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I'm in a relationship with a guy who also works in tech. He makes 68k and I make 130k. I am a mechanical engineer at a robotics startup. He works at a more stable job doing programming at a large company.
He brought me to meet his friends at a party and they asked me about myself. His friends mostly work in tech too ... | NTA. So your boyfriend was too high to say anything to support you but sober enough to complain when you rightly called him and his rude mates out. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 |
My family had a small get together at my house. One of my wife’s friends was over (she is unmarried I think she is 45-47)? We aren’t too close to her since she lives pretty far away. She was over our house and she started complimenting my son (my son is 19). It starts off innocent but as time goes on it gets more and m... | NTA. Double standard no more. I wouldn’t let her around my boy anymore. I would be livid if a husbands friend was telling my daughter the same type of things. |
This issue is honestly making me frustrated. Almost everyone is saying I am in the wrong, people are talking behind my back and I genuinely don't know if what I did was correct or not. I just feel so lost. Please, please do help.
I am 17, suffered a major accident while cycling when I was 13. I have 2 really deep,long... | NTA this is so fucked up it’s beyond words. How did she even qualify for an award like that with this as her entry submission??? What she did to you was dehumanizing and so incredibly out of line. Everyone’s on her side because you’re surrounded by assholes at school, but I promise you, you will move past this. |
I (F17) still live at home. My sister (28) is married and has two kids (5/3).
Whenever she comes over to visit my parents and her stick me with the kids.
This wouldn't be a problem except she doesn't visit for an evening. She will come for a week. And for that week I'm an unpaid nanny.
If we go out to a restauran... | NTA. But if they posted on social media say "wait. I ruined the vacation because I was supposed to help with the kids or take care of them myself? So this wasn't about me?" |
The title sounds bad but hear me out.
Backstory: I (F28) have a friend (F28) who purchased a house late last year. It's an awesome 2 story town house and I've been over there plenty of times to help out with moving/decorating and for hanging out. As mentioned in the title, her parents purchased the house for her and ... | NTA. She doesn't get to be catty and look down on you for how you each got your homes. It seems like an odd disconnect that she feels superior about it at all. |
Hello. [Original post.](https://new.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oefrtm/aita_for_picking_out_the_peas_from_my_dinner_in/)
Thank you very much for your insight. I appreciate all the comments and also the awards. I think that's very cool to receive.
Some comments said to talk about it with my mum. I did and it w... | As someone who had pet ducks, I can confirm that those little quackers not only liked the peas, they LOVED them.
They're the ultimate duck snack. After my ducks discovered that the freezer was where I kept peas, I couldn't open the freezer without being mobbed. |
link to my last post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/epmdeh/aita_for_donating_my_daughters_college_fund/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I’ve gotten messages asking for an update, so I’ll give one.
I left my husband. He told me I couldn’t do what I wanted with the college fund. I... | I'm so sorry to hear that after losing your daughter so tragically, that your marriage has ended as well. But probably for the best if he was unable to support you on this. I hope the rest of 2020 brings you better fortune. |
I get that people love to up-vote and encourage people who aren't the assholes, but this is ridiculous. Of the approximate top 30 "hot" posts right now, only one is a YTA post. The top posts of the week are also predominantly filled with NTA posts.
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This subreddit is at its best when there are varied stories ... | The most glorious cause is the lost cause. |
EDIT TITLE : AITA for NOT telling a guy what I do for work and letting him pay for my drinks during the whole evening?
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My friend "Grace" invited me to a board game bar to play and have drinks with her, her boyfriend and one of their friend's "Nick".
We went to get drinks in pairs, Grace going with her boyfriend... | >He never asked me what I do for work, but talked about his new job quite a lot, occasionally saying "sorry, you don't understand that, haha".
This, right here. NTA. |
I have been living with my new wife and stepdaughter for about 6 months now. She’s 19, almost 20, and I have three sons aged 18, 16 and 15. She’s a really good kid and she’s a good influence on my sons, I really enjoy having her around. My wife and her daughter moved into my house and sold theirs. My stepdaughters fath... | YTA. Sorry but what? I'm a guy and realize this is ridiculous. You need to help yourself and your son's become better men and accept that it's a natural process.
Are you uncomfortable with your wife's use of the same? I assume not so teach your sons to be better.
Edit: My first gold! Thank you, kind stranger!!! |
So, my MIL (I'm a gal btw lol) came to stay with us for few weeks til her home is renovated for christmas.
The problem is that she has been randomly walking in on me while I'm in the bathroom. Thankfully not once has she seen me naked because I started picking up on her behavior after the second time in a week.
She... | NTA.
You went the funny way and that's dope.
Your husband, however, is an asshole. He expects YOU to be mature about it, but he doesn't expect his mother to KNOCK ON THE FUCKING DOOR before walking in? |
My (25F) father married my step-sister's (23F) mother when I was 4 and she was 3. We've lived together most of our lives and are a family. She and I were extremely close.
She developed cancer when she was 14 and was sick for about 2 years. She's since made a full recovery. During that time, my parents became understan... | NTA. I had cancer as a teenager. I’ve managed to not have sex with either of my siblings partners, weirdly enough. |
I own a vape shop. We're a small business, only 12 employees.
One of my employees, Peggy, was supposed to open yesterday. Peggy has recently been promoted to Manager, after 2 solid years of good work as a cashier. I really thought she could handle the responsibility.
So, I wake up, 3 hours after the place should ... | NTA
You aren't taking it away because of her gender or poor mental health
You are reacting to her not following the sickness policy of contacting you before her shift
TBH not showing up or contacting anyone I wouldn't have been giving her the choice (however check that legally you are ok with that) |
I've been married to my 2nd Husband "Mike" for 4 years now. He's a jokester and loves to crack jokes all the time. He especially like to joke with my brother "Ethan" and his wife. Ethan used to be okay with it til he started complaining about Mike taking it too far with his jokes.
Some context about Ethan. He and hi... | YTA. Your husband likes to hurt people. It's nothing to do with jokes. |
So, its been a few days since my original post. Everyone was so kind, helpful and supportive. I recieved so many messages and I want to thank each one of you for them. They meant more to me than you know.
Well, I've left my husband. And it really wasn't over this one incident, but really a build up of many. Before I ... | Oof, I was just about to ask what the age difference was: **F19, M31**.
Thank god you hadn't invested more time in that "relationship." I'm so glad to hear you're starting to find your way to a better place. |
My classmate recently made a tiktok and she showed a group of people at lunch time it. They were next to our table so I overheard the girl say "hey look at my tiktok I made come check it out" and in it she explains how she "rescued" goldfish from the pet store and released them into the ocean so they can live free.
I... | NTA!
You’re 100% right on BOTH counts! That would’ve been a pretty awful death for the gold fish AND yeah releasing captive bred animals into the wild usually either results in that animal dying OR local flora and fauna suddenly having to compete with an invasive species.
She meant well but that stark reality check... |
I (34F) live with my husband (37M) and daughter (7F).
My daughter and I recently went on a short trip out of state while my husband stayed as he had work and was supposed to look after our dog.
On the last day of our trip we got a call from my husband who was acting distraught and said that our dog Ellie had run aw... | NTA. Keep your dog and daughter and leave the husband in another state to find another family he'd have a better life with.
Edit: holy farm cow (dog husband) didn't expect top comment ☺️. Thanks for all the awards. |
This all started back in March. My son's best friend turned thirteen. In his family, thirteenth birthday is a huge deal. In addition to a massive party (which all four of us were invited to) his parents also took him to Disney World. They invited my son to attend as well.
My wife was hesitant to consent to this. She s... | NTA. Your wife sounds like she has a clear favourite out of the two kids and isn’t afraid to show it. Of course your son should go on vacation with you all. I’m shocked that she would want him to miss out. That’s awful. Is she always this unkind to him? |
My boyfriend’s parents paid for them, my boyfriend’s siblings and their SO to all go on a flight to Cabo for spring break. Becky his mom hasn’t seem to like me for some reason she always makes snide remarks about my parents blue collar jobs and my field is nursing.
We get to the airport and Becky got 7 other people ... | NTA, the check in lady was correct.
If you would have got on the plane, you would have been treated like this for the entire vacation. It was absolutely the right decision to stand up for yourself. As far as wasting money, she said the ticket was free and I'm sure she didn't spend much on your hotel accommodations. As ... |
EDIT: to all of you who DMed me to tell me about how fucking great polyamory is and that you're mad I gave it a bad name, you have issues if that's what you take away from this post
I believe it started when I was around 6 years old. My parents often had 'friends' over in the house. I didn't know they were polyamorous... | NTA it wasn't your parents polyamory that f*cked you up though it was there bad parenting. they allowed strange adults around you all the time and neglected you when those strangers were around, they put you in potentially dangerous situations by doing so.
Having a committed poly partner who is not a stranger and kno... |
It’s been more than a year since my [original post] (https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/badncw/wibta_if_i_stopped_baking_cookies_for_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) - which I know is quite a long time. It seems a bit silly now that I was so consumed and frustrated by something so ... | Baking for co-workers is such a weird thing. I used to bake a lot when I was single. It was a hobby and I had the time for it.
So naturally I brought my goods to work since I didn't want to eat 3 dozen cookies by myself.
Everybody loved them and I was happy until one day I overheard some co-workers talking about how ... |
I have a female co-worker who repeatedly calls me out regarding my weight. I'm female 5'9" 115lbs and very thin. She is very overweight. All the time she makes comments about my weight. She doesn't call me by name she calls me "slim" and I even heard her say one time "go ask toothpick" and she has said stuff like "you ... | NTA by a long shot. Just because she apparently defines herself by her appearance does not give her the right to define you by yours. Objectification sucks, period. |
I have 3 kids, 15F, 12F and 7M. My oldest has always been a cuddler, and that suits me fine because I am too. Recently my in laws were over, and we were all watching a movie together. It was a kids movie, and so my 15yo was bored out of her mind and tired, so she started to snuggle up to me and go to sleep.
After the ... | NTA. The implications of what they're suggesting are horrendous.
You cuddle your damn kid. It's lovely that she feels so comfortable with you. They're projecting their own disgusting thoughts and it's bullshit.
You shouldn't be apologising to them, they should be apologising to you for the implication. |
When I (17 M) was 8, my parents bought me a piano and signed me up for lessons. I was super excited because I love music. Over time I kind of became known as the 'piano guy' at school. I play at school concerts, accompany the school jazz choir, and play once a week for the residents at a couple of retirement homes in o... | NTA.. someday when he wants to come home for holidays, send a framed photo he can set at the table. There. You are home.
You didn't tell him you'd be there in person .
Life's not fair, dad |
**UPDATE POSTED ON MY PAGE**
This happened last night but my phone is still blowing up.
I F(26) dipped into my savings and got Mike, my boyfriend (27) a PS5 for his birthday yesterday.
He knew he was getting the PS5 because he told me that the PS5 is the only thing he wants. We’ve been together for 4 years so the ... | I’m so confused. But maybe that’s because I’m an old lady who got married around the time you were in Kindergarten.
A) if anyone was wrong in the Jake/Adam incident it was Adam. You might have dated friends, but he dated his best friend’s ex. That’s on them to figure out, and Adam’s mistake only.
2) Where I come fro... |
I [16M] started dating my girlfriend 2 years ago. I also got super super into baking around that time. I bake a lot. My girlfriend loves desserts. So I've given her a ton of stuff I bake, all kinds of different stuff. I often try to bake something new and then she gets to try something new. I honestly love baking way m... | NTA - you and your girlfriend sound sweet and your family sounds bitter |
I sustained very bad injuries to my face this month. I'm in the stage of healing when the scar tissue has formed, but it's still very tender "new skin". I'm going to have very obvious facial scarring for the rest of my life. The injury starts about an inch above my hairline, goes down over my brow so that on part, hai... | Dear god no you're absolutely NTA. People that are that heartless shouldn't be allowed in public. Jfc. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
It does sound like it looks pretty badass, for the record! Rock what you got girl! 🤘🏻 |
I (27F) used to be an ''*escort*'' (h\*oker) from 18 until I was 23, I'm not proud of it but I also don't give a fuck because I did what I had to do to keep studying and a roof over my head. That's how I met my now fiancé (37M) tho he was never my client.
We began to date when I was 25 and three or four months after ... | You know you’re NTA. They’re sexually harassing you, aggressively, in a family setting. Honestly I would have added “it sounds like you’re implying that we’ve had sex, and I don’t understand why that’s a joke you’d make to your daughter in law.”
FIL clearly knows he’s wrong. I say push back as hard as you can. |
My sister is a trainwreck. She needed a place to stay and I have a large enough home for an extra person. She has no job or income. I told her she has a few months to get her shit together and leave. I give her about $100 a week to keep my house clean so she has some cash.
I gave my sister her $100 and she said I owed... | NTA. I would have countered with a bill for food, rent and utilities. |
The past couple of months, my wife has been complaining about our cats. She’s been claiming that the cats wake her up constantly and that she’s frustrated every night that she “has to get up and open the door for the cats” or “the cats keep making noises” or “the cats keep jumping on her.” It got to the point where she... | NTA. That was gaslighting and manipulative, and if she had issues with your cats she should have said so directly |
While sitting next to my girlfriend on a plane I was bored as fuck and looking at the maps are that are found in the back of the airline magazines. A conversation led to her revealing that she did not know where Florida was on the map. Keep in mind she had graduated a private high school and is currently going into her... | NAH. My husband did the same to me. So I realized how straight up dumb it was. I downloaded an app for kids to learn basic geography. Now I know where more countries are than he does! Learning and realizing the need to learn things is so important.
Edit: I'm so glad so many people wanted the app! I use StudyGe. |
So my last name is Doe. It hasn't affected my life much apart from occasionally being called "Dodo" while growing up or friends spelling it "D'Oh" as a joke, and I'm generally pretty neutral about it.
My wife is six months pregnant and wants to name our future son after her grandfather, who died of cancer in September... | Nta
I think it's pretty important that you don't actually!
(EDIT 2: IF I GET ONE MORE COMMENT XXX IS THE IRISH FOR JOHN ILL BE RATHER ANNOYED... IT SEEMS THERES LOTS OF VARIANTS OF JOHN - TO QUOTE GOOGLE
"Eoin (Irish pronunciation: [ˈjoːɲ], sometimes spelled Eóin, or Eoinn) is an Irish name. ... In the Irish languag... |
Wife and I have been married 18 years, we have our 16 year old daughter who has been dating a slightly shy/ awkward young man for around 3-4 months now.
He seems very nervous around my daughter and has admitted in a passing comment here and there to my wife and I that he can’t believe she agreed to date him and he th... | It's not cute
NTA
Your wife is TA
Your daughter is becoming TA
The boy also needs some guidance, but that probably shouldn't come from you
Edit: Read the responses to my comment. There are some good arguments that maybe you should consider talking to the boy yourself. I may have been wrong on that part, but you'll... |
I am obese. Like I am comfortable having two seats in the plane type of obese. I am well aware of that and I really don't like to bother people with my weight.
A week ago I was going to a conference by plane and because I was going alone (usually when I fly with my boyfriend I don't buy two since he sits next to me) ... | NTA- Former flight attendant. It's your seat. You paid for it. If that (classless) couple wanted to sit together that badly, they should have paid for seats together. |
I (17F) have been living with my dad (45M), his girlfriend of 2 years (33F), and her daughter (13F) for a couple of months now while my mom (40F) is visiting my sick grandfather in Sweden. I've only ever stayed at my dad's on weekends so it's been hard getting used to living with his gf and her kid full time. The kid i... | Oh sweetie, **NTA**, and I want you to know that you absolutely were entitled to a drink AND a cakepop or another treat of your choosing.
Your dad gave her $300 that was meant to be spent on ALL THREE of you for the day out. Sure, her daughter may have earned SOMETHING special for her hard work at school, but from the... |
Hi all.
I gave birth four weeks ago, and we decided to have a ''baby ceremony'', where everyone gets to meet our lovely daughter Charlotte.
My cousin Alice and her parents were among the guests. The first thing I'll say about her is that she has expensive taste. She's the sort of person who has a *minimum* price ra... | NTA. Common sense to not wear expensive clothing around newborns unless you are okay with risking this happening. She should have known better. |
I (20) am a mother of triplets whom are only 2 months old. I never expected ever in my life that I'd be a mother to triplets so when I first became pregnant it was definitely the last thing in my mind.
I'm home with my babies all day long and had to even transfer my education to online.
Sometimes I just need some f... | NTA. When I had my baby one of the things the nurses told me repetitively while in hospital and during the home visits is that if she is crying and I know she has been fed, she has a clean nappy on and she isn't sick and I am getting stressed out its ok to go outside for a few minutes to just recollect myself.
Their... |
Yesterday I was supposed to spend the night at my friends house with some of my classmates and we were playing truth or dare. There really is no reason for us to choose truth since we already know a lot about each other so we mostly went just with dares. It was pretty fun and we had some weird challenges.
I was stayin... | So you want us to DM you if we think YTA? Yeah no I think I’ll do it here.
YTA
You kissed him without consent. Doesn’t matter if you’re pretty or not. Doesn’t matter if you know him. Doesn’t matter if he didn’t object.
*Saying nothing is not consent. He did not consent.* |
My wife and I are both 42 and in marriage counselling after our marriage basically went to shit after having kids (6 and 4 year old twins). A lot of issues and disagreements have come up in our marriage that have driven us apart and I have been working through my resentment that going back for one more baby resulted in... | Throwaway for this:
I love my two daughters so much, but if I could do it all over again, I wouldn't be a mom. It is still a big taboo to admit that having children isn't the most amazing thing in the world, but for a lot of us, the lows far outweigh the highs. I'd never ever tell my kids I feel this way, but I think... |
My father and mother had a very bitter marriage towards the end of his life, he had a long running affair with another married co-worker and got her pregnant before he passed. He was planning to leave mom, skip the country and move to Canada to start a new life with her. They had a house picked out and all.
He had mo... | I would DIE (no pun intended) if I was walking through a cemetery and saw that! Your mom is an icon. NTA. I hope she burns his old shirts or something.
Also, while going through estate papers and talking to lawyers, ask about what rights the side piece will have in claiming money for her kid, since it was your dad‘a ... |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ck2eaj/aita_for_shutting_down_black_names_because_i/
I posted a month ago about a dilemma my husband and I were having with our baby's name. We had already decided on a girl's name because it honors his mother but we're stuck on a boy's name. My husband thought it was im... | Due to the nature of this topic we unfortunately will have to lock the comment section, but we did feel that everyone should see how this situation was resolved |
Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gkg4rc/wibta\_if\_i\_told\_my\_brother\_that\_i\_know\_about\_his/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gkg4rc/wibta_if_i_told_my_brother_that_i_know_about_his/)
Many people messaged me asking for an update, so here it is.
So, most of you tol... | THANK YOU for a nice happy post. Reddit really needs it and I'm so glad your brother's got you! |
My fiance (31 male) and I (25 female) are getting married soon. There wasn't much that disagreed on during the wedding planning except for food. Me and my family are vegans, and there so many reasons why we chose this lifestyle and one of them being that we have a history of health issues. My fiance and his family ar... | NTA and for the love of god don’t marry this man. |
So I have a cat named Raven who's 3 years old.
My girlfriend of 2 years moved in with me a few weeks ago and it was clear she didn't like my cat.
I didn't think it was really a big deal until one day I got home and he was just gone. He's not an outdoor cat and he never goes outside.
He was gone for hours and I was ... | NTA. The cat was there first.
Edit: hey thanks for the awards! |
I (46M) live with my wife and my 17 year old son. My wife has been on a different continent for about a month taking care of her dying mother, so it has just been me and my son for that time.
My son and I have a very close relationship where he tells me almost everything going on in his life. On Saturday, he told me t... | NTA. sounds like your intention was to teach your son not to binge drink. |
Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/px753o/aita\_for\_not\_accepting\_my\_sisters\_relationship/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/px753o/aita_for_not_accepting_my_sisters_relationship/)
I was asked for an update and thus, here I am.
Two things to clarify before I update:
1... | IM IN BOSTON! And my family loves to have strangers in their homes, we are Dominican. DM ME. |
I am a hiring manager at a tech company and I was hiring for summer internships a little while ago.
We had a guy, about 19 years old, applying for a summer internship between his freshman and sophomore years of college. It was a virtual interview over Zoom because of covid.
A minute or two in, when I was introducing... | NTA
It’s probably better for the kid you told her directly, seeing as she clearly does not respect him enough to believe him if he disclosed she cost him the job.
She snapped at you because you gave her feedback that painted her in a poor light and she thought she did her son a wonderful favour. You’re probably the f... |
I f32 gave birth to my son 5 weeks ago. My husband's mom has been camping in the living room ever since and inviting people over, making a mess in the house, etc. I said nothing because if I open my mouth, my husband would start scolding me saying his mom is there to help and I should be grateful. What I did was ig... | Breast-feeding while on an empty stomach. That’s like going into debt. There should’ve been heaping mounds of food waiting for you |
I’m going to be vague for privacy reasons, sorry.
I (33F) am the breadwinner of our household. I have multiple, highly specialized degrees for a niche industry. I make 200k+, with potential to get in the 600-M’s range. My company has not been hit that badly by COVID, so most of us have kept our jobs, but we’re held... | NTA Some are saying you've decided your job is important than your husband. They're ignoring that he seems to have decided a job offer is more important than **your entire career**. I was ready to call you the asshole considering we frequently see people unnecessarily prioritize their career over their spouses when com... |
OP [here ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k39l2y/aita_for_telling_my_boyfriend_hes_a_bad_person/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
UPDATE: Thanks for the rewards! A lot has happened since my OP
I spoke to the ... | I agree. You did the right thing hope in the future you find some better person. |
My 4.5 yo daughter has a stomach bug, and has been having some diarrhea. My wife needed to take our son to an appt nd I needed to WFH today so my MIL came to watch after our daughter.
My daughter needed to use the bathroom, and I was going to excuse myself from my online meeting but my MIL said she had it. A bit later... | NTA, your MIL is profoundly stupid, not for not knowing how to wipe, but for not realizing that 4yo girls have fully formed genitals. God knows what other pearls of wisdom she has in her brain. |
I sound like a real asshole but I've completely lost my mind over this.
I'm 17 and my stepbrother is 17. We both have our driving license.
I just found out 5 days ago that my dad and stepmom bought a used car for my stepbrother. They got me a 600 dollar gift card to best buy.
I know $600 is a lot of money but what ... | NTA. It takes a serious miscalculation by both adults to think that kind of uneven gift giving is okay. I think after you cool off you should sit down with your dad and explain how hurt you were by the disparity. |
For some weird reason my MIL really wants to go into our bedroom whenever she comes over. On one occasion I followed her as she went upstairs (i was going to get something for my child as the bedrooms are upstairs) and she walked past the bathroom on the main floor and up the stairs behind it. She didn’t hear me and ... | NTA.
Your MIL is an issue but the fact that your husband refuses to set and enforce boundaries with her is actually the larger issue here. |
This line at a Starbucks I went to was really long. I was in line for a good maybe 20 minutes. Until this lady in a Mercedes tries to cut in front of me and like 8 others behind me. I laid on the horn and tried to block her from cutting me but she succeeded anyway and flipped me off.
Okay. I’m the type of person who ... | ESH but god damn i'd have done the same. |
I've worked at my office for 8 years. I'm on good terms with management and most of my co-workers.
Five months ago, a new guy was hired on a 6-month probationary period. I'm not his supervisor, but I'm definitely a senior employee. I'll call the guy Ted Faro, because he's a dick.
Supervisor was going around intr... | NTA what is that dudes problem? Why on earth would he think it’s okay to not call you by your actual name? Especially when repeatedly asked! The dude sounds like a massive a-hole and I’m happy for you that he no longer works at your company. |
A few nights ago, I hosted a game night for a small group of friends (we had all been quarantining and following the proper guidelines in my county). It was only going to be 5 of us (including me), but one of my friends texted me last minute that she was going to bring a coworker from work (Matt-fake name). Fine with m... | NTA. Matt made Matt look bad. |
I was raised mostly by my uncle and aunt. My older sister developed a serious illness when I was 6 and my parents decided that they couldn’t care for both of us I guess, so they kind of unceremoniously dumped me at my grandparents and my uncle took me in. Like, didn’t even explain to me what was going on, just “you’re... | NTA. "Are you my Dad's brother" was pure class. |
I (F27) have been with my boyfriend (33) for almost two years now. We will be getting married eventually but it's not a priority.
My mom won't let us share a bed if we come see them for any reason. When we came over this last summer my boyfriend suggested renting a hotel so we could have privacy and a comfortable b... | ESH. Your mom is horribly controlling. That's not in question. But instead of saying, "I won't be spending Christmas with you this year, I'm going to the in-laws, and if I come to you again, we will stay in a hotel," you lied in such a way that they thought you'd be attending. Instead of acting in the adult manner in ... |
I have 2 children, a 9 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. My son had a Minecraft world where he built quite an impressive castle on an island, which he was very proud to show to me.
Since school was canceled, he has had issues with waking up on time. He is supposed to wake up at 7 each morning, but for the past m... | YTA - parenting is more about finding ways to get your child to succeed than negative punishment.
Not only will your goal of having him wake up not be met.. you’ve created additional hardship on your child during these unprecedented times
He’s 9. The punishment did not fit the crime
Edit: thanks for pointing out my... |
I got the idea a few weeks ago to prank my friends my pretending to be an "Appletarian", meaning somebody who only eats food products that are derived from apples and would only drink apple juice or apple cider.
I told them them all that I had read on the internet that eating only apples was the healthiest thing for ... | NAH.
I may be in a minority, but I think this is fucking funny as hell. I feel like your girlfriend over-reacted but maybe in the future, include girlfriend in said prank.
Edit: because I don't want to reply to this several times. When I mention including girlfriend in the prank, I mean either his now ex if they ... |
Let me just preface this by saying this: **I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS.** Now that the air is clear, let me continue.
My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I'm not exactly what you would refer to as "liberal", he's a nice young man and a... | * EDIT: Thank you so much for all the positive and supportive responses and...*all* the awards, my goodness. If it makes you feel lost in the crowd, try [Mutual Aid Disaster Relief](http://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org) for your donation needs. MADR evolved from the Common Ground organization that drove racist patrols ou... |
I \[20 F\] am an older sister to my little (biological) brother (17 M) who finished high school last year. My little brother and I are really close. He says I'm the best friend he has and he loves me more than anyone (of course this is not true, he has many friends of his own).
My brother has been asking our step-dad/... | **NTA.** Your brother is a better person than I am because I would be blasting stepdad/mother everywhere. I'd call the local news stations and ask if they are interested in a story of parents stealing from their child, I'd tell family, friends, people at church, random strangers on the street, post about it on Facebook... |
It’s been almost a month since my original [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/htmhgb/aita_for_shouting_at_my_ex_in_front_of_my/), and a lot has happened since then. Many of you asked for an update, so here goes:
Last weekend, the girls were at their mom’s. After she dropped them off Sunday night, m... | I said it in your original post and I’ll say it again. You sound like an amazing dad and your girls are lucky to have you
You are doing an amazing job and even knowing she’s trying to turn your girls against you you are still trying to facilitate a relationship between them and her for their sakes |
Link to my previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/k4ifvx/aita_for_getting_mad_about_my_boyfriends_guy/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
So about 2 weeks ago I posted here asking if I was the asshole for getting mad at my boyfriend for his guy nights. The post didn’t get a lot... | This sucks but at least you know now and can be better off without him, and the rest of your so-called-friends. Maybe you could try and make friends with the (ex)girlfriends now?
I will say though, as someone who had friends who turned out to be not-so-great, don't feel like the time spent with them before your boyfri... |
My fiance M33, and I F28 are getting married in december. His mom is the intrusive type but she's nice overall and we....somewhat get along.
I hate to admit that wedding planning has been an absolute nightmare. His mom wasn't willing to agree on most things, and my fiance said that since he's her only son then I shou... | Hand him the ring back...
Say "I hope you get the wedding you and your mom have always hoped for."
Walk away.
NTA |
Throwaway for anonymity sake incase this does go further.
To preface this, I (24F) am vegan, and have been for a good 10 years. I have not eaten meat since I was roughly 3-4 years old when I found out where meat comes from (spoiler alert: there were a lot of tears). This is no secret and everyone in my life knows and... | NTA I’m impressed and kinda think this is awesome. Edit: I think that it’s awesome you went to the police and they’re taking it seriously. |
[Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/iwpbdx/aita_for_kicking_a_friend_out_of_my_house_for/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
It's been a few weeks since the situation happened, so I will start off by saying that (ex)friend B did NOT apologize to friend A for what she said. Matter of f... | This is such a good update. I'm glad reddit helped & your friend is feeling much better! You're a great friend |
Ever since we(27) had a baby, my wife had been talking like a baby herself.
Rather than teaching the baby to talk like a person, it's as if my wife's language has become baby-like. She would make noises in between conversations like "Bo-dee-bo-dee-chooop" and "Awowo-fwatata", even when talking with adults. This is es... | ESH. Ditching her at a restaurant is unkind and a little dramatic. Talking to complete strangers in a baby voice is crazy and embarrassing. I don’t blame you at all for being frustrated and walking away, but she’s your wife, and sometimes people we love are imperfect. Try to react with kindness - she’s probably an exha... |
Edit: Update. I want to thank you all for the kind words and comments. I knew after reading the comments that it was time to come to a resolution. I decided to drive home from work and talk with Erica. When I showed up Leah’s car was parked in the drive. I went inside and they were watching tv. I told Leah immediately ... | Do not put this woman on the deed to your home. Heck, don't marry her. You don't have a Leah problem, you have a fiance problem. Time to move on, buddy.
NTA. |
[ Removed by Reddit on account of violating the [content policy](/help/contentpolicy). ] | NTA. If they bullied you as a boy in the past, the MtF transition won't affect that. You don't have memories of Z as a female bullying you. Therefore no matter what the present or future has to do with them, they will always be that boy in your mind. |
I know the title sounds absolutely terrible.
My ex and I were together for 5 years. I decided to propose, but she rejected me. The next day, we had a talk. She realized that she was gay, since "I've been trying to hard to please myself from men". We broke up.
The very next day, I get bombarded with text messages. ... | NTA, this wasn't revenge. She was telling lies about why you two broke up, you simply corrected them. Your reputation was being destroyed; just denying it wouldn't have been convincing so outing her was necessary.
Also, she **did** deserve it. |
So background: I (32f) have a brother, "Dave" (35m), who's married to "Sarah" (29f). They don't have children yet. I have a son who just turned four and a three-month-old daughter with my husband (39m). My husband and I live in Belgium most of the time, but we travel back to visit my family about once a month (in Engla... | NTA.
You completely passive-aggressively defended your kid against a childish adult. Was it petty? Yes. Was it deserved? Hell yes. |
My sisters car broke down 6 months ago because of her own stupidity. I won't go into it here but she ignored the advice of a mechanic and because of that her car broke. I decided to be nice and offer my sister my car until she could get hers fixed as i could bike to work while she needed to drive. She did not get her c... | NTA, this is the definition of theft |
So, I'm getting married to my fiance soon. I bought my wedding dress weeks ago. His my (FMIL) kept pestering me about trying it on but I firmly refused. I finally shut it down after she offered me 100$ to let her try it on. Her reasoning for presisting so much? She says it's because of her "love" for wedding dresses ... | NTA, but are you sure you want to marry this guy? He stood guard outside your bedroom so that his mother could **try on your wedding dress**. Do you think he will *ever* stand up for you against her?
Edit: thank you for the awards! ☆☆☆
Also: I think all the "incest" suggestions are *way* off base. He's just an AH who... |
Hello,
This is an update to my previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/au9bhn/aita_for_objecting_to_girls_day/
This last month has been kind of wild for me so I haven't had an opportunity to update this until now. So the descriptions of my family and my family situation in this thread was speci... | I'm so sorry OP. I wish you speedy healing, difficult as it may be.
Since at least one family member is reading, let me say you's miserable people if the general thrust of the story matches OP's telling of it. Shame on you. Also, you're nuts if you think a catty group is going to be satisfied ostracizing just the one ... |
My husband and I live in the US northeast, where I am from. “John” moved here for work several years ago, from the deep south of the US where he grew up, raised with Christian holidays but never attending church. Coincidentally, shortly before everything hit, John’s parents AND his childhood best friend “Dan” and his w... | NTA.
**Fuck that.**
John better knock that sexist shit off, or he'll be a single father soon.
(*Right?*)
Edit: thanks for the awards, friends. :) Stay safe! |
My husband and I have been together for 3 years. He has 3 kids from his previous relationship and I have one. She's the oldest (17). He's a dedicated man, puts God first and loves everyone.
My husband always complains that my daughter doesn't spend time with her stepsiblings or him but she has reasons for that and t... | NTA
He can’t use your daughter as free child-care for his children... so he intentionally alienates her from his family (and yes, I said *his family* because it is very apparent he does not consider your family his family!)
____
Let’s see what he’s done just in your post alone...
- Your, almost adult, daughter has va... |
I am a teenager and my mom is kinda famous on Instagram and blogging. She had a mommy blog all when I was growing up and of course me and my sister were always involved.
It sucks because there's so much our there about us and it's what's gonna come up when I'm looking for a job, when I'm dating, when anyone looks up ... | NTA - your mom has exploited you all your life, for money. That's shitty enough, but then to try and guilt-trip/manipulate you into continuing to participate even though you've told her explicitly you don't want to be a part of it anymore? That is beyond the pale.
It's not like being an influencer is the only job ... |
Throwaway account and please don’t repost anywhere else.
I (24f) was with my ex fiancé N (27) since I was 13 and he was 15. He was my first love, my first everything. We got engaged when I was 20 and about 6 months after we found out we were expecting. Unfortunately I miscarried a couple days later. That was the wors... | I started dating my ex when I was 15 and we broke up when I was 23. If he ended up dating my sister, knocking her up, and then marrying her, I would lose my shit.
While barging into a party, screaming at them wasn't exactly the most healthiest decision you can make, personally, I say fuck them. They clearly don't car... |
I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much. I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause - she is a diagnosed sociopath.
She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a s... | Wow. That's the hardest AITA I've read in a long time.
You're ethically compromised either way. It's probably best you stay out of it.
Edit: I can't possibly respond to all the comments this comment is getting, sorry. Scroll further for more in-depth discussion of the subject. As to why this got so many updoots, ... |
My (39M) son (17M) Bryce dated our neighbor Lana (17F) for a year, they broke up mid Jan for reasons I don't know. I won't sugarcoat this, I never liked Lana, she always seem a little unhinged, controlling and aggressive, she's always demanding Bryce's attention and there were quite a few times when she showed up on ou... | NTA. This is the wake up call she needs |
Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g6zfpa/aita\_for\_not\_letting\_my\_sister\_see\_her\_kids/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g6zfpa/aita_for_not_letting_my_sister_see_her_kids/)
So I wasn't expecting to make an update post, because I honestly wasn't expecting there to be... | When school starts back up, make sure you make the situation *VERY* clear to the school. And daycare for the little one as well. There's a good chance she will try to pick them up. |
I 23 am the oldest of five siblings and I am a full time student. I also have a part time job in my field but when I complete my after degree my employer will take me on full time. I make enough from part time to pay for school and put money aside. My siblings range from 20-10.
Both of our parents work full time. ... | NTA.
>I bought myself a plant from IKEA.
This honestly made me smile. |
It's a complex situation but I'll do my best to explain.
I M45 have a bio son 'Leo', 16 from my previous relationship. I married his step mom who is a mother of two boys 'Connor',20 (deceased) and 'Derek',12. I've never had the pleasure to meet Connor who tragically passed away from a motorcycle accident. Derek was s... | Nta. That’s a cruel, cruel thing to do.
Edit
Just read the ages. At 16 your son did that a bereaved 12 year old. Perhaps seek therapy for him? |
The title sounds so stupid but here we go anyways.
I’m 24 and I’m an addict who has been in recovery for the past six months.
I used and used until I was basically in poverty and my older sister helped bail me out more than once.
She’s my best friend and I know it hurt her a lot to see me like that.
She also met... | NTA. His reaction was so unnecessary and he is the one who caused a spectacle by trying to pat you down in front of everyone. |
My graduation ceremony is being held next week. My dad had given me some money in advance to pay for the party. I live mostly with my mom but they were supposed to be hosting the event together.
Dad and I have a rocky relationship. After my parents divorced when I was 4 they split custody of me and he was able to stay... | As a mom with kids from two marriages, I will say absolutely NTA.
Your dad consistently and constantly chose everyone else above you. This is not ok. Making and breaking promises is disgusting. Saying one thing and then backing out is gross. And asking for the money back???? No. Just freaking no.
He is ... |
I am 31, and have an identical twin brother. For a while I’ve told my wife that none of her family members notice me or care about anything I do on Christmas Eve but they insist on me attending. She told me that’s not true, they genuinely like me and enjoy talking to me. But I know that the only times they’ve included ... | If this is real I'm going to go with ESH, you should have kept it between yourself and your wife to prove a point that you shouldnt have to go see her family. Yes what her family does sucks and makes them assholes but you really have no hope for that ever changing, people tend not to change shitty behaviors if called o... |
**UPDATE: i haven't logged into this account in a while but i tried to update and it got removed so i will just copy and paste it into here**
**I decided to ask my daughter how she feels about all of this and she said that she likes going to daycare and that all of her friends are there. I got a lot of nice replies an... | Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshol... |
I 28F used to be quite overweight, over the last year or so I have made many changes in my life and have successfully lost almost 100lbs. I don't live close to any of my family and don't post on social media so my family wasn't really aware of my weight loss. I did mention that I was making healthier choices but that's... | Wow OP, you spent whole year of your life losing weight and make sacrifices just to upstage your sister ?! How dedicated and petty of you ! /sarcasm
How delusional is your family ? NTA.
Edit : typo
Edit : Thanks for the awards !! :D |
My daughter (16) Megan just finished her cancer treatment, she's lost her hair in the process and she's been incredibly insecure because of it. She no longer meets friends nor welcomes them at our home nor even meet family on person. It's been bad to say the least but her stepbrother (18) Ben has been making it wors... | NTA but you need to divorce that man, his and his adult sons behavior is disgusting. There is absolutely no excuse for what Ben did |
This year I went to my fiancé’s house for Christmas. It was my first time going, as we would typically go to my family’s house instead.
I got a (rather pricey) gift for my fiancé “Dan” related to his hobbies, I got nice gifts for “Dan’s” parents based off of things I’d talked about with them before, and I got a small... | NTA.
You skipped your family‘s Christmas for this, and they shouldn’t have done this to you without a warning or your consent.
Just because THEY enjoy this tradition doesn’t mean it can‘t be hurtful to you, and they clearly ruined the occassion and then gave you a stupid explanation.
Especially your fiancé is incons... |
My son (28) was visiting us for a couple days and was at my house alone babysitting my daughters kid.
According to my son, the other day my 4-year-old granddaughter (his niece) pulled down the TV and broke it. My son told us that he took the TV to the dump as it was shattered and useless. My daughter and son-in-law (m... | NTA at all! If you don't press charges, he'll think he can get away with stuff like this! Not cool! Frankly, you're not only not the asshole, you absolutely did the right thing and should be praised for it! I'm glad his girlfriend had the integrity to come clean! If it's his first offense, he can plea down to a mi... |
My dad practically gave me up to his sister from the moment I (27M) was born. My mom died when she was giving birth to me. And my aunt told me he never recovered from that because he blamed me for her dying.
It hurt a lot as a kid that at family events he would ignore my existence. When I was a little older he got mo... | Dude, NTA. Your Dad is a Grade A double cheese asshole from hell with a special topping of asshole served with asshole sauce. He deserves every bit of what happened to his second marriage because he presented himself as a different person than he is.
I am sorry you had to go through this. I wish you strength and may y... |
Okay this is a doozy, so please strap in and bear with me. For context here, my sister is 30, I am 22.
Ten years ago, my sister had a miscarriage. Obviously, it was devastating for her and the whole family and it took her a couple of years to fully heal from it. We're still not 100% sure why it happened, but it was a... | NTA ten years? With other, healthy children? Yeah that's some bs you're not in the wrong here. |
UPDATED!
Throwaway account because she uses reddit.
My (M25) girlfriend (F30) Nat has a very particular sense of style. Picture Harley Finkle from wizards of waverly place, you will get the idea.
Don’t get me wrong, i never had a problem with that! In fact, i love the way she dresses because she loves to do so, and... | NTA
That’s very inappropriate for a wedding. Not to mention, kinda insulting. |
Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dgfkt3/aita_for_not_telling_my_dad_he_isnt_getting_the
A lot of people have asked me for updates so I thought id make one.
It was kind of positive?
I agreed with many comments in my first post where they said my grandparents were setting me up for drama.
I t... | Thanks for the update - I'd been waiting! Sounds like it's worked out pretty well. Your father's now aware of how much he'll be getting and can plan accordingly (he shouldn't have been relying on his inheritance anyway). You don't have this bombshell hanging over you. |
I'm 29F. When I was about 10, my mom married my step father. I have an older brother Luke who was 15. My step father had Amy and Ada who were 12 and 11.
We didn't come from a privileged background, my mum was a min wage worker and my dad was absent. Our step father had a very good income. Their deal was that they woul... | Absolutely NTA. And I think you did turned him down without bringing up your childhood, but he kept pressuring you, so it’s totally understandable that you told the truth. |
I'm a single mom in my 50s with one daughter. I got very lucky in that I bought a home in the Bay Area nearly 30 years ago for around $230K before the tech boom and now the house is worth about $1M.
I have a 23 year old daughter Camila who grew up in that house and she moved out last year to go live with her boyfrien... | NTA. You have been with this man 2 years and he is demanding that his kids receive an equal share of the home you paid for and raised your daughter in decades before he even existed for you? That's absurd.
If you're going to marry this man and merge finances with him, you need to speak to an attorney first and make s... |
It's been a while since I last posted but a lot has happened so I figured I should update you.
Making this post has been an eye opener for me and I decided there and then that I was done. So thanks to everyone who told me what I desperately needed to hear.
I started gathering evidence which would allow me to leave ... | For all those who are looking for the red flag comments in the previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g1ol4b/aita_for_taking_a_3_hour_nap_every_afternoon_and/fnioiuo?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share |
My sister and I have always had a strained relationship. I usually just let things go and try to keep the piece. We both have sons who are around the same age. My nephew is 13 and my son just turned 11. For my sons birthday I bought him the new gaming system he has been wanting. He was absolutely thrilled and he plays ... | NTA, your sister's terrible parenting ruined her kid's Christmas.
Your nephew's jealousy ruined his own Christmas.
It's entirely possible that your sister has spun a lie to the extended family, so be sure the flying monkeys have the full story in your responses to them.
"What part of my nephew deliberately smashin... |
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