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My ex and I have a 10 year old daughter from a teenage relationship. My daughter lives with my ex and I pick her up for the afternoon on one weekend day and often take her out for dinner during the week. She still has a stuffed dog I bought for her when she was a baby and carries the damn thing everywhere. It is alway... | YTA for making a 10 year old cry. ###### |
So I (f26) have a boyfriend (m24) and recently he got into a dispute with the neighbour's kids. They accidentally kicked their football into our yard and they came into the garden to get it back. Tbh, I didnt care but my boyfriend started screaming at these like 11 year ds about how they are poorly raised and their par... | YTA for lashing out at the mom. Yes, a child’s actions can reflect on the parent, but something like mental health can happen with or without amazing parenting.
I get that it was in the heat of the moment, but I really hope you apologize to her and talk about your ex’s situation to her a bit more thoroughly after. #... |
My cousin (18f) and I (21f) were never really close because she was the beautiful darling girl of the family while I was just the "smart" one. It also doesn't help that we were just two different people.
My cousin is known to use so much photoshop and makeup on all of her pictures to make herself look older than she... | YTA for how you’ve communicated your dismay and disappointment in your younger cousin’s behaviour. I actually agree with you and feel that she’s probably going to lose some opportunities- whether temporarily or permanently- due to a pregnancy this early in her life. But it’s her life and her consequences. You don’t ha... |
Since quarantine started, a couple of us have been meeting up online and having "hangouts". We essentially just talk about random stuff, gossip, and drink together. It's nothing much but keeps us sane.
My friend Tiffany was talking about the new post-doc in her research lab. She was gushing about how hot he is and ho... | YTA for how you handled this with your husband.
He is allowed his feelings. He is allowed to feel insecure about what you said, and you are allowed to not mean it how he took it.
None of that actually resolved the core issue- which is he felt x, and you didn’t take how he felt seriously, and just dismissed his feeli... |
My sister is almost 30, still lives at home and doesn't have a real job. She wants to become a successful Etsy "couture home decor artist."
Basically she wants buy Made in China junk, decorate it and sell it at 900% markup. I told her Pier One already beat her to it and they're going out of business. Faced with the... | YTA for how you handled that. Yeah, I also think it won’t go as she thinks it will, but you were a total asshole in your response. You could have evenly, and cooly, and helpfully explained your view to her, but instead you dumped your derision on her. ###### |
My husband's friend and his wife are pregnant and expecting a boy. They recently told my husband that they want to name the baby after him.
When my husband and his friend where teenagers, his friend was involved in a really bad accident while they were riding dirt bikes. If my husband had not been there that day his ... | Yta for going around your husband.
Beyond that,I have a brother who is named after my dad. It is nothing but hassles and headaches when dealing with nearly everything, especially government bureaucracy. Don't do it. ###### |
I have a seventeen year old daughter who has been kind of difficult lately. She is getting really into social issues and just doesn’t stop when I ask her to. We were having a conversation last night about relationships and I admitted that I didn’t love her father when I married him and I married him entirely for his mo... | YTA for giving your 17-year-old daughter some very complicated information that she couldn’t possibly begin to understand. Just because she knows there’s a 25 year age difference between you and your husband, doesn’t mean she knows that you married him purely for money. Honestly, I think you’re an asshole for doing th... |
My husband wanted to go visit his mom the other day and I really didn’t want to drag the kids over there because I feel like she makes it obvious she doesn’t want to be a grandmother but my husband keeps pushing it. She doesn’t like to be touched, like to an extreme and doesn’t want her own grandchildren touching her. ... | YTA for fighting with her about her boundaries. You don't have to like or understand other people's boundaries, but you do have to accept them.
She doesn't want anyone but her immediate family touching her. Regardless of how much it bothers you, everyone has the inarguable, absolute, end-all be-all right to decide wh... |
I’ve (21M) been with the same girl (21F) for about 2 years now. A little while into our relationship I started having suspicions about my sexuality but I was honest with her that I thought I might be bi. Over the last year or so I’ve been pretty much sure I’m gay now. With the way my attractions have changed, sexual de... | YTA for continuing to date this woman for “the last year or so” when you’ve “been pretty much sure I’m gay.” You didn’t need to come out to her but you should have broken up with her and yes, you were stringing her along. ###### |
So my girlfriend and I are from different countries. I come from a muslim majority country and she comes from a christian country. Her name is something like Alison and all her friends and family are calling her Ali, except me, I call her by her full name because Ali is my dad's name and I feel weird calling my girlfri... | YTA for bringing up your girlfriend's sex life with her parents. Like not even cool. You're not the only one involved to give consent to that.
On another note I think it's real weird they named their daughter something they won't even call her by. ###### |
It’s a cheap house I want to invest in. Owned by the state currently. I’m doing inspections now, if report ok (I expect some work but ok as in I can afford fixes) I’ll buy cash and fly out and start the renovations. Probably just rent it out but I want it to be nice enough to rent so it’s not probably cheap in total... | YTA for bringing it up when your wife TOLD YOU NOT TO.
You knew who they were, she knows who they are.
At this point you would be even more TA, if both you and your wife firmly didn't tell them no, and to not ask for anything again. ###### |
My 14yo son goes to a private high school. Very pricey and the vast majority of the families are loaded with money. Money is no object to them. My son happens to get a partial scholarship so I can afford his education.
A lot of the kids at his high school do a semester of studying aboard. Usually in Australia and Swi... | YTA for being so proud that you can’t even tell your own son that you’re struggling financially. Saying “it’s a lot of money, and I’m worried about Covid right now” would have been perfectly fine. At least then, he knows the truth, but he can also tell his friends at school that he isn’t going because of Covid. Tell h... |
Yesterday I really wanted to eat steak, so I bought a beautiful piece of Argentinian chorizo (New York Strip) at a very fancy place. I bought gourmet butter and some rosemary, and I say this to emphasize how much I was craving and how much effort I put in the making.
I told my gf IN THE MORNING that I wanted steak and... | YTA for all the reasons mentioned above but also for coming out of the gate with “I’m tired of women expecting us to read their mind with no communication!” You were clearly the one communicating improperly, and made it like your gf was unreasonable and impossible to understand. ###### |
Y'all... I can't even explain how terrible these things are. He's making them right now. I hear him in the kitchen, and I'm scared. When I hear the metal spatula hit my cast-iron skillet, I know what's coming, and it fills me with dread.
He makes breakfast burritos. When I make them, I do it the right way: Eggs, bel... | YTA for acting like a child and not just telling him that while you're glad he enjoys his creations they're just not your thing and you'd rather make your own.
Use your words. ###### |
This evening, I was walking my dog. During the walk, I recognized this girl I went to high school with sitting outside while I was passing her house. Her dogs were barking at me, so I just asked friendly as all hell, "Are your dogs mean?" But she didn't say anything. She was kind of close so I knew she heard me, but I ... | YTA for acting entitled to a response, leave her alone. ###### |
I'm Canadian-Italian; while I speak English, my parents do not; growing up I spoke Italian at home and English at school. I used to live in a neighborhood in Toronto with a predominant Italian population.
Our childhood grocery store was Italian run and while you could make due in English shopping there, you can forget... | YTA for a couple of reasons:
>I ask her if there's an Italian employee who can help me. This would go a lot faster and smoother if I can ask for what I want in Italian.
If language is the issue, what you should have asked is if there are any employees who **speak** Italian. Not everyone born in Italy is going to be... |
I'm 18 (turning 19 in November). Someone posted some art in a fandom community I am in late last year and it was great so I made a twitter account to follow the artist. Big-ish account. He's 24 (almost 25) and I quickly developed a crush on him. He's so nice and handsome and humble, replies to every tweet and dm, that ... | Yta evetually hes going to find out he will notice when you do not buy drinks at a resturant or other tiny things will show that you are underage ###### |
I am 36 and have a 16 year old daughter.
I have full custody of her because her mom, 40, had a mental breakdown and has been in and out of rehab.
This January, I started dating my girlfriend (21F).
Then quarantine happened and that time apart made me realize that I wanted to spend my life with her. So I proposed ... | YTA every step of the way. Let's break this down:
> I am 36 and have a 16 year old daughter.....This January, I started dating my girlfriend (21F)
Okaaaay, so your dating a girl that's only a couple years older than your daughter. Kinda weird.
>Then quarantine happened and that time apart made me realize that I wan... |
She made it very clear she does not want to have children. She is our 2nd adopted child. Unfortunately we have not been able to parent our own children, we tried our best.
She has not been very receptive to our collective response, and has been very reclusive, out from the usual. Has been acting out, and physical at t... | YTA even though you didn’t really ask. This reads more like boasting about your shitty choices. You don’t provide any details about adopting her. Was she a baby? Does she remember her real parents? Did she have a crappy life? Maybe she doesn’t want to have kids because she remembers what her life was like before she w... |
(23m) Just started dating this girl (21) for maybe two months now and she came over to hang yesterday. Her cycles are irregular due to her birth control and her periods can range from a month to several months.
Accidents happen and she bled right through her underwear through her jeans. I gave her a spare of my box... | YTA either sex ed has seriously failed you, or you have a phobia of blood. Also, do your gf a favor and break up, she doesn’t deserve that ###### |
Throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main.
I've been dating this girl for 8 months now. She's honestly amazing and I can almost see our future together. She has a 3 year old daughter from a past relationship, whom I've never met. I've seen pictures, videos, and heard her gush about her daughter but I've ne... | YTA dude, she’s 3. She wouldn’t even understand what a ‘boyfriend’ is. And she doesn’t need to see people she doesn’t know be intimate with her mum, the kiss is inappropriate too until she knows you.
You want to be with this woman, you have a lot to learn about what it takes to be a parent, trust and respect what s... |
I (m35) have a 16 year old daughter. I’ve been a single father since she was about 3 years old as I got sole legal custody due to some addiction issues her mother has. We have a really good relationship, but I always worry about her not having a woman to talk to.
Over the past few months she hasn’t really seemed to b... | YTA dude you just violated her privacy big time. ###### |
Hey guys, I know the title sounds horrible but bear with me please.
I (23M) have recently started using Tinder. In the beginning it was just for fun because I was bored. I had no expectations from it and no intentions of really meeting someone. I matched with a couple of girls and started texting with some of them, b... | YTA don’t swipe right on someone you wouldn’t want to actually go on a date with. She couldn’t have messaged you without you first swiping right.
You said you clicked with her and YOU asked HER out on a date. Even if you weren’t attracted to her you could’ve at least finished the date and let her know nicely that y... |
So... title doesn’t sound great, but hear me out.
My wife and I are both practical jokers and like to play around with our group of friends (and vice versa). Back in those heady days when we could still have people to dinner, we had a bunch of friends over to dinner and decided to have a bit of fun.
We both like Hel... | YTA do that shit when you two are alone not when you’re hosting people. How are they supposed to take it when you’re screaming at her in the kitchen and they aren’t sure if you’re serious or not. ###### |
It was my birthday yesterday and about a week ago my wife asked me what I wanted to do / what to have the our kids ( 11 m, 13 f, and 15 f) get me (she gives them the money then they gift it to me) . I told her that I didn't want do anything for it and that the perfect birthday for me would be me being able to spend the... | YTA definitely. imagine how happy your children were that they were finally able to spend time with their father who normally is out working, only for you to turn around and tell them that the best gift they could give you is to not talk to you? You have totally made them feel unwanted and isolated. Not to mention you... |
So I’m from an asian country. Socially to some extent it’s kinda less conservative than some, so people date and have sex and all that without much of a problem, but we’re still generally obsessed with getting into good colleges and going into profitable careers. The top colleges in that regard are American ones like I... | YTA but lightly.
You strike me as someone with relatively low emotional intelligence. Both by your choice of words to describe your ex as well as your responses to others.
Did you state facts? Sure. Did you need to? No. You could have used any other type of general example to get your point across to those students... |
My wife finally succumbed to cancer after a three year long battle.
As her spouse, I had to take responsibility of her body. However, though we were legally spouses, for the last two and a half years my wife and I had been living apart. I had my own separate loft while the kids (13F,12F,10F) and her stayed in the hou... | YTA but let me explain. Donating a body to science is fine...if that is what they wanted. You claim you didn’t know what your late wife wanted- your daughter has just told you. You say funerals are for the living- that doesn’t just mean you it means her children and other relatives too. I don’t know if it’s too late f... |
I (32M) have been friends with Levi (34M) for 13 years, I wouldn’t say we’re exactly best friends but we see each other every Fri and Sat at the gym and every Sunday as our sons (8) go to the same club.
When I was 15 my father remarried to my stepmother who’s daughter was 4 at the time, she’s 21 now and about to turn ... | YTA but if it's any consolation your friend is a bigger asshole. Maybe that's why you get along. Your married 32 year old friend hits on your 19 year old sister and then gets butthurt when she, a literal teenager, turns him down so he holds onto that resentment for two years before drunkenly confessing to you, her bro... |
We have a girl here in our swimming team who has very low self esteem, to the point that she is constantly calling herself slow, stupid, ugly, short, fat, dark, single, unloved... basically anything negative. Every time she does that, we would assure her with something like "No you are not (insert word), you are wonder... | YTA but good lord it was a necessary evil. I fucking despise people who fish for compliments are reassurance like that. ###### |
Edit:- Sorry for the mistake I’m 39 and not 35
Basically title says it all.
My (39M) step daughter (16F) did one of those adoption proposals, honestly it hurts to say, but I refused and did it as gently and respectfully as possible. She cried, like a lot, but she was very respectful of my decision.
Her mother says ... | YTA but also there seems to be some missing information. Why did you turn down her proposal? Do you consider yourself to be a father figure to her? Ultimately it’s your decision but if you’re already playing a fatherly role to her then I don’t see why you turned down her adoption proposal. Just because she has a bio f... |
My girlfriend (20f) and I (36m) have been living together for about six months now. She has quite a lot of mental and physical health conditions. She has chronic migraines, hypermobile joints that are causing severe pain her wrists, chronic kidney disease and pernicious anaemia, as well as depression.
She’s been stru... | YTA big time
1) Why are you 36 dating a 20 year old that ALREADY sets off so many separate flags
2) Depression is almost ALWAYS a side effect of chronic illnesses.
3) You think that at 20 years old she hasn't TRIED everything that would help with her chronic illnesses?????? You think you know her illnesses better ... |
My husband (28) and I (43) had a small birthday celebration for my daughter (15) in our backyard.
She was able to eat and hang out with her two best friends. Everything goes fine until her stepdad walks out with a buddy of his to grab some chips and drink a bottle of beer.
We have a very large deck and they were si... | YTA big time
>My husband was humiliated and sometimes he sighs and says that he doesn’t know if this will work out.
Your husband is also manipulating you. ⬆️ ###### |
I was babysitting 2 kids, 11 and 13 years old and I took them to the petting zoo. The goats were having sex and the kids were confused and asked me what they were doing and I tried to change the subject but they kept pestering me so I said they were having sex.
They asked me what sex was so I told them. I didnt go int... | YTA big time. You crossed a major boundary. The proper thing for you to have done would have been to say to the children something that could have eased into a transition onto another topic. Then, when you got home with the children you talk to the parents about what happened so they can be the ones to debrief with th... |
My friend has desperately wanted a pair of Vans Classics but can't afford £60 for them. Today we met up and she had a pair on which I was surprised at but she was so excited to finally have a pair. I asked her where she got them from and she said eBay. I commented on the fact she's said she can't afford a pair but she ... | YTA big time. People wearing second hand shoes is quite normal, and there was likely long enough that any 'germs' wouldnt be an issue anyway (or else you'd certainly smell it).
Really a mean and entitled thing to say, I feel bad for her. I can't see anyone giving you anything but a YTA here and you'll probably brea... |
Yesterday, I (26 m) and my partner (22 f) were driving to my parents’ house for lunch. As I was driving down the main road of the village we live in, a little girl (maybe 4ish?) suddenly shot off across the road in front of the car.
I absolutely slammed down on the brakes, the car lurched and squealed, my partner who ... | YTA because you're the type of person who thinks it's ever, ever ok to call a woman a "stupid bitch", much less in front of her child. It's even worse that you think being "out of control with anger" justifies your behaviour. That's a major red flag. Do better. ###### |
Myself (60M), my wife of 5 years, my son and his wife went out for lunch for my son’s birthday. I invited him because I wanted to see him on his birthday but knew they had plans to go away for the night later.
We didn’t drink, so the bill came out to about $80. When the check came, my son pulled out cash, as did I. I ... | YTA because you should know by this point in your life that when you invite someone for something, especially out to a celebratory dinner or something along that vein, that you pay. ###### |
My wife is admittedly a gold digger and a damn good one. She always dated men who could take care of her and when I met her she was definitely looking for a husband to keep that up. I don’t care and I don’t think it means we never fell in love but she knew what she wanted.
Most of the women in my circle don’t like he... | YTA because you know what you signed up for. Both of you sound awful though. You married a shallow person and are shocked that's what you got? LOL. ###### |
Hey there umm this is my first post but I read a lot of storys and this one came up in my family and decided to post it here
Backstory : so my cousin's family had a dog that they got two years ago at first they loved him then wanted him to become a security dog so he was locked in a cage most of the he pooped in the... | YTA because you knew they were abusing their dog and you did nothing about it ###### |
I (29M) am engaged with my fiance (26F). My coworker (30F) and I are also decently close, as in we're somewhat friends (more than coworkers, less than friends). We were talking about my engagement and I told her about the ring I bought. It is a "cheap" ring with a zirkonia stone. It cost me around €220, which I still t... | YTA because you jumped to "no one would ever marry you" instead of conceding different people value different things. to some people, the ring is a promise that's meant to be a grand gesture to prove the lengths and effort someone is willing to go for for their partner. sure, not everyone values that- even i don't, fo... |
My ex [33m] and I [28f] dated on and off for three years. He met my sister maybe five times and I tried really hard to keep him distanced from my family because he had a borderline personality disorder and was a pathological liar who cheated on me the entire time. About a week ago I gave him her number and he immediate... | Yta because you created this entire mess. You gave him her number because you wanted her to move out and he needed a roommate, then you freaked out that they might move in together.
yta for getting mad about it and yta for ever giving someone you paint so horribly your sister's phone number. ###### |
I’m a 26 year old woman my daughter is 4 and one of her friends is having a small birthday party. Well recently she was at a playground and another one of the girls there was bullying her. I noticed that the bully was also friends with the girl having the party. However I’m good friends with the mom of the birthday chi... | YTA because ultimately, you didn’t solve anything. You didn’t talk to the kids parents to discuss her behaviour, you just had her removed from a party by a third party. You acted pretty immaturely and took a backhanded approach rather than dealing with the issue head on. You basically just bullied a four year old. ###... |
My (32f) husband (35m) and I agreed to raise our daughter bilingually, however, he has been complaining about the fact that our daughter is identifying with my heritage and language more than his. He gets annoyed when my daughter and I speak in our language in front of him. I have told him multiple times to make an eff... | YTA because this is clearly fiction. ###### |
To start this is my throwaway.
I'm a mistress to a man who has to work from away from home about 1 week a month. His wife knows and said It was OK but I needed to sign a legal contract, and I agreed. Hes a business man and shes a horse breeder and owns like 10 stsbles. The legal contract says, I can live in their co... | YTA because that isn’t your room. You noted you’re supposed to live in the upstairs master, which is your room and you get to decorate. The downstairs master is the husband and wife’s room, and they get to decorate it. You don’t get to set new rules for it because you like it’s bath and shower better. ###### |
I have made the decision to go vegan earlier this year. It has been something that I have felt calling me for some time, and this past spring, everything finally clicked and I could no longer bring myself to support the animal agriculture industry.
As such, all the groceries I have decided to purchase and all the mea... | YTA because of your comments further down about your son. In the time of covid, no more than 1 person should be doing the shopping, and since due to division of labor that falls on you, then you should buy all food for your family. Refusing to buy meat for them and expecting your 14 year old to bike 10 min to the st... |
We've been dating each other for a little over a year now and our relationship has been great with no problems and no complaints. Unfortunately I couldn't see her in person from March to like mid June cos of corona but we've been seeing each other again and going out quite regularly now for the past few weeks. Before t... | YTA because of how you handled it, not because it makes you uncomfortable. People have different beliefs and I don’t think it’s bad to be uncomfortable if you can just have an adult conversation about it and not come out judging. It’s her choice and her right to dress as she pleases, so if you have an adult conversati... |
I (29M) and my gf (30F) moved in due to the pandemic. As a result of Covid, we have inevitably had to start working from home. We both work pretty difficult (sujectively) jobs that require a pretty significant amount of our time during the week + weekend. I would however say that my work is significantly more flexible ... | YTA because of how little empathy you seem to have for her and how selfish you’re being.
You’re acting like she’s deliberating working more, when she’s clearly stated to you that work has gotten very demanding for her. Who the hell WANTS to work from 7:30 to midnight days on end?? Please think about this for a second... |
I (21M) have been with her (21F) for a year now.
Recently, she did something which many people would consider to be not the smartest decision in our current environment (social distancing). Anyway, she, as a very social college student did something monumentally stupid and hosted a party with about 20 people.
My gi... | YTA because her throwing a party doesn’t make her the name that she was called. Honestly the insult made no sense and at the very least you should have corrected him even if you didn’t agree with her throwing the party ###### |
For those of you who don't know a quinceanera is a coming of age party in the hispanic culture for a girl turning fifteen. To a lot of people in our community it is more important than a wedding and they save since the girl is born. My wife and I are a very traditional hispanic couple, trying to raise our children in a... | YTA because by telling her she's selfish for not wanting a party that should be focused on her, you're actually telling her it's not about her at all. You'd rather your daughter be uncomfortable for the sake of appearances.
Sounds like you want a chance to show off at the expense of doing something your daughter does... |
I ordered some lunch through Door Dash today. However I forgot to request some dipping sauce for my chicken, so once my delivery driver got the order I gave her a call to let her know.
Her phone rang once then went straight to voicemail. Obvious ignore. A moment later I received a text message saying (copy-pasted):
... | YTA as you sound like an entitled ass. You probably experienced an auto reply from a responsible driver who didn't want to talk about dipping sauce and drive an automobile and not someone ignoring your precious self. Such an asshole. ###### |
Me and my wife (both 45) have a son(18M) .Recently he came out to us .I was shocked but accepted it .My wife did not and started being distant with him and searching for potential girlfriends for him . I told him to go to his grandparent's house for the time being until i make his mother understand.He left, but not bef... | YTA and your wife is a shitty person. You're punishing your son because your wife is a shitty person. You are both failures as parents. You WILL lose your son over this so you have chosen the shitty person over your child who has done nothing wrong and just needs your support. I hope you're happy with yourself. Bring ... |
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, I’m 21 and she’s 19.
She’s currently living with me and my parents after an argument with her parents, I won’t go into the reason but I don’t think she’ll go back to speaking with them.
My friends have a friend, “Brad”, Brad is a doctor around 40 and married.
My g... | YTA and your mother is also TA. Poor gf and poor Brad, what an awful uncomfortable joke ###### |
My girls are 6 and 4 and they live with their mother, stepfather and 2 brothers that are 2 and a newborn.
I have them every other weekend. I’m married and also have a son. Well my kids came over and they had been gushing over how their stepdad bought them a trampoline and how he would hold their hands and bounce them... | YTA and your jealousy is affecting your relationship with your children ###### |
Throwaway bc family could see.
I (31F) have one son, 3M. He’s very sweet, calm, low-maintenance, and a great kid. I lucked out with him. We asked one of his daycare providers, B, to watch him for 5 hours, from 1-6 since I had to work. B knows he’s an easy kid and she knows him well, so she went with a lower charge, a... | YTA and your husband is so awesome for giving her an extra $50! He sounds like a really nice guy. He must be so embarrassed by your behavior. ###### |
Throwaway account.
My best friend had asked me if I was available one night and if I was could I pick her up from a party as she didn’t have a lift and felt really uncomfortable being in a uber or taxi late at night. I said of course I would pick her up.
Later that night my boyfriend texted me asking to hang out. So ... | YTA and your bf sucks too. You should completely feel worried because she likely won’t trust you again. You forgot about her and her physical safety because you were with your bf. That’s super shitty and shows how little regard you have for her. She was responsible and arranged a ride because she would be drinking, yo... |
I’m a 26 year old woman my daughter is 4 and one of her friends is having a small birthday party. Well recently she was at a playground and another one of the girls there was bullying her. I noticed that the bully was also friends with the girl having the party. However I’m good friends with the mom of the birthday chi... | YTA and you're also a bully. They are four years old. It is ridiculous that you would have the child uninvited from someone else's party because of how you perceived her interaction with your child. What kind of Queen Bee Mean Girl BS is that?!?!? ###### |
The tile sounds bad, but let me offer some backstory. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up right before the pandemic started and recently got back together over the summer. I am attending a University in the city and I needed to get an apartment for my research opportunities. All of the dorms in the area are closed... | YTA and y'all both sound toxic ass hell. Break up and be done with it. Also learn to be less controlling ###### |
My cousin \[18F\] finished high school some time ago and made a post on Facebook that she now decided to give her books for free and if we need the books to contact her. Luckily, I was one of the first to see the post and immediately messaged her because I need the books for this year and next and they are ridiculousl... | YTA and this belongs on r/choosingbeggars ###### |
Yesterday it was my daughter's 15th birthday and I took her out shopping. I asked her what she wanted to get as a gift and she mentioned she would like to get some piercings.
My daughter for the past year has wanted to get several piercings but I thought she was too young. When she asked me for her birthday I told he... | YTA and the piercer you went to was irresponsible for agreeing to give *four* piercings to a minor who has never had a single piercing before. Especially a piercing that requires more stringent care like a navel piercing.
Whatever people in the comments might tell you, yes people still have hang ups around facial pie... |
My wife was pregnant at the time so I was carrying her luggage. The airline had a policy of 2 bags per person. I had 3 bags and she had none. We go to board our plane and the airline employee tells us we can't enter and we need to check one of our luggage in as its 2 per person. I said we're together and its only 3 bag... | YTA and May want go to anger therapy if you cuss people out on a regular basis since this is your second post about cussing people out... ###### |
My husband (28) and I (43) had a small birthday celebration for my daughter (15) in our backyard.
She was able to eat and hang out with her two best friends. Everything goes fine until her stepdad walks out with a buddy of his to grab some chips and drink a bottle of beer.
We have a very large deck and they were si... | YTA and let's review the red flags and assholery together.
>My husband was humiliated and sometimes he sighs and says that he doesn’t know if this will work out.
You husband tells you that he doesn't know if this is going to work out. This being your marriage! He literally questions your relationship but here you a... |
Recently I started dating a girl who lost about 10-15 pounds before we got together. She struggles with her weight a lot, and I try to be encouraging to her. She even asks me questions from time to time such as “do I even look different than I did when I weighed more?” And I tell her yes, I think you look differe... | YTA and Ill tell you why. She asked if she “looked different”, a proper response from you would help her feel validated in her >progress<. It would make her feel like her work is paying off and would make her feel good about herself if you had said something like “yeah you can totally tell” etc. When you said “you loo... |
My daughter is eleven and at her school they were having an event where they could dress up as a character from their favorite movie. She told me she wanted to dress up as Belle from Beauty and the Beast. I told her wouldn’t it be kind of immature for a sixth grader to dress up as Belle.
On Thursday (the day before th... | YTA and I seriously hope this is a troll. Who gives a damn what your 11yo child dresses up as for school ###### |
So a throwaway
When I (M19) first started dating my girlfriend (F18) she has body confidence issues and was a bit on the chubby side and didn’t like to show her body. I told her that confidence was very attractive and that being unconfident like she was was really unattractive. A couple of my female friends are very... | YTA and I hope she dumps you for someone who won't tell her to ask their female friends for tips on how to get more attractive. Yikes. ###### |
Okay so I remember when I was at the gym one day and I was looking for a song on Spotify to jam out to while my workout routine. This lady started circling around me and pretending to look at her watch (she doesn’t have one LMAO) and she finally went up to me and was like “Can I use this machine because you’re not usin... | YTA and I have the feeling that you know it but don’t want to admit it. ###### |
I'm getting married next month. 6 months ago, I decided on a bridesmaids dress from amazon. I told each person individually what they were to get. It was cheap. Everyone ordered it and recieved their packages a while ago.
Except one girl, however. She decided to order it 4 months ago rather than 6. I know she was losi... | YTA and hello bridezilla. She waited two months which normally wouldn’t have made a difference. It only did due to something completely out of her control, poor communication from the seller YOU chose, and by the time she contacted you she had already identified another alternative. ###### |
My wife and I live in a three bedroom home. We probably will move sooner or later but not for a few years, so in the long run these problems will get resolved before too long. One of the two spare bedrooms (my hobby room) is about 33-50% larger than the other spare bedroom. My wife wants me to move my hobby stuff out o... | YTA and could probably use a read up on childhood development if you think your kid isn’t going to be getting into this stuff soon. My son walked by 11 months and shortly after a year he was climbing counters and trying to get into everything. ###### |
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Last weekend we went to this nice lake where you could swim and have picnics and parking was absolutely packed. Our region has done really well with covid-19 and this was up north so not many people. regardless the parking was packed and we found a ... | YTA and come across as entitled.
You could have dropped your grandmother off and then found a parking somewhere else. ###### |
My roommate and I (both 20f) don’t know each other that well. We have mutual friends who both knew we needed roommates at the beginning of the year, so set us up. We’re not in the apartment at the same time very often, so I wouldn’t say we’re friends, but we don’t dislike each other.
At the beginning of last week, my... | YTA and clean up after yourself! It shouldn’t take a week to wash a sheet. ###### |
Here is a light aita for you guys. It's to settle a years long argument between my sibling and I.( Don't worry we love each other and the story is more amusing than anything)
Years ago, my older sister(25) and I(18) were on a family holiday at an amusement park. She bought a cinnamon roll for us to split. We shared i... | YTA and a monster :) ###### |
Hear me out pls!!
My (20M) girlfriend (20F) had started a facebook page about a year ago. She posts her own memes, random texts and art on it. It was initially not a problem and I was proud of her, even supported her by liking, commenting and sharing her posts to my page that was bigger at the time.
Recently her page... | YTA and a jealous one at that.
How are you even in a relationship when you're this immature? ###### |
A while ago, I finally got some time off work and was excited to spend some alone time with my wife, even suggesting we go on a vacation since it's been so long. My wife, however, refused to stop working to even talk to me. She's in politics and we're in the middle of a war right now, so I partly understand, but I stil... | YTA Anakin!
Let Padme do her thing! ###### |
I ordered some lunch through Door Dash today. However I forgot to request some dipping sauce for my chicken, so once my delivery driver got the order I gave her a call to let her know.
Her phone rang once then went straight to voicemail. Obvious ignore. A moment later I received a text message saying (copy-pasted):
... | YTA absolutely. They likely have that response set up through door dash precisely so they CANNOT talk while driving since door dash would likely get the shit sued out of them if a driver driving for them had an accident while on the phone with a customer.
And how rude of you to immediately assume someone was ignorin... |
My gf was walking from work to her home today and wanted to talk on the phone. We are currently long distance because of the pandemic, so I'm kind of used to us talking through phone - the usual how your day went, venting about customers, me talking about my buddies, my games etc.
Idk why but after some time I just wa... | YTA a lot of women make calls as a way to avoid unwanted street harassment and to make sure someone knows they made it home safely. Was your PC really more important than your partner’s safety? ###### |
My (26) mom’s (46) best friend (f52) was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer 6 years ago. She made it to the 15-20% survival rate. She was a beautiful person. She’s been in my life since I was 2 years old.
Even though she was on heavy doses of pain meds over the years she always randomly texted me telling me she love... | YTA a little here. Even though you meant well, you can't control how other people grieve. She needs to process it in her own way, and she probably needs some support. She doesn't need someone else trying to tell her how to feel about the situation. ###### |
My mom died when I was 13 whilst in childbirth with my youngest sister, my dad therefore suddenly became a single dad of four young girls. He never dated anybody whilst I was going through my teenage years, but met his wife, my stepmom, when I was 19 and in college. As I was the only one of my sisters not living at hom... | YTA a little bit. 6 months is not a long time, and it sounds like you were a little too pushy. If he didn't respond positively when you first brought it up, that was your cue to back off.
Give him some time. He's lost two of the women he loves, and finding another one may not be a priority for him. ###### |
My fiancée and I are getting married in October and I couldn’t be more excited. Currently she’s unemployed because her job permanently shut down due to the lockdown so the income comes from me and her unemployment. I make good money so I don’t care if she gets another job, I can support us.
Money is a little tight lat... | YTA 350 for a wedding dress is nothing. ###### |
I (17f) and my friend/on & off boyfriend (18m) are both huge pranksters and we usually pull stupid pranks on one another. I am white and he’s Native American. He’s got long hair down his back. The other day I was spending the night at his house and thought it would be funny if I tied his hair around those metal bar... | YTA 100% so and at 17 you're not too young to understand that his body and his hair aren't toys. It's just hair to you, it's not that to him. And I would say that you're about to lose a friend for good if you keep trying to downplay what you did here ###### |
My fiancée and I are getting married in October and I couldn’t be more excited. Currently she’s unemployed because her job permanently shut down due to the lockdown so the income comes from me and her unemployment. I make good money so I don’t care if she gets another job, I can support us.
Money is a little tight lat... | YTA 100% man. Come on now.
Not for the reason you might think either.
A wedding dress being $350 is actually cheap, yes you can find cheaper ones out there but those are almost always lower quality and not a good idea, this is a once in a lifetime thing (hopefully) and you’re paying to insure there aren’t wardrobe ma... |
My wife and I recently moved to a new city. I took a job with a higher salary, enabling my wife to stay home with our children. We didn't want to do virtual ed, so she is also homeschooling.
Before moving my wife was working from home full time and was sick of her job. Being without a job was a relief for her.
A few... | YTA ~~I took a job with a higher salary, enabling my wife to stay home with our children~~ My wife agreed to run the household and childcare enabling me to take a job with a higher salary and commitment. There I fixed it for you. ###### |
I work at a call center in a cubicle and I hate it, which is why I've recently decided to go to college and get a degree. I was telling one of my co-workers about this and when he asked why I wanted to go to college, I said to him "I just want to improve my chances of getting a real job." That's when my friend got all ... | YTA — not for wanting to get a different job, but for putting down your current job to people who work that same job. Telling a coworker that their job is just for kids and people with no ambition was really shitty. If you want a better job, that’s great! But it’s elitist and cruel to openly criticize anyone who is co... |
I(24M) am getting married to my gf(25f) next year in tuscon on our anniversary . I sent out invites to the wedding to people in my friend circle . The next day another friend of mine announced to the group that she was getting married at the same place a month before i am getting married. I felt that people would atte... | YTA — It’s a difference of a MONTH for Christ’s sake. You don’t get a wedding month, you get a wedding day. If people don’t make it, they don’t make it.
I would have told you to screw yourself and ended the friendship on my own. You’re selfish and absolutely the asshole here. ###### |
While my fiancée and I were having sex, she just asked me if I could see any bumps on her vagina. I just mentioned that the outside part of her private was the vulva, and that the vagina was the tube. She disagreed, and we googled it. I was right
Then everything became extremely awkward. She said that she really disl... | YTA
You knew what are she was referring to, and had to be right. If the ‘bump’ was the main concern, you should have addressed that directly.
If she said she had 10/10 stomach pain, would you correct her and say it’s really epigastric pain?
If she sliced the area between her wrist and elbow , and said she cut her a... |
My brother started dating this new girl and I realized I recognized her from AA. I’m not an addict, but my lawyer recommended I attend some AA meetings to help strengthen my DUI case (and before you get on my ass for it, I made a mistake months back and got through it). I know it’s her because I remember her very uniqu... | YTA
What you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here.
You broke a cardinal rule buddy ###### |
My wife filed for divorce after the birth of our third child.
She started gunning for full custody after getting jealous that I have started dating a new woman (21F). Previously, she wanted to negotiate a 60-40 split despite my protests it be 50-50. I’m pretty sure she’s talking trash about me to our kids.
My soon ... | YTA
What I gathered:
You are dating someone just 8 years older than your child.
You chose to get your wife fired because of a custody issue. Hopefully a judge will see this is as the malicious attack that it was, and will give her custody whole charging you alimony and child support as you made her unable to support ... |
So I (17m) live with my mom, dad, and sister (15). My mom often leaves for long trips by herself (I believe to get away from my dad and us) and hasn’t been here all week. My dad is a pretty extreme alcoholic and is almost never sober. He’s typically worst in the evenings, when he’s clearly intoxicated (unlike other tim... | YTA
The person you should be angry at in this situation is your dad. It is his responsibility to set clear boundaries, and to be taking care of her rather than drinking so much he’ll let her convince him to do whatever she wants. ###### |
I don’t care that “I bought it for her” or anything like that.. but she is 5’1 120 and goes on runs at night.
Her area isn’t bad but it gets shadier 10-15 miles out in a couple directions.
I got her this armband that holds pepper spray that she wore for a while and admitted was uncomfortable.
She said I can’t contro... | YTA
Listen buddy, these girls have been dealing with this stuff for way longer than you have. You dont think that each time she goes out for a run that she knows the risk she is taking? She has had to deal with those risks her whole life and I'm sure it's always in the back of her head even if you dont tell her to we... |
Been dating for 4 months now and honestly one of the things I find attractive about her, is her voice. However that's most likely fake and a tone that she keeps up. My girlfriend's native language isn't English . She speaks another language too. I only speak English and can understand a bit of Spanish. I barely hear he... | YTA
It isn't uncommon to have a different tone of voice when switching languages. You're not calling her out, you're assuming. ###### |
Happened last Friday.
Me: 21M
Her 20F
First of all, I have absolutely nothing against under-aged drinking. I drank a fuck ton all the time underage that I would buy from friends.
With that being out of the way, we go to college in Wisconsin where the law states that somebody can be served underage if they are with... | YTA
If you’re ok with her using a fake ID, you shouldn’t have embarrassed her like that. ###### |
I wanted a quick 15-second animation done from a friend. The animation would form a segment of a short PSA video for my college video, so the animation quality itself doesn't need to be high. I asked my friend who does animation for a commission, and she said 200 dollars. Now I don't know anything about art so I truste... | YTA
Friends of all people should know that independent work is always underpaid no matter what you are selling ...
you should have made a point of paying her asking price - instead of abusing your friendship.
Same way you should pay your coffee in your mates coffee shop. It’s those guys lifelyhood and as a friend of... |
I (34F) teach a freshman biology class. Today, I wanted to see if my students would keep their integrity while doing distance learning, so I created a test. I made a quiz on a unit we haven't covered yet, and released it to the class. Lots of students got inexplicably correct answers, despite not studying the subject. ... | YTA
First off, some students may actually already know the material so punishing them is deeply unfair. Second, creating a culture of mistrust through entrapment does nothing to help people learn. Use it as an object lesson, but don’t mess with people’s grades. ###### |
My friend (27, F) says she has a connective tissue disorder and says this affects her entire body and for nearly a decade she has a condition where the pressure of the fluid in her brain is low and this causes her brain to be inflamed which causes headaches, seizures and causes her to 'constantly hear things'.
I've s... | YTA
Also, shower more. ###### |
I enjoy going to massage parlors every so often, especially if I worked many hours. I see it as a way to wind down. As such, I am generally familiar with the rates/what to expect.
I decided to try a new massage parlor that isn't too far from where I live. I went down there and the girl who gave me the massage was very... | YTA
You’re mad that your HJ cost too much? Please, try reporting this to the BBB. I’d love to see how that works out. ###### |
I was babysitting 2 kids, 11 and 13 years old and I took them to the petting zoo. The goats were having sex and the kids were confused and asked me what they were doing and I tried to change the subject but they kept pestering me so I said they were having sex.
They asked me what sex was so I told them. I didnt go int... | yta
you should have said mating and left it at that. 'ask your parents' is a great phrase to use if theres ever a next time ###### |
My friend has desperately wanted a pair of Vans Classics but can't afford £60 for them. Today we met up and she had a pair on which I was surprised at but she was so excited to finally have a pair. I asked her where she got them from and she said eBay. I commented on the fact she's said she can't afford a pair but she ... | YTA
Well done for raining on her parade.
I keep thinking about the massive smile on her face disappearing after listening to your judgemental crap and it makes me feel so sad. ###### |
I work for this factory, i'm pretty much a foreman and supervisor for my team. It's a factory job, i liked it. My guys respected me even though i was a woman. I got my son (22) a job here as well, mostly as an assistant to the other supervisors, just a little desk job. He likes it enough. He hasn't been able to find a... | YTA
This is your sons income and you should be happy that they’re treating him well. Period.
As for him liking a girl at work, that’s neither here nor there, but if she’s interested in him then good for them.
It’s very selfish of you to expect your son give up his income and job experience because you chose to qu... |
My best friend and I are the type to always pull pranks on each other, it's just how our friendship formed and we always get a kick out of it.
For example, he once invited me to a party and told me to wear a costume and when I got there, it was normal attire. I laughed after the initial embarrassment, and like I said ... | YTA
The jokes are between you and your friend. Pulling in others that aren’t aware that you’re making them a pawn in your game makes you absolutely AH.
And wearing white on a wedding day is not an appropriate prank. They spent money on that occasion and invited you to join in their happiness. Instead, you made it ... |
“Fuck you” she said, after I told her I would be back from the gym at 7:30, just like last night. She refuted I wasn’t there at 7:30, that I didn’t get home until 8. I told her I was indeed there at 7:30, I just sat on the driveway because I was speaking with a client. As soon as I clarify that, she said: “why do you h... | YTA
The fact that you need to be right about this to me indicates that it’s more important for you to be superior than to understand why it was important to your wife for you to be home.
She had plans, you knew about them. 5 min late because you wanted to reschedule a work call for business hours is a far cry away... |
I'm (27M), My wife (23F) has 4 days off this coming week and took them off to have some down time for her birthday....Fri, Sat, Sun & Mon are her off days.
I have some family coming in my town on Saturday afternoon from far away that I haven't seen in over a year, I would like to see my family for just a few hour... | YTA
She’s busy. Doing nothing. ###### |
I [19F] have been living with my boyfriend [18M] and his parents and his sister [18F] for a couple of months. His parents were out. His sister was sick. It got worse. She threw up on herself and hadn't showered in a couple of days. She was sweaty, dizzy, and weak. After she threw up on herself he helped her to the bath... | YTA
She was sick and needed help. You sound like a creep. What would you have preferred she laid there helpless? Or fell in the tub?
What do you think is going to happen when you get older? Someone may have to help you who is not your SO. Are you going to automatically sexualize them moment?
You broke his trust ... |
We work at a large grocery store, and she recently got hired for customer service alongside me. She looks a bit younger than me at around 18-19 years old. She is the type of worker that is always cheery and upbeat, which I have no problem with. But she is so cringy and seems like she is begging for attention. She has a... | YTA
Old lady is right ###### |
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