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### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
| (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
| (Others) sorry was afk |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
sys : (Others) sorry was afk
| (Others) What are your chances of getting another job? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
sys : (Others) sorry was afk
sys : (Others) What are your chances of getting another job?
usr : I am trying...
| (Question) What sort of thing are you looking for? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
sys : (Others) sorry was afk
sys : (Others) What are your chances of getting another job?
usr : I am trying...
sys : (Question) What sort of thing are you looking for?
usr : Educater, writer, teacher
| (Self-disclosure) Ah I have done some teaching, it's a very worthy profession. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
sys : (Others) sorry was afk
sys : (Others) What are your chances of getting another job?
usr : I am trying...
sys : (Question) What sort of thing are you looking for?
usr : Educater, writer, teacher
sys : (Self-disclosure) Ah I have done some teaching, it's a very worthy profession.
usr : I used to love it, no more enjoyable now days
| (Others) Everything is so up in the air at the moment. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
sys : (Others) sorry was afk
sys : (Others) What are your chances of getting another job?
usr : I am trying...
sys : (Question) What sort of thing are you looking for?
usr : Educater, writer, teacher
sys : (Self-disclosure) Ah I have done some teaching, it's a very worthy profession.
usr : I used to love it, no more enjoyable now days
sys : (Others) Everything is so up in the air at the moment.
usr : I know, hate to complain too... almost about everything...
| (Providing Suggestions) (can you press quit and take the survey? I can't do it at my end. Thanks for talking!) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an Sleep Problems. The seeker says
"I left my home due to income reduction, and live with sibling.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you feeling?
usr : it could be better, right?
sys : (Question) It always could, alas. Is there anything specific you'd like to talk about though?
usr : thanks for asking, sure. It has been a while since I lost my house.. so depressed living with a sibling.
sys : (Question) Ah I am so sorry. It's been so hard during the pandemic hasn't it? Are you working right now?
usr : Only part time
sys : (Question) Is there any chance of increasing your hours? What is your relationship with your sibling like?
usr : No i can't ... we are good but still you won't have that control on your privacy and other staffs.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, it is difficult to have to be a dependent again when you have been used to living alone. I had to do that myself once over fifteen years ago when I was forced to move back with my parents.
usr : So you know what it feels, right?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yeah. It was very depressing at the time but things are much better now. I think it will be the same for you t oo!
usr : let's hope so. This time it looks an everlasting piles of problems ahead..
sys : (Question) It can do, unfortunately. Are there any things that give you pleasure in life? Do you have friends?
usr : Friends? eh some, writing and reading were my way of devotion to the unknown and to the self... it seems quite a luxury right now..
sys : (Others) sorry was afk
sys : (Others) What are your chances of getting another job?
usr : I am trying...
sys : (Question) What sort of thing are you looking for?
usr : Educater, writer, teacher
sys : (Self-disclosure) Ah I have done some teaching, it's a very worthy profession.
usr : I used to love it, no more enjoyable now days
sys : (Others) Everything is so up in the air at the moment.
usr : I know, hate to complain too... almost about everything...
sys : (Providing Suggestions) (can you press quit and take the survey? I can't do it at my end. Thanks for talking!)
usr : sure.
| (Providing Suggestions) *beams* ... you just need to press quit |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
| (Others) hi!! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
| (Question) how is your day? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
| (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
| (Others) yeah I am here |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
sys : (Others) yeah I am here
usr : she does not talk to me anymore blocked me on social media, and goes around and says I am just trying to cause trouble for her
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think you just give some time to your friend to realize what she is doing now. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
sys : (Others) yeah I am here
usr : she does not talk to me anymore blocked me on social media, and goes around and says I am just trying to cause trouble for her
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think you just give some time to your friend to realize what she is doing now.
usr : she is going to loose custody of her child if her ex find out she is always drunk
| (Reflection of feelings) oh no it seems to be a big problem |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
sys : (Others) yeah I am here
usr : she does not talk to me anymore blocked me on social media, and goes around and says I am just trying to cause trouble for her
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think you just give some time to your friend to realize what she is doing now.
usr : she is going to loose custody of her child if her ex find out she is always drunk
sys : (Reflection of feelings) oh no it seems to be a big problem
usr : I think so and there is no talking to her she does not admit that she has a problem, she is trying to casue issues between me and my husband
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If she is not accepting her fault directly you need to find some other way to make her realize her current situation and consecquence |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
sys : (Others) yeah I am here
usr : she does not talk to me anymore blocked me on social media, and goes around and says I am just trying to cause trouble for her
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think you just give some time to your friend to realize what she is doing now.
usr : she is going to loose custody of her child if her ex find out she is always drunk
sys : (Reflection of feelings) oh no it seems to be a big problem
usr : I think so and there is no talking to her she does not admit that she has a problem, she is trying to casue issues between me and my husband
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If she is not accepting her fault directly you need to find some other way to make her realize her current situation and consecquence
usr : like what for example, talking does not work? so call the cops on her?
| (Self-disclosure) I don't don't calling cops as good. We need to do in some other way to make her realize . |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
sys : (Others) yeah I am here
usr : she does not talk to me anymore blocked me on social media, and goes around and says I am just trying to cause trouble for her
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think you just give some time to your friend to realize what she is doing now.
usr : she is going to loose custody of her child if her ex find out she is always drunk
sys : (Reflection of feelings) oh no it seems to be a big problem
usr : I think so and there is no talking to her she does not admit that she has a problem, she is trying to casue issues between me and my husband
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If she is not accepting her fault directly you need to find some other way to make her realize her current situation and consecquence
usr : like what for example, talking does not work? so call the cops on her?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I don't don't calling cops as good. We need to do in some other way to make her realize .
usr : not sure what the best way is to deal with this, or should I just step back and let it be if even her husband does not care?
| (Providing Suggestions) you can talk to her mother and some other persons close to her and who really cares her |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"freind is a drunk and nobody told her besides me now she is mad at me". | usr : is anyone here
sys : (Others) hi!!
usr : hi\
sys : (Question) how is your day?
usr : no to good my friend is a drunk and nobody not even her husband tells her that hse is having a problem, so i did tell her now she is spreading lies about me and what a terrible person i am
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) oh no that's really not good
usr : no I mean she really has issues she gets drunk and mean , falls of chairs in bars and that at least 3-4 times a week, her husband does not say a word since she iis in my oppinion verbally abusive to him
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) ok ok I could understand now
usr : so what do you think i should do
usr : u still there?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) What you have did so far is absolutely correct You worry for your friend is also correct, I think you need to be with your friend in this situation whatever she says about you
sys : (Others) yeah I am here
usr : she does not talk to me anymore blocked me on social media, and goes around and says I am just trying to cause trouble for her
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think you just give some time to your friend to realize what she is doing now.
usr : she is going to loose custody of her child if her ex find out she is always drunk
sys : (Reflection of feelings) oh no it seems to be a big problem
usr : I think so and there is no talking to her she does not admit that she has a problem, she is trying to casue issues between me and my husband
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If she is not accepting her fault directly you need to find some other way to make her realize her current situation and consecquence
usr : like what for example, talking does not work? so call the cops on her?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I don't don't calling cops as good. We need to do in some other way to make her realize .
usr : not sure what the best way is to deal with this, or should I just step back and let it be if even her husband does not care?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) you can talk to her mother and some other persons close to her and who really cares her
usr : I might try that. Thanks for listening
| (Others) you are welcome. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
| (Self-disclosure) what is your problem? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
| (Question) explain to me? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
| (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
| (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
| (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind . |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
| (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
sys : (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice.
usr : I havent told them yet
| (Reflection of feelings) you should tell them .they give a great solution . |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
sys : (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice.
usr : I havent told them yet
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you should tell them .they give a great solution .
usr : I will try that.
| (Others) okay, good |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
sys : (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice.
usr : I havent told them yet
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you should tell them .they give a great solution .
usr : I will try that.
sys : (Others) okay, good
usr : thank you for talking with me. I will reach out to my parents tomorrow and hopefully they will give me some advice.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes ,definitely you ask them next you make very peacefull moment. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
sys : (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice.
usr : I havent told them yet
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you should tell them .they give a great solution .
usr : I will try that.
sys : (Others) okay, good
usr : thank you for talking with me. I will reach out to my parents tomorrow and hopefully they will give me some advice.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes ,definitely you ask them next you make very peacefull moment.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) god grace to you. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
sys : (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice.
usr : I havent told them yet
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you should tell them .they give a great solution .
usr : I will try that.
sys : (Others) okay, good
usr : thank you for talking with me. I will reach out to my parents tomorrow and hopefully they will give me some advice.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes ,definitely you ask them next you make very peacefull moment.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) god grace to you.
usr : thank you
| (Self-disclosure) i will pray them.you don't feel any thing |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. He left me for a younger girl.". | usr : I am so sad. My boyfriend broke up with me!
sys : (Self-disclosure) what is your problem?
sys : (Question) explain to me?
usr : I just need someone to talk to because I am so sad.
sys : (Question) i am with you ,share your problem to me.
usr : My boyfriend broke up with me today. We have been together for 4 years
usr : He left me for a younger girl. I cant believe it!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) don't feel past is past.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) what happend ?
usr : I thought I was going to marry him
usr : He sent me a TEXT that said he didnt want to be with me anymore
usr : I had to find out threw social media that he has a new girlfriend
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you don't feel about anything.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) he was fake.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) believe your self and change your mind .
usr : Its going to be so hard. I dont think I can make it threw this
sys : (Providing Suggestions) obay your parents advice.
usr : I havent told them yet
sys : (Reflection of feelings) you should tell them .they give a great solution .
usr : I will try that.
sys : (Others) okay, good
usr : thank you for talking with me. I will reach out to my parents tomorrow and hopefully they will give me some advice.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes ,definitely you ask them next you make very peacefull moment.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) god grace to you.
usr : thank you
sys : (Self-disclosure) i will pray them.you don't feel any thing
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) you are a such a good person so you make good life. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
| (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
| (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet... |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
| (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
sys : (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open
usr : That is really helpful advice. I think part of my problem is that I still think I can control every detail and need to learn to let things happen once the ball is in motion. For an exam, I want to do so well because so much is riding on it and that freezes me into trying to control for all outcomes... when really, I can only control myself.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are right, I also want to be in control of my life. However, as I grow older, I realize that is impossible. Whenever you feel stressed over life issues, I would recommend taking a walk in the park or anywhere with a lot of trees to clear you mind |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
sys : (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open
usr : That is really helpful advice. I think part of my problem is that I still think I can control every detail and need to learn to let things happen once the ball is in motion. For an exam, I want to do so well because so much is riding on it and that freezes me into trying to control for all outcomes... when really, I can only control myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are right, I also want to be in control of my life. However, as I grow older, I realize that is impossible. Whenever you feel stressed over life issues, I would recommend taking a walk in the park or anywhere with a lot of trees to clear you mind
usr : I will definitely arrive early to the test center and walk the campus before going in. Get enough to eat beforehand and bring my snacks so I can focus just on the exam. I'm writing all of this down so I don't forget. It is a shame we can't save the chat.
usr : Thank you for being my peer-supporter, today. You have been a huge help!
| (Others) sounds like a great plan, i believe you will do well |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
sys : (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open
usr : That is really helpful advice. I think part of my problem is that I still think I can control every detail and need to learn to let things happen once the ball is in motion. For an exam, I want to do so well because so much is riding on it and that freezes me into trying to control for all outcomes... when really, I can only control myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are right, I also want to be in control of my life. However, as I grow older, I realize that is impossible. Whenever you feel stressed over life issues, I would recommend taking a walk in the park or anywhere with a lot of trees to clear you mind
usr : I will definitely arrive early to the test center and walk the campus before going in. Get enough to eat beforehand and bring my snacks so I can focus just on the exam. I'm writing all of this down so I don't forget. It is a shame we can't save the chat.
usr : Thank you for being my peer-supporter, today. You have been a huge help!
sys : (Others) sounds like a great plan, i believe you will do well
| (Question) Is there anything I can help you with? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
sys : (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open
usr : That is really helpful advice. I think part of my problem is that I still think I can control every detail and need to learn to let things happen once the ball is in motion. For an exam, I want to do so well because so much is riding on it and that freezes me into trying to control for all outcomes... when really, I can only control myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are right, I also want to be in control of my life. However, as I grow older, I realize that is impossible. Whenever you feel stressed over life issues, I would recommend taking a walk in the park or anywhere with a lot of trees to clear you mind
usr : I will definitely arrive early to the test center and walk the campus before going in. Get enough to eat beforehand and bring my snacks so I can focus just on the exam. I'm writing all of this down so I don't forget. It is a shame we can't save the chat.
usr : Thank you for being my peer-supporter, today. You have been a huge help!
sys : (Others) sounds like a great plan, i believe you will do well
sys : (Question) Is there anything I can help you with?
usr : Do you have any ideas on what I should about sanitizing my workstation at the exam center? I will be around other people and someone will have used my computer before me. I don't think they are cleaning the stations before the next user.
| (Providing Suggestions) Buy some alcohol wipe, you can find it at the grocery store, make sure to come in early enough to do that |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
sys : (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open
usr : That is really helpful advice. I think part of my problem is that I still think I can control every detail and need to learn to let things happen once the ball is in motion. For an exam, I want to do so well because so much is riding on it and that freezes me into trying to control for all outcomes... when really, I can only control myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are right, I also want to be in control of my life. However, as I grow older, I realize that is impossible. Whenever you feel stressed over life issues, I would recommend taking a walk in the park or anywhere with a lot of trees to clear you mind
usr : I will definitely arrive early to the test center and walk the campus before going in. Get enough to eat beforehand and bring my snacks so I can focus just on the exam. I'm writing all of this down so I don't forget. It is a shame we can't save the chat.
usr : Thank you for being my peer-supporter, today. You have been a huge help!
sys : (Others) sounds like a great plan, i believe you will do well
sys : (Question) Is there anything I can help you with?
usr : Do you have any ideas on what I should about sanitizing my workstation at the exam center? I will be around other people and someone will have used my computer before me. I don't think they are cleaning the stations before the next user.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Buy some alcohol wipe, you can find it at the grocery store, make sure to come in early enough to do that
usr : Alright. I think the proctors will allow it as long as I don't have a bulky bag with me. Maybe some I can just slip into my pocket. Anything too fussy might be cause for them thinking I am bringing answers in with me. I don't have much else to ask about, these were my main concerns.
| (Others) I believe they sell individual packs of 10 wipes too.Good lick with your exam!~ |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about nervousness regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"About to take a licensure exam for my field. I get 1 try a year to pass at a 90% rate. I deal with a lot of test anxiety and the current COVID-19 crisis has amplified my worries. How can I put myself at ease in the testing center and ace this exam?". | sys : (Question) Hello I am here to help you, what's your problem?
usr : I have a licensure exam coming up that I must pass at a 90% score. I have dealt with test anxiety all my life (mind goes blank, difficulty concentrating with noise) and I have to take my exam in a testing center around other people next week. I am extra worried due to COVID. This is a 6 hour exam - what are ways I can calm myself at the exam and succeed?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) First of all, you can bring some snacks and water. having an empty stomach will distract you from the exam
usr : If you were about to take the most important test of your life (ha!) what would you suggest I do to organize my review the days before the exam? Do you have any study suggestions that have worked for you?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I have been in that situation many times. From my own experience, yes you should review as much as you can. However, relax the last 2-3 days to not overwhelm yourself. You should also do image training, imagine yourself in the test room, plan ahead what you will do like write your name, open the exam booklet...
usr : You give good advice, how have you grown into a calm, cool person? :) What obstacles did you have to overcome to get to this level of chill?
sys : (Self-disclosure) It takes alot to grow into that kind of person, I'm not there yet. I find it vital to understand this, you cannot control everything. As long as you try your best, whatever the outcomes are, they all serve a purpose. When one door closes, the others will open
usr : That is really helpful advice. I think part of my problem is that I still think I can control every detail and need to learn to let things happen once the ball is in motion. For an exam, I want to do so well because so much is riding on it and that freezes me into trying to control for all outcomes... when really, I can only control myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are right, I also want to be in control of my life. However, as I grow older, I realize that is impossible. Whenever you feel stressed over life issues, I would recommend taking a walk in the park or anywhere with a lot of trees to clear you mind
usr : I will definitely arrive early to the test center and walk the campus before going in. Get enough to eat beforehand and bring my snacks so I can focus just on the exam. I'm writing all of this down so I don't forget. It is a shame we can't save the chat.
usr : Thank you for being my peer-supporter, today. You have been a huge help!
sys : (Others) sounds like a great plan, i believe you will do well
sys : (Question) Is there anything I can help you with?
usr : Do you have any ideas on what I should about sanitizing my workstation at the exam center? I will be around other people and someone will have used my computer before me. I don't think they are cleaning the stations before the next user.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Buy some alcohol wipe, you can find it at the grocery store, make sure to come in early enough to do that
usr : Alright. I think the proctors will allow it as long as I don't have a bulky bag with me. Maybe some I can just slip into my pocket. Anything too fussy might be cause for them thinking I am bringing answers in with me. I don't have much else to ask about, these were my main concerns.
sys : (Others) I believe they sell individual packs of 10 wipes too.Good lick with your exam!~
usr : Thanks to your help, I believe I will do well next week. :)
usr : Maybe you should be a counselor, if you aren't already. :)
| (Self-disclosure) I would love to do that, I like talking with people and listen to their stories |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | (Question) Hello, how can I help you today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
| (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
| (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
| (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
| (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
| (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
| (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
| (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting?
usr : yes I understand that too. I tend to be more solitary in nature. For me, I talk to my friend for help, a really close friend for advice and my troubles. But most of the time, I get through these logistical and existential problems myself. Not so much that I don't know how to do them or understand the courses or how to do the assignments, but just help on time management and organiza tion.
usr : yes I can do that.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Thats good! I bet that would help out a lot, that tends to be the case for me! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting?
usr : yes I understand that too. I tend to be more solitary in nature. For me, I talk to my friend for help, a really close friend for advice and my troubles. But most of the time, I get through these logistical and existential problems myself. Not so much that I don't know how to do them or understand the courses or how to do the assignments, but just help on time management and organiza tion.
usr : yes I can do that.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Thats good! I bet that would help out a lot, that tends to be the case for me!
usr : It's harder now though because I am just trapped at home, and plus a lot of my course materials are on the internet and on my laptop (distance education), and so I need to kind of focus on not clicking other stuff (including this website, etc).
usr : yeah that's good to hear but I think you asking these questions does make me focus more on what questions I need to ask myself
usr : like can I put this stuff away, etc.
| (Information) Thats good, research has shown that moving our distractions to the side allows us to focus more on the task at hand! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting?
usr : yes I understand that too. I tend to be more solitary in nature. For me, I talk to my friend for help, a really close friend for advice and my troubles. But most of the time, I get through these logistical and existential problems myself. Not so much that I don't know how to do them or understand the courses or how to do the assignments, but just help on time management and organiza tion.
usr : yes I can do that.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Thats good! I bet that would help out a lot, that tends to be the case for me!
usr : It's harder now though because I am just trapped at home, and plus a lot of my course materials are on the internet and on my laptop (distance education), and so I need to kind of focus on not clicking other stuff (including this website, etc).
usr : yeah that's good to hear but I think you asking these questions does make me focus more on what questions I need to ask myself
usr : like can I put this stuff away, etc.
sys : (Information) Thats good, research has shown that moving our distractions to the side allows us to focus more on the task at hand!
usr : Also, with being at home all the time, time is warped for me, such that time passes really fast even though it's been many hours. And I then realize the time wasted, etc, just some observations.
usr : ok, will do.
usr : I think our conversation so far has been fruitful in that I have a better idea on what my priorities ought to be.
usr : In fact, me chatting with you right now is just because I am on a self-imposed break, and not a diversion.
| (Others) I am glad to hear that! I bet you can get those deadlines finished no problem. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting?
usr : yes I understand that too. I tend to be more solitary in nature. For me, I talk to my friend for help, a really close friend for advice and my troubles. But most of the time, I get through these logistical and existential problems myself. Not so much that I don't know how to do them or understand the courses or how to do the assignments, but just help on time management and organiza tion.
usr : yes I can do that.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Thats good! I bet that would help out a lot, that tends to be the case for me!
usr : It's harder now though because I am just trapped at home, and plus a lot of my course materials are on the internet and on my laptop (distance education), and so I need to kind of focus on not clicking other stuff (including this website, etc).
usr : yeah that's good to hear but I think you asking these questions does make me focus more on what questions I need to ask myself
usr : like can I put this stuff away, etc.
sys : (Information) Thats good, research has shown that moving our distractions to the side allows us to focus more on the task at hand!
usr : Also, with being at home all the time, time is warped for me, such that time passes really fast even though it's been many hours. And I then realize the time wasted, etc, just some observations.
usr : ok, will do.
usr : I think our conversation so far has been fruitful in that I have a better idea on what my priorities ought to be.
usr : In fact, me chatting with you right now is just because I am on a self-imposed break, and not a diversion.
sys : (Others) I am glad to hear that! I bet you can get those deadlines finished no problem.
usr : sure. I will do that and I hope you're right.
usr : like passing, I could, but at the same time I don't want to just pass the courses barely. I am not a terrible student, but just disappointed because I ought to know and do better.
usr : But yes, I think I am ready to take on the challenge and burden again and thanks a lot
| (Others) I am glad I was able to help, You got this, I bet you don't have this issue again. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting?
usr : yes I understand that too. I tend to be more solitary in nature. For me, I talk to my friend for help, a really close friend for advice and my troubles. But most of the time, I get through these logistical and existential problems myself. Not so much that I don't know how to do them or understand the courses or how to do the assignments, but just help on time management and organiza tion.
usr : yes I can do that.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Thats good! I bet that would help out a lot, that tends to be the case for me!
usr : It's harder now though because I am just trapped at home, and plus a lot of my course materials are on the internet and on my laptop (distance education), and so I need to kind of focus on not clicking other stuff (including this website, etc).
usr : yeah that's good to hear but I think you asking these questions does make me focus more on what questions I need to ask myself
usr : like can I put this stuff away, etc.
sys : (Information) Thats good, research has shown that moving our distractions to the side allows us to focus more on the task at hand!
usr : Also, with being at home all the time, time is warped for me, such that time passes really fast even though it's been many hours. And I then realize the time wasted, etc, just some observations.
usr : ok, will do.
usr : I think our conversation so far has been fruitful in that I have a better idea on what my priorities ought to be.
usr : In fact, me chatting with you right now is just because I am on a self-imposed break, and not a diversion.
sys : (Others) I am glad to hear that! I bet you can get those deadlines finished no problem.
usr : sure. I will do that and I hope you're right.
usr : like passing, I could, but at the same time I don't want to just pass the courses barely. I am not a terrible student, but just disappointed because I ought to know and do better.
usr : But yes, I think I am ready to take on the challenge and burden again and thanks a lot
sys : (Others) I am glad I was able to help, You got this, I bet you don't have this issue again.
usr : for reassuring and pointing out certain things for me.
usr : thank you. I really appreciate your help and understanding , even though we just met.
usr : Alright, I think I am good to go then, but your input is much appreciated
| (Others) Well thank you! Let me know if you need help with anything else! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"Impending assignment and exam deadlines later this month, and next month, with online education.". | sys : (Question) Hello, how can I help you today?
usr : Hello, I am taking two courses online now that are nearing their end, one at the end of november, and one at the end of December. I guess I am just scared and stressed out about not doing well.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in that same situation before! I had the exact feelings you are! But after realizing how much I studied it helped me relax.
sys : (Question) Have you talked to your teachers about your worrying?
usr : I see. My problem right now is that due to the pandemic and having a lot of time to myself and getting restless, I tend to waste a lot of time doing other things, and procrastinating. So I am catching up and I know I can finish them, but just that I could have done better, so there's an element of guilt and shame involved because I am not happy with my actions on how I handled my studies.
usr : No, not yet. It's distance education so it's mostly me studying on my own time (each course runs at a max duration of six months), but I have reached out to them regarding some assignment and exam questions.
usr : But I do appreciating your sympathetic tone and that you've gone through this also.
usr : And also I go through things slower and things become more sluggish and not really motivated, whereas before I was faster and more productive and really interested in learning and trying to finish assignments etc as quick as I can, and not take the full 6 months of course deadline.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, people who have noticed they are having issues tend to come out ahead! Its great that you are thinking about how to get through this.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I also get into slumps with being productive and motivation, I was told when that happens that I just need to take a step back and relax for a little bit.
usr : I see. I do see a problem and just last week I kind of started to prioritize things and take things more seriously, as the deadlines wind down. I am a little behind schedule, but not severely.
usr : yes I do that too. I understand what you mean. The problem with me is I alternate with relaxation with studying too much, and blurring those lines too much.
usr : But yes, I have been going back on track since last week and hope it's not too late to catch up
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's really great! I bet you are closer than you think to finishing those deadlines.
usr : the stress and panic of the last minute crunch has worked in the past for me in becoming more conscientious
usr : Thank you. I appreciate your input so far.
sys : (Question) When you are usually in a last minute crunch, what do you do to get past it?
usr : I really really try to focus and just put all distractions away. Drink coffee, sleep less, and just get it done with less distractions with only the outcome and goal on my mind. It usually works and I did that for example, yesterday. So most of my day at home yesterday was spent on studying, and not so much on other preoccupations.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I know some people look for tutors, or others taking the same classes for inputs on work that has to be turned in.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Is there an easy way for you to put the other preoccupations to the side so they are not so distracting?
usr : yes I understand that too. I tend to be more solitary in nature. For me, I talk to my friend for help, a really close friend for advice and my troubles. But most of the time, I get through these logistical and existential problems myself. Not so much that I don't know how to do them or understand the courses or how to do the assignments, but just help on time management and organiza tion.
usr : yes I can do that.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Thats good! I bet that would help out a lot, that tends to be the case for me!
usr : It's harder now though because I am just trapped at home, and plus a lot of my course materials are on the internet and on my laptop (distance education), and so I need to kind of focus on not clicking other stuff (including this website, etc).
usr : yeah that's good to hear but I think you asking these questions does make me focus more on what questions I need to ask myself
usr : like can I put this stuff away, etc.
sys : (Information) Thats good, research has shown that moving our distractions to the side allows us to focus more on the task at hand!
usr : Also, with being at home all the time, time is warped for me, such that time passes really fast even though it's been many hours. And I then realize the time wasted, etc, just some observations.
usr : ok, will do.
usr : I think our conversation so far has been fruitful in that I have a better idea on what my priorities ought to be.
usr : In fact, me chatting with you right now is just because I am on a self-imposed break, and not a diversion.
sys : (Others) I am glad to hear that! I bet you can get those deadlines finished no problem.
usr : sure. I will do that and I hope you're right.
usr : like passing, I could, but at the same time I don't want to just pass the courses barely. I am not a terrible student, but just disappointed because I ought to know and do better.
usr : But yes, I think I am ready to take on the challenge and burden again and thanks a lot
sys : (Others) I am glad I was able to help, You got this, I bet you don't have this issue again.
usr : for reassuring and pointing out certain things for me.
usr : thank you. I really appreciate your help and understanding , even though we just met.
usr : Alright, I think I am good to go then, but your input is much appreciated
sys : (Others) Well thank you! Let me know if you need help with anything else!
usr : no this is something I have to take on from here. But thank you very much for everything!
usr : Have a good day then!
| (Others) You as well! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | (Others) Hi. How are you today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
| (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
| (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
| (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
| (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
| (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch
usr : I used to work in IT and did it for 14 years
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) 14 years? Wow. That is really impressive. It is a very difficult field and it take serious talent to work in IT. Takes real talent and brainpower to work in IT. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch
usr : I used to work in IT and did it for 14 years
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) 14 years? Wow. That is really impressive. It is a very difficult field and it take serious talent to work in IT. Takes real talent and brainpower to work in IT.
usr : been doing it long enough for it to be 2nd nature
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So I also take it that not doing it now must feel like you lost part of yourself as well besides the financial risk. Double whammy. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch
usr : I used to work in IT and did it for 14 years
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) 14 years? Wow. That is really impressive. It is a very difficult field and it take serious talent to work in IT. Takes real talent and brainpower to work in IT.
usr : been doing it long enough for it to be 2nd nature
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So I also take it that not doing it now must feel like you lost part of yourself as well besides the financial risk. Double whammy.
usr : yes it does
| (Question) This is a large cross to bear. So what do you think your next steps are going to be? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch
usr : I used to work in IT and did it for 14 years
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) 14 years? Wow. That is really impressive. It is a very difficult field and it take serious talent to work in IT. Takes real talent and brainpower to work in IT.
usr : been doing it long enough for it to be 2nd nature
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So I also take it that not doing it now must feel like you lost part of yourself as well besides the financial risk. Double whammy.
usr : yes it does
sys : (Question) This is a large cross to bear. So what do you think your next steps are going to be?
usr : I have no idea
| (Question) May I throw some ideas out at you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch
usr : I used to work in IT and did it for 14 years
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) 14 years? Wow. That is really impressive. It is a very difficult field and it take serious talent to work in IT. Takes real talent and brainpower to work in IT.
usr : been doing it long enough for it to be 2nd nature
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So I also take it that not doing it now must feel like you lost part of yourself as well besides the financial risk. Double whammy.
usr : yes it does
sys : (Question) This is a large cross to bear. So what do you think your next steps are going to be?
usr : I have no idea
sys : (Question) May I throw some ideas out at you?
usr : please
| (Providing Suggestions) It sounds like your really down right now about your job, family, and your home. It sounds like from what you have mentioned finding work would likely be the best goal to work on right now. What are your thoughts? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"loss of job". | sys : (Others) Hi. How are you today?
usr : not bad and you
sys : (Question) It has been a most interesting week across the board. Been some challenges and hurdles but that makes life the better. Tell me any challenges you are facing right now?
usr : the loss of the of my job has been really difficult, possibilities of losing my home and family is really dire
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So it sounds like you lost your livelihood and your concerned of losing everything you have built. It seems like you are lost on what to do now.
usr : exactly, my confidence is gone so is my self worth and self esteem.
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Question) Wow. So this was a real punch to the gut for you. Out of curiosity; what work were you doing and how long were you doing it?
sys : (Others) Sorry about that. computer glitch
usr : I used to work in IT and did it for 14 years
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) 14 years? Wow. That is really impressive. It is a very difficult field and it take serious talent to work in IT. Takes real talent and brainpower to work in IT.
usr : been doing it long enough for it to be 2nd nature
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So I also take it that not doing it now must feel like you lost part of yourself as well besides the financial risk. Double whammy.
usr : yes it does
sys : (Question) This is a large cross to bear. So what do you think your next steps are going to be?
usr : I have no idea
sys : (Question) May I throw some ideas out at you?
usr : please
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It sounds like your really down right now about your job, family, and your home. It sounds like from what you have mentioned finding work would likely be the best goal to work on right now. What are your thoughts?
usr : seems a fair suggestion so getting straight back in the game.
usr : thanks for the advice
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) IT right now is highly marketable line of work. Given the need for networking and teleconferencing right now you are in demand. And 14 years experience you probably have a competitive advantage in the job market. What do you think your odds of finding a new job are from 0% to 100% right now? I'd bet pretty high. What do you think? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
| (Question) Hi, how are you today? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
| (Question) I am good, how can I help you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this!
usr : When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried.
| (Information) From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this!
usr : When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape.
usr : Oh, ok. It is getting worse from where I live. Just the other day a Walmart closed due to 10 COVID-19 cases. Hopefully it will work out.
| (Self-disclosure) I completely understand where you are coming from. I also work in a grocery store and with being around a lot of people all day I also worry at times about COVID-19. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this!
usr : When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape.
usr : Oh, ok. It is getting worse from where I live. Just the other day a Walmart closed due to 10 COVID-19 cases. Hopefully it will work out.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand where you are coming from. I also work in a grocery store and with being around a lot of people all day I also worry at times about COVID-19.
usr : Does your store take extra safety measures due to this pandemic. Does customers have to wear a mask before entering?
| (Self-disclosure) Yes, in my store all employees and customers must wear masks and our store provides masks to those who don't have them. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this!
usr : When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape.
usr : Oh, ok. It is getting worse from where I live. Just the other day a Walmart closed due to 10 COVID-19 cases. Hopefully it will work out.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand where you are coming from. I also work in a grocery store and with being around a lot of people all day I also worry at times about COVID-19.
usr : Does your store take extra safety measures due to this pandemic. Does customers have to wear a mask before entering?
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, in my store all employees and customers must wear masks and our store provides masks to those who don't have them.
usr : Oh. Is your state in a lockdown currently?
| (Question) Yes, is yours? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this!
usr : When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape.
usr : Oh, ok. It is getting worse from where I live. Just the other day a Walmart closed due to 10 COVID-19 cases. Hopefully it will work out.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand where you are coming from. I also work in a grocery store and with being around a lot of people all day I also worry at times about COVID-19.
usr : Does your store take extra safety measures due to this pandemic. Does customers have to wear a mask before entering?
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, in my store all employees and customers must wear masks and our store provides masks to those who don't have them.
usr : Oh. Is your state in a lockdown currently?
sys : (Question) Yes, is yours?
usr : Yes, same. I feel like the economy is going to take a toll. I can't stop worrying.
usr : Thanks again for the conversation!!
| (Providing Suggestions) I understand that, I would suggest anytime you get too overwhelmed to try and take your mind off of things by watching a video or doing something you enjoy doing in your spare time. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Due to this pandemic, I've been feeling more depressed than ever. I am fearful for my job and my financials. Not a day goes by I don't think about my financial situation. If this pandemic keeps going on, my financial situation will worsen.". | usr : Hi.
sys : (Question) Hi, how are you today?
usr : Good, and you?
sys : (Question) I am good, how can I help you?
usr : This pandemic has my stressed and depressed.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It appears that you are stressed about the pandemic and it is making you feel depressed, is that correct?
usr : Yes, I am worry for my job stability going into the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's a really hard thing to worry about, but I know you can make it through this!
usr : When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried.
sys : (Information) From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape.
usr : Oh, ok. It is getting worse from where I live. Just the other day a Walmart closed due to 10 COVID-19 cases. Hopefully it will work out.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand where you are coming from. I also work in a grocery store and with being around a lot of people all day I also worry at times about COVID-19.
usr : Does your store take extra safety measures due to this pandemic. Does customers have to wear a mask before entering?
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yes, in my store all employees and customers must wear masks and our store provides masks to those who don't have them.
usr : Oh. Is your state in a lockdown currently?
sys : (Question) Yes, is yours?
usr : Yes, same. I feel like the economy is going to take a toll. I can't stop worrying.
usr : Thanks again for the conversation!!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I understand that, I would suggest anytime you get too overwhelmed to try and take your mind off of things by watching a video or doing something you enjoy doing in your spare time.
usr : Oh ok. Genre of movies you like watching?
| (Others) I like comedy movies. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | (Question) How are you doing today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
| (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
| (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
| (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
| (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
| (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
| (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
| (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
| (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds?
usr : I still think there is someone else that has come between us.
| (Question) Have you got any evidence of this like seen a text message or has she behaves strangely? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds?
usr : I still think there is someone else that has come between us.
sys : (Question) Have you got any evidence of this like seen a text message or has she behaves strangely?
usr : No I haven't, it is just a feeling.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok well it is natural to feel like this sometimes. People tend to fear the worst. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds?
usr : I still think there is someone else that has come between us.
sys : (Question) Have you got any evidence of this like seen a text message or has she behaves strangely?
usr : No I haven't, it is just a feeling.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok well it is natural to feel like this sometimes. People tend to fear the worst.
usr : So do you think I should try and talk to her and ask her outright if she has met someone else?
| (Providing Suggestions) I think rather than ask her that question directly, you could start the conversation and ask her why she is feeling this way. This would show you care and are prepared to listen without jumping to conclusions. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds?
usr : I still think there is someone else that has come between us.
sys : (Question) Have you got any evidence of this like seen a text message or has she behaves strangely?
usr : No I haven't, it is just a feeling.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok well it is natural to feel like this sometimes. People tend to fear the worst.
usr : So do you think I should try and talk to her and ask her outright if she has met someone else?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I think rather than ask her that question directly, you could start the conversation and ask her why she is feeling this way. This would show you care and are prepared to listen without jumping to conclusions.
usr : I think I do need to calm down a bit and maybe talking to her would be the best way to start. I don;t know what I'd do though if she ended it.
| (Providing Suggestions) The best thing to do would be prepared to have the conversation, stay calm and listen. She may just want to talk but also be prepared as it may not go the way you plan. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds?
usr : I still think there is someone else that has come between us.
sys : (Question) Have you got any evidence of this like seen a text message or has she behaves strangely?
usr : No I haven't, it is just a feeling.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok well it is natural to feel like this sometimes. People tend to fear the worst.
usr : So do you think I should try and talk to her and ask her outright if she has met someone else?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I think rather than ask her that question directly, you could start the conversation and ask her why she is feeling this way. This would show you care and are prepared to listen without jumping to conclusions.
usr : I think I do need to calm down a bit and maybe talking to her would be the best way to start. I don;t know what I'd do though if she ended it.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) The best thing to do would be prepared to have the conversation, stay calm and listen. She may just want to talk but also be prepared as it may not go the way you plan.
usr : Ok well maybe if I show her that I can stay calm and strong then she will stay with me?
| (Information) Be prepared that she may end the relationship but getting angry is likely not to change her mind. Getting angry does not improve difficult conversations. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anger regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My girlfriend just told me our relationship isn't working by text. She has recently started a new job and I think she may have met someone else.". | sys : (Question) How are you doing today?
usr : I'm not feeling great. I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you think she may, have started a relationship with someone else?
usr : Yes, I think so although I don't have any proof. Things were going really well and then all of a sudden she text me and told me things aren't working.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok, well that doesn't sound pleasant and must be difficult to hear. Perhaps her feelings have changed and there isn't necessarily another person involved?
usr : She has started a new job and I think she might have met someone at work that she likes better than me. I can't believe she is doing this to me!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Ok so it seems like you are quite angry at the moment at the thought of her with someone else, is that true?
usr : Yes I suppose it is true. The thing is I thought things were going well and she is stressed out at work with her new job but we were getting on great!
sys : (Self-disclosure) I had a similar experience myself. My partner was stressed and I was busy myself. It turns out that I wasn't paying him enough attention and this made him feel like I didn't think he was important to me any more.
usr : I haven't thought of it like that before but still I want to talk to her about it not just text me randomly and hint at ending things.
sys : (Self-disclosure) From my experience, when I actually talked to my boyfriend we agreed to make more time for each other and things did improve.
usr : Okay what do you think I should do about it because the text seemed very final? Looks like she has made her mind up already about things.
sys : (Information) Sometimes people say one thing but actually mean another. They are complicated and don't always say what they really mean.
usr : Do you think that she wants to talk rather than end the relationship?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I cannot say for certain however I think you should talk to her but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may actually want to spend some time apart or end the relationship. it would be wise to prepare for that outcome as upsetting as it may be.
usr : That makes sense but it is not what I want to hear. After all we have been through together, we were even talking about getting our own place together and now all that will be for nothing!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think you are reflecting on your plans together and the thought of the relationship ending is making you upset and angry.
usr : Yes that's right. I know getting angry doesn't help but I want things to go back to the way they were.
sys : (Information) Ok so based on what you have told me I think that your girlfriend has got a new job and you are planning on moving in together is that correct?
usr : Yes that's right but that's what couples do isn't it?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) It is but that is a lot of change all happening at once. Perhaps she is getting a little bit scared and rather than dealing with the situation she is running away, perhaps you should talk about this and see how she responds?
usr : I still think there is someone else that has come between us.
sys : (Question) Have you got any evidence of this like seen a text message or has she behaves strangely?
usr : No I haven't, it is just a feeling.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok well it is natural to feel like this sometimes. People tend to fear the worst.
usr : So do you think I should try and talk to her and ask her outright if she has met someone else?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I think rather than ask her that question directly, you could start the conversation and ask her why she is feeling this way. This would show you care and are prepared to listen without jumping to conclusions.
usr : I think I do need to calm down a bit and maybe talking to her would be the best way to start. I don;t know what I'd do though if she ended it.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) The best thing to do would be prepared to have the conversation, stay calm and listen. She may just want to talk but also be prepared as it may not go the way you plan.
usr : Ok well maybe if I show her that I can stay calm and strong then she will stay with me?
sys : (Information) Be prepared that she may end the relationship but getting angry is likely not to change her mind. Getting angry does not improve difficult conversations.
usr : I suppose I could go into it and listen as you have said, there could be other reasons like the new job or maybe morning in that is causing some of it. I'll try and keep calm but it is hard when emotions run high.
| (Providing Suggestions) Take a deep breath and try to relax beforehand. Staying positive and allowing her to speak will make for a better conversation. She will be more likely to open up to you. |
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