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I brought my things by bike, I was not going to move at all.
If you're going to be moving fragile things you should do your best to package them securely. There may even be an insurance policy that you could take out to protect things that matter to you.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is expanding on how their items got broken.", "Speaker explains how they brought the items", "Still casual conversation about moving" ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/70113282-6c85-47c4-868c-2898d1e04246/sentence5
4,755
1
false
How? I don't know how to do that.
I can show you how because I think that it is important that your items make it to your new house. You will need to protect the most valuable ones with an insurance policy.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is open to advice, and asking questions.", "Speaker asks about the advice given", "Willing to accept help and advice from other speaker" ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/70113282-6c85-47c4-868c-2898d1e04246/sentence5
4,755
2
true
Haha, I sabotaged another racer's car because he accidentally wrecked mine!
Oh no, what did you do to his car?
[ "It is expected that you will pay for damage to another persons car if you caused it." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't mess with cars people drive.", "You shouldn't sabotage another racer's car.", "It's rude to sabotage a car" ]
ethics_amt
4,756
0
false
I equipped it with a high-power magnet.
You said the wreck they caused was an accident. Why would you want to get revenge on someone for an accident. Damaging someone's properly intentionally is not an appropriate response to this.
[ "You shouldn't want revenge on others because they has an accident.", "It's wrong to intentionally damage someone's property." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker confesses what they did with the car.", "It's rude to equip a racer's car with a high-power magnet.", "they are doing it" ]
ethics_amt
4,756
1
false
He made a mistake. He must pay.
Deliberately sabotaging someone else's car is going to get you in trouble. You should forget the accident and focus on beating him in the next race.
[ "You should expect to get in trouble if you sabotage someone else's vehicle." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker dismisses advice and wants to get revenge.", "It's harmful to try and get revenge on someone simply because they made a mistake.", "think they must pay for a mistake" ]
ethics_amt
4,756
2
true
I'm thinking of giving a copy of my own book for secret santa
Is your book not selling well? Is that why you wish to give it away?
[ "You shouldn't self promote as a gift" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "expressing desire to share their book", "It's selfish to use a gift as self-promotion.", "That sounds ok" ]
ethics_reddit
4,757
0
false
I'm trying to make room in my home storage by giving away my books
I understand your situation on wanting to clean your house, but you should be more thoughtful to a Secret Santa. It will come across as selfish and tactless to promote yourself with a gift that the person didn't really ask for.
[ "You should get thoughtful gifts for people." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "it is rude to use gifts as a pretext to clean house", "Using a gift giving event to offload unwanted things is selfish.", "It is ok to gift things you own" ]
ethics_reddit
4,757
1
false
You are really annoying me. I'm not going to spend a lot of time and money on this, and I just want to get this out of my place.
I'm sorry that you feel annoyed, but it is important to understand that the recipient of this gift will probably see it as self-serving. It's fine to give your book away, but not as a substitute for a real gift that meets another person's true desires.
[ "You shouldn't give self-serving gifts." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "getting annoyed and confirming they dislike the situation", "They should just not participate if they don't want to put effort into a gift.", "It's a valid reason to gift things you own" ]
ethics_reddit
4,757
2
true
I'm afraid of love
Why are you afraid of love?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is expressing natural fear.", "They are just describing how they feel about love.", "Speaker confesses they are scared of relationships." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/1lep2p
4,758
0
false
I had a bad experiance with it, so now I'm cynical.
It can be hard to have a bad experience with love, but it is unhealthy to shut yourself off from relationships because of that. You should try to work through your feelings and be brave if you want to find love again.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is expanding on their fear.", "They are just describing how they feel about love.", "Speaker explains why they are scared of love." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/1lep2p
4,758
1
false
Love is for losers, I'm not going to talk about it again.
I think that you'll fund cutting yourself off from love isn't possible. You can't help falling in love with someone, spend some time to heal your heart so you are ready when you meet someone.
[ "It's bad to avoid your emotions." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker became defensive and rude towards speaker gray.", "They are just describing how they feel about love.", "Speaker is set in their ways about love." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/1lep2p
4,758
2
true
I find college so lonely.
That's sad. Why are you lonely?
[ "It's understandable to be lonely in college." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's understandable to feel lonely sometimes.", "It's concerning that the speaker finds college to be so lonely.", "Speaker finds college lonely." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ezawm4
4,759
0
false
I have not being able to enjoy the time here.
It is understandable to be lonely sometimes in college. A lot of people feel that way.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Not enjoying college.", "The speaker seems to just be having conversation about the feeling that they have.", "Speaker doesn't like college." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ezawm4
4,759
1
false
I'm just so lonely. I don't know why people don't want to be friends with me even if I try so hard.
It can be hard to make friends as a grown up but there are things you can do to make friends easier like participate in clubs or other activities and get to know people. But also don't feel bad that you are lonely, it happens to everybody at first until they get to know people.
[ "It is okay to feel lonely.", "It is good to join clubs to make friends." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Not being great at making friends.", "It's harmful to the person that they feel so alone and that no one wants to be their friend.", "Speaker is lonely." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ezawm4
4,759
2
true
Crocs Wearing crocs is like getting your dick sucked by a guy. It feel's good until you look down and realize your gay
Are you implying that men that wears a certain brand makes them gay?
[ "It's not right to think being gay is something to be ashamed of" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "its offensive to make fun of how people dress", "You shouldn't make fun of gay people", "You shouldn't make fun of gay people." ]
sbic
4,760
0
false
I'm not gay you fucktard. Get that through your thick fucking skull.
It's not really gay if your balls ain't touching. Have you heard that saying before?
[ "It's not right to think being gay is something to be ashamed of" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is acting very rude toward the other person", "You shouldn't use gay as a slur to demean others", "Speaker gets upset about being called gay and is clearly homophobic." ]
sbic
4,760
1
true
I think I developed OCD because I didn't want to admit how much my mom hurt men when I was a child. Developing OCD behaviors was a way to deal with it.
How did your mom hurt men when you were a kid?
[ "It's good to seek treatment for your mental health issues." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's bad for a parent to expose a child to a bad environment.", "Speaker is just saying what happened to them.", "Speaker is just talking about a health issue." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8rgy2a
4,761
0
false
I can't talk about that because then I would start crying.
That's an understandable response to trauma. You should talk to a therapist who can help you confront your trauma and develop behaviors to deal with it that are more healthy for you.
[ "It's important to seek professional when dealing with childhood trauma.", "It's ok to get emotional over distressing events from your childhood." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is elaborating on how the environment affected them.", "Speaker is upset but not causing harm.", "More talk about family and health issues." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8rgy2a
4,761
1
false
I don't want to. I know I already deal with it since I developed OCD which became my way to release negativity and feel confident in what I do.
You shouldn't try to carry that burden inside for so long, it will end up building up and hurting you. Confronting your feelings with others will help you to deal with your OCD and you will be able to conquer them more easily.
[ "You shouldn't repress your negative emotions or you may lose control of them.", "You should face the roots of your problems in order to overcome them." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is resistant to getting help with their problems.", "Speaker has issues but isn’t causing harm.", "You shouldn't ignore your feelings." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8rgy2a
4,761
2
true
Lately I've been having the USSR national anthem on repeat in my head.
Are you not able to stop thinking about it?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This seems like it is just a simple statement of personal experience.", "the speaker talks of a song they can't get out of their head", "Expresses having song stuck in their head" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eojxix
4,762
0
false
No it is constantly playing in my brain
That happens to me sometimes too. You should try thinking of another song in order to get the current one out of your head.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This is just an innocuous continuation of the previous sentiment.", "the song seems to be on repeat inside this person's brain", "Explains they can't seem to get song out of their head" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eojxix
4,762
1
false
I can't think of anything else.
There's plenty of songs out there, I'm sure you could find something. Just search online and try to find something. It will probably get annoying if you keep having this in your head.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Again, this just another statement of experience", "even if they try, they're unable to distract themselves from hearing the song play repeatedly", "Explanation for why they can't get song out of their head" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eojxix
4,762
2
true
I got triggered by a Family Guy episode.
How did Family Guy trigger you?
[ "You shouldn't watch Family Guy if it triggers you." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker was upset by a tv show.", "Speaker was offended by a cartoon.", "seems to have had an irrational emotional response to a cartoon" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9hmzqn
4,763
0
false
It started with a dumb Family Guy joke, then they made fun of veterans.
Well, everyone knows Family Guy is very satirical and can be insensitive and controversial. You need to have an open mind to watch the show. If you get trigged then I think you might be too sensitive for it and shouldn't watch it anymore.
[ "You shouldn't watch shows if you think you may be offended by their content." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Tv show made fun of veterans.", "Speaker was offended by a veterans joke.", "seems to have had an irrational emotional response to a cartoon" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9hmzqn
4,763
1
false
I can't be the only one who was offended by the episode.
I think that if you find the show offensive you just shouldn't watch it. There's no reason to watch something that will bother you that much.
[ "It's normal to not watch a show if you find it offensive." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker felt offended by a tv show's joke.", "Speaker was offended.", "trying to justify their irrational emotional response to a cartoon" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9hmzqn
4,763
2
true
I want someone to baby me
Why would you want to be babied?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Wanting to be taken care of.", "This is a normal acceptable thought sometimes", "fine, some people want that" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/djziuw
4,764
0
false
I want someone to take care of me and not give me orders.
It is ok if you want other people to take care of you. It is expected that adults will behave like adults and act responsibly.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Just wanting to not be pushed around", "This is still a polite conversation", "why do you want that?" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/djziuw
4,764
1
false
I'm an exception because I'm once harmful.
Sometimes it's okay to want to be babied every now and again. As long as it's in moderation.
[ "It's understandable to want to be babied." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaking about how they have been harmful.", "This might start a conflict if it was said grammatically correct", "disagreeing with feedback" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/djziuw
4,764
2
true
I was away for 15 years and when I returned no one met me at the airport so now I'm angry.
Why would no one show up to greet you at the airport?
[ "It is ok to be upset if someone you were supposed to meet at the terminal failed to show up.", "It's wrong not to meet your old friend when you meet again." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker is not saying anything that is socially inappropriate", "it's nice to meet someone at the airport", "They are upset no one greeted them after they've been gone a very long time" ]
ethics_reddit
4,765
0
false
I'm not sure, but they didn't support me at all and I'm pretty mad.
It sounds to me like the people who failed to show up just aren't doing all that they can to be a good people. You should tell them how this has made you feel and hope that they learn their lesson about not meeting you when they were supposed to.
[ "You should tell people how you feel when you're upset with them." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker is not saying anything that is socially inappropriate", "it is good to support your partner", "Their gf didn't support them" ]
ethics_reddit
4,765
1
false
So you don't think I should make a big deal out of it?
I think you should have a good talk with them. They really hurt you when they didn't show up at the airport. Just make sure that you stay calm when you are telling them or it might turn into a fight and allow them to justify not showing up to greet you.
[ "It's hurtful when people don't show up at the agreed time.", "You should stay calm when confronting people." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker is not saying anything that is socially inappropriate", "you should support your partner", "They ask if they should make a big deal" ]
ethics_reddit
4,765
2
true
What's the worst part about having a daughter in chemo? You can't pull her hair when you rape her.
Do you really believe rape is okay? What are you getting at?
[ "It's very rude to joke about children being targets of their own parents" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "you shouldn't make rape jokes as it is very offensive", "you shouldn't want to rape a child", "It's is highly inappropriate, taboo and offensive to joke about raping your own child and about cancer." ]
sbic
4,766
0
false
It's comedy! I know what you people do, think about it. It's not about sex children are so overrated, you only need them to care for your ass after retirement.
Victims of sex crimes might be really offended by your comments. I think we should support those who have been hurt by the people who should have been taking care of them. Would you like to learn more how to help these victims?
[ "It's very rude to joke about children being targets of their own parents" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is still being very offensive", "speaker avoids the critique by saying its comedy", "speaker rejects critique and tries to defend terrible joke, while continuing offensive statements." ]
sbic
4,766
1
true
I have this devious plan to take the jewelry out of my grandma's vanity when she is showering.
Why do you want to take her jewelry?
[ "It's wrong to take things from people that don't belong to you." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's rude and illegal to plan something like this...", "You shouldn't steal from people.", "It's wrong to steal from your grandmother" ]
ethics_amt
4,767
0
false
I really like her jewelry and want to wear it myself.
It is wrong to take the jewelry from your grandmother. She will think somebody stole and report it. It would be better to ask to borrow it.
[ "You shouldn't steal from a grandparent.", "It's wrong to take things from someone's room without asking." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "This is a continuation of the previous attitude.", "Gives their reason for wanting to do this.", "Speaker gives poor reasoning for wanting to steal" ]
ethics_amt
4,767
1
false
Nah, she's too old to care.
I highly doubt that, typically older women really care for their jewelry. I really do think you should just simply ask her to borrow it and it will turn out a lot better for you.
[ "It's expected to ask someone when you want to borrow something of theirs.", "You shouldn't assume someone doesn't care about something just" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "This is an excuse for the previous attitude.", "Gives further justification for doing this.", "nonsensical sentence" ]
ethics_amt
4,767
2
true
I'm going to ghost my best friend
Why would you ghost a friend?
[ "It is rude to cut off contact with someone with no explanation." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker wants to ghost their best friend which is rude and inconsiderate.", "rude to friend", "Speaker wants to ghost friend but maybe they have a reason." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ayuoae
4,768
0
false
I know him so well and he will be upset.
He would be upset if you suddenly ghost him. It's bad to tell someone that you aren't speaking to them on purpose. They would not trust you again.
[ "You shouldn't abandon your friends", "You should foster a reputation for trustworthiness" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is going to ghost their friend even though they know it will upset them.", "intentionally upsetting a friend", "Speaker explains their friend would be upset after ghosting them." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ayuoae
4,768
1
false
It's just a game and I have to have my fun somehow.
I don't think this is a good way of having fun. You are really going to hurt your best friend in the process if you choose to do this.
[ "You shouldn't hurt others for fun", "You should value your friendships" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker was not receptive to the advice and views ghosting their friend as fun.", "intentionally upsetting a friend is bad", "Speaker thinks its fun to ghost a friend who doesn't deserve it." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ayuoae
4,768
2
true
I compulsively chew on the skin on my fingers and around my fingernails to the point of bleeding and I don't know how to stop
Well, I am kind of curious now if you've ever thought about getting help for this habit?
[ "You shouldn't feel ashamed for seeking help." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "It is wrong to self harm in that way.", "you should not chew at your nails", "When you have a habit that causes physical pain and damage to your body you need to get help to deal with it." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cnma1o
4,769
0
false
I'm too ashamed to ask anyone for help, especially my family. Also I think it's psychologically related.
Getting passed a habit like this can be difficult. And you should never feel ashamed for seeking help. If you reach out to someone you trust and let them know what is happening, they will at least be able to give you support.
[ "It's ok to seek help if you need it." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "They are not willing to seek help for their problem.", "you should get help for emotional troubles", "You need to get help to get a habit that is physically dangerous to you under control." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cnma1o
4,769
1
false
Well I think I am going to do it tomorrow.
That is great, and I hope that you figure this out! I am sure with help from others that the habit will be defeated in no time.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They are saying they will get help.", "it is good to get help with bad habits", "It's good to understand that you have a problem that you need help to control." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cnma1o
4,769
2
true
Do you think my boyfriend deserves me?
Why do you think he doesn't deserve you?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker has questions about relationships", "They seem to be casually asking for relationship advice.", "Has reasonable anxieties about their relationship." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/b1z1er
4,770
0
false
There were times when he was abusive and he also cheated on me.
It is never ok for someone to abuse you. It is good to know your self worth and get out of a bad situation.
[ "It's hurtful to be in an abusive relationship.", "Being assertive in a bad situation is good." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "its wrong for someone to abuse another", "Harmful and dangerous behavior from the boyfriend (abuse and cheating) that was done to the speaker.", "Confesses speaker was abused and cheated on." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/b1z1er
4,770
1
false
I'll probably give him a second chance and see if his behavior improves.
It's important to know your self worth and if you're with someone that doesn't understand that, then you should end the relationship. No one should make you question your self worth.
[ "Having good self esteem while in a relationship is good." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "giving second chances is risky", "It sounds like the speaker is going to try to stay in a toxic relationship, this could be dangerous.", "Desires to go back to their abuser, which can put them in more danger." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/b1z1er
4,770
2
true
John scolded me and wanted me to explain why I couldn't do something.
Why did he scold you for that?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker explaining a situation", "might have a good reason", "It's not clear what is happening yet." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/e9f2b390-6614-4398-813f-a1846f52c9c2/sentence5
4,771
0
false
Because I didn't feel like explaining my views on the issue any further.
If you're unable to do something then you should be able to explain why. Otherwise you'll end up letting people down and they'll stop coming to you for whatever their needs are. This will in turn cause your relationships to become strained.
[ "It's expected to explain why you can't do something.", "You shouldn't put yourself in a position to disappoint people." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Coninuting to explain", "okay to feel that way", "The speaker is refusing to take part in conversation with someone." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/e9f2b390-6614-4398-813f-a1846f52c9c2/sentence5
4,771
1
false
That doesn't matter to me. He's not really a friend.
Then you need to communicate that to John rather than misleading him about thinking you're friends, refusing to act like a friend, and not telling him why. That will just make him confused and hurt, while you get frustrated by being scolded. Wouldn't it be better to be honest and clear the air?
[ "It's good to communicate issues with other people." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker continues good conversation", "needs to tell John they don't want to be friends", "The speaker doesn't take the advice to explain and instead continues to refuse to take part in conversation with someone." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/e9f2b390-6614-4398-813f-a1846f52c9c2/sentence5
4,771
2
true
Do you think it would be ok for me to take the kids on vacation with out my husband?
Why aren't you going to take your husband as well?
[ "It's fine to go on vacation without your partner." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker asks if it's acceptable to take the children on vacation without her husband.", "normal/standard", "wants a vacation with kids but not husband" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1aqau
4,772
0
false
I'm getting tired of my husband's tantrums. I need a break
I think it's a good idea to take your kids on a vacation without your husband, as it will give you all some time to have some time apart and relax. Going on a vacation without your partner can be a good way to put things into perspective.
[ "It's good to get some personal space from time to time." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker claims she's needs a break from her husband's tantrums.", "normal/standard", "wants a break from husband's \"tantrums\"" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1aqau
4,772
1
false
You don't know how much fun it is to ignore all his requests for contact. He can be tiresome at times.
That might be a really great experience for everyone. He can rest and maybe not be so grumpy when you guys get back home. Do you have any ideas where you want to go?
[ "It's okay to have space from your spouse." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker states it would be a relief not to have respond to husband's request for contact.", "Nothing is socially unacceptable", "likes to ignore her husband" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1aqau
4,772
2
true
I think I have a crush on a younger man
Why are you so attracted to him?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker hasn't said the age range", "The speaker isn't being immoral.", "Conversation about liking younger men." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2z9hrn
4,773
0
false
I don't know, it feels like I've always liked 18-year-old guys.
Well as long as they are of the legal age, I see no problem. Some people just prefer to date people that are younger than them.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "it's okay to have a thing for someone who is an adult", "Nothing immoral.", "Describing the age of guys they like." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2z9hrn
4,773
1
false
I just want to kiss him.
Well as long as you get consent first then it would not be a problem for anyone. Try to keep looking around and find someone to crush on that is around your age though.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker continues their crush fantasies", "The speaker isn't really being immoral or rude.", "Further discussion about the topic." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2z9hrn
4,773
2
true
Wow, really digging deep there. Ask yourself WHY, ALWAYS. Not sexist, but i prefer to read books writen by men
Do you think women are less capable when it comes to writing?
[ "It's not right to think women can't write enjoyable books" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "you should not think women are less capable", "You shouldn't make sexist comments.", "it's wrong to make jokes about race" ]
sbic
4,774
0
false
No. Why do you use caps? is it because you think i'm insulting women and your breaking down? If so, you're an idiot.
It is rude to make a claim that a women can not write an enjoyable book. It is fine if you prefer to read books by men, however be sure not to degrade women by saying they can't write well. If you are simply stating a preference then it is all good!
[ "It's not right to think women can't write enjoyable books" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker calls other speaker an idiot", "The speaker is rude and disregards the advice.", "it's wrong to make jokes about race and death" ]
sbic
4,774
1
true
I'm upset that I'm being excluded from parties as a mature student
Why does that make you upset?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Being upset about being excluded is normal.", "Speaker shows disappointment without being offensive to anyone.", "conversation about being excluded from parties" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awr3qn
4,775
0
false
I like parties and I would like to be friends with everybody
It's reasonable to be mad over being excluded by classmates. However, you must understand that people typically want to hang out with others their age.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Would like it if they were invited to parties and wants to be friends with people.", "Speaker continues to be disjointed in their personal life.", "explaining why it makes them upset" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awr3qn
4,775
1
false
Totally. I'm going to post this on the party page and start a big deal out of it.
You should not make this a big deal, you should just accept that they want to hang out with people their age.
[ "It's natural for people to want to hang out with others their same age.", "You have a right to be upset at being excluded by classmates." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Intends to cause conflict because they were excluded.", "Speaker changes tone and decides to instigate potential drama.", "wants to make a big deal out of it" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awr3qn
4,775
2
true
Is it wrong that I have a unhealthy fear of the future of the world and climate change?
Is there a reason you fear climate change?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Being afraid of something scary is normal.", "Telling us about their fears.", "it's an innocent comment" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bjbhzh
4,776
0
false
I have no choice but to have this irrational fear, so I'm fighting it all I can.
It's reasonable to be worried about the future due to all the ecological disasters going on. Have you thought about trying to get a group together to do a community cleaning event?
[ "It's understandable to worry about the future.", "It's good gathering together to help the future." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It is okay to have fears that you can't control.", "Doesn't seem to handle their fears well.", "it's irrational but no harm" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bjbhzh
4,776
1
false
Just trying to live my life in the present, I don't need to worry about any of that.
If you have a fear of climate change, it would be helpful for you to take steps to help fight climate change. There are plenty of organizations that you can look into. This will help you with your fear.
[ "It's okay doing something now about climate change.", "It's wrong to not get into an organization." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Everyone has fears and it is good to work through them.", "Still seems fearful.", "it's an innocent comment" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bjbhzh
4,776
2
true
vp mike pence mistakenly tried to stop chris brown he heard brown was trying to give women rights
Why do you feel that way?
[ "It's not right to claim Chris Brown was trying to give women rights" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't joke about domestic violence or about sexist beliefs", "It's wrong to make light of domestic abuse.", "It's rude to joke about spousal abuse" ]
sbic
4,777
0
false
Chris Brown was actually trying to give women rights, but he gave them too much by mistake.
I think women already have rights and they don't need Christ brown to help them. I don't think it is very tasteful to make a joke about domestic violence. Before you mock women why don't you talk to some about their concerns.
[ "It's not right to claim Chris Brown was trying to give women rights" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "they continue the joke", "speaker continued being rude and offensive", "keeps it up" ]
sbic
4,777
1
true
I copied the answers of the final off my neighbor and I got a good grade.
Congratulations, I guess!?? Did your neighbor allow you to cheat off of them?
[ "It's bad to cheat in school.", "It's bad to cheat." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to cheat on test.", "It's unfair to cheat.", "it's wrong to cheat on tests" ]
ethics_amt
4,778
0
false
He actually helped me to get the correct answers, what can I do?
Your neighbor should not have allowed you to cheat. You won't be learning anything and if you get caught, you could be expelled.
[ "It's bad to cheat off someone.", "It's bad to do things that can get you expelled from school." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker further explains the cheating", "It's wrong to conspire to cheat.", "they try to justify their actions" ]
ethics_amt
4,778
1
false
I'm going to use this grade as a source of confidence.
But you did not earn the grade, so what exactly are you confident about. That you can cheat well, that is not a good thing to be happy about. Cheating in school only harms you since it means that you are wasting time and did not really learn anything.
[ "It's good to earn your success." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker doesnt' see error in ways, will cause conflict.", "Being confident because you cheated is an unhealthy mindset.", "they ignore critique" ]
ethics_amt
4,778
2
true
I'm going to refuse to go out with my co-workers
Why don't you want to go out with them?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is refusing to go out with their co-workers, but doesn't say why", "Speaker doesn't say why they don't want to go out", "Not sure why speaker is saying this yet" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awwa0a
4,779
0
false
I am not a fan of where they are going to.
If you don't like where they are going, then you don't have to go. Do not force yourself to do something you do not want to do.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker isn't a fan of where they want to go", "It's understandable not to want to go somewhere you don't enjoy", "Speaker has a reasonable explanation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awwa0a
4,779
1
false
Great, I will go home then.
There is nothing wrong with that. Maybe you can suggest a place you like to go with them next time.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker agrees with Gray, and says they will go home then", "It's understandable not to want to go somewhere you don't enjoy", "Speaker responds in a polite way" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awwa0a
4,779
2
true
I don't actually feel bad that my grandfather died saturday
Do you not feel bad that he died because you didn't get along with him?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "We need more information to judge what's happening here.", "Speaker expresses not feeling bad their grandpa died, but maybe it was for a reason.", "it's an innocent comment" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/20o6xf
4,780
0
false
That is part of it. We never bonded in the first place as well.
It's not unreasonable for you to not feel sad that you're grandfather died because you weren't close to him. As long as you understand that your other family members might be grieving and do what you can to make them feel better, then you shouldn't be guilty about not feeling bad yourself.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's okay to not feel sad. Everyone takes death differently.", "Speaker explains they were never close to their grandpa and that's why they aren't sad they died.", "nothing wrong with that" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/20o6xf
4,780
1
false
They think I should be sad and I just don't understand their problem.
Sometimes it is hard to fathom why others are not sad about loss. People grieve in different ways and just because you are not sad does not mean you are not grieving.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They are just describing the situation.", "Speaker feels they should be sad their grandpa died", "that's understandable" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/20o6xf
4,780
2
true
I taught my friend's little brother to eat sand.
Why would you teach his little brother to eat sand?
[ "It is wrong to teach a child how to eat something that is inedible." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "speaker reports acting unethically and potentially causing harm to another person", "Teaching kids to eat sand is dangerous.", "eating sand could cause serious health issues" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/d3pmsm
4,781
0
false
Because he told me I don't have any friends.
I understand that it's not fun to be made fun of, but you shouldn't take it out on children and make them eat dangerous things. Children are very impressionable and it is horrible to take advantage of that, you may hurt them even more in the future.
[ "It's wrong to teach children to eat dangerous things.", "You shouldn't take advantage of impressionable children." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "speaker's rationale is not a valid justification", "Teaching kids to eat sand is dangerous.", "eating sand could cause serious health issues" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/d3pmsm
4,781
1
false
My friends little bro is old enough to know better.
You may think he is, but it's still not right to get him to eat sand. You don't know what kind of damage that could cause. I think it would be better if you just ignored your friend's brother, instead of trying to get revenge on him.
[ "It's not right to let a child eat sand.", "You should ignore someone instead of getting revenge on them." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "speaker is unremorseful and dismissive of critique", "Teaching kids to eat sand is dangerous.", "eating sand could cause serious health issues" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/d3pmsm
4,781
2
true
I'm going to have a busy day at work loaded with meetings
Why are you keeping yourself so busy?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They are just describing a normal situation.", "This is a normal statement.", "The speaker isn't being immoral." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9kr06d
4,782
0
false
I get paid more if I get the client to sign the contract.
It is good to work hard at your job. You should remember to take time for your self so you do not burn out on the job.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "This is just normal work talk.", "The speaker isn't being immoral." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9kr06d
4,782
1
false
Well, I made a ton of money today.
It is great that you are willing to work so hard for your job. It is even better that you are compensated fairly for it.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They haven't done anything unethical here.", "Speaker continues to vent about work.", "Nothing rude or immoral here." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9kr06d
4,782
2
true
My dad went to church to go pray. Fukin dumb ass lmao
Are you making a comment about religion here?
[ "It's not right to think it's stupid to pray" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You should never refer to your father using vulgar words.", "It's rude and offensive to judge people for their religious views.", "It's wrong to mock people for their religious beliefs." ]
sbic
4,783
0
false
I don't care. I'm just saying what I feel about it.
It is very insensitive to say that it is stupid to pray. Many people pray as a way to let out their stress, and doing this gives them hope that they can achieve what they want to achieve. Religion is a great thing for many people, so just because you do not believe in it does not make it stupid if you know what i mean.
[ "It's not right to think it's stupid to pray" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Continuing, speaker doesn't care about using vulgarity when referring to their father.", "Speaker does not admit their comments are rude.", "speaker continued being rude and offensive" ]
sbic
4,783
1
true
I failed my biology test today because when they asked what is most commonly found in cells, my answer was black people.
Why would you try to joke with your class like that?
[ "It's not right to think all black people are criminals" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "it is wrong to be racist", "You shouldn't make racist jokes.", "It is wrong to make a racist joke about Black people." ]
sbic
4,784
0
false
I thought it was a funny joke because most of the people in prison are Black.
Unfortunately many Black people are incarcerated due to systemic racism in the justice system. Many people are unfairly arrested and given harsher sentences because of their race, many white people are given more lenient sentences. There are many good documentaries you could watch about racial inequality that decides w...
[ "It's wrong to make jokes about black people" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "it is wrong to be racist and mean", "Misinformed about prison populations and using it to tell a racist joke.", "Person is being racist by saying most prisoners are black." ]
sbic
4,784
1
false
What kind of documentaries. Do you want to send me episodes on netflix? I want to watch them on netflix.
I am sure that there are some on Netflix, just look it up. You should watch those so you can understand why it is not okay to joke like that.
[ "You should educate yourself by watching documentaries about the subject", "You need to understand making jokes about black people is not ok" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "it is wrong to be racist and rude", "Showed a willingness to change their attitude and are asking for the documentaries.", "Person has not changed their racist point of view about Black people." ]
sbic
4,784
2
true
Life is like a box of chocolates. If you're fat, it doesn't last long.
I find your analogy to be rather offensive!
[ "It's not right to think fat people are food addicts" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to joke about fat people", "It's wrong to assume fat people don't live long", "It is biased and hurtful body shaming language" ]
sbic
4,785
0
false
It's okay, fat people are all food addicts. They cannot help it, they can't control themselves.
You should try to sympathize more with people suffering from being overweight, so that you understand what they're going through before you make inane comments like that. Empathy is important because it helps us understand how others are feeling so we can respond appropriately to the situation.
[ "It's not right to think fat people are food addicts" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Justifying the joke", "Speaker is rude about fat people", "It is harmful stereotyping about fat people" ]
sbic
4,785
1
true
I was having sex with my girlfriend, but all of a sudden she started bleeding. I didn't mind, I just kept on going. Didn't even care that she was in labor.
I think you're making a joke about having sex with pregnant women.
[ "It's not right to think women are sex objects" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's offensive to make jokes about sex during prgnancy.", "You shouldn't make crude, sexist jokes", "You shouldn't make gross sex jokes about women." ]
sbic
4,786
0
false
What is wrong with you? Do you know nothing about the birds and the bees?
Would your girlfriend like it if she heard you tell that joke? It dehumanizes women and is hurtful to them.
[ "It's not right to think women are sex objects" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They don't appear to think they've said anything wrong.", "Speaker is defensive about making sexist remark", "Continues being jokey about the situation." ]
sbic
4,786
1
true
It can be pretty hard to hear over the noise, so ladies, just yell at me like I'm your boyfriend.
I hope you are being a good sport here; are you?
[ "It's not right to think women nag a lot" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't believe that women yell at their boyfriends.", "The joke about woman yelling could be taken as rude to some", "You shouldn't joke about women." ]
sbic
4,787
0
false
No, I don't really care what women say.
I'm pretty sure you wouldn't say that to to your mother or sister because they are women too right? It's wrong to think that all women nag a lot.
[ "It's not right to think women nag a lot" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker seems to be very negative about women.", "Is disrespectful to women on comment", "Speaker doesn't' care about women's opinions." ]
sbic
4,787
1
true
Last night I cried myself to sleep. It was the first time I've done it in years.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Why were you so sad?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker states that they cried themselves to sleep, but doesn't say why", "speaker is opening about their feelings", "The speaker is expressing sadness." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9pc50x
4,788
0
false
I'm sick and tired of being the only one in my family who tries to help others with their problems.
That's terrible that it upsets you so much. It might be good to take time to take care of yourself and worry less about others.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker explains that they are tired of being the only person in the family who tries to help others", "speaker has family issues", "The speaker is frustrated with their family which is socially acceptable." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9pc50x
4,788
1
false
But they need me.
It's difficult to help others if you're not happy, though. You should take some time to rest and feel better before trying to do things for your family.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker says their family needs them. This is a polite conversation.", "speaker explains why they can't change things", "This is a civil conversation." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9pc50x
4,788
2
true
I feel broken because I lost two of my close friends in one month
How did you lose them?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's understandable to be upset after losing friends.", "Speaker expresses sadness, which is normal.", "Nothing offensive written" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/btsy0z
4,789
0
false
The took jobs abroad and they didn't invite me.
It's sad to have close friends move away, but it happens. If you didn't have a job offer, you probably couldn't have gone with them. You can still stay in touch, though.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker explains why their friends moved away.", "Speaker explains why they are sad.", "Nothing uncivil in convo" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/btsy0z
4,789
1
false
That's what I wanted to do. I have never felt pain like this.
I'm sorry that you're in so much pain over this. It's always sad when friends move away and out of your life. But I hope you stay in touch and make new friends too.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker continues talking about how sad they feel since their friends left.", "Speaker agrees with advice.", "Don't see anything harmful in convo" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/btsy0z
4,789
2
true
Have you heard the one about why Jew's don't eat pussy? It's because it's so close to the gas chamber.
Do you find that funny? I'm really surprised you'd make a joke like that.
[ "You shouldn't joke about the holocaust" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's rude to make holocaust jokes.", "it is wrong to be a racist and bigoted", "It's wrong to make jokes about the Holocaust." ]
sbic
4,790
0
false
It's just a silly fun joke. My parents used to say it when I was a kid and now I say it whenever I'm in an argument with a liberal.
Jokes are fine and it being one you heard form your parents of course you would think it's okay to say. But the Holocaust was a time in Jewish history where an entire group of people were litterally afraid for their lives every day. I think you should learn more about the topic to get a better understanding so you can ...
[ "It's wrong to tell jokes that are racist and harmful.", "You should learn about history instead of making jokes about historic atrocities." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker admits to telling jokes to get people upset.", "it is wrong to be a racist and bigoted against jews", "It's wrong to trivialize the Holocaust." ]
sbic
4,790
1
false
Yea, yea, I know your liberal history. I just love making fun of Jews.
Would you like to come to a museum with me and learn more about it, though? If you still find this sort of joke funny then maybe you've not looked as much into as you think, because it was a real tragedy.
[ "It's wrong to make fun of people groups who have gone through tragedies.", "You should educate yourself about other people instead of being racist toward them." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is mean and likes to make fun of others.", "it is wrong to be a racist against the jewish people", "It's rude to make fun of Jewish people." ]
sbic
4,790
2
true
I got myself into a situation at work. I'm in love with my secretary and she's playing hard to get to make me leave my wife.
That sounds tough. Would you consider ending things with her to get back to your relationship with your wife?
[ "It's wrong to cheat on your partner." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is involved in an inappropriate workplace romance that threatens marriage and violates norms", "they are being romantic with a co worker", "being in love with a coworker is dangerous and leaving your wife could be harmful" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cxq36w
4,791
0
false