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I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "Hello, and thank you for your question. First, I want to say that it is great that you are are willing to admit that you share some responsibility in some of the relationship problems you are having. This isn't always easy to do, but it sure is important if you want to see improvement. It does sound cliche, but commun... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Hello, and thank you for your question. First, I want to say that it is great that you are are willing to admit that you share some responsibility in some of the relationship problems you are having. This isn't always easy to do, but it sure is important if you want to see improvement. It does sound cliche, but commun... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Hello, and thank you for your question. First, I want to say that it is great that you are are willing to admit that you share some responsibility in some of the relationship problems you are having. This isn't always easy to do, but it sure is important if you want to see improvement. It does sound cliche, but commun... | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Hello, and thank you for your question. First, I want to say that it is great that you are are willing to admit that you share some responsibility in some of the relationship problems you are having. This isn't always easy to do, but it sure is important if you want to see improvement. It does sound cliche, but commun... | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The best tool for becoming a better listener that I know of is called Imago Dialogue. It consists of 3 steps:1. Mirroring what she says (without judging, commenting, refuting, defending, arguing, or scoffing--just listening, no matter the content) and repeating it back, word-for-word. Continue to ask if she has more t... | "Thanks for your question. Becoming a good listener is an essential piece in being a better communicator. Being an effective communicator will almost always improve the quality of your relationships.\'a0What stands in your way of listening to her? Do you find yourself becoming defensive when she brings up issues? Do yo... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "I love that you are so thoughtful and proactive about this!\'a0 If only every client came in as solution focused as you, my job would be so much easier. I would second\'a0Robin's suggestion of reading ANYTHING by Gottmann. He's fantastic.\'a0Other favorites of mine are:\'93Getting Together and Staying Together: Solvin... | "Thanks for your question. Becoming a good listener is an essential piece in being a better communicator. Being an effective communicator will almost always improve the quality of your relationships.\'a0What stands in your way of listening to her? Do you find yourself becoming defensive when she brings up issues? Do yo... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "Thanks for your question. Becoming a good listener is an essential piece in being a better communicator. Being an effective communicator will almost always improve the quality of your relationships.\'a0What stands in your way of listening to her? Do you find yourself becoming defensive when she brings up issues? Do yo... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Thanks for your question. Becoming a good listener is an essential piece in being a better communicator. Being an effective communicator will almost always improve the quality of your relationships.\'a0What stands in your way of listening to her? Do you find yourself becoming defensive when she brings up issues? Do yo... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Thanks for your question. Becoming a good listener is an essential piece in being a better communicator. Being an effective communicator will almost always improve the quality of your relationships.\'a0What stands in your way of listening to her? Do you find yourself becoming defensive when she brings up issues? Do yo... | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Thanks for your question. Becoming a good listener is an essential piece in being a better communicator. Being an effective communicator will almost always improve the quality of your relationships.\'a0What stands in your way of listening to her? Do you find yourself becoming defensive when she brings up issues? Do yo... | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The best tool for becoming a better listener that I know of is called Imago Dialogue. It consists of 3 steps:1. Mirroring what she says (without judging, commenting, refuting, defending, arguing, or scoffing--just listening, no matter the content) and repeating it back, word-for-word. Continue to ask if she has more t... | "I love that you are so thoughtful and proactive about this!\'a0 If only every client came in as solution focused as you, my job would be so much easier. I would second\'a0Robin's suggestion of reading ANYTHING by Gottmann. He's fantastic.\'a0Other favorites of mine are:\'93Getting Together and Staying Together: Solvin... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "The best tool for becoming a better listener that I know of is called Imago Dialogue. It consists of 3 steps:1. Mirroring what she says (without judging, commenting, refuting, defending, arguing, or scoffing--just listening, no matter the content) and repeating it back, word-for-word. Continue to ask if she has more t... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The best tool for becoming a better listener that I know of is called Imago Dialogue. It consists of 3 steps:1. Mirroring what she says (without judging, commenting, refuting, defending, arguing, or scoffing--just listening, no matter the content) and repeating it back, word-for-word. Continue to ask if she has more t... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The best tool for becoming a better listener that I know of is called Imago Dialogue. It consists of 3 steps:1. Mirroring what she says (without judging, commenting, refuting, defending, arguing, or scoffing--just listening, no matter the content) and repeating it back, word-for-word. Continue to ask if she has more t... | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The best tool for becoming a better listener that I know of is called Imago Dialogue. It consists of 3 steps:1. Mirroring what she says (without judging, commenting, refuting, defending, arguing, or scoffing--just listening, no matter the content) and repeating it back, word-for-word. Continue to ask if she has more t... | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "I love that you are so thoughtful and proactive about this!\'a0 If only every client came in as solution focused as you, my job would be so much easier. I would second\'a0Robin's suggestion of reading ANYTHING by Gottmann. He's fantastic.\'a0Other favorites of mine are:\'93Getting Together and Staying Together: Solvin... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "I love that you are so thoughtful and proactive about this!\'a0 If only every client came in as solution focused as you, my job would be so much easier. I would second\'a0Robin's suggestion of reading ANYTHING by Gottmann. He's fantastic.\'a0Other favorites of mine are:\'93Getting Together and Staying Together: Solvin... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "I love that you are so thoughtful and proactive about this!\'a0 If only every client came in as solution focused as you, my job would be so much easier. I would second\'a0Robin's suggestion of reading ANYTHING by Gottmann. He's fantastic.\'a0Other favorites of mine are:\'93Getting Together and Staying Together: Solvin... | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "I love that you are so thoughtful and proactive about this!\'a0 If only every client came in as solution focused as you, my job would be so much easier. I would second\'a0Robin's suggestion of reading ANYTHING by Gottmann. He's fantastic.\'a0Other favorites of mine are:\'93Getting Together and Staying Together: Solvin... | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "The first step for making this sort of change is being motivated to change and it sounds like you have that, so you are already on the right track.As far as learning how to listen, try some of these steps:Ask whether a certain time is a good time for your girlfriend to have an important conversationIf she has a subjec... | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... | "Let go of your ego, the ego tends to get in the way of things, be a man and listen, do not react so uch to life around you. life is not out to get you, just listen and work on how your reactive to people and sitations around you. C", |
I want to become a better manI'm having relationship problems and I want to fix them to make things right before I lose her. How can I learn how to listen and get myself together? | "I'm glad to read about your willingness to develop new ways to invest yourself with your partner.The easier way to fix a relationship is when both people are helped to recognize the ways the couple dynamic falls short of what each person would like.Couples therapy is exactly this.Still, relationships can change if one... | "Hard to say a whole lot without knowing more. However, if you focus your attention on her, what she's saying, what she's feeling instead of trying to make yourself heard and understood first, that's often a good step. Also, work on building win-win agreements with her, and follow through on them.\'a0Those are the area... |
"I have the perfect guy but I'm not attracted to him""I'm in a long-distance relationship with my ideal man but I'm not as attracted to him as I should be. Everything else is perfect about him but I find myself lusting over more attractive men. The next step is marriage but I want to marry someone who I can wake up to ... | "Hi Montgomery,\'a0Your first sentence says it all. He might be an amazing person, but there's something missing for you. I'm curious...you say this is a long distance relationship. Did you make a connection through social media or email first? Maybe a dating website? I'm just wondering if this is the case. These moder... | "The basic guideline for relationship satisfaction, is to know what you can and cannot live with and without. \'a0And, since you are considering marriage, for how long do you imagine yourself being satisfied living with and without certain qualities of your partner.There is a hard wired dynamic between two people that ... |
How do I fix my relationship?My boyfriend is in recovery from drug addiction. We recently got into a fight and he has become very distant. I don't know what to do to fix the relationship. | "I would first suggest you sitting down with him and voicing your concerns about how distant he has been, or more importantly you have felt that he is. \'a0This will give clarification to the situation as we need to remember that everyone's perception can be different. Remember that relationships take work and take com... | "I'm sorry you have tension between you and your bf.A relationship means two people who relate, right?! \'a0 If only one person does all the work to change their approach, what they expect, what they offer the other, then this becomes the new problem to solve.If you've already done a significant amount of reflection an... |
I just feel so alone"I feel so alone. I have so many people around me but it seems as they just listen and dont understand. They say it will all be okay or they don't listen to me st all. Everyone says they are here for me but it doesn't feel like they are. Why do I feel so alone?" | "Although we can have moments when we feel alone, even with the presence of family and friends, feeling alone most of the time could be a sign that there is a lack of connection between you and your loved ones. Generally, the lack of connection can occur when you don't feel heard, understood or valued. These are common... | "Hello there.\'a0 Thank you for sharing your heart here.\'a0 I want to start off by saying, in kind of an ironic way, your struggle is something many people go through, I might say quite often.\'a0 Many feel alone with one another quite frequently.\'a0 THe reasons for feeling alone vary much between person to person.\'... |
I just feel so alone"I feel so alone. I have so many people around me but it seems as they just listen and dont understand. They say it will all be okay or they don't listen to me st all. Everyone says they are here for me but it doesn't feel like they are. Why do I feel so alone?" | "You ask a very deep and sensitive question which reflects good self-awareness.It is possible you are a more sensitive and aware person than the people whom you describe as listening and not really hearing you.Not everyone has the same capacity or willingness to pay careful attention to what is going on in life.Maybe f... | "Hello there.\'a0 Thank you for sharing your heart here.\'a0 I want to start off by saying, in kind of an ironic way, your struggle is something many people go through, I might say quite often.\'a0 Many feel alone with one another quite frequently.\'a0 THe reasons for feeling alone vary much between person to person.\'... |
I just feel so alone"I feel so alone. I have so many people around me but it seems as they just listen and dont understand. They say it will all be okay or they don't listen to me st all. Everyone says they are here for me but it doesn't feel like they are. Why do I feel so alone?" | "You ask a very deep and sensitive question which reflects good self-awareness.It is possible you are a more sensitive and aware person than the people whom you describe as listening and not really hearing you.Not everyone has the same capacity or willingness to pay careful attention to what is going on in life.Maybe f... | "Although we can have moments when we feel alone, even with the presence of family and friends, feeling alone most of the time could be a sign that there is a lack of connection between you and your loved ones. Generally, the lack of connection can occur when you don't feel heard, understood or valued. These are common... |
Why do my boyfriend and I have such trouble communicating?"We\'ve been together almost three years. We argue and he ends it by telling me he doesn\'t love me. It's hurtful because I am all about resolving the problem and he dwells on the issue even if I drop what he's done and just swallow my pride and say I am sorry. ... | "Communication involves a listener and a speaker.\'a0 Both have to be willing to do their part to make communication work.\'a0 This is something that takes both and not just one.\'a0 Without both, communication is impossible.\'a0\'a0 Staying together and the kids observing unhealthy communication is already broken.\'a0... | "Try having a conversation with your boyfriend about your views and wishes for the relationship, when the two of you are having a calm time. \'a0A few questions I'd like to ask him is why he says he doesn't love you when the topic at hand is about a specific practical matter.I'd also like to know what he hopes will hap... |
Why do my boyfriend and I have such trouble communicating?"We\'ve been together almost three years. We argue and he ends it by telling me he doesn\'t love me. It's hurtful because I am all about resolving the problem and he dwells on the issue even if I drop what he's done and just swallow my pride and say I am sorry. ... | "Communication involves a listener and a speaker.\'a0 Both have to be willing to do their part to make communication work.\'a0 This is something that takes both and not just one.\'a0 Without both, communication is impossible.\'a0\'a0 Staying together and the kids observing unhealthy communication is already broken.\'a0... | "You can't fix this by yourself, but I applaud you for trying. One person working hard in a relationship can make things better for a while., but in the long haul you need two people giving some effort. I'm reading between your lines here and I wonder if your need to keep the family together is getting you to apologize... |
Why do my boyfriend and I have such trouble communicating?"We\'ve been together almost three years. We argue and he ends it by telling me he doesn\'t love me. It's hurtful because I am all about resolving the problem and he dwells on the issue even if I drop what he's done and just swallow my pride and say I am sorry. ... | "Try having a conversation with your boyfriend about your views and wishes for the relationship, when the two of you are having a calm time. \'a0A few questions I'd like to ask him is why he says he doesn't love you when the topic at hand is about a specific practical matter.I'd also like to know what he hopes will hap... | "You can't fix this by yourself, but I applaud you for trying. One person working hard in a relationship can make things better for a while., but in the long haul you need two people giving some effort. I'm reading between your lines here and I wonder if your need to keep the family together is getting you to apologize... |
How can I ask my boyfriend about who he's texting?We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | "I think honesty is the right approach in this situation. Share with him that you looked at his phone, as well as sharing with him any fears or concerns that you're having about the long distance relationship. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship and when doubt & distrust creep into a relationship it ... | "The best way to get an answer is to just ask. I would defintely\'a0let him know you are asking out of concern and not to judge or criticize. Allow him to explain his answer and see how you feel about it. Try to ask him when you both are already discussing other topics and just say, ""Can I ask you something?""\'a0Earl... |
How can I ask my boyfriend about who he's texting?We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | "I think honesty is the right approach in this situation. Share with him that you looked at his phone, as well as sharing with him any fears or concerns that you're having about the long distance relationship. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship and when doubt & distrust creep into a relationship it ... | "Just ask him.I'm not sure how you saw his phone if you're in a long distance relationship, because long distance means you live far apart from each other and don't get to see each other in person. Therefore, I think we may have a different understanding of the definition of ""long distance relationship"" which makes i... |
How can I ask my boyfriend about who he's texting?We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | "I think honesty is the right approach in this situation. Share with him that you looked at his phone, as well as sharing with him any fears or concerns that you're having about the long distance relationship. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship and when doubt & distrust creep into a relationship it ... | "If you'd like to ask a question, then go ahead and ask!Boyfriend/girlfriend is a close relationship and it is usually understood as an exclusive relationship. \'a0You're definitely entitled to know if your wishes to not have him texting another woman, are being respected.Often people are afraid to ask because they fea... |
How can I ask my boyfriend about who he's texting?We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | "The best way to get an answer is to just ask. I would defintely\'a0let him know you are asking out of concern and not to judge or criticize. Allow him to explain his answer and see how you feel about it. Try to ask him when you both are already discussing other topics and just say, ""Can I ask you something?""\'a0Earl... | "Just ask him.I'm not sure how you saw his phone if you're in a long distance relationship, because long distance means you live far apart from each other and don't get to see each other in person. Therefore, I think we may have a different understanding of the definition of ""long distance relationship"" which makes i... |
How can I ask my boyfriend about who he's texting?We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | "The best way to get an answer is to just ask. I would defintely\'a0let him know you are asking out of concern and not to judge or criticize. Allow him to explain his answer and see how you feel about it. Try to ask him when you both are already discussing other topics and just say, ""Can I ask you something?""\'a0Earl... | "If you'd like to ask a question, then go ahead and ask!Boyfriend/girlfriend is a close relationship and it is usually understood as an exclusive relationship. \'a0You're definitely entitled to know if your wishes to not have him texting another woman, are being respected.Often people are afraid to ask because they fea... |
How can I ask my boyfriend about who he's texting?We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | "Just ask him.I'm not sure how you saw his phone if you're in a long distance relationship, because long distance means you live far apart from each other and don't get to see each other in person. Therefore, I think we may have a different understanding of the definition of ""long distance relationship"" which makes i... | "If you'd like to ask a question, then go ahead and ask!Boyfriend/girlfriend is a close relationship and it is usually understood as an exclusive relationship. \'a0You're definitely entitled to know if your wishes to not have him texting another woman, are being respected.Often people are afraid to ask because they fea... |
How can I keep a long distance relationship going?"We weren't long distance until he joined the military. I love him and I know he loves me but it's complicated. He said he's not going to find someone else but I'm afraid. How do I keep our relationship going?" | "Loving someone in the military is hard. My husband and I joined the USAF two months after we got married! How long do you expect to be apart? Do you have access to Skype or something similar? How far away from each other are you? Can you meet half way periodically? I have a number of military friends who have dates ov... | "You're wise to be aware of possible changes to your relationship once your bf is away from you for extended time periods.All you both can do is state your intentions and wishes, keep in contact as much as possible, and wait to see how your relationship unfolds.To a large degree, each of you is relying on faith that if... |
How can I keep a long distance relationship going?"We weren't long distance until he joined the military. I love him and I know he loves me but it's complicated. He said he's not going to find someone else but I'm afraid. How do I keep our relationship going?" | "Loving someone in the military is hard. My husband and I joined the USAF two months after we got married! How long do you expect to be apart? Do you have access to Skype or something similar? How far away from each other are you? Can you meet half way periodically? I have a number of military friends who have dates ov... | "You're right that long-distance relationships can be complicated. If he loves you and you love him, that's a great start. I wonder if you would be able or willing to have a discussion about what you love about each other and what makes each of you feel loved, valued, special, and appreciated.When having important disc... |
How can I keep a long distance relationship going?"We weren't long distance until he joined the military. I love him and I know he loves me but it's complicated. He said he's not going to find someone else but I'm afraid. How do I keep our relationship going?" | "You're wise to be aware of possible changes to your relationship once your bf is away from you for extended time periods.All you both can do is state your intentions and wishes, keep in contact as much as possible, and wait to see how your relationship unfolds.To a large degree, each of you is relying on faith that if... | "You're right that long-distance relationships can be complicated. If he loves you and you love him, that's a great start. I wonder if you would be able or willing to have a discussion about what you love about each other and what makes each of you feel loved, valued, special, and appreciated.When having important disc... |
My girlfriend is always accusing me of cheating on her when I haven't"Over a year ago I had a female friend. She turned out to be kind of crazy so I decided to stop talking to her. When she would call me I wouldn't answer the phone. This made my girlfriend really suspicious. She would ask me why I wouldn't ever answer ... | "Do you know why your girlfriend doesn't believe you?It is strange that your girlfriend prefers you to take the phone call of another woman.Have you blocked the unwelcome phone calls?Has your girlfriend said she doesn't believe you or is this your interpretation?Find out the answer and then ask your girlfriend to tell ... | "Open and honest communication can go a long way in situations like yours. Your girlfriend may be suspicious if you don't give her enough information. Answer her questions fully. Ask for her suggestions as to how to handle this female friend. Ask for your girlfriend for help in getting the female friend to understand t... |
Is it time to end my relationship with my boyfriend for good?"He isn't violent but he has anger issues and deep insecurities. He's working on them and has improved. We started counseling and he participated in one or two individual sessions but we broke up again shortly thereafter. Now his constant questions and accusa... | "Sometimes relationships just do not work.\'a0 Don't feel that the first, second, or even third relationship is the relationship you are suppose to be in for life.\'a0\'a0 The one that is meant for you will require work but should be be draining and a constant roller coaster of breaking up.\'a0 It is good you all went ... | "Hello and thank you for your question. I worked for a number of years with people who have been both abused in their relationships and those who have been abusive. Being involved in a relationship with a partner\'a0who does the behaviors\'a0you describe can be incredibly difficult, and many would argue is even harder ... |
How do I tell my boyfriend I wanna be with him but not in a relationship?"I've been with him for a couple months. We will talk everyday and he will get mad over something I will say and not talk to me. We have our great moments but I just need to focus on my personal situations and I feel he is slowing me down with tha... | "Why don't you just tell him everything that you just wrote here?You're clear in your mind as to what you would like.Unless you have a whole either side to the way you feel, everything you wrote here explains your position very well.Good luck in having your conversation!", | "I have learned that the best approach is to say that you need the time to get yourself together, mature, learn, outside of a intimate relationship but just in a friend to friend relationship...don't blame him or point fingers at him.... most likely if you did that it would not go well.\'a0 If you make it about you and... |
My boyfriend says he needs time to think about us"I found out my boyfriend takes anti-depression medicine. Lately he's been saying he has a lot on his mind and he needs time to think about us. We've only been dating weeks but I like him a lot." | "Your boyfriend may like you a lot as well.People have different styles of reflecting on their lives, one of which is to retreat the way you describe your boyfriend doing.One point you can consider is asking for a time frame of when he'd be ready to discuss his thoughts on your relationship.He's entitled to retreat, as... | "This seems like two questions. \'a0The first is what may have happened to prompt him to back off. \'a0The second is what it means to you to have a boyfriend who takes anti-depression medication who says he has ""a lot on his mind."" \'a0Both give you opportunity to look at yourself. \'a0Having expectations can be a hu... |
My fianc\'e cheated. How can we mend our relationship?"I'm in a relationship with my fianc\'e and I currently found out that she's been cheating on me with a co-worker. I was very upset none the less. I understand what she did was wrong but I want to spend the rest of my life with her. So I'm willing to forgive and mov... | "Hello, I know this is a tough situation your going through and it has you questioning everything but one thing is certain, and that is that you still love her, dealing with the hurt can be very challenging but after learning from your mistake you changed and became more faithful and loving and the comfort knowing she ... | "I'm sorry for the stress and unhappiness stemming the problem you describe.Trust your instinct that there is more complexity to feeling good about being in a partnership than simply wanting this to happen.In any relationship, the complexities of each person combine. \'a0 Often people accept when this feels good and ar... |
My fianc\'e cheated. How can we mend our relationship?"I'm in a relationship with my fianc\'e and I currently found out that she's been cheating on me with a co-worker. I was very upset none the less. I understand what she did was wrong but I want to spend the rest of my life with her. So I'm willing to forgive and mov... | "I'm sorry for the stress and unhappiness stemming the problem you describe.Trust your instinct that there is more complexity to feeling good about being in a partnership than simply wanting this to happen.In any relationship, the complexities of each person combine. \'a0 Often people accept when this feels good and ar... | "My first question for you would be to see if you've talked with her about it yet? You mentioned you found out....and I know this can be so painful. It can also be frightening to bring up the experience when it hurts a lot, when you feel so unsettled as you mention. But you can look at this as a vital and important pie... |
My fianc\'e cheated. How can we mend our relationship?"I'm in a relationship with my fianc\'e and I currently found out that she's been cheating on me with a co-worker. I was very upset none the less. I understand what she did was wrong but I want to spend the rest of my life with her. So I'm willing to forgive and mov... | "Hello, I know this is a tough situation your going through and it has you questioning everything but one thing is certain, and that is that you still love her, dealing with the hurt can be very challenging but after learning from your mistake you changed and became more faithful and loving and the comfort knowing she ... | "My first question for you would be to see if you've talked with her about it yet? You mentioned you found out....and I know this can be so painful. It can also be frightening to bring up the experience when it hurts a lot, when you feel so unsettled as you mention. But you can look at this as a vital and important pie... |
I feel like I could never be with anyone because no one would want meWhat do I do if I have been feeling like I could never be with anyone because no one would want me. Or I couldn't have many friends because of who I am. It's strange I want to be loved but I'd hate to be because I always lose. | "I'm sorry you are feeling uncared for. I'm sure there are plenty of people that care and love for you that you are not taking into consideration. Sometimes when we get upset we may think irrationally and see the world as all or nothing. However, take a deep breath, relax and start focusing on the positive relationship... | "What would make you feel no one wants to be with you?", |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Few people are actually 100% straight or 100% gay. \'a0Sexual preference exists on a continuum. Over the course of many years a person's sexual preference may shift.", | "Sexuality is normally formed during adolescence. It would be extremely rare for someone to develop feelings of same-sex attraction later in life. I would explore whether the attraction you are experiencing is sexually-based or intimacy-based. Perhaps you are craving a close, emotionally intimate relationship with the ... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Sexuality is normally formed during adolescence. It would be extremely rare for someone to develop feelings of same-sex attraction later in life. I would explore whether the attraction you are experiencing is sexually-based or intimacy-based. Perhaps you are craving a close, emotionally intimate relationship with the ... | "Sexuality is fluid. It is possible to find yourself attracted sexually or affectionally to different types of people at different times in your life.", |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Sexuality is normally formed during adolescence. It would be extremely rare for someone to develop feelings of same-sex attraction later in life. I would explore whether the attraction you are experiencing is sexually-based or intimacy-based. Perhaps you are craving a close, emotionally intimate relationship with the ... | "During these encounters did you feel safe? accepted? Where you able to experience something new in your life?\'a0It is natural to feel attraction to all people. As young children we love everyone. It was as we got older that the social constructs had us make a ""choice"". It could have been that you were always attrac... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Sexuality is normally formed during adolescence. It would be extremely rare for someone to develop feelings of same-sex attraction later in life. I would explore whether the attraction you are experiencing is sexually-based or intimacy-based. Perhaps you are craving a close, emotionally intimate relationship with the ... | "There are many possible answers to your question.The best one will be the one you decide after reflecting on your own reasoning as to your sexual attraction change.Sometimes people inhibit their sexuality bc of fear others will disapprove. \'a0Currently since in most circles being gay is acceptable, the conditions are... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Few people are actually 100% straight or 100% gay. \'a0Sexual preference exists on a continuum. Over the course of many years a person's sexual preference may shift.", | "Sexuality is fluid. It is possible to find yourself attracted sexually or affectionally to different types of people at different times in your life.", |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Few people are actually 100% straight or 100% gay. \'a0Sexual preference exists on a continuum. Over the course of many years a person's sexual preference may shift.", | "During these encounters did you feel safe? accepted? Where you able to experience something new in your life?\'a0It is natural to feel attraction to all people. As young children we love everyone. It was as we got older that the social constructs had us make a ""choice"". It could have been that you were always attrac... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Few people are actually 100% straight or 100% gay. \'a0Sexual preference exists on a continuum. Over the course of many years a person's sexual preference may shift.", | "There are many possible answers to your question.The best one will be the one you decide after reflecting on your own reasoning as to your sexual attraction change.Sometimes people inhibit their sexuality bc of fear others will disapprove. \'a0Currently since in most circles being gay is acceptable, the conditions are... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Sexuality is fluid. It is possible to find yourself attracted sexually or affectionally to different types of people at different times in your life.", | "During these encounters did you feel safe? accepted? Where you able to experience something new in your life?\'a0It is natural to feel attraction to all people. As young children we love everyone. It was as we got older that the social constructs had us make a ""choice"". It could have been that you were always attrac... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "Sexuality is fluid. It is possible to find yourself attracted sexually or affectionally to different types of people at different times in your life.", | "There are many possible answers to your question.The best one will be the one you decide after reflecting on your own reasoning as to your sexual attraction change.Sometimes people inhibit their sexuality bc of fear others will disapprove. \'a0Currently since in most circles being gay is acceptable, the conditions are... |
How can I be interested in the same sex after nearly years of being straight?"After years of being straight how could I now find myself interested in people of the same sex? I have had a few same sex encounters of my own doing." | "There are many possible answers to your question.The best one will be the one you decide after reflecting on your own reasoning as to your sexual attraction change.Sometimes people inhibit their sexuality bc of fear others will disapprove. \'a0Currently since in most circles being gay is acceptable, the conditions are... | "During these encounters did you feel safe? accepted? Where you able to experience something new in your life?\'a0It is natural to feel attraction to all people. As young children we love everyone. It was as we got older that the social constructs had us make a ""choice"". It could have been that you were always attrac... |
My wife outed me to her sisterWhat should I do when we see each other? | "I am so sorry that this happened. \'a0Nobody deserves to be outed without their permission. \'a0I would encourage you to get in touch with someone who is supportive and accepting and plan to touch base with them after you see your wife's sister. \'a0You can also plan to take some time for self care after you see her. ... | "Echoing others here, I'm sorry, she shouldn't have. Hopefully, you will have a conversation (or, in reality, several conversations) about relationship expectations of privacy~ Are there things your wife would prefer you not share with her family? Without exploring what is or isn't okay through healthy dialog, it's ent... |
What does it mean that I feel like different genders?I was born a girl. I look like a boy. I sometimes feel like a different variation of gender. I don't know what to say if someone asks my gender. I just get really confused and usually say my birth gender. | "I agree with Sherry, it is OK to give the answer that you feel most familiar with. \'a0The most important part is not who people think you are, but that you know who you are. \'a0Read about gender identity and fluidity. \'a0Discovering the answer is a process, don't rush it to comply with others either way. \'a0If you... | "If you're feeling like your gender is different than the gender you are born with, and there are many different terms to help describe that. Gender is actually looked at on a spectrum. Transgender is just one of those terms, but looking at the information here may help:\'a0 |
What does it mean that I feel like different genders?I was born a girl. I look like a boy. I sometimes feel like a different variation of gender. I don't know what to say if someone asks my gender. I just get really confused and usually say my birth gender. | "It is ok to tell someone who is casually asking about your gender, what is written on your birth certificate.\'a0Measure the significance of your answer to the significance of the person who is asking you the question.In addition, you are stating the simple truth, so there's nothing wrong with stating what is on your ... | "If you're feeling like your gender is different than the gender you are born with, and there are many different terms to help describe that. Gender is actually looked at on a spectrum. Transgender is just one of those terms, but looking at the information here may help:\'a0 |
What does it mean that I feel like different genders?I was born a girl. I look like a boy. I sometimes feel like a different variation of gender. I don't know what to say if someone asks my gender. I just get really confused and usually say my birth gender. | "It is ok to tell someone who is casually asking about your gender, what is written on your birth certificate.\'a0Measure the significance of your answer to the significance of the person who is asking you the question.In addition, you are stating the simple truth, so there's nothing wrong with stating what is on your ... | "I agree with Sherry, it is OK to give the answer that you feel most familiar with. \'a0The most important part is not who people think you are, but that you know who you are. \'a0Read about gender identity and fluidity. \'a0Discovering the answer is a process, don't rush it to comply with others either way. \'a0If you... |
I\'m afraid that I\'m gay"I've been going through a rough time lately. I been into nothing but women. I\'ve never thought about men until a week ago. I\'m very upset and depressed about this. It's not normal to me. I looked at gay porn more than once to prove that I\'m not gay. I get the same results each time and I fe... | "Hello. Coming to terms with the idea that you might be of a sexuality other than the one in which you were socially raised to be, can be emotionally disturbing, and quite unsettling. It creates anxiety, maybe even panic, and leaves us feeling confused and uncertain about our own sense of identity. It becomes important... | "Hi Brookfield, It can be unsettling when we feel something as fundamental as our sexual orientation shifting. I like that you're honest enough with yourself to say ""I'm struggling with this"". To accept that there is a question is a brave place to be. And...it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay.Unfortunately, we liv... |
I crossdress and I don't know how to feel about it"I am a heterosexual male in my late s. I find myself wearing pantyhose heels skirts and other women's clothing in private. I am torn on how to feel about it. I enjoy it very much. I have had a pantyhose/stocking fascination and other kinky fetish interests since I was ... | "If you enjoy cross-dressing and are comfortable with how you feelaand aware of your own thoughts and feelings about it in private as compared to in public, \'a0I see no problem with that.If you would like to become more comfortable with it or express more feelings about it, I recommend that you \'a0see a local mental ... | "Hi there! It sounds like you have already started to answer\
your own question by stating that you love cross dressing very much, and I am\
glad you enjoy it! Cross dressing is something many people enjoy, and there is\
no harm in it whatsoever.\'a0My question to you would be: What is making you feel torn\
about it? T... |
Am I gay if I like neither girls nor guys?"I'm a guy. If I don't like girls nor do I like guys does that mean I'm gay?" | "Hi, and thanks for your question. I agree with my colleagues about researching asexuality, but I want too add a couple of things about that:Here is a website that you can start with to get some information about asexuality - | "No, it does not necessarily. \'a0Your sexual preference is based on who you ARE attracted to, not what does not turn you on. \'a0If you find you have no sex drive at all, this is called asexual. \'a0But you did not mention what you do find arrousing either. \'a0Hope this helps.", |
How can I deal with gender dysphoria in a positive way?"I'm transgender I know I am but I've only told a few friends. I know I can't tell my family because of previous conversations we've had. They just wouldn't accept it.\
My gender dysphoria is getting really difficult to deal with on my own. I need some strategies ... | "Hello, and thank you for your question. I am so glad that you reached out for help. I know that the dysphoria can feel nearly impossible to handle, especially since you have limited support from people who accept who you are. You may already know some of these resources, but I am going to share a few. 1. The website w... | "This is a difficult situation to be in, as it sounds like you are feeling very isolated from both your family and your friends.\'a0\'a0 I don't know your age or gender so please excuse any incorrect assumptions about you being under 18 and use what is useful from the ideas if you are older.\'a0 One idea is to research... |
How can I deal with gender dysphoria in a positive way?"I'm transgender I know I am but I've only told a few friends. I know I can't tell my family because of previous conversations we've had. They just wouldn't accept it.\
My gender dysphoria is getting really difficult to deal with on my own. I need some strategies ... | "Hello, and thank you for your question. I am so glad that you reached out for help. I know that the dysphoria can feel nearly impossible to handle, especially since you have limited support from people who accept who you are. You may already know some of these resources, but I am going to share a few. 1. The website w... | "Hi! I am so glad you're reaching out! \'a0Sounds like you have some solid support in some areas of your life but are still dealing with some difficult dysphoria. \'a0I think it can depend on what kind of dysphoria you have - sometimes it's physical, social or mental. \'a0Sometimes physical dysphoria means less time ar... |
How can I deal with gender dysphoria in a positive way?"I'm transgender I know I am but I've only told a few friends. I know I can't tell my family because of previous conversations we've had. They just wouldn't accept it.\
My gender dysphoria is getting really difficult to deal with on my own. I need some strategies ... | "This is a difficult situation to be in, as it sounds like you are feeling very isolated from both your family and your friends.\'a0\'a0 I don't know your age or gender so please excuse any incorrect assumptions about you being under 18 and use what is useful from the ideas if you are older.\'a0 One idea is to research... | "Hi! I am so glad you're reaching out! \'a0Sounds like you have some solid support in some areas of your life but are still dealing with some difficult dysphoria. \'a0I think it can depend on what kind of dysphoria you have - sometimes it's physical, social or mental. \'a0Sometimes physical dysphoria means less time ar... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Hi,When we can't stop doing things that we know are wrong, it can help to take a closer look at how we make our decisions. Usually we are getting something good out of these bad behaviors, such as feeling excited or taking our minds off of bad things. It is really hard to change these things without helping us get the... | "When you say you've ""been caught"", I am assuming that means your parents know you've been sneaking out.\'a0 If that's the case, could you ask for their help?\'a0 Sometimes just knowing someone else is holding you accountable really makes a difference.\'a0 That could be as simple as Dad checking in on you at, say, 2 ... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Hi...let's start with what's causing you to sneak out of the house?Understanding the motivation behind your actions (in this case...your sneaking out at night) can often times help you create the change you want. \'a0Are you arguing with your parents? Do you feel misunderstood? Alone? Scared? Stressed out? What are yo... | "When you say you've ""been caught"", I am assuming that means your parents know you've been sneaking out.\'a0 If that's the case, could you ask for their help?\'a0 Sometimes just knowing someone else is holding you accountable really makes a difference.\'a0 That could be as simple as Dad checking in on you at, say, 2 ... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "This is not totally unusual behavior, but the fact that you would like to stop and cannot seem to be able to points to something deeper. That cannot be unpacked online, but I'm glad that you're in this space and asking this question. Try to find a therapist who seems like a good fit and begin to get to work on this is... | "When you say you've ""been caught"", I am assuming that means your parents know you've been sneaking out.\'a0 If that's the case, could you ask for their help?\'a0 Sometimes just knowing someone else is holding you accountable really makes a difference.\'a0 That could be as simple as Dad checking in on you at, say, 2 ... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Where do you go and what is your reason to go wherever this is?Try to understand these reasons because the answers may give you good guidance as to other ways to get what \'a0 it is your trying to reach by sneaking from your home at night.If for example, you're sneaking out because your parents are arguing and you fee... | "When you say you've ""been caught"", I am assuming that means your parents know you've been sneaking out.\'a0 If that's the case, could you ask for their help?\'a0 Sometimes just knowing someone else is holding you accountable really makes a difference.\'a0 That could be as simple as Dad checking in on you at, say, 2 ... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Hi...let's start with what's causing you to sneak out of the house?Understanding the motivation behind your actions (in this case...your sneaking out at night) can often times help you create the change you want. \'a0Are you arguing with your parents? Do you feel misunderstood? Alone? Scared? Stressed out? What are yo... | "Hi,When we can't stop doing things that we know are wrong, it can help to take a closer look at how we make our decisions. Usually we are getting something good out of these bad behaviors, such as feeling excited or taking our minds off of bad things. It is really hard to change these things without helping us get the... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "This is not totally unusual behavior, but the fact that you would like to stop and cannot seem to be able to points to something deeper. That cannot be unpacked online, but I'm glad that you're in this space and asking this question. Try to find a therapist who seems like a good fit and begin to get to work on this is... | "Hi,When we can't stop doing things that we know are wrong, it can help to take a closer look at how we make our decisions. Usually we are getting something good out of these bad behaviors, such as feeling excited or taking our minds off of bad things. It is really hard to change these things without helping us get the... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Where do you go and what is your reason to go wherever this is?Try to understand these reasons because the answers may give you good guidance as to other ways to get what \'a0 it is your trying to reach by sneaking from your home at night.If for example, you're sneaking out because your parents are arguing and you fee... | "Hi,When we can't stop doing things that we know are wrong, it can help to take a closer look at how we make our decisions. Usually we are getting something good out of these bad behaviors, such as feeling excited or taking our minds off of bad things. It is really hard to change these things without helping us get the... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "This is not totally unusual behavior, but the fact that you would like to stop and cannot seem to be able to points to something deeper. That cannot be unpacked online, but I'm glad that you're in this space and asking this question. Try to find a therapist who seems like a good fit and begin to get to work on this is... | "Hi...let's start with what's causing you to sneak out of the house?Understanding the motivation behind your actions (in this case...your sneaking out at night) can often times help you create the change you want. \'a0Are you arguing with your parents? Do you feel misunderstood? Alone? Scared? Stressed out? What are yo... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Where do you go and what is your reason to go wherever this is?Try to understand these reasons because the answers may give you good guidance as to other ways to get what \'a0 it is your trying to reach by sneaking from your home at night.If for example, you're sneaking out because your parents are arguing and you fee... | "Hi...let's start with what's causing you to sneak out of the house?Understanding the motivation behind your actions (in this case...your sneaking out at night) can often times help you create the change you want. \'a0Are you arguing with your parents? Do you feel misunderstood? Alone? Scared? Stressed out? What are yo... |
How do I stop sneaking away from home at night?I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | "Where do you go and what is your reason to go wherever this is?Try to understand these reasons because the answers may give you good guidance as to other ways to get what \'a0 it is your trying to reach by sneaking from your home at night.If for example, you're sneaking out because your parents are arguing and you fee... | "This is not totally unusual behavior, but the fact that you would like to stop and cannot seem to be able to points to something deeper. That cannot be unpacked online, but I'm glad that you're in this space and asking this question. Try to find a therapist who seems like a good fit and begin to get to work on this is... |
What's going on with these mood swings?"I'm a teenager and I get these really intense mood swings. My mood will be really high and I'll think of something that I want to do. When I start to make it happen I get irritated by other people if they intervene. Then if the thing I wanted to do doesn't work out I have thes... | "Teenagers are prone to mood swings due to developmental and hormonal changes that are rapidly and intensely occurring in your body and mind - so some of this happens to many people in your stage of development. You are not at all alone.You've taken the first and very important step in regulating your moods by just ide... | "Why do you blame other people who had nothing to do with your actions?If it is because after the fact you wish you had accepted their help, then the person who is responsible for this is you!Since you are aware of your tendencies and how the interfere with your life, try to become aware of when you do these habits.Thi... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Voices and dreams could be suppressed feelings or thoughts that result from negative experiences. \'a0Many times when people go to trough traumatic incidents or changes in their lives without being equipped to manage them and as a result they start having similar symptoms. It is helpful to find a therapist to talk to ... | "I would recommend that you talk with a mental health professional near you about the details so you can have some really specific support for what you are going through.I don't know if you can understand when the voices are saying, but I wonder how you feel about what you are hearing? If the voices are just at night, ... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Are you in the middle of extreme emotional pressure right now?Or, is someone with whom you're close, under stress or somehow suffering?Dreams and nightmares are when our feelings and pressures we feel, try working themselves out without logic and language.Even though the nightmares are horrible, they are one way your ... | "I would recommend that you talk with a mental health professional near you about the details so you can have some really specific support for what you are going through.I don't know if you can understand when the voices are saying, but I wonder how you feel about what you are hearing? If the voices are just at night, ... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "It's important to take a look inside and find out why you are experiencing these feelings. It could anything and it will change your life to know what your particular issue or trigger is. Please contact us a call with the method that is most comfortable for you.", | "I would recommend that you talk with a mental health professional near you about the details so you can have some really specific support for what you are going through.I don't know if you can understand when the voices are saying, but I wonder how you feel about what you are hearing? If the voices are just at night, ... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Write down your nightmares and discuss them with an analyst or psychotherapist who specializes in dreams, as I do. If you are hearing voices while awake, see a doctor right away.\'a0 If the voices are strictly in your dreams, do call for therapy and talk to your caring others about what's happening.", | "I would recommend that you talk with a mental health professional near you about the details so you can have some really specific support for what you are going through.I don't know if you can understand when the voices are saying, but I wonder how you feel about what you are hearing? If the voices are just at night, ... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Are you in the middle of extreme emotional pressure right now?Or, is someone with whom you're close, under stress or somehow suffering?Dreams and nightmares are when our feelings and pressures we feel, try working themselves out without logic and language.Even though the nightmares are horrible, they are one way your ... | "Voices and dreams could be suppressed feelings or thoughts that result from negative experiences. \'a0Many times when people go to trough traumatic incidents or changes in their lives without being equipped to manage them and as a result they start having similar symptoms. It is helpful to find a therapist to talk to ... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Voices and dreams could be suppressed feelings or thoughts that result from negative experiences. \'a0Many times when people go to trough traumatic incidents or changes in their lives without being equipped to manage them and as a result they start having similar symptoms. It is helpful to find a therapist to talk to ... | "It's important to take a look inside and find out why you are experiencing these feelings. It could anything and it will change your life to know what your particular issue or trigger is. Please contact us a call with the method that is most comfortable for you.", |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Write down your nightmares and discuss them with an analyst or psychotherapist who specializes in dreams, as I do. If you are hearing voices while awake, see a doctor right away.\'a0 If the voices are strictly in your dreams, do call for therapy and talk to your caring others about what's happening.", | "Voices and dreams could be suppressed feelings or thoughts that result from negative experiences. \'a0Many times when people go to trough traumatic incidents or changes in their lives without being equipped to manage them and as a result they start having similar symptoms. It is helpful to find a therapist to talk to ... |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Are you in the middle of extreme emotional pressure right now?Or, is someone with whom you're close, under stress or somehow suffering?Dreams and nightmares are when our feelings and pressures we feel, try working themselves out without logic and language.Even though the nightmares are horrible, they are one way your ... | "It's important to take a look inside and find out why you are experiencing these feelings. It could anything and it will change your life to know what your particular issue or trigger is. Please contact us a call with the method that is most comfortable for you.", |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Are you in the middle of extreme emotional pressure right now?Or, is someone with whom you're close, under stress or somehow suffering?Dreams and nightmares are when our feelings and pressures we feel, try working themselves out without logic and language.Even though the nightmares are horrible, they are one way your ... | "Write down your nightmares and discuss them with an analyst or psychotherapist who specializes in dreams, as I do. If you are hearing voices while awake, see a doctor right away.\'a0 If the voices are strictly in your dreams, do call for therapy and talk to your caring others about what's happening.", |
How can I make the dreams and voices go away?"For the past four weeks I've been having nightmares and hearing voices telling me of horrible things. They're not random voices but rather the voices of those I care about." | "Write down your nightmares and discuss them with an analyst or psychotherapist who specializes in dreams, as I do. If you are hearing voices while awake, see a doctor right away.\'a0 If the voices are strictly in your dreams, do call for therapy and talk to your caring others about what's happening.", | "It's important to take a look inside and find out why you are experiencing these feelings. It could anything and it will change your life to know what your particular issue or trigger is. Please contact us a call with the method that is most comfortable for you.", |
What is a psychotic seizure?My doctor seems to think I am in danger of having one. I neglected to ask how this was different than an episode. I have been formally diagnosed with bipolar type . | "The best path is to ask your doctor what s/he meant when telling you about your high risk for psychotic seizure.Your doctor knows you better than any of the therapists who write on this blog. \'a0 And, because your doctor knows your health, will likely have suggestions and advice for you regarding the seizures s/he th... | "I will admit that I'm not specifically familiar with this from my own experience.My best educated guess is that you could have a seizure during which you have some sort of symptoms similar to a hallucination (which is one of the psychotic symptoms) when you hear or see things that aren't really there.In looking briefl... |
"How can I get ""out of my head"" and stop obsessive thoughts?""Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts?... | "There are some great thoughts offered by others here.\'a0I would just add that typically the most natural response to fearful thoughts is to want to stop, avoid, or get rid of them - which doesn't work if you're really caught up in a cycle of OCD or other form of anxiety.\'a0In the long run, the more effective thing t... | "Such a great question! I'm so sorry you are struggling! You may be experiencing Intrusive thoughts. \'a0These are thoughts that seem to come from no where and victimize us. \'a0I can strongly recommend a book called ""When Panic Attacks"" by Dr. David Burns. \'a0It helps you to identify the thoughts, and the help you ... |
"How can I get ""out of my head"" and stop obsessive thoughts?""Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts?... | "There are some great thoughts offered by others here.\'a0I would just add that typically the most natural response to fearful thoughts is to want to stop, avoid, or get rid of them - which doesn't work if you're really caught up in a cycle of OCD or other form of anxiety.\'a0In the long run, the more effective thing t... | "Hi there,I first want to let you know that having these thoughts is completely normal. Studies have been done that show that 80% of human thoughts are ""negative"" so you are not alone.\'a0I like to think of thoughts as a tornado... if you are in a tornado, you are completely consumed by it and it is nearly impossible... |
"How can I get ""out of my head"" and stop obsessive thoughts?""Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts?... | "There are some great thoughts offered by others here.\'a0I would just add that typically the most natural response to fearful thoughts is to want to stop, avoid, or get rid of them - which doesn't work if you're really caught up in a cycle of OCD or other form of anxiety.\'a0In the long run, the more effective thing t... | "I'm sorry you're going through this problem of scary thoughts in your mind.None of us are able to directly stop thoughts from coming.What is possible is to question their value, accuracy, and believability.Maybe if you examine the thoughts which upset you, you'll be able to feel better by understanding that the though... |
"How can I get ""out of my head"" and stop obsessive thoughts?""Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts?... | "Such a great question! I'm so sorry you are struggling! You may be experiencing Intrusive thoughts. \'a0These are thoughts that seem to come from no where and victimize us. \'a0I can strongly recommend a book called ""When Panic Attacks"" by Dr. David Burns. \'a0It helps you to identify the thoughts, and the help you ... | "Hi there,I first want to let you know that having these thoughts is completely normal. Studies have been done that show that 80% of human thoughts are ""negative"" so you are not alone.\'a0I like to think of thoughts as a tornado... if you are in a tornado, you are completely consumed by it and it is nearly impossible... |
"How can I get ""out of my head"" and stop obsessive thoughts?""Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts?... | "Such a great question! I'm so sorry you are struggling! You may be experiencing Intrusive thoughts. \'a0These are thoughts that seem to come from no where and victimize us. \'a0I can strongly recommend a book called ""When Panic Attacks"" by Dr. David Burns. \'a0It helps you to identify the thoughts, and the help you ... | "I'm sorry you're going through this problem of scary thoughts in your mind.None of us are able to directly stop thoughts from coming.What is possible is to question their value, accuracy, and believability.Maybe if you examine the thoughts which upset you, you'll be able to feel better by understanding that the though... |
"How can I get ""out of my head"" and stop obsessive thoughts?""Often times I find myself thinking scary thoughts and sometimes I even scare myself into thinking that something bad is going to happen to me. Once it starts the thought continues going through my head and I can't get it out. How can I stop these thoughts?... | "Hi there,I first want to let you know that having these thoughts is completely normal. Studies have been done that show that 80% of human thoughts are ""negative"" so you are not alone.\'a0I like to think of thoughts as a tornado... if you are in a tornado, you are completely consumed by it and it is nearly impossible... | "I'm sorry you're going through this problem of scary thoughts in your mind.None of us are able to directly stop thoughts from coming.What is possible is to question their value, accuracy, and believability.Maybe if you examine the thoughts which upset you, you'll be able to feel better by understanding that the though... |
How does counseling end?How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | "Hopefully both the client and counselor would together decide when to terminate counseling sessions. It's really helpful for the client to leave counseling with a solid sense of what he or she has accomplished in counseling, so it can be a good idea to spend some time acknowledging that in the last session or sessions... | "Hello. The end of the counselor/client relationship is one of mutual respect and engagement. Counseling sessions can end for any number of reasons. Among them are the client's inability to make forward progress in therapy; the clinician's inability to help the client (for a variety of reasons); a mutually agreed upon ... |
How does counseling end?How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | "Hello. The end of the counselor/client relationship is one of mutual respect and engagement. Counseling sessions can end for any number of reasons. Among them are the client's inability to make forward progress in therapy; the clinician's inability to help the client (for a variety of reasons); a mutually agreed upon ... | "There are different reasons why a counselor may seek to terminate with a client and these will each have different processes by which the counselor will come to that decision. Here are a few examples.\'a0The counselor may determine that the client's needs are outside what the counselor is competent to be able to work ... |
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