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Well... My ex and I divorced and I moved away with my two oldest kids and our youngest. We split up because he is a workaholic and doesn’t want to engage in any kind of family activity.
I had a cat when we met and he lied about being allergic, so I had to give up the cat when we moved in together.
Now that we moved... | NTA. If a cat keeps this man from seeing his daughter, he was looking for an excuse to stop seeing her anyway. ###### |
My close friend and I are dating 2 girls that are also close friends.
When it comes to relationships, my friend is a psycho. He made her delete every guy off of her Snapchat, he has her location and her instagram log in and her Snapchat log in. He has 0 trust for her, cusses her out all the time, she can’t do anythin... | NTA. If “bro code” means enabling abusive behavior, then break it. Your friend is a nightmare, and was clearly treating his gf badly. It isn’t on you or anyone he dates to change him, but at least you encouraged and supported her leaving a bad relationship. That’s a good thing. ###### |
I'm a divorced dad of three kids, (12f, 7f, 4m). My girlfriend and I are both essential workers, and come into contact with a large number of sick people on a daily basis. One of my children had a lung transplant several years ago, and is immunocompromised. As such, we decided that right now it would be safer for them ... | NTA. Id put a password on it for just you and your daughter (maybe along with parental controls so you know she couldn’t get into trouble). That way ex can’t manipulate the situation and take things from her to be selfish. It’s not hers it’s your daughters and she’s not entitled to it as she doesn’t pay for it or the ... |
My daughter and I are not close anymore and I've been 'cut off' for the past year due to my opinions on her having a second child at 19 when both her and her fiance are still studying and don't have jobs. It was a hardly necessary and drastic decision on her end but it's what she wishes so I backed off and since we hav... | NTA. I’ve read your comments, and you should probably edit them in your post, cause as it is, it looks kinda sketchy. But you clarified in your comments and I think you’re not the asshole. Keep in mind a lot of people in this sub lose their shit over the subject of estranged parents, since most of the time the childre... |
My daughter is 16 and recently has watched several documentaries, read a few books, medical journals and has come to the conclusion that she wants to become a vegetarian. My husband and I support this, however the rest of us are not vegetarians. We don’t make carnivorous meals every night, but I would say at least 5 o... | NTA. I’m vegan and was vegan as a teenager, my parents made dinner every night which included vegetables and sides, and I would either eat just those sides or I would cook something additional for myself. The plus side of this, I’m an excellent cook now. You offered to pay for the groceries and cook books which seems ... |
She snapped me late last night. My "friend." She asked if I would get a letter notarized for her. I thought it was a strange request, because I live in Colorado and in this state the signature must match the ID presented.
I asked her to elaborate on the letter. She said the letter said I am the landlord and her boyfr... | NTA. I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase “play stupid games, win stupid prizes.” Your friend is about ready to win her prize, don’t let her drag you down with her. ###### |
Right now my fiance and I are living with my best friend from high school and her husband. They and my fiance have some life differences (no details but nothing major, mainly they're all bullheaded and won't listen to each other). My fiance wants to move out and get on our own. I'm all for it until he said the place he... | NTA. I’m sure you guys can find a place that is pet friendly. And honestly he’s the A for wanting you to leave your doggo. ###### |
This has been bothering me for a while now,
But in short one of my subordinates who is also a good buddy of mine, told me about his intentions of turning his “lifelong dream” into reality, which is basically getting his wife pregnant by another man and raise it as his -he isn’t infertile or anything-, I was horrified ... | NTA. I’m sure that a lot more went into him wanting to divorce his wife than just you and your commentary. Ultimately, it’s their relationship and they are responsible.
I did not know what “cuckold impregnation” was, googled the term, and wish I hadn’t. So kind of an asshole for making that your title.:P
I would i... |
My bf and I have been together for about 6 years and we've had issues with his mom and stepdad( his stepdad hasn't done anything particularly harsh he's just there ). I for the first 4 years assumed she hated me. I would be invited to things only to be never picked up by my bf or his mom would do weird stuff like try t... | NTA. I’m sorry to tell you this, but your boyfriend sounds like a liar with no backbone. He’s lying to his parents about the real reason you won’t come over because he doesn’t want his mommy to be mad at him for not ever asking to bring you places. He’s also being a huge dick in letting his mother treat you that way f... |
I was babysitting my niece (sister's kid) and she asked me "why does mommy kiss the grass cutting guy?"
I asked my sister what her daughter was talking about and she said "oh that's my boyfriend. He's our gardener". I mentioned that she was married. And my sister just said "well, yeah but (husband's name) knows about... | NTA. I’m pretty sure what she said to you applies to her ###### |
I like Dominos pizza and order it once a month. I know it’s a bit expensive, I know it isn’t very authentic, I know it isn’t healthy. I also don’t care; for me it hits the spot and I enjoy it.
My housemate and good friend’s Italian girlfriend, every time I get dominos, has to mention how it isn’t actually good pizza ... | NTA. I’m Mexican and I like Taco Bell. I’m not getting it because it’s authentic Mexican food. I get it cuz it’s crappy Americanized food that tastes good. You like what you like. At no point did you say “I’m gonna get this super authentic Italian food” and show up with dominos. Your roommates are being righteous jerk... |
My husband and I are expecting our first child - a boy - in a couple of months. My husband and his parents are all math geniuses and wanted his name to include some math reference. I thought it was a cute and funny idea. Recently, my husband thought of a name. I thought of names too. I like Dylan, Jared and Loren. My h... | NTA. I’m confused as to why out of Rubik’s cube, he chose the word that wasn’t a name lmao. ###### |
My boyfriend is Indian and I am white. When we started dating, he would call me a cutie pie. A couple of months into dating, he started calling me a cootie pie. The first time he called me cootie pie, I got angry because I thought he was trying to do an accent to make fun of how other indians may pronounce cutie. He ex... | NTA. I’m an Indian , and ‘kutti’ is actually a pretty bad insult . He shouldn’t be calling you that at all. ###### |
This incident happened some time ago.
We’re both in university. This semester she went on exchange to Australia. She left Canada Feb 2nd, but went to her hometown on Dec 22nd after final exams because she wanted to spend that time with her family until she left. For that reason we did our Christmas gift exchange early... | NTA. I’m also confused why she’d be mad. ###### |
I live in an apartment that I moved into in September 2019. Since arriving, I have had probably close to 20 packages show up at my door addressed to someone I've never met. Let's say the name is Autumn. The packages all have my address and Autumn's name. Since they're not addressed to me, I just leave them outside and ... | NTA. I’d start bringing them into my house and writing return to sender on them and putting them back through the mail. After a few of her expensive packages got returned she would probably learn her lesson. Or you’d have the benefit of speaking to her face-to-face about it. ###### |
Long story short, I recently won a considerable amount of money from a $20 scratch ticket. As I don’t want to give away my identity, I won’t say how much but its enough for my girlfriend and I to quit our jobs and pay down all our debts which includes a hefty mortgage.
Initially i wanted to keep this a secret since i ... | NTA. I’d get a financial advisor and a lawyer on standby stat. You just never know how petty and entitled a person really is. I’d update your wills too now that you’re seeing the true colors of your family. ###### |
Okay so, this might be a little weird so I’ll try and explain it.
Basically, out of all of my family I am the only one who has thick curly hair.
I mother swears up and down that she never cheated on my dad (although I’m pretty sure he still doesn’t believe it)
And because of my curly hair, I can’t tell you the amou... | NTA. I've seen many a pregnant woman say they've done the same thing, since for whatever reason pregnant bellies get treated as public property that other people feel like they have license to touch. Yet you put *your* hand right back on their middle-age gut pudge and they act *shocked* that you'd cross a personal bou... |
Okay hear me out please, my birthday is in 10 days and this has been stressing me out. His sister has autism and she gets really loud breakdowns which results in everyone feeling bad for her. My boyfriend said “oh it will be so fun, Carrie will be there and she will love Strawberry cake”. I didn’t invite her? What?? We... | NTA. I've never in my life invited a boyfriend's sister to a birthday party with friends. He should not have assumed she was invited. No one is entitled to a party invitation.
I think if you hadn't said she's autistic and just said your bf assumed that his sister was invited, but you didn't invite her because you don... |
I have a huge family. I’m 13 my brothers 15.
For my birthday I got a can of spaghetti that’s worth a dollar (that my brother ate, and gave to me ), old pens which my brother also gave to me, and a 15 dollar gift card from my mom and dad. I didn’t get any cards or anything from my family no one messaged me happy birthd... | NTA. I'm the oldest sibling and the clear favorite in my family and have been given lavish gifts on my birthday as well as on my siblings special days. It caused a huge issue between me and my siblings, 1 that I didn't recognize until the damage was done. While one of my brothers and I are making up for it now as adul... |
This has been going on for a while but I think the tipping point happened a couple days ago. She had asked me (22m) if I was circumcised, to which I told her I was not; she proceeded to say things like gross and we’re getting you circumcised in a joking manner...etc.
In that particular situation I could more or less ... | NTA. I'm sure she wouldn't like it if you start saying what the "perfect" boobs and vag should look like, even if hers was the opposite. Confront her, her opinions are ignorant and hurtful. ###### |
My mom just unexpectedly died from cancer. This has been the most difficult experience of my life, and I really needed my boyfriend to fly home. I voiced that I would pay for his ticket, but he replied that he thought it would be better if I flew to his place on our already planned trip in a week. I have three kids who... | NTA. I'm sorry that your mom died. When my grandpa died, my husband was on a boys weekend away. He had hitched a ride with another guy so he couldn't just leave. I told him I'd be fine. Just after midnight I got the call that he had finally passed. Suddenly, the door opened and my husband was there. His friend gladly... |
Me [19M] and my sister [19F] had some big problems a year ago. She started acting really creepy towards me. She walked in on me while I was showering a couple of times. Then one morning I woke up to her naked in my bed, spooning and humping me, while her hand was on my penis. Our parents refused to believe me for a whi... | NTA. I'm so, so sorry this is happening to you. What your sister is doing is sexual abuse. Unfortunately, in cases of sexual abuse within families, it is extremely common for family members to be in denial or to blame the victim. Are you in a position to move out? Until you get some distance it seems likely you will c... |
I am a pretty good artist and my classmates know it. They have no problem paying for my art except for one girl. She is the teachers' pet and the one that always reminds everyone of their mistakes. One day, she came to me asking if I could draw a horse for her. I told her that it'll be 2 KČ, which is the price of two c... | NTA. I'm proud of you though my friend. Keep doing what you love. ###### |
I'm 31 weeks pregnant. I'm going to break up with my baby's father by Monday because he's emotionally abusive and made me feel threatened when I told him I needed space from him. He was saying things like "you can't keep my baby from me" (as if I have lost bodily autonomy or something) and "promise me you're coming ove... | NTA. I'm pretty sure as the birth giver you have the right to deny anyone from being in the delivery room, but I strongly suggest you call an attorney and start collecting proof about his behavior if you want to nip this in the bud for good. ###### |
Hello. I'm a 42M. I don't want to include too many details because it will be easy to find me. I saw another fashion designer post here, so I wanted to post my own problem.
I recently created my own fashion brand (sole proprietorship). My niche is incorporating 17th-19th century fashion trends in my designs. It's not ... | NTA. I'm plus size myself, and yes, it's disappointing to find something I like that isn't in my size, but you're right. It's more expensive and takes a more experienced tailor. Maybe it's something you can do in the future, but that doesn't make you a bad person or business owner. ###### |
I (20F) live with my parents and older brother. I’ll be honest - I do not like him. We do not get along. He’s annoying and intruding and loud and I could go on. I try to just ignore him.
For April fools day yesterday, as a “joke,” he decided to hide the pain medication I take to deal with my periods. I have horrible ... | NTA. I'm not sure why he thought watching someone be in pain all day would be funny, but it's not. He crossed a line. ###### |
I (22, F) currently work as an EMT, and as part of my certification, I learned to deliver babies. On occasion, we will get calls to pick up someone whos in labor. I've gotten these calls about 3x and each time we have just transported the patient to the hospital and they have given birth there.
My sister (26, F) who i... | NTA. I'm not familiar with your training, but it seems like you're trained to do it in an emergency scenario, not as a first option. It's a lot of responsibility, and if anything were to go wrong... ###### |
My wife has been asking me to get things for her upstairs multiple times a day for the past several months. This morning she asked me to get something from our room (she was not busy and could have done it herself) and I asked why she never got things herself but was always asking me to do it. I asked her if she was ... | NTA. I'm not 7 and I find it hilarious! ###### |
My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year and we had birth control failure (broken condom) that resulted in me getting pregnant just a few months into the relationship.
The entire time I was pregnant I worked full time and was getting put on best eat quite a bit. He would not keep a job. He would not get ... | NTA. I'm more concerned why you chose to stay with someone like this than why you hid money. ###### |
My 16 year old brother was diagnosed with lactose intolerance about 8 months ago, he has it fairly bad I think he can’t eat anything with lactose in it without having to leave in the bathroom for like 2 days afterward.
My mum has bought lactose free and vegan food to accommodate him while trying to not majorly change ... | NTA. I'm lactose intolerant but I eat ice cream every single day because I take lactase pills. He is making this choice.
And yeah, dairy free ice cream is disgusting. ###### |
I've been saving up in order to move out in order to escape my mother for my own sanity. While checking my online statements with my bank app I found out my mom has taken over $700 out of my account, not counting the 200 i loaned to her.
To say I was pissed is an understatement but I'm too afraid to confront her, so ... | Nta. I'm assuming you're over 18. Once you became an adult her name should have been taking off of the account because it's YOUR money. She does not get unfettered access to it. ###### |
Every night, my brother(16) calls his cousin and they play Call of Duty Mobile with 3 other family members. However, when he does this, he's loud as hell and ignores literally everything anyone tells him.
He yells into his mic on his earbuds and constantly is asking if the others can hear him. He also snaps at my othe... | NTA. I'm assuming it's a shared space he's playing in and it's pretty rude to be on a (loud) phone call with people while there's already people in said room. ###### |
So... my MIL who is temporarily wheelchair bound came to live with us 4 weeks ago to recover from surgery. She is usually a heavy smoker. I do not smoke and I hate it with a passion. Her health means she should not be smoking at all. I am taking her to all her appointments and providing food and care etc. Basically any... | NTA. I'm a smoker. Have been since it was legal to smoke in restaurants and pubs etc. I don't even smoke in my own house these days let alone someone else's. If I was staying with someone else, I'd even ask if it was OK to smoke outside on their property before doing it. I can't imagine just lighting up inside someone... |
My SIL is an aspiring author, and has been working on a full book series for a few years now. She plans to self-publish, and has been having a hard time deciding on what her book covers will look like, since she doesn’t want blank covers. I’m an artist by hobby, and would like to make it my main means of income eventua... | NTA. I'm a professional artist and experienced a lot of this when I was starting out. It's fine that she doesn't want your signature visible on the cover, but the artist is always credited in the text somewhere in or on the book.
She's not in the driver's seat here...You are. It's very simple. State your price and r... |
For context, he (23m) isn’t playing for me (23f) specifically, just playing because it’s his hobby. A few hours a day and it’s not generally popular music, usually songs from games or films and 9 times out of 10 they are what I would call ‘Cowboy Themed’. He also does the singing in the appropriate accent for the son... | NTA. I'm a musician too. Sometimes we play the same song like 50x in a row to get it down. Your boyfriend expecting you to sit and listen to him play is not only selfish, but leaning towards narcissistic. ###### |
I just went into the kitchen and saw that my flatmate is using communal mugs to clean her menstrual cup. I know that there are probably no germs etc. left in the mug after sterilization but the thought just grosses me out.
I'm a male and am aware that I might not have full insight into this situation. My flatmates ar... | NTA. I'm a girl and that's af.
Edit: gross. That's gross af ###### |
Client Refuses to Pay Me for Commission, Says I’m Twisting Her Arm
Can somebody back me up here?
One year ago I was contacted for a commission for voicework. I won’t give the client’s name. She had also separately commissioned a scriptwriter as well. That writer did not produce the script for over 6 months, but once... | NTA. I'd see if you can sue them or file some sort of legal complaint against any media they use your VA work on. ###### |
I recently got a new job (past month) and my boss has two young toddlers who instantly became attached to me. They have a full time nanny, but because they like me so much they have started hanging out around the work place to “help” me. I don’t mind spending time with the kids and enjoy showing them how I do my job an... | NTA. I'd be fairly frank with her. Tell her you "don’t mind spending time with the kids and enjoy showing them how [you] do [your] job and letting them participate," but it will mean that it will take "four hours to do X amount of work." Then you haven't said anything offensive, but the ball is in her court.
What doe... |
So long story short I (18f) dated D (20m) for about three years. In early March I found out I am pregnant. Naturally he was the the first one I told and his response was "come find me again after you get rid of it." This naturally led to a but of an argument until he backhanded me.
After that I walked away and haven... | NTA. I'd also seriously consider if this is the kind of person you want in your child's life. The *only* thing he's done is help create this child. He's already made it clear that he wants nothing to do with either of you. ###### |
He was in a zoom meeting and wanted his wine refilled. I was busy doing things on my computer as well, so he just snapped his fingers at me as if I was a waitress and pointed at his wine glass. Like I get he couldn't talk in his meeting but he couldn't have just muted his mic for a second to ask me to get some more win... | NTA. I wouldn’t even treat a waiter/waitress like that. ###### |
Me and my sister share a car right now, and when I was driving home about 3 or 4 days ago I got into a minor accident that wasn't my fault. The car got completely totaled cause the axel got bent, I was fine and the other driver was fine but ow the only car that works (that we can drive) is my mom's which she takes to ... | NTA. I wouldn’t do nice things for someone who treats me like shit. ###### |
I (24f) allow my cousin(26m)and his 2 kids to live with me and my girlfriend. I have extreme asthma and other breathing difficulties. My gf suffers from extreme migraines. I only let my cousin stay because I love my neices. He is an avid smoker and never has payed me for him living here. I let him stay in my spare bedr... | NTA. I wouldn't have even let them in, knowing he's a smoker. Just smelling it on his clothes would have made me sick. The stealing is just the icing on the top. ###### |
When I like to have a bit of self love I tend to prefer amateur type videos, one day I'm scrolling through different videos and find someone who looks very familiar. I download the video and lo and behold it is a friend of mine, same tattoo and looks exactly like her. The video is pretty old so it must have been when s... | NTA. I would want to know. She may feel embarrassed/angry/upset/uncomfortable - but you're not an asshole for making her aware of the video being online. ###### |
Ordered a custom product, told them what I wanted down to the design and colors and paid a design fee. It was a custom gift for my wife and another one for my daughter. A month after it came, they listed the product I had them make for my daughter as a buying option for everyone visiting their site using a photo of my ... | NTA. I would trash them too if this happened to me. Stealing other people’s designs is low. Especially shitty that they did it twice. You gave them an opportunity to make things right. The public has the right to know that their designs are not safe with these people. They could have switched things up/be inspired by... |
[Slyvy Bear](https://www.flickr.com/photos/69228620@N03/49777975553/in/dateposted-public/) is 16 and sadly it looks like she's nearing the end of her life.
She's struggling to put on any weight and has a bowel tumor. I'm heart broken. I bottle fed her. She's my girl. I'm not ok, I'm not sure I'll ever be ok once she's... | Nta. I would say n a h until he called you names. People mourn differently. ###### |
It’s been really hot in my country lately. 42° with intense humidity. It doesn’t get cool enough to sleep until 2am and my room is the only room in our house without an AC so recently, I’ve been sleeping naked (with only underwear on).
I lock my door and close my curtains, I’m no exhibitionist. I genuinely just do thi... | Nta. I would recommend getting a bathrobe so you can throw it on quicker than putting all your clothes on ###### |
So basically what happened is that last night I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone in a discord call and then he started cuddling his dog, which he's had for a long time. I don't hate his dog or anything and I understand he loves his dog and I'm completely okay with that. But then I was talking to him and he igno... | NTA. I would have said no assholes for the first half regarding the joke, because it does sound like a joke albeit one that crashed and burned. But complaining about you to his mother and starting to call you crazy are big asshole moves. ###### |
This is a weird one, sorry in advance. This was 5 months ago and it’s still a fight my bf and I are having. Clearly since pregnancy and miscarriages aren’t easy topic for people to talk about, I’ve come here.
I (27F) was about 6 weeks pregnant when I started bleeding really heavily randomly. To cut a long story short... | NTA. I would have been fascinated too. At 6 weeks it wasn't really anything anyway. ###### |
At the time I was 18(F). I was doing a Media Make-Up and SFX course, and when I applied I was not aware there would be hairdressing aswell, I wasn’t interested.
I have Afro-carribean hair and was the only mixed-race person in the class. My teacher and the rest of the girls had straight hair. She wanted the girls to be... | NTA. I would hate for someone to keep trying to touch my hair without consent. However, I don't understand why they don't have hairdressing mannequin heads to practice on instead? The whole thing sucks. I'd speak to the head of the program (or dean, if in college) and make your case heard. You may change the program f... |
Some context I live in an apartment complex where the doors face eachother and the space is relatively small. I understand how the camera works in that it picks up on motion and what not and sends an alert to your phone.
My primary concern with this is that this particular neighbor has a history of stealing my package... | NTA. I would do “fashion shows” just to annoy him with extra notifications. Dress up, leave your apt, twirl about & go back inside, put on a new outfit. Do it over & over again. Build up to costumes. ###### |
I get food stamps. Not a lot but enough to pay for what I need and a little extra. Got a roommate a few months ago and everything was going great. Paid rent on time. Bought food and everything.
Now it's not so great. He doesn't buy food for the house he buys this minute microwave meals for himself which was fine. I s... | NTA. I would definitely confront him (without being aggressive) and set some boundaries. ###### |
So my (f22) bf (m22) mentioned that he and his coworker send weird hentai to each other as a joke. I immediately got annoyed and told him it was inappropriate and I wasn’t comfortable with it. He didn’t think there was anything wrong with it but told me he wouldn’t do it if it made me uncomfortable. He tells me I gu... | NTA. I would be upset too if my bf send weird hentai to another girl. Its indeed inappropriate. I guess he just not replying because he is self reflecting on his actions. ###### |
This relates to an online marketplace for guitars. Last December I was selling a guitar of mine for just about $6,000 which someone bought. I had to ship it to them. I made sure to document my packaging (a dozen or so photos in varying states of packed) as well as I took a photo of me dropping it off at the PO. I've be... | NTA. I work in shipping. If the customer allows the product to be left on the porch vs signed for it's on them if shit happens. ###### |
This is so stupid I know, but here it goes. Background: I (27F) have wanted to get matching tattoos with my husband (33M) for years. We have been together for 9 years now. Not like each other’s names or anything crazy, but something that symbolizes our relationship. Every idea I’ve had he’s shot down, and he hasn’t put... | NTA. I won't make judgements on getting a tattoo as a long established couple or as short term friends. The thing is, you don't understand, and understandably so. You got some conflicting information. He should come clear about why he's not excited about getting a tattoo with you, why he's postponing it, or at least h... |
Hello everyone. Final grades are due soon, and my TA is adamant that I'm an asshole for considering this.
Background: I teach at a large public university. One of my classes this semester had two midterms worth 25% each, and a final worth 50%.
A student contacted me after Midterm #1 to tell me that her test had been... | NTA. I wish my professors were more like you. Not because you’re bumping up a grade, but because you’re assessing the situation holistically and trying to put your student on a level playing field from the previously made mistake. Because it’s clear that you understand that grades can absolutely make or break us, and ... |
In my group of friends there's one guy who is your stereotypical nice guy, even comes with his own fedora. He's asked at every girl in our group then goes with "it's just a friend date" when they inevitably said no. I mostly ignore it all, but he ended up asking my GF out, when she said no he said he just wanted to han... | NTA. I wish more people would have confronted the creepy dudes in my friend group. ###### |
This happened when I was 14 in 2001, but it comes up sometimes.
I was living with my parents and brother, we were pretty broke so we never got gifts.
For my brothers birthday he was giving a CD player/radio boom box thing for his room. For him that meant entertainment and fun and mind expansion etc.
For my birthday I w... | NTA. I will maintain that your parents are assholes ###### |
So this happened a while back but a conversation with a teacher made me overthink it.
I coached gymnastics. My last name is my fathers, and I'm not in contact with him due to mental abuse. I don't like my last name. So let's same my name was Lexy Smith. I introduced myself to the kids as mrs. Lexy.
I did this in all ... | NTA. I went by Ms. Firstname as a teacher for similar reasons. The other teacher is perfectly capable of solving her problem herself by issuing a quick and gentle correction. “My name is Mrs. Bumbleschmoop” is not hard to say. ###### |
My fiance and I were planning to get married this year anyway. We obviously can't do a "full" wedding, but we need to legally marry now for legal reasons and health insurance. In my area, weddings can only have a maximum of 15 people, and that includes the officiant, the bride and groom, and any vendors they have.
So ... | NTA. I was leaning toward n a h because I understand why your stepmother’s feelings might be hurt, but I think her reaction went a bit too far. You didn’t “disrespect” her marriage and I don’t know why she can’t see or accept that in this situation this is really the only solution. ###### |
This happened a while ago, but still get comments about how much of an asshole I am so I guess I'll ask here
I knew my SO's (of 4 months) birthday was coming up, but wasn't really paying attention to the date. I was pulling 24/26 hour shifts every other day for work.
I won't lie, I was relying on a Facebook notificat... | NTA. I was going to blame everybody because at least remembering your SO‘a birthday is a pretty important thing to do, but him changing his birthday on Facebook to trick you is beyond the pale. That’s not a trusting relationship, that’s gaslighting. I won’t even get in to how shitty it is for him to pressure you into ... |
My brother and I are very close. When we need advice or just to talk we turn to each other for support. Same with my sister.
My brother married his wife in April of 2019 and have begun trying to have a baby. My brother called me yesterday and told me that they went to see her doctor and he told them that they should ... | NTA. I was expecting a VERY different post from that title than what we got. ###### |
Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
My “friend” is getting married and asked me to be a bridesmaid about a year ago. There’s been some tension from the get-go and I know she’s wanted to kick me out for various reasons over the past few months. (Some have been direct fights, others I’ve found out through side comme... | NTA. I was booted from a wedding party for “looking too gay” and boy I wish I recorded that phone call. ###### |
A little background info on myself. My half-sister and I have the same father. We grew up apart, we did not meet until adulthood. We are now good friends and treat each other like sisters. My mother died of cancer and one of my biggest regrets was talking her into chemotherapy and radiation treatment. She was happy and... | NTA. I was almost willing to give a NAH but that is a lot of reaction.
I almost want to ask what you said verbatim because wow (don't feel like you need to do that, it just crossed my mind.) ###### |
Okay so I know the title sounds like I am the asshole here but hear me out. I have a walk in closet attached to my bathroom you have to go in the bathroom to get to the closet. Currently I moved my work stuff in the walk in (its HUGE) because I needed space I can work in quiet and the area has to be able to lock. I do... | NTA. I was all ready to call you TA and say, "well where else would he go?" But there's literally another bathroom he can use. Why is it such a big deal for him to use the other bathroom? It's completely reasonable for you to not want to smell that while working. Also, is there no other room that you can work in? ####... |
I just went into the kitchen and saw that my flatmate is using communal mugs to clean her menstrual cup. I know that there are probably no germs etc. left in the mug after sterilization but the thought just grosses me out.
I'm a male and am aware that I might not have full insight into this situation. My flatmates ar... | NTA. I use a cup and would NEVER leave it in anything communal. Even if it has been sterilized, I wouldn’t leave something that goes inside my body to catch blood just out like that in things other people use. ###### |
About a year or so ago, my wife asked me for advice on how to invest her IRA contributions in the stock market. Note: she was very hesitant to take my advice, and thought investing was like betting, because she thinks it is the same thing as gambling. Without pressuring at all, she took my advice anyways on what to inv... | NTA. I understand your wife’s perspective: investing *is* a bit like gambling even if you do it full time, and even if you just put everything into an index fund.
Having said that, you offered advice that wasn’t well received and it is perfectly reasonable to not want to participate again. Your wife should be more un... |
Okay for background information, I’m 18F and just recently lost my virginity a month ago. I’ve been regularly sleeping with the guy since losing it. There was a day where the condom broke and it made me start thinking about getting on birth control so that I’m double protected, I was a little hesitant at first because ... | NTA. I understand that some parents get upset when their kids become sexually active. However, and feel free to bring this up to your mom, she can’t be mad that you didn’t tell her when you lost your virginity-her reaction now is showing you exactly why she couldn’t be trusted with that. ###### |
I'm working at home for now and thus doing frequent Zoom meetings. One of my co-workers has started in these meetings whenever she has to state her name and position also stating "my pronouns are she and her" after that. No one really seems to care either way and hasn't acknowledged that, and no one else has started do... | NTA. I understand stating pronouns at like the start of a college class or something but in the workplace when you have already been interacting with each other frequently this is just weird. It's especially weird coming from someone who I assume is cis and does not get misgendered. ###### |
My(25) boyfriend(23) was still an art student when we got together, so he used to have me be his model to practice drawing, sometimes nudes even. I am quite okay with it as long as he doesn't show them around to other people and he respected that.
For my birthday he used one of his old sketches of me, one with me com... | NTA. I understand him wanting to put it in his portfolio if it’s one of his best, but if you have expressed that a nude of YOU in his portfolio makes you uncomfortable, that should be the end of discussion. If he is good enough to make that, he can put the time and effort into another piece.
Edit: I need to touch on ... |
So my mom and I share my YouTube account on our TV. However, I find it rather annoying and would prefer to keep it all to myself. Not because I have anything to hide, but it's just nice to me. It's nice not to have your recommendations butchered by other people's viewing habits, it's nice not to have your watch history... | NTA. I understand fully, I regret putting my youtube account on the main TV because of how weird it makes my recommendations, YET it doesn't even sync the watch history with my other youtube devices, so I can't finish up an episode on a different screen without searching for it and fast forwarding to where I left off.... |
A friend was just complaining that he got an Amber Alert close to 3 in the morning. I just casually showed him that you could switch it off. He thanked me, and I guess he showed it to a bunch of people.
Eventually that spread until my girlfriend found out that I switched off my Amber Alerts and confronted me about it... | NTA. I turned them off too after being woken up in the middle of the night by one. It nearly gave me a heart attack. What was I going to do? Jump in my car and go hunt them down? Besides, most of the time it’s another family member who has taken the child and they usually have a pretty good idea of where they’re heade... |
I (45F) left my husband (40m) a few days ago, took my kids and went to a hotel. I was hoping to work things out but needed some time to think. We had a big fight but what it comes down to is that he doesn’t feel like I am a good mother since I got cancer. I don’t do enough around the house after being sick and having s... | NTA. I think your cousin is the least of your problems. Your husband is such an AH for saying all that. He is toxic. Please think carefully before working things out with him.
I hope you have a speedy recovery. And you are not a bad mom at all!! ###### |
I have four children: 5M, 7F, 8M, and 10M. They are very close and best friends and they all love to play together. We live in a rural area and a woods is basically in our backyard. The kids love to run around in there. I’m working from home and my husband was laid off his job so husband has been sitting in the backyar... | NTA. I think you’re doing the right thing in encouraging your kids to be considerate and empathetic towards others. I’ve chipped my kids (9M and 11M) for using ‘gay’ as an insult. They know what it means in the context of someone being attracted to people of their own sex, and they are OK with it. I’ve explained to my... |
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My friend (22f) texted me a video of this good looking dude she saw at a restaurant. I noticed that she seemed to be recording over someone's shoulder so I texted her about it and she told me she was on a date with her boyfriend.
Her boyf... | NTA. I think you’re a good friend for calling out her inappropriate behavior, something that a lot of people aren’t so keen on doing. I think that sometimes being called out by someone close to you helps you really realize that what you did may be wrong. Props to you for being real with her, hopefully she’ll come to h... |
My boyfriend \[29M\] and I \[23F\] have been together for 4 months but known each other a few years. He earns roughly double what I do and lives in a nice apartment by himself, I have a nice enough apartment with 2 housemates. His apartment is a lot closer to our respective workplaces than mine and as a result of this ... | NTA. I think you two should sit down and try to have a serious discussion about why he thinks you should be paying for his rent. If it’s because you have been staying at his place lately, then he needs to let you know if that’s bothering him, like an adult would. But he can’t just expect you to pay rent out of nowhere... |
My (22m) dad (49m) just got home with his girlfriend. As soon as they walk in all I hear is him yelling and calling her some fucked up names. Then they start arguing out in the front yard. Fyi my dad was 100% the aggressor and his girlfriend was just crying and trying to talk to him while he was screaming at her.
... | NTA. I think you handled this about as well as a person could. Good for you for standing up for someone in need of your help. ###### |
My older sister and I share the house we grew up in as part of our inheritance. To keep this as concise as possible, my sister’s boyfriend and I absolutely do not get along. I genuinely do not think he’s a good person and have no problem going out of my way to avoid him. My sister is well aware of the fact that we don’... | NTA. I think since you're both owners of the house, things like that should definitely be discussed and decided between both of you. ###### |
For context: I am 16, mom is 49.
My mother’s grandfather passed away about a month ago. She was super close to him so it’s been really hard on her. She’s finding that she’s really sad (obviously) and having a hard time coping.
My mom usually doesn’t like materialistic gifts so I usually just write her a letter or a... | NTA. I think it’s sweet and I bet your mom will too. You’re not “marketing off her sadness”, you’re trying to help her find little ways to feel better throughout the day. Ignore your friends and give your mom the journal, and tell her why you thought of it. ###### |
For context, I’m a 16M and have an iPad Pro, which is quite pricy, and I don’t want to have it broken or scratched up. This is why I prefer to watch him with my tablet if he wants to use it, because I can stop him if he gets too rough. Not only that but I have personal shit on there that I don’t want to be shown to my ... | NTA. I think it's lovely that you're willing to share your tablet with your brother under supervision. Honestly, it *is* an expensive piece of tech, and toddlers can and do easily break things without meaning to.
But you're right. *You* saved up to buy something expensive and delicate. It's a lot of money at any age,... |
AITA? My Niece, 9, is addicted to her smart phone. Everyday whenever I see her, she is I glued to it (tiktok and games) for hours.
We are very close, she lives next door, and we do a ton of stuff together (kayaking, Minecraft). We are good friends, and I try to be the cool uncle but I often take a father role as well, ... | NTA. I think especially at a young age of 9, there should be limits. In my eyes, it's good to prevent a reliance of entertainment on devices! It's hard to get away from an addicting thing like the media, but it's really needed especially at a point like that.
I bet she's got a lot of creativity down there if she can g... |
My cousin is being confirmed next year, and she's talking about a sponsor now, as is required in Catholic Confirmation. My aunt has told me that she's actually talking about me. She thinks I'm really cool (I know that) and knows that I'm way more of a practicing Christian than most of the cousins in our family. However... | NTA. I think an important distinction to make to your mom is that you aren’t being discriminatory, you’re actually being quite respectful. Your family’s laissez-faire attitude about the rules of the Catholic Church might work for them, but that’s not how all Catholics feel.
I remember growing up, my cousin’s dad was... |
We need social work credits to continue our studies. I used to go to an autism centre every week to help around, and everything was ok until the pandemic started.
Having no way to access the usual centers, and school being online, the teacher that is in charge of the social work decided that instead of postponing some... | NTA. I suggest that you speak to the principal about this. Some of the students' families may be using food banks themselves. Talk about socially inept, what a teacher! ###### |
Fiancée has had an eating disorder for a looooong time (more than half her life) but recovered and has been doing amazing for about a year now. This is the longest she has ever been okay for.
Recently she’s been falling into old behaviours and started eating less. A lot less. She’ll fill her bowl 3/4 of the way and l... | NTA. I suggest calling professionals well before she reaches that weight. You've already noticed a bunch of signs, there is no need to wait for her be to a particular weight or BMI.
Eating disorder sufferers have this twisted idea that they can't get help until they are at a low enough weight because until that point... |
Throwaway account. My 14yr old sister still uses a pacifier nightly. My mother has never taken it away from her. When my sister was in kindergarten my mom asked her uncle who “was a doctor” when will she get rid of it, because apparently my mom could not be bothered with that task, and he told her that she will grow ou... | NTA. I sucked my thumb until I was about her age and it really did a number on my teeth. Like the amount of dental work I’ve had done is ridiculous and it was often painful. However, I honestly I think by 14 you’ve largely missed the boat on stopping her yourself. It’s a comfort thing, I doubt she’s crying over it, bu... |
My GFs family is pretty "high class" or whatever you want to call it, they're basically the opposite of my family in many ways both financially and socially. My mum smokes and drinks a lot and is a single mother who has been married twice, while my GFs mum is the opposite. My mum and my family are not educated and most... | NTA. I say this as a high school teacher -- not everybody needs to go to college. I'm not saying they aren't capable or don't deserve the chance if that's what they want. What I mean is, we have this glorified view of degrees, and while in some fields they are certainly valuable and necessary, in other fields they rea... |
where im from,the wifi is generally trash. to get the good wifi,you need to pay more. my family decided to get the better one,which is still pretty bad,because we live outside the city.we moved here 2 years ago when our house was finished.our neighbors are really nice,as they let us use their electricity when we were c... | NTA. I saw in the comments that you were the one paying for the wifi. If that's the case then you are absolutely in the right to change the password.
This is actual hilarious as I was in this same predicament a few years ago. I had online classes but due to my neighbors entire family being connected to the wifi as we... |
I(20f) have been using this system since I was 18. I google pictures of penises and just send them one back.
Ignoring means they think they can escalate it to things like soft porn, or begging me for my nudes cause they sent one first so it's only fair.
Blocking has often resulted in them making new accounts to sen... | NTA. I read a story once where she would look up their info and send screenshots to their mothers. 🤔 ###### |
I’m pretty sure I am in the right because my intention is solely to keep her healthy...but I feel terrible about it sometimes.
My grandma is 72 with Alzheimer’s. She does not understand that Advil, Motrin, Bayer, etc...are all essentially the same thing. She will take a couple Motrin for her headache, then 30 min late... | NTA. I only worked with dementia patients for a short time, but came to understand that they don't always know if they are in pain. We had a lady that always told us her leg was sore and we couldn't touch it during personal care; not to say she wasn't in pain but long story short, the doctor who her daughter discussed... |
Basically I recently moved to America from Ireland in the last few months working in an IT. Now despite always finding Americans who say they're Irish or "plastic paddies" as we call them back in Ireland annoying, I knew when people say that in America, they just mean their heritage so "when in Rome, do as Romans do". ... | NTA. I once had an Irish-American woman have a whole blow up row with me for calling the language Irish instead of Gaelic. The fact that I live in Ireland and have spoken Irish since I was 4 did nothing to dissuade her. It's incredible draining ###### |
First-time poster, long-time lurker.
For some context, I have a Dog and Two Cats, all of whom I love, and about a year ago, I started dating this woman who knew about my pets and how devoted I am to them beforehand. When this all started, we decided to isolate together, since we both work from home. This happened abou... | NTA. I mean, what would happen if you got rid of your pets and you two broke up afterwards? Sounds to me like she didn't think living with animals would be as different or as cool as she thought... That or the novelty ran out so she wanted you to make her more comfortable. ###### |
AITA - I live in a rental house that the owners used to live in before moving so it's pretty nice. There is an in-ground pool that has a heat function, but because of electricity cost my roommate and I rarely use it. I normally swim year around at my gym, but due to the current situation I have started swimming at home... | NTA. I mean, practically speaking, i'm not sure exactly what your options are, but he should definitely be paying if he wants to benefit from it. Your housemate is a huge asshole. ###### |
So my dad started a small business, and it grew to be pretty big. We have a few locations in our area. I’m going to be pretty vague about it for anonymity.
He and I always worked together on it, when I was little he would teach me about it, and in high school I helped work there, and I worked there throughout my 20s. ... | NTA. I mean, its your business, you can hire whoever you want.
While it'd be nice if you could hook her up with a job, you are under no obligation to do so. ###### |
(TW: miscarriage) This is my third pregnancy. Multiples run very strongly in my family so I always knew there was the potential for more than one. I was shocked though when my first ultrasound revealed triplets. I wasn’t exactly thrilled as this was to be our last baby and I was going for three kids not five but I came... | NTA. I mean, it's not like you really had the time to get attached to them, plus everyone processes loss differently. I can think of a lot more jerkish behavior than moving on from something you couldn't do anything about. ###### |
I’m a 22 year old girl and a couple days ago my bfs cousin who’s 6 had a birthday party. It was hot so I came in a tank and short jean shorts. When I got there my bf told me he wanted to me to go home and change he thought my outfit was inappropriate for a children’s party. I didn’t believe it was at all. I got pretty ... | NTA. I mean, I doubt you're super close to your boyfriend's 6 year old cousin, so it's not like your absence ruined the party for the kid or anything. Also, does he let you pick his outfits for him? No? Then I don't see what right he has to tell you what to wear. ###### |
My mom was raised in Kashmir. Muslims took over the territory, burned down her house, killed her dad, and they fled to India in the middle of the night. My entire family hateeees Muslims because of this.
So they’re super islamophobic. But also my mom was once robbed by a black person, so she also uses that to say she... | NTA. I love this analogy. Sounds like she hasn't worked through her trauma enough to accept that she's wrong. Serious kudos to you for not accepting the racism you were raised in. ###### |
My family owns a successful property development firm. I reluctantly took a position with them because my father wants to take a less active role and my younger brothers aren't ready. While I work with my brothers and fathers, everyone is treated equally and it is very harmonious.
Lately, my SIL has been bouncing idea... | NTA. I love people who think that because this is a family business she needs to be able to give an opinion. You already spoke to your brother but he most likely either ignored you or his wife ignored him. Or he did not get what you were saying.
Either way she can’t show up and “help”. Either she works here or she ... |
Me and my roommates just moved into a new place. We are musical people and people give away old pianos for free all the time on FB marketplace and apps like Letgo. We found one we liked and enlisted the help of a friend with a truck to go pick it up. I asked the person on the app if 1pm was okay to pick it up and she s... | NTA. I likely would have done the same thing. It was logically presumed that you could grab the piano. Besides, pianos aren't just sitting outside of houses on a regular day. Why were they furious? But if it came down to a legal matter, I think you'd likely lose. ###### |
This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and I'm still pissed from work. I'm a girl.
My new job is a very labor intensive job, moving heavy objects, pushing carts, packing shipping boxes. It's summer in the south on top of that, so it's hell hot. So of course I'm sweating with all the manual labor and the lack of... | NTA. I laughed at “it’s unnatural”. You know what is actually natural? Being sweaty and stinky because you don’t use deodorant at all.
I swear they put something in men’s deodorant that is stronger than women’s. ###### |
So my little sister is 7 and has a mild form of autism which makes her maturity level about a year or 2 behind where she is supposed to be. I usually tuck her in for bed most nights cause she doesn’t really like my mom or dad doing it.
I do food delivery as a job right now, and I was working a lot lik from 8-8. Wh... | NTA. I know it could be difficult for your sister to be tucked in by different people, but since she was able to fall asleep soon after it, it doesn't look like it was much of a problem. Some parents would be proud of you for working hard, good job! ###### |
So, my (23f) sisters (22f, 20f, 18f) are all home from college right now. So there are a lot of girls in the house and a lot of periods. I mostly use cloth pads, but when I have to use a disposable (mainly if I'm traveling or out of the house for a whole day, I hate carrying used pads in my purse) I have to use an expe... | NTA. I know from experience that 7th Generation is pricey. My mother is literally allergic to most pads (and sadly, 7th Gen doesn't pass the mark because I think it uses wood instead, and she's allergic to pine), and I just finished my period and have a rash myself.
If I were you, I'd keep your 7th Gen pads in yo... |
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