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Confirmed here: OP is a tool
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...and an unholy shit-ton of paperwork.
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My cousin is about to graduate from Sussex tech in Delaware. They probably know each other.
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go and kick rocks, peons, you're just rookies
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This frustrates me to no end.... Give a kid a good home. Get them out of the system.
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[Feels, Feels Feels.](http://33.media.tumblr.com/1c63b3ba7349f2a9f2572ed3120e209a/tumblr_mggi8rU2nC1rwcc6bo1_500.gif)
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Oh my more tears. I hope that someday I can give my kids all the stuff you have given yours. Three bedroom house, half acre yard, big dumb dog- all kids need a big dumb dog in their lives.
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Amazing. You have done one hell of a good job.
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No. I graduated from Easton and never went back. I move all over the country because that's what I'm used to. Someday when I have my shit together my husband and I will foster. Of all the places I've lived iliked the shore the most.
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Just FYI, pick up trucks usually need a special box to fit in the truck, not sure if the subs this person has will have that or not. The good news is the subwoofers themselves are the expensive part, not so much the box. So awesome they're willing to send them! Just wanted to mention it in case you needed to plan for a...
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I was worried I was the asshole! This is why I prefer to lurk.
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This vine too! https://vine.co/v/OmT0vvF9JEY
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Remember, after any hard impact, like the one in the video, the helmet needs to be replaced. The helmet shell is designed to crack and deform to absorb the impact and the padding is designed to crush to slow down the skull in an impact. After the impact the shell may appear intact and the padding may appear undamaged, ...
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Such an inspiring story, you did a very good thing.
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I imagine more of, floating on the sea awaiting a flaming arrow.
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> an unholy shit-ton of paperwork What a gorgeous turn of phrase. Must use that in a meeting today.
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Here's an album the dog who currently holds that honored role in our family. Regan is a rescue Great Dane. http://imgur.com/a/0UA6a
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Thanks. He's a great kid.
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Well done!
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Looks like his son has some woodworking skills, could he make his own custom box for his truck?
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I wish more assholes were like the two of you ;-)
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JESUS H. CHRIST. Here I am thinking she's wearing a helmet (coming from that last video) and going, "Oh she's got a helmet on it won't be too bad." Then I see hair, okay, she's a girl, she's got hair. Then I see a scrunchie and I don't see a helmet. WHY ISN'T SHE WEARING A HELMET. Then that sound. Ooo. That's the wo...
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His reflexes were admirable.
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Yes, and those would be great subs to put in a small truck.
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> where were
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Dammit it just isn't my day! Second mistake in a few hours. I can't keep using the 'not a native speaker' excuse forever.
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Comment section is locked as it is becoming increasingly hostile. >It's utterly disturbing how many other dads have chimed in and said nothing short of "boys will be boys" and that ops daughter should just suck it up If anyone ever sees a comment resembling this at all you need to report. We try our best to moderate...
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Just want to add for the dad's out there who are on the fence about having these kinda of discussions with their sons. This isn't just about having conversations about consent and bodily autonomy. It's about the way ego gets wrapped up into sexual behavior. Boys and men attach so much of their self-worth and social acc...
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I have a son and a daughter. They were both taught to value another person's space and rights. My daughter was once "mishandled' by a male student in her 7th grade class.(he grabbed her butt). She proceeded to remove her shoe and beat him until he cried. (He was on the football team). Who was suspended? She was. Was he...
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100%. Spot on. What disturbs me is how many dad have a “boys will be boys” mentality and they have daughters of their own.
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I didn’t read every comment from that post, but I have been thinking about it since reading it. We recently dealt with a similar situation in my family, but with my adult sister. I had her back and confronted the guy, also in our extended family through marriage (complicated), and it was intense. It’s caused a lot of...
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I agree with everything you said. I have a 1 year old daughter and it scares me to think she might have to deal with this one day. What I still struggle with is to know what the correct course of action would be if I ever find myself in the situation that other Dad is in. I suspect that's where a lot of people are at....
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I am step-dad to 4 lads. And 'boys will be boys' is fucking bullshit. Their dad echoes some of these vibes, and I don't tolerate it. 'Boys will be boys' means my daughter and wife should learn to be treated like objects, as if they're not human. Consent, care and respect is something I constantly remind them of. From ...
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I’m a father of a one year old daughter. I agree with you 100%. Thank you for speaking up.
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And kids need to know it’s still considered child porn if they take it themselves and send it to another person their age ETA holy fuck I just went and read the comments and as a mom who was sexually assaulted and who has a daughter AND son I’m really fucking bummed at how some dads are approaching this topic. Fuckkk...
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The timing couldn't have been more appropriate, but this is hot on the heels of the conclusion(?) of the Amanda Todd story here in BC, Canada https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/aydin-coban-amanda-todd-trial-verdict-1.6541210 A monster from the Netherlands started texting with and exploiting sexually expl...
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It can all be summed up in one sentence: “Teach your sons not to be assholes.” If I ever caught one of my boys doing this, you bet your ass I’m coming down on them like a ton of bricks. It’s 2022 and “men” (and some women) are still pulling out the same old bullshit justifications for rape culture. Pull your head out ...
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I'm very glad that I have boys... But I recognize that while they will likely not be on the receiving end of this type of harassment/assault, I have an even greater responsibility to raise my boys to not only never act this way, but to call out those who do, and support anyone one the victim end of this.
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I think its also important to explain that to boys as well. Explain that they are allowed to feel uncomfortable with someone touching them sexually or in general. Boys need to understand its ok for them to speak out about being uncomfortable and not wanting that and if someone is doing that to them that boys can and sh...
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My son is 3 and then now we have been focusing on consent. Right now it's as simple as him being allowed to say no to forms of affection from us. Things as simple as hugs can be denied and we just moved on. It's hard sometimes, I had to leave for a couple months for work this last weekend, I wanted to hug my little boy...
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I read that post and I was impressed with the thoughtful comments that were provided. Are you saying that that thread was full of boys will be boys comments? If those were there then they were downvoted because I didn’t see them. I thought that post “behaved” quite admirably overall.
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Boys will be boys is like my son trying to jump over our fence off the trampoline. Not assaulting girls.
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Raise your boys to respect women. Teach your kids to respect all people, regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, disabilities, mental illness, whatever! People are people and everyone deserves respect.
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As a dad of a 9 week old daughter and a man who was raised by a single mother, thank you for speaking up on this matter. My mother taught me to always respect women. I never had a father figure in my life. So I surrounded myself with great friends and let their dads somewhat teach me how to be a man. The army also help...
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I support this 100%. Perfectly said.
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YES YES YES!!! Not only is it sexual harassment and risky behavior, it’s illegal in some states. I mentioned on the other post that I used to bring in speakers for our cybersecurity group- the favorite was the secret service with the FBI and CISA, statistics show that approximately 80% of explicit photos shared electro...
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Why shouldn’t he be held accountable for his actions?
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I saw your comment in that post and your advice was go to the police. Now, I also have a lite girl and the thought of her being sexually harassed, which she certainly will at some point in her life, also boils my blood. Many boys and men are a direct threat to my little girl and it worries me to my core. However, I...
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100% this! All I can add is that, when we tell our daughters to "suck it up," what's to say that the next time they do that, it isn't when a predator is grooming them for assault or trafficking? When we tell our girls to deal with it or excuse toxic behavior perpetrated by our boys, all we are doing is perpetuating a ...
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I stand by what I said in there. I am certainly not going to excuse the behavior, but some of yall advocating for scorched earth on the kid aren't thinking about how that could affect the daughter. She is the victim, she has a right to have a say in how it's handled, and if she wants to let it go and drop it, you have ...
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Hear hear. Speak out, speak loud.
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I must’ve missed the comments you’re referring to. I feel like the ‘boys will be boys’ thing should apply to rough housing and such, not sending nudes. Also if that were my son I would hope the other parents would tell me first before possibly ruining my kids life via the police.
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I'm sure everyone would agree with you... But what is prompting the rant? Another thread? I feel it a bit out of context here.
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More like assholes will be assholes.. raised by assholes
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Of course that’s bad, but ‘cops and lawyers’ isn’t an appropriate response either.
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Of course you're right, and I'll only say that if it makes you feel better about the awards, I imagine they were mostly free ones that people had from daily promotions or from getting awards themselves. Also they're giving them not necessarily for you to profit but to boost the visibility and credibility of your post...
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Anyone who chimes in with “boys will be boys” do so because their parents also failed them and taught them that this is an acceptable mentality. “Boys will be boys” is valid for kids playing rough with each other or getting into stupid shit and learning some life lessons the hard way. It is not and never should be cons...
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I’ve got 4 sons. Boys will be boys is when they won’t leave each other alone until one of them gets body slammed. Not sexual harassment. And full stop, the ones excusing it as such, are pieces of shit. If this is happening and being brushed off at such a young age, I don’t have high hopes for them as adults.
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As a guy who is about to become a dad this has scared the hell out of me for a number of years. The communication technology available to children and teens nowadays surpasses anything I had access to as a kid or teen by a wide margin. Which means I'm not going to have the experience to know what is and isn't possible ...
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Agree with you completely. And holy shirtballs found that other thread. There’s an awful lot of bad - terrible - outrageous advice in that thread. If you commented in that thread, take a long hard look in mirror. Some of you are waaaaaaaaaay off base.
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The ‘boys will be boys’ dads can get the fuck out of this sub
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All the people in here saying 'I'd call the police' or 'I'd involve the authorities' or 'it's CP, throw away the key' and the like. **FU**. You clearly have no idea how much that shit can ruin someone's life forever. 'Boys will be boys' in regards to harassment is total bullshit, however, we're talking about kids, not ...
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I almost commented on that post but held back. The thing is the boy was wrong and he needs to be educated that it was wrong. But you also have to keep in mind this is a 13 yr old that is just hitting puberty and with hormones, etc. It is normal to experiment with sexuality too. He did something wrong and unwanted but h...
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Police is a way to go. If the other parents won't discipline their child, the police will.
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Throughout my life and previous relationships I've come to find that most womens first sexual experience came by being either forced or pressured into it. Teaching consent is a huge thing for both boys and girls as they grow up. As time goes on they will understand it differently. Teaching them will help protect them...
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I’m a mom but I’m so glad to see this post. Dads need to be teaching their sons not to do this nonsense and teaching their daughters not to put up with it. Yes mom do too, but it needs to be a United front. Also, in a related subject, more dads need to have the porn talk with their kids. Because porn is unrealistic ...
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“Boys will be boys” is a shit statement. It undermines the disgusting behavior of the people that raise those shitty boys. Both parents are responsible for their children’s behavior. It’s all about responsibility and when people say that they are trying to put the blame on society and their inability to raise a child...
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Thank you, thank you, thank you!! Everything you said is 100% spot on! As a woman I agree that if you ask any woman (or even teen), 100% of them will tell you they have been on the receiving end of unwanted advances and worse. I’m NOT saying that a guy asked them out but they weren’t interested. I’m talking about ...
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Listen to Better Men by You, Me, and Everyone We Know
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What... sounds uncharacteristic of this subreddit. I've never heard anyone say those things. And if they did they were downvoted to oblivion.
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Thank You Good sir !
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Agree with you man. The problem is a lot of parents dont even bother to educate their kids anymore thinking that school will do all the job for them. And then When shit appen its not their kids the problem but your wich is educate.
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I'm not a woman but even I was approached/solicited for sexual favors when I was a young boy, and that's why my kids will unfortunately never be a part of the boy scouts organization. It really doesn't matter, boy or girl, talk about correct behavior and expectations - and what to do if somebody ever makes them uncomfo...
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This is a good resource from a local nonprofit in Michigan for teaching kids of different ages about consent and safety: https://www.cac-kent.org/right-time-for-story-time/
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The issue here is the consent piece. All he had to do was say, hey you want to see my penis? If that happened this would be an entirely different conversation. Be he didn’t. I think it’s absolutely a potential teaching moment but people are too wrapped up in the results and not in, what is inherently the right thin...
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As a father of a boy and a girl (U12), I wholeheartedly agree with you. I just wanted to add that the other way around is also entirely unacceptable and both my kids have learned and continue to learn that and why any of this unwanted behaviour will not not go unpunished and that they should also speak up ASAP if it ha...
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100 percent I saw one that said just accept and move on because there was comments stating the parents was laid back. I absolutely assure you no one with a son that did that to my daughter would be laid back over it and trying to tell me it’s no big deal. I found the comment on accepting it due to it being common plac...
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Yeah with a 4 year old girl all I can say is protect yours and teach them right, parents should always seek justice to the fullest extent because if the law protects it binds, if it doesn't protect it doesn't bind.
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100% bang on! I have a 4 month old boy, and before we knew what we were having my wife and I were in target looking at clothes (like way in the future clothes 5-6 yr old stuff just for fun) I was looking at the differences between the cuts for shirts and other such items of clothing, and the one that sticks in my mind ...
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100% right and true homie! My daughter is only 3 weeks old but I've been thinking about this since before she was born, thank you for posting about it, it shouldn't have to be this way but in the world we live in, it is important
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Thank you OP for restoring my faith in this MOSTLY wonderful and supportive group. Saw the conversations that were happening on said post this morning and promptly went outside to cut the grass. The number of fathers saying things along the lines of "if it's only his first time sending unsolicited dick pics, just le...
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Imagine being the toolbag who is more concerned about “rUiNiNG tHe BoYs LifE” rather than a very young teenager receiving an unsolicited disco pic - and thinking you have the moral high ground.
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> It's utterly disturbing how many other dads have chimed in and said nothing short of "boys will be boys" and that ops daughter should just suck it up I didn't see a single comment saying this. This seems like karma farming.
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'God fearing' lol
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If that happened to my daughter I would be bringing it to the police, not just the child’s parents.
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GO TO THE POLICE. If he has done this to your daughter, there is a very real possibility that he has done it to another girl, or might. That picture is a federal crime in the US. The boy made a choice, he now has to live with it. If you do nothing, then you are saying it's okay for this boy to do it to others. I a...
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There is a lot that needs to be taught and explained. One thing I unfortunately had trouble grasping was that consent isn’t a one time thing. It is an every single time thing. And then some. Just because something happened once, does not mean it’s an automatic. I never thought that my troubled past was a “boys will be...
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Yes. We need to move beyond this dumb idea of what masculinity is. On a fb thread someone joked around about losing his “man card” because he got a pedicure . Do people still think like this? Boys will be boys is similar, we can’t excuse behavior like this. We need to do better.
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I have a 4mo son and I’m already planning the respect and boundaries conversations. (Plural) he’s going to be a kind gentle soul I can tell but this will still be a major topic. I too feel that this is frustrating that it needs to be said but 100% yes, it needs to be said. I’m 100% with you my man and I will be teachin...
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All of this dude.
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As a new mom (who has been lurking on this sub since before I was pregnant) holding my 3 month old daughter as she naps on me, thank you all for taking this seriously. Not gonna lie, a tear came to my eye as I read your post OP. So many times as a young woman I've felt so alone when it came to issues like this and whil...
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I agree completely. My son is 9, and my wife and I are doing everything we can to make sure that he never falls into that “boys will be boys” mindset. We’ve talked about bodies being personal and consent, and we’ve read books with him about this idea. He already gets it, so there is no reason teens and adults can’t fig...
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I’ve 2 preteen boys and a toddler girl. My wife is a psychologist training to be a social worker. All we do at home is bang on about consent. Disappointed by the other thread. Especially since I said one thing, got downvoted. Seen that someone had said the same but got upvoted!? I suggested the peers be made aware ...
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Great great great fucking post.
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Someone have a link to this post? What in the fucking fuck? No part of this is acceptable. Dads who roll their eyes when they hear things like "rape culture": THIS IS WHAT PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT WHEN THEY TALK ABOUT RAPE CULTURE
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The crazy thing is that people don't realize this needs to be taught from a very young age. Obviously not explicit detail, but laying the foundations for respect, consent and bodily autonomy. Kids are playing and one goes too far and the other says stop. If they don't stop, it's a great moment to engrain that "stop ...
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After recently dealing with an incident at a doctor's office where my daughter was advanced on, at 3 yrs old, the mentality of "boys will be boys" is about the MOST disgusting thing you can believe in. You deserve the worst Karma fathomable for enabling such DISGUSTING behavior. Boys respect girls, not violate them. ...
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I did not see the other thread, but I do have one issue with what you wrote. I don't believe it has anything to do with being woke, God-fearing or evolved. teaching people not to sexual harass others it's just part of being a decent human being. And if you have the mindset to the contrary then you are stuck in an old t...
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I have 2 sons and when they are old enough they will be taught these lessons. Very well put and I applaud you for calling out the fathers who are still holding onto the childish “boys will be boys” mentality!