is fine and I have a family. My marriage isn't super stable, but I'm not divorced yet, and hopefully, that will stay true until my daughter grows up at least.
I feel like I've been focusing on my career and my immediate family so much that I've completely neglected friends and extended family..... but not really on purpose... This is just something I'm noticing as I look back at the past.
I feel like this is an ADHD-related thing potentially..... so, does anyone have any good advice or references about how to stay in touch with family and friends and balance that with life in general? I feel like I'm missing something. Maybe some of you know what it is? On the other hand, it could be that I'm just a misanthrope. | 2021-12-04T04:57:48.000Z | r8i05a | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Any good ADHD-specific advice on staying in touch with family and friends? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8i05a/any_good_adhdspecific_advice_on_staying_in_touch/ |
darkocean81 | I did the thing. I DID THE THING.
"Phone?" *pat pocket*
"Keys?" *pat other pocket*
"Wallet?" *pat back pocket*
All check. Go for launch.
Walk out the door to go get dinner and turn around to lock the deadbolt...no keys. I still had my freaking work badge and a baggie I keepy meds in in my pocket. They were what I thought Keys were. No spares. My wife was 30 mins away working. Two young, hungry kids (thankfully in good coats...my wife is very smart). And my wife is o er 30 mins away working.
Incredibly, as soon as I realized how much of a bonehead I am, she texted to say she's on her way. I called her to tell her to please head straight home, and I'm confident she broke all the traffic laws she could.
I feel like a child trapped in a 40yr old man's body. I'm worried that she's going to question if I can take care of them. Hell, I'm questioning that.
*sigh* Sorry. End of rant. I suppose its off to the store to make duplicate keys... | 2021-12-04T04:53:10.000Z | r8hxck | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Well, it finally happened. I locked myself and my kids out of the house in the dark in 40F degree weather. | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hxck/well_it_finally_happened_i_locked_myself_and_my/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T04:50:45.000Z | r8hvwr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Really Struggling today and worried about disappointing my daughter because of my adhd/executive dysfunction | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hvwr/really_struggling_today_and_worried_about/ |
StromaBoi | I had a huge fight with my partner and without unloading all the nitty details it came back to the fact we've been having the same conversation/argument for 2 years that is around me seeking help from a psychologist. Before it was just generally about anxieties/motivation etc but in the last year since I thought I might have adhd its shifted towards getting a diagnosis.
I feel ridiculous explaining why it feels so difficult to progress or do anything that shows I can be committed to something because I know Ive said it before to no effect. She wants to be supportive but has no energy when it looks like I dont care about getting help and as an extention our future together. I just froze like an idiot unable to express my love because all I could think is if I was any kind of decent human and cared about her, I would have been more organised. We finished on ok terms but its like only now after such an emotional explosion that I have the will to do something but its a saturday so I cant get a bloodtest (which my GP asked for before he'd write a referral) until monday and Im so scared that if I dont demonstrate some kind of effort its all just going to go back to what its been but im just at a loss as to what to do.
Im on the verge of a panic attack expecting that when I get home after this walk she will be packed and leaving me which I know isnt true but im so scared that thats what will happen if I can show or say something that proves how I feel and what I want but cant seem to do | 2021-12-04T04:50:17.000Z | r8hvms | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Im very stressed, feeling very isolated and I dont know what to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hvms/im_very_stressed_feeling_very_isolated_and_i_dont/ |
SolCalaHoh | [removed] | 2021-12-04T04:32:11.000Z | r8hkm1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | As someone with ADHD, I’m starting to accept that’s it’s simply over, and I recommend the same for a lot of you here. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hkm1/as_someone_with_adhd_im_starting_to_accept_thats/ |
IJustLikePlants | Does anyone have suggestions for how to stop impulsive eating and emotional eating? I wish I was one of those who forgets to eat but I'm like the opposite. I can't stop thinking about eating.
I'm super active and consider myself fit but I have gained about 20 lbs of fluff from my eating habits.
I'm getting frustrated with myself. I wish I could just have a tea and relax and enjoy myself. Any tips or tricks for shifting my brain to focus on something else or at least take my mind of food. I'm not hungry, just emotionally bored and hungry. | 2021-12-04T04:26:02.000Z | r8hgqj | 21 | 40 | ADHD | Impulsive eating when I'm trying to lose weight | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hgqj/impulsive_eating_when_im_trying_to_lose_weight/ |
Real_Bad_Dream | I lose my appetite when i take it, but i have to eat something or ill puke. The only things i can stomach on adderall are things that feel like they have a lot of glutamate. Meat, cheese, smoke flavored or salty stuff etc. Foods that have any sugar or have a lot of water in them feel repulsive. Is it just me or is this a thing? | 2021-12-04T04:25:21.000Z | r8hgbx | 8 | 5 | ADHD | Adderall and food | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hgbx/adderall_and_food/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T04:21:25.000Z | r8hdvn | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I feel like a chore/child in my relationship and it hurts. (I have adhd) | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8hdvn/i_feel_like_a_chorechild_in_my_relationship_and/ |
Notreallyherelawl | [removed] | 2021-12-04T04:15:17.000Z | r8ha10 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD affecting marriage decision? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ha10/adhd_affecting_marriage_decision/ |
deseredis | My psych just switched my mood stabiliser, so I’ve been tapering off and dealing with unproductive mania and anxiety. I was worried about finishing my partner’s peer review for our Research in Humanities class, especially since I’ve been struggling with untreated ADHD. I was diagnosed, but my psych can’t prescribe ADHD medication (or any controlled substance, for that matter), but a friend recently gave me some of her Adderall XR. I took it today, and I couldn’t believe the difference it made. After a week of insomnia and mania, I managed to channel my energy to sit down and get to work.
I really need to find a local psychiatrist that can get me back on Adderall. Ever since I moved to Florida (3 years ago), I haven’t been able to afford one.
I’ll celebrate small victories like this one in the meantime, and hope I can survive finals.
Share your tips for powering through. | 2021-12-04T03:58:31.000Z | r8gz1x | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Finished my Peer Review! | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gz1x/finished_my_peer_review/ |
TheBlackSwarm | A little background here I’ve always had trouble in school paying attention and just getting shit done in general. During my Freshman year of High School things got so bad that my mom suggested I should go on medication so I tried a bunch of different ones and none really were a game changer and I lost weight in the process so I got frustrated and just stopped medication all together. However now I’m 19M and in Community College and things have gotten worse for me I feel like I’m constantly behind on something and have trouble remembering things that aren’t significant. I’m worried for myself and my future and I need advice. | 2021-12-04T03:57:40.000Z | r8gyia | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What Should I Do? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gyia/what_should_i_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T03:52:18.000Z | r8gv7x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What Should I Do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gv7x/what_should_i_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T03:46:38.000Z | r8grm8 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I grew up in a home where the word “ADHD” was used as a pejorative. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8grm8/i_grew_up_in_a_home_where_the_word_adhd_was_used/ |
Nihilisticky | My childhood and teenage years especially are one big void, lol. But also recent stuff like co-workers asking "were you at work on x day?" (2 days ago) and I can't answer :P
I'm amazed that I can live by myself and do ok yet my memory is just sleepwalking through this. I daydream and autopilot A LOT so I think the problem is I often don't encode info into my memory. I can check the time and forget what time it is 10 seconds later.
I suspect I have inattentive ADHD and recently started the diagnosis process at adult age. Anyone else have shit memory? I keep shocking my friends whenever they ask "hey you remember that time..." no, I don't, I rarely do lol. | 2021-12-04T03:43:24.000Z | r8gpjo | 6 | 28 | ADHD | My whole past is a bit of a blur | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gpjo/my_whole_past_is_a_bit_of_a_blur/ |
Physical-Stomach-215 | Does anyone else have to buy tweezers, nail clippers, or the same stupid basic hygiene items over and over and over and over again? I swear I use them and someone combs my house with a metal detector at night, or there’s a crow hiding out looking for shiny objects while I’m not looking. Losing these every 3 days just does not make sense. No wonder I bite my fingernails so badly. No tools.
TBH, it’s probably in one of my 103 junk areas that I will probably never be able to tackle in my lifetime.
Anyone? | 2021-12-04T03:41:56.000Z | r8gom1 | 6 | 31 | ADHD | One more pair of tweezers…..I swear! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gom1/one_more_pair_of_tweezersi_swear/ |
Cdudedawg | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:39:45.000Z | r8gn4e | 12 | 0 | ADHD | PLEASE LISTEN TO MY STORY. Im almost ready to give up and pick a date. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gn4e/please_listen_to_my_story_im_almost_ready_to_give/ |
lcweig44 | Like the title says, I (19M) was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 6 and I'm just now taking it seriously. First ever post on reddit so I apologize in advance for any formatting errors and general messiness.
I was a very classic ADHD case: a loud, disruptive, hyperactive, impulsive boy with a low frustration tolerance and inability to pay attention. My parents put me through many different therapies and medications before finally agreeing to put me on stimulants. They helped... I think... but I was still a sad, lonely, and angry child. When I entered high school, my parents took me off stimulants and I didn't argue because I didn't even notice an effect. I spent 5 years off stimulants and I seemingly did well, earning mostly A's and making a few friends. But on the inside I was deeply suffering. During my first year of high school I was suicidal and absolutely despised consciousness. I spent most of my time in my room on screens and had little to no life besides school. Life gradually got better (through therapy and natural development) and I'm now at a stable point in my life.
Here's the problem tho
I DIDN'T REALIZE I WAS MENTALLY ILL
Even with my diagnosis my parents never told that I had ADHD or expressed how difficult life can be with it. My dad even has ADHD but he didn't warn me! I struggled for so long. I internalized all my ADHD symptoms, disguised as what I thought were personal short-comings. I was literally suicidal and extremely depressed but I normalized it because I though everyone felt this way!! I knew I was "off" but I didn't really understand why. I learned what depression was back in 2018 and since I had most of the symptoms, I just assumed I was depressed. Even with my self-diagnosis of depression, I knew that there was something else wrong with me. Even though I knew I had ADHD (saw this written on my chart went I went to my doctor for a check-up), I didn't think of it as an important or significantly life-altering disorder.
But it is. It abso-f\*cking-lutely is.
About 3 months ago after trying antidepressants (which had little effect), I decided to see my old psychiatrist and get back on adderall. And OMG what a difference!!! I was happier, more energetic, more hopeful, less depressed, and I actually had *desire* to do things! \~*happy dance\~* The change wasn't life-changing, but I feel like I understand myself a lot more now and I'm beginning to differentiate my ADHD symptoms with personal shortcomings. I realize now that my habits of interrupting people, lack of motivation, difficulty in eating attention when others are talking, fidgeting, losing everything, chronic tardiness, hyper focusing etc. are all caused by ADHD and *aren't* personal shortcomings.
Side note: I feel like I'm still downplaying my ADHD tho. I haven't seen another person on this sub that has actually gotten **more** energy from stimulants. Also, I still fidget and I haven't gotten any increased executive functioning, I just feel much better. These symptoms seem more similar to someone who doesn't have ADHD. Does anyone else experience this? Do I even still have ADHD?
Anyway, I'd like to thank all the amazing ADHD-ers out there on this sub! The reason I reached out to my psychiatrist was partially because I very specifically related to many of the stories and symptoms shared here. Seeing how others were struggling helped me realize how much I was struggling too. I'm very glad this resource exists :)
Thanks for listening and I hope you all have a wonderful day! (or night)
TL;DR - basically the title. Never downplay a diagnosis and seek help if you need it! | 2021-12-04T03:30:36.000Z | r8ghd3 | 15 | 31 | ADHD | Started taking ADHD seriously... Why didn't I do this sooner?? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ghd3/started_taking_adhd_seriously_why_didnt_i_do_this/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-04T03:29:15.000Z | r8ggho | 1 | 5 | ADHD | How I procrastinate | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8ggho/how_i_procrastinate/ |
yycdouchetruck | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:29:07.000Z | r8gger | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Pentecostal / Baptist Religious Experience Hypothesis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gger/pentecostal_baptist_religious_experience/ |
AhdhSucks | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:28:12.000Z | r8gfvv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to quit caffine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gfvv/how_to_quit_caffine/ |
AngryCarrot666 | I understand that this may seem like a supportive thing but it is hell. Forcing me to do it makes me hate the work even more and causes my focus to be shit. I can barely focus on assignments now even though I’m “getting the work done”. The worst part though is I mentioned I have a creative writing project I need to get done and I actually enjoy doing the assignment and would put more effort than expected into it. My dad is treating it like an item that needs done. Not something I can enjoy. Now I am beginning to hate the assignment. I don’t know what to do and sorta wanted to rant about it. | 2021-12-04T03:26:00.000Z | r8gehk | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Im in college and my Dad is sitting beside me and making sure I do homework | 0.76 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gehk/im_in_college_and_my_dad_is_sitting_beside_me_and/ |
anonymausmoosemousse | I’m on my 4th day of bupropion for Anxiety and ADHD symptoms. Was prepared to have insomnia etc. instead I’ve been sleeping for 8-9 hours a night but takes me an hour to get out of bed now. Feel foggy headed and dizzy a lot. Haven’t been able to do regular routines like exercise.
I’m usually a happy person and get so hyper. Since I started I have been emotionless, lost my empathy, and little sounds are amplified and irritate me. Right now I have no clue how I’m feeling but I’m feeling something and I DON’T LIKE IT AT ALL. It’s the weekend so dr office is closed. Can I just stop taking it all of a sudden or wait until Monday to call dr? | 2021-12-04T03:21:07.000Z | r8gbie | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Don’t know what Wellbutrin is doing to me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gbie/dont_know_what_wellbutrin_is_doing_to_me/ |
Mr3cto | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:20:42.000Z | r8gba8 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else a user of cannabis with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gba8/anyone_else_a_user_of_cannabis_with_adhd/ |
guutarajouzu | I decided not to take my concerta today because it's not a work day and I wanted to let my spontaneous side have some breathing room. It's been a refreshing experience so far but I also have a lot of errands to run too. At the moment I'm trying to do 5 different things at once and feeling anxiety creeping up on me while I negotiate which part of what errand I'm juggling. I suddenly realized that this unpleasant feeling felt so familiar because this was what 'normal' used to be: constantly managing/suppressing anxiety while trying to tackle more than I should at once, then getting bogged down and feeling self-loathing for not being able to complete the task at hand.
Lacking focus and the ability to manage your emotions means you're always living life on a high difficulty setting than others. Be kind to yourself and only do what you can. It's okay not to be completely okay.
FYI: I do not condone skipping meds regularly or ceasing them without consulting your doctor. And if you forget to take them, remember that we all do sometimes | 2021-12-04T03:20:16.000Z | r8gazv | 4 | 49 | ADHD | Living with ADHD is not easy. Comparing life with medication vs. without can be unsettling | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8gazv/living_with_adhd_is_not_easy_comparing_life_with/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:15:36.000Z | r8g7z6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm easily manipulate by music, is it just am adhd thing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8g7z6/im_easily_manipulate_by_music_is_it_just_am_adhd/ |
dreamprincessa | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:10:13.000Z | r8g4ho | 1 | 1 | ADHD | reading a movie plot whilst watching it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8g4ho/reading_a_movie_plot_whilst_watching_it/ |
basecamper09 | Very often we just keep thinking about things- big things viz career change, moving to a new house, starting/ending a relationship or even things as small as fixing a leaking sink.I am increasingly noticing a pattern in my behaviour that these all things are constantly on the back of my mind..l make notes, l list as priority etc etc but when it comes to actually tackling them (especially the big things viz career change relationships etc)I am stuck in the same loop for years thinking/planning exit strategies all the time and growing weary and exhauted.
l am beginning to think that maybe there’s a way (probably slightly painful) way of dealing with these? Like ripping off a band aid..sort of way of making decisions which might eventually give you some contentment, peace etc.
l was wondering if any of you have been in a similar place and what is /are the strategies you follow to de clutter your life?
TLDR: How to declutter your life and make quick efficient decisions on big things in your life without being stuck? | 2021-12-04T03:10:10.000Z | r8g4gf | 6 | 4 | ADHD | How do you make a decision? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8g4gf/how_do_you_make_a_decision/ |
SilverTrust-PI | [removed] | 2021-12-04T03:00:17.000Z | r8fy37 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Living in the Forest of a Dream that is ADHD-PI | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8fy37/living_in_the_forest_of_a_dream_that_is_adhdpi/ |
beepboop9213347 | Hey friends. I’ve been on vyvanse for over a month. Yesterday, I increased my dose to 30mg. Unrelated to my dose change, I have been feeling this strange sensation in my chest for the past 8 days or so. I can’t quite describe exactly how it feels (I’m always bad at that). I’d say it feels like my chest is tight, it almost feels like it’s my lungs, and sometimes it almost feels like I can’t get a full breath. It’s been constant, and mostly in the middle of my chest. I’m not sure if this is heart burn, gerd, etc. I don’t think I’ve ever really had issues with heart burn so I honestly wouldn’t be able to tell it that’s all it is. I checked my blood pressure, it’s not ideal for my age but it’s not worrisome. My heart rate was fine. Has anyone else had this side effect, did it go away, should I call my pharmacist? | 2021-12-04T02:51:34.000Z | r8fsfa | 17 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse and chest discomfort | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8fsfa/vyvanse_and_chest_discomfort/ |
AvaCatHasQuestions | If I do get diagnosed with ADHD. Instead of saying I have ADHD and SPD what could I say?
I know I heard someone say that ADHD + SPD is really ADHD + ASD… but is that really true? All I know is that I want to get tested for ADHD (currently) and ASD. I don’t know if they will diagnose me with ADHD only because they send a form to my teachers about it as my teachers don’t know how I feel inside, ya know? | 2021-12-04T02:40:41.000Z | r8flf4 | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Something to say instead of ADHD and SPD? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r8flf4/something_to_say_instead_of_adhd_and_spd/ |
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