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Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | cbaafdae68a37e3f516ca5f709d00713f9f1c92dd0278ff015fd109f19986db3 | [
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Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | cbaafdae68a37e3f516ca5f709d00713f9f1c92dd0278ff015fd109f19986db3 | [
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Fair Housing complaint HOA sent me a cease and desist notice I have an issue with my HOA they are not allowing my kids to use facilities. They refused to do anything and I filed a fair housing complaint. They started sending me emails that I was violating petty rules so I told them that I consider this retaliation which is not legal. I then get a letter from to cease and desist talking to anyone including board members or I will be sued. I wasn't sure if I should get an attorney but I did turn it over to the investigator who is looking to add retaliation to my complaint. I also found out there attorney is appointed to the local fair housing board. Should I report him to the bar for even taking on the case or just wait and see what happens and bring it up if they don't do anything. | c15b4e85a4ae2b26073b16519f096fa3d115054dc60d70c9d347147047caaff3 | [
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[Minnesota] Sent cease-and-desist by luxury brand but items are genuine vintage I work in a vintage store, and we were sent this by mail: > Dear NAME OF STORE, > You are to cease and desist selling Fiorucci crop tops or further action will be taken. > Please contact TELEPHONE NUMBER > Signed, > NAME We get donations from members of the public of items of clothing for sale, these are the real deal so why would we be sent this? NEED ADVICE! | 10cef5435512c00f7c2b485c6888949ac40b99a0f46a51f2e11da67c4811efd3 | [
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What legal rights do I have as a tenant to prevent my roommate from using the oven as a space heater? Background: I live in a single-family residence in Michigan that is being rented out to myself and 4 other tenants. The heat in my house where I live is broken. My landlord has intends to fix it, but in the mean time one of my roommates/housemates has decided to use the oven as a space heater. She does this by turning the oven to 500° and leaves the oven door wide open. This is pretty dangerous, and it fills the house with toxic carbon monoxide. I am getting headaches, a symptom of CO poisoning. I have asked her to stop, and I have asked my landlord to tell her to stop. She has refused and continues to use the oven as a space heater, even though 90% of the day she stays in her room. Obviously my landlord needs to get this fixed asap. But what are my options in the meantime, and if this becomes a long term thing? | 4a8ebcef33815f98a10530978668e03a3107e338cd8f2163afa77c7b8dc18e0b | [
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[Maryland] HOA fined my family for registering with a city pool instead of the community pool. I’m making this post largely for my parents sake, seeing as this sub really helped us out a few months back and they aren’t the most tech-savvy Our community has a pool that is privately owned by the HOA and is closed off to those outside the community. Since moving to the neighborhood two and a half years ago, my family has always re-registered with one of the city pools that we have gone to for over a decade and we have never registered with our community pool. Somehow, the HOA found out about this and served my parents with a 1,000 dollar fine for signing up with the city pool instead of the community pool. The letter and email state: “the bylaws which you (home owner) agreed to state that you are expected to participate with community amenities over external amenities.” Bear in mind these facts - My parents have never signed any form of contract with the HOA other than the initial contract when we assumed ownership of the house. - Our family has never registered with the community pool over the three summers we have lived here, so there is no contract or “pool bond” which requires a yearly payment. - Upon a close read the HOA bylaws (within the contract my parents signed upon assuming ownership) say nothing about the community pool being a mandatory membership and it also does not say anything about not being permitted to have a membership to an outside pool. What is the best course of action? PS, not sure what flare to use here. | e95e63f054c13a7bb0b5d18b3406e1a4fcb2ad1849bc68a941e5681e09c93b10 | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my mom is going to try to kill my grandmother and make it look like suicide. For some background, I live in WA and my mother and grandmother live together in NJ. My grandmother is 82, diabetic, mostly blind, has anxiety and needs help with some daily tasks (shopping, hygiene, etc.), but otherwise is doing fairly well considering. She had surgery about a week and a half ago to have a toe amputated, which is when this whole fiasco started. My mother is mentally ill and refuses to seek treatment for it, and has a long history of abusing other people and/or overlooking abuse of others for her own gain. That is to say that her killing her own mother definitely would be something in the realm of possibilities for her. She also has about 15 years experience in the medical field (EMS), so she knows a thing or two. Since my grandmother's surgery, my mother has been really playing up the fact that my grandmother is depressed. She's always been the alarmist type, so I just brushed it off, but the way she spoke about her was as though she was insisting she thought my grandmother was going to pass soon. At some point during this time, my aunt tried to call my grandmother to see how her recovery was going, but my mom answered (GM was napping), went off of my aunt, and to my understanding lied and said that my grandmother couldn't talk because something had happened during surgery and now she needs a speech therapist. I spoke my my grandmother on Sunday and there is no difference in her speech, so clearly the speech therapist was BS. My grandmother also expressed that she feels great, that her leg gets sore occasionally but they put a salve on it and the soreness goes away, and otherwise she's healing and recovering well, isn't on any pain medication or antibiotics, and her foot looks good. I know that she's my grandmother and doesn't like for me to worry, but all of this does align with my mother's updates, except that my mother keeps insisting upon the depression. Today my mom messaged me again insisting that my grandmother is depressed, she's having a hard time recovering, etc. and telling me that she spoke with a social worker who is helping her take the necessary steps to become her paid caretaker. She also stated that she's seeking POA for my grandmother's medical care and "affairs", that they're putting together a living will, a will, and making funeral arrangements for my grandmother's cremation. She says that my grandmother insists we use the cheapest funeral home we can find (I believe this is true) and that she wants us to use her life insurance to pay the cremation costs, and split the remainder between my mother, myself and one of my brothers (I suspect this is a lie). The problem is, my brother and I are the only beneficiaries on my grandmother's life insurance, which is where the POA comes in. I knew my mom was going to try to weasel her way into the life insurance somehow, and now I know how she's going to do it. Several hours after this conversation it dawned on me - I believe she's planning to save up money for a while and kill my grandmother, making it look like a suicide, and have everything left to her. I plan on talking to my uncle and explaining my suspicions to him, as well as trying to get in touch with the social worker, but I was wondering what other steps I can take to try to prevent this from happening. Can I request that a social worker check in on my grandmother and speak to her privately on a regular basis? Can I demand an autopsy upon her death under suspicion of foul play, even if it goes against my grandmother's final wishes? Is there a way that I can get the police involved to stop the cremation from happening before I'm able to get an autopsy performed? What steps could my uncle take to prevent my mother from gaining POA and putting herself on my grandmother's life insurance? Any and all advice is welcome, as I truly don't know what to do in this situation. Just a note: A caregiver other than my mom is out of the question - there's no way my mother would allow it, and my grandmother would vouch for my mother because my mother is the only person she's comfortable with taking care of her due to her anxiety. | c8104f27499092c25f6e9d7c01067adb6728581dbe0c26052f46c684909c2ddd | [
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I think my brother is going to kill someone. Please help me. Washington State. My older brother is a very serious threat to society and himself and I am afraid. I understand that the text below is extensive, but if you have any knowledge on what to do in cases in which someone is suspected of being violently capable, I ask that you read this and give me your insights. I don’t know what to do. Please help me. My older brother has had social problems his entire life, he had a very difficult time making friends as a child. He was frequently bullied or a bully to others. He also treated me very poorly during my entire childhood, was physically abusive (more than is normal for siblings), and just generally an asshole to everyone around him. Not empathizing, saying hurtful or inappropriate things, and had intense and frequent angry outbursts. He experienced behavioral problemas, went to jail a few times for shoplifting. Got kicked out of university for selling pot from his dorm room. Was kicked out of almost every school for bullying or being disrespectful to teachers. When he was at university, the stress of not having friends/feeling social isolation grew to be too much for him. He called my dad and told him that he had bought a gun and was going to kill himself in his dorm room, while my dad pleaded with him to wait just a few hours so that he could drive out there and talk reasonably with him. My dad ended up calling the police and told them my brother was suicidal and the police showed up on his door and took him to a psych ward for 3 days where he had evaluations and was eventually released with meds prescribed. My brother took the meds for a few months and then decided he didn’t want to anymore, and stopped. As an adult, he was able to find a little niche for himself. He was never successful as an employee, always getting fired, and ended up forming his own successful little electronics business. He buys DVDs and video games from retail stores on sale and sells them for profit on Amazon out of my parents’ basement. He makes a fair share of money from this little endeavor, enough to buy himself a house and live independently. Seeing as he treated me so poorly as a child, as an adult (I am 26, he is now 29), I blocked him out and cut all ties. My life is healthier that way. Up until recently, I had only had a handful of conversations with my brother in the past 5 years. I have a very, very close relationship with my father, who is an exceptional human and parent and has always tried to do the best for my brother - everything EXCEPT pursue therapy or psychological evaluations for him even though my brother has something clearly very different around him. This summer, my dad confided in me that some of the few friends that my brother had made had “ghosted” him, they all suddenly stopped talking to him and didn’t invite my brother to their annual beach house trip. This social rejection - after having experienced so much social rejection in his life - pushed my brother over the edge. He became seriously depressed, didn’t leave his home for many weeks. Screamed at my dad about how he was going to kill himself, or maybe kill the people who rejected him, or maybe kill everyone. After all, he said, he has been treated horribly his whole life. Other people should know how it feels to suffer. Once my dad shared this recent episode with me, I tried to involve myself in my brother’s life. I live in another country, so I started Facebook messaging him regularly, asking him about his day, his activities, whatever, just trying to get him to talk to me and help process whatever it is he is dealing with. He spoke to me as well about his anger, how he has been socially rejected, how other people should suffer because he has suffered, how he has thought about hurting people, how he wants to kill himself. We have had a few such conversations over phone (he does not put anything actually incriminating in text) and he cries, wails and acts very distressed. I spoke with my dad about these threats, and we came to the conclusion that my brother is most likely just looking for attention, that he likes the emotional support he gets from my dad and I when he makes these awful threats. Bilaterally, I spoke seriously with my dad about my brother’s mental health, and motivated my father to get my brother tested for autism, which he was diagnosed with (as high functioning). It has been a few months since the diagnosis, but my brother has not agreed to see any therapist. OK - This is where I start getting VERY SCARED: This summer, I visited Seattle, where I am from and where my father and brother both live. My dad asked my brother to pick me up from the airport. I had not seen my brother for almost two years and when I saw him, I was alarmed. He had gained weight, was entirely ungroomed, dressed sloppily, really he had the image of someone who had totally given up. When I got into the car, my brother was TENSE, I asked him if everything was Ok, he said that he was just stressed from all the traffic. He then became frustrated by the fact that the person in front of us in the arrivals pick up was not moving fast enough. My brother honked violently at him and then in a flash, got out of the car, rushed to the man and started pushing him VIOLENTLY, screaming swear words at him and at his wife. It looked like he was about to beat this guy to a pulp. The guy did not respond with violence and was trying to back away. I ran out of the car and put myself between them. Cops came and pulled my brother away as he continued screaming and lunging toward the man. My brother is a big dude. Someone of his size coming toward you like that… I cannot imagine how scary. It all happened in a rush, the police starting asking me what happened, who I was, my relation, etc. Eventually they took down my brother’s name and let him go. I was sobbing, it was actually terrifying. I really think that if I hadn’t put myself between my scary scary brother and this unassuming stranger, my brother would have tried to assault him further. Maybe kill him. I don’t know. Looking back, I regret greatly not having disclosed to the police that my brother has been romanticizing violence to me. I regret that I did not pressure them to take him to jail and have the incident written on his public record. At the time, I was so shaken up and terrified that I was at a total loss as of what to do. I spent the whole car ride crying on the way home. My brother was fuming. His side of the story is that the kind, unassuming man at the airpot had given my brother the middle finger and that is what upset him (not true. That did not happen). And THEN my brother told me that he had had a similar incident a few months prior. My brother states that a man had sworn at him in a parking lot, and that my brother followed him to his car and pushed and shoved him violently and then drove away. The police showed up to my brothers house, but my brother just said that he acted out of self defense and, again, there was nothing officially filed or put on his record. He then repeated what he always says, “Why should I care about other people if I have been treated like shit my entire life?” And talked again about his desire to hurt people, make people feel the way he has felt. I am, of course, overwhelmed by these events. I truly believe that my brother is a harm to the public. I do not know if he would plan a mass violent attack, but rather I think that its very likely that he could beat someone to death for something as small as being cut in line or looked at the wrong way. He has very serious anger issues, is inclined to depression, and has paranoia. He thinks that many people are pathological liars and constantly wails about how people with “obvious personality flaws” can make friends easily while he has never had a real friend. He attends MeetUp groups every week and tries to make friends. He is able to mask his emotional instability for events such as those, but still makes inappropriate comments and is unable to make people “like” him, which is what he says causes him to act out. I have been personally traumatized by the preceding events. I haven’t been sleeping well. Every time my phone rings, I think it will be my dad calling to tell me that my brother has committed some terrible act. My question for you all - WHAT DO I DO?? My inclination is to go to the police, somehow, and tell them everything that has happened so that at least he will have this information on his record if he were to be stopped by the police again. Does anyone know what my legal options are? What the implications would be if I were to go to the police? Again, I don’t have of his threats written or recorded. I would be willing to testify under oath, but I live outside of the country (in Mexico) and do not go back to my home state (Washington) very often. Is there any way that I can get him intensely and accurately evaluated by a psychiatrist? He refuses to take medication and as he is very clearly mentally deranged, I think it would be one of the few things that might be able to help him. Is there a way I can make it illegal for him to buy a firearm? Or really any legal advice or regular advice will do. Again, I am very worried about what he might do. If there is another subreddit where I can ask for help, let me know. Please help me. | 2d9bd8c89e02d7d253f45932d245187363bacbf5caa65a4134b61da468194eca | [
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I think my brother is going to kill someone. Please help me. Washington State. My older brother is a very serious threat to society and himself and I am afraid. I understand that the text below is extensive, but if you have any knowledge on what to do in cases in which someone is suspected of being violently capable, I ask that you read this and give me your insights. I don’t know what to do. Please help me. My older brother has had social problems his entire life, he had a very difficult time making friends as a child. He was frequently bullied or a bully to others. He also treated me very poorly during my entire childhood, was physically abusive (more than is normal for siblings), and just generally an asshole to everyone around him. Not empathizing, saying hurtful or inappropriate things, and had intense and frequent angry outbursts. He experienced behavioral problemas, went to jail a few times for shoplifting. Got kicked out of university for selling pot from his dorm room. Was kicked out of almost every school for bullying or being disrespectful to teachers. When he was at university, the stress of not having friends/feeling social isolation grew to be too much for him. He called my dad and told him that he had bought a gun and was going to kill himself in his dorm room, while my dad pleaded with him to wait just a few hours so that he could drive out there and talk reasonably with him. My dad ended up calling the police and told them my brother was suicidal and the police showed up on his door and took him to a psych ward for 3 days where he had evaluations and was eventually released with meds prescribed. My brother took the meds for a few months and then decided he didn’t want to anymore, and stopped. As an adult, he was able to find a little niche for himself. He was never successful as an employee, always getting fired, and ended up forming his own successful little electronics business. He buys DVDs and video games from retail stores on sale and sells them for profit on Amazon out of my parents’ basement. He makes a fair share of money from this little endeavor, enough to buy himself a house and live independently. Seeing as he treated me so poorly as a child, as an adult (I am 26, he is now 29), I blocked him out and cut all ties. My life is healthier that way. Up until recently, I had only had a handful of conversations with my brother in the past 5 years. I have a very, very close relationship with my father, who is an exceptional human and parent and has always tried to do the best for my brother - everything EXCEPT pursue therapy or psychological evaluations for him even though my brother has something clearly very different around him. This summer, my dad confided in me that some of the few friends that my brother had made had “ghosted” him, they all suddenly stopped talking to him and didn’t invite my brother to their annual beach house trip. This social rejection - after having experienced so much social rejection in his life - pushed my brother over the edge. He became seriously depressed, didn’t leave his home for many weeks. Screamed at my dad about how he was going to kill himself, or maybe kill the people who rejected him, or maybe kill everyone. After all, he said, he has been treated horribly his whole life. Other people should know how it feels to suffer. Once my dad shared this recent episode with me, I tried to involve myself in my brother’s life. I live in another country, so I started Facebook messaging him regularly, asking him about his day, his activities, whatever, just trying to get him to talk to me and help process whatever it is he is dealing with. He spoke to me as well about his anger, how he has been socially rejected, how other people should suffer because he has suffered, how he has thought about hurting people, how he wants to kill himself. We have had a few such conversations over phone (he does not put anything actually incriminating in text) and he cries, wails and acts very distressed. I spoke with my dad about these threats, and we came to the conclusion that my brother is most likely just looking for attention, that he likes the emotional support he gets from my dad and I when he makes these awful threats. Bilaterally, I spoke seriously with my dad about my brother’s mental health, and motivated my father to get my brother tested for autism, which he was diagnosed with (as high functioning). It has been a few months since the diagnosis, but my brother has not agreed to see any therapist. OK - This is where I start getting VERY SCARED: This summer, I visited Seattle, where I am from and where my father and brother both live. My dad asked my brother to pick me up from the airport. I had not seen my brother for almost two years and when I saw him, I was alarmed. He had gained weight, was entirely ungroomed, dressed sloppily, really he had the image of someone who had totally given up. When I got into the car, my brother was TENSE, I asked him if everything was Ok, he said that he was just stressed from all the traffic. He then became frustrated by the fact that the person in front of us in the arrivals pick up was not moving fast enough. My brother honked violently at him and then in a flash, got out of the car, rushed to the man and started pushing him VIOLENTLY, screaming swear words at him and at his wife. It looked like he was about to beat this guy to a pulp. The guy did not respond with violence and was trying to back away. I ran out of the car and put myself between them. Cops came and pulled my brother away as he continued screaming and lunging toward the man. My brother is a big dude. Someone of his size coming toward you like that… I cannot imagine how scary. It all happened in a rush, the police starting asking me what happened, who I was, my relation, etc. Eventually they took down my brother’s name and let him go. I was sobbing, it was actually terrifying. I really think that if I hadn’t put myself between my scary scary brother and this unassuming stranger, my brother would have tried to assault him further. Maybe kill him. I don’t know. Looking back, I regret greatly not having disclosed to the police that my brother has been romanticizing violence to me. I regret that I did not pressure them to take him to jail and have the incident written on his public record. At the time, I was so shaken up and terrified that I was at a total loss as of what to do. I spent the whole car ride crying on the way home. My brother was fuming. His side of the story is that the kind, unassuming man at the airpot had given my brother the middle finger and that is what upset him (not true. That did not happen). And THEN my brother told me that he had had a similar incident a few months prior. My brother states that a man had sworn at him in a parking lot, and that my brother followed him to his car and pushed and shoved him violently and then drove away. The police showed up to my brothers house, but my brother just said that he acted out of self defense and, again, there was nothing officially filed or put on his record. He then repeated what he always says, “Why should I care about other people if I have been treated like shit my entire life?” And talked again about his desire to hurt people, make people feel the way he has felt. I am, of course, overwhelmed by these events. I truly believe that my brother is a harm to the public. I do not know if he would plan a mass violent attack, but rather I think that its very likely that he could beat someone to death for something as small as being cut in line or looked at the wrong way. He has very serious anger issues, is inclined to depression, and has paranoia. He thinks that many people are pathological liars and constantly wails about how people with “obvious personality flaws” can make friends easily while he has never had a real friend. He attends MeetUp groups every week and tries to make friends. He is able to mask his emotional instability for events such as those, but still makes inappropriate comments and is unable to make people “like” him, which is what he says causes him to act out. I have been personally traumatized by the preceding events. I haven’t been sleeping well. Every time my phone rings, I think it will be my dad calling to tell me that my brother has committed some terrible act. My question for you all - WHAT DO I DO?? My inclination is to go to the police, somehow, and tell them everything that has happened so that at least he will have this information on his record if he were to be stopped by the police again. Does anyone know what my legal options are? What the implications would be if I were to go to the police? Again, I don’t have of his threats written or recorded. I would be willing to testify under oath, but I live outside of the country (in Mexico) and do not go back to my home state (Washington) very often. Is there any way that I can get him intensely and accurately evaluated by a psychiatrist? He refuses to take medication and as he is very clearly mentally deranged, I think it would be one of the few things that might be able to help him. Is there a way I can make it illegal for him to buy a firearm? Or really any legal advice or regular advice will do. Again, I am very worried about what he might do. If there is another subreddit where I can ask for help, let me know. Please help me. | 2d9bd8c89e02d7d253f45932d245187363bacbf5caa65a4134b61da468194eca | [
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Can my mom decide which college I go to? I (16) am a junior in high school, and will graduate high school at 17. My mom (56) wants me to go to a community college nearby so I can stay at home. I want to go to a college far away. That was always our plan up until a few years ago. I don’t want to stay at home because it would impact my mental health in a big way. However my mom wants to try to force me to go to the community college. Do I have a choice? My mom wants me to stay home so she can watch over me and so I can take care of my disabled dad, like I’ve always done. I want to go to a far college because I am tired of taking care of him and I don’t want to feel trapped and controlled under my moms watch. Whenever the subject comes up, she always goes “You’re going to [community college] and that’s final.” And I never feel heard. | d3ac675f314bb8e1c72b675fe8201d135719e0377b846c1605a996ace172c117 | [
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Can my mom decide which college I go to? I (16) am a junior in high school, and will graduate high school at 17. My mom (56) wants me to go to a community college nearby so I can stay at home. I want to go to a college far away. That was always our plan up until a few years ago. I don’t want to stay at home because it would impact my mental health in a big way. However my mom wants to try to force me to go to the community college. Do I have a choice? My mom wants me to stay home so she can watch over me and so I can take care of my disabled dad, like I’ve always done. I want to go to a far college because I am tired of taking care of him and I don’t want to feel trapped and controlled under my moms watch. Whenever the subject comes up, she always goes “You’re going to [community college] and that’s final.” And I never feel heard. | d3ac675f314bb8e1c72b675fe8201d135719e0377b846c1605a996ace172c117 | [
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Can my mom decide which college I go to? I (16) am a junior in high school, and will graduate high school at 17. My mom (56) wants me to go to a community college nearby so I can stay at home. I want to go to a college far away. That was always our plan up until a few years ago. I don’t want to stay at home because it would impact my mental health in a big way. However my mom wants to try to force me to go to the community college. Do I have a choice? My mom wants me to stay home so she can watch over me and so I can take care of my disabled dad, like I’ve always done. I want to go to a far college because I am tired of taking care of him and I don’t want to feel trapped and controlled under my moms watch. Whenever the subject comes up, she always goes “You’re going to [community college] and that’s final.” And I never feel heard. | d3ac675f314bb8e1c72b675fe8201d135719e0377b846c1605a996ace172c117 | [
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Can my mom decide which college I go to? I (16) am a junior in high school, and will graduate high school at 17. My mom (56) wants me to go to a community college nearby so I can stay at home. I want to go to a college far away. That was always our plan up until a few years ago. I don’t want to stay at home because it would impact my mental health in a big way. However my mom wants to try to force me to go to the community college. Do I have a choice? My mom wants me to stay home so she can watch over me and so I can take care of my disabled dad, like I’ve always done. I want to go to a far college because I am tired of taking care of him and I don’t want to feel trapped and controlled under my moms watch. Whenever the subject comes up, she always goes “You’re going to [community college] and that’s final.” And I never feel heard. | d3ac675f314bb8e1c72b675fe8201d135719e0377b846c1605a996ace172c117 | [
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IA Derecho - neighbor's trees were not over my property before the storm, but they cut them down so that they fell on my property and are now saying it is my problem. My city in IA was hit with a "land hurricane" called a derecho and we are dealing with the aftermath. On my neighbor's side of the property line he had 4 large trees that were very tall but not very wide (branches go pretty much straight up) - a couple branches maybe extended a foot or two over the property line, but we're talking about the very tips of branches, mostly leaves. Because of the wind direction during the storm, all of the branches that broke off the tree landed on my neighbor's property rather than my own. However, they lost so many branches that he had the entire trees all cut down. They cut them down aiming them toward MY property instead. The neighbor is saying that they had to cut them down that way or they would fall on his fence. He's also insisting that because they had to be cut down due to storm damage, this is all an "act of god" and now that they have fallen on my property, they are my problem to deal with. But again, the trees did NOT fall in the storm - he had them intentionally cut down after the fact and aimed them over to my side of the property line. What are my rights on this? Can I do anything to compel my neighbor to deal with this himself? If I DO have to pay a company to deal with it, can I sue my neighbor for the cost? | 3b68daee8dc731d25ae90d67656703913a2b6c2da84d598ee289df1792594d9e | [
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My location is the state of California, United States of America. I may be charged with something called evidence tampering I've never been charged with anything before and I admit I'm worried. On my street there was a collision. I wasn't home at the time but a driver hit several parked cars and other property and then left on foot. I found out when I got back. The police were gone but I called them because I have a camera as I live on the ground floor. The police officer I spoke to let me know how I could send my footage to the department. The next day an officer came to my door. The officer said they were canvassing for witnesses after what happened with the collision. I told him I spoke with his colleague and had sent in my footage. He asked me to send it to his mobile as well. That officer tricked me. He was a police officer, he was wearing a uniform so I had no reason not to believe him. He was from a different police department than where I live. He's related to the driver who caused the damage on my street. I let the police officer I spoke with on the phone know about this. I had no idea but now the driver and his father have said they'll press charges against me for something they called evidence tampering. I looked it up and it is a real thing. They say I mishandled and comprised the evidence in his case and I'll be charged accordingly. I'm not even sure where to begin. My location is the state of California in the United States of America. I'm not a citizen but I'm here legally on a student visa. I'm most afraid of my visa being affected. Do I have any recourse? I honestly didn't realize the officer at my door was not from here. | f5ea638d6d3cd6050b8f9af036720e1c2749a9d83f75968a889b4576d5c1235c | [
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OH- New neighbor walking dogs into our yard to poop and leaving it. Cussing and yelling at us and our children when kindly confronted. Warning, long post. We bought a new home in early May and officially moved in on June 13, three weeks ago. We are on a dead end and have one neighbor. She has 4 small dogs that she walks on leashes in the front every hour or so. The dogs continually poop in our yard and she does not pick it up. Because of the length of the leashes we were always positive that she was physically walking them onto our yard, letting them poop, and then leaving it. We eventually saw her do this. This past Wednesday I asked her nicely to not let her dogs poop in our yard. She immediately got defensive, eventually calling me a bitch and telling me to prove it then said “fuck you” and walked into her house. On Thursday I called the city (Dayton) and they said they couldn’t do anything and connected me to the non emergency police line. Two cops came out and talked to her. I set up an old phone with the AtHome app and put it in my window recording only my yard on this day as well. She stopped doing it for a bit. On Friday my miniature dachshund got out (thanks to kids) and peed in her yard. She came over while I was nursing my baby down and banged on the door and windows (!!!) until I came out. She terrified my 6 year old. She told me I would regret starting shit in her neighborhood and that I was a dumb bitch and how dare I call the cops, on and on. I ran in to grab my phone to record it and she went inside. Yesterday my dog was outside on his lead, in the backyard, and she came out with her dogs. They obviously barked at each other (at a distance as my dog was on his lead in the back). So she did the sane thing and told my 6 year old son to “get his fucking dog inside.” My husband kindly, without cursing or insulting, told her not to talk to our children that way. We recorded this exchange. She went on the same way talking about his “bitch hoe wife” and subtly threatening us while we killed her with kindness. This morning the app recorded her walking her dogs into the corner of my yard. Of course she is then out of view. I went out there and there is a fresh pile of shit in my yard. This woman is unhinged. She never leaves or has visitors. She has been wearing the same outfit since we moved in. She’s hostile and dirty and mean as hell. My husband is gone at work every day and I’m home alone with two small children. I’m afraid to go outside and to let my kids outside. What can I do? | f3afabd5115e6ed998735d330656faab132d06c3607f8e80f5e29aafeeb08101 | [
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OH- New neighbor walking dogs into our yard to poop and leaving it. Cussing and yelling at us and our children when kindly confronted. Warning, long post. We bought a new home in early May and officially moved in on June 13, three weeks ago. We are on a dead end and have one neighbor. She has 4 small dogs that she walks on leashes in the front every hour or so. The dogs continually poop in our yard and she does not pick it up. Because of the length of the leashes we were always positive that she was physically walking them onto our yard, letting them poop, and then leaving it. We eventually saw her do this. This past Wednesday I asked her nicely to not let her dogs poop in our yard. She immediately got defensive, eventually calling me a bitch and telling me to prove it then said “fuck you” and walked into her house. On Thursday I called the city (Dayton) and they said they couldn’t do anything and connected me to the non emergency police line. Two cops came out and talked to her. I set up an old phone with the AtHome app and put it in my window recording only my yard on this day as well. She stopped doing it for a bit. On Friday my miniature dachshund got out (thanks to kids) and peed in her yard. She came over while I was nursing my baby down and banged on the door and windows (!!!) until I came out. She terrified my 6 year old. She told me I would regret starting shit in her neighborhood and that I was a dumb bitch and how dare I call the cops, on and on. I ran in to grab my phone to record it and she went inside. Yesterday my dog was outside on his lead, in the backyard, and she came out with her dogs. They obviously barked at each other (at a distance as my dog was on his lead in the back). So she did the sane thing and told my 6 year old son to “get his fucking dog inside.” My husband kindly, without cursing or insulting, told her not to talk to our children that way. We recorded this exchange. She went on the same way talking about his “bitch hoe wife” and subtly threatening us while we killed her with kindness. This morning the app recorded her walking her dogs into the corner of my yard. Of course she is then out of view. I went out there and there is a fresh pile of shit in my yard. This woman is unhinged. She never leaves or has visitors. She has been wearing the same outfit since we moved in. She’s hostile and dirty and mean as hell. My husband is gone at work every day and I’m home alone with two small children. I’m afraid to go outside and to let my kids outside. What can I do? | f3afabd5115e6ed998735d330656faab132d06c3607f8e80f5e29aafeeb08101 | [
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OH- New neighbor walking dogs into our yard to poop and leaving it. Cussing and yelling at us and our children when kindly confronted. Warning, long post. We bought a new home in early May and officially moved in on June 13, three weeks ago. We are on a dead end and have one neighbor. She has 4 small dogs that she walks on leashes in the front every hour or so. The dogs continually poop in our yard and she does not pick it up. Because of the length of the leashes we were always positive that she was physically walking them onto our yard, letting them poop, and then leaving it. We eventually saw her do this. This past Wednesday I asked her nicely to not let her dogs poop in our yard. She immediately got defensive, eventually calling me a bitch and telling me to prove it then said “fuck you” and walked into her house. On Thursday I called the city (Dayton) and they said they couldn’t do anything and connected me to the non emergency police line. Two cops came out and talked to her. I set up an old phone with the AtHome app and put it in my window recording only my yard on this day as well. She stopped doing it for a bit. On Friday my miniature dachshund got out (thanks to kids) and peed in her yard. She came over while I was nursing my baby down and banged on the door and windows (!!!) until I came out. She terrified my 6 year old. She told me I would regret starting shit in her neighborhood and that I was a dumb bitch and how dare I call the cops, on and on. I ran in to grab my phone to record it and she went inside. Yesterday my dog was outside on his lead, in the backyard, and she came out with her dogs. They obviously barked at each other (at a distance as my dog was on his lead in the back). So she did the sane thing and told my 6 year old son to “get his fucking dog inside.” My husband kindly, without cursing or insulting, told her not to talk to our children that way. We recorded this exchange. She went on the same way talking about his “bitch hoe wife” and subtly threatening us while we killed her with kindness. This morning the app recorded her walking her dogs into the corner of my yard. Of course she is then out of view. I went out there and there is a fresh pile of shit in my yard. This woman is unhinged. She never leaves or has visitors. She has been wearing the same outfit since we moved in. She’s hostile and dirty and mean as hell. My husband is gone at work every day and I’m home alone with two small children. I’m afraid to go outside and to let my kids outside. What can I do? | f3afabd5115e6ed998735d330656faab132d06c3607f8e80f5e29aafeeb08101 | [
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OH- New neighbor walking dogs into our yard to poop and leaving it. Cussing and yelling at us and our children when kindly confronted. Warning, long post. We bought a new home in early May and officially moved in on June 13, three weeks ago. We are on a dead end and have one neighbor. She has 4 small dogs that she walks on leashes in the front every hour or so. The dogs continually poop in our yard and she does not pick it up. Because of the length of the leashes we were always positive that she was physically walking them onto our yard, letting them poop, and then leaving it. We eventually saw her do this. This past Wednesday I asked her nicely to not let her dogs poop in our yard. She immediately got defensive, eventually calling me a bitch and telling me to prove it then said “fuck you” and walked into her house. On Thursday I called the city (Dayton) and they said they couldn’t do anything and connected me to the non emergency police line. Two cops came out and talked to her. I set up an old phone with the AtHome app and put it in my window recording only my yard on this day as well. She stopped doing it for a bit. On Friday my miniature dachshund got out (thanks to kids) and peed in her yard. She came over while I was nursing my baby down and banged on the door and windows (!!!) until I came out. She terrified my 6 year old. She told me I would regret starting shit in her neighborhood and that I was a dumb bitch and how dare I call the cops, on and on. I ran in to grab my phone to record it and she went inside. Yesterday my dog was outside on his lead, in the backyard, and she came out with her dogs. They obviously barked at each other (at a distance as my dog was on his lead in the back). So she did the sane thing and told my 6 year old son to “get his fucking dog inside.” My husband kindly, without cursing or insulting, told her not to talk to our children that way. We recorded this exchange. She went on the same way talking about his “bitch hoe wife” and subtly threatening us while we killed her with kindness. This morning the app recorded her walking her dogs into the corner of my yard. Of course she is then out of view. I went out there and there is a fresh pile of shit in my yard. This woman is unhinged. She never leaves or has visitors. She has been wearing the same outfit since we moved in. She’s hostile and dirty and mean as hell. My husband is gone at work every day and I’m home alone with two small children. I’m afraid to go outside and to let my kids outside. What can I do? | f3afabd5115e6ed998735d330656faab132d06c3607f8e80f5e29aafeeb08101 | [
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OH- New neighbor walking dogs into our yard to poop and leaving it. Cussing and yelling at us and our children when kindly confronted. Warning, long post. We bought a new home in early May and officially moved in on June 13, three weeks ago. We are on a dead end and have one neighbor. She has 4 small dogs that she walks on leashes in the front every hour or so. The dogs continually poop in our yard and she does not pick it up. Because of the length of the leashes we were always positive that she was physically walking them onto our yard, letting them poop, and then leaving it. We eventually saw her do this. This past Wednesday I asked her nicely to not let her dogs poop in our yard. She immediately got defensive, eventually calling me a bitch and telling me to prove it then said “fuck you” and walked into her house. On Thursday I called the city (Dayton) and they said they couldn’t do anything and connected me to the non emergency police line. Two cops came out and talked to her. I set up an old phone with the AtHome app and put it in my window recording only my yard on this day as well. She stopped doing it for a bit. On Friday my miniature dachshund got out (thanks to kids) and peed in her yard. She came over while I was nursing my baby down and banged on the door and windows (!!!) until I came out. She terrified my 6 year old. She told me I would regret starting shit in her neighborhood and that I was a dumb bitch and how dare I call the cops, on and on. I ran in to grab my phone to record it and she went inside. Yesterday my dog was outside on his lead, in the backyard, and she came out with her dogs. They obviously barked at each other (at a distance as my dog was on his lead in the back). So she did the sane thing and told my 6 year old son to “get his fucking dog inside.” My husband kindly, without cursing or insulting, told her not to talk to our children that way. We recorded this exchange. She went on the same way talking about his “bitch hoe wife” and subtly threatening us while we killed her with kindness. This morning the app recorded her walking her dogs into the corner of my yard. Of course she is then out of view. I went out there and there is a fresh pile of shit in my yard. This woman is unhinged. She never leaves or has visitors. She has been wearing the same outfit since we moved in. She’s hostile and dirty and mean as hell. My husband is gone at work every day and I’m home alone with two small children. I’m afraid to go outside and to let my kids outside. What can I do? | f3afabd5115e6ed998735d330656faab132d06c3607f8e80f5e29aafeeb08101 | [
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Upstairs neighbor’s dog is being let out on balcony to pee/poop and it’s dripping down to my patio. [San Antonio, TX] Hello, I have seen a number of posts pertaining to my title above, but none for my state that were helpful or recent. I am in San Antonio, TX, for reference. I was sitting on my patio two days ago and I heard a loud splash, followed by a pungent smell. I looked up to see my neighbor’s squatting dog through our wood-slat flooring. I had my suspicions that my neighbor had been doing this for some time, as a month or so prior I decided to wash my outdoor chair cushions and noticed them stained and reeking of such a foul odor. I didn’t think much of it and assumed it was dirty plant water that just was sitting there for so long it caused the stench, but I knew it smelled like urine. Since the evening incident the other day, this has happened about 3 more times since. I reached out to our apartment management via email with photos and videos, who simply just replied, “acknowledged and brought to management’s attention.” I have made sure to email them with each incident so far, but haven’t received any follow up responses, which is aggravating, but I understand this will probably be a process. Other posts have stated to inform Animal Control and the Health Dept, or to try to go above the leasing office if they are unresponsive. I’ve informed the office via email for one of the incidents that I may need to consider reaching out to animal control as this definitely seems like a case of neglect. I am at home often because I work from home and I never see our neighbors walk their dog. They seem to just throw it out on the patio and leave it there. I also mentioned I may have to pursue legal action if no action is taken as this has caused property damage to our expensive patio furniture. This has to be a clear violation of the lease, as our animal addendum portion of the lease explicitly states that pets cannot be left on the patio, and there is an entire section for animal waste stating that they are not allowed to relieve themselves on the property and must be taken off property. Any urination/defection on property is prohibited unless they’re basically using a litter box. But this also feels like it’s creating an unsanitary condition to live in, plus I can’t even use a portion of my apartment that we pay a lot of money for. I honestly just want my patio cleaned/pressure washed and for the dog to stop. I can deal with cleaning the chairs/cushions but it’s just downright disgusting. Our floors look nasty and there’s pee splatter all over our windows. I have so far seen a number of helpful responses on similar posts for different states, but what exactly should I be doing here and who should I be reaching out to for my specific area? I do not have any sort of legal experience whatsoever nor do I really have the money for an attorney. I’m also slightly afraid of any sort of retaliation from our office just because I keep sending emails of this matter voicing my frustration, but I’m trying to keep a paper trail/evidence just in case. Thanks for any advice that anyone is able to provide. | f0253ca8dec7f13100e4c1bff4975436514600c875867d3b7f7319fdaa2b283a | [
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I work in a restaurant. Our AC is broken, and it's supposed to be over 100°F for the next three days, and corporate rate refuses to get us a new AC. We're supposed to be open all week. Is this legal? As the title says, it's gonna be over 100°F on Monday and Tuesday, and the AC at my job has been broken for months because corporate doesn't wanna spend the money to fix it. We have a heat advisory for the next three days, but are still gonna be open. Is this legal? If I were to, say, report this to OSHA, could they do something about it? Would corporate get in trouble, or just my managers? It's not my managers' faults at all, it's all cuz corporate won't let us get a new AC. I'm serving today, but I cook for the next two days. It's 85° in the dining room right now, I'm serving tables whilst I can feel sweat dripping down my face, in front of customers. It just feels really really wrong, and working is incredibly uncomfortable. Is there anything I can do about this? Sorry if this isn't the place for this, thanks. | f79896c565e55ad21f6438d14be1d6167bea458ae1e0047e87968dfb8806c250 | [
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Girlfriend wants to place baby for adoption. I am listed on the birth certificate, but found out I am not the biological father. Do I have any options (MD)? My girlfriend has a two month old son. I believed I was the father until a couple of days ago. My girlfriend always wanted to give him up for adoption, but I was against it. She agreed to raise the baby with me. After he was born, it became clear that he wasn't my biological child. We eventually got a DNA test that revealed that I wasn't the father. My girlfriend claims that she doesn't know who the father is. She still wants to give the baby up. I would prefer to raise the child even though he isn't mine. Is there anyway I could try to adopt him? My girlfriend started contacting adoption agencies and plans to meet with some lawyers soon. She told me to stay out of it. I was just wondering if you guys can give me some advice. I would hate to be in a situation where I never see the baby again. | d508ea6a69359eddf4013f8239b765bca4d89703498185c107c28870b3aeaabf | [
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New roommate has more or less moved her entire family into our apartment. Landlord kicks them out they come right back, police are called new roommate claims they are just visiting. Police aren't being helpful. Hi, my boyfriend recommended me to post this here as i wasn't able to get any help from the Landlord Tenant Board. I am in Ontario, Canada, and currently am on a year long lease. Me and two friends signed a lease for an apartment, back in September. In February one of our friends decided to drop out of University and overnight moved back home. We ended up being forced to find a random, we ended up finding someone who i will call CB to sign on to our lease. CB moved in at the end of March. CB's family has basically monopolized our apartment, she is renting a single room. Yet her family has been here almost every single day, taking over the entire apartment. A week after she moved in her teenage? brother also moved in with her family. Our landlord has ordered them to leave several times, sometimes they have left. Other times they say "they are visting". Police have been called multiple times, on one occasion they removed them when CB wasn't there. Other times CB keeps insisting they are just visiting, and most recently they told us that this is a domestic issue, and we need to get our landlord to deal with it. However even when they are removed they come back within a day, or less. I feel i have no privacy left in my apartment, i don't feel comfortable showering, when i have 3 other random people staring at me. On Saturday CB's father refused to let me boyfriend enter my apartment, and he lectured me about how it isn't "proper". Our landlord told us that our options are to evict her, but that can take months. He didn't seem to have any options, other than us to call the police if we feel unsafe, or they are staying when CB isn't around. Police say it is a domestic issue because they are "visiting". They have never done anything to hurt me, and have never entered my room (that i know of, but we both have decent locks with keys). But it is weird to me to have a whole family living in a small student apartment, when only a single person is supposed to be here. Long Version: When CB moved in her parents helped her move in on a Friday, and she asked if it was okay for them to stay the night, i was fine with it because neither me or my roommate were around that weekend. April 1st, we came back and discovered her parents were still there. * \[April 1st\] Told her family needs to leave, she became upset about this. But her parents did leave by end of April 1st. * \[April 4th\] Came back from work to find both her parents, along with her younger brother. Cooking. Whatever fine, i left for my boyfriends. * \[April 5th\] Came back to find her entire family still here. I told her, that her family needs to go and it isn't fair that her family is basically monopolizing the shared areas of the unit. She told me they were just visiting. By 9pm her family was basically making beds on my couch, i called landlord. * \[April 6th\] Landlord came and told them they needed to leave, CB kept insisting they were just visiting. Her family left. For \~2 hours, before they came back. I called landlord again, leading to a heated argument between CB/CB Dad/My landlord. CB family finally left. * \[April 8th\] Came home late to find her entire family in our living room, watching movies. To tired to deal with this so i went to bed. My roommate told CB that her family cant stay and needs to leave. They refused. * \[April 9th\] Get up find CB's parents/brother in our kitchen making breakfast with both me and my roommates food. I tell them they need to leave. They refuse, i call landlord, landlord calls police. CB shows up before police arrive, i explain situation to police. CB's family repeatedly says they are just visiting, police eventually say it is a civil issue, and i need to get my landlord to do something. * \[April 9th\] Eventually i give up and my landlord tells me he will deal with it. I come back later that night to find neither CB nor her family present. * \[April 10th\] Roommate finds CB's father and some random drinking in our living room in the middle of the afternoon. She calls police, police come both are removed from premises. CB spends the night screaming at us for hating family or something stupid. * \[April 11th\] CB's father is back i am guessing he snuck in during the middle of the night. Landlord tells us changing locks is pointless, and they will just make new keys. I grabbed everything valuable, and left and my roommate did the same thing. * \[April 13th\] I come back home to grab clothing, CB's father refuses to let my boyfriend into the apartment. I grab stuff and leave asap because i don't feel safe. I call my landlord, he says he will deal with it. * \[April 14th\] My roommate tells me that they are still here, i notify landlord and he doesn't respond to any of my messages. I have no idea what to do. Police say it is a domestic issue, CB says they are "just" visiting. Landlord keeps trying to do stuff but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. Frankly i cannot live in that apartment with an extra 3+ people. | 357568e22c76c5e3b2510f158f696af7580e2da6f457cd7929438720c1c327c5 | [
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Landlord Not Providing Heat - Will give money back but we have to move out I moved to LA (Lower Alabama) from Ohio. We signed a lease with a rental agency for a house to move in December 12th. We get in, and it's okay at first. You can tell they did the bare minimum to prepare for us. For example, the faucet was not attached and it leaked. We put in a maintenance request and they fixed it the next day. No problem. Well then on a cold morning, I realized the heat never kicked on. I asked if it even had heat. They had us get all the utilities set up, but there was no gas to the house, so we assumed it was central/electric. The lease agreements says they will provide heat in accordance with the law. Well it's not. It is a gas furnace. They sent someone out to look. Long story short, previous tenants cut the meter off a long time ago, so the gas company won't use those lines and would need to put in all new ones. They can't until approximately six weeks from now. Rental agency tells me the owner doesn't want to upgrade to a central unit and doesn't want us living there rent free for six weeks. They offer us all our money back (minus the application fee). To me, that's not fair compensation. There's moving costs, cancellation fees for our internet, fees to set the utilities up, etc. Not to mention the sheer agony of the whole situation caused by their negligience to me warrants more than a refund. They are legally required to provide heat and acknowledged as much in the lease agreement. Without getting into all the nitty gritty I've got everything documented of the back and forth and even my concerns with trying to use space heaters given the old wiring of this place and concerns for fire hazards. It's below freezing the next few evenings, so we asked them to shut the water off too just in case. They've ignored these concerns. What exactly are my options? This is not a situation I ever thought I'd be in. Idk how to describe what they've been putting my wife and I through beyond calling it negligience induced pain and suffering. They're supposed to call me later after I said just giving us our money back isn't enough to make the situation right considering the other costs of moving we would just have to eat... | 18e4af1e63d25a9cd33da499eabff2f015766b1fcb2ff3fe9d197c647d2a443b | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. 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