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My sister and I share a bathroom. The bathroom has two towel hangers.
Recently my sisters towel hanger broke off and now it needs to be completely replaced. She absolutely refuses to go and buy a replacement and install it.
Instead she has just been using my towel hanger. She will slide mine over so hers can fit to... | NTA. You guys already determined that each of you would have their own separate towel hanger. And I am sure her towel was not drying along with yours. ###### |
Ok...so, my girl and I are sitting on the couch watching some TV. She's on her phone wearing yoga pants and a Tshirt, basically laying on her stomach with her ass right next to me and her legs across my lap. I'm playing my Switch chilling.
Then suddenly she lets rip a massive ass clapping fart, and it smells fucking ... | NTA. You get to react to someone farting in your face, regardless of whether they’re embarrassed by it or not. ###### |
(TW: miscarriage) This is my third pregnancy. Multiples run very strongly in my family so I always knew there was the potential for more than one. I was shocked though when my first ultrasound revealed triplets. I wasn’t exactly thrilled as this was to be our last baby and I was going for three kids not five but I came... | NTA. You get to feel however you want. It is your life and your process. Just because you feel one way now doesn’t mean that won’t change in the future, and if your feelings stay the same then those are still your feelings - they only exist for you to feel them, not for others to judge. ###### |
So back story, 6 or 7 years again my mom and dad were married. Some friends came over and my mom was all over this guy, and my dad noticed and said something about it. Then she left with him, and monday served my dad with divorce papers. Reason 1 why I dont like him, he should have said no.
Fast forward some, I'm in ... | Nta. You get to decide who you want attending your wedding. I’m not sure, were I you, that I’d even want my mother there. ###### |
I’m a closeted lesbian, since my family is Christian and since I live in an asian country I keep it to myself. I’m not ashamed about who I am but I am afraid of people’s reactions.
Anyway I told one person, a friend (let’s call her Lana).When I told her she was surprised but eventually accepted me.
A few months later I... | NTA. You get to decide who knows and when you tell them. Your safety could be at risk and she is publicly outing you? Cut her off ASAP ###### |
Back story: My 13 year old sister suffers with anxiety and wants my mother to drive her around for hours. We were sharing a car that I bought, the mileage was rapidly increasing, I had to rely on my mother to pick me up as she always had the car. I cut my losses, gave my mother the car and purchased a new car.
Presen... | NTA. You gave your mom the first car and that still wasn’t enough for her. She’s taking advantage of you. ###### |
Last year my mom was diagnosed with pretty much a death sentence, ALS. I talked to my ex and he didn’t wanna just let me take our son( now 14). So we agreed to talk to him and let him know what was happening, kinda, I just told him grandma was really sick and I was thinking of moving to help out and he had the choice o... | Nta. You gave your child a choice and he chose then you respected his decision. Sounds like you need better friends. ###### |
I'll try to keep it short. I was using my boss's personal truck for a 4-month long work project. He's the President of the company. That project ended at the end of January. I got quotes before the end of the project on getting it shipped back to him because I knew he'd put it off and I'd get stuck with his truck and a... | NTA. You gave him lots of warning. You are planning on depositing his truck in a safe place that isn’t in front of your place. ###### |
Writing on mobile. Sorry for the length, but I wanted to include the messages as they were sent without using imgur.
My mum has a habit of taking photos of me and used to post them to the book of faces without asking. I have always been self concious about my apperance, and now that I'm 36 weeks pregnant and huge, my ... | NTA. You gave a simple warning that triggered her because she’s previously disrespected your requests but that is not your fault. ###### |
alright I've been working on a comic book for a bit, and I had used another Reddit page to look for an artist, I found a lot of good ones and I was about to choose them, but then I realized with the number of issues I would need and their prices, there would be no way for me to afford them.
In walks my buddy, who has ... | NTA. You found an artist - your friend. You like their style, they obviously want to work alongside you, you support each other. What more could you want! ###### |
I'm a straight A student and an okay with a B if I know my work clearly reflects it. For this class, I have no grading platform (blackboard, google classroom) to tell me the grades of my assignments. I can partially rely on the professor to return my grades. Now, I've been told that I'm not good with explaining, but be... | NTA. You FIGHT for those grades! I've been a pain to a few teachers for stuff like that and yeah you feel a little guilty but your GPA definitely doesn't. ###### |
I'm a straight A student and an okay with a B if I know my work clearly reflects it. For this class, I have no grading platform (blackboard, google classroom) to tell me the grades of my assignments. I can partially rely on the professor to return my grades. Now, I've been told that I'm not good with explaining, but be... | NTA. You earned your A fair and square. Your teacher's mistake is not your fault. You have every right to get the grade you earned. ###### |
My brother has a fursuit of some blue furry character, and I'm not sure why exactly, but seeing it makes me uncomfortable. Something about the huge eyes and huge head, in real life, but which are also inanimate while the large limbs are, maybe.
I try not to be a jerk about it or anything, but he thinks I was being a h... | NTA. You don’t seem to be shaming him in any way. Those kind of suits unnerve me too. Idek why. Disneyland freaked me out massively. ###### |
Woke up this morning to a group text my roommates are trying to kick me out. I want to know if others would think I’m an asshole in this situation or if my roommates are butthurt about what I did.
I live in a house with three other guys (four of us in the house). Last night around 2 am this drunk girl shows up to our... | NTA. You don’t owe them anything, especially if one of the roommates already owes you money. I wouldn’t pay any of the citation costs, either. ###### |
Asking for a friend who does not have Reddit.
My neighbor and I have lived in the same subdivision for over fifteen years. We used to be friendly because our kids were friends, but as they grew apart, so did we. We were never especially close, she’s one of those people who asks for advice and then does what she wants ... | NTA. You don’t owe anyone anything. Especially if you two aren’t close. It’s not like you’re making special medical grade equipment, you’re simply enjoying a hobby with your close friends/family and that does not give her the right to intrude upon that. ###### |
22F and 24F
Best friend of 9+ years. I live in NYC and she lives elsewhere.
She wants to move to NYC because she hates her current city and job. She is depressed and her mental health is suffering.
She would need to sign our lease (3 bed) by June 1 to be our third roommate for a Jul 1st move in. The landlord said s... | NTA. You don’t move in somewhere you can’t afford to pay for. ###### |
My older sister and I play pranks on each other occasionally. They’re usually minor stuff, like once she gave me ‘ice cream’ but it was frozen mayonnaise and once I taped down the spray tool in the kitchen so when she turned the faucet on it got her wet. Nothing major and nothing dangerous, just normal sibling fooling ... | NTA. You don’t joke [like that] about a disability. Also, if only one person is laughing ... chances are it’s a pretty shitty ‘joke.’
I’m also struggling to see what the outcome she hoped for was in this ‘prank?’ Like, you are in disbelief and actually try to walk .. and fall? And then she’s like ‘haha, gotcha!’
...... |
I (f26) have always struggled with my identity. I live in Europe and I’m 1/4 black, 3/4 white, but my skin is darker than you would expect for being only 1/4. I found it difficult growing up because even though I am technically more white than black, my skin isn’t white, so I’ve always felt like I didn’t belong to any ... | NTA. You don’t have to pick a race, you’re biracial. ###### |
I run a very successful online business, it started off as a simple hobby but slowly grew to the point that I quit my job to focus on this full-time. I know earn more per month than I was asking per year and I'm really enjoying working.
I've been with my GF for about 3 years now and she never showed interest in either... | Nta. You don’t have to hire her just because she is your girlfriend. Sounds like she is trying to use you. ###### |
My mom died when I was 13 years old and
My dad remarried when I was 15
His new wife and stepsons. Was the boss
Anything and everything he will do it
I no longer was his son, or problems
They made fun of me , was always giving everything by my own father. He takes them out to any restaurant and buy them anything
I wa... | Nta. You don’t have to help him. It’s your money. ###### |
Quick overview - Been together almost 4 years, he lives in my house, didn’t bring much with him when he moved in, hasn’t contributed much to the home in all the time living here (I replace things that have broken/buy new purchases etc.), he is self employed and doesn’t earn a great deal so only contributes a nominal am... | NTA. You don’t have a partner, you have a dependent. He’s lying to you and using you for his own financial gain. ###### |
(On mobile so apologies for spelling and formatting)
I (19F ) have nipple piercings. I keep a simple barbell in them, nothing overly fancy or protruding. Once online classes started I stopped wearing a bra to online lectures. I figure my boobs are stable enough (they don’t really move on their own) and they probably ... | NTA. You don’t ever have to wear a bra. Period. Your teacher has their own issues if they have a problem it. ###### |
My (15M) family wants to make a "family" youtube channel. My 5-year-old sister is a huge fan of these Disney parody channels. I think its called like TotalistTv. Basically they do real-life parodies of disney highschool and superhero things. I at least think it is really cringe, but I get its aimed at kids so whatever.... | NTA. You don't want the social backlash that comes with it. If you bomb, you'll never live it down and the rest of HS will be a horror show for you. It's not worth it. How can your parents not have taken this into consideration? ###### |
So back story, 6 or 7 years again my mom and dad were married. Some friends came over and my mom was all over this guy, and my dad noticed and said something about it. Then she left with him, and monday served my dad with divorce papers. Reason 1 why I dont like him, he should have said no.
Fast forward some, I'm in ... | NTA. You don't that man any respect because he hasn't earned it. Your wedding is about your happiness. Don't give in to the pressure.
And congratulations on your upcoming wedding. ###### |
I (21F) had a friend who constantly meets random men online, which is ok but many of the guys she's met have ended up threatening her or stealing from her. We were talking about dating apps when I said the guys she meets make me uncomfortable and I don't really want to be around them. She seemed to understand and was o... | NTA. You don't show up with a total stranger, especially without any warning. ###### |
So around 4-5 days ago, my (16M) mum got in a nasty argument with my older brother (17M) and as a result, demanded that all of our phones (mine, my younger sister's, 17M and my other older brother's) be confiscated and have the PINs replaced.
(NOTE: She also wanted our fingerprints to be removed as well.)
Although I ... | NTA. You don't punish all the kids cause one pissed you off. And trust is a two way street. She's not earning much, acting like this.... unfortunately... as a kid... short of pleading you case, or paying for your own phone... you're kinda boxed in... ###### |
Mom and dad separated when I (33m) was 3. He was in my life as an occasional weekend dad until my teen years. Started drifting until there was no contact by my late teens. He skipped my high school graduation, said he was "too sleepy". Didn't even invite him to my college graduation.
During grad school he reached out... | NTA. You don't owe someone a relationship when all they've done is hurt you. It sounds like you have healthy boundaries where your dad is concerned. You probably need the same for your cousins. ###### |
So my friend is planning her wedding, she scrapped what they already were planning because of the virus and moved the date. She already has a dress and is planning the theming again, and she asked me if she could wear my necklace because she thinks it goes well with the dress and the other stuff.
Now my necklace was a... | NTA. You don't owe it to her to lend something so valuable and personal. She's TA for dismissing the emotional significance it has. ###### |
I was talking to my mom when the topic of kids came up. I am 27 years old Male and she started asking me when I was going to get married. I told her I broke up with my gf and I dont want a relationship for the time being. As a matter of fact I never want kids ever. When I told her this, she accused me of being insensit... | NTA. You don't owe anyone kids. It's your life and your responsibility if you do have them. They just want you to have kids so they can call themselves a grandparent ###### |
So me(13f) and my dad went to the dog park so my dogs could run. I have two 30-40 lb dogs Max and Bell. Then this lady comes in the dog park with 2 husky mixes. They are look like they are 60lbs ish. So my dogs go to smell her dogs butt and then her dog just attacks my dog. Not like a gentle bite but angry and my do... | NTA. You don't have to let your dog get mauled just to be right. ###### |
A friend(f) of my girlfriend asked if she could borrow my laptop.
I assumed she was gonna check her email or social media or something.
She installed chinese government owned software that became part of the startup process.
And she installed a (chinese government) chrome extension that gave the extension full acc... | NTA. You don't download shit to people's computers without asking. ###### |
I was on a uni trip and spent the day talking to one to the organisers of the trip associated with the company that ran the trip (we met on the trip, I didn’t know him before). It was a bit flirty and we talked a couple times throughout the day and at the pres we talked for probably over/around half an hour. I didn’t h... | Nta. You don't actually owe him anything and I don't see why you should have to apologize for like a day's worth of socialisation followed by nothing. His feelings are valid but like you still don't owe him shit. ###### |
So we’re both vegan and have been for years.
Last year we got a beautiful cat who is the grand baby neither of our parents will ever have.
She’s obviously an obligate carnivore and we’ve been feeding her kibble and wet food.
Unfortunately, where she came from wasn’t a very good situation and she had horrible teet... | NTA. You do care about animal welfare. That's why you're taking care of your animal with food that she will actually eat that otherwise would've just been thrown away. ###### |
My roommate and his girlfriend have been on and off for quite some time. When they fight and break up, she gets drunk and messages me about how much she hates him, and he tells me how much he hates her. When I dont respond to her, she gets upset and starts disrespecting me with insults. He has told me that she is very ... | NTA. You discussed it with him and you made a smart decision not being around a girl willing to make false reports to ruin people's lives. Dodged a bullet there. ###### |
My older brother volunteered to babysit my 2 nephews while my other brother (his dad) and his wife work. I told them from the beginning I didn’t want to help watch them cause I work 12 hour shifts 5 days a week and the days i have off i wanna rest. Lately the brother who volunteered has been complaining that hes tired ... | NTA. You didn’t volunteer for a reason ###### |
So for context, I (20M) came out as gay to my parents in February last year. My mum was very accepting and kind but my stepdad was very much not so. He hates everyone that isn't straight and white, so me coming out as gay made me a disappointment in his eyes.
Fast forward a couple of months and my mum wanted to meet m... | NTA. You didn’t paint the house or do anything to it which would be unreasonable - it’s their house after all, so if you’d painted it or something, that would cross a line probably. You changed the strings on your guitar and put up a reasonably small flag, the only problem with which is that it’s pride colours.
Your... |
I was driving down Colfax which is a main Street in Denver the other day and I saw a lady taking pictures of a homeless person that was wearing a winter coat in 75° weather and passed out on their stomach like a starfish at bus stop in front of Sprouts which is a more annoying version of trader joes. It could have been... | NTA. You didn’t have to call her a cunt, but she shouldn’t have been doing what she was doing either ###### |
Sorry guys about the poor grammar and format. I'm just shaken up and I really need to vent.
(I am Asian and my bf's family is black)
I have been living at my boyfriends house since quarantine and instead of cleaning or watching TV together we decided to play UNO. I placed a +4 card and he had to add four additional c... | NTA. You didn’t even say anything racist; they heard it wrong.
They didn’t give you time to explain to it, and they didn’t apologize for the insanely racist things they said to you. If that’s your foreseeable MIL, it’s not worth it at all. ###### |
Just happend a couple of hours ago so I'm still trying to process what just happend. For context, my mother has a history of emotional outbursts. Its even worse when she is drinking. Everytime my parents get into an argument we always suggest getting a divorce because how ugly it gets. Now on to the main issue. I came ... | NTA. You didn’t do anything to destroy the family she did. If you didn’t call the cops, it could have been a lot worse especially if your sister was already hiding objects in the fear she would hurt herself or others. Don’t think it’s your fault OP. ###### |
22F and 24F
Best friend of 9+ years. I live in NYC and she lives elsewhere.
She wants to move to NYC because she hates her current city and job. She is depressed and her mental health is suffering.
She would need to sign our lease (3 bed) by June 1 to be our third roommate for a Jul 1st move in. The landlord said s... | NTA. you didn't tell her she can't be your roommate- you just said she needs a job. she can't just expect to live off of you because you CAN afford it- she's 24, ffs. you gave her an adequate timeline and an achievable requirement. i wouldn't accept an unemploymed roommate either.
edit: aww my first award and i didn'... |
I'm a student who was looking to move to a different room/studio. I found a great place and texted back and forth with the girl who needed to find a new tenant. She told me the room was mine and to send over my info sheet and that the agency would then send me a contract. I sent in my info and qaited for over a week wi... | NTA. You didn't sign a lease, no contract is no roof over your head. You have every right to shop elsewhere. I understand that she is mad, but she should be mad at the agency, not at you. ###### |
I (18F) and my half-brother (42M) have only really had a relationship for the past 5-6 years. He got married to my SIL (39F) who I'm going to call "Dinah". They recently had a baby and while the relationship was never the best with Dinah (pretty much a narcissist) but my family and myself tried to keep strings attached... | NTA. You didn't break up the family relationship, your brother did by sending creepy, incestuous texts, and Dinah for defending that kind of unacceptable nonsense. ###### |
I'm a white person (20F), although some people have called my country equivalent of the n-word before because i look somewhat racially ambiguous.
Now i was playing games with my friend (22M) when he casually called me the n-word, not in the use of friend, but "you fucking n-word". I asked him to please not call ME th... | NTA. You didn't ask him not to use the word, you asked him to not direct it at you. ###### |
I’m a 26F, and I’ve recently joined reddit to help me gain insight on some of my current life problems. I will try and keep this short.
I befriended a 32M at work, and we were friends for 3 years. I was transparent with my current boyfriend about our friendship. We never hung out outside of work, but we did play some ... | NTA. You did what you needed to do to feel safe. You should still pursue the case through HR or if you're in the US report to the EEOC or your state's anti discrimination office. HR should have protected you and didn't. That's the definition of a hostile work environment ###### |
So, for backstory, basically my cousin and aunt have come to my house because we'll be going to Florida in a few days. he's sixteen and I'm thirteen. The last time I saw him was three years ago, and we were pretty close.
So, my cousin, who was originally female, came out to me about an hour before he made it to my hou... | NTA. You did the right thing by immediately correcting yourself and just moving on. His reaction could have much more to do with being a teenager than you. ###### |
I have a good friend from high school that I still hang out with (we are 5 years out from high school). We hang out a decent amount but mainly just to drink and smoke and go to raves together. He’s a really nice guy and a lot of time will smoke me out or gives me rides places without me asking. I’d say we hang out at l... | NTA. you did nothing to warrant him trying to wake you up while he’s naked. that’s not ok on his part. i wouldn’t want to be his friend anymore either. ###### |
It takes 2 people 2 hours to open the store properly. My teammate wasn’t there at 9. I texted him at 9:15 asking if he was on his way. No answer. I went into solo mode in case he didn’t show up. He finally responds almost 2 hours later saying he was distraught over his childhood friend getting killed in a car crash. I ... | NTA. You did him a favor by not firing and were nice to him when he called. I’m sorry but when my DAD died the first thing I did was call my manager (who was super kind and took care of letting others at work know so they could take care of my responsibilities). We all go through bad stuff, doesn’t mean you get to jus... |
So I bought a pair of shoes that cost £120, when they arrived they had black marks on them (they're red shoes). The shoes normally come with a card that has the shoemaker sign them as a quality control measure. This pair did not come with that so I imagine this process was skipped, or they were shipped hoping no-one wo... | NTA. You did everything right. Both the money and the shoes are now yours. They can't resell the shoes anyway. ###### |
Last year I saved up a ton of money and I decided to buy a tv for my room, snacks, and my sister’s mini fridge (she gave it to me for 50). I redecorated my room and I really love it.
My sisters hadn’t seen my room until earlier this year. They all love it. It was fine in the beginning. I let them come in with my permis... | NTA. You deserve your own privacy. I have two locks on my door because my family will come in uninvited. Boundaries need to be set ###### |
First time poster, standard on mobile disclaimer.
I am not close to my mom. I am the scapegoat child and she dismisses my thoughts as if they don't matter. She is also a fundamentalist Christian, doesn't believe in COVID and thinks the government lies to her all the time.
She told me yesterday she had close contact t... | NTA. You could literally be saving lives by calling and forcing her hand. ###### |
Apologies for my shit English.
My dad is Mongolian, my mom is Polish. I never met my father as he died before I was born. I look entirely Mongolian though I'm basically Polish as I grew up in Poland my entire life and know nothing about Mongolia. My whole life people assumed I didn't know Polish and would speak to me... | NTA. You corrected him twice, started gently and ramping up. He's the one that basically ignored your corrections twice. The only way he's not TA is if he didn't speak Polish, but that doesn't seem to be the case. ###### |
I'll try to keep it short. I was using my boss's personal truck for a 4-month long work project. He's the President of the company. That project ended at the end of January. I got quotes before the end of the project on getting it shipped back to him because I knew he'd put it off and I'd get stuck with his truck and a... | NTA. You communicated the need for him to get his truck back multiple times. Including prior to being laid off. You’ve offered a secure parking option and you’re wise to get his property out of your personal possession since you’re no longer his employee. The fallout of anything were stolen while at your house coul... |
Before everyone judges me as an asshole, let me give a little backstory.
My brother in law got me a pair of really awesome boots 3 Christmases ago. I loved them. However, he got me the wrong size. I literally could not fit my foot into them. I asked my husband to ask my brother in law if he could exchange the shoes f... | NTA. You can’t wear them, the BIL didn’t get you the right size when you asked, and most importantly they’re yours to do what you wish. ###### |
So for contexts I(26f) watch this elder lady(81f) while her son and daughter in law are at work
So they have a pool that is fenced off so unless you go threw the house or the back gate you can’t get it it. Well while I was watching her these kids came up and asked to go swim and I told them no as I didn’t want to watc... | NTA. You can’t take responsibility for random children at a home you don’t own. Drowning is one of the main causes of death for children under 14. You don’t know how well they can swim and I’m guessing you’re not a trained lifeguard/certified in CPR? ###### |
Me and my now ex fiance moved out of our apartment. I took out all of my things, amd she had to rent a uhaul truck for all of her belongings because she owned 95 percent of the things in the apartment. I was not there to help her move because i had to work, and she did not want me up at the apartment while she was ther... | NTA. You can’t make a contract without all parties agreeing to the terms from the very beginning. If she never talked to you about it beforehand, she can’t make a contract after. ###### |
This happened a while ago, I work at a local pizza place, and it was dinner rush. I manage the phone, counter, and oven because we were understaffed
During rush a lady comes in and orders food, I get everything ready and ask if she wants a bag, she says no. I tell her the usual thank you for coming have a nice night.... | NTA. You can’t expect someone to do so many things at once. It’s not her fault for wanting the bag but it’s her job to put the stuff in the bag after you gave her your full attention. ###### |
My husband and I ended up freezing some embryos years ago due to medical issues. We used them to have our now 4 children, and we now feel that we have enough. At the time of this conversation, we still had three left over, and we had been debating what to do with them.
Her husband is horrible. They got married before ... | NTA. You can refuse to give your embryos to anyone regardless of what kind of person they are. It's your embryos. It's nobody but you and your husband's choice alone. Just hope they don't hate that child and treat them badly. ###### |
You've probably seen these books. But it's what it says: a book that is hollowed out to hold something, like an engagement ring, weed, money, etc.
When I was sixteen (I'm twenty-five now), my mom gave me this book called 'The Care and Keeping of Husbands', a self-help book. Yes, my mom is super conservative and into... | NTA. You can do with your possessions as you please. It was a gift, so it was yours.
Sounds like you tried to give it a value, since it's words didn't hold any. ###### |
Basically me and my 4 year gf broke up 3 months ago, I had to keep her at my house because she and her daughter (13) didn’t have a place to go.
Thing is, they didn’t appreciate that, she kept initiating fights and stirring sh*t up and her shitty daughter started cussing at me and screaming every time I saw her because... | NTA. You broke up. You still offered them a place to stay and it sounds like they did everything possible to disrespect you and act ungrateful and entitled. It sucks they have to struggle now, but you are absolutely within your rights to have kicked them out. I would have probably had called the cops on them for break... |
So last year I moved in to a new apartment with two friends. I was the one who provided most of the essentials such a washing machine, tv and (most importantly to the story) a small fridge that wasn't made for 3 person but that we managed to get by with. Shortly after I realized that I had a different lifestyle than on... | NTA. You bought it, it’s your property. He shouldn’t have done anything with it. Touching people’s things without their permission is wrong. It’s also your house. You have the final say. If you say he’s gone, he’s gone ###### |
AITA for wanting/insisting the new TV (that was supposed to replace the old tv in the living room) to go into the family living room instead of my husband’s man cave? He’s very insistent that we can’t use it to it’s fullest ability and it should go in his man cave but we have a toddler and he’s in school so his free ti... | NTA. You bought it for family use. The fact that your husband has a straight-up mancave is kinda fuckin' antiquated to begin with, but him wanting to hog this item that's supposed to be for the family is just low. ###### |
Last night we decided that I am going to come to her apartment around 8. When I got up today it was raining and the bus was a bit late so I arrived to her apartment around 8:10. When I knocked on the door she told me through the door that she is just going to take a quick shower. Her showers always take an hour and th... | NTA. You both agreed on 8 for you to arrive. She then waited until you got there to take a long shower. That's extremely inconsiderate.
>she said: "You know that I always take a shower first thing in the morning. You should have come at 9
I'm pretty sure that if you *did* show up at 9 instead, she would have done t... |
So this kid I'll call him John called this girl I'll call her Whitney the n word. I don't think calling someone the N word is acceptable nor is it ok. He basically called her that the day before school was cancelled for the the virus during school. The school was informed and is going to punish John obviously. I unders... | NTA. You believe that expelling this kid is beyond the scope of what his punishment should be so you don't sign it.
It is so easy to get in the herd mentality and get peer pressured. I congratulate you for sticking with what you believe to be right. ###### |
Preface: I am 27 year old male and i have arthritis in my lumbar spine as well as a bulge in the same area. My only relief is laying down supine on my bed. Every other activity hurts. Walking, sitting, standing, everything. I just finished a year of unsuccessful treatment and being young my doctor said I could be place... | NTA. You asked politely, he obliged willingly, it's all good. ###### |
My husband and I have been together for more than 10 years. He is an alcoholic that has only recently admitted his problem and stopped drinking.
For years he would not acknowledge the problem. He went to rehab once, one state away. He came home early because he "didn't actually have a problem ". Years of him passing ... | NTA. You asked him why he smelled like alcohol and he immediately escalated the situation to name-calling and accusations, then told you that you deserved it. Just knowing that, you are not the asshole. His history does not help his side of the story either: while is is great that he was able to regain his sobriety, i... |
Gonna keep this short.
My girlfriend called me a "tan" yesterday. She said it in a really joking way, mimicking that John Mulaney line ("that's what I thought you'd say, you fucking tan"), and it quite took me aback, because I knew her friends used words like that but she had mentioned her father found it tasteless so... | NTA. You asked her to stop mutiple times and she still continued making them. In my experience people who say rascist or xenophobic stuff "ironically" are just using humour to shield their rascism. As an irish man I find people who treat random British people like they played a part in colonising Ireland very stupid (... |
Backstory : GF and I have been together for 3 years. We have one child aged about 1 years old.
Our relationship has been rocky for the last month or so.
Anyway. About 1 month ago she started snapchating (snaping?) a guy and mutual friend of ours again, nothing strange about that, i don't mind. Then they start sending... | Nta. You asked her to stop because you are uncomfortable with the relationship that is okay. As a female, if my bf was doing that it would be a major problem. And yes, prior sexual contact makes all the difference when speaking to someone. But that is my opinion. I just would like to say you aren't being insecure, jus... |
This happened a couple years ago, but I recently remembered that it happened and can't stop thinking about if I was in the wrong.
I (20F) had just finished work and decided to grab a drink at Starbucks before catching my train home. Two girls (I'm assuming college age) walked in right after me, and as I was waiting in... | NTA. You aren’t obligated to tell someone your name is you’re not comfortable doing so. This girl was rude. ###### |
I come from a large family. Everyone is going through a tough time right now. In particular my baby sister (29) who has had her hours drastically cut. She was expecting an unemployment check today but didn’t receive it and is too stressed to call to find out why. I get it, anxiety sucks. She says she’s ok for now but o... | NTA. You aren’t a psychic bank teller. If your sister wants to borrow money, she needs to ask. ###### |
A bit of a background: we've been together for 9 years, living together for 8 years and were engaged after 7.
My SIL got engaged in October, after being in a relationship for 1 year. They are getting married this autumn. We were invited.
The problem is, when we were going to move together, she said she doesn't suppo... | NTA. You aren’t “making” your husband not go. He’s choosing not to go because he’s angry with her for mistreating you. Yes, he said he’d go if you do, but that may be because he doesn’t want you to be alone with SIL and not because he really wants to be there. ###### |
OK, this is a throwaway, on mobile, English isn’t my first language, etc.
So I (M20) live with another guy (M19), who I’ll refer to as Red. Red’s autistic, and he’s not a party person. I am. He also is extremely camera-shy, like he’ll go out of his way to hide if someone is taking a photo that he could appear in. That... | NTA. You are your roommate have a really nice and considerate setup, and that only works so long as others also extend that consideration. They don't seem to get that wanting to hang out with Red when he intentionally detaches isn't showing that they like him, it's just going to stress him out. ###### |
I'm 17M, I am of African descent and I have thick, curly, kind of messy hair that I love very much (probably around 2.5 inches) unfortunately, my grandmother passed away on the 3rd of July, at age 91, just two weeks after her husband died at 95. On some rare occasions while she was alive, she'd tell me I need a haircut... | NTA. You are your own person. It doesn’t matter what they consider good enough or appropriate for men in your family, or even your grandma. She had her sense of normalcy, but that has long since changed since she was 17. You keep those locks hydrated and set em free, man. ###### |
Ok so before i go into to much detail my boyfriend texted me that he’s looking for a transfer 10 hours away and wants to get an apartment. This aspired with a fight he had with his dad... my boyfriend is always trying to help and his father never appreciates what he dose it is defiantly a toxic environment he should ge... | NTA. You are very wise. Uprooting yourself from a stable situation to take a leap of faith across the state by moving in with your boyfriend is ... risky risky risky. I think that your suggestion of having him live on his own is a good one. You don't need to phrase it as an ultimatum - 'Live on your own and learn to m... |
This isn't dramatic, or too serious.
We're back in lockdown, and it's been raining so my kids have had no way to run off some energy, so they're extra bratty right now.
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My son (10) was arguing with his sister (6). He wanted the TV volume at 25, she wanted it at 20. I stepped in and put it at 23. Th... | NTA. You are teaching your son a good lesson about accountability. You didn’t steal his money he ‘stole’ it from his sister when he broke her property. ###### |
Hello!
As many probably already know, there is a strike planned tomorrow in the US for Amazon, Target, and Walmart workers, amongst a few others I'm sure I'm forgetting.
Well this past month I've been volunteering about once a week to shop for and deliver groceries to families in need, all families with children who... | NTA. You are still volunteering your time while respecting the rights of essential workers to protest. That is admirable especially considering a lot of other people are too busy to volunteer right now. Also, with a protest, it would be hard to deliver groceries anyway. ###### |
So my close friend (Q) & her bf (W) are getting engaged this weekend. They’ve been dating for 4 years but when they announced their intention to marry, Q’s family was completely against it & said some vile things to W, who is a lovely, wonderful guy. It hurt them both deeply, but they’ve decided to proceed anyw... | NTA. You are right, weddings and engagements are for the couple ###### |
(20F) I live with 4 other girls. Due to corona virus, the 4 other girls have chosen to quarantine at either their parents house or with their significant others, which leaves me in the house by myself. We have agreed to split all the base fees for utilities 5 ways, but I am in charge of everything else on top of that. ... | NTA. You are reasonably willing to pay a larger share due to their lack of use of most of the utilities, but sharing only the base fees isn’t a fair assessment for you. You are not suddenly using $100 more in electricity and hot water just for yourself now that everyone is away. They made the decision to stay elsewher... |
I (31F) live with my husband (28M) for now. Back in December we visited his family for Christmas. Our twins were 1yo. I found them in an unsafe sleeping situation. They were in an indoor dog gate with pillows and a very fluffy blanket. I told him I didn't feel comfortable with that and he asked if I had to be such a "F... | NTA. You are protecting your children. But make sure he doesn't have a legal custody case he could build over this. You don't want him to take you to court and say you're not letting him have his agreed upon custody. ###### |
Hello,
I am female and 18 years old. Currently I am working part time as a waitress while attending High School. My sister (20) has depression, epilepsy and a trauma which is causion something called dissociation. Because of this she can't go to College or work anymore. She is living with her boyfriend.
My mother and... | NTA. You are not your sister's keeper. You aren't financially responsible for anyone other than your kids.
Is it NICE to give her money? Charity is something a lot of people find to be nice.
But charity should NEVER be required. ###### |
Alright, so my younger brother is 8, and is still unable to wipe his ass, and my parents don't see it as a problem. My mom went to the store earlier, and my dad was at work. My younger brother calls for me and says he took a shit. I called my mom asking what I should do, and she told me to try to help him, if not do it... | NTA. You are not the parent, this is not your responsibility. Your parents are the assholes if they expect you or your brothers to do this. ###### |
I'm a high school teacher. I have one student who didn't pass, and now his mom and some of his other teachers want to have a meeting this afternoon talk about how we can make up the work and get him credit for his classes so he doesn't have to retake them.
This kid couldn't be bothered to show up and do the work all y... | NTA. You are not obligated to help this kid any more than you already have. If people continue to bail him out at the last second to make sure everything goes fine despite him being lazy, he'll never truly have consequences for his actions. Let him repeat the class next year. Enjoy your time off with your wife. ###### |
I live with my Dad, his wife, and my step sister Jade (13). I am 19.
Jade has gotten overweight to the point where her asthma has gotten pretty severe and she has prediabetes. The doctor has told her that she need to lose weight. Unfortunately for Jade, her mother only makes like frozen packaged meals or orders takeo... | NTA. You are not her parent. She has 2 perfectly good parents that can cook for her. ###### |
Before I start I should go ahead and apologize for any formatting errors because I am on mobile.
Ok so my mom has recently decided to join a Facebook religious cult. She pretty much adds anyone she can on Facebook that is in this group with her. A majority of them are random men from other countries. She has never me... | NTA. You are looking out for the safety of your daughter and keeping her away from the eyes of these skeevy ass strangers. Your mom and grandma are being naive af about the situation and that's not your fault if they don't understand. ###### |
On April 3rd, our neighbors put up two lawn signs. One says, “Jesus, I just want to thank you for having my mommy keep me.” The other one has a bible verse. I found their signs incredibly insensitive and ordered a pink “I support Planned Parenthood” sign for our lawn.
Our sign was delivered today and my husband is wo... | NTA. You are expressing yourself just as they are. It may come off as a bit passive aggressive to them but honestly who cares. I'd buy 3 more lol ###### |
So, recently I learned just how homophobic my brother is. It turns out he repeats that “gays go to hell and are bad” to his CHILDREN. I am a pan/bi guy, and this shocked me seeing how he was only a little on the “gays are bad” side until now. I have reinforced it in my niece and nephew that what he is saying is not tru... | NTA. You are entitled to what you feel but those are ultimately his kids. You can't control how he raises them.
However, if you do want to influence his kids to be more tolerant, reason with them instead of telling them. For example, ask them why do they think gay people are bad? What have they done to deserve being... |
I (21F) recently moved in to a new flat, now I'm living by myself and the cats, which is much better because I was having a hard time with my ex-flatmate. Where I used to live, my boyfriend (M23) had the keys, for a while it was ok but suddenly he started to make some suprise visits and I got really scared it could be ... | NTA. You are entitled to personal space. Who gave him keys to your old flat? If it WASN'T you, bring that up. If it WAS you, then you need to make it clear that you gave him those keys as a sign of trust, and he violated that by not giving you any warning when he was coming over. Tell him that surprise visits are unwe... |
Before you think I’m a horrible person, there is a reason. My cousin, Linda, has the most lovely 3-year old ever. I love her with all my heart and I miss them like crazy.
Linda lives about an hour away from me(26f) and my sisters (14, 23, 28, 29). Since all of this crazy mess happened, if a cousin had a birthday in t... | NTA. You are completely correct in your reasoning and I really think you should give your cousin a heads up on this. My heart hurts for that little girl. Please tell her I would love to play with her if I could. ###### |
There's actually 2 incidences that lead to this post. Some context: I'm (25F) currently living with my parents due to circumstances & cause I'm doing my PhD. When I'm home, I wear a baggy t-shirt with shorts. My shorts are the sporty type (sorta like jogging shorts), but my t-shirts can cover them cause they're su... | NTA. You are an adult. Bodies are not inherently sexual. You should be allowed to be comfortable at home. He is your dad. Your step mother sounds gross and sexist. There is just so much assholery going on here, but none of it because of you. ###### |
Im m, 23, and im currently staying with my mom until I can get my own place again. Shes bipolar and on disability, and has been manic off and on for some time. She also has been having some paranoia. For a while, things got so bad that she came into my room 2 or 3 times an hour all night long, for multiple days. She ha... | NTA. You are an adult, not a toddler that needs to be checked up on throughout thr night. ###### |
My mom and I (18F) have always had an extremely close relationship. Basically I have always talked to her about everything and she is someone I look to for guidance. I started dating this guy (18M) at the beginning of college. My mom, being pretty religious, has always made it clear she wants me to wait until marriage... | NTA. You are an adult so it’s not her business to know. Your body, your choice.
And birth control isn’t always for preventing pregnancies. I take birth control to help with acne. ###### |
So my (f22) bf (m22) mentioned that he and his coworker send weird hentai to each other as a joke. I immediately got annoyed and told him it was inappropriate and I wasn’t comfortable with it. He didn’t think there was anything wrong with it but told me he wouldn’t do it if it made me uncomfortable. He tells me I gu... | NTA. You are allowed to have limits of what you consider comfortable, and sharing sexual texts with a coworker can absolutely be outside of your comfort zone.
He has agreed with you that you are allowed to be uncomfortable, and has agreed to suspend the activity. So I'd give him some time to see if he's just busy, or... |
My boyfriend is allergic to shellfish. His throat closes up within an few hours if we don’t get to the emergency room on time. He doesn’t need an epipen but he does need to get to the emergency room to take a methyl prednisone pill. I am aware of these allergies and always do my best to accommodate them. I would never ... | NTA. You are allowed to eat whatever you want. You also respect the fact that he has allergies, and accommodate to him. He should respect that even after you eat it you do everything to can to make sure he is not harmed. ###### |
Bare with me, this will probably be a long one.
Me (31F, no siblings) and my boyfriend (M27) of 8 years are going to hopefully be buying our first home this year. Something I never thought I would be able to do considering my childhood.
My mother (63) has undefined mental health issues (it’s a mixture of being a nar... | NTA. You are allowed protect your health and mental health recovery above and beyond anything else after working so hard to get well.
Your parents don’t have the right to expect you to allow them to move in with you and while your mothers potential future homelessness is sad it is not your fault or responsibility.
... |
My [18f] boyfriend [18m] and I have been together for 2 years and are moving out together soon. He sort of wants a roommate to help pay rent and everything, but none of our friends want to do it except one.
I've known this friend longer than I've known my boyfriend, and he has always made me very uncomfortable. He use... | NTA. You are a member of this house just as much as he is. Any additions need to have a 100 percent backing from both of you. Home is where you need to relax and rest and if this friend of yours can’t allow you to do that, he’s not fit to be your roommate. ###### |
Hello,
First of all, sorry for any mistakes, English isn't my native langage.
Recently, I (20f) had an argument with my boyfriend (25m). We've been together for almost two years now and I've never hidden the fact that I have severe endometriosis. Because of that I had to go under surgery to remove life threatening cy... | NTA. You are 20. There is no way to predict what you want and who you’ll be with in 10 or 15 years. It is ridiculous to NOT save your eggs now, when it is free to do so, JUST IN CASE you aren’t with him them. If you marry and stay together forever and still don’t want them, no harm no foul. Many women are now freezing... |
My ex and I broke up last year. We had a very good run and over the years his friends became my friends too. There is a photo on my Instagram of me, him and a friend of ours at one of our other friends' wedding. I think it's a very sweet photo that captured the the memory of that night, so I never deleted that one phot... | NTA. You and your ex had experiences. Deleting the photos won't mean those experiences happened. There are no reasons to delete the picture (or any of the pics if you had wanted to keep them). ###### |
For reference I'm 21 years old and currently reside in the north east (US). My parents are mid 50s.
This summer my parents decided to take off and spend the majority of their summer house shopping in Florida, as they're looking to retire soon. I was left home alone for that entire time to take care of the house and do... | NTA. You already paid for the flight and made other plans. If he wanted your help with the driving he should have asked you earlier. ###### |
I (25F) am currently stuck in my apartment with my 2 other roommates (Dave, 27M; Sarah 24F). We all met through mutual friends and have a good roommate relationship, we aren't close friends but in normal times we do things together occasionally.
Recently we've been sharing food costs and everyday a different roommate ... | NTA. You "understand her frustration"? How? What is there to understand? She's insane. And an asshole. ###### |
Title sounds bad but here me out
I have a child who is 18. My daughter knew that my wife was having an affair with another women for 2 years and she had evidence off it stored on her phone. Me and my wife are not able to afford a lot of things I had my suspicions when my wife gave my daughter a 2000 dollar gift on h... | NTA. Yes she is young but she knew exactly what she was doing. You can’t blame this on ignorance ###### |
My provincial government has released a 3.5 million dollar support fund for university students, and a 1.5 million dollar fund for indigenous students.
I couldn’t care less. Having a separate fund for indigenous students (who make up a decent percentage of the university population) will likely result in more money f... | NTA. Yeah, what she said is racist, plain and simple and your father is enabling it at the very least. ###### |
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