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AITAH for not calling a Uber even though she didn't tell me she wasn't being able to call one? | The following story happened in September of last year, but I don't think there has been a day where I don't think about it.
A grocery store cashier gave me the phone number of her niece (19F). She's not exactly her niece by blood, but by affinity. I (then 28M) asked if the age gap wouldn't be an issue. I got no re... | I can't make heads nor tail of the story but date someone your own age |
My (30F) boyfriend (29M) and I just found a woman he slept with back in April of 2025 had a baby and didn’t tell him till it was born. I angry even though the baby was conceived before we got together. AITAH? | I moved across states from Maryland to Texas to live with my boyfriend we’ve been together going on 6 months but have known each other for 2 years. Recently a woman from before we dated hit him up saying a baby she gave birth to could be his.. didn’t tell him she was pregnant or anything the entire 9 months. In fact sh... | He’s not the one for you. It doesn’t even sounds like he cares about you considering the last couple of sentences. I know you sacrificed everything so far, but think of how much more you’ll sacrifice until you’ve had enough. The baby isn’t the issue, but this isn’t the situation you want and you know it. |
AITAH for ending a friendship after my best friend admitted her love for me was conditional? | I (22F) recently ended a friendship with my best friend, and I can’t tell if I overreacted or finally respected myself.
Maya was the first friend I made in college. We became extremely close freshman year, and I supported her through several traumatic situations. Later, we lived in one large dorm room with another fri... | NAH you seem controlling of your friends to an unhealthy degree (she can go where she pleases during breaks) but at the same time a lot of what you said is very real and you’re fair to be upset about the drifting apart over time. No need to continue the friendship but worth self-reflecting on |
AITAH for wanting to break up with my boyfriend for being too clingy? | My boyfriend (16M) and I (16F) recently started a relationship about a week ago, and it was okay for the first day...
For context, we were friends for a little under three years before this, and we've seen each other through many different relationships. Whenever he's had a breakup, I've been there to comfort him.
I ... | It sounds like he is slowly showing you red flags that he will be a very controlling partner. Its probably best if you end things as early as possible if you’re already feeling uncomfortable this early on! |
AITAH for telling my buddy that his on-again, off-again girlfriend is abusive toward him? | I (28M) told my longtime friend and current roommate (29M) that I believe his on-again, off-again girlfriend is emotionally and financially abusive toward him, and now things are tense. I’m wondering if I crossed a line.
I’ve known this guy since we were 16. He owns his home, has equity, works hard in the restaurant i... | NTA- You're looking out for your friend because you care about him. She sounds awful. |
AITAH for sitting by a stop sign? | i'm 25f. i walk to work through a residential neighborhood. i'm not able to afford a car right now. unfortunately, i also have asthma. the halfway mark of my walk is a stop sign that is at a corner of a street. it isn't on anyone's property. the closest house is like 25 or 30 feet away? but i'm like, not actively sitti... | That neighbor sounds like a real piece of work. You're on public property catching your breath, not loitering. Some people just need to mind their own business. |
AITAH for not seeing a man anymore because he does not resemble my late fiancé | I (36F) have been single for about 8 years now. My last relationship was with a man, changing his name for the sake of privacy, Adam. We had known each other for about a year before we starting dating when I was 20, and we were happily together for the next 8 years. Unfortunately, 3 months after Adam proposed, he got i... | Therapy first, then relationships. |
WIBTAH if I told my cousin I don’t want to be around her because of all her lying? | Additional tag: mention of bad mental health/crisis
So my cousin has a history of lying to the point multiple people throughout the years have told me the same story that almost never lines up with hers.
She’s lied about plotting to date someone to lying about what the mental health professionals were doing while she... | What do you really want to accomplish?
Protecting your peace or changing her behavior?
The only behavior you can actually control is your own. It sounds like your cousin can benefit from some help and some support. It sounds like you’ve already attempted at least to confront her. Well, an actual confrontation change ... |
AITAH for confronting my friend about her behavior? | I (young adult Female) live with my family. A girl I’m close to (also a young adult female) is currently staying with us because she’s going through a rough situation. My family has been really kind and supportive to her.
But since she moved in, I feel like I’ve been treated really badly.
She makes jokes about my mom... | Dude just kick her out. She's an asshole who doesn't give a shit about you. |
AITAH for refusing to build a sister relationship with my eldest sister after she failed me multiple times? | My (22F) eldest sister (32F) is not someone I personally like. There's another post about her on my profile so I don't need to explain why. Recently, she apologized to me about stuff she did wrong in the past but she mostly talked about herself and her own experience instead of even acknowledging why I was hurt with he... | NTA your sister is and your mum is complicit and enabling her insufferable behaviour …. Don’t apologise |
WIBTAH if I told my brother that his wife might have HPD? | Details changed, burner account to avoid ID
To be clear, I (35F) am not a psychologist, and I’m not trying to ‘armchair diagnose’ her (30F). With that understood, I do see an alarming number of behaviors that seem to line up with the common reported manifestations of Histrionic Personality Disorder.
I believe that ... | >I (35F) am not a psychologist
Then shut the fuck up. |
AITAH for telling my sister she should move out if she doesn’t like that me and my other sister disagree on her controlling what happens in our shared room? | I (14f) have two sisters (18F & 10F). I share a room with my older sister (let’s call her A) and my younger sister (B). I’ve been sharing a room with them since the moment I was born. It’s frustrating since one’s an adult now, I’m a teenager and B is a pre-teen. But here’s the problem. A always tell B and I that it’s n... | A thinks she's entitled because she's the oldest. I'm wondering, though, why isn't her bed the one that's right by the window?
You are NTA. |
AITAH for calling a boy “chopped”? Who do you agree with—Lilly or Thea and Samantha? | It started in English class when we told Samantha to check our group doc and look at J’s picture (a guy Lilly has been talking to). After class, no one was saying anything, so Amanda joked that he was “chopped.” Samantha immediately said it was “plain cruel,” that the convo was irking her, and left. Thea said something... | NTA, if ur friends overreacted over a simple joke, it's a good thing u guys aren't friends anymore. |
WIBTAH if I cut off one of my closest friends? | Hi y'all,
So basically, me (23M), and one for my closest friends (25M) joined a small group of people who were playing Among Us (hard to explain, search it up ty).
I know what I did was wrong but I decided I'd start messing about with the other players, not ruining the game exactly but making it a bit more entertain... | Wrong sub. Not an advice sub. This sub is to tell whether you're an asshole or not. I'm going with YTA (You're the asshole). You are 23, yet I thought you were 13 before I read your age. Let that one sink in. |
AITAH for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I don’t see him in my future? | I (20F) am in a 10-month relationship with my boyfriend (20M). I love him, but lately I’ve been thinking a lot about my future and I honestly don’t see him in it. I don’t even see anyone in it, and that makes me feel really guilty.
I come from an upper middle class family and I’m the second eldest. My family is very s... | Well, are you currently happy with your boyfriend? All of your thoughts seem to be dictated by trauma. OK, for the future, but right now, is he the good person for you? |
AITAH dinner date 8:30, as that time rolled around I told him my uber was running a little later, I get there about 8:50. Guy tells me he’s been there since 8 and is a little astonished I’m not apologizing. I told him I’m not apologizing for something I’m not sorry for. | \[AITAH\] | YTA. He was super early. That was his choice. You were late. That’s on you, and it wouldn’t have hurt anything to say “I’m sorry.” Next time, order your Uber earlier. |
My (32M) GF (29F) and I have been having issues and fights and I need advice. AITAH for causing these problems or is this on her? | My (32M) GF (29F) and I have been together for almost 10 months. We met on Hinge and had an almost instant connection and level of familiarity & closeness with each other. We talked for an entire week with each other before meeting for our first date the following weekend. When we were on our first date, we both said t... | ESH. You set the foundation for the trust issues early on, but the level of control, escalation and physical outbursts you’re describing now suggests the relationship has moved into a space where neither of you feels safe or stable anymore. |
AITAH for having fun while my partner is trying to give me the silent treatment? | I (30f) have been in way too many relationships with passive aggressive people pleasers. Years of therapy have FINALLY paid off and I’m starting to realize some things and do things differently.
My partner (30m) is mad at me. I have a pretty good idea why and it’s not something I did nor do I have any control over the... | No and you are being healthy. Silent treatment is toxic. You are allowed to set boundaries and this is a good one. Not engaging in toxicity. |
AITAH For Not Wanting My Players To Use AI? | I recently started a new campaign for some of my family and close family friends. All of them have played dnd before, as my brother had been the dm for the last campaign before having to take a break.
I made an entire custom world and campaign to work with, since I wanted to make the experience something special, and ... | You can lay out rules but if you are expecting everyone to adhere to them 100% expect to lose players |
AITAH for ending a 14 year friendship? |
Over the years, I have always provided free therapy. I reassure, comfort and gave advice that was nearly never listened to. I classified this person as my bestfriend. It all came to a head when she wouldn't stop asking to see me. I understand why she wanted to, it'd been a while but when her life was busy she didn't g... | You are perfectly aware YNTAH. There’s no reason to think friendships, even very close ones, will (or should) last forever. This one was already over and you both were just sort of hanging on to a few flimsy threads …….reluctantly on her side. So just let it be over and remember the fun stuff and don’t mourn the loss... |
AITAH for cutting off my family and becoming a tramp? | I, 22 Male, just graduated from college before leaving a goodbye letter to my family to go on a journey in which I wanted to end up in Alaska, surviving off the land. I donated the $25,000 my parents had for further education to a charity and didn't inform anyone of my plans.
Honestly, I think I'm in the right. The s... | alexander supertramp fanfic. next! |
Aitah- not signing co-habitation agreement | My spouse and I have been together for 7 years and have a young child
We separated last year for 5 months and got back together and are now sort of realizing that it’s not working out
Nothing hostile, we just aren’t on the same page and we are in a co-parenting relationship vs an actual loving relationship
My spouse... | NTA!
There is absolutely no reason to sign this. Don’t do it! I can’t even begin to explain how utterly ridiculous this is. DO NOT DO IT! |
AITAH for correcting a child’s behavior? | So for context, I work at a movie theatre. The holidays are always absolutely insane. Both because we’re busy and because people are uncharacteristically rude and short with us workers. I’ve been doing this for 10 years, so I can deal with a lot. One thing I will not deal with is blatant disrespect. You won’t be gettin... | NTA you deserve to be respected in your workplace. You corrected very slightly and it clearly worked. You have patience much longer than I could have. I volunteer at an MMA gym and we have to correct kids constantly as a big thing we teach is respect. |
AITAH for getting upset at my sister over a trip? | so each year we have a trip at uni we go to many places , it is really fun with my group and they come back late and my mom doesn’t let me to go alone to those places , before my sister gets married we make a promise that she will come with me no matter what since it only once a year her husband agreed and last time i ... | NAH - It’s understandable that OP is upset — this was a once-a-year plan and a promise that OP relied on. At the same time, the sister is married now and does have the right to prioritize her own life and marriage.
The real issue here is the mother. Instead of adapting as circumstances changed, she’s still restricting... |
WIBTAH If i called him out on his racism? | Am i overreacting?
I don’t like my friends boyfriend. He seems kind of racist or at least idk. So basically it all started when they were friends. He’d look me right in the eye and be like “ this BLACK girl asked me out the other day, but i rejected her because she wasnt my type” i was like whatever because it could j... | WNBTAH call him out gurll especially in front of everyone :)
These people are still in our society is genuinely..concerning. :) |
AITAH for how I handled an unplanned pregnancy and VPI, according to my partner? | I (F30) am writing this because I genuinely want an outside, honest perspective. I’m not trying to defend myself here. I want to understand whether I’m the one who is wrong in this situation and most of all whether I destroyed trust beyond repair.
I was seeing a man (28) for a short time. We were not officially in a r... | NTA. It sounds like you were both panicked, but I do wish you’d had more support through what must have been difficult days. That he still doesn’t ‘trust’ you seems like an overreaction but it’s probably not a relationship to continue at this point, anyway. |
AITAH kicked out of share house, refused entry to property unable obtain the rest of my belongings | Okay so, tldr (if this gets a lot of interest I’ll write out the whole thing) TLDR roommate manipulated me into a breakup, roommate totalled my car, roommate kicked me out, roommate refuses to let me pick up my belongings left in my room, so his 37 year younger boyfriend.. steals the house mailbox and leaves it at the ... | Go to the nearest police station and explain the situation. They'll accompany you to get your stuff |
AITAH for ignoring the presence of my flirty co-worker - and not telling his "date" about his behaviour? | I (F, 32) started a new job in April/May '25 and after the first months developed mutual flirtation with a co-worker (M, 32, divorced, two small kids). At first he asked me on dates, but he cancelled the first one and said at work, jokingly "we could just call this a first date". When I (later, on text) addressed the d... | NTA He made it all weird and kept letting you down so I think you dodged a bullet. Over time it will get easier to be at work around him I'm sure but you have no obligation to try to make it better or anything. Just carry on like nothing happened if you can, you haven't done anything wrong. |
AITAH for being friends with 2 people that hate each other? | So I have 2 friends Anita and Lauren. I knew Anita before I knew Lauren. Lauren has never really liked Anita and she despises her. When Lauren found out that I am friends with Anita she asked me for Anita's ig account cuz she wanted to talk to her (at this time I didn't know Lauren hated Anita). Now Anita didn’t know w... | [deleted] |
AITAH if I break up with my bf because he thinks it’s ok to yell at me | My boyfriend and I are 22, he raises his voice and sometimes yells when he are bickering which I don’t do. I’ve told him it scares me and it’s not right but he just asks me how I think he should act when he gets angry. And it’s better to yell than to break and throw things. He’s usually kind and gentle and this just fe... | He thinks yelling and breaking things are his only two options? Tell him to count to 10 or remove himself from the scenario until he calms down, they're called delay tactics. |
AITAH for flirting with a girl in front of my ex after she told me we couldn't be back together? | This happened a few months ago...but what happened still haunts me because it was really confusing. My girlfriend broke up with me at the beginning of August. It was really painful, especially since I was still in love with her...and honestly, I'm not yet 100% over it.
We share the same group of friends and we’re both... | She needed to be your world and have that power over you |
AITAH for breaking up with my GF for her sleeping pattern and lack of ambition? | AITAH for choosing my future peace over this relationship?
I (38M) have been dating my girlfriend (33F) for 9 months now. Let’s call her P. She’s genuinely a good person, and we bonded over a lot of things early on.
That said, her lifestyle is becoming a major issue for me.
P’s sleep schedule is honestly appalling. ... | NTA whether she knows it or not, she’s got issues she needs to deal with and you’re not obligated to be there if she’s not going to change. |
AITAH for being irritable while waiting in the cold just after returning from a weekend away? | I (29F) went on a ski-trip with work colleagues for the weekend. My colleagues and I drove back on Sunday about 7 hours to my colleagues house. Which is about 1h 20min from my house. On the way back my husband (30M) told me he has a headache and I decided and communicated that it would be better if I take the bus to th... | NTA, when did you realize your husband was such an idiot and immature? I would have be livid and made sure his headache would have been worse. |
AITAH sold puppy | My boyfriend’s friend had a litter of puppies 8 weeks ago. Great Pyrenees x Golden Shepherd. We had first pick of the litter and I picked a white boy. Nothing else came up about it, we’ve talked I’ve prepared etc. Changed my schedule at work and most important to me, I’ve been extremely excited. Today is Sunday we were... | NTA for feeling disappointed the puppy was sold but unless you paid for it, there isn’t much recourse.
Maybe check out your local shelters for a similar looking puppy that needs a home. |
AITAH for not wanting to get together again because my partner (28M) says he loves me (23F) but won't defend me to another “university-friend” (22F) am I overreacting? Help! | TL;DR I’m a 23-year-old woman and he’s 28. He tells me he loves me deeply, that I’m his only option, and that no one has ever made him feel the way I do. Yet at the same time, he protects another woman in his life more than he protects me. Because of that, I feel unchosen, emotionally unsafe, and confused. I’m not jeal... | You already felt emotionally unsafe meaning you don't trust him. A relationship without trust is not good. NTA. Better for you. |
AITAH for telling my husband to step up? | My husband (45m) and I (39f) have been together for 13 years.
My husband has never really had a career. He’s had jobs on and off. Sometimes with large gaps where he is not working. Throughout most of our relationship, it never really bothered me.
However, 20 months ago we had a child. This has completely changed my m... | NTA. Your husband isn't pulling his weight and it sounds like he never has. |
AITAH for posting an update about ruining my brother's life by not letting him use his phone in my washroom. | [Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1q8h9er/aitah_for_enforcing_my_no_phones_in_the_washroom/)
So I now know the reason why my brother was so pissed off about not being allowed to use his phone in my washroom and I screwed up his life.
My sister-in-law was weirded out by how he behaved about not ... | Uhhhh no, you are NTA. He is. He's the one cheating on his wife! He's a coward for doing that and not being honest with his wife about it, instead blaming you because he finally got caught. That's what narcissists do, nothing is every their fault, it's always someone elses. Don't feel guilty about this - he did this to... |
Aitah for refusing to pay my stepmother | I'm not sure how to start this as I haven't used this app before
Starting from the time i turned 12 my parents, specifically my stepmother would go through my room at any time they wanted to. I can understand them going through my phone and stuff when I'm younger but they continued on until I turned 18 and they kicked... | OP, if you’re genuinely asking if you should pay her, you need to get serious therapy. i mean that with love. Do not give this woman a dime, let alone another minute of your life. You don’t pay your parents for raising you. They raise you or they go to prison for neglect. It’s not a favor. And your dad sounds like an a... |
AITAH for not comforting my mother when she was crying? | My father likes to hurt my family. He's had moments of violence as well as just generally screaming and stomping around when he doesn't get his way. It's easy to predict when he'll do it--it's around his busy season at work, a sports team he likes lost, a rabbit ate his garden, etc.
This has been my whole life. Some o... | NTA.
I have all sympathy for women in abusive situations. It’s difficult to leave. It’s also true that your mom failed you. She had the power to remove you from that situation and chose not to, repeatedly. You are entitled to your feelings about that. And if your mom doesn’t want to be helped, you’re doing the right ... |
AITAH for refusing to let my nephew trace my art? | I have a nephew (12) who just got into art, now i sell stuff at conventions and this helps me a lot for money which helps me with my parents rent (which i help with). I will sometimes help my nephew draw but I tell him that I don’t want him to trace my art, like ever. His parents had gotten me to take him to a conventi... | He’s old enough to know it’s wrong to copy artwork and try to sell it. Not only did he hurt your sales directly but also I imagine the whole situation distracted you from your potential customers. NTA |
AITAH for not getting back with my ex if he still loves me, and I don't love him back? | Before I start, I want to say that this was all online unless I say otherwise, and it might be a long one.
I was 19 when I met my ex who was 20 at the time. I will call him Jason.
For some context, I had gotten rejected before I met him. I had a friend for a year and I had confessed to him, ending up regretting it an... | Jeez that's just to much words for me, you almost wrote a book.
But based on the title, just leave lol. Go live life. |
AITAH for distancing myself from my friend after she was diagnosed with BP 2 years ago? | OK please buckle up this is gonna be a veerrryy long story
I honestly don’t know where exactly to start because the story is really long, but let me begin by saying that I’m currently in my fifth and final year of college. Mira is someone I’ve known since first year. She was originally a friend of my friend, and whe... | NTA. I'm definitely not an expert on the subject, but from your explanation this seemed like consistent behavior which isn't in line with BPD. Not saying the diagnosis is fake but I don't think this has anything to do with that, it just seems like she has a complete disregard for your time and feelings, and expects you... |
AITAH I don’t think moving back to hometown is the right move | Throw away account, to be cautious. I(f32) and husband (m36) we will call him Y moved to a new city in the same state last year due to me being laid off (downsizing) and I was able to find a job in a different city about 5hrs away. The company paid for relocation so it was a very smooth and quick transition. He started... | This is AITAH - judging who is right and wrong in a conflict.
You two need to make a decision for your family. There’s no one “right” answer but if you want others input id try an advice sub. |
AITAH for being upset | I have a childhood friend that I reconnected with recently. We’ve been hanging out a lot, we workout together weekly. We always talk about wanting husbands who are friends so we can raise our families together. Love her to death. However, she has a fixation with kind of “pretty boy” men. She’s beautiful, hard working a... | I'm a fan of the "one talk" rule. Have "one talk" with this person about how you're feeling. If they react poorly, cut them loose. You don't have to subject yourself to people you don't respect. No reason to drag it out. |
AITAH for smoking when I promised my husband I would never smoke? | I(30F) and my husband(32M) have been married for 2 years and together for 5 years. Also our marriage is a complete deadbedroom from the start. He accepts its from him and he says he would work on it.
We were on our private vacation and on last day he lost his temper and slapped me. This wasn’t his first time, and it h... | To him, it looks like you were smoking. But why on earth do you care what this person thinks? He is an abusive and you should get a divorce. NTA |
AITAH for wanting my ultrasound back from MIL | hello friends, i want to make this as short as possibly so basically i was pregnant a few months ago, i was having a rocky relationship with my ex and his family, i was about to move away so i could have more support from family and friends but i was convinced to stay by my ex and his family, telling me id have endless... | NTA but OP do you know that ultrasound prints fade over time? A copy is superior in every way except whatever value you place on that thermal paper. This doesn’t seem remotely like a fight worth having.
(Also anyone else seeing this… the best thing to do if you’re not very savvy and confident with editing photos of a ... |
AITAH if i refused to sell the house to pay my mom’s debts? | Well, this is my first post and English isn’t my first language, so pardon any misspelling and mistakes.
So I (22f) don’t live in the US or any big big country at all, and because of that having a high paying job is kinda difficult to have. With that aside let me tell you what happened. When i was 13 my dad died from ... | NTA, your dad left YOU the house. Your mom needs to figure this out on her own as an adult. You’ve sacrificed too |
AITAH for telling my GF she ain’t putting enough effort? | Hear me out. I know this might make me sound like an asshole at first, but I honestly don’t know if I’m wrong anymore.
I’m a 28M and my girlfriend (29F) and I have been together for over five years. Overall, it’s been a great relationship, but lately I feel like I’m constantly being pushed aside.
Her routine now is: ... | C'mon dude, smarten up. You've got a roommate with her own separate interests that lets you bang her occasionally. You're only 28, your future is bleak and miserable with her. |
AITAH for not being able to forget and fully forgive my partner for watching porn? | I (F19) have been dating my partner (M20) for 5 years. During these years he’s always made sure to be there when he was trying to sleep with me, but never to take me out on a date, or meet me just because. I always had to plan everything and I still do. He’s in my opinion severely addicted to porn, even when we first s... | Men gonna watch porn. That’s what they do . |
WIBTAH if I faced my father and kept visiting my bf at his city? | I'm (20F) always the one who goes to my bf's (23M) city to visit him, and not the other way around. My father hates it.
So, first, an important context: I have a pretty strict father.
I live on a small city with my dad, and I love watching live music at bars (I'm even on a band and I perform shows quite frequently).... | Would it be acceptable to your dad if BF came to get you and take you home? I understand he doesn't want to do that, but it might pave the way for you to do it on your own once your dad gets to know your BF. If that's not an option, maybe tell your dad you don't want to move out, but because he insists on being so stri... |
AITAH? Me or my coworker | I work a fully remote position and was told I was chosen to have to come in the office twice a week. I was upset about it and had a meeting with those in charge of it and said I wasn’t sure it would work and it’s not something I want to do. Turns out it was not optional, so I started doing it. The woman training me on ... | You took the time to come to reddit and write up a post asking about a coworker that didn’t thumbs up a shout out? Really? |
AITAH for wanting to talk to my uncle after he made my roommate very uncomfortable? | Hey yall. This is going to be a long one, so if you don't want the background, just jump to where it says "Where the problem started" or "Todays dilemma":
Some background about myself that will give yall some insight as to why I am asking this question.
I, 20F, grew up in a very abusive household. Love was used again... | It seems to me that you are indeed an idiot.
You didn't say what he said about her; that could greatly change the judgment.
Considering that your uncle had desires for his own niece and then went around talking trash about your friend, it already shows that he's not trustworthy.
And be careful with those miraculo... |
WIBTAH for going to my friend wedding with my bf behind my family back | I (27F) come from a very controlling Indian family. Growing up, I was expected to take care of my siblings because my parents were emotionally unavailable. My younger brother (26M) is the golden child, and I’ve always been expected to sacrifice my own needs.
I moved abroad a few years ago and live independently now. I... | NTAH. You are 27 and finally living your own life. You can either suggest that your parents go help your sister or agree to go help her after the wedding. It's possible your sister doesn't need help at all and your parents are attempting to control your plans. I am so sorry about your family dynamics. That is so stres... |
AITAH for calling my sister crazy? | A bit of context of like the situation: I wake up at 4:30 everyday, and lay in bed for like an hour before getting ready for school. No one aside from my dad is awake before 7 unless they need to shower or something. So this one particular morning, I was in the shower at 5:30 and upstairs until a bit after 6, feeding o... | Maybe you shouldn’t have been accusing anyone on your fucking IG. Did you correct the information once you realized that you were wrong? |
AITAH for skipping class? [very long] | TW FOR EATING DISORDERS, PHYSICAL DISORDERS, AND MENTAL DISORDERS. Thank you and stay safe out there ❤️
Hey there :>. Im a 17(F) Jr at an unnamed high-school for anonymity’s sake. I’ve been attending this highschool for three or so years and recently was added to a therapeutic learning program to provide me a little e... | [removed] |
AitAH for just reading the title and basing my decision off of that? | Just like when I'm at the library picking out a book if I see a cover that draws my attention then I might pick up the book and see if it might be something I'm interested in. When I'm looking at these stories I don't read all of the facts about the entire situation. I just base my opinion off of what the title says. H... | YTA - im not reading the title or the post here actually. |
WIBTAH for asking my husband to commit four months in advance? | My son was born three days after my birthday in May. He is the first grandchild on both sides. Us, my parents and my in-laws all live in different countries. We are in the same continant as my in-laws and are only a four hour flight away whereas my parents live half way across the world (18-20 hour flight).
We had... | Don’t try to plan both sides coming at the same time |
WIBTAH for breaking up with my partner due to his mother? | TW: Sexual Assault
Me (Asian M22) and my partner (White M26) have been dating for almost 2 years now. Our relationship has been otherwise very healthy, with minor disagreements, with him being a very go-with-the-flow type for the most part and whenever we don't agree on something, we always take the time to hear eacho... | >Fast forward to 5 months ago, I moved in with my partner, who is currently living with his parents to save on rent money.
I'm sorry, but what did you expect to happen here?
You already didn't like her for how she treated your partner...so you moved in? After she already made you deeply uncomfortable?
She's the ... |
AITAH for telling my autistic cousin it’s ok to be himself?? | I’m so confused. I (18F) am autistic I have a little cousin (10M) who’s autistic. He’s not yet diagnosed but everyone knows he’s autistic. Teachers,Doctors,Everyone who meets him. Can tell right off the bat he’s autistic. The only reason he’s not diagnosed is because his mother (my uncles ex girlfriend) is really again... | NTAH. You spoke to him with kindness and reassurance in a moment where he was scared and confused. |
AITAH for telling a secret to a friend? | For context, I (18F) got into a trainee job around 9 months ago, and was warmly accepted by my coworkers. I became friends with most of them, specially a girl who I will call Sophie (21yo). Sophie is married, but secretly actively cheats on her husband, but since we're mostly work friends, I try not to interfere in her... | You gossiped and are now experiencing the repercussions. YTA |
AITAH for taking my best friend’s turtle | Hey reddit!
I (24f) have been friends with, we’ll call her Jen(24f) since primary school. To put you in context, Jen moved an hour away from my house a couple of years ago so we were a little less close friends as we were before. Jen doesn’t have a car and had to take the subway and a couple of buses if she wanted to... | Didn’t sound like they took care of him to start.
As long as you have the financial capability to take care of him and you take care of him well, then I say, yes nice new turtle 🐢 |
AITAH for not wanting to keep someone elses' dog? | So for context, some time ago a friend and I got dogs at the same time from the same litter. They are siblings, and we've kept them rather close as they've grown up.
I also have a few cats, who get along great with my puppy but aren't too keen on the other dog. I always had the intention of getting another dog in the... | NTA.
I love that you assessed your situation and realized you are not ready for second dog, who is not trained properly. Which is BTW fault of your friend.
And if your decision negatively affect your relationship with your friend, trust me, you are better without that kind of “friend”. |
AITAH if I don't invite my mum to my graduation? | I've never had a close relationship with my mum but we are civil ish now and have been prior to this year we were okay.
Some things that happened this year gave me alot of anger towards her, I was dignoised with ptsd after my first birth, I had my third this year and multiple times she's made fun of me for requesting ... | Who paid for whatever you are graduating from? |
AITAH for eating my roommate’s food after they said “help yourself” weeks ago? |
A few weeks ago, my roommate told me “help yourself to anything in the fridge.” I assumed this was a general, ongoing statement. Last night, I ate the last slice of pizza that had been sitting there for two days.
This morning, they completely lost it and said that “help yourself” clearly did NOT apply to special food ... | why are you mooching off your roommates food for a few weeks now?
why would you eat his leftover pizza without asking first?
he might have said 'help yourself', but that doesn't mean you should be a mooch and take without asking first.
YTA |
AITAH for cutting off my partners family after they said I was faking my disability and bulling me for 7 years. | AITAH - I (27f) and my boyfriend (30) have been together for 7 years (apart from a break we had in the first year). his family have never liked me. I have always asked for the reasons but these seem to change. they’ve banned me from their house, said some awful things about me and generally not been very nice dispute m... | He's not "LOVELY" if he doesn't defend you.
NTA |
AITAH for being rude to my boyfriends dog? | So my (F26) boyfriend's (M25) mini Yorkie had diarrhoe the other day and made little bit of a mess. I felt for her but she seemed fine when I arrived at his home so I started calling her a little poopie butt. I may have been a bit excessive with the name calling because after a while of "aren't you a little poopie butt... | Geez, if calling a pet "little poopie butt" is being mean to the pet then I'm the worst cat owner in history lol. NTA. |
AITAH for taking a lot of my married friend's time. | Me and friend, let's call her May are both in our late 20s. We were a part of bigger friend circle and only became closer when everyone in the friend group moved to different parts of the world for job, etc and only she and I are relatively closer, but still we live 1 hour drive apart. She is married and I am not. She ... | Sometimes you just vent to a friend but it's not that big of a deal. Seems like he's willing to do this for his wife. It could still be frustrating. I dont think YTA, but maybe just switch it up a bit and stick closer to him. We've all had bad days and a long drive afterwards can be irritating. I don't know that I'd ma... |
AITAH for not paying my half of rent | Context:
I moved in (2 bed 2 bath) with a new friend a few years ago on a temporary basis while searching for a 1 bed flat. Our initial agreement was that it was temporary and I could leave and give a single day’s notice and she could ask me to leave immediately. We also agreed to split the £3000 a month rent in the ... | Situation where the trust quietly eroded over time and by the end the conflict was less about rent and more about realizing the arrangement had never been as mutual or secure as it felt. NTAH. |
AITAH for taking my tip back after grocery delivery | For context, I am sick. I have a high fever but I needed some groceries, so I ordered delivery from Walmart. If I weren't sick, I would have gone to the store. I finally get the notification that my groceries were delivered. My condo is on the 3rd floor. I get the delivery picture and it shows they placed all the groce... | NTA. You are better than I am. If I was that sick, I would have reported them as delivered to wrong address |
WIBTAH if I break up with him even after he was very remorseful and promised to do better? | TLDR; since the beginning, my (28F) partner (35M) of 8 months consistently brought up his ex wife. Frequency: multiple times a week to fortnightly. Comments would range from comparison of sex, our appearance and our personalities to telling me the negatives of their relationship, how much his friends and family don’t l... | Walk away. I think hes just desperate to have a partner and prove to himself that "look, i can be loved." as a coping mechanism due to his wife of 15 years cheating on him. Maybe he loved you, maybe he didnt. But one thing for sure is he def isnt stable. Walk away and never look back |
AITAH for telling my son not to let his cousin win a game of Monopoly? | My wife and I were at his brother's house. She and her sister-in-law were in the living room with the young kids, and I was with my son, brother-in-law, niece and nephew playing Monopoly in the dining room. My son is ten years old and has anxiety. He's a big people pleaser and always wants to make everyone happy.
My n... | Umm I pretty sure your nephew doesn’t know how to lose. Time for BIL and SIL to raise their children better. |
WIBTAH if I went on a trip while my stepfather has cancer? | Hello everyone,
This week my stepfather found out he might have cancer. He had an exam done and they took a sample for biopsy but the doctor thinks the cells are cancerous. We will only know the results in 3 weeks.
As expected my mother and stepfather are extremely concerned and so am I, I told them I would support th... | NTAH. Holding space for your family while also allowing yourself a short break isn’t a lack of care. |
My Mom Hits Me During Arguments and This Time I Reacted, AITAH? | TL;DR: I 17M live with a verbally and sometimes physically abusive mom (52F). After a recent argument, Mom punched first and I hit back in self-defense. Mom refuses to apologize and threatens consequences. I feel unsafe, unsure how to protect myself or involve authorities, and want advice on coping until leaving for co... | [removed] |
AITAH for being hit in the face by a brownie | I’ll start by saying this was months ago but is a reoccurring “argument” in our relationship. But it’s a story we generally both laugh about. This isn’t a high stakes AITA post. No flair really fits it.
Early in my (31f) and my boyfriend’s (27f) relationship last year, I was taking a nap at home. He was supposed to c... | Honestly, you’re not the AH. Getting hit in the face by dessert, even accidentally, is shocking! It’s completely fair to be annoyed he didn’t check if you were okay. ‘Ope’ is cute, but concern > catchphrases. Also, glad the brownie was worth it 😅 |
AITAH for getting mad at my husband about his dead ex-gf? | My husband (29M) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years now and have been married for the last 6 months. Prior to us meeting, my husband had an ex-girlfriend from when he was younger who he was with for 10 years. I’ve known about her since we first started dating and had no issues as I understood that they were tog... | NTA. That's a really difficult thing to hear. I think you need to sit down and talk to him about it. Depending on what happens in that conversation, you might have some decisions to make for yourself. You deserve better than to be considered second prize by your husband |
AITAH- i almost broke our friendship. | context: there's this girl in my college with whom I'm very good platonic friends with. she's been a good friend since last year. she's of avoidant personality. not too much, but she has avoidant traits. we didn't talk much with each other until this year's june, since when we have been good friends. she has had an ex ... | INFO: This is one of those scenarios where knowing ages is important. How you each handled this could AH behavior, if you are both 45, but not so much, if you are both 15. |
AITAH for giving a reaction when my maths teacher made some remarks about another student? | Our maths teacher gave us a question which was quite easy to solve. Almost half the class had solved it in like a minute. Then when the student who gets the lowest grades in our class raised his hands to show that he had solved it, my teacher made some remarks which sounded like he was "roasting" or making fun of (acci... | ESH
Put yourself in the shoes of the other student which is probably trying hard.
For once, he is happy to give an answer within his reach and the teacher himself roasts him instead of valuing him.
Sounds like a crappy teacher and if you're raising the question, it's probably because you know it was out of line bu... |
AITAH I sent my wife a separation email.. | So if you read my post 6 months ago and are curious, I am/did try to save my marriage. After a little over 6 months of sobriety amd weekly therapy for me and on and off couples work, I am tired.
She picked her own shrink as our couples therapist, which i questioned, it seemed unethical. But I went anyways, my sponsor a... | NTA for the separation but but why the fuck is wh0re of all things the insult you jump to? You better not be saying that to your daughters |
AITAH for letting my cheating boyfriend and his best friends expose themselves at my birthday? | AITAH?
This happened about 4 years ago with my ex (both 30). We dated for 2 years and lived together during the pandemic. From the beginning, he often talked about his two longtime best friends, sisters Drizella and Anastasia, whom he’d known since they were teenagers. He always said Drizella was his best friend and A... | Did you figure out why you put up with so many red flags and such obvious disrespect? |
AITAH for telling my situationship I like someone? | So, I've been seeing this guy on and off for about 3 months (both in our mid 30s). We slept together 3 times and other times we just hang out as friends. I was clear I didn't want a relationship and honestly, despite being very attractive, he's not exactly relationship material for me and he was cool with that, we cou... | It seems like he’s mad he’s not your only option but doesn't want the responsibility of being a boyfriend. You didn't do anything wrong by chatting with friends about a crush at a party since you've been honest from the get go. Just take the ghosting as a win, block his negativity, and move on. Life is too short to dea... |
AITAH: wishing my ex a happy birthday | It’s a lifetime ago since we dated, it was amicable and given the circumstances very mature, but tonight I saw my ex and her husband in the supermarket. We work in the same industry but she’s been on maternity leave, so I haven’t seen much of her this past year. We had a very quick catchup in the aisle as we passed one... | NTA!
You just showed some respect and kindness.
Her hubby is defo insecure, bc why would he feel attacked? |
AITAH if I leave meetings earlier? | AITAH - Hello, I am currently working with a senior colleague who always overdrafts any meeting and also creates collision with other meetings. He also often overbooks people and just keeps going on and on. So recently to give myself some break (toilet, coffee, …) I started leaving the meetings after they should have e... | You write a Slack/Teams message to your colleague in advance and say the following:
“Hi *x*, just to let you know I have another meeting directly after this one, so I have an absolute hard stop at *xx*:55. I’ll have to jump off then at the absolute latest, so if you need anything from me please let me know before then... |
AITAH for becoming emotionally distant from my girlfriend after repeatedly feeling ignored? | My girlfriend (25F) and I (24F) have been together for about three months, and I genuinely like her. But lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m competing for her attention.
We’re in a tough spot financially, so going on actual dates isn’t really possible right now, which I understand. To me, though, spending time together... | You’re becoming emotionally distant after 3 months? Oh dear. That’s usually the death knell of a relationship much further down the line.
But wait, you live with each other this early on?? Are you speedrunning this relationship? |
UPDATE: AITAH for not wanting to get tattooed by my SIL | previous post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/rqBpYVurxI
so it's been a second since this first happened, and there's been quite a few updates to cover since new years day.
My girlfriend and I enjoyed our holidays, and once things settled down a bit we visited MIL personally. We had a discussion, explained o... | Ten guesses how long that marriage will last!!! Even her own family can’t stand her. Wonder what her husband thinks about his own sister “hitting “ on his wife? He already knows what a douche he’s married to. |
AITAH for telling a girl what my friend said about her after they hooked up? | AITAH for telling a girl what my friend said about her after they hooked up?
Context - This story involves 4 people. Me, my friend (who I'll refer to as K), a girl he has been talking to (who I'll refer to as G), and my co-worker (who I'll refer to as H). I have also been working with G for almost a year now. Everybod... | NTA. Your friend is a huge asshole though. If I was that girl then I would’ve liked to know what was being said about me so I think you did the right thing |
AITAH Told my Matron of Honor to be my Bridesmaid instead | Hi, I am need of some advice and kindness. AITHA?
I sadly let my matron of honor know I believe she should be a bridesmaid instead.
This is my cousin, she is 28 and married. She lives in PA while I live in NY. She is one of the closest family members I have in my life. As I don’t have a lot of family.
It was hard to... | Nah, you’re not an AH. You were trying to look out for her well-being, and that’s a good thing. Sounds like she’s dealing with a lot right now, so maybe stepping back from the whole Matron of Honor thing was a smart call. |
AITAH For telling my gf that her not listening to good advice is her issue | There’s a lot more context behind this.
Last night, my girlfriend and I were talking on the phone. She has this friend who constantly makes her feel dumb. My girlfriend asked a simple academic question, and instead of answering properly, this friend went to their group chat and mocked her, saying she’s cowardly, panic... | NTA but I’d suggest she consider therapy to help her not feel so bad about herself. The truth is most women’s don’t want fixes, they just want to be heard and understood without always getting a solution given to them. |
AITAH for representing myself to a Reunion | I got invited to my high school reunion and decided to represent myself instead of bringing a partner. Everyone else showed up with their spouses or plus-ones, and I felt a mix of pride and awkwardness. I wanted to show I’m happy solo, but some people kept asking why I wasn’t with anyone, which got annoying fast.
By t... | I highly doubt that they were gossiping cause you came alone |
AITAH for telling my mother that pregnancy sounds like a nightmare and I will not be having kids when I'm older? | Me (15F) and my mother (49F) had been very close till I turned 13. After that, I had to shift in with my father to another state. My parents aren't divorced; they live in different states. It doesn't really affect them because they had an arrange marriage and have a total of two kids. My elder brother (20M) lives with ... | NTA
your mom's mad because you have opinions that don't match hers, not because you actually did anything wrong. saying pregnancy sounds like a nightmare is just... an opinion? about your own hypothetical future body? that's not aggressive, that's having a thought
the "you don't need boundaries with me, i'm your moth... |
AITAH for cutting off my mother-in-law and putting my foot down about her behavior around my child? | I (23F) am married to my husband (24M), and we had our first son last year. This situation involves my mother-in-law (50F), who has had a complicated and often harmful relationship with my husband his entire life.
She was not very present while he was growing up. She was married multiple times, traveled frequently for... | Your kid. You can do what you want. NTA |
AITAH for telling my friend why she failed her exam? | I (26M) have a really close friend (25F)
She had been giving some exams for a while to get into some very prestigious masters programs. But she didn't get through and decided to quit trying for masters.
She went on to completely change fields and start a small business. Said that while she loved science, it was to... | yta dude what the hell
she made a self-deprecating joke about being lonely and you went "this is why you're a failure"
like she already quit something she loved because it was too hard on her and you just... casually drop that in conversation? as a "joke"?
also the math was fine, she was saying she gets zero calls, ... |
AITAH for telling my husband I’m considering divorce after an argument about traveling without him? | I (30F) told my husband (30M) today that I’m considering divorce after a big argument. I really need outside perspectives. I don’t want to talk to friends because I don’t want to badmouth him. I love him dearly, but I need to be honest about how I feel. This might be long, so please bear with me.
We’ve been together s... | Normally in Coercive Controller posts the OP tells us loads about what a great guy her SO is. OP you haven’t told us a single positive thing about this man. You KNOW he will not change so if you decide to stay with him you’ll have to put up with being stifled for the rest of your life. |
AITAH for telling my bf I would not marry him unless he stops drinking? | My (30F) bf (26M) was talking to me about getting married. We had a rough year in which his drinking has been esponentially getting more and more problematic to me up until I saw him drinking a whole bottle of whisky in 48hrs. We’ve had arguments about it since I have already told him over and over again I don’t apprec... | Daughter of an alcoholic here: Threats don’t work. He’s not going to change until he wants to. He doesn’t want to. Get out now. And do not have children with this guy. |
WIBTAH for not showing up for a date? | Like I like that girl a little we talked for about 2 weeks but my ex and I got into taking again after our meet in college. Now everything is complicated. I was out with my ex on that day and I forgot I had asked that girl out for date on the same day. I didn't showed up
WIBTAH? I like the new girl but I'm in messy s... | 100% YTA don’t string someone along while waiting to figure out what you want.. that type of relationship will never work because that person was never your first choice…break it off, save her the trouble.. and either work it out with your ex, or don’t. |
AITAH for wanting to quit after being called too sensitive for bringing up workplace issues? | Hi everyone. (late 20s, M) I’m a technical drafter/designer in a small office (construction/engineering plans). I’ve been here a while, I like my coworkers, and I want to do good work. This isn’t a “my boss is evil” post, I’m trying to sanity-check whether I’m overreacting or if the situation is genuinely unreasonable... | NTA , you didn’t complain, you identified real process failures and even brought solutions, and being called “too sensitive” is just a lazy way to dodge accountability. Wanting to leave a place that demands perfection while refusing structure is self-respect, not weakness. |
AITAH for thinking my SS behaviour needs serious intervention and his bio mothers relationship with him is questionable? | Apologies this is a long one, appreciate any of you who can make it to the end.
I have been with my partner(39M) for over 2 years, he has an 8 year old son who I first met when he was 6. I noticed some questionable behaviours when I first met him but put it down to his age and having a split family. After two years, h... | Usually I don’t read long paragraphs like this, but after reading the first one, I had to keep going. You’re NTA, but you’ve got to remove yourself from the situation. Your husband is weak, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. What kind of man puts up with disrespectful and entitled children to the detriment of his wife and... |
AITAH / Was this my fault all along? Is it normal for parents to throw away things their kid made for them? | I’ve been thinking about something from my childhood a lot and I don’t know how to feel about it.
When I was a kid, I loved drawing and making things for my parents. But instead of being happy about it, they’d pick my drawings and most of the time they literally rip them up and throw them away.
I still remember sitti... | What your mom did was deliberate & cruel. My mom was the same. In all the years at school, K-12, she never once had the time to see me in any extracurricular activities, not once. She died not knowing I ever played on my HS field hockey team. My brother, every fucking play, band concert, parades, every single time, and... |
AITAH for refusing to go to a cousin's bachelor party due to financial reasons and where I'll just know I'll be pressured to binge drink? | Hi everyone,
I (21M) am a university student currently living on a tight budget. My cousin (22M) is getting married soon and the groomsmen have all planned to go to a party destination for a week within Europe during the summer, so easily about £1k+ (about $1300).
Now initially, I said yes because I thought it'd be ... | You are at the perfect age to learn this mantra for the rest of your life: “Sorry, I can’t make it this time.” No excuses, no lies, no regrets. Also, stop seeking out your peers opinions. There is absolutely no reason to poll your friends or relatives. All it does is mess with your head. |
AITAH for planning a family trip and not inviting my mom? | My mom has been struggling in all aspects of life since before I was even born. She hit her lowest point about 6 years ago and it took her 4 years to get out of rock bottom. She’s still struggling, mentally and financially but not like it was a few years ago.
My birthday is next month and I told my sisters I wanted t... | If she’s not invited for good reason then why would you mention anything about the trip around her. That was insensitive |
AITAH for wanting to leave? | This situation has had me bothered for a week now.
Im 16, and my girlfriend is 15.
***I made it very clear with her before giving her a relationship's commitment that I as an Amritdhari Sikh have been modest my whole life and haven't gave any wrong signals to any women in my entire life, So I expect her to be the same... | You'd be TA for not leaving the relationship. Leave so your girlfriend can find a decent guy who doesn't try to control her. |
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