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2,901 | Do you do other things to help feminize your face? Hormones work wonders but their effects can be amplified by putting a little effort in. Make-up, tailored eyebrows, taking care of your appearance all help. Losing weight also helped me look less masculine.
But are you sure its not all in your head? We're our own harshest critics, and are so used to seeing our "old" faces in the mirror that we rarely appreciate how far we've come. Do your friends comment on how much you've changed? Sometimes it helps to believe them.
FWIW lots of attractive women have protruding chins: Reese Witherspoon, Meg Ryan, Hilary Swank. So try not to let it bother you too much (easier said than done). | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,902 | Coming from a parent, this "well... you can still visit us as much as you want... it's not like this changes anything, right?" reaction is a lot better than alternative reactions, like cutting you off from their lives completely. That's what I consider a truly bad reaction. If my extremely conservative parents reacted like yours, I'd actually consider that a good reaction. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,903 | Woah this like... Showed everything wrong with sjws so eloquently and in so few words, I love it | Transphobic | TumblrAtRest | Comment | Reddit |
2,904 | Except for "try to find an area on your skin that does not get squeezed or stretched a lot", no; sorry. But I'm kind of relieved that it's not just me... | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,905 | Haha! "Grievance mongers," I 'm going to use that from now on. | Not Transphobic | TumblrAtRest | Comment | Reddit |
2,906 | I know that letters are a common way that people come out- but I still feel like if in-person is an option it's a better way to talk to someone that you think is going to be supportive. Maybe text her and just tell her you need to talk to her about something and want to make some time? I would guess that if you are close enough to want to tell her first that she'll be willing to make some time for you if you tell her you need that. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,907 | As a non American, why does today being a public holiday mean that new TV episodes are not aired? Really craving new episodes of Game of Thrones and Silicon Valley. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,908 | i suddenly realize i should have added something like (TW: Not Tumbler) or (TW: Facebook) to the title. Sorry about that =( | Not Transphobic | TumblrAtRest | Comment | Reddit |
2,909 | Am I linking right? Lemme know how to fix this if it's not how you reddit. | Not Transphobic | TumblrAtRest | Comment | Reddit |
2,910 | I think [Whitman-Walker](http://www.whitman-walker.org/page.aspx?pid=475) in DC does informed consent if you can get there (MARC and then bus/metro?). | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,911 | I assume this is a normal epilator with a rotating tweezer-type mechanism.
a) make sure to take off the protective/sterile cover if it has one
b) your hairs need to be of sufficient length, usually manufacturers will say around 3 to 6mm. Shorter and the tweezers might not catch all, longer and becomes a mess with breaking hairs and ill-defined pulling.
c) epilating your facial hair will probably be a test of your pain tolerance | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,912 | I would try to find an early version of the Standards of Care. My guess is it'll either be addressed directly or you can find a citation. Recall that WPATH was HBIGDA until relatively recently. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,913 | Without knowing your journey to get to this point and how your feelings have evolved over time, it's difficult to give any advice beyond seeing a therapist. I do know of a trans woman who had vaginoplasty and then a phalloplasty years later due to regret over removing her penis, but her identity as a woman never wavered. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,914 | > Wouldn't it make more sense to strive to break down these gender roles and barriers?
Sure, I'll get right on that. I'm sure by the time we live in a genderless utopia, I'll be happy with my appearance, my body, and the way people interact with me. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,915 | You don't need to fit *anywhere* right now. You could be a binary-identified trans man, you could be non-binary or genderqueer, you could contemplate your gender of a while and conclude you're a woman. You're not obliged to change your genitals to be trans or to live as a man. Likewise, you're not obliged to live as a man to be trans. If you can find it, you might like reading *Finding the real me: true tales of sex and gender diversity* which has people of all sorts of different genders talking about their experiences. I don't know that it'll help you *know*, but I remember it helping me feel better about not knowing. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,916 | For me personally, I don't bother engaging people like this, because it only serves to upset me and I feel like I get nowhere trying to convince anyone that they're being hurtful. It feels like a drop in the bucket in the grand sceme of things, especially when your comments will usually get downvoted and hidden, which is like the drop in the bucket evaporating.
I won't speak for everyone else, but I will say I appreciate the effort of at least planting the seeds in people's minds that they're being hurtful, and get called out on it as not funny and not being a decent human being. Reddit usually holds better discussion content than say, a youtube video, which is always a lost cause to engage anyone. So it might not be a complete waste of energy, but it's really up to you. In theory, it's better to educate people than let them get away with transphobia, but you have to pick your battles. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,917 | No personal experiences, but I want to say the trans-focused PFLAG group is in like Aurora or somewhere, which might be the people to ask. I remember looking it up and realising neither of my parents was ever going to go out there. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,918 | Regaining fertility: My doctor has told me that going on MtF HRT and then off after two years, fertility would be very likely to recover (but no guarantees of course). Some people regain fertility even after seven years on HRT. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,919 | Not everyone takes the same path in understanding or expressing their identities. It follows that not everyone will feel the same way about their transness. I don't think there's anything immature about remaining a part of the trans community after you've already transitioned, it's only natural to feel kinship with those who have experienced the same difficulties in life as you. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,920 | The appointment only took a week to get, and the waiting was really about funds and working myself up to do it.
It was all very quick, and they were able to call at the end of the day and tell me if I needed to come in for a second sample. (I didn't, and injected myself with e the next morning :D )
I presented male when I went, but told them I was undergoing hormone treatments, and I wasn't mistreated or anything. (In Philadelphia at least).
Also, I feel it's worth noting that the provided erm "reading material" was all cis heteronormative girls. So, bring your own ;) | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,921 | What country/state do you live in? The rules vary wildly depending on where you are. And you'll probably need parental consent if you're 15. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,922 | Honestly never saying anything yo you again is pretty charmed compared to how most people, mine included, family react to the news. I wish my aunts uncles and cousins had been quiet. No such luck. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,923 | I'm assuming you're in the US. You can change your name, at any time, to whatever you want. They don't care that the name is typically for another gender, and they don't need to know that you're Trans. So no, you don't need to see a therapist first.
See [T-Vox](http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=US_Name_Changes) for all the info you need. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,924 | It makes perfect sense that your friend's lack of initiative is frustrating you. I have a sibling who knows what they want out of life, but won't go through the simple necessary steps to get there. It's grating to hear that kind of complaining, when they could just, you know, do something about it.
I don't have a lot of advice for you, because a big part of transitioning is dependent on the trans person's grit and determination. It sounds like your friend may have a hard time with dysphoria until they can get their act together and take the steps they need to. I guess you could either be their shoulder to cry on and take occasional flack for not forcing them to be who they want to be, or you could tell them to summon their will and do what needs to be done and let them know that you won't let them blame you for their lack of initiative. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,925 | Your chromosomes didn't change. All babies are sort of female by default, but the y chromosome tells mums uterus to introduce androgens and stuff once you've developed to a certain point. You had the y chromosome from conception, it just didn't do anything at first. You actually start to develop labia in the womb, but then the androgens come in and interrupt all that, causing growth of testes and stuff. That's actually where the seam on the scrotum comes from. Most people don't realize it, but males also have a clitoris. It's just not very large, or sensitive, and is internal. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,926 | I almost got spanked by a hairy man as part of a demonstration at the BDSM section of SF Pride. I backed out when he wanted me to take off my underwear, as I'm not too entirely comfortable with my two best friends seeing my junk and ass in all their horribly hairy glory.
After Pride, we went to Folsom and had lunch at a really cool BDSM cafe. I was thrilled to see gender-variant people there as well as the various pride flags (Including the asexual one!) hanging on the wall. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,927 | you are whoever you want to be. nobody can decide that for you, nor does it need to be decided. if you are uncomfortable in your body, change it! its that simple. lots and lots of guys question their gender at some point in time. whether or not they choose to transition is solely based on their own thoughts, and nobody told them they had to.
sexuality shouldnt coincide with your beliefs in your gender. if you like it all, then who cares? being a woman is much more than having sex and wanting an easy bake oven. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,928 | There was someone who linked to an article about an elderly woman who transitioned many decades ago. She looked awesome and even a bit regal. Tried to find it again but no luck. :/
Anyway, physically it's not all that different than cis women. All the older ladies that I've seen (and that have been on hormones for several decades), look just as you'd expect an elderly woman to look like. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,929 | Testosterone is also produced by some other organs, although in much smaller amounts that the testes. Trans women still have some testosterone after the testes have been removed, although probably less than cis women as the ovaries do produce some testosterone as well.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Testosterone#Biochemistry | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,930 | Sure. Look to androgynous people who were assigned male at birth and have been through male puberty. Plenty of cis guys look androgynous anyway, and plenty more consciously make themselves appear more androgynous. Having been through male puberty and having male hormone levels doesn't necessarily mean you look, or have to look, super masculine. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,931 | Just a couple of thoughts:
Eyebrows: you can start plucking without people noticing what's different. You don't have to go full femme shaping, but tidying them up can make a big difference in overall appearance (you'll look more groomed/put together)
Shaving: depending on your wardrobe/confidence, you could start shaving your legs or whole body. Even if you're wearing shorts, a lot of MAABs shave for various reasons, often sport.
Nails: if you traditionally bite your nails, use trimmers and get a nail file. A clear coat of polish will generally go unnoticed, but can make your hands look that little bit prettier.
Toiletries: women's deodorants aren't usually strong enough for MAABs but you could switch out your shampoo & conditioner (or start using conditioner, if you don't already) for something more feminine and start using a body lotion when you get out of the shower. | Not Transphobic | genderfluid | Comment | Reddit |
2,932 | They're probably skittish about bringing up something that might be personal or sensitive, and they might be worried about offending you or seeming ignorant. You probably don't want to talk about it *all* the time, but if you need to talk about it with a close friend or want to mention it occasionally in conversation, that's probably fine. If you show that you're willing to talk about it casually, people will probably follow your lead. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,933 | Not all trans people get bottom surgery. There are many reasons why and if you don't get it, then you don't get it. It's not like there aren't other ways to fill in on that regard in the bedroom. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,934 | You should probably talk to your surgeon, if you're worried, but as far as I know, one of the biggest factors for both depth and width(?) is simply the shape of the pelvis, and not the size of the pre-op penis. I can after about 6 months and not huge amounts of effort take a dilator that's about 10.5 cm in circumference and 13 cm in length, which isn't huge, but not tiny either. (I can freely admit that I haven't tried as hard as I could have with my dilating, since I have no real intentions of having PiV sex) | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,935 | There are a few options that I can think of.
1. Have the conversation in a setting that is comfortable for you. It doesnt matter where or when. Do it somewhere that you feel safe and can spend some time going over things.
2. Write them a letter and leave it somewhere for them to find it. This will keep either of you from needing to come up with the words that you want to say on the spot which can be refreshing. It also lets you both be careful with how everything is phrased and make sure that what you say is what you mean. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,936 | Hey Sage, I'm stickying this for now since it definitely needs an answer (not that others don't) and I don't feel qualified to speculate. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,937 | Doubt it. Thyroid has to do mainly with metabolism, so if you have a totally treatable thyroid problem, there should be no reason you can't continue HRT. An overly conservative doctor may disagree. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,938 | It's charming because the quote *describes* the essence of feminism, how we are forced into roles based off of our sex, trained to be beautiful, demure, quiet, or whatever, and yet this level of gender is celebrated in feminism now under the guise of "choice". | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,939 | If you have your name changed with the Social Security administration, you shouldn't have any issue changing the name on your driver's license. There's a form for a name change and a form for the name + gender change; I don't think name change has any special restrictions on it besides the SSA name change, but the gender change form definitely requires a doctor's signature for "sufficient gender transition". After they check with SSA, they'll give you a temporary driver's license with your new legal name and then a driver's license card.
California does have provisions for a *common law name change*, which should make it legal to have your insurance in your current name. However, it might cause you some problems if your vehicle insurance and the name on your driver's license is different. So don't get pulled over until you get your driver's license changed :P | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,940 | Thanks!
Your list was really helpful last time you posted it.
(Also, tooting my own horn here: /r/transtexas exists) | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,941 | 20 is fairly early to start, although you're still mostly post-puberty so there'll be some stuff to deal with. You're going to want to look for a gender therapist in your area - saying where you're from might help us recommend. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,942 | And my heart is trying it's best to burst out of my chest. I'm scared this will suck. Big time. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,943 | I got a CT and I was told by my GP later that the technicians noticed I had gotten 'some surgery', but never got told of an option to see or get the files when at the site. How did you go about getting those files? (I've always thought it'd be neat to have a computer model of my brain, or pix from my surgeries or whatever... Not common to get a view inside your own body.) | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,944 | I don't have a lot of direct experience with this, but from what I understand it should work something like this.
1. Go to a counselor and confirm that you are transgender
2. Obtain a letter from this counselor.
3. Get a referral to an endocrinologist to perform various blood tests to determine if you are able to take them.
4. Obtain prescription either from your regular doctor or the endo.
This isn't going to necessarily be a super quick process, and depending on where you live, it will either be easier or harder. | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,945 | How old are you? Do you live with her? Are you financially dependent on her? | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,946 | I just checked ebay US and there are more than 6000 pairs of "men" sneakers available in size 13. Most of them probably won't qualify, but some of them are def unisex and you could get one of the cheap white ones and customise them - I read that nailpolish holds really well on sneakers, but never tried it myself.
Sadly, the US shoe size chart seems to be an utter mess with four scales for adult feet: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shoe_size
I'm guessing most sneakers won't count as "athletic" shoes, but at the interesection of sneakers and running shoes, things might get problematic.
Edit: Chucks are available in large sizes in nice colours.
Edit 2: "how to dye sneakers" gives some good instructions online: https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=how+to+dye+sneakers | Not Transphobic | ask_transgender | Comment | Reddit |
2,947 | Yeah those images are incredibly fucked up. What's even more fucked up, is apparently I knew about this years ago but it didn't even register to me as significant? I've read all issues of Pink and Black Attack (the publication she is referring to and, hell, I even know some of the ~~people~~ men who have wrote for it) back around 2009/2010 and I don't remember their comments on MitchFest. That disturbs me. Was I so wrapped up in queer theory that I was unable to see through it all and identify with my sisters? Or was it because I didn't feel like I *could* say anything? Either way I don't even remember what stance I had on it at the time. Still disturbing to me as now I can clearly see how very wrong and anti-feminist those posters and graffiti are and it very much pisses me off.
Mitchfest is going on right now (till the 10th) and I hope the women there are having an amazing time... | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,948 | Without knowing what kind of hair you have, or what kind of length it is at present, it's kinda hard to give advice, but I'll throw out a couple of suggestions for unisex hair.
[The pixie cut](https://www.google.ie/search?q=pixie+cut&espv=2&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=4ifnU5GlCoLH7AaSlYHgDQ&ved=0CB0QsAQ&biw=1366&bih=643) is a wonderful style for 'guy length' hair but with cutesy feminine style, but I have to admit I like leaving [a bit more length on top](http://cdn2.stylecraze.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/short-haircuts-for-women.jpg). So long as you get it trimmed in nice and neat at the nape of your neck, you'll be able to leave it unstyled for lazy boy look, and then add some product and texture for sexy girl look :) | Not Transphobic | genderfluid | Comment | Reddit |
2,949 | Another brilliant take down of this anti-lesbian bullshit.
http://patheticfallacies.wordpress.com/2014/08/10/over-it/
No cotton ceiling, eh fellas? | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,950 | Michael Moore makes political indoctrination films and calls them documentaries. What he makes is the absolute furthest from documentaries.
>I know it is still biased but I kinda thought he was some psychotic truther.
If after a few minutes of watching Bush and Cheney and Rumsfeld and Rice get make up put on their faces before they went on camera you *aren't* convinced that Bush let 9/11 happen so he could kill american soldiers and brown people... then *you aren't paying attention*... gnome sane?
You don't need to think he is psychotic to laugh at his truther opinions - but you are 100% correct; He was the beginning of the truther movement.
>And then I wondered how he got Lion's Gate and IFC etc to sponsor his films.
$$$$$$$$$$$$ | Not Transphobic | Ask_Politics | Comment | Reddit |
2,951 | Ah, genderbitch. I see the blog's gone private now!
I remember reading that blog way back when, there was some screed about how sometimes you just have to drive drunk and don't anyone DARE criticize him for it! | Not Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,952 | I stopped following that thread because the OP seemed determine to not answer anything about what their own personal definitions of "man" and "woman" actually are. But going back over it this morning I see now that the thread has been flooded with people throwing around the [TERF slur](http://terfisaslur.tumblr.com/). How unfortunate and entirely predictable. | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,953 | I can't believe they're referring to her as "him" and ignoring the fact that she would have HAD to fucking have a male alias in order to get men's clothes back in the day. Jesus Christ. | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,954 | If not allowed to harass trans women *literally every moment of their lives*, TERFs being excluded. *Clearly*, a law needs to be passed that has an earpiece installed in the ears of all trans women, constantly informing them that they are lesser. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,955 | Alternate title: Trans woman said [thing]. Allow me to make disingenuous conclusions and extend those conclusions to all trans people. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,956 | Oh, but what actual biologists have to say DOES matter. Unless you're totally disingenuous, of course!
http://np.reddit.com/r/GenderCritical/comments/2e6oga/matthew_breen_male_supremacist_head_of_the/cjxrxiy
EDIT BECAUSE I CAN NO LONGER COMMENT HERE: Yes, a random comment that says that that animals in a lab setting are sexed by observation alone, without even knowing their inner gender identities! You're right, needs citation. It's hard to believe they weren't first asked what pronouns they prefer! | Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,957 | Sorry I don't have any advice for you, but out of curiosity how does one go about measuring voice frequency? | Not Transphobic | genderfluid | Comment | Reddit |
2,958 | Also I'm fully aware this is, like, link-ception. BAAAAAAAAAAHHHMMMM. | Not Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,959 | Two-parter in order to show the poster's TERFiness without direct finger-pointing. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,960 | From the article:
> This is about **criminalizing basic observational skills** when the observations do not fit the narrative the super-special individual has created for himself. This is not revolutionary. This is narcissism.
Bingo. Don't point out the elephant in the room.
They are so angry that people NOTICE the obvious. Even if people are polite and would never in a million years mention the obvious, if it's clear that they NOTICE, that alone is a crime. They notice that you notice and so they're reminded of reality and there we go, that stabbing wound to the heart. | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,961 | **DEAR META COMMUNITIES - DOWNVOTE BRIGADING IS A WAR CRIME IF YOU CONTINUE TO STEAL MY INTERNET POINTS I WILL BE FORCED TO LAUNCH NUCLEAR WARHEADS AT YOUR HOUSE**
**THIS IS YOUR ONLY WARNING DONT FUCK WITH ME IM BRAVE IRL NOT JUST ONLINE** | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,962 | Basha posh are chosen by their parents. You'd think a radfem would know more about consent. Sorry no NP link because cellular device.
Dried's comment is extremely fucked up. Holy shit.
> Yeah, and while that's totally not the ONLY type of guy that does this, it's one of the major types that does. I bet most trans readers who are coming over here from our stalker sub even know that. "Oh yeah, I do know an MTF or two who basically fits that description but NATALT!"
Lingo straight out of fucking TRP and shitty armchair psychology with no references? Damn, we need to make a bingo board for these clowns. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,963 | This is a buzzfeed article but each instance includes an actual news citation.
I thought this was relevant as we hear so much about how women 'get' to wear dresses and men don't. The fact is, our 'ability' to wear these items of clothes shrinks more and more as time goes on. Real women are being forced to stop wearing things all the time because our bodies are sexual objects. Why are so many men obsessed with the idea of wearing clothes 'to be sexy' while meanwhile we merely want to wear clothes *and then are taken as sexy* even while that is not our intention?
I mean, seriously? Red lipstick is "too sexual"? Give me a fucking break. | Not Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,964 | > Feminism is about inclusion. It is about ensuring no woman is marginalised as a result of gender and other oppressions which intersect with it.
>
> Feminism is also about exclusion. It is about safeguarding a woman’s right to set her own physical and mental boundaries, and about defending her right of refusal against anyone who seeks to overstep them.
>
> These two principles should not contradict one another. A fully respected human being should be able to defend his or her own personal space while also sharing communal space and rights of recognition with others. That it has not been easy for feminists to achieve this is a measure of just how regressive our beliefs about “what women are” remain. | Not Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,965 | I take it this was something discussed because of my article on culturallyboundgender? If so, one of the most interesting parts of that to me is that historically the Apache don't seem to have had "third gender" individuals until the very recent past (when the "two spirit" movement, which was originally only a term used by a single American Indian language group, grew to encompass a lot of Indian cultures). Apache, in fact, are one of the few groups who specifically are noted as not having "berdaches" and thinking tribes who did were a little odd.
I think his point is absolutely correct and very well made--tribes that did have a substantial third-gender and/or fourth-gender presence did not say in any case I am aware of that these individuals were exclusively their non-birth sex. It simply didn't happen in any tribe or nation I'm aware of. | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,966 | The first I heard of WoLF was Radfems Respond in Portland. It's great to see how quickly they're growing and how well they're doing. | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,967 | That part about gender dysphoria 'only getting worse' is a cruel, manipulative lie.
A major *sex change clinic* did a study that showed 80-90% of children with clinical gender dysphoria do not have it when they're adults and do not transition! That's the most recent study I've seen on the matter, and every other one I've seen backs it up with similar statistics.
Where the fuck do these men get off telling parents that their children will be broken forever? It's like the antonym of the gay rights movement 'it gets better' campaign. | Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,968 | >it’s been frustrating that a neutral face was perfectly acceptable on me as a male but now people who know I’m female read me as angry when I’m not smiling.
The sad part is her dsyphoria really does seem to stem from internalized misogyny and the double standards society puts on women. But good on her for recognizing she had/has an unhealthy addiction and is working to overcome it. | Not Transphobic | Gender_Critical | Comment | Reddit |
2,969 | It's ok /u/transferer, we all make that mistake once, then never again. :/ Glad to see you caught on quickly.
Edit: I just read the article and that song is so wonderful. I don't understand how anyone can hold so much contempt for that kid or his family. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,970 | Wanting to clarify that this person was clearly in the wrong here but come on. Fuck this Studs asshat. Probably one of the most hateful users on there. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,971 | **Disclaimer:** I'm aware this isn't how many trans people view their lives/transitions
I'm particularly tickled by the obtuseness of, "Patriarchal societies require clearly delineated sex categories so that the system of power that relegates girls to subordination and boys to domination can be effectively sustained. "
One would think that the reality of medical transition proves the mutability of sex as a social category and hence strikes a blow at the radfem's Big Bad. But since it's trans people doing it, it's teh ebil. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,972 | I'm not sure I read the same article they did. It's a little confusing, but clearly the article is talking about a female presenting, MtF teen. And the TERF headline uses "FtM" and "she." Um, what? Ok, so say the "FtM" part was just an honest mistake. Some people mix up the order sometimes. But even the article they're referencing used male pronouns, so the only reason I can think they got it wrong is because the article is using the wrong pronouns, and they thought the article is using her preferred pronouns, so they tried to use the "right" pronouns, thus accidentally using her preferred pronouns.
Goddamn it TERFs, this is why you need to use the right terms. It's 2015, we use pronouns based on how people identify, not your bullshit system of trying to pick the pronouns that would hurt the most. It's like you're speaking another language. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,973 | > brains are plastic
Such a nothing argument. If brains are totally plastic then why can't I just wish myself into heterosexuality or a more "appropriate" gender expression? Better yet, why can't trans people just wish themselves to be cis? As usual, GC relies on belief instead of something tangible. I'll literally give $100 to someone who can prove that gender is 100% a social construct with an observable experiment. | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,974 | Really?
I guess you are not aware of Citizen's United Supreme Court case?
Money owns Politics in the USA and Republican's are shameless in their pursuit of and expenditure of $$ in Politics.
It's about who owns the American human capital and Americans are the wage slaves. We simply have not learned how to beat mass media indoctrination and Unite against subjugation. | Not Transphobic | Ask_Politics | Comment | Reddit |
2,975 | Let me guess... The Dworkin thread? I though you were spot on. If it's any consolation, I was banned for telling a TERF to do hit own homework, and that it's not the responsibility if the oppressed to explain to the privileged.
I thought that was Feminism 101. Apparently it's "anti-feminist... | Not Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,976 | >Transgender identity politickers are as powerful as their beliefs are absurd.
Finally, a statement I can agree with, though in the opposite direction as it's intended. | Transphobic | GenderCynical | Comment | Reddit |
2,977 | Your brackets are incorrect. The "they" you've replaced with Republicans actually signifies political evangelicalism. And, by and large, political Christianity, the so-called Christian Right, *does* focus on a narrower subset of issues that hit emotional buttons.
And nothing in my statement implied that certain leftist groups don't also do that (the recent push regarding income inequality is a perfect example). What we have here is a straw man argument, where your quibble is with an argument I never made.
Edit: Free grammar lesson. Pronouns refer back to the most recent proper nouns. Grammatically it's clear the pronoun "they" referred to "televangelists like Jerry Falwell and Pat Robertson". | Not Transphobic | Ask_Politics | Comment | Reddit |
2,978 | youre the hero this subreddit needs, but not one i think anyone is ever equipped to handle please help | Not Transphobic | assignedmale | Comment | Reddit |
2,979 | Where's the original comic?
Just want to know what the fuck those nipple flaps are. | Transphobic | assignedmale | Comment | Reddit |
2,980 | I bet you some triggered tumblrina, in a desparate attempt to get offended by something, will find this subreddit and send it to the author and cry. | Transphobic | assignedmale | Comment | Reddit |
2,981 | [Results](http://m.imgur.com/GvZfqjq). and [here](http://m.imgur.com/5wDDuGC).
Age: 33 years old.
**Procedures:**
Forehead reconstruction, rhinoplasty, jaw reduction, chin reshaping and trachea shave. | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,982 | [Results](http://m.imgur.com/a/MIAha).
**Age:** 28
**Procedures:** Jaw and Chin | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,983 | [Before/After](http://i.imgur.com/lNO5nGS.jpg)
[After](http://i.imgur.com/pkBwz3c.jpg)
**Age:** 36
**Procedures:**
Forehead type 3, rhinoplasty, lip lift, jaw tapering, sliding genioplasty, and trachea shave.
**Spend**
*A little less than 60K*
[Original Link](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/4e9vdh/mtf_36_years_old_13_months_hrt_5_weeks_post_ffs/?) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,984 | [Results - Video](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/4a9z5d/this_is_what_ffs_looks_like_guys_a_lot_of_blood/?)
**Age**
**Procedures**
Rhinoplasty, Chin Contour, Chin Implant, Thyroid Cartilage Shave
**Spend**
17K
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/4a9z5d/this_is_what_ffs_looks_like_guys_a_lot_of_blood/?) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,985 | [Results](https://m.imgur.com/a/th1DR#BdWxPzy)
[Before/After](http://m.imgur.com/a/2Qhkc)
**Age** 24
**Procedures**
* rhinoplasty
* chin contouring
* tracheal shave
* breast augmentation
* lip augmentation
**Spend**
24500 Canadian (~$18,900USD)
[Currency Converter](http://www.xe.com)
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/46se1r/24_year_old_4_month_hrt_5_day_postffs_and_ba/?) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,986 | [Results](http://m.imgur.com/Z9rL4W5)
[6 Months post-op](http://m.imgur.com/AwfB9x0)
**Age**
32
**Procedures**
**Spend**
26K
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/445mt7/mtf_32_3_yrs_hrt_and_4_months_post_ffs/?) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,987 | [Results](http://m.imgur.com/T0we4Dy)
[Closeup](http://m.imgur.com/a/zRyVt)
**Age**
**Procedures**
Rhinoplasty, eyebrow lift, and Type III Forehead shaving/reconstruction
**Spend**
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/2xro6n/ive_come_so_far_makeup_wise_too_12_months_hrt_8/?) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,988 | [Results](http://m.imgur.com/q4sklsG)
[Frontal](http://i.imgur.com/0UnUP5D.jpg)
**Age** 25
**Procedures**
Forehead, nose
**Spend**
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/transpassing/comments/2to51s/25_mtf_25_years_hrt_about_a_year_postffs/?) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,989 | [Before/After](http://i.mrow.co.uk/tUEjhceuLqgyZxg.png)
[3 Months Post-Op](http://i.imgur.com/al6CA6Z.png)
**Age:**
**Procedures:**
Jaw, chin, lip, brow, forehead
**Spend:**
£11,000 | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,990 | [Before](https://www.realself.com/review/beverly-hills-ca-facial-reconstructive-surgery-the-investment-in#media-review-1029138-image-119226)
[After](https://www.realself.com/review/beverly-hills-ca-facial-reconstructive-surgery-the-investment-in#media-review-1029138-image-119231) one week intervals.
**Age**
**Procedures**
Scalp Advancement, forehead and brow, reduction, nose aug., cheek implant, chin and jaw reduction, tracheal reduction.
**Spend** $25,000 | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,991 | Age: 29
Procedures: Breast Augmentation, Facial Feminization (Brow ridge reduction, brow lift/shape, chin shaping)
Price: 16k
They were excellent, treated me very well, always very friendly. | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,992 | [Before/After](http://m.imgur.com/6IBlcET)
**Age** 23
**Procedures**
Breast Augmentation, brow lift/forehead lift, rhinoplasty
**Spend**
$2,900; insurance picked up remainder.
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/transtimelines/comments/3ynye0/before_and_after_2_years_hrtbaffs/) | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,993 | [original](http://www.assignedmale.com/comic/2015/9/8/5y7kpi5boibzi6iic3z1xa1tuhyq4m)
no fucking clue why steve isn't wearing pants
also i typo'd grandpa in the topic title but idgaf | Not Transphobic | assignedmale | Comment | Reddit |
2,994 | I'll see what I can find out, and be sure to post in r/ftm as well. | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,995 | Sorry, _WHAT!?!?_
It's the right that created the bathroom issue from whole cloth. Nobody noticed or cared that chicks-with-dicks were using the ladies' room, or vice versa.
That is 100% completely an issue driven by the right.
You're describing the Left's _reaction_ to attempted discrimination by saying _they_ started the problem?
The position that the bathroom bills are a leftist issue is not only factually inaccurate, but utterly absurd. | Not Transphobic | Ask_Politics | Comment | Reddit |
2,996 | I like it.
Maybe for themes, we could do one where the comic is edited to make Stephie's trans-ness something other than female. I've seen a lot of well done trans-black ones. | Transphobic | assignedmale | Comment | Reddit |
2,997 | [3 Months Pre-transition](http://i.imgur.com/PsrkBPz.jpg?1)
[Simulated Before/After Side](http://i.imgur.com/Msbdz1h.jpg)
[Simulated Before/After Front](http://i.imgur.com/4qY9rWB.jpg)
**Post-Op:**
[4 Months:](http://i.imgur.com/dqopC59.jpg), [12 Months](http://i.imgur.com/k8dZEZS.jpg), [20 Months](http://i.imgur.com/oM3MVpE.jpg?1), [34 Months](http://i.imgur.com/jTv0zxG.jpg).
**Age** 27
**Procedures**
Brow Bone Reduction w/ Brow lift, Rhinoplasty, Tracheal Shave (additionally had liposuction of midsection and Orchiectomy performed during this procedure).
**Spend**
Insurance covered, was "reasonable"
Special thanks to t*******a for her help/information. | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,998 | [After/Before](https://i.redd.it/wnhlxdtovr8x.jpg)
**Age** 23
**Procedures**
Brow and chin shave, eyebrows, rhinoplasty.
**Spend**
~10K. | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
2,999 | Cannot help on the insurance or the particulars; [this](http://www.tssurgeryguide.com/site/mobile?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.tssurgeryguide.com%2FSRS-Surgeon-Ratings.html#2562) site and [this](http://www.transhealthcare.org/usa/) one might get you started, however. | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
3,000 | What do you mean by single stage* surgeons? What surgery do you need? | Not Transphobic | Transgender_Surgeries | Comment | Reddit |
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