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I cannot fathom why people choose grits over oatmeal. The texture is unsettling.
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Mine would find a way to burn noodles as that’s the only thing our kids eat 98% of the time
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Yeah I've never taken a picture of my wife. Been together 15 years. She'd kill me
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Same, I also can't think of a situation where either her or me thinks "there should totally be a picture of myself in this moment".
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Congratulations!!
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I use Amazon photos as backup storage. I'm sure most of the services has those stats
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Wish Google still offered free photo backup still with their phones. I'm going to have to start paying soon.
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Yuuuup. It takes every ounce of memory that I can muster to even take pictures of my kids.
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Ok, so here's my idea that I'm so bummed doesn't exist (or at least I haven't heard of it yet) as I can't be the only person to think of this... A tag that you can put on photos for timed deletion. For when you take a picture of a weird part to match at the store or a shopping list note or whatever. Just set it to delete in a week or a month or whatever, and then you don't have to worry about doing it later. Hell, if the worry is people accidentally deleting things, it could be when the time is up, a notification of "hey, still wanna delete this?" Pops up and you can just wipe it from there.
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Add in the odd note, shopping list, or price tag/item in a store and you'll see my photo gallery too.
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Thank god I'm not the only one I was like.... Stopped taking photos of her....I never started
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Don't forget daily pictures of the thermostat so you can compare when you get home!~
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hah. I'd say about that accounts for about half of my pictures as well. But the other half is pretty much all my daughter.
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Yeah, this is the trick. You won't upset anyone with a reduction in pictures taken of them if you never took pictures of anyone to begin with!
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I take the view that you’ll have the memories forever but they’ll also last longer if you take some pics. So always try to get some awesome shots in the middle of an outing and then try and put the phone away for the rest. The kids absolutely love seeing everything we’ve done over the years on the nest hub.
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Mine has family photos, "window shopping" photos where I take a photo of something to remember it later rather than impulse buy, and pictures of CNC alarm screens, electrical enclosures, and grimy mechanical assemblies, lol. I'll have a rating plate for a hydraulic pump next to a video of the kids playing in the tub. It is what it is.
9,717
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Every year I make a photobook of our family for Christmas for us. I also make knock-off versions as presents for the grandparents. It's a huge job but we love having them.
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I've been thinking, do you think love grows exponentially or does it just start getting divided at some point? If you love someone 100% and then you add another person to the mix do you cut a peace out of that "love pie" for the new addition? Or does the overall pie grow so you just have more love to give? Does this even make sense lol
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That's a 2 way street.
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My memory is shocking and I love that we took videos as well as photos. I'd forgotten what their little voices and accents sounded like at various ages I think my mind just uses their current older kids voice.
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Everything in moderation. Take photos, take videos, it's important for posterity but also don't make it a mission to document everything... because at some point you'll get to the point where you're living your life through your ~~camera lens~~ phone screen, and that's you being a videographer, not a father. You want your kids to do fun stuff _with_ you, not _for_ the camera.
9,722
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I've asked my husband for a professional photoshoot for Christmas, there's a few that take photos while you're just walking through a forest or in nature.
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Is this at all relevant? OP didn't express any concern with their picture being taken. Their partner did. Everyone has different needs. Don't try to turn this into some misandry. He changed his habit, she noticed. Please pay attention.
9,724
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Oh sure. Neither of us go for glamour shots or anything, but a good memory from time to time is fun.
9,725
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Like I said at the end there, it's not about *pictures* per se, it's about being aware of the little things you might have been doing as a couple / for your SO that through the simple fact that you now have a load of other responsibilities, you subconsciously drop.
9,726
daddit
I think you're kind of proving a point. Moms often tie all their value to their children and give up a sense of independence and true self-worth. OP is trying to be purposeful in showing his wife that he appreciates HER for who she is in addition to being a mother. Also, taking pictures is like, the least harmful way you could be "looking at a screen" today.
9,727
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Hey you do you but it's not weird to snap a candid picture here and there of your SO.
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I think in this case there’s a time and place for both The way I look at, if something happens, I want as many pictures to show our kids as possible. And ya never know, maybe she likes being treated like a model and you her paparazzi. Never hurts to ask.
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It’s also pretty darn important for your kids to see you like that with your spouse. They need to see healthy, loving relationships in action in order to know how to do it themselves.
9,730
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"delete it"
9,731
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This is honestly one of the most supportive, non-toxic places on Reddit and I love it.
9,732
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OP are you cheating? Is your SIL hotter than your wife? What aren't you telling us? /s
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Delete Facebook and Hit the Gym! --r/relationship\_advice
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Go complete no contact! Marinara everywhere! - r/AITA
9,735
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Oh man, I've never looked in there before. Even at a brief glance I can see you're not even exaggerating!
9,736
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Ugh...should I go venture into that subreddit and get annoyed at the comments? Edit - found someone asking if this FIL should be around their kids >5 years ago FIL ummm fondled our intact male dog twice. To completion. FIL laughed about it and husband said it was construction guy humor but that it was strange. Okie dokie I have seen enough
9,737
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Or AITA. IF the story is not fake we have a onesided and biased view of the happenings. And oh boy, perceptions of the same situations can be lightyears appart.
9,738
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r/moms have already spent the child support and alimony.
9,739
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The "I am a SAHM that doesn't cook, clean, spends all the money at Target, and let myself go, why is my husband garbage" sub?
9,740
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Hire Facebook, hit a lawyer, delete the gym
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/r/Relationships be like “dump them, lawyer up, hit the gym”.
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Instructions Unclear, I burnt the lawyer down.
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Sorry to hear that, man. Life can be cruel. I just got told I didn't love her enough and that it was basically all my fault she cheated and left me for another guy. While I wasn't perfect and may have got comfortable at times. I didn't deserve any of that treatment. I loved her very much and still do but hate her so much right now for making me feel lost and dead and not showing any remorse. But I have my two beautiful children who brighten my day and keep me up to keep pushing forward. It's been a loooong year, but it just feels good to type and get it out.
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Hope you are happy bro
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There's a 20,000 picture limit per album. It fills up pretty fast
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There's a brand new dance based on an old phrase. It's called the Fat Dog and it will amaze. You've heard this phrase your entire life, it's not made up, it's not made up!
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too soon!!
9,750
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Fat Dog it!
9,751
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Dude, too soon!
9,752
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Bear down, Chicago bears.
9,753
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I'm 2 weeks from finals.
9,754
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Old people - the midterms were a month ago what are they talking abou....
9,755
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Unexpected my cousin Vinny?
9,756
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Are you telling me the laws of physics cease to exist in YOUR kitchen?
9,757
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well he's also divorced...
9,758
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When I try to take candid pictures of my wife she quickly stops what she was doing and glares at the camera. Drives me nuts. I have 10+ years of pictures of her glaring at the camera. At the same time she always complains that I never get good pictures of her.
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Whenever my wife doesn't want her picture taken cuz she says she looks bad, is still in pajamas, hasn't showered etc. I usually say "it isn't for you or for me or to show anyone, it's for the kids." And then she usually lets me. I hate having my picture taken as well so she says the same to me. It's pictures of us and our lives for our kids to have later on.
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I realized that every culture has their version of “grain slop” that pretty much everyone else thinks is gross. My wife is from New England and loves oatmeal, I’m from Georgia and love grits and we can’t stand each other’s native grain slops. I lived in southern China for a bit and hated their rice gruel shit too.
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It goes better if you like adding meats and/or cheeses to your bowl than oatmeal in my opinion.
9,762
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Because shrimp and oatmeal sounds terrible.
9,763
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Cream of wheat is the real MVP of breakfast gruel
9,764
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I have a pan that still has a char mark on it from a roommate a decade ago who burned noodles in it. To this day I'm not sure how she managed it.
9,765
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haha, thanks but that was last year and we welcomed her April 2022. She's been a true joy!
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The worst is when you are going somewhere and you get told ,"Make sure you take pictures..." Oh man, it's like pulling teeth..
9,767
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I have a box of vga cables from 2004. Do you think I'd delete QR codes from 2010?
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My photos are in Microsoft OneDrive and immediately & automatically upload from my phone (not losing photos to a phone failure ever again!). The annoying thing is every screenshot gets uploaded too, so I have to open OneDrive and delete them, but every day 'On This Day' shows me photos from previous years - like Facebook/etc but all of them and private. Sometimes unnecessary photos hang around for a year before getting deleted.
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Dude, you don't have that shit on wifi with alarms letting you know when it's been changed?
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Sounds like a ton of work, but good on you for making it a priority! A+++
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I believe everyone we meet has the potential to be someone we love (like platonic, familial kind) and our hearts expand to include them.
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I like to think of love being like fire and not water. It spreads to whatever it touches and grows, as opposed to being a finite source that depletes when it’s used.
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Love multiplies for sure. And when you bring someone new into your family, you'll also discover new ways to love the people who were already there in relation to that person -- loving your spouse as they become a parent as well, or your child as they become a sibling.
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That's a thoughtful question. For my wife and I, we've talked about how our love for our child is different. It doesn't take away from our love for each other, but rather it's a newer, on-its-own-level love. I will say that my love for my wife has changed (and to use your words, grown). My love for her as a mother expands on my love for her before our child.
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Ok? This is daddit. Philo is offering a word of advice for DADS. Your reply just feels like a resentful disclaimer.
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Absolutely. Was gonna add that but figured it should be understood and assumed.
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I know it’s a likely conclusion to jump to, but it’s possible this fellow dad is really just curious if their spouses take pictures of them. (I was. For no reason other than “is this something my wife and I should do more of for each other?” - which I already know the answer to.)
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This was of curiosity into the dynamic of their relationship. They clearly seem to be doing something right. OP was welcome to not respond. I know this is the Internet, and worse, reddit, but please don't try to accuse and attack when there's no need to.
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No need to ask, we played that game for many years, I was her personal photographer and loved every minute of it, but marriages evolve beyond certain *filters* of functionality --- pun intended.
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Absolutely! Especially boys seeing their moms be loving and daughters see their dads be loving. Consciously or not we seek a person who models our parents love for each other in our partner. So being the right kid of example is so important. Happy Cake Day!
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I’m a young woman, no kids. Though I hope to have some someday. Love being here (and I hope it’s ok). If I ever get married, I will recommend this group to my husband. Wonderful place and dads.
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Send pics! Oh wait. He doesn’t have any. Boom. Roasted. (Jk. Good post.)
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OP
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Alfredo flags all over the place!!11!!!
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God no joke, I just went in that sub for the first time in a long while and wow, what a toxic hateful place.
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That sub is a toxic cesspool. I generally avoid advice subs, but that one is especially terrible.
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Forgot LWYRUP
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By itself, that is not terrible advice. Granted I keep facebook for the sake of older and especially out of state relatives.
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That's how I feel about r/relationships it's mostly people who don't know how to communicate and people responding with limited information using their imagination to fill in the rest.
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If the stories are real in the first place
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Whenever I see this I confuse it with r/ATLA
9,792
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You've never jerked off a dog for laughs? Fucking prude.
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/r/divorceddads/ Sorry everyone, didn't mean to bring the discussion down.
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Very soon ex, yes. The first thing established is custody and visitation.
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Sounds terrible
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Jesus, how many pictures do you take of your kids!? I also try to stay on top of my photos now. I'll pop in once a week or so and delete all the extras that weren't very good.
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And you can look it up on Wikipedia.
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IT’S A BEAR DANCE!!!!
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I am studying for finals this weekend at least I am supposed to
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Fat dog for midterms!