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I recently proposed to my GF and she said yes (hoorraaah). Before this we never talked about money, both of us earn decent money and money has never been a subject of discussion before. We split almost everything, or sometimes I pay or she pays, but we never take advantage of one another.
We lately talked about fina... | YTA
How patronising and condescending can one person be? Honestly I would be surprised if she’d still want to marry you after this shit show.
So she has never done any research on the topic of financial investment. Many people haven’t done that that doesn’t make them financially irresponsible.
You might want to h... |
I have a complicated relationship with my 17yo son. We were exceptionally close when he was younger. He has mainly lived with his mother since the 8th grade, but asked to stay with me because he doesn't get along with her boyfriend who moved in. The drama at their place is sickening. She and her boyfriend fight over an... | YTA
Hes 17, for christ sake. He is a children as well
Maybe you need to reflect with him about the birthday but telling a 17 year old (and your son) to fuck off? Its like, why even asking? ###### |
A few months ago our son (15) came to me and the wife and asked if he could save up for a new console. He has an Xbox One S so we assumed (probably our fault a bit here) that he wanted the next gen Xbox Series X. He was doing well in school and we were pleased he was showing the initiative to earn something for himself... | YTA
He saved the money he wants to buy it let him buy it and if he turns around in a few months and is annoyed about not having the newest one you can turn that into a teaching moment
You can not dictate what he buys with his money he will learn one way or another ###### |
Okay so some basic background, I'm going to try and not be too specific. My \[F23\] best friend \[F23\] has been dating a high-profile person on and off for a few years now. I don't really know how to describe his level of celebrity, but he's a mainstream musician who previously had a larger online profile. For this re... | YTA
He has likely dealt with situations like these numerous times in his life and likely has strategies to deal with it.
Celebrities are are approached in more ‘approachable’ situations like walking down the street.
If he is at a private event, most patrons will likely recognise that it’s not an appropriate time ... |
My step sister doesn't have a strong or sexy female role model in her life. Our relationship has its ups and downs, but on several occasions she's admitted she wants to learn more from me about make up, clothes and the like. Her mom is a pretty sleazy character and I have no idea why my dad's with her. Still, I can't l... | YTA
Hairy legs are prettier than being judgemental ###### |
My ex is calling me an asshole because I am taking my two kids (4 and 11) back 5 days a week when school starts when he is saying they would be better off keeping their 50/50 schedule since school will be online in the fall. I work 12 hour shifts 3 days a week (2 days on weekdays) so I told him my plan is to put my li... | YTA
Father seems to have a fair argument. Your 4 YO should be spending time with his father if you planned on throwing him in a daycare for 12 hours. Not to mention your son having difficulty with school when he’s alone.
You may be the parent, but kids aren’t property. Saying you own them/belong to you is such a t... |
My parents invited My brother (22M) for dinner as we hadn't seen him in a while. I (20F) was weirded out because he brought his roommate to a family dinner. Halfway through the night he drops the 'boyfriend' bomb. See my best friend had asked my brother on a date (just the earlier that day!) and he said yes. She's has ... | YTA
Coming out is such a raw and vulnerable moment, and you chose that moment to scream at him and call him names?
You could have just pulled him aside later and said "hey, I'm disappointed with how you handled the situation with my best friend" and you could have talked about it. ###### |
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So, I (45 F) am getting married to my boyfriend (47 M). He has three kids, two adopted daughters(25 F, 17 F), and a biological son, (24 M), I love my step kids a lot but there's one problem. His youngest is bisexual and has a girlfriend, I don't have any problem with that! But most of my family is homopho... | YTA
Bu showing you prioritise your homophonic family over your partners you show where you stand. Your partner and his kids deserve better.
Also please grow up. Perfect anything doesn’t exist ? ###### |
My mom died when I was 13 whilst in childbirth with my youngest sister, my dad therefore suddenly became a single dad of four young girls. He never dated anybody whilst I was going through my teenage years, but met his wife, my stepmom, when I was 19 and in college. As I was the only one of my sisters not living at hom... | YTA
6 months isn’t long losing someone. Especially it being the 2nd person you thought you would grow old with. Support is what he needs, not a new love interest. Don’t be surprised if he finds it hard to want to find another person after this, I can only imagine how hard and scary it would be to try to find a love ... |
When my husband and I got married, we agreed that he would work and I would stay home and raise our kids.
Now we have two kids. Our son is 17 while our daughter is 7. Our daughter has special needs ( don’t want to get into it too much). We have a part time babysitter to help out with teaching her how to socialize.
S... | YTA
1. no one wants a customer service job. Everyone finds them demeaning. You're not special
2. You're not entitled to a comfy SAH existence because of an agreement you and your husband made. If your husband routinely let you down or something that would be different, but your post makes it sound like he's always b... |
I have sensory processing disorder which means I am extremely sensitive to light and sound. My family does not seem to care and are always very inconsiderate: screaming, keeping bright lights on, etc.
My little sister is scared of the dark. To combat this, she has a HUGE LED light. It lights up my room (directly acros... | YTA
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>I’ve offered her solutions: close the door “no, i want the cats to come in”
Is there a reason you don't close *your* door? ###### |
My husband and I were staying with his parents out of absolute desperation, but his mom is a real pill. A couple weeks ago I had conflict with MIL. She was out by the pool with her friend and my kids were inside, but were probably going to be coming out after their lunch. MIL and her friend just verbally abuse each oth... | YTA
>I told them that she kicked us out because she would rather call her friends whores than house her grandchildren.
No, she asked you to leave because you overstepped in her home, and based on your attitude and the manipulative Facebook post, I'm willing to bet you are a habitual line stepper. Your kids are now... |
A few days ago she said she need a text book for school. I’ve been buying her textbooks since freshmen year but since she has a job now, I make her pay a lot of her own things now that aren’t a necessity. The textbook that she needed was $100 on top of some literature books that were about $25. I told her if she bough... | YTA
>I make her pay a lot of her own things now that aren’t a necessity
How do you propose she take the classes without a textbook? Seems like its... a necessity, to me.
> She didn’t mention it because she didn’t want to make me feel bad.
You should feel bad, you are a bad parent. ###### |
My little brother is autistic and has a brain damage and its his 11th birthday. Nobody can come to his birthday and that breaks my heart because he is really looking forward to having a big party.
I originally said yes to eating at a fine restaurant with my bf family and his mother made resevetions months in advance, ... | YTA (and E S H)
Sounds like these weren’t easy reservations to get and sounds like it was important to your bf you go to this dinner.
Your timeline is hazy of when you backed out, what your brother’s party entailed, and some other details but I don’t think I need them.
If no one went to your brother’s party why c... |
My (25M) roommate (25F) has been out of town for a few weeks to attend a family member's funeral. I asked her if it was alright for me to have my gf over while she was gone, considering we hadn't seen each other for a while due to the pandemic. She said no problem, we'd be staying in my bed/my room & she didn't hav... | YTA . It’s basic common courtesy if you use someone’s things you buy a replacement unless they say it’s okay. You could’ve messaged her and asked and it’d probably be a yes, you could’ve let your gf use one and gone to the store to get her her own. You have no idea how expensive these things can be, and your roommate ... |
I have 2 sons, R and K. R is 14 and K is 10. My kids are very different. R is very intelligent and has always excelled in school without giving any effort at all. He was always quite independent, and I never had to involve myself with his school, so I didn't. K, on the other hand, was never very good at school or at fo... | YTA . You are showing favoritism towards K because his scores are lower and its a bigger deal for his scores to be brought up than R's already high scores? They are kids. If you need K to be tutored, hire a tutor, don't tell your other kid to do it which is clearly affecting his mental health and possibly putting R... |
I BARELY ever get to see my daughter (14) and bout a month ago her mom finally started letting her come to my house on the weekends. I had an extra room and so i just put a bed in there and a dresser and im letting her decorate the rest. Me and my daughter have gotten into a few arguments about me "slut shaming" her, b... | YTA , whether you like it or not, your daughter is half native. As a half native myself , i can honestly say there's not much support for native traditions in most areas of the US . what she is expressing really isn't necessarily a religious statement , it's traditions passed down through the family . and honestly , i... |
I never thought I would be put in this situation as a parent. My daughter was supposed to go into high school this year as a freshman. It's a private school. They've made their decision. They're doing in school or nothing this year. No online option. Teachers and students not comfortable with this will have their place... | YTA -- Your daughter is a child and needs to be appropriately educated. What you are doing is cruel and probably illegal. I hope your daughter tells an appropriate adult and gets help.
Your daughter understands her situation perfectly. You are the one who does not understand her responsibilities. ###### |
We went to a restaurant the other day for FILs birthday. MILs friend was there and she is from Indonesia. We had a private room but they went out to the bar and I guess some guy was hitting on both of them and when they rejected them they started saying horrible shit to her friend about Asian women loving white dick an... | YTA -- she stood up for her friend and against a racist. let people clap for that. ###### |
A while ago, I finally got some time off work and was excited to spend some alone time with my wife, even suggesting we go on a vacation since it's been so long. My wife, however, refused to stop working to even talk to me. She's in politics and we're in the middle of a war right now, so I partly understand, but I stil... | YTA - your wife is not” just a senator” she is the elected representative of a district/area and is entrusted with the responsibility for those who live there
Also why can’t you show your relationship? That sounds kinda...weird
Also yeah, if you have to work, then so does she
Stop finding and belittling your wife’s... |
My older sister (K) and I are both attending the same college this year, I am living in the dorms (as a freshman) and she is living in an off-campus apartment. I was all packed up and excited to go until K came into my room the day we were supposed to leave to tell me she was doing remote learning this semester. She s... | YTA - Your sister has her own decisions to make and life to lead. She's not required to be your back-up plan. You chose to stay home - you had a place to live and your parents were not forcing you to give it up. Stop blaming your sister for your choices. ###### |
My dad (65M) and I (35F) used to be really close. My mom was a surgeon, so my dad was the one to pick us up from school, make us dinner, help us with homework, ect. I married my husband (36M) five years ago.
My dad is also a physician, and I can tell when he's entertaining guests because he has a distinctive bedside ... | YTA - Your are literally the only one that is bothered by this and the more you try and convince your husband that your Dad is "putting on a show" the more likely he is to start to pull away from your Dad which will in turn eventually create a situation where your husband doesn't treat your Dad with respect and everyt... |
So for my birthday someone got me a jar jar pop doll was 150 bucks recently my parents told me that I had to fly the coop so I glued all my pop dolls to my dashboard. Whilst visiting with my dad, I met my 12 year old brother and he was sitting in the passenger seat we were talking and he was like "wow, these are sick,... | YTA - You’ve said in comments that the box was in bad condition so it was worthless, but you still want your brother to pay for it? Which is it? Worthless or not entirely worthless? Also, just because the box is bad, doesn’t mean the pop itself is bad. ###### |
I’m one of 7 kids. There’s 6 of us older adult kids (f23, me f21, m20, m20, f19, f18) and then our little sister who’s 5, who our parents call a happy accident. She obviously wasn’t planned but we all absolutely love her.
As a whole family we don’t get to spend that much time together, all us older kids live away at ... | YTA - You're bullying your 5 year old sister and it's actually really gross. ###### |
Ok so the title makes it sound bad but read it first. Today is my older sister's birthday and she went to work the whole day and came back and then i ruined it by having a tantrum and locking myself in my room. Why i did it is because of a laptop i was getting. Please read it before you Accuse me that i'm a ego.
I wo... | YTA - you wouldn't be getting a laptop at all, after that kind of behavior.
>I was promised a laptop for a whole year but then the promise was broken and then they said that they dont have the money for an expensive laptop
You realize there's a pandemic on, record numbers of people out of work, people are strugglin... |
My daughter recently turned 18 and her boyfriend is 20. They’ve been together for three years, and my daughter has constantly asked to stay the night at his house or have him stay at our house, and every single time I’ve said no. I just don’t think it’s appropriate to have a couple their age sleeping together. That’s h... | YTA - you will lose your daughter like this ###### |
I have an 18 year old daughter from a 1 night stand , at the time the girl (Claire) was pregnant I begged her to get an abortion since I was in no position to raise a child but she refused and after she gave birth to (Rebecca) she screwed over me by filing for child support. I have never been late on a payment, but I a... | YTA - You weren't "screwed over" by being required to help meet the needs of your daughter. She is your daughter and it appears that you don't give a shit about her beyond the impact she has on your life. In other words, you're the selfish asshole ###### |
I am a mom 28 and have a son, I am not one of those crazy Karen's that think my son is perfect, he can be a bit rude and has a problem stealing his sister's candies but he is my son. The other day we were visiting a friends house, the friend has a pair of black labs who are the cutest and had recently had puppies. When... | YTA - you should’ve taken over the talking to (make it less traumatic for kid, but get point across that he can hurt other living things), but instead you got mad at person who has clear right to be upset. And to make it worse, you belittled the loss by saying there are other puppies. Should’ve accepted it was a tragi... |
I am planning to go away this weekend to the mountains with my girlfriend. My wife and I have already agreed to end our marriage, but we have not told our daughter yet.
My wife knows I am seeing someone and about the trip. She doesn't agree with what I am doing and feels neither of us should date until we're official... | YTA - You need to finish your current business first. Not sure why there is a rush to go on vaca with a new girl. ###### |
We’re expecting twins in October and have obviously been suggesting names, we could have two girls/two boys (to sum up; we don’t know the genders)
I’ve picked;
Gabriella and Isabella
Caleb and Joshua
Ordinary, decent names that won’t make people take a double take and won’t ruin their chances for a job in the fut... | YTA - You may not like them, and see a middle name as useless but they are by no means ridiculous and to me the first names seem as ordinary and decent as yours
Your argument should be about finding names you both like, not ridiculing her choices ###### |
My wife got into a car accident a year ago and has been in a wheelchair since.
Since then, she’s refused to go back to her job, even though they have adequate accommodations.
She also has let go of herself; she’s skinny to the point she’s gaunt, and she never does anything productive around the house.
She used to b... | YTA - you gave away her Louboutins?!??? Those shoes were probably sentimental to her and they weren’t yours to give away. Your cousin also sounds like an AH. Who asks someone for designer shoes and then turns around and sells them? You owe your wife some new shoes, mister! ###### |
Throwaway because my roommate uses Reddit. Anyway, this past weekend I moved with my gf into a new apartment with a friend of mine. I've moved a few times over the past couple years and I hate it every time. Now that I'm doing a little better in life I decided to hire movers to avoid some of the hassle of the larger it... | YTA - You FELT like you had to spot her - you should have stepped back and given her a chance to prove to you your sexist thoughts were wrong.
You CHOSE to step in b/c you FELT whatever it was you felt - you should have tipped the same. The dude benefitted from your stepping in - did he not??? YES - YES HE DID.
So... |
I'll just try to keep this short. I have these two friends and they are a couple. They're literally obsessed with each other and spend every waking hour together. The problem is in the fact that they look very similar to each other — creepily similar. Essentially, if you saw them out on the street, you'd assume they we... | YTA - You don't have to spend time with them. ###### |
Throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main.
I've been dating this girl for 8 months now. She's honestly amazing and I can almost see our future together. She has a 3 year old daughter from a past relationship, whom I've never met. I've seen pictures, videos, and heard her gush about her daughter but I've ne... | YTA - you don't get to decide when she formally introduces you to her daughter, you trying to force the situation is a huge overstep. Check yourself. ###### |
I threw a customers silicon wedding band in the garbage and all hell broke loose
So I was at work and I found this wedding band on the ground in the afternoon and decided to keep it on the cash register. Come the next morning I see it’s still there so I just decided to toss it. A few hours later mr dude comes through ... | YTA - you could have kept this longer. This is extremely rude. I think you might be a troll. ###### |
My daughter is 18 years old and she has her own account where I put in $65 every month as her allowance, now she’s been saving up for months and had over $500.
Me and my wife were kind of afraid that she would waste all that money in stupid things like video games or consoles which would hinder her time she needs to pu... | YTA - you could have had a serious discussion about spending money wisely toward things and her future but instead you played some game expecting her to run out of money.
She’s caught you in your own lie, you said you’d reimburse her . She has the proof pay up and stop the games and have a serious discussion that you... |
So my first time writing here I will try to do my best!
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Last weekend we went to this nice lake where you could swim and have picnics and parking was absolutely packed. Our region has done really well with covid-19 and this was up north so not many people. regardless the parking was packed and we found a ... | YTA - You can't reserve spots like that. If your grandmother has problems getting around, she needs to get a handicapped placard that you can hang in your car for when she's with you. That's what it's for. ###### |
This is a throwaway for obvious reasons, but a couple of days ago it was my friend’s birthday and my friend came out as gay and she was accepted by her whole group except for me. Now I am not homophobic but I don’t like gay people. We had a party where I pulled her into a separate room and told her to drop the act, she... | YTA - you are homophobic.
And this seems like a troll. ###### |
My (26f) little sister (23f) has always been very experimental with her hair, starting with hot pink at age 11 and progressing from there. She had been mentioning wanting to bleach her hair so she could go light purple. She wanted to get her hair bleached professionally, and she would do the purple herself. But then CO... | YTA - you admittedly took your sisters idea and even go as far to note that you hadn't even thought about doing anything at all until she said it. It's hard to tell from the context here but reading between the lines it sounds like you did EXACTLY what she wanted to do herself, as far as down to the tone and shade. In... |
we had been talking online for a couple of weeks, she seemed like a cool person and we seemed to get along really well. I drove about 20 minutes to go pick her up. As soon as she stepped in the car the Vibe was way off. She wouldn’t really speak, and I felt like she was sort of ignoring me while constantly texting on h... | YTA - why go through all that effort. You're not going to chat during the film. And the adult thing to do would have been to confront her about it - not fucking ditch her in a movie. ###### |
I don't think my MIL likes me very much. She seems like she tries to hide it, but i can tell she isn't happy to have me for her DIL. My husband comes from a very traditional southern family, with a long line of pageant queens and housewives. GMIL was both and clearly looks down on me. MIL and GMIL (her MIL, not her mom... | YTA - while the way they treat you is shitty, they aren't obligated to invite you at all. Just like you aren't obligated to invite them to any event you plan. Saying she should've not hosted since you weren't invited makes you come off as entitled. They seem like assholes in general, but in this specific situation, yo... |
So I have a habit of calling out to people on bike/walking paths "passing left" and/or "plingeling" (the sound of a bike bell) when coming up from behind before passing whilst exercising, running or biking. This can be used together with a real bike bell but I've found that calling out is more noticeable. Here I hav... | YTA - whether he was unsafe or not, you caused the accident. ###### |
So in our drama class, we decided to host a play. The play goes around the central theme of twins being mistaken for each other and deciding on taking advantage of that. The entire play is based on the fact that the twins are identical.
We decided on doing this play because my best friend has an identical twin, and t... | YTA - What's the point of holding auditions if you have already decided beforehand that the role will be going to someone specific? That was an asshole thing to do.
It's not racist and I do believe you that the race of the people are just coincidence, but it's a shitty thing to do nonetheless. ###### |
So here in Europe, we don't have a culture of tipping. People here unlike America, pay employees a living wage. I work as a pizza delivery courier to have some pocket money and my location has an American customer who's a regular. He is known to tip 5 quids minimum and would sometimes tip 10 pounds on special holidays.... | YTA - what are you talking about? Tipping is incredibly common in the UK, just not expected.
What a totally bizarre thing to get upset and confrontational about. The fact is even with our higher minimum wage, tips are a big part of server's total wages. I assume this also means you never tip anyone either, like waite... |
My son and his wife are currently staying with us though after this they have a deadline to move out. My wife and I were out of town for a couple of days and we got back late at night. The next morning we were in bed and my son was at work (they only have one car) it was about eleven but we were tired and just hanging ... | YTA - They are currently living with you and have not yet hit your deadline for moving out.
You make no mention of any agreements that you may or may not have made as to who buys food in the house.
DIL told you that there was no food in the house, and yes - she should have planned better.
But you were aware that she ... |
My cousin (17m) says after he graduates from high school he wants to be a navy seal. I laughed my ass off when i heard that becuase he's at least 80 pounds overweight and he can't even do a single pull up, nor can he even walk up a flgiht of stairs without getting winded. He is too out of shape to even join the airforc... | YTA - there’s a difference between giving constructive criticism and being a total dick ###### |
I have 2 roommates and we all have our own bedrooms. Both of them have TV’s in their room and I don’t. Usually, they each watch TV in their own room and I use the living room TV because I don’t have a TV in my bedroom. It works great. Today, I wanted to watch TV because it’s COVID and I have nowhere to go and nothing t... | YTA - The living room is a COMMON SPACE. You don't get to dictate who uses it and how much.
If you want to have your own TV where you dictate who watches and when, move your TV into your bedroom.
Why should you get to have control of your bedroom and the living room? ###### |
My wife finally succumbed to cancer after a three year long battle.
As her spouse, I had to take responsibility of her body. However, though we were legally spouses, for the last two and a half years my wife and I had been living apart. I had my own separate loft while the kids (13F,12F,10F) and her stayed in the hou... | YTA - the funeral is for your children and her family to grieve, you and your girlfriend used it as a petty excuse to get revenge. You've probably lost your kids respect for the rest of their lives for a girlfriend that might not be around in the year. How someone as immature and childish as you has three kids is beyo... |
My cousin \[18F\] finished high school some time ago and made a post on Facebook that she now decided to give her books for free and if we need the books to contact her. Luckily, I was one of the first to see the post and immediately messaged her because I need the books for this year and next and they are ridiculousl... | YTA - That’s some choosing beggars shit right there. Why would your cousin pay for you to have free books when she’s already giving them away...?
I do hope she had the chance to explain that she gives away the book but refuses to pay for the shipping fees. ###### |
The other day my husband and I were going through old pictures of us. We are both in our mid-30s now. We were looking at some pictures of him when he was in college and some when we first met. He had such a nice body then. He’s let it go a little bit since then. He’s not fat or anything, I’d say he has more of a dad bo... | YTA - that's a backhanded compliment if I've ever heard one. Man you USED to look so good! I USED to find you hot!
Your friends must be assholes too, to back you up in this. ###### |
My husband and I are selling our house, and we were touring a woman and her husband who are getting ready to start a family. They offered a full cash offer, and it was right at what we were selling the house for, however, they were talking about making so many renovations. For example, the wife looked in the kitchen an... | YTA - That was a really stupid thing to do, especially without consulting your husband first.
Just because you sell the house doesn't mean you lose the memories in it. Also, once it's sold you will never be going back so you won't ever see what they do.
Whoever buys it will likely still renovate, so turning down a ... |
My apartment complex has a strict no smoking policy which includes you can’t even have cigarettes, pipes, vapes, or anything on the property.
My neighbor is a young girl, looks college-age. I was walking by one day and saw her window was open, and there were a bunch of bongs in her apartment.
I pondered it and ende... | YTA - That sounds like an illegal eviction if she wasn't smoking. Tenant law can forbid you from smoking on the property, but there is no way they can lawfully evict for having glass bongs.
This story sounds like bullshit. ###### |
My wife has caught the baby fever again and wants another kid, I do as well but want to wait until we are in a bit of a better financial situation. We already have 1 child so I saw how much that cost us. She is late for her period by 4 days and has already taken 3 pregnancy tests, two of which have come back negative a... | YTA - Taking a couple extra tests is not hurting anyone. The bigger problem here is that she wants another child ASAP and you don't. Maybe you should work through that instead of snapping at her for spending a couple of extra bucks on pregnancy tests? ###### |
I know it's 100% my fault I left my glasses on the floor. I had 2000 things running in my mind, so to read stuff in small print I took them off and placed it on the floor next to the couch so noone could damage it. After wards, I saw what we had. Aka a fancy fit bit and new. I then ran to shower, as we returned from a ... | YTA - sounds like you lack basic common sense (who leaves glasses on the floor and then thinks it’s someone else’s fault!), basic respect for others (how you treat them is not ok), and basic writing skills. ###### |
This is my first time posting on here. This shouldn’t be too long of a post.
Our oldest son is 19 years old, he is a sophomore in college and goes to a small school about an hour away from our town. Last sunday, we got a call from him saying that he needed some money. I’m actually surprised he called his mom and not ... | YTA - sorry but your keeping the information from your wife
What happens if she eventually does find out? The longer it takes the worse it will be for your son, and for you
Imagine how she will feel if years down the line she finds out, not only did her son lie to her face, but you stood there and let it happen, now... |
My friend (we’ll call her Irene) is 21, and had her daughter very young, she’s only 6 months.
Recently her and 2 of our friends were talking about having a weekend together, and Irene’s boyfriend would have their daughter. One of the girls in our “group” said we should all trip since we’ll have the night we get toget... | YTA - She's leaving her child with the father. He can handle things. If she drank or smoked pot she couldn't safely drive home if there was an emergency with her daughter. Same concept but I doubt you would have a problem with her taking a single night off from her daughter to do that.
Also let's look at this:
>sh... |
So a bit of a backstory is I’m a (27M) in a relationship with a (25M). We’ve been together for two years now, and I do love my boyfriend. The only thing is that he has a pretty severe stutter. His speech impediment isn’t so bad when it’s just me and him, but his anxiety towards his speech goes through the roof when we’... | YTA - put yourself in his position, his anxiety is never going to go away if he is scared of a negative reaction caused by his stuttering, and there is a good chance his anxiety is causing his stutter to get worse. Let him see there is nothing to be afraid off and he might improve. ###### |
My gf says I'm an asshole since I complained about a restaurant online and in person for this. We went to a restaurant and everyone there was mexican and we were the only black people there. We tried to order our food and nobody there spoke English. I speak really bad spanish but I tried. This fucking pissed mr off, yo... | YTA - Once you found out there was a language barrier that made you uncomfortable, you should have left. They are free to open a business in this country and speak whatever language they want, just as you are free not to give them your business and go elsewhere. If you want Latvian rules, you should move back to Lat... |
I’ve (36M) been with my wife (28F) for 7 years, we are currently expecting our first (she’s only 9 weeks along)
**Disclaimer; this is the silliest argument I’ve ever had**
Last night we were laying in bed when I noticed she had stretch marks from lower to mid back, I personally thought they were pretty, she has rea... | YTA - not for tracing the stretch marks, that just seemed like an innocent mistake
Your an ass for saying it was the silliest argument you have had, don’t belittle her emotions and feelings as silly ###### |
My cousin (18f) and I (21f) were never really close because she was the beautiful darling girl of the family while I was just the "smart" one. It also doesn't help that we were just two different people.
My cousin is known to use so much photoshop and makeup on all of her pictures to make herself look older than she... | YTA - not for being underenthused, but for your general attitude/demeanor. You don't have to try to take away from her happiness by "blaming" the grandparents to be or demeaning her lifestyle choices. ###### |
I [16M] am very upset with my parents since they added a Firewall to our home WiFi. They did this without telling me, and since I frequently play video games on my PC, I immediately suspected something was wrong when my discord wasn’t loading up. I googled the issue and I found that half the websites I looked at to sol... | YTA - Not for being mad, but for how you did expressed it. It would have taken, what, 10, maybe 20 minutes to get the various permissions for websites/apps added. Would that much time truly be so unbearable without the apps?
You threw a tantrum that is unbecoming at your age. Personally, I hope your dad keeps everyt... |
Many months ago, I promised my son that I am going to buy him a laptop because he wanted one really badly. However, after seeing his terrible school marks I decided that the laptop will cause nothing but distraction so I ended up not keeping my promise. My son was devastated obviously but he moved on after some weeks.
... | YTA - Not because you're saying no to her buying it, but because you're saying it's your money. It's not. When you give someone something, it becomes theirs. You should be proud she knows how to save *her* money.
What you should have said was that as his mother, you're saying that he can't have a laptop no matter ... |
Celia dumped me last night and gave me a list of reasons why. Some of them I can understand why and I should have been a better boyfriend to her but there is one that I don't get where's shes coming from.
My now ex turned twenty one in November 2018. We had been dating for almost a year. So there's this indy movie ... | YTA - let me rephrase your post.
“I wanted to go to a movie and it just happened to be on my GF birthday, I couldn’t get out of doing something for her on her birthday without looking like a jerk, so I tricked her into doing what I wanted to do. Basically I had a nice fun night and she just tagged along.”
You said y... |
My wife is current angry because we’re supposed to be a team. I had kind of an odd childhood. My mom clearly didn’t want to be a mom and was almost never around. My grandfather was very rich and just let her live the heiress party girl lifestyle and pretend she didn’t have a kid. I know part of the time she was just of... | YTA - just a bit.
You're letting your mother control your life again. It's as simple as that. She controlled you as a kid, put the blame on you for not responding like she thought you would and is telling you what you can and can't do as an adult.
Here's the thing: this will drive a wedge between you are your wife. ... |
My son, James (23) has been dating Kelly (22) for three years. And, well, I don't like her. She has attitudes and views that conflict with mine and we've clashed more than once. However, there is an effort on both our ends to be amicable and I don't want to be one of those awful mother-in-laws you see in films and TV s... | YTA - it’s one to say “ I don’t like her”
It’s another to say” she won’t be a good wife and your marriage won’t last.”
Especially since you haven’t given any evidence that she will be a bad wife or that it won’t last ###### |
There are 4 of us living in a pretty sweet apartment in our college town overlooking this one sorority. A lot of girls from that sorority hang out in the building pretty frequently.
Anyway so we have a huge balcony that the four of us were chilling on that’s on the second floor of the building and I guess within ears... | YTA - it’s not only bad to say sexist, racist and homophobic things to people that are affected by them. It’s sexist to THINK that way about women, and if you weren’t sexist you would have corrected him. ###### |
I have two teen daughters (16 & 13) and 3 step sons (15, 17, 11). One daughter and one stepson share a bathroom and he always leaves the seat up which really bothers my daughter, we've both asked him numerous times to put the seat back down but he rolls his eyes and dismisses her.
I put a little lock on the door ... | YTA - it’s a shit joke and imagine being in your sons shoes of needing the bathroom in the middle of the night and having to walk across the house to pee. try harder to get him to leave it down there are better ways of teaching children basic manners ###### |
My husband and I have been married now for over 10 years. We had our wedding in my home country although at the time we were both living in the US. In my home country there are certain customs that people follow in the wedding speeches. A couple of weeks before the wedding my dad gave my husband a book of examples deta... | YTA - It's funny the first couple of times but being the butt of a joke over and over again gets old real fast. It's like you're holding a grudge over something small that happened years ago even though your husband felt bad enough and regretted it at the time. Why do you feel the need to keep rubbing his nose in it... |
We had a new part time girl in our warehouse, a teenager, 15. She very soon becomes popular with us as she's hardworking, pleasant and sometimes give out snacks and small gifts.
At first I like her too but recently during a casual conversation she brought up that she her family is actually quite rich, that is why she... | YTA - it sounds like she was just trying to prove to herself and her family that she could make it on her own and wasn't just a little princess. You liked her until you found out she was from a wealthy family, and then you made the whole thing about your inferiority complex. ###### |
I think the title makes it sound weirder than it is but here we go. My boyfriend’s brother is working on his masters and in order to support himself, has an OnlyFans where he posts both solo videos/pictures and videos of him with other men. It might be worth noting that his brother is gay. My boyfriend was open about t... | YTA - it doesn't matter whether you masturbate to it or not.
put yourself in his position.. you wouldn't have any problem with your bf watching porn of your sister? ###### |
I’m an adult finishing up my Bachelors degree. I realized I got a few scholarships last semester that I didn’t apply to. I didn’t apply to any scholarships for that matter.
Now the school keeps pestering me to meet with the donors via zoom to thank them. I believe it was around 1000.00 usd.
I don’t want to.
I’m a... | YTA - in the time you've spent writing about this on Reddit, you could have recorded a Thank You video. ###### |
As basic as possible, nearly 3 years ago my daughter asked if I could help her with the deposit for the house she wanted to buy with her husband. It was expensive so I vocalized that I could only help if it were going to be a loan she'd have to pay back. She then opted not to buy that specific house and found another h... | YTA - in both situations you had the resources to help out your kid (you obviously had the money to help your daughter or you wouldn't have been able to loan it to her), but you asked your daughter to pay you back for your help, but gave the house to your son without asking to be paid for it. ###### |
Alright. I'm getting married in May 2021 to my husband. We're already legally married but haven't had a ceremony due to Covid. We decided that we want a small wedding ceremony in May. It is going to be a potluck style wedding. Everyone brings food and we all enjoy each other's company. I don't want gifts or money. Just... | YTA - if you’re going to ask people to bring food to a wedding you can’t dictate what it is. You bring food you can eat or stop being so cheap and pay for a dinner reception where you can dictate the food. ###### |
I (42f) have a daughter (19f). She’s a university student, but has moved home because her university closed down and turned to online classes.
English is not our first language, but it’s a compulsory part of our syllabus. My daughter was very good at it, did English as a first language, when most do English as a seco... | YTA - if you expect your daughter to help your son with his English, you need to step in and lay down the law
>She says if she sits down with him at 2pm, he’ll take until 8pm to finish it because he plays with his xbox, phone and switch and slowly does the work after she begs him so she can leave.
That is unacceptab... |
My ex-wife and I have joint custody, and I have my kids **every** single weekend. I also work full time at a fairly stressful job, so this means I never get any me time/vacation time.
The past 2 years, I didn’t take the kids a handful of times, and they stayed with their mother for the weekend. My kids literally don’... | YTA - If you and your ex were still together, guess what, you would still not be spared from your kids during the weekend after a stressful work week. That's just what it means to be a parent. You make it sound like seeing your kids on the weekend is a complete chore, so no brownie points there.
Sounds like your ex h... |
So I have been with my fiancé for over 3 years. We have been engaged for one of those years. Our wedding is set for September 6th. My fiancé has been growing a beard ever since like March or so. I haven’t thought anything of it since I’ve seen him with a beard plenty of times before. I’d say since I’ve known him it’s b... | YTA - if thats enough to call it off, he shouldnt be marrying you anyway. ###### |
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So, I (45 F) am getting married to my boyfriend (47 M). He has three kids, two adopted daughters(25 F, 17 F), and a biological son, (24 M), I love my step kids a lot but there's one problem. His youngest is bisexual and has a girlfriend, I don't have any problem with that! But most of my family is homopho... | YTA - if anyone shouldn’t be going it’s the homophobes. ###### |
My dad and his partner are both in their 40s and they told me and my brother that they are pregnant. Honestly, I’m not too surprised, as they have sex all the time, super audibly, but still...like I thought they were too old for this. They said that they were keeping the baby and just weren’t sure whether they’d raise ... | YTA - I’ve read enough of your commentary here to say you’re 100% a dick. And I assume you’re like 16 years old or something too.
Grow up, kid. Life doesn’t revolve around you and your shitty attitude. ###### |
My(51f) daughter (25) says she is trans male, which means I guess she uses he/him pronouns in public and uses a different name, but doesn't say anything when I or her father call her by her birth name. Anyway, recently she got top surgery which is when she gets her breasts removed, and her boyfriend (27) has been takin... | YTA - I’m guessing why HE didn’t tell you about the surgery is because you and your husband aren’t truly supportive considering you don’t even try to make an attempt to use he/him pronouns and still call HIM HIS birth name. That alone makes you the asshole in this situation. ###### |
My 12yo son has been begging me to buy him a hoverboard. He wants one in particular - a Gyroor with lights and speakers - that happens to cost $450. It's not a lot to me, but I am not that kind of parent. He's asked what he could do to earn money and quite honestly there is no labor that I need from him that's worth $4... | YTA - I would have totally agreed with you if you had just left it at NO. But
>I said if he could prove that 10K people believed that he should get one, then I would buy one
>A week later, he got over 10K likes.
The time to claim this was a joke was immediately, not after he hit the goal. ###### |
My daughter is currently a senior in high school and for as long as i can remember she has wanted to be a musician. My MIL went to Julliard and made it big in the industry. I don't want to give any details because I think some people might recognize her name, and it is hard to teach my daughter that just because her g... | YTA - I was on your side for a minute - realism is important and having a backup plan is healthy. However, you say you have persona issues with MIL and then go on to say some nasty things about her, making me not sure if you’re giving all info. ###### |
I’ve been sitting on this for a while, I haven’t yet told my husband and don’t really want to in respect for my daughters privacy. However I do need some help.
Two weeks ago I asked my daughter if I could use her phone, as my internet was sketchy. She obliged and handed it to me. She obviously had forgotten what she’d... | YTA - I say this gently because it’s obvious that you genuinely care about your daughter. That being said, it’s not your fault that you saw what had been left open on her phone, but it is your fault that you continued to dig deeper. As you said, she’s an adult. And as an adult she has the right to keep her private lif... |
I (m35) have a 16 year old daughter. I’ve been a single father since she was about 3 years old as I got sole legal custody due to some addiction issues her mother has. We have a really good relationship, but I always worry about her not having a woman to talk to.
Over the past few months she hasn’t really seemed to b... | YTA - huge violation of her privacy and trust. When my mom did this to me i burned my diaries and stopped journaling entirely which was horrible for my mental health. Its taken me 2 decades and a move across the entirety of canada to get to a point where journalling feels fulfilling and not like a bomb waiting to go o... |
Cast: Me - Assistant manger of a restaurant
Ray (37) - Store manager, kind of creepy
Kelly(18)- Fresh out of high school hostess, very shy, scatter brain
Joe - District manager
Ray has had a history with female workers. nothing that has gotten him in any trouble or had anybody quit, just remarks on appearances, fl... | YTA - HR did nothing for her and you knew that Ray was in the wrong. What made you think it was Kelly's fault in this? She was a victim that ended up being punished. ###### |
Hey there umm this is my first post but I read a lot of storys and this one came up in my family and decided to post it here
Backstory : so my cousin's family had a dog that they got two years ago at first they loved him then wanted him to become a security dog so he was locked in a cage most of the he pooped in the... | YTA - how could you let this happen to an innocent and defenseless animal? ###### |
Me and my wife (both 45) have a son(18M) .Recently he came out to us .I was shocked but accepted it .My wife did not and started being distant with him and searching for potential girlfriends for him . I told him to go to his grandparent's house for the time being until i make his mother understand.He left, but not bef... | YTA - He shouldn't have to move out because your wife can't handle his sexuality. He's not the one who should have to compromise. ###### |
My daughter needed a hair cut so we went to the salon. The hairdresser had bright pink hair and her whole entire ear pierced. My daughter was very fascinated by this. She mentioned that she would like pink hair and was going on how she would also like many earrings one day too.
My daughter was adamant she wanted pink ... | YTA - hair dyeing is not a huge deal, but you should have put research into the piercings, especially those on cartilage. For example, cartilage piercings shouldn’t be done with a gun. Putting that on hold for safety measures and letting your daughter know this wouldn’t have been disregarding her happiness. ###### |
I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years and we have two kids. I’ve always had the impression his mom didn’t like me but she’s never said anything. His mom was wealthy on her own and probably made on the higher end of six figures. She’s been with her fiancé for about a year and a half and I think he might be a million... | YTA - From a struggling pandemic person here myself:
First, it's not like either one of them bragged about the cost of the ring, you found this out through another person!
Second, it is not your place to decide what they spend their money on. Whether they be well-off from hard work, or even family money... their p... |
My son (13) has an anonymous meme account on Instagram with a few k followers. He posts really offensive an in anti semitic memes on it apparently (I haven't look at it personally my wife/ his stepmom told me about it). My wife found it since she went to burrow his tablet and she saw that Instagram on it. She got real... | YTA - extremism needs to be checked early and it is fairly obvious that this is deeply troubling to your wife and is targeted (at least in part) at her. You're doubly TA because you haven't looked at the page yet. ###### |
So I have two teen daughters, 17 and 15, and they kind of hate me. I'm doing my best and the youngest one has been in therapy for her anger, but they are constantly criticizing me. The oldest one is constantly yelling at me for embarrassing her, which I've really tried to scale down. I used to do it semi on purpose, bu... | YTA - even if it was only what you describe in your post that led up this, (which clearly it’s not since they had issues with you before), how would it hurt you to apologize?
Would you want your daughters behaving the way that you behaved? You could’ve said “sorry, too much alcohol. Take this, and learn from my mist... |
Throwaway account for obvious reasons
My friend, let's call her Ellie, is a trans woman (MtF). She came out to me about two months ago and I was very accepting of her, however she was struggling to pick a name.
Recently she messaged me over Discord telling me that she had decided on the name Ellie. Ellie is an extrem... | YTA - Ellie is an easy name to learn, it's ok to expect a learning curve as you get used to the name change but it's pretty egregious for you and your friend to demand she pick a different name. She wasn't asking for your permission, she was telling you her new name, deal with it like an adult. ###### |
This actually happened a long while ago but we recently saw each other again and she was really angry at me and when I asked around, this came up.
So I was in a pretty complicated 'situationship' with this girl, Samantha (fake name). We never dated or were much friends but we regularly hooked up and chilled together ... | YTA - dude she was just your ex gf, preggo with your kid and involved in a car accident and you didn't check to see how she was because you were overseas and broken up? ###### |
Bf and I are planning our wedding. One thing we thankfully share in common is our distaste of jewellery. It makes us cringe whenever we're around metal accessories hanging on someone's body. Whenever I hug someone wearing a necklace I hate feeling the metal on me.
So my bf and I NEVER wear jewellery. The only exceptio... | YTA - don't like jewelry? Don't wear it.
Want to exercise oddly specific control over people who are coming out to celebrate you? Asshole move. ###### |
Hi so I need to explain some stuff first... basically my (14f) little sister (6) and her friend (4-5?) play with stray cats in the neighborhood that they've named and made up stories about. They say the two "main" cats (one who's meant to be a cat engineer and the other one who's a cat doctor, so like our parents minus... | YTA - Do you go to the mall at Christmas and scream “that’s not the real Santa?”
Because that’s what you did. ###### |
For context, I’ve been close friends with this person for 7 or 8 years. I’m not going to give his real name for anonymity’s sake, but I’ve been calling him an abbreviated version of his first name, the equivalent of calling someone Mark instead of Marcus or Nate instead of Nathan, for most of our friendship, like many ... | YTA - calling your friend by the name he prefers will make him feel closer to you even if it feels formal to you. It doesn't matter if you understand his reasons, it's a sign of respect to do as he asks. Yes, it will take you time to get used to it but keep trying. ###### |
I (25f) was supposed to get married late April. Due to COVID, we decided to postpone. We've been postponing and finally our venue is opening up, but they've said we can only bring 20 guests. We originally had a guest list of over a 100 people, but due to the pandemic a lot of them backed out and said they'd attend over... | YTA - Before asking about moving the venue to her home, you already knew she was choosing to attend the wedding virtually. She's pregnant, so depending on when your wedding is, she could be close to term or have a new infant. It sounds like she wants to be precautions given everything going on in the world right now.
... |
My girlfriend informed me the other day that she was going on a trip with the people mentioned above. She said she was taking our son with her and didn’t mention inviting me, hence the title “girls weekend.” I said, word for word, in a smart-ass tone “take pictures of my son when he first sees the ocean.” I told her I ... | YTA - Based on your description of yourself, would you want your child left with someone like you for an entire weekend? I wouldn't trust you with a houseplant, tbh, let alone a child. ###### |
I 20(f) have decided to live child free. I used to be really Close I’m older sister but once she had kids I cut back on the time we spent together. At one point I made it truly clear I can’t be around kids at all. My sisters husband is rich like really rich. So because of the pandemic he decided to rent a yacht for two... | YTA - As soon as they do something you actually feel like you can be bothered to put up with your nieces/nephews you're suddenly offended by them respecting the rules you set for yourself. Stop being so entitled. ###### |
Okay so this title makes it sound really bad but it’s not as cut and dry as it seems.
I’m (21m) a senior in college but am doing a five year program. I have two roommates in an off-campus apartment, two dudes that I’ve been friends with for years. They’re both graduating in May, only staying for four years. People ... | YTA - As a woman who has had male roommates (straight and gay) YTA.
The reason women don't want male roommates is because they fear being victimized by them, not because they fear becoming sexually attracted to them.
Heck, I am bisexual, by that logic I would have to screen every one of my roommates for sexual orie... |
My MIL is married to a man who was born in Iran and they go once or twice a year to see his family. They have a daughter who turned 13 the other day and MIL wished her a happy birthday on social media. She included a couple of pictures and in one of the pictures, MIL and her daughter were both wearing head coverings. T... | YTA - Apologize for your mistake. PERIOD. That’s how apologies work. ###### |
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