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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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(New York) Violent older brother is being released from prison soon and claiming that he plans to move back into the home we grew up in, which is where I live Apologies in advance for the missing/vague details, but for most of my life my family has basically acted like this brother doesn't exist. As such, I only have a rough outline of the stuff that happened when I was really young, so hopefully I am not missing anything particularly relevant. I plan to speak to an attorney this week, but I don’t want to lean on my mother for any more information than is necessary. She has been in poor health lately, and I don’t want to stress her out. My oldest brother, John, was always a few steps worse than a nightmare for my family. I honestly don't remember much beyond constant screaming and fighting in my house when I was very young, but my middle brother (five years my senior) has told me bits and pieces, most of it involving John physically abusing my parents from the time he grew large enough to be able to take our father on. He spent high school at a residential school/treatment center, but came home for weekends and holidays. I know that he is diagnosed with a personality disorder, but I'm not sure of the specifics. In 2002, when I was eight and he was nineteen or twenty, John assaulted me because of an argument he had with our mother. It was pretty serious; I've still got some nasty scars on my head. Long story short, my parents told him he was no longer welcome in their home and called the police, but he left before they arrived. That night he hurt a homeless person pretty badly. I don't know the details but apparently it was a good deal worse than what he did to me. John was arrested the next morning, and has been incarcerated since, but is due to be released in March. My understanding is that he plead guilty to lesser crimes to avoid a trial. Adam went to see John in prison just before Christmas to get a sense of who he is these days, and to find out what his plans are for after his release. Apparently he intends to “move back house” claiming that he "has a right to his home" and "mom owes him." My boyfriend and I live in the house I grew up in, though it's still in my mother's name (dad passed in 2013). That said, for all intents and purposes, the house belongs to me. My mother moved Arizona after my father died, and Adam already owns a home, so it will be left solely to me when the time comes, and the value of the house will be taken from my inheritance and added to Adam's. Anyway, according to John, he's already told the relevant people from the prison that he'll be moving back here upon being released. I'm unsure of the mechanics here, as the extent of my experience with prison is knowing that the asshole responsible for my traumatic childhood is in one upstate. Now, it's a foregone conclusion that my mother won't agree to let him move into my home; to say that she wouldn't spit on John if he was on fire is putting it lightly. She has disowned him and does her best to avoid acknowledging his existence aside from occasionally expressing her belief that the stress of what he put our family through is directly responsible for my father dying of a heart attack. Anyway, the rational part of my brain knows that he isn’t going to be able to just walk into my home and set up shop in his old room, but there’s still some nagging anxiety in the back of my mind. Hopefully you guys can answer a few questions in a way that will either allay my fears or at least prepare me to handle this situation when the time comes. I know I’m going to sound paranoid here, but please bear with me. To be frank, I am terrified of my brother. 1. Would it have been necessary for my parents to formally evict John upon his incarceration, or is such a thing implied by the fact that he received such a long sentence? If the former, while I am not 100% certain, I doubt my parents did so. In this case, would he still technically be considered a tenant in my home, even after more than a decade and a half, and if so, is there a way for me to file for eviction in advance? 2. If he DOES somehow gain entry to the house (breaking in while I’m not home etc), will the police be more likely to remove him from the premises or consider it a civil matter? Is there anything specific I should do to protect myself if he tries to force his way in? 3. I hate to even think about this, but as stated earlier, my mother’s health is not the greatest these days. She has explicitly written John out of her will (she is actually leaving him a toilet brush, as the fight that led to all of this was over his refusal to clean the bathroom). Both of my parents were rather successful financially, and my mother’s estate will be rather valuable. Does John have a leg to stand on if he wants to contest the fact that he was disinherited? If so, would this be likely to extend specifically to the house, or just a percentage of the estate? I hate the idea of him receiving any of my mother’s money because I know it would make her sick, but if not putting up a fight and letting him have a share can remove any potential interest he has in the house, I think my whole family could live with it. 4. Is there a specific type of attorney I should consult about this? I want to do everything I can to protect myself and my boyfriend, but this whole situation is surreal and I am really not sure which way to turn. Thanks in advance for any help you can offer, and I'm sorry that this turned into a bit of a novel. My nerves are a touch frayed right now and I’m finding it difficult to put my thoughts down in a concise manner. | 03fc19d6711f286e3013ae312633c0a6455e6411ec26aa8787982df384d47c6e | [
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Got sexually assaulted at work by customer, management now retaliating against me Greetings, on mobile, apologies for formatting. I (40F) work at a fine dining restaurant in a luxury hotel in WA. We have a very corporate structure but are independently owned. Earlier this week I was groped by a restaurant patron, who also happened to be an elderly woman. Immediately after patting my ass, the customer leaned close and admitted that she knew that she had “touched my butt, but she just couldn’t help herself” and “that’s just the way she is”. I immediately reported this to the managers on duty. The customer grew increasingly hostile toward me, while her husband sat back and laughed at me condescendingly. I sent my manager over to deal with the guests, and was told to comp their entrees and get them out of there. The guests signed their bill and were allowed to remain on property. No further action was taken. The following day, the GM made a joke about the incident with the groper, and I was very straightforward about clarifying that it was sexual assault. I was met with eye rolls. Today when I arrived at work I was called into the office and told that I’m being sent home today and for my next scheduled shift because I have a poor attitude and it’s hard for management to work with me. I feel as though I am being retaliated against for calling a sexual assault out for what it is. Any advice would be very helpful. I have been crying for hours and I feel like I was victimized twice over this one incident. | c3249709f16657e02264d69b15c92984e58007646abdb51d8649fdf62be3418b | [
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Coworker physically assaulted me at work and HR has done nothing about for a month. [MA] I’m not sure what I should do about the situation, or if this sub is the right one to post on, but let’s see. I could use some direction. I’ve revised the story a bit and withheld names and other identifying info. The incident occurred at the beginning of June. After having a conversation with my boss in the late afternoon after the incident, we both decided that the assault should be reported to HR, and so I filed the complaint the next morning. The assault took place in an office shared by 8 employees. Keep in mind, I am the only woman in a department of 200 men, and I only add this because he would have never touched any other employee. Generally, I have not had a problem with any man at our worksite and I don’t ever feel unwelcome. I am happy at work, and make it a point to make the most of every day - I value my coworkers and treat everyone as I would like to be treated. So imagine my shock when this employee sicks a blow to the back of my head. The employee is “untouchable”, as in, he’s the best man we have on the floor (almost a supervisor) and he’s gotten away with many things in the past. He looks down upon others but will chat you up like you’re important to him. He likes to sound smarter than he really is. He mingles with upper management so he is well liked and well-received by them. He is my superior. This is important to note. Unprovoked and out of the blue, he comes into the office and, seeing that I was reading a book on my lunch break, smacks me in the back of the head, causing my glasses to fall from my face and onto my desk. It was a hard blow to the head, and throbbed some time later. Absolutely irate, I turned to face the offending employee with tears in my eyes as four of my office coworkers erupted in laughter at my expense. I didn’t think what the employee had done was funny in the slightest. I couldn’t believe he had done such a stupid thing, someone with his level of seniority and intelligence. I was shocked and angry. Through tears, I made it clear that I didn’t find the situation funny. The employee that hit me laughed at my response, as if the ordeal had been in good fun, and said “it was just a joke”. Keep in mind, we are all approaching our thirties and he is in his forties... really? He offered a pitiful apology and left the office while I sat there, astonished. I faced the laughing coworkers and said, "I am glad that you all found that funny," to which they ignored me and went right back to working. After the incident, I was very visibly troubled and upset. I feel completely disrespected and unhappy, so much so that I was unable to sleep at night and have cried in the arms of my significant other. I have had to visit a therapist to process what has happened as I have an anxiety disorder and this has thrown me into a state of perpetual panic. I think, above all else, I’m taken aback by the lack of sympathy - upon seeing how upset I was, the employee did not take my concern seriously. I was hit, and hard - with enough force to smack the glasses off of my face. Please bear in mind that this is not the first time this employee has hurt me “in good fun”. We’ve had issues in the past with him flicking the back of my head as I’m working at my desk or clapping extremely loud near my ears to startle me, as a joke I presume. These “jokes” eventually stopped when I asked him to back off. Because he stopped, I didn’t report the incidents to HR and figured we could just move past them like adults. He’s also, as I’ve mentioned, really well liked by the managers, so I didn’t want to be “that employee” that makes HR complaints. After an initial call with an HR rep from corporate, I haven’t heard a word in many weeks. Nothing. They said they were going to investigate and asked me what the outcome should be, and I said I wanted the employee terminated. Each meeting the HR rep schedules with me, she cancels and plans again for a later date. She’s done this 5 times now... citing that she is busy and can’t speak to me sooner. I sent an email to the HR manager saying that I wanted to reach out and discuss my concerns involving the incident and that I am concerned about HR’s lack of communication with me regarding such a sensitive matter. I said that I have messages that haven’t been responded to and I am deeply unsatisfied. I mentioned that I had to leave the workplace due to a panic attack on (date) and spent the remaining day in a state of paralyzing anxiety. As politely as I could, I explained that employees of the past have been terminated over lesser infractions, so I do not think it’s wrong that I feel unhappy about my company’s inaction. Towards the end of the email, I said that I only want to feel safe at work, and I believe - given the severity of the situation - that the employee should be terminated for violating workplace policies and harming me. Of course, I said everything as professionally as I could whilst holding back emotion. But alas, I’ve heard nothing back in days now. What can I do to close this situation, if anything? I’d like to speed up the process but at this point, I wish I had filed a police report. Maybe then they would take this seriously. I worry they will find a reason to release me from employment because I filed a report against the company’s “Golden boy”, and I’m feeling a bit defeated. They may fire me “for performance” or something of the sort... a gut feeling. Thank you guys. | 62b8c337eae9d41c58e7823bf14f105d6a16b25e46cb9bec37dd939916b4b642 | [
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So imagine my shock when this employee sicks a blow to the back of my head. The employee is “untouchable”, as in, he’s the best man we have on the floor (almost a supervisor) and he’s gotten away with many things in the past. He looks down upon others but will chat you up like you’re important to him. He likes to sound smarter than he really is. He mingles with upper management so he is well liked and well-received by them. He is my superior. This is important to note. Unprovoked and out of the blue, he comes into the office and, seeing that I was reading a book on my lunch break, smacks me in the back of the head, causing my glasses to fall from my face and onto my desk. It was a hard blow to the head, and throbbed some time later. Absolutely irate, I turned to face the offending employee with tears in my eyes as four of my office coworkers erupted in laughter at my expense. I didn’t think what the employee had done was funny in the slightest. I couldn’t believe he had done such a stupid thing, someone with his level of seniority and intelligence. I was shocked and angry. Through tears, I made it clear that I didn’t find the situation funny. The employee that hit me laughed at my response, as if the ordeal had been in good fun, and said “it was just a joke”. Keep in mind, we are all approaching our thirties and he is in his forties... really? He offered a pitiful apology and left the office while I sat there, astonished. I faced the laughing coworkers and said, "I am glad that you all found that funny," to which they ignored me and went right back to working. After the incident, I was very visibly troubled and upset. I feel completely disrespected and unhappy, so much so that I was unable to sleep at night and have cried in the arms of my significant other. I have had to visit a therapist to process what has happened as I have an anxiety disorder and this has thrown me into a state of perpetual panic. I think, above all else, I’m taken aback by the lack of sympathy - upon seeing how upset I was, the employee did not take my concern seriously. I was hit, and hard - with enough force to smack the glasses off of my face. Please bear in mind that this is not the first time this employee has hurt me “in good fun”. We’ve had issues in the past with him flicking the back of my head as I’m working at my desk or clapping extremely loud near my ears to startle me, as a joke I presume. These “jokes” eventually stopped when I asked him to back off. Because he stopped, I didn’t report the incidents to HR and figured we could just move past them like adults. He’s also, as I’ve mentioned, really well liked by the managers, so I didn’t want to be “that employee” that makes HR complaints. After an initial call with an HR rep from corporate, I haven’t heard a word in many weeks. Nothing. They said they were going to investigate and asked me what the outcome should be, and I said I wanted the employee terminated. Each meeting the HR rep schedules with me, she cancels and plans again for a later date. She’s done this 5 times now... citing that she is busy and can’t speak to me sooner. I sent an email to the HR manager saying that I wanted to reach out and discuss my concerns involving the incident and that I am concerned about HR’s lack of communication with me regarding such a sensitive matter. I said that I have messages that haven’t been responded to and I am deeply unsatisfied. I mentioned that I had to leave the workplace due to a panic attack on (date) and spent the remaining day in a state of paralyzing anxiety. As politely as I could, I explained that employees of the past have been terminated over lesser infractions, so I do not think it’s wrong that I feel unhappy about my company’s inaction. Towards the end of the email, I said that I only want to feel safe at work, and I believe - given the severity of the situation - that the employee should be terminated for violating workplace policies and harming me. Of course, I said everything as professionally as I could whilst holding back emotion. But alas, I’ve heard nothing back in days now. What can I do to close this situation, if anything? I’d like to speed up the process but at this point, I wish I had filed a police report. Maybe then they would take this seriously. I worry they will find a reason to release me from employment because I filed a report against the company’s “Golden boy”, and I’m feeling a bit defeated. They may fire me “for performance” or something of the sort... a gut feeling. Thank you guys. | 62b8c337eae9d41c58e7823bf14f105d6a16b25e46cb9bec37dd939916b4b642 | [
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So imagine my shock when this employee sicks a blow to the back of my head. The employee is “untouchable”, as in, he’s the best man we have on the floor (almost a supervisor) and he’s gotten away with many things in the past. He looks down upon others but will chat you up like you’re important to him. He likes to sound smarter than he really is. He mingles with upper management so he is well liked and well-received by them. He is my superior. This is important to note. Unprovoked and out of the blue, he comes into the office and, seeing that I was reading a book on my lunch break, smacks me in the back of the head, causing my glasses to fall from my face and onto my desk. It was a hard blow to the head, and throbbed some time later. Absolutely irate, I turned to face the offending employee with tears in my eyes as four of my office coworkers erupted in laughter at my expense. I didn’t think what the employee had done was funny in the slightest. I couldn’t believe he had done such a stupid thing, someone with his level of seniority and intelligence. I was shocked and angry. Through tears, I made it clear that I didn’t find the situation funny. The employee that hit me laughed at my response, as if the ordeal had been in good fun, and said “it was just a joke”. Keep in mind, we are all approaching our thirties and he is in his forties... really? He offered a pitiful apology and left the office while I sat there, astonished. I faced the laughing coworkers and said, "I am glad that you all found that funny," to which they ignored me and went right back to working. After the incident, I was very visibly troubled and upset. I feel completely disrespected and unhappy, so much so that I was unable to sleep at night and have cried in the arms of my significant other. I have had to visit a therapist to process what has happened as I have an anxiety disorder and this has thrown me into a state of perpetual panic. I think, above all else, I’m taken aback by the lack of sympathy - upon seeing how upset I was, the employee did not take my concern seriously. I was hit, and hard - with enough force to smack the glasses off of my face. Please bear in mind that this is not the first time this employee has hurt me “in good fun”. We’ve had issues in the past with him flicking the back of my head as I’m working at my desk or clapping extremely loud near my ears to startle me, as a joke I presume. These “jokes” eventually stopped when I asked him to back off. Because he stopped, I didn’t report the incidents to HR and figured we could just move past them like adults. He’s also, as I’ve mentioned, really well liked by the managers, so I didn’t want to be “that employee” that makes HR complaints. After an initial call with an HR rep from corporate, I haven’t heard a word in many weeks. Nothing. They said they were going to investigate and asked me what the outcome should be, and I said I wanted the employee terminated. Each meeting the HR rep schedules with me, she cancels and plans again for a later date. She’s done this 5 times now... citing that she is busy and can’t speak to me sooner. I sent an email to the HR manager saying that I wanted to reach out and discuss my concerns involving the incident and that I am concerned about HR’s lack of communication with me regarding such a sensitive matter. I said that I have messages that haven’t been responded to and I am deeply unsatisfied. I mentioned that I had to leave the workplace due to a panic attack on (date) and spent the remaining day in a state of paralyzing anxiety. As politely as I could, I explained that employees of the past have been terminated over lesser infractions, so I do not think it’s wrong that I feel unhappy about my company’s inaction. Towards the end of the email, I said that I only want to feel safe at work, and I believe - given the severity of the situation - that the employee should be terminated for violating workplace policies and harming me. Of course, I said everything as professionally as I could whilst holding back emotion. But alas, I’ve heard nothing back in days now. What can I do to close this situation, if anything? I’d like to speed up the process but at this point, I wish I had filed a police report. Maybe then they would take this seriously. I worry they will find a reason to release me from employment because I filed a report against the company’s “Golden boy”, and I’m feeling a bit defeated. They may fire me “for performance” or something of the sort... a gut feeling. Thank you guys. | 62b8c337eae9d41c58e7823bf14f105d6a16b25e46cb9bec37dd939916b4b642 | [
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Coworker physically assaulted me at work and HR has done nothing about for a month. [MA] I’m not sure what I should do about the situation, or if this sub is the right one to post on, but let’s see. I could use some direction. I’ve revised the story a bit and withheld names and other identifying info. The incident occurred at the beginning of June. After having a conversation with my boss in the late afternoon after the incident, we both decided that the assault should be reported to HR, and so I filed the complaint the next morning. The assault took place in an office shared by 8 employees. Keep in mind, I am the only woman in a department of 200 men, and I only add this because he would have never touched any other employee. Generally, I have not had a problem with any man at our worksite and I don’t ever feel unwelcome. I am happy at work, and make it a point to make the most of every day - I value my coworkers and treat everyone as I would like to be treated. So imagine my shock when this employee sicks a blow to the back of my head. The employee is “untouchable”, as in, he’s the best man we have on the floor (almost a supervisor) and he’s gotten away with many things in the past. He looks down upon others but will chat you up like you’re important to him. He likes to sound smarter than he really is. He mingles with upper management so he is well liked and well-received by them. He is my superior. This is important to note. Unprovoked and out of the blue, he comes into the office and, seeing that I was reading a book on my lunch break, smacks me in the back of the head, causing my glasses to fall from my face and onto my desk. It was a hard blow to the head, and throbbed some time later. Absolutely irate, I turned to face the offending employee with tears in my eyes as four of my office coworkers erupted in laughter at my expense. I didn’t think what the employee had done was funny in the slightest. I couldn’t believe he had done such a stupid thing, someone with his level of seniority and intelligence. I was shocked and angry. Through tears, I made it clear that I didn’t find the situation funny. The employee that hit me laughed at my response, as if the ordeal had been in good fun, and said “it was just a joke”. Keep in mind, we are all approaching our thirties and he is in his forties... really? He offered a pitiful apology and left the office while I sat there, astonished. I faced the laughing coworkers and said, "I am glad that you all found that funny," to which they ignored me and went right back to working. After the incident, I was very visibly troubled and upset. I feel completely disrespected and unhappy, so much so that I was unable to sleep at night and have cried in the arms of my significant other. I have had to visit a therapist to process what has happened as I have an anxiety disorder and this has thrown me into a state of perpetual panic. I think, above all else, I’m taken aback by the lack of sympathy - upon seeing how upset I was, the employee did not take my concern seriously. I was hit, and hard - with enough force to smack the glasses off of my face. Please bear in mind that this is not the first time this employee has hurt me “in good fun”. We’ve had issues in the past with him flicking the back of my head as I’m working at my desk or clapping extremely loud near my ears to startle me, as a joke I presume. These “jokes” eventually stopped when I asked him to back off. Because he stopped, I didn’t report the incidents to HR and figured we could just move past them like adults. He’s also, as I’ve mentioned, really well liked by the managers, so I didn’t want to be “that employee” that makes HR complaints. After an initial call with an HR rep from corporate, I haven’t heard a word in many weeks. Nothing. They said they were going to investigate and asked me what the outcome should be, and I said I wanted the employee terminated. Each meeting the HR rep schedules with me, she cancels and plans again for a later date. She’s done this 5 times now... citing that she is busy and can’t speak to me sooner. I sent an email to the HR manager saying that I wanted to reach out and discuss my concerns involving the incident and that I am concerned about HR’s lack of communication with me regarding such a sensitive matter. I said that I have messages that haven’t been responded to and I am deeply unsatisfied. I mentioned that I had to leave the workplace due to a panic attack on (date) and spent the remaining day in a state of paralyzing anxiety. As politely as I could, I explained that employees of the past have been terminated over lesser infractions, so I do not think it’s wrong that I feel unhappy about my company’s inaction. Towards the end of the email, I said that I only want to feel safe at work, and I believe - given the severity of the situation - that the employee should be terminated for violating workplace policies and harming me. Of course, I said everything as professionally as I could whilst holding back emotion. But alas, I’ve heard nothing back in days now. What can I do to close this situation, if anything? I’d like to speed up the process but at this point, I wish I had filed a police report. Maybe then they would take this seriously. I worry they will find a reason to release me from employment because I filed a report against the company’s “Golden boy”, and I’m feeling a bit defeated. They may fire me “for performance” or something of the sort... a gut feeling. Thank you guys. | 62b8c337eae9d41c58e7823bf14f105d6a16b25e46cb9bec37dd939916b4b642 | [
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Coworker physically assaulted me at work and HR has done nothing about for a month. [MA] I’m not sure what I should do about the situation, or if this sub is the right one to post on, but let’s see. I could use some direction. I’ve revised the story a bit and withheld names and other identifying info. The incident occurred at the beginning of June. After having a conversation with my boss in the late afternoon after the incident, we both decided that the assault should be reported to HR, and so I filed the complaint the next morning. The assault took place in an office shared by 8 employees. Keep in mind, I am the only woman in a department of 200 men, and I only add this because he would have never touched any other employee. Generally, I have not had a problem with any man at our worksite and I don’t ever feel unwelcome. I am happy at work, and make it a point to make the most of every day - I value my coworkers and treat everyone as I would like to be treated. So imagine my shock when this employee sicks a blow to the back of my head. The employee is “untouchable”, as in, he’s the best man we have on the floor (almost a supervisor) and he’s gotten away with many things in the past. He looks down upon others but will chat you up like you’re important to him. He likes to sound smarter than he really is. He mingles with upper management so he is well liked and well-received by them. He is my superior. This is important to note. Unprovoked and out of the blue, he comes into the office and, seeing that I was reading a book on my lunch break, smacks me in the back of the head, causing my glasses to fall from my face and onto my desk. It was a hard blow to the head, and throbbed some time later. Absolutely irate, I turned to face the offending employee with tears in my eyes as four of my office coworkers erupted in laughter at my expense. I didn’t think what the employee had done was funny in the slightest. I couldn’t believe he had done such a stupid thing, someone with his level of seniority and intelligence. I was shocked and angry. Through tears, I made it clear that I didn’t find the situation funny. The employee that hit me laughed at my response, as if the ordeal had been in good fun, and said “it was just a joke”. Keep in mind, we are all approaching our thirties and he is in his forties... really? He offered a pitiful apology and left the office while I sat there, astonished. I faced the laughing coworkers and said, "I am glad that you all found that funny," to which they ignored me and went right back to working. After the incident, I was very visibly troubled and upset. I feel completely disrespected and unhappy, so much so that I was unable to sleep at night and have cried in the arms of my significant other. I have had to visit a therapist to process what has happened as I have an anxiety disorder and this has thrown me into a state of perpetual panic. I think, above all else, I’m taken aback by the lack of sympathy - upon seeing how upset I was, the employee did not take my concern seriously. I was hit, and hard - with enough force to smack the glasses off of my face. Please bear in mind that this is not the first time this employee has hurt me “in good fun”. We’ve had issues in the past with him flicking the back of my head as I’m working at my desk or clapping extremely loud near my ears to startle me, as a joke I presume. These “jokes” eventually stopped when I asked him to back off. Because he stopped, I didn’t report the incidents to HR and figured we could just move past them like adults. He’s also, as I’ve mentioned, really well liked by the managers, so I didn’t want to be “that employee” that makes HR complaints. After an initial call with an HR rep from corporate, I haven’t heard a word in many weeks. Nothing. They said they were going to investigate and asked me what the outcome should be, and I said I wanted the employee terminated. Each meeting the HR rep schedules with me, she cancels and plans again for a later date. She’s done this 5 times now... citing that she is busy and can’t speak to me sooner. I sent an email to the HR manager saying that I wanted to reach out and discuss my concerns involving the incident and that I am concerned about HR’s lack of communication with me regarding such a sensitive matter. I said that I have messages that haven’t been responded to and I am deeply unsatisfied. I mentioned that I had to leave the workplace due to a panic attack on (date) and spent the remaining day in a state of paralyzing anxiety. As politely as I could, I explained that employees of the past have been terminated over lesser infractions, so I do not think it’s wrong that I feel unhappy about my company’s inaction. Towards the end of the email, I said that I only want to feel safe at work, and I believe - given the severity of the situation - that the employee should be terminated for violating workplace policies and harming me. Of course, I said everything as professionally as I could whilst holding back emotion. But alas, I’ve heard nothing back in days now. What can I do to close this situation, if anything? I’d like to speed up the process but at this point, I wish I had filed a police report. Maybe then they would take this seriously. I worry they will find a reason to release me from employment because I filed a report against the company’s “Golden boy”, and I’m feeling a bit defeated. They may fire me “for performance” or something of the sort... a gut feeling. Thank you guys. | 62b8c337eae9d41c58e7823bf14f105d6a16b25e46cb9bec37dd939916b4b642 | [
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Coworker physically assaulted me at work and HR has done nothing about for a month. [MA] I’m not sure what I should do about the situation, or if this sub is the right one to post on, but let’s see. I could use some direction. I’ve revised the story a bit and withheld names and other identifying info. The incident occurred at the beginning of June. After having a conversation with my boss in the late afternoon after the incident, we both decided that the assault should be reported to HR, and so I filed the complaint the next morning. The assault took place in an office shared by 8 employees. Keep in mind, I am the only woman in a department of 200 men, and I only add this because he would have never touched any other employee. Generally, I have not had a problem with any man at our worksite and I don’t ever feel unwelcome. I am happy at work, and make it a point to make the most of every day - I value my coworkers and treat everyone as I would like to be treated. So imagine my shock when this employee sicks a blow to the back of my head. The employee is “untouchable”, as in, he’s the best man we have on the floor (almost a supervisor) and he’s gotten away with many things in the past. He looks down upon others but will chat you up like you’re important to him. He likes to sound smarter than he really is. He mingles with upper management so he is well liked and well-received by them. He is my superior. This is important to note. Unprovoked and out of the blue, he comes into the office and, seeing that I was reading a book on my lunch break, smacks me in the back of the head, causing my glasses to fall from my face and onto my desk. It was a hard blow to the head, and throbbed some time later. Absolutely irate, I turned to face the offending employee with tears in my eyes as four of my office coworkers erupted in laughter at my expense. I didn’t think what the employee had done was funny in the slightest. I couldn’t believe he had done such a stupid thing, someone with his level of seniority and intelligence. I was shocked and angry. Through tears, I made it clear that I didn’t find the situation funny. The employee that hit me laughed at my response, as if the ordeal had been in good fun, and said “it was just a joke”. Keep in mind, we are all approaching our thirties and he is in his forties... really? He offered a pitiful apology and left the office while I sat there, astonished. I faced the laughing coworkers and said, "I am glad that you all found that funny," to which they ignored me and went right back to working. After the incident, I was very visibly troubled and upset. I feel completely disrespected and unhappy, so much so that I was unable to sleep at night and have cried in the arms of my significant other. I have had to visit a therapist to process what has happened as I have an anxiety disorder and this has thrown me into a state of perpetual panic. I think, above all else, I’m taken aback by the lack of sympathy - upon seeing how upset I was, the employee did not take my concern seriously. I was hit, and hard - with enough force to smack the glasses off of my face. Please bear in mind that this is not the first time this employee has hurt me “in good fun”. We’ve had issues in the past with him flicking the back of my head as I’m working at my desk or clapping extremely loud near my ears to startle me, as a joke I presume. These “jokes” eventually stopped when I asked him to back off. Because he stopped, I didn’t report the incidents to HR and figured we could just move past them like adults. He’s also, as I’ve mentioned, really well liked by the managers, so I didn’t want to be “that employee” that makes HR complaints. After an initial call with an HR rep from corporate, I haven’t heard a word in many weeks. Nothing. They said they were going to investigate and asked me what the outcome should be, and I said I wanted the employee terminated. Each meeting the HR rep schedules with me, she cancels and plans again for a later date. She’s done this 5 times now... citing that she is busy and can’t speak to me sooner. I sent an email to the HR manager saying that I wanted to reach out and discuss my concerns involving the incident and that I am concerned about HR’s lack of communication with me regarding such a sensitive matter. I said that I have messages that haven’t been responded to and I am deeply unsatisfied. I mentioned that I had to leave the workplace due to a panic attack on (date) and spent the remaining day in a state of paralyzing anxiety. As politely as I could, I explained that employees of the past have been terminated over lesser infractions, so I do not think it’s wrong that I feel unhappy about my company’s inaction. Towards the end of the email, I said that I only want to feel safe at work, and I believe - given the severity of the situation - that the employee should be terminated for violating workplace policies and harming me. Of course, I said everything as professionally as I could whilst holding back emotion. But alas, I’ve heard nothing back in days now. What can I do to close this situation, if anything? I’d like to speed up the process but at this point, I wish I had filed a police report. Maybe then they would take this seriously. I worry they will find a reason to release me from employment because I filed a report against the company’s “Golden boy”, and I’m feeling a bit defeated. They may fire me “for performance” or something of the sort... a gut feeling. Thank you guys. | 62b8c337eae9d41c58e7823bf14f105d6a16b25e46cb9bec37dd939916b4b642 | [
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I have been emotionally abused at work for over a year now, but today I was physically assaulted. My employer threatens to fire me unless I drop the protective order against the coworker who assaulted me. (Virginia) This has been going on since day 1 on the job. Beth (the one who assaulted me) has been rude and pushy, demeaning everything I do, calling me names (cunt, bitch, nappy-headed cow etc...), talking about me to my coworkers. I've been isolated and I'm alone. My family says I come home from work sad daily. I feel like everyone is just talking about me behind my back everyday at work and I'm constantly watching my back and keeping my eyes to the ground. Beth is the groomer at the animal clinic where I work and has been for 12 years where as I've been there for 1. She brings in quite a bit of money for the clinic. For some reason she's got it out for me. There have been several verbal altercations that were immediately reported to my boss (the owner of the clinic) by me. Whether by text message or by phone. My boss always says she'll talk to Beth but nothing ever happens long term. She does talk to Beth but it doesn't do any good and actually seems to make things worse. Today was a normal day, the boss was having a day off and I was going about my business like usual, me and the receptionist got lunch. I noticed that it was noon and the sick kittens that Beth had brought in a couple weeks previously had not been fed or had water the entire day. Their cages were filthy and no one had done anything for them. It's not my responsibility to care for the animals that other employees bring in, it's that employees responsibility. It's not my responsibility period to care for the clinic cats or any boarding animals, only hospitalized patients. Another employee spoke to Beth about why the kittens weren't cared for and Beth replied to that employee "Well where the hell is Oliveshmolive?" Implying it was my job to take care of them. Despite this, I got to it anyway because not doing it out of principle would mean the kittens went hungry and thirsty and sitting in their own filth. I did however text my employer to let her know that Beth was not doing her job. A short time later, I was in the lab cleaning up a fecal test and I see Beth come stomping towards me, slamming the door. She cornered me in the lab and starts cursing me, telling me it's not her fucking job to take care of the kittens, I took care of them and I'm a fucking bitch for telling the boss she wasn't doing her job, calling me a know it all cunt and sloppy cow and a fat bitch etc... I replied "You're not doing your fucking job" and she yells at me "I'm the fucking groomer it's not my job to take care of the animals." I told her that if she brought them in their her responsibility. I don't know what she said here but after quite some times of abuse I eventually said "Why are you such a bitch?" and her face is so close to mine she's spitting in my mouth as she yells at me. Then she bucks at me and I back up against the counter and she pushes me by my shoulders. I immediately took out my phone and dialed 911, I told the operator all that had happened. While I'm on the phone she's saying she wished I would hit her so she could beat my ugly face in. All of the other employees claimed to not have seen her push me, they're her friends after all so why would they admit to seeing it. When the police arrived, I was out back smoking with another employee. I don't normally smoke but I was very shaken. The police took my side of the story and then went and took her side of the story. Since no one admitted to seeing it there was nothing they could do but they told me if I wanted to I could file criminal charges with the magistrate. I was told by them to leave work, despite me not causing the incident. I have the feeling they didn't believe me. I went to the magistrates office and filed a criminal report and was awarded an emergency order of protection and a warrant was put out to serve Beth with assault charges. My employer later contacted me by phone. It was a 30 minute conversation and I don't remember what she said verbatim but the gist of the conversation was that if I wasn't to come back to work until the protective order was gone, that I'm not as valuable of an employee as Beth, I was obviously overly sensitive about people talking about me because of something that happened to me in childhood (which we have never even talked about), and that I would be fired if I refused to drop the protective order. I told her that if she were to fire me, I would be taking legal action against the clinic as whole. I have an interview at another vet clinic tomorrow afternoon and if I'm offered the position, I intend to take the offer and not give a two weeks notice to my current employer. Regardless of the amount they offer me, it's not about money anymore. It's about my mental well being. I feel terrible about myself and my self esteem has suffered huge blows due to my treatment at work. I was diagnosed with depression as a teenager and have been on medication since, which has always been fine but my depression has severely worsened since working there. I intended to leave the clinic I'm at anyway but I didn't want it to happen like this, I was going to quietly give my two weeks when I found a suitable position and be done with it but that's become impossible in light of recent events. My questions are: Do I have grounds to take legal action upon my termination? Do I have grounds to take legal action if I quit, since I'm quitting to leave a hostile work environment? Am I making a bad decision by pursuing the assault charges? What would any of you do in my situation? Thanks in advance for any replies. I plan on consulting with an employment attorney asap but I want to be prepared and I want to know if it's even worth it to pursue this. | 34f4d8ba23f330d369519bb51be03d13e33729cb5b101bc2a98514dfffecd52d | [
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Physically and mentally abusive ex sexually assaulted me when I told him I was pregnant I broke up with my ex about 8 weeks ago. He would grab me or hold me down during arguments and I have pictures of my arm bruises and a voice memo of him confessing to it. I tried to break up with him multiple times but he would destroy my property everytime I did. 3 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant and went to tell him to figure things out. He took this as an opportunity to try to have sex with me. I told him no multiple times and to get off me. I tried to leave and he carried me to the bed and sexually assaulted me until he “got off”. When I rushed to leave he told me if I left he would tell my family about the pregnancy. I left and he still messaged my mom about it. I’m trying to figure out what to do. My friends keep telling me to file a police report but I don’t want to go through the process of a trial bc I can’t afford it and I don’t want to see him again. I know I need to do something but I need advice on what the best move is. | fdd87c156851b33190cbd01b412c8e734636c923eed8d4f1da1e3ffc0fd41c00 | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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Abusive ex-boyfriend is threatening to sue over a joke I told about him at an open mic [California] A few years ago I was in an extremely abusive relationship. ​ I am not a professional comedian, I don't make money from this (sometimes I get free drinks or something) and I have a day job that I'm not looking to quit. This is just a hobby. I go to open mic nights and tell jokes for fun. It's hard to explain this joke exactly without totally identifying myself which I don't want to do, but it's a pretty dark story about this fucked up thing my ex did to me once. Although it's not a funny situation, the way I tell it is pretty funny and it gets a big laugh. I do NOT use his name or any identifying info about him at any point. We live in a very large city, it's not like everyone automatically knows who I'm talking about. I'm not famous or anything. ​ Anyway, an acquaintance of mine recorded me telling this joke and put it on snapchat, and she apparently also knows him. This acquaintance did not send it to him directly or anything, and didn't even know he was the person I was talking about or that he and I knew each other. Total coincidence. ​ He saw it on snapchat, and sent her a lot of messages demanding to know where this was and what else I said about him. She told him the bar we were at at first, but he kept pressing for more details and made her uncomfortable so she blocked him and let me know what happened, and apologized profusely for letting him know what bar (we go there a lot, but she didn't know better, I'm not mad). ​ My ex DM'd me on Twitter, which is the only form of contacting me I didn't have him blocked on, and told me he was going to sue me for defamation because I am telling lies about him and "committing character assassination." He also sent me a Cease and Desist letter attached in my DMs as a photo, that restated his intent to sue and "compensate for the damages done to \[his\] reputation." Can he do this? First of all, they are NOT lies, this is a true story about a horrible thing that actually happened. But more importantly, I don't use his name. Nobody knew it was about him until he freaked out and told someone. ​ What do I do? (Also, can I keep telling jokes about him?) | d657b8d22c427e0c15b82d41e2f516530b9216ea215dbf74593434c070c91dba | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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I think my brother just fucked all of our family over with the family business. My father started his trucking company about 6 years ago. My brother saw how much money he was making an immediately jumped in to “help” him grow his company. It in fact grew my dad hardly and days off, missed almost all holidays even Christmas and New Years thinking he was building something and although the company started to make over half a million dollars my brother would gaslight him over and over confuse him with payments and make it look like the company was always on the verge of bankruptcy. My dad even had a lower salary then the drivers hired of the other trucks. It goes on and on. But the worse part is we now realize he took out about 800,000 dlls in ppp loans which was also fraud because the company did not need it he used it all for personal expenses. The company is only under my dads name. He says the loans are under his name but we don’t believe anything at this point. Now my sister and I also feel involved because we started working driving for them back in November and his form of payments was Zelle. He would also send money 35 k a year to my mom out the company account for house expenses. We Feel like it now looks like we were all involved in the ppp loan fraud and everything else. My dad refuses to seek legal help but I want to know if we could all be held accountable and how bad this is if we are audited, how do we help my dad safely separate his trucks from all this without turning my brother in. | 6f937b1f2fff0ed1a4155f0406cabb3932e6c111767abd9e929691031b0581a0 | [
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(WI) Mother of my son refuses to be a parent and tries to extort money from me to fuel her lifestyle. Is it legal for me to cut all contact? I've been the only parent in my son's life for six years. The mom doesn't pay child support. She's a drug dealer and prostitute who has been to jail four times and still continues her lifestyle of partying and sex with random men. We conceived him when I was 17 and doing things I shouldn't have been doing at the time. She has been blackmailing me about both real and imaginary things to try to get me to give her money to fuel her lifestyle. I don't have money because I'm in college and a parent, and neither of those things are comprehensible to her. Lately she's been saying he's not actually my son but won't consent to a DNA test. She knows I get a lot of shitty looks because he looks nothing like me, and I take her allegations as harassment. She thinks she can get me on the hook for kidnapping and child molestation if I don't give her money. I know if I take her to court, she will lie about those things and also tell the truth about how I did drugs when I was 17. I'll go to jail and our son will get put in foster care and be abused and neglected. Am I fine with going no contact with the mom? Is there a way I can cover my ass if accused of those false crimes by the police? What will happen to me legally if she starts naming another person as the father, and on the off chance that it's true? | 066b1ef20e65ab1f1810ce74981a27baf2357408fb65e81d4502f0d3eb7183dd | [
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If I buy an undeveloped plot of land in a residential zone, can I build a little shack and camp on it? I know it might sound weird, but there's a little plot of land for sale on the outskirts of my town and I'm considering attempting to buy it cheap. However, I don't want to build a house on it, outside of maybe a "tiny home" style shack with no plumbing, electrical, or anything of the like, and I'd mainly like to use it for recreational activities (like a backyard basically). Would I potentially get in trouble for doing so? | 4ef537b3e2c3a795bb5c518801705b017efdcf9b19f5f6d93343f21a96b2bd04 | [
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Buying a property that fell through on day of closing because seller didn't have legal right to sell. Realtor is representing both sides of transaction. Do I have recourse to recoup expenses during this transaction? (alaska, USA) Real estate agent told me of a property they were going to be listing back in November. The seller was a young man selling his and his dad's duplex after his dad passed away. Having recently dealt with this, I asked if he was already in probate and the agent said he had a quit claim deed and that he was good to go. I've put up $8700 earnest money, $1600 for the VA Appraisal and $450 for an engineers report. Fast forward to closing. Two days before closing the title company issued the title commitment. I notice that the commitment is showing both dad and sons name. I ask about it and I'm told no issues. Day of closing I'm told things are falling apart because the title company won't move forward as the estate is not in probate. Quit claim moved the deed from dad's name and into son and dads name, so half the duplex is still part of the estate. Realtor is blaming the title company for not saying something sooner. I was told he should be able to get into probate fast, he agreed to pay any rate lock extensions which bought us a few weeks and I waited. Now his siblings are contesting the will and my rate will most definitely expire, assuming this even gets sold anytime soon. I locked 2.75 and now rates are 5.15 and I won't be moving forward as this raises the payment almost 600 a month in interest and no longer makes sense. I was sent a rescission agreement and it only stipulates getting back my $8700 earnest. Am I simply out the other $2050 from the appraisal and eng. Report? I know if I had chosen to walk away I would be, but because they never had authority to sell the property do I have some recourse to recoup those costs? | ca44a8bc01e2d48c993d474e5c9f2df8be25c7155a0182a0a5a89b7bb0406dbe | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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KS Property Manager here: main line sewage back up into tenants apartment, their property is destroyed - are we responsible for their damages? I manage a Multifamily property (under a property management company). Buildings are 3 stories, 2 sub-ground basement units, 2nd floor, 3rd floor. 1 of the sub-ground residents had sewage backing up through the drain in their utility closet. We call out a plumber to unclog. They were not able to fully unclog so they go to the main line (I’m assuming?) outside to flush the pipe out. Maintenance tech asked the plumbers if doing this would cause it to flush out/back up into the residents apartment. Plumbers promised no, it would go out into the street. Well, it didn’t. I’d say about 700 of the 900 sq ft apartment flooded with sewage. All over their furniture, etc. They have renters insurance but don’t want to file a claim. They say they can argue we should be responsible for compensation of loss of their property. Any advice on this? The company I work for seems to be shitty and doesn’t believe we are. It was like pulling teeth to get them to agree to provide accommodations/transfer. After sending them the pics, my regional barely agreed to hotel for 1 night then wanted us to get it cleaned up and they could return I the apartment next day. I get to deal with the residents and their parents tomorrow and they are going to be pushing me for answers. I’d like to know a lawyers opinion on this/get some info to pass along to my supervisors since they aren’t taking this very seriously. | 01d3c573249931b7fea7f9eb5969c59b8bf6eee1df365ddb17d8389d902f7d1c | [
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