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8,401 | daddit | So I should blame my tinnitus on my kids? |
8,402 | daddit | So seriously guys foam earplugs make you a better parent. I throw them in when things get too loud. You can still hear but it makes it much easier to stay calm. |
8,403 | daddit | Well at least you know their lungs are healthy. Let’s swap this negative to a positive. |
8,404 | daddit | Does that mean the babies are doing damage to their own hearing too |
8,405 | daddit | Oh man, I feel this… |
8,406 | daddit | Haha I also got an Apple Watch recently after having a baby, her record so far is over 110 decibels. |
8,407 | daddit | And my wife wonders why I get fight-or-flight during screaming like this. Thank God it got better over time, between enduring it and her doing it less. |
8,408 | daddit | My wife would hit 90 snoring when she was pregnant. Thankfully baby is pretty chill. |
8,409 | daddit | I am so, so glad our daughter was not a big crier. Basically "[Hey you guys](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Vv5CsP1pAg), I'm hungry" and that's about it, hunger satiated and she was quiet as a mouse. |
8,410 | daddit | The fun part is when you're holding them and they do that directly in your ear. I made it 12 years in the trades with no hearing damage, but 2 kids later and I have the loudest tinnitus on the planet. |
8,411 | daddit | I’m dead. Welcome to parenthood. Congrats on your beautiful baby. You will learn to love the noise. |
8,412 | daddit | Earplugs. You're welcome. |
8,413 | daddit | I remember my oldest even when he cried as a baby for every usual thing wasn’t loud at all. However when he was wide awake and just doing normal baby stuff he once had a split second ear breaking shriek that freaked us all out and made us wonder what the hell happened to him. |
8,414 | daddit | Please get yourself a noise cancelling headset for you and your wife. You cannot be calm and soothing to a kid if you're in pain. Source: am father. I use: https://www.bose.com/en\_us/support/products/bose\_headphones\_support/bose\_around\_ear\_headphones\_support/qc2.html |
8,415 | daddit | Can you hear anything now? Lol |
8,416 | daddit | Wait till your toddler is screaming in the bathtub. |
8,417 | daddit | Yeah turn that kid down bud! |
8,418 | daddit | Foam ear plugs, man. They revolutionized how I handled my upset children. You can still hear them, of course, but it takes it down to a level where you can stay calm and work with them. Less adrenaline and cortisol makes for a calmer dad, and so calmer kids. I can’t recommend earplugs or earmuffs enough. |
8,419 | daddit | wait till she turns 2 and starts screaming directly into your ear when you pick her up and move her away from something dangerous she really wanted… |
8,420 | daddit | It’s like the people who keep harping about “make sure you get 8 hours of solid sleep to stay healthy”. Yeah thanks I gave that up years ago |
8,421 | daddit | I'm following this in case Apple releases a hot fix for baby crying. |
8,422 | daddit | Suddenly I feel justified in my decision to wear earplugs during the purple period of crying. My wife mostly understood. My sisters thought I was a nut. Hey, if earplugs might help prevent shaken baby syndrome, then I'm gonna use them. |
8,423 | daddit | Lmao this is amazing |
8,424 | daddit | That’s hilarious |
8,425 | daddit | #Deadlife |
8,426 | daddit | It doesn’t get any quieter as they get older. Only louder, my kids are 9 and 6 and it stays around 80-90 lol. Surprisingly my daughter is just as loud as my son. |
8,427 | daddit | I get this one all the time |
8,428 | daddit | Another reason why i just put my headphones in. Can't hear her cry but can still take care of her calmly without losing my mind or my hearing. |
8,429 | daddit | Our 4 month old is the loudest being I've ever experienced. When I'm holding her and she's at her most upset I can hear my hearing distort. I've never felt that before. |
8,430 | daddit | no joke. sometimes baby's cries would ring my ear. |
8,431 | daddit | Pick up the baby scooter. |
8,432 | daddit | noise dampening headphones made the world of difference between my first and second kid |
8,433 | daddit | Every Dad here that actually takes care of their children has experienced this, and truly it is a feat of strength to over come the noise and the exhaustion. |
8,434 | daddit | I legit have hearing damage from my children. A massive screaming event triggered my hearing damage from my younger years shooting guns without hearing protection. Apparently something can just set off the damage and make it happen. I’ve now got 70% of my hearing loss in mostly my left ear at high frequencies and some in my right. Mostly I can’t hear high shrills anymore and areas with lots of people (think college bar) I can’t make out words. #dadlife Protect your ears. Do it now. Don’t be a 39 year old with hearing loss on the cusp of needing hearing aids. //edit oh yah I have tinitus now too. Sucks ass. You get used to it but man cmon. |
8,435 | daddit | This is the hardest I've laughed all day. Thank you. |
8,436 | daddit | [(Mawping Intensifies)](https://y.yarn.co/ab9f1fb8-ea5a-465b-ba58-7d5604d23c51_text.gif) |
8,437 | daddit | So that's why many parents have horrible hearing. It makes sense now lol. |
8,438 | daddit | Time to buy airports lol |
8,439 | daddit | Yes, justify the dad tax on journey snacks with it at the very least |
8,440 | daddit | I do ;) that little would put his mouth on my ear and scream now its all **EEEEEEEEEEEE**EEEEEEEEEEEEEEE^(EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE) |
8,441 | daddit | WHAT? |
8,442 | daddit | +1 to this. Direct screaming into your ear hole for an hour can make you snap. Take care of your mental health with any hack you can. |
8,443 | daddit | I discovered this when I left my noise cancelling wireless earbuds in one time and had to get up in the middle of the night. Suddenly it was almost an enjoyable & “easy” bonding experience to tend to our child at odd hours. |
8,444 | daddit | Vocal chords are operational. |
8,445 | daddit | My daughter has been so loud her whole 15mo life, I just keep telling myself it'll be better after she starts getting vocal lessons... If she is gonna be loud, it's gonna sound good |
8,446 | daddit | In public I let parents of loud toddlers know at least the kid will never get lost |
8,447 | daddit | Temporary hearing loss sure is helpful due to all this noise! |
8,448 | daddit | Thank you, little one, for telling me that you were uncomfortable. I’ll run through my checklist to figure out what is wrong. Are you hungry, tired, in need of a diaper change, in need of holding and rocking, in need of attention/playtime, or have gas and need a better position? |
8,449 | daddit | One time I (mom) was carrying the crying baby, trying to shush her, and walked up to my husband. I said something to him, and he goes, "WHAT?" because he couldn't hear me over her crying. I raised my voice and said, "They say if you have to raise your voice to speak over it, it's too loud for the baby." He responded, also with a raised voice, "Oh! We should tell her that so she doesn't damage her own hearing!" |
8,450 | daddit | [deleted] |
8,451 | daddit | Ear muffs, ear muffs, ear muffs. They are a life saver. Takes 60% of the sting off. You are biologically wired to dump your adrenaline when you hear that scream so the fight or flight instinct is working fine and well. EDIT - By earmuffs, I mean muffs that actually reduce the dB rating of incoming noise. Not just noise cancelling ones. |
8,452 | daddit | I could handle my kid crying most of the time. It was the 'baby cries, now wife gets an adrenaline rush and yells I must be doing something wrong' one-two that gave me those dreaded fight-or-flight reactions. |
8,453 | daddit | What about during teething though? |
8,454 | daddit | >You will learn to love the noise. Almost 4 months in, when does this happen? lol |
8,455 | daddit | god why do they do that?! It's so much immediate rage-enducing pain |
8,456 | daddit | >Take care of your mental health I tried explaining this to my wife because she says i have issues because i put headphones in when the baby screams. I do it to stay calm and can still take care of her. Told her im trying to take care of my mental health. She says "i dont care" sigh.. |
8,457 | daddit | Test successful but duration exceeds necessary parameters |
8,458 | daddit | Goliath online |
8,459 | daddit | Food, diaper, clothes, pain meds for teeth First 18months, it's always one of those things (assuming gas and indegestion have been ruled out) |
8,460 | daddit | Lol seriously |
8,461 | daddit | sounds like a hack to me |
8,462 | daddit | Ummmm so no then? Lol not much of that makes sense to me but I guess the ear protects them when they scream? |
8,463 | daddit | [deleted] |
8,464 | daddit | Related: I had an interesting project at work a few years back, working to reduce and monitor objectionable noises produced by automotive seat adjustment motors: Warble, discord, sound pressure, pitch, pitch change, loudness in specific frequency bands, etc. We had a jury panel of listeners comparing the automated score from the machine to their subjective score. Our acoustic expert remarked that adult hearing and infant cries are mutually tuned to produce maximum scores for awful make-it-stop impulse. And, indeed, playing back my son's cries into the machine, they had the exact 1.5 Hz warbling loudness, multi-tone discord, gradual pitch increase, and extreme loundess of the very worst panel scores of poorly lubricated and poorly molded plastic gears and motors...but turned up by a factor of 10. |
8,465 | daddit | Musicians in-ears, designed so i can hear the mix I need to play well without our hard-hitting metal drummer deafening me. Even my wife bought a pair and said after her first day with them that they should be covered by insurance. |
8,466 | daddit | [If you want “real” hearing protection, which is unnecessary for children of course, but is useful for power tools or firearms](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CPCHBCQ) |
8,467 | daddit | >now wife gets an adrenaline rush and yells I must be doing something wrong Last night the baby started crying for 2 seconds, mom ran out and gave me a death stare like i was doing something wrong. Like i cant take care of my own child. She stopped crying immediately after changing positions. Stopped crying before mom even got into the room. |
8,468 | daddit | Didn't even care, not one bit. Cut her first teeth at six months and didn't complain about it at all. Didn't even chew on stuff or respond to teething rings. No drooling, nothing. We might have the easiest baby ever. I say that as she's definitely getting headstrong at 30 months and at regular frequency a "no" is met with cry/whimpering and going to hide under the table for... reasons? And it seems I've already partially forgotten how much she *hated* being in the car seat, she's gotten better, but definitely has a 30 minute limit. |
8,469 | daddit | No one ever warns you about the teething. |
8,470 | daddit | When that little noise machine isn’t there you’ll feel like the sky is falling |
8,471 | daddit | I feel you, I’ve gotten the same comments and it’s frustrating. Truth is men have more natural aggression, and we have to be even more careful than even we understand. It’s better to know your limitations than try to be perfect all the time and have one moment where you lose it. |
8,472 | daddit | Sounds like you better put ear plugs in when she screams, too. |
8,473 | daddit | I have had successful results in the past adjusting the duration with nourishment. Further troubleshooting is sometimes needed. |
8,474 | daddit | Oh yeah, the rotation through those is ingrained... This lil girl just likes being loud. She has started doing lip trills and trying to mimic my friend's vocal warm ups, so that's a start. |
8,475 | daddit | > pain meds for teeth Back in my parents day they just rubbed whiskey on the kids gums. lol |
8,476 | daddit | [deleted] |
8,477 | daddit | Omg it’s the only way I got through it! Glad I’m not the only one who needed headphones because their baby is part banshee. |
8,478 | daddit | Most definitely. [These are the ones I use.](https://ads.midwayusa.com/product/101712898) |
8,479 | daddit | My sister calls those "trick babies". Cause they trick you into having another |
8,480 | daddit | Count your lucky stars! That’s great. Also I just saw your username and laughed my ass off at work. |
8,481 | daddit | >No drooling, nothing. You're living the dream |
8,482 | daddit | Jesus that was 2 months ago lol |
8,483 | daddit | Reading this makes me feel so much better about how I feel when my little ones go apeshit. When they scream, as if we tossed them into boiling oil, it's like a fight or flight response is triggered and I feel anger boiling up. It's so hurtful and hard. The first time I tried using earplugs, I got none of those feelings, and were able to take care of the kids without any issues at all. Really gotta find some earplugs I can use more frequently for these occasions. |
8,484 | daddit | The right soundscape might help |
8,485 | daddit | True but a tired cry is usually distinctive per kid, so I tend not to list that one. |
8,486 | daddit | And my wife said **i have issues** because i put headphones in when she screams. Really glad I'm not the only one who does this. It's much better than losing my mental health. |
8,487 | daddit | Nope, one and done, we're old as shit. Got snipped. |
8,488 | daddit | We call them propaganda babies over here. |
8,489 | daddit | In most cases, the next baby will be even easier. I think that's how that works. |
8,490 | daddit | Definitly. And then all hell will break lose! |
8,491 | daddit | [I try to entertain.](https://i.redd.it/lv00gjfab4n21.jpg) And there's lots of stuff to look forward to. Infant poops are so easy to deal with. Homegirl had a full-on Randy Marsh record breaking turd last night, same shape and everything. I'm betting at least one Couric. |
8,492 | daddit | I use either [loop ear plugs](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MFH1TTJ/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_9JKR4YZSYENT9THH52XJ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1) or just ear buds with calming music playing when my baby is screaming and it helps a lot. The only downside with the loop plugs is that they're really small and easy to lose, but they're super comfy even for sleeping in |
8,493 | daddit | I see the headphones as preventing myself from having issues... lol. |
8,494 | daddit | One night we had a long 2 hour drive home. Baby was crying because she didn't want to be in the car seat. Nothing we could do to get her to stop, wouldn't eat, diaper was fine. i had to put headphones in to focus on driving and to not get flustered. But she says i have issues because i do that. Says that's "not normal". |
8,495 | daddit | How is it not normal? Human brains are wired to respond to a baby crying. Even if you don't need to respond, it's still going to activate your brain in that way. I would say it's less "normal" to have perfect concentration on other things when a baby is crying. |
8,496 | daddit | My 4 year old son is often very loud while doing bath/bed time. It’s not uncommon for me to have my AirPods in with noise canceling on for hours at a time. For me, evening is when I’m already tired and drained of energy. My patience gets shorter, but i just cut the noise a bit, it’s more bearable. |
8,497 | daddit | Stay strong. Things get better. Your daughter will appreciate you. |
8,498 | daddit | Same boat here. He was 18 months. Now, 7. It's been a time that I would not trade for the world. I got to experience all of the 0 to 5 years. Get paperwork now if you don't already. Trust me, it will help when she decides to pop up and give you hell for whatever reason. |
8,499 | daddit | [deleted] |
8,500 | daddit | Hey man, my wife left my daughter and I when she was 9 months old. She's getting ready to turn 4 and it's still just the 2 of us. I'm not going to lie, it's hard. Dealing with the heartache and still raising a little one on your own is something nobody should have to go thru. What I can tell you is you're going to form a bond with that little girl that would not have been possible if you didn't go thru this. Stay strong and just know that you're going to get thru this and your daughter is so lucky to have you. Feel free to hit me up any time. |
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