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I (20F) am half Korean, half white. Most of my life, I ignored my Korean side. Lately, though, I've been trying to get more into the culture. I've been learning about different traditions, the culture, the language, and using the Korean name my grandfather gave me. My immediate family was never close to my Korean side ... | NTA. To be fair, with all due respect to your grandfather, a name is something one should be happy with so just use whatever makes you feel good. You surely don't mean ill, so there's no real reason to worry - it's not like you're hurting anyone or whatever. ###### |
A couple days ago my wife mentioned that our daughter wanting her ears pierced for her upcoming 7th birthday.
I was caught by surprised with this conversation as my daughter had gotten her ears pierced just the year before. My wife proceeded to clarify that our daughter wanted 3 piercings in each earlobe like herself.... | NTA. Three piercings per ear at age 7 is just silly and ridiculous. ###### |
So we have 3 kids, 17, 15, and 10. I’m only a quarter Japanese but spent ~7 years in Japan when I was a teenager living with my parents there. I’m pretty fluent as my job requires a lot of Japanese as well.
My wife doesn’t speak Japanese at all and only speaks English. A few years ago my oldest and second oldest want... | NTA. Threatening to cut off tuition!? Because they keep trying to practice a language? That’s extreme and weirdly controlling.
As long as you don’t do it when your youngest kid and wife are there, there’s nothing exclusionary about it. A housewide ban is ridiculous. ###### |
I (M21) was recently given a set of wireless ear buds, the type that hang over the ear. A coworker that im close with gave them to me as a gift since he didnt like/use them. These are expensive ones that he was otherwise going to sell online if i didnt want them.
The problem is this. Upon coming home and telling my ... | NTA. Those things are like £60. They were gifted to YOU. Perhaps for a birthday you could gift her a set but those ones are yours. ###### |
Most of your schools probably have had the fundraisers where you sell their wrapping paper or food or something and they give you a prize.
We had one of them come over to my school and I looked at the catalog. If i sold 10 dollars worth of goods i got a prize that was worth like 25 cents. If i sold 25 dollars wroth of... | NTA. Those school fundraiser companies are such a scam and you were right to ask how much actually goes to your school (spoiler, if the answer to your question was "I can't answer that", then the school will be lucky to see more than 5% of the sales). On top of that the sales tactics they use to get kids into it are s... |
im a 14 year old high school freshman and my mom and i were just having a conversation like normal, but then she asked me whether or not i’d let her live with me when i was an adult and got married. i answered no because if i were to be married, the only people i’d want to live with are my wife and my kids (if i had an... | NTA. This would be controlling behavior regardless of how old you are, but it's especially bad since you're only 14. You would likely be miserable if your mom moved in with you as an adult. ###### |
Like a lot of people, I had to save up and buy my own car. I was lucky to find an old Volvo in 2016 when I started my freshman year of college. All 4 of my siblings got cars from my parents but times changed and they couldn't afford one for me.
My sister who I love has crashed 2 of her cars. Each time my other sibli... | NTA. This whole “you’re not entitled” line of reasoning sometimes goes too far here. If your family’s internal culture is to pull together and help each other *when you can*, and you’ve participated in that as a general rule, then heck yes you’re entitled to their help when it’s your turn. That’s the dynamic that’s be... |
I told her I felt it was misleading to make me think she couldn’t afford to pay for her car battery if times were so tough and she can justify getting her nails done when I’m struggling to make it myself. Mind you she is on a fixed income, disabled, retired, and receives government compensation (social security/disabil... | NTA. This wasn’t okay. You aren’t obligated to financially support your mother and she manipulated you into doing so while using her money for unnecessary things. Not cool. ###### |
I (23F) am gay, I came out to my family when I was 18 and my family reacted pretty well. Sometimes my mom will say like low key homophobic things but it’s really whatever.
I’ve been dating a girl (23F)(Let’s call her K) for about three years now, and I took her home to meet my parents last week. My parents like her a... | NTA. This was suuuuuper cringey.
Firstly, she is not entitled to information about your personal life, sex included. Can't believe I'm typing this.
Secondly, this heteronormization of homosexual relationships is just wrong. Wtf is that questipn even supposed to mean. You're obviously **both** the woman in your rela... |
Throwaway because this will be obvious on my personal.
I (M17) live with my sister (F16) and my mom and dad. Very recently, my sister has gained about 20000 followers or so on Tik tok and has managed to gain a few sponsorships equivalent to about 500$. This, of course, made all four of us extremely proud of her. Howev... | NTA. This was a very poor decision on her part to not finish high school to focus on social media. If something goes wrong with TikTok, she's out of luck. You're not a bad person for doing this because you care for her. ###### |
I'm a high school teacher. I have one student who didn't pass, and now his mom and some of his other teachers want to have a meeting this afternoon talk about how we can make up the work and get him credit for his classes so he doesn't have to retake them.
This kid couldn't be bothered to show up and do the work all y... | NTA. This sucks for the student. Sounds like he's had ample opportunity to get caught up, and squandered it.
Something we tell our kids (16, 13, 6): You are free to choose. You are not free of the consequences of those choices.
This student chose to do nothing all year. The consequence is summer school or repeat the... |
Some backstory:
So last November I (18F) moved in with my now ex-boyfriend (22M) to an apartment with 2 other people. These two people are married and we were friends with before moving in together. The husband (20M), we'll call him John, is in the military and his wife (20F), we'll call her Abby, worked part time... | NTA. This sounds more like your roommates are using the pregnancy to avoid doing their fair share of the work. If her husband doesn't want his wife doing chores that's fine but its up to him to pick up that slack ###### |
So. My siblings and I (2 sisters + 3 brothers + me) decided to go to a Korean bbq place a while ago. One of my sisters, let’s call her Maddie is very proud of her language skills. Idk what that even means. She doesn’t let anyone correct her and gets very upset if someone tells her she’s wrong.
So as soon as we enter ... | NTA. This sounds like a damned if you do and damned if you don't moment. Your sister was told a number of times that she was wrong but she got annoyed at the interference. Then she got annoyed outside when she realised she messed up. Your input wouldn't have made any difference at all. ###### |
My dad owns a pizza place that was handed down to him from my grandfather.
I've been working at the pizza place my while life, even part time while I got a business degree.
I found out last early last year that my dad had willed the restaurant to my stepmom. His reasoning being she needs to be taken care of after he ... | NTA. This sort of thing is exactly why my dad didn't finalize his will until he'd sat down and talked to me and my step mom together and let us come to a decision. He could have just as easily split ownership of the shop until your stepmom died and chose not to and now he's suffering the consequences of his actions. A... |
This whole argument is really weird to me. Basically, I'm on my period and my boyfriend said offhand he was glad he didn't have to deal with that and said something along the lines of, "I bet you wish you had a dick." To which I responded, "no, not really."
He seemed kind of taken aback by that and pressed the issue o... | NTA. This reeks of the low-key sexist "every woman secretly wishes she were a man" thing. Insecure men really, REALLY care about the fact that they have a dick and somehow it makes them powerful and strong or some shit.
Yes, women may get periods but like...a dangling appendage that just kind of awkwardly hangs there... |
I have a good friend from high school that I still hang out with (we are 5 years out from high school). We hang out a decent amount but mainly just to drink and smoke and go to raves together. He’s a really nice guy and a lot of time will smoke me out or gives me rides places without me asking. I’d say we hang out at l... | NTA. This really shouldn't even be a question ngl. He has a gf and hitting on you even when he's drunk isn't an excuse for him to do so ###### |
Alright. So, kids are definitely a far off thing. I’m still under 18 and I don’t personally feel prepared to raise a kid, nor do I think I will be for the next good few years. But today some of my friends were talking about what they want their kids name to be (again just hypothetical future kids, none of my friends ar... | NTA. This really hurt me to hear. I’m a social worker for children and adults with disabilities. It’s revolting how discriminatory the system is. Spina Bifida can be genetic, but it’s very unclear at the present. You are not less of a parent because you have a physical disability. It seems your “friends” are uneducate... |
My sister been addicted to drugs for about 3 years now, she’s addicted to Heroin and Fentanyl and just start using something called Purple down.
She has down a lot of awful things to get her fixed, like steal money from her family and sell her body, she claims now that she got everything under control which I don’t re... | NTA. This isn't everyday shit we're talking about. Your sister is addicted to what are literally the two most damaging and addicting drugs. At that point of addiction and delusion (her insisting she's going to get off), you almost can't give her the adult-like respect and independence that you would give to anyone els... |
My friend is dating a guy who is a financial drain on her. He is an “entrepreneur” who can’t choose a practical career for shit.
He has been in 2 MLMs and has been a failed youtuber in the 3 years I’ve known him. Right now he’s in Forex doing terribly. He is in perspective definition, a NEET.
To his credit, he has ... | NTA. This isn't about needing someone rich, it's about needing a partner who is responsible and who you can plan for a future with. She needed to hear it. ###### |
Hi everyone, I know this sounds crazy/cruel but there’s a long story to it -
I’m a transgender female. I was kicked out at the age of 10 because of the way I acted. I was always extremely feminine, wore girls clothing, painted my nails, etc... my parents and my sisters were extremely fed up and completely cut me out o... | NTA. This is your grandmother's will, not yours. She thought they deserved nothing, whatever they, you or anyone else thinks on the matter is irrelevant. This is her estate and this is what she legally specified has to be done with it.
Personally, I think you need to honour your grandmother's wishes. That means lawy... |
So to start, this is about periods that wemon have every month so if you dont like hearing about it just leave. Also if you are homophobic/biphobic leave
So im a teenager my periods are painful. The cramps are so bad that I want to curl up into a ball and die. The only way i function on my period is taking meds every ... | NTA. This is your decision, and no one else should have an opinion on how you choose to deal with your painful periods. ###### |
Thieving sister
So my sister (15) has been buying stuff off of our grandmas debit card. I told my mom multiple times to get my grandmas card number change because my sister has the information written down somewhere. She doesn’t change the card, and my sister buys $100 ring as a gift for her girlfriend, which she has ... | NTA. This is theft and your parents are complicit in it. All three are assholes. Can you assist your grandmother in reporting her card stolen so as to get a new one issued? ###### |
Preface: I am 27 year old male and i have arthritis in my lumbar spine as well as a bulge in the same area. My only relief is laying down supine on my bed. Every other activity hurts. Walking, sitting, standing, everything. I just finished a year of unsuccessful treatment and being young my doctor said I could be place... | NTA. This is the most clear cut case of NTA in recent memory, and high on the all-time list. ###### |
So the way I make toast when I make a full breakfast is a bit weird. I toast it twice on the lowest setting so it's fresh and warm when I've finished with the fry pan. It's just easier to time things that way, and it's how I like to cook.
My SO doesn't understand why I do this, and wants me to change it back to his ... | NTA. This is such a non-issue. It doesn't matter if how you make your toast is weird or he doesn't understand it. If everyone just checks the toaster before using it, everything will be ok. (Even if you each end up with suboptimal toast from time to time because you forgot to check.) ###### |
So i was spending time with my mom today and my best friend decided to call me. i had headphones on luckily so i picked up and she seemed somewhat off during the conversation. while talking to her she kept moaning and sighing more and more often and said her boyfriend was fingering her while i was on the call. she then... | NTA. This is sexual harassment. They included you in their kink without consent.
In fact, I’m a bit worried about your friend. It reads as if she did not consent to him calling you on her phone nor did she consent to him sending the picture of her. Is she comfortable herself in this relationship? I would keep a close... |
My nephew is a great kid. He’s 17 and he loves a lot of nerdy things, he’s always loved Transformers and I took him to see every movie, and I watched every show with him (including the originals from the 80s) since I babysat him a lot.
I am a collector. I have hundreds of figures and toys from Transformers, anime, ga... | NTA. This is ridiculous and he is 17, not 7, nor was it inappropriate. But either way, he will be out of the house in like a year. Spoil him with Transformers then since he will be an adult and they cannot do anything about it. ###### |
Okay, this is kind of of a weird one. I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I want to preface all of this by saying that I love her and that this post makes her sound worse than she is. She is one of the most genuine, sweetest, and hardworking people I have ever met. But, this whole situation has been so o... | NTA. This is really one for a therapist, and I mean that quite seriously. She needs to be able to go to the bathroom alone. ###### |
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I am a 16 year old male boy and I have a mother. Anyway my mother is one of those parents who is great with the community. Anyway a few days ago my mother adopted a 15 year old girl and a 10 year old boy who are Billings. She made me give up my room I stayed for 14 years to the girl and made me share in a s... | NTA. This is NOT how you introduce adoptive siblings. She didn't even ask how you would feel and then put you out of your childhood bedroom... If she at least just moved the boy into your room it would make more sense. But what she's doing is making you resent these kids for HER actions. She should have taken parentin... |
I've recently been having some dental problems like pain and black spots on my gums and teeth pain, it's been going on for a few months and I've brought it up with my parents and asked if I could go to a dentist. They've repeatedly pushed it back saying I'll be alright in some time, but when I do bring it back it up th... | NTA. This is literally medical abuse, OP. Health problems, especially dental problems, don’t tend to go away on their own and delaying treatment will only make it worse. If they don’t agree, book yourself in and tell the dentist to bill your parents. Your health should come first. ###### |
I live in a condo type house so there are 2 separate apartments in one building. I (F23) live alone and the person in the other apartment is a man with multiple sclerosis.
Our paths rarely cross because I work 8 - 5 and he doesn't appear to leave his house very often; however, I was home one day back in October and he... | NTA. this is kinda weird, you told him you're not really a viable option for helping and he keeps knocking. ###### |
Today is my (24) birthday, I just got done with work and was watching tv when my girlfriend of 4 years came in the room to tell me she made my favorite kind of pie. She then asked me if I would rather kiss her for $100 dollars or kiss the hottest girl I know for $700. Not thinking much about it I said I would kiss her ... | NTA. This is just a silly trend in Twitter. I asked my bf the same (kiss me: 100 dollars or hottest girl: 1 mill) and he said he’d kissed the hottest girl once and we’d have our life solved.
I think she overreacted a bit. ###### |
Background: me (f22) and my fiancé (m23) are getting married in a couple of days and we had a move in scheduled for tomorrow, we already had a moving van scheduled and our bed and sofa delivery timed to come before our wedding so we can sort out the house out and move in on our wedding day.
I received a suspicious ema... | NTA. This is hurting you financially. Take them to court. ###### |
My sister has this personality. If she is happy, everyone’s happy -maybe a bit annoyed, because she yells a lot- but if she’s anxious, then she makes sure everyone’s anxious. We’ve told her multiple times to stop making her problems the whole family’s problems but she won’t listen and will just keep doing it.
Today my... | NTA. This is hard believe for some people like her want to rant in during dinner to let meal get cold or what? But it look like she try pushing her own problem to blame on them like you.. Good for you want to have peaceful dinner. ###### |
We have a friend who came out openly as a lesbian two years ago (we're all 15 y/o now) and ever since the beginning of the last school semester, she's been touching me.
She was always hugging me from behind, or pinching my butt, or squeezing my breasts. At first it didn't bother me because my friends and I all playfu... | NTA. This is getting to the point where you need to tell her she's making you uncomfortable because she's targeting you more than others.
Also let her sit down first so you can avoid sitting next to her for a while.
If your friends accuse you of being homophobic just explain what's been going on. ###### |
So, my daughter's Father owes a ton of back child support. Part of the outstanding balance is taken from his paychecks along with each current payment. It's not enough to pay it all back before she's 18, but it is deducted nevertheless. Anyway, he got a letter in the mail from the US Treasury Dept telling him that they... | NTA. This is for your kid, not you. He shouldn't of been a deadbeat and this wouldn't have been an issue. ###### |
So a bit of context.
I’ve been begging my husband to let me buy a car since he’s been driving me literally everywhere for over 2 years because he doesn’t want to spend money on a car or insurance. He ended up telling me no again because we need to continue putting money into our savings. I got pretty upset seeing as we... | NTA. This is financial abuse, you should buy what you want especially when you decent savings for a uesd car. You dont need permission. And your husnand makes a computer WTF. I suspect he will say its a gift for u but will use it way more than you. ###### |
For context, I'm sixteen and my brother is eight and autistic.
My brother is developing an infection on his leg that's getting worse every day. Just three months ago, I had to do a major surgery on both legs for this exact infection - MRSA - and almost had to amputate. I can tell that my brother is developing the same... | NTA. This is called medical neglect. He needs urgent treatment immediately. ###### |
I’m 15f. My mom is 35f. Before the pandemic started, my mom’s friend and her two kids (friend is 36f, kids are 12f and 14f) came to stay with us, and are still here.
The friend’s kids are annoying, which I can deal with, it’s not an issue. But they’re also using my hygienic things, like my razor, my special soaps/hair... | NTA. This is all gross at the least (the razor) and DANGEROUS at most (the pills!!!!!!???). Both parents are unfit, it seems, and why the hell is the friend going out and partying during a fucking pandemic? ###### |
My son is 10, 1 year ago he asked for a pet Guinea pig.
We have a large garden so I agreed but only with some terms.
I would cover the upkeep of food, bedding and pig treats and toys.
He would have to save up half the money for a large hutch and I would pay for a large outdoor run, he agreed and did his chores and... | NTA. This is actually the most responsible and reasonable reaction I've seen to the classic issue of a kid not caring for the pet he begged for. I'm so glad that you made sure that you would be happy having the guinea pigs yourself before you got them! Thank you so, so, so much for not giving away the piggers to "teac... |
I live in a 4 bedroom apartment with 3 other guys. I haven’t had any issues with any of them up until now when the roommate on my side started dating this girl and she basically moved. This doesn’t particularly bother me but her kid is living here now. He didn’t ask any of us if this was okay (obviously I would’ve said... | NTA. This is a safeguarding issue if nothing else.
As you say, they don’t know any of you well enough. ###### |
To start with, I am not rich in the sense I have a mansion and luxury cars. But with the combined income of myself and my fiancé, we live comfortably. We don’t live extravagantly, we save a lot and are able to afford nice things like a few holidays a year. If we have an unexpected expense like our car breaks down, we c... | NTA. This is a really bad mindset for anyone to have and it can make people feel like their problems don't matter. Don't listen to them. You're not a brat and it's fine to be upset about things that may not seem huge to other people. Having money is definitely not a solution to everything, btw. ###### |
My brother(single dad) and I live next to each other. He is still working outside of the home but I am not so his daughter has been hanging out with us while he’s gone. She is 13 so she can be home alone but obviously a 13yo home alone for 40+ hours a week isn’t the best idea.
Anyway, I have a 5 year old that recent... | NTA. This is a lesson on sharing. This isn’t manufactured drama it’s life. Your niece has to learn some social skills. At 13 years old, she should know the difference between right and wrong. But, I would allow her to come over and ban her from the easy bake oven.
Pro tip: Since you are out of mixes, you can go onlin... |
My brother(single dad) and I live next to each other. He is still working outside of the home but I am not so his daughter has been hanging out with us while he’s gone. She is 13 so she can be home alone but obviously a 13yo home alone for 40+ hours a week isn’t the best idea.
Anyway, I have a 5 year old that recent... | NTA. This is a learning moment. The 13 year old will either learn to share, or that all she has to do is go crying to Daddy to get her way.
Your daughter is also having a learning moment. She understands that what happened was unfair, now is Mum gonna stand up for her, or is Mum gonna sweep it under the rug? ###### |
My friend Alicja was pissed drunk the other night, to the point she was sleeping on the street and I tried calling her a taxi to get her home while ensuring she wasn't choking on her vomit and nobody would do anything to her. 2 taxis straight up refused to take her becuase she's drunk and the last taxi said they would ... | NTA. This had me torn for a minute, but putting myself in your shoes, I would be in such a terrible mood if I had to spend all my money dragging my friend home because she over did it, cleaning up her vomit, all to have her roommate immediately tell me to gtfo while I’m still helping the drunk friend. Could you have r... |
So when my wife and I got married I was probably 40 pounds overweight. I gained weight for a couple years until I finally got sick of being a fatass and started exercising and dieting. Since then I’ve lost 50 pounds, and I’d say I’m within a healthy weight range now.
When I first married my wife I would say looks wise... | NTA. This guy is a major asshole and what he suggested was disgusting. Same goes for anyone who defends his behavior. ###### |
My husband(38M) and I(37F) have been married 17 years. We have two children, 18M and 13F. Every few years my husband gets what I lovingly call baby fever and wants to have another child. I usually respond with "the baby factory is closed" and he drops it. It tends to only happen more when friends, family, or coworkers ... | NTA. This guy is a human skin suit stuffed with red flags. Please keep us updated and don’t give in! ###### |
Throwaway because my parents browse this sub
So today my father set a challenge for me and my mother.
Who ever completed the 5km loop around our house would get anything they wanted( as long as said item was under 100 euros)
So I can do 5k in 27 minutes while it takes my mother 40 ish minutes so I was sure I was gon... | NTA. This goddamn post is riddled with typos. Every time it says "mother" or "mom" it should say "toddler". Please fix this. ###### |
Yeah so my friend had exposure at work and she got tested, alright that’s the reality of life now. Fast forward 10 says later, still no test results. Well i find out a couple Tuesday’s ago that her results were actually positive- she found out on a Monday- and doesn’t bother to tell me despite being around me and othe... | NTA. This disease kills people and gives others life long injuries/effects. Not just old or sick people.
Let her ignore you. That is not the sort of person you want in your life. She doesn't care about your safety, your husband's safety or anyone elses. ###### |
My husband (28M) and I (26F) have been talking about his interest in music and movies and he admits that he think men are better/more interesting in movies and in music. They’re better writers, singers, musicians, etc. He doesn’t think women are incapable of being just as good as men or better, he just says he hasn’t f... | NTA. Thinking men are inherently better at something than women is sexist, yes. And it sounds like he lets the gender of the artist influence his opinion more than the music. ###### |
So a little bit of context; I (14M) live in NYC and have 2 siblings: my sister (23F) and my brother (8M). We live in a brownstone where my parents have the biggest bedroom, I have the second largest, my brother has the third largest, and the other 2 bedrooms function as guest bedrooms. My sister lives in a college do... | NTA. They’re complete jerks for doing that to you when she’s going to leave again anyway. Are they going to kick your little brother out of his room because you’re older and need more room?! ###### |
Kind of a long post but bear with me.
Yesterday, my husband's side of the family wanted to celebrate Mother's Day since it was a nice day out and tomorrow (actual holiday) is supposed to rain pretty badly.
Every year since husband and I have been married, we've done a joint Mother's Day: an outdoor barbecue at his pa... | NTA. They/Your husband didn't seem to take your schedule into consideration whatsoever, and let you fall flat on your face when it came to the gift. Your husband should have supported you by 1) planning the celebration on a day more convenient for you or, if that wasn't possible, 2) get a gift in your name for your MI... |
Both of my parents have been on an extended visit since. I also have an 18 month old daughter which they want to help look after, which sounded cool at first, but here’s the catch, every morning and throughout the day, they both get completely stoned off their asses and are, what I would consider, WAY too careless with... | NTA. They've already demonstrated that they can't keep your kid safe while they're high. It's not unreasonable at all to ask them to smoke after they're done with childcare, and if they can't do that then it's certainly not your fault. ###### |
For context - I'm back in my hometown, staying with my parents, grandfather and sister in a small apartment which has only two bedrooms. Needless to say, this has led to cabin fever.
Today, my sister came to me with some news related to her job offer (they have delayed the joining date and reduced the salary) and I wa... | NTA. They're your parents, their marriage directly affects you. You have the right to comment on something that directly affects you. ###### |
Throwaway account, on mobile, first time poster, etc.
My partner (20M) “Jack” and I (20F) recently decided to get married. We have been starting to plan some broad aspects of our wedding so we’ll know more of what we’re looking for when we set them in stone. One thing we’ve started looking at is the number of guests ... | NTA. They're your friends, Lindy isn't, and it seems like it's on her that she isn't. You shouldn't have to invite people you dislike to your big day. ###### |
So, my cousin and his wife have 2 daughters. Cora is 8, Anna is 15. Back in August, Anna and I were talking and I don't know what brought it up, but she mentioned that all she knew about any sex ed stuff was her mom told her women have periods and she assumed 'babies come out the butthole.' I know I might be the asshol... | NTA. They're doing their kids a huge disservice, and you were right to respectfully point it out. ###### |
So I feel terrible and guilty but I also feel like I have no choice. Looking for advice and unbiased judgment.
I have a younger sister (26) who’s disabled. I won’t get into it but she’s unable to work a full time job and is on disability, which isn’t much. She’s been living with me for ~3 years. I pay for nearly every... | NTA. They will get an additional SSI payment for the baby. And they qualify for subsidized housing, but they'll probably have to get on a list, so they should get on that. ###### |
My parents are divorced. They've really been fighting a lot, and they fight a lot about material possessions.
Try and one up each other getting me things, but also try to force me to leave them behind when I go to the other's houses, like they want their houses to be the best ones with the best things. Argue if I co... | NTA. They were using the objects as a powerplay against each other. They were trying to make you pick a side with shiny objects. Good on you for rising above it. I hope you can slowly get some things back for the hobbies you care about. ###### |
English isn’t my first tongue so bear with me people
And yes there is a post in r/advice speaking about my problem
I (18 f) am a food photographer (very amateur one but working on it). My family uses me way too much for free gigs which i am trying to stop.
One day i was going to ask my mom something about ordering ... | NTA. They were trying to outright force you to do it. That's not ok and you totally have the right to refuse. Good luck on your exams! ###### |
I've previously made a post in regards to the situation with my neighbors but the short version is that they used to be my friends mutually with my wife but when my wife and I had issues and she left me temporarily they told her she should take me for everything I'm worth.
After finding out I decided to not have anyth... | NTA. They were invited and choose not to come. Do they know that your wife told you they said to “take you for everything your worth?”. Regardless, I’m sure it puts both sides in an awkward spot.
Edit: Changed ex-wife to wife and update slightly. ###### |
I know this sounds bad. I feel bad about it but I don't think I should pay them more.
Here's why:
- I was never on the lease
- I didn't pay any bond
- I was sub renting
- I gave them 10 workdays notice, then paid for another 2,5 weeks to make it a month.
- I communicated everything with them that they need to fin... | NTA. They were given adequate time to get another roommate or find other options. Yes it sucks, but they need to be posting the place up or figuring it out for themselves as well, you’ve done what you can to help them. Even going above & beyond paying those two weeks you gave them extra not living there. ###### |
So my sister was due to get married before the coronavirus struck and closed everything down so her Hen do was planned before hand but I couldn’t go/afford to go due to uni commitments and lack of funds, which she was fine with and understood. Obviously it was cancelled and they’ve ended up rescheduling the wedding in... | NTA. They were fine with you not being able to attend before, why is it an issue now? You have prior plans/engagements. It’s rude to make people move things around they already had planned/set in motion just for a bachelorette party. It’s not like you’d be missing her wedding. Over dramatic if you ask me. ###### |
So the other night the girls parents were over at my house and I decided I would be somewhat of a nice person and make everyone a nice dinner even with the rocky past I have with them. (They don’t agree with me traveling for work a month at a time)
Well whenever I would leave the living room to check on things in the ... | NTA. They were being jerks and you don't accept that in your house. Have you talked to them about their dislike for your travelling beforehand? ###### |
After I was born, my parents, who were drug addicts and have been arrested prior for petty crimes, we're seemed unfit parents and when I was an infant my grandparents were awarded full custody.
I'm sixteen years old and my grandparents are practically my whole world. They have told me many times that if I wanted to re... | NTA. They WANTED you. Never forget that. If they didn't, they would not only have not raised you all those years, but they wouldn't have fought for you in court presently. ###### |
My mother was no saint. She had her demons like the rest of us but hers put up more of a fight. In her previous marriage she went through a bad drug addiction and did a lot of damage to her ex husband and their kids, Duncan (36M) and John (34M), who were still teenagers at the time.
Long story short she ran off with ... | Nta. They told you to stop contact, and you did. That choice was theirs. They could have seen she had changed and made an attempt to have you both in their lives, even if she hurt them. Sorry for your loss. I'm glad you got to have some good memories with her. ###### |
I've just come home from spending a long weekend with my family for the first time since the pandemic. I usually go see them once a month but for obvious reasons I haven't been there since Feb.
Now, for some back story. I come from a single parent household. It's always been my mum, my sister(20f) and I(24f).
Ever si... | NTA. They sound like toxic people. You should be able to separate yourself from them as much as you need to. Props to you for living a healthier lifestyle! ###### |
This happened a long time ago - when I was about 14 and on a family holiday to a holiday park kind of place (Center Parcs for anyone in Europe). When I was a young teenager, I was kinda chubby and didn’t get much attention from boys like some of my friends did.
So anyway, one Valentine’s Day, my family wrote a fake c... | NTA. They sound like horrible people. ###### |
I typed this on my phone, so sorry if I make any mistakes lol.
I do a lot of freelance work through instagram, work that consists of editing photos and videos. I am entering my junior year in high school, so this is how I make my own money. I do get a lot of clients, and I have frequent clients who come back constantl... | NTA. They sound like cheats and thieves, and you did the right thing to get your money without causing further harm to anyone. ###### |
Pretty much every time I go out I see numerous people wearing masks incorrectly in ways that make the masks completely useless. Most commonly having the mask only covering their mouth and not their nose. This seems like common sense, you breathe through your nose so the mask needs to also cover your nose.
The worst i... | NTA. They shouldn't be wearing their masks incorrectly during a pandemic and people should know. ###### |
My sister and I are twins and both got $100 for Christmas and get $100 for our birthdays, and that is the only money we get without working. I worked part time at a local deli and my sister worked on and off at a movie theater. My parents then bought my sister a prom dress for $300, after telling me to get a pc I would... | NTA. They not only did they drop $300 on one kid and not the other based on a sexist assumption, but they also made you quit your job, thus losing you your only source of income. They are horrible people. ###### |
So Let me start off by saying that I am in the 8th grade and my sister is in the 11th
Since online class has started I have been struggling with the work load, combined with other tutoring lessons I usually have to work into the weekend which does not please my parents at all, which I understand because then I can’t ... | NTA. They need to realize that what they are doing is more harmful than good. Don’t be discouraged because many people have a hard time with online studying. You will make it through this 😄 ###### |
Ok, this is a weird one.
I've been having major cabin fever recently, working from home and generally being stuck at home, especially when the weather has been warming up.
Getting outside helps a lot but I've mainly stayed in my own yard. I have a hammock up between two trees and I've slept in there at night under t... | NTA. They need to get over themselves. You're in your own backyard, and while it may be uncommon behavior, you're not doing anything wrong. If they want more privacy, they can put up a fence, plant trees, close their blinds/curtains, whatever. It's on them.
ETA: My response is based on the assumption that you have yo... |
Hello,
So I run a shop with a big window in a very busy street. For the last month, a dog has been pooping around the area of my shop, and the owners do not pick up after it. I've had my suspicions about who it was, and got visual confirmation last week.
The day after I got visual confirmation, I caught them again i... | NTA. They let their dog shit IN PUBLIC and didn't pick it up. Why would they expect to be shamed in private for that.
Also, hilarious move on your part. 👏👏👏 ###### |
So in the UK the minimum hourly wage is based on age. For an 18-21 year old, me, it’s £6.45 however for a 25+ it’s around £8.50.
Because of this low wage and working 30 hours (26.5 with breaks) a week at a crappy minimum wage retail job I only make about £170 a week. £680 a month. £8,160 a year. That doesn’t take int... | NTA. They know they pay you very little, and while they probably don't like being confronted the way they reacted to that is really over the top. You made a fair point, while maybe not the most diplomatically brought point :) ###### |
So some backstory. I have non epileptic seizures that were pretty bad for a while. At that time, we also didn’t know they weren’t epileptic. I was in and out of hospital, in ICUs and medically induced comas, and couldn’t work. It also wrecked my mental health for a while. At the same time, my brother has been living re... | NTA. They have you so convinced that you were a burden that you say you understand them resenting you for having seizures. That is awful. You deserve for people who love you to support you and help take care of you. They also clearly think you were faking it, which is gross.
I think you’d be justified in going very ... |
I’m a senior in HS. In December one of my classmates got into a bad car accident that did a lot of damage. She had several surgeries, and is in need of more for her face. Her insurance won’t cover it, hence the GoFundMe.
I was never friendly with this girl. She spread nasty rumors about a friend of mine, and I always... | NTA. They even cropped out your signature! ###### |
Here's the situation. I've been living in this shared apartment with 2 other poeple for 3 years now. The other two havent always been the same two people but keep constantly changing like every 6-12 months. So I'm not really building a relationship with them here. And for 3 years I've been living there I've bought/brou... | NTA. They can buy their own stuff. You’re very nice to think of your roommates (whom you barely have a relationship with), but you shouldn’t have to re-buy everything.
Also, if you’re not planning to move in with your gf for like 2 years, that’s a ways a way, and I think you’re putting the cart before the horse to ev... |
My brother and his wife are having a hard time with paying their rent right now, so they asked if they can stay with us for awhile.
After talking it over with my husband we agreed that they could move into our RV and we could hook up the water and electricity from our house. It’s not a huge RV, but it’s got one full... | NTA. They asked for a huge favor and then tried to dictate the terms of it and push back your boundaries. That’s a red flag and suggests their entire tenure in your driveway would be spent with them finding ways to be in your house, in your way and in your wallet. If they don’t like the terms of your offer they’re fre... |
Sister: sis
Brothers-in-law: bil
Me
I am renting a room in their home and am paying the agreed amount of rent on time. Some info about my sis and bil. They recently had a baby and have another on the way. They are in financial problems because they are constantly updating the house. New flooring, new granite counter... | NTA. They are seriously taking advantage of you here. It sounds like they need your rent check pretty badly, and they need your help around the house and babysitting even more. You are doing way more than is fair to ask of you and they are definitely AHs in return. These times are hard for everyone including you, do n... |
My mom sent me a video on Facebook known as the "plandemic" video. Basically this video has unproven claims about Dr. Anthony Fauci and the handling of the Covid-19 pandemic. I went to the YouTube channel and saw many other "conspiracy" videos such as how 5G can cause cancer. I decided to report the YouTube channel fo... | NTA. These YouTube videos were spreading false information that people might use to do dangerous things. You reported it, YouTube agreed, it got taken down. ###### |
Before I tell you the story I will say I don't have an issue with people believing what they want. With that said, on with the story.
Before the lockdown I was sitting on my SIL's doorstep talking and a van pulled into our shared driveway (Rural community). A woman got out with a little girl (about 4 or 5). The woman ... | NTA. Theres nothing wrong with people asking you if you are interested in hearing about their faith, but this woman refused to take your polite no for an answer and tried to use her daughter to get you to listen, which is not okay. Since she was on your SIL property I think It's your right to tell her off for that. It... |
Sorry if the title makes no sense, but I’ll do my best to explain it.
So basically, my friends dad always comments on things in my life but makes it like things only happen to me because I’m gay. Here’s an example: I’m studying law, her dad said that I’m studying law because “gay people like fucking bad boys” - meani... | NTA. Theres no such thing as "not being homophobic but not liking seeing it AND harassing someone for it." He got what we deserved. HE'S the one with the problem. If he doesn't like those jokes towards him, he shouldn't have made them.
Stay strong! ###### |
This is a weird one, sorry in advance. This was 5 months ago and it’s still a fight my bf and I are having. Clearly since pregnancy and miscarriages aren’t easy topic for people to talk about, I’ve come here.
I (27F) was about 6 weeks pregnant when I started bleeding really heavily randomly. To cut a long story short... | NTA. there’s no playbook on how you’re supposed to react to a miscarriage it’s a deeply personal experience. Your boyfriend is being immature and weirdly possessive. It just kind of creeped me out how he said you should have more respect for “his kid” like it wasn’t also a part of you. ###### |
I have a non identical twin brother named Justin. I'm under no illusion that he's the better looking between us. He's a great guy if not a bit philandering.
Since we were bored yesterday, we video called my friend Jay and his wife and we just caught up with each other over a couple glasses of wine. We eventually got t... | NTA. There’s an unspoken rule that you name a celebrity, or some other person you’d definitely never actually be able to do it with, not *a relative of someone else who is there and definitely not your brother in law*. ###### |
Over the past two years I’ve brought up wanting to meet my (35f) boyfriend’s (32m) best friend a couple times (“I want to meet so-and-so”, and “so when am I going to meet so-and-so?”) and the responses were, respectively, nothing, and “whenever”. Since then I’ve fought about it with him twice and the latest one he told... | NTA. There's very few instances where this would be acceptable conduct. This isn't one of them. I'd stay away from anyone that requires that excessive amount of space after 2 years of a relationship. Emotionally distant people aren't for everyone. ###### |
I (24M) still live at home, I'm aiming to move out within the next two years.
My sister (18F) usually lives with my dad but has been spending more time with us, shes been with her boyfriend for 3 years, I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2.
My mother is obsessed with the idea of having a grandchild, she wont... | NTA. There's nothing funny about pressuring someone to have a child, especially an 18 yo. ###### |
So I (25m) and my fiance (29f) are renting the house we live in from my mom (51f) with no written rental agreement. My mom wants us to assume the mortgage from her and we live here for the next 17 years until the mortgage is paid off.
The problem is that fiance and I both have to travel an hour or more to work and mo... | NTA. There's no written agreement and you are not responsible for your mother's camper. ###### |
My roommates (21-22F) and I (21F) were tanning in our backyard when my neighbor (N) peeked over our fence to ask about the beehive he found near our garage. Right then, beekeepers (B1/B2) showed up and asked to use our driveway so I left to move my car.
N and B1 then started making sexual comments about my roommate (... | NTA. There was no apology to accept because there was no apology given. ###### |
A few days ago, my (16F) mom (50) told me that she recorded me singing in the shower from outside the door. Later, one of her friends was over and asked me if I would sing. My mom said that she showed him the video. I didn't say much then, but today, I brought it up and told her she shouldn't record me without my permi... | NTA. There something in the air? Lots of moms absolutely losing their shit at their kids for absolute jack lately. ###### |
So ever since the protests started my brother (19) has been making racist comments to my family about it. I'm (21) a criminal justice major and have learned a lot about systemic racism so I've been trying to help my family understand what's happening and why. I warned my brother to never say any of the stuff that he sa... | NTA. There should never be any sympathy for racists; especially for one who refuses to get educated on the issue ###### |
So...like, in my mind I don't think I'm an asshole but my family is treating me like I have disowned my father for this so here goes:
Around 2017, I cut all of my hair off. All of it. I stopped getting relaxers and let my hair go natural because I really wanted to try it, and I LOVE it. I have kept my hair short and ... | NTA. There is only so much badgering a person can take. Sorry he's being such a jerk. It sounds like you were firm and clear and probably pretty annoyed, but you stuck to stating that you found his behavior unacceptable and didn't attack him personally. That's completely reasonable and not rude, especially as a respon... |
I'm in a dilemma because I don't know if I'm acting like a bitch or if it's best to just keep my distance. I have a cousin that I was very close to growing up but is now, to plainly state the truth, nothing more than white trash.
She has never left her parents house but has continued to produce children for her mom t... | NTA. There is nothing wrong with protecting yourself and your immediate family from such a person. You also do not have to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. She doesn't want help yet, so anything done at this point outside if getting her to rehab is enabling her poor decisions and it is ok to choose to n... |
Okay so I am a behavioral therapist for autistic kids. And with COVID and everything going on, sessions have been moved around but haven’t stopped. I have this one kid who we will call John. John is 8 years old and very aggressive. My job with John is to help him understand simple things better like time, patience, soc... | NTA. There is nothing wrong with admitting you can't help someone as a therapist, it doesn't matter that it is a child on the spectrum in this case. If you aren't able to help, the best thing you can do is admit it and help the mother find another therapist who can. You've done your best, it hasn't worked, time to let... |
AITA for refusing to go to my sisters wedding?
This happened almost a year ago, but I’m still getting shit for it, so I guess I’ll share here and see where my judgement lies.
So my sister (s) got married to (A), the man who did bad things to me me. We didn’t press charges because he wore protection so there was no
... | NTA. There is no situation in which anyone should force you to treat your abuser as family. Sorry you had to go through that! *hug* ###### |
My husband and I are new homeowners and moved into our first home a little less than a year ago.
We’ve had a rocky relationship with one of our neighbors from the start, an older couple— the husband is pretty chill and kind to us but the wife has been confrontational and made sure when we moved in that we knew exactl... | NTA. There is a good reason for those fire regulations and includes not letting them burn your house down. That’s it. ###### |
So my sister and her BF recently bought vapes. She bought hers for her own money and I don't care that she's vaping. What I care about, though, is that she vapes in our room (we share a room). So we've gotten in an argument about her vaping here. I really hate the fake fruit smell and it's giving me a headache. AITA? #... | NTA. There are plenty of other places where she can vape without causing you discomfort. ###### |
Got some degree of background, I (30F) was pregnant and miscarried. I now have to have the left over tissue removed from my body. I was only 9 weeks at the time, but I’m obviously hormonal and I’m sad.
My husband (31M) was never excited about the pregnancy. To be honest, it was unexpected. We have no other children an... | NTA. There are going to be drugs in your system and you Will not be in shape to socialize. Additionally, you may need help at home.
This is hardcore basic wedding vows stuff and he should tell his friend it's not a good time. ###### |
AITA?
TLDR; husband can't stand tattoos and won’t let me get one- I’m about to just do it- but he might just break over it.
Hi, I’m F25 and my husband M25 have a good marriage, we’ve had normal marriage problems but I’d like to think we did a good job resolving them through good communication and positive change. (Fo... | NTA. There are decisions that as a married couple, a partner is not allowed to make unilaterally. Finances, large purchases, etc. Anything in relation to your own body does NOT fall under that category. Wait until you're thirty? WTF? That is utterly ludicrous, condescending and frankly borderline misogynistic (like yo... |
We are muslims and unlike them, I sorta neglect my religious tasks. Sometimes I don’t pray, and sometimes I’m not fasting in this ramadan. So basically, after each feast, my roommates go pray together, and they ask me to join them. I prayed with them before but yesterday and the day before I said nah, I’ll pray by myse... | NTA. Them trying to enforce their religious practices upon you makes them TA. ###### |
My roommates (21-22F) and I (21F) were tanning in our backyard when my neighbor (N) peeked over our fence to ask about the beehive he found near our garage. Right then, beekeepers (B1/B2) showed up and asked to use our driveway so I left to move my car.
N and B1 then started making sexual comments about my roommate (... | NTA. Their saying, "Sorry YOU misconstrued the creepy things I said" isn't an apology, and no one misconstrued anything.
It would have been creepy and inappropriate if they were 24 and stood there making those comments, let alone any other age. Just be careful. There are some pretty big weirdos in the world who don'... |
My 3 best friends and I were on our way to the beach earlier today, when my friend who was driving (K) was pulled over for speeding. She has never been pulled over before so she was freaking out a bit thinking the ticket was going to be like $400 and immediately told us we would be splitting this ticket four ways. My f... | NTA. Their lead foot was what caused them to get pulled over. Can't blame that on anyone else ###### |
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