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I (M27) am married to a man (M28). He is the love of my life. I had only ever dated women before him but when I met him I realized I was bi, and we fell in love. We got married in the fall of 2018, so it’s been almost 4 years. We now live in Vermont.
My whole family is from a small town in Texas, a super conservative ... | NTA. I love your Dad.
Edit: thanks for the updoots and awards, but OP and his pops deserve them! |
I was asked to be a member of the wedding party. Despite this, I was THE ONLY person, not only in the wedding party, but also at the ceremony, who wasn't allowed to have a +1. This was an outdoor wedding with unlimited seating and these people don't give a shit about COVID so it wasn't about that.
I was told it wa... | Wow. There’s layers to this like a freaking parfait made entirely of dog shit in different stages of decomposition and it just kept getting worse. From the title I thought you were TA. Then it was like okay, maybe it’s E S H. Then it got to NTA and kept on trucking into how the newlyweds AND Dean are huuuuuuuge asshole... |
I (32f) am getting married to my fianc´é (41m) next year. After we got engaged, I suggested it might be nice if I asked my fiancé's niece (who's 15) if she wanted to be a bridesmaid too. I've only met her a couple of times, so we're not close, but she seemed like a cool kid and I thought it might be a nice way for us t... | Definitely NTA.
Don't back down. Stand your ground. Never in my life had I thought I would be urging someone to be a bridezilla.
Please. Please. Be the bridezilla. Go full bridezilla.
Edit: I don't know how all these awards go and the pink framing and all, but thanks to all who helped that happen. |
My daughter is 12, I'm trying to teach her ways of creating and respecting her boundaries that are age appropriate. Teaching her that it's ok to say "No" to things she feels uncomfortable with.
There is a boy in her class who keeps bothering her and her female friends at recess. I've encouraged her to go to me or her ... | You could point out that the boy didn’t ‘need’ to join their group as there were other incomplete groups. He ‘wanted’ to join that one that was already complete for the sole reason that your daughter was in the group. Ask them when and, more importantly *why* his ‘want’ to be near your daughter superseded your daughter... |
I (16f) have a friend named Aysha (15f). Aysha is Muslim and wears a hijab to school which often causes people to give her dirty looks, comments, etc. I don’t know why. It’s just cloth.
Anyway the worst instance possible was with this girl named Megan (also 15f). When we were sitting together at lunch she came up to... | NTA, you didn't get her kicked off the team, her actions did.
She's TA, and so are her friends. You did the right thing. |
Last week a new colleague "Cathy" (33f) started at my (25f) work place. She instantly stood out in the team, because she seems like someone who is very... loud and assertive? Two of my colleagues, me and Cathy were having coffee in the break room (we were the only ones in there and we were sitting far apart), when the ... | NTA
> I embarrassed her by acting "superior" about my European heritage
I mean, not *that*, but you **are** superior to her in that you don't feel the need to lie to impress people.
> Cathy had called me a "little b-word who enjoys bullying new colleagues"
Oh, Cathy... talking aloud into the mirror again? |
My husband (Asian) and I (american) welcomed our first born 4 weeks ago. The baby is health (Thank God) but I'm exhausted, haven't fixed my hair, barely able to shower and can not sleep.
My husband's family had been pressuring us to visit to meet the baby. I tried to hold them off as much as I could but yesterday, I ... | This isn't a culture clash - these people are just AHs. There isn't an asian culture I'm aware of that doesn't practice some form of postpartum confinement where it is expected that the new mother do nothing other than rest and bond with the baby. IF they were so "traditional" they should have showed up with food, offe... |
Original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/jqdel5/aita_for_getting_frustrated_with_my_mom_for_being/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf).
I got a much bigger response on my original post than I ever thought I would. A couple hours after I posted it, I realized I left ... | I'm so glad that this situation got sorted out and has such a wholesome ending. Communication is important in every relationship but it always seems to be the one thing people don't too until it's too late.
Hopefully whenever other issues come up in life you can look back on this as a important life lesson.
Edit: I w... |
My husband and I have, both 33, have been together since college. Over the years, he's had quite the career trajectory. He's a quant PM and makes like 10x what I make (and I make a good salary haha!). As we've grown wealthier, I've learned that people become nosier. Friends, acquaintances, relatives, you name it. In th... | I know women like her. The type to find out it's 'millions' and then starts sleazing all over your husband. NTA. |
[UPDATE IS HERE,](https://www.reddit.com/user/throwawaypoolproblem/comments/vznzde/update_aita_for_ruining_my_brothers_marriage/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) the mods wouldn't let me post because this post isn't old enough.
throwaway. this whole situation is so bizarre that I still can't really... | >he's divorcing bri because of what she did **plus some other things**
OP, you are not the reason they're getting a divorce. But if you find out the reason, please come back and update because enquiring minds want to know!
NTA. |
I'm at a loss here guys. Realistically, I know I'm in the clear. Legally, I'm in the clear. But I'm being vilified by my coworkers, and I'm genuinely considering quitting my job because of this mess.
So I work a pretty standard day job, and at night I help my friend at her restaurant, which serves an assortment of Th... | NTA - Go to HR immediately and make them aware of what is going on. You did absolutely nothing wrong and your boss's behavior is 100% inappropriate. |
For reference, my brother Connor is 19, I am 26, and my (now ex) fiancé Hunter is 28. Also for reference, already mentioned in the title, but my brother was kicked out when he was 16 because our parents snooped through his phone and found out he was in gay.
Connor had a birthday last weekend, so he invited his friends... | I’m going to have to say ESH.
**Why your brother is TA**
Bringing up your regretful teenaged mistakes is a huge no-no. I don’t know why he would think exclaiming to everyone “hey everyone, my sister is a cheater” was a great move, but I get that it was because he was drunk. Alcohol does make you do stupid things. I c... |
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Hey all. I wasn't sure if I was going to make this update, but things are getting gloomier, and I feel that I owe you guys the closure you deserve, for all the help you gave me (as well as the multiple... | Hey man.
I was diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma cancer 5 years ago. I fortunately beat it (so far) with immunotherapy drugs, however I expect it will return before I'm able to live to full retirement.
I *knew* I would be dead within 6 months. It didn't bother me at all though. Here's how I viewed it.
We live in the ... |
I have big boobs. I’m currently at 52kg and there’s nothing I can do to change the size of these things unless I have surgery. I’m also extremely shy and from a very conservative family so my resentment and shame towards my bust is an ongoing issue.
My friend *Sarah is one of those unfiltered free thinkers who says w... | Absolutley NTA. On a *work call??!!* That's workplace sexual harassment. If it ever happens again, contact HR.
Edit: I want to echo what many others below have said. You don't need to wait to tell HR- you should feel encouraged to do it now. You have witnesses who were clearly uncomfortable with the situation as well.... |
My son was born when I was only 15 years old, and I’ve been a single dad since I was 18. It was hard living for a long time money-wise but I always tried to do best by my son. Today I own my own gym and my son is now 22 and going to college and works at my gym full-time. He came out to me when he was 14 years old and I... | Holy cow NTA. You should also seriously reconsider marrying this person. Your son's feelings take obvious priority of the feelings of your in laws, *who aren't even related to your son*. |
My husband and I 30s haven't been on a trip (out of coutry) for years. while he goes every year with his best friend. his reasons for going with him is because they both go to attend sporting events.
This year, my husband told me I could go with him and his friend since they were visiting a new destination. He paid... | If you’re a SAHM then all the money he earns is SHARED FUNDS. There is no “him” paying, in fact you paid for his first class ticket as much as he paid for your economy ticket.
The level of disrespect is astounding.
Divorce him and get half plus alimony.
NTA |
This is a shitty situation but here we go.
Me and my daughter, Anya, are from India. Our native language is Hindi. She 11 years old now. Her father died when she was 5 and I immigrated to states because everyone was trying to get me remarried to a 60 year old sleazebag because "oh no. How ever will a woman live or ra... | edit: NTA.
Your husband is TA. Punishing somebody for unintentionally speaking their native language is absolutely abuse and will fuck up your daughter.
A gentle reminder is all that is needed. If your husband presses this, please leave. Your daughter deserves better than to be abused for speaking her native tongue.... |
Hello reddit. It has been a couple months since my last post and so much has happened. [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/m47ual/aita_for_being_upset_with_my_husband_for_using_my/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
I first want to thank EVERYONE who reached out and snapped me out of ... | Your marriage didn't come to an end because of a computer. It came to an end because of your SO. That just happened to be the final straw that opened your eyes to the reality of your relationship. I know this hurts, but it will get better! |
Hello!
I f23 have been married to my husband m26 for a year. I'm in my last year of university and been so so busy for the last two weeks, with many projects and finals looming. My husband complains from seeing me studying and not doing activities together or hanging out with friends anymore. I've told him it's not... | NTA
Holy shit, your husband wanted to actively ruin your future because of a fucking party you couldn't attend? What kind of husband would do shit like that. That's so fucking petty. I think he deserved a lot more than just being yelled at. I would have kicked him out immediately. |
My parents divorced when I was 3, and went into separate marriages. I had a rough childhood being split between two different households, it was really messy and made me not want children at all. When I was 20, my parents reconciled after their second marriages had ended and had my brother soon after. I had already bee... | INFO
It kinda depends how the convo went down. If I base my opinion solely off the text, you’re an asshole. I would never introduce an idea as “I’m going to do this and if you don’t like it you can leave” |
Yeah I know this sounds insane but I’m living in it.
So my sister is getting married next February, destination wedding no less. I have doubts whether this wedding is actually going to happen with the pandemic and everything but she is totally set on moving forward.
Anyways because of the pandemic, her original venu... | NTA. I would definitely send in two essays. The first would say “Mom/Dad said I have to come or I’m in BIG trouble” over and over again until you hit 250. The second, “I’m your sibling.”
ETA: Thank you for the award!!
ETA 2: Holy moly thank you guys so much for the awards and gold!!! You guys are insanely awesome. Al... |
My husbands girl best friend (we'll call her Madison) has never liked me, for reasons I guess I will never know. Anyways my fiance (we'll call him Michael) and I were having a hangout with a little bit of the friends that we shared. It was nearing the end of the night and Madison was the only "friend" left when Madison... | He not only missed the birth of your daughter, he called you grossly misogynistic names, believed his toxic friend and wouldn't even listen to you, kicked you out of the house nine months pregnant, and when you showed signs of pain from going into labor as you packed to go, accused you of faking. That he didn't ask for... |
Background: I'm (F23) one of only a few female students in a male-dominated course. Furthermore, I am at a highly prestigious university and I haven't really gotten along with the guys on my course. They are all very competitive and I just don't really enjoy their company - everything turns into a pissing contest, and ... | NTA
Any retaliation should also be reported. They're angling for some big problems if they keep this up. |
Train is packed, it's hot, I'm tired and looking for a place to sit. Everything was occupied, but at one point I see an old lady get up and start making her way to the doors. I went over to sit in new place, but found a purse in it instead, belonging to the girl in the window seat. I asked her if she could move the pur... | NTA: Funny as fuck. |
I (28F) do babysitting on the weekends to make some babysitting on the weekends to make extra cash. There is one family I definitely should've fazed out by now but the kids are cute and if I don't have another job, it's easy money. My issue is, the mom is never home on time. She used to not give me return times but ... | Nta.
One thing I’ve learned from True Crime is the wait 24 hours to file a missing person thing is a myth. She wasn’t where she said she’d be when she said and wasn’t responding to any communication. She was in fact a missing person at that point: |
[update](https://www.reddit.com/user/throwawayz_12345/comments/yy9a7e/update_on_canceling_the_plans_for_thanksgiving/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
I (32f) have been with my wife Ava (34f) for 8 years now, but we’ve been married for 5. She was a single... | NTA. Sister-in-law Sara is a rockstar…She totally tried to save that fumble. Your parents should have picked up on that and caught that pass and saved the situation . Instead they doubled down and argued the point. That’s extremely unfortunate and I’m sorry. |
I'm a bit of a jackass I will admit, but hear me out. So today I was at my parent's house to celebrate Christmas Eve with my side of the family (as this year I will be spending Christmas with my girlfriend's this year). Anyways, we opened presents up early this morning. Something I should note about my sister is that s... | NTA. She got you a wall sized tapestry of her kids. That right there makes her the asshole. |
I grow indoor plants and keep them around the house whether by the kitchen window or out on the front porch. I have a variety of plants like Lily, aloe vera, also flowers and they all require care and attention. It's a hobby of mine and because I don't own enough space I just stick to indoor planting.
I have a 16 y... | NTA. That seems like a reasonable punishment for a horrible, hateful act.
>My wife feels bad Sean hasn't been eating well since I canceled the trip
He'll get over it. |
I have a daughter(27) who was with her boyfriend for 7 years and they got engaged not long ago(just a small party, not many guests). She always talks to me about how she loved him, how he always listens to he and he was made for her. I have agreed with her, since I found i=him to be a good natured man, he was kind and... | NTA. You saved your daughter from a life of hell. Sorry she had to go through that though. I'm sure it was a shock to realize her ex and her almost-in-laws are misogynistic AH's. Hope she's doing okay. 7 years is a long time. How did this not ever come up before??? |
I’ve got a younger brother (24) with Aspergers and he’s very high functioning albeit with his quirks.
Recently I’ve moved back home during the stay at home orders to look after my parents. My brother still lives with them. I find out he’s been trying to date in recent months and confessed it’s been pretty unsuccessfu... | NTA. He asked and you gave a reasonable answer. It doesn’t even sound like you were being unnecessarily harsh. Also, it’s kinda hilarious that he calls women irrational, but he loses it after being told the truth. I’d stop coddling him. His autism doesn’t give him a free pass to be a jerk.
Edit: spelling. |
My mom is really into gardening and sometimes people have come by and stole potted plants, yard statuettes, and even dug whole plant bulbs with plants out of the ground. Or cut all the roses off her bushes because they were too cheap to buy from the florist I guess.
Anyway my dash cam of my car which I park in the dr... | NTA. These people STOLE. That's a CRIME. And instead of pressing charges or whatever you have created something TRULY DELIGHTFUL. (I wish I were half as clever as you because I'd come up with a pun of my own.)
Not only are you not an asshole, you're also my hero. |
I got married on Saturday, and it was absolutely amazing except for one thing: my parents showed up late. They knew the ceremony time, and my husband and I made it very clear to everyone, both in the invites and in person, that we were going to start exactly at that time. The venue cost us a lot of money (we paid for t... | NAH - you're not an asshole for starting on time, you had no idea how late they would be. (however I've not been to too many weddings but they did last over 15 mins seemed a bit short but that's not really the issue.)
Your parents aren't asshoels because they were literally in a car crash albeit not huge but this is a... |
My kids, 6&7, each had an iPad mini. Over the summer they were having a rough time, constantly fighting with each other and just being brats in general. I lost it one day and took their iPads away, saying they were being sold, never to be seen again. Tears were shed. The iPads were cleaned up, put back into their ori... | Altough im only 15 i would say that that is fair, they lost their ipad for a reason. So giving it back cleaned and with some accessories for christmas wouldn't be a dumb thing, i think it would also teach them a lesson or something.
(Again im just 15, you should probably listen to someone else who is an actual adult)
... |
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First of all, thank you everyone for your immensely kind and considerate responses. I am thankful to each and everyone of you to give me such beautiful ... | Happy to hear that Tippy was found but from your update there's still a long road to getting things resolved. If your little girl isn't getting a diaper change for 7 hours though that's terrible since it means she's getting no interaction either since presumably he's not close enough that the smell bothers him.
So so... |
I M39 lost my late wife 6 years ago. I have a16 year old son 'Daniel' and I recently got engaged to my fiancee of 2 years.
Her mom and I aren't on good terms because of how she behaves. She's a controlling, self-centered, Dolly parton wanna be. I learn to ignore her crap but she's been annoying Daniel and criticizing h... | NTA and if I were you I’d put off the wedding until you know for sure that your fiancée understands and will stand up for your son (and you) to her family when shit like this happens. I think the ban is 1000% justified. |
I am 100% being petty here but curious if I am actually wrong. Most of my husbands family think I am being childish and "need to let the past go", as my SIL can't afford this but her behavior toward us in the past makes me feel this is warranted.
2 years ago my house burnt to the ground after being struck by lightenin... | NTA. It’s $250/month for the room and $750/month for you having to see her stupid face every day. You’re giving her an 80% discount on the rent because she’s family. |
This has been causing a conflict with my entire family. And they think that I'm being selfish and unreasonable. Let me explain first.
I M39 lost my son in 2019 due to a chronic heart condition. He was 15 years old. It was devastating and I just couldn't take it especially when my family did little to nothing to suppo... | NTA. Ask her what her plan was for her son’s college if yours hadn’t died, and then tell her to do that. You aren’t obligated to do anything whatsoever with that money that you don’t want to do. |
I (18 f) and my identical twin sister (also 18 f, obviously) have always had a tumultuous and competitive relationship. We’ve always fought over everything; guys, clothes, friends, etc. but our relationship came to a halt a few weeks ago when a mutual guy friend of ours sent me a link to an onlyfans profile, with an at... | NTA. She exploited *your* identity for profit. She's lucky you only told your parents, instead of suing her. |
So I dated a YouTuber.
We went out for about a year and it was alright but they were so emotionally invested in their channel that they constantly neglected me and made me feel like I wasn't a priority.
Not really important why we broke up, but we broke up.
Then I get a bunch of messages from friends about 3 months ... | NTA - Actions have consequences. Her "content" could have ruined YOUR life, but nobody thinks about that huh? |
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So I thought of what everyone said and considered both sides. I decided that I didn't want this hanging over my head in our marriage. So it was tough, but shortly afterwards one night I had a few glasses ... | I'm glad you told him and I'm happy he was accepting of your past, hopefully you too have a fulfilling marriage |
I’m an author of mild success. I’m not incredibly popular, but my books sell enough. About 3 months ago, someone from my old high school reached out to see if a student could interview me.
I responded that my time at the school wasn’t the happiest, but I would give the student responses relating to my career. We had a... | NTA.
> trying to paint veteran teachers as bad people
You weren't trying to do anything, they *were* bad people.
> I’m ruining the reputation of the school and of several prominent community members
Those community members did a good job of ruining their own reputations.
It's not your fault they're finally being h... |
When I (37M) was 17 got my then-girlfriend (16) pregnant with twin boys, her parents didn’t want the babies to “ruin” her future so they said that I had to either take them or give them up for adoption because she was not raising them. I wanted to give them up but my parents told me not to.
For the first seven ye... | NTA. She is being homophobic
The world needs more dads like you |
Throwaway in case someone I know sees this, don't want them to know my main reddit account.
So I am a 30 year old man. I'm single and live alone in a house that I own. A few months ago you know what happened and my mom lost her job. So I decided to let her stay with me.
I have a medical marijuana card and smoke every... | NTA. It wouldn’t even matter if you smoked purely recreationally- you’re an adult, you have your own home and your own life, her approval isn’t necessary. It sounds like she might have been trying to “over-parent” you because moving in with you upset the power dynamic you’re used to. Good job setting the boundary and e... |
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**New Edit (11/18/20)**: Things did not go as planned. I can't give you an update now, but soon. Really sorry.
**Little update on the apology**: it's not out. She said she needed more time to prepare her... | Good for you! And I’m sorry your family is so awful. |
Throwaway account, English is not my first language, I’m on mobile - I apologise.
I (27F) have been married with my husband (M32) for three years and haven been dating for a little over 5. My husband has this friend (F31) ‘Mary’. They’ve known each other since they were in high school and she’s considered ‘one of th... | NTA
I think your husband needs to re-evaluate the fact that he’d be friends with someone that’s so disrespectful to his own wife |
For some reason my 14 year old son cannot wipe properly. This was never a concern to me as his mom did the laundry.
Unfortunately she is sick right now so I have taken over the household chores that she used to handle. My son is still responsible for his and I do mine as well as hers.
First day I did laundry I ... | NTA. 14 is a little late in life to be learning how to clean your butt after using the toilet. Your wife is doing him no favors by allowing and coddling this behaviour. |
I (21f) have a brother (28) who came out as gay last month. He has been married to my best friend's big sister (24) for four years, they have 2yo twin daughters together. I'm really close with her, so I've been trying to stay neutral in what has become a messy separation.
My brother told his wife he's gay by sitting ... | NTA. Him coming out does not absolve him because he’s a fucking adult. What he did was shitty and he’s incredibly selfish. This is someone i would absolutely cut out of my life.
His wife and kids deserved SO much better and I hope they’ll be able to move on from this without too much trouble. Good luck! |
Okay, throwaway because my boyfriend knows my other account.
I (23f) moved in with my boyfriend (24m) of two years a couple months ago. We haven’t had any problems before this argument. Things had been going pretty well.
Anyways, a couple days ago, I got my period. It came early and I had ran out of pads. I couldn’... | NTA. Your boyfriend sounds immature, insecure, like a transphobe, and like he can't endure slight embarrassment to help you out. Gross. |
Hi there, this is my first post and this is a throw away. I am a 30 year old white woman with thick curly brown hair (3c if you know what that means). I have always struggled with my hair and was adopted into a family of people with straight hair who couldnt care for my hair properly leading to huge knots and regularl... | NTA, black woman here with 4c hair. You use the products and resources that best suit your needs. It wouldn't be a black vs white issue if the beauty industry recognized the need and taught students how to do all types of hair. |
My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We wanted kids but because of my health problems this wasn't possible.
We decided to go with surrogacy, my friend nominated her sister ( Brittany 29) I agreed right away cause I know Brittany and the family.
We've set everything up. Discussed payment, short and long ter... | This... may be above Reddit's pay grade.
**INFO:** Is there an actual written legal contract?
Because if there is, I don't see how she can really demand changing anything. If there isn't... Oof. Oof oof oof \*oof \*oof \*oof.
**Edit:** \- **INFO2:** \-- Okay, so there's no legal contract. Is there at least a written... |
This happened last year before the world fell apart, just asking out of boredom.
My daughter was in second grade. She was in class and suddenly felt like she was going to vomit so she tried to run to the bathroom. She didn’t make it and vomited in the hallway. However she was sent to the office for running out of clas... | They sent a 7 yo to the principal for puking instead of the nurse and then doubled down when you called them out on their lunacy?
Hell no, OP. You are NTA. |
That’s the actual quote. I’m still pissed as hell but maybe I went too far here.
My brother and I are both late 30s. We get along fine most of the time, but my brother doesn’t do well in a lot of social situations. He says things that are inappropriate, gets overly opinionated, yells a lot etc. He just doesn’t seem ... | NTA
When I wear makeup, I do it *for me*. No my husband or any other man. Me. Many women are the same way. Your brother jumping to "she wants to cheat because she is wearing makeup again" is absolute misogynistic garbage and he needed a dressing down.
You sound great and seem to really love and appreciate your wife ... |
So I'm an engineer and I'm working on a team with 7 decently chill guys and one guy with anger issues. Like he can't just have a respectful disagreement, he'll raise his voice and yell and get up close to your face. I hate it.
So I started by just complaining to my boss about it. And he brushed it under the rug saying... | NTA because he is, in fact, overly emotional. Nothing you said (except maybe the tears bit) is in any way a lie or even exaggeration. Stick to the truth. |
I go to college in New York state. I am Muslim. I was very young when 9/11 happened, as were the rest of the people in my year.
There's a girl in one of my classes who's father was in the World Trade Center. He died. Of course, this is very sad, and I pity the man, but not her. She's extremely racist. She hates everyo... | Can't believe how much people are defending the racist one. So because her dad died she's entitled to be racist when she's having a bad day? No. I say NTA - she deserved it and if she does this again, I say bring up how dead her dad is again |
I’m 26 and clean from heroin for 3 years.
I was also a piece of shit and used to deal for a while.
I managed to get with a beautiful girl named Marcy when I first started getting into the thick of things. She knew who I was but she said she loved me.
I will regret this for the rest of my life, but I was the perso... | You’re not the asshole for wanting to go, YWBTA if you did go.
Your presence would not be welcomed. Go mourn privately somewhere else.
Also, edited to add: Its a dick move to use this opportunity to “do this for yourself” as you put it. Her family’s not putting on a funeral to lessen the guilt of the person who ... |
My MIL moved in with us a month ago. I began to notice my stuff in the bedroom being touched. Furniture rearranged, stuff moved et cetera...
I felt like I was going crazy because my husband is the only one who has access to the bedroom and he doesn't usually touch nor come near my things. I figured it must be his mom... | NTA, but ordering a lock for the door and kicking MIL out seems easier. If you WERE preg, how dare she announce it. So many red flags, one of you needs to go and it shouldn’t have to be you. |
This is a bit complicated, I am a stepmom to five wonderful kids. I became their stepmom when the oldest was 9. I adopted all of them but one and that is Nick. He never wanted me to be his mom which is fine. The moment he turned 18 he made it very clear he doesn’t care about me at all.
I wasn’t invited to his wedding,... | What has your husband been doing for the last however many years? Does he have a relationship with his son? How did y’all function before Nick turned 18? Where is Nick’s mother?
There’s too much missing here … but based on just the information it appears Nick is meeting the consequences of his choices.
NTA (maybe?) |
I (20m) has two younger siblings, "Joe" and "Jill". They're twins, both 18 and graduating high school this year. Jill is my parent's favorite, because they've always wanted a daughter, while Joe is their scapegoat, because I guess he's the bonus baby they never actually asked for. I'm mostly better off than Joe, as I'm... | I figured your brother was a total fuck up or something, but seems his only crime was being the boy twin. Fuck ups don't get full rides to college.
Here's the thing, of course you are NTA, but you went above and beyond, because without someone like you in his life Joe would have likely slipped into total fuck up terri... |
When my daughter was 14, wife and I decided we would buy a car for her to use on her 16th if she proved herself to be responsible, got good grades, etc. There would be a "contract" of sorts to ensure we were all on the same page. The stipulations were continuing good grades, good attitude, she could only bring one frie... | NTA. Frankly I admire your restraint. |
My dad died unexpectedly last week and my sister Jess and I lost our mom last year to a mix of cancer and the virus.
From how our family acted in the past over scavenging over dead people’s things both Jess and I decided to send out a family memo on no one is to enter or take anything from our parents house until we ... | There is nothing quite so unedifying as the rush by distant family members to grab what they can when someone dies.
Definitely NTA. |
My sister and her husband invited me over to their pool today for a little BBQ. I assumed it would just be me, my sister, her husband, my nephews, and my parents. But turns out they also invited her husband’s side of the family.
When it was time to get in the pool, I changed into my swim trunks and removed my shirt. ... | NTA, no way. Showing your scars and explaining why you have them on the spot would have been much easier for everyone. Your sister ruined her own bbq. I bet her in-laws have many questions in their minds now too. |
I (m39) have a 16 year old son with my wife (f40). This incident happened a few days ago and she's still mad at me.
I was on a work trip so my wife was at home with our son. When I got back, I found out that he had been hanging out with his friends and they convinced him to drink some beer and he got a little drunk. I... | NTA. Leslie Mahaffy, a victim of serial killers Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka, was locked out of her house by her parents the night they kidnapped her. They took turns making videos of them raping and torturing her for days before they killed her. Have your wife research that case and I bet she never locks him out ... |
I F,33 found out that my ex husband M, 37 was cheating on me when I was 7 months pregnant with our son. I got a divorce and we share custody of our 3 yro old son. My ex husband's girlfriend tried to get involved in my parenting several times, she even commented on my son's name implying that we should agree on a name... | Document, document, document. They are emotionally and mentally abusing your son by throwing out his comfort objects that help him transition between houses. And I guarantee they are saying negative things about you to your son. Document every single thing you can. Conversations, text messages, things your son tells yo... |
As my title suggests, my mom is a huge Harry Potter nut. She and my dad actually met in a harry potter “IRC” (like Disord but for old people) in the early 00s got married had kids and from day one decided to embarrass us for life by naming us after some Harry Potter and Star Wars characters.
It’s honestly been hell. I... | NTA...and your post is a great warning for all those people still thinking about naming their kid "Anakin" or "Khaleesi".
You're allowed to have your own interests, and your parents aren't making life easier by forcing things they like on you.
Edit: RIP my inbox. I had no idea Anakin was such a popular name. |
I love strawberries. I love them so much that I planted 300 strawberry plants in my garden. After I harvest, I make lots of strawberry jelly to give to my family, friends, and neighbors. I donate the leftovers to my local food bank.
Lately I've had a big problem with all the neighborhood kids coming in my yard and ste... | NTA, but you should probably get some security cameras, those kids are definitely going to start fucking with you and your plants deliberately. Best to buy a cage with a lock if you can to put over your plants. |
My biological family is dead. I was raised in foster care, and so my friends are my family. I met my late husband in college. He was just raised by his mother, who had abandoned him and later died (no adoptive family). As an adult, I've looked into both trees and our biological ancestors are, to put it mildly, really d... | NTA. The concept of life and death is complex for kindergarten age children. However, you warned the teacher and she was clear about what she expected from the project.
Also, r/MaliciousCompliance might enjoy this story. |
About two months ago, my husband and I got “married” in a beautiful ceremony. It was SO MUCH FUN. We went on a honeymoon after. The price tag makes me wheeze, but my parents were insistent on paying for 95% of it, saying it’s their only daughter’s wedding. As a result, the wedding was way more fancy than something my h... | NTA. There is a reason why you only take Carol in small doses |
Throwaway because I don't want my family tracking this back to my main.
My sister got knocked up by her boyfriend right out of highschool, got married the next year, then proceeded to pop out another baby every year or two, so she has four now at 24. She's a stay at home mom even though she was brilliant and could hav... | NTA and the next time your mom says oh your sister needs $$ and you need to give it to them just say " no, sister said God will provide so I'm giving him a turn" |
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11364rz/aita_if_i_tell_my_friend_her_bf_is_planning_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
To everyone who told me to keep my mouth shut, thank you.
So on Saturday, the day of the proposal, I got a call from her boyfriend. He was SCREAMIN... | I dont know what happened before but i really hope this poor girl sees these glaring red flags and ends things with him. |
My biological (12yo) daughter ~ Susan likes to collect and read old children's books. She's become incredible reader. She had problems with reading and learning before and we were advised to encourage her to read and eversince she started reading (which she does regularly) her skills improved. she also reads to her 2... | NTA. If your wife refuses to punish her son, then you need to divorce her, or at the very lease move into a separate house with Susan and your youngest daughter until Levi is out of the house for good. If your stepson continues to get away with hurting Susan with no consequence, Susan is going to suffer greatly. This i... |
Update to [Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/qhedvt/aita_for_exposing_my_parents_favoritism/).
I decided to go ahead and call my grandparents to accept their offer to move in. During the phone call I asked them why there was monthly payments being sent to my parents. Turns out my parents w... | >they had been counting on my rent money to help with my brother's college fund.
At that point any doubts you had should have disappeared; you're leaving forever and their only thought is "But what about money for us and your brother?!" Your parents are irredeemable assholes.
Also, I *really* like your Grandfather! |
OK so this is kinda complex, I'll make it short. This acc is just for privacy reasons
-I always had good grades in high-school, was home on time, cleaned the house etc. I never had problems with my parents before this.
-I went to med school, still living with parents when I was 20, I dated someone who was 23
-Dad ... | NTA.
Two things;
23 isn't too far away from 20. Holy shit. I feel like your parents just used that excuse as a way to control you. It's manipulative and gross to give your grown daughter ultimatums over who she dates.
You have every right to be angry. You have every right to decide who your child sees and who it do... |
Uh basically title I guess. My sister has a habit of saying "you know what really gets my goat", she probly says it 7/8 times a day. So like that tumblr post i taught my niece to say "el chupacabra" when her mom says it (it sounds more like "eh supacaba" tho cause shes four but its adorable). I told my niece it was a m... | NTA. This is what kids do, you wind them up and you set them loose. |
I am in college and my roommate from last year, Meg, who's family is really rich, said she could bring a friend on vacation. It was kinda awkward, I was her third choice but her family vetoed the first two because they didn't want her bringing a boy or this other female friend of hers they disliked.
Her parents bought... | NTA - this is no way to treat the friend of your child? Also it is no was to treat your child wtf, your poor friend |
It would seem that some popular social media personalities have decided that this is a great sub for content. The “God” Facebook page likes to mine AITA content, look for assholes, and put them on blast via TheDodo. A recent poster has also said the the “news” page The Mirror picked up his post as well. I’m sure there ... | This just makes me think about all the people who are like "throwaway because I don't want anybody to find out!" *Posts tons of identifying details* |
When I was 25, we found out that my father had been cheating on my mother for years and he had a 7 year old daughter with his mistress. In one split second, the happy family I knew was gone, and I went through the darkest time in my life.
My parents divorced and per their prenup, my mother walked away with most of the... | NTA
>"If she dies because she didn't get the treatment she needs, would you be able to sleep at night?"
It's wrong of your dad to lay this guilt on you. His daughter is his burden.
While it's not fair for a little girl to suffer, I don't blame you for not caring about her wellbeing. |
I have waited tables for the last three years.
During my shift last night, a group of four women in their late 20s came in. They were a pleasure to have as customers. They ordered four of our house cocktails to start with and then went over the menu for their entrees.
When I was on my way back to their booth with th... | Esh but you had good intentions.
She sucks for obvious reasons, you suck because you had no way to prove she was a pregnant, you altered her drink without informing her, and you made a big decision without speaking to your manager.
Edit: if she isn't pregnant, OP is the sole asshole here (for the same reasons mentio... |
This has going on since forever so decided to do something. I’m (16m) half Mexican from my dad’s side and my mom’s side is Scottish. Ngl most of my mom’s family is high key racist and is been problems sometimes growing up. My grandma on my mom’s side never liked my dad and was happy after they divorced when I was 7.
M... | Adults and the elderly don't like it when they're given a dose of their own medicine. NTA Emiliano is not a difficult name to pronounce and your grandmother's not respecting you when she's always mispronouncing it, so why should you respect her? It's a two-way street, and you don't owe her respect just because she's yo... |
Hear me out. I (31F) and my husband tried for 5 years to get pregnant. Testing eventually revealed I have eggs of fucking steel and without medical help I'll never get pregnant. So that's what we did. Gave our samples, one petri dish and 9 months later I have 2 beautiful fraternal twin boys. Jack and Adam (fake).
Thin... | NTA at all, it’s literally a fake freckle. It’s not like you gave him a full sleeve of pin up girls and muscle cars. Also, it’s to make it harder to accidentally kill him or his brother. You made the right call.
Edit: my first gold ever and it’s from a comment about giving a toddler a tattoo sleeve. I love Reddit for ... |
I (30 F) my ex-husband (31m). Got divorced 5 yrs ago. During our divorce we owned a old single wide mobile home (1973). On a large piece of land that is zoned for a trailer park.
He wanted the new truck and our savings. I wanted the old trailer and the land.
My ex and I have 2 girls (8&7).
Since my divorce. I slowly ... | Nta
Keep a record of what goes over there and back. As you can have the child support changed to show he is taking it back |
I M37 have been with my fiancee F37 for 2 years. We're getting married soon, I've only met her family a couple of times. My daughter "Judy" F16 has never met them til very recently where they hosted dinner to celebrate 4th of july and that's when they met her for the first time.
Judy has a visible burnscar on her f... | OH, OP, your fiancee has shown her true colors. She doesn't in fact care about your daughter. If she did, she would have realized that your FMIL suggesting you "photo shop out the scar so it doesn't distract" is hella insulting. If I were you I'd rethink the wedding and that family. They owe YOU and JUDY the apology no... |
Hi. I'm a new mom, had my son 5 weeks ago. my husband's parents have been staying with us and things have been super overwhelming.
MIL has a habit of taking the baby and refusing to give him back to me. She'd say I'm deliberately ruining her time with him. My son needs feeding every 2hrs and she basically makes me ... | NTA. Pack your gear and take baby to your parents.
Re think your relationship as well, who the hell speaks to their wife like that especially after having baby.
Protect your mental/physical health at all cost. |
This might seem silly. I (24F) like wearing cheerful socks, since my uniform is all white (currently working as an phlebotomist), it usually cheers up the patients too.
I've spent a few years collecting strange socks, ones with sushi, pizza, corgis, cats, Nick Cage, etc. I think I had about 30 pairs. My boyfriend (29... | Holy shit. NTA.
Honestly this is breakup-worthy behavior on his part. He *stole* your personal property. He's trying to force you to stop doing something you enjoy because *he* doesn't like it, even though it doesn't impact him at all. He sounds like a huge controlling asshole. |
I used to visit my dad most weekends and all of summer.
He recently got remarried to someone I actually have a decent relationship with. I also have two stepbrothers who are younger and who I don't really interact with.
My dad has a four bedroom house. So all the kids have a bedroom.
When I went to visit last month,... | NTA. This is why one has to be so careful when blending families. To go from having a room to being made to feel like a guest hurts. There should have been some conversation before any renovations happened. Give your dad a chance though. He knows he messed up and does want to fix it |
I'm a 30 year old male and my best friend got married last week. I just bought a house and my wife is expecting out son in November, so I let him know I was limited in what I could contribute financially, but did tell him I would try my best. So, I wend to the bachelor party in Maine, I rented the tux, and paid for m... | ESH- here’s why:
1. Groom knew he was marrying a piece of work and instead of protecting his interests he cosigned, aided, and abetted his wife’s atrocious behavior.
2. His wife sucks for trying to regulate your wife’s body, for allowing her insecurities to cloud her judgement, and being the very definition of a brid... |
My 7 year old daughter’s doing virtual school in our living room recently. I heard her teacher address a girl named Kelly a few times, which stuck out to me because my daughter’s class is only about 15 kids and I know them all by this point in the year.
A couple times more and I realized she was calling my daughter K... | I had a teacher do that to my daughter and she only corrected herself when I started addressing her by the wrong name. Yeah NTA |
My older brother (OB) is... a bit of a bum. It's mean to say but it's true. He can never hang onto a job for longer than a couple years max and when he inevitably loses whatever job he had he starts mooching off family and friends until he can find another job months later. This entails him freeloading at their place, ... | NTA. Congratulations, you did exactly what Reddit always advises people in your situation! "If they think helping family is so important, *they* can take care of (freeloading relative)." Good job for being kind enough to give him a chance and for being strong enough to boot him out when you were fed up. |
For context, this year was the first time we would try the "elf on the shelf" with our kids. We have 3 kids, Lucas (9M), Andy (8M), and Claire (5F). Where Lucas and Andy are from our past relationships. However, Miles (my husband M37) has accepted Andy as his, and so did I (F35) with Lucas.
Every Christmas is special ... | NTA
But Jesus there's something wrong with your husband. He wanted Andy to do something wrong so he could punish him (things like destroying their clothes is not a prank it's a punishment). Your husband is hazing your children. |
So I am 22F. I don’t have much knowledge about finances and stuff as I still live at home as I’m at university. I do however pay my parents about £300 a month rent, I pay my own phone plan, buy material stuff I want or need, pay out for other services like for music or whatever and try to put as much as I can in saving... | NTA.
DO NOT LET THEM BULLY YOU INTO COMMITTING FRAUD.
The only people to blame for their debts are themselves and if you let them use your card, they’ll rack up further debt. They won’t be liable as it’ll be under your name they’ve stacked up the costs so you’ll be the one out of pocket and that’ll damage your credit... |
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Hello Reddit, I want to start off by saying thank you to everyone who replied, I was not expecting my post to get this level of attention. I have read all of your comments, and thank you on... | Imagine being jealous of the 'attention' one gets for *losing their entire family*.
My gosh. |
I moved from Georgia to the Pacific Northwest last year for a dream job after I graduated college. It was a little bit of a culture shock, because I went from being one of many black people around at any given time to often being the only non-white person in a room, let alone black person. There hasn't been a lot of ov... | NTA, I’d go for Becky and Todd. |
I'll preface this by saying that my husband (33) has a friend "Carl" (33) who he considers to be one of his closest friends. My husband sometimes calls Carl his "nicotine" because of how much he misses him and wants to spend time with him, they do everything together, they're even co workers working the same job.
U... | NTA
Uh.. no shade here. I think your husband might be into men, specifically Carl.
I’m not going to throw my wife to the curb for a friend. Compassion and empathy are one thing but this is just plain insanity.
Might want to get some therapy or have some hard convos. |
Heyo,
I'm a schizophrenic. Started when I was 22, and will last till I die. I'm active in schizophrenic communities, go to groups, the works but I am fairly private about it to most people to include friends. It's fairly common for people to think I'm eccentric (comes with the turf) due to some of my habits. Those ha... | NTA - Even if you didn't disclose your medical history, they knew enough that saying those things would fuck with you. If a "prank" doesn't leave both parties laughing, it isn't a prank, it's bullying.
Edit: Thank you for all the awards :) |
I (35M) am a single father of 3 boys (10M, 7M and 3M). Their mother died last year due to ovarian cancer. It has been a rough year to say the least. My sister got divorced 6 months ago and temporarily moved in with me and the boys. She has a son, my nephew (9M) who stays with us most of the time. My nephew and my 10yro... | NTA. Your wife died! That’s significantly different from being divorced. Good job protecting your children from her poisonous attitude. And crying due to grief is hardly being a p$ssy so good on you for showing your boys that. |
I have a big family that’s incredibly close. We have big family dinners every few months where we all meet at my great grand fathers estate and eat together. Typically how this works is that the women go cook for the time they’re there and the men don’t. Which I am fully aware it’s sexist as hell. That being said I am ... | YTA
"Why won't my gf abandon her sense of self-respect so that she can establish herself as a subservient woman-tool so that my sexist family won't mentally and verbally abuse her?! She just doesn't get it!!" |
My daughter (14yo) posted a picture of a family get together on social media. A boy from school recognized her aunt from an adult film and messaged my daughter about it. I believe he sent a video to her as well. Before this, she had no idea her aunt was in the industry. It appears that boy spread this around the school... | YTA. Stop and think for a minute what sorts of disgusting things those 14 year olds are saying to your CHILD. You don’t think they’re asking if she’ll follow in her aunty’s footsteps?
It’s beyond her capabilities right now to be expected to support the sex industry while she is directly being HURT by it. Do you under... |
My brother Tom (36m) and I (26f) have never had a really solid relationship, due to our age gap we didn't spend much time and by the time I was old enough to develop a personality he was moved out of the house.
For the last two years my brother and his fiance Sarah (32f) have been planning their wedding. And it's com... | NTA. Go to Miami. A wedding is not an event where a soon-to-be SIL and your own brother crap all over you and you smile and take it. |
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Still don't have kids (we want them but it still not happening). Friends and family are causing us constant stress about having a baby soon but it's obviously something we can't control. We only wished that they'd stop but to no avail.
So what I did was come up with ide... | NTA. How creative! “I don’t have to pay you.”
“Yeah well you didn’t have to ask something that’s none of your business but here we are”
Love it. |
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Some stuff has happened recently and many of you have wanted an update on this. Appreciate the reassurance and understanding my decisio... | Wow… they ended up calling of their whole wedding??? Guess they both dodger a bullet just because you refused to be used. Good for you. |
I have a younger sister who looks exactly like me. I am 19 and she is 16, but people have been mistakening us as twins for some time because of how close we resemble each other. We have same height, same skin tone, similar voice even.
She also has a habit of being a copycat, from way of dressing to hobbies, even pie... | NTA. Not your fault if she did it, especially if she claims she isn't copying you and it is just "coincidence". Your parents should know better than to say you should cut your hair. |
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