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7,601 | daddit | My condolences. |
7,602 | daddit | I am so incredibly sorry to hear of your loss here. I cannot even imagine the feeling. Know you didn’t fail her, though. You did everything you knew how and that’s all any single one of us could ever do. Even though she’s physically gone, you’re still her dad and she’s still your baby girl. Her life and her memory will live with you and your boys forever, because that is what dads do. Have patience and tenderness for yourself and your kids, there’s no manual on this one. |
7,603 | daddit | I am so sorry. I wish I had words to express to you what I wish I could... but words fail me here. Please don't neglect to take care of yourself, your boys will need your strength. Daddit is here for you to help carry any load we can. I am so incredibly sorry. |
7,604 | daddit | Sorry for your loss |
7,605 | daddit | I am sorry she lost her battle with whatever demons were plaguing her at the end. Do NOT take it personally. Grieve in love, not anger, because that won't solve anything for you. Counseling will help individually and together with the family. It's not your fault. Love her, still. Good luck and God Bless you and your family. |
7,606 | daddit | I am here. If you need anything. |
7,607 | daddit | Just as others have offered, Let me know in messages if you need anything at all. I might not be able to help the way you like but I’ll try what I can to help you through this time. Love you and be safe. |
7,608 | daddit | So sorry to hear about your daughter. I can't imagine the pain you and your family must be feeling. Please, if you dont do anything else, please see a professional to talk to. Love you brother. My heart aches for your loss. |
7,609 | daddit | I’m so sorry for you and your boys. This is NOT your fault and you didn’t failed her. Don’t be afraid to seek for help or company, this is literally the worst nightmare of every parents. I’m sending you all my love OP, Stay strong Dad. |
7,610 | daddit | I'm so sorry, u/speaksoftly_bigstick. I can't fathom what you're going through right now and wish I could offer more than words in support. You are in my thoughts today. |
7,611 | daddit | I'm sorry that a digital hug is all I can offer. It's ok to cry, but be strong for yourself and for your family. Daddit will always be there whenever you need an ear. |
7,612 | daddit | I can't imagine. Hang in there Dad. Hugs |
7,613 | daddit | I can’t begin to imagine what you are feeling right now. Know that we are sending you all the love in the world and hope to see you figure out what your next steps are. In my time working as a chaperone with teens we regularly got suicide awareness training and the one thing we regularly were told was that it can be nearly impossible to spot to someone that hasn’t been there themselves. We had a co-worker who ended up taking his own life, and in the letter he left behind he explained that he had decided a year before we met him what he was going to do. This gave him time to say his goodbyes subtly without raising any flags and meant he was super fun and happy. It’s clear you loved her very much, you absolutely did not fail her. Embrace therapy, take care of the other kiddos and encourage them to talk to a therapist and when you/they are ready invite them to talk with you. As with most (if not all) of the other dads here, my door is always open to you if you need an ear or distraction. Take care of yourself <3 |
7,614 | daddit | I feel for you man. Nothing anyone can say is going to make things better. Best thing I can say is find a support group of people who have gone thru it. It helps with the healing. Had a brother in law, brother commit suicide and he was in college and getting his masters degree. It just doesn't make sense. |
7,615 | daddit | I’m thinking of you man. I lost my big brother two years ago. I’ve seen the impact losing a child has on parents first hand. You are not alone. You are loved. Your family needs you as much as you need them. And you didn’t fail your daughter. Please talk to someone, anyone, but definitely seek a grief counselor. It helped my parents. |
7,616 | daddit | So incredibly sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through, but just remember that your boys need you and love you. |
7,617 | daddit | I’m very sorry OP. I truly am. I hope you and the family find peace in the years to come. Mind yourselves. |
7,618 | daddit | I’m terribly sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine your pain. I’m sending love and praying for comfort for you and everyone else who loved your daughter. |
7,619 | daddit | So sorry for your heartbreaking loss.. I will hug my family a little tighter today. I will do my best to cherish what I have left. Prayers to your family. My dads death reinvigorated a fresh connection with me and my siblings. Hopefully in some way she can bring your family a little closer. Stay strong |
7,620 | daddit | Just tears over here. I don’t know what to say. I wish you and the rest of your loved ones all the love and luck in the world. Keep up. |
7,621 | daddit | This is a tragedy of a scale I cannot comprehend. My only advice is to seek help for yourself and your boys. I am so sorry. |
7,622 | daddit | I cannot imagine the immense amount of pain you must be in right now. Thinking about you and will be hugging my little boys extra tight today |
7,623 | daddit | I have no words. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. |
7,624 | daddit | My daughter is half her age now. Her mother suffered from serious depression through her teenage years, so this is a very real fear for me. I'm holding mine and crying for yours now. Wish i could do more. Please let us know if you need anything. Post a crowdfund link if you need financial support to help pay for grief counseling or funeral arrangements. Post an address we can send flowers to. We're here for you. |
7,625 | daddit | Sending prayers and love to you and your family through this unfortunate situation. We are all here pulling for you and your family |
7,626 | daddit | I'm a suicide survivor. If you want to talk to someone who might be able to answer questions about that mental state--and about how you categorically did *not* fail her--please don't hesitate to PM me. I'll give you my phone number and we can talk. |
7,627 | daddit | Definitely get yourself into therapy. Dealing with grief is not easy and there's no shame in getting help. |
7,628 | daddit | Oh man. All I can think of is that this is the worst life can get for you. If you survive this and come through it, all else pales in comparison. I so wish there was a way to comfort you. |
7,629 | daddit | I need to begin by saying condolences to you and your family for losing your daughter. Secondly, you are not a failure. This will be something for which you’ll never really ever know the true answer, and you need to accept that because beating yourself up will not change the past. Do grieve and take the time you need to process the loss. I lost a child, and will tell you that it does get better, but it requires time. Focus on all the reasons you have to be grateful, remember the good times, and cherish the family and friends that are with you now. |
7,630 | daddit | My sincere condolences. I lost my brother this way when I was young and this worry is constantly on my mind as I am now raising my own children. The only possible advice i can offer is to not shut out your kids if you can while you deal with your own grief. My parents did that, thinking they were sparing me the pain of seeing them grieve, but not being a part of that painful time impacts me to this day. So sorry man. I truly feel horrible for the situation you are now in. Hugs from afar… |
7,631 | daddit | I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I can only imagine the hurt you are going through right now. Dont let anyone tell you how you should be grieving and what is appropriate. As someone who has lost a sibling, please, please make sure to be proactive in checking in with your other children. I felt very pushed aside during the months after my sister passed. It was like everyone was too busy being concerned with how my parents were holding up to bother to check with me. Don't let your kids wind up feeling that way. I'll be praying for you and yours every time I think of you. Take care of yourself, brother. |
7,632 | daddit | Reading your words made my heart sink. I am thinking of you. I wish I could more. Take care of yourself and your boys. Don't blame yourself. I am sure your daughter wouldn't want that And try to get all the help you can to handle this and find peace. |
7,633 | daddit | Here for an ear if you ever need. Fuck, man, I’m so so sorry. |
7,634 | daddit | Make sure you post her beautiful pic in r/lastimages. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you see her on the other side |
7,635 | daddit | I can't help thinking how it would feel if my daughter died...it would probably destroy me. She's 16 too. I'm so sorry. |
7,636 | daddit | So sorry for you loss man! |
7,637 | daddit | My deepest condolences for your loss. I sympathize with you and your family |
7,638 | daddit | I'm so sorry to hear that, just made me burst out in tears. Big hugs and love from me and my family in the UK |
7,639 | daddit | So sorry for your loss |
7,640 | daddit | I can’t even imagine. My condolences. |
7,641 | daddit | Nothing I can say is likely to make it hurt any less, but you'll be in my thoughts tonight and rest assured I have taken your advice and gotten some proper good hugs in. I'm really sorry this happened my guy. |
7,642 | daddit | I am so sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to mourn before returning to real life. But remember you still have people to fight for, and be there for your wife and kids through this tough time for you all. |
7,643 | daddit | Crying over here for you man, this is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for your loss. |
7,644 | daddit | Please welcome every ounce of help offered. And if it feels like it’s not enough ask for more. Your boys will remember forever that Dad made it ok to cry. To ask for help. To admit it hurt. I can’t take this away or prepare you for the coming weeks and months. I want to. I’m texting my 13 yr old (I’m 34) right now to remind her she is loved. If I can do anything for you, please DM. LOVE, A dad of 4. |
7,645 | daddit | What a beautiful girl. |
7,646 | daddit | Thoughts are with you. I am not in a position to try to soothe and comfort as I have no idea what you are going through but just that someone in the world is wishing you the best. |
7,647 | daddit | I love you brother, I'm so sorry this happened to you |
7,648 | daddit | I’m incredibly sorry for what you’re going through. |
7,649 | daddit | My condolences buddy. I can't imagine. Like everyone has said, we're here for you. Reach out if you need. Hang in there. |
7,650 | daddit | I hurt for you, brother. Same as all the rest, here for you. |
7,651 | daddit | Unreal, the suffering is just beyond measure. RIP |
7,652 | daddit | I'm so sorry brother. You have a whole community behind you. Lean on it when or if you need and as I'm sure others have said, feel free to reach out directly if you need to voice anything. No matter what. |
7,653 | daddit | A dad’s worst nightmare. I sympathize will your loss man |
7,654 | daddit | I feel for you. Sorry you’re going through this pain. |
7,655 | daddit | I'm sorry to hear this dude, it fucking sucks and I've lost 3 friends to suicide, I know it doesn't compare to a child but if you ever need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to reach out. Keep strong for your family and speak to a professional ASAP. Sending love. |
7,656 | daddit | My deepest condolences to you in the loss of your daughter. My love is with you. In the pain you are feeling, know you are loved and you are not alone. If you need a listening ear, I'd be happy to talk. I'm only a message away. |
7,657 | daddit | She's not gone as long as one person says her name or thinks about her. That's crap advice. I am so sorry for your loss. |
7,658 | daddit | My heart is broken for you brother. I am the Dad of 3 boys and I cannot even imagine how much you are hurting. |
7,659 | daddit | I’am so sorry for your family |
7,660 | daddit | I’m not a dad but I want to be one. I can’t imagine the pain you’re experiencing right now. I’m terribly sorry for your loss. |
7,661 | daddit | Where are you Dad? Perhaps those local could offer in person support. I’m a stay home dad in north California and can offer local meetups for a stroll and a listen. Huge man hugs mate. Edit: and I urge you to talk to your healthcare provider about counseling. Not just for you, but also how to best support your family at this time. |
7,662 | daddit | My heart is so heavy for you brother. Whatever you need we’re all here. |
7,663 | daddit | I am so sorry - sending the best internet dad wishes and hugs I can |
7,664 | daddit | I lost my second daughter. It will stay with you forever. I recommend after taking time to grieve to go to support groups. It’s not easy but it’s better to talk to people that can empathize and know exactly how you feel. There’s many helpful child loss organizations out there. I’m so sorry for your loss and I will pray for you. |
7,665 | daddit | I'm so sorry for your loss. Please look after yourself and don't be too harsh on yourself. |
7,666 | daddit | I hardly ever post on here but seriously anything you need just ask. If you happen to be in the North Carolina area I don't mind stopping by to chat if you want. I can't even imagine the pain you feel. If sharing it all helps feel free to DM me. Know that you did not fail and you are loved. I do know that's hard to accept but please accept the fact that you are loved. |
7,667 | daddit | That’s terrible. I’m so sorry. |
7,668 | daddit | I don’t know what to say, only that I’m so sorry for you loss. She looked like a lovely young lady and she was no doubt a credit to you. |
7,669 | daddit | my heart grieves for your loss brother. i shall say a prayer for you & your family. please seek therapy & counseling to deal with this loss. |
7,670 | daddit | I can't comprehend the loss you feel, but I'll pray for you and your boys. My best friend lost his daughter and it affected his 2 sons in life altering ways. They need you. Don't assume because they don't show anything that it isn't there. |
7,671 | daddit | I’m so sorry, as someone who struggled with suicidal thoughts and as a father of a 2yo. This brings pain in my heart. DM me if you need help, advice or anything else. |
7,672 | daddit | I posted earlier but I just saw your daughters photo… she was beautiful… I can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling… I’m so sorry for you and your families loss… |
7,673 | daddit | As a father to a baby girl who’s only 1 I really felt this post. My deepest condolences to you and your family I’ll keep you in my prayers tonight. |
7,674 | daddit | Fuck. I can’t begin to tell you how sorry I am. Even though I don’t pray I’ll pray just for you and your family. |
7,675 | daddit | I’m so sorry guy. I was 16 when I had attempted to end my life and now I have an 8 month old, I hate that anyone has to go through this. |
7,676 | daddit | I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling. I have nothing comforting to say. I hope you and your family can one day find some sense of peace. Be there for each other and let others be there for you. |
7,677 | daddit | I know there's nothing I can say that will make this hurt less worse. Take it day by day and talk to a therapist. Your others kids need you. This is the time to lean on your support network and don't be shy about it. |
7,678 | daddit | I am so sorry this happened. My heart is broken for you. |
7,679 | daddit | I am so sorry to hear. Take care of yourself pops. |
7,680 | daddit | Op: BIG FAT HUGS. Its not your fault. |
7,681 | daddit | I’m going to hug and talk with my kids a little extra tonight OP. My heart hurts for you brother. |
7,682 | daddit | I'm not a dad yet, so I have no clue what to say other than add me to the list of guys you don't know on reddit that are ready to lend an ear. Hell, I'll mute my mic and just let you rant...scream...cry...whatever. |
7,683 | daddit | My gosh. I’m shedding tears for you. That’s heartbreaking and I’m sending ya hugs, man. You’re gonna make it through this. Those little guys are, too. Condolences. |
7,684 | daddit | I'm so sorry for your loss, as a father of a young 3yo girl I cannot even begin to imagine your pain and your families. There are many people here who you can reach out to. Again I'm sorry for your loss. |
7,685 | daddit | Dude I'm so sorry. |
7,686 | daddit | Generally a lurker here but as a father as two under 3yo, I can't imagine the pain you're going through. So, so sorry for your loss and I really hope you and your family can find some semblance of peace and serenity, though I know this isn't something that you all can "get over." Bottom line, it's not your fault. |
7,687 | daddit | I'm a dad that struggles with the same impulses that took your daughter. It has nothing to do with the people around me and nothing to do with you. Thank you for posting. It is a good reminder for me to be here for the people around me |
7,688 | daddit | Hey man, stay strong, but there’s nothing I can say to make this better. Just know from Texas, we feel you man |
7,689 | daddit | I've seen this post super late and I'm sure you've got enough people saying the same sort of thing, but I'm always open for a DM if it would help in any way. I'm so so sorry for your loss, your daughter was a beautiful girl and I'm sure her lil bros are beautiful too. I hope whoever it is you were waiting on to speak to has helped somewhat already, even if just to help tell your boys what happened. I think it's a bit of a cliché but you gotta remember that those boys will need you as much as you need them right now, the most important thing to remember that she loved all 3 of you and that all 3 of you will love her forever too. Thinking of you my guy x |
7,690 | daddit | I’m heartbroken to read this. A friend of mine happens to be well versed with grief as well and I’d be remiss if I didn’t share his blog with you. I hope you find some peace brother. https://open.substack.com/pub/improvingman?r=qdg11&utm_medium=ios |
7,691 | daddit | From one dad of a daughter to another, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I feel it man, the agony coming through your keystrokes. If I could take a little slice of that pain away I absolutely would. Stay strong for those boys and don't forget that it's okay to cry. Here for you man. |
7,692 | daddit | Damn bro. No words. Time heals all. You’ll never be the same again though. We can’t possibly know what demons others face, good luck brother. Peace be with you. |
7,693 | daddit | I'm in the UK, so probably awake when a lot of other dads here aren't. I'm here to listen in those dark hours you won't be able to sleep. I'm so sorry dude, just so fucking sorry. |
7,694 | daddit | Can't imagine the pain you have right now. I'm so sorry sir. Giving you a huge digital hug and hugging my kids extra tight today |
7,695 | daddit | No advice or no wisdom to give. Just here to give you an e-hug for as long or as short as you need and an ear should you need it. Sending you love. |
7,696 | daddit | Love and support man. |
7,697 | daddit | ALL the love and hugs to you and your family |
7,698 | daddit | My heart breaks for you, and I am so sad for your loss. I feel I am failing you with words, please know that. I don’t know you but I will listen if you need to talk. You did not fail her. I promise you that. There was a pain inside of her that was so deep and terrible that she could not bear to where she felt she had no other way. Please do not carry her pain for her; love her memory and her soul and you will always have her with you. You are not broken, this is tragic. My gosh, no one should have to bury their child. I am so sorry, friend. |
7,699 | daddit | The initial pain is immense, but the lingering grief can be suffocating. We are here for you, no matter the time, no matter the day. If you need support, my DMs are open (as are many others' here I'm sure). I'm not sure what part of the world you're in, but if you need in-person support, I'm sure we could manage that too. One moment at a time brother. Kiss your sons and be there for your family. Much love. |
7,700 | daddit | I can’t scroll through all these comments so this has probably already been repeated ad nauseum, but here goes. 1. I am so, so, so sorry. I simply can’t imagine the pain. What a nightmare. 2. I hope you’re engaging a therapist ASAP. This is a full-blown trauma event and you need professional help if you can swing it. Your boys will too. Fuck. I’m so sorry, OP. |
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