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### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"pet died". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How may i help you today?
usr : I've been sad. My dog died
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am sorry I know exactly how you are feeling I have had a dog that i loved more than anything die couple years ago
usr : Sorry to hear that. I just watched a movie that had a dog that looked like mine in it. It upset me
sys : (Question) What movie was it?
usr : I don't remember the name of the movie, but it was about some kids trying to find homes for dogs that a shelter was closing before Christmas
sys : (Others) Oh ok how did your dog die was something wrong with him or just old age?
usr : She was old, blind and was getting dog dementia. I had to have her put to sleep
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am really sorry that has got to be the worst feeling putting your dog to sleep
usr : It is. At least I was able to be with her so she wasn't afraid.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I just think of it this way your dog is in dog heaven and is watching over you that is how i think of it even though it really aint true thats just how i think
sys : (Information) My dog died of old age
sys : (Reflection of feelings) it took me like 2 or 3 weeks to get over it and not cry for once
usr : I just miss her. I believe she is with her brother. He died 7 years ago. He was hit by a car.
usr : I can understand that
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can understand how you feeling but everything will be okay and it is ok to miss her
usr : I was doing pretty good then there was this dog in the movie and I just broke down again.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand I would break down to if I saw that
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just do something you like to do to get your mind off of it
usr : It helps to have a person to talk to. I used this chat Hit before right after I had to put her to sleep. The person I talked to then had a dog too.
| (Self-disclosure) Right it is always good to have someone to talk to in a situation like that |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"pet died". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How may i help you today?
usr : I've been sad. My dog died
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am sorry I know exactly how you are feeling I have had a dog that i loved more than anything die couple years ago
usr : Sorry to hear that. I just watched a movie that had a dog that looked like mine in it. It upset me
sys : (Question) What movie was it?
usr : I don't remember the name of the movie, but it was about some kids trying to find homes for dogs that a shelter was closing before Christmas
sys : (Others) Oh ok how did your dog die was something wrong with him or just old age?
usr : She was old, blind and was getting dog dementia. I had to have her put to sleep
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am really sorry that has got to be the worst feeling putting your dog to sleep
usr : It is. At least I was able to be with her so she wasn't afraid.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I just think of it this way your dog is in dog heaven and is watching over you that is how i think of it even though it really aint true thats just how i think
sys : (Information) My dog died of old age
sys : (Reflection of feelings) it took me like 2 or 3 weeks to get over it and not cry for once
usr : I just miss her. I believe she is with her brother. He died 7 years ago. He was hit by a car.
usr : I can understand that
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can understand how you feeling but everything will be okay and it is ok to miss her
usr : I was doing pretty good then there was this dog in the movie and I just broke down again.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand I would break down to if I saw that
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just do something you like to do to get your mind off of it
usr : It helps to have a person to talk to. I used this chat Hit before right after I had to put her to sleep. The person I talked to then had a dog too.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Right it is always good to have someone to talk to in a situation like that
usr : It's a good Idea to do something to get my mind off of it.
| (Providing Suggestions) Just by expressing your feelings with someone will help a lot to |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"pet died". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How may i help you today?
usr : I've been sad. My dog died
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am sorry I know exactly how you are feeling I have had a dog that i loved more than anything die couple years ago
usr : Sorry to hear that. I just watched a movie that had a dog that looked like mine in it. It upset me
sys : (Question) What movie was it?
usr : I don't remember the name of the movie, but it was about some kids trying to find homes for dogs that a shelter was closing before Christmas
sys : (Others) Oh ok how did your dog die was something wrong with him or just old age?
usr : She was old, blind and was getting dog dementia. I had to have her put to sleep
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am really sorry that has got to be the worst feeling putting your dog to sleep
usr : It is. At least I was able to be with her so she wasn't afraid.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I just think of it this way your dog is in dog heaven and is watching over you that is how i think of it even though it really aint true thats just how i think
sys : (Information) My dog died of old age
sys : (Reflection of feelings) it took me like 2 or 3 weeks to get over it and not cry for once
usr : I just miss her. I believe she is with her brother. He died 7 years ago. He was hit by a car.
usr : I can understand that
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can understand how you feeling but everything will be okay and it is ok to miss her
usr : I was doing pretty good then there was this dog in the movie and I just broke down again.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand I would break down to if I saw that
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just do something you like to do to get your mind off of it
usr : It helps to have a person to talk to. I used this chat Hit before right after I had to put her to sleep. The person I talked to then had a dog too.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Right it is always good to have someone to talk to in a situation like that
usr : It's a good Idea to do something to get my mind off of it.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just by expressing your feelings with someone will help a lot to
usr : Yes it helps.
| (Providing Suggestions) Maybe you can watch a comedy movie or another kind of movie to get your mind off of it |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"pet died". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How may i help you today?
usr : I've been sad. My dog died
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am sorry I know exactly how you are feeling I have had a dog that i loved more than anything die couple years ago
usr : Sorry to hear that. I just watched a movie that had a dog that looked like mine in it. It upset me
sys : (Question) What movie was it?
usr : I don't remember the name of the movie, but it was about some kids trying to find homes for dogs that a shelter was closing before Christmas
sys : (Others) Oh ok how did your dog die was something wrong with him or just old age?
usr : She was old, blind and was getting dog dementia. I had to have her put to sleep
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am really sorry that has got to be the worst feeling putting your dog to sleep
usr : It is. At least I was able to be with her so she wasn't afraid.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I just think of it this way your dog is in dog heaven and is watching over you that is how i think of it even though it really aint true thats just how i think
sys : (Information) My dog died of old age
sys : (Reflection of feelings) it took me like 2 or 3 weeks to get over it and not cry for once
usr : I just miss her. I believe she is with her brother. He died 7 years ago. He was hit by a car.
usr : I can understand that
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can understand how you feeling but everything will be okay and it is ok to miss her
usr : I was doing pretty good then there was this dog in the movie and I just broke down again.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand I would break down to if I saw that
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just do something you like to do to get your mind off of it
usr : It helps to have a person to talk to. I used this chat Hit before right after I had to put her to sleep. The person I talked to then had a dog too.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Right it is always good to have someone to talk to in a situation like that
usr : It's a good Idea to do something to get my mind off of it.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just by expressing your feelings with someone will help a lot to
usr : Yes it helps.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe you can watch a comedy movie or another kind of movie to get your mind off of it
usr : That sounds like a good idea. A comedy probab ly would help
| (Self-disclosure) yes it would help. Keep your head up and know your dog is dog heaven and not suffering anymore. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"pet died". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How may i help you today?
usr : I've been sad. My dog died
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am sorry I know exactly how you are feeling I have had a dog that i loved more than anything die couple years ago
usr : Sorry to hear that. I just watched a movie that had a dog that looked like mine in it. It upset me
sys : (Question) What movie was it?
usr : I don't remember the name of the movie, but it was about some kids trying to find homes for dogs that a shelter was closing before Christmas
sys : (Others) Oh ok how did your dog die was something wrong with him or just old age?
usr : She was old, blind and was getting dog dementia. I had to have her put to sleep
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I am really sorry that has got to be the worst feeling putting your dog to sleep
usr : It is. At least I was able to be with her so she wasn't afraid.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I just think of it this way your dog is in dog heaven and is watching over you that is how i think of it even though it really aint true thats just how i think
sys : (Information) My dog died of old age
sys : (Reflection of feelings) it took me like 2 or 3 weeks to get over it and not cry for once
usr : I just miss her. I believe she is with her brother. He died 7 years ago. He was hit by a car.
usr : I can understand that
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can understand how you feeling but everything will be okay and it is ok to miss her
usr : I was doing pretty good then there was this dog in the movie and I just broke down again.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand I would break down to if I saw that
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just do something you like to do to get your mind off of it
usr : It helps to have a person to talk to. I used this chat Hit before right after I had to put her to sleep. The person I talked to then had a dog too.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Right it is always good to have someone to talk to in a situation like that
usr : It's a good Idea to do something to get my mind off of it.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Just by expressing your feelings with someone will help a lot to
usr : Yes it helps.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe you can watch a comedy movie or another kind of movie to get your mind off of it
usr : That sounds like a good idea. A comedy probab ly would help
sys : (Self-disclosure) yes it would help. Keep your head up and know your dog is dog heaven and not suffering anymore.
usr : Okay. Thanks for talking. Goodnight.
| (Others) your welcome goodnight |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | (Others) Good evening. | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
| (Question) How are you this evening? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
| (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
| (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious
usr : Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.
| (Providing Suggestions) Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious
usr : Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.
usr : Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.
| (Providing Suggestions) Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious
usr : Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.
usr : Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't.
usr : I have tried to talk to him but he seems very uninterested at times. I even tried going to counseling with him and that didn't work. It's just frustrating. He was with me when the one doctor had said just how bad it was and he didn't seem to really pay attention. He was also there when I had to have an emergancy blood transfusion and it was really hard to read him. He just doesnt say or so much
| (Providing Suggestions) Have you asked what his feelings are towards it? Maybe he is afraid and worried about your health and he isn't sure how to express it and sometimes it comes off as uninterested. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious
usr : Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.
usr : Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't.
usr : I have tried to talk to him but he seems very uninterested at times. I even tried going to counseling with him and that didn't work. It's just frustrating. He was with me when the one doctor had said just how bad it was and he didn't seem to really pay attention. He was also there when I had to have an emergancy blood transfusion and it was really hard to read him. He just doesnt say or so much
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you asked what his feelings are towards it? Maybe he is afraid and worried about your health and he isn't sure how to express it and sometimes it comes off as uninterested.
usr : Yeah whenever I try it's like pulling teeth. I know some of it is how he was brought up. I don't think his dad ever showed much emotion/
usr : so yes I'm sure that has something to do with it. I also feel bad a lot of the time because I have two kids. I feel like I fail them a lot
usr : our oldest was born before I got sick. Our youngest was a miracle baby. I was on birth control and he was determained anyway :) He is definatly a gift but I feel bad often
| (Question) Have you been able to talk to your kids about this as well? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious
usr : Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.
usr : Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't.
usr : I have tried to talk to him but he seems very uninterested at times. I even tried going to counseling with him and that didn't work. It's just frustrating. He was with me when the one doctor had said just how bad it was and he didn't seem to really pay attention. He was also there when I had to have an emergancy blood transfusion and it was really hard to read him. He just doesnt say or so much
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you asked what his feelings are towards it? Maybe he is afraid and worried about your health and he isn't sure how to express it and sometimes it comes off as uninterested.
usr : Yeah whenever I try it's like pulling teeth. I know some of it is how he was brought up. I don't think his dad ever showed much emotion/
usr : so yes I'm sure that has something to do with it. I also feel bad a lot of the time because I have two kids. I feel like I fail them a lot
usr : our oldest was born before I got sick. Our youngest was a miracle baby. I was on birth control and he was determained anyway :) He is definatly a gift but I feel bad often
sys : (Question) Have you been able to talk to your kids about this as well?
usr : My oldest yes, he seems to understand, he is 8.5 years old. Our youngest is only one so he doesn't understand any of this yet.
usr : He says he understands, but I'm not sure on just what level.
| (Others) Yea, with young kids it is hard to tell sometimes |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it.". | sys : (Others) Good evening.
usr : hello
sys : (Question) How are you this evening?
usr : Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues
sys : (Question) Are you someone who has immune issues?
usr : I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.
usr : Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious
usr : Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.
usr : Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't.
usr : I have tried to talk to him but he seems very uninterested at times. I even tried going to counseling with him and that didn't work. It's just frustrating. He was with me when the one doctor had said just how bad it was and he didn't seem to really pay attention. He was also there when I had to have an emergancy blood transfusion and it was really hard to read him. He just doesnt say or so much
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have you asked what his feelings are towards it? Maybe he is afraid and worried about your health and he isn't sure how to express it and sometimes it comes off as uninterested.
usr : Yeah whenever I try it's like pulling teeth. I know some of it is how he was brought up. I don't think his dad ever showed much emotion/
usr : so yes I'm sure that has something to do with it. I also feel bad a lot of the time because I have two kids. I feel like I fail them a lot
usr : our oldest was born before I got sick. Our youngest was a miracle baby. I was on birth control and he was determained anyway :) He is definatly a gift but I feel bad often
sys : (Question) Have you been able to talk to your kids about this as well?
usr : My oldest yes, he seems to understand, he is 8.5 years old. Our youngest is only one so he doesn't understand any of this yet.
usr : He says he understands, but I'm not sure on just what level.
sys : (Others) Yea, with young kids it is hard to tell sometimes
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know this is extremely hard, but I know you can make it through this! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
| (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
| (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
| (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
| (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
| (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
| (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
| (Question) Did you need help with anything else? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
| (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
| (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
| (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
| (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
| (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
| (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
| (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
| (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH?
usr : thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
| (Information) Yes, you can sign up online to join a project. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH?
usr : thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
sys : (Information) Yes, you can sign up online to join a project.
usr : ok i will look that up, thank you for all your help
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Yes, you can volunteer locally; HFH is nationwide. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH?
usr : thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
sys : (Information) Yes, you can sign up online to join a project.
usr : ok i will look that up, thank you for all your help
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Yes, you can volunteer locally; HFH is nationwide.
usr : ok thank you
| (Question) Any other questions? I am glad to assist. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH?
usr : thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
sys : (Information) Yes, you can sign up online to join a project.
usr : ok i will look that up, thank you for all your help
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Yes, you can volunteer locally; HFH is nationwide.
usr : ok thank you
sys : (Question) Any other questions? I am glad to assist.
usr : no other questions, you have been most helpful, thank you!
| (Self-disclosure) I have done volunteer work; people want to be friends with those who care and know how to use a nail and hammer. :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH?
usr : thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
sys : (Information) Yes, you can sign up online to join a project.
usr : ok i will look that up, thank you for all your help
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Yes, you can volunteer locally; HFH is nationwide.
usr : ok thank you
sys : (Question) Any other questions? I am glad to assist.
usr : no other questions, you have been most helpful, thank you!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have done volunteer work; people want to be friends with those who care and know how to use a nail and hammer. :)
usr : LOL good to know!
usr : Thanks for the chat and I hope you have good holidays!
| (Providing Suggestions) It may also help to contribute some money to keep the organization going. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"no specific event to describe". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello. What seems to be the issue?
usr : I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
usr : people in general, I do trust certain family members
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Just people who are close to you?
usr : no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
usr : i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system
usr : how did you do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
usr : I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
sys : (Information) Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
usr : I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
usr : Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join.
sys : (Question) Did you need help with anything else?
usr : I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
sys : (Self-disclosure) I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
usr : do you know any specific groups?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
usr : is this something you have done?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
usr : oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
sys : (Question) Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
usr : Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
usr : do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
usr : oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Would you be interested in something like HFH?
usr : thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
sys : (Information) Yes, you can sign up online to join a project.
usr : ok i will look that up, thank you for all your help
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Yes, you can volunteer locally; HFH is nationwide.
usr : ok thank you
sys : (Question) Any other questions? I am glad to assist.
usr : no other questions, you have been most helpful, thank you!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have done volunteer work; people want to be friends with those who care and know how to use a nail and hammer. :)
usr : LOL good to know!
usr : Thanks for the chat and I hope you have good holidays!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It may also help to contribute some money to keep the organization going.
| (Reflection of feelings) I felt great after making friends and building homes for low income people. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Raising grandson and he is being very difficult and not listening. I also have a lot of medical issues that limit my abilities. And my grandson's father is no help, he just drops him off and leaves, never asks if need anything or how I am doing.". | (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello, how are you feeling today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Raising grandson and he is being very difficult and not listening. I also have a lot of medical issues that limit my abilities. And my grandson's father is no help, he just drops him off and leaves, never asks if need anything or how I am doing.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello, how are you feeling today?
usr : Hi to be honest I am very depressed and angry today
| (Question) I'm sorry to hear that. What is causing you these feelings? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Raising grandson and he is being very difficult and not listening. I also have a lot of medical issues that limit my abilities. And my grandson's father is no help, he just drops him off and leaves, never asks if need anything or how I am doing.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello, how are you feeling today?
usr : Hi to be honest I am very depressed and angry today
sys : (Question) I'm sorry to hear that. What is causing you these feelings?
usr : Since helping to raise my grandson and his dad is not helping, or cares how I am feeling. My grandson has been really difficult lately and I find myself losing my temper quickly .
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry to hear that. That sounds like a difficult situation. Have you tried any personal exercises to help you cope with the situation until you find a resolution? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Raising grandson and he is being very difficult and not listening. I also have a lot of medical issues that limit my abilities. And my grandson's father is no help, he just drops him off and leaves, never asks if need anything or how I am doing.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello, how are you feeling today?
usr : Hi to be honest I am very depressed and angry today
sys : (Question) I'm sorry to hear that. What is causing you these feelings?
usr : Since helping to raise my grandson and his dad is not helping, or cares how I am feeling. My grandson has been really difficult lately and I find myself losing my temper quickly .
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry to hear that. That sounds like a difficult situation. Have you tried any personal exercises to help you cope with the situation until you find a resolution?
usr : I do go to a quiet place and try some deep breathing, but my grandson always comes walking in
| (Question) That's certainly a difficult situation. Is there no resolution possible with the father of your grandson? I want to make sure that th e cause of the depression has properly been addressed by you or someone else. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | (Question) Hi there, how are you doing? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
| (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
| (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
| (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
| (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
| (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
| (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
| (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working!
| (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I really hope things go better for you in the future :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working!
sys : (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I really hope things go better for you in the future :)
usr : thank you for your help.
| (Information) You're welcome :) You need to press quit first and take the survey before I can :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working!
sys : (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I really hope things go better for you in the future :)
usr : thank you for your help.
sys : (Information) You're welcome :) You need to press quit first and take the survey before I can :)
| (Others) hello? :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working!
sys : (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I really hope things go better for you in the future :)
usr : thank you for your help.
sys : (Information) You're welcome :) You need to press quit first and take the survey before I can :)
sys : (Others) hello? :)
usr : say i can't quit until we have exchanged 10 messages or spent 15min. I think that has all been done, yes?
| (Others) Please can you quit and take the survey. I cannot do it till you do and neither of us will get paid if I have to quit. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working!
sys : (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I really hope things go better for you in the future :)
usr : thank you for your help.
sys : (Information) You're welcome :) You need to press quit first and take the survey before I can :)
sys : (Others) hello? :)
usr : say i can't quit until we have exchanged 10 messages or spent 15min. I think that has all been done, yes?
sys : (Others) Please can you quit and take the survey. I cannot do it till you do and neither of us will get paid if I have to quit.
| (Information) Yes it's been done :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"the uncertainty surrounding the corona virus pandemic. the unavailability of jobs. lack of success get jobs applied for. No ease or comfort of end being in sight". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing?
usr : could be better
sys : (Question) I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about anything specific?
usr : thank you, I just don't know what else to do to get a job?
sys : (Others) So you're unemployed? I am sorry to hear that. Are you prepared to take jobs that are below your usual level just to get by for a while?
usr : have tried that but don't even get an interview
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It's a very difficult time to be out of work, I know. I hope that there is something out there for you. Have you tried employment agencies?
usr : yes, I do not qualify for unemployment because I have savings above the min threshold and I also have rental property, which is currently loss making and I can't sell it because it's 30% below market value
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well, on the plus side at least you do have savings .. hopefully this can give you some security for a while
sys : (Question) Are your family being supportive of your situation?
usr : it's almost depleted, been out of work now for nearly 9 months but still can't get unemployment support because of the property that I cannot get rid off else I will declared bankrupt by the mortgage lender
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Perhaps bankruptcy might not be a bad option? You would be eligible for some help then at least.
usr : family is not being fully supported compared to when I had full time job. had to get rid of one car and other things just to get by
usr : but the cost is 7 years of my future???
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you feel as though you have been working hard all your life and now you need help and support and are not getting it
usr : very well put. seems i am being penalised for working hard, saving and investing? I should have been on more holidays and lived all the way above my means!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I know how you feel .. I sometimes feel I would have been better off if I'd just not bothered working!
sys : (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I really hope things go better for you in the future :)
usr : thank you for your help.
sys : (Information) You're welcome :) You need to press quit first and take the survey before I can :)
sys : (Others) hello? :)
usr : say i can't quit until we have exchanged 10 messages or spent 15min. I think that has all been done, yes?
sys : (Others) Please can you quit and take the survey. I cannot do it till you do and neither of us will get paid if I have to quit.
sys : (Information) Yes it's been done :)
| (Others) Please can you quit. I have other things to do and if I have to leave because you did not end this neither of us gets anything. It can only be ended your side. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | (Others) Hello, how are you today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
| (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
| (Question) How are your children doing through this? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
| (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas.
usr : I'm not really sure how to break it to them when I do finally tell them.
| (Providing Suggestions) That is always a tough one. My suggestion is to not put him in a bad light since they do not have the angry feelings toward him that you do. Maybe tell them that he has made some choices in life that doesn't involve you, and unfortunately, we cannot control people and their feelings. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas.
usr : I'm not really sure how to break it to them when I do finally tell them.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is always a tough one. My suggestion is to not put him in a bad light since they do not have the angry feelings toward him that you do. Maybe tell them that he has made some choices in life that doesn't involve you, and unfortunately, we cannot control people and their feelings.
usr : That is a good idea. That would be good so they don't think it has anything to do with them because I'd never want them to feel bad about it!
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Exactly, that is a burden that children should never have to endure. They are always the innocent victims in our personal problems. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas.
usr : I'm not really sure how to break it to them when I do finally tell them.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is always a tough one. My suggestion is to not put him in a bad light since they do not have the angry feelings toward him that you do. Maybe tell them that he has made some choices in life that doesn't involve you, and unfortunately, we cannot control people and their feelings.
usr : That is a good idea. That would be good so they don't think it has anything to do with them because I'd never want them to feel bad about it!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Exactly, that is a burden that children should never have to endure. They are always the innocent victims in our personal problems.
usr : Hopefully they don't ask me what choices he made and want details.
| (Information) True! How old are they? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas.
usr : I'm not really sure how to break it to them when I do finally tell them.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is always a tough one. My suggestion is to not put him in a bad light since they do not have the angry feelings toward him that you do. Maybe tell them that he has made some choices in life that doesn't involve you, and unfortunately, we cannot control people and their feelings.
usr : That is a good idea. That would be good so they don't think it has anything to do with them because I'd never want them to feel bad about it!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Exactly, that is a burden that children should never have to endure. They are always the innocent victims in our personal problems.
usr : Hopefully they don't ask me what choices he made and want details.
sys : (Information) True! How old are they?
usr : They are 6 and 8 years old
| (Reflection of feelings) They should hopefully be young enough not to want details. Maybe if they ask say he didn't give you details because he apparently doesn't know himself what he wants. You sound like a very caring mother who wants the very best for her children. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas.
usr : I'm not really sure how to break it to them when I do finally tell them.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is always a tough one. My suggestion is to not put him in a bad light since they do not have the angry feelings toward him that you do. Maybe tell them that he has made some choices in life that doesn't involve you, and unfortunately, we cannot control people and their feelings.
usr : That is a good idea. That would be good so they don't think it has anything to do with them because I'd never want them to feel bad about it!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Exactly, that is a burden that children should never have to endure. They are always the innocent victims in our personal problems.
usr : Hopefully they don't ask me what choices he made and want details.
sys : (Information) True! How old are they?
usr : They are 6 and 8 years old
sys : (Reflection of feelings) They should hopefully be young enough not to want details. Maybe if they ask say he didn't give you details because he apparently doesn't know himself what he wants. You sound like a very caring mother who wants the very best for her children.
usr : thank you!
usr : Knowing someone thinks I'm a good mother makes me feel a little better about the situation!
| (Self-disclosure) I have a daughter and we have went through something similar in the past so I can relate. The truth is, I have found over time that it is our children who get us through these tough time. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship with someone who had kids.". | sys : (Others) Hello, how are you today?
usr : I'm really upset about a break up I just had with my boyfriend.
sys : (Question) I am sorry, when did this happen?
usr : It happened two days ago. I can't believe he led me on for almost a year knowing that I had two children and all of a sudden decided that he didn't want to deal with kids.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I can understand the pain you must feel and the betrayal, that is absolutely awful.
usr : I do. I don't understand why he was fine with my kids for almost a year and all of a sudden it changed. I'm completely blindsided.
sys : (Question) How are your children doing through this?
usr : They don't know yet. I didn't want to upset them right before Christmas.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What a terrible thing for him to do. I agree with you not to upset them right before Christmas.
usr : I'm not really sure how to break it to them when I do finally tell them.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is always a tough one. My suggestion is to not put him in a bad light since they do not have the angry feelings toward him that you do. Maybe tell them that he has made some choices in life that doesn't involve you, and unfortunately, we cannot control people and their feelings.
usr : That is a good idea. That would be good so they don't think it has anything to do with them because I'd never want them to feel bad about it!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Exactly, that is a burden that children should never have to endure. They are always the innocent victims in our personal problems.
usr : Hopefully they don't ask me what choices he made and want details.
sys : (Information) True! How old are they?
usr : They are 6 and 8 years old
sys : (Reflection of feelings) They should hopefully be young enough not to want details. Maybe if they ask say he didn't give you details because he apparently doesn't know himself what he wants. You sound like a very caring mother who wants the very best for her children.
usr : thank you!
usr : Knowing someone thinks I'm a good mother makes me feel a little better about the situation!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have a daughter and we have went through something similar in the past so I can relate. The truth is, I have found over time that it is our children who get us through these tough time.
usr : Yes, seeing their faces tomorrow when they open presents will help get me through this sad time!
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You will get through this and come out ahead in the long run, just stay strong! |
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The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
| (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
| (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
| (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
| (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
| (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
| (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
| (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
| (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
| (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice?
usr : ya cigarettes they getting up much a pack they really are a waste of money. especially if you dont have alot of money like me
usr : ya Im really going to try
usr : total waste of money make you smell bad
| (Self-disclosure) Nearly ten pounds a pack here (UK). I am gonna try and save up for a new handbag! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice?
usr : ya cigarettes they getting up much a pack they really are a waste of money. especially if you dont have alot of money like me
usr : ya Im really going to try
usr : total waste of money make you smell bad
sys : (Self-disclosure) Nearly ten pounds a pack here (UK). I am gonna try and save up for a new handbag!
usr : hope you kick it to. ya im in the us they about 8 to 10 dollars here in the usa
| (Question) Everything is cheaper there than here :D. Do you have any fun plans for Christmas Day? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice?
usr : ya cigarettes they getting up much a pack they really are a waste of money. especially if you dont have alot of money like me
usr : ya Im really going to try
usr : total waste of money make you smell bad
sys : (Self-disclosure) Nearly ten pounds a pack here (UK). I am gonna try and save up for a new handbag!
usr : hope you kick it to. ya im in the us they about 8 to 10 dollars here in the usa
sys : (Question) Everything is cheaper there than here :D. Do you have any fun plans for Christmas Day?
usr : you can get some generic ones for like 6 bucks a pack.. its questionable if they tobacco though or recycled newspapers
usr : i was thinking about hiding everyones christmas presents after they put em under the tree tomorrow night.. but it seems like to much effort and i have stay up after they put em up lol.. other then that nah just going kick it
usr : anyhows though I hope you have a really Merry Christmas and your next year goes way awesome
| (Others) It will be nice to have a couple of stress free days ... assuming that they are stress free! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice?
usr : ya cigarettes they getting up much a pack they really are a waste of money. especially if you dont have alot of money like me
usr : ya Im really going to try
usr : total waste of money make you smell bad
sys : (Self-disclosure) Nearly ten pounds a pack here (UK). I am gonna try and save up for a new handbag!
usr : hope you kick it to. ya im in the us they about 8 to 10 dollars here in the usa
sys : (Question) Everything is cheaper there than here :D. Do you have any fun plans for Christmas Day?
usr : you can get some generic ones for like 6 bucks a pack.. its questionable if they tobacco though or recycled newspapers
usr : i was thinking about hiding everyones christmas presents after they put em under the tree tomorrow night.. but it seems like to much effort and i have stay up after they put em up lol.. other then that nah just going kick it
usr : anyhows though I hope you have a really Merry Christmas and your next year goes way awesome
sys : (Others) It will be nice to have a couple of stress free days ... assuming that they are stress free!
usr : hehe i got get over my dumbness i mean my numbness
usr : that my real new years resolution
| (Others) I hope you have a really nice Christmas and New Year too. Let's face it, hopefully 2021 cannot be worse than 2020 (touch wood) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice?
usr : ya cigarettes they getting up much a pack they really are a waste of money. especially if you dont have alot of money like me
usr : ya Im really going to try
usr : total waste of money make you smell bad
sys : (Self-disclosure) Nearly ten pounds a pack here (UK). I am gonna try and save up for a new handbag!
usr : hope you kick it to. ya im in the us they about 8 to 10 dollars here in the usa
sys : (Question) Everything is cheaper there than here :D. Do you have any fun plans for Christmas Day?
usr : you can get some generic ones for like 6 bucks a pack.. its questionable if they tobacco though or recycled newspapers
usr : i was thinking about hiding everyones christmas presents after they put em under the tree tomorrow night.. but it seems like to much effort and i have stay up after they put em up lol.. other then that nah just going kick it
usr : anyhows though I hope you have a really Merry Christmas and your next year goes way awesome
sys : (Others) It will be nice to have a couple of stress free days ... assuming that they are stress free!
usr : hehe i got get over my dumbness i mean my numbness
usr : that my real new years resolution
sys : (Others) I hope you have a really nice Christmas and New Year too. Let's face it, hopefully 2021 cannot be worse than 2020 (touch wood)
usr : hehe
usr : hopefully if no more covid outbreaks
| (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I hope you feel a little better. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about shame regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"the event that put in this mood was a big gathering of people of all sorts and kinds". | usr : Hello
sys : (Question) Hello there, how is life for you right now?
usr : I suppose its Life right now anyways
usr : at some point in time I suppose it wont be though
sys : (Question) Well, that sounds vaguely positive but is there something you'd like to talk specifically about?
usr : sure we could talk about the holidays and friends and all the mess it causes.
sys : (Others) Have you been having some problems with your friends lately? This can be a very stressful time of year, I know.
usr : all of it and I seem so little compared to everyone else like im just walking and wearing a ton of shame around me
usr : ya I feel so drowned out by everyone else I feel like I am clothed from head to toe in it
sys : (Reflection of feelings) So you are feeling worried deep down about something right now? Would you like to tell me more about ti?
usr : I dunno if its worried so much as feeling so little compared to it. worr
usr : worried might not be the right emotion
usr : you are really supportive btw 8o)))
sys : (Question) Do you think that perhaps you feel numb to things that are going on even though you should be worried about them?
usr : No i think i feel dumb but its not numb. one time i went to the dentist and he gave me a shot in my mouth that was numb this is kinda of a prickley feeling its not numbness.. something close but a stutter mayber
sys : (Others) I see - that is interesting, I have never heard of anything like that before. Do you think that there might be some sort of physical problem going on?
usr : Thank you for clearing it up you are the greatest bestest clairvoyant mturk supporter I have ever met.. Really I mean you have made me see things as they really are. your the first mturk supporter i ever met.. But dont let that discourage you.. you still the best!! merry christmas
usr : O nvm it says we have to do this for 15 minutes lol
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Well, erm, thank you and a very Merry Christmas to you too. Yes fifteen minutes :D. Have you thought of making a list of goals for the New Year to motivate yourself?
usr : Yea I have been smoking cigarettes for to long all bs aside.. Im going really try to get out of the habit of it this year. hopefully get out of where im staying to.. to a bigger place
sys : (Self-disclosure) I smoke too much too. It costs a lot and it's really bad for my health. I think I am gonna try and quit - again, sigh - in January too
usr : try not to shame my friends or enemies any. do something good for someone this year I hope to.. try to at least.. hehe i said on my birthday which was the end of november i was quitting i really need try harder and do it
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Maybe try saving the money you save on cigarettes for a few months and then treat yourself to something really nice?
usr : ya cigarettes they getting up much a pack they really are a waste of money. especially if you dont have alot of money like me
usr : ya Im really going to try
usr : total waste of money make you smell bad
sys : (Self-disclosure) Nearly ten pounds a pack here (UK). I am gonna try and save up for a new handbag!
usr : hope you kick it to. ya im in the us they about 8 to 10 dollars here in the usa
sys : (Question) Everything is cheaper there than here :D. Do you have any fun plans for Christmas Day?
usr : you can get some generic ones for like 6 bucks a pack.. its questionable if they tobacco though or recycled newspapers
usr : i was thinking about hiding everyones christmas presents after they put em under the tree tomorrow night.. but it seems like to much effort and i have stay up after they put em up lol.. other then that nah just going kick it
usr : anyhows though I hope you have a really Merry Christmas and your next year goes way awesome
sys : (Others) It will be nice to have a couple of stress free days ... assuming that they are stress free!
usr : hehe i got get over my dumbness i mean my numbness
usr : that my real new years resolution
sys : (Others) I hope you have a really nice Christmas and New Year too. Let's face it, hopefully 2021 cannot be worse than 2020 (touch wood)
usr : hehe
usr : hopefully if no more covid outbreaks
sys : (Others) Anyway thank you for talking and I hope you feel a little better.
usr : im ready get out of my little corner
| (Information) Hit the button and take the survey ;). I can't end it from my side |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | (Question) Hi, can I help you today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
| (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.
usr : We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.
| (Self-disclosure) I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.
usr : We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.
usr : I guess... I'm just not sure how to get to the light from where I am right now. I'm just so angry.
| (Providing Suggestions) Being anger is valid and you have every right to be mad. You have been betrayed and have to work through problems that you didn't create. Do you have any close friends you can confide in sometimes? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.
usr : We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.
usr : I guess... I'm just not sure how to get to the light from where I am right now. I'm just so angry.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Being anger is valid and you have every right to be mad. You have been betrayed and have to work through problems that you didn't create. Do you have any close friends you can confide in sometimes?
usr : I do, her name is Ann-Marie and she's wonderful.
| (Providing Suggestions) That is fortunate and reflects what a good person that you are to have developed a close friend that you can trust. Maybe she could be your support when the evening and weekends get hard for you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.
usr : We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.
usr : I guess... I'm just not sure how to get to the light from where I am right now. I'm just so angry.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Being anger is valid and you have every right to be mad. You have been betrayed and have to work through problems that you didn't create. Do you have any close friends you can confide in sometimes?
usr : I do, her name is Ann-Marie and she's wonderful.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is fortunate and reflects what a good person that you are to have developed a close friend that you can trust. Maybe she could be your support when the evening and weekends get hard for you?
usr : That's a wonderful idea. I will definitely do that.
| (Information) If you are interested in religion often times they have local support groups to join as well. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.
usr : We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.
usr : I guess... I'm just not sure how to get to the light from where I am right now. I'm just so angry.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Being anger is valid and you have every right to be mad. You have been betrayed and have to work through problems that you didn't create. Do you have any close friends you can confide in sometimes?
usr : I do, her name is Ann-Marie and she's wonderful.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is fortunate and reflects what a good person that you are to have developed a close friend that you can trust. Maybe she could be your support when the evening and weekends get hard for you?
usr : That's a wonderful idea. I will definitely do that.
sys : (Information) If you are interested in religion often times they have local support groups to join as well.
usr : I'm not religious at all.
| (Information) Okay, an alternative is joining a local group that meets up for exercise in the park. Just an idea. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years.". | sys : (Question) Hi, can I help you today?
usr : Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.
usr : It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.
usr : I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.
usr : I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.
usr : We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.
usr : I guess... I'm just not sure how to get to the light from where I am right now. I'm just so angry.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Being anger is valid and you have every right to be mad. You have been betrayed and have to work through problems that you didn't create. Do you have any close friends you can confide in sometimes?
usr : I do, her name is Ann-Marie and she's wonderful.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) That is fortunate and reflects what a good person that you are to have developed a close friend that you can trust. Maybe she could be your support when the evening and weekends get hard for you?
usr : That's a wonderful idea. I will definitely do that.
sys : (Information) If you are interested in religion often times they have local support groups to join as well.
usr : I'm not religious at all.
sys : (Information) Okay, an alternative is joining a local group that meets up for exercise in the park. Just an idea.
usr : I have found that I have been focusing on my own health a lot more lately.
| (Others) That is great news. Most of all thank you for sharing your feelings today and opening up. You are a path to healing but being so expressive and open. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"I lost my job.". | (Question) Hello, how are you doing today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"I lost my job.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how are you doing today?
usr : I'm worried. I lost my job and I'm worried I won't get another one.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so sorry to hear that, this has been a hard time for so many. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"I lost my job.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how are you doing today?
usr : I'm worried. I lost my job and I'm worried I won't get another one.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so sorry to hear that, this has been a hard time for so many.
usr : Yes, it has been. I just really feel lost.
| (Question) What type of work were you doing if I can ask? |
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