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4,901 | daddit | Oh. Well then I guess it's fine. |
4,902 | daddit | Then we shouldn't waste time with the grammar of complete strangers.... That definitely is going to receive any damns. |
4,903 | daddit | I hit reply to correct you, but after I looked it up, I just ended up [learning a lot about semicolons](http://www.grammarbook.com/punctuation/semicolons.asp). |
4,904 | daddit | Goddamn! |
4,905 | daddit | You'd think so, right? |
4,906 | daddit | I don't think anyone wishes their kids to be dependent, dumb, and lazy. |
4,907 | daddit | How *you* doing? |
4,908 | daddit | Coach Bombay? |
4,909 | daddit | I don't have children, but I have nieces and nephews. I do have several plants, though. And a cat. |
4,910 | daddit | Man baby clothes are the cutest, it's so hard when they grown up and don't let you dress them in adorable clothes anymore! |
4,911 | daddit | Oh he's spoiled rotten with love and gifts from his very big family, but now he has a little sister to share it all with :) You can send me a PM with all your questions, always happy to answer! |
4,912 | daddit | > Whoa, your son must live a lovable life! Gay couples are not necessarily any more or less loving than hetero couples (although they do tend to be *gayer*). All in all, I expect the kid's experience is similar to the way many kids of divorced parents are raised. |
4,913 | daddit | No one think offense was intended. Of course not. But sometimes things cause offense even when unintended. |
4,914 | daddit | Averages aren't very useful when considering individuals. All children, all people, behave differently and uniquely. This is a wonderful thing. |
4,915 | daddit | I don't think liking tools is a "natural" boy thing, I think it is more taught to them through gender norms and the media/commercials, etc. I mean, nothing wrong with liking tools of course, but I don't think it is necessarily inherent to boys and not girls. Not offended, just offering my thoughts. |
4,916 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,917 | daddit | Evolution favors whatever will be advantageous in a given environment or condition. Sometimes that is diversity. Sometimes that is "sameness". |
4,918 | daddit | What point does that possibly demonstrate? Of course that is the case, it's the case with nearly any variable which differs between groups. Saying "the difference between the ends of the continuum within group A is larger than the difference between the average values of group A and B", means absolutely nothing about the difference between those groups. |
4,919 | daddit | Here is a summary of studies that have been made http://www.parentingscience.com/girl-toys-and-parenting.html I'll quote one interesting part: >That idea is consistent with a recent study of testosterone (T) levels in toddlers. Researchers in Finland tracked T levels in 48 newborns for 6 months, and then tested the children's toy preferences when they were 14 months old. Girls were more likely to play with toy trains if they had exhibited higher T levels as infants. Boys with lower T levels were more likely to play with dolls (Lamminmäki et al 2012). |
4,920 | daddit | > Last I checked there was a large movement that was suggesting A politically active "movement" to "suggest" that studies and data are wrong is not great science. This movement needs to conduct studies and gather data that clearly and objectively demonstrates a contradictory conclusion that can be directly tied back to flawed methodology in all of the previous studies. |
4,921 | daddit | [deleted] |
4,922 | daddit | gtfg. |
4,923 | daddit | My liberal wife and I (both humanities majors) kept our son away from commercialized messaging as much as possible. We never pushed any type of toy on our son (other than things like musical instruments). He's still fascinated by the garbage truck, balls, and other things traditionally associated with boys. I began as a sociology minor, and I've made a conscious effort to not push stereotypical gender roles onto our son. But the way he naturally keeps gravitating towards "boy" things indicates to me a biological precedent. Another example: we went to the San Jose Children's Discover Museum last weekend. There was an experiment table where young kids could pour sand into test tubes, bottles, etc. About 80% of the kids around this table were boys, and they stayed longer than girls did on average. There's definitely some biological component to gender, and I think we're doing a disservice by pretending it's entirely socialized until puberty. Reluctantly, my wife and I are coming to the conclusion that maybe we need to make it okay for boys and girls to be different? Because maybe they are? |
4,924 | daddit | Just green and yellow food coloring. |
4,925 | daddit | His father literally has nightmares about him behaving effeminately - but nope, no influence on his behaviour from his parents' attitudes, it's all natural I tell ya |
4,926 | daddit | Yay! You just won a loving daughter! |
4,927 | daddit | k. |
4,928 | daddit | i respectfully disagree. |
4,929 | daddit | Here's some of my favourite material on the subject: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Reimer |
4,930 | daddit | Don't need to be a phd to smell sjw bullshit, nonuts. |
4,931 | daddit | "Gender" as an identity was made up by tumblr folks to make themselves feel special. It's not a real thing and there's no science behind it. That's as far as I'll go with you cuz it's obvious you're either a troll or SJW and in both cases arguing with you is a waste of time. |
4,932 | daddit | I'm so triggered right now. Such bigotry |
4,933 | daddit | No one uses a hyphen in horseshit. |
4,934 | daddit | Dude, you're an idiot. You basically called him a liar but when called put on it you just say " nu uh. I didn't say that" |
4,935 | daddit | so why are you here? You've never posted to daddit before today.. you don't seem like a dad from your post history... did ya think you would just come over here and start some shit? Did you notice the title? We're dads. Ignoring bullshit from kids is our bread and butter son. Now shoo |
4,936 | daddit | *Than jk A society grows great when old men correct the grammar of people they know they'll never talk to in real life. |
4,937 | daddit | They may not have wished for it but it's what they got with me. |
4,938 | daddit | I know girls who prefer to be taken care of by their man or woman. That isn't necessarily a bad thing but not what I would prefer. Some girls are inept with coordination and don't like running/sports. This is normal and not a bad thing either. |
4,939 | daddit | [I'm doing good baby](http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lf14oqyRqG1qbpn58.gif) |
4,940 | daddit | Haha well there you go! Plants develop those unique personality traits similarly so you can relate I think haha. |
4,941 | daddit | I know you didn't mean it this way, but I chuckled at man baby clothes. Then I shuddered. |
4,942 | daddit | I suppose it depends from one family to another, even when it comes to divorced families. Our kids see all 4 of us as their parents regardless of biological link (at least so far). We consider ourselves a family even if we don't live together, and legally we don't all have the same status (though it hasn't been an issue to date). Sure we don't always agree on how to do things (e.g. maybe they should eat more vegetables, they need to be more covered up in winter, that sort of thing) but we respectveach others' parental role and don't have a huge argument about it. When it comes to thevreally important stuff, we get together to talk about things and make sure we're all on the same page. I can't claim this is the best model for parenting, we know another family that co-parents and it's not going well at all. All families are different and at the end of the day we want our kids to be healthy and happy, and we are all striving for the same goal in ours. |
4,943 | daddit | i don't. it sounds like these 4 people care about each other. |
4,944 | daddit | Stereotypes are based on averages though. |
4,945 | daddit | Young male and female apes play very differently as well. |
4,946 | daddit | Exactly. And diversity increases survivability drastically. |
4,947 | daddit | Examples please? Remember, one species does not evolve in isolation. Every other species around them evolves as well. The environment is constantly changing. Adapting to those changes is evolution. A random mutation occurs, that animal is different, maybe better suited to current conditions. Does well, breeds more, the mutation spreads. An illness has a random mutation, susceptible animals get sick, spread the mutated illness, those animals die. Some of the animals are immune, fluke as to which ones, but because they are not all the same, an almost guarantee that some will survive. Those animals have less competition now, so they breed more. Now most of the animals are immune and the illness needs to adapt again. When animals are inbred, we clearly see the problems with sameness. |
4,948 | daddit | No, that's not true. For example, most children are much shorter than most adults. This is a large significance. That's why we get things like bathrooms in elementary schools built with lower sinks. Almost all the time, assuming a child is short is correct. But the differences between the sexes is very very small. So if you take a random boy and a random girl they are just about almost as likely to prefer "boy" things or "girl" things. So if you guessed, you'd be wrong about half the time. Do you see? We aren't just taking about the very ends of the continuum, we are talking about the top of the bell curve and the standard deviation. |
4,949 | daddit | Just waiting on those links, though. Meanwhile, the majority of recent articles in the scientific journal Sex Roles seem to point out various factors that influence roles in adolescents. Seems to me there is a strong case for his point. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3131694 |
4,950 | daddit | Sweet! |
4,951 | daddit | Aren't you cute? No need to piss in a circle little man. You aren't saying anything worth defending so there's no need to start hurling (odd) insults. Go back to Breitbart. |
4,952 | daddit | But I didn't say what he implied, nor did I imply what he purported to imply that I said or implied. Do you have reading comprehension difficulties? |
4,953 | daddit | And yet here you are not ignoring the bullshit. |
4,954 | daddit | I know men who prefer to be taken care of and who are bad at sports too, I didn't say anything about gender. I said that I think most parents would prefer their kids not be dependent, dumb, or lazy. |
4,955 | daddit | [Like so?](http://ep.yimg.com/ay/crazyforbargains/big-feet-pjs-red-fleece-footed-pajamas-for-women-and-men-8.gif) |
4,956 | daddit | They might, I have seen some studies on that. Sure, I believe that girls may be more likely to play with dolls. But I don't think it makes them any less likely to be interested in tools and cars, especially when an ape has no concept of what a car is, how it's made, and what it does. |
4,957 | daddit | And actually, after taking a good look at the study, it seems like the research more shows that females are more likely to play equally with dolls AND the trucks, while the males are more likely to play with only the "boy" toys. Interesting, the girls are probably naturally more drawn to the dolls due to evolution setting them up to be good mothers. But they weren't any less likely to like trucks than the males. |
4,958 | daddit | > So if you take a random boy and a random girl they are just about almost as likely to prefer "boy" things or "girl" things. What measurements do you base this statement on? |
4,959 | daddit | > So if you guessed, you'd be wrong about half the time. No, you wouldn't. |
4,960 | daddit | The link you posted says that they are not doing science but writing from an ideological perspective. You just proved the other commentators point. >"Studies focusing on biology may have been virtually nonexistent because such articles are more likely to be published in journals that are oriented to the biological sciences, and may be due to this journal’s greater emphasis on socialization and feminist perspectives." |
4,961 | daddit | You can use this series to get starting points for searching, there is tons of references for both opinions: https://vimeo.com/19707588 Unless you can read in Czech language my sources would be useless for you. |
4,962 | daddit | > Breitbart i had to look that up. guess you're a yank. Only you guys consider political views an insult. which is pretty special, like the bus... the short one. Either way, you're full of shit was my original point, and it seems everything you say is reinforcing that. cheers. |
4,963 | daddit | You're an idiot. You said he was lying and when asked what he was lying about, you couldn't tell him. What was so unbelievable about this post? |
4,964 | daddit | Fully support this. I have no idea whether you're a parent, but if you are, I suspect you're a fantastic one. |
4,965 | daddit | Based on studies I have read about. This is a popular area of research and so many studies have been done. However, this is not my field, so I'm not sure what the best sources to cite would be. Perhaps asking on r/askscience would help if you really are interested to learn more. |
4,966 | daddit | It's still science, and it's still a scientific journal. Sociology is a strong platform for comparing the biological/physiological and the neurological/psychological, especially as it pertains to normative roles in society. If your question is, "Are there biological differences between sexes?", the answer is a resounding yes and you've solved it. If you are asking, "Are the biological differences in the sexes the sole causative for gender roles?", these papers tend to say No, and they are sociological and ideological in nature. I don't see the point of not keeping context when examining the topic. |
4,967 | daddit | I'm familiar with that series. My suggestion would be to dig up some Stephen Pinker, in any language, and research "connectionism", the idea is the basis for Brainwash. It is much more nuanced than the popular science would lead you to believe. |
4,968 | daddit | Thanks for helping to destroy the view of Brits as polite and intelligent. Cheers to you too. I checked your comment history - you weren't kidding, you are no professor. |
4,969 | daddit | That's a shame since all the scientific studies that shows up while searching for this subject shows the opposite of what you claim. Would have been interesting to read. http://www.livescience.com/22677-girls-dolls-boys-toy-trucks.html https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200804/why-do-boys-and-girls-prefer-different-toys http://www.parentingscience.com/girl-toys-and-parenting.html |
4,970 | daddit | It's not science when someone deliberately ignores measurements because it goes against their ideology. They stated that they have done so in previous quote. [Lysenkoism](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysenkoism) is an example of the dangers of putting ideology before the scientific method and we should not encourage that kind of behaviour. Sociology is interesting and have elements of science in it but it is not a science. It doesn't have laws that accurately describes how humans work. It can't predict what will happen. Maybe 50 years from now a breakthrough will have been made so it can and then it will graduate to a formal science and be very useful, but right now it's just a way of describing the world through an ideological lens. If you can figure out how to do sociology without ideology you might be the person that takes us to the next level. I hope you do. |
4,971 | daddit | I will look it up. Anyway i am aware that nurture vs nature isnt proven for any side. Imho when it comes to criminality, intelligence and alike its more about nurture (both social and enviromental) like from 95% and when it comes to gender roles it is nature. I have yet to see evidence, and i tried, showing that majority of people wont adhere to typical gender roles no matter of enviroment etc. Actually from my experience the harsher the living conditions are the more people adhere to gender stereotypes. For example tomboy women who have egalitarian relationahip at home during long mountain expedition or transocean yachting always start to doing nurture jobs and leaving 'men stuff' to men after first few days. I saw it again and again in my life. |
4,972 | daddit | notice those downvotes? not from me. your unearned condescension is getting those for you. |
4,973 | daddit | I had cancer as a kid. It was way harder on my parents than me. I don't think they ever fully recovered. Make sure you are talking to people and if you have another kid make sure they are getting help too. I know my sister struggled a lot with being the forgotten kid. I honestly mostly remember the good times. Even holidays in the hospital were made fun by the staff. Credit to all the people who work in pediatric oncology units. |
4,974 | daddit | My daughter just had her port installed today. This has been such a ridiculous, scary blur of two weeks. I’m smiling at your photo! Bless you both! |
4,975 | daddit | Friggin awesome little lady! Beautiful kid, congrats on the milestone! |
4,976 | daddit | I'm an oncology RN and father of 3. can't imagine the journey you've been on, but I'm wishing you so much happiness and love. your daughter is beautiful, and a warrior. she's lucky to have such a fine example. congratulations to a shining light!!! |
4,977 | daddit | Couldn't have been easy. Tell her the Internet is cheering for her! |
4,978 | daddit | This is the best thing on Reddit today. Congratulations! |
4,979 | daddit | Congrats!! |
4,980 | daddit | Awesome! Keep fighting |
4,981 | daddit | I'm so sorry you both have to go through this. Fuck cancer! |
4,982 | daddit | My wife is fighting cancer now. We have a wonderful 3 year old daughter. I can't imagine going through this with it being our little one and not one of us. I hope your daughter's recovery keeps moving her in the right direction. And once she is old enough to hear it, give her a nice loud F.C. from me. |
4,983 | daddit | This is great news to start my Friday!! So happy for you #fuckcancer |
4,984 | daddit | Oh man, I can't even imagine the worry and stress you've gone through. Congratulations! I hope this means she's cancer-free soon. Give her an extra big hug today. |
4,985 | daddit | Monday marks my wife's 6th year since she 'rang the bell'. It was so hard on the family, but you are on the right path and I expect you to report back here when it's your daughter's 6 year anniversary of cancer free. |
4,986 | daddit | Yo! Congrats! Fellow-dad-with-kid-in-remission! |
4,987 | daddit | Congrats to both of you! |
4,988 | daddit | I cannot imagine the painful journey it’s been to get to this point. Congratulations on this promising development! |
4,989 | daddit | As someone who went through this as an adult, your daughter is an absolute badass! Congrats to her and hoping for all good news going forward. |
4,990 | daddit | Congrats! It’s a wonderful feeling! Our son has been off treatment for 2 years this month and is doing awesome! Keep your head up and keep fighting! |
4,991 | daddit | Never seen Wonder Woman rock a Baby Shark tee before. |
4,992 | daddit | Searched 'cancer' into the Daddit subreddit. Boy I'm glad this is the first post that popped up - very happy for you and your little girl OP. Cancer dad here. Just had to shave my little boys head as the treatment starts to show it's effects. It's done a number on me tonight. They don't deserve it. |
4,993 | daddit | Big big love to both of you |
4,994 | daddit | Good bless you baby girl. Wishing you all the health and happiness for the rest of your very long and fulfilling life! |
4,995 | daddit | Woooo! Congrats to all of you! |
4,996 | daddit | Way to go little lady! |
4,997 | daddit | Congrats little one! You are so strong! |
4,998 | daddit | So happy for you. She is brave and beautiful. |
4,999 | daddit | That’s one tough and brave little girl! |
5,000 | daddit | Thank you for making my Friday. Sending many healings your way for both your little one and yourself. |
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