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Both of my parents have been on an extended visit since. I also have an 18 month old daughter which they want to help look after, which sounded cool at first, but here’s the catch, every morning and throughout the day, they both get completely stoned off their asses and are, what I would consider, WAY too careless with... | NTA
It's past time for your parents to leave. It's better that their feelings are hurt, than for something terrible happen to your wife or children.
Suppose your wife went into premature labor? They would insist that they be allowed to watch your toddler, and you might be tempted to acquiesce. Get them out ASAP.
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I often go the local park to study/read a book etc. There’s this apartment complex near the park and people living there have a direct view of the park.
Yesterday I was chillin when this woman who lives in the apartment came up to me. She asked me if I could move to another spot. I asked her why and she said that I ... | NTA
It's not your job to cater to creepy men and their insecure wives.
Also, she's actually more offended at the idea that her husband would ever watch porn than the idea that her husband watches strange women in parks enough for it to be a distraction???
Also, your friend sucks. ###### |
English it's not my first language so I'm sorry for any mistakes.
My mom has a long history of debts, she has loans with multiple people. When my grandmother or someone gave her money to save, she always spends it.
Last year my grandma gave her to save a big amount of money and she spent it, when my grandma asked fo... | NTA
It's not up to you to get her out of debt, especially as she took a loan out in your name which shes making you pay back.
You're not her parent. Get free of her as soon as you can or you'll spend your life bailing her out. ###### |
Now I know the title seems harsh, but hear me out.
Me and my best friend of about 14 years (let’s call her Amy) are as a close as two peas in a pod. Because of this, we like to think of ways that we could “roast” each other. Now I want to make a few things clear:
1. There are strict boundaries about what we do and... | NTA
It's not their job to police your friendship group because they dont like something about it. They can leave, as they are the newbie, not dob you in to the teacher. That is low, and your other friends should cut then out too or at least give them a good talking to. If Alex shows remorse for their actions, then i ... |
Basically, we both agreed it was not the time to have a child, as we’re both still in college, and not financially stable yet for a child. However, despite his immediate suggestion we not tell anyone, when the pregnancy was confirmed (his fear that a friend/family member of mine will convince me to keep it) I later fou... | NTA
It's normal to tell your parents when you or your partner gets pregnant. However, since you two had agreed not to tell anyone in this case it was a major betrayal on his part. ###### |
It’s my Girlfriends birthday weekend. My girlfriend told me to reserve her birthday (Sunday) to devote all my time to her. I obliged...
I have some fun and romantic plans for the day. Got a custom cake and a few other goodies.
I blocked off Saturday afternoon for her as well for dinner with her family and whatever el... | NTA
it's birth "day", not birth weekend ###### |
So we have a daughter who turned three in January. Personally, I think she's pretty advanced for her age. She has complex conversations with us and can even read simple words already. She's now home with us all day while we work because of recent events. She's definitely getting more screen time than we would n... | NTA
It's a TV-G series! I can imagine her banning Courage the Cowardly Dog for some intense horror moments, but Scooby-Doo is harmless. Next, you'll be telling me she lets her watch Spongebob... ###### |
Preface:
So, I (16M), have been saving up some money to purchase a new laptop. Specs are very good (2070 ti, i7 10th gen, 16gb ram, etc.) and I use it for school, gaming, and 3d modeling. So the laptop costs $1500 USD, and I currently have $1660 in my bank account. Currently the laptop is out of stock until July 15, bu... | NTA
It's a logical thing that you first want the goods bought before transferring a chunk of money especially since you've saved for it.
Info: would she take money from you to set an example as to listen to her? ###### |
Since getting engaged, my fiancé and I have been struggling to nail down the basics, including the venue and of course, the date. Our families both have pretty busy schedules and finding a date that suited both families and was in the reasonable future has been quite challenging. Fortunately, finally settled on January... | NTA
It would be lovely to have a lunch the following day to celebrate her or even the day before, but your wedding reception that you are paying for is not a free-for-all family event celebration day. ###### |
I was supposed to go on a trip with my best friend next year, just the two of us and we'd both been saving for it. I have a credit card that rewards me airmiles and I've been using it exclusively for the past year to get a free ticket and airmiles.
We now get to travel for the price of 1 ticket instead of 2 and we get... | NTA
It was planned to be the two of you and he just invited his girlfriend without asking you ###### |
This happened pre-Carona, but my sister still brings it up bitterly.
My sister (f27) and I (m24) had an old high school friends get together last Christmas period. We went to a small high school, so we hung around the same circles back in the day.
I was there with my boyfriend, it was late in the evening, we were all... | NTA
It was clearly a joke said among friends. She obviously feels some type of way about the way her life turned out and is taking those feelings out on you.
I'm sure she saw the joke as a jab at her, but it's a joke. Even offensive/true jokes can be funny. Sometimes you have to be able to laugh at yourself. ###### |
Good luck with your new job. I hope you got the landlords permission for the lock as this is a joint tenancy, did you think I was going to still your spider man toys? Either way I'm not bothered except it looks awful and you should have asked/done a decent job of it. Anyways, hope everything goes well with your job
(... | NTA
It sounds, to me, like he planned to have friends over to use your room or is offended that you felt it necessary to lock him out.
This isn't truly about how the lock looks. ###### |
For context, I’ve always tried really hard at school and been for the most part an A-/A student- by no means perfect grades but generally good grades.
My brother on the other hand straight up doesn’t try at all. He’s really smart so in some classes he gets B+’s (considering how little he tries and the fact that there ... | NTA
It sounds like your parents have wrote off your brother in terms of academics and are cutting him a lot more slack because of it. They probably have much higher expectations where you're concerned but not allowing you a bit of slack is extremely unfair. ###### |
My brother (16M) and I (18F) regularly refer to each other as “Dude”, “Boy”, Bro”, “Man”, “My guy”, etc. That’s just how we naturally talk to each other in conversations and my mom hates it because my brother “shouldn’t be using masculine words like dude” to describe me and a “proper lady” shouldn’t use words like “bro... | NTA
it sounds as though she just likes to find things to berate you over, to feel she has some form of “control” ###### |
I work remotely (all the time, not just because of COVID-19). I make over two-thirds of our household income and am generally really busy during working hours. My husband is currently “working from home”, but his job is such that he doesn’t have to actually do anything. He’s been sleeping until noon, playing video game... | NTA
It seems like your husband isn't grasping that you actually need to work because he's also 'working from home' and doesnt seem to be doing much from your account. He needs to realise that covid-19 isn't a holiday and you still have deadlines ###### |
I (29f) am pregnant with my first child and due to give birth in November. My BIL and his fiancée have planned to have a wedding during this time (roughly 2 weeks after my due date) and I’m super excited for them!
However they have huge plans in place, with over 100 guests. The argument started when each family membe... | NTA
It may not even be two weeks after you give birth. It might be two days, or even two hours. It can’t even be guaranteed that you’ll be there. It’s absurd that they’ve given you any task. ###### |
Backstory my(23F) step father(59M) passed away over 2 years ago suddenly. Prior to his passing my sister(38F) wasn't very active in his life, she wouldn't call, visit, etc... Dad would call her at least twice a week every week and write her letters. The whole family attempted to reach her aswell but she refused to talk... | NTA
It is your father's wishes. Your father gets to decide what he gives to whom whether he's a stepfather, or a bio father.
Your father decided. Respect that and execute his wishes appropriately. ###### |
I was brought up as a Muslim and to all intents and purpose I still consider myself as one. I try to follow the religion as best as I can and I figure the disagreements are between me and God. My GF really really loves Ru Paul's Drag race, it's not my thing and I have no interest in it. After this current issue is over... | NTA
It doesn't matter if you are Muslim or not, you don't want to dress in drag and you shouldn't be bullied, cajoled, pressured or guilted into dressing in drag (or doing anything you are uncomfortable with, for that matter.)
I don't understand your gf. Is this her idea of a joke? Is she not comfortable with you ... |
I posted that I have a 10g fishtank set up for sale. I’m moving and can’t bring it with.
Someone contacted me asking if it was still available. I say yes. They say great, they want to use it for a ten year old red slider turtle. I let them know that this tank is way too small for a turtle (the tank is too small for a... | NTA
It all sounds a little fishy to me. ###### |
My husband (47m) and I (35f) want a public opinion on my actions today. Obligatory, sorry I'm on mobile disclaimer.
This morning I left to get groceries. I packed my car with insulated bags and a cooler with ice. This is my method when I know I'm going to several stores and want to keep cold items as cold as possible.... | NTA
Is this normal behavior for him? You TOLD him you'd be having coffee with this friend. How could that equate to sneaking around in his mind? ###### |
Title basically says it all, my mother was in control of my grandfather’s assets after his passing since he left no will, and since he didn’t leave a will she sees no issue in giving her new husband my grandfather’s Harley he specifically stated he wanted me to have. Her new husband doesn’t like me and also has no issu... | NTA
Is there another family member you could talk to that can help you get through to your mom?
That’s pretty crappy, sorry.
What is she saying? I can imagine she may want to have some connection between her late father and new husband. But she should talk to you and explain her point and so on. It’s not cool if s... |
My parents divorced when I was 5, my dad remarried almost immediately (like within months after the divorce) and my mom remarried when I was 9 or 10 can't really remember. My dad's wife had 4 kids who were at the time 7,5, 3 and 2 while I was 5 when we all moved in together. Now I didn't live full time with them, I w... | NTA
insofar as you were simply explaining to your friend why one wouldn’t realize you had a brother (of any kind) on the team. Not sure what your dad’s deal is. ###### |
My husband has been rowing on a nearby lake early mornings for about 20 years. This summer he's been going out alone most mornings. He refuses to wear a PFD bc it interfears with his stroke. I have never agreed with this but what can I do? My arguments have failed. My pleas fall on deaf ears. So I gave up. I can ... | NTA
Insist on him wearing a flotation device. Perhaps get him a device like the ones this company does
https://www.lifejackets.co.uk/Lifejackets-Automatic.htm ###### |
I've known for a while now that my brother is in prison for something serious and my mother and family friend, who know the whole situation, haven't told me what for because he doesn't want people to know.
I've had no reason to care about his screw ups until recently, when I joined the navy with a job that requires a... | NTA
In what world does someone like that possibly get to demand it stay quiet? Especially since once he eventually gets out he's probably going to be on a publicly accessible list anyway.
And the type of crime aside, as you've said, this was about your career. It is not fair that you could be held back by his illega... |
Hi all, this is a throwaway and I don’t really know how this works but I’ve been having an issue with my fiancé and her family.
Background: I am a part owner in a pretty upscale American restaurant in the United States. I have been engaged for a little over a year, the virus took a toll in our plans. I have been with... | NTA
In no way should anyone ever “expect” to have a meal comped, no matter what the relation. The restaurant is a business and not a place for free food. The fact that it was somehow expected and not offered or discussed in anyway screams entitled. ###### |
My roommate and his girlfriend have been on and off for quite some time. When they fight and break up, she gets drunk and messages me about how much she hates him, and he tells me how much he hates her. When I dont respond to her, she gets upset and starts disrespecting me with insults. He has told me that she is very ... | NTA
In general you need to be careful leaving guests with your roommate, but adding in the context and you have reason to not want her over at all. ###### |
I (15F) lost my grandma to coronavirus in the early hours of this morning. We were super close as for 2 years she was bearly able to walk to I came every day after school to cook and clean with my mum going on weekends when she didnt work.
My mum was in pieces with my dad trying to make her feel better in any way pos... | NTA
In any way shape or form. Grief is never a competition.
I'll admit his words may not be coming from a rational place, but it's still no excuse. ###### |
My brother (18M) and I (21M) got into this argument last night and my sister (16F) took his side so I may be the asshole.
My mom is from Colombia and my dad is a white American with some Irish and German ancestry. My siblings and I grew up in North Carolina around my dad's family but we visited my mom's family every ... | NTA
Im more so interested in how long hes gonna keep this up. Eventually his friends or s.o will meet his family. Im surprised none of them have seen his family on facebook or instagram yet. ###### |
So since barbershops are closed my son (8yo) hasn't had a hair cut in almost 6 months now. In my own opinion I like his hair long, I always thought he had straight hair but its starting to curl, and he likes it too. My wife's friend is a barber and told us she's willing to cut both our children's hair for free. My da... | NTA
If your son likes it then let him grow out his Quarantine Cut, if he’s asking for one then let him get one, he’s 8 that’s an appropriate age for letting him decide how he likes his hair ###### |
So my(16f) sister(23f) was studying abroad in Italy but the whole corona virus thing happened and she had to come back. She left all of her stuff with her roommate who lived there, including her computer.
My mom lent her her computer for about a month because she wasn’t really using it, but now she needs it for work ... | NTA
If your sister has a history of destroying or treating her electronics really badly then it makes since not to want a computer she used.
Hopefully she doesnt inflict to much damage, and you can enjoy a relatively new laptop. If she does mess it up, hopefully your parents will notice and im sure they wont be thr... |
I work in a supply warehouse and was given the option to buy medical grade masks for personal use. The only restriction is that we were only allowed to buy 1 mask per person living in the same house as you.
I live with my parents, so that meant that I could buy 3 masks. I gave one mask to my dad (who is 65 years old, d... | NTA
If your mother doesn't leave the house, she has no need for a mask. Your sister, on the other hand, has a definite need for one. ###### |
Right now, I am the only one who works, albeit from home, but I workover 40 hours a week. My husband is laid off, and we have a 3.5 year old.
BACK STORY: Prior to all of this 3 months ago, my husband was a couch sleeper. He is the type that just falls asleep easy. So 6 days out of 7 I would be the one getting up with ... | NTA
If you're working 40 hours a week and struggling to walk, in what universe is it remotely fair that you do 50% of the child maintenance?
What does he do around the house that matches the effort you put in working and doing things while he sleeps or plays games? ###### |
So I live next to a man, let's call him Cam, who's in his late 20's and is single. He is also openly gay. To express his identity, he attends the local pride parade every year, he hangs rainbow flags around his property and he has had multiple boyfriends, some of whom i've met. But for the past 6 months Cam's been sing... | NTA
If you were just avoiding him for no other reason than that he's gay, you'd be in with a chance in the Asshole Olympics. But this isn't that; his actions are completely out of line, especially those involving him touching you without consent.
If you don't want to completely cut him out (and you'd be justified in... |
I don’t know how much I can talk about it, but I’m waiting on a claim to go to court that I am most likely getting a good chunk of money from. Obviously only close family like my mum know the details.
Any time the case is talked about among the family my mum immediately jumps to “we’ll be going to Disneyland with tha... | NTA
If you start giving this money to your mother, OP, she will end up taking it all. It will be nibbled away by her and perhaps other relatives until you have nothing left.
Do the smart thing, OP. Go to a financial planner. Perhaps your attorney could make a recommendation.
A good planner can extend you money... |
My swimming instructor said I passed all of the requirements for the first part of my course. Then he said the last part of my course required me to do a practical test at another swimming location the next day. I drove all the way to the new swimming pool about 30 minutes away and went into the swimming centre. I saw... | NTA
If you paid and did everything required to get your certificate than you should get it. If he's the one in charge of mailing certificates than it is his problem and if not he still should have helped you regardless. As a customer of his course you pay his salary and he has an obligation towards you and he's not f... |
My(F22) grandma used to make gorgeous patchwork blankets, and anyone who has made one will know how much time and skill goes into them. As a going away present for university (4years ago) my grandma made and gifted me a massive double sized one, and I love it! Unfortunately arthritis runs in my family and making somet... | NTA
If you cut the blanket in half, no one has a functional blanket from grandma.
That’s obviously a ridiculous King Solomon type solution.
We don’t even know if your brother is upset about not having a blanket. If he is, you can easily work out a lending schedule.
Sorry to hear about her decline, been there, k... |
My sister is getting married a year from now and is going crazy on her wedding plans. She knows I'm only working part-time while going through cancer treatment and am struggling financially. She's picked out $400 designer bridesmaids dresses for us plus alterations, shoes, jewelry, etc. and wants us to buy them right... | NTA
If you cannot afford what the bridezilla is determined to have, be up front and say,
“Sis, I only work part time and am going through cancer treatments, I don’t even know how long I’ll be able to hold onto the few hours I currently work. I am unable to afford what you envision for your special day. In light of ... |
A couple things. I am of Indian descent, this means I am an American citizen, but both my parents were born in India. I can’t legally be an Indian citizen because India does not allow dual citizenship. My late grandparents own a lot of land in India, and since my mom and I are both only children, half of their land wen... | NTA
If you can’t sell it then technically you aren’t really a millionaire? I mean you could figure out a way to make money off it if you had to but it’s not that accessible to you right now.
I think you should bring it up before marriage tho. Just say what you said here. You own land but can’t really do anything wit... |
So basically, there’s this restaurant in my home town that for some reason my family absolutely love. It’s kind of a Mediterranean grill type restaurant. I don’t live in my home town anymore but do visit to see my family, and we always end up eating there.
Me and my girlfriend are vegan. I normally try not to bring it... | NTA
If they refuse to cancel the reservation, wish them well as they go without you. ###### |
My sister (25) works for an art museum and always talks about how little she makes compared to what she perceives to be less important jobs. I (27) work as a lawyer so, due to the nature of our work, most likely make more money than her (though neither of us know each other’s exact salary obviously)
She was going on a... | NTA
If she was complaining about a man in the same role as her making more or a woman in the same role as you making less, I'd be inclined to believe it's a gender issue. But if you and her both got the same treatment and opportunities from your parents growing up and you picked a career that pays more, that's not a ... |
My boyfriend and I have both hit hard by the economic effects of COVID-19. I was laid off from my job, and my boyfriend's company has furloughed most of its employees indefinitely. We are both very anxious about our future, and every dollar we receive from unemployment and our stimulus checks is going directly into sav... | NTA
If she wants other food, she can order and pay for it. No one is forcing her to eat your meals. ###### |
I’m 21 years old. I live with my parents and work at a fast food place while I’m going to a community college. I work hard for the money I earn, even though my family says I don’t need to work.
A high school friend of mine (21f) and I started messaging again through social media. We used to be very close, but we stopp... | NTA
If she wants money she should apply for government aid or better yet get a job instead of mooching off her friends ###### |
My gf moved in with me shortly after the pandemic began for financial reasons mostly
She hates that i let my 2 rabbits free roam my house. She’s a neat freak and she hates the hair, hay, and the fact they occasionally drop a turd out of their litter box (which is picked up by my automated vaccuum quickly)
AITA for w... | NTA
If she doesn't like it she didn't have to move in.
Pets are part of the family... ###### |
English it's not my first language so I'm sorry for any mistakes.
My mom has a long history of debts, she has loans with multiple people. When my grandmother or someone gave her money to save, she always spends it.
Last year my grandma gave her to save a big amount of money and she spent it, when my grandma asked fo... | NTA
If others want your Mom to have money, they can give her their money. You're doing enough. ###### |
I’ll try to keep this simple. I (23M) have been dating (23F) for about 5 months now, and our relationship has been official/public for most of that time. She is extremely supportive, generous, and I think, a great girlfriend overall. I am not a big social media user, but my she loves Twitter. I don’t have Twitter, but... | NTA
if it was private account that she just didn’t feel comfortable sharing yet, I would maybe get it.
But it is (was until you saw it) a public account so really you’re the only person she doesn’t want seeing it.
Kinda sounds like a red flag to me. ###### |
I'll try to keep it short:
My husband (28M) and I (26F) have been trying to get pregnant for about a year. About a week before Father's day, I took a pregnancy test, because I started having symptoms. It tested positive. But just to be sure, I also went to see a professional that also confirmed it. By now, it was abou... | NTA
If it was me I would have been thrilled to find out on fathers day, especially since you did the right thing and went to confirm with a professional.
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I somewhat understand why he would get snippy, but in all honesty, its such a minor thing that it makes him wrong. This should be the happiest moment in ... |
With the current world climate the worry of mortality has been brought up in the minds of many including my(20) half-sister sister (32). My half-sister was discussing with me on the phone how difficult it will be to divide everything evenly if our dad passed away (he has health problems so it may happen sooner rather t... | NTA
If I understand this, you will be getting an inheritance from your mom and dad. She expects to get an inheritance from her mom, her dad, her step-dad, ***and*** your mom. That doesn't seem to add up.
Regardless, the division of the will is up to your mom and dad, and not her. ###### |
Some people at my school signed a contract to rent a club house for prom and decided to go full out (litteraly no specifics from them), the problem is is that they demand 190$ from everyone (150 people) but almost no one paid except the organizers friend's and they almost got sued for not paying.
I really don't want to... | NTA
If I understand this right, someone is essentially demanding that you chip in on an event that you don't wish to actually attend?
Don't pay. They don't have the right to preemptively obligate you to this. Most proms I have heard of sell tickets. If you don't buy all that happens is you can't go. ###### |
About 3 months ago I (24) began seeing a man (27) We are polar opposites (I'm a city girl, he's a country redneck). We've been sexually active the entire time.
About two weeks ago I started throwing up and feeling really weird. I took a test. It was positive. I haven't had an OB confirm it yet.
The issue he is very... | NTA
If he's not mature enough to realize that pulling out is not a viable contraceptive method, he's certainly not mature enough to raise a child. You know that you're not ready to be a mother, and you are entirely within your rights to make the decision about what to do. ###### |
I’m on mobile so I apologize. (22f)
So (big surprise) I’ve been having a ton of trouble finding a job during COVID. Since I just graduated from college, I’ve been applying everywhere to any job I can think of that’s remote or in my state. I heard back from a few but nothing was working out.
Then, a few days ago I he... | NTA
If he was this unprofessional in the interview when he is supposed to be practically trying to court you to come work there, fuck knows how bad he would be once you were actually working there.
Big red flags and you were right to drop it right then and there. ###### |
Basically I went out on my lunch break and left my AirPods on my desk, keep in mind I work in a very small office with 7 other people who I trust.
When I got back to my desk I looked for my AirPods and I was certain I’d left them on my mouse pad as I always do I checked my draws and on the floor in case I’d knocked th... | NTA
If he put them away to keep them safe that would be one thing. But "teaching people lessons" is reserved for parents and teachers, and only when they're actually teaching not scaring ###### |
I heard you are asshole aficionados here, and this is tangentially related to a literal one.
I work at a welding shop in the midwest. It's hot, I sweat. The toilet paper supplied by work is tough-guy TP: don't take crap off nobody, and you'll bleed if you try.
The last thing I need is a mud problem on a hot sum... | NTA
If enough of you don't like the company TP, they should raise a stink with management and get the good stuff for everyone.
Obviously, you don't owe them your own TP, so there's no way you can be TA here. ###### |
My (28f) husband (30m) and I have been together for 8 years, married for 2. Shortly before we got married, we purchased our home.
We’re at a point now where we’d like to start trying for children. My husband’s father has a rare genetic disease that is similar to Parkinson’s. He’s wheelchair-bound and has little contr... | NTA
If anyone’s being selfish, it’s him. He really doesn’t care if he has a possibility of passing on a genetic disease that could literally ruin his potential child’s life? All because he just doesn’t want to know?
It’s not about him. It’s about the children you could have and he needs to understand that. ###### |
AITA: for getting frustrated with my MIL and now SIL just stopping bye whenever they feel like it.
So I am going to start off I generally like my MIL... My husband and I live in a small town and MIL lives 2 minutes away. SIL is currently long visit and is staying with the in-laws. We have had issues with her just show... | NTA
If a discussion with them hasn’t worked, it’s easily fixed another way.
Train them like toddlers. Tell them point blank that you will no longer be answering the door unless you have prearranged plans. And then stick to it consistently. After they try it enough times, they won’t bother. No one likes to knock ... |
These past few weeks, my mom has been trying to convince me to leave my son with her because she’s been lonely because my dad died recently but my wife and I refused because Of what she did that last time we left our son (8m)
My mom has become a very big conspiracy theorist and we left our son with her for a month bec... | NTA
If a babysitter did the same, you wouldn't call her back. While you probably should allow some bonding time between them, I myself wouldn't do that unsupervised. ###### |
AMITA
This might be a long post, so bear with me.
So my step dad works remotely due to COVID, but because of the significance of his position, he has to go into work Monday and Tuesday. I work 6 days a week, I'm up by 5:30 and out by 6:15ish, he's meant to be out at the same time.
The first time my mom asked me ... | NTA
I’m with you on this. Imo, the only reason the alarms don’t work is because he *knows* someone will wake him up. Let him be late to work if he can’t be responsible enough to wake himself up ###### |
So we’ve been dating for a couple months now. She lives by herself and I’m with roomies but I’m moving into my new 1bed place in July. Whenever we’re at her place she keeps her feet on and walks around which at first flabbergasted me but it’s her place so I never said anything. I always joked that I’d never let her int... | NTA
I’m American (white/midwestern roots) and my family and all my friends wear shoes in the house. I dated an international student and can’t stand the shoes in the house anymore. It makes the floors dirtier faster and I like being barefoot without getting my feet all grimy (and then my sheets too). You’re allowed t... |
Throwaway for obvious reasons
In January when my sister (22) found out she's pregnant, the father isn't in the picture and she is currently single. She lives a state away and my (F16) parents have always treated us much different.
I have nothing against my sister, she's great and I love her but after she left the h... | NTA
I'm sorry you're stuck in this situation. Have your talked to your sister about this behavior from your parents?
What are your options looking like for moving out at 18? ###### |
Throwaway as I don't want to use my main.
When lockdown happened in March my mum asked could she stay with my wife and I while lockdown was happening as she was worried she'd get lonely during it. I asked my wife and we agreed as we both get on with her well and often go on holidays together abroad.
I thought things ... | NTA
I'm hoping this is just pandemic induced grouchiness, combined with apparently being single (widowed/divorced?) during a difficult time, which probably hits home a little more when she sees the two of you together.
I'm not giving her a free pass for it, that is why she is definitely the AH, but hopefully this is... |
Here’s the background. My son “Danny” has been dating a girl for about six months. “Tracy” is in the same grade at a different school nearby. Additionally, Tracy’s mom “Susan” is a teacher in yet another school all these are in the same district.
I guess Susan got curious about Danny and his grades. So she contacted s... | NTA
I'm fairly certain that's illegal. You have every right to protect your child and his privacy. You weren't over the top in any way. That poor girl, having to deal with that as a mother. ###### |
I (21F) live with my boyfriend (24M) he eats alot and all the time he is snacking on something, but recently I've drawn a line. He has started eating food in bed, like chips and candy. It's gotten so bad he will fall asleep while eating. Last night I rolled over to a smushed candy bar that fell out of his hand and got ... | Nta
I'd honestly lose my shit if I was in your shoes, that would be annoying. Dudes gotta respect the shared bedroom, supposed to be a relaxing space. ###### |
So me and my wife (Jessica) have been together for 6 years now married for 1. However throughout that time my MIL (Julia) has always been a little on the distrustful side when it comes to me. For reference my wife is full German and I am a Puerto Rican.
It started off small so I never really cared, comments like “So J... | NTA
I would seriously talk with your fiance about this issue. Her mother is racist, and treating you like garbage. Your fiance has to put her family in check for their behavior because it's going to be an issue for the rest of your life/marriage. ###### |
Today is my birthday and I’m sitting at home while my husband is drunk and passed out in his car somewhere. Not only has he ruined every single birthday of mine since we have been together, he ruined our sons first birthday when he chose to get drunk and not show up to the place we had agreed upon.
Anyways, his birth... | NTA
I was hoping you were saying you were going to take your son and NEVER COME BACK. ###### |
So I used to babysit for a old high school friend and loved working for them they had two kids a little girl who just turned two and a boy who was 8. They were very well behaved kids and I really enjoyed watching them. The mom had asked me to come to the girls 2nd birthday party and I said yes without hesitation and re... | NTA
I was expecting this story to go differently and you to be thinking you'd be paid for being a guest at a party. But nope, these parents are TAs. ###### |
This happened a while ago, but my friend still brings it up and says I’m a jerk. A little bit of background: I work in an industry that people tend to abuse the service animal policy to let their pets travel for free. I’ve had incidents were “service animals” attacked people and other pets and honestly it makes me real... | NTA
I was attacked in an restaurant by a so called "service animal".
I was too focused on my food, that I didn't notice the young 20ish couple that came in with their medium sized dog (not sure the breed). No leash either.
I'm enjoying my steak, when I hear a whine. Here's this dog with a SA vest standing next me m... |
So hi Reddit, I already people are gonna hate on me for this and yeah but let's just get to the backstory of the story (and yes I'm on a throwaway).
So I'm 15 and ESS (entitled step-sister) is 10, ESM (Entitled stepmom).
So my little sister loves playing basketball and I was visiting my dad the other day (they live c... | NTA
I understand she’s younger and all, but yet again you played the game and you won it, there is nothing wrong here. ###### |
My fiancé proposed to me with an heirloom engagement ring that belonged to his great grandmother and has been passed down from generation to generation. It’s art deco style with a large, multiple carat diamond in the center and many smaller ones surrounding it and in the band. I love the ring’s history and the things i... | Nta
I too was proposed to with an heirloom ring and it is stunning and gorgeous and full of history and worth a bloody fortune. So my now husband bought me a simple solitaire that I wear day to day and then I wear the heirloom ring for special occasions. I was so terrified of damaging it! ###### |
To get right down to it, my family is descended from Robert E. Lee. We don’t have the last name anymore, but if you have kids, it’s just a given in my family that one of them has to have Lee incorporated in there somewhere. Every year in June we have the “Lee family reunion” that I personally haven’t attended for years... | NTA
I too am related to Lee. Not a descendant, but he was the cousin to one of my ancestors.
You're not an asshole for not carrying on the tradition. And obviously Robert E. is not one that is great to glorify.
That having been said, if you are interested, the family history surrounding that Lee branch is fasci... |
I just gave birth to my daughter. Of course my MIL is crazy over the top, over the moon. She wants to come over all the time to see the baby. I’m ok with that. I really am. I can use some company and advise. My only request is that she please call me first ahead of time. Call me so I can change out of my sloppy ... | NTA
I think you should start saying no. I think you're going to cause yourself a lot of trouble and the future, but not making boundary while the baby is still a little.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling someone that if they don't call you're not going to let them in the house. Your mother-in-law might... |
So me and my ex fiancé were planning on getting married next week with only 20 people (corona has died down dont attack me). Well last month my brother passed away in a car accident where he got rammed by a drunk driver and both fell into the lake. This hurt me alot as we were close and he hit 6 months sober and we wer... | NTA
I think you dodged a bullet there ###### |
So every wednesday I Hoover/wash the floors in my house (I'm 14M)
I like to leave my dog outside while I'm washing the floors because he has a habit of "leaving feces" on the wet floor. Dont know why he does it.
We have a neighbouring family directly across the street from us and the eldest child has autism (not sure... | NTA
I sympathize with your neighbours struggles, but they aren't your problem. You weren't refusing to take care of your dog, you doing the responsible thing to avoid stressing him out while you do your chores. ###### |
So in the UK the minimum hourly wage is based on age. For an 18-21 year old, me, it’s £6.45 however for a 25+ it’s around £8.50.
Because of this low wage and working 30 hours (26.5 with breaks) a week at a crappy minimum wage retail job I only make about £170 a week. £680 a month. £8,160 a year. That doesn’t take int... | NTA
I still remember at one of my first jobs when the boss was complaining about how he had to pay $20k in federal taxes. He wasn't thrilled when I said "must be nice! I don't even **earn** that much here". Nothing came of it, though. There were maybe 5 other employees there who also chimed in like me... and his ... |
I(25f) recently had a child and my husband(29m) didn’t show up until about an hour after I had given birth.
I asked why he took so long to get here and he told me he had to help his friend clean their garage and that he planned to be here after it was done. I got furious at him for prioritizing someone’s clean garage ... | NTA
I sincerely hope this isn’t real, because your husband sounds like a prick.
ETA: That you’re most definitely NTA. And you deserve so, so much better. ###### |
Some background: I come from India but Im attending a college in the UK after accepting a scholarship.
So this started 7 months ago, so I told my family that I after I finish college I'm going to stay in the UK, I half heartedly thought they were going to be supportive but knowing my culture I knew that they were most... | NTA
I really hope that you don't have to go home to India for the holidays or in the foreseeable future.
It could be dangerous for you.
https://karmanirvana.org.uk has already been mentioned here, they do amazing work. ###### |
Our 16F daughter recently came out and to be honest I don’t care and think there is nothing wrong with it.However,my wife thinks it’s weird,and has been acting hateful to our daughter.The other day she told me she’s thinks it’s wrong and that men are for women.I told her it doesn’t matter and that I only care about my... | NTA
I really don't think there's any further explanation needed for that.
Please do not let your wife try to 'fix her' ###### |
I recently finished my internship and I offered them to hire me. I enjoyed my time there and hoped I could earn some extra money over the holiday season. My boss and colleagues liked to keep me but the management insisted that they would not hire anybody.
Fast forward to this weekend. I get a message from my boss that... | NTA
I mean, she told you she couldn't work certain days/times and over that time is when the help is needed. If you want a possible future permanent job from this company you have to come across as good and reliable, if someone you bring along to this job can't work and has to dip out that looks bad on you and could ... |
In have this new coworker, 22F. She has been here less than a year and comes with a limited amount of experience. Nonetheless she is a very Type-A coworker and has identified herself a future manager. As such she is very directive in talking and often points at people when addressing them, snaps her fingers when req... | NTA
I know it would be very very rude, but you might have to start snapping your fingers back at her to get your point across. ###### |
Pretty simple story.
I recently bought condoms with my face. Not exactly bought, but a friend gave me a gift card to this website. I just went to a website, submitted a photo, and voila. In 3 months I got a package of around 1000 condoms.
I didn’t know what to do with that many condoms. So, I just gave a lot of the... | NTA
I have many questions, however... ###### |
So a few months back my cat Figaro had been acting a little strange, like not eating and just sitting there not doing anything, and I (12M) immediately told my mom that we should get him to the vet, so that’s what we did.
Now mind you Figaro is/was 9 at the time, so he had quite a few more years in him, and at the vet... | NTA
I have changed vets for far less. If you aren’t confident they are doing their best then there is no need to be loyal. They are a business. ###### |
Let me set the stage for you first, due to the economy and culture here, we usually live in the same house with our parents; even if we want to move out, it's hard to find a decent apartment with rent lower than our monthly salary (about $200-$350 are the starting salary here).
So my dad in his younger years found i... | NTA
I have asthma; it doesn't keep me from working. Heck, my brother has awful asthma and has had part of a lung removed because of how often he's had pneumonia and he has still managed to work.
Something I often wonder when I read these sorts of filial piety posts: When parents use cultural expectations to demand... |
So I work at a fast food shop, and we close at 9 PM. We technically close at 9:15 for people who are in shop, but given corona, we do not allow people to eat inside. Every sign says 9 PM, so not many people (if any) know about the 9:15. Also, not every manager follows 9:15, and sometime it just depends on the day.
So... | NTA
I hate people who cuss at workers. ###### |
I am class of 2020. I hated my high school with a burning passion. I would get bullied a lot and I was also sexually harassed. I want to put that part of my life completely behind me and not go back. so I've been cutting most people from that school out. I have been unfollowing and unfriending people on all social medi... | NTA
I graduated about a decade ago, have zero contact with anyone from high school and certainly don’t regret it. High school sucked and so did the people lol.
They are mad now but a) their opinions don’t even matter and b) they will be leaving most of those people behind soon enough anyways.
Focus on who you want ... |
My sister has 3 children under 5. She works full time due to choice. She always says that while her husband makes more than enough to support the family in a middle class lifestyle, she can’t imagine being home with all the kids all day.
Right now, she’s at home working 12 hours a week for full pay. My BIL is a consu... | NTA
I get your sister’s pain, I’m in my house with one kid. I’ve always worked full time so it’s a whole new adjustment to be at home with kiddo 24/7, especially when he has aspergers and is NOT happy with his whole life routine changing.....
But my god, one of my pals has 3 kids and every. Single. Day. She’s on the... |
Hello, I am relatively young and my first language is English so flame me if I get anything wrong.
Recently I dated this girl and everything was fine at first, I let her use my belongings (My drawing pad, hoodies and some other items) under the condition that I would get them back eventually. I never asked for the ite... | NTA
I get her keeping your stuff to piss you off, but honestly what did she expect?? You to just sit tight and watch your property get destroyed from the shadows? That's the shit you can take legal action for. Her life could have been set back by a lot, or even destroyed if she went through with destroying them, and ... |
So today I resigned from my job. I't was apparently a 'graduate position' and my first job out of college. As soon as I joined the company, the head of my department quit and 4 weeks later once she actually left, I was in charge of the department. I was responsible for all the clients accounts and was extremely stressf... | NTA
I dunno which country you live in, but you can't take a paycut like that if it's below minimum wage. ###### |
To preface this, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a couple months and she has a variety of mental health issues, including severe social anxiety. One thing she has started doing is making this extremely loud high pitched scream whenever she feels emotion, like when she’s very happy, shocked, and as a greeting. It wou... | NTA
I don’t really see how screaming as a greeting has anything to do with mental health issues. It would be different if she was doing it only when distressed, but this is weird
I may get downvoted loads for this but your girlfriend sounds like an attention seeker. Unless she has Tourette’s, or a learning disabili... |
Okay so, this might be a little weird so I’ll try and explain it.
Basically, out of all of my family I am the only one who has thick curly hair.
I mother swears up and down that she never cheated on my dad (although I’m pretty sure he still doesn’t believe it)
And because of my curly hair, I can’t tell you the amou... | NTA
I did this to people who randomly and without asking would touch my belly when I was pregnant.
It’s always a bit rewarding to see the look on someone’s face when they come at you thinking they can just. Touch without asking. And then you give them a couple good belly rubs.
I imagine it’s quite similar with ha... |
I (24f) am a night owl with ADHD. Everything I have succeeded at doing in life (my degree, working nightshifts, making a profit from my business) has been done when my body functions at it's best (at night). My mother (59f) and my sister (35F) have made it their new obsession to ensure I wake up at the same time as the... | NTA
I could have said NAH, but if they are getting aggressive about it, it makes them TA. You may be a better person than I, but I would start walking them up at my preferred time to give them a dose of their own medicine. ###### |
To start this off, today is my birthday. I woke up a little extra early and told him half-asleep I wouldn't be back to bed - only reason for doing so is since he has a tendency of noticing I'm not in bed and sleepily looking for me.
So I ended up in the living room using the laptop - the screen facing away from the b... | NTA
I can't even begin to understand his logic.
He sounds terribly controlling and unpleasant. ###### |
A bit of background: I (24F) don’t shave. Anything. I have arm hair, armpit hair, leg hair, pubes, even some ass hair. I’m very pale and have dark hair so it’s very noticeable. TL;DR at the end.
I started talking to a guy on Tinder almost 2 months ago. We talked for a few weeks and he asked me on a date. (The dates h... | NTA
I bet 10 bucks and a sloppy BJ that he wasn't shaved either ###### |
I own about 10 plaid shirts, all different colours, I wear them all regularly, and my go to outfit is jeans, a tank top, and a plaid shirt. My dad hates that I dress like this and always pointedly asks me if I want to change or if I really need to be wearing that, and he's actually "joked" about burning my shirts on th... | NTA
I assume that you're a woman and he buys into the whole 'plaid=gay' stereotype, which makes him even more of an asshole. If you're a man then idk maybe your mom dated a lumberjack in college?
Either way he's being ridiculous. ###### |
So basically my nephew wanted to watch a film at the cinema but it was a 15 rated film. (In the UK we have 12, 15, and 18 rated films)
He's really into special effects and stuff so I knew he wouldn't be scared by it so I told him to just say he's 15.
His mother found out, got really angry at me and told me I wasn't ... | NTA
I am British as well. There is not one of us that has not been to see one of these films when we were below the age prescribed. Everyone starts going to 15s at 13 or 14 and everyone goes to 18 movies at 16 or 17. It is just what we do.
That level of parental controlling behaviour is simply not normal for the UK.... |
My parents and I have been having an argument. My parents sat me down and asked me about my grades. I told them all the ones that I know. Some of my teachers don't post the grades to Google Classroom so I don't know what some of them are. I have 4 confirmed a's (3 are above 95%) and 3 b's. I'm in 8th grade. Right now I... | NTA
I always hate parents who are like "you aren't in the advanced classes? You just must not be trying hard enough. No more fun, only studying until you perform at a level that 'we know you can'. And we know you can, because we believe that our parenting is so awesome that we have birthed a winner!" ###### |
So my dad started a small business, and it grew to be pretty big. We have a few locations in our area. I’m going to be pretty vague about it for anonymity.
He and I always worked together on it, when I was little he would teach me about it, and in high school I helped work there, and I worked there throughout my 20s. ... | NTA
However, I would recommend that you consider allowing her to apply, but apply through the usual method and her application be considered against other applicants in the same manner as any other applicant. Don't give her any advantage in the application process, nor in any position.
If your business is large eno... |
Our dog usually eats tinned food or chub rolls, but every now and then she gets a special treat: two packets of ready to eat smoked mackerel from the fish section of the supermarket freezer.
There's usually two or three fillets in each pack. She doesn't get the fillets whole, they're broken up into her bowl. This is e... | NTA
Holy shit the lengths people will go to to be offended. You're not eating dog food, the dog is eating people food.
More to the point...it's JUST FOOD. ###### |
Just for context: I (F18) have dated a guy (M22) for about 9 months, but never really loved him. He knew it, because at the first time he asked me, I denied, saying that I only see him as a friend. So he told me that if I didn't date him, he wouldn't have a reason to live - I was sooooo worried that I ended up acceptin... | NTA
His mental health is not your responsibility. ###### |
There’s a lot going on here but I’ll keep it as short as possible. My husband and I live fairly close to his parents (like 15 min) and his brother who has severe intellectual disabilities at age 36.
My husband is a doctor and with the pandemic we’ve decided to live apart for the time being so he doesn’t have to worry... | NTA
Hey, I get disabilities . . . But listen, if the guy is smart enough to use the internet and impressionable enough to learn these toxic behaviors from those dark corners of the internet, he is capable of learning other behaviors too. Like, politeness.
The disability card is sometimes necessary, but sometimes it... |
Hello there! I'm a very friendly person and I'll chat with anyone and I always keep things light, casual, and non-committal because I love my space and privacy.
I logged into Facebook after YEARS off and decided to join my neighborhood community group of homeowners. Afterwards, a few of my neighbors requested to add ... | NTA
Her sending a friend request would mean to any reasonable person that they were interested in chatting.
(edit) somehow this is my most upvoted comment by over 10x ###### |
Divorce is weird. One part of our settlement was subscription services such as Amazon Prime, Netflix, etc.
I had to legally maintain them for 6 months. I don’t know if I was being taken advantage of, but it’s far too late now. Yesterday, when the 6 months were up, I cancelled every single subscription service I had ... | NTA
Her friends could let your Ex use their Netflix. ###### |
I recently just started going to the gym because I am unhappy with my weight. I’m working with a personal trainer and doing a program that requires I do meal preparation from a specific cookbook. I now have to prepare seperate lunch and dinner from my wife, who refuses to eat what I’m cooking. This means that I buy my ... | NTA
Her food took up the whole fridge until you took the time to clean out a rearrange it, however you asking for a single shelf now is somehow selfish? She's being lazy and argumentative for no real reason. ###### |
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