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7,312,401 | mommit | Bless you, no one can prepare you for these things so you HAVE to value your self-worth enough to know you deserve better and that you CAN do better for yourself and your family. I am sure you've got your head screwed on straight, it will take time for you to heal but you WILL heal and you WILL get through it. I'm here... |
7,312,402 | mommit | Yeah, once he has court ordered weekends or weeks of fulltime parenting, or is paying the equivalent extra to not provide those breaks, that's when you get to have time off. He's having a blast now, but once he sees a lawyer and realizes the costs and the actual time he will have to be a solo parent now, I think he'll... |
7,312,403 | mommit | Also find a way to make this the best thing that ever happened to you. Babies like music festivals (just maybe not CERTAIN ones), babies LOVE those hiking backpacks and bike seats and baby wraps so you can do all kinds of stuff with them. That being said it takes a lot of energy and if you're suffering PPD or feeling d... |
7,312,404 | mommit | See if you can fill out a release of liability form for the car so you aren’t on the hook for the payments or anything to do with the car. I’m not sure if you can if you still co-own it. Are you both on the loan? |
7,312,405 | mommit | And don’t stop documenting *even if* he behaves well. Good documentation overall makes you look thorough and organized. What if he suddenly does another 180? You can’t rely on him being consistent. That’s not so much of a judgement of him, but it’s more of a fail-safe for you and your child. It’s horrible to go aro... |
7,312,406 | mommit | Good! |
7,312,407 | mommit | My ex-husband did the exact same thing. In my case, there was most definitely someone else. He was no longer interested in having the family we planned and wanted to hang out and party. I know you said you trust him, but you might want to try and verify it. If this is a sudden and odd change of behavior, it’s likely t... |
7,312,408 | mommit | Did you ask if he *wants to be with* someone else? He could be planning to pursue someone. |
7,312,409 | mommit | Just be careful, they all say that |
7,312,410 | mommit | Sounds like he doesn’t want to not go out. Self absorbed. |
7,312,411 | mommit | He might have been worried about the future. If he is unhappy now he would grow to resent you in the future and probably cause a lot of fights which would not be good for the child to be around. I know it’s shitty but if this is all genuine, I do respect him for leaving instead of cheating or emotionally neglecting you... |
7,312,412 | mommit | And I get that feeling. I definitely have my moments where I miss my old life and question if I should have become a mom. But I chose this. I have a responsibility to my husband and son. Your soon to be ex has a very weak character. You’re better off in the long run without this “man”. Get a good lawyer to help you mak... |
7,312,413 | mommit | As for ruining the parent-child relationship... he might do that himself. It sounds like he can't handle the responsibility of being a parent and if he's already bragging about all the 'fun' stuff he can do without having a kid now, that's... sad. |
7,312,414 | mommit | He is in for a shock! |
7,312,415 | mommit | Yeah your right that sounds better! Lawyer would know exactly what to do, the way I said to do it would warn him. Listen to ferndoll lawyer first. |
7,312,416 | mommit | Need to be in a one-party recording state and not in a place where there may be an expectation of privacy (bathroom, possible bedroom). Not sure about any exceptions for spouse that may protect him, but it’s been a decade since I’ve looked at this kind of stuff. |
7,312,417 | mommit | If it’s in his name, you owe him not another dime! |
7,312,418 | mommit | Your mantra is powerful to all of us. |
7,312,419 | mommit | Both you and OP are strong ass women! I'm proud of both of you. You got this. |
7,312,420 | mommit | Yes girl! You’re awesome! |
7,312,421 | mommit | I am lucky enough to be starting a new job soon that scares the bejeezus out of me and we are trying to buy a house and trying for a second. I think I might Co opt is anyone is cut out for this it's me for my first semester as a college professor. |
7,312,422 | mommit | Yes and no. Depends on the length of the marriage and the amount of actual martial assets. If nothing was ever co-mingled then nope neither party is entitled to anything the other has. |
7,312,423 | mommit | This is exactly what happened to my ex he knocked up the first girl he hooked up with after cheating on me and ending our marriage. I’m the one going on luxurious trips, concerts, etc. while he is stuck at home with our two kids and a newborn |
7,312,424 | mommit | That, and you need to take the max custody money amd save some for future expenses your child might need. Whether it be educational, medical, sports/clubs, etc. The money is for the kid. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, but I hope you are strong and resilient for your babe and yourself. |
7,312,425 | mommit | Agreed. Take the full amount you are entitled to! |
7,312,426 | mommit | And he’s going to stay with co workers. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made some very close friends at work. However they usually aren’t my first place to run |
7,312,427 | mommit | Exactly |
7,312,428 | mommit | I asked if he had feelings for someone else and he said no. I was planning to ask more if he had said yes, but I left it at that |
7,312,429 | mommit | Yeah I'm starting to think more on it. I guess I just denied it because I didn't want to know the truth, but there were patterns that are hard to ignore |
7,312,430 | mommit | It really is. He was so excited to have a family and so excited to be a dad. Now that it actually takes work and we are at difficult time in our life, he wants to bail. He's not looking toward the future in a sensible way. It's like he thinks we'll never move out of my parents' house and the baby will never get older... |
7,312,431 | mommit | Fuxk yeah. Tell yourself several times a day, also out loud, in the mirror, while you’re crying in the bathroom at 2am. Maybe with your sunglasses on. Maybe not. I’ve learned this past year that I’m supposed to be leaning in to challenges, instead of leaning out. It took me until my 30s to really grasp that concept. An... |
7,312,432 | mommit | Depends on the state. In Texas, unless there is a prenup, she would get half of houses, cars, savings accounts, stocks/bonds etc. |
7,312,433 | mommit | You can actually outline in the custody agreement that a certain parent is responsible for x education fees or y percentage of club and sport fees. I would go ahead and twist his arm into being responsible for all, or at least a majority, of any upcoming things for kiddo (e.g. play gym fees, children's museum membershi... |
7,312,434 | mommit | Totally. My ex told me the same thing (staying with a friend from work). He was living with his new girlfriend and I was abandoned with a one year old. This is super fishy. |
7,312,435 | mommit | Gotcha. I hope he is being honest. But I'll reiterate what everyone else said - don't fold, don't go soft. Get a great lawyer who will help you outline a very detailed parenting plan, including what I mentioned to someone above about getting your husband to cover education and recreation fees (childcare, too). That way... |
7,312,436 | mommit | My ex swore up and down he didn’t cheat (if he’s to be believed I guess he never stuck his penis in her vagina until the day after he asked for a divorce). Anyway I looked through his texts and saw emotional affair type texts going back 6 months. He was pissed I called him a cheater to all our friends and pretended t... |
7,312,437 | mommit | True. |
7,312,438 | mommit | Yeah I asked him before he told me he was done if he was cheating or had cheated (intuition, I guess) and he said no. Later he came to me saying that he really hurt his feelings that i would think that. I see it now that he was more upset that I was catching on and he was projecting. That is, if he really is cheating |
7,312,439 | mommit | Even if he wasn’t - he’s *leaving you* and has the gall to cry about how you hurt his feelings by asking that. Self absorbed much? |
7,312,440 | mommit | You have no idea. Earlier this week, he complained that I'm just treating him like some guy now. WHAT EXACTLY DID HE EXPECT |
7,312,441 | mommit | Offf, I’m sorry, so much of this sound like my ex husband, but we didn’t have kids. I think I said this already but just be careful. He sounds like he wants you to wait for him on the sidelines. There will be a time where he comes back or starts testing the waters with you .don’t fall for it. A normal person will init... |
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7,312,443 | mommit | moms- finding solutions since the beginning of time! |
7,312,444 | mommit | I had a similar issue in my old house. The sink was too small to bathe my 1.5 year old in, so I bought the biggest plastic tote that could fit in the walk in shower and used that |
7,312,445 | mommit | I aspire to one day mom as hard as you. |
7,312,446 | mommit | Necessity is the mother of all invention! And quite often it’s mothers doing the inventing :) |
7,312,447 | mommit | Similarly, the shower pan in my stand up shower is 4 inches which is coincidentally the exact amount of water for my 8 month old right now. I just plug the drain and let him splash around. |
7,312,448 | mommit | This is great! Question though, how do you empty it without making a complete mess?? |
7,312,449 | mommit | Omg you just changed my 38 weeks pregnant with #2 life! Our bathroom where the tub is has sliding glass doors and the layout blocks any kind of comfortable way of bathing my 3 year old. I already dread bath time and was trying to figure out how to add in a second kiddo once he's too big for a sink bath. But we have a s... |
7,312,450 | mommit | Genius! |
7,312,451 | mommit | If it's stupid and it works, it ain't stupid. |
7,312,452 | mommit | Genius!! |
7,312,453 | mommit | r/redneckengineering I mean that in the most sincere way. I love this idea! |
7,312,454 | mommit | I bought a large flat plastic stopper for my shower. My daughter was able to bathe in about 4" of water this way. So much easier to deal with than a full bathtub. |
7,312,455 | mommit | Wow! This is amazing!! lol. Freaking crafty! |
7,312,456 | mommit | We’re buying a house and the ONLY problem is the lack of a tub. I may take a page out of your book and try this! |
7,312,457 | mommit | My 8 month old is just about to outgrow her baby tub and we only have showers in our place, so I have been trying to figure out a solution. This just might be it!! Thank you for sharing! |
7,312,458 | mommit | mom hack ftw! |
7,312,459 | mommit | We just used a plastic storage crate inside the shower |
7,312,460 | mommit | This is genius!! |
7,312,461 | mommit | Omg this is genius |
7,312,462 | mommit | haha My shower is like this. We have toddler still in her little tub from when she was a baby and we have a shower head with a sprayer so we've been lowering it down and making a tiny shower for her to get used to that. I wish I could convince DH to do this though. Looks fun! |
7,312,463 | mommit | Genius!! |
7,312,464 | mommit | Holy crap, my shower is just like this but with a sliding door. This could be my saving grace with my bath-hating toddler! |
7,312,465 | mommit | Save yourself the trouble. You could just shower with the kids and avoid all of that |
7,312,466 | mommit | Thanks! My favourite thing about this is that it fits both of my kids at the same time and once you close the door the floor stays dry :) (at least until they get out...) |
7,312,467 | mommit | I like to call it mom-gineering |
7,312,468 | mommit | nah, Macgyver would have simply blocked the drain so there are a couple centimeters of water in the shower base. Then put a towel or two under the baby so he doesn't have to feel the cold ceramic. |
7,312,469 | mommit | Genius! |
7,312,470 | mommit | Ain't that the truth |
7,312,471 | mommit | That sounds a lot easier than this haha |
7,312,472 | mommit | Thank you, I do have my moments sometimes |
7,312,473 | mommit | I tried to do that at first too, but the drain in our shower is designed in a way that is impossible to plug. I was half way into designing a rubber cup type cover when it dawned on me to just use a kiddie pool :) |
7,312,474 | mommit | Veery slowly :) I Just pull one side up so the water can go around to the drain, then I Just hang it on the shower head to dry. |
7,312,475 | mommit | Glad I could help :) |
7,312,476 | mommit | As a wise man once said - if there is a will, there is a way :) |
7,312,477 | mommit | No problem, this is exactly why I though of posting this |
7,312,478 | mommit | I would happily just stick to them taking showers, only problem is that they hate showering, especially the youngest, the noisy water scares her. Besides, the stall is pretty small, even for a one grownup. Even if, I wouldn't want to take away the fun, bath play time is the coolest |
7,312,479 | mommit | You could also buy those especially build for shower bases, but as yours is not standard I doubt it would fit. |
7,312,480 | mommit | My husband had a stroke of genius and realized the baby’s silicone placemat would plug our drain. Whatever works! |
7,312,481 | mommit | Well you have this well documented so your kids can see some day what kinda things you did for them to make them happy (amongst many other things I’m sure) |
7,312,482 | mommit | My shower is about 80cm, so you're probably right. Sadly I'm from eastern Europe so I highly doubt it would be even availible where I live :) Also - this has costed me less than 10 $ So it's pretty budget friendly, custom ones would be probably more expensive. |
7,312,483 | mommit | I have a pretty standard shower stall how do I get one of these? I don’t even know what to search |
7,312,484 | mommit | This is just a kiddie pool |
7,312,485 | mommit | On Amazon a search for shower baby bathtub should do it I guess |
7,312,486 | mommit | I know this one is but there looks to be specific ones made to be used in the shower |
7,312,487 | mommit | Looks like she slightly deflated it to fit the corners better. Seems like a standard small kiddie pool just deflated and bent. |
7,312,488 | mommit | I genuinely do not understand the humor of these parents. “Hahaha do you get it? It’s a sexual innuendo about our 4 year old and dicks, hahahaha.” What the absolute fuck |
7,312,489 | mommit | Did a search for “toddler chicken” to find a cute outfit or toy for a birthday party coming up and… yeah.. |
7,312,490 | mommit | I found a shirt once that said “too sexy for my diaper”. So not only is the word “sexy” on the clothing of an infant but they are implying that the infant should be naked while wearing it. Pedos make these clothes. |
7,312,491 | mommit | This made me laugh and be very sad, because my husband doesn't believe me when I tell him clothes for girls and boys are very different. Can't wait to send this to him as a joke saying I got this outfit to see his reaction |
7,312,492 | mommit | There’s a time and a place for sexual innuendos, but never if it involves children. This is gross. |
7,312,493 | mommit | Fowl |
7,312,494 | mommit | Who would choose to spend money on this and then actually dress their child like this? Babies and toddlers are actual human beings and not just the butt of a stupid (harmful) joke. |
7,312,495 | mommit | This is not ok. Can you report it on the site? |
7,312,496 | mommit | Willing to bet this is from Etsy. They have a wealth of inappropriate sexual innuendos on clothes for children. |
7,312,497 | mommit | Please tell me this is fake. |
7,312,498 | mommit | I thought this was an ad, I was about to report it. Yuck |
7,312,499 | mommit | That’s gross… |
7,312,500 | mommit | Whoever created this can go burn in hell, thanks. |
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