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7,101 | daddit | Prior to my son being born, I would have felt sorrow for you. Now, I am sitting her,e my heart in my hand, eyes watering, gut wrenching, wondering how I could every possibly go on with my child in my life. It's unfathomable, and I'm crying at the thought. You are strong. You are so so strong, and so brave. Your son loved you more than anything in the world, and he felt loved. He knew you love him, he felt that every day. My heart breaks for you, Dad. You are wonderful and amazing and a true inspiration to the rest of us. |
7,102 | daddit | Really sorry dad, hang in there. |
7,103 | daddit | I lost my 4 year old son to brain cancer 3.5 years ago. The pain never goes away, you just get used to it. Life will go on, not because you want t to, because it has too. And all the other useless platitudes that will do you no more good than they did me. But know that over time, you DO get used too it. And eventually, slowly, you will start to just remember all the good times. All the shit will fade, the good times won’t. When I think about my son, Atticus, all I remember these days is the stuff before he got sick. All the months in the hospital is background noise to all the days before that. I only remember the crappy parts when I need to, and I am allowing myself to forget it (or at least not dwell on it). Anyway, when my son Atticus died I just wanted to talk to people about it. About him. About how unfair it all was/is. I mean this very very seriously OP, if you want to just talk at someone who will listen. If you just need to tell someone about him. I am a total stranger, but I’ve been there, and I am right here for you. Pm me whenever you like. No need to exchange pleasantries, just launch into it from the off. I want to hear about him. |
7,104 | daddit | My eyes watered bro, I can't process it , My condolences from a fellow dad |
7,105 | daddit | Stay strong, brother. |
7,106 | daddit | I'm so sorry for your loss. |
7,107 | daddit | I send you and you’re family the best thoughts and love. I wish you the power to life long and happy and always remember Conner with a smile and sometimes with tears. |
7,108 | daddit | What a sweet young boy. I hope you and your wife can love and care for eachother on this day, knowing you both were the best parents you could have possibly been for Connor. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure you think about him every day but I hope you can hold tightly to the warmth and joy that you all found together, as a family. It takes a stronger man than I to continue on and honor him continually with each day. Take care. Thank you for sharing the love you have for your son with us. |
7,109 | daddit | How devastating, I am truly sorry. |
7,110 | daddit | My heart breaks for you. I wish you peace. |
7,111 | daddit | Dammit. I’m so sorry. I’m going to hug and kiss my son tonight when he wakes up to move to my bed, instead of being frustrated. I am so so sorry. I can’t imagine. There are no words. |
7,112 | daddit | As a Dad, it’s hard to find the right words sometimes. But know we all got your back. You’re strong. Here’s a post someone made years ago that I’ve kept saved. It’s helped as relatives and friends passed away. — Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents. I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see. As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks. |
7,113 | daddit | So sorry for your loss. |
7,114 | daddit | God Damn My Dude! My most sincere condolences to you. |
7,115 | daddit | You do him justice by honoring his memory. Sending love your way. So sorry for your loss. |
7,116 | daddit | My boy is 2+ and I will hug him extra tight tonight, thinking of you and your family. |
7,117 | daddit | gutted for you. Will give my son an extra tight hug tonight. Hope you’re okay |
7,118 | daddit | Fuck. You make me want to go wake my son up and give him the biggest hug but I’m sick and quarantining in my room. So sorry for your loss. |
7,119 | daddit | I am very sorry to hear about your son, i couldnt imagine the pain and devastation it must had on you and your wife. wish you and your family the best. |
7,120 | daddit | Damn man, my heart is heavy reading that. I’m so sorry for your loss |
7,121 | daddit | Sincere condolences. Best wishes to you and your family. |
7,122 | daddit | I am so sorry for your loss. I will hug my little girl just a little tighter and thank you and your son for the reminder of how precious and fickle life is. I hope you find a way to move on and carry him within. |
7,123 | daddit | So very sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine that pain. This community will always support you in anyway we can. |
7,124 | daddit | I'm so fucking sorry. He deserves the world. You all deserve the world. Connor will be in my thoughts everytime I pick up my boys. I'm sure he is waiting for you wherever we go after. I'm sure he's so proud of you |
7,125 | daddit | I've typed and deleted more times then I can count. There are no words but I'm sorry. Wishing you and your family the strength you need each and every day. |
7,126 | daddit | I have been a dad for almost 3 years now, and although he can be such a pain in the ass to deal with sometimes, seeing and reading your post reminds me that I should be extremely thankful and grateful that I have a beautiful, healthy 2 and a half year old. I cannot begin to imagine the immense suffering that you and your wife and family have gone through, but all I can say is I am so, so sorry for your loss. I hope that whatever happens to us when we leave this earth, that he will be waiting for you with open arms. You brought me to tears, brotha, but I will hug my son extra tight tonight, before I put him in his bed, and keep your son in my thoughts while I’m doing so. Much love from a fellow dad, bro. |
7,127 | daddit | I’m terribly sorry for your loss. Been a dad for a little over a year now and I’ve had some rough patches here and there… reading about situations like this have always brought me sadness but now that I’m a father everything hits differently, I couldn’t imagine how you felt at the time or still do to this day, just reading your story brought that lump in my throat and hot tears down my face. Stay strong sir. |
7,128 | daddit | I’m gonna hug my 20 month old daughter extra hard when she wakes up. |
7,129 | daddit | There is nothing that can replace the absence of someone dear to us, and one should not even attempt to do so. One must simply hold out and endure it. At first that sounds very hard, but at the same time it is also a great comfort. For to the extent the emptiness truly remains unfilled one remains connected to the other person through it. It is wrong to say that God fills the emptiness. God in no way fills it but much more leaves it precisely unfilled and thus helps us preserve -- even in pain -- the authentic relationship. Further more, the more beautiful and full the remembrances, the more difficult the separation. But gratitude transforms the torment of memory into silent joy. One bears what was lovely in the past not as a thorn but as a precious gift deep within, a hidden treasure of which one can always be certain. |
7,130 | daddit | Much love your way, brother. He was taken way too soon. Feel all your feelings and don't be ashamed. No parent should have to go through what you've been through, it is unimaginable. Hang in there. The pain will never go away but it will get easier as time goes on. I'll be thinking of you tonight. Hang in there. |
7,131 | daddit | You didn't mention if you have other kids but if you don't, you will always be a dad and you will always be welcomed here. I'm sorry. This shouldn't happen to anyone. |
7,132 | daddit | I can not stand the pain I feel from you. You are really brave, if you could survive and post this pic. I am proud of you. This makes me love my son more. I don't have anymore words. |
7,133 | daddit | i’m so sorry for your loss, may God of heaven continue to heal your heart |
7,134 | daddit | Just said a quick prayer for you brother. A random person on the internet loves you and is here if you need to talk. |
7,135 | daddit | Well fuck. First post on my feed and all of my worldly concerns are now infantile in comparison to the pain that this pic entails. Dude I want to crush you in a stupid silly bearhug, I'm fuckin crying for you rn. What can people do to comfort a family dealing with such intense anguish? |
7,136 | daddit | Mine would be 32 and 30 this year. Still hurts. You're not alone here. None of us are. It's the shittyist brotherhood to belong to. Not much else to say. |
7,137 | daddit | Love you brother. From another dad. I hope time makes things easier with the pain you and your wife have been experiencing. |
7,138 | daddit | You are infinitely stronger man than I am. I have two little one, youngest being two and your picture broke me. Could not imagine going through the pain you have dealt with, brother. May your son rest in piece. Wish you well. |
7,139 | daddit | My heart is broken for you and your wife. I’m not a religious person, but in case I’m wrong I’ll saying a prayer for peace tonight for you. |
7,140 | daddit | I’m so sorry for your loss. |
7,141 | daddit | I’m sorry, Connor and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. |
7,142 | daddit | Man, I’m lost of words. I cannot imagine the grief and pain that you went through and still goes through. You and your family will be on my prayers tonight. Stay strong brother |
7,143 | daddit | F&@k man this sucks!!!! My son is about to turn two and I can’t even imagine losing him. I’m so sorry for your loss. Nothing any of us will say can ever take the pain away but just know that this thread has your back man. RIP to that little dude. He’s there with you |
7,144 | daddit | Sending love and well wishes to you and your family. It's been almost two and a half years for me and God damn if I have a free moment where my thoughts can drift a bit (showers or long drives mainly) it still hits me and brings me to tears. |
7,145 | daddit | These comments are both gut wrenching and beautiful. I am so sorry for all the loss felt here but the resiliency of all you dads. |
7,146 | daddit | Thank you for sharing such a difficult thing. When faced with this kind of pain I think it's the only thing that can help. You're setting such a good example for all of us, to keep sharing even when it feels like it could destroy us. |
7,147 | daddit | I am so so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through. If you ever need anything I am always here. |
7,148 | daddit | Jesus Christ man, took me 5 minutes of deleting sentences and words over and over just to write a comment. Breaks my fucking heart to see the photo and reading your message. I just want to give you guys a big hug. Keep the good memories alive. |
7,149 | daddit | We love you man!! Always know this community is here for you no matter how many years pass. |
7,150 | daddit | I won't be saying anything that hasn't been said dozens of times already, but I am so terribly sorry for your loss and what you've had to endure, and what you son had to go through. I'm near tears now, feeling deeply in my heart a sense of frightened empathy, because while I cannot truly understand what you and your family have gone through, I know the fear of finding out. Almost certainly none of us in here know you, but know that we are all here for you. "The ones that we love never truly leave us. You can always find them, in [your heart]." - Sirius Black |
7,151 | daddit | I am so so so sorry, man. I can’t imagine how you feel. Legit in tears over this. |
7,152 | daddit | So sorry for your loss. Can’t imagine the pain you and your family have been through. He looks like a sweet little dude who loves his dad very much. He will always be with you. I know words are just words, but I sincerely wish you and your family the best and hope you guys are doing okay. |
7,153 | daddit | My most heartfelt condolences to your family. This is every Father's worst nightmare and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. May you find peace and comfort in the memories and time you had as his father. My heart absolutely breaks thinking of your pain. I wish there was something we as a community could do for you to bring a shred of comfort in this dark time. |
7,154 | daddit | I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine. |
7,155 | daddit | I'll be honest. I don't know if I could do it. God bless you buddy. |
7,156 | daddit | I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you and your family. |
7,157 | daddit | I am so heartbroken for you. Your son was lucky to have been surrounded by so much love from his family during his stint on this floating rock. May the weight you’re carrying be lightened by his memory. |
7,158 | daddit | This kills me, especially since your little guy looks so much like my two year old. Every day, I tell my wife how much I love him (and I tell him too) because it feels like it just wells up in me and has to be expressed or I’ll burst because it’s so strong. I’ll pray for you to have peace as strong as the love you have for him on what must be the toughest day of the year for you. |
7,159 | daddit | I am so sorry for your loss. No parent should ever have to go through something like this. Thanks for the reminder about fleeting and precious every moment is with your child or children. |
7,160 | daddit | I'm so sorry brother. This hurts my heart just seeing this. We're all here for you. |
7,161 | daddit | Aww man. This broke me at work. |
7,162 | daddit | Brother, I can't imagine the pain. The worst thing in the world happened to you. I hope you have found peace. |
7,163 | daddit | Hey Man, I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know how I would go on if I lost my little one. If you need another dad to talk to, hit me up. |
7,164 | daddit | I’m so sorry for your loss, may he Rest In Peace. |
7,165 | daddit | I am so sorry for your loss |
7,166 | daddit | truly sorry! best of wished |
7,167 | daddit | I have pictures of both of my boys in the hospital getting their ear tubes wearing that exact gown. This is absolutely devastating and I just want to go home and hug the shit out of both of them. I'm so sorry that you know what this feels like. I can't fathom. |
7,168 | daddit | The closest thing I have to a metaphysical belief system is simply this: the world is beautiful and sad. The beauty makes the sadness more sad. But the sadness makes the beauty more beautiful. I don’t know if that helps in any way, but for me it’s the only way I can really make sense of the world. Stay strong. |
7,169 | daddit | I’m sorry. |
7,170 | daddit | Nothing I say will help, but I’m so, so sorry. You’ve went through the biggest fear any of us have. I know he showed you what true love is, and I know you’re forever grateful. |
7,171 | daddit | No words. Sorry for your family. May his memory live on. |
7,172 | daddit | I want to say something, but i just dont know what to say. Im sorry. Im dad also. |
7,173 | daddit | Dunno what I can say or do for you other than hope and pray that you find peace and joy again somehow. I think I can speak for the subreddit and say that we all extend our love and support to you and are all thinking of Conner. |
7,174 | daddit | I'm so sorry for your loss |
7,175 | daddit | Sending hugs to dad and mom! |
7,176 | daddit | My younger brother passed at 14. No parent should ever lose a child, it’s just not how it’s supposed to go. I’m so sorry for your loss. We chose the “Godspeed” cover by James Blake for his funeral memorial, and although it’s never an easy song for me to hear, it’s a beautiful one to put on for a good cry. |
7,177 | daddit | I cannot begin to fathom this loss. Please accept my sincerest condolences. - a fellow reddit dad |
7,178 | daddit | This is absolutely devastating. I hope you’ve gotten the help you need, and I have no doubt you’ll carry him with you forever. I’m so sorry for your loss |
7,179 | daddit | I am so sorry for your loss Indymac. I have a little girl and could not imagine a world without her. You are so strong for going through this with your wife and should be incredibly proud of the little man you made together. |
7,180 | daddit | Sweet baby. I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace and serenity. I’m sure not a day goes by that your heart does not ache for him. Big big hugs to you and your family. |
7,181 | daddit | I am sorry, as a new dad omg man… this hurts. |
7,182 | daddit | I’m so sorry for your loss, brother. From one Dad to another, I’m sending you all the love and support I can. Here’s to Connor. |
7,183 | daddit | holy fuck man my heart goes out to you. |
7,184 | daddit | I'm sorry for you loss. Sending love and support |
7,185 | daddit | I’m so sorry, brother. |
7,186 | daddit | I don't know the feeling but must be the hardest thing to ever a parent to go through. Words can not heal you but we are all here for your family and your son. |
7,187 | daddit | Hugging you and your family. |
7,188 | daddit | I can’t even begin to imagine your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. |
7,189 | daddit | You and your wife are strong and courageous. Thank you for sharing your story. |
7,190 | daddit | My son is 2 years old... I'm just looking at your picture and weeping. I'm so sorry. |
7,191 | daddit | This post hit me hard. I am so sorry for your loss. |
7,192 | daddit | I wept from this. I cannot image. I love you all, I hope you find peace. |
7,193 | daddit | I'm gonna go hug my son now, extra tight. So sorry for your loss. And thank you for this post as a reminder how precious life is. |
7,194 | daddit | Great now I’m crying I’m sorry for your loss I could never imagine going thru that. |
7,195 | daddit | I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. |
7,196 | daddit | I can’t even. My heart goes out to you, dad, and to your little boy and to the rest of the family. |
7,197 | daddit | My heart goes out to you and your family brother I lost my cousin to the same terrible diesase about 6 years ago, thanks for sharing your story and raising awareness for this truly awful disease |
7,198 | daddit | My hearth is breaking looking at this little man in the photo. What a cruel world it can be sometimes. |
7,199 | daddit | he's gone to seek out the next great adventure like the brave little soul he is. my heart aches for you. i hope you & yours experience nothing but love and light x |
7,200 | daddit | My heart goes out for you and yours. I'm so sorry |
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