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My dad recently laughingly told us a story about how almost 20 years ago he took a job in a different state, listed and sold the house without my moms knowledge. My mom only found out because a friend of theirs was looking for a new house in the area and her agent showed her my parents house. At the time my oldest sibl... | NTA
He’s selfish and unapologetic about it. I would have re-evaluate the relationship if I was in your moms shoes as well. ###### |
Before you judge off the title alone, my friend is a man. Not genderqueer or anything, just a man. He has always said kind of cringe things about women and sex, nothing bigoted but just....cringe. Like once he told me that he is most attracted to bisexual women because “pleasuring women is his biggest pastime” and he c... | NTA
He’s not a lesbian, he has a lesbian fetish ###### |
I (M34) bought my boyfriend (M32) a 2018 Macbook Air on sale a few months ago because he needed a new computer. It did not come with a warranty. Two days ago, he got annoyed at me that I asked him to come to bed (it was 2am), slammed the laptop shut and came.
Then, he discovered the next day that his slamming the lapt... | NTA
He’s 32, he should have more control over his anger by now, he’s an adult. Red flag imo
Why should you pay for damage HE caused to HIS computer during HIS temper tantrum? Red flag 2
You “provoked” him? You told him to go to bed when it was already 2am. Was he on something? ###### |
So this guy has been my friend for a few months now. Maybe 5 or 6. Went to a few parties at his place, talked a bunch when quarantine was starting, that kind of thing. Once, when i was pretty drunk at one of his parties (a get-together of 4 pretty close friends), i spilled that id slept with a friend in our closer frie... | NTA
He's not your friend, and you don't owe anyone your time and friendship just because they want it. Same as you don't owe anyone a romantic relationship just because they want it.
There's nothing to work on, as it's not a friendship. ###### |
So this just happened. Some background, I'm at my parent's house with my two younger brothers.
I (19 F) walked inside and went into the games room. My younger brother (8), we'll call Sam, is on his iPad watching something. I go to sneak up on him to scare him but he notices me first than tries to hide the screen from... | NTA
He's 8 and who knows what kind of creepy things he could be getting into.
If he was hiding something stupid but harmless, he only has himself to blame for being so secretive. That's what raised the red flag. Probably you would have been more lenient with him than your mom if it was something iffy but not too te... |
Hello! Basically my bf (23m) and I (21f) are having a disagreement about the word c\*nt. He’s been using it more and more lately, to which I have asked him to stop using it so much.
Tonight, we were watching a TV show where he called the character a c\*nt. I asked him to stop using the word so much, and he said “ill ... | Nta
He sounds charming. Why are you with him? ###### |
Got some degree of background, I (30F) was pregnant and miscarried. I now have to have the left over tissue removed from my body. I was only 9 weeks at the time, but I’m obviously hormonal and I’m sad.
My husband (31M) was never excited about the pregnancy. To be honest, it was unexpected. We have no other children an... | NTA
He should obviously be there with you, ESPECIALLY if you asked him to and didn’t just imply it and try and get him to figure it out. Friends can wait, marriages (hopefully) are for life ###### |
My boyfriend just let me know that his sister and her daughter have their flight booked to come stay with us...
I am upset because he didn’t feel the need to ask me first if it was okay that they stay with us. And now, he’s mad at me and says “I take the joy out of fun things like this.”
INFO: We live in a tiny one ... | NTA
He needed to ask before inviting a guest to your shared space.
Also, you should not give up your bed. His sister and the 2 year-old can sleep on an inflatable mattress. ###### |
Note: I do not know the people that live here. We speak different languages. I have had zero communication with them over 2-years. These people mean nothing to me. I am simply staying here while I apply for actual apartments.
The door to this building automatically locks when you leave UNLESS you stick a rug in the do... | NTA
He knows that what he is doing is rude but doesn't care because you're here to open and he wants a smoke. It's justified, and after a couple of times, he'll learn to bring his keys, which is a fairly easy skills to pick up. The alternative is him banging on your wall at ungodly hours until you move out, which I d... |
Last fall I bought a horse from my uncle for $200. I also purchased hay my uncle was selling for $50 per large round bale (I bought 7 for the horse).
This July I decided to sell the horse because they had lied about it's training and I could not even put a saddle on w/o it flipping out.
The bill of sale states that t... | NTA
He has right of first refusal and has refused to buy it at your stated price. Do you really want that horse to go back to being malnourished?
It looks like the horse would be better off with someone who thinks it's worth $500 (or a little less if you want to bargain).
Stand your ground. ###### |
So I’ll keep this brief.
My mom and dad have been together for 23 years and have been quite successful.
They had me (20M), 3 years into their marriage.
My mom got diagnosed with cancer and it’s been horrible. Well apparently my dad didn’t find it that bad because it turns out he was cheating with one of their tena... | NTA
He dug his own hole and he needs to live in it now. He cheated on your mother. While I think it is awful that your dad's GF miscarried, that shouldn't concern you in the slightest.
In all, your father's current position is all due to his decisions. He pushed you guys away, and letting him back into your life and... |
My roommate is convinced my asthma is fake. I have an inhaler for it and take medication for a bunch of other illnesses. I have a nice job so when they lost their job because of the coronavirus I started paying all the bills.
Last week I finished my work (im working from home) and when I went to take my medication it ... | NTA
He doesn't care about your health so why would you care about his living conditions?
Go and enjoy your life! ###### |
My mom died when I was 13 years old and
My dad remarried when I was 15
His new wife and stepsons. Was the boss
Anything and everything he will do it
I no longer was his son, or problems
They made fun of me , was always giving everything by my own father. He takes them out to any restaurant and buy them anything
I wa... | NTA
He can’t decide you are his son when it is convenient for him. He’s only talking to you because he needs your money. He wasn’t there when you needed his love ###### |
My (F23) and my boyfriend (M24) have been dating for four years and we currently live together. We usually have a great relationship but recently we've been at each other's throats over this. I can't tell if this is a real problem or if it's just because we're cooped up.
The problem is that I eat a lot of foods my boy... | NTA
He can absolutely sod categorically off if he thinks he can stop any sane human from eating MELTED CHEESE? What is his actual problem there? ###### |
Last week my in-laws and a few other family members decided to hold an intervention for my husband without my knowledge. They invited themselves over for tea and as soon as they were alone with my husband they started the intervention.
Except this intervention was for his "gaming addiction". They essentially made a m... | NTA
Good for your daughter that her mom is sensitive enough and cares about her feelings. ###### |
I have a coworker, let’s call him John (28m), who has very “old fashioned” ideas about gender roles.
Today I overheard him going on and on to another coworker, let’s call her Sylvia (22f), about how her boyfriend isn’t a “real man” because he wasn’t a great conversationalist. Sylvia tries to explain that her boyfrien... | NTA
Going to HR now is probably doing him a favor. There's nothing overtly sexual there so this should probably just warrant a little wake up call from HR and not have any serious impact on his career. Hopefully this will help him learn the social norms for whatever country you're in.
If you wait until there's som... |
My 3 best friends and I were on our way to the beach earlier today, when my friend who was driving (K) was pulled over for speeding. She has never been pulled over before so she was freaking out a bit thinking the ticket was going to be like $400 and immediately told us we would be splitting this ticket four ways. My f... | NTA
Going the speed limit is the responsibility of the driver. If they choose to speed then they have to accept the possible consequences. Only way I could see you being an AH is if you all urged the driver to speed and agreed to pool in if they get a ticket. ###### |
So I (19f) have been at my moms home for going on 3 months now. She(43f) has 2 younger children J(6m) and K(5f) who im here with 24/7. Her bf works in the oilfield gone 2 weeks and in 2 weeks. Before he left out, him and my mom told the children if they feel I'm being unfair to them that they need to immediately come s... | NTA
Go home. It sounds like you’re here doing them a favor. The kids won’t listen. The adults don’t stand up for you or appreciate it. Don’t put up with this. Leave. ###### |
My father went to prison two years ago for a crime I don't feel comfortable saying, but it really disturbed me. It completely ruined my trust in him, considering how close we were beforehand. It also really tore apart my family, leaving us with half of our usual income, rumours in our small town etc. It really wasn't e... | NTA
Given we don’t know the nature of his crime I cannot possible call you Y T A so I’ll stick with my initial thought that you should only have contact with him when you’re ready.
That being said, I hope you go see a counselor or therapist so you can explore if you will ever want to have a relationship with him and... |
I'll try and keep it as brief as I can. I own my house, and have a tandem driveway with a rental house. The owner is an older lady who inherited the house when her mom died (she's about 75 and lives downtown). For the past 10 years, a new tenant moves in, I become friends with them, and then they leave because the land... | NTA
Given everything you've said about how she is scamming tenants I kinda think you'd be the asshole if you didn't report her. ###### |
Throwaway account.
For my grandmother's birthday I made her a triple layer chocolate cake. I spent all day looking for every ingredient so I could make it special and from scratch, because of how many layers it had it took me a few hours to make. When the cake was done I was proud of my work (I'm not the best cook) an... | NTA
Get back at them with "why would you wish that upon my grandmother? I'm clearly such an awful chef that she deserves a better cake than mine. It's really cruel of you to want her to suffer through such a horrible present yet again" ###### |
Background: me (f22) and my fiancé (m23) are getting married in a couple of days and we had a move in scheduled for tomorrow, we already had a moving van scheduled and our bed and sofa delivery timed to come before our wedding so we can sort out the house out and move in on our wedding day.
I received a suspicious ema... | NTA
Get a lawyer (3rd party can keep calm) and sue the crap out them!
No further contact except through your lawyer. ###### |
This story happened a few months ago but it still bugs me to this day, I need opinions. So I (22M) was taking the subway back home after a long day at work. Its a long ride I get on at the start of the line and off at the end. I found a seat thankfully and decided to get some sleep. About a third of the way in I was aw... | NTA
Generally, if a pregnant or disabled person needs a seat, you give them a seat. But her friend took the free seat and expected you to wake up and stand?? Ffs. SHE should've let her pregnant friend sit instead of harassing a stranger on the bus.
Asking if the friend was pregnant is probably not the most tactful t... |
My older sister has just moved back after living away for years, so we are finally all living close together. At a dinner with my mother and younger sister tonight, I mentioned we wanted to do a 'sister dinner' for some bonding time. It's not really something we've ever had a chance to do in the past.
My mother w... | NTA
Geeze, your mother needs to take a chill pill!
I assume there are / were times when she went out with your father and didn't include you two? Talk about 'entitled'... ###### |
I've known for a while now that my brother is in prison for something serious and my mother and family friend, who know the whole situation, haven't told me what for because he doesn't want people to know.
I've had no reason to care about his screw ups until recently, when I joined the navy with a job that requires a... | NTA
For the most part conviction details are matters of public record unless they've been expunged. If everyone knew but you, seems messed up wouldn't tell you and you had to go search for yourself.
Why would he did affect your career? I don't understand that part. ###### |
Background info:
I have a full-time job, but I also do crochet work on the side for extra money. I take requests and ask for money up front so in case they back out or I can't get in contact with them, I didn't just waste time and material.
Back in December, my best friend asked me to make him a Sasuke doll from Narut... | NTA
For that particular transaction, his role wasn't your friend, but your client. You were a professional offering a service that was requested and should have been paid for. You're right that it's irrelevant that he didn't give the gift to its intended recipient; that part should be completely divorced from you bei... |
I’m only 22, but my dad has mentioned numerous times that he expects me to not put him in a nursing home, and he always includes ‘wiping his ass’ as something we better be ready to do.
Personally, fuck that. I’d literally pay someone to do that before I do it myself. Hopefully by that point I’ll have kids of my own an... | NTA
For me, the biggest difference here is your parents made a decision to have a child, the child is not involved in that decision at all, in any capacity. Your Father was doing what society expect of him as a parent. ###### |
First-time poster, long-time lurker.
For some context, I have a Dog and Two Cats, all of whom I love, and about a year ago, I started dating this woman who knew about my pets and how devoted I am to them beforehand. When this all started, we decided to isolate together, since we both work from home. This happened abou... | NTA
Firstly, THANK YOU OP for not abandoning your pets. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate you for that. Your cats and dogs love you and look up to you and they don't need a negative person like your ex.
Honestly, what did she expect?? I understand that everything might have been getting to her but asking you t... |
So I was in a chat group with a bunch of my high school friends and some other people. We were just talking about old times and things like that.
One of them brought up how his sister who is going to the same school as us probably won’t get to have a real graduation this year.
I said that sucked.
This one girl Tali... | NTA
First, HER fault for waiting until the last second to try to pay a fee that had most likely been there for awhile that she probably just forgot about.
Second, you weren’t even close friends. Third, $60 can be a lot of money. Fourth, if all your friends go to the same school why didn’t she ask them as well? You c... |
I’ve been asking my boyfriend for over a week to please, please check out my car. He knows what he’s doing, has worked on every truck he’s ever had, and I’m a clueless idiot who is very likely about to not have a job for a while due to everything going on, so I can’t afford to take it someone even if I did find somewhe... | NTA
First off, assuming there isn’t some strange and sordid history, it is generally fine to be friendly with an ex. If your current bf can’t deal with it then he has a stupid jealousy issue.
Also, he has zero reason to not look at your car and is being a douche to not do so.
You did nothing wrong, your bf is a d... |
So my dad a weird habit of watching pervy videos from YouTube on his phone in front of us, especially while we're eating. They're usually compilations of girls in their underwear twerking or shaking their boobs. So I find this kind of innapropriate especially during family dinner and today I asked him to watch it priva... | NTA
First of all, you dad is super weird for watching videos of girls twerking at the dinner table
Second of all, he literally asked for it (you watching "literal porn" at the table) ###### |
I'm 15 male and my sister(21F) and I(15M) decided to die my hair bleach blond today. My siblings hairs are blond because they are blood related to my parents and my dad has diry blond hair and my mom has just straight up blond hair but I'm Korean they adopted me from Korea when I was 5. I have recently been feeling a d... | NTA
Explain to your mother what the underlying motive was behind dying your blond if you haven't already done so. Hopefully, she'll calm down and be more empathetic to your situation. Also, you did not need her permission to color your hair - your sister is an adult and was onboard with the decision. In the end it's ... |
My sister unfortunately passed away suddenly recently and there will be a funeral soon. Unfortunately, though, because of the Rona situation, the EU commission decided to ban Americans and later most of hte world from entering the EU unless they have valid business or diplomatic reasons to be here. Mostly its some sort... | NTA
Everyone is broken and grieving and so they’re being unreasonable right now. You’re sad too.
Funerals are more for the living. Ask a sympathetic family member to help you with the streaming so you can see it. Perhaps ask a friend to turn up in your place to offer comfort to your parents.
I am so, so sorry ####... |
So, where I live, the one exam which determines if you can go to university will be taken in a few days. I collected every worksheet, every texts, judt everything over the last 3 years bc the teachers said this could all be important for this particular exam. I gave my friends permission to use everything I collected t... | NTA
Everyone had the same chance you did to collect the material. It’s not your fault you took this test more seriously than they did. Now that the day is coming up they’re worried about it.
You are not obligated to share with anyone you don’t want to. But have a discussion with your friends and make sure they aren... |
I (F26) live in the UK, and had a baby 3 weeks before lockdown. The first week I spent with my baby in hospital and he needed NICU, the second week I spent with my husband having family come and visit. Week 3 was just a tired breastfeeding haze with a few visitors. Then we went into lockdown. Since then it's just been ... | NTA
Especially since you offered alternatives. You can meet your friends for a walk while keeping your distance and staying outside.
Plus: even if you were a little unreasonable (which I feel, you aren't) first time mums get a free pass on this one. You want to protect your little one, which you just carried around ... |
Fiancée has had an eating disorder for a looooong time (more than half her life) but recovered and has been doing amazing for about a year now. This is the longest she has ever been okay for.
Recently she’s been falling into old behaviours and started eating less. A lot less. She’ll fill her bowl 3/4 of the way and l... | NTA
Eating disorders are notorious for relapses and so so hard to treat.
BMI of 16 is VERY LOW. (We admit patient to mandatory hospital stay in critical care with a BMI of 15.) You need to get help for her ASAP. Do not wait until she gets to that weight. You know that she is on the downwards spiral right now. I'm s... |
I've spent all day making a brisket on the stovetop and in the oven. Started cooking around 11:30am. Great cut of meat, fresh vegetables, herbs etc...
At 4pm my MIL showed up today with some burgers and hotdogs they had grilled at their house. My wife won't say no to her mom's cooking (she thinks she'll offend her ... | NTA
Eat the dinner you made and let your wife do what she wants.
But I have to tell you, if I spent the whole day cooking and my partner turned it down to spare her parent’s feelings and sacrificed mine? I wouldn’t cook for them again for a while. ###### |
I am a college student due to graduate in 2021. My parents are funding all expenses, and I'd graduate with no student loans.
Last year, brother came out as gay, and was disowned and cut off from all financial support. I've privately told him that I'm 100% supportive, and have been sneaking him money by scrimping on lu... | NTA
DONT fight HIS battles and cut your own throat. Let him go. You’ve been finding him at your own expense and that’s not enough?
Focus on your life and your future and your relationship with your parents.
He threatens to cut you loose? Let him. Be prepared for him to let your parents know youve been helping h... |
I was talking to my mom when the topic of kids came up. I am 27 years old Male and she started asking me when I was going to get married. I told her I broke up with my gf and I dont want a relationship for the time being. As a matter of fact I never want kids ever. When I told her this, she accused me of being insensit... | NTA
Don’t have kids if you don’t want them and aren’t prepared for the responsibility they require and deserve. ###### |
Yeah, I'm serious. Over the course of the last few months(ever since covid) I've been at home mainly, I decided that I wanted to make the best of the situation and try to improve my Heath, I had always been a bit concious of my body image. By doing some workouts and eating healthier, and drinking a lot of water, I have... | NTA
Don't think it would be physically possible to drink enough water to alter the bill.
Compromise - keep drinking as much water as you are now, but don't flush the toilet after use. See if he prefers that :) ###### |
New account for privacy.
I (39F) have been with my boyfriend (40M) for a little over two years. Recently, I have come into a significant amount of money that would allow me to quit my day job and pursue my dream career, or if saved and invested carefully, retire fully. I haven’t disclosed this information to my boyfr... | NTA
Don't share this information. Money changes everything. I don't think that 2 years is long enough to establish the kind of trust required to lay this economic windfall on him...or anyone else.
Keep this between you and your lawyer and/or your financial advisor (and never give either any power of attorney!) Y... |
Not necessarily a relationship post but involves an ex. I’m wondering how I handled the situation.
My ex (23m) and I (26f) broke up a month ago for reference. That’s not what I’m asking about. We agreed to be friends.
I invited my ex to my birthday party. The party wasn’t huge, because of coronavirus restrictions, so... | NTA
Don't invite an ex to a birthday party as a friend unless you've spent at least one birthday without them. ###### |
So I took over care of a dog because the owners thought she was too hyper and didn't want her because they didn't know how to train her to not be hyper so my friend suggested me because I am a dog lover and am good at training, they gave me the dog like the dog is mine completely the are never getting her back especia... | NTA
Dogs don't have names for themselves, they have names for us, and if Honey works better than Peanut, then that's her name.
Both are super cute dog names, though. ###### |
Ever since I was a kid, I have watched TV shows and movies with subtitles on. I don’t have any problems with my hearing at all, but without them I have a really hard time processing the dialogue. It’s really hard to explain. It’s just that when the dialogue is separated out from the rest of the noise and everything in ... | NTA
doesn’t it *suck* when everyone can understand what’s going on?
Anyway I’m deaf. I quite clearly remember when I was at a friends house watching a movie...friend knew I needed the subtitles and had grown to like them too. He ends up having to defend the use of subtitles because someone’s girlfriend was annoyed ... |
For context, I am F24 and just bought my very own condo. I took out a loan that I will have to pay back over the next couple of years, but I looked at, bought, etc. the condo myself. My Mother (F53) had nothing to do with it.
Now, my mom has always been entitled. When I first moved out, she gaslit me into giving her ... | NTA
Do not under any circumstances give her keys.
If there are any codes of any sort needed to get into your community, do not give them to her.
Add an alarm system to your condo, if it doesn’t already have one.
This is NOT her apartment.
I’d be tempted to call someone - lawyer? Police? idk - to ask if there ... |
My(F22) grandma used to make gorgeous patchwork blankets, and anyone who has made one will know how much time and skill goes into them. As a going away present for university (4years ago) my grandma made and gifted me a massive double sized one, and I love it! Unfortunately arthritis runs in my family and making somet... | NTA
DO NOT CUT UP THAT PRECIOUS BLANKET ###### |
This happened a while ago but I’m still hearing about it in the family group chat.
Couple months ago my sister in law found out she was pregnant and her views on pregnancy and motherhood (as well as other things) are really strange, at least to me. For instance, the shape of a belly (mild) and how boys and girls shou... | NTA
Do not apologise to her, you told her the truth.
Considering how she likes to vocalise her truths about everyone else, it's only right she hears a few about herself. ###### |
My (16f) sister (22f) keeps taking my clothes and wearing them in front of my friends. This wouldn’t bother me if they weren’t BRAND NEW outfits. That makes it so that when I go to wear the clothes everyone thinks I’m wearing HER clothes. I ended up going to my parents for help because no matter how I react she will no... | NTA
did your parents help? usually in posts like this the parents tell you to share with siblings and family first and all that bs
but also stop taking favors from her. she thinks you owe her and is taking matters into her own hands to collect her favor debt. ###### |
I (18F) sometimes like to lounge around in my house with no bra on if I know I won't be going out anywhere for the day. I actually don't mind wearing bras because I'm small enough to where it doesn't really matter either way, but sometimes I just don't feel like putting one on.
My living room faces the street and has ... | NTA
Did you warn her that being a peeping tom is illegal? ###### |
One of my closest male friends is pansexual and his parents are not supportive of that, nor would they be supportive of their male-child wearing makeup. He has expressed to me that he wants to paint his nails and wear eyeliner. I am more than willing to buy/teach him how to use eyeliner, but I feel like it would be bit... | NTA
Depending on how “not supportive” his parents are however, please keep in mind the repercussions that could arise (for him) if his parents find out. If they are the type of trash that would throw their son out if they find out he’s wearing eyeliner and nail polish, please please help him to find ways to safely e... |
I posted that I have a 10g fishtank set up for sale. I’m moving and can’t bring it with.
Someone contacted me asking if it was still available. I say yes. They say great, they want to use it for a ten year old red slider turtle. I let them know that this tank is way too small for a turtle (the tank is too small for a... | NTA
Definitely not. They’re the major asshole for trying to put a turtle in such a small tanks. Good for you for sticking up for something with no voice! ###### |
I (22M) fought multiple times with my highschool friend (23F) because of her disapproval of ‘the homosexual lifestyle.’ I want this time to be the last, because after years of explaining, she still doesn't seem to want to understand. (We are from and live in North Africa.) She often tells me about the guys she likes, b... | NTA
Culture aside, that she can somehow bifurcate "Your homosexuality" from you is...weird. You are who you are, and coincidentally you are gay. They are one in the same. That she apparently approves of you and your friendship with her yet disapproves of an essential part of your being is..weird. And , would reas... |
I (33/f) was recently dating a guy (29/m) and spending a lot of time at his house. He lives with his brother (33/m) and his brother's girlfriend, K, (28/f) was there quite often. She and I had quite a bit in common; the biggest thing being we are both in long term recovery from substance abuse ( I go to NA and she goe... | NTA
Could it get awkward? Sure. But nothing that would make you an A.
For the time being, don't do anything with her and the brother. Also, don't take it personally if she doesn't agree. Respect her boundaries. ###### |
My wife's uncle is Islamophobic. I'm Muslim and my wife is Hindu. Her uncle has always been very friendly to be but also talked about Muslims are ruining the country and should go back. It is wierd but he doesn't see me as Muslim for some reason. I am one of the good ones, but every other friend isn't.
Recently he pos... | NTA
Could ALMOST be an r/murderedbywords ###### |
I attend a university where community building & bonding is extremely important. Everyone is family in a sense and we just love to have fun and help each other out. We have a ton of orgs on campus, and each org has a GroupMe account, so does most classes as students use them to share answers, asks questions and jus... | NTA
Coming from an Atheist, I do not see the problem with wishing people a happy easter as presumably a large amount of people in your country observe that holiday, whether that be for religious or non-religious reasons. She is in the minority in this case, but no one is attacking her or preventing her from practicin... |
I'm (27M) a dad to an amazing 3 year old boy, unluckily he is the result of a ONS with a girl (25F) Julie. For the first 7 months I never even knew he existed. One day I got a message on FB from Julie telling me I had a son, I think I passed out there and then on the spot.
I was living with my parents at the time and... | NTA
Child support is your son's right. Not yours.
It is time for Julie to do the bear minimum, which is to help pay for her child's upbringing. ###### |
Sup peeps, hope all of you are doing amazing,
Alright well, few years ago my parents were abusive asf. During high school we had this “ag science “ type of science and one of the requirements of the class was raising some type of farm animal. One of said options was a bunny so I’m like “hey bunnies are cute asf” so I ... | NTA
Can't have one set of rules at their house and expect everyone else to carry them over. Maybe you were a tad harsh with the language, but sometimes that's the only way to get through people's thick heads. ###### |
Aita for telling people about a "closed" meeting with management? I work for a national discount retail chain that we will call amilyfa ollarda. My mum, who lived in europe, passed away three weeks ago from coronavirus. Trying to give work advanced notice, I told my manager I would need 2 weeks off to go to europe... | NTA
Call your boss’s supervisor; the regional manager. Tell the situation. Record the call.
If that person is similarly unreasonable, tell your local community press; give them call recording. ###### |
Background:So I live in a trailer because of family complications and we have 2 two dogs (Chihuahuas)
My dad was working on the plumbing in the back of the trailer because it's an old model and the plumbing was old so we were replacing it.
We have a little fence in our front yard so the dogs can eat and drink out of ... | NTA
CALL THE COPS IMMEDIATELY, it's violence on animals, and FFS, get a restraining order... my gosh the nerve of some people... ###### |
I, f13, have a 29 year old step mom after my dad cheated on my bio mom and impregnated her. He cheated because of selfish and personal reasons involving me. They now have 5 kids together, Alyviya, who's 9, Madden and Maverick, 7, Alaiya, 5, and Maxx, 4. My mom also has remarried, but I get along with my step dad and hi... | NTA
Call and make a report to CPS. This is neglect.
Also, call your Mom and have her come get you. Immediately. ###### |
So my youngest SIL and BIL, husband's brother, moved into my MIL's house after my FIL died. We thought it was a good idea at first.
She'd have help around the house and yard.
Except that's not what happened.
My MIL cooks for them, washes their clothes and dishes. My husband goes over to mow the yard and do yard work.... | NTA
By the way, came over here from your other post about the wedding dress, and I gotta say, this just made me hate SIL more.
She’s got three kids and acts this way?? Lord help those kids. Bless that MIL for putting up with this, but she really doesn’t have to, and she shouldn’t just allow this to happen. I know i... |
A few years back, when I was 17, my husband was 22 and our friend was 24 (I'll call our friend Hannah and husband David, just to avoid confusion these are fake names, we obviously weren't married at this point and had only just started dating)
Hannah and David worked together as cashiers, they grew close and I consid... | NTA
But, this marriage needs to end soon for two reasons. First so you can find someone who supports and loves you. Second , so he can be with Hannah and she can put up with his bullshit. ###### |
**(I doubt it matters, but this isn't a personal situation. This is my friend's and she asked me to create this since she doesn't have a Reddit and has no interest in one.)**
My son and DIL announced their pregnancy on Mother's Day when she was only a few weeks along. Last week, they went to an appointment only to dis... | Nta
But your daughter is for judging how someone grieves. ###### |
Right now, I am the only one who works, albeit from home, but I workover 40 hours a week. My husband is laid off, and we have a 3.5 year old.
BACK STORY: Prior to all of this 3 months ago, my husband was a couch sleeper. He is the type that just falls asleep easy. So 6 days out of 7 I would be the one getting up with ... | NTA
But you already know that. "He didnt like that, and thought it is only fair to split nights. Funny he thought it was fair before he was laid, that I got up with her every night."
Tell him it's his turn to pull his weight parenting. And tell him it's not okay for him to keep you up because he wants to play video... |
I (17m) am the oldest son in my family. I have 4 younger siblings (14f, 8f, 5m and 2f). My mom expects me to watch my siblings when she isn't home. Needless to say, I'm tired of it. I never get to go to parties. Neither do I get to hang out with my friends. In fact, I hardly ever have time for myself. Last time I went ... | NTA
BUT what the fuck is her plan for when you move out? ###### |
I (18F) sometimes like to lounge around in my house with no bra on if I know I won't be going out anywhere for the day. I actually don't mind wearing bras because I'm small enough to where it doesn't really matter either way, but sometimes I just don't feel like putting one on.
My living room faces the street and has ... | NTA
But this woman is creepy.
Unless you're conveniently leaving out that you were topless as well as braless. ###### |
My(F25) boyfriend (M33) and I have been together for about two months. Prior to that though, we had been together for 3 years, broke up, and got back together after a year.
We live across the county from our family. Last year, him and I actually moved here together. After a month of living together we broke up, he ... | NTA
but this is probably going to end the relationship. ###### |
I (36M) have a 17 year old son, “Trent.” He’s a really kind and bright kid, but he’s been making some bad choices this year. Last fall, he got ISS for smoking a blunt with his friend in the schools’ maintenance shed. They apparently broke in, damaging the door.
Now, my son has a used Sentra that I bought for him. He ... | NTA
But the idea of inpatient treatment for weed is hilarious. ###### |
I (F) and my Bf (M) have been dating for a year and a half and he’s had this female bestfriend for a few years now, her and I have hung out and we’ve been to each other’s houses before, I trusted her with my issues and as did she.
On April 10th 2020 she sent my boyfriend a long letter confessing her love for him that... | NTA
But sweet girl, you're being played. You can fight this, all you want, and I totally get being in love and wanting to fight for the relationship. However, this is going to happen, no matter what you do.
He got a love letter from someone else, and as a result he decided to get *closer* to that person. The writin... |
Recently I've been having trouble sleeping. I only get around 3-4 hours of sleep a night. I think it's because of stress from work, Corona, and a ton of other stuff going on right now. My wife on the other hand is sleeping 10 hours a day.
Because of this I'm up when she's sleeping and she is constantly telling me I'm ... | NTA
But she is either being an asshole here or she is having auditory hallucinations. You should talk to her and if she honestly was hearing stuff while you weren't even around it may be time to go see a doctor. ###### |
My daughter and I are on the same medication, same dosage. We take it at the same time every day (early afternoon) because of side effects. She is too young to carry it with her or remember to take it herself, so I carry it.
I don't particularly enjoy carrying a purse, so on days when I know we will be out when it's t... | NTa
BUT on a side note, I would make sure you always take her bottle. Not because of mixing stuff up but because if there is any kind of emergency and your husband has to take medication with her to the hospital then having your bottle would be a big problem. ###### |
Okay I know this sounds really gross, but she says its 100% normal for programmers, and gamers to have.
She has these large tea bottles, that she presses against her urethra, and pees into instead of going to the bathroom.
She leaves these on desks, and I think its disgusting, I told her to stop it but she just wont ... | NTA
But more importantly OP, this sounds like a mental disorder. This behavior is beyond extreme. ###### |
My wife and I have never really gotten along with our neighbors on one side of us.
My wife says the origin story is that when they came to our housewarming, I was cold to them and didn’t chat enough (in my defense I was with like ten people playing a board game).
Anyway, there is no fence between our yards and thei... | NTA
but if you don’t have a fence, what’s stopping them from playing in it when you’re not looking? these neighbours seem like the type to just wait until you’re not home and let their kids do whatever they want ###### |
My younger sister has been assigned loads of school work, one of the subjects being art. They have her do drawings then colour them in. Now she doesn’t have any of her own markers, so she uses mine that I got for christmas. I wouldn’t mind if they were cheap Crayola Markers, but these ones are expensive, especially the... | NTA
But can't you/your parents get her some cheap ones? Then she won't need yours. ###### |
My 16 year old son got a tattoo without telling me. I saw it accidentally few days ago. He told me he got it an year ago.
I was pretty mad. Not because of the tattoo itself necessarily. It’s a small one that says “I met him by chance”. He told me that it was lyrics of the song he likes. I’m mad that he didn’t ask me ... | NTA
But be mad because he got a tattoo done under age and that any place he could have gone to is not a reputable tattoo place. If he's not getting his tattoos done by reputable people who will do a good and safe job then he's not old enough or mature enough to get tattoos. ###### |
She decided to put away a bottle of edibles in the pantry, then they somehow were moved to the dinner table. It's a pastel pink colored bottle. The kids could easily mistake them for candy. I have pre teens and 2 younger kids.
My one year old was able to open the bottle with ease. Thankfully none of the kids consum... | NTA
But also please note that "flipping out" on your spouse in front of your children being potentially traumatizing (or at least just scary and not good) and your spouse making a scary choice that needed to be bluntly addressed can both be true at the same time.
Still NTA vote instead of everyone shitty because I ... |
I'm 21 and he is 26; however, I am much further into my professional career than he is. He wanted to move it of our mothers house at the beginning of this year so I let him move in with me. The deal was he's give me 150 every check to help with rent and food and I'd cover everything else. We also said that he should be... | NTA
Best way he can learn to be smart with money is to actually need to be smart with it. ###### |
I am an atheist and my last roommate was a devout muslim. She used to be very regular with her prayers and practices and was a pleasant person to be around overall. I never interfered with her religious beliefs, and in fact, used to co-operate with her to assist her with it, eg I took down the poster of an actor near m... | NTA
Atheism is the belief in no God. Meaning that by trashing you for being an atheist, she is trashing your beliefs. At that point, it's fair game for you to trash her beliefs if you want. There was certainly a better way you could've said that to her, but she can't be mad when she's done the same thing to you. ####... |
This is so stupid I know, but here it goes. Background: I (27F) have wanted to get matching tattoos with my husband (33M) for years. We have been together for 9 years now. Not like each other’s names or anything crazy, but something that symbolizes our relationship. Every idea I’ve had he’s shot down, and he hasn’t put... | NTA
At this point, it's not about the physical tattoo itself. It's about the principle of leading someone on about an idea they're actually passionate about. It's even worse because you're his wife and you'd expect that he'd at least be able to communicate with you if he didn't want to do the tattoo idea with you.
... |
i am a f15 and they just asked me and hour before we were meant to go.
i don’t have plans but i just finished my second week back at school and i’m exhausted- i feel bad for not wanting to do it as “ i have nothing better to do” but that’s kinda the point..
they were not planning to pay me either.
i’m not even good ... | NTA
Asking that way is super shitty because it makes it very hard for you to say no. You are never obligated to babysit for someone you don't want to. And you s shouldn't do work for someone that's not going to pay you.
Just say no. No explanation given. No, I do not 2wnt to babysit your kids.
They're being cheap ... |
This is my first post on this sub, however, I'm kinda nervous about posting this, since I do know that some friends have reddit and may rat me out if they ever find this...
Anyway, today is the beginning of July, meaning that my birthday falls this month. I had everything planned out for my birthday party: dates, even... | NTA
As you said, it‘s your party and you decide who to invite. Also, you said that the two of you aren‘t close, plus the fact that he said he wants you to do stuff that embarasses you when drunk is a massive no go. ###### |
I'll try to keep this short. Me and my long-time girlfriend live together in Florida. My girlfriend is Irish and I am American. I normally fly an American flag in our lawn because I think it looks nice and ties the house together with a dash of 'murican patriotism. Sometimes I fly the Irish flag below the American flag... | NTA
As long as you aren’t flying something like a nazi flag I don’t see what it matters what’s on your flag pole in your yard on your property. ###### |
I'm (m35) close best friends/ soul mates with this guy (M39), and we live together. We've both been friends since i was 17 and he was 22. We meet in a book club when i was in high school.
We moved in because of not many houses being avalibale and i though it was awesome to move in with my best friend. We share a bed ... | NTA
Are you sure married should be in ""? Sounds like you got a pretty good relationship. ###### |
My friend was ranting to me about his tinder experience to me, how no one responds to his messages, how his he has been ghosted in the past, women on the app only swipe right on super hot guys, etc. He is generally a laid back person so I was taken aback. I said that he displaying some incel-esque tendencies and should... | NTA
App dating is a numbers game, and frankly he's picked the worse one, outside of Grindr for gender representation. It's something like for every 10 or 20 profiles that are men, there's one woman.
So yeah, women can be a lot more picky on tinder. If he wants better odds he should opt for a different one that's not... |
My SIL and I do not get along. Weeks prior to the wedding, I told her that she shouldn't do anything to mess up my day. My wedding has already been downsized and I'm not having it with her and her actions.
My wedding comes, I walk down the "aisle" and lo and behold, she is wearing the whitest dress I have ever seen. ... | NTA
Any woman wearing white to a wedding is automatically the asshole. It's a thing. It has been for ages.
She had time to get another dress if she needed to, so she CHOSE to wear this specifically.
(EDIT: Any woman except the bride/if it's been agreed on beforehand) ###### |
Title is pretty self explanatory.
He works with men 90% of the time, but sometimes their wives come out to the property, and then he has a social worker that visits 1-2x a week, as it is an inpatient facility he works at- and she comes to do work ups on some of the patients.
Anyway- several months ago I asked about t... | NTA
And this is very telling to me:
>several months ago I asked about the SW. His words were “she’s fat and not attractive at all. You have nothing to worry about.”
If the first thing out of his mouth is "you have nothing to worry about," then you should probably start worrying. It's like when you call your kid's ... |
My roommate got pregnant and asked me to move out so her bf could move in and they could turn my bedroom into a nursery for the baby.
That made sense to me and I had absolutely no problem moving out. My paychecks have been a little unstable anyway, so I had been using my savings to pay rent. So ending the lease early ... | NTA
and keep in mind, if you decided to stay for her, in 3 weeks she could turn around and tell you "hey we made up and I need you out of here so we can start our family". ###### |
Long story short, I recently won a considerable amount of money from a $20 scratch ticket. As I don’t want to give away my identity, I won’t say how much but its enough for my girlfriend and I to quit our jobs and pay down all our debts which includes a hefty mortgage.
Initially i wanted to keep this a secret since i ... | NTA
And a funfact I learned on Youtube: Being open on winning the lottery increases your chances to get murdered/mugged drastically. Have fun with this tidbit. ###### |
This incident happened some time ago.
We’re both in university. This semester she went on exchange to Australia. She left Canada Feb 2nd, but went to her hometown on Dec 22nd after final exams because she wanted to spend that time with her family until she left. For that reason we did our Christmas gift exchange early... | NTA
Am I understanding correctly that the reason she was upset is because she wanted the Beats that absolutely arrived on time (and you could have sent to her at her house) versus potentially NOT getting the pair you ordered from Amazon on time?
I can understand why she might be anxious about not having the headphon... |
I'm(19f) in college and due to some circumstances I got a decent amount of money. My sister(23f) is out of college and living on her own now. She is extremely bothered that I have money. But when she asked for a small amount I gave it to her without another thought even though she still owed me money from a different t... | NTA
Also, stop giving your sister any money, even if it's loans. She's an adult and living on her own. She needs to butt out of your business and take care of herself. ###### |
So before the quarantine my grandma had declared that my mom (her only child) would get all the money and property and later could decide to split between me and my sister however she wanted. I’m fine with this. I don’t really care considering I figured inheritance should always go to the next in line.
Due to this q... | NTA
Also, if your mum knows that Grandma is vegetarian but doesn't buy it make any vegetarian food, she's actually not trying and I'd even argue that she's doing it on purpose and then plays victim that "she tries so hard and then it's worthless".
Have a good, hard look at your mother's behaviour. Including not fil... |
Six months ago my now boyfriend broke up with his ex and immediately started dating me. We moved in together and really started going hard in our relationship. Throughout these past six months he has been in contact with his ex. He says it’s to make sure she’s okay and not in a horrible mindset after their breakup. He... | NTA
Also your boyfriend is definitely not over her. ###### |
Hello. I bought my parents a house and specified that it was for both of them when I was giving it to them. I told them they could either live there together, or vacation there, or visit separately, I don’t care. But I promised them both half.
I just found out that my father lives there with his mistress and my mothe... | NTA
Absolutely and totally.
You have not bought the house as a love nest to your father and his mistress, you bought the house for your parents and your mother can't use it because of your asshole father. ###### |
so my whole family and my neighbours whole family are calling me rude and insensitive but i personally don't see it that way. a bit of background: currently everyone in my family works during the day so i am the only one home during the day as i work at night.
for the past week everyday my neighbours toddler aged chi... | NtA
A toddler walking to your home everyday and banging on your door and screaming while the mother knowingly does nothing to stop him tells me she's a very neglectful parent. You've talked with her about it and her response is that the kid gets riled up around midday and won't stop screaming until he comes to your h... |
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Here’s a backstory: My brother (16M) and I (18F) have a horrible relationship. We live in the same house with my parents, and we rarely speak to each other. I’ve never ever touched any of his belongings because frankly why would I want to. He has nothing that I want to do with. La... | NTA
A lot of people have such an issue with how “adult children should know their place” 🙄
Look, you’re not an asshole for asking, especially since you pay rent. They also wouldn’t be assholes for saying no, although you really should have gotten them to choose the lock so it could match the door (property value). ... |
So I was randomly added to a mom group on Facebook even though I'm not a mom. I saw a bunch of these moms posting that they wanted to gather their kids together for "playdates" and their intentions are similar to that of pox parties. The idea is to build immunity.
I made a post that it is cruel to intentionally expose... | NTA
A covid19 party for kids!
FFS what is any of them had undiagnosed medical issues and died as a result.
What if the kid carried the virus to someone who was immune compromised or had underlying medical issues.
You'd be risking their lives and the lives of others. ###### |
My spouse and I have a recurring argument that revolves around their desire to have our 5 year old sleep in our bed. If it were an emergency situation, my child wasn’t feeling well or there was a severe storm or something like that I am fine with them sleeping in our bed. Also, as a compromise I let our child sleep in ... | NTA
A child that age should sleep by themselves but perhaps your SO is using your child as a security blanket given the current situation. Perhaps it's a coping mechanism of knowing the child is close and safe ###### |
Me and my partner relocated temporarily for work due to COVID-19 to a regional town and continue to pay rent on our city house for us to return to which will be a week today.
My partners sister and boyfriend were offered the house to stay in for the duration of our absence under the terms they needed to be ready to le... | NTA
400$ for three months is NOTHING. Make those squatters find a new place. ###### |
So my sister is 25f I am 20f, I currently go to college and my sister is a house wife.
Recently my sister found out she could not have children. For the longest time she wanted kids so I obviously felt bad for her. Well about 2 weeks ago she came to me and asked if I could be her surrogate and that she would pay for a... | NTA
1) No doctor in their right mind would let you be a surrogate in your current situation
2) They can pay for someone else to be a surrogate if they really want it. ###### |
So a little backstory
My parents are split up but not fully divorced so they haven’t filled out all the paperwork. My dad (d) is a lawyer so he is quite well payed and and my mum (m) works in a nutrition company so she makes medium wage. Because of how boring life is right now I’m trying to save up to buy an xbox. My p... | NTA
1. Why the fuck you feel the need to shorten the words Mon and Dad?
2. Your mother was looking for an excuse and never meant to pay you. The lesson you should take from it is that some people (like your Mom) will steal from you and most people (like your Dad) are too chicken/selfish to do help. So always h... |
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