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This happened in March before bars got shut down. It was the night of my staff party. I (25f) had invited my cousin (18f) a month before and she said she will come. Day of she cancelled. So I went with my brother (23) instead. We arrived and were having a good time when she showed up. The event coordinator talked to me... | NTA
1. Cousin doesnt drink.
2. Cousin knew I was leaving.
3. She had money for a cab.
If she knew you were leaving, she was perfectly capable of coming along if she'd wanted to. She weren't intoxicated, stranded or otherwise helpless. She's not a child.
However, your cousin is the AH for
1. Canceling on the day ... |
So my bf (35)and I (31) have been together just over a year and live together. We have very different sleep schedules, I work early so I'm used to going to bed at 10pm latest. He likes to stay up and used to start work at 10am compared to my 8am start (I have to wake up at 6 to get there). Due to everything going on at... | NTA
>Thanks for purposely waking me up... now I'll only get three hours sleep today
I'm sure he'll manage to laze around fine on 3hrs of sleep. ###### |
So my girlfriend recently was hooked onto this stupid tiktok trend where the girl gets naked and goes up to their boyfriend while he is gaming to see what he would do.
Now she being hooked onto the trend wants me to do the same as some of the guys in the tiktoks where they immediately pause their game and jump onto t... | NTA
>stupid tiktok trend
couldnt have said it better myself ###### |
I am 45F and my Husband 50M has a 16-year-old son. He is a good kid, good grades, respectful, does his chores, etc. Last Summer my son said that he wanted a new computer. To his credit, he got a part-time job and saved up for it, and built a pretty nice gaming PC. We are really proud of him, as he saved for it nearly a... | NTA
>She then accused me of being a 'spineless parent'.
No, a spineless parent would have forced their child to bend to your entitled sister's will - and then had to deal with the consequences of her entitled child fucking up your son's gaming PC.
I wish my parents had had my back in situations like these. Yes, s... |
I have two daughters 9F and 7F.
My youngest has always been my family’s favourite, especially her fathers favourite because she’s more outgoing and confident, she loves climbing and football.
My eldest is more cautious and anxious, she isn’t as confident as her sister but that’s okay and I’m always telling her people... | NTA
>My ex texted me calling me an asshole for embarrassing his girlfriend and didn’t pick the kids up this weekend.
That says a lot about him, that he thinks the proper response is to abdicate his responsibilities as a parent for the weekend. ###### |
I am into gaming and most of my friends are online and on discord. I met some of my now close friends when I was 15 and they were 10(M),12(M),13(M) respectively. Over the years we have grown closer and the 10-12 year olds are brothers and look up to me as a sisterly figure . but the problem is that I'm 18 Now and some ... | NTA
>look up to me as a sisterly figure
This seems fine, even if it's a little out of the ordinary (I wouldn't call it weird). Just don't date any of them and you're good to go haha
Edit: would be N A H if your friends backed off ###### |
So since I’ve been working from home I have meetings 2 days a week. But even during the days I don’t I still dress decently and wear a little makeup because it makes me feel good, and also my boyfriend compliments me a lot when I dress well, and say what you will but it’s nice.
But our roommate yesterday asked why I h... | NTA
>it’s oppressive
wtf?? It's not oppressive for you to dress however you want lmao... Like, who would that be oppressing? And it's not "fishing" for compliments to dress nice... Fishing for compliments is more like if you were to walk around all day going "oh I'm so ugly" so that people have to say "noooo you're ... |
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I live with my mom, my stepdad, and my two siblings. I don't know much about my actual father, but what I do know is that he passed away from a heart attack when I was 2, and he wasn't a great parent. My siblings and I still have his last name (let's say Miles), while my mom has... | NTA
>it brings us closer and there could be complications if I don't.
What complications is she expecting? It's not like she'll have problems picking you up from school once you're of legal age. And how does it bring you closer? Are emotions conditional on a name?
And what if you want to change your last name when ... |
Been hooking up on and off with a girl for a year. Nothing serious. Once in a while discussed our feelings on kids (just conversing) she wanted them someday, I never wanted them. All good. No feelings involved.
Was using protection initially and then she got on BC and started asking me to finish inside her. I said oka... | NTA
>if I want a DNA test then it means I think it’s not mine or I’m hoping it’s not mine, that it means I never wanted a baby
I mean... duh? Those are not the biting criticisms she thinks they are. ###### |
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So due to the pandemic, I am working a lot less. Just a dozen hours or so a week online. My fiancee kept most of her hours as her work switched completely to online.
Her work involves a lot of phone calls and meetings where she wants everything to be quiet. Completely reasonable. Becaus... | NTA
>I don't think I should be forced to sit and wait in case she wants to tell me something or ask me something.
Exactly this. Other people's conversations are boring, especially their work ones.
She shouldn't expect you to just wait around till she's ready. ###### |
So, my fiancee tore a bunch of pages out of my sketchbook when I let her use it when we played DnD. These were pages she didn't use, and many had drawings on them. I didn't notice she did this until I was given the sketchbook back, and then we had this conversation:
Me: hey, can you be sure to not take any pages out o... | NTA
>Her: you're being irrationally angry about this, you need to be told how to feel
This doesn't sound real though.. This sounds like a caricature of unhealthy age gap relationships.
Anyways if it's real then obviously NTA and she's seriously toxic. ###### |
I have recently banned my son from having his male friends over, and he is pretty upset with his mom and I. Probably sounds like a dick parent move but hear me out on why I did it.
I have a 14 year old daughter, and it’s been a hassle chasing the boys away. She’s a very beautiful girl (all thanks to her mom) and has ... | NTA
>Claims that he’s 18 and can do what he wants and is going to “move out” because he’s “tired of this shit”.
Well, I'd call his bluff. He can't rely on family for food/housing and then turn around and demand that his gross friends be allowed to harass and disturb said family. One or the other.
And good for you, ... |
So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for
about 5 1/2 months, and I quit martial arts
because I got bored around the time we started dating, but I want to get back into it after quarantine is over. Its been an ongoing issue with us for the last couple of months because its "dangerous" and I've gotten hurt a couple... | NTA
>...he went off about how he should leave since he's a "horrible boyfriend" and makes me not do the things I like
So in addition to letting whatever insecurity he has allow him to try and control how you spend your time, he also immediately plays the victim whenever he is called out, forcing *you* to apologize t... |
My husband and I have a 5 month old daughter. He is only just getting comfortable enough to change her wee diapers without me supervising/helping now, and when he was changing her last night he saw she had pooped and called me in to change her because 'I've done it before but this one is bad'. It wasn't bad, two wipes ... | NTA
> It upsets me that he doesn't do what I see as his fair share of parenting. Yeah, changing diapers is gross. No one WANTS to do it... He doesn't see her much with him working 5 days a week, but surely it's not too much to ask that I don't have to change every poop she does?
This right here. Just because he work... |
So this is my first time in this position and I have no idea if I’ve made a huge mistake and put my foot in my mouth right now.
My (23f) partner (21m) and I are looking at moving in together. My flat lease is coming up and we’re looking at somewhere a little bigger (I’m in a 2 bed but the 2nd bedroom is fairly small)... | NTA
> I suggested we look at splitting is as per salary sacrifice. So instead of 50/50 look at how much of a pay sacrifice it would take per percentage
I started reading this expecting you to be suggesting the exact opposite, and putting an unmanageable burden on him. What you're proposing is fair and considerate.
... |
I'm at the Outer Banks on vacation with my large extended family (mom's side, about 20 people) and I am using a prescription face medication that causes my face to be dry. If I go in the ocean, my face will get very painful and I will have a burning sensation for a few hours.
However, for the past few days, my family ... | NTA
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Regardless of your face and its problems, if you don't want to go in the ocean, you shouldn't be forced to go. I have many reasons for not wanting to go into the ocean. They are my reasons. You have your reason. They need to get over their own issues with you not going in and leave you alone.
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So background my parents split due to him having an affair when I was 8, now almost 28. We moved to east coast, dad stayed on west. My siblings and I never really had a relationship with him growing up, now we talk once every couple months. My brother had a baby last February and my dad and his wife came to visit in No... | NTA
Your dad cant just up and decide he's staying in your house with his family for 3 weeks. I wouldn't be cool with adding 3 people to my house normally, let alone while I'm pregnant. ###### |
First time post so be nice please! And obligatory on mobile. So my(16f) mother(44f) has never been ideal with finances or keeping living spaces. This has happened throughout all my childhood but the financial aspect was worsened when she married her husband 5 years ago(29m). He's a generally unsocialable unpleasant man... | NTA
You need to empty that account before you tell her you're not loaning her any more money though. If possible, open another account in just your name WITHOUT either parent on it. If that's not possible, consider storing it with a trusted family member.
It happens all the time where a parent steals a bunch of... |
I ordered some food from UberEats and receive a message stating that it should be delivered in no later than 30 minutes. Sounds good.
I leave a note stating that I would prefer to have the food left in front of my door. I live in an apartment complex, and not all couriers are familiar with the layout, so I include ins... | NTA
What's the point of ordering delivery if you have to go out and get in your car to pick it up anyway? ###### |
To give some backstory, I was adopted when I was 10 into a single parent household. I was raised primarily by my mom with the help of my grandpa who lives with us. I am now 21 and have always identified as being raised by a single mother. My mom has been dating her bf for close to 5 years now and I am very happy for he... | NTA
Not only is he not YOUR father, he is also not an actual father. Just because he dates a woman who has a son/daughter, doesn't automatically make him someone's father. ###### |
(Unrelated to my last post if you’re looking for another update you’re SOL)
So my vet said since I loved them so much I should give them a rate and review on google.
So I did..
And I was honest..
4/5 stars, great tech, doctor was nice blah blah, but the manager was a total dick on the phone and in person. This is ... | NTA
I am a believer in changing reviews like this to state that you were asked to update the review and lower the rating at the same time. ###### |
So I’m 17 (turning 18 in May) and my sister is 16. There’s been a thing in my family where they pass down a cute little ring to the oldest daughter in the family when they turn 18, so I’m about to get it from my mom soon. My little sister has taken a strong liking towards the ring (she has seen it a couple of times) an... | NTA
Everyone has a breaking point. From what you said this was going on for months. She was told multiple times that she wasn't getting the ring and she needed to accept that and drop it. A person can only repeat themselves so many times before it can be too much.
Could you have worded that better? Sure, if y... |
I’ve had my cat Morwen (bonus points if u know where her name is from) for about 6 years and have been dating my boyfriend for a year. Recently we’ve been talking about moving in together, since his lease is up in May and we’ve been together a while, but if we moved into my apartment he would be moving an hour away and... | NTA
Do not rehome your cat because your boyfriend tells you to.
If he's trying to control you by making you choose between him and the cat, it will only get worse.
He's manipulating you. ###### |
So, I have a five year old boy and my family has been pushing me to get pregnant again. Telling me it is time or else my son will grow up to be self centred and alone. That is the last thing on my mind. I have been unhappy in my marriage for years now and getting a divorce is more likely to be happening. No one in the ... | NTA
Being an only child doesn't automatically mean you're going to be self-centered. And he wont be alone because he has you. How you parent has a greater impact than whether or not you have siblings.
It's very responsible of you to not being another child into an unhappy household.
Also, it's no one's business ... |
Hi! A very close friend (called Anne) of mine has a beautiful cat, and that cat recently became the mom of 4 beautiful kittens. It was clear all along that Anne would keep 2 kittens, our other very close friend Isabelle would buy one kitten, and I would buy one as well.
The kittens seem to like us as well, which was v... | NTA
Also ..... just rename the kitten after you bring it home. It is not confusing to animals to be renamed. They don't understand the concept of names. They just associate a specific sound you make at them with certain behaviors just like when you teach animals new tricks. Just say the new name and give treats when... |
So last month I bought a condo in DC. As I was a nervous first time buyer, I went wayyy overboard in due diligence, reading every document through and through. I move in and I’m happy, but two of my window’s screw cranks for opening up are broken. Now the condo documents clearly state that windows and the main door are... | NTA
\> I go on the message board and see many previous posts of owners and sublettors who must’ve not been aware of the rules and payed out of pocket. I now wonder if I’d be an asshole for digging out the legalese after so many people just payed out of pocket,
Just play dumb and pretend you don't know other peopl... |
For the sake of the story I’ll call my friend Kate
So I’ve been friends with Kate ever since we were 11, we’re both 20 now and both women.
Kate came out as bisexual when we were 16 and obviously I was supportive of her.
It wasn’t until I was 18 that I started to question my own sexuality and decided that I was in... | NTA
"Trying to steal her sexuality." Lol, what? It's not like she owns bisexuality. She doesn't get to put a copyright on a sexuality.
If she's so sensitive and threatened by someone else coming out as bisexual, she has some problems. ###### |
My siblings and I all have different fathers. One is older than me by 4 years and the other is an infant. I am 20. My maternal grandmother whom I have never met according to the attorneys felt bad about the way my dad denied me b/c I was a product of an extramarital affair. My fiance who comes from a heap load of mo... | NTA
"This is what grandma decided and I am going to respect her wishes."
Going forward, don't let them get under your skin. No reason to respond back with obscenities or anger. ###### |
My fiancée ran her old car into the ground. Literally every part was failing in some way. In order to make it fully functional would cost nearly as much as a new car. However she can’t afford a new car, and it seems silly to buy another used car to run into the ground.
So I bought her a new car. It’s not like I bought... | NTA
"saying I should have talked to them first" The heck? Your money, your decision what to spend it on. You spend it on safe transport for your unborn.
Congrats on the pregnancy. ###### |
Hello all. I'm on mobile, so sorry for any formatting errors on my part.
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (28F) have been together for 3 years and we have a baby girl that will soon be turning 2 this summer. My girlfriend wants to get our baby baptized and I am fully on board with this.
I am an atheist now but I grew up Ca... | NTA
"My girlfriend said I'm being selfish and not thinking of our baby"
Uhmmm does she not realize the hypocrisy of this statement?
Who was the one that wanted to baptize their baby for their belief? (I'm not taking a dig at religion, if she wants to baptize that's cool, but she shouldn't make it seem like this is... |
So yesterday, after years of wanting to get one, I (22F) got a septum piercing. My boyfriend (21M) was okay with me getting it.
But when I got home he said it doesn't look good on me. I said that's fine, but I like it and I'm keeping it.
He acted distant most of the night after that so I asked him what's wrong. He s... | NTA
"he said that I don't respect him nor our relationship and if he was so important to me I would take it out etc."
You could turn that argument exactly around and say he would not ask you to take it out if he did those things. ###### |
Me and my wife split 11 years ago when our daughter was 5-6 months old, we split cause she cheated on me and went to marry the guy she cheated on me with. I remarried 3 years later and had my son (who is now 9). The way custody works is that I get her for 1 week a month, christmas, thanksgiving and easter while my wi... | NTA
"Fairness" is not the same as equality.
You sent a caring gift to your daughter, and your daughter should get it. She and her step sibling are old enough to understand that there is not that much equality in the world. The step sibling may get presents from her mother's side that your daughter doesn't get.
You... |
My wife and I had a private gym in our house with a bunch of different type of gym equipment.
Back in November a gym opened up a block from our house, so we each got gym memberships and decided to get rid of our personal gym equipment so we could use the room for something else.
I tried selling it all, but couldn’t ... | NTA
*She* dragged her ass. There are other exercises your nephew could be doing. Or, I don't know, his parents could buy the equipment for him.
The situation changed and you need what you previously offered, which she didn't act on in a timely manner.
This is on her. ###### |
So basically, there’s this restaurant in my home town that for some reason my family absolutely love. It’s kind of a Mediterranean grill type restaurant. I don’t live in my home town anymore but do visit to see my family, and we always end up eating there.
Me and my girlfriend are vegan. I normally try not to bring it... | NTA
*I've booked a restaurant with terrible vegan options for my vegan son.*
That's what your mum has done. ###### |
I was a single mom to twin girls for 10 years (widowed when they were 7). I worked lots of hours and we all did our part in the house. They always had age appropriate chores and as they got older, they learned to become self sufficient by doing their own laundry and put it away, cleaning their shared bathroom, etc.
Th... | NTA
**You have tried talking to your husband about the chore chart and he always puts off discussing it until "later".** You didn't plan on taking matters into your own hands but it happened organically when your step-daughter said she wanted to wear a shirt that wasn't laundered. Your stepdaughter is fine with doin... |
This has been on my mind for quite some time now, so I decided to get an outsiders opinion.
Some backstory:
I don’t know how to write this out without sounding arrogant so I’m just gonna be straightforward - my family is a bit wealthier than my best friends. I don’t mean anything drastically, we both live comfortable... | NTA
***MOST EMPHATICALLY NTA!!!***
>"So, when I was talking to my friend about it, she said “well, at least if he dies, you’ll get even more money”
Holy cow, she is a bitter, bitter, sad pathetic person. What a crap thing to say. She's eaten up with jealousy. She's toxic. Horrible. ###### |
Backstory: had acne for almost 10 years. Couldn’t do anything about it (treat it orally) since healthcare isn’t free where I live, and dermatology appointments are costly. We were also, very poor.
I had self esteem issues because of it, and my mum is the only person that I’ve shared this struggle with. She, out of ev... | NTA
'Learn to take a joke' is a thing jerks say. Jokes aren't jokes unless everyone's in on it, especially the person on the receiving end of it. ###### |
I [30F] was at a bar with friends back when that was still a thing and was approached by a past hookup who was clearly still interested. I told him that I wasn’t and he left us alone after that, but one of my friends (childhood friend of BF) was super offended that I hadn’t disclosed that I’d had a boyfriend when I tur... | NTA
No means no. You don't need a qualifier or a reason to go with it. ###### |
I feel so awkward I’m new to this office and quite younger (recent grad) than my boss and coworkers- they are mid 30s I’m 22. The boss said our team should bond and have a team lunch - so we all meet up there and it’s a place where you build your own bowl.
My boss is in the middle of us and tells the workers to just p... | NTA/NAH - she’ll most likely claim it back on expenses. The look you got was probably out of shock because you thanked her. ###### |
I’m gonna be the first person to say that this is beyond pathetic
I’ve recently moved in with my boyfriend and we got a puppy (great dane) who we named Ralph. We’ve wanted a dog forever and had picked a few names a while ago but I knew ultimately that I would want Ralph
My brother and his wife had asked us what we we... | NTA.You mentioned that you liked the name Ralph to them before you got the dog and they didn't say anything then. Not naming your real dog a name you like because a relative might someday name their at this point imaginary dog the same name is ridiculous. It's fine to have two dogs named Ralph. Your SIL needs to chill... |
I (19F) have two twin 3 year old sons that I gave birth to in highschool, two years before I met my fiancé. Their father (19M) is also heavily present in their life. For a little background, I am Sicilian and Greek, and their father is Korean. Safe to say, they look very not white.
My fiancé, however, l... | NTA.This is a hill to die on. She apologizes, and the first moment she treats your children differently she's gone. If your fiancé doesn't agree, DO NOT MARRY HIM. Or your twins will forever be less-than. ###### |
This happened about a year and a half ago, my birthday was coming up and while I haven't really celebrated it since I was like 7 or 8 my dad gives me money for something I want. My buddy got tickets to a primetime football game and I asked for a ticket to that game for my birthday. He agreed to get it for me but he sai... | NTA.I'm not a fan of gifts with strings attached. I'm guessing you're what, a teenager? Dad should remember how well it goes over when a parent tries to control a teen's social life. However, there are a couple of things to keep in mind. First off, maybe Dad and Stepmom saw a chance for a little Alone Time. Plus mayb... |
The other day we had to suddenly take my seven year old niece for the night because my nephew, who is four, managed to get a pretty nasty gash to his head when he fell off his bike. My sisters (26) husband was out of state dealing with something to do with his family so we, my parents and younger sister (18F) and I (21... | NTA.
Your niece is spoiled, and you shouldn't feel guilty about not enabling her when the rest of your family decides to raise her that way. ###### |
So my wife and I married in 2007. We had our first child in 2010 and our second child in 2013. Fast forward 5 years in July 2018 and we begun separation proceedings.
I left the house in Feb 2019 and we'd been working with couple therapists and then
a mediator for an amicable separation. We signed off on a separatio... | Nta.
Your kids are priority number 1. they don’t Wanna be there. The cops don’t want them to be there. You don’t want them to be there. She is a grown up and needs to get her life together. You’re in no way, shape or form an asshole for making sure your kids are safe. Also you’re not destroying her life. She’s doing t... |
This happened a while back but I’m bored so here goes-
I had mentioned to my neighbour across the street that I was going to buy a sofa bed for our office to use for overnight guests. She offered us a small one she had in her basement that she never used. It was old but in good shape but the mattress had to be replac... | NTA.
What’s with all these people feeling as if they’re entitled to goods they USED to own. You spent $200 on it and it’s perfectly reasonable to want at least some of the money back when you’re getting rid of it.
Your neighbour sounds super immature for blocking you on facebook for a couch they didn’t want anymore i... |
So I'm from a traditional Indian family in England, my parents compare me to \*everyone\*, from my sister to the neighbour's kid etc. My sister is 5 years older than me \[26F\] and has been working for 2 years after graduating from a fairly prestigious university but earns the usual 2 years into your career wage (£35k,... | NTA.
What the actual fuck kind of culture is that? ###### |
Hi all,
So I referred my girlfriend for my old job (I was more or less promoted for got a 10k raise) She got the job and is now also paid 10K more a year than she used to be paid. We live together as well.
I was given a referral bonus of 1K. She is insistent that I share it with her. I was not too fond of this idea... | NTA.
Unless you share all your income, which I doubt, but if you do, she should split her 10k as well if she's asking for you to share your 1k. ###### |
Okay so I'm 20 and I'm a bisexual woman. Recently, my niece came out to her parents and they were less than supportive. I'm not a confrontational person so to subtlety show my support for her I put "Bisexual" with a pride flag in my instagram bio because I knew my niece would see it. I don't usually tell anyone that I'... | NTA.
This is the ultimatum that he’s willing to drop. Over an Instagram bio? Is he literally 16 years old? All I’m saying is if you give in now to this absurd demand then he’s just going to get more and more demanding. ###### |
Even though I live in a wealthy neighbourhood, people seem to not want to bother putting up fences for their dogs or even if they do put their dogs in the front Yard without being leashed to anything.
Usually it’s not that big of a problem but, today it was.
As I was walking my dog, another dog ran out of it yard and... | NTA.
The owner is responsible ###### |
Our 16F daughter recently came out and to be honest I don’t care and think there is nothing wrong with it.However,my wife thinks it’s weird,and has been acting hateful to our daughter.The other day she told me she’s thinks it’s wrong and that men are for women.I told her it doesn’t matter and that I only care about my... | NTA.
Thank you for standing up for your daughter. She needs all the support she can get right now.
Your wife might benefit from visiting PFLAG and learning to be a more supportive and accepting parent. The suicide rates of LGBTQIA kids is terrifying. Rejecting your own child is unacceptable and dangerous and your wi... |
For context: my laptop was originally given to my mother but she had no interest in it so she gave it to me. I've had it for almost 8 or 9 years. My sister was gifted the laptop she has when she was a teenager and has had it for over a decade. She is also older by 9 years, so 26rn and i'm 17.
A month in quarantine, my... | NTA.
Sims is a big af game, it will slow your laptop down for sure especially since its already a bit old.
I have it on mine and it takes up a lot of space and if she buys more packs it will only take up even more space.
Its your laptop so your choice, she could just buy extra eternal space for her laptop. ###### |
I run a very successful online business, it started off as a simple hobby but slowly grew to the point that I quit my job to focus on this full-time. I know earn more per month than I was asking per year and I'm really enjoying working.
I've been with my GF for about 3 years now and she never showed interest in either... | NTA.
She isn't your wife.
Don't put yourself in that situation where you have to work with your ex girlfriend because things didn't work out but you don't want to fire her.
The fact that she's bad with money IMO is a red flag on its own. I'm not saying break up with her. But you can't let her get a hold of your money ... |
My (16f) aunt (33f) lives with my family. She has me drive her around, and refuses to sit in the front passenger seat because she wants to act like it’s a taxi/chauffeur situation, which is shitty of her, but I haven’t said anything.
The other day we were driving through a restaurant drive through, and it was packed. ... | NTA.
She acts incredibly entitled, if I may ask why do you go along with it and act as her driver? ###### |
know this sounds horrible but there's background.
I've been married 20 years and I've never been close to her. She skips over our kids on holidays and hasn't acknowledged a birthday, except her own, for about 5 years. My husband, her son, doesn't speak to her because of verbal abuse he had from her growing up. My niec... | NTA.
Let her "real" daughter in law take her to chemo. ###### |
There's this business one of my closest friends wants to invest in. He says it will make loads of money. He asks me for money to start it up, saying he will pay me back double in three months. Keep in mind what he is asking for is not pennies, it's a huge amount of money (at least for a teenager anyways) Anyways, I tel... | NTA.
He is not entitled to your money and these get rich quick schemes are garbage.
How will he repay you when his plan fails?
He risks nothing but you risk your savings.
You'd be a fool to agree and a real friend wouldn't put you in that position. ###### |
I (F18) love cooking when I get the chance, and like to make food from different places. Usually, when I make something, I cook it for the whole family; it makes me really happy to see them eating the food I've made, especially as I put a lot of work into it. My younger brother (14) usually helps me when I cook and it'... | NTA.
But don't let the arsehole win.
Cook for the rest of you. Serve everyone else. Make sure he knows you aren't even bothering with him.
And please tell your mum how you feel. Ask her why she thinks how he treats you is ok. ###### |
So my gf has been staying w me for a bit, and she brought her cat with her. She pretty much let’s her cat do whatever he wants but I want to teach him to not climb on top of certain things such as my desk where I keep my expensive computer and other equipment I use for graphic design and music production. Her cat scrat... | NTA.
As a cat owner myself, no one likes a cat that destroys shit. It's not "just what they do".
Just like any animal we keep as pets, we train them not to do undesirable destructive things.
No one in their right minds would let the cats do whatever.
Cats scratch to sharpen nails. So yes a cat post is a necessity. Cat... |
My fiance and I have been together for almost 3 years, we got engaged 3 days before I found out I was pregnant.
He wanted me to get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption because he said we weren't ready.
I said I wasn't comfortable doing that as I knew I wouldn't be able to live with myself.
I wasn't suppo... | NTA.
Also, RUN. Please take your son and run FAR AWAY, and NEVER look back. If you stay and let this continue the “snapping” could turn into physical abuse. Either way, he’s already being emotionally abusive and I don’t see that stopping. Please be safe! ###### |
I (21m) plan on proposing to my partner early next year and we have been jokingly talking about it for months and months. what kind of dress she would like and what sort of venue would be perfect etc. the other day we were talking about who would be attending and i immediately said i do not want my dad there, he was... | NTA.
Your wedding, invite who you like, an absentee father has no right being there. ###### |
Throwaway since this is stupid petty.
My roommate and I are both vegetarians. She regularly shames people for what they eat, including meat and any carbs. I have bad anxiety/depression which often leads to no appetite (she knows this) and regularly all I can eat is cereal or pasta, which she always comments on so she... | NTA.
Your roommate sent you a picture of her sandwich without any shame surrounding it, you didn’t sneak behind her back to tell other people what she was doing, it was an open conversation she was participating in and had knowledge of and the topic was relevant. She can be upset all she wants, but what you did was n... |
I’ve always struggled at school since I was a kid, I would drift off and daydream or get distracted and fidget and forget what I was supposed to be doing, or just be really restless and it would annoy people. My teachers suggested I get tested a few times, but my parents don’t really believe in ADHD, they think it’s ju... | NTA.
Your mental health should be your top priority.
How old are you? You can probably schedule an appointment without your parents consent. ###### |
I’m a stay-at-home mom with four kids, ages 3-9. Husband has been working from home for the past few weeks. We didn’t have a home office set up before this. He could have chosen the guest room at the back of our house for his work space, as there’s a desk in there. But he said it was too small for him, so he set up in ... | NTA.
Your husband has unreasonable expectations and is being inflexible. He has more ability to work in a small room than your four kids have to be quiet for an hour.
The only appropriate response is “You’re request was obviously not realistic, and you should have known that. Go set up in the guest room if you need ... |
My grandparents took me and my siblings out on a bike ride. And when we got back we made lunch. And I made a sandwich with ham and cheese with mayonoise on the bread. And my grandma procceds to throw away the sandwich I made and said. “You won’t like that” and I said. “Yes I will” she then makes me a new sandwich with ... | NTA.
Your grandma is trying to force you to eat how *she* likes to eat. You can eat how you want. ###### |
My daughter’s college completely refunded this quarter’s pay. She came back home because they couldn’t keep dorms up. I got a cashier’s check of $14,937 from the college. I was honestly surprised that they refunded it.
When I told my family, my daughter complained and said that it was her money. I completely disagre... | NTA.
Your daughter didn't pay that money, you did.
The opportunity to go to college was the gift, which she still has. It isn't her money. ###### |
My father was born in ‘77 and my husband was born in ‘79. I just so happened to be born in ‘94. Now the age difference between my husband and I does not bother me in the slightest bit. Nor does it bother my grandparents or my siblings only my dad.
My father didn’t raise me. I lived with my grandparents my entire life... | NTA.
Your choices. You are an adult. He is too. He should get over it ###### |
I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend (22M) for coming up on 9 months. We are in a long-distance relationship and haven't seen each other for over a month (since quarantine began) but we FaceTime every day and he is normally very sweet. Today, while FaceTiming, he asked me if he could download Tinder so that he could g... | NTA.
Your boyfriend is trying to pull a fast one on you. Tinder isn't for music. It sounds like he's trying to get his dick wet. That's like people who say that they join dating apps to make friends. ###### |
My (f22) boyfriend (m24) wants me to pretend to be religious and occasionally go to church with his family in the future, for fear that his mother would disapprove. He mentioned it when he found out about my atheism a few weeks after dating, and I was fine with it but now it just feels wrong.
On one hand, I understand... | NTA.
Your boyfriend is TA, but gently. If he's told you that he isn't religious but over time it's become apparent that he is, or isn't willing to let go of any pre-existing relationships he may have had with his church, then this reads to me like he is struggling with what he actually believes in.
It is natural to ... |
So this is going to be pretty short and simple.
As me and my partner have been starting to plan out the birth of our child I told him I want the two of us to have some time to just bond with the baby. As I have been looking up the rules due to COVID we realised this wouldn’t be a problem. I am allowed one birthing pa... | NTA.
Your baby. Your labor. Your choice.
But just to add, I highly doubt a hospital would allow you to take the baby out of the hospital just to meet your mom. Before, hospitals were even blocking partners from being with laboring moms due to the virus.
So, while I get she's your mom, for the safety of everyone (e... |
My (M27) wife (F26) is currently unemployed due to the corona virus and I work as a software engineer for a tech firm. I use my custom built PC for modeling the potential infrastructural flaws in the event of different dangers (from terrorist bombings to a burning building that suddenly floods). Due to the potential da... | NTA.
You’re not some little kid who won’t let their sister play on their Xbox, this is your work device so the fact she thinks she can download games to it is astounding.
That’s not even taking into consideration the fact that she knows how important that device is for security purposes.
Don’t let her guilt you int... |
Okay so hear me out, I know that the title makes me seem straight up like an asshole but I have my reasons.
I live in a very close nit neighbourhood in the UK mostly made up of terrace houses, I live on the end of the street and only have one next door neighbour, and they are neighbours from hell. When we moved in 10 ... | NTA.
You’re just playing music, they sound as though they have been terrorising you.
Can you move away? ###### |
I [20 M] live with my mum and brother [8]. I've wanted a switch since it came out but life and other hobbies have gotten in the way. Over the quarentine my expenses have gone down since I no longer have to buy food at uni, and I should have enough pocket money to pay off the rest of this year's fees and to get a Switch... | NTA.
You're a 20 year old adult. You can purchase whatever you'd like. Get the switch and just don't let your brother play it and keep it locked somewhere so he doesn't try to sneak it. ###### |
This morning, my mom asked for 500 (I am not going to state the currency, because I want to stay anonymous). I was happy to give it to her, but I only had 1000. I gave her that amount and asked when she was going to give it back. "I don't know." That seemed like a red flag to me.
But then I realized I had a 500 bill in... | NTA.
You were being generous, and when you found the amount you originally agreed upon, she tried to choose like she had a right to.
Beggars can’t be choosers.
X-post on r/ChoosingBeggars please ###### |
My child will be 2 in just a few months and I plan to switch his car seat from rear to forward facing at that point. He'll still be a few pounds below the max weight for his rear facing, but I'm going to switch him anyways. My reasons are he gets carsick and I'm hoping that will help, I'm the only one who loads or unlo... | NTA.
You switch when the low weight limit on forward facing is reached. The reason it overlaps is because to give you the option on which seat to use.
And if you are doing the seating (why doesnt he do it?) then its your decision.
Edit.
And waiting until he exceeds the weighlimit IS putting the child at risk. #####... |
I (23F) bought a house last year in a fairly well-off area (not a neighborhood though). My cousin (21F) has been living with me for the past 3 months because of financial issues: she pays a bit of rents and helps me do housework around the house. She's a really nice person in general.
On the Fourth of July, she brough... | NTA.
You specifically said no because of the dogs and he went outside and lit them anyway. ###### |
The other day we had to suddenly take my seven year old niece for the night because my nephew, who is four, managed to get a pretty nasty gash to his head when he fell off his bike. My sisters (26) husband was out of state dealing with something to do with his family so we, my parents and younger sister (18F) and I (21... | NTA.
You set expectations for something and your niece agreed to the terms. Sure, she's young, but as her family you've taken on some of the responsibility of helping her grow as a person. It takes a village and whatever....
Anyway, I believe you provided her a valuable life lesson and hopefully she'll learn from i... |
Hi everyone.
I live in a small town in the southern US with my wife and two daughters (8 and 10). My wife and I own property on the same block we live on and we rent those properties out. I’ve been a landlord for over a decade and usually, it’s not a bad experience.
My wife and I receive unemployment and are therefor... | NTA.
You set conditions.
They agreed to these conditions.
They are now violating these conditions.
Ergo, they have voluntarily triggered whatever consequences come. ###### |
On the last day before lock down I called in to work because I needed to get my nan an ambulance. She could only maintain consciousness for 10-15 seconds at a time. I've lived with her for 3 years and became her carer when she was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis.
My nan tested negative for the virus twice so we real... | NTA.
You seem very calm and well-collected, as well as very punctual and thorough with communication; you are **definitely** not being an asshole in my eyes.
If you decided to do their silly birthday gimmick and hold up a sign and shout happy birthday, I can't deny it would've seemed like you put in the extra mile.... |
Hi, I am a 14 year old male and have a sister with autism who is 11. I recently brought my PlayStation into the living room because I am remodeling my room so I’m sleeping up stairs in my other sisters room on the floor and brought my PlayStation upstairs My sister asked if she could play the demo of Just Dance and I... | NTA.
You have a right to protect your stuff, especially if she has a history of destroying things. ###### |
Yesterday, after I get off my 12hr shift from treating covid patients at the hospital. I park and am going upstairs. My wife stopped by her car so I planned to meet her in the lobby to go up the elevator to our apartment.
Right as the door opens she says some guy started coughing on her on the way to the elevator. He... | NTA.
You gave him multiple opportunities to stop thinking it's OK to continuing doing that.
And even then after this:
> However, when my wife asks if he would still do it if i was next to him. He stated yes it’s a joke.
He still didn't change his mind nor attitude. It sounds like he'd keep doing it but to other... |
So I (20M) am friends with her (20F). She moved from America with her family around a year ago for permanent here to England.
One of the things she was surprised by was the usage of the word cunt. She came with me to a lot of parties and would hear the word used a lot by both guys ans girls.alike.
She definitely was... | NTA.
You can’t go to a foreign place and get angry that they don’t follow your culture. She need to stop forcing her own rules in a foreign place. It’s literally just a word, and it’s not even an offensive slur. ###### |
I share a house with 4 people, we are all in college. I before we moved in, I bought a new receiver so I could listen to my music through these larger speakers I had recently acquired. The receiver has Bluetooth capability so naturally we all connect to listen to music, which I had no problem with, all I asked is that ... | NTA.
You bought it for *you*. Its not fair that they use it so often that you never get a chance to use *your own* property. ###### |
Me and the gf decided to watch an episode of this show we are watching and about 30mins in I go to check my phone to reply to a message and she slaps the phone out of my hand on to the bed.
I huffed and said can she not do that and as soon as I picked the phone up she did it again.
I got annoyed and said to her stern... | NTA.
You asked her to stop, she didn't. Also, when is it ever okay to slap things out of people's hands?
And lastly, it doesn't take a genius to figure out the *slap* itself probably wouldn't break the phone, but knocking it out of your hand and it hitting a hard surface, would. C'mon. ###### |
So my husband and I currently live in an apartment, but we’ve been looking to move into a house so that we can have kids, and they would get a yard and all that comes with a house. We’ve found a house that meets most of our criteria, but there is one problem. The house is ancient. It was built in the 1800s, and it stil... | NTA.
Wood stoves are very cool.
They're also utterly impractical for every day cooking in the 21st century. ###### |
I (19m) am living at home with my parents right now because of my campus's closing and have no real expenses while quarantined since they pay for most of our food, and my brother (25m) is home from medical school now too. I am making a fair amount of money tutoring students remotely over the summer, and I was told toda... | NTA.
Why are you the one being asked to help him out? You're 19 for pete's sake, you are not olbigated to help him out with something he took on as his own responsibility.
If he needs help he should go to his parents, even then they aren't obligated, no one is but him.
I hate these posts where people make out that ... |
Last week my in-laws and a few other family members decided to hold an intervention for my husband without my knowledge. They invited themselves over for tea and as soon as they were alone with my husband they started the intervention.
Except this intervention was for his "gaming addiction". They essentially made a m... | NTA.
who the hell do they think they are.
If they want to do an intervention so badly, don't do it at the person's own home, and certainly not after what happened with your daughter.
Your in laws sound entitled ###### |
I met my biological father 3 years ago (I’m 27 now) and we’ve been mending the relationship. We’ve become close friends and I’ve forgiven him for the mistakes he made leaving in the past. I was formally adopted by my step dad at age 3 and he and my mother have been raising me with my two sisters my entire life.
All t... | NTA.
When my dad got remarried, he gave my sister and me a speech. "I do not have a finite amount of love to give. The amount of love I can feel for people is unlimited, so if I show love to my new wife, or to her kids or family, that does not mean that I love you any less."
Love is not a finite resource. You can... |
Not too much to say, but she wants to lose weight and I keep telling her not eating isnt the way to go, she needs to just eat the right type of foods and exercise. But shes really mad that I dont want her to only have water for 20 days to lose weight. AITA? ###### | Nta.
What she's doing is extremely dangerous and can kill her. ###### |
Today, my dad decided to pick up Popeyes for lunch today. He asked me(16) and my sister (12) and my mom if we wanted chicken. I said yes, my mom said yes, but my sister said she wasn’t hungry, no. So my dad decided to get fries and 10 chicken wings.
Fast forward to when there was one chicken left. I took it, and star... | NTA.
What did your sister expect? She clearly said she doesn't want any food and then gets angry after she's not given said food? That's just ridiculous ###### |
Fiancé (24M) and I (24F) recently got engaged. We are in the very early planning stages.
Recently the topic of dress shopping came up. Fiancé asked if his mom would be invited. I said no. I’ve always envisioned it with my mom and maybe an aunt or two, especially the one that is my godmother and has no daughters. Fianc... | NTA.
Wedding dress shopping is stressful. I know from experience. The more opinions, the more stressful it gets. I also do think it is a special mother-daughter moment, that maybe you want with just your own mother.
If you do feel you need to appease her...I went wedding dress shopping a variety of times. Once with ... |
She decided to put away a bottle of edibles in the pantry, then they somehow were moved to the dinner table. It's a pastel pink colored bottle. The kids could easily mistake them for candy. I have pre teens and 2 younger kids.
My one year old was able to open the bottle with ease. Thankfully none of the kids consum... | NTA.
Usually I might lean ESH for the yelling but in this instance I believe it was warranted. That was incredibly reckless for her to do.
Edit: ESH
Yelling in front of your kids isn’t cool, and the more you describe it the more you seem to be borderline bragging about how angry and loud you got. ###### |
My parents always think im a careless person like sometimes i forgot bring my wallet, forget where i place my key. They always remind me anything , always lock the door before going out, and i never forget to lock the door so why always remind me of that. sometimes people forget, its normal i think. They almost regulat... | NTA.
This would be a huge violation of your privacy, and a huge sign of disrespect, both to you and your wife.
If they genuinely think you're a danger to your family, then a CCTV isn't going to help. ###### |
My GF (30f) and I (29m) have been together for 8 years. She recently made some new friends online. She is now asking if one of her new friends (18m) can move in with us.
For a little background, without going too deep, my girlfriend is on disability and cant really leave our home on her own. I, by and large, am the br... | NTA.
This just *screams* bad idea. You'd all have to move to a new apartment to have an 18 year old kid move in. And how long have they been talking to each other exactly? Not very long I bet. I would be completely against it. She doesn't actually know this guy. ###### |
Background: me (f22) and my fiancé (m23) are getting married in a couple of days and we had a move in scheduled for tomorrow, we already had a moving van scheduled and our bed and sofa delivery timed to come before our wedding so we can sort out the house out and move in on our wedding day.
I received a suspicious ema... | NTA.
This is cut and dry, they failed to uphold their end of a signed contract. That's what contacts are for. ###### |
I feel so awkward I’m new to this office and quite younger (recent grad) than my boss and coworkers- they are mid 30s I’m 22. The boss said our team should bond and have a team lunch - so we all meet up there and it’s a place where you build your own bowl.
My boss is in the middle of us and tells the workers to just p... | NTA.
This is a pretty reasonable assumption to make. Nearly every time I've gone out for a team lunch with my boss across the past three jobs, they've paid. I wouldn't worry about it. ###### |
okay,so me(15f) got a phone last year, and ever since then my mom and my grandma are forcing me to tell them my password,my grandma always tries to snoop around my phone and check all the photos...
I dont take my phone everywhere,i dont take my phone to school as it is not allowed.my mom says that whenever there is no... | NTA.
This is a one way ticket to never telling them anything when you're older, and is completely disrespectful of your personal space. ###### |
I guess the question isn’t if I’m an asshole for just being on the site in general. It’s more like, I hold the guys I meet on there accountable for the things they promised. For this not familiar with it, but the site is for younger girls to meet older men who are willing to date in exchange for money. It’s not straigh... | NTA.
They're just cheap and trying to get what's clearly advertised at a cost, for free.
Or maybe they're delusional enough to think they can so charm you that you won't be able to resist waiving your fee.
And you already know what the name calling is about..salty when they realize they're not that charming.
Fu... |
I am a graduate student in Illinois. I sometimes hang out with a few international students from India and Pakistan. I was invited to go to a local Indian restaurant to eat with 5 friends. When we arrived at the restaurant we ordered food. It seemed like most of the table ordered food to share instead of just for t... | NTA.
They took advantage of you. Cultural or not, that is just wrong. Sorry you have shitty friends. ###### |
This happened years ago but I was recently thinking about it and got mad all over again. I’ve talked about it to and there’s some people that think I was in the wrong so I figured I’d ask reddit for your opinion.
When I was 18 I started working at a pet store. I felt I was a good employee. Honest and hard working. Th... | NTA.
The two week's notice is really more of a courtesy so your employer has time to fill the vacancy; whether or not you're on vacation is besides the point. ###### |
I(f18) have always been uncomfortable with my mom(f53) posting pictures of me and information about me on Facebook. She’s been doing it for over 10 years and posts multiple times a day. Any time she would take a picture of me I would try to cover my face or make a shitty face so she couldn’t post it. Her Facebook has a... | NTA.
The pictures have you in them, and you didn’t give your consent to be posted online. If she refuses, you can report them to Facebook and they can remove them. ###### |
I'm 21f and I'm married to my beautiful wife in December. We been together since eighth grade and engaged. In the end of November, she got diagnosed with cancer and her job's health insurance wasn't the best. The company I work for has better health insurance. The only way I can get her on my health insurance if I mar... | NTA.
The douche canoe who outed your marriage on Social media is an A1 Asshole, and your family is pretty shitty for not being understanding. After you explained the situation to your family, did they calm down or continue to be dicks about it? ###### |
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