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daddit
You’re a GD legend. She is now the woman in your life and treat her like a queen. You got this.
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Hey, man, been somewhere similar and I feel for you. Remember that you're the best possible dad when you're healthy and happy, so make sure you're taking care of yourself and your physical and mental health needs. There's no shame in reaching out for help if you ever feel like you may need it. It's amazing what good counseling and some daily exercise will do your your outlook on things. You're the best thing that will ever happen in your little one's life. You can do this! Godspeed, good sir!
8,503
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You got this bro. Honestly better now then later.
8,504
daddit
Pretty sure wife is cheating on me now - we have a 2.5 year old little girl. In the words of the Simpsons “do it for her.”
8,505
daddit
Hey dad! Things happens. But even without her you have everything that matters right in front of you. You little girl looks strong just like her dad!
8,506
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She may have left but she's left the best things behind. You and your gorgeous daughter. It may not seem it right now but you will be better off without someone who can do that to people. You've got the best reason in the world to keep smiling, it'll be hard some days but it will get better. You can do this!
8,507
daddit
Same thing happened to me and my 2 year old daughter It's hard but gets better
8,508
daddit
Believe me my dude, its far better off with her doing a runner. If she stayed there's a good chance she'd mess your kid up due to her own feelings. The one bit of advice I'd give is give yourself a day or two for it to hit home, but then you gotta be Dad and start taking care of the official shit like custody and next-of-kin. If you don't, shit can turn messy real fast
8,509
daddit
My wife walked out on my daughter and I and we've made it. She is currently a Junior and very happy. Just keep your focus and stay determined. You've got this, duder.
8,510
daddit
Hope you get full custody in the divorce. There's still a lot of work to be done in front of you but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Wishing you the best, my man.
8,511
daddit
[You're already an amazing dad](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/62/1f/3b/621f3b2135b528a0a1f99547e5075136.png) I only know a little bit of how you feel - my first wife cheated on me that led to our divorce. As you said in another post, it felt like the woman I loved died overnight and was replaced by this other person that I didn't know and also resented. I was blessed that we didn't have kids, because that changes everything. I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter now, who I would move the moon through the sky for, and I thank God I don't have to do it alone. But my love for her would carry me through the worst of times. That's what's going to keep you going as well. My goodness, look at that little face. All she knows in the world right now is she loves you and you make her feel safe and happy. It's a great place to start. Everything will get better, but that doesn't at all diminish how awful you might feel right now. I hope you're able to grieve properly on your own, but the rewards for this on the other end will make it worth it I promise that.
8,512
daddit
Stay strong, fellow dad. Your daughter will be the best part of your life.
8,513
daddit
I'm so sorry man. Now that I'm a parent I look at single parents in a whole new light. I felt impressed by it before, but now I have more of an understanding of how difficult it must be. Just, all of the little tasks that are manageable with two people, but so much more complicated with one. We were taking groceries upstairs when we lived in our apartment. It occured to me then, as my wife carried the baby and I carried the groceries like, how the fuck do you do this with one person? Do you leave the baby in the car? Do you leave the baby in the house? Do you take the baby back and forth, carrying a couple bags at a time? It just kind of mind fucked me, and it gained me a whole new respect as I thought about it. So, all that is to say, my hat is off to you man, and you have my utmost respect. Really and truly. I hope that, if and when the time is right, you find someone who will love you and your little one the way your ex was supposed to.
8,514
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She’ll probably come back around. Don’t let her in.
8,515
daddit
You got this dude. Stay strong, keep rocking the dad life!
8,516
daddit
I'm sure you don't need to rant to an internet rando, but my DMs are open if you (or anybody) needs!
8,517
daddit
Your situation sounds very much like mine. I am a single dad with two daughters, now 8 and 9. You're going to do great chief. Improve yourself and your surroundings, one step at a time. Don't let yourself become buried in depression, and an overwhelming amount of backed up chores. Just keep pushing through it, while telling yourself that your daughter and your future self will absolutely be grateful for your efforts. Keep your chin up bud. It can get better from here if you make it.
8,518
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You got this, man. Reach out if you need to chat.
8,519
daddit
Fuck her, bro. I'm in the same boat. Our 5 year old son has luekemia but I discovered my wife has having an affair on July 4th. At least your wife fucking left. My wife is still in the house and trying to get custody of our son. It's literally hell on earth!! We were together 14 years. > Its like the woman I loved just died overnight and was replaced. I feel this. I've been calling my wife "the reptilian" because it was like she was replaced with a lizard person. I've been saying they killed the women I loved a year ago and replaced her. It seriously feels like that. If you need to talk, hit me up in PMs. I lost 22 pounds in 2 weeks on the heartbreak diet, so I know the pain youre currently going through. Workout plan of laying on the bathroom floor crying. 5 reps, 10 sets a day.
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Dude, do it. FIGHT FOR IT! My ex left me for another woman when my son was barely a year old. I moved her out of the house and kept the baby home with me. Raised him by myself with the help of friends while working full time, it was insanity, but it got better. My best friend started helping out, threw him his second birthday party, visited (from 1,000 miles away) more often than biomom did. Just before he turned 3, him and I moved down to Florida to live near my family, and she moved in with us. I put a ring on her the next Christmas, and she adopted him in 2019 right after his 8th birthday. He’s 9 now and we haven’t heard from biomom in about six years. He has a good life, he has a loving mother who’s there for him every day, and he will always have me. FIGHT IT! Claim custody, lawyer up, PROTECT HER. She’s beautiful and precious, and the most important job you have now is to keep her safe. You got this, brother! We’re all here for you!
8,521
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You are an amazing man. Maximum respect. If you ever want to chat baby care feel free to drop me a line. I was a SAHD for my little one from 4 months to a year. Stay strong my dude and I'd encourage you to follow some of the advice from others and talk to a lawyer.
8,522
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I’ve been there. It does get better. Just focus on her and it gets easier to deal with. Avoid saying toxic stuff about mom around her even if she doesn’t understand you yet. It is a good way to avoid becoming bitter divorced dad around your kid.
8,523
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Lemme know if you need anything.
8,524
daddit
As someone who basicly went through that 2.5 years ago, I relate. If you need to talk I'm here for you brother. But I will give you the best advice I got from a friend when it happened. "You need to put yourself first, so you can out your kid first" so don't forget to take care of yourself too brother. Because if you forget to take care of yourself, then you can't be there for her either.
8,525
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You got the best end of that deal for sure, but sorry for what has to be an insanely tough thing to go through. Hopefully you have a support network to help you through this.
8,526
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I'm a momma to an 8 month old boy. It is the hardest thing I've ever done. I cry daily. But my god, he is friggen amazing. Your girl is so beautiful. It makes my heart so happy to see that she has love in her life. You two will have the most incredible bond and you will always be her hero. Keep strong. That little girl is going to have a great life thanks to her daddy
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That's pretty similar to how I ended up with a 2 year old daughter by myself 11 years ago. She's happy, healthy, and... well... as sane as any 13 year old girl is. You got this! Need advice, support, to vent... whatever. Daddit is an amazing sub, /r/singledads is a little more niche but it's out there too.
8,528
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I believe in you
8,529
daddit
Educate your daughter. Introduce her to freedom. Be there for her when she needs you and you'll be the happiest dad ever
8,530
daddit
Got your back my guy! Let us know if you need anything. I know I'm a complete stranger, but you are about to go on a tough but fruitful journey of being a single father, and NEVER BE AFRAID OR ASHAMED TO ASK FOR HELP. Hell, even as a father with a partner, shit is hard! The one thing I learned was what I posted above. Never be too proud to seek assistance. You deserve it!
8,531
daddit
I am sorry to hear that, you are an amazing dad. Make sure you legally get full custody! Document her absence at ever instance. Keep a journal of all communication have with her and be sure to date them! Go see all the good lawyers in your area because just meeting with you means they can never represent her. Head over to r/legaladvice! Your little girl is cute AF. You might consider looking into having her do baby modeling. It's a lot but, ensures money for her future that her mom can't touch. Look into it but, don't take a job on until you have full custody.
8,532
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You got it dad!
8,533
daddit
You’ve got this man! That’s tough but you’ve got an amazing daughter. Stay strong for her but ask for help when you need it!
8,534
daddit
So sorry to hear that. You're never alone, we're here with you and your beautiful girl. Send me a PM if you need a shoulder, man.
8,535
daddit
Stay strong man, you’ve got everything you need right there with you.
8,536
daddit
You will make her proud. Good luck
8,537
daddit
What a lovely girl. Hang in there man.
8,538
daddit
No idea what you must be going through bro but you got this. Don't be afraid to feel the pain of it. It's horrible but don't bottle it up either, like another daddit said your daughter needs you and you need to take care of yourself to make sure you take care of her. This might also be too soon but make sure you legally protect yourself for custody, get paper work of her leaving, don't send silly messages to her etc. You got this bro. All the other daddits are right, you got the most important thing right Infront of you. My daughter is 4 and you have so much greatness Infront of you .
8,539
daddit
You got this brother! Stay positive for not only yourself, but also your little lady.
8,540
daddit
Super Dad. That girl is going to eventually ADORE you for your strength and resolve. You have my admiration, for what it's worth.
8,541
daddit
As others have said, you’ve got this! I was raised by a loving, wonderful single mom and I wouldn’t have traded that for anything. Your daughter will know and love you for being a wonderful, caring dad.
8,542
daddit
Hey man. You’re awesome. Don’t ever give up.
8,543
daddit
I’m fucking proud of you too. You’re amazing. It will get better.
8,544
daddit
I was in a similar situation back in 2016. Now a solo father of two awesome boys. Just remember that you and your little one are the true winners. You got this!
8,545
daddit
Make sure you get custody in writing through a judge. Parents will withhold kids and you can't call the cops to go "grab" your kid. It has to be ordered through court. My husband and I couldn't see my step-son for 2 months because he and his ex never got custody sorted out and she decided to withhold the child.
8,546
daddit
Looks like you got the best end of that deal
8,547
daddit
/r/mensrights for legal options
8,548
daddit
Stay strong bro. I hope you have some family living close who can help.
8,549
daddit
I’m sorry this happened. I hope she can get the help she needs so at a minimum she can become the mom she will undoubted regret not being during this time. Just love the sweet girl and do everything you can to protect her.
8,550
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All I see is a king and a princess. You got this man and don't forget you have all of daddit backing you up here!
8,551
daddit
You have friends you didn't know you had. Stay strong, you have everything you need in that picture. If you feel comfortable pming your address to a random guy (me) my little guy would love to send your little girl some books to read.
8,552
daddit
It takes a real man to make the sacrifices needed to be there for his child, especially when he’s left to do it alone. Hold strong brother.
8,553
daddit
Her loss
8,554
daddit
Sorry to hear that. Stay kind and strong for the little one. She’s spectacular. Allow yourself to enjoy all the good moments you will share with her. You deserve it.
8,555
daddit
Stay strong, we're here for you, brother
8,556
daddit
You got this brother
8,557
daddit
Good man. More power to you and much love from the rest of us!
8,558
daddit
Lawyer up NOW and channel everything you have into that little lady.
8,559
daddit
Take it one step at a time man, try meditation if you keep getting swallowed by emotions. This will pass. My best wishes for you and your beautiful daughter.
8,560
daddit
That face says it all man you got this and I believe in you
8,561
daddit
Stay strong daddyo, you got this. And you got us too.
8,562
daddit
You sir are bringing dad average level up all on your own. Props to you and your daughter, who is luckier than she will know (at least for a long while). I can't imagine what you're going through but want to offer a little encouragement for those extra hard days. Yo rock man!
8,563
daddit
That little one is ALL you will ever need! Stay strong.
8,564
daddit
Rootin for ya both
8,565
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There’s always light in darkness, focus on the light of that cute baby...those smilies will cure all sadness. My daughter is 2 months old and has helped me through so much in this past month. Really sorry you’re going through this, as others have said, time will heal. Stay strong brother and lean on family and friends for support.
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daddit
She’s an angel!! Best of luck
8,567
daddit
It can be tough to stay in it for the long haul, but you will make it brother!! Way to be there for your little girl
8,568
daddit
It may feel like cold comfort right now, and it won't change the difficulty of being a single dad or the pain of your wife leaving you, but you're going to be a better dad and a stronger man by sticking with your little girl when mom can't handle it. It saddens me deeply that you're in this position due to the actions of someone spinning out of control, but your head is 100% in the right place, you can do this and it's the noblest of efforts.
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You will be okay. You have your daughter and she has you and absolutely nothing can break the bond between father and daughter. She is your rock as you are hers and I KNOW that the both of you will do just fine, if not, better, with each other by your side. You got this.
8,570
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Daughters rock! Tough times coming but you guys got this.
8,571
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We got u bro for support u ever need it stay strong for that little angel
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What an angel! Im so sorry. For what its worth, its her loss and I know your bond will be ever strengthened.
8,573
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So sorry man, things will get better.
8,574
daddit
Stay strong... Got two girls if you need any advice, send a PM.
8,575
daddit
Looks like you are on the right track. I’m in the same boat have two boys (5 and 3) and while the mother is still in the picture I take care of the kids more at the moment. I feel your pain but we gotta try and stay strong for our kids. Good luck! Don’t be afraid to ask for help!
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daddit
Wow I can’t imagine how anyone would just leave their babygirl. It feels instinctively wrong. Poor baby and poor dad. Remember to ask for help when you need it. And if you get overwhelmed put her down a safe place and go into another room and yell into a pillow. Best of luck going forward.
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King
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daddit
Ugh that sucks man. Best of luck and it sounds like you have the right attitude
8,579
daddit
Well done man, we need more people like you on our planet. : 0 )
8,580
daddit
I love my daughters so much, you'll be happy with your choice. How can I help? I don't see how I can, but anyway I can, reach out. Especially if you need a sound board or parenting help or something
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daddit
Oh man, she‘s cute as a button. Whatever your story is, take good care of the both of you. You got this.
8,582
daddit
Sorry to hear that man. Rooting for you guys
8,583
daddit
You can do this, it is the hardest but most rewarding job.
8,584
daddit
Stay strong man.. you’re an amazing individual and you got this
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Being a single dad is gotta be one of the toughest jobs, but it’s the most rewarding one. My son just turned a year old and I promise you it only gets better. Some days will be dark but she will get you threw anything and everything life throws at you. I wish you two nothing but the best.
8,586
daddit
Hell yeah bro! You got this!!
8,587
daddit
You got this. You have the prize. Shes lost a good husband and a beautiful sweet girl. Deep breath. Hug your baby girl. Move on with your life. Her loss. Keep smiling.
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Shes beautiful. You are amazing. Don't forget to take care of yourself too though all this upheaval and adjustment. I hope your friends and family are willing to help out and give you some breaks by babysitting and just visiting you guys sometimes. You got this chief!! Reach out if you ever need.
8,589
daddit
Your daughter will never forget that you were there for her. The bond you will forge will be unbreakable
8,590
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I'm so sorry, same thing happened to me. If I may suggest visiting r/BreakUps, it truly helped me in my darkest times...
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Sincerely, best thing it could ever happen to you. You you have the chance to be there for your baby always. Love her and be the best dad she could ever deserve. You will be fine, enjoy the ride.
8,592
daddit
Having a kid definitely makes you lose a lot of yourself if you aren’t mentally ready; hell even if you are. I don’t know if she was at this point before but yeah. Baby 24/7 has you starting to question a lot and I get it.. I feel for you man... it’s bullshit and it’s not fair to fuck off while you are trying to be the responsible one. You don’t deserve the stress and hassle.
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People can be shitty. We as dads are often underappreciated but your daughter will appreciate the hell out of you as long as you yourself are a good role model. I felt very underappreciated until i started reading Dr. Meg Meeker. I'd highly recommend for your situation, stay strong.
8,594
daddit
I may not feel like it right now, brother, but you're very lucky. You're out of a toxic relationship, and you get to be with your beautiful daughter.
8,595
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Hugs. I wish you luck.
8,596
daddit
She is a beauty. Adorable
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daddit
Sorry to hear that happened. I'm heartbroken for you. I'm glad it happened now though when she won't remember it. You have LOTS of happy, wonderful years with your beautiful daughter ahead of you. And us dads in Daddit give a shit, so talk to us anytime!
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You have each other, and if you fight through this there will be better days ahead in coming years. Keep going. You'll make it.
8,599
daddit
Dude. You are the best man ever for that little girl. My wife is a rockstar and I couldnt imagine dadding without her to help support. Fuck her and GO YOU.
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Girls are fantastic, I have two, you're in for the best time