prompt stringlengths 264 2.01k | completion stringlengths 12 4.29k |
|---|---|
So about a month ago my sister told us she’s infertile. It’s a shame and I feel bad for her but life goes on. I’m the of my generation to have kids in my family, so my parents have been badgering me to send them pictures and videos because they can’t visit.
Yesterday my husband was asleep on the sofa with my son in hi... | NTA. It's sad that she can't have biological children but she does have a young child she is biologically related to and it's her nephew, your son. Does she want you to suddenly pretend your family doesn't exist because of her news, or would she rather that she was excluded from future family chats because she no long... |
Got some degree of background, I (30F) was pregnant and miscarried. I now have to have the left over tissue removed from my body. I was only 9 weeks at the time, but I’m obviously hormonal and I’m sad.
My husband (31M) was never excited about the pregnancy. To be honest, it was unexpected. We have no other children an... | NTA. It's reasonable to expect him to be a source of emotional support after that. Whether he was excited about the pregnancy or not is actually beside the point - he's supposed to be there to support the woman he loves while she goes through something difficult.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hang in there.... |
Ordered a custom product, told them what I wanted down to the design and colors and paid a design fee. It was a custom gift for my wife and another one for my daughter. A month after it came, they listed the product I had them make for my daughter as a buying option for everyone visiting their site using a photo of my ... | NTA. It's quite dishonest for a company that claims to let customers personalize products, to use those personalizations to make new products, especially without giving you credit. Maybe they have fine print somewhere that says they reserve the right to do that, but it doesn't make what they are doing any less decepti... |
I (f17) live with my mom and my step dad. my step dad and I have never gotten along, and it's progressively gotten worse as I've gotten older.
he frequently insists that my anxiety and depression issues are fake and I'm doing it because I'm desperate for attention. he says extremely mean things to me, like calling me ... | NTA. It's probably the best thing you can do if she's enabling his emotional and verbal abuse of you. He's trying to get you into the same victim role he has your mom in.
Stay safe! ###### |
So a throwaway account and bit of backstory here, bare with me...
I do almost all the cooking in the house, no problems at all as I enjoy doing it. Every weekend we align what time we're eating etc, additionally I give them notice just before, I (usually) set the table and more often than not I'll be sitting at the ta... | NTA. It's pretty disrespectful to ignore the effort you've made. Sitting down for dinner should be part of a routine with kids, and parents should reflect that.
Also giving a kid a pack of chips cause they don't want dinner? Not healthy or helpful. ###### |
Over the coming few weeks I've (25f) been tasks with a painting project in the house. That's fine however I have pretty bad ADHD, and not getting side tracked is really hard. On top of that I have sound sensitivity and a macaw who will screech randomly. I find that I can allow myself to stay focused and in the zone if ... | NTA. It's perfectly reasonable to wear headphones when doing something mundane like chores. Your mom is being rather obtuse since she knows you have ADHD, so any reasonable method to cope with it shouldn't be a problem. Just say to her, "Mom, we can either talk, or I can get my chores done. Pick one." ###### |
We are both in our early 20s, together for 2 years and live together
His work schedule is a standard mon-Thursday 8-5. We usually go to bed at very reasonable hours and get good amounts of sleep.
He used to smoke weed in high school/college but stopped when he got a job that required drug testing. He recently got a... | NTA. It's perfectly reasonable that you want your significant other to spend some time with you, and this is preventing that. Maybe there's another underlying reason for his exhaustion, but to me it seems like this isn't a regular relationship - just cohabitation.
I feel like the real issue here is communication and... |
We are all teens if that changes anything. A few times a week me (male), one other guy, and 3 girls go jogging together. We are all neighbors. Me and the guy don't wear shirts and the girls don't either they just wear their bras.
My girlfriend was reluctant to join but she decided to come once. Afterwards she told m... | NTA. It's perfectly fine to go jogging like that with your friends. Wear what you're comfortable with. Your girlfriend's jealousy shoudn't affect the way that *you* dress. ###### |
Long story short, my boyfriend spends a moderate sized chunk of money on things like patreon and onlyfans so I got annoyed and told him something along the lines of "Why do you spend all this money on random women when I'm right here and we could use this money to go somewhere together", it also makes me feel bad when ... | NTA. It's one thing to watch porn. It's another to tell specific people you want to fuck them. ###### |
My parents passed on in the 1990s when I (16M) and my sister (18F) were teenagers. They died when a trucker ran a light and into their stationary car. My sister insisted on splitting the family inheritance as she wanted to elope with her musician bf to NYC and I was forced to move out from our family home, which was so... | NTA. It's not your job to finance her poor choices. She's right about one thing--those are **your** two empty bedrooms and you'd like them to stay that way.
Do not invite the drama in because it will *never* move out. ###### |
To paint the picture it's a first generation ipad, which basically has no support for any of their apps anymore including YouTube and most of the app-store apps. The main thing that they can be used for is internet surfing but even then they don't have much proccessing power to load modern websites which take so much p... | NTA. It's not your fault the buyer doesn't understand what she purchased. She should have done her research or asked questions before purchasing it.
Stand your ground. ###### |
my mom dropped her phone in the toilet at WORK the other day. she put her phone in rice for 40ish hours, and today, she USED THAT RICE TO MAKE LUNCH.
i told her there's no way im eating that, because her phone was in it. even if it hadnt dropped in a toilet, its DISGUSTING. she said its okay, since she disinfected her... | NTA. It's not the worst but it is gross and it is weird to expect you to eat it. If she is fine with her phone germs she should eat it, not put it on you. Just make a sandwich and let her enjoy. ###### |
My brother can't drive because he gets seizures. I drive him wherever he goes. He wants me to drive him to a protest nearby, but it got really out of hand last night with people being maced and dragged out of their cars and being beaten by cops. He wants to take video as legal evidence in case protestors get arrested, ... | NTA. It's not safe for healthy people, much less so for one prone to seizures. Side note: him saying not driving him means you're complicit in white supremacy is totally not okay and you should address that with him. ###### |
Hi, so today, I(16M) and my family was talking about something that can't be mentioned in this subreddit. I said that I wanted to say what I thought about that subject, and my sister started giggling about how I was going to say something stupid probably taken from a youtube video. My dad laughed with her and insinuate... | NTA. It's not rude to remove yourself from a hostile situation. Just because they were having fun, doesn't change that it was hostile to you. They're the rude one's, for ganging up on you, and putting you down. Since when is that what a "family" is supposed to do? ###### |
Obligatory mobile apology for formatting and spelling
This year my grandmother (mother’s father, not that that matters) is turning 80. For her 80th my mother and I are making her a quilt. The plan is to have all of the family members sign a block of the quilt and then for us to stitch over it.
For our purposes fami... | NTA. It's not like you only selected his girlfriend to be excluded. You all made a blanket rule (hehe) that she just so happens to fall under. ###### |
Okay so long story short, I'm basically flat chested A cup. My boyfriend and I argue alot, and one of the things he constantly points out it that I don't wear a bra.
They're uncomfortable for me because they're always too big, they look and feel stupid on me and I just hate them. He commented in an argument that I wo... | NTA. It's not his body. ###### |
Hi, this is my first time ever posting on Reddit, so please excuse any mistakes I make.
I (17F) keep getting into little arguements during summer with my mom (57F) over not wanting to shave my legs. Having hair on my legs doesn't really bother me, to me it's just... there. I also get occasional acne or mosquito bites ... | NTA. It's not her body, she needs to shut the fuck up. ###### |
DH (M42) and I (F41) have been married almost 18 years. We have our issues, but one there's one that keeps coming up that I really frustrated with. DH is upset that I'm not expanding our family's social horizons by making friends for us to do things with. DH is an extrovert who wants to be around people all the tim... | NTA. It's not anyone's "job," what the hell? If he wants friends he can make some himself like an adult, but after that response I can understand why that might be difficult for him. ###### |
My mom and I (18F) have always had an extremely close relationship. Basically I have always talked to her about everything and she is someone I look to for guidance. I started dating this guy (18M) at the beginning of college. My mom, being pretty religious, has always made it clear she wants me to wait until marriage... | NTA. It's none of her business. ###### |
I'm not a native english speaker and my parents are immigrants. They don't speak the language fluently so whenever I'm talking to them on the phone I have to speak our native language. This however upsets some people, who for some reason feel uncomfortable about this.
In particular one of my ex-roommates told me that ... | NTA. It's none of her business what you're talking about (whatever language) and how fucking self-centred do you have to be to worry that people are talking about you all the time? ###### |
I am a woman who changes her hair a lot, over the last two years I've had a short pixie cut, grown out to a more shaggy pixie cut. I've dyed it all sorts of colors.
A few weeks ago, I was in desperate need of a haircut, I was on the edge of mullet-y. I had one booked then all the hairdressers closed up shop, I'm sure ... | NTA. It's just hair. It grows back.
Also, *you look like a lesbian*? Wtf is that about? Assholes. ###### |
I own and run a webshop selling a food product. I started it in 2017. I also work a full-time job to sustain it - only this year do I stand to make an actual profit. I say that just so you know I'm not some greedy business owner who is rolling in dough.
I have a generous refund policy for people who aren't satisfied, ... | NTA. It's hard to take a firm stance these days with people finger happy at a keyboard. You made the right choice. ###### |
I attend a university where community building & bonding is extremely important. Everyone is family in a sense and we just love to have fun and help each other out. We have a ton of orgs on campus, and each org has a GroupMe account, so does most classes as students use them to share answers, asks questions and jus... | NTA. It's hard to believe that people like this actually exist.
>She claims that she doesn’t go in her chat wishing a happy Ramadan or other Muslim holidays
Does she not understand that she's free to do so? ###### |
So, I'm in high school and a few of my friends are Non-binary or trans and I try to be supportive, I have a good relationship with my parents and so I tell them a lot about my friends including referring to my friend (Let's call him Fred) who asked me to use they/them pronouns by those pronouns, it confused my parents ... | NTA. It's good you referred to Fred by the chosen pronouns. It's good you refer to Fred by those pronouns when talking with others.
It's important, obviously, not to out Fred to anyone. **However**, crucially, it's Fred's responsibility, not yours, to make the situation clear as to who knows about their gender, an... |
Throwaway.
I'm getting married early next year. I've already chosen my bridesmaids who I love immensely and all of them excitedly agreed. A couple days ago, I called one of my bridesmaids to chat about the planning and I told her I'd chosen a color for the dress. She asked about the shoes and I said I didn't care if ... | NTA. It's beige shoes. You want them to have beige shoes. It's not like you told her "skin colour shoes... You know a nice caucasian taupe". It's just beige shoes.
Talk to her more. ###### |
So my sister and her BF recently bought vapes. She bought hers for her own money and I don't care that she's vaping. What I care about, though, is that she vapes in our room (we share a room). So we've gotten in an argument about her vaping here. I really hate the fake fruit smell and it's giving me a headache. AITA? #... | NTA. It's a shared space and you should feel comfortable in it. She's TA. Those headaches can turn into serious migraines if you have a chemical scent sensitivity and you should probably keep an eye on it, they aren't fun ###### |
I'll keep this short and use fake names. Also I'm not a native English speaker, so I apologize in advance for any mistake.
Lily Jones (F27) is my best friend since pre-school. I've known her family since I was 5 years old. Her mom Linda (F51), her dad Joe (F53) and her two younger siblings. As far as I knew her parent... | NTA. It's a confusing situation, but your friend should know what's going on and deserves the truth. They would probably be more mad if you kept it from them, I know I would be ###### |
We've been dating for about 18 months now and living together for just over 8. Her apartments closer to both of our works. Her sister (S) moved in 2 months ago as she's pregnant, her husbands in the army and the rest of the families in a different state.
My GFs a nurse and has been working some pretty long hours, to ... | NTA. It'd be inappropriate. She might as well ask literally anyone else. ###### |
About six months ago I installed security cameras on my property. One indoors to monitor the baby's room and three outdoors: one facing the porch, one my backyard, and one my rear door. I have a hot tub by the rear door.
Having cameras facing front door or porch is pretty typical, right? People use Ring doorbells or w... | NTA. It wouldn't have been a problem if she hadn't gone behind your back in the first place. It's a little weird to use your friend's hot tub without permission, naked. Not to mention inviting friends. She put herself in that situation. ###### |
I (20F) live with my parents and older brother. I’ll be honest - I do not like him. We do not get along. He’s annoying and intruding and loud and I could go on. I try to just ignore him.
For April fools day yesterday, as a “joke,” he decided to hide the pain medication I take to deal with my periods. I have horrible ... | NTA. It wasn’t a joke, and it was over the line. Your parents suck for acting like what he did was fine and needed to be worked out between you. He wants to act like a child, he should be treated like one. I loathe people like him who think he has the answer to everything and feels that he has the right to take action... |
My ex and I broke up a month ago and we met up to exchange each other’s belongings. I was with her for three years.
One of my things I had left at her’s accidentally was my necklace that belonged to my grandfather, valued around $600. I asked her several times to remember to bring it and she said she would.
We meet... | NTA. it wasn't just a necklace, it belonged to someone who meant a lot to you and asking for half the price to replace it is still a nice offer. ###### |
My cousin had to make a delivery for work—8-10 hour drive or something like that. I told him he could crash at my place on his way back as it was about 4 hours closer than his house. When he got there, I told him to help himself to anything in the kitchen. He slept on the couch(I have a spare bed but that’s where he pr... | NTA. It wasn't cool for him to take everything. He should have respected your hospitality amd bought his own food if he was really that hungry. ###### |
I imagine this is going to be a bit of an ESH, but here's the context:
I have a nonbinary coworker, I'll call Ash, who unfortunately had their deadname printed on our weekly schedule for the first few weeks of their employment. They made it very clear to everyone they don't like to be referred to by it, and go by they... | NTA. It was very insensitive of Jessica to do that. And it wasn't that cruel on your part to give her a taste of her own. I feel like it was more of a lesson to show her what it really feels like to be treated that way. A lesson she really needed to learn. I wouldn't let it bother you. I'm sure Ash appreciated someone... |
AITA for reporting my car stolen. A lot of things happened so I'm going to try to summarize. Long story short my brother in law has been in and out of jail most of his life. He has had his driver's license suspended due to multiple running from the law and driving under the influence. He seemed to be wanting to turn a ... | NTA. It was stolen. Do not let these people back in your home. ###### |
For some background: I get free lunch at school and because of the situation i got sent a card in my name to purchase food. My sister is 21 and works.
Today i got a card in my name (addressed specifically to me not to my parents/ guardian). My mom was talking to my grandma and brought it up and told me to bring it. I ... | NTA. It was sent to you for your use alone. OP, do you have enough to eat without this card? ###### |
For some background: I get free lunch at school and because of the situation i got sent a card in my name to purchase food. My sister is 21 and works.
Today i got a card in my name (addressed specifically to me not to my parents/ guardian). My mom was talking to my grandma and brought it up and told me to bring it. I ... | Nta. It was sent to you because you qualify for it. Your mom is committing fraud if she gives it to your sister ###### |
so this story opened about 6 or 7 months ago, I was on vacation with my GF and we stayed at a hotel.
one morning when I woke up I went to the self-serve buffet to take my breakfast, when I was making my coffee my Gf came and asked me if I can make her one as well, I said sure thing, I decided to to do a fancy kind ... | NTA. It was an unreasonable request. You already obliged her coffee and you are not a barista, no reason why she cannot make her coffee the way she wanted it to be done. ###### |
Long story short, my mother spent money she didn't have, couldn't pay rent and is now living with me and my wife. She wanted to pay me rent while she lives with us, but I said she didn't have to so she could pay her debt and get a place of her own sooner. So she said she would be cleaning the house to compensate, I sai... | Nta. It was a very simple very important request. Her behavior put your wife in danger. This time it's a bruised knee next time she could hit her head on the coffee table. What if she had hot coffee in her hands. It's unacceptable and your wife has every right to be safe in her own home. ###### |
My father has recently gotten in touch with his sisters after some long family conflict that they finally resolved. I (16f) got bad vibes from my aunt (Linda) as soon as I met her. She seemed to overstep her boundaries- immediately she asked me what I wanted to be when I got older, I told her a dermatologist and she sa... | NTA. it was a little harsh but you called her on lying and that’s okay. your aunt doesn’t get to constantly compare you to her daughter and act like her daughters better. most of all she can’t tell you her daughters better because of a lie ###### |
I’ve been applying to jobs for a bit now. Recently, I had a Zoom interview for a position in my town. The listing said nothing about commuting or going to another office.
During the interview, the interviewer said “So I know the ad said the job was in x town, but it’s really in y town. Would that be a problem?” That t... | NTA. It was 100% misleading, and intentionally so at that. I wouldn't be surprised if multiple interviewees reported it. I know I would (and in my dream world, would end the interview with "You've wasted my time, I will be reporting your posting for false information, goodbye.") In this job market if they can't get ap... |
I’m at a loss here, and wondering if I’m being gaslit or if I’m a total asshole.
My sister is 16 and I’m 19. When my sister was 7 she begged for a dog, and my parents got her one. When he was no longer little and cute, she wanted nothing to do with him.
I’m not even a dog person, but I stepped up to care for him. H... | NTA. It was *technically* her dog, but it’s also *technically* your jewelry as you are the one who paid for it.
If you think they would get to a point of kicking you out(and by no means anything less) demand 4x what you paid.
Not only that but why didn’t she just get jewelry made herself. Not to sound crass but ther... |
My brother asked for divorce Then proceeded a 4 month campaign to gaslight her about why. My SIL was blindsided. My SIL is not English fluent and has no real friends or family here and hadn’t worked. Over the four months after he demanded divorce he sweet talked her into meeting his lawyer in the hopes to have her sign... | NTA. It sucks that your relatives are like this. But remember, relatives doesn’t automatically equal family and it seems like you are a good person doing the right thing. Your SIL is very lucky to have family like you. ###### |
I’m a 26F, and I’ve recently joined reddit to help me gain insight on some of my current life problems. I will try and keep this short.
I befriended a 32M at work, and we were friends for 3 years. I was transparent with my current boyfriend about our friendship. We never hung out outside of work, but we did play some ... | NTA. It sounds to me as though someone higher up ordered HR to change tack and protect your coworker over you. Disclosing your complaint to your coworker was self evidently going to make for a very uncomfortable working environment, especially given the fact that he had already shown a willingness to behave in an unpr... |
I(25f) got married this past fall. One of the guests was a friend I was close to in high school but we aren’t as close now. She is really good friends with one of my bridesmaids and we still hung out occasionally. She also invited me to her wedding a couple years before. So I invited her to mine.
This friend has a pho... | NTA. It sounds to me as if she used your wedding as a way to build her portfolio, clearly without your knowledge or permission. She overstepped boundaries then got her feelings hurt when you didn’t appreciate her photography you never asked for. She needs to learn that feelings must be left at the door in business mat... |
A bit of a background: we've been together for 9 years, living together for 8 years and were engaged after 7.
My SIL got engaged in October, after being in a relationship for 1 year. They are getting married this autumn. We were invited.
The problem is, when we were going to move together, she said she doesn't suppo... | NTA. It sounds like your SIL would be oh so happy if you didn’t go, if only so she can play the victim. She’s been rude to you for years, so I don’t know why she’d even expect you to go. ###### |
So, quick bit of context, I've been babysitting my little brother for years (I have severe anxiety and used it as an excuse to avoid social situations), so my mom could go to work. But as I got older I learned to better deal with my anxiety but found myself not having much of a social life as I'm still expected to baby... | NTA. It sounds like your mom is actively trying to sabotage you so she gets free childcare for...ever?
If you need someone to tell you what your mom *should* have told you: you can do this. You can get a job, and you can save for the supplies you need. You've done a stellar job of learning to manage your anxiety, and... |
This wasn't really an issue until lockdown, when friends/flatmates' bfs moved in with us and we went from 3 people (out most of the time) to 6 people (in all of the time) with only 1 bathroom.
I like long showers. Most days I'm in the bathroom for 20-25 minutes (from entering to exiting). Once a week I wash my hair, ... | NTA. It sounds like your flatmate’s bf should use the toilet/shower wherever he pays the rent. ###### |
I \[30M\] live with two roommates - Kate \[32\] and Sean \[27\].
Sean is a genuinely sweet guy, but, uh, kind of lacking on the common sense department, to put it gently. The joke goes that he's secretly 5 years old \[we say that to his face, and he agrees with that statement\]. Until last July, he was juggling Acting... | NTA. It sounds like you're trying to protect him from getting further taken advantage of, but this is apparently not a truth he is interested in hearing. Poor guy. ###### |
My ex wife and I have a thirteen year old son. He’s deathly afraid of thunderstorms and has been since he was little. The other night, when he was over at my house, a huge storm rolled in. He wound up sleeping with me that night because it was the only way he’d calm down.
When he went to his mother’s house a few days... | NTA. It sounds like she's raising him with a lot of toxic ideas about masculinity. You should seriously discuss with your son about what sorts of things your ex thinks "men are" or "men should do" or "men should be." Alternate boys as needed. ###### |
I really like to crochet and knit, and it's best to have specific yarn scissors. Mine are really good and I love them, it's so satisfying to snip the yarn. Because they are made specifically for yarn, if you use them on other materials, like paper, cardboard, etc, it will damage and blunt them.
Me and my two brothers ... | NTA. It sounds like he’s intentionally antagonizing you to get your attention. The fact that he waited for you to leave before going in to your bag suggests he knows that he’s doing something wrong. ###### |
Basically, I accidentally knocked my friend’s appliance off the kitchen counter, shattering it. I told him I would order a new one, no problem. But now he’s saying he’d rather have the cash. Only problem is he’s insisting on $40 more than the price I’d pay on amazon for the exact same make and model. WIBTA if I said it... | NTA. it sounds like he's trying to guilt you into giving him more money than it was worth. ###### |
I was on an online meeting when he came back from grocery shopping. Came into the bedroom to give me a kiss. I move because it was not professional. He got mad and slammed the door. Coffee break I come out and we get into a fight where he basically tells me that it's useless what I do for a living. I get mad and go b... | NTA. It sounds like he has poor boundaries and low self control. ###### |
AITA for telling my sister her bf sucks
So my sister (20) and I(24) are roommates and she started dating her bf (24) about a year ago. Sister and I have always been close and when she got a boyfriend I was excited to get to know him, but every time we met he was standoffish and would just go to my sisters room. I brush... | NTA. It seems your sister is being a bit naive, if he's like this toward you, and her reaction tells me perhaps he could be manipulative or even emotionally abusive towards your sister behind closed doors. I would have reacted the same toward them being racist and homophobic, sounds like he was showing his ass in fron... |
Husband *has* to make a comment about anything I watch. Sitcom on? "Ew, I hate her hair." Historical video, "what are you watching?" Only for him to leave or interrupt within five seconds of me beginning to explain it. Watching a dog training video? "That's not how you train the dogs." He made fun of Frozen 2 relentles... | NTA. It seems you're husband is just being obnoxious and rude and tries to make it seem like you're overreacting. ###### |
So my wife and I married in 2007. We had our first child in 2010 and our second child in 2013. Fast forward 5 years in July 2018 and we begun separation proceedings.
I left the house in Feb 2019 and we'd been working with couple therapists and then
a mediator for an amicable separation. We signed off on a separatio... | NTA. It seems like your kids dont feel safe staying with her, and i think that tells all. It's not like she got mad at your son so he asked you to pick him up. He asked cause he didnt feel safe with her. Police intervention is probably a good thing if you're children are uncomfortable staying with her, and since the p... |
I am an atheist and my last roommate was a devout muslim. She used to be very regular with her prayers and practices and was a pleasant person to be around overall. I never interfered with her religious beliefs, and in fact, used to co-operate with her to assist her with it, eg I took down the poster of an actor near m... | NTA. It seems like you said it as nicely as you could and even took an interest in her religion/were respectful of it until she started pushing it on you. ###### |
My eldest son and his wife got married a few years ago. Initially, they moved out of state after their wedding for my son’s work. Then things went downhill. My DIL got pregnant and quit her job to be a SAHM. Shortly after the baby was born, however, my son lost his job as well. Their savings drained quickly and it was ... | NTA. It seems like they might be counting on you for free childcare in addition to free rent--that's too much to ask. And honestly, 2nd baby or not, 2 years is more than enough time to get back on their feet and get their own place. ###### |
Yesterday my(16) dad(42) asked me if I wanted to go out onto the lake with him on the boat. I said no thank you, and he got upset. At this point it's understandable.
I don't like the water, and I don't care for boating. It's not my kinda thing. But he's been giving me a bit of silent treatment and isn't really say... | NTA. It seems like he's feeling left out or unloved. I would let him cool down for a few days then offer to hang out with him. Maybe suggest a hike or something like that where you can still be outside, but it's not on the water. A lot of the time dads feel like their kids aren't there for them, but in reality dads ar... |
I own and run a webshop selling a food product. I started it in 2017. I also work a full-time job to sustain it - only this year do I stand to make an actual profit. I say that just so you know I'm not some greedy business owner who is rolling in dough.
I have a generous refund policy for people who aren't satisfied, ... | NTA. It seems fishy to me that she contacted you like hey I need a refund this is fraud. The one time I got my card info stolen, I obviously needed a new card number and I wasn't going to wait for a refund to process before getting my new card. So I had to hop through all these hoops with my bank to get my refund.
Yo... |
The title may sound bad, but please hear me out.
I recently started living with my fiancé, and he has an 12-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. From what Iʼve seen, she has a very loving and close bond with her mom. Theyʼre always texting, calling each other, always smiling and hugging, etc. and I donʼt think ... | NTA. It makes sense and it should be fine if she is fine with it. There would probably be a lot of mothers that wouldn't like it if the stepmom tried to replace them. ###### |
I’m Indian, Gujarati to be precise. Like all Indians my regional food is a point of pride for me and although I’m 2nd gen American I still love my homelands foods.
My wife is American and our kids our obviously half white half Indian. I’ve never taken an active interest in cooking Asian foods before but all of a sudd... | NTA. it kinda sounds like she's just making a new thing to to contradict each solution or positive thing you say about it? plus saying "it's a phase" to want to share your culture with your own kids is super messed up ###### |
This wasn't really an issue until lockdown, when friends/flatmates' bfs moved in with us and we went from 3 people (out most of the time) to 6 people (in all of the time) with only 1 bathroom.
I like long showers. Most days I'm in the bathroom for 20-25 minutes (from entering to exiting). Once a week I wash my hair, ... | NTA. It isn’t his home - it’s yours. You are being considerate and 25 minutes in off-peak times doesn’t sound very excessive to me at all. ###### |
So I’m ¼ Japanese and ¾ British/French/German. My husband is Scottish/British. We’re expecting our first daughter together early fall and recently got into an impasse about names.
I wanted my daughter’s middle name to be my Japanese grandmother’s name - Miyoko. Not only did I think the name was beautiful and flowed r... | NTA. It isn’t cultural appropriation because your daughter will be, in part, Japanese. Also, it’s a middle name. Kids aren’t going to know her middle name, let alone give her shit for it. If your husband just doesn’t like it, he should say that. ###### |
My sister, (27) thinks that i (31M) can’t own a cat because I’m a man, but it goes far beyond that. Whenever she came over she would always throw stuff at my cat or would lock it in a closet, making me search for her for hours and leaving me to put her up for a hotel. She always tells me that the next time she sees my ... | NTA. It is your responsibility as a cat owner to *not* let people like this around your cat. ###### |
Just some background, I belong to a low-income family so it took me a lot of hard work to earn a laptop. It’s the only thing that I use for school as all my notes are in there. Especially now that we have a crisis, it’s gonna be hard to buy a new one if I ever break or lose my laptop.
Recently, my sister accidentally ... | NTA. It is your property that you worked for, so you have the right to say no. She has a history of breaking things so you are justified in being worried that she might break you laptop, in which case you would both be screwed. She is the one who broke her chromebook, so why should you suffer for it? Let her live with... |
Throwaway and on mobile
So my dad recently passed away from cancer and in his will, he clearly stated that I am to inherit everything, and my 3 younger siblings get nothing, the reasoning behind my father's decision is because my siblings had cut contact from him when he divorced my mum, (it was a mutual divorce but m... | NTA. It is your father's wish to give the money to you, so know that he trusts you with it. Your siblings are just trying to guilt you for the money. If they care enough about your father, they would've at least responded to the messages. They only care about his money. ###### |
My(25) boyfriend(23) was still an art student when we got together, so he used to have me be his model to practice drawing, sometimes nudes even. I am quite okay with it as long as he doesn't show them around to other people and he respected that.
For my birthday he used one of his old sketches of me, one with me com... | NTA. It is your choice how your body is used, and this is an image of your body - so your choice.
His reference to your weight gain is out of line and incredibly rude and manipulative.
He can update any other image, specifically one where you are clothed, and create a masterpiece from that for his portfolio ###### |
On Thanksgiving of 2018 my sister (34) and mother (58) mentioned to me (f21) “You know you’re going to have to take care of your nephew when we’re gone?” My nephew (15) has severe non verbal autism, mixed with some other disabilities I was never given the exact details on, and he will never be able to live on his own. ... | NTA. It is up to your sister to make arrangements for the care of her son. She can't just assume that you would take care of him. ###### |
So I am an ex Muslim but My family, my mom, dad and sisters are Muslim and still follow Islam quite devoutly. When I was younger, my parents used to abuse me quite badly whenever I would complain about Ramadan and fasting and also for other reasons like if I neglected prayers or made mistakes during my Quran studies. W... | NTA. It is ridiculous to expect you to adhere to a religion you don't believe in.
They are probably just salty that you can eat but they can't. ###### |
So my parents have been having issues for as long as I can remember, but the last few months it has gotten worse. Today my parents called me (F21) and my little brother downstairs to announce they're getting a divorce. My dad was adamant in saying "this is your mom's doing, I don't want this, all the hurt is on her", w... | NTA. It is never appropriate, no matter the age, to put children in the middle of a divorce. I do divorce work and it makes me want to pull my hair out when people do this. It is unfair and borderline cruel to the children and absolutley nothing good can come out of it, but a lot of damage can result. ###### |
Alright, here's the situation:
I am doing shit on my laptop, it needs updates and all that, since I just recently bought it and freshly installed Windows. I set the language on English despite German being my mother tongue.
So my sister comes by and she sees my new laptop. She wanted to see it so I gave it to her. Th... | NTA. It is literally none of her business what language your laptop is set on, and she's completely ridiculous for even bringing up the matter. And she's got a hell of a nerve telling you to "calm down" when she'd been attacking you over nothing.
Next time, skip the justifications and just tell her it's your laptop a... |
My GF of 5 years whom i love recently became hardcore vegan. We live at my ranch out in the country on a few acres of land. I own a flock of about 15 hens and a rooster as well. I'm not a farmer or anything but these guys are my pets. I am to emotionally attached to my hens to eat them but have no problem with eati... | NTA. It is kind of weird to put chickens in a place where they might be mistreated then keep them there and treat them well. She has some backwards thinking and I would dump her and keep the chickens. ###### |
I'm 21f and I been with my boyfriend since freshman year of high school. I love my boyfriend and I do see having children and a house. I don't like the idea of marriage. I told my boyfriend this many times. Two weeks ago he proposed in our apartment. I said no and we fought and I went in the guest room. We haven't sp... | NTA. It is better to not get married if you don't want to. But don't understand your concept of having kids, house and a life partner but not marriage. Can you explain? ###### |
My mom was raised in Kashmir. Muslims took over the territory, burned down her house, killed her dad, and they fled to India in the middle of the night. My entire family hateeees Muslims because of this.
So they’re super islamophobic. But also my mom was once robbed by a black person, so she also uses that to say she... | Nta. It is absolutely about the individual not the culture or race or breed. Its like saying I ate pancakes once and got an upset stomach but every other time I was fine but now I don't eat pancakes. Correlation does not equal causation ###### |
My husband (36) and I have two kids, my husband also has autism and so does my son (17) both relatively mild cases. My daughter and I do not share this mental disability with them.
Now I’m a nurse which means due to COVID I’ve had to be at my workplace, my husband however could work at home. My children being school... | NTA. It is a good idea to teach your daughter at her age that manipulation is abusive. ###### |
My 14 year old niece loves to sing. She isn’t going to be the next America idol or anything, but she isn’t under the illusion that she is, she just has a lot of fun performing for the family and making videos on YouTube.
I’ve always encouraged her, (by watching and commenting on the videos, asking her to sing for us ... | NTA. It is *so* common nowadays that if a hobby can't be commercialized then there's no use pursuing it. That is TOTAL BS. Ask her to sing!! Interact with her videos!! She doesn't have to pursue it seriously for it to be fun and engaging, and neither does she have to be the next Taylor Swift. It's perfectly fine to be... |
Before covid, still a problem.
My daughter (15F) barely misses school, she always goes. She's barely sick, she's very healthy, and she has excellent grades so I'm very lenient and free on whatever she does, and me and her go to the movies a lot when the report cards come out as celebration.
Anyway my husband works an... | NTA. It doesn’t really matter if she was physically unwell or if there was an emotional reason behind her wanting to stay home. This was out of character, unusual and won’t affect her education - everyone needs a mental health day every so often.
If you had ignored her then it might have meant that she wouldn’t co... |
A few months ago I found a pair of Birkenstock’s at a thrift store. The exact style and size I wanted, perfect condition, for $17. I couldn’t believe it! I have been searching for some for years. I lent them to my sister so she could wear them to the beach yesterday. She comes in the house barefoot and I don’t think mu... | NTA. It doesn’t matter what you paid for them, she lost them and she needs to replace them whether she find some used ones in good condition or new. If you lost something of hers that she got on sale would she not expect you to replace it as well even if it was at full price? ###### |
My first wife had a group of best friends she was super close to. They were like sisters. One, we’ll call Faith, is the godmother to our oldest child. Sadly my first wife died due to complications with childbirth with our second child. The group of friends, Faith included, were there for me. This was 5 years ago.
3 ye... | NTA. It doesn’t matter if she thought what she was doing was right, she severely overstepped after you specifically told her how you wanted to handle it. She should never have been the one to tell them and it was a complete breech of trust. ###### |
So I'm going to be moving out of my toxic family's home later in may to a different city. My parents obviously responded poorly to my decision because they're both control freaks, and having me leave would mean they would no longer have any control over me. I made it clear that once I move I'm blocking them and cutting... | NTA. It doesn't sound like it was offered out of kindness and two weeks is entirely too long. She needs to let you grow up. ###### |
I've already posted here before but I'm going to post again because I had something else happen to me recently.
Background: I have a slight lisp that's easy to hear whenever I speak. Friends have pointed it out and joked about it but they know when to stop since I'm insecure about it. Often times, they'll repeat how ... | Nta. It doesn't matter if someone meant something as a joke, if you hurt someone's feelings you apologize and do the do it again. ###### |
I (late 30s M) was visiting an old friend from High School and his wife. I should mention that at the time I had just finished a doctorate in Math -- this is relevant to the story. There were a number of people hanging out. Most of them I knew but my friend's wife's friend Janice ( late 40's F) and her daughter Ellie (... | NTA. It actually seems like you jokingly shut down her flirty advances and moved on. You hardly preyed on her. ###### |
On Thanksgiving of 2018 my sister (34) and mother (58) mentioned to me (f21) “You know you’re going to have to take care of your nephew when we’re gone?” My nephew (15) has severe non verbal autism, mixed with some other disabilities I was never given the exact details on, and he will never be able to live on his own. ... | NTA. It absolutely isn’t your responsibility to take care of your nephew at any point in his or your life. There are group home situations for this exact reason. Sounds like your sister needs to start looking into alternate housing for your nephew just in case. ###### |
Still using this account to ask advice I don't want my primary account to see.
I have a cousin who is a very 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' and 'gumption' kind of guy (despite the fact his parents are well off and he currently works at my uncle's company).
Well my cousin was ranting and raving on facebook abou... | NTA. Is your cousin an actual child?
I’d probably wage war on their facebooks now, but you know...stuff that can be explained away and will only drive *them* insane HA. ###### |
Some backstory:
So last November I (18F) moved in with my now ex-boyfriend (22M) to an apartment with 2 other people. These two people are married and we were friends with before moving in together. The husband (20M), we'll call him John, is in the military and his wife (20F), we'll call her Abby, worked part time... | NTA. Is John one of those guys who says "We're pregnant"? Because he needs to realise that's not a get-out-of-chores-free card for both of them, or even for one of them.
If his wife did have to have rest on medical grounds, he should be picking up the slack, not the rest of you. ###### |
So yesterday my gf and i went to the beach with her friend.
My gf is southern european (italian) and her friend is Northern European(Danish),when we arrived at the beach her friend offered her sunscreen ,my gf refused her offer and she said”i am italian i can handle the sun”,my gf has VERY pale skin that burns easily u... | NTA. Is it the nicest thing to laugh? No. Is it entirely her own fault it happened even when offered sunscreen? Yes. Am I also laughing? Absolutely.
I’m half black and even I still wear sunscreen *every day*. (Or at least every day I’m outside for more than ten minutes.) ###### |
My sister and I share a bathroom. The bathroom has two towel hangers.
Recently my sisters towel hanger broke off and now it needs to be completely replaced. She absolutely refuses to go and buy a replacement and install it.
Instead she has just been using my towel hanger. She will slide mine over so hers can fit to... | NTA. Is it petty? Yes. It's it a good idea in this situation? Also yes. ###### |
I'm furloughed today and my mom is visiting, so I kept our 11 month old home from daycare. My husband is unemployed, but studying for a test. He said not to expect help with the kid since he is studying. I said ok and was watching the baby while waiting for his grandmother to come over. My mom asked me to look at some ... | NTA. Is he suggesting that you interact with the child his every waking moment? Because that's how you get kids who can't play alone or play imaginatively or experience boredom. ###### |
Hey guys! I F(21) have a very strained relationship with my father. Last year I walked in on him having an affair in our home. Prior to that he had been unfaithful to my mom on some other occasions (3 times total). After the incident during my freshman year of high school I made it clear to him if he did it again, he’d... | NTA. Infidelity hurts the whole family and it sounds like your mother is unsure of how to cope. He broke his promise and you held yours. ###### |
Pretty simple story.
I recently bought condoms with my face. Not exactly bought, but a friend gave me a gift card to this website. I just went to a website, submitted a photo, and voila. In 3 months I got a package of around 1000 condoms.
I didn’t know what to do with that many condoms. So, I just gave a lot of the... | NTA. In what way would that be considered cheating? ###### |
My bf and I have been together for about 6 years and we've had issues with his mom and stepdad( his stepdad hasn't done anything particularly harsh he's just there ). I for the first 4 years assumed she hated me. I would be invited to things only to be never picked up by my bf or his mom would do weird stuff like try t... | NTA. In the past your boyfriend was inconsiderate both to you and to his family, and instead of coming clean he is letting you take the heat to "protect his reputation" with his family, whatever that means. What about his reputation with you? I can't fault you for wanting clarity from his mom lest you get wrongly flam... |
Hi all!
My wife and me just found out we are going to have a baby, we have tried several times.
The thing is, my wife is a weed addict, she smokes 7 days a week the whole day and I told her that if she smoked weed while pregnant I would leave the house.
This was because last pregnancy I found she smoked weed seve... | NTA. In terms of what you should do, I mean, my first piece of advice is to stop getting her pregnant. Second bit of advice would be to document her caution-to-the-wind, I-don’t-give-a-fuck-about-my-child attitude and prepare for life as a single father. She clearly is in no place to be responsible for a baby if she c... |
My ex is a B-list reality TV personality. Obviously there is no respectable middle-aged woman who does reality TV. But I cut her slack because it's all fake and she is playing a character that people believe is real. I never had an issue but over the last few years, she's been more outrageous. Showing more skin, more d... | NTA. In my personal opinion children shouldn't be on reality TV. There are a lot of stories of child stars gone bad. Not to mention your kids dont seem interested besides getting paid. She needs to respect your decision as the other parent and find another gig. ###### |
I admit, there's not much drama surrounding this, but I could use a judgement regardless. Throw away for privacy reasons.
Husband and I just happily found out we're pregnant, very much a wanted child but the timing could definitely be better given the current world crises. Anyways, everyone around us is overjoyed, thi... | NTA. Imagine being so selfish that you complain about the fun being sucked out of *someone else's* pregnancy! Humanity achieves new heights everyday! ###### |
This happened a few months ago but I recently told this story to my roommate who thinks I overreacted.
I'd ordered food from an app and the driver called me to ask for my address. I had him on call for a bit because he seemed kinda clueless and it took him a while to find my building, but the conversation never went... | NTA. im incredibly pro-worker, but messaging someone you delivered to is so incredibly inappropriate and unprofessional. if he didnt want to get fired, it wouldve been the easiest thing in the world for him to *not* message you and just go about his day ###### |
Recently I have been playing a well known mobile game that, among many other things, allows you to befriend other characters in the game and even marry one of them. This game is played entirely offline - i.e. these are not other people or players that you interact with, just non-playable characters within the game.
We... | NTA. If your spouse isn't ok with you "marrying" an NPC, they are very insecure and unstable. Start saving money for therapy OP. ###### |
I know the title sounds bad but please hear me out.
I (55m)have two kids, Ana (30f) and Alex (27m). Their mom isn't in the pictue. I have a relatively high earning job so I was able to save up for both of them to go to college which amounted to about $100k each kid.
The thing is, Ana got a full scholarship for coll... | NTA. If your son graduated with no debt, and you paid for all living expenses, then he got his $100K.
Perhaps add it up, and show him what he got.
You basically just delayed payment of your daughters college fund, and payed out in a lump sum, since she got full ride. ###### |
So my area reopened beaches and I have been going everyday for the last two weeks to go surfing.
Before anyone goes on about me not social distancing know that the beach I am going to is not at all crowded and I can stay a good 50-60ft away from other people.
Apparently it’s bothering my sister though as she is unab... | NTA. If your sister had been blinded, would you have been asked to not look at things?
I'm sure it's tough, but she can't expect others to just not do thing they enjoy. ###### |
I was babysitting my 7yo nephew and he wanted to paint. His parents bought him an easel and paint. All I was ever told was the painting had to be outside. We went outside and his easel and supplies were on the hardscape and not the grass, I figured that's where he painted.
Of course he got some paint on the hardscape... | NTA. If your sister bought your nephew paints that don’t easily clean. That’s her problem, not yours. ###### |
There's really not a whole lot of back story here. She's 39 weeks pregnant and keeps begging me to have sex because she thinks it'll help her go into labor. I've been denying her advances for the last month or so because I just don't have a drive to do anything. It's been hard on me because I feel like I’m upsetting he... | NTA. If your sex drive dropped out of nowhere, you need to see your doctor. If you guys were regularly having sex up until a month ago and suddenly the drive is gone, that could be indicative of a serious problem. Tell your wife that despite finding her incredibly attractive, you are not interested in having sex. Her ... |
Subsets and Splits
No community queries yet
The top public SQL queries from the community will appear here once available.