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fear of others intentions |
impulsivity |
Drive to quickly attain food and |
other resources |
Diminished capacity for patience |
discipline and goal setting |
Addictiveness |
Quick to repeat behaviors that |
have positive outcomes |
Quick to become addicted to |
drugs alcohol etc |
Table Behavior that was adaptive in our ancestral past is now maladaptive |
Our proclivity for chaotic and destructive thinking is largely involuntary This is because |
in most people the brains fear and grief centers have been recruited to be an integral part of |
the default mode network When we think about unfavorable social scenarios while under |
sympathetic upregulation day after day we deeply etch the threat centers into our wiring |
This makes it so that antagonistic conflict runs on autopilot The default mode network is active |
during selfreferential thought but is turned off whenever our attention turns to a task or |
distraction For many of us the only time we have a reprieve from negative thoughts is when |
a diversion such as the television or social media drowns out our inner voice |
Chapter Think Peacefully |
Many individuals with severe PTSD extrovert only when they talk about their trauma |
They may be reticent and withdrawn most of the time but come alive when relating stories |
about being accosted bombed in a rice paddy or abused as a child too used to only become |
lively when spoke about the bad things that happened to me would pick the most negative |
topic possible and use it to whip myself into a frenzy This made most of my conversations with |
friends interactions that are supposed to be uplifting incredibly draining My tendency to talk |
about unsettling events was reinforcing my social anxiety Next time you are with a friend try |
not talking about anything irksome or disagreeable and watch how cool it helps you become |
Many of us define ourselves in terms of how tough or unique our problems are This is due |
to our inherited tendency to become addicted to trauma During fearful episodes the brain |
secretes opioid chemicals that temporarily alleviate the sensation of pain This fearinduced |
analgesia is the reason why some of us are paradoxically addicted to fear We find it thrilling |
This is why we can become addicted to scary movies or to focusing on negative events It is like |
an animal in a cage that engages in selfinjurious behavior just to stay stimulated Almost all |
monkeys caged alone develop selfbiting selfslapping and headbanging tendencies Analyze |
the perverse gratification you get from thinking and talking about negative things Isnt this |
something you could live without |
Thinking Activity imagine Not Talking About Stress |
Analyze your tendency to talk and think unconstructively about things that incite strong |
negative emotions What if you cut this out completely Imagine not telling others about |
anything negative traumatic or fearinducing ever again Imagine never griping criticizing or |
discussing situations in which you feel you have been wronged Imagine never talking about |
anything related to your misfortune mistreatment or your ego being bruised Imagine not |
dragging yourself and others down with stories about hostile interpersonal interactions |
Could you do it How might this change you |
Hopefully you can see how these types of conversations are draining you Try going for a |
whole month without talking about anything stressful By the end of the month just see |
whether you have more positive energy |
Confiding in others in a relaxed supportive environment can be highly therapeutic |
However inundating others with negativity just winds us up further Mulling over upsetting |
scenarios rather than desensitizing you usually just sensitizes you to them further Let us |
differentiate between what sensitizes us and desensitizes us |
Be Nonjudgmental Nonresistant and Nonattached |
Accept whatever comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny for what could more aptly fit your needs |
Marcus Aurelius |
It is possible to prune the fear and grief centers from your brains default network By |
intentionally reframing our experiences we can remodel the existing biological connections and |
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body |
reprogram our thinking Even the simplest popular notions about managing negative thinking |
can be applicable Use these its not that bad mistakes make me better dont fight |
reality everything is temporary this too will pass lets find the silver lining everything |
happens for a reason I learn from my mistakes time heals all wounds or never mind |
Reframing bad experiences solders resilience into our brains circuitry and cuts out the |
elements that do not serve us |
The following are three especially powerful perspectives that come straight from Eastern |
philosophy that have helped me reframe my circumstances and rewire my worldview |
nonjudgment nonresistance and nonattachment |
wa wa |
Thinking Activity Nonjudgment Nonresistance Nonattachment |
Spend five minutes imagining what it would be like to completely embrace the following |
perspectives |
Nonjudgment You are nonjudgmental when you make a conscious choice not to |
criticize Most people judge everything that they come across This is immature |
Instead of judging something dispassionately recognize it for what it is and move on |
without stamping it with your approval or rejection You can suspend your judgment |
on everything from nuisances to catastrophes |
Nonresistance Always accept what is going on at present as if you have chosen it |
Nonresistance is choosing to accept the things you cannot change We are constantly |
resisting Not only is this often futile it is also extremely disheartening Give yourself |
a break from opposing your environment and let things take their natural course |
This is not resignation or inaction We cant fix everything at once so it is best to learn |
to coexist with the things that are bothering us as we consider the best ways to rectify |
them Accept everything that happens Stoic philosophers called this the art of |
acquiescence Nietzsche called this amor fati a love for all that fate unfolds |
So Ive been asking you to become nonsubmissive but am also asking you to fully |
surrender to everything you cannot change |
Nonattachment We all have unhealthy emotional attachments to things that we can |
easily lose These attachments set us up for disappointment and emotional pain when |
we do lose them Even if we dont lose them we live in fear of losing them Imagine |
what it would be like never to fear loss Imagine losing everything that you love and |
yet still being at peace Relinquish property friends family past achievements |
and every form of physical possession Imagine giving up these things and yet still |
being happy If you are afraid of losing something you are insecurely attached to it |
and can never truly love it True joy only comes from things or aspects of things |
that can never be taken away |
These three perspectives are very powerful because they force us to reanalyze our |
predicaments from a viewpoint inconsistent with ego status or defeat This is why they are |
also incompatible with distressed breathing and persistent muscle tension Due to our |
experiencedependent neuroplasticity mental states become mental traits Thus using these |
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