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This one is my favorite.
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I give The Kissing Hand to new parents in a pack of books as a baby gift. My 20 something son requires the kissing hand when I am gone!
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If you’re reading this it’s already too late. You tried to stop me but it wasn’t enough. I am sending you happy vibes and there is nothing you can do about it.
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He can still draw it on her, still good to me imo
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This reminds me of a conversation I had with my daughter years ago. She was really into superheros and the whole good guy/bad guy paradigm. She started worrying that she might turn into a bad guy, or be a bad person, and how would she know? I told her, the mere fact that you're worried about being a bad person is evidence that you're not one.
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And how the hell is he supposed to check it out if you haven't returned it yet?
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I agree. This is a great book. Helped my son after his mom and I split.
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Mods, this man is out of control!!
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Enjoy the upvote you silly son of a gun.
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My kindergarten teacher read us that book before she died. It makes me sad whenever I think of it
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No he did, he was just seduced by a much much older man pretending to be someone else. You know saying that out loud…
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“Now, let’s talk about Luke and Leia.”
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"What about Jar Jar?" "Fuck that guy."
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My top go-to topics are big feelings, i love you when you’re [list of emotional states], it’s okay not to be okay, and over-explaining science.
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I’m so jaded I feel like everything like this is made up just for share bait.
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Ok yeah but then didn't he choke subordinates, destroy an entire planet, etc.?
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Metachlorians are just feelings and not some mystical chemical or whatever George was thinking of. Jedis and Sith feel everything more than most, and Jedis are to Vulcans as Sith are to Romulans. This is now my head canon.
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Darth Sympathy got me reconsidering so many things about Anakin the dad. Realizing I don't like sand either....
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Vader was screwed over by Yoda and Windu responding to his PTSD triggering panic attacks with "Lol just get over it bro." Obi-Wan and Asoka were his only true friends in the Jedi order, and Sheev got rid of them so he would fall into his trap.
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I am nice man, with happy feelings. All of the time. First, a joke. What do you get when you cross an owl with a bungee cord?
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That… sounds like a terrible assessment of Darth Vader but I like the sentiment!
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That’s a wildly charitable assessment.
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On my way to say same to my 10 year old!
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Why tf does a 4 year old know about the story of darth vader?
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Some kids are just rotten, Obi-Wan Kenobi tried!
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Yoda let Anakin down big time. ​ 'I'm sad and angry' 'Nah man, that aint cool. Get Gud'
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This is the way.
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Great way to put it
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Ye
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He was a good guy but this meth messed him up badly.
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now use your words to explain what you're feeling I feel... the dark side
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Broken families is a real bad deal delt to kids
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I'm really happy that my kids are all grown or nearly so but man, do I miss these teaching moments. They still occur but they're not this profound anymore. I loved teaching my 19 year-old the other night how to check the fluids in her car but moments like the one above are the ones you never forget. Edit: As an aside, this post reminds me of having a talk with my youngest about hitting her brother and sister. Me: "I know you get angry with them sometimes but hitting doesn't fix things. It just makes them as mad as you are." Youngest: "Uh huh." Me: "So what do you think you should do when you get mad at them?" Youngest: "Hit 'em."
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What this will turn into the 4 yo justifying killing younglings and blowing up planets claiming that nobody helped express his feelings differently.
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Holy shit I've never seen someone so ruthless taken down so effectively, because this is basically true to the lore
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I love Star Wars, and I'm glad Vader turned back to the light, but that man was a mass-murdering child-killing monster. Hitler had rookie numbers compared to this man. But, yeah, he needed some peace, love, and understanding for sure.
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Including his director.
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Didn’t he kill a bunch of kids?
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When my, at the time, toddler was having a tantrum, I’d ask if he had BIG feeling in a little body. He’d usually sob yeeeesssssss! and come in for a hug. He would totally get this logic.
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This is what happens when you trust people so that's why you don't there's your lesson but I have to look at this in the most positive way because I do want happiness for everyone one when clearly I don't deserve it thanks for making things better though I do still love y'all just not in a romantic way but y'all are just covered in hate so see your selfs else were not on my phone but me I'm have to be stronger then before now I have seen the some of the people in my life real sides as the fakes in real life stay single for me as there years have passed but know I know that when I say I want a relation ship my first hunch is so true there is no one for y'all not even me
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Always felt bad for Obiwan. He essentially internalized the situation as a failed father figure, when really it was Palpatine's evil twisted mind games that drove Ani into the downward spiral that is substance abuse (the Darkside). "Dew it"
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"And that, son, is why we left the Catholic Church"
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Maybe wait until they're a little older than 4 for that one.
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When a man and a woman like each other very much, and the writers haven't nailed down their backstories...
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"When a boy and a girl love each other very much, but then find out they're actually a brother and a sister setup at birth... yeah maybe it's better to let your best friend go for it instead"
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Ehh yes but also he clearly had some mental deficiencies and some social tendencies that the Gungan culture didn’t help him with. He was clearly just misunderstood.
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You mean the kaiser sosei of star wars? He was the greatest sith ever.
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An idiot who somehow fell upward in the world. So a typical politician.
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It’s treason then
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“Jar Jar is the key to all of this.”
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Yup... When they're acting out I take them to their rooms to remove them from the situation. We talk a lot about big feelings. We name the feeling that they're having that's causing the behavior. We talk about why they might be feeling that way. We acknowledge that it's ok to feel that way and even big people get those feelings... but it doesn't mean we get to yell or hit. They're young so I still do a lot of the talking but I'm a pretty good guesser. When we're in their room, all they want is to go out and see mom so I make sure they know they can do that after they talk to me. 9/10 we end up hugging and sharing feelings and then we go apologize to mom and sis for hitting or yelling. Not to brag, but since I've started doing it with my 2 year old, she hits a lot less and is angry at everything a lot less too. And my 5 year old seems to be in a really good place right now too. She still gets whiny or throws little fits when she's tired or really wants something to be a certain way but they're both so much better than they used to be.
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Ya, we use the "big emotions" stuff in our house too. My wife helped me realize the other day that sometimes in the evenings they come out more because they don't really have people at their school or daycare they can confide in and let them out. It's actually healthy for them to have us as an outlet and support system. It can be hard at times as it seems like they are upset often, but I take pride in the fact they can express these big emotions with us.
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Solid list. Apparently I have a 'tell' when I'm about to over-explain science: I say "SOOOO...." and kick in. My kids figured it out and started teasing me about it, so I stopped, and they demanded I keep doing it bc they get a kick out of it. *shrug*
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Because it mostly is.
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Are parables in the Bible just internet memes from 2,000 years ago? They're stories about emotions and situations designed to portray one aspect of life, but fall apart under deeper scrutiny.
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Back in my day, we used to call people out for attention-seeking behavior.
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Yes. He was using the feels.
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Right, and that's the wrong way to express your big feelings.
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For Anakin, sand is a harsh reminder of a life when he and his mother were slaves.
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>What do you get when you cross an owl with a bungee cord? I don't know. What?
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Lunchboxes.
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Dad sounds like a Star Wars man child that doesn’t have much else to talk about and has a captive audience.
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So Kylo Ren? Lol
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I mean, it was both. Obi Wan had a lot of anger issues from the death of his mentor which he passed on to Anakin. And Anakin himself had a lot of unresolved trauma that Obi Wan failed to see/help him with, instead thinking he could brute force the anger away. That is the great failing not just of Obi Wan but the entire Jedi order. They had this obsession with order and asceticism, of pure self-denial. So when someone comes along and tells Anakin that embracing the darker, more visceral parts of himself will make him stronger, strong enough to protect the one's he loves like he couldn't protect his mother, he jumped at it. And why wouldn't he? Sinking into your anger *feels good*. And that anger served him for a long time, right up until it didn't, and he chose a middle path.
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Palpatine identified and filled a substantial void in Anakin. The contemporary Jedi were insensitive to that void, given their rejection of attachment.
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Nah it wasn't just Palpatine who caused the fall of Anakin, it was the jedi too. It was the jedi who wanted Anakin to repress his feelings, who forced him and his wife to hide the fact that they were married. One of the main reasons why Anakin joined palpatine was because he accepted him for who he was - Palpatine used that in order to make Vader take over. The jedi are really fucked up sometimes. On a different note, When I watched the movies, every time I saw Anakin, I just thought yep, that's just Vader. But when I saw the clone wars, where Anakin was actually a hero, I sometimes completely forget that he later becomes the villain. And when I do remember it breaks my heart because he was such a good guy.
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Yes and if you've seen the Obi Wan series (Even though it's new, this can't be a spoiler because nobody important dies and nothing significant happens anyway), Anakin tells Obi Wan that it was all his own doing, giving Obi Wan closure and release from the guilt of his failure.
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Obi Wan said it himself. He saw Anakin as a brother but Anakin needed a father.
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It's a good primer for GoT and HotD at least...
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Nah, Jar Jar was a secret Sith Lord.
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It shows the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people. He goes from outcast to senator by finding the people who would bring out his best. Or that's what I'd say to a kid. Otherwise, fuck that guy.
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I also have a ‘tell’ where I say, “kid, what do you know about [semi-related science topic]?” She sometimes groans and that is just my whole world.
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I used over-explaining to quell the “why? Why? Why?” Period. I’d launch into a detailed, long winded, way over their head explanation and eventually their eyes would glaze over and they’d walk away. Now they actually want to hear and I have to be more careful with details and facts.
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True
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Good! Use your big feelings, boy. Let the big feelings flow through you!
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If blowing up planets is wrong, I don't wanna be right.
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Lol you can say that again.
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My Ass! (Reference: https://youtu.be/_vaB9i6Pejc?t=1469)
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Use your anger to protect the ones you love, by murdering them yourself!
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This is exactly the central conflict that I hoped was being alluded to when I heard about "The Last Jedi". I was hoping they would finally acknowledge that the jedi order failed for a reason and that moving on and building something new from the foundation the jedi laid for them was more valuable than blindly holding onto the old ways. But instead we got palpatine 3.0 and something called a force diad which is, uh.... just as good..... excuse me I have to go "not" cry in the corner
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I love the deeper discussion of good and bad in Star Wars. You're totally right. Do you also watch Star Wars Theory on YT?
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Meanwhile Obi-Wan and Lady Satine… That experience could have clued him into what Ani was going through.
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I don't entirely agree with that interpretation. The Jedi code has worked great in general for millennia. It didn't work on Anakin and they were not prepared to handle him, but he never should have been trained in the first place. Qui-Gon and later Obi-Wan put their foot down and the Jedi Council relented, but we can tell that obviously he *was* too old to join, there was too much fear in him and too much attachment to his mother. Yes, they failed him several times along the way later, but in the end they should have just bought him and Shim off from slavery and left it at that.
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It actually kinda reminds me a lot of politics in N America...
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I think they were sensitive to it, hence the resistance to training him in the first place. Turns out they were right.
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Now that you mention it. Sounds almost as if Obiwan suffered from imposter syndrome. "How can I be Master to the most powerful force user in the universe". He appeared very young and inexperienced in episode 1 and was thrust into this position after Qui-Gon died.
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IDK if they outright said their ages, but Obi Wan seemed much closer to Anakin in age. I'd put them within 10 years difference easily.
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And Crusader Kings.
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The Sith Lord we deserved, but not the one we needed.
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Nah, not a sith lord. He was like a half and half mix, got over the petty differences between jedi and sith and just became ultra powerful
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[https://www.reddit.com/r/StarWars/comments/3qvj6w/theory\_jar\_jar\_binks\_was\_a\_trained\_force\_user](https://www.reddit.com/r/StarWars/comments/3qvj6w/theory_jar_jar_binks_was_a_trained_force_user/)
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So he’s a leech who couldn’t move up on his own and had to hang on to others coattails? Is that the lesson to learn? Looking back, yeah he should have been mercd by Obi-wan almost immediately.
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Power move. Caution: does NOT work for age-inappropriate questions. I tried that for some stuff that was over their heads and they walked away with twisted snippets that were definitely not good takeaways. So then, "What is \[age-inappropriate thing\]?" was met with "What do you think it is?" Typically they'd start rambling and lose the plot and we'd be onto the next thing.
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And this reads exactly like its made up
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> You know, you blow up one sun and suddenly everyone expects you to walk on water.
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Call down Old Man Waterfall.
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Happens a lot actually.
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Last Jedi was SO GOOD. It built up some amazing ideas of the gray areas between right and wrong, good and evil, and how much all of it is based on perception. It also broke down the longstanding theme of bloodlines in the SW universe. Rey wasn't meant to be from a powerful family, she was a nobody. The force can present in anyone, almost as if the Force were Awakening or something... And then JarJar Abrams got all pissy that someone changed his story around and he walked back all the best changes to give us a bland story with no tension that simultaneously ruined its own conclusion and Return of the Jedi too. Fuck that guy.
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I don't, but I'm a writer so this is something I think about a lot.
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As someone who lives in the deep south, that is 100% it. The reason Trump penetrated American society so thoroughly, and why the left didn't understand it for so long is because he understood the anger of the Right. Whether we think their anger is justified or not (it's not), Trump tapped into it and told them all it was okay, and stoked it and fed it.