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AITAH for asking out a man my friend liked? | I 43f made friends with 43f Stacy 6 months ago. We are both actively dating so we encounter a lot of the same guys. I’m more looking for a FWB situation she thinks she would like a relationship. I specifically asked her if there was anyone off limits and she listed three guys she had been seeing she would want to be s... | Personally I would have never done what you did especially given SHE invited him.
But I can see how you felt led on by her. TBH, I don’t think this is about her liking the guy. I think this is more about her feeling hurt/rejected that he “chose “ you over her. |
AITAH for choosing my birthday gaming tradition over staying with my girlfriend while she is home alone? | My (M23s) birthday is on January 13th. Every year, I have a tradition where my cousin and I set up our computers and have a gaming marathon throughout the weekend. It’s a tradition we’ve kept for a long time, and we usually do it the weekend following my birthday.
This year, that weekend happens to be a rare occasion... | Nta.
Also may want to consider this foreshadowing. |
WIBTAH for calling my MIL out for her possessiveness over my baby? | So I just had my baby a few days ago and my MIL seems to be possessive over my baby. She is currently respecting all boundaries regarding touching and is being very helpful with getting stuff for the baby. Too helpful in my opinion. She offers help, then when we say we dont need something she gets it anyways. She made ... | Clear boundaries! You AND YOUR HUSBAND need to set clear boundaries. Like "look, you can come visit two times a week, like monday and friday, but not more. And we really appreciate your thoughtfulness. But all this takes away our own experiences with the baby. We want to take care of the little bundle of joy without so... |
AITAH for not giving my mom money | My mom just asked me for £50 and I (19)don’t want to give it to her, she says she’ll pay it back at the end of the month but she constantly asking for money from me.
She borrowed money from her cousins and she hasn’t payed anything towards it , but I pay £300-400 towards it every month, I pay for my little sisters extr... | NTA. She is financially irresponsible and it is a common problem. She needs to learn to budget. One option for you, since you are paying anyways and an adult now, is make a rental agreement, formal written and signed, for your room and board. The benefit here is she can include this in the budget and you can remove the... |
AITAH for refusing to let my sister babysit my cousin's kids | Me (23 F) and my sister (21 F) both live together in our own apartment and have for about a year now. Not long after we moved in, my cousin (19 F) started asking my sister to babysit her two kids, both under the age of 1 at the time. At first I didn't mind too much, they weren't too loud and even if we weren't getting ... | NTA but you should not move into another place with your sister. Go live with your boyfriend in a kid-free house, and let your sister do what she wants. |
AITAH because I’m packing to leave, even though he doesn’t accept it? | Sorry it’s long. I’m on my phone and wrote this out a few times, stressed out, ADHD. Let me know if anything isn’t clear enough.
I’m (39) separating from M (45). Married for 18 years together 20 years.
We have two children, (16 and 12) that I have parented, done appointments for, driven around, bought what they need... | NTA at all. You need to protect your mental health and that of your children. When they ask to leave, yes you need to do it. |
AITAH for calling my parents once a day while they got fever? | Context: If you’ve ever watched The Sopranos, my mom behaves very similarly to Tony’s mom. I'm in my30s and my parents in their early 60s
That said, I call my mom every day at 5 PM. That’s the bare minimum to not be called a “terrible son who hates his parents“
Yesterday my mom told me she and my father got ill... | Just when you thought daily calls were enough surprise. You’ve been promoted to full-time caregiver without the benefits package. |
AITAH for not saying good morning to a teacher I didn’t know? | I am in 10th grade. About three weeks ago, I was really sick. I had a fever and a really bad throat, but I still had to go to school because I had an important exam that day.
At my school, mobiles aren’t usually allowed, but during exams you can get special permission to bring one so you can leave early instead of jus... | NTA, that teacher is unhinged |
AITAH for not paying my neighbor for cutting a tree in my yard down? | This is a long one, but even the police (when they were called) found this one of their craziest incidents to ever happen. Buckle up if you’re bored! Will try to sum this one up with TLDR at the bottom and all key points:
-November 26th: neighbor across the street stops my wife and I as we’re leaving to see if we want... | Not too late to make a police report. |
AITAH mother? | For background, myself 67F, daughter 47F! Now at 2, she was adopted by then husband. We spit when she was 10, he was verbally abusive. Long story short Very estranged relationship, with lots of manipulation on both sides! Stayed out of it once she became adult, but always stood beside her decisions with him.
Conseq... | NTA, it's time for daughter to grow up and become an adult. You have been enabling all these bad decisions by giving her money and by letting her stay at your place. She's 47, she should be able to handle her own life... |
AITAH for cutting ties with my grandmother who “loved me the most”? | Hi all,
Lately I feel strange, and started questioning my point of view, so I would really use some other people’s perspective here.
A bit of a back story together with the last thing happened.
When I was three years old, I lived with my parents and paternal grandparents. After my parents divorced, I moved with my m... | NTA age doesn't give you a pass to treat people like crap |
I'm AITAH for not wanting to let my roommate leave my pan soaking? | Hi everyone,
I live in a shared house. A new girl moved in, and on her first day I told her she could use my pans until she buys her own.
I usually leave my pan soaking because I cook a lot of chicken, creamy dishes, and fried stuff, and soaking makes it easier to clean (also… a little laziness on my part).
She’s been ... | She's returning it to the state in which she found it; she's being thoughtful and considerate.
YOU, on the other hand, are pissy that she didn't clean up your pan more than you could be bothered to do yourself?
YOU are the lazy one. YTA. |
AITAH for being jealous of my 5 year old cousin? | this feels so stupid to write but i feel myself getting increasingly more frustrated with my cousin.
For context, me (17F) and my cousin (5F) live right next to eachother and shes able to come into my home via the basement.
Shes a good kid but i feel like everyone spoils her too much and shes allowed to have whatever... | [removed] |
AITAH for telling my husband to confront his parents. | Every year my family hosts a clay pigeon shoot. It’s been a tradition since before I was born. Relatives from all across states come in, along with friends life has pushed us in different directions. It’s a big deal. Saturday was the gun shoot. My husband (42m) and son (17m) love this day. My husband got up early to g... | Very soft YTA. Confrontation won't change his pain. And he's not ready to go no contact. So, pushing him into a confrontation won't help him.
It may be what you would do or what would make you feel better but this is about him. The best thing for you to do is to help him get to the point where he realizes that a toxi... |
WIBTAH if I reached out to an ex boyfriend’s recent ex to see why the relationship ended? | Going through some therapy and morbidly want to know if indeed my only ex boyfriend’s recent relationship ended because of him or his ex? I know this women’s socials because of a friend and thinking of reaching out. WIBTAH if I did that? I’m doing some intense therapy and am just wanting to know if I’m right (he’s an a... | YWBTA-of course you would be the asshole. The reason their relationship ended is literally none of your business.
Ask your therapist if this would be a good idea. If they say yes, find a new therapist.
You are married, move on with your life. |
AITAH for cursing at my new neighbors for having party's and making too much noise? | I live in a appartment building with very poor insulation so you can hear every footstep and voices of the neighbors.
So this is already the 4th time this Happens in 2 weeks. My new neighbors (young couple) move in to our apartment building about 3 weeks ago and they like to party...
I knocked on their door one time ... | Nta, especially if you arent the only one asking them to pipe down. You asked several times. They may be young but if they can have their own place, they can also have manners. To laugh at you while knowingly being dicks? No. Apartment living means being EXTRA considerate of your neighbors. If they keep up report them... |
AITAH for reporting my manager to hr? | Ok, so this is a weird story because I truly do not know what happened. I started at my job little over a year ago and I really got along with everybody, especially my manager. When I say we got along, I mean I seriously thought we could all be friends outside of work, get along. About 6 months ago my manager sat me do... | NTA. Start looking for a new job. HR is there to protect the company not you. You are a replaceable "resource". |
Am I the AITAH for listening to my friend? | So a friend told me to send his sister a gif that he knew would make her super sad,
And he kept yelling at me to do it,
Well I asked if she wanted to see it
And now he’s blaming me
And it’s the same for his sister,
I won’t be saying anything about them because I don’t wanna dox anyone,
Btw I told her to check the gc if... | YTA and your friend. You can say no and stick to it. I have a feeling his threats were empty and just a scare tactic. Why are you still friends with him when he’s threatening you and being horrible? |
AITAH ? I’m too insecure to let a good guy get close to me | I’m a 26 year old female who’s been talking with a guy. He’s been trying to pursue a relationship with me for a couple months. He’s a very sweet and caring guy. I keep rejecting him because I fear he will find me boring/lame and leave me. This guy has a HUGE group of friends, he has lots of cousins he’s close with. He’... | I think you've set yourself up for failure here. Lies always catch up to you. I think you need to let this guy go and work on yourself for a bit. Get some therapy to deal with your insecurity and try some new activities. Think of things you like to do, hobbies, join a group or two. NTA |
AITAH for not wanting to invite a friend to attend her dream concert | I've had a group of four friends (including me) that have done EVERYTHING together since sophomore year of high school. Near the end of sophomore year, one of our friends got a boyfriend and started ignoring us and pushing us away. After a long time of us trying to keep her around, we kind of gave up on her and became ... | I get that you don’t want to leave her hanging, but if it’s gonna be a bad time for everyone, then it’s okay to not want her there. It’s your experience too. |
AITAH for not getting my colleague a gift on her birthday? | I 35f work in a small office and birthdays are kind of a thing here and it’s quite special to me too with how I grew up and all.
I usually make the effort to get everyone something small a card coffee mug snacks nothing big but thoughtful every year since I’ve been working here not to start anything but a tradition I... | NTAH. It reads less like pettiness and more like quietly resetting a dynamic that had become one sided, which can feel uncomfortable but isn’t inherently unkind. |
AITAH for putting locks on cabinets and drawers in my shared apartment | I (21f) have three roommates (21m, 20f, and 19f) lets say their (fake) names are Jeff(M) Izzy(f20) Luz(19f).
To preface I am friends with Luz and we share drawers/cabinets in the kitchen. Luz and Izzy also have their own private rooms while me and Jeff share a room.
Here’s my issue. Izzy and Jeff are always messing w... | Youre not wrong. You tried talking it out and they didnt care so now its consequences. Locks are a normal response here not dramatic. |
AITAH for becoming upset when my boyfriend went out during my miscarriage? | I (30f) am upset with my boyfriend (36m) because I am actively miscarrying and he decided to go out after playing sports tonight. Originally he told me he was coming right home after his sports game. When he messaged me to tell me that plans changed and he wouldn't be home right away, I became very upset.
This was our... | Uh… why is he okay with leaving you completely alone through this? |
Update - AITAH for uninviting my dad's wife from my daughter's birthday party over something she did last year? | So, I have a love/hate relationship with being right. My dad called me two days after I posted. There’s a purple wig at his place that is styled suspiciously similar to Rumi from Kpop Demon Hunters. He opened Cathy’s mail thinking it was his and found it. The costume itself is set to arrive in about a week. She wasn’t ... | The dad trying to frame her studying a movie to hijack a toddler's party as sweet instead of unhinged is some world-class enabling |
AITAH for threatening not to invite my dad to my wedding? | I, 27M, met my fiance, 35M, whom I'll call Bill, four years ago. I had dropped out of college due to some serious mental health struggles, and was basically couch surfing and begging my parents for help, as I couldn't keep a steady job to pay rent. I went out on a date with him honestly for free food, and he stayed the... | I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with your dad. Say you are happy and you are in love. He either gets with the programme and shuts up or he's out because you will pick your partner over him. |
AITAH for cussing out my boyfriend for being rude to elderly people? | Okay I'm completely new here. I've never used reddit, I barely even know what a subreddit is? closest thing i know is i watched a few of KMK reaction videos. Regardless, I need help. Me and my boyfriend and two of his friends are going on a trip in a few hours. Only three people are important as of now me (20) my boyfr... | Respect, how someone treats others should not be ignored. For one day you will be the recipient of that disrespect:;: |
Aitah for telling my best friend I might go to nyc without him | I need your help to know if I I’m ah, so I (f20) and my best friend (m20) have planned on going to nyc together since we were probably 16 it’s both of our dream place to visit, the issue is he is currently in university and we planned to go in 2029. I have already started my travelling and have met some people in a Eur... | NTA. Waiting till 2029 for NYC is kinda wild tbh. I get the sentimental “we planned this forever” part, but opportunities don’t always line up perfectly. You can go more than once. People act like cities are a one-time-only experience and that’s just not true. The “idc” comment wasn’t great, yeah, but you already ackno... |
AITAH for giving my BF 6 months to change? | My boyfriend (32M) and I (30F) have been together for 5 years this April. Over the years I have changed jobs several times and got a promotion at work. However, my boyfriend has had the same job with a manager he hates and feels creatively stifled (he’s a graphic designer). In May I will graduate and start working on m... | If it’s been 5 years, it seems like he has the life he wants: spinning his wheels complaining about where he is. Did you ask him about his dreams? And where yours & his intersect? And how you’ll work as a team to get there? |
AITAH for not being ok with my girlfriend making a life size Anakin doll when we got back together. | It's not as long a story as it should be.
Me (21) and my long distance gf (20) had been two years together when I went through a really bad phase in life after something happened and asked for a break until I got it back together.
She accepted but still treated me the same and kept "conforting" me but I could tell sh... | > I'm not sure if this counts as cheating
MF'er *what*?
You think making a sculpture is cheating? |
AITAH for responding to my aunt’s “happy birthday” text telling her why I don’t come to family events anymore? | My aunt, “Margret”, always invites me to family events. Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. I haven’t gone to any even in years, and have not explicitly said why. Well, now I have. I texted her that I haven’t been coming to events because some of her siblings have said awful and racist things about me and my sister, to the p... | NTA |
AITAH for being mad over the a sore loser? |
I (F20) and my Fiancé (M25) played go fish. 3 games whoever has the most amount of points get head. My fiancé tried to cheat and add extra points to his board at the end of the 3 rounds and I found out and made him start all over. I won over all by 50-100 points. He got mad and said he didn’t agree to the deal when he... | If he needs to lose a game to give you some "head" he doesn't deserve a girlfriend. |
AITAH for saying this during last night’s Golden Globes? | I (16 F), was watching the 2026 Golden Globes ceremony with my family last night. I consider myself to have a very good and close relationship with both of my parents. My dad (52 M), works in film, so he takes film, tv, and media way too seriously. If anyone in our family talks during a movie he’ll get really mad and t... | YTA. He works in the industry, and clearly the Golden Globes are important to him. If you can't stay quiet during the awards show, then go do something else, you're not required to watch it with him. |
AITAH for not shutting my door? | My sister got a cat, and I freaking love it. However, when I go out of my room, and she lets her cat run around the house, like upstairs where my room is, the cat likes to go in there and run around. My sister then complains to me that I had better start shutting my door. Sometimes I shut my door, but other times I don... | It's her cat. Maybe she should always check to make sure that your door is closed. |
WIBTAH for not telling my coworkers I’m transferring, and leaving them a goodbye card instead? | A new Team Lead position opened in my department. I interviewed and didn’t get it; someone else did. Before the announcement, I had already applied to the same role at another store, interviewed, and got it. I transfer in two weeks and I’m already off the schedule after that.
Out of 14 coworkers, only my manager and o... | NAH. The card option is a good middle ground. It shows appreciation while respecting your own boundaries. Ghosting completely might confuse people, but the card avoids that. |
AITAH for dropping my long term friend out of no where | I decided to drop a long term friend because frankly she became so strange overtime. Like; on her way to cult leader vibes. She’s managed to accumulate cult members to worship her and is known in her community. She’s a performer on stage and pretty much every where else in her life.
One day it was just clear she had n... | NTA - you are exercising healthy boundaries and determining the right kind of life and relationships you want to build rather than letting someone with a lot of charisma and influence dictate those things for you. Congratulations on your excellent judgement call in the face of opposition. You did what was healthy. NTAH... |
AITAH for getting upset that my bf didn’t Shut down conversation? | I [40f] and boyfriend [30 m] have been seeing each other for 1.5 years. He recently told me that his mom, dad, aunt, and uncle were all talking and they told him I was controlling. He said it was a “concern.” He mentioned that I asked him to help in the kitchen when he was talking to his uncle on the sofa, while drinki... | He doesn't have your back and he doesn't contribute unless asked.
What DOES he do? NTA |
AITAH for thinking my boyfriend was selfish in how he treated me on a trip? | Hi,
So my boyfriend and I got back from a trip with his family over the holiday. Before this trip I expressed a lot of resistance to going- mainly due to feeling a lot of stress and pressure between us and also felt like it wasnt the best time for me financially to go on a trip- and knew that 2 weeks off would mean a ... | What he promised for the trip gave you the expectation that “This trip will prioritize us, connection, and care.”
What you got instead was:
He repeatedly chose solo activities he valued
You were left alone without a shared plan
When you did try to join him, you were later told you were a burden
The “expression... |
AITAH for not replying to my [29M] GF's [24F] apology even when I was free and using my phone? | I had a confusing and frustrating interaction with my girlfriend today, and I’m wondering if I overreacted.
Earlier in the day, she made a joke that hurt my feelings a little (not a hurtful joke at all, it just happened to touch a nerve). I didn’t make a big deal out of it, but when she asked directly, I admitted that... | You were being a sook and you were only playing games. She contacted you when she was free. You insisted she talk to you when you were over spooking but expected her to stop studying. YTA |
AITAH for asking a question??? | I seriously cannot believe I’m on Reddit asking complete strangers for advice on if I’m the asshole or not lol.
So short backstory I’m 26. My brother is 25. We have a family history of alcohol issues and both have struggled with alcoholism. I have been sober for two years. He has been sober for four months after meet... | NTA. This is clearly his alcoholism talking. |
AITAH For wanting money to help for gas because my bf is using my car | I (18F) my bf (19M) have been together for almost a year and he has two siblings who are in middle school and highschool, my bf is finically unstable and doesn’t have a car so I offered to lend him my car. Because his siblings go to seperate schools it can use up a lot of my gas and he’s never offered to help or pay. H... | NTA. I hope he is insured to borrow your car. |
AITAH if I tell my (23M) boyfriend who is struggling mentally, and has been distant and ignoring me (22F), that his behaviour is slowly affecting me ? | Hi!
TL;DR: My boyfriend told me that he has been going through hurdles, but also has been distant and ignoring some of my messages and it is slowly affecting me
My (23M) boyfriend of 1 year has been ignoring me (22F) for the last 2 weeks. During Christmas break, we saw each other for the first time in 3 months (... | Girl this relationship is over and he doesn't know how to tell you. And you are ignoring all the hints and purposely done red flags! Tell. Him you enjoyed the time spent but this relationship cannot continue. For the sake of both yall mental health break it off immediately! |
AITAH for yelling at my cousin after he told me I was a failure for missing school? | I (M14) was in Art class about a week ago. I was sitting with my other friends, talking, as there was a sub, so we got to just do whatever. The topic of my cousin, S came up while we were talking. He is the same age as me, and is in my class. He can be cool, but he can also be a bit of a buzzkill sometimes.
One time, ... | Gentle ESH because y'all're kids.
I know your cousin hurt your feels, OP, but you know that doesn't make hurting his feelings back the right answer. And I'm sure that dealing with your cousin can be exhausting sometimes. It's okay to distance yourself from him. Talk to your parents about finding ways you won't have to... |
AITAH for wanting to cut off a friend of mine because she sleeps around? | P.S (This is my first reddit post idk how to work this) AITAH?
I, F19 have been friends with S, F19 since High-school. We were super close because we had almost every single class together and we were vice captain and captain (respectively) for the school volleyball team.For the entirety of HS, her and I were practica... | Nta... but consider this....
I was S. I was raped, years prior. 12, to be exact. It was horrible and I put it behind me and pressed on... Until I turned 17. I went absolutely into a spiral... and it sounds a lot like your friend. I didnt deal with what happened and when it started coming back to me... it was dark.
M... |
AITAH for trying to keep the peace? | Myself (M27), my spouse (NB28), and our roommate (M/NB28) share an apartment together. I have known roommate since high school. I’ll call him Steve and my spouse I’ll call Riley.
Steve likes to smoke weed in our apartment (it’s legal where I live). Riley and I don’t smoke and don’t like the smell of smoke. I tolerate... | ESH but I’m hoping it’s due to ignorance rather than being unwilling to adult.
Does the lease say, “no smoking” (the vast majority do)? If so, Steve must not smoke weed in the apartment, he’s breaking the terms of the lease and could get you all evicted. Legal geographically doesn’t mean it’s allowed in the rental. If... |
AITAH for wanting to be distant with my crush and return his hoodie.. | So a bit of context. I (21f) have a crush on this guy (21m). I’ve known him for years but it’s only been since August last year that we have spoken. To begin with it started with a few conversations here and there to then texting all day everyday even till now. We met up a couple times but it was only until November wh... | I'm sorry but it sunds like he just wanted sex and now doesn't see a use in you. Return the hoodie |
AITAH for wanting my roommate/landlord to address noise levels before sending rent? | So I (M25) live with a live-in landlord/roommate (F31). There’s been an issue of noise well past 3am and it continues even if I ask multiple times. A few days ago decided I’d had enough of going to work on little-no sleep and was going to talk to her about it. Didn’t get the chance to until today because she’s had peop... | TBH find another place, this is not gonna work
She feels entitled because she's the owner and it's HER house, so just go somewhere else quickly where you can finally have your quota of sleep |
AITAH for breaking up the relationship of my father? | Please excuse my grammar and vocabulary english isn't my first language. So I 16F have divorced parents 40F and 43M. My dad got into a relationship about 5 years ago lets call her Fiona 42F and she also has a child 14F who we will call Sandra. At first I really liked them. Sure there were a few rough patches and challe... | NTA a hundred fold! How dare she treat you like that?
And your dad chose her over you? Why the fuck are you worried about him after he did that? There is a special place in hell for parents who choose their new partners over their kids. And your parents are both so rubbish that they’ve both done that to you at some po... |
AITAH because I stopped telling my dad that I love him? | (Fell free to correct my spelling but please be nice about it. English is my second language and spelling is my weakness)
I (f25) stopped telling my dad (m59) that I love him after I was home for the holidays. And here is why.
I was resantly diagnosed with PTSD, from being abused as a kid. This didn't happen daily a... | Awe is he triggered? How terrible for him! |
AITAH for storming out when my family kept talking about my hair? | Hi reddit. I'm a 33f African American. I decided to go natural when I moved in with my aunt. Sometimes my hair is crazy when I'm at home but when I'm at home I'm at home and my aunt doesn't care because again I'm at home but when I got to work my hair is nice, curly, and made up. My hair is taken care of. The issue is ... | NTA. “Your creepy obsession with my hair is weird. Why do you think my hair is any of your business?” Or “I’m sorry you clearly feel insecure about your hair. But stop taking it out on me. It’s weird and sad.” |
AITAH for not wanting my girlfriend to drive my car | my girlfriend haven’t had a car for a few month, whenever she wants to use my car I have no problem with her using it. until yesterday when she was using my car to run errands around 6pm I get a message from her telling me she gave the neighbor a ride. I have never met this neighbor so we are not close by any means. so... | My boyfriend always lets me use his truck when I need to but I never even ask to use it for anything other than coming to and from work. I don’t pick up friends/neighbors because it’s not my property. If something happened to it in my care I would be devastated and probably never drive it again. So I’m extra careful. Y... |
AITAH for running away from home after my parents sided with my sister in an argument? | So, basically, about a year ago, my sister and my best friend got into an argument. I honestly don’t remember who started it or what it was about, but the two of them don’t really like each other. There was a lot of dirty looks and side-eyes, and I was stuck in the middle.
I love both my sister and my best friend, and... | NTA. It sounds like your family invalidates you a lot. For the future, work on your self-esteem, self-worth, and having faith in your truth and what you believe. Don't let anyone change your reality or make you change your truth. You got this. |
AITAH for telling my friend that I’m not stealing her boyfriends if they didn’t liked her back in the first place? | I (25F) am a very outgoing, energetic person. I love running, working out, lifting, and being active in general. However my biggest flaw is I’m a people pleaser.
One of my close friends, Stacy (25F) is less outspoken but genuinely a great person. We’ve been friends for about 3–4 years.
About 5months ago Stacy and I g... | NTA. She is, though. I'm a guy and I've got a better-looking best friend and the girls always went for him. Sure, it was a knock to the ego if I liked someone but they preferred him. But you know what I never did - blamed him for it! Its not his fault and he's my friend, so why would I turn him into the cause of all my... |
AITAH for not taking the advances of my friend? | I recently started living with my friend (M23) he has his own small house and he graciously lets me stay. He recently on another post I made was caught by me sniffing my underwear. It really made me uncomfortable and upset. But he claimed ignorance.
I let it go but this week he asked if we could go out to eat. Not jus... | Move out |
AITAH for moving on from my Dads passing after just over a month? | My 56M father passed away on the 25th of this past November. He had been battling cancer for a number of years and his body had finally given up. I 32M hadn't seen or spoken to my father since late 2019 shortly after my son was born.
You see my father was an alcoholic and not the drink till he passes out kind unfortu... | The reality is that you moved on years ago. Visiting him was just to give yourself closure. NTA |
AITAH for talking back to my father and sparking a family fight? | Hello Reddit. I’m using a burner account because I’ve never used Reddit before and only want some advice about my small situation.
So I’m 18 y/o transgender male and I have 4 siblings (all girls). It was my one sister’s 21st birthday so our whole family ( mom, dad, four sisters, birthday girls bf, and I) went out to e... | Your sister's bf is the only one who's not an asshole in this story. |
AITAH for telling my sister to get out of my room everytime she enters? | So I'm a 13yo girl and my sister is fifteen, and we dont really get along often as most siblings do. But recently she's been really disrespecting my space (for context my room is a small loft that you cant even stand in.) So I hate when people are in my room bc they're going to be like 5 feet away from me. And today my... | You’re NTA. I used to deal with this from my older sister when we both still lived at home. She would come in my room and swipe everything on top of my dresser onto the floor and walk out. I’d have to spend twenty minutes straightening my room back up. It’s infuriating.
She shouldn’t disrespect your space. If your pa... |
AITAH for being upset that my girlfriend telling literally everything about us to her friends and hiding things from me? | So me m18 and my girlfriend f18 have been going on for about 6 months strong, we've had amazing and beautiful experiences together and I feel a connection to her that ive never felt before with anyone else. I trust her with my life and tell her things that ive never told anyone else and she's told me that she (well I a... | You're not the arsehole for being upset. It sounds like you BOTH were on different understandings of the relationship, and by the sounds of it, you can do a lot better. She doesnt respect you and spoke badly behind your back without honesty or empathy to how you'd feel. I think this needs to be an ex, and despite your ... |
WIBTAH If I make my cousin lose all his friends | I (18F) grew up extremely close to my cousin (18M). We went to the same school, were in the same grade, and were both bullied. I was always expected to protect him and forgive him because people said he was “mentally younger,” which I never agreed with, but it made me feel responsible for him. I was labeled the “smart,... | NTA at all. That was not “stress,” that was him finally saying how he really feels and hiding behind stress after he got caught.
You didn’t blow up your relationship, he did when he chose to trash you and your mom to your own boyfriend and side with your abusive sister. Cutting him off is a boundary, not revenge. If t... |
My (22M) fiancé has a feederism kink AITAH | I (21F) am engaged (yeah yeah I know we are young) to my fiancé of 3 years (22M) and have recently (as recent as a few months) been told by him that he has a feederism kink and he wants to get really chubby(/bedbound possibly) and wants me to be his feeder.
It doesn't turn me on but I guess I am not here to kink sham... | So it's his kink to have you financially support him while psychically caring for a heavily disabled person? Kinks shouldn't massively lower your quality of life. |
AITAH for causing my Aunt’s teaching license to be removed | TW: SA
This is really long and I would say chaotic, but I’m gonna focus on this specific issue .
So last year around September, my niece came up to me and confessed that she was actually being abused by her grandfather immediately I talk to the parents and encouraged them to file a case against the grandfather.
It w... | NTA. Anyone who abuses children, or enables abusers should be in jail. Your aunt, bring a teacher ffs, is a mandated reporter of abuse. I am so proud of you for trying to stand up for your cousins. The fact that they just sent these abusers away makes me SICK... you know they won't stop, they will just find new childre... |
WIBTAH for getting a sublease without letting my parents know? | So I (19F) rented out a room and haven’t really told my parents about it yet but I plan to sometime this week hopefully, and the only reason why I haven’t is because I’m scared of how they’d react since they have a history of just being verbally and emotionally abusive. I’m just wondering whether I’m in the wrong for g... | [deleted] |
AITAH for telling this guy he looks like my ex? | So for context I (19F) met this guy (21M) on Tinder!! we texted for a few days before meeting in person and he seemed quite normal via messages until he proposed for me to come over at his place for our "first date" and I wouldn't have minded to go if it only wasn't the case where well, we were basically strangers... s... | NTH He crossed the line by getting sexual when you weren’t cool with it. Saying something awkward doesnt make you the bad you were just protecting yourself.You don’t owe anyone anything just for going on a date. |
AITAH for telling my (F 33) boyfriend (M 29) his non stop affection feels dis genuine? | We’ve been dating 2 months, thinking of marriage. He smothers me with affection. Tells me i’m so cute, so pretty every 5-15 minutes. When i’m not even looking at him, he keeps saying it. When i walk by him, he’ll keep saying it. At first, I thought it was cute but as it got more extreme, i felt it was odd, as i am neve... | Friend, you've been dating 2 months. You've barely met. You tried to have an honest conversation and he turned it into *this*. Getting passive aggressive, giving you the silent treatment, making you feel "emotionally drained already and upset". All because you pointed out that him calling you pretty every 5 minutes sta... |
AITAH for Feeling Uncomfortable with Paying for my Own Engagement Ring? |
My husband and I recently joined our finances, so everything now comes out of one joint account.
He proposed with a beautiful diamond engagement ring. One of our monthly payments (£112.78) is for the ring. I’ve asked several times how long this payment will run for, but he’s always brushed the question off.
I’ve rec... | YTA for obviously beeing OK with a 8k ring while this seems to be way out of (both of your) budget! That's insane! |
AITAH for being pissed my family doesn't clean | Okay, so, titles sounds like an obvious yes but!! I'm (17) living with my dad (54) and older brother (22). I'm not currently working, I do homeschooling and both my dad and brother work full time. Now, I don't mind cleaning and helping around the house, I get I have more time than they do. I'm upset though because they... | What exactly do you hope to gain by accepting the role of their free maid?
Stop cleaning up after grown ass men who wont respect the shared space. You are enabling this dumpster fire.
What you need to do is stop doing their labor entirely. Let the garbage sit until they deal with it. NTAH. Stand on business. |
WIBTAH for asking to be paid back? | My (41F) brother (35M) owes me $5k. He has borrowed money in the past, and has always paid it back, albeit sometimes after a disagreement where he goes nuclear and sends the money as a way to go no contact, without being asked to. The most recent time was in 2020.
We reconnected a few months later when he apologized.... | Sounds like there won’t be a good time to ask for it back. Next time you speak you will have to mention it as your brother isn’t going to since it’s been 2 years already |
AITAH for not wanting my privacy invaded and displayed publicly as a middle schooler? | so for context, a few years back, i'd say around late 2020-2021, my church held (still does) sunday night youth program where all of this 6th-12th graders could come and hangout and learn a little about the scripture while playing games and having some food. i now do not identify as a christian for many reasons but tha... | I don't think you're a terrible person for not wanting your private space broadcast to everybody. This sounds like a creepy over-reach by the guy doing it. How old is that guy? |
AITAH for getting frustrated that my girlfriend keeps eating the homemade ice creams I make for myself? | I’ve a sensitive stomach since childhood, so I mostly eat homemade food. I love ice creams, but store-bought ones never suits me. Because of that, my mom used to make homemade ice creams for me.
I’m now 24M, living with my 24F girlfriend, and I regularly make homemade ice creams myself. These are intended for me. My g... | I think girlfriend needs to take turns making ice cream. |
AITAH for trying to make it work with my brother after our “sibling rivalry”? | Okay so i dont know how to start this. i make mistakes. i have made mistakes. TERRIBLE mistakes. I don’t know how to recover from this at all. I have eight siblings. I share both a mom and dad with ONE. he hates me. he always has. i have a clue of possibly why, but even before he has been emotionally abusive or mean th... | When you burned him, in his eyes you stopped being his sibling and became his literal enemy. Every time he sees you, he remembers the pain. His home isn't safe to him while you're under the same roof. This is war. Of course he outed you, he wants you away from him. When that didn't work, he resorted to provoking you ve... |
AITAH for asking my neighbors how long they will have their generac running? | My neighbors 50s-60s Married couple power is out and they recently installed a generac. Problem is they installed it in the breezeway on their property inbetween my rented house and theirs within 10-20 feet of my bedroom window (and the whole house) and this thing is loud and annoying the hell out of me. Im 32M am thin... | I would call the town and ask what the law is regarding distances from a home. Besides the noise you also need to worry about the Carbon Monoxide. I just saw this article: [How Far Should a Generac Generator Be From Your House? (homepowersystems.net)](https://www.homepowersystems.net/blog/generator-distance-guide/)
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AITAH for accidentally being the reason my family broke up? | I'm 16F. I've always been alone. Hardly any friends. I'm not mean or anything but I'm very outgoing and love to talk a lot. Since I was young, my parents have always fought. I never felt safe to even ask them for a hug. My uncles and aunts were allowed to hit me and yell at me as well. It was over the smallest things, ... | Nothing you describe sounds like a child causing a family to break. It sounds like a child surviving years of harm in an environment that was already deeply unsafe long before you had any power in it. |
AITAH for considering rehoming our dog due to escalating resource guarding when we have small kids? | I’m really struggling with this decision and already feel incredibly guilty and heartbroken even having to consider it.
We have a 7-year-old large-breed dog. In the past, he showed mild resource guarding around the couch and bed, which we were able to address. Recently, however, he has begun showing **food-related res... | As long as you have a plan and aren’t just dropping the dog off at a shelter, I think rehoming is the best decision for everyone. Having young kids, and especially a kid with ASD, around a stressed resource guarding dog is not an easy situation to handle. Age 7 is also considered a senior dog and, while not impossible,... |
AITAH for not driving my daughter to school? | I, 43 F, was sleeping this morning since I had been up all night. My husband (Daughter's stepfather) kicked me out of bed since we had an argument and I slept on the couch and just stayed up all night watching Ink Masters.
My daughter, 17 (two weeks 18) F, has been recently getting up late more and more. I don't know ... | “Keeping an almost 18 year old afloat” SHE’S NOT EVEN A LEGAL ADULT, THAT IS YOUR JOB AS A FUCKING PARENT!
No wonder she dosnt call you mom, the way you’re speaking about her makes it seem like she’s the biggest burden in the world and that is 110% not something that has only started now.
YTA and you sound like an a... |
Aitah for waiting | My grandmother (78 yo) is in the hospital with flu and pneumonia. She may not be doing too well. Honestly I haven't been there for her like I should I haven't went to see her in about 2 years. I want to go see her in the hospital but I want to wait till the illnesses are not contagious anymore because I have a 2 month ... | NTA. your 2 month old's immune system is basically held together with hopes and prayers right now. RSV alone could land them in the hospital.
your aunt can pressure you all she wants but she's not the one who'd be up at 3am with a sick newborn. grandma would probably be pissed if you brought a baby into a flu/pneumoni... |
WIBTAH if I told my mom that I don't want her at the house anymore? | So, for some context, my parents are separated but not divorced. I (16f) and my two brothers (21m & 19m) all live in a house with our dad (54m). My mom (50f) moved out 3 years ago, 2 days before Christmas. She comes down biweekly to "hang out with the kids." I put this in quotes because she never does anything other th... | No - you are not the AH - her move was a passive-aggressive/aggressive one, and she likely really wants to be 'off the hook', and you are not benefiting from the relationship, as it stands, even in a normal way... she is selfish and unaccountable, it seems, for real... |
AITAH for feeling weird and uncomfortable for how my friend worded something she said that was kinda negative against my interest?? | Alright, so this is going to be kinda short, (I lied it's gunna be kinda long but ima try to only include what I feel is important) but I'm feeling conflicted about what was said and I genuinely don't know if I'm overreacting for feeling weird or not so here it goes:
I, 20F, have been watching BL (Boys Love) asian dra... | NTA.
Halfway through, when you said she’s not homophobic because you’re queer and she’s friends with you, I knew exactly how the rest of the story would go.
Your friend is a homophobe. She has a disgust/revulsion response to queer imagery and queer stories. If your queerness were a more significant part of the way yo... |
WIBTAH if I asked my BIL for my money back | I (18NB/F) and my BIL(19M) went shopping for my sister (20F) for her birthday and christmas. he picked out some clothes for her and wanted to buy a digital download for a game for her switch.
i paid for the download code in cash (i had tips from my job because we went straight from my work to the store) so that my sis... | NTA. Let your BIL know your financial situation because he seems lackadaisical about understanding he needs to pay you back. |
AITAH in my marriage? | This might be long.
I want to get people’s perspective on this.
I have been married now for almost a year but been together about six years. We have a toddler together.
I 25f and husband is 25m. We live with his parents. We do help with the groceries and pay rent. we both worked before having a kid.
We agree on m... | He's been like this for years, but you chose to have a child with him anyways?
You need to get a job so you can start earning money, so you're not completely financially dependent on him. And then you tell him to knock off his crappy behavior or you're leaving. |
AITAH for posting about my sister on my private story | so backstory I 15f had been having like issues with my older sister 16f for like the past week. She has stole my money nad lied about it, had caught an attitude with me when I asked her to clean up after dying her hair black. Which i only asked her bcs my dad had threatened to stop me from playing basketball if all my ... | Seems like you just posted the truth -- why should you apologize for just telling it like it is? If her feelings are hurt, maybe it's because she looks bad (the truth) and she knows she's in the wrong. And I wouldn't have done the dishes, either, because it was NOT your responsibility. Sorry your parents don't have ... |
AITAH for lashing out at my parents for commenting on my weight? | I (teen, F) have always been getting comments once in a while regarding my weight, body, etc. from my parents. To me, my body seems fine - my stomach is flat, weight is normal, etc., but my parents always obsess over my cousin, who's underweight and gets praised for being so thin. I haven't ever felt any insecurity in ... | EVERY time they mention your cousin's "thinness" make a concerned, sympathetic comment about how sorry you are about her eating disorder and how you hope she gets some professional health before her body is permanently damaged. You need to do it every time for it to work. |
AITAH for using my sister's charger? | My phone is currently being really strange with chargers and only accepting certain ones.
I went round the house asking people to see if could test if their charger works with my phone. The only one that works to my knowledge is my sister's charger. She got this charger from a Meta Quest VR headset for christmas (not... | Your mom is creating drama over what seems to be a non-issue. NTA. |
AITAH for blocking my best friend | Ok so me and him have been off and on friends for around 4 years now and it’s been fine but we haven’t hung out in a while and it’s not because he’s busy with work or anything he actually has a lot of time on his hands but doesn’t make any effort to hang out with me. He hung out with someone else but kept telling me he... | HE’s not your friend. Period. Move on. |
AITAH for asking if she's on birth control? | Today me and my girl were having unprotected sex for the first time when I asked her where she wanted me to finish she asked me where I wanted to I said inside her. She said I could but I asked her if she was on birth control. She got really upset and things immediately ended with her exclaiming " why do men always hav... | You did so something wrong. You need to have that conversation before sex, not during.
Also never have sex with her again, she's obviously not on birth control and is trying to get pregnant. |
AITAH For not wanting to spend time with my mom’s bf? | My mom started dating her bf after 3-4 years in a narcissistic relationship. I’d figure she would find someone new if she wanted to get with someone, but she started dating the boyfriend she had prior to the narcissist. This man was the best man at my mom and dad’s wedding, best friends with my dad and my mom ended up ... | Imagine being mad that ur kid has boundaries. NTA. You’re being respectful, u just don't want to hang out. she needs to relax. |
AITAH for lying to my ex-boyfriend and telling him I have liver failure so he would leave me alone? | I know lying about something like this is wrong and insensitive, but please hear me out.
I (16 FTM) was in a long-distance situationship with my ex (19 M). He found me through Instagram and was very intense and affectionate from the start, which I later realized was love bombing.
A few months in, I visited him for a we... | Kinda
you should have not have lied to him but if u are feeling unsafe the you should probably report him to the police coz I'm pretty sure he tried to SA u in ur sleep
(also what does FTM mean) |
AITAH for asking my boyfriend to drop me off and being told I treated him like a valet? |
My boyfriend (25M) and I (25F) have been together for 9 years.
Yesterday we went out to dinner. It was winter, the area was busy, and the sidewalks were icy. I was wearing heels. As we were pulling up, he couldn’t find parking close by.
Before he drove off to keep looking, I asked if he could drop me off at the entr... | I always offer to drop my wife off if we have to park far away... ice, rain, snow, sun, it doesn't matter. |
AITAH for having very specific standards? | I’m 21 years old and for the last year I’ve been living in Athens, Greece, because of my studies.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s when I was young, so my life experience is very different from most people my age. I see the world differently and I have different needs and expectations, especially in dating. I’d really a... | It’s fine to have standards, everyone has what they prefer. But the stuff you talk about, and the way you talk about, gives me the impression that you have issues, and I’m not referring to Asperger’s, which by the way is a term I haven’t heard in a while. |
AITA for cutting off my sister financially after finding out her unemployed boyfriend is benefiting from my money? | Throwaway account.
My sister (23F) works as a cashier and earns barely above the minimum wage in our state, so I(30M) have been supporting her financially. I pay half her rent and her utilities and regularly send extra money for things like groceries or hair appointments or whatever she needs money for. I never really ... | I wouldn’t be paying the utilities either. |
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