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My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.
His sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.
Olivia & Sloane have n... | NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.
They need to start behaving like appreciative guests. |
I’ve enjoyed reading and posting on this sub for many months now, and I feel like I’ve noticed a disconcerting trend, lately. Over time, more and more of the posts seem to have A- a universal consensus on every post, with any dissenters massively downvoted and B- a shift towards judgments that seem (to me at least) to ... | people here are too hung up on things that they're technically or legally allowed to do, often at the expense of socially acceptable behavior |
I'm back like I said I would be,. My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.
Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The w... | Wow. OP's grandfather is a saint. |
I'll try to keep this short. I had a [1967 Impala 4 door](https://i.imgur.com/HLBPpTF.jpg) that I bought in Feb 2019. A couple months ago I bought my first house that had a 2.5 car garage. I moved the car in and started tearing it down for a complete restoration. I had the body in one bay and the chassis in another, pl... | NTA - sue her ass. Sue her for the cost plus a few extra thousand for the time and money. Have her prosecuted for theft, destruction of private property and have the guys that came to get it prosecuted for receiving stolen goods. Nail them all to the wall. |
I want to sincerely thank everyone who commented. Everyone’s comments were appreciated, including those that were less than pleasant.
Since I received such great advice on my original post, I felt like I had an obligation to update. And I’m trying to follow through on all aspects of my life, even internet ones.
The... | We've chosen to lock this update due to the high volume of rule violating comments in the [original post.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cg1u8p/aita_for_wanting_to_go_to_the_funeral_of_a_girl/) We felt this update should be shared because we appreciate when an "asshole" takes our community's feedback ... |
I am a high schooler with a weekend job at a coffee shop. My coworkers who work weekends are:
James - the owners son, he goes to my school. He's a shift manager but it's not a real formal thing, he's a friendly guy.
Danielle - A college student who sometimes works weekends too.
So sometimes customers will come in a... | NTA That's a perfect way of dealing with hostile customers.
Edit: my gosh, thank you for the silver!
Edit 2: Gold!! You are too kind! |
I am a nurse practitioner and I am the primary care provider for a lot of the low risk maternity cases at the practice where I work. I also work hand in hand with the doctors and midwives to create a healthy maternity, birth, and postpartum situation.
My fiancee is completing her residency. We live together and hav... | NTA. That was beautifully handled. You didn't call them out and embarrass them. But you stood your ground. I did laugh out loud when you said where you got your blackmail information. Grandma had that in her pocket for a long time I'm guessing. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Merry Christmas and I hope you... |
Hello, everyone. First of all, thank you all for the kind words, support and love that everyone has offered and given. These weeks have been the most difficult I have ever experienced and it is with great sadness that I tell you all that my beautiful and cat crazy wife, has passed. I've had to cut this short due to cha... | Gave **Original** |
Note. My step-daughter, Madeline, was about a year old when I married her mother, Jessica. Madeline’s father died before she was born.
Madeline is currently 15, and she’s rebelling for almost everything. She did something bad, so while picking her up, I set a punishment up for her. Then she said “You’re not my dad. ... | ESH, but that was one hell of a joke and I congratulate you for it. |
I have a sister that’s 6 years older than me.
My parents for years cancel on me last min because of my sister. I have a basketball game. Ops sorry sister doesn’t feel like going out. I am graduating ops sorry sister had a bad day at work. They have missed both major and smaller events in my life because of her melt d... | **NTA. The truth hurts sometimes and your parents & sister just got whammied! Your friend is AWESOME. Please leave the video up!**
\*Edit\* Thanks so much for the awards! |
We had a family dinner this evening. My family has four kids in total: me, my elder sister (29F), younger sister (24F) and youngest brother (22M).
Extended family attended our family dinner. So all of our significant others, our cousins, aunts and uncles etc. During the dinner my elder sister and youngest brother got ... | ESH One person making personal attacks doesn’t mean someone else should- especially since you weren’t even in the argument to begin with. |
I’ve become frustrated with how quick a lot of AITA commenters are to encourage OP’s to leave their partners when a challenging experience is posted. While leaving a partner is a necessary action in some cases, just flippantly ending a relationship because conflicts arise is not only a dangerous thing to recommend to o... | Sometimes I'm surprised by how quickly people jump to "leave him/her" in the comments. But I believe many are speaking from personal experience, like they've been through some shit and they see the red flags in OPs situation that maybe they missed in their own, and are hoping to spare OP pain down the road. |
About a week ago, my (39F) family ordered Chinese food for delivery. When the delivery driver came to the door, my daughter (16F) was taking the cat upstairs to put in her room because he always tries to eat the food. My son (13M) loudly says, “Make sure the hide the cat from the Chinese guy!” as I am at the door gett... | NTA. Sounds like your husband could use the lesson too. |
Hello!.
I don't know where to begin...it's been an absolute nightmare recently. And I feel like I was losing my sanity.
So for more details about my situation. I have to admit that my husband's mom favors him over all his siblings. this affected his relationship with them and me as well. He's never seen an issue wit... | I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'm also so very, very, very proud of you. You are standing up for yourself. Putting yourself first. Looking into the future and making sure it will be what you want it to be. I wish you the best of luck. Give the doggo the biggest of hugs and lots of pets. |
Dad here, old fart, loves his daughter to pieces but I’m struggling to see eye to eye with my teenager and wife on this one.
We’ve always been a meat eating family, we live in the rural Midwest and bacon for breakfast is pretty much a given. This year my 14 y/o daughter decided to go vegan, and I jumped onto her supp... | NTA. Get her a special sponge she can use to wash her own dishes so she didn't have to use the "tainted" dishwasher. |
So it was my birthday couple months ago. Had a party. Got some gifts. My friend “Mandy” for me a “super cute bikini”. I liked it. Said thanks. She had ripped the tags off but whatever.
Anyway. Went to the community pool with my roommate. Wore bikini. Got in the water. Roommate immediately is like uhm girl.... I look ... | NTA
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Thanks for the awards. Yes, I have now been able to give OP an award. Happy days and awesome sauce to all!! |
I was over my boyfriend's apartment this weekend and I was cooking dinner because he was studying for exams. I made pasta and a chunky sauce with meatballs and veggies. I told him dinner was ready and he goes "what's for dinner tonight, B*TCH" ... With like a lot of emphasis on the last word.
I was fed up, I'd had a ... | NTA
>"Well I'm starting a trend called 'saucing' where as a little joke people throw pasta sauce around! You can't be mad because it's just a little trend, a little jokey joke, just a little prank bro!"
Absolutely iconic. |
Context: My sister (F27) and I (18F) lost our dad a year ago. He was my only parent, mom was never in mine or my sister's life. Dad left money (inheritance) for me and sister and she used her inhertance to get new cars and renovate her house
I live with my aunt right now cause my brother inlaw didn't let me stay wit... | >he said let them sell the cars and all the luxurious stuff they bought to afford the surgery and warned me if I give them money I'll never get it back and may not be able to go to medical school.
You're friend is correct. You'll never get the money back because sis isn't willing to give up her luxurious lifestyle. ... |
I F30 don't have the best relationship with my husband's mom. Since day one she tried to make remarks and compare me to her ??. She then tried to get on my good side and started overly praising everything I do and sometimes even copying me like that one time when she LITERALLY dyied her hair purple just like mine and... | I don’t wanna call the divorce card but.. divorce. You told your boundaries, you said no. She crossed it. Your husband told you he would tell her no, he lied. He tried to pin you in a corner by not saying anything and bringing her anyways and got upset you refused to be a part of his little trap?? And then to berate yo... |
So, Ever since I had my son months ago, my husband has started making indirect comments about my body. He never says any hurtful words but I find his "observations" as he calls it hurtful. For example, he'd see me wearing an old top and say "oh that top used to look good on you but not anymore though..." or when he loo... | I think the last thing your husband really wants is for you to "get therapy". If you do, you'll discover that he is an emotionally abusive bully and stop feeling guilty for refusing to put up with his BS.
NTA, but your husband is. Do as he recommended and get therapy so that you can regain the self confidence he has... |
I'm a 45yro single father of three. Theur mom died 10 years ago. I have 3 sons, 17yro Andrew, 15yro Connor and 14yro Max. Connor was born female, he is trans. He came out as trans 5 years ago, and has now socially transitioned, not yet phisically.
My sister (38F) just got married. Me and my sons were also invited. My ... | He can be a man any other day?! What a ridiculous thing to say. Well, sister theoretically could be an AH any other day too yet here we are. NTA. Good on you for standing up to her in support of your son.
Edit: thanks for the awards y'all! |
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Original post:
https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/onxses/aita_for_telling_an_employee_she_can_choose/
TL;DR: Things turned out well for everyone involved.
Peggy reached out to me yesterday, apologized, and asked if we could meet for lunch.
We met up, and the first thing sh... | We love a good outcome on this sub. Especially when both parties communicate what's going on and they're listened to |
I f32 recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a seperate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.
I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Anothe... | So let me get this straight.
Your mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is "great, now she can pay for everything".
Yeah, NTA |
Link to original post- [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gflupe/aita\_for\_not\_sharing\_medical\_history\_before\_being/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gflupe/aita_for_not_sharing_medical_history_before_being/)
Heyo! I had a few folks message me over the last couple of months, the ... | Wow! I absolutely remember your original post as someone else who struggles with mental illnesses! They were so completely out of line, but never forget who got you out of that dangerous situation, YOU. You have been working on living a stable life long enough to know that something was off and your health was number o... |
So my son had a long-distance gf recently for about two years. She was great, a really nice girl and we all loved her welcomed her with open arms. She was flying here constantly to visit him, like a weekend a month and he didn’t lift a finger to go visit her.
I tried talking to him about it several times and told him... | NTA. That's the truth.
What age is he? Edit: you say he's 24 in another comment. Definitely not the asshole. If he is this lazy and has no plans to travel, what's his plan for leaving the house? Living with parents is great to save money but he doesn't seem the type so far to actually get up and get out eventual... |
**TL;DR at bottom**
For context: I've been married to my wife for ~10 years and we're a mixed-race couple (I'm Asian and she's Caucasian). I've gotten along with her family (MIL, BIL, SIL), but I always felt like her FIL and other SIL (Sarah) never liked me.
I'm a professionally trained chef with 15+ years of experie... | NTA, "cooking asian food doesn't count as cooking" IS racist, incredibly uncalled for, and shows how much of an entitled know-it-all Sarah is. Glad most people over there are on your side, but yeah, don't apologize when you did nothing wrong
EDIT: Wow, my post blew up, loving the crazy mix of comments here, and the up... |
I was raised by parents who believed (religiously and just culturally) in rigid gender roles. Dad should work, mom should stay home with the kids. I’m the only girl and have 3 brothers.
Because of their expectation I’d stay home with kids, they never valued my education, educational achievements or emphasized things ... | NTA.
Hi from another engineer from a family filled with rage that she has all the talent that the boy was never up to.
As far as I can see, your answer to them was perfect. It was very fair, and if they have fixed their appalling bigotry issues, they would be falling all over themselves begging you to take the money.... |
New to reddit, please bare with.
So I (21, guy) live with my childhood best friend (22, also a guy) and have done for 2 years now. Up until last week, things were perfect between us.
However, he recently got a new girlfriend (23, lady) and she honestly seems absolutely great except for one thing; she seemingly has ... | NTA. She knew it was a risk when she barged in. How is she not the pervert? Also, have you considered getting a lock? |
The title makes me sound horrible but hear me out.
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My sister is severely autistic. She requires attention almost 24/7 and cannot be left alone. She is non-verbal and cannot take care of herself at all. Despite the fact that she is only 12 she is extremely destructive and violent and destroys anything she get... | NTA. These are perfectly legitimate and understandable feelings. You have done nothing to sign up for taking care of another human being (it's not like she's your kid), and that was wrong of your dad to "joke" about, because it sounds like he probably is really thinking along those lines.
Be honest with your parents a... |
Me and 2 other guys share an apartment together and we split all the bills. The only thing we don’t split costs on is groceries. Everyone’s in charge of buying their own food and we don’t touch whatever doesn’t belong to us in the fridge. We put our names on everything so no one gets mixed up.
This issue has been goi... | NTA. As you said if R wasn’t stealing your food, he wouldn’t have had a problem. |
I’m 30 and my 12 year old sister is living with me right now because mom and pops are vulnerable so it made more sense for me to care for my sis for the time being.
She is a really great kid and tbh I feel in a lot of ways like she’s my own kid because my mom and dad don’t speak English so I kind of had to raise my s... | NTA.
12 year old girls are incredibly vulnerable to body image issues. You're absolutely right to shut down such comments immediately. |
I 23m was repeatedly stuck playing the part of helper and babysitter on family outings. I had to move out of my parents' house because I kept being forced to help watch my three nephews. Last year we took a family vacation in summer to the coast. I rode along with my parents, and they paid for my hotel room. Only, I ha... | >My parents told my sister, and she called to blow up at me that I'll be ruining the vacation if I'm off doing my own thing while she has to wrangle her three boys.
That's a laugh. She's admitting she's ruining *your* vacation so as not to ruin her own! They're *her* kids and *her* responsibility.
NTA. In fact, you... |
My (23F) wedding was back on Saturday December 31st and I'm still getting backlash from this, so I want to know if this was an AH move.
In the country I live in it's currently winter, and we get a fair amount of snow so my wedding was a winter themed wedding. The color theme was forest green and gold. My dress was obv... | NTA.
She embarrassed herself. She agreed to wear the dress you picked out, and then deceitfully planned to change at the last moment in the hope that you'd just let her get away with it. She knew that you would tell her no.
Think of being in a wedding as like playing a part in a play, or a ballet, or something. You g... |
I recently won a ‘fuck you’ amount of money. I won’t say exactly how much but it’s in the millions. It makes me feel funny even typing It’s enough to change the life of myself and my family.
My ex wife is the mother of my 2 kids. She is an amazing woman and good to the bone. We divorced 6 years ago because I had an a... | NTA if you intended for the money to help out her and your kids. If you only intended to give it to her because you 'love' your ex wife then you're a bit of an asshole (ESH) for making your current girlfriend a 'plan b'. The way she reacted was a little over the top, but to be expected since you are giving money to ano... |
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Hey guys. It’s been a good 2 weeks since I’ve posted and I figured you guys would like an update. A lot has happened since the last time I posted
... | I commented on your first post. Very happy to see this heartfelt update. I personally thought that you were for the most part NTA, but still good on you for taking criticism so well and using that to strengthen your relationship with your daughter. A lot of people in your shoes would not have handled it as well as you ... |
My boyfriend had to go to the ER after a accident, and he got a truly ridiculous bill back. I offered to fight the bill for her because I've done it before, and he said sure.
I went all-out, because honestly if we were out 5 grand, after insurance, that would fuck up our holiday plans pretty bad.
So I...
- had him... | You are a friggin' rock star and should be a damn professional advocate for those who get ripped off in healthcare like this. Your boyfriend is so unappreciative and is clearly clueless on how diligent you need to be to challenge an erroneous bill. When the hospital, doctors, and insurance companies are unwilling to... |
My son burps a lot while eating. I have tried telling him multiple times that it is rude. I've told him to slow down so he doesn't swallow air with his food. I've told him that it is disgusting.
My wife will instantly jump in to defend him. She will say that's just the way he is and that it's not his fault.
The th... | NTA.
I also laughed at this. How old is your son?
Doesn't matter either way. There are times for this behaviour. Dinner at a restaurant is not one of those times.
Girlfriend did not overreact. Hopefully he learns a valuable lesson from this. |
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Ultimately I realise that the majority of the blame was mine. I never EVER should have called her lazy because that isn't what she is. I lashed out and I shouldn't... | It's so nice when these things have a happy ending! Good job on working on your issues and communicating properly! <3 |
One of my (29M) best friends “Carla” (31f) is getting married soon. It’s only meant to be a small backyard type of wedding but they’ve been planning it for a few months now and originally it was supposed to be on my property. They wanted it because it’s private, has lots of open space for the reception, a nice view an... | Rick doesn't want to get married anymore but doesn't want to be the bad guy breaking up with his fiancee, so he's put her in an impossible position so he can get the sympathy when they split.
NTA. |
I (19f) study drama at uni, and my boyfriend is on the same course. My boyfriend is a really good-looking guy, but he doesn't seem to know it. He gets a lot of attention from girls and for the most part, doesn't seem to get that they're flirting with him. I'm not generally annoyed by this, and never really say anything... | NTA. She took it WAY too far. Approaching him about it was out of line. |
Some backstory: I had been dating my ex fiancé Sarah for four years. We had been planning to get married in November 2020 but I found out at the start of this month that she cheated on me. She begged me to give her another chance but I broke it off.
The problem was that being cheated on is, in my mind, completely em... | Fuck that. Your mom, Sarah, and your sister are all assholes. The NERVE of her, to show up at your mom's house! I'm pissed off just reading this!
I don't understand why your mother is so invested in Sarah. Why would you want to tell her Sarah cheated on you, after how your sister acted? What a fucking mess!
Not gonna... |
My husband & I are expecting. This is our first baby and we're excited. Thing is he barely attends any dr appointments with me and his excuses aren't even valid. He's willing to miss the dr appointment over soccer or a drink or board game with friends. His response is always "I'm not the one carrying the baby, why do I... | NTA. Already a deadbeat dad before the baby is even born. |
My fiancee (F) and I (M) are getting married. We've decided wedding's gonna be childfree. No hate towards children just to keep it more organized and contained.
My brother 'Chris' (M) and his wife (F) have a 3 yro son who everyone calls "miracle" or "rainbow" baby. He came after several failed pregnancies that laste... | Well, I suppose you could have used hand puppets instead, but flashcards seem to have gotten the message across. It makes me insane how some parents think their little bundle of joy should be allowed anywhere, anywhen, anytime and that no never applies to them. It's pretty clear they were going to run this horse righ... |
Ok this is the worst. I’m losing sleep over this.
I’m getting married in a week to an awesome woman, and I cannot wait to be her husband, we are so excited.
My brother is gay, but my family doesn’t know, only me and my parents know. I come from a very old school traditional family, so the old part of the family, gran... | NTA - God I'm queer and I gotta say, a sibs wedding would NOT be the place to trot out that bit of my life. Its your wedding its your day. Although I have to say if your wife is level headed she wouldn't let a family fight ruin your relationship. Did you talk to her about this? |
My (M26) sister (F23) runs a bakery business and she’s been struggling lately to keep up with orders because she’s been short staffed. She does a lot of orders for wedding cakes that require custard or marmalade fillings, and I offered to help her out by making these fillings at home and bringing them to her so she has... | Does she also wear a diaper and draw on the walls with crayons because it reminds her of her childhood?
NTA |
My (56M) wife died at the young age of 51 from a car accident. I was in deep mourning for about a year after her death. I met my new GF C (43F) around January. C was the one who made me laugh for the first time after my wife died. She’s smart as hell (3 Ivy League degrees), has a dark sense of humor that I love, a terr... | ESH.
Something more is undoubtedly going in between C and A. You need to find out why A has such a strong dislike of her and reacted so strongly.
A is probably still deep in mourning for her mother. You've managed to put your grief behind you, but the process is much slower for some people. Seeing C in her mother's p... |
UPDATE: AITA for sleeping top naked in my room?
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Hi everyone! I wanted to give an update on the situation since a lot of people were really concerned fo... | Hi Friends! As most of you are aware, we have strict rules to comply with reddit TOS around violence. That includes shutting down convos about grooming/pedophilia/otherwise creepy as hell behavior.
With that in mind, we decided to strike a balance between not allowing this update, and a flood of "pedo" comments. This ... |
[update](https://www.reddit.com/user/Throwawaygivings/comments/revywd/update_aita_for_ruining_thanksgiving/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
[Christmas ](https://www.reddit.com/user/Throwawaygivings/comments/rrif5i/made_turkey_for_my_orphans_christmas_party_i_wish/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_... | \*Thunderous applause\* You're my favorite asshole for this. My absolute hero.
ETA: Wow! Thanks for the awards!
ETA 2: I'm being asked to give judgement. I repeat: OP is my favorite asshole. Not THE asshole here (so NTA). |
My great-aunt set up savings accounts for all of her female relatives. In our culture education for women is not really valued and she thought that was bullshit.
She lived with her father in London where she was educated. She went on to attend university and became a doctor She married a British man, they moved to A... | NTA. Your parents didn't borrow your money. They stole it. I hope you have all the documents to show that money was yours. Your brother is also the AH for trying to get you to drop a lawsuit with what is most likely a lie. If you have a chance to start life without student debt you do whatever you can to do that. Your ... |
I (26f) recently moved into my first home. I am also 4 months pregnant with our first baby.
The pregnancy has been very hard. I have horrible morning sickness. It reached a really bad point where I passed out hit my head and my Dr admitted me to the hospital for a week.
When I got home my husband allowed his brother... | Wait.. your MIL called.. to fuss at you for INVOLVING YOUR MOTHER?!?!
There's this pot kettle thing..
NTA 1000%.. but house guests in a shared home require TWO yesses and only one no. Both of you agree or it shouldn't happen. Your husband has treated you abominably. I'm not sure I could deal with that honestly. Can ... |
My dad passed away 2 weeks ago. Me, my wife 'Candace' and my daughter (16) 'Shiloh' and her stepsisters (19) & (17) flew to my hometown to attend the funeral. After that we got 2 hotel rooms (one for me and Candace, one for the girls).
While I was in the room, I got a call from Shiloh at 11pm crying and sounded like ... | What I'm getting from this is that your stepdaughters were trying to live up to the Disney depiction of step-sisters and were shocked when they couldn't just bully her into getting what they want. What's extra gross is that they did it when coming back from Shilo's grandparent's funeral. Talk about cruel.
You're defi... |
So this is a throw away account. While my sister doesn't use reddit, we have mutual friends who do.
I'm a 28F and I have a sister (36F) For the sake of story, I'll just call Jane. Jane is married to "Bob" and they have two kids, boy and a girl. My niece and nephew are wonderful kids and no trouble at all. They fight a... | NTA. You told the truth and saved a teenager from a terrible life of being used and dumped for another, which is no way to treat anyone. It is a foster child, not a slave. |
I (M/37) have a 13 y.o son. I was a widower when I met my now wife. She has a 16 y.o daughter from another relationship. The family is often on pretty good terms. My son is the quiet one in the house, he keeps to himself a lot but not to the point of being concerning. My wife and stepdaughter are the complete opposit... | NTA. Guarantee they have done this before. Circle the wagons, protect your son. Such disgusting abuse from your wife upon your son. To make it even worse, she is raising her daughter to be cruel and exclusionary. Your son deserves so much better. |
I've been married to my wife Beth for 5 years. I have a bio daughter named Jessica (she's 18). And I also have two stepdaughters named Monica and Leah. They're 25 & 28. Both are single moms and live with us currently.
there's been issues about my stepdaughters asking my daughter to babysit the kids. Jessica didn't hav... | NTA. To be honest, I would have kicked your wife and lazy no-good stepchildren out right then and there and ended the marriage.
If they were 12 I might understand this level of entitlement and immaturity. But in their late 20s???
And WTF with your wife??? She should have roasted them for pulling this BS. |
I wanna preface this by saying that I f34 married my husband m37 a year ago. His mom is snoopy and annoying af. She can't help it that is just how she is as my dear in laws say.
My husband and I purchased a new house recently. My MIL kept pushing to get an emergency key, She promised that she only use it in an emerg... | NTA. I'd rethink my marriage if my husband put his mother over me.
Edit: spelling |
**EDIT: THE BOYFRIEND DOESNT LIVE WITH US AND DOESNT PAY RENT OR BILLS. HIM AND HIS DAUGHTES SPEND TIME HERE AND PAY ONLY FOR THEIR FOOD: SOMETHING I DO AS WELL***
My dad died suddenly about a year ago, and my mom found this really nice guy that she’s started seeing. I’m 23M and going into my final year of college. M... | NTA : You’re an adult so the rules shouldn’t be the same for you as they are for his teenage children. Your father recently died and neither him or your mom should be trying to push the step dad role onto you. I completely understand why you’d lose it like that. It still too soon for him to be trying to take your fathe... |
My brother is a very hardworking man and at 27 he is now very wealthy and doing well for himself. He’s been with this girl for six months and throughout the time we have gotten close because we both like hair, makeup, and shopping. I never knew there was anything wrong with their relationship except when she texted me ... | NTA. Sounds like you told your brother the truth.
He sounds immature and testing a partner never turns out well. |
My mother died when I was 16. My dad married another woman two years later.
My grandparents, my dad's parents, HATE my stepmother. I really don't like her either.
Even after my half-siblings were born, my grandparents never warmed up to her.
My grandparents are quite wealthy. My father has been banking on this inher... | NTA
Your grandparents should be honest with your dad. By not telling him, they are setting you up for a LOT of drama after they die, and that's not fair to you.
Your dad shouldn't be spending recklessly and counting on inheritance money to come in and fix everything. That's ridiculously irresponsible.
Everyone in th... |
**UPDATED 7:50 PM:** Holy crap! Thank you for the outpour of support, everyone. I never thought posting this in an online community was going to reach the right eyes so quickly! I had written this on my lunch break and was completely blown away and brought to tears when I checked back in after work. Several people reac... | NTA, tell them that you will take the website down for $13,000.
Edit: The armchair lawyers are out in full force today. [Click here to find out why this isn't extortion](https://www.minclaw.com/extortion-websites-demand-money-remove-negative-content/). |
My wife and I bought a four bedroom house in PA that my son lives in. Our son went to College in PA and wanted to stay in the area. So we bought the house as a second home, we live in NJ and commute into Manhattan for work. We figured that he would have a place to live and we could visit every so often and spend som... | NTA.
And I want an update on this because it sounds nuts.
What kind of people do they think you are? How was your son ok with excluding his whole family? Do you think your son’s been brainwashed by his fiancée? How did he think the house was “his” when he didn’t pay the taxes on it?
So many questions. |
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First of I'd like to say thanks to everyone who gave their suggestions and well wishes, unfortunately I didn't get to read everybody's comments as there are too many but thanks to everyone anyway.
Now onto the update. I gave my mother a few days to calm herself down before speaking to her again, she eventually came ar... | Hope you read this. You're an amazing father |
Throwaway because husband told me I was TA and want to know before I get home and argue. On phone format is bad.
I was in a higher end department store today (rhymes with loomingtales) and happened to end up next to two teenage aged girls while shopping. One of the girls had picked out a pair of VERY expensive boots ... | YTA
Did it ever occur to you that she was telling the truth and her dad had given her his credit card? Mind your own business.
Edit: Holy shit this blew up. To everyone saying that she could have taken the card without permission, you are right. But it is still none of OP’s business and there is no way to know for su... |
I am the by-product of my parents extra-marital affair. Both of them had spouses at the time. My birth-mother got pregnant and had to tell her husband as he was overseas when I was conceived so there was no way I was his. A few months after I was born they decided not to divorce. I was given to my grandparents on my m... | NTA
You didn’t ruin anything - they did.
Your birth parents have been and continued to be completely selfish arseholes, and everyone deserved to see who they really were.
The only people who upended anyone’s lives are your parents. You did not deserve to be told to go away or hidden. |
I (37M) have three girls; 8, 10, and 12. Their mother walked out on us for another man when our youngest was around 4. My ex still stays in contact, though, and pays child support.
A few weeks ago while doing laundry, I saw red spots on my oldest's underwear. I asked her if she knew about it, and she cried and told me... | NTA
***Have you considered they were crying because of how you were treated rather than the fact you lost your temper?*** It's easy to assume the worst. Children are more observant than we give them credit for.
That your daughter defended you right away pretty much makes it impossible to consider you an asshole.
Loo... |
My son was smart. Smarter than me. I almost requested a paternity test because he was so damn intelligent. THAT IS A JOKE.
My ex and I divorced when he was about 12. She remarried when he was 14. I did when he was 16.
I had an RESP set up for him. That's a education fund in Canada. As long as he went for post secon... | NTA. Sorry for your loss. I thought it was a clickbait title but this is a sad fucking post. I hope you enjoy your trip and pour out some for your homie. It sounds like you guys had a good relationship. |
I'm not really a photographer, I'm a dog groomer. I take lots of photos of dogs all day to put on my Facebook and Instagram, it's "my thing" if that makes sense. A cut and a photo with every appointment. I very seldom shoot things other than dogs even if I have a nice set up.
A friend got married a few days ago and wa... | NTA at all. You could have risked your health and they treated you like shit. |
I'm a software engineer, with a full time job and a side hustle of doing freelance coding work in my own time. I've always been the type to have a side hustle I put a lot of my free time into; I get really bored sitting idle.
My freelance hourly rates are $60 an hour, and at my full time job, my hourly pay works out t... | NTA. 3 kids all day, for 3 straight days? Even real babysitters would charge more than 15 for 3 kids. Obviously they wanted you to do it as a favor, and got upset that you treated it as an actual job. |
Almost 2 months ago I made a post on here about me throwing my daughter’s clothes onto the drawer when they weren’t folded neatly. Well that post really blew up, people on Twitter also chimed in.
Well the night I made the post, I was still in serious denial. I replied to some comments and my denial was perfectly clear... | Hey, good for you on taking the initiative and changing for the better! I hope your kids admire the changes you're making to be a better parent to them. OCD is super hard without help to manage, so congrats! |
Quick recap on [my first post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ibbwws/aita_for_refusing_to_sell_the_place_i_bought_with/). I spent several years working as a stripper, at the end of which I was able to buy my own flat. I'd been with my boyfriend for about 18 months, and I'm currently around 3 months pre... | I have to call crap to “the baby needs a complete family”. A kid can have a mom and dad and still have a dysfunctional family. Single parent, two parent, parents of the same sex it doesn’t matter. Your ex sounds controlling and a leech. All the reasons he wants to be together or be a father are more for his benefit.
G... |
I'm the VP of Sales at a software company and one of our sales development reps parents passed away at the beginning of April, sadly they were involved in a car crash and both lost their lives. Now the employee in question in very young 22 year old guy and has been with us for about 10 months now. He's a great employee... | YTA for firing him without first going through the steps of describing his issues to him and giving him a chance to improve. He's been back for only 2-3 weeks.
It's not about "having heart", it's about making a dumb business decision for both you and him. So much smarter to work with this guy to get him back on tr... |
**ETA**: There may have been some confusion as to my gf's reaction, she was ashamed her family dug so deep into me, not about my response. After wanting to die for the next 48 hours she agreed I did the right thing and that it was funny
Backstory: due to my dad's job we lived in Italy for 3 years when I was younger, s... | LOL NTA. The grandad knows it! He probably half rolls his eyes every time they say they are Italian when he knows he’s the last speaker. You shut them down in the most epic/appropriate way possible! Your girlfriend should be proud flaunting that her boyfriend is more Italian than any of them. |
I’m 60 and bad with the whole text thing on mobiles so I’m hoping I won’t be judged on my grammar
Here’s the important background my daughter in law (32) and son(33) have 3 children aged 3 years 2 years and 4 months . He convinced her to be a stay at home mom and sell her business by telling her how good of a childh... | NTA. It sounds like your misogynistic son needed some humiliation and to have someone stick their nose into his marriage. It's not like you are a stranger - you are his mother. Also, this is not a minor thing, this is your son treating his wife like a servant, not a spouse. |
This is a short one. Names changed for privacy.
I went to a tattoo shop in my area, with a photo of the tattoo I wanted. It was one my dad had gotten to honor my passed grandfather who’s father also had it. But the point is - it was important to me that the tattoo looked EXACTLY as it did in the photo.
I get to the... | NTA and I would even consider suing. They kind of branded you with their initials...
And they should get fired ... |
My 20 year old daughter and her fiancé are currently staying with us. I love my daughter but she is very difficult and I can’t stand her fiancé. I gave them a deadline to move out because I can’t take this anymore.
They got into a massive fight the other day while my wife was out. I guess a pair of my wife’s underwea... | you might be the asshole but i am LIVING for it
edit: my personal verdict is YTA but I'd like to invoke Shitman v. Frickboy which states that in times of outlandish or otherwise infantile behaviour, assholery may, subject to scrutiny, be permitted. |
Here's the [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/za73bi/aitaa_for_taking_my_niece_to_court_over_a_coat/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
So here is a quick update, since the situation has been resolved.
When my husband got home,... | That's a fair outcome that avoids lifetime level consequences for the niece and still stings hard enough to make the point. Communication is always a good place to start and very glad your BIL stepped up to handle the situation appropriately. |
I’m Asian, more specifically one of the only Chinese people in my grade, which has been absolutely fun these days.
So the girl in question, has been racially harassing me since the beginning of lockdown, when she dmed and said “did the bat taste good? thanks a lot you fucking freak”. I reported her to my school, and ... | NTA, backing down to bullies never works, you have to hit back or they never stop.
Edit: Holy cow! I have never received this amount of upvotes on a comment before :) |
My (27F) older brother and SIL (both mid 30's) just welcomed their first child a year and a half ago, after YEARS of trying. After many failed attempts, SIL was told that she wouldn't be able to conceive due to a medical condition she has, they finally got pregnant.
Since having my niece, the baby has been the center... | NTA. Let them be pissed. If ever there was a time to take a stand for your stepdaughter, it is now. Without knowing her story, or how she came to be part of your life. She's 6 years old, and you've made a commitment to be in her life. The moment you make it official revolves around her as much as it does you.
You abso... |
So my friend 20f and I 19m have been friends for a few years and she recently got engaged.
A week ago I got a dm from her for a small costume party she was hosting as a celebration for her getting engaged. I asked if there was a theme and she said there wasn’t. I’m a cosplayer so I had a lot of choices.
I didn’t want... | NTA.
The facts of this are pretty simple.
1. You were told this is a *costume party* so you wore a costume.
2. When asked about a theme you were not given any restrictions.
3. *They* sprung a surprise wedding on *you*.
4. Once you realized this you asked the groom if you should go home and change *and the groom said... |
This happened just a few hours ago. I am a 19 year old man and the people calling me an asshole are 18 year old men and women.
On Thursday, a person I had a major crush on in high school (but who rejected me) messaged me out of the blue. She had never contacted me without my contacting her first, and at one point I r... | Nta. Blatantly.
How did she expect this to go?
You'd happily go buy her beer, then take it to the party, then leave, without partying or drinking your beer?
They have to all be a bit cracked in the head if they believe that was ever going to work.
I'd take a snapchat of me pouring that down a toilet before I eve... |
Background: I graduated from college 4 years ago live at home with my parents. My sister graduated 2 years ago and also lives with my parents. We both got jobs pretty much straight out of college. I pay my parents $800/month in rent since my first paycheck.
This is a throwaway and it's still fresh and I'm really emoti... | NTA
You've paid about $19000 in rent **while** your sister has paid nothing? Oh hell no. Your parents are being ridiculous, and your sister is a user.
How financially difficult would it be for you to leave? I wouldn't want to stay with them if it was me.
Edit: People keep pointing out that OP has paid roughly $38000... |
I [29F] dated a guy Joe (30M) for 3 months before he left me to go back to his ex Kim (30F). Right after we broke up I found out I was pregnant and now I’m at 24 weeks. I let him know and he was ecstatic. Turns out his girlfriend had fertility issues and would likely never be able to get pregnant naturally and he has a... | Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshol... |
Since we just blew past 800,000 subscribers, it occurs to me that a half million of you may have arrived here since the last time I ranted about voting on this sub. So, if you just got here from the front page or subscribed in the last month, first of all: Welcome to the sub! Second of all, cut your shit out, you're ru... | I feel like my dad just came in my room and bitched me out for something my friend did. |
I (40m) have a sister (30f) who is getting married in a week. The groom proposed to her a year ago at a family dinner that left everyone speechless, but very happy for them as they are longtime companions. During this dinner, my sister asked my son (17m) to make her wedding dress. My son has always loved design and fas... | NTA. He should go, and wear the dress. |
Previous Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e1oy5c/aita\_if\_i\_cancel\_christmas\_because\_i\_cant\_afford/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/e1oy5c/aita_if_i_cancel_christmas_because_i_cant_afford/)
So, it's been 2 weeks and somehow the messages are still coming in. Thankfully t... | Aww fucking A, man. I was not expecting the Onion Ninja on AITA. Good on you for making stuff happen, bro. That pic of your daughter decorating the tree is adorable. I think you and she will treasure that moment in years to come. Happy holidays, bud.
NTA! |
I'm 19f, I have a 3 week old baby girl. I do still live with my parents, but since I pay rent equally, they say I can have just as much of a say in who comes and goes from the house as they do. I've never actually taken advantage of this rule until recently enough. I have a brother, who's 26 and his wife is 24. They're... | NTA. Throwing away unused disposable diapers is even worse than using them and throwing them away. They are still going to the same place but have now doubled.
Formula is expensive and you say you're supplementing... your baby is still getting breastmilk but needs a little more. That's why formula was created. Your S... |
My son "Aiden" (23) moved back in with us upon graduating college as my husband wanted. My husband's original plan was to have Aiden live with us for free, but stay home and help with his disabled younger brother (16). Aident started complaining about needing money and wanted to find a job. My husband was against this... | NTA. Your husband is abusive to Aiden and honestly, creepy in his manipulations and insistence on Aiden being Dobby the house elf. |
[Link to original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/t622tm/aita_for_imposing_my_culture_even_though_i/)
First of all I just want to thank everyone for the overwhelming support and replies on my first post. I'm looking forward to going over to everyone's houses for dinner and I'll be sure to bring a... | I LOVE that you went over there and filled his parents in on the real story. He was so concerned about keeping up appearances for his parents that he straight up waged psychological warfare on you, but now it's all nice and out in the open. Gonna be awkward for him at holidays for a few years. |
My son found the post, and shared it with my daughter. This was after apologizing to her. She cried again.
So last week, we decided to have a father/daughter bonding weekend. Honestly, it was awesome. I took her bowling, to get a manicure, becoming Disney princesses(I looked awesome as Jasmine), and so forth. She l... | Awesome comeback, just proves dad jokes aren't only for dads. 😉
And for those who are as confused as I initially was, here's the background
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dhfeg9/aita_for_making_a_dad_joke/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share |
My F35 sister F27 started dating one of those "brutally honest" guys few months ago. He can be quite rude and make backhanded comments about me and the family sometimes which is bothersome but my sister says he's not malicious but is just the brutally honest time and we should get used to it.
I visited my parents ... | Repeat after me:
*He should've just ignored me. He knows what I'm like. I'm older than him; I can't change now. I am who I am. I was just being honest. Seriously, that's my opinion of his conversation.*
What's that? Those excuses are toxic bullshit, mum? Cool cool. Good to know you won't be putting up with anyone's c... |
Original post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/m2zhf5/aita_for_not_wanting_to_hide_that_my_moms_are_gay/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
So we broke up. Yesterday since it had already been days of us not talking. I listened to ur comments and decided to ask how would she feel if I t... | \*Stands and claps\*
As a parent, if my kid came to me and told me this, I would first feel hurt but I'd quickly get over that and feel so damn proud that my kid stood up for himself, his beliefs, and his parents. So just know this reddit-mom is very proud of you. |
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ehmsme/aita_for_letting_my_brother_call_me_dad_and/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Hey guys! So many people wanted me to update on my previous post and wanted me to seek professional advice first before I take matters into my own hands. Apologies ... | >"I know you're not my real father, but I want to let you know you're the best dad in the whole world. Sorry for before."
Oh man I felt the tears welling up in my eyes at this part! Thanks for the (rare) heartwarming update! |
I’m 15 years old. I have a stepsister who is a couple years older than me and she is really seriously disabled. I’m not sure what’s wrong with her because no one ever wants to discuss it with me but she’s non verbal, breaks her bones a lot, and has severe epilepsy and will have many fitting episodes. She also doesn’t u... | NTA. You sound like an average teenager who has had a lot of life experiences early on. If going to the hospital upsets you, don't go. And don't be afraid to tell your dad what you need, which is his undivided attention for a minute! If you're in school, talk to a counselor or teacher, or ask to be referred to therapy.... |
So here is the situation.
Me: nurse. Working 50ish hours a week in paediatric ICU. Cry at least once a week because that shit is hard. My salary pays our bills. All of them.
Husband: 25M. Has a degree but isn't looking for a job. Works 2 days a week at the grocery store. Spends most of his time playing LoL.
Btw al... | NTA
I'd ban him for more than one night! What kind of thoughtless behaviour! Sounds like there are bigger issues surrounding his job too. Have you spoke to him about finding a full time job? It's not fair that he's not pulling his weight. |
My girlfriend has online summer courses and she had an exam for one of them this morning.
I usually wake her up for pretty much everything because she sleeps through her phone alarm no matter how long it buzzes or how many she sets.
She has joked that I’m her butler before and within the context of a relationship i... | NTA. Your girlfriend sounds incredibly abusive. You shouldn’t have to put up with that. Don’t wait for any more red flags. GET OUT OF THIS NOW. You deserve better. |
Quick backstory, after graduating high school my son moved 3 states away for college. At 19 he married a girl he met, I tried convincing him to wait because I personally felt he was too immature. They both dropped out and moved back here to his home town. At 20 they had their first child, a beautiful little girl. 16 mo... | NTA
> Our DIL filed for divorce, my son 3 days later was on Facebook announcing his new girlfriend. A month later, they were engaged.
Eww.
The best children are the ones you choose. |
My f16 father m46 is the "breadwinner" while mom is a sahm. She handles everything around the house like cooking, mopping, washing, laundry, etc. I'm the oldest and I try to help but really there's only so much I can do while my dad just gets home at the end of the day and literally complains about everything. like how... | NTA. You held up a mirror to his behavior, and he didn't like what he saw. That's on him. I hope he gets the message. |
Original Post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/o7nzcm/aita_for_asking_my_boyfriend_to_charge_his_family/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Update:
I want to begin by thanking everyone for their advice on my original post.
There were some really constructive strategies and words o... | Congratulations! You bought a house AND got rid of excess baggage!
You will LOVE owning your own space. Literally and metaphorically. |
Throwaway account. So me (26f) and my husband (28m), who I'll call "Jake" for this story, have been together for 5 years and married for 3. We have recently started trying for a baby as we both felt like that was the next step in our life together, and 3 weeks ago I got a positive test back. We were really really happ... | Girl- get an abortion and a divorce ASAP. This man just told you who he really is, and things are about to get a whole lot worse. RUN. |
My wife is pregnant with our daughter. Initially we were really happy and excited about it. But then, she starts acting like a nut job. She gets angry and irritated for small things, insults me when she doesn't like the food I make, starts acting insecure and accuses me of losing attraction for her.
For example, she w... | Yikes. Might I suggest some couples therapy first? What she did was clearly an A move, though I don’t think you’d be in the right to have her move out while pregnant. |
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