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AITAH for telling my brother he's overreacting to my mom and I giving advice? | So I(22F) have a brother(24M), and our dad is not in the picture anymore. My mom(46F) is married to my step-dad(49M). So my brother is 5'8" and my step dad(he is actually our dad to us, but you'll see why I say step-dad for now) is 5'6", mom is 5'2" and I am 5'7". I can't even believe I have to do something as childish... | YTA it was a rude thing to say. |
AITAH for joking back? | My boyfriend (31) and I (27) were playing around and joking today, you know how couples do, poking light fun at each other. I was getting around for bed and didn’t have clothes on, he comes and gave me a hug. For context, I’m white and he is black.
He’s like “ooo okay chicken butt.” I’m like haha what, he’s like ya n... | NTA Never heard burnt toast before. You're right, if you're close enough he would understand you mean nothing by it. You were commenting on the color of your butt cheeks. I thought it was a funny comeback.
I agree there are some things you should never say to a black person. He's being too sensitive. |
AITAH for resenting my mum after her brain haemorrhage? | I’m 31 f and my mum had a brain haemorrhage back in 2016. Since the brain haemorrhage, she's not been the same. She was in a coma for a long, long time. She had to learn to talk and walk again. The hardest part is that she struggles understanding emotions and her personality is so different: she is overly emotional all... | No, you are not.
What you experience is the pain that comes with losing a loved one. Even if your mom survived, it's not really her anymore. Not really. The character she was, the traits she had are wiped out or distorted.
What you experience is very common among relatives of critically ill people for example. Often,... |
AITAH for stamping my little brother? | I was painting in my room when my brother (10yo) walked in (looking for attention) and started slapping and pulling me, i stood up from my chair and Tried to calm him down (he was in a bad mood) then he walked up to my desk and painted a penis on it, then he began to shake my christmas tree. I saw what he painted on t... | I wouldn't have scrubbed it off. I would have let him worry about having to go to school like that for awhile. |
AITAH Am I an asshole for arguing with my boyfriend because he brought me home? | Hello everyone! This is my first time here, so if anything is wrong with the description, please let me know.
Let's start with the fact that it was my birthday that day, and my boyfriend and I had planned it a week in advance, including a trip out of town with an overnight stay, etc.
The day started off wonderfully; ... | If he had to go home for work, why was he pretending you'd stay over? And his nieces were at his house? WTF?
Maybe you went too far? If you are still with him you didn't go far enough. |
AITAH Had a play date without Mom | I (43M), married ~12yrs to 41(F), recently spent a solo weekend with our 2 young kids. Wife (A) had to go out of town for a trip (helping a grieving friend).
On Saturday, the kids begged me for a play date with their friends from school. I said I would ask the friend's father if they helped clean up the house. Kid... | NTA. Is this a gender issue I assume? If so your wife is insanely insecure and needs to get a grip. |
AITAH for removing my ex off social media? | My ex and I were planning to get engaged when I came back from traveling for work. As soon as I came back I meet up with her and she starts crying profusely and telling me that her parents dont want us together for reasons they wont explain. I try to contact her father only to realize he blocked me.
So I tell her we’l... | You’re not the asshole. She ignored boundaries, gave mixed signals, and disrespected you. Removing her from social media was a healthy way to protect yourself, not revenge |
AITAH for breaking things off with my JW coworker | I, (25M) started working at a coffee job spring of last year, just to find out that someone I went to high school with also works there, her (22F) made me feel at home at the store, offering advice and mentoring me essentially. She'd text me and I'd be too busy to reply but when I did the conversations just flowed effo... | NTA. Religion aside, you both want different experiences in that aspect. You were not leading her on, you simply found an area of disagreement and immediately decided to work it out. This is the most mature thing you could have done, and it is not your fault that you both just want different things/have different persp... |
AITAH for telling my friends that I trust my mom's opinion more than them? | I have a condition that resulted in me fainting every time I had my period. It isn't directly linked to my period but my period makes it worse.
I started fainting when I was on my period 2 years ago. It happened about 4 times before I saw a doctor as I have a history of accidently letting myself become extremely dehydr... | It's not an a-hole thing, it's a being stupid thing. You're being stupid. Kids need medical checkups even when "nothing is wrong" with them. A lot of issues aren't obvious.
Did your doctor tell those things to you directly, that there's nothing that can be done, or are those words passed by your mother?
You're obvio... |
WIBTAH If I got a new job. | I am my mom's caretaker. She is my adopted mom. I go with her to her appointments and shopping, help cook and clean and help with whatever she needs. I've even had to clean feces on multiple occasions. I decided to be her caretaker because I needed a job and she needed the help at home. My job requires that I must live... | NTA. She already said she'd get another caretaker so let her. Get another job and move out as quickly as you can. |
AITAH for being too scared to cut off a guy i dated for 3 weeks and haven't told my friends? | hello, I 21 F and the guy I dated for 3 weeks 24 M met on bumble, he seemed really nice and caring at first, we went on a few dates, but he kept love bombing me a ton on the dates we went on. He kept buying me so many gifts (mostly one piece stuff) and taking me out to dinner and such. It all felt too much during the t... | I’m going to hold your hand while I say this: You seem really stupid - like a danger to yourself level stupid.
You don’t have to be. Block him -return his shit and listen to your friends.
ESH |
AITAH for setting a bed time for my BFs kid. | To preface, my BF (40M) has an 8 year old son. We are planning on moving in together in 1 months time and I(29F) have a good relationship with the son. Lately, his 8 year old has been complaining about being depressed, which is an intense word for such a small kid. Up until this point I have not put much input into my ... | It sounds like you have a boyfriend problem and I would consider this relationship finished |
WIBTAH if I sold to the second-highest bidder? | I'll do my best to be clear and concise. I suppose I can edit if it comes to it. Here's the situation:
\-Recently decided to sell a misprinted trading card in a FB group known for doing so. It was auction style, with a given end date (Monday 1/5/26 at midnight). Prices were supposed to go up by $1 per bid, but buyers ... | Sell to whoever you want in a way that works best for you. |
AITAH for telling my boyfriend I don't want to kiss him until he gets his gingivitis taken care of? | \*UPDATE: He finally reached out to me today and we talked about how we left things. He said it hurt his feelings really badly and made him feel gross (I never said that!)and really uncomfortable and that’s why he left. I apologized for hurting his feelings and told him I don’t think he’s gross. Then he said he was hur... | Um… you’re NTA for not wanting a communicable gum disease.
And as for “why you’re even dating,” you really ought to give that one some thought. His first reaction should be “oh shit, you’re right, let me keep you safe while I work on my health,” not “you owe me physical intimacy regardless because you’re my girlfrien... |
AITAH for thinking my roomate might be a weirdo? | So I current live in student comms, with 8 other roommates and it's been great so far it's my first time living away from home and I've only been able to legally drink since a couple months ago, there's 8 of us in this flat in total, which I will name A,B,C,D,F,G and H, for convenience, so I was the first to move into ... | Keep your door locked. If F starts shit leave the area and say ...have a nice day. As an American ...sorry for F behavior toward you |
AITAH for Living far from family? | Okay so I am a 24yr F living in NYC with my 24yr husband. We have been together since we were 17 and got married when we were 22. We moved across the US from Colorado to NY about 1 year and 1/2 ago and my family is constantly trying to make me feel so guilty about not being close to them.
I work a full time job that I... | What they’re doing is called “emotional blackmail”, and shame on them. Don’t entertain this BS. Simply say, “I am happy here. We are happy here. No more discussion on it.” |
AITAH for calling out weird behavior from my GF friends? | Me and my gf of about 9 months were talking while driving the other day and she mentions to me that one of her friends (an older male that is married, both the husband and wife regularly come into her work) told her that I should change my FB profile pic that they thought was me and my “ex” (it’s actually my niece). I ... | NTA
Regardless of who is in your FB profile picture, they have no business sticking their nose into your relationship or lives. |
AITAH, why do I want to quit my job taking care of my 1-year-old cousin because I don't want to go back to taking care of my other cousin? | Disposable Account
I (f20) am going through a situation I thought I'd left behind a long time ago. To give some context (it'll be a bit long):
When I graduated high school, I decided to take a gap year to prepare my documents and save money for college. During that time, my aunt was appointed by the government as a... | NTA - No one is owed child care. Just because they took care of you when you were little doesn't entitle them to unlimited child care from you. You get to choose who you do labor for and under what conditions.
You were nice to take care of the cousin for the week when it was kinda an emergency. She should have used th... |
AITAH for refusing to give a cat back to her previous owner after adopting her? | I adopted a kitten yesterday from a young woman (earlier 20s) who had been debating for about two weeks whether she could keep the cat due to her mental health and overall bandwidth after adopting late December. Ultimately, she decided to rehome her to me after taking the two weeks to think on it. I was initially intro... | She sounds unstable. Keep kitty. Don’t stress that cat anymore |
Coach punishes me for asking questions, AITAH? | I (14M) am a member of my school's crew winter conditioning program. I talked with someone ERGing next to me to tell them not to lean back as much as they were as that can hurt their back. The head coach of the program came up behind us and asked in a very serious tone, "Why shouldn't you talk while ERGing?" I of cours... | NTA report your coach for bullying. That authoritarian crap belongs in the trash can. |
AITAH for not wanting to engage in society anymore? Highly educated adult with severe cognitive disabilities. | I'm going to copy and paste an part of a previous post of mine in the disability subreddit so there's no need to read my other posts, but I would recommend searching my history in the disability subreddit if you have time and reading it if you have the chance.
Excerpt for those short on time:
"I'm at a huge crossroad... | I’m highly educated and have a pretty good brain, I work in academia. I’ve been thinking about how attractive bowing out of this shit society has become of late. |
AITAH for not wanting to go on vacation with my family? | My family planned a road trip to the beach about a month in advance. I’m 23, my sister is 28, and my brother is 18. We’re the kids from my dad’s broken marriage. When my parents got divorced seven years ago, we moved to the city where my dad’s family lives. Now my dad, my siblings, and I live with my grandma (my grandp... | Vacation with the fam? A free-for-all with no room for you. You’ve got every right to sit this one out your bank account will thank you later. |
AITAH for pretending to have a huge butt | I’m a 25-year-old student girl, and this has turned into way more of a moral debate than I ever expected.
I don’t naturally have a big butt. At all. A while ago, out of curiosity and then kind of for fun, I started wearing padding around my hips and butt when I go out. Not subtle shapewear or “slightly curvier” paddin... | An asshole? No. Is it weird? Kinda. |
AITAH for hating my brothers cat? | Ever since my brother got gifted his little-dog a couple years ago (we live under the same roof), his cat he adopted 6 years prior to the dog that he begged (simply because i got one) for at 6 got neglected. Obviously she still gets fed and hangs outside, but its become my parents responsibility (i didnt want her and m... | Need more info: Who is letting the cat into your room? Does she sneak through when you go into your room? Because depending on how much effort you're putting into keeping the cat out it's between NTA and ESH. It's dangerous for both the dog and the cat for them to be around eachother given the circumstances, so you're ... |
AITAH for intentionally gaming alone | I (24M) used to be friends with A (24M) in college. We were inseparable and we did everything from hanging out to studying and gaming together. But our relationship hit a pretty hard bump in junior year (mostly my fault) so we cut contact.
We reconnected 2 years from that (so 2 years ago) and are back to being good bu... | > come on man....read the room
Uhh... you sure it is him not reading the room?
>Since I'm 1000+ miles away, our main form of hanging out is gaming.
He wants to game (hang out) with you. You don't want to game (hang out) with him.
You are the one misreading the room.
>Feels like theres too much pressure and that ... |
AITAH because I don't care about my friend's discomfort? | I have this friend who has a history of attention seeking behavior. I'm going to call him Chris. Chris noticed yesterday that my girlfriend was wearing jeans that didn't actually fit (had to wear a belt to keep them up and roll up the cuffs) and a t-shirt that I frequently wear. Chris asked me if my girlfriend was wear... | why tf are you friends with this person lol
NTA |
AITAH Leaving for work | I (25 f) had to leave my husband (28 m) for 3 and a half weeks for a work training. The problem? He had a broken foot. This was during month 2 after the break and right after a follow up saying he was healing up well and should be back to light weight bearing the following month. I had to choose going to the work trai... | When he needed you most was right after the break, not two months later. |
AITAH for being upset about my dad making me drive all the time? | i (17 f) currently live with my dad, i’ve had my permit for a few years and got my license a year week ago, whenever we go out anywhere my dad makes me drive, (for a few months now) at first i didn’t mind because i liked driving, but what he does is he goes on his phone the whole time while im driving, so he’s not payi... | NTA. Your dad is insanely selfish. You've finally gotten to the age where you can be "useful" to him, and he's taking advantage of your compliance. |
AITAH for wanting a birthday party? | My birthday is December 29th, which I know is unfortunate for the people in my life. Unfortunately, there’s not a whole lot I can do about that. Growing up quite poor, I never got a birthday party and of course the few gifts we got for Christmas were also my birthday presents. Back then, I knew it sucked but I also k... | My birthday is also December 29 so I understand how you feel. As an adult, I learned to match energy with how people dealt with my birthday. If they said here’s your Christmas present and it’s your birthday present too, I responded the same way on their birthday. If asked directly, I told them I don’t care if it’s ... |
AITAH for being upset with my father in law? | My family and I are currently in Ecuador visiting my FIL after my wife did not see him for 35 years. The why of the time delta isn't the point of this post, the circumstances are too mamy to go into here, but my current situation has reached a breaking point.
My wife and I have a 5yo son who has significant behavioral... | ETAH. A trip is not the time to start life changing dietary plans. They have not been in effect because your wife doesn't care so trying to enforce them on a trip is just the wrong time. As for your son and wife. If your not on the same page as your wife as far as your sons diet it's not going to work. Your wife doen... |
AITAH for driving the speed limit? | I’m a younger adult female driver, I’ve been driving for about 3 1/2 years and everyone (including my parents) tell me I’m a good driver. I passed my test with a 99 and I’ve literally never hit anything with my car…until last November. I was rear-ended by a distracted driver on a busy freeway and my car was totaled. it... | NTA!! Keep doing you! Don't worry about what the other drivers think. Think about all of the money you're saving by not getting tickets. 🙂 |
WIBTAH for not wanting my dad daughter at my gender reveal | Am I the asshole? Long story short, my dad's daughter from a previous marriage and I no longer talk because years ago I was in a really bad spot where I moved to Colorado to live with her and turn my life around. Within the 10 days I was there she was talking shit about me to my other sister and accusing me of stealing... | NTA.
It’s your gender reveal. Invite whoever you want.
Plus you are pregnant, you def don’t need the stress from the family over this. |
WIBTAH If I (17F) told my boyfriend (16M) about his suicidal ideation | Hello, I’ll get right into it. I’ve been dating my boyfriend, Cal (fake name) for almost 2 years (will be next month). I know that we’re still teenagers in high school and there’s a small chance we’ll make it in the real world, but despite that we’ve wanted to be as mature as possible. However, both me and Cal have bot... | NAH. You're kids. You don't need to deal with this drama. Break up. |
AITAH For cancelling on a my overburdened friend | My friend has had many significant life events happen over the past three years (including multiple deaths in her family, a separation, and family drama/chaos). I have routinely done my very best to show up for her in every way possible - whether it’s by spending time with her in person, offering a shoulder to cry on, ... | No your not the jerk. Honestly there’s only one way to keep your friendship and boundaries. Tell her that if she doesn’t confirm within “X amount of time” before plans without a DAMN good reason like “just waiting for boss to confirm schedule” then DONT GO! tell her your sorry but since she hasn’t confirmed you can’t g... |
AITAH for wanting to keep kitchen and living room clear of stuff? | Me and my roommate (we are sisters) have been having this argument for a while now. I am a bit of a clean freak and like things to be put away and the kitchen and living room to be tidy. I don’t like when there are a bunch of miscellaneous things on the kitchen island. Our space is very small and when it starts feeling... | YTA. Live alone. |
AITAH for hiding sodas from my partner | I live with my partner of about 10 years. Marriage isn’t something I’m interested in, but suffice to say we’re both locked in.
Now, my partner loves fizzy drinks. OliPop, la croix, cokes- doesn’t matter as long as it fizzes. I, on the other hand, enjoy 2 max fizzy drink per month. Specifically, sprite with pizza is o... | She left you two and you drink max 2 a month. I think you’re overreacting a bit |
AITAH for believing my friend set an unfair boundary? | Okay, first of all I want to say I’m still trying to figure out how I feel about modern “boundaries” used as a healing tactic. I understand modern therapy promotes cutting people off as an act of self care or protection. But as someone who grew up in relationships as a kid where my friends would give me the silent trea... | Yes, YTA. You don’t have to like her boundaries, but you can choose to respect them and give her the space she requests. I think you should also spend this time learning how to set your own personal boundaries.
I’m a “words of affirmation” and “quality time” kind of gal, but I don’t squeeze my friends to death beca... |
AITAH For telling my parents that my neighbor is being a Horrible person | Okay for this ill be using his initial J m29 and his wife B F28. In the past i have no had issues with these neighbors, in fact B had given me her own sourdough recipe since she knows i like to make sourdough. In my apartment its just me, my mom, my dad, and my older brother who isn't around much because of college. I ... | If J didn't want a confrontation then he shouldn't be confrontational. You are a minor child doing your best. He is a grown man who should know better. You do not verbally berate someone who is clearly attempting to appease you.
B knows how her husband is. She lives with him and knows him in ways you don't. You shou... |
AITAH for threatening to go to HR on my coworker? | Just to give a little backstory on this situation, I have a co-worker/team lead who can be unbearable to work with. The thing about him is he can be really witty and funny at times but just as much fun he is to be around he can be equally aggressive and annoying.
He makes a lot of negative remarks about team members t... | >So he told me he would be reporting me to my boss to which I replied that I could also report his horrible attitude to HR. He then got really scared
So he can throw about reporting you but you cannot return the favor?
Also if he's that scared, he knows he definitely has a problem.
The coworker saying you are ... |
AITAH for telling my mom I don't want my birthday gift anymore? [Update!!] | Hiya everyone!
I wanted to make an update post cause I was seriously greatful for the advice I received and the situation has been solved!
So I waited a bit before talking with my mom. I was genuinely nervous and I felt horrible. We had a sit down on the couch and I explained to her how I felt about the whole thing.
I... | I’m glad it worked out.
Enjoy your concert. |
AITAH for telling my mom I don't want my birthday gift anymore? [Update!!] | Hiya everyone!
I wanted to make an update post cause I was seriously greatful for the advice I received and the situation has been solved!
So I waited a bit before talking with my mom. I was genuinely nervous and I felt horrible. We had a sit down on the couch and I explained to her how I felt about the whole thing.
I... | What a fantastic update. You went from I don’t want this to let’s make it our thing. Nothing like clearing the air with your mom. Here’s to making new memories without any awkward uncles in sight. |
AITAH; I called my colleague out for doing work that was assigned to me when I agreed to pick it up after I was back from annual leave and left her work to me after multiple previous attempts of shifting her work responsibilities to me | I’m new to this consulting company but not new to the industry. The project team consists of me, a project manager and an engagement leader. Both other colleagues are senior to me.
When the work started, I did some work but had to take sick leave during that time the engagement leader (most senior colleague) advised m... | NTA. Call it out early, or it becomes a habit. She's trying to see what she can get away with with you. |
My (32M) GF (29F) and I have been having issues and fights. AITAH or is this on her? | My (32M) GF (29F) and I have been together for almost 10 months. We met on Hinge and had an almost instant connection and level of familiarity & closeness with each other. We talked for an entire week with each other before meeting for our first date the following weekend. When we were on our first date, we both said t... | It's crazy to me that you're 32. I don't know what to add, other comments are very true in that you need to break up and see a therapist. For both of you it sounds like absolutely unhinge behaviour to have, especially at your age.
YTA |
AITAH for using my gift card to by a dishwasher? | My soon to be wife and I bought a dishwasher. I had received a gift card from work for £250 and decided to use it for the household instead of myself. The dishwasher cost us £369 so we had £119 left to pay.
AITAH for saying that I think I paid for more than half to my fiancée when she asked me to pay the half of the r... | NTA. It has monetary value, you spent yours on the house and she spent hers on herself. After that, and she still asks for more? That's just plain selfish. |
AITAH for not wanting to be friendly with the father (35m) of my (27f) kid? | So as the title says, I don’t want to be friends or friendly with the father of my kid. There is a lot of history from the relationship, a lot of abuse, mostly verbal and emotional but it got physical at times. I won’t say I’m innocent as I definitely did say things to him during our relationship that were not okay. I ... | NTA
But, if you haven't already done so, file in court to have child support and visitation legally established. Also, ask the court to require the use of a parenting app for communication. |
AITAH for questioning whether I should continue seeing a guy even though he checks a lot of "good on paper" boxes, because I don't know if I am capable of real love? | I (26F) recently went on a date with a man (33M). He's divorced and says his ex wife cheated. He has a stable job, lives nearby, and has a cat (I'm also a cat mom). Personality wise, we actually get along really well. We're both extroverted and conversation flowed easily. One thing to note: He is short, 5'7", and I nor... | This doesn’t sound like you’re broken, it sounds like you’re tired and still processing stuff. Also the physical affection thing alone would make me hesitate, that kind of mismatch can get louder over time, not quieter. |
aitah for making my bf drop all of his friends..?😶 | About a year ago me and my boyfriend met and after a few months we started dating, at the time I had 3 friends and he had none they all wanted to meet him and I thought what could go wrong so one night we all decided to hang out when two of my friends started making fun of me I ignore it and moved on a few months later... | Fucks sake, that Covid era education sure took its toll. YTA by the way |
AITAH for starting to resent my best friend because she’s involved with an engaged man? | My best friend has been in relationship with a guy for about eight years. They’re from different religions, and his parents never accepted their relationship eight to nine months ago, his parents arranged his engagement to another woman
Even after that my best friend is still emotionally/ romantically involved with him... | It sounds like he is cheating on her with his arranged marriage. They've been together for 8 years, she will never be accepted by his family because she is the wrong religion. Rather than him manning up and telling his parents (who will cut him off) the truth, he went along with them finding him a suitable women.
... |
AITAH For Not Caring About My Mother | I (20M) have never had a great relationship with my mother, who is from Korea. Since I was young, my mom and dad fought often, and fiercely. Arguments would bleed through my closed door, and I would usually be terrified or angry that they were fighting so often. For a stretch, they would fight every day, and I would pe... | NTA. I would call the police the next time she decides to threaten to take the self checkout lane. A 72 hour psych hold does wonders to deter that kind of behavior. |
WIBTAH if I left a note for my Neighbors | I 21(f) live in an apartment with my parents we been here for about 10 years plus but the last 2 years have been hell.
My neighbors live in a 2 bedroom apartment that is the biggest apartment size in the building but from the looks of it I've have seen over 6 people living there. And I get that it can get noisy but t... | You’re not wrong for being exhausted, constant yelling, especially involving a baby, would push anyone to a breaking point. But an anonymous note could backfire; looping in building management might actually protect your peace without creating new drama. |
AITAH? Boyfriend’s search history and just general weirdness adding up. | See, my boyfriend often leaves his phone around me. When he’s showering, sometimes when he’s on the loo etc.
Went on his phone yesterday to google something, right infront of his face too. I go to Safari and literally right there in the search bar I saw ‘Piper Rockelle Nudes’ and ‘Charliiize nudes’ (whoever tf charli... | duuumppp himmmmm🎶 |
WIBTAH if I no call no show tomorrow? | There was an event tomorrow that I was asked to attend in the middle of my regular work shift, so I got a coworker to cover my shift (both verbally in person and through text). My coworker was in a car accident, and obviously can no longer cover my shift (they’re fine, caught some ice and rolled the car, managed to get... | If you no call/no show, you have a good chance of losing your job. But you aren't doing that. I think IF you did, YWBTA for all the things you listed. |
WIBTAH For giving my girlfriend a secondhand birthday gift? | My(27M) girlfriend's(24F) birthday is coming up so I'm thinking about what to get her. She sometimes likes to play my Nintendo Switch when she's over at my place, but I recently lucked into a Switch 2 so I don't use it that much anymore. I was thinking of giving my original Switch to her for her birthday. My coworker s... | Letting her have your old Nintendo switch wouldn’t be a bad gift on a random day BUT definitely don’t give it to her as her birthday gift or on a special day😭😭 I’d be offended too, your coworker is right. |
AITAH for not letting my mom wear whatever she wants? | Hi everyone, I am making this post because I really need to get this off my chest because it has affected my very deeply. I (27F) am getting married in august at a national park. The only people that are going are my parents and my fiances parents. I was so excited for the wedding and everytime I thought about marrying... | Wow, I think you are right, this is not about the dress. I have no clue what it is about but NTA.
How is your relationship with your dad normally? Could you talk to him when everyone has calmed down a bit? |
AITAH for unfollowing a college friend after she stopped making any effort and now seems to mock me in public? | I’m (19f) a first-year college student. I met a girl randomly at the start of college because we spoke the same mother tongue, and we instantly vibed. We met twice in the first few days, and she kept saying things like we were the same and that she’d found her best friend.
After that, I was always the one initiating ha... | NTA. You tried to keep the friendship going and there’s no point when it’s only one way |
AITAH for telling my kids I don't care that my girlfriend only likes me for my money? | My wife passed away when our kids were 9 and 11. I spent the next ten years as a single parent. I was only 39 when Lydia died. She was my world and I couldn't think of another woman. I went to grief counselling alone and with my kids. It definitely helped but it didn't make me want another woman.
My youngest is now i... | I don't really understand your reaction.
You provide convincing reasons to suggest she is NOT with you for your money. Why didn't you lay that out for your kids? Kind of feels like both throwing your girlfriend under the bus *and* damaging your kids' relationships with her by validating their concerns. For what?
Of c... |
AITAH because my father (m72) in-laws girl friend (f74) broke up w/him | I'm sorry this is going to be a long one.
I (52f) cannot stand My father-in-law's ex-girlfriend. They started dating last year and she came over and met my husband and I because my father-in-law lives with us. So we had her over for dinner we met her she met I think my son and our grandson because they lived here at ... | Wow, she needs to get to fk completely, why is your FIL putting up with that crap |
AITAH for calling my boyfriend stupid for sabotaging my own study life? | Let me preface this by saying that I am still young, I'm an older teenager and I know it seems silly moaning about my relationship problems when others have it much worse but this has been really playing on my mind and I've been made to feel like an awful girlfriend.
Me and my boyfriend both have important exams comm... | Some people encourage their partners to be the best person they can be. Other people drag others around them down to their level so that they feel more secure. Having higher achievers around them remind them of their own inadequacies. Surround yourself with the former and avoid the latter.
\>He has trouble academic... |
AITAH for sometimes wishing I was an only child sometimes? | I (13f) have four siblings, (17M, 10M, 3f, 1f). I love all of them with all my heart, I really do, but sometimes I wish I was an only child. It’s not like I wish they never existed, I’d never wish that, but it just gets too much at times. I’m practically a second mother to my baby sisters, always helping my mom out whi... | Lots of people from big families wish they were a single child. NTAH |
AITAH for ditching my roommates, and leaving them with a bunch of dishes? | Hey, Reddit. This is the second time I'm writing this out as my dog unplugged my computer the first time I tried before I could click "Save Draft", so bare with me I'm a little frustrated, LOL.
I'll give you the TLDR up here, but please read the whole post before coming to a decision.
My roommates were jerks, so I g... | r/novelwriting or r/mylifestory |
AITAH for posting about an issue in the AITAH subreddit and getting my post removed? | I, 79 F posted a speech 22 days ago, with the help of my tech savvy son. I found out my post got removed and it was called "fake" by a moderator. First I would like to say I am not an AI bot. Or even a fake. I'm a simple old woman who has a rap career and I was not advertising. I think the moderator should have contact... | LOL thank you for this today. |
AITAH for telling my stepdaughter I don't want to be her mom anymore? | Hello guys! I decided to share my story here and hopefully gather some input on a situation that is causing me some real issues currently.
TLDR: My stepdaughter found some of my old spicy tapes from when I was a porn star. After finding them, she sent copies to my husband, my mother and my father-in-law. My husband al... | NTA, you are not being harsh. An 18yo should know better and deserves the harsh consequences of sharing such personal information and videos in the manner that she did. She wanted to disrupt and cause embarrassment. |
Me (M 25) hooked up with a girl (F 25) that was was meant for my friend (M 28), AITAH? | Me (25 M) and my friends, Mike (28 M) and Hector (26 M)were headed to a concert in Austin Texas, and for a weekend of partying. The plan was that us three arrive on Friday for the concert and on Saturday the rest of our friends would meet us there. Along with these friends was Mike's girlfriend Jenna (28 F) and her fri... | Depending on her scheduled hook ups, Anna could have fit Hector in later. NTA. |
AITAH for not speaking to a friend who leaked my NSFW profile to my sis? | This is my secondary account FYI.
In the summer of 2025 I started posted pics of myself in several NSFW reddit subs. At first they were SFW pics and I loved the attention. Eventually I started posting more and more risqué photos and my following blew up. I got a ton of requests to start an OF so did just that. My frie... | Surely you knew this would happen one day? |
AITAH Am I the idiot for asking for time after he "broke up with me" via text? | M 17 | F 19
We met two years ago and started dating five months later. After that, he brought me here because of his strange behavior... We weren't having a good time as a couple. I felt somewhat excluded from his plans, even a burden, because, well... He was doing his military service while I was studying in the middl... | Wait .. he is 17 and was doing military time at 16? |
AITAH for wanting to leave my mother behind for my partner? | I need to know if I’m truly being disrespectful and horrible or if my mother is just abusive and manipulative because I don’t know anymore and it’s actually starting to drive me crazy.
For some context im 26m with autism, generalised anxiety disorder, panic disorder and depression. This means that over the course of ... | Sounds a little like Munchausen by Proxy.
Your mom gets something out of your dependence on her.
But, I think it might be better for you to find roommates to live instead of a GF. |
AITAH for not feeling guilty about my past while my boyfriend and I weren’t together? | I (18F) was talking to a guy (19M)on and off for almost a year. Despite him kissing someone else and telling me he can’t date because he has commitment issues, I was willing to wait on him because he said he’d “wife me up.”
In October, I found out he was doing sexual stuff with his friend’s sister while liking that fr... | NTA. Girl, just run. I didn't even need to finish reading your post. |
WIBTAH if I stopped listening to my boyfriend's music because he indirectly called me a stalker | Yeah so my boyfriend is a musician and I've always considered myself a big fan of his music and I do my best to be supportive.
Yesterday he told me that him and his friends were joking around and calling me "Misery" (like the psychopathic stalker in the movie 'Misery' played by Kathy Bates) because I said I was my bo... | NTA-and you should just stop seeing this guy. He sounds like an asshole. |
AITAH for setting firmer boundaries with my roommate after, not only being told by my landlord they were breaking rules, but also after months of them being incredibly rude and inconsiderate to me? | Hi, I own a mobile home parked in a closed community park. The rules are a little tight here, but the park is very nice and my landlord is very reasonable. One of the rules states that there can be "No Unautherized Overnight Guests," which I have come to understand means "people who aren't on the lease shouldn't be her... | Time to say goodbye, your room mate doesn’t respect the rules or you.
Why is she still living with you? |
AITAH for not wanting my boyfriend to keep our relationship a secret anymore? | Throwaway and a little vague for anonymity. Sorry if anything is confusing.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, are both in our mid twenties, and are planning to move in together in a few months once the lease on my apartment is up. He is a loving and kind person, and has treated me like a princess ... | YTA for thinking there's any real relationship to be had here. It seems this guy's image will always be more important to him than you. |
Do I turn every relationship toxic? AITAH | Every single close relationship (platonic/romantic/anything really) I’ve had since as long as I remember was ruined. When I told people why I no longer associate with those people they would say it obviously wasn’t my fault but I felt like something was wrong like maybe I’m just overreacting or they’re lying to me or I... | That's a long term therapy problem, not an AITA problem.
But generally if its everyone you interact with the problem is indeed you. |
AITAH for saying no | I have a neighbor who flys a confederate flag. My husband who is half white is an undercover brutha and seems to get along real well with the neighbor. I’ve tried to say hello to him a couple times but he just grunts at me and won’t look at me. Anyways, his house is filled to the brim with hoarding and has caused our f... | OP, I think I get it. I don't know why people are diminishing the neighbor's hostility. My DIL is a POC. Their neighbor was an old bigot. When my DIL was working in the yard, he'd stand at the fence and glare at her. If she said hello, he'd grunt or stay silent. He wouldn't look her or her mother in the eye. My DIL isn... |
AITAH married brother that already had martial problems has feelings for someone that I want to take on a date | My brother and his wife having been having problems for a long time, this is nothing new. He met this girl in NA that he feels his life and goals align with more and he has feelings for. His wife knows and it’s a discussion they are having and trying to work out.
Me and this girl met a few days ago and we really click... | If she’s messing with your brother and she knows he’s married. What makes you think she won’t do that to you? |
AITAH for wanting to tell my Sick Roommate to fuck off | My (F27) roommate (M40) has been sick for almost a week. Its the super flu going round, hes coughing, congested, sneezing, ejecting germs absolutely everywhere. Im calling him Roommate A, hes lived here 8years.
We have 2 other roommates. One is out of town (just moved in), the other (Roommate B, M45) has been keeping ... | Keep your things in your room, pack up extraneous things. (You already said you are leaving soon.) Buy paper plates, your own cup, utensils. Keep to yourself. These people have been there a looooong time. You haven’t. Nothing is changing. Protect yourself, then move. |
AITAH for telling for telling my best friend (M17) to break up with his gf (F17)? | I have been friends with Zane for years, he's my best friend and I'll always love him. A couple of months ago, he got into a relationship with May. Their relationship had started out very well, they were inseparable (always hung out, in school and out, face timed every night, etc). Their first big argument had started ... | NTA instead of saying break up with her maybe should have said seems like there are some issues with trust and other issues with you two. Maybe look closely at the whole relationship and see if things have changed in ways you don’t like. Go from there. It is saying the same thing but putting it on him instead. Apologiz... |
AITAH for telling my partner that he does not need to run everything by me? | I (33F) and my boyfriend (34M) recently moved in together and I’ve noticed he feels the need to either request permission for or just voice everything he does. Normally that’s not a big deal right? I just feel as though he doesn’t need my permission to put salt and pepper in the dish he makes for dinner. At first I fel... | You wouldn’t be TA for telling him, but snapping at him does. You should have said something sooner. Imagine cooking for your partner and saying “hey, what do you think about me adding pepper to the sauce?” And then he just snaps at you for asking him. Then you’re all like, “😳 WTF just happened?!?” |
Aitah for yelling at my wife for planning a trip for us UPDATE | Hey everyone, so I wanted to give an update on the situation with my wife and the anniversary trip she planned without me unfortunately it’s not a great update. Recap my wife planned our anniversary trip as a surprise and I did not appreciate it for a couple reasons, so we had a fight here is a link to my first post [A... | Tell your wife that the trip is being cancelled and that you are not contributing anything towards the costs Beth has incurred. Beth and your wife can sort out the loss and if it means her friendship with Beth is over then that is the cost of allowing someone to interfere in your marriage. NTA |
WIBTAH if I requested my gf get her ex’s name tattoo removed? | ***on a throwaway account***
WIBTAH if I requested my gf get her ex’s name tattoo removed? To start…we started as casual, just sleeping together, never really thought about commitment. Over time things just progressed, and we had feelings for each other. I did not notice the tattoo until later on, when the relationshi... | So, who would be paying for this? |
AITAH Husband trying to force interaction with someone I’m very low contact with. | My (40f) husband (41m) is trying to force me to socialise with a family member I have gone v low contact with.
This family member has accused me of awful things this year after the passing of a family member. All interactions with this person I now have to have in writing via a group chat to protect myself, and at one... | Your husband saying “just get over it” is easy when *he* wasn’t the one accused. Healing doesn’t run on someone else’s timeline. You’re allowed to protect yourself |
Aitah friend ultmatoum? | AITA?
Me (m24) have.. or I guess had a best friend m(21). We met in college and did everything together eat gym study etc. I graduated and I thought things would end there yet he countiune to talk to me during summer and we would still hang out. During this summer he comes out as bi, I don’t mind it at all and he has... | He is already telling you he is picking the highway. YWBTAH to yourself for not letting him go on his merry way. |
AITAH for spending too much cb time with my family than with my boyfriend | my boyfriend (29M) and a I(23F) has been dating for an year now, and i currently live with him
i used to go back to my parents house once or twice every month, but we would fought about this because he thinks i’m “spending too much time with my family than with him” and “not for picking up my phone immediately”. My re... | NTA but if I were you I would seriously consider ending this relationship. He is not interested in compromising - he is trying to isolate you from your family and making you believe you are in the wrong.
Please take care of yourself. |
WIBTAH for calling my friend by her ex’s name after she keeps mispronouncing my husband’s name on purpose? | WIBTA for calling my friend by her ex’s name after she keeps mispronouncing my husband’s name on purpose?
My friend and I speak the same language, just different dialects. Because of that, she says my husband’s name is “hard” for her to pronounce. It should not be hard because we speak essentially the same language. ... | NTA. The next time she does it, call her the name and tell her you will call her that name every single time she does it again in the future.
I have to ask why you're still friends with someone who thinks your husband's name is a joke. Why stay friends with someone who intentionally disrespects your husband? |
AITAH for “selling my friends out” for a cookie? | AITA for “selling my friends out” for a cookie?
This started when a new boy, Z, came to my school. My friend S liked him, and after winter break, people helped set them up. Despite rumors that Z was a cheater, S got his number and they started dating.
Soon after, I heard that people—including our friend N—were callin... | NTAH. This is why I avoid all gossip and drama. It never ends well if you're caught in the middle. |
AITAH for wanting to live alone | So for context I (27M) worked with lily(43f) at one of the worst jobs both of us have ever had. She trained me and we became real close (not like that she’s asexual plus I’m not into her like that). She got her place she was staying at through our job but both our jobs there ended real baddd (nothing on our part but it... | NTA because, while you don't say if she pays you rent or anything, it sounds like she is just using you. She's a mooch. It's your place, and you deserve to have it back. You will probably have to come to terms with the friendship ending though. People like Lily tend to not see how bad their actions are and tend to ... |
AITAH for lashing out on my grandma? | I (17F) have a lot of trauma/PTSD and am uncomfortable/triggered when being touched randomly or without my knowledge or permission. I get uncomfortable easily, and am triggered by sudden/unexpected loud noises.
My grandmother (56F) is very aware of this, but doesn't seem to care.
For example, when I am in the bathroo... | Your grandma is an entitled AH actively violating your known boundaries.
She isnt laughing because she thinks its funny; shes testing you because she knows you wont enforce proper consequences. That explicit touching after knowing about your trauma is vile.
Stop asking permission for your safety. Go fully No Contact ... |
AITAH for refusing to do a “family photo”? | Context:
I live in Australia. My grandmother lives in the UK. I have no relationship with her due to that. She visits every year for \~6 weeks, stays with my parents (fully funded by them). I have a very complicated relationship with my parents and they don’t do anything for us or our kids. My father plays favourites... | Going with NTA
I think the bigger issue is not wanting to dance to your parents' tune, when they've taken every opportunity to belittle your parenting and show favoritism to your sibling(s). Enjoy the time with your kids. |
AITAH for telling my best friend not to talk to my distant cousin | I (14) dislike my distant cousin for many reasons, ill call her M (12F)
She met my friend group 1-2 years ago and has gotten extremely close to my friend (13F) who i will call rm
Rm and me are in this small friend group of 4 including us and my cousin has had a weird obsession with rm that got to the point where she ... | I couldn't read more than half. Ridiculous, melodramatic bullshit. I realize the people involved are very young, but good grief. |
AITAH for hiding wife’s keys and telling her she can’t leave home today? | I know this sounds controlling, but…
It’s raining today for the first time in weeks. She’s totaled three cars in 18 months. All of them on wet roads. I didn’t even know it was possible to roll a Camry in a single car accident.
She says I’m treating her like a child. I say I’m doing harm reduction. No rain in the for... | Your wife totaled 3 cars in 18 months and you’ve still found someone that will insure her? |
AITAH for calling my roommate's girlfriend a "confident moron" and making her cry? | This happened quite a few years ago but it still comes up sometimes and people tend to be torn on whether or not I'm the asshole so I figured why not let Reddit decide once and for all. At the time, I (22f) and my boyfriend (23m) let's call him Keanu, were looking at getting an apartment together but also with our mutu... | PARAGRAPHS |
AITAH for telling my friends to not come to my birthday party | My birthday was in a few days and i was discussing with my friends what i was gonna do so i invited all 3 of them over to my house, previously before this my mother asked what i wanted to do and i said hang out with family like I've been doing every year since my 8th birthday i don't have autism but i understand why a ... | YTA.
You can’t be mad at them for not showing up when you knowingly **allowed** your brother to text them telling them **not to show up**.
Honestly, you sound exhausting. You’re overwhelmed with people pleasing? Fine. Maybe they’re overwhelmed with trying to keep up with you. You *reluctantly* invited them (people ca... |
AITAH for having no sympathy for my sick husband? | I want to preface by saying that I am in a very loving and committed relationship. We have our normal relationship ups and downs, however we always work through everything together and are genuinely very happy.
Except for this one thing: he gets sick A LOT. At least once a fortnight, he is down and out with the flu, ... | I've read enough medical mysteries to know that what he's going through isn't normal and that he is on a collusion course to 'Oh if you came earlier, we could have fixed it'. Honestly, as a grown man, if he doesn't see the strain hes causing on others and the damage he's doin to his family, Id try to get his family inv... |
AITAH for not knowing what I want in my relationship? | I 18/F and my boyfriend 17/M have been dating a little over 1 year. at the beginning of the relationship, everything was great. We hardly fought, We hung out every single day and we lived 10 minutes away from each other. Everything changed when I moved about two hours away to go to college. Once I moved, things became ... | You're holding onto something that needs to be let go off. You're missing all the memories that people make in college/university because of this relationship. You had to beg your boyfriend to continue the relationship, that speaks volume about where he is at. I know you're hurt and I know you love him but if things ar... |
AITAH for refusing to apologize to a girl who bullied me in middle school? | I (20M) still have many people from my middle school added on Snapchat. This girl Maggie (19F) had confessed to me recently that a comment I made about her in middle school has had her feeling insecure for years. Mind you it’s been 7 years since I made this comment. For context Maggie was somewhat of a bully. She alway... | Dang what a comeback bro 😭 |
AITAH for not going shopping with my friend because I was broke? | My best friend (f) and I (f) loved doing things together. We went out to dinner, we found new places to go to, we saw plays and shows together- we did everything together essentially. One of the things that we did together was go to the Yankee Candle factory around Christmas to go shopping for our families and just mak... | NTA she sounds pretty entitled. |
WIBTAH asking for relationship clarity before renewing lease together? | TL;DR: After 3 years together, my boyfriend says he’s happy but wants to revisit whether we stay together in a few months. I’m under financial pressure and don’t want to renew a lease without clarity. Is it unreasonable to ask for certainty?
We’ve been together for 3 years and have been trying to repair our relationsh... | NTA, but do know that if you weren't financially carrying him, he'd already be gone. You don't need to "clarify" anything with someone who openly says things like he wants to "revisit whether we stay together ni a few months." Emotionally, he's already done. Time to set yourself free from this person. |
AITAH for cutting contact with my ex-friend for wanting to be myself? | I (15M) and my friend, let's call her "Kasey" (15F) have conflicting views. She is a strong believer of God, I'm more agnostic. She is a straight girl who was born a girl too, whereas I was born a girl but am transgender and identify as a man. I am also not straight as I like boys and girls.
Kasey constantly tried ... | >"Well, God doesn't make mistakes, does he? Hmm? Hmm?"
Feel free to ask her why some babies are born with cleft palates.
Actually, never mind, just block this person and move on with your life. |
AITAH for forcing someone to cram on a plane | Context, I'm newly 18M and my brother is 15M. This happened a little while ago over winter break. Me and my brother were going out to Florida to visit family, when I was still 17. Our parents decided to stay home since they don't get along too well with the other side of the family, but we have great relationships with... | NTA…. She could always buy two seats if she wants more room. |
AITAH for being annoyed with my friends clinginess to her bf? | My friend and her bf have been together for 5 years solid, no break ups, dramatic fights, etc (that I’m aware of). They were high school sweethearts and each others firsts. They’ve been living together for the last six months too. A few days ago a group of us got together for a birthday party and we had to go grab deco... | NTA but please take care to ensure you don't sound critical when you bring this up with her. You have zero right to tell her that her behavior as a gf is wrong. You are not an invested party to how they behave with one another.
What is valid is, "I miss you. We aren't as close as we used to be and from my perspective... |
AITAH for getting mad at my friend/friends because of his/their "ragebait"? | Alright I'll be honest here, i put in ragebait in quotation marks cause i don't really know how to put this, and I'm posting this on a throwaway account just to be safe.
so everything pretty much started during the end of summer break where one night i was scrolling through my phone when i my mom calls me from the liv... | I assume you're a kid. Stop hanging around with assholes, easy as that. In school, put your head down, concentrate on your work. Don't get involved with cliques. You can be a cool teenager or a cool adult but rarely both, and it's much better to be a cool adult. It lasts longer. |
AITAH for not wanting to pay off my bf’s mortgage faster? | I don't usually post but could really use your perspective on the situation. I (28F) have been with my partner (34M) for almost 5 years now. We met overseas, fell for each other quickly and moved in together quite fast. After living together for about a year, he ended up moving back to the US. After another tough year ... | Way too much unnecessary crap. If you are not getting equity in the house, you should pay much less. |
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