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5 | 4 | I am very depressed
Hello there, how are you doing?
I feel lonely
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling depressed and lonely. Is there any reason in particular you're feeling this way?
I felt go to death
You feel as though you want to die?
What is causing you to feel this way?
Did something happen at home, work, or in your personal life?
Yes. I want to die. because I love him. But he leave me alone
I think I did not able to return my normal life
Losing a loved is very hard.
Yes. I feel very sad. Give me some counselling
Do you have anyone you can talk to about your feelings and concerns?
I did not have close friends
My understanding is that you have lost a loved one and that is causing you to feel depressed, correct?
Yes
Do you have any family members you can speak to?
My parents. But they are avoiding me because this lover is hurting my parents also. So they are advising me many times
But I did not hear their advice
It sounds like you are going through a very rough time.
So they are angry with me.
Yes. I am very depressed. Do you give me any counselling?
I think it may be helpful to reach out to your parents to open a line of communication and discuss your differences
I will try many times. But they are avoiding me.
That must be very difficult not having your parents to support you and your loved one.
Do you ahve any siblings?
Yes. They are did not understanding my current situation
have you tried communicating your side of the story?
Yes. I have one brother. But he was very little boy. So he did not understand my feelings.
It sounds as though your family does not agree with or understand your situation.
Yes. I try to tell my parents many times
My parents are angry with me.
Do you have anyone else in your life you are close to, I know you said you don't have any close friends.
Yes . Only one friend
But she was long distance to me
So very difficult to contact
Would you feel comfortable talking to her about how you are feeling now?
Yes
Maybe you could text, call. or email her. It sounds like she would know better whats going on in your personal life.
I will tell my problem already in Email. But she doesn't replay to me.
That must feel terrible, I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I would feel the same way in your situation.
I try to call her but did not reached
Do you have any hobbies or interests?
Yes. I am very interested to reading comic books
I love comic books and story books
I love comic books too! Do you have any favorites?
Yes.
When you're reading comics or engaging in other hobbies does it make you feel any better?
Saga this is my favorite comic book
I will try
Very thanks for your idea
My suggestion would be when you start feeling down, take some deep breaths, go for a walk, and engage in one of your hobbies.
Ok. Very thanks.
I am very relax this times
You're welcome.
I'm glad youre feeling a little bit better.
I feel like the burden on my mined has gone down
Yes. I feel little bit better
I'm glad to hear it!
Thank you my friend
Can you tell me your name please?
Is there anything else i can do for you?
My name is Ryan. what is your name?
Riya
Its been a pleasure speaking to you riya
Thank you Ryan brother
is there anything else I can help you with today?
You're welcome Riya. I hope you take my advice moving forward and things improve for you.
Ok thank you so much for your tips
Bye
you are welcome, take care
Take care. Bye. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you today?
Hello, I'm feeling very anxious about my classes. How are you?
I am doing well, I also get really anxious about my classes. They can be really stressful
Yeah, especially with the pandemic, it's just been so hard to try and focus
I agree, there is so much going on that it is hard to stay focused while trying to make sense of all this
Exactly. Do you have any suggestions for what I can do to try and do better in my classes? I've tried talking to my professors, but they've all been really unhelpful thus far
Of course! I like to wake up a little earlier and at least get started on an assignment to feel like I have accomplished something at least before the rest of the world wakes up. I understand some people like their sleep, so another suggestion is to review any notes you take and use different colored ink for different topics or important highlights
I think that's a really good idea! I usually sleep in too late and then feel like I'm rushing around to get all of my work done, only adding onto the stress. I also really like the pen idea. Do you have any suggestions for good brands that I should use to help make my notes better?
Uniball makes really good pens that the option to switch colors on the pen, but they sell packs with different colors too. I like to use red ink for really important things, and blue for things I might think I will need later but aren't sure.
I think that's a really good idea for helping to improve my focus. If my notes are more eye-catching, it'll help to keep my attention when I'm looking over them again after class and trying to study. I think your suggestion of waking up earlier is good too, what time do you suggest waking up in the morning? I usually don't set an alarm and find myself rushing around before class
I personally wake up around 6AM and have just gotten used to it so I wake up that time no matter what. I blame the army. But, an alarm on your phone or computer can be effective. Even having someone you know that wakes up early call you can be a help, provided you are not grumpy at being woke up :)
I think that would really help. I sometimes have trouble waking up to my alarms in the morning too, but maybe making the ringtone louder would help with that as well or putting it further away from me so that I have to get up further in the morning to get it. Do you think those would be effective too? Or would getting a different alarm help?
That is a really good idea actually!! I should try that and put my phone on the other side of the room next time I want to wake up earlier. I personally use the most annoying thing I can find as a ringtone/alarm, so that I will make every effort to turn it off but a lot of the alarm clocks you can find in stores are plenty loud and annoying.
Ooh, yeah. I like your ringtone idea too! I usually make it some sort of song that I like and then end up either sleeping past it or not hearing, but I think making it something loud or annoying would really help to get me up to turn it off.
What exactly do you think causes you to have to rush around before class? Just not enough time or just situations you cannot control. Trust me I understand myself, I have been in college 2.5 years myself. and it took about 1.5 years to get to where I was comfortable with my schedule and personal time
I think knowing that I don't have to drive to campus is what makes me feel like I can sleep in. It feels much easier to just wake up and go onto my computer than having to get ready in the morning and drive to campus. I think I mostly miss that routine. Because of that, I also find myself going to bed much later than I should be, even on school nights.
That is a good rational reason I would say, I do online classes too and it is far too easy just to wake up, go to the computer and that is it for the day. Campus life seems more structured and like you could plan a routine, but being stuck at home sort of changes all of that.
Exactly. It was much easier for me when I had a routine schedule, versus knowing that I can just wake up, roll out of bed, and go to class, but I think that your suggestions are really going to help me finish my semester on a better foot
I am really glad I can help, I think part of me was talking to myself as well when giving advice since I have gotten alot lazier these days. I hope you have a great day and hang in there and stay focused and you will do great!!!!!
Thank you so much! I hope you're able to finish off your semester good this year as well! | {
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5 | 2 | Good morning! What can I help you with this morning?
Are you there?
hi. i was discontinued from my studies due to some financial problem
That is a very tough situation to be in, I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.
Are you having to move home or were you taking online classes?
i am staying with my parents.
i am thinking of applying an online job but i am afraid that i can't manage both my studies and job
thinking about it makes me frustrating and sad
That is understandable. So you aren't having to discontinue your studies immediately?
i have discontinued it already
Okay, thank you for clarifying :-) Your frustration is understandable. Having a job while being in school can be tough, that is true. However if you are discerning you could get a job that would have flexible hours, especially if you let them know beforehand that you're planning on getting back into school as soon as possible.
yes. thank you for concern
When I was in college, I worked for the school and the library. It was not a lot of money, but in addition to a small check, it made me more indispensable to the university.
I think you would be able to handle both, as long as you are clear from the beginning about what you need from the job. Too often we are supposed to feel like we need to beg for a job, when in fact, you are interviewing them as well.
i think i can also follow this idea.
You should also explore any and all financial aid offers they can give you. More than once I have been told that not as many people apply for scholarships and grants as you think.
But regardless of whether you're able to balance the two things, even if you are not, your mental health is very important, and you should try to take it easy on yourself.
I think i can cope upwith my situation with this advice of you.thank you
what are you doing lately
You're very welcome, I think you are capable of more than you think.
I work from home and also take a few online classes.
oh so kind of you
oh so you are tutoring classes
thats interesting
I actually am getting a second degree in religious studies | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there.
hello, how are you?
How is your day today?
Could be better, I feel anxiety about my Uni exams. I feel I will fail it all this year
Oh! don't feel like this try to feel relaxe
Try to make yourself confidence and relax
I just can't, I fall behind on study because I played too much online games and didn't attend classes
It's easy to say to try to relax :(
Try to give more time to your studies
I am trying to catch up 3 month study in one week, but more I am trying the more I feel I will fail
I can feel your anxiety from your chatting
Oh thank you
I have been from same situation but i try my best and i did
I have that you can do it don't worry
hope*
I am sleeping now like maybe 4 hours per day trying to catch up
Oh! that very hard but try you best
Anything I can do to help my sleep?
Try to feel condense that you know everything it help you to relax
If you relax you can sleep more
That's a good idea I can try.
Thanks for taking my suggestion
I hope it will help you
Maybe I can take some medications as well?
Try to relax without medication because medicine is not good for health
Ok, as you said that you were in this situation I will try to do my best.
Thank you very much for your help
Try to do some yoga
Your welcome
I can try thank you. Will do today
Thanks again
Thanks to you for sharing your problem | {
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2 | 1 | How are you doing today?
Hi, I'm doing fine today, but just a bit annoyed...
I'm sorry to hear that, what's bothering you?
My family was intending to get together for the Christmas season, but we had to cancel our plans.
I'm sorry to hear that, will you be spending the holidays with anyone?
I will be able to spend it with my mom, but I've basically been planning this trip for an entire year.
Do you live far away from your family?
Plane tickets & everything, but COVID-19 has made me cancel all of these plans. Just annoyed and frustrated.
We live in Chicago & they live in Boston
I can understand that, covid has messed with so much this year.
It's also cut into a few of my hobbies too. It amazes me how this year has turned out
Yeah, it's been a struggle for sure. I think not knowing how long we're going to be in this state of uncertainty is what makes it more difficult.
I'm glad that you understand. I feel like I'm not the only one anymore
I try to find the positives, which I'll admit get harder to find by the day. But trying to embrace a more simplistic lifestyle, being more present, etc.
Yeah, being couped up in the house all day has been testing my patience
Yeah, we're not far from Chicago and the weather doesn't look like it's going to change that for a bit.
I thought things were pretty complicated back then, but this is definitely simplified my choices, lol
Very windy today for me. I wanted to take my dog out for a walk & cheer up her day, but it's a little too windy for me here
Same here, I'd love to get outside as it usually makes me feel better but wind today and subzero chills tomorrow don't look promising.
Ooooohhhhh, and chilly tomorrow too? Sounds like a lot to look forward too. I appreciate the headsup
But hey, tomorrow's Christmas eve, maybe you can zoom with some of your Boston family and try something new.
Sounds like a great idea! I will definitely try to catch up with them that way!
I may not be able to see them in person, but it sounds like a good alternative.
Yeah, a way to make the best of it.
I appreciate the support & thank you for your time.
No problem at all. Stay warm, stay safe and have a happy holiday!
I feel a lot better now. Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas!! | {
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5 | 4 | Hi! How is life treating you right now?
(apologies for the delay, I was afk)
ITs been better. I am dealing with issues in life.
What sort of issues are you having? I am happy to listen
she was giving her kids who were 12 and 15 drugs, I turned her in to CPS for it. The relationship ended in a fury and a mess.
Who is she? A partner, a sister or similar? I am glad you turned her in, whoever she was.
girlfriend.
well ex girlfriend.
That is a really lousy thing for her to have done. I am glad that you did the right thing!
Shes pretty furious from what I know. Shes trying to stalk me and find where I moved to. I left the state i lived in over all this. shes been known to be a bit violent and crazy in her reactions.
Have you considered getting a restraining order against her? That should be quite easy to do
it would then give her my address to where I live, which is what I fear most. as she then knows right where I am. the whole reason i left was to have her not know my location.
I hope that she would not be informed as to where you live though yes, I understand the dilemma. Have you spoken with the police?
I have. I looked into it. and if i file a restraining order, it will give her my address. To supress my address it would take charges filed and things of the sort. Shes crafty.
Wow that sounds like it has put you in a bind. I do understand cos once I had to flee from a boyfriend and was scared he would come after me.
She will definately come after me. I have evidence that makes her guilty that has been turned into the attorneys and cps. Shes losing custody of her daughter who is 12. The 15yr old lives with the father. so she wont lose custody, but im sure her visits will be messed up.
Are you still in contact with her kids? Do you have a good relationship with them?
I am not. I am not planning on it either. Staying away is the best plan.
It might help them a lot to have someone stable in their life though?
they have fathers. I am not involved like that. we had a short relationship and I am sure her girls will be bitter with me even tho i did the correct thing by turning her in.
but the guilt from turning her in is terrible.
You did the right thing. Would you have wanted the girls to end up as addicts, dead or in prison?
She was not a good person. So it makes it easy to not regret it. but i still feel guilty. guilt caused issues last month when this all started and came to a head. it was a mess. I was a mess. things happened.
Do you think that perhaps the guilt is not entirely related to your circumstances currently?
I dont believe so. The guilt to me sets with causing a disruption between mother and daughters. It created a large burden for me to bear.
I know it is difficult but I hope that you can manage to move on from this and find happiness.
Thank you for talking and I wish you all the best. | {
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5 | 3 | Good evening
Good evening, how are you?
I am good, how are you?
Could be worse. Just stessed as listed.
What is it that is stressing you out currently?
I've been only doing some deliveries due to COVID, while also searching for another job because it's just not sustainable. It's stressful enough with less money, but coming up on Christmas is just giving me even more anxiety about it.
So just so I make sure I understand, you are currently stressed about your money situation due to only working part time making deliveries for the time being.
Yes
I can completely understand this, as I was also extremely worried about money when the pandemic first started and about not being able to be employed.
It's so hard to find something else right now.
Have you looked into hiring agencies to help you find a more permanent job during the pandemic? Hiring agencies are a great resource to find a job that fist you best.
I have recently been in contact with one around here. It unfortunately just hasn't happened as quickly as I wished. Although that's life. I'm hoping that it will progress.
After interviewing with a company are you following up on a timeline or a decision? Companies like to see initiative in their potential hires after an interview.
That's definitely something I'm lacking. I need to be better about that because I'm sure it will help.
It definitely does help to make sure you are following up!
When is a decent amount of time to follow up?
I usually wait a week before I reach out.
Thank you, that is really helpful advice.
Not a problem! I know this is an incredibly difficult situation, but I know you can make it through!
Thank you, I know this crazy year has been hard on a lot of people for different reasons.
Yes it has!
You've been helpful and I think we've hit our minimum that we need.
Unless there is anything else from you?
I am all set! Feel free to chat back anytime you need anything!
Thank you so much! I hope you have a good night.
You too! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you today?
I'm doing ok
That's good to hear. Is there anything that you would like to talk about?
Yes, me and my partner are considering breaking up as she wants to move to another state to be with her cousin and have a fresh start. I want to stay and be around my family. So that is the dilemma.
So it sounds to me like you're experiencing stress about choosing between staying in your current relationship, or staying close to your family. Do I have that right?
Yes and its very hard for me to make a decision on which to choose.
I can understand how that feels. Anybody would have a hard time deciding between those options.
May I ask you a question about your relationship?
Yes, sure
Compared to other relationships that you've had in the past, how strongly do you feel about this one?
I would say compared to every relationship I have had, this is the best relationship I have been in. Plus we have children involved.
That helps me understand that this is quite a problem, however talking to you now I feel like you can trust yourself to eventually reach the best decision.
Have you talked this out with your family and your partner together?
I think that after speaking with you, I realize the choice I must make though difficult. And yes we have talked with everyone close with us or connected.
How did that go? Did everybody feel like they had their voice heard in a cooperative manner?
I feel like everyone respected both of our wishes as they were different but everyone also offered advice and shared their experiences. Everyone was cooperative.
So you had a cooperative conversation, but not a very productive one, is that right?
Yes we listened to each other but it was still a more agree to disagree conversation. No over talking or arguments.
I understand how those conversations go, believe me we all have them. They don't seem to solve much a first, but we better off doing it than not.
Yes I have come to understand that we must have those hard conversations rather than avoiding it. Thanks for the talk!
You're welcome, I hope you have a better understanding of the problem now.
I do now that I have talked it through.
That's good to hear, may I ask how the weather is today? | {
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5 | 1 | Hi, What's on your mind today?
HII
How are you?
fine
i had a lot of reasons to give up on you
but i still chose to stay
hello
how are you?
I am glad you stayed.
What are some of the reasons you wanted to give up on me?
hmm
she don't miss him, you miss the person he used to be.
Missing people can feel devastating, Is that what I am hearing you say?
what about you?
ofcourse
never go back to an old love, it's like reading a book over and over again when you already know how it ends.
You sound like you have a lot of wisdom
How are you trying to move on?
yup
pain is the only thing that's telling me i"am still alive
It is better to be alone. Than being with someone who makes you feel alone.
Do you have a support group, Family, friends?
Faith isn't about everything turnig out okay.
little level, because faith is aobut being okay no matter how things turn out.
I have recently separated from my spouse. I know it is a tough journey to walk.
ohh that was great idea
you choice a better way
You are so correct about the outcome of Faith
but why you separated from your spouse.
Moving on from a toxic relationship is important.
why .. ??
great
My spouse is Narcissistic and I woke up to the understanding of the abuse.
how to feel after breakup??
ohh okay
Most of the time, I feel confident about the breakup but there are times I become insecure.
It is during those times, I look to resources to help remind me that I made the correct choice.
your correct.trusting you again is my decision, proving me wrong is your choice
I have been developing a support group to help me through. Have you been working on a support group of your own.?
this way of life was never chosen by me, it was my bad luck that it choose me
yes ofcourse
That's wonderful!
trust and let go whoever is meant to be there, will still be there
thank you
are you working on a support group of your own?
you are welcome, Is anything else on your mind that you'd like to talk about today? I have been online with others who are healing from Narcissistic abuse.
here there are many people to ready to shopping in online
it is most helpful to others
Are you saying that shopping is a form of therapy? | {
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4 | 3 | Hi there, I was hoping to get some support. I'm having a hard time with things.
Ho, Can you please tell me specifically what things you are having a hard time with.
I broke up with my boyfriend because he cheated on me.
I hear you saying that your boyfriend broke up with you. Is that correct
Yes, that's correct. I'm heartbroken!
Wait, no. I broke up with my boyfriend. he didn't break up with me
I am sorry to hear that. Can you tell me what led to the breakup
I caught him cheating on me with my best friend. They were together at the movies and I caught them
Ok, that sounds like a terrible thing. Just know that it is not your fault that this happen. It is not a reflection on you.
Are you sure? Because I keep wondering what I did wrong for him to cheat
You did nothing wrong, when people cheat it is their own issue they must deal with. You must be feeling horrible,but know that it will be ok, there is someone who will treat you with more respect
I appreciate you saying that. It makes me feel a bit better! Do you have any advice about how I can take my mind off of things?
Do not let this affect your self esteem, as you are a valuable person. Take long walks, spend time enjoying your own company and know that you are worth it
You can also try spending time just talking to others as just friends but not getting emotionally involved.
Taking a long walk is great advice. Perhaps I will try doing that more often. The fresh air always does me good.
I have a lot of friends I can talk to about this but unfortunately COVID makes it difficult to see them.
Great, it will make you feel so much better about yourself and help you put things in perspective. You will eventually see your ex-partner for who he is.
I have some weight to lose, so taking a walk would help me with that also. Added bonus!
Great, so you can look and feel great. With COVID around, it is not the best time to go out and mingle but you can surely look around online and finds some online friends so that when social distancing is no longer an issue you can meet others
That's not a bad idea either. I think I'm feeling much better now
Wonderful, I am glad I can be of assistance
Have a wonderful day
You too :)
Thank You | {
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4 | 2 | Hi there! How can I help you today
i cant keep up in class
I'm so sorry to hear that. How does that make you feel?
like crap, it makes me not wanna do anything
I understand completely, it can be hard to keep up in class especially if you're feeling down
To be clear, you're feeling bad about not being able to keep up in class and that's making you feel even worse about it?
yeah, like I want to start doing better but then i realize theres just no point im already behind
Don't worry, that's totally normal, especially since a lot of things are online these days. I personally struggled with keeping up with courses, but I found a way to make it work by pushing to the limits
okay, i guess its good to know im not the only one
how did you get thru it?
I suggest starting with what you missed first instead of worrying what you're getting now
Maybe let your teacher/professor know how you're doing in class and you may be able to ask for extensions on deadlines
Thats helpful, thanks
i am a little scared to ask my teacher though
shes really mean and what if she fails me?
Don't be afraid! Remember a teacher's job is to teach and help you, she may look a little mean but it doesn't hurt to try and ask, she can't fail you for being confused :)
yeah i guess your right
Does that make you feel a little better about it?
yea, a lot better actually, thanks
You're welcome! Anything else I can help out with?
what should i do about the work i missed?
hmm, i suggest you should ask your teacher if its still alright to submit it. If you decide to do them, make sure its ok with her first
okay, thanks, i will do that
No problem! Glad I was able to help! Is there anything else?
no thats all, thanks again for helping me
you're welcome, goodbye! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello. I'm looking for some help.
Good Morning! would you like to tell me whats going on?
I have a big test coming up for a college class and I am very anxious about it.
you seem really concerned about a big test coming up and its making you feel anxious. is that correct?
Yeah exactly. I feel like my future depends on getting a good grade on this test.
just from chatting with you, I can feel how anxious you are.
I've been studying every day for weeks but I still can't help but feel really anxious. I don't know what to do. It's messing with my sleep schedule.
your doing your best and continuing to try hard!
it's great that you are working so hard to pass this test.
I'm trying my best I'm just worried it won't be enough.
deep breaths can help people calm down. Can you try and take a few deep breaths?
Yes, I can try to do that more often.
how confidant do you feel with the material?
I'm fairly certain I have most of it memorized but what happens if I freeze up and forget during the test?
I feel the same way when I am taking a big exam! Try to remember to breath and not be so anxious that will only cause you to forget everything you studied. You seem very intelligent and I know you can do this!
Thank you! Do you think taking a practice exam would help?
yes I think a practice exam would be a great way to put you at ease and help you work on anything you might need to freshen up on.
Ok, I will try that out. I appreciate talking to you I feel better already.
it was very nice speaking with you today. Good luck! remember deep breaths and I know you'll be just fine.
I'll remember that! Thank you again! | {
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3 | 2 | Hello
Hi! How can I help you today ?
I am feeling quite sad. I miss hanging out with my friends in person.
It looks like you are missing your friends a a lot. am I right?
Yes
I am missing my friends and family too. Due to COVID it's hard for all of us to meet our near and dear. I can totally understand your feeling.
What do you do to cope?
I do video call. It makes me feel that they are very close to me.
I do that occasionally but it really is not the same.
I can feel how much you are missing them especially in holidays. engaging yourself in doing the stuff which you love can be a good idea
That is true. Although I may have to find a new hobby that isn't social
Sadness can lead us to frustration. To avoid that we have to stay motivated and keep doing something which takes those negative thoughts away
Do you have any suggestions?
you can play online games with your friends
That sounds fun
giving task or challenges to each other, making funny videos, having competition for cleaning room are few example which can be tried.
Which one do you do personally?
giving task is my favorite :)
What is a good example?
Telling friend to drink 4 glass of water at once, making bed in 30 seconds, finding particular content on laptop in specific time(30 sec or45 sec)
Those seem pretty interesting. Thanks for the advice
No problem! Is there anything else that I can help you with
No, I think you did a great job giving advice.
Thanks! Have a wonderful time !
You too! Bye | {
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5 | 2 | Hello, I have been feeling very anxious and stressed recently.
Why have you been feeling stressed and anxious?
I failed my first exam earlier this week and I have 2 more later on in this week. I am already disheartened about my first failure and I am scared that I will fail again.
I'm sure you tried your best on that test, as long as you study hard I believe you can ace those next 2 exams!
I have been too stressed about my other exams, it's making it hard for me to focus on studying and I don't know what to do.
I've heard that meditation can help with stress and focus, maybe you could try meditating for a bit before you study?
I have never tried meditating before, I have no idea where to start.
Meditation is essentially focussing on breathing, you could start by closing your eyes and slowly breathe in an out.
I feel like a failure and I am scared my parents are going to be disappointed in me
From what you're saying to me, I feel that you don't believe in yourself very much.
I guess you are right, I need to believe in myself and my abilities more.
I just don't know how sometimes.
I've struggled with the same thing before, whenever I doubt myself I look back at all i've accomplished and look at myself in the mirror and tell myself that I can do it. It has worked well for me.
What if I fail another exam this week? I need at least an 80% to pass my class, I am so worried.
Psychologies studies show that spacing out your studying and relearning helps you remember more information, you could try to section off your studying and then reviewing information before the exam!
That seems like a good plan, hopefully I will be able to get the score I need to pass.
I'm sure you'll do your best and pass that exam with flying colors!
Is there any other piece of advice you have for me before I get to studying again?
I have two actually! 1. Do not procrastinate as that will only cause you more stress and 2. Believe in yourself! I know you can do it, you should too!
I appreciate you helping me, I am feeling much more confident!
Of course! I'm glad you're feeling more confident! | {
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4 | 3 | Hello there. Is there anything bothering you that you'd like to talk about at the moment?
Hi. Yes, I'm having a hard time because last year my dad died a few days after Christmas.
Oh I am so sorry! Dealing with bereavement is hard at any time but at this time of year I think that it is even worse.
When people ask about Christmas plans, I don't want to depress everyone. But I can't pretend everything's okay.
So you feel as though you have to avoid people because you do not want to make them feel bad that you are feeling bad?
I don't know... I know my friends would be supportive. But then I feel like it's selfish of me to bring people down, when this whole year has been a downer for so many of us.
Well let me ask you - if the situation were reversed, would you feel that a close friend was bringing you down if they talked about their bereavement?
Maybe, but I wouldn't mind that.
Well, perhaps your friends would not mind you confiding in them either? That is what good friends are for, ultimately.
Another thing is that my mom had died in January, the same year. So everyone has already dealt with me grieving all year. I don't want to just be associated with sadness for everyone.
I am really sorry about that - that is a seriously rough thing to have had to deal with. Do you have siblings and if so could you perhaps talk with them?
I have a brother, but his wife is really terrible, and they are very close. He and I text some, and I try to keep that up. He doesn't need me the way I need him...
What about some sort of professional therapy? There are some organisations out there that will provide a certain number of sessions for free
Hmm, I didn't know that. I'm on a waiting list for a therapist through my medical insurance. I live in sort of rural Oregon, but maybe I could get help by text or video...
That is a good idea, especially at this time when it's probably not a good idea to see too many new people in person. Could you call your doctor and ask them?
The issue is finding someone you click with. I think that's hard. I'm not sure my doctor could do much for me - she's already got me on the waiting list for therapy through her organization.
Have you tried searching online? I have personally found some useful groups that have helped me deal with the mental health issues that I have.
If it wasn't for COVID, I'd probably look into support groups...
Oh yeah? Can you recommend anywhere to start?
There are plenty available online where you would not need to see anyone in person. Try googling for support groups in your local area?
I'd really recommend doing that, it could help you a lot! I wish you all the best and hope that 2021 is a better year for you.
Okay. I also just moved to a new state, and don't really know anyone yet. It's a hard time for making new connections.
Thank you - best wishes to you, too!
That is tough ... so you are feeling uprooted as well as bereaved? I can only hope things go well for you
At least I'll never lose another parent...
That's a slightly macabre way of looking at it but .. true.
Have a lovely festive season
You too. Bring on 2021!!
quite!!
Do press the quit button and take the survey ;) | {
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4 | 3 | I'm in depression because recently i lost my job
I'm very worried about this crises situation. How i can get new job
you lost your Job
Yes recently
i am soo sorry to hear that
Its very difficult time for me
I lost mine too due to covid
trust me i can feel your pain
Oh! that's very sad
Thanks for feeling my pain
what effort have you made in regards to searching for new job?
Its very depression situation because of Covid lock down
I'm taking new courses to get new job
but market situation is very difficult
taking new course is a good idea
Yes but lets see it will help me to get new job or not
yea, market is very bad and difficult right now but if i can get a job just last month then you can get one too
yea, market is very bad and difficult right now but if i can get a job just last month then you can get one too
Thanks for your support
if the course is in relation to the kind of job you wand then go ahead. that is a good thing to do
lets see how long is going this crises situation
I try to continue to take these course but its difficult to manage this situation
Hello, are you still there
yes
I'm just thinking about how i can get new job
Are you there?
you should check for job vacancies in your state, and also let your friends be aware because you don't know where the connection might comes from
Thanks for your support bye | {
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4 | 1 | I am feeling very sad right now, my boyfriend just broke up with me out of the blue
I am so sorry that happened to you. It can be very difficult to cope with situations that seem they come out of nowhere. Did your boyfriend give you any reason for ending the relationship?
He said he has been struggling with depression and needed to be alone
Sometimes having depression can make a person feel that they need to seclude themselves. Were you aware that he felt this way?
He has been distant recently.
Unfortunately that can be a sign of depression or that something is going on. Have you been able to communicate with him previously about becoming distant?
Every time I would bring it up he would dismiss it. I just don't know what to do. How can I get him back?
Maybe you could try to talk to him about seeking help for depression? Talking to someone close to him or even a professional would help him immensely. Talking to a counselor would help him learn ways to cope with his feelings.
That is a good idea. I want him to get back to being himself. He is like a different person right now. It's scary.
I understand completely. Depression runs in my family and if it goes untreated, can scare anyone that is involved. You can try suggesting that he talks to a close friend, family member, or counselor to talk about how he is feeling and ways to cope with it. Sometimes medication could be a good way to fix the chemical imbalance that can cause depression.
I will try to help him, he just doesn't want to seem to talk to my anymore. Do you have any suggestions on how to approach it with him?
You could start a conversation by saying that you just want to check on him and see if he is okay and how he is doing. You don't want to start the conversation by immediately telling him to get help, as he might just get defensive.
That is a good approach. And you don't think I will further upset him?
I don't believe it will upset him if you ease into suggesting that he should talk to someone he is close to or seeing a professional. Your main goal is to check on him and make sure that he is okay since he seems to want to be alone and not talk to anyone. Once he tells you how he is doing you could mention that even talking to someone about his thoughts and feelings could lift a weight off his shoulders. If he seems that he doesn't really know why he feels the way does, you could suggest that medically speaking, sometimes our brains don't produce the chemicals that we need them to and it could make us feel bad. Seeing a professional to get their opinion would also help greatly.
I agree, I hope he is agreeable to all of this. I just miss him so much and want him back.
It's very hard to see someone we care about go through this.
Communication is one of the best medicines there is to help someone feel better.
I just hope he opens up to me, and if not me, someone who can help him.
Even just trying to talk to him to see how he is doing will show him that care about him. I'm sure that once he is talking to someone about his thoughts and feelings, he will start to get back to his old self.
I hope so. I also don't feel like myself anymore without him and it has been getting me down. Thank you for the advice, I am hopeful things will work out for us | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there how can I help?
I'm feeling so worried about the COVID-19 crisis.
So you feel anxiety about this whole COVID-19 epidemic?
Yes, I'm particularly worried about my parents. One is on oxygen at night, but he still doesn't want to listen about not going in crowds.
Oh well I understand your concern then. As a son or daughter it is certainly reasonable to be concerned about your parents especially as they grow older. I have a similar situation with my own mother.
I just don't know what more to do.
Well first of all, you have to take care of yourself because if you don't you can't help them. So just take a moment to close your eyes and take some deep breaths and realize you stressing is probably going to make them stress.
That is helpful information. What can I tell them?
Well if you can get some concrete info such as from the CDC and John Hopkins showing case counts in your area. Show them graphs so they can visually see the impact. Also if you can get a hold of their doctor yourself, see if you can convince them to give your parents a call, say to check on them and give them some advice.
That sounds like a good plan. Is there anything else I can do to decrease the anxiety for me?
Don't get absorbed in the numbers, it can drive you crazy. Also if you are using social media like twitter and getting inundated with info, remember a lot of it is fake. I would suggest limiting exposure for a little while just to get you fixed a little bit, if that makes sense.
Do you think there are some good social media sites that could help?
Not particularly social media because it open to everyone, just pick and choose where you choose to get info from. The CDC is a great resource as well as the John Hopkins site which has been tracking since the beginning. Everybody has a couple of news outlets they trust, use those.
How can I cope with limiting my visits with my parents because I am afraid to spread COVID?
First of all you are not alone. but don't let them see you anxious for sure. You can also show them if they can how to do video visits. You can do that all the time, even phone calls every day. It means a lot.
That makes sense. I appreciate the suggestions. How can I show them the kids care too?
Nothing will make grandparents smile more than seeing their grandkids on a video call. If you don't want to bring them when you physically visit have them record themselves on your phone as an example.
Maybe I can send them some pictures too. Nothing like a great big hug, but for now some video chats and pictures or recordings may help. I'm starting to feel a little more relief.
Of course. I don't know if they dressed up for Halloween, but see if they want to dress up and take some pictures for grandma. Pictures and voice and video are wonderful in these times.
Thank you so much for helping. I think I can use your advice. Take care and have a great day!
You too, I hope I helped. Take care! | {
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4 | 2 | Hi there
Hello, how are you today?
I'm not feeling great. I applied for a job recently which took a lot of time. I now have an interview and it's in 3 days. I'm getting really nervous about this because I think I need longer to prepare.
I know how you feel, I have often felt anxiety before a job interview.
What makes you feel that you are unprepared?
The thing is I'm really good at interviews but usually it takes time to prepare. It's a corporate interview so I need to prepare behavioural answers to certain scenarios. In the past this has taken me a week to learn and record to memory
Is it possible that you could get a friend or family member to work with you on your responses? That could possibly speed up your preparation time.
Yes perhaps. I need to draw on previous experience so I think I'll need to prepare. I'm just so busy at work these days I just don;t think I'll have the time.
I can see that you are feeling a large amount of stress about the situation.
Would it be possible to take one or more days off from work to give yourself more time?
Yes this is very stressful. Have you ever had a similar experience and if so how did you handle it?
Potentially but this is very short notice, usually I have to provide more notice for leave from work.
Yes, I have had to deal with time pressures quite a few times. I am sure most people have in the modern era where everything moves so fast. I have usually gotten help from friends, or done my best to delay or remove other commitments from my life. As a last resort, I have sometimes had to accept that I would be getting less sleep than usual for a few days.
Are there any other commitments that you can possibly delay or remove from your life while you prepare for your job interview?
Perhaps I can ask if I can finish early from work for the next couple of days and get some time that way. I do think however I'll be more nervous due to less time to prepare. The thing is I'd delay the interview but this might affect my chances.
I suppose I could ask my partner to look after the childcare for the next couple of days.
That seems like a good idea, unless that will be likely to cause you other problems. You seem like a hard working, diligent type of person that can make this work if you make the effort.
Tanks , I think I need to stay positive about this. Not sure how to handle my interview nerves however?
Well, everyone handles stressful situations differently, but there are some things you can do or try that might help. If you prepare as much as possible in the time that you have, you can be confident that you have done your best, and that is all that matters. You can decide that while you would like to get this new job, the world will not end if you don't get it, and you will worry less and have less stress. Also there is the classic technique of picturing your interviewer in their underwear. It makes them seem less imposing, and you can feel more confident.
Do you think any of these ideas might help?
There are actually some great suggestions there. The naked idea is a classic and it did make me smile. I think I am aiming for perfection when I think I should try and relax and just give it my best shot. That does help actually!
Be confident in your abilities. You are the right person for the job, and if the interviewer does not see that, it is their failing, not yours. You will do great.
Thanks for that. I think the key to this is confidence so I'll go with it. Feeling more relaxed about it all now,
Excellent. I am very happy to hear that. Is there anything else I can help you with today?
No that's great. Thanks from your help
You are quite welcome. It was a pleasure speaking with you. Have a great day. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello!
Hi! How are you today?
Im really nervous about my upcoming finals :/
Finals can be so stressful. Have you been studying?
I keep trying, but it seems my nervousness from wanting to do well is clouding my mind and making it hard to study
I can imagine. When i was in school , i had the same thing happen to me. I was so sterssed, it led to me nto being able to focus.
What really helped me was practicing mindfulness.
Are there any exercies that you like doing?
I like to lift weights for gaining muscle mass. Usually pushups are my favorite bodyweight exercise
Have you made time to do that latey?
I havent really no, should I?
Definitely, exercise is a really good way to de-stress. It releases endorphins which can calm you and make you happy. This is a great way to reset before studying.
That is a good tip, I should really start working on that more. What could I do to help me study more efficiently though?
HAve you tried setting small study goals? That always helps me. I set a hour for one small topic at a time , it makes studying less overwhelming.
Okay, so If i have 6 finals, would I be able to study for all by studying less?
Not necessarily studying less but break the 6 finals into smaller tasks. Use index cards to organize yourself. I alwyas start with an outline of topics i need to cover then put them onto index cards.
I really like that, I should definitly start doing that. How about work school balance, I currently work and am enrolled full time. Should I request time off to prep for finals or what should I do?
That's up to you. WIll your employer be accommodating about taking a day or two off? You want to make sure to not lose your job.
Thats a good point. I really like my job so I wouldnt like to lose it. But I feel like I should ask anyways. I mean the worst they can say is no right?
Definitely, worth a try.
Thank you so much for your help, you have been great. Have a good day
Happy to help!! have a great day. | {
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5 | 3 | Hi, how are you? What would you like to discuss today?
hi. I am not feeling too well.
How long have you felt this way?
i have been feeling this low for close to a month now
Has there been a big change in your life recently?
i was having an affair and i confided in my best friend about it. i found out that she told my other 2 friendd about it as well
Your friend violated a confidence. That sounds difficult.
i dont know what to do
How long have you been married?
10 years
Is this the first affair that you have had? Has your spouse had any affairs?
i started having feelings for a guy at work. I worked with him for 8 years and now he left the comapny so i was feeling very depressed and he has a girlfrend now and wont talk to me. my life feels empty. my spouse doesnt know
so i shared with my best friend as i wanted her to help me bring that guy back into my life
at the same time i dont want to leave my husband as for security reasons
Ok. It is possible that he will find out. It is better that he find out from you than someone else.
no then he will leave me and i dont want to be alone/. iam 40 and i cant have kids. my husabnd is a lawyer and we live a comfotable life
he can never find out
If 2-3 people already know, then it's possible for him to find out. Could you go to couple's therapy? That is a good forum for discussing the marriage.
after i confrotned my firend, she said that my husband doesnt deserve me. and called me manipulative and malicious. I denied the affair and told my other firends that she is lying
You had an affair because you were dissatisfied with your marriage. Why do you think that was?
my husband hasnt slept with me for over 4 years
You want intimacy and affection. What do you think caused the change in his behavior?
i dont know, he gets mad when i touch him. he wont divorce me either as he wont want to give me money from the divorce
You don't need permission for a divorce in the US. Where do you live?
i live in Chicago
but i wont be able to support my self and i dont want to be a divorcee
i am married to a lawyer and people look up to me
Does other people's admiration mean that much, more than an unhappy marriage? Also: if your husband finds out about your affair, what would happen? | {
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4 | 1 | I can't take it anymore the stress from my parents. They don't acknowledge I am doing my best.
I can see you are trying hard but aren't feeling acknowledged.
It's so hard to not get the affirmation that I am doing a good job.
What is it that they aren't affirming you on?
They don't say that I made the best choices I could given the circumstances.
I see that can be frustrating.
I want to cry every time they talk to me. I don't know how to communicate any better what I'm feeling.
I see that you are communicating to them but they don't understand where you are coming from. That can be frustrating.
What can I do to please them?
When did this start?
When my children started getting in trouble at school
When my children were in the same situation I felt a lot of heat too from my parents. It's helpful sometimes to talk to a school counselor. Have you tried that at all?
That would maybe help. I have to see maybe they could help me with solving the situation.
They have some experience with other families and maybe could connect you with people who are having similar issues. I've done that in the past.
I see your point.
Do you have other family members or friends who you could talk to?
Yes, maybe my sister could help. She has children too.
That sounds like a great plan to try.
Thanks so much for the help.
It has been my pleasure. Is there anything else I can do?
No thanks
You have been of great help.
Thanks so much.
You are very welcome.
Have a nice day.
You as well have a nice day.
good bye to you! | {
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5 | 1 | Hello! How is life treating you today?
Life is bad to day. My bbboyfireind just left me, I am alone in the house. I have no one to share things with.
I am really sorry about that - you are feeling that you've been deserted?
Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I was deserted, I feel unlovable, like no one will ever want me again.
Please don't think that! I have been in this situation and I know how awful it is but I also know that it will pass.
It doesn’t;t feel like it will pass. It feels like it will only get worse. I don’t want to go to bed alone. I won’t be able to sleep tonight.
Would you be able to go and visit friends or family members? Get some support?
My family is out of town. My friends were also his friends and he told lies about me so they wont talk to me. I want to just get drunk and go to sleep.
Oh that is not a good idea. Do you think you have an alcohol problem? There are support groups out there who could help you.
I never drink alone but I feel so bad now and afraid of being alone.
I hear you. Do you have any pets or anything at all to keep you company?
Do you think I should call him and ask him to come back? He took our dog.
I think you should get the dog back but I don't think you should call your ex - you are better off without him.
But I still love him. He did sleep with my best friend, but he said it didn’t mean anything. I really miss him,
I think you should value yourself more highly than this. If he slept with your best friend then he is nothing.
You can do a great deal better, I am sure!
Thanks. You are right, I am too good for him. I had a job and he doesn’t.
Well quite! You can easily move forward with your life. He will not find it so easy. But do get the dog back.
Yeah, I need the dog. He gave it to me as a puppy for my birthday. I can’t believe he took it.
Do you know that there are legal organisations out there that will help you get it back?
But I am still having a hard time getting to sleep, I am so upset. I have been crying for hours.
I suggest you have a nice warm bath and a cup of cocoa and try to relax
Yeah, that sounds like a good idea. A bubble bath and some warm coco. That always make me feel better
Tomorrow you can try to think of how to go on with things :). Contact some legal aid people to help you get your dog back for one.
My cousin works for legal aid, maybe she can help me give me advice. Thanks
That sounds perfect! I am sure you will feel better once you have your dog.
I hope I have been able to be of some assistance and thank you for talking
Yeah, thanks for talking to me
You're most welcome :)
Have a good night. I am going to get into my hot bath.
have fun :)
you just need to press quit and take the survey now :) I can't do it this end | {
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4 | 2 | Good afternoon, how can I help you today?
Hi there, I am just stressed about giving a presentation tomorrow
That is understandable, public speaking is one of the most commonly cited fears for people.
Is it for work or for school?
This presentation is for school
I am indeed worried about public speaking
I actually majored in communication and have a great deal of experience with public speaking.
That's interesting, I find public speaking to be especially difficult
Yes, the physical nervousness that can manifest is powerful. I would highly recommend finding a quiet place to calm and focus your mind for at least five minutes before your presentation. At least a minute's worth of breathing, and drink plenty of water.
That very helpful advice, I think another stressful factor is being able to field questions effectively
Ah, yes, that is a hard one. You are expected to be an expert. But you can only prepare so much.
Agreed, and there is always that fear that you won't know an answer
"That is a really great question that I've never considered! Maybe XYZ? I can check on that and get back to you with a sure answer though!"
There's no shame in being able to say that you understand why someone would ask the question(whatever it may be) but that you don't have a full or even partial answer right now.
Because you're also going to get like, the hecklers and the people who want to look intelligent by asking asinine questions
I can understand that, as a I try to prepare for the presentation it's stressing me out about all of the different types of potential questions.
But the advice you gave is very good
Just feel confident that you have fulfilled the assignment according to the guidelines. Extra questions from students are wildcards and you can only handle them within the scope of the assignment.
If someone's like WELL WHY AREN'T THERE PURPLE PANDAS THEN, JEFF?! you're gonna have to just laugh lol
That's fair! I suppose I will have to accept the fact that there is no way to prepare for every eventual question
I think you will do great. You sound prepared, and a small amount of worry is an indication you desire to perform well.
Great thanks, this was very helpful.
I'm so glad to hear that! You have an excellent attitude and work ethic, you got this!
Appreciate your advice, have a good rest of your day
You too! | {
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3 | 1 | Hello how are you today?
Hi, I'm well thanks. How are you today?
great thanks! So you have had a good day it sounds like then.
For the most part... my friend told me she's leaving her husband so that was pretty shocking.
how did that news make you feel?
Very confused and upset. They don't have problems, she just fell out of love with him and wants to be with a woman.
I have had feelings of uncertainity in my relationship before as well. I know these feelings can be upsetting
Right. It's tough because we are all friends, she and I, our husbands and our children.
oh goodness, that sounds like a difficult situation but at least you have your friends to help you through it
Yes, they are all very upset with her. I am being the most patient but I don't like it.
As the saying goes, good things come to those who are patient! Time heals almost everything
I agree. I just feel like the behavior is so destructive and erratic.
Maybe your friend doesn't realized the affect her actions has had on the people around her. Have you tried talking about your feelings with her personally?
I have. She's very dismissive.
If she doesn't care about how you feel maybe it would be best if you ended your friendship with her
I have considered that. My husband said the same. It's tough.
Yes I understand. I believe in you and your strength to overcome this!
Thank you for the encouragement! I know my family is what is important but this all just threw me for a loop.
Try focusing on your family then, rather than other people. Maybe that will help you
I think that's what I have to do.
Thank you for the advice.
Other than that, are you okay? | {
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5 | 3 | Hello, I hope you can help.
Hi there! How can I help you today?
I am depressed and have zero motivation, especially at work.
I hear you. Is there a particular reason why you might feel this way?
I don't know. I just don't have any energy. Life just has too many problems. It is too much weight to carry.
Is it that your life is just getting so stressful and busy that work feels like the last straw? Correct me if I'm wrong.
I guess work itself isn't the problem. My job is a little boring, but not that bad. I think everything else in life is just too much. And it leaves me with no energy for anything else, like work.
Ah, I understand that feeling completely. It's totally normal given the current situation and even without the whole virus situation, life is just tough.
Do you work in the mornings?
Yes, the virus doesn't help. And my parents have health problems which is scary. I start work in the morning. I work a normal 8 hour day, sometimes 9 or 10 hours.
Just from hearing that I can imagine your stress and how hard it must be to get through a single day.
Do you think it would be possible to get a day off or change your hours a bit?
Yes, it can be quite hard. Very exhausting.
Yes, I do have time off. I plan on taking 3 days off at the end of the month.
For a small getaway.
Ah, that could be exactly what you need!
I suggest you take that time to completely detox and get away from work and your problems
Yes, I think that will help. And time spent reading.
What do you suggest until then?
Until then, I suggest you prepare a little bit for the trip each day. Give yourself something to look forward to
Yes, that does help me feel good. I wonder if morning exercise might help?
For example, packing a bit of clothes each night or planning which places you'll visit
Yes! Morning exercise will definitely help eliminate stress and make you feel better about your health and more comfortable
Take it slow and don't forget to breathe :)
Yes, that sounds nice. Breathing is great! I have been doing breathing meditation, which helps.
THank you for the support.
No problem! Is there anything else I can help with today?
No, I think that is all!
Thank you for everything!
Have a great day and no problem!
You too!
I will, thanks | {
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4 | 2 | Hello?
Hi
I could use some help. I'm not feeling so well.
What can I help you with tonight>
My girlfriend broke up with me and I think I'm suffering from depression now. Everything feels like a chore and I'm sad all of the time.
From what you are telling me, you are very upset about your girlfriend breaking up with you and you don't feel motivated to do anything, is that right?
Yeah
I can tell how anxious and upset that is making you feel.
I feel like a heavy weight is on me all the time. I'm not enjoying things I used to in the past.
I can definitely understand that feeling as I had an ex who cheated on me and had a child with another man, so I know how hard that is.
How did you start to feel better?
I focused a lot on myself and making more time to do some of the hobbies that I didn't get a chance to do when we were together.
I wouldn't even know where to begin. I don't want to do anything right now.
I know things are really hard right now, but I know you will make it through this!
Thanks, I appreciate it. What do you suggest I should do to begin with?
Have you talked to her since she broke up with you? Sometimes it helps to talk with your ex so you can get closure on the situation.
No I haven't talked to her. I think that would only make me feel worse right now.
I understand that, have you tried to talk to a friend or family member who has gone through the same thing?
No, I haven't yet but that is a good idea.
Doing that definitely helped me too!
I was thinking about going to a gym.
I think that would definitely help too!
I want to start dating in the future but I am afraid.
I felt the same way for a while after my breakup as well, but after I took my time it was good to get back into the dating game.
I appreciate the help.
No problem! I am glad I was able to help you tonight, | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there.
Hello, how can I help you today?
I'm having a bit of a bad time at the moment. I've been with my partner for 2 years she's great. unfortunately my feelings for her changed and we broke up recently. the problem is I think I've made a big mistake and worry that she's moved on with her life
OK, thanks for explaining. Can I ask what makes you think she has moved on with her life? how recently did you guys split up?
About three months ago. I have started to miss her badly. I saw her with another guy when I was out at the supermarket at the weekend. She lives near me so I wasn't surprised but I don't know who this guy is.
So to clarify, you ended things and think this wasn't the right thing to do. You have seen her with someone else and now you think you want her back.
Yeah that's right. I can't believe she has moved on so quickly.
Can I ask, for how long have you thought you have made a mistake by ending things. was it when you saw her with someone else?
I must admit it was only when I saw her with someone else that I started to really miss her. do you think I'm just feeling jealous because we were so close and now I've seen her with someone else?
I had a friend who was in a very similar situation to this. he was in a long term relationship with a girl for 5-years. they split up and stayed friends. It was only when he saw her with someone else that he decided he wanted to give things another go.
I think you might be right actually. I didn't really miss her until I saw her with someone else. is this normal I don't know what to do about this?
I'd say this is completely normal. I can tell by talking to you that you did have strong feelings for this person once and seeing her with someone else has made you remember the good times.
Well that's good to know. I'm not normally the jealous type but I suppose we did have good times and I want her to be happy I suppose. I do think I've made a mistake though now I've thought about it!
I can tell you are a caring person and really do care about your ex-girlfriend happiness. I'm sure you will do the right thing but you need to think of yourself.
do you think I should try and get in touch with her and tell her how I feel?
I think you need to think carefully about what you really want. If you feel like this then I would suggest you do talk to her about it, however you may be best talking it through with a friend or family member first
That's not a bad idea. I think I will speak to one of my friends about this ,he's normally pretty good with that kind of thing.
yes it's really good to talk it through with someone first just really understand if trying to restart your old relationship is the right thing to do for you.
I think I conversation has actually helped me understand my motivations a little better. you have also given me some good suggestions so thank you for that
I'm happy to hear that.
you seem like a really decent person and I'm sure you will make the right decision and I'm positive you can get past this!
Thanks for the conversation. It really helped.
You are very welcome. | {
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3 | 1 | Hello
Hi there, how are you doing?
Ok Kinda, my back is just hurting so bad today.
So you have an issue with your back, are you experiencing constant pain?
yes, it is like a real Charlie Horse that just won't stop.
Have you been doing an activity that has triggered this? Or have you woken up and felt a difference?
It has been going on for over ten years now. I can't hardly walk and I can't hardly sit still.
Ok so to confirm you have constant back pain and this has been going on for over 10 years and you just want a solution to mitigate that pain.
Yes, I have had back surgery, tried Yoga, and chiropractors, and physical therapy. Nothing has worked.
I know that constant pain is definitely up there with one of the most difficult things a person can deal with. It can also affect your mental health over time but there are solutions out there that can help.
It is just hard, waking up in the middle of the night with pain and not being able to go back to sleep. It drives me nuts some days and I just stay away from everyone.
from what I can tell you have tried many Solutions. I can see that you are committed to finding something that can work for you. personally I think it is only a matter of time until you find the right combination for you if you can stay positive.
I try to hide the pain from my family because the man of the house is suppose to be strong and provide for his family. I have a very loving wife and a set of twin boys that just turned 13. I am blessed in so many ways but I still seem to have to suffer to enjoy it.
if I'm being honest I can relate to this. I have a young son and a small family myself. I have had problems with my hearing and tinnitus that is manageable at the moment but constant. in feels like nobody understands just how difficult this can be.
I feel your pain, I have came a long way in managing the pain mentally. I try to block it out and keep my mind busy to not think about it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
ok so I assume you spoken to many medical professionals about this. have you had a diagnosis?
I have sever spinal stenosis and a deteriorating bone disease. The surgeon said it was worse than he thought and he done all he could. He was afraid to go any deeper because I might not walk again if he did.
you have clearly been through a really tough time and my heart goes out to you at how well you are dealing with this. you seem like a very positive person and I appreciate how hard this must be a times. you also care great deal for your family and they're helping you to get through this. I think you are strong and can continue being positive!
Thanks for the words of encouragement. It makes me feel better knowing that people in the real world still care about others and how they feel.
if I am being completely honest I think you are incredibly strong. Have you seen a pain management specialist that can help you block out pain? also there may be new advances in pain relief so it would be a good idea to keep up with advances in managing pain. You may be able to take part in studies for new developments.
Sounds great, I will check into it with my doctor. Have a nice day.
take care it was nice talking to you
You too. | {
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4 | 2 | i am unsure if my marriage will work
we fight and argue all the time and don't get along
when did you start having these feelings?
about 3 months ago
is there something specific that began around that time?
i lost my job due to covid and my husband had to get another job while i stayed home with my son for school online.
That is a difficult and trying situation during unprecedented times. This is a temporary situation that will improve in time.
im not sure about that but i pray it will. thank you
No one ever could have imagined that this would be how we are having to do things.
yes its crazy but i am praying my way though it all
have you considered discussing your feelings with your husband?
i have but i feel like he does not care enough to change
I have done a lot of soul searching over the past months and i found small changes in my perspective helped diffuse my stress. I set aside some time to talk to friends and we all share some laughs and some tears and it truly helps.
that is a really good idea. i could especially use some laughs during this time. thank you for that advice
you have been helpful
god bless you
There is no need to thank me. you are doing what many are trying to do. I pray it all works out for you and your family.
thank you so much. its been a very rough year. its like things just keep happening and i have no control
Please consider trying to reconnect with your husband. Simple little kindnesses do so much for the spirit.
yes i can try and do that. i admit i have not been that nice to him recently
Every day is a fresh start. kindness from you will be returned.
i like that. today is a fresh start and a new day
Friends, family and faith are what keep us grounded. It sounds like you have all of those. Please remember that each is there to support you. | {
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4 | 1 | hello
Hi how are you ?
Well im feeling awful and my heart is racing , im feeling anxious for no reason.
I understand what your going thru , i also suffered from anxiety but trust we you will overcome this.
What do you recommend i do?
I recommend searching online about meditation , also one of thing that helped the most for me was exercise and eating healthy.
Ive tried meditation but cant seem to calm down. Exercise help for a bit but then my anxiety comes back.
I remember many times i thought the same way as you but i didnt give up and kept trying. As long as you dont give up you will make progress. It will take time and patience.
Wow its so nice to talk to someone who had the same issues. Are there any other suggestions you might recommendo?
OF course , for example i watched youtube videos of someone called theanxietyguy and i made tremendous progress with him. Also i drink teas to calm my nerves .
Thank you!! im going to look him up . Has your anxiety come back?
Somethings its want to come back but i am on top of it and always being discipline with myself. I make sure to love myself first and give myself priority.
Thank you for everything .I am now motivated to get going.
You are welcomed i am glad i was able to help out. Stay positive and healthy.
What kind of teas do you drink to help with anxiety?
I drink a lot of chamomile tea with honey which has a great flavor good to calm done, i drink mint tea very refreshing and tilo tea which helps me sleep.
I never tried tea , this new for me . I will definitely order some online. DO you have any other suggestions?
Yes of course. If you worried about some kind of sickness i would recommend you go to the doctor get yourself a full checkup it will help calm you mind down and reassure you that you are healthy.
That a greay idea. My health anxiety its at all high levels everything i see about a sickness i get worry especially with this covid -19. I barely go out and get nervous. Has that happened to you?
Yes, once in while i get nervous about but i try to keep positive and take the right precautions and wear my mask, clea my hands and stay my distance. you shouldnt have a issues .
Do you workout?
No, i havent felt motivated . What kind of workout do you recommend for my anxiety?
What really worked for me was cycling. Since its a great cardio workout and its fun. You would enjoy it. Maybe you can get a friend and try it out. | {
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5 | 1 | hi
Hello
how are doing you today, what is troubling you?
I am not good at all
you are not good, why
I am scaring about layoff from job
oh, if i get you clearly, you mean covid-19 impact on your job might soon affect you job
You are very correct
Pandemic is giving us problems
yeah, covid-19 is a real bummer but i am sure we will soon get over it and the economy will bounce back
I pray its over soon, firstly it was paying cut off and now it is layoff
i was furloughed my self and now i am working part-time, its not s lot but it is better than nothing
Seriously! What I am scare of now is how to secure another job
i can feel your pain just by chatting with you
i was scared at first too before but now that i gat something i am doing it feels better a bit
It is not easy my friend! I don't even dream about this at all I don't believed it is happening
yea, it soo surreal, but even though there is a lot lost jobs, there is still a lot of job you can get to keep things balance
That is it my friend! A lot of people are losing their jobs every day by day that one a lone is caring
first of all, polish your resume, go online and ask around
Thanks friend! That what I was thinking about
You are too good friend, it is time to go thanks
from what i have heard and seen, there is job somewhere around, you just have to ask the right person
Thanks for being there for me. we have to go now. Bye | {
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5 | 4 | How are you doing tonight?
not so happy
In what way are you not happy? Can you elaborate?
i am not happy because of my current breakup with mypartner.
Problems often arise in relationships over misunderstanding each others point of view.
yeah i accept it there will be misunderstanding we want to get adjust
but it must be both side adjusted ,if not it will result in breakup only.
I completely agree with you. One sided relationships do not work.
yes it wont work at all
What else besides unhappy do you feel about this breakup? Often there are a mix of emotions and looking at all of them is important to see the whole picture. People often report feeling relieved, regretful or other emotions with the feeling of unhappy.
there is only thing for my depression is my break up i want to over come but i couldnot .
What are some things that you enjoyed doing before this relationship?
i was going out for night pub ,enjoying with friends
Reaching out to old friends is a great idea to be able to regain some joy in life.
but i cannot face them in this sutiation
Many books have suggested that we are allowed to disclose what we want in relationships with friends. So if it is not something you wish to talk about with your friends tell them that and they should be willing to accept it. However I do understand if you do not want to reconnect with friends.
they will accept me but i am not willing to share my negative mood with them.
I understand. What have you tried to overcome your depression?
i am trying to overcome but i couldnot
I think what I meant are there things that you have done, that while you are doing them, you are not actively feeling depressed? Many people say that going for walks, taking a cooking class, starting a new hobby are ways they have stopped thinking about their depression and found some relief from it.
yes this seems a good idea
i will try doing this things.
In the past when I have dealt with depression following a breakup I have taken up a new hobby. I found I liked crochet. I made a blanket that I still have today.
i will try a new hobby are some other things.
That is good to hear. Is there anything else you would like to talk about?
nothing else is there
It was nice talking to you.
i think this enough for me to overcome my depression.
thank you for the suggestion
It is a good place to start.
thank you so much
it is good talking to you.
bye
bye | {
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4 | 1 | Hello.
I am looking for another job preferably in my locality and not getting yet, since last 2 months. I will find it difficult to sustain if this continues like this for other 3 months.
So it sounds like you've been struggling with finding a new job. It's never easy looking for a new job during these times. Why do you think you're having trouble?
Getting a job is not that difficult. But I try to find a job in my locality to avoid distant from family and having food issues.
It sounds like you're motivated and dealing with a lot. Is there a specific job that you had in mind or are you applying to different kinds of jobs?
Any kind of job, probably managerial. But to be in my locality since to look after my aged mom also.
It sounds like you really care to want to be close to home. Have you talked with someone locally about jobs that would allow you to stay close to home?
I have been talking to some people who my friends knows also. They show interest but cannot help me on the issue.
Surely they will refer to some people. But it will take some time.
Stay motivated. If one opportunity doesn't get your desired response you may be even closer to finding the right job for you. Keep pushing on and know that if one opportunity doesn't work out a positive attitude will make all the difference. Just because you haven't found one yet doesn't mean you won't.
Thanks for making confidence. I feel relaxed. I believe this will surely be a chance to find myself and get a better opportunity to be relieved from my previous difficulties. Only GOD should have forced me this way, I believe.
Your faith is healthy and gives you purpose. Similarly you have to believe that the dots will connect in your favor. Maybe you can't connect them looking forward, but looking backwards you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.
I felt anger over my previous employer since he was not giving any time for me to switch over, at least 2 months.
Even then he was satisfied till then.
It can be frustrating to focus on your last job, especially if you haven't found a new one yet. Perhaps once you find a new job your disappointment with the last one won't be so disappointing anymore. If the new job is better you wouldn't have found it working the last job.
Anyhow my loyalty was not encouraged to perform more. I have to move from some back again.
Any I am preparing myself better, using the break time to gain my knowledge further and sharpen my skills, reading and viewing many articles in the net and youtube. I helps me a lot.
It's great that you're staying productive and improving yourself. If your desire to improve yourself is as strong as your desire to find a new job I'm confident you will.
It helps me to forget the past and concentrate on the future.
Don't let your past define you, let your present choices pave a new path into the future.
I am going forward only. I think I am very close to the treasure, not knowing how many hits to dig.
I require your greetings for a better prospectus. .
I'm confident you will.
What do you mean?
Thanks for your motivation. . . .
BYE BYE
Thanks for sharing with me. Take care now. | {
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5 | 2 | Hi! What kind of issue are you dealing with today? I would love to help :)
I am still depressed about losing my job.
Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that.
What have you been doing since losing your job?
It's been rough, it was out of the clear blue. I've been looking for a job, then the pandemic hit.
Oh wow I feel you. I have loved ones that have gone through the same thing as you.
They were starting to feel super down about themselves. I tried my best to support and encourage them not to give up.
Yea, I know, it's not just me. But I do feel alone. I know how they feel.
What industry do you work in? With the pandemic, a lot of interviews are done through Zoom and of course not everyone is at the best through video
I work in the hospitality industry, at a hotel. Trust me I've been looking, but so far no luck. Since this pandemic, I'm not sure I want to leave the house. How have you loved one dealt with it?
That's rough :/ I assist in managing some Airbnb properties and they've been hit so hard because of the pandemic. At least there's a light at the end of the tunnel with the vaccine. Honestly I had one friend who had been looking for a job for over a year and he just got an offer last month. They just kept persevering, even if that included applying to 30+ jobs each week
That's good, at least I know there is light at the end of the tunnel. I was thinking at this stage of the game I might have to learn something new in order to get a job. Hopefully, the vaccine will help start to bring things back to normal. Did your friend find a job in the same field?
My friend works in tech (I don't know what exactly he does since it all goes over my head lol) but I know that he took a lesser position and smaller pay than he had before. He is trying to steer his career in a different direction so I do believe it will work out for him and for you :)
:) Thanks I needed that. I think I might have to reinvent myself also. For sure the pay will be a lot different, it'll be like starting all over again.
No problem :) As long as you keep working at it, I definitely think it will work out for you. Who knows, maybe you'll end up loving this new direction in life!
I sure hope so, fingers crossed. Thankfully, I don't have to work much longer, but since I have been working for so long, I do miss it. I think I miss the people more than anything.
I hope you know that you have people who will encourage you every step of the way (even strangers :) )! This pandemic has been really rough but I have to keep reminding myself to count myself lucky for staying healthy. I hope you will be safe until the vaccine and after :) I believe in you!
Awww! Thank you I really needed that, you have no idea how much that means to me. A little encouragement goes a long way in these times we are living in. And you are right, I am healthy and I am thankful for that. Eventually, the job will come.
Yes I think people should be more supportive of each other, especially during these times! Just don't ever give up! I'm really glad that I was able to be of help/support today for you :)
Yes, we do need each other more than we know . I have to remind myself, it's not just me going through this. Thank you for your kind words.
You're welcome :) I hope you have a Merry Christmas and a great 2021 :)
I hope you do as well. Stay Healthy and be careful. Thank you again for your kind words. And 2021 will be better than 2020!
Bye! I think you have to end the conversation on your end first. | {
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3 | 1 | Hello, How can I help you today?
I'm scared about my future
Can you tell me more about why you are scared for the future?
I got fired because of Covid, and I don't know how I'll be able to find a job and have an income.
It seems that Covid has had a negative effect on your employment and financial insecurity is weighing heavily on you.
Yes that is correct, and with the job market, how am I supposed to find a secured job.
I can understand that feeling of insecurity, and how helpless you feel. I myself have been in the position of loss of income and financial insecurity in the past, and while it was hard while I was in the valley, I was able to walk out of it with some valuable lessons.
That is true, I just have to work hard for myself. I am learning valuable lessons like the idea that companies don't care about their workers, etc. Working more on myself sounds like the better option.
It sounds like you are already identifying areas of self improvement. A person with confidence in themselves and the ability to reflect and grow are promising attributes potential employers look for.
Thank you for all that you've done today, I couldn't get through it without you dude.
Thank you for your time today, hearing my concerns about the future!
You are so welcome. I know that you will succeed in your employment search as you have the skills and humility that potential employers are looking for.
I'll continue to keep on the lookout for new job opportunities, as well as improving myself for the long term. I appreciate it!
As you continue your job search, can you think of ways that you could trim your cost of living for the short term? Returning to the basics for a time could help save you money while you take the next steps with your career. Things like planning meals ahead of time, using items you already have instead of buying new, letting go of subscriptions you don't use daily or don't deem necessary.
I could definitely reduce my spending like going out less for fast food, cutting my Netflix and Hulu subscriptions, and prepare my own meals for the next week weeks, as I try to find a new job. This would definitely help with my concerns about income and financial security.
Our lifestyle seems to be all about convenience and instant gratification, I myself being guilty of wanting those as well. But I think when we strip our needs down to the basics for a while we allow ourselves to find what is really necessary, as well as what is truly important to us.
Very true, people definitely need to find their fitting for when things go wrong. Failure or bad events give us time to think about the important things in life, as well as our true needs.
And it is important to remember that everyone goes through cycles of feast or famine, and that when you are walking through a famine you yourself are not a failure. As long as you know you are doing your best to succeed under the circumstances you have been handed, you will never truly be a failure to yourself or to others.
Thank you, this has really helped me overcome my anxiety and fears of the events from the past year!
I am so glad you have been able to look within yourself to see that you have all the resources you need to handle this period of life. You have a optimistic attitude and a can do spirit, and those will take you far!
Thank you for your time, I'll have to be leaving now, this will help me for sure!
Enjoy the rest of your day! | {
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4 | 3 | Hey! How are you?
Hello, could be better and how are you?
I'm good but what make you say you could be better?
I've made an accident at work in the warehouse 2 days ago and didn't report it. I have fear and anxiety that if management will find out I will get in trouble
Why didn't you report it?
I don't know now, I've just started there 1 month ago and probably I thought I will lose my job straight away
You should report it because at least the boss knows that you are honest with your actions.
I don't think you won't lose it straight away if it is your first mistake
Yes I know and I regret it now, but I think to go report now it's too late
It's never too late, and it would be better to do it now than let him find out himself :)
On a training they told that need to report any accident straight away and if delay it will result in losing job for sure
I know I did wrong and it bothers me as I don't want to lose my job
Yes but if you report it now you still have a chance of being let off, but if u don't report it now, you would almost certainly lose your job.
In any case, always prepare for the worst circumstance at this point
But also there is a chance they will not find out?
They most likely will, so it is better not to use that chance
It's quite large warehouse and I know they have old cameras there
In any case, it is always better to tell the truth, because you don't want to have the truth boiling up inside of you for a long time. Thats what I say
Yeah I guess you are right. I just don't know what to do if I lose my job as now it's very hard to find a job
Knowing the severity of the mistake, i think you should tell as good things come to people who are honest :)
But about your depression, try to occupy yourself with more work and maybe your boss will see that you have changed your ways
Well knowing me the luck is not always on my side
Should I report at start of the shift or end of the shift what do you think?
I think you should work extremely hard during the shift so the boss thinks you have changed your ways, at the end of the shift
As long as you tell its up to you
Hope he will notice it as we have big team
If not will try to find new job I guess...
Yeah, but start preparing for the worst now:)
Thank you for your help today, I might text you tomorrow after work if things go bad | {
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3 | 2 | Hi
Hello, how is your day going?
I am okie. how are you?
A little rainy here but I am okay.
How do you feel today?
I am feeling frustrated
What is causing you to feel frustrated?
Trying hard to find some work
It's been long time now. I am kind of tired or sick
It definitely can be challenging finding work in a pandemic but don't give up keep searching I am sure you will find something.
I am thinking that I am incapable to do anything
I are capable of doing whatever you decide, maybe try going back to school.
Or you could try a career center that will assist with resumes, interviews, and job searches.
Despite of professional qualification and work experience, it is still hard for me to get it.
What is it hard for you to get?
job
I don't know where I am lacking behind
Maybe try reaching out to Human Resources of the company you are applying for to see what qualifications and experience they are actually looking for.
You have to stay encouraged keep trying, it's easy to give up.
Whenever I contact HR they are saying due to COVID they are not hiring right now.
Well have you thought about changing professions just until thing in your field pick back up?
But I want to do the work which I enjoy
I think that's why I am more frustrated.
I understand that you want to do what is enjoyable but how to you know you will not enjoy something else if you don't give it a try?
I think I wont be able to do well in new profession
I recently had to change jobs as well I was very hesitant and not confident about it. Once I started the new job and got the hang of things I couldn't see myself doing anything else at this moment.
Thanks for motivating me. I will try at least.
It seems that you have a wonderful personality, you just lack a bit of confidence.
I would try to boost my confidence. Thanks for all your help. Appreciate it.
You are welcome, now go out there and get that job!! Have a great day!!
sure! Thank you so much
Happy Holidays and have a wonderful Next Year
Same too you as well. | {
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5 | 2 | Hello, how are you?
Not feeling too great.
What happened?
I lost my job and I'm sad.
I'm sorry to hear that, when was it?
I just found out this morning.
I'm not sure what to do
that sucks, did you tell your family?
Yeah i told them
they just aren't in a position to help me
it's ok even if they can't really help, having someone to share your problem is good enough
Thats true
I still feel pretty sad about it
Of course, anyone would feel the same. Maybe you should take a short trip, camping or go fishing to clear your mind for now
That's a great idea!
I think i'll do that now
Should I invite people?
I think after you feel calmer then you can look for job. When we are desperate, we are unable to judge which option is good
Absolutely, having friends right now is the best
This is some pretty solid advice thank you
Is drinking okay when youre depressed? I kinda want to drink.
you can drink a bit but be careful, people get addicted to alcohol during depression happens very often
Good idea!
I think ill do that with friends on the trip
my moods a lot better now thank you
give yourself a week or two, what done is done, you can use this time as a break for yourself!
Sure thing
How do I fix my problem with the job?
Anything else I can help you with?
I really dont know where to turn to
its really hard finding work where I live
after the trip, you can start looking around and see, if there's no good openings, you can do part time to get some income for now
Sounds like a good plan. Thank you.
I don't think I need anymore help
Thank you
good luck on finding a new job! | {
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5 | 3 | hello
Hi
How are you?
ok. you?
I'm good.
I tried to do something bad again yesterday
What did you try to do that was bad?
I don't know if I can say
Why not?
I tried to hurt myself...not that I wanted to...I just don't have any friends
Wow I'm sorry to hear that.
Have you ever tried to hurt yourself?
because things just aren't worth it?
I haven't, but I've thought about it before. I think most people have. Did you get professional help yesterday or today?
no, my parents don't believe me that it is important enough. How would you do it...hurt yourself?
I thought about crashing my car into someone else
I don't have a plan, I just have though about how I have the power to end it.
Why would you want to crash into someone else and potentially kill them too?
It doesn't matter
It would be quick for me
I would take off my seatbelt first
that would be considered a murder suicide
I wouldn't be here to see it
Just want to end it
Looking to do it tomorrow...around lunch time
when my parents are at work
you should call the national suicide hotline: 1-800-273-8255
or 911
why?
I don't need an ambulance
I think you should reach out for professional help
how would you do it?
What will they do? Tell me to suck it up?
They don't understand
my step dad doesn't treat me well
how would you do it?
he does things that aren't natural
that would just make him angrier
he always says I am his sissy son
well, I don't know if you are being serious or not but I'm going to reach out to Mturk and get them to get help for you. I don't mess around with this stuff.
tries to make me a man
I will have them contact you through your worker ID
that will only make things worse...he will do more things to me | {
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5 | 3 | Hi. I am looking for support for depression. My fiance died four years ago today and I am very sad.
I am sorry to hear about your loss. How do you feel throughout the day?
Very sad. I think about him often.
It is sad indeed having a loved one past. Having time will help.
Yes but how much time?
Some takes weeks. Others take month or years. It's different for everyone. I know where you are coming from. I lost my husband a couple years ago and it took me awhile to move on as well.
I'm so sorry. It is very hard, isn't it? I know time is helping, but sometimes, like today, it's just overwhelming how much I miss him.
I think perhaps you could think of the wonderful times that you spent with your fiance, and cherish those feelings.
Yes, I do try. Thank you.
May I ask what helped you move forward?
I thought of the good times that we spent together. What are some of your happy memories with your fiance?
Some of my favorites are playing games together or watching movies. Curling up on the couch. He had kidney failure, so we didn't do much outside, but spent as much time together as we could. He used to call me his sunshiney baby doll. Whenever I see sunflowers I think of him.
But most of all, it was that he loved me. He loved me for me ... he didn't want me to be anyone or anything else. That was a miracle.
That is so sweet. How are you feeling now with all these memories coming back to you?
actually i am feeling somewhat better. still sad, but it's good to remember those things. thank you.
i appreciate your time and understanding. I hope you are able to remember your good times as well.
Other ways to cope is perhaps taking a new hobby. Do you have any new interest that you would like to try? I took up a cooking class a few months after my husband past away, and I really enjoyed it.
i've been trying to figure out a hobby ... but i haven't really found anything that appeals to me. a cooking class sounds interesting though. i might learn how to do things in the kitchen without injuring myself.
I tend to be clumsy at the best of times and have done things such as (most recently) dropping a scalding bowl of chili on my foot. I tend to wait to do new things til the last injury heals.
I think you will do fine in the kitchen once you get the hang of it. What are some of your favorite food?
hmmm. i love tacos. and stews. cheesecake.
i used to bake ... but i'm diabetic so that's probably not such a good idea any more. and since we're working at home now i can't bake and take it into the office for people to enjoy
Yes, I enjoy tacos and cheesecake as well, especially from the Cheesecake Factory.
oh my yes, the Cheesecake Factory has amazing cheesecake.
I am going to go now. Thank you very much for your support. It helps to have an "ear" ... just to be able to talk about it and be reminded that it's all going to be okay. Plus, that there's cheesecake in the world, so it can't all be bad, right?
Okay, I'm glad you are feeling better. Enjoy the rest of your day and stay safe. | {
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4 | 2 | Hi
hello, how are you?
I have been better
Do you want to tell me what happened?
Well its happening still. I have end of term exams coming up and I have been trying real ly hard to study but I am afraid I will fail my classes.
Is there a reason for you to think that way?
I havent done really well on the other tests. I turn in all my work and study hard but I can not seem to pass the exams
First of all, try not to overthink right now and do your best to review your materials
I have. I have been through the book, read my notes but when i take any practice tests, I still dont do as well as i would like.
hmm I understand your frustration, have you talked to your professor about this?
No. He was not very kind to me the one time I asked. I felt stupid for asking questions.
I'm so sorry you were treated that way, it's unacceptable
How about teaching assistant or your friends? You can form a study group and I've found friends can help even more than teachers
That could help. I have a few friends in the class. Im just worried they will also think I am stupid.
Oh no don't worry about that,I believe they are understanding and as long as you ask nicely, they'll be more than glad to help you
Okay. I think I will do that. Sometimes when my friends answer in class, it helps me understand more.
Yeah, the problem with teachers is they usually don't see from students' perspective while your fellow students do
That is true. I am trying my best and really just want to pass. I think I will study with friends before the test.
There are a few free online website that can provide help too, I used to check Khan Academy for concepts I don't understand
Oh that is a great idea! I forgot about those. I think that could really help me too.
at the same time, you need to make time to relax too, you don't want to overwhelm yourself before the test
You're right. Thank you so much I appreciate the help and feel a less anxious now.
of course, I hope I could help a bit
you did. Have a good evening! Thank you | {
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4 | 2 | I'm stressed about COVID. I'm worried about getting it and having to stay home and lose money.
So COVID has been especially hard on you?
My husband has been laid off for 2 months and unemployment benefits only cover half of what he was making.
Just hearing that, I can imagine what a scary time this is.
Yes, and I have lots of kids and they are working in essential services so not only do i have to worry about covid but i have to worry about my kids getting covid.
i can't wait until this pandemic is over and things can get back to normal.
Do your kids understand how helpful wearing a mask can be?
They do. They wear masks while at work but they still have boyfriends and they don't wear mask with friends or boyfriends.
So sometimes you worry that they aren't doing enough to protect themselves.
I know I'm more worried about others than I am about myself right now.
Yes, and they are young so they do not understand how important it is to practice social distancing and wear a mask. We have had so many covid tests. Luckily they have all been negative.
Maybe just reminding them that wearing masks protects both them and others could help? They sure wouldn't want to infect you or your husband, or others.
I do but they are young and the young are selfish. I'm not worried about getting covid. I'm worried about having to quarantine at home and not work. i supervise 15 people and if I get exposed I can't work for 3 weeks.
That is really relatable. I can understand how scary it is for you, especially with your husband's pay cut.
What if you talk to a close friend when your anxiety is especially difficult ?
Yes, there is nothing to do but keep putting what foot in front of the other and doing the next best thing.
And with the holidays, I think it's really hitting a lot of us even harder right now. I feel that way too.
Have any of your coworkers gotten covid?
Right. I hope we make it through the holidays without the pandemic getting even more out of control than it already is.
I have had some coworkers at my location exposed to COVID and have to quarantine. At some of our other locations I have had coworkers get COVID and have to quarantine.
My workplace is safe with PPE so I do not worry about getting covid from coworkers.
I'm glad you're safe in that regard.
Is your husband working out of home or out in the field/office?
I had one poor coworker get exposed to covid twice. She has been gone off and on for over 2 months.
My husband does construction and has been laid off for a couple of months. Construction has gone down because of the pandemic. Everyone has put a halt to projects.
Oh, I understand now. I thought he still how part time work. I can imagine how scary that is for you.
My husband's work was at a standstill until summer. It is better but shows signs of slowing down too.
It is worse because it is the holidays. Christmas presents and all. Yes- the work situation is definitely not good.
I'm lucky because my employer is weathering the pandmemic pretty well.
We are staying employed- just no annual raise but I'll take a job instead of a raise.
So you're at least assured your income will be OK.
That is very good news.
Maybe this is a good year not to worry too much about presents?
It is so at least things aren't as bad as they could be. i actually feel better talking about this.
Thanks for everything and good luck in the future.
I'm so glad to hear that. Good luck to you, and I hope you have a peaceful thanksgiving with your loved ones. | {
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4 | 2 | I don't know what do with my life.
I know sometimes it can be difficult to make decisions. What dilemma are you facing today?
I can't seem to decide anything with my life.
I too, have been in your place. There were days I would just stare blankly without being productive. However, I tried meditating which helped me improve my focus.
Does that really help? How do you start?
I am glad you asked. At first, it can seem a little difficult. But the key is to start small and build as you go. For example, allocating 10 minutes after lunch or borrowing some time off of social media.
What exactly do you? How can it help me make decisions without getting anxious?
From what I know, you can try to relax before making any decision. I usually follow my intuition and decide. I deal with the outcome later. But meditating has really helped me avoid anxiety.
I often feel like I'm just going to mess up anyways so I don't see the point in even trying sometimes.
It sounds as if you are low on self-confidence and are afraid about unfavourable outcomes. Please correct me if I am wrong.
That sounds about right. I recognize it but I don't know how to deal with it. I'm so afraid of failing, I end up not doing anything.
I can feel your anxiety just through this chat conversation.
I tend to expect the worse or nothing at all.
In my experience, even if we were to fail, we are bestowed with a valuable life lesson which we can use in future decisions. Approaching the problem with positive mindset will help a lot! Is that something you'd be willing to try?
I suppose so, but it's hard to break habits and a mindset that I've cultivated.
That's true. However, research shows that any habit can be broken or formed if you put your mind to it everyday for 5-10 minutes for 3 continuous weeks. Perhaps, replacing your negative thoughts with happy ones might help.
I guess it's a start. I can do three weeks, and hopefully move on from there.
Awesome. I am glad I was able to get you started towards a positive mentality. Is there anything else that I can assist you with today?
That's all for now. Thanks for listening.
You're welcome! Have a wonderful week ahead! | {
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5 | 2 | Hi, can I help you today?
I have had my babu for 15 years and have to give him up. He is a parrot and so used to me.
I am so sorry to hear that. You have probably become very attached after that long, I can imagine.
Yes, I am worried that he wont be taken care of. I am worried that he wont be happy.
I cook for him and take him outside. I grow fruit so he can eat it.
Can I ask why you have to give him up? Do you have any other pets?
NO other pets. I have gone leaglly blind, had to give up driving. I have to move to a condo from a single famuly home. He is too loud to live in a condo.
You are a very good caretaker for your parrot. You have given him a lot of specialized care.
Going blind is bad enough, giving up driving was teh worst. But giving up my parrot is really hard.
I did baby him, he can go outside through the dggie door. He gets fresh fruit, spaghettie, He has his own Alexa.
You have been the best you could be for him and it has got to feel really sad to let him go. It can feel like a death sometimes when you lose someone or a pet.
If he died it would be OK, I would mourn him and move on. But I have never had to give up a pet before. I just think most people. wont take care of him like I do. Because he is still alive, I will worry about him
I understand a little bit of how you feel. My dog died recently and it was really hard when the vet had to put him down. I was really sad and would cry when I thought of him ort the things we used to do together.
Yes, I was depressed for 6 months after my parrot died, but eventually we move on. I dont know that I can move on after giving him up
Would you ever consider getting a pet that is not as loud? I am not suggesting that you replace him.
No, except a seeing dog
I am concerned that if you don't have a pet to care for you may have a more difficult time to recover and thrive. Mourning is a process and it might be easier if you can hare your ;love with another pet.
No other pets. I need to move and cannot take him with me.
A seeing eye dog is a great idea. You are trying to think of ways to help yourself and that is really important. You are also reaching out and sharing your feelings. Do you have any friends with pets that you can visit with from time to time?
It isn't about a new pet it is about worrying that he will not be taken care of.
I contacted a rescue place to get him a new home.
I am sorry that makes a lot of sense. I am really thankful that you are sharing your feelings and expressing them.
Contacting a rescue place has helped me.
Rescue centers usually make people apply to adopt to insure a good home for them. You have made him into a wonderful pet.
I think that will be best for him
Thanks for listening
You are welcome. You are doing what is right and i am proud of you for listening to your heart and providing the best all these years.
Thank you for your time today and please come back whenever you need to talk. I am happy to listen and do my best. | {
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4 | 3 | Hello
Hi! Did they send you a summary or anything of what's going on? If not, I've been struggling general depression. And overwhelming anxiety.
They did not, what is causing your depression and anxiety?
A cycle of anxiety.. overthinking that leads to depression.
Nothing specific at the moment
So just to clarify, you are having overwhelming depression and anxiety today that has been caused by nothing in particular?
yes
I completely understand, I have had many issues in the past with anxiety and depression.
Any advice on how to push past the racing thoughts?
Have you tried to talk to a professional about this, it is always helpful to talk to someone who is trained to talk about things like this with people.
Yes
What suggestions did they give you for coping with this?
Several. Did you succeed with your issues? Or do you have any advice for a random bad day?
One thing that I did was really get back into some of the hobbies that I enjoyed in order to take my mind off of things.
That makes a lot of sense. Winter makes it tougher too I think.
Yes, winter months are very tough.
Well thanks for your thoughts on dealing with these things.
Not a problem! I know things are tough right now, but I know you can make it through this!
I hope you are doing well also.
Times are weird.
Thank you, I am well. It is a very strange time.
Take care!
You too! | {
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5 | 4 | hello. what is on your mind today?
I am sad because my partner and i broke up
its normal to feel sad when you break up
i am 37 and ive been divorced 3 times
Wow that's huge!How did you get through the break ups each time it happened?
my first two cheated on me the third was abusive. after my first wo i just started increasing my social life, talking to more friends so i wouldnt get sad
this past time i enrolled myself in college. i wanted to keep my time occupied but in a positive way that weill help me make more moeny at work and know for a fat i can take care of myself
Mine also ended because my partner cheated.What made it worse is the fact that he cheated with my close friend
well, then they were not as close of a friend as you thought. you deserve bettter .
I also feel like revenging but in a way that will make him regret why he ever left me
what will that do in the long run though?
I have always been a loyal friend and as such wouldn't do anything to jeopardize my relationship with my friends.The mistake i made however is believing that all people have the same intentions
i've made that mistake too honestly
I thought that she would look out for me the same way i did for her.How wrong i was!
im learning we need to be loyal to ourselves and not anyone else...but thats not really the best way either
people can be selfish!
I think it is,that way one will not be hurt that bad when a friend or a partner decides to be disloyal
true
Some people are very selfish and do not care about friendships
Did you forgive your partners from the past?
it seems like that is becoming quite a trend these days
The world is becoming more shallow and unjust by the day
i've learned its better jut to forget the past and move on. dwelling on it only auses more paind and heartache and take longer to get back to happy
i think you will be okay though : you seem to have your head on straight!
I agree,i will just forget and move on to a better and more prosperous life
Thank you for such insightful remarks
you are welcome!
Have a good day
you too! | {
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5 | 3 | Hi
hi, how are you?
good how are you
can you talk more about your feelings at this time?
Ive been better, but thank you for asking. I have suffered through depression my entire adult life. Now its at its all time worst. I am financially struggling and trying to provide for my 3 kids. I can no longer afford doctors visits or my prescription meds for anxiety and depression
I feel overwhelmed and hopeless.
have you ever struggled with depression or anxiety?
it sounds like you're really anxious and stressed about this situation let's try to figure out a path to move foward
Yes I have also struggled with depression and anxiety
absolutely
I am sorry that you too, know what that is like
how are you coping with that now?
I try to do yoga and meditate in order to deal with stress
it's great that you are trying to find solutions
That is awesome! Meditation is my go to. I love nature, crystals and meditation.
Thank you
I am trying my best.. it is challenging
Im good at helping others, but I have neve been able to help myself or listen to my own advice for some reason.
I have struggled with the same, have you considered counseling or another form of therapy ?
I have, but I haven't followed through because of money constraints. It also makes me very nervous to open up and talk face to face about my struggles
HAve you done that, if so, did it help you?
I have tried different methods of therapy, and have found low cost options in my area
That is good! Can I ask what state you are from?
I am in Tennessee
I am from connecticut
nice, I have never been there before. How was the weather there today? It was 65 degrees and sunny here today.
around 40 degrees and windy and there is still snow on the ground
Oh wow! We rarely get snow, but a couple weeks ago we got snowed in. The mos snow my kids have ever seen!
I miss the sun we have been snowed in for months
Thank you for talking to me, it has been a nice distraction from my own brain
you're welcome!
I can understand that! I love the sun and hate gloomy days
Do you have any children?
No im in college
thats cool, what are you studying?
Economics and Geography
thats awesome!
Thank you!
I was horrible in my high school economics class, I could have used your help for sure lol
trust me the first economics test I took I got a 55% it did not come naturally to me
It is not easy! What kind of work are you wanting to do when you are finished with college?
Urban planning, what do you do for work?
that is cool! I was a vet tech for 8 years before having children, Then once my kids started elementary school, I was the child nutrition manager and ran their schools cafeteria. Since covid, I have not worked and I home school them.
I miss working with animals!
I love animals I have a cat! His name is lucky
That is a cute name! I have a dog named Mamoa, he was a rescue from the Nashville Tornado that happened a year ago!
Wow do animals help with your stress?
he is a pitbull mix, we are not sure what he is mixed with, id guess a lab
yes very much so
I see him as my therapist lol
I have never had any dogs before but I see my cat as a therapist too
he also has anxiety from all he has been through so we are clingy to each other
I am glad you have Lucky for that!
You should take him on walks it would probably reduce anxiety for the both of you!
That is a great idea! I take him to state parks on trails sometimes when the weather is nice. I really need to make it a daily thing
Should we end this convo?
Ive never done one of these before
me either but i think we have enough data
you have to end it because you're the peer
okay, well I really appreciate your time and your input. it did cheer me up
good luck in college!
no problem nice talking to you too! | {
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4 | 3 | Hi, how are you doing today?
I could be better.
Sorry to hear. What's going on?
i'm having difficulty dealing with a coworker that doesn't take constructive feedback on standard work procedures well and is now starting her own investigation.
Sorry to hear that. An investigation on who? you?
Me and my manager. She feels that we are targeting her.
That's unfortunately. Have you talked to someone in upper management about this?
I have talked to him about past issues with her but not this most recent. I'm trying to give myself some time to talk to him because I'm still very angry and don't want to talk with so much emotion
That is understandable. People can be hard to deal with at times. What did the co-worker do that upset you?
We have a set process of how we are to screen employees as they enter the workplace. She doesn't follow the procedures or makes up her own way to do them because she is lazy to either stand up or greet them. She is also rude at times to customers and has an attitude that is not friendly.
Oh, that's unfortunate. Have you brought this issue to upper management in the past?
I have and so my manager sent a general memo reminding employees about our standard operating procedures. And from that memo, she thinks it's only about her and that we are discriminating against her.
Sorry to hear. Has upper management done anything about this issue?
I haven't taken it past my immediate manager but I may have to at this point if she is looking to file a grievance or submit a statement that we are discriminating her.
Well, in my opinion, I think you did the right thing. Has anyone else mentioned her rudeness in the past?
Thank you. Yes others that have worked with her share say the same thing about her rudeness and laziness on the job. I am probably going to submit some kind of report or statement to upper management.
I was wondering, how long has she been an employee at your work?
I'm just unsure because I have not documented the incidents that I have had with her.
She's been employee for approximately 5 months.
No, I think you did the right thing.
Wow, 5 month and she's still there.
Thank you. With everything going on in the world right now, it's frustrating to have to deal with this person also...
Well, I hope everything works out for you.
Thank you for your help and for listening. | {
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5 | 1 | How are you doing today?
I'm doing alright. Just a little sad.
I'm sorry to hear your sad. Is there anything I can do to help you?
Yeah, maybe just make a little sense of this craziness I'm going through.
Sure, let's talk it out
My girlfriend has this condition where she needs to drink formula everyday just to keep her brain working properly.
And she keeps talking about the potential of kids. I freak out thinking that I could have her die and being left with kids.
That's a valid concern and overwhelming to think about I'm sure. What is her prognosis?
Maple Syrup Urine Disease
Basically she can only have 7 grams of protein a day.
If she gets more. That could result in severe brain damage.
And is this something that she will die early because of?
Not exactly.
It just means her liver can't metabolize three amino acids.
So if she manages it she can live a relatively normal life?
Yes, for the most part. She still gets very clumsy and can is very prone to sickness getting very bad.
So it has it's challenges.
I just keep hearing about gene therapy for that I'm just at the point where I'm not I could go on if something horrible happens.
Sure, I can see where it would be challenging and pregnancy would be scary. But I'd suggest discuss it with her doctor to see what they suggest.
Her doctor said for her. She has to give blood work all the time...
Which for me is insane.
As hard as it is to think about, you'd also have a piece of her
I would probably be a shell of a person if something happens.
I just always been terrified of children.
I keep telling her but she wants like 3 kids
Do you simply not want kids? Because if she does and you don't, you can't blame it on her condition, that would be making her give up something that wouldn't be fair.
Yeah. I try making that clear.
But no one wants her to die.
I understand, you may need to have a hard conversation with her.
I don't really have an interest for them. Maybe I'll be there and love them the same at the time. But currently. I just don't see me being feeling any sort of way later
Yeah. I've told her like 20 times.
I'm starting to think she can't process normally.
Maybe you're not right for each other if you have such different views on this subject. Neither one of you should have to give in to something they don't want.
Well it's not like I actively don't want kids
I just don't want her to die.
Or for the kids to die from something I can't control
I had so many siblings die
Seen what it did to my father. And he is not the same
I've been to so many funerals as a kid for young children in my family. I just don't see kids the same way anymore.
Unfortunately it sounds like you've had a lot of experience with that, and I can understand that. I've been to my fair share as well. But you also can't live your life in fear or you're not really living.
Unfortunately it sounds like you've had a lot of experience with that, and I can understand that. I've been to my fair share as well. But you also can't live your life in fear or you're not really living.
Or allowing her to live the life she wants as well.
I suppose that helps me cope.
I want her to do what she likes.
My mom had me out of the feeling of being lonely. And to be honest. It kind of feels like a worthless existence.
She literally made me stay silent about going to a baby brother's funeral when I was a kid.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. It sounds like you have someone who cares about you and wants a part of you to exist in another living being. I know you're scared and that's valid, but you have an opportunity to do things differently than what your mom did for you.
Yeah. I guess that is a better way to think. I don't want to extend that sadness to my own flesh and blood. Especially the person who values me so much.
The doctors trust she can do it and I know medicine is getting better.
But having gone through that yourself, you know exactly what NOT to do.
Everyone tells me that. Haha
Then it must be good advice lol
I really appreciate the advice. I won't make someone else sad off of those experiences. I think people deserve better.
You deserve better than thinking your feelings don't count for something. There are people that love you and want to listen and be a part of your life.
Yeah. My grand mother and older sister actively support me. I had an uncle that passed sadly but I know that feeling of love and support will never leave me.
Good, I'm glad you have that support.
Well you have been an excellent support system.
Thank you, I'm glad I was able to chat with you and wish you the best!
Of course, may you have a happy holiday.
You as well! | {
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2 | 1 | Hello. How are you doing today?
I cannot seem to focus on online learn. FU covid
It must be very difficult to be a student during this time.
It is so weird. I am a hands on. teacher talking to me kinda person. what the F
I understand that completely. It's very helpful to speak with people face to face. However, have you sought other ways, such as through Zoom, to interact with peers having the same difficulties?
zoom is not the same. I am in a techincal trade and need my hands
Classes that involve hands-on work must be very challenging to do online. It sounds like this is a real dilemma. What ways have you already sought to overcome it?
trying to stay sane (patient) that the vaccine works and we get back to normal soon. FU lockdown
I feel very much the same way. I am also a student taking online classes this semester. I can't wait until we get back to normal classroom settings, and I also hope fervently that the vaccine process is quick, efficient, and effective. I find that making regular online meetings with my professor, while it might not help with the physicality of your work, at least provides mental and motivational boosts. Do you ever meet with them in any capacity?
honestly its all a shit show right now. Everything is tied up in logistics and stop and starts. this year has been almost a wash
It's been the same way at my school. At least there is some solace in knowing that a large group of students is also struggling right now. Having a source of community support/commiseration is at least emotionally helpful.
true, I guest if the ship goes down we all go down
If there's only one thing to take from this, it's knowing you aren't alone. I have confidence that you, and this entire country, is going to get through these difficult times.
I believe that too. thanks for the reassurance. I just have a hard time sitting still
I definitely get that. It's especially hard because we've had to sit still for so long. It's almost been a year since things were normal. It's kind of like we're just waiting for real life to start again.
imagine when it happens. when everything is the way it was a year ago. a beer. at a bar.
That sounds incredible. Or just to be able to go into a store without a mask and hand sanitizer and constantly monitoring how close you are to people. It's almost impossible to imagine, to be honest. But when that day finally comes, it'll be one of the best days of my life. We can finally start putting all of this behind us.
thanks fo the chat. i feel better. stay safe.
im hitting the books
Thanks! I hope this helped relieve some stress, at least. You stay safe, too.
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3 | 2 | Hello! How are you feeling today?
i am feel worsen
That's never good. I know how it can be to feel down. What's got you feeling that way?
i can't done by project , my team lead will definetly scold me
It seems like you're worried about your abilities as well as your team leader potentially being disappointed with your performance. Am I understanding that correctly?
yes , you prediction was so good
That's lovely to hear. Have you tried discussing your doubts with your supervisor? There are times where I've felt overwhelmed, but maybe they could provide some additional guidance or someone to help assist you with the project.
yaa, but this is holiday the supervisor does not take my calls
Is there an impending deadline for the project you're worried about meeting? Maybe you could contact them through email or another form of outreach.
yes, after the holiday i most submitmy project
I can understand how stressful that must be, with the business of the holiday season on top of a looming deadline. Is there anyone else you can potentially contact to discuss changing the deadline?
maybe my team mate will help me , i can communicate them to overcome this
That sounds like a wonderful idea! That's what a teammate is there for after all.
yaa , you are right
I'm sure they'd love to help. Is there anything else on your mind today?
nothing
Is there anything else you'd like to discuss today?
nothing all are done
Awesome! Have a wonderful holiday season :)
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5 | 4 | Hello. How are you doing today?
Hello. Not so good
I'm sorry to hear that. What is on your mind?
Thank you. On top of losing my job, my electric/water about to be turned off, my car was repossessed last night.
I lost my job too during the pandemic. Sounds like you are going through a similar situation due to Covid and are struggling with your finances. Did I understand your concern correctly?
Yes, exactly. I have 4 kids I am trying to provide for so I am really feeling at a loss right now
There are a lot of people like us going through this difficult time. Are you talking with friends or family about your situation?
Honeslty, I don't have friends. I just spoke with my Uncle, he understands but can't help.
I'm certainly glad your uncle is there to talk to. I know family can be a source of strength. Have you been able to find any assistance from local organizations?
I got approved for food stamps but other than that I don't know where to start looking.
Food stamps is a good start. My parents just applied and were approved for a small amount, which is a start. You might want to check your local government website or for local charities. Does that sound like something you'd be interested in researching?
Yes I will. I need all the help I can get right now.
I am really sorry you are having to go through this. You sound like a very strong person that will find the right solution. It took a lot for you to seek support.
Thank you. I just don't know what else to do. Thank you for listening to me.
I'm here as long as you need to chat. I'd recommend reaching out to the electric and water companies to get those turned back on. They likely have special programs to help during the pandemic. Once you have a chance to review the local government and charity options, you can look to get your car back. Take it one step at a time and things will start to get and feel better for you.
I really hope so. I am going to look for government help now. Thank you
That's great. Is there anything else that would be helpful for us to discuss?
No, but thank you for listening and giving me ideas.
Glad I could be of assistance. I wish you the best during these trying times.
Thank you. Good luck to you! | {
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2 | 1 | Hello
hi
How are you this evening?
not good stressing about next exam
What class is your exam in?
economics
So just to make sure I understand, you have an exam coming up in economics and you are very stressed about it.
that is correct.
Do you have any study groups set up for the class? Often times it helps to study with people who are in the same situation you are in.
Study groups don't help me. I find them distracting. I am not able to focus. Adds to the stress
Have you made any flash cards for the class?
Yes I have flash cards. That helps with the study but not with the stress
I used to stress out a ton over tests too, but I found that distracting myself every once in a while with a movie or a tv show helps me to reduce stress.
that sometimes work for me, but that is like a band aid fix after two hours i am stressing again
I would recommend mixing it in while studying, maybe study for an hour and then take a break for an hour and the study again. This way it breaks up the monotony of studying
interesting. never thought about it that way. it becomes less of a band aid. but it is still a crutch
I used to think of it that way as well, but I then began to think of it as a reward for studying and that helped a lot!
oh a reward for studying! that's a good way to think too. not a fix but a prize.
I feel better. all of a sudden
I am glad that I could help!
you are smart | {
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4 | 2 | Hi, how's your night going?
All is well this evening what about you friend ?
Not so good, lonely.
Awl so sorry to hear that. There are times in all our lives that we feel alone. This feeling will change.
Thanks for the tip.
I was thinking about getting a dog. Is that a good idea?
I think a dog is a wonderful idea. I love dogs!
Do you have any pets?
Dogs bring so much love and support. What a great idea. This can prove to be very helpful with feelings of loneliness.
Not at the moment. I have alot of animals running around my home that I feed everyday. I mean outside critters. I did just have a jack Russell. She was the smartest dog I have ever had and I have had several.
What kind of dog are you thinking of getting ?
Corgi, thoughts?
Those use dogs are super smart as well. I think that's a great choice.
Oh Ok.
My city is in a lock down currently. Is yours?
Animals provide us with a peace and understanding that many humans cant give us.
We go into lock down on Friday. Its all mental. Dont let all of this weigh you mind down. Allow your mind to remain free.
Oh ok.
I'll keep that in mind.
Though, I feel like the economy is going to be in a downturn very soon.
It may be .. but we cant shut down. Now is the best time ever to love and work on ourselves. I believe its all about the way you look at situations. This is time for self care.
I agree. Small businesses will be closing, sad to see. | {
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3 | 1 | Hello! How can I encourage you today?
Hello! How can I encourage you today?
Sorry that posted twice! :o
Hey so my best friend finally stopped showing up. We're growing apart...
You are growing apart from your best friend? Is this a good thing or not a good thing? Or you aren't sure?
It's an expected thing but it's sad. We have hurt each other many times and he is a daily drug user and is very much a fair weather friend.
Ouch! That is a sad thing. As I was sitting here thinking about friends I have moved on from, sadly, most of the time it was for the best, even though it hurt at the time.
My friend stopped showing up when he said he would and I slowly stopped answering his calls and texts.
Life is a journey, and as we walk toward goals in our life, people either join us or bring us down. Sometimes they only walk on the path we are on for a short time, sometimes longer. I have very few friends from High School, 2 to be exact. And only on FB, that was back in 1979 too. lol I'm old, but I have had to move on from destructive relationships, as you are doing now. It can be hard.
This is so strange and wonderful connecting with a stranger about this! Wow. That's true. I kept trying to get my friends clean and to work on a hobby with me but drugs destroyed my two best friends and killed one of them.
Ouch! That sounds hard. I had friends like that too. I had to walk away. Has your friend asked you why you are ignoring him? The reason I ask this is because it's good to get some closure and let them know their behavior is destructive and you need space from that.
No, he seemed to respond with pride. He deleted his facebook and never talked to me again after that.
I have learned in life that unhealthy people run from problems, healthy people stick in the mud with you and try to work out issues.
Have you other friends?
True. It's hard to connect with people after high school. The mindset of high school is make friends and the mindset of adulthood is survival.
No, not now. I am married though.
Yes, and as you grow and mature, your life goals change, not everyone will travel with you. Right now you are starting out, I'm in the retired stage, lol Now I'm interested in helping younger people. It's amazing how our priorities change.
Yeah some people just don't want to do anything in their lives...
I've basically figured out life only makes sense with God, and I don't worry about a thing now, very little upsets or angers me, it truly isn't worth it. A LOT of people have no goals. I think this is actually a good time to examine the year, what you did right, what you didn't do so right, and where you want to go next year. I think self reflection is good for us.
This year has been a great test for us all and a call to faith.
A young neighbor just stopped by today, and he just moved out of his home, he is consumed with HOW do I pay the electric, HOW do I budget? How do I cook? lol Like it is so interesting to see the journey in life. And my faith in Jesus Christ is really the most important thing.
Do pray for your friend, and I will say a prayer too. Maybe he will come around some day?
Maybe I've tried to reach him but then I just wanted to be his friend. But I can't even do that.
I had two brothers die from alcohol and drugs. I had to learn not to enable them. Sadly, people choose their own life. There is opportunity to get sober, my husband is a recovered alcoholic. When hanging with them and they do not want to change, sometimes the best thing to do is to walk away and let them hit bottom. I have 2 brothers that DID find recover and a sister too. So my whole life was filled with people drinking and drugging. And I didn't want that life.
Neither do I. I feel so much better. Thank you.
there's a prayer called the serenity prayer, I don't know if you are familiar with it, but it is used in AA and NA a lot, learning to let go of what we cannot change, and that is people, | {
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4 | 2 | What brings you online today?
Can I help you with anything today? We can just chat if you don’t have anything in particular you’d like to discuss.
I’m Kim. What’s your name?
Hi there, I'd love some help
Great! What’s going on?
I've been struggling with sleep over the last few months, and it's making me tired during the day.
I have been finding it hard to stay asleep, and wake up tossing and turning constantly.
Lack of sleep will definitely make you tired during the day! Is there something bothering you that causes you to stay awake during the night?
I can't think of anything particular, but my mood has been low generally for the last wee while which I imagine is probably the cause. I'm so tired during the day but as soon as my head hits the pillow at night I'm wide awake.
Well it sounds like you’re tired enough for sleep, but you’re still wired and can’t get the sleep you need.
That's exactly it. Do you have any advice on what I can do?
Are you getting any physical activity in during the day to make body more willing to cooperate?
I'm working in a desk job so spend almost all day sitting down. That could be part of the problem.
I’ve found that physical activity helps me to get to sleep even when I’m troubled mentally. Another option is to slow your brain down so that your mind is relaxed. That is much harder for me though!
That's a good idea. I could try go out for a walk either before or after work as a starting point and see if that makes a difference.
That sounds like a good plan! It also helps to make sure that it’s dark and very quiet. Surprisingly enough, when they did research on sleep disorders they found that a lot of people just needed quiet and darkness.
Have you tried lavender? I have heard pillow or room sprays can be good for sleep.
Yep, I’ve tried a LOT of things. I’m currently struggling with this myself. I’m even trying out melatonin, tryptophan, and even CBD (not stoney weed oil)! So far no success, but I’m still trying!
I've heard people mention melatonin - I might use that later if other methods dont work. It's good to know other people are in the same boat.
It’s one of the reasons that it’s good to get outside. Your body makes melatonin from sunshine, so going for a walk outside helps in 2 ways!
If we had a little more sunshine where I live that would be fantastic!
Getting good sleep is critical. Supplementing with melatonin might help compensate for your lack of sunshine!
I'll look into it for sure. It's something I hadnt considered before this chat.
Glad I could help.
Thanks, the help was appreciated.
Anytime. Is there anything else you wanted to discuss?
That was all for today, thank you.
My pleasure! Hope your day goes well. Sweet dreams! | {
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2 | 1 | Hello there, how is life treating you at the moment?
It is treating me pretty well. How about you?
I can't complain :) Is there anything specific that you'd like to talk to me about today?
What are you hobbies?
I like to listen to people's problems. I am training to be a counsellor. What would you like to talk about?
That's a unique interest. How much longer do you have before you are a counsellor?
About 12 minutes. Would you like to tell me what is on your mind at the moment?
Do you have any kids?
No I don't. I am here specifically to help you with problems that you might be facing at the moment. Do you have any problems at work, for instance?
I have a problem with finding work that doesn't need me to work on the weekend.
Ah I hear you there! Some employers are so inconsiderate; they expect us to drop everything and work at any time of any day.
I wouldn't mind it if I had local daycares that were opened on the weekend.
Ah, so I hear you saying that one of the things that you are struggling with is finding affordable childcare?
Isn't the affordable part but finding a daycare open on the weekend at all. I don't want a private person. I would feel more comfortable with a daycare setting.
What are your objections against a private person? Is it that you feel you could not trust them? Do you have any family members who could help?
I have no family that can help. Yes, its me not trusting some random person. In a daycare their cameras and others being around makes me feel more comfortable.
Could someone come to your home perhaps? You could set up your own cameras there. And you could make sure to get someone with excellent references
I wouldn't even know where to begin to look. Any suggestions?
You might be able to find good advice on local parenting forums. There must be other people there who are in the same situation.
Where would I find a local parenting forums? I'm not very tech savy so I'm lost on all of that.
Try going to google, inputting your local area and searching for parenting advice forums :)
That sounds easy enough! I never thought of this as being an option.
I hope you are able to find someone who can set your mind at ease! Thank you for talking and have a wonderful festive season.
You do the same! Thanks for your advise and time :)
no worries :) remember to hit the button and take the survey ;)
Thanks for reminding me!
I can't actually do it from my end until you do :) | {
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5 | 4 | Hi there, how are you doing
Good evening. I am so ready for bed. Is it bedtime yet
Depending on where you are, it might be. May i ask why you are so tired?
I m in pa its 417pm and all I ever want to do is sleep
anyone there
Hello i am sorry for the delay
Is there anything going on to make you so tired?
No just tired all the time . Doesn't matter how much sleep I get
Have you gone to a doctor yet and asked for more information about this?
I have been diagnosed with major clinical depression over 20years ago
Oh i am sorry to hear that, are you doing anything now as treatment?
I am under no treatment. I had over 20 medicines over the year and nothing helped .
Have you tried just talking to a therapist?
years ago but nothing
now because my husband doesn't allow it or think it will help
Sometimes it can be as simple as not connecting with the right therapist. They are there to support you and if you dont feel the connection its ok to move on to another. Maybe its time to look again?
Well, your husband does not control you. You are in control of yourself. It is not his mind and body its set to help. Its yours.
true but he s got me under his control long story
I think that might be an issue you need to deal with first. That is not an ok situation to be in.
yes i know. and you are right but like i said its a long story
There are many organizations that can help you get out of an abusive relationship.
true. I m going to go lay down now. Thanks for your information
I really hope that you try to reach out to someone for help. Do not let him control your life. I hope you can get some rest.
Thanks for trying . It s more than one 15 min conversation can do when it took years to get this way
Oh i know, thats why you need to branch out and find professionals. I know you can.
Keep safe and thanks for listening.
You as well, thank you for sharing. | {
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4 | 3 | Hello
Hello!
How are you?
I'm fine. How are you? Is there any issue I can help you with?
Yeah I'm really depressed. I just found out my buddy of 20 years is now posting that he believes Trump and that the election is being stolen from him. I thought I knew him but now I don't know.
That's a really tough thing to deal with. It can be hard to be confronted with a different, unexpected side from a trusted friend.
And I had this guy as my best man for my wedding
Perhaps you can try reasoning with him. I'm certain that your judgement in friendships is not flawed and although he has made quite the yikes choice, he still has redeemable qualities. Especially if he wasn't making his political viewpoint known until recently. It leans towards the idea that with the right information, he'll understand that Trump is a big loser and he lost lmao
I tried but he says that he's sick and tired of Facebook and Twitter putting a muzzle on Trump and ever since he's been on Parler he now knows the truth
It's like he doesn't believe science anymore
Consider directing him to news sources that are not Twitter or Facebook, though I know this is hard to do. it is just a teensy bit funny he thinks that Trump is being muzzled on twitter when they are not deleting any of his tweets.
Yeah he thinks it's wrong that Twitter is flagging his tweets and he's mad that Facebook are taking down these groups that he feels are telling the truth
This seems like a very sudden reaction from him, from what I've gathered, seeing as how it took you by surprise. Is there anything going on his life that may have put him into a negative mindset? Perhaps he's having problems in a relationship or at work that is leading him to rabbit holes on the internet.
He just got furloughed.
Maybe like 3 weeks ago
I'm so sorry to hear that. He might be struggling with that and looking to shift his negative feelings onto another issue, one that has the support of many. It could be providing him comfort to be angry at the suppression of Twitter rather than coming to terms with his own turmoil. I think talking to him about his job status might be a start in reasoning his new outlook.
I dunno. How do you think I should approach him about that? He's sort of touchy about the whole subject.
Gently. It's never a good idea to press the issue, especially if it seems like he's trying to avoid it.
Yeah, it just seems whenever I try to chat about anything it just ends up in an agrument.
Perhaps you should implore the help of somebody else in his life. I understand wanting to help your friend, especially when it's negatively impacting your own mental health, but there's only so much one person can do. You both deserve to be in a good head space and asking for help is okay.
Yeah I guess you're right. I suppose I can talk to his wife about it but I'm not sure how to bring it up.
I'm sure she might already be concerned as well. It might be easier than you expect. If he's consistently getting in arguments with you, it's likely that he's stuck in a negative haze and it might be affecting his other relationships.
That's true but I don't want to make this more complicated that it should be. But I used to date his wife so I'm sure in his state of mind, how he would take it if it were the two of us bringing this up.
Try having a private conversation with her and don't ask her to talk to him, merely push her in that direction. It's less plotting and more seeing her point of view as well.
Ok I see, good point.
Anyway you gave me a lot to think about. I appreciate your help.
I'm glad to have given you some steps that may help you! | {
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4 | 2 | HI I have such trouble sleeping
Hello! How is life treating you right now?
Ok I guess but I can not shutt my brain off and relax
I see .. so I hear you saying that you are suffering from very bad anxiety?
I guess, that would be what it is called I just always thought I am unable to sleep???
Ah I have had this problem myself. Have you consulted with your doctor?
No but I have been taking melatoning or pm medication but it does not really help either
I am not sure what sort of medications they are - are they specifically for insomnia?
Melatonin, for sleep...and like tylenol PM... I also have taken over the counter sleep meds all of them are over the counteer
I tried those too but did not find them very effective, did you?
no i do not, but i do not want a prescription afraid of getting hooked
There are some sleeping pills out there that are not addictive, or at least I believe so
I am even worried that you could get hooked with the over the counter stuff...it is a rough spot, I see all the night time TV shows...
I think the over the counter things are generally considered safe but you could ask the pharmacist.
I guess I could...maybe it is age...
How old are you?
I am 56 years old
Ah, I am in my mid forties, everything starts to get harder health wise after that age don't you think?
I know it...LOL... things hurt i never even knew I had....
And sleeping problems start emerging, sigh. Do you get a chance to nap during the day?
NO I have never been able to sleep during the day unless I was sick, I work fulltime also. so i leave my house at 6 am and get back at 3 pm then dinner and household...
Sounds like you have a very packed life. Maybe you need more time to yourself to relax?
Maybe just not sure how to get to that point
Is there anyone in your home that you can discuss this with? Spouse?
LOL...you are funny my husband is self employeed I do all his paperwork, and he is not the empathetic kind...
I hear you on that one too :(. I think you are being put under unnecessary stress
I think you are right and I am sure I put a lot on that myself by trying to do everything right
What are the chances of you doing something just for y ourself soon? A spa day maybe?
I think I will do that ..it as good to talk to you....thanks for letting me vent
No worries, I have a couple of minutes more to spare if you'd like to talk about something else :)
NO I do appreciate it I got to get a shower...thanks again
No problem at all :) can you just wait for the fifteen minute mark before pressing quit, thanks and have a great day
You too, you are very nice
It's a living :D | {
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5 | 1 | Hi..how are you doing today..
Hi..Iam doing good..How are you today
Iam facing post partum depression as I recently had a baby..
Oh I can relate to that because I also had a baby a year ago and I can understand what you are going through..
How did you manage to deal with that..
Do you have anyone to help you with the baby so that you can have some time to relax for yourselves.
No my husband works in different city and my parents live in a different country..I dont have anyone with me to take care of the baby..
Oh that will be difficult for you..Can you afford a nanny..
Yeah I can afford but iam skeptical because of the pandemic..
Dont worry,just love your baby,when the baby sleeps,try to have some rest and practice yoga and meditation when you have time ,they helped me a lot whn Iam dealing with the depression..
Oh Thank you for the suggestion..I will follow that..
Also you can connect on online forums and find help by chatting with other moms who are fcing the same issues..
Oh that is a great idea..I will certainly look in to it and will consider it..
Iam glad you like them..I hope you will be better soon and Iam positive about that..love your baby..
Thank you so much for the help .I really appreciate it .
No problem..happy to help..Is there any thing else you need help with?
Nothing..thank you..bye..
ok bye
This service is extremely helpful..
Iam glad to help you provide with emotional support.. | {
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4 | 1 | Hello
Hi hows it going
I am alright, how could I help you?
I just need advice on if should try to get this girl i really loved back or not.
Sounds like you are facing a tough choice
Yes I am. She has told me she still has feelings for me as well, so I know she feels the same way.
Do you feel that this girl would make you happy if you were to get back toggether
Yes I do.. she always made me happy.
I also was in a similar situation recently and getting back toggether was probably the best choice
From what you have said earlier maybe it would be good for you to try to get her back
Yes that is what I am thinking as well. I should probably call her soon.
Either today or tomorrow
It might be challenging to make a first step, but I bellieve that in the end you will be happy you did this
I think you are right, thank you for your help today.
I wish you the best
Is there anything else I could help you with?
No I think that will be all for today.
Thanks again, have a good night.
Okay, goodbye :))
Goodbye | {
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5 | 3 | It is finals week at my college and I'm beyond anxious about it (1)
Taking finals certainly is tough, there's so much to think about. What's bothering you the most?
Probably my stamina and endurance to finish all the work. I'm still recovering from Covid-19 (2)
Have you spoken to anyone at the college about this?
Yes, but they haven't been much help unfortunately. My classes are online and finals are due when finals are due. They are not giving any wiggle room (3)
It must make you feel quite trapped knowing that the college aren't cutting you a bit of slack considering you are still recovering from a serious illness. It sounds like you are trying your best and not giving up already.
No I cannot give up at all. My scholarship requires me to maintain a certain GPA and I can't afford to lose it (4)
It's good to hear that you're not giving up. Sometimes in these situations, you just have to do your best and then at least you know you did what you could. I like to tell myself in these situations that if there are no other avenues to explore, you just have to 'go with the flow' and don't beat yourself up thinking about it over and over - if there's nothing you can do, just do your best to ride it out
I know, there is just so much riding on these finals. I have great grades so I'm praying that I pass without any issues and that I don't bomb even one of them (5)
Are you still there?
If you tried hard previously then you may come out the other end having done very well! When I was at school a long time ago, I had to stay off school for a month, when they were practising the exams. I didn't get chance to do those and I thought 'wow I'm totally screwed here', but guess what? I did okay!
I hope that's what happens, I just don't know how to calm down about it (6)
Yes, I'm here
Do you know any techniques to help me calm down? (7)
It's totally understandable. I think even without the COVID situation, you would still be anxious. It's totally natural. Not that that discounts how you feel. Do you agree?
Yes, that is true. I just can't quite seem to quiet my mind. (8)
Well, I've tried meditating a few times before which doesn;t take it all away, it just takes the edge off! I used a guided meditation app. I also listened to white noise when I went to sleep as I was having trouble sleeping. I find even if you're mind is just taken away from it all for a few minute, it can re-balance you a little
I've tried watching some comedy shows and listening to music to take my mind off of it. It works sometimes (9)
Maybe you should do more of that, it sounds like a good idea? Don't feel guilty for doing so either as it acts as a 'medicine'. If the 'medicine' works then take it
I will try to focus more on that when I'm not studying and see if it keeps helping then (10)
Sounds like a plan! It's certainly worth giving it a go. We need a break from it all sometimes or we'd all go mad.
thanks! | {
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5 | 2 | hello, how can I help you today?
hi i need to overcome from body shaming
can you help me out
so many people teasing that i lost job
i gained weight
no support from family and friends
That's so cruel of them
yes , even my partner is not understanding , i lost job due to covid
i got covid , no money for treatment
Right now you're not working at all?
I know it's very tough for you, can you stay away from your partner/ people around you for the time being?
yes , health is not supporting , due to covid , my lungs got infected and got migraine daily
yea good idea, but thinking how to pay house rent and all .now i am depending on him only
so baring such non scene from him
Since you are not working and staying home stuck with all the criticism won't help either, why don't you spend a few hours everyday outside? you can just go to the park, grocery stores, library...
when at library, you can learn subjects that you want to know about
yea good idea , i have library card even, but i forgot thise. t
thanks for remembering this card
sure will try to go library and park is even far thAts ok will go by walk
yeah, scoop up indoor all day when you are not busy is very damaging to you mental health
YEA ITS TRUE .
thanks for the suggestion dear .
but thinking anybody tease me about my body
so i was in home and dnt go out
you shouldn't put any thoughts to those heartless comments
due to winter i am not doing any workouts and not yet all interested to do any
If any, you can try exercising whenever possible because it's goof for your health. However, do not let the comments about your appearance affects you.
yeas , but sometimes we feel bad right when own people doing those comments hurts more
I understand, especially if that's someone close to you
yea will do slowly and thanks dear for so much concern on me
true , we wish our own people should understand our situation and help us to come over the problem
of course, it's been very rough this year for you
it will get better, do not give up
really bad year ..hope new year will bring more happiness
sure will follow all your suggestions At lest will start one by one
it will, we all have to go through tough time but if you persist, things will be better eventually | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there.
Good evening . How can I help you
I'm having a problem with one of my friends.
So you are having issues with your friend? That is upsetting . What is the issue?
She has been having a problem with a different friend for years. I have been listening to these problems for all of that time. And even though it's so frustrating, because it's the same problem over and over again, I keep listening because she's my friend. But lately I have been going through a lot, and I haven't had as much time to sit and listen to these same problems, and she gets so angry telling me I don't care about her. The problems I've been going through are very serious, and I just don't have time to sit on the phone listening to the same stuff I've been dealing with for years.
I can understand how angry unappreciated and burnt out you must be feeling. I would feel that way too
It's been really rough. I've tried so hard to be there for her, and I feel like she just doesn't even appreciate it.
I don't think she is a place to be able to see anyone but herself. She is self centereed self asbored and self pity party and doesn't care about anyone but herself right now . Is that accurate?
Yes, that's exactly accurate. And she is 50 years old, and the issues have all been high school type problems that I've been listening to. Stuff about how she didn't post on social media about her birthday, and little petty things like that. Not something an adult should be concerned with. And I still sat and listened to her all that time.
I completely understand how unappreciated and stressed this would make you or any person. Especially when our plate is full and its the same old same old and nothing is changing. Its like thinking doing same thing over and over you will get a different result when 2+2 equals 4
Yes, exactly.
You are an extremely good and loyal friend and I am so proud of you. Most people would have left her.
Thank you. That's really important to me. She was starting to convince me that I wasn't a good friend because I wasn't there for her right now when I had problems of my own. Real problems - like my daughter's engagement breaking up.
However, it is time to take the hard road. YOu are going to have to say with LOVE because its not always what you say but how you say it. Give me a minute to please type it
Okay, thank you.
You are going to have to sit her down and say I need to be honest with you. I have always been there for you but you are not willing to take my advice or others advice and quite frankly I just can't do it anymore. IF you want to remain friends I need you to grow up and realize the world doesn't revolve around you or even me. Right now I could really use a good friend. I am going thru A LOT OF Sh** and I don't need this in my life. So
I think that's a good idea. I'll try that.
if you aren't able to do that than I am afraid until you can be a true friend and not just a user than I need to end this friendship . I don't want to but I need to for my mental health and for myself and even for you. I say this because I love you and I do care but this has become toxic
Yeah, I like that. I think it's a good idea to say those things to her.
she really needs to hear it and it sounds toxic to me . I know I wouldn't want a friend to accuse me of not being there and from the chat look like its all about her and she s acting like a spoiled brat
I agree. She can't see past her own issues to see the whole situation.
If you think its a more serious problem maybe ask her to seek professional help.
I might try that if this doesn't work. Thank you for your help.
youre welcome and above all continue to pray for her or start praying for her. You really are a great loyal intelligent person. Keep safe
You too, thank you.
Good luck . Merry Christmas | {
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4 | 3 | Hello how are you today?
I am fine. thanks. how about you ?
I am well. Anything I can help with today?
I lost my job in the lockdown and I feel depressed
I understand it has een stressful for you during lockdown unemployed, that must feel frustrating.
Is there anyone in your imediate household you can confide in with your feelings?
Yes It is frustrating. When I think about the financial issues I feel depressed
I compleyely understand I have also lost my career due to covid. Dont give up, staying positive and open minded to new opportunities will help you find work.
Not sure how to manage mortgage payments and credit card bills : (
i see.i would call the companies themselves and see if they have programs in place to help you.
That's a nice idea. I will call the bank to see if they provide mortgage holiday
At least they might give extensions.
Can you elaborate on extensions please ? Not sure what it is ?
Also there are people willing to help sometimes in local places. An extension would happen when the institution you owe gives you more time to pay them.
I would try going to the town hall.
Ahh ok . I will give them a call and check. What does going to town hall mean ?
Going to the town hall means phsyically going to your local town hall asking for help for assistance. There should within have programs you can apply for.
ok understood. Have you had any depression issues during lockdown ?
Once again I a, sorry to hear that you are depressed. Make sure to go ouside everyday. I have learned that healthy doses of sunshine help. Yes I have often felt helpless due this pandemic.
I will say though that exercise, movies and lots of coffee have helped me.
I do tried watching movies in streaming platforms like Netflix and Prime. Did you tried the same ?
Yes i normally use netflix.
prime i do no use so much
Did this conversation make you feel any less depressed?
I get a feeling that I ran out of my favourite genres in Netflix. Did you get the same feeling ?
No i can usuallly find something new to watch.
What are the other ways to avoid the sick feeling of this pandemic ?
Are you a real person or a computer program?
Some other ways are staying as involed with anything I can, like reading, writing, or drawing.
I am a real person ? Are you a real person ?
Yes i am real and doing this task for amazon mechanical turk, are you as well?
Although I do genuinelly care for helping others feel ettter.
Are you waiting for me to end this to get the higher exrra payment at the end?
Not sure how to end this conversation
well i will end and say goodye i hope you get through this. i know you will | {
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5 | 1 | Hi, how are you doing?
I am feeling very sad lately. I can't seem to shake it.
I'm sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about what is making you sad?
I was in a long term relationship and he broke up with me. I should have broken up with him for cheating my me but I was in love and think that I still am.
I feel like my life was a waste. I don't like being alone.
That sounds terrible. But I understand the feeling. I was in the same situation once. It is hard to move passed that. So your pain is very understandable.
You then you know it feels like the world is collapsing around me.
I agree. It's like there is no more hope. But do you know something?
It is ok to feel sad sometimes.
You're the stronger one in this position. And you can show how strong you are by moving passed this.
Thank you, I know that sounds right. I had my whole life planned out and it was going to end in a long term marriage and now its all gone.
I was thinking of getting a pet or something but I don't know if I am worthy.
This way sound weird, but I tell myself if something is not meant to happen, it would not. If you want to look at a more positive side of this, you can say this was a good thing that happened.
I have always wanted a cat or a dog but my boyfriend said I wouldn't be good at raising anything. I can try to change my thinking but its really difficult.
I know you don't want to hear all these positive words right now. But It will get better. Trust me.
I appreciate the support and need to hear positive words. Do you think I need to take a vacation or something?
It is hard to get passed someone's words, especially after spending so much time with them. How about start with a fish. I have a betta and he is really easy to take care of. But I have the responsibility of attending to his needs. If you can take care of a fish, you surely can take care of a cat or dog!
I apologize if my typing is slow
I think maybe a small vacation would help. Or doing something you really enjoy. Is there anything you can think of?
I really love that idea and I love fish! I have always wanted an aquarium. I am thankful for your thoughtfulness and not just telling me what I want to hear.
I like to go boating but its hard to do alone. I also like to go hiking but its dangerous to go alone.
I agree. Are you a social person by any chance? By saying that I mean you can still go do those activities, but you can maybe meet people there and ask if you can join their group. That's great in a way because you meet new people and there are no attachments after you leave. It's like a fun, crazy experience :)
Thank you for the support that is a good idea because I do like going bowling and I heard about a open social bowling night.
Oh that's awesome! But just remember don't try to distract yourself from the problem. Try to make peace with it. Because if you don't, you cannot move forward.
You have opened to eyes and are making me feel like a weight is being lifted off a little bit. I am going to call the bowl alley and sign up right now. Thank you for the support and ideas that I needed at this critical time in my life. | {
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4 | 3 | Hi, How are you doing today?
a bit concerned as I am afraid that my job will let go more staff like they did a couple months ago
Ah im sorry to hear that. Best advice i can give is to play for exactly that.
I am afraid id they let more people go I may be let go as well.
Like maybe get your resume cleaned up, cast some lines out for employment now, checked linkdin, worst come to worst, make sure you know how to fill out unemployment for the future.
If you have a plan already it will ease some of that anxiety that will come from this tough situation
At my age, i fo not want to look for another job, i prefer to stay at this job until I retire. So that makes me anxious
Unfortunately, life doesnt always do what we want. What we can do is plan ahead though. It will make you less anxious if you know you have a back up plan.
I hate the thought that i may have to start over
I know that is a really rough thing to go through. Do you have anyone at home you can talk to as well? Just letting it out helps sometimes.
No, I do not, but I can call a friend
It might make you feel a bit better, maybe they can give you some perspective as well.
I did talk to a friend and that made me feel a little better, but only for a while
Its not something that will go away instantly, its something you have to work at. If it is really affecting your life in a negative way, talking to a therapist might really help you.
OK, that sounds like a good idea.
Im glad you think so
I will try that and see if my anxiety go away.
Im glad, before then, what helps me calm down is going for a nice hike or run. It really lets me clear my head. Do you have anything you like to do to recenter yourself?
yes, exercise
Good, dont forget to keep that as part of your routine!
thank you
You are very welcome!
you were helpful
Im glad i could help, thank you for sharing your thoughts with me | {
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4 | 2 | Hi, my work situation is stressful
Hi, I'm sorry to hear that. What's been happening?
They barely acknowledge my presence and don't really talk to me except for an occasional hello
That's not very fair. You deserve to feel valued at your workplace and it sounds like you don't feel that way.
I know, I don't know why they act this way. is it something I have done. I'm stressed.
You haven't done anything wrong. I have felt that way at work before too. I went to therapy to deal with my difficult work situation.
therapy, is it maybe me, or should I bring it up with my boss.
You could bring it up with your boss. That would be a very brave thing to do.
I am worried that he would bring it up to my coworkers and I'd feel left in the open. I don't know the best course of action.
Usually, bosses are required to keep those sorts of things confidential. You could request to speak to someone in Humane Resources, who is trained to help workers.
I might just do that, although I am worried about escalating above my boss and above my coworkers. Maybe it may best to speak to my coworkers,
You could speak to your coworkers and let them know that you would like a friendlier, more open work environment. Do you think that might help?
It might, I don't know what set them off in the first place.
That might be a good place to start when it comes to approaching them. Let them know your side of the situation and maybe they will understand.
I think I will. Would you recommend me buying coffee and doughnuts?
I think buying coffee and doughnuts sounds like a wonderful idea. It seems like you are really willing to help create a healthier work environment.
yeah for my sanity. Thank you
Of course. It's been nice to speak with you. I hope everything goes well for you.
Thank you, goodnight
Goodnight to you as well! | {
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5 | 2 | Hi
hey
How are you friend?
Not so good
why?
Any Problem?
I feel like everyone hates me
What's the reason?
People are so rude and mean to me. A lot of people call me annoying too
it's their fault , not yours.
don't worry..
I feel bad because more than one person has said it. Maybe I am just annoying
Be as you always have been
Sometimes I'm afraid of being myself because I don't want to annoy people
you don't think so..
Sometimes I hate myself
don't change yourself for anyone..
I guess I shouldn't.
But it's hard to express myself sometimes
ok, i did understand..
Im not really changing myself. I'm too afraid to express myself
What if I express myself and I annoy someone?
it doesn't matter what others say about us, do your duty properly ok
Sometimes what other people say bothers and hurts me deeply.
don't think about that..
Sometimes its hard to not think about it
share your comments it is their choice whether to accept or disagree, but you don't change anything
I understand
Hmm good
Well thank you
im okay
Hmm all the best | {
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4 | 3 | Hi! How are you tonight?
I've been better. I just buried my dog yesterday
She was going to turn 15 next month
Ouch! I'm so sorry to hear that. I never lost a dog, but I've lost cats.
Is 14 a good age for a dog?
I have my first dog so I don't know much, he is 9 years old and came with our house.
Actually, yes. She was old and had dementia.
The oldest dog I evet had was 15
I'm so sorry, losing a pet is very hard on us.
How did your dog come with the house?
Was that your only pet? Or do you have others? We moved from FL to KY and the little dog just hung out here, he really belonged to the neighbor's son who didn't want him, so he just ran around wild and wouldn't leave. I never had a dog, but it got cold, so i took him in. They never asked about him and after a week, I asked them if I could have the dog, so they said yes. I don't think they cared.
I wish I could give you a hug, really, there are no words to make this better as you already know the grief of losing a pet, it does get better, but it stings terribly at first.
I have 2 other dogs that are mine and my boyfriend has 2
Thank you. that means a lot
We both had dogs when we met.
So you definitely are a dog lover! I was in my 50s before I ever had a dog, now I wish I had more, they are really loving. Not like cats who don't care much about much except FOOD! lol
I know when tragedy happens, I can't get stuck in depression, I sort of have to force myself to put one foot in front of the other. It's hard to have a healthy balance between grieving and continuing to live. Cry, then dry my eyes, pick up, go for a walk, don't get caught in grief, but yet don't deny it!
They get to be so close and you can really pick up on their emotions and stuff. That's what happens to me. I get stuck sometimes
I get stuck too. But you are doing the right things, here you reached out to someone and I do care, so you are moving forward.
I always find it helpful just so have someone share my pain with me. Just to know I'm not alone.
Thanks. Another person who has pets helps
They understand
I do understand. My mom died in 2010, right after she died, 1 of my cats died, my husband went into the hospital and almost died, so we went on vacation so I would not be consumed with grief, and do you know, we brought our pets and our cat died when we arrived here on vacation? I will never forget that. You know what. I knew I could either get consumed in grief, or push through. Man, that was hard. I prayed a lot and God got me through that and I had a good vacation, all things considered.
I will definitely pray for you too that God will comfort your heart and that you will be comforted by your other dogs and your boyfriend's dogs and that you will feel joy at times at the happy memories you had with your dog.
Oh wow, that sounds horrible. Pushing through though I guess is all one can do then. Thank you so much. I believe in prayer.
Prayer is what gets me through every day! :D It was rough, but I believe these hard times strengthen us in some way. Because life throws hard balls, and we have to move forward or be consumed.
That's true. I'm glad I did this project. You really helped me.
I'm so glad I did too. It was a pleasure to meet you. And once again, (hug). :D
You too. Thanks so much. bye
I have one more thing to say - wise words from this 92 year old lady at church named Sue. She told me this after my brother died. When you get older, everyone you know is practically dead. She said "Life is for the living, if you get caught up to much in all the death, you won't life." True words. God bless, have a good night. | {
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4 | 2 | Hi, how are you doing today?
I am doing alright.
How are you?
I am good, thanks. Is there an issue I can provide you some support with?
Yeah I am pretty anxious all the time. I feel that I made a mistake coming back to school to get a PhD.
So, to reiterate, you are suffering from anxiety due to school? Or is your anxiousness also caused by other life factors as well?
School is the start of the problem. I know that if I quit I can still be successful elsewhere but I also feel if I quit I will let my wife and kids down who were willing to leave family and friends to follow me to the school I wanted to go to.
I understand what you are going through. It is as if you are being pulled in two directions, but are not sure which is the best option at the given moment. I think it is great that you wanted to go back to school, but if your heart is not in it, then it may not be what you should continue pursuing.
I know I want this though. I enjoy what I do and what I would do for my career if I graduate. I mainly feel inadequate. I feel that I am not good enough. I am willing to do whatever it takes but fear that whatever my "best" is may not be good enough.
I can feel your worries when you speak about your anxiety, and I am hoping we can find a way to approach your feelings. Do you think there was a specific instance that is causing doubts within yourself or is it in your nature to self-doubt?
It is in my nature to self doubt. Additionally, I have had a few bumps in the road during my program and struggle to pick myself up after those bumps. For example, I am on academic probation and have a certain expectation over the next few months that I have to hit to stay in the program due to struggles in previous classes. I am reaching the bar just fine, according to those that I work with, and often feel I am doing quite well but occasionally I start to panic and think that I am not doing as well as I think that I am and start to spiral
This has also been a past struggle of mine, and I think it partially stems from the bar we set so high for ourselves. We obviously cannot reach the top right away, but have to work our way up. Often times, when facing an obstacle, such as a bad grade, we might retreat further down the path due to fear that it will keep happening. I know that I personally had a tendency to think of my family and friends who I feel are dependent on me or comparing myself with others when the only person we should think of in these instances is ourself. When making progress, tiny steps upward matter more than you think. But when we take a step backward, we cannot fall back down to the starting point by letting our doubts pile upon one another.
That is a really good point and helpful. Thank you!
Of course, I am happy to help! I have noticed that letting yourself celebrate a good grade can be really helpful to feel that you are enough and making good progress. But when things do go south, because life certainly happens, we must stay in the present and live life like we usually would, with a drive that we are going to push harder against whatever we have to face next.
That is exactly right. I need to focus more on what progress has been made and not on what progress hasn't been made yet because there is still time to make that progress.
Exactly! I also suggest if you are having doubts, talk it out with someone like your partner or a close friend. They can often provide a pick me up you didn't even know you needed. More than anything, give yourself credit and relax. Take some time to just breathe and release the tension. I guarantee it will leave you feeling refreshed and fulfilled for the next tasks you have to face. I believe you can do this and I feel that you believe it too, which is amazing. As often as it is said, believing in yourself is truly the best foundation to achieve your goals.
Thanks for the advice and believing in me. This has been challenging and your words of encouragement give me hope for the future .
You're welcome. It was great talking to you. Your future is bright, and I wish you all of the luck for the endeavors to get you there.
Thanks! Same to you!
Enjoy the rest of your day!
You too! Thanks again. | {
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4 | 3 | Good evening
Hey there! How are you feeling?
I am very angry and not sure if I should feel that way
my husband tells me what to do where to go and when to go but he says
hold on please got go for a min
Correct me if i'm wrong, but it sounds like your husband may be controlling you a little and you're expressing reasonable emotions because of it. and Okay!
he said if he were controlling i would be givign him attention read between the lines
than he will say don't touch this like a cheesecake and than tell me week later make it
Why do you think he talks to you this way?
I am going to write stuff to move it up on screen . he might come read this
so if isuddently leave i a m very sorry
My friends say because i allow him to control me and
Okay that is perfectly okay. You are fine. If you need me to assist you in any way just send a question mark.
dont stand up for myself and lalow him to treat me that way
I am angry too because I cant be free and express how I really feel
he has a disrespect i think for women in general and call them cunts
? question
it wont let me just send aquestion mark
I've been in a similar situation. I was with someone who was controlling in a lot of aspects so i can feel your pain and struggle. I can feel your anger too, and I imagine that it is alot. It is not your fault, and you aren't allowing this to happen to you. It is out of your control. Don't ever blame yourself.
How can I assist you?
That makes me feel better. How long were you in relationship
I was in it for two years before I broke away from it. It was so hard but liberating to leave!
ok I am glad for you..
I could suggest you see a private doctor to talk about this with, if that is something you are able to do. Or see one with your husband. Maybe he needs a third party to help mediate the problems you guys are having.
he will not go to therapy nor am i allowed
I am lucky to have family friends whom I can talk to
That's very hard to deal with. And I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Do you feel safe?
but he thinks he is always right and blah blah blah
yes
My real concern is for the boys . they see him treating me this way and will think its ok
they even said something disrespectful to me and hubby was like you don't talk to your mom that way
or ill knock your teeth out
he wouldnt but he doesnt see how its his fault
I can tell this situation stresses you out and probably consumes a lot of your day to day energy. I sympathize with you and your children. What happens when you try talking with him about this?
he says i m making a mountain out of a mole hill
and i have no idea what controlling is
I commend you for speaking up for yourself despite his responses. I hope you hold on to that strength for as long as you can. It will empower you
well boys need to get ready for bed . thanks for listening. You can know I will be safe.
Okay I will be praying for you and I hope the best outcome for you possible. Please know there are domestic hotlines you can call if need be. I hope you enjoy your night.
you too keep safe
Thank you! | {
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3 | 2 | Hi. How are you today?
Hi. I'm OK. How are you?
I'm OK as well.
so I have a person at my work that likes/wants to do my job.
they often do something that I was responsible for or I needed to do.
How do you feel when that happens?
I upsets me a lot
That can be really frustrating.
What do you do when it happens?
I have gone to my supervisor and explained it to him.
At first he ignored it.
But recently, he paid a little attention to it.
I have had to speak with him 6 times in the last year about this.
Are you there/
It's good that you're seeking help from your supervisor.
Is your coworker open to suggestions and feedback?
Yes. He actually was married to her. Now they are in the middle of divorce. So I think he is more receptive now.
No. She has been asked repeatedly not to interfere and keeps doing it.
Perhaps you can seek help from other coworkers as well. They may be able to provide you with support with this situation.
Yes. They all sympathize with me. But there is nothing they can really do, as everyone is in a position below the two of us.
I've been in a situation similar to this and I found that talking to some of my friends outside of work has helped me to express some of my frustration and gain perspective.
Yes. That's a good idea. I've told friends and they sympathize. They don't understand why my supervisor isn't more forceful. I have just kind of given up on it. If she wants to do it, that's fine. If anything goes wrong, I will blame it on her.
It seems like you have found a way to manage it during work. Why do you think that she is trying to do your work?
I think she want's my job. Oh well. It was nice talking to you.
It was nice talking to you too. I hope that it was a helpful conversation. | {
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2 | 1 | Hello there. What would you like to talk about?
Hi, just broke up with my partner and I don't really know where to go from here
So you are feeling lonely and bereft? I am sorry to hear that. Can you give me more information?
Basic story, got back to the United States from deployment.
Ah, so you were overseas and were conducting the relationship long distance?
She kept me going while I was gone, but since I returned, she's been so cold to me
Do you feel that is unfair of her to have done this whilst you were away serving your country?
Kind of, I know that life moves on while people are away
I just don't get it though, I return and this is what I get
But she should have understood that you were doing your duty whilst also providing for the pair of you
Do you think it is possible that she has been unfaithful, or is it something else?
Possibly, but we weren't official boyfriend/girlfriend
Ah I see. How committed did you feel to her?
Maybe it was my indecision to ask her about our relationship
Now that I think about it, it seemed more of 80% me, 20% her
I know, as a woman myself. that it is quite difficult when you are seeing someone but have no idea what their intentions are.
Sure, I guess sex and cuddling is nice, but what I really want is someone to shopping with and eventually build a future
Have you considered getting some sort of counselling, either just you or as a couple?
It has peaked my interest, but at the same time, I wonder how much of this is just me buried in the idea of a relationship, even though it's pretty one-sided now
Should I seek counseling for a relationship that technically wasn't official?
I am hearing you say that you still have feelings for her but you are not sure whether to totally break away or not, given that she has
Yes. I hate how I love her, but I'm not getting the same energy back
I can't tell you what to do but I think it might be best to go with your gut instinct.
It will hurt, but it's definitely better just to move on, right?
My gut tells me that I'm not going to take 2nd place in her heart
It has to be your decision but I think you will know if you've made the right one.
I really appreciate it.
I hope that I have been able to give you some good advice and that you feel a little clearer about things now.
Yes, this has helped tremendously
Thank you for that .. I am glad to have been on assistance. I wish you all the very best in your future, wherever it takes you.
I appreciate all of your feedback too. It has helped put my mind to rest.
Thank you and best wishes!
You too! Take care!
I have to stay here but feel free to show yourself out :) | {
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4 | 3 | Hello my boss and mentor was just diagnosed with cancer
Hello there, I am really sorry to hear that. Can you give me any more details?
It showed up in her eyes. Right now they aren’t sure what stage until she gets more details.
You must be feeling very distressed about it right now. I am happy to talk about it.
Yes. She is trying to be strong and only told about 4 people. I am trying to be strong for her but it is hard not seeing someone in person right now.
I know that this is a very difficult time for everyone, given the current situation with Coronavirus. It can't make things any easier for her.
No. It’s hard to have a good support system and I’m worried about her.
Does she have anyone else around her who is supporting her?
She has her husband but limited friends in there area. I want to make sure I am being there and providing correct support.
Do you feel that you are not offering as much support as you might?
Correct.
She lives in another state. I’m not sure how to properly support her.
I know how you feel. It can be very difficult to know what to say if someone is seriously ill. Sometimes it's better just to offer quiet support and tell people that you are there to listen if they need you.
That is good advice. Have you been through something like that?
Yes I have. My sister in law was diagnosed with cervical cancer and I wanted to be supportive but I had no real idea what to say.
How did you manage to support her. How did you make sure your mental health was also okay?
I actually talked to a counsellor about it. I think that you should do that, it might help you a lot.
I think that is good advice.
Maybe even a cancer support group? I want to make sure I’m encouraging her.
Counselling can be expensive but there are some charities out there that offer a few sessions for free
Yes that is an excellent idea and you could both join the same group
That is a good idea.
I know with covid it is important to be mindful of cost.
How do you feel in yourself at the moment? Are you worried about your own health?
I’m not worried about my health. More worried and sad about her. Especially not knowing how severe it is yet. It seems like any extra stress this year is harder to handle.
You are certainly not the only one who is feeling this - it has been a terrible year. Cancer is bad at any time but this year it is especially awful.
I agree. It feels like everything is just a bit harder to get through
I am hoping that in the New Year things will be better .. maybe in January the world will look like a more positive place.
I’m trying to be hopeful to
That said I think it will take another year or two to get there
I hope that things go well with you and your mentor.
Thank you. This conversation has helped and you were able to offer good suggestions
I think I will try to apply this going forward. And find a group to join.
I am glad that I was able to help. I wish you all of the very best in the coming year.
A group is an excellent idea!
There are lots of online support groups you might find helpful.
Thank you. I wish you the best to during the next year. Maybe a hard year is what we needed to appreciate the easier years.
This could be true but I want to have an easier year next year!!
Agrees. Thank you again.
No problem. I should probably leave now :) | {
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4 | 1 | HI
hi there, how are you feeling at the moment?
Im feeling okay, just thinking about my anxiety
Ah I hear you, I suffer from that really badly too. Do you want to talk about it?
Yes, i would love too.
Well, could you give me a little bit of background .. are you seeking help for it for instance?
Im not sure when my anxiety started but its like I have a hard time sleeping at night or it feel like i cant breath its very scary so its like i have panic attacks.
Ah yes I know how that feels. Has anyone ever taught you any relaxation techniques?
That feels so scary. Sometimes I stay up till the morning because I hate the feeling. And I haven't found any.... Do you have some in mind
Well, there are some breathing techniques that you could practice .. they can be quite helpful
Thanks I will try. I have tried this app called calm also
Ah how did you find that? Is it useful?
Would you consider taking some sort of medication?
Not really.... Then its like i hate being in crowds, it makes me very anxious.
Yes I do too. I try to avoid other people as much as possible :(
RIght I thought I was the only one.
No it's surprisingly common. It can lead to a condition called agoraphobia, in which people are reluctant to go far from home
That's how I feel. I have a boyfriend and we have a very close relationship but its like when I get around a crowd of people I get anxious.
*nods understandingly* Sometimes I feel that my boyfriend is the only person I feel totally comfortable with. I hate interacting with other people. That's why I do crowd work lol
LOL yes. I feel like I'm anti social sometimes
I don't think it's really anti social, it's just a result of a chemical imbalance I think. But it's a nuisance.
I hope I have been able to provide you with some help and let you know that you are not on your own in this! Can you be the first to press the quit button and then take the survey as I can't do it from my end :)
thank you for talking to me
you're most welcome and all the best
you too
you need to press quit :) | {
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4 | 2 | Hi How's it going?
Not so well, I have been really upset lately.
I'm sorry to hear that. what's going on?
I was recently let go from my job due to the covid pandemic, and am now jobless before the holidays
I'm sorry, that's tough anytime but that's gotta be brutal because of the year and upcoming holidays.
what kind of work were you doing?
It really is, I was in a family owned cafe as a waitress. Due to the rise of the virus they ordered everyone to shut back down
I'm sorry to hear that. did they leave you with a severance package of any kind or anything?
No they didnt, And the unemployment has been taking forever. I'm now almost 3 weeks without pay.
Oh good so you've already applied for unemployment?
I have, It's just really upsetting knowing that bigger chains are open but We shad to shut down
I'm guessing the unemployment office is pretty backlogged right now but at least you've got that done so far.
have you applied anywhere yet?
Yeah, I suppose. And I have, but haven't heard back from anywhere yet.
End of year is tough with all the companies re budgeting for the following year. I'm betting things will open up early next year.
I hope so. This has just been a crappy year all together.
Have you considered gig economy jobs like uber or the grocery pickup apps?
I'm unable to do uber due to the age of my vehicle, but never thought about the grocery pickup.
You'd need a vehicle for that too but there are plenty of other gig jobs out there. you should take a look.
It may be an opportunity to test another kind of work
I'll def. look into it. thanks!
At this point im willing to do anything.
In the mean time Mturk is always a decent option...
Hmm, I'll have to look into it and see what I can do.
Thank you for some ideas. I really do appreciate it.
No problem Happy to help! | {
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2 | 1 | Hello, how are you today?
Hi. How is life treating you at the moment? Would you like to talk about any problems?
Thank you! And it is good except for one problem. I am in college and my roommates for next semester do not care about COVID -- they continue to go out and party. This upsets me and I have talked to them about it but they still do not care.
So you feel that you are being put in danger by the actions of your room-mate?
Yes, absolutely. I do not want to get covid and am worried about long term health effects. I have shared this with them but they still do not care.
I can totally understand how you feel. I absolutely hate how some people are pretending that the pandemic is not real and they do not need to worry.
Also, I am in a triple room in my sorority house for clarification. I feel my risk getting it in the room is high if they continue to not respect guidelines.
Do not worry, your fears are totally grounded. Some people really just need to grow up and get educated.
I agree and appreciate that I am not alone in thinking that!
Many college students have been very irresponsible during the pandemic which is upsetting to me.
Is there anyone at your college who could help you with this? Perhaps move you into a single room?
No, there aren't any sorority rooms available at my sorority house and all of the dorms/apartments are full already but I've tried
**single not sorority
Yes they certainly have. They seem to think that it will never happen to them and do not realise that they are putting others at risk
agreed
Is it possible for you to take some time off school?
I shouldn't do that -- I am applying to law school when I graduate so I feel like it'd be a bad look. it'd also be bad for my mental health to stay home, and I'd rather take the classes I need next semester
So you feel as though you are trapped .. you can't leave school but at the same time you are being put at risk through no fault of your own
right, it's very uncomfortable and no matter how many times I tell them how risky they are being to not only themselves but others they do not care
also one of them is pre med which is even worse lmao
Please be assured that you are being sensible and that they are the ones at fault
thank u :)
Let's hope that this is over soon .. this has been an absolutely terrible year.
Agreed! Hoping for that vaccine soon
what challenges have you faced from the pandemic?
Here in the UK they have started to roll it out.
I am so jealous! Things are so much better not in the USA!
I have to agree ;) But we have a large infection and death rate here too, largely due to government irresponsibility
haha yes we had the same issue with government mishandling everything ... so frustrating
Do you feel it would be better to be somewhere like New Zealand then, where there have been very few cases? It is a lovely country.
haha yes definitely! I would love to study abroad next year so I hope that will still be an option and COVID will be better then
So, you feel frustrated both by your roommate and also the conditions in your country?
yes for sure
I can sincerely wish that the world is in a better place next year
As do I... although I'm not sure if things will ever go back to the way they were before. But hopefully that is for the best
Perhaps we can learn something from this year and improve ourselves
I agree! It's definitely been a year of reflection for sure
I hope I have been able to be of some help, just by allowing you to talk things out
yes thank you you definitely have! enjoy the rest of your evening :)
And you too .. thanks for talking! | {
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4 | 2 | Hi I am feeling blue, things aren't going well at all
Hello, hello. I am so sorry to hear. Can I ask you more about it?
my girlfriend and I split after 4 years!
Oh no !!!
I am sorry, how do you feel? sad? joyful?
Ver sad and lonely. I loved her
Very*
What should I do?
oh no. I can totally understand that feeling. 4 years is a long time.
Thanks it is. She said I was neglecting her and we had a big fight. haven't talked to her in a month
I would recommend doing your own thing, for example, devote into your hobby or do some other jobs.
Do you think drinking alcohol will help?
Ohhhh. well. I never ditch my partner, always my partner ditch me, so I do not know why they do that.
I think it will worsen.
You had a similar experience?
I want to drink till I forget about her.
yes, I quit alcohol 3 years ago. it took me 20 years
How did you do it?
It took me 1 whole year to forget about my ex
It took me 1 whole year to forget about my ex
my ex told me I am a partygirl because I drink too much, so I stopped. Trying to get him like me more. Since then I have not been drinking.
Did you find someone else?
nope. I am cool without man
that's the way to be. but I am too lonely.
I have a secret account so I can still see her on facebook do you think that's a good idea?
haha, smart, yes. No need to force yourself to forget about her.
I heard men cannot do without a woman but women don't really need a man
Ya that way maybe I can get her back at the right time
I feel a little better- thanks. it was nice chatting | {
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5 | 2 | Hi there!
Hi
How are you doing today?
Not too good, been pretty depressed lately
I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about it?
Yeah, that would be nice.
Is there something particular you are worried about?
I've been trying to make plans to see a friend, but daily she comes up with excuses on why she cant see me.
I just feel abandoned and hopeless.
I can sense that this is bothering you a lot not knowing why your friend is making excuses. This is making you feel ignored.
May I ask if its been happening since the recent past or for a long time
Yeah, It is.i just dont understand. It started about a month ago.
I am assuming that you and your friend are very close and have been friends for a long time. Did you try talking to her over the phone? having a honest conversation with her and letting her know how you feel may help at times.
I have tried, she ignores my calls.
We've been friends for 15 years
wow that's a very long time and such friendships are to be treasured. I too am lucky to have a friend like that but we do not talk often but when we talk it would be as if it was yesterday that we met.
It's amazing. That's how we used to be up until a month ago
Do you remember if anything significant happened a month back that disturbed her or you in some way? I ask as a long relationship cannot be marred with simple reasons and sometimes it just needs a heart to heart talk.
Not that i'm aware of. but I should try to reach out again and talk to her?
Also when you say she making excuses, do you find them logical. For all we know she might be having a real situation she might be dealing with
It's more of I cant. I have to do this thing. but no further contact as what she needs to do
Yes please. Try calling again and if she is not answering your calls. Maybe you can try and meet her or write all your feelings in a mail and send to her.
Okay, sounds like a good idea. Thanks for the advice | {
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4 | 3 | hi
anyone there?
yes, hello how are you today?
hi, I am okay, but am very frustrated at how often i procrastinate stuff i need to or want to do
it's hard to even get started sometimes, i think it's pandemic frustrations
I understand how you feel, I also procrastinate...I have found if it takes less than 2 minutes to do it, I go ahead and do it, it takes some of the stress off.
hmm so you prioritize the quick tasks?
this pandemic most definitely has caused frustrations for everyone
yes, it makes the list of things to do a little shorter and not as overwhelming
i think when I can GO places to do things with other people it will be easier to be motivated/active
i have tried breaking jobs down into smaller tasks that does help, you're right on that
but it breaks my heart that i have not touched my art and sewing! i had all this "extra" time over this past year, and couldn't crack into it
have you any other ideas?
of course! i got into puzzles...and games with my little one helped pass the time
also, taking walks gets you that breath of fresh air that is sometimes needed
i live alone, but have played some online games with my sis. Walks are good but I can't walk with my friends (we are on a stay at home order presently) and I find it hard to motivate myself when it's just me
but i agree walks are really helpful, when i get out i really enjoy them. Okay that gives me some good things to try out, thank you for your help today
i understand that.
where are you located?
anytime, hope you stay well
united states- louisiana
Im in ONtario CAnada....thank you, you too!
bye for now.
bye!
oh one other thing...I have made SOME progress on the cleaning...so I need to remind myself that I did good lol | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hi! How are you today?
I'm grounded so i'm not happy
I'm sorry to hear that. It must be hard.
Can I ask what has happened?
My sibling broke the tv and blamed it on me and my parents believed them
Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that. That must be a hard situation, to not have your folks believe you.
It is very frustrating
Have you spoken with your sibling about why they lied?
No, we just got into a yelling fight about it and are both in our rooms now
I'm sure it's frustrating when you know you're correct and no one believes you.
Yes it is
I'd rather just run away from everything
It's not cool that you're sibling lied, but it may be a good time to breathe a second. Running away never solved anything
It is late at night
So probably it's quiet. this is a good time to take a breath and , literally try and sleep on it.
What do you want to see happen?
that is probably a good idea. I want my sibling to be punished not me and for parents to believe me
OK, I understand.
So, then, it's how to figure out how to make that happen.
well my parents dont believe me so not much i can do
May I ask why they believe your sibling? Is your sibling a different age?
they are younger and the favorite
I understand.
I just need to wait until I'm 18 so I can move far away
So, it sounds like you already have a plan to turn things around. How far away from 18 are you, if I can ask?
1 year
OK, good for you. It may not seem like it, but you can do anything for a year.
True.
I can't wait
So, the question is....how do you deal in the short term?
It will be nice to get away and never talk to family again
Just hole up in my room and not talk to anyone from now on I think
only talk when necessary
Yes. I was going to suggest the "grey rock" technique.
You would be only as polite as you need to be, and only engage others in a limited way. You go about your business as you need to without the involvement of your other family members.
That is a good idea
I will just do that
i can handle that for a year
thank you for your help
you're welcome!
I truly wish you the best. Stay calm, you're a stone, and will get through this until you can leave.
thanks have a good day | {
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3 | 2 | Hi
HI, how are you? I'm having a problem. It's making me angry.
What makes you angry. Can you describe
My friend has a new girlfriend. She's really unpleasant to everyone. I can't stand her.
Oh thats so sad. I am feeling very bad.
Thank you. I would like my friend to dump this girlfriend. She's ruining the friendship!
Do one thing call her and try to talk with her. In our world no one is mean.
I've tried to talk to her. She's arrogant and insulting. She thinks that everyone else is an idiot. Talking to her just makes me angrier!
Take both of them to restaurant or call at home. Tell your problem directly
I would like to talk to my friend without the girlfriend around, but she seems to butt in all the time. I can't get him alone to explain how this crazy woman is ruining his other friendships.
Very first you have to calm down.Don't break your friendship so easily. Friends are like gems.It's my request not to give up
Thank you. I don't want to lose the friendship. I don't think I can stay calm with that woman around.
Tell me how you are feeling to leave your friend because of one girlfriend
I am feeling that it would be a shame. We have been friends for so long. I don't think the girlfriend cares about my friend's feelings or friendships. She just thinks about what she wants.
Make sure with me today that you won't break your friendship. Please reassure with me .
I will do my best to maintain the friendship. I might have to put it on hold for a while. Until he breaks up with the crazy woman.
Anything else I can help you?
No, thank you. I think I can try again to save this friendship and put aside my anger.
You are very nice!!!
Thanks. Well, have a good day!
You too!!!
It was good that we had a chance to chat. I didn't realize how angry I was.
Don't keep any hard feelings for those who like you more
I'll do my best. | {
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5 | 3 | Good evening :-) How are you tonight?
I’m ok. I’m just calming down.
That's good that you're calming down but were you previously upset?
I got into a major blowout with my parents.
That's really rough, I'm sorry to hear that.
I’m just so upset. They don’t approve of my girlfriend.
And they would like you to break up with her?
Oh definitely.
It's complicated when parents want input into their child's relationships. That is really explosive stuff.
I’m not giving in. I really like her and she is soooo hot.
Are you going to have to be around your parents soon after this?
Yes I will be. Just because she is black, they don’t approve.
Oof, I see. I can understand you being upset by that, it's a silly reason to disapprove. Was the blowout in any way productive or just angry?
Just angry. I’m not sure what to do.
I don't know that this problem will be solved with one single choice or conversation. Do you live with your parents?
I do not. I was thinking of having my girlfriend move in with me.
Ah, well then their opinion of your romantic relationships is 100% irrelevant.
I guess but I don’t want to not have them in my life. But have I mentioned how hot my girlfriend is? Lol
So hot and dark. Yummy.
There's not an easy way to get people to let go of those kinds of beliefs. Yes, you did mention that, haha. Physical attraction is awesome but perhaps not the best basis to move someone in with you :-)
Maybe not but it will be fun. | {
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5 | 4 | Good evening.
good evening .How are you .Thanks for sending message to support me from depression
No problem, what seems to be causing your depression tonight?
i breakup with my childhood lover
So if I understand correctly you just recently went through a breakup with a longtime partner?
yes. we are more than lovers .we grown up each other since 11 years .
From our short chat so far I can tell you are really heartbroken about this break up.
thats hurting me lot .why he loves another girl with lot of money
I know how hard this is, but I also know you can get through it!
yes. i working in good company and earning nice pay , but still he cheated me .
but how can i overcome this ? my heart is not yet all agree for this
I recently went through the same kind of break up where my fiancé cheated on me and got pregnant with another man, so I know how much this hurts.
Have you been able to talk to him about why he decided to leave you? Sometimes it helps to get closure on a situation like this,
is it ? how did u overcome from this
yes i spoken , he saying he need more money which i have not much .only money he left me
So what you are saying is that the only reason he left you was because you were not financially stable enough for him.
yes. what ever i earning every month i sent to him .he sold my house too and enjoyed that money as well
You seem like a really great person for doing all of that for him and you definitely deserve someone who is in it for much more than just money!
but i am not in mood to trust anybody because i loved him since 15 years
Have you been able to talk to any of your close friends or family about the situation? Sometimes it helps to talk to someone close to you about things like this.
i told to my mom , she said we already knew that he is a money minded .So take lite and move forthuer
That sounds like really great advice from your mother!
I also found it helped me a lot when going through my situation to get really involved in my hobbies to take my mind off things.
yea , my parents always supported me .I would have listened their voices earlier
It is great to have supportive parents!
yes will start my reading habit may it willbe helped me lot
Good idea
thank you for ur time and support
You're very welcome! Have a nice night! | {
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5 | 4 | Hey, how are you doing today? Anything going on?
I know actually I've had a rough day, but would love to hear about yours.
Sorry for not reply you friend
That's okay, just wanted to reach out and see how you are!
My company cut my salary and I am scare of losing my job
Oh no, I am so sorry to hear that. So it sounds a bit like you are entering a period of uncertainty and are going to be struggling :(
You are very correct, even now my job is one day off one day on
Well i know it is difficult, but just wanted to share that I am here for you in these hard times. And you're so smart that even if you lose this job you will find another one :)
Actually currently I am unemployed too actually, although I have a new opportunity starting next month. So I know it can be rough
I am happy for you friend, I pray for my company not to sack us because it is not easy t fine job now
Well have you thought of any next steps to take? From what I have seen, it is easier to start looking for a new job before you need to leave the old one. Maybe you could start job searching sooner rather than later? I might have some contacts that can help
Thanks friend I love your style I follow it too
Awesome! Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you in these tough times. It can be useful to take some time to relax too :) Maybe eat a favorite food or talk with a friend or go on a long walk to destress :)
I will try to go and meditate on you teach me now thanks
Awesome, meditation can always help make complex problems feel a bit simpler. And it is okay to feel upset right now, as long as you realize that things will get better, and that you have lots of people supporting you!
Anything else i can help you with? Or are you going to go meditate now?
No for now thanks talking with you
You're welcome! Hope you have a wonderful week :) Always good to chat
Thanks
Of course!
It is great day for me to chat with today
Yup, again, it is always great to reach out since other people might be going through the same struggles! I was feeling upset until I messaged you and now I feel happier!
Have a wonderful day goodbye
Bye!
Thanks
You're welcome! | {
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5 | 4 | Hello, how are you feeling today?
Hello I am here to talk about some academic stress I am having. In fact, I am just taking a break from my studies.
i am doing well, thanks for asking. I hope you're well too.
What is causing you to stress over your academics?
What is causing you to stress over your academics?
Just a little behind and doing some last minute crunch. Two courses. One exam at the end of this month plus one assignment due. The same for the other course but both due end of next month.
So just trying to be mature and be hard-working and not get distracted
So your trying to work hard at school. Why are you considering taking a break from school?
no that's not what I meant. I am just taking a break now to talk to you. But other than that, I sometimes get distracted in a normal day. I am taking two university courses, and both completely online.
Oh I see. I am also taking college courses online right now and understand how the end of a semester can be a stressful time for students.
yes for sure. I am usually very conscientious, but just due to social isolation from the pandemic, I have been trapped in my house
so slacking off and being lazy
procrasting a lot
Maybe if you set aside a certain amount of time to devote to your studies (and nothing else) every day, you can eventually start getting back into the normal routine you have for school work
and also get and then stay caught up on school work
sorry hold on a second.
be right back in a quick sec
okay
hi sorry I am back
got a phone call
I meant to say I agree with your assessment
okay. so is there anything else thats bothering you?
and that I do set aside time but just that I am at the last stretch and am only preventing further damage as much as I can, even though I am doing fine so far, just not my best self or best capability. Disappointed to say the least.
no just have to get through this and I should be okay
like I said. I am usually not like this, so I feel that the pandemic so far has made my routines abnormal
and life patterns aimless.
I hope and I feel that you are doing better than I am with your studies
I am sorry you feel that way. I believe that you are strong enough to push through to better times!
But yes, I have been trying your tactic somewhat more often this week and next week is my last before the exam and assignment due date.
Good luck!
thank you. For sure I will keep persevering. May have to sleep late for awhile but it's what I have to do
okay. And thanks for understanding and listening. And sorry again for that interruption just now.
You got this!
I appreciate your help and good luck to your studies also. And stay well and safe.
Thank you very much!
Thank you! Goodbye! | {
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2 | 1 | hi
hi, how are you?
good. and you?
i'm glad to hear! i'm doing fine
Great. How may I assist you today?
Great. How may I assist you today?
It's great talking to you. I have an emotional problem, more like the fear that I will fail my class, it will greatly impact my future career.
Great talking to you too. I am sorry to hear that you are very worried. Why do you think you might lose your class? Are you not good at the subject?
I am just not understanding the way the professor is teaching. More than 50% of the class is failing at the moment. The anxiety is crazy.
It sounds like it is the problem of the professor. It is always good think about the worst case senario. If, if, you really fail the class, what will happen?
If I fail the course, I have a one time try to repeat the course again with the same professor. If I fail the second time, I can no longer go to all the colleges in that district to become a nurse.
I see! I love your career goal. When I was a student, I visited my professor's room a lot. I did that for almost all classes. Some professors helped me a lot and gave me a lot of hint. Do you visit them as well?
I see! I love your career goal. When I was a student, I visited my professor's room a lot. I did that for almost all classes. Some professors helped me a lot and gave me a lot of hint. Do you visit them as well?
I do visit them during office hours along with numerous amounts of students, but it doesn't really seem to be helping. I'm anxious and starting to doubt if I do my career goal. I love clinical and doing my hours at the hospital but the tests are just crazy.
I can see that you have great passion and you've been making efforts. My school was in a small capital city and the professors were not occupied with other students at all.
Since you're good at actual clinical stuff, I think you can do well at the tests too. Maybe you need more time to prepare for the test?
Thank you, I appreciate your kind words. Some times the tests just don't seem like what is being taught in class and the books. I have already taken extensive notes.
Those tests are tricky, then I would ask more than a few questions in the class before the test. Students need to know what exactly they need to study in order to pass the test. I don't think most professors will mind helping students prepare for the tests.
I am happy to help and I wish your great success in school and in your career.
Thank you very much. I really appreciate you
anytime, merry Christmas
Merry Christmas!
Hope you have a wonderful day! | {
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4 | 3 | Hello, How are you feeling today?
sad and lonely
I see you are feeling sad and lonely, is there anything going on right now to enhance those feelings?
The election and COVID are making it worse.
There is a lot going on right now, but i see you said its making it worse. What may be the root cause?
I have no one to share my deepest feelings with at this moment.
I understand having it seem like there is no one to talk to. I am here and there are others. I believe you can find an outlet to share.
Where do you suggest I look?
I would first start to try and feel connected. There are many online forums, that perhaps you can join in on things that interest you
How about local groups? How do I find someone with like minds?
Local, and safe, meetings are a good start as well. Have you tried looking for any online local spots? Or in a local news paper? Its great you are coming up with ideas already.
I really like to play tennis. That may be a good spot. Have you tried Tinder or Match?
Those are more for a quicker deeper connection. I would try to cast a broad net. Maybe with Meetup or Nextdoor.
What is Nextdoor?
It is an app to get you connected to your local community and neighbors.
That sounds great. Does it have special sections for specific groups?
I believe it does have subsections but it is more of a general hang out for neighbors to keep up with each other.
That's cool. I should check it out. I feel like a book club would help. Do you like books?
I do love books. They are a great way to get connected with yourself and enhance your creative side! I bet you could find a local book club on one of those apps.
For sure. Books are great. You have been very helpful. What's you first name so I can thank you properly?
Rachel, and no need to thank me! Being able to help is the greatest reward!
Thank you Rachel. Best of luck to you. I'm going to end it now.
I wish you the best as well! | {
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3 | 1 | Hi, is there anything you would like to talk about today?
Take your time I will be right here.
Just can not seem to get out of this funk
What kind of a funk is it? Do you have to go to work or school? Please tell me more about how you are feeling so I can understand better.
Nothing seems to be fun and I work from home
Are you doing okay workwise, getting enough done, getting it done on time? Or is it difficult to get motivated about anything? Is there anything that you think started making you feel this way? I am very interested in understanding how you feel.
I think this whole Covid thing has been depressing! I get my work done but it is a chore.
Do you live alone? Did you work at home before COVID? I worked at home before COVID but with COVID I became very isolated. I don't have any neighbors within sight of my house. This my sound weird but I make up fantasies in my head like I am an alien's pet and my home is my habitat or I pretend I am hiding out keeping something safe, or a pioneer woman waiting for her family to get back from the store which is a six month trip.
I live with my spouse, and I did work at home before. Pioneer story funny! It is hard not being able to enjoy going out.
I am glad you are able to work, financial stress really sucks. I think Covid has us all down at least at some point.
Just want it to be over and then the election too!
There has been so much emotional things in the world going on right now
BLM, election Covid...
Yes, and it doesn't seem to have an end in sight. But at some point it will be over. If you don't feel more like yourself say a month from now I have to seeing a doctor because some depression requires it but that said some depression is normal and usually precedes change. I was told that it sort of erases our expectations and allows us to accept the new thing in a better way.
I would say when i take a walk at the park it does help
Also working out
So exercise and sunshine brings my mood up a bit
You sound stressed over things that you have little to no control over. Take a deep breath. Tickle each other. Pretend you are the adam and eve couple traveling to populate a new world and the house is your spaceship run with it and have some adult play time lose yourselves and destress. It is good that you can enjoy the sunshine and the park. You can only control and influence what happens around you. Concentrate on making that a good place to be and that will change the world a little at a time.
good advice
I will try
Just hoping to make you feel better and help with some of your worries that don't need to add to your stress. So you don't seem to be depressed as much as stressed and worried which is interfering with things, would that be accurate or could you explain more?
Yes, things that I cannot change and the things I can change, including a more positive attitude
Positive attitudes are never bad, slightly annoying to some first thing in the morning but in a good way. lol
Yes, I need coffee first! Thank you for your advice!
Coffee sounds good. You are welcome and thank you for sharing!
Happy Thanksgiving:)
Happy Thanksgiving to you as well. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hello
How you doing today?
How may I help you?
I am doing good ... thanks..
well now a days I am struggling to keep myself sane because of not having a job.
Ohh.. you currently in between jobs. Is that correct?
well I am not doing any job just freelancing which is a stable and guarantee income
Are you looking for job?
Yes I am looking for one but so far not succeeded at all.
How did you prepare your resume? Have you had it revieed by any professional resume writer?
I made my resume from a website called Novoresume and time to time I update my resume too.
It looks pretty professional.
When you submit resume, first it is scanned by a software for key words. Are you sure you have all the right key words, so that the scanning software picks it up?
What are the keywords? do you know about anything it? I do not email the PDF file but the word file so my resume do not get ignore by the software company is using.
Do you think Covid-19 has anything to do with it?
If you don't have the right key words, it may not be picked up. The professional resume writers typically run the resume through the scanning software and make sure it is picked up at least 90% of the time.
For some businesses, COVID might be an issue.
Okay but what are the keywords? Is it different for different business?
yes, you need to compile keywords... from the potential job postings. ..and add them to your resume somehow...
Covid-19 cause problem for everyone I guess not only me.
that's for sure..
Okay but I do not think so keywords are the issue.
Are you getting call from the employers?
I am not getting calls from HR deptartment.
good.. then keyword is not the issue..
Covid situation is getting better now so maybe I get a call.
Are you getting interview call?
I hope thigs will work out for you.
Yeah before covid I got two calls but during the Covid period not even one.
Yeah I hope so.
I think the situation will get better soon...
Yeah I hope so.
Anything else I could help you with?
No that was helpful.
thanks.. have a good day.
You too. | {
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3 | 2 | Hi there, how are you doing today?
I'm doing okay, but having a hard time resolving some negative feelings.
What are these feelings related to?
Well during the pandemic, my sister and my brother in law got a divorce and my sister needed a place to stay and she stayed with my parents and myself with her daughter (my niece)
Im sorry for that, so added stress with her and her daughter being around?
and my sister took advantage of my parents and I feel like she tried to use me to get my parents to give her money and when I put my foot down the whole family got into a fight and She flipped us off laughed and said we'd never get to see her daughter again
It's hard to explain. Her daughter and I hung out every day more than anyone else in the family hung out. I watched her. She always wanted to be with me and play games and talk with me
The day she left she drew me drawings saying 'I love you' and she told everyone she meant 'I love you' the most about me
and I cried and had a lot of anxiety symptoms afterwards because I'm literally not allowed to talk to her and I just feel she's in a negative place
That is really rough and im sorry that your parents are taking sides and not looking at this from the whole situation.
So she is not there currently?
No she is not
My parents gave her like 5-7 thousand dollars and my grandma is giving her money every month. But just friday I was getting her stuff ready to pick up and I found like 700 dollars of clothes with tags on them and tons of expensive makeup and creams barely used
I just worry a lot about my niece she is so sweet, funny, and smart and she's living with someone who makes horrible decisions
sorry I'm talking a lot but just kinda unloading
Well i can see you really care for your niece. It also seems like your sister is a toxic person who is using your family. It may be rough not being able to see your niece but it might be better for your own well being to have this space from her.
No keep going, sometimes just getting it out there helps
Yeah, I think you are right, I am more productive and have more self esteem since she has moved out.
But it's a tough loss.
I do appreciate you listening
Yea usually never anything good about loss. I am glad you are doing better now though. Hopefully she can turn herself around
Oh not a problem at all!
Yes. I don't have hope about that. But I guess people can change.
Well thank you for the conversation.
I hope you have a nice day.
Thank you very much. And thank you for sharing! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hello! How are you doing?
I am anxious
I'm sorry to hear that. What is the cause of your anxiety?
My friends and my family place a lot of value on how one looks. Every time I meet with them they have a comment on how I should improve on something. It makes me stressed out because I feel like I am not good enough.
I am sorry you are having to deal with this. Are you concerned about your own looks because you constantly hear this feedback from those close to you?
Yes. I feel that I am not thin enough, pretty enough, that my clothes are not nice enough etc
I myself have gone through similar feelings when I was a teenager. I had body image issues for the longest time and my way of resolving it was through proper diet and exercise. Are you happy with how you look personally irrespective of what others opinions are?
It is hard to feel ok when I keep hearing that I am missing something. I don't even think I need to lose weight. It is just that my friends think model thin is what beauty is. I would have to starve myself to achieve that.
If you are comfortable with your weight then why are you so concerned with what everyone around you says or thinks?
Because they are the people I spend time with. I want to be accepted and I want them to like me.
It sounds like you care more about what others think of you than how you feel about yourself.
I wish I could not care about what they think but I do. I don't know how to not let their opinions not bother me
Have you ever tried affirmations or heard of this before?
No. What is that?
Affirmations are positive statements you think about yourself. What I like to do when I'm feeling really anxious is say three positive things/attributes I feel about myself over and over again until my anxiety dissipates. Do you think that could help you feel more positively about what those closest to you are saying so much with regards to looks?
I could try. Do I need to say positive things about my looks or can they be about other stuff?
Since you are stating that you are concerned about how you look, you should just find a few positive statements with regards to your looks you think about yourself and repeat them. So if you don't think you need to lose weight, you can say something like, "I like my weight." or "I don't need to lose weight." If you think you are beautiful or pretty, you can say "I am beautiful." My three affirmations I use for myself are: I am beautiful, smart, and funny. I say this over and over again until my anxiety has left me.
That sounds easy enough. I will definitely try it. It will take my mind off of worrying about what they are thinking.
I highly recommend it! Is there anything else bothering you that I can help with?
No you gave me a great suggestion to work with. Thank you so much for your help!
No problem! Glad I could help. I hope you have a wonderful day and take care!
You too. Bye now.
Bye! | {
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5 | 3 | Hello, How can I help you today?
Hi, I have a situation which makes me very sad.
This is about my dad
He is an old fellow and alone so i made him move in with me.
I'm sorry to hear that you have a sad situation happening with your dad.
I take all responsibilities - including financial
But i find him very dry with his emotions. Today,i fell unwell and i wanted to go take a covid test. but, he just brushed it off saying, its a mild flu.
He showed no emotions at all.
or concern
That sounds like quite a challenge for you. You seem to care so much.
He simply told me, its a waste of money to go get checked
I know that old people sometimes act childish. But his dry behaviour makes me very sad.
sometimes this leads to a fight
That must be hard to hear when you are trying so hard to do what's right.
I also am struggling to convince my father to stay away from crowds because of COVID.
Sometimes this behaviour of him leads to a fight. and i end up crying!
Untop of it, i feel awful because i end up yelling at home too
Is it normal to yell at parents?
My dad simply won't listen
Is it normal to have a fight with your parents?
I'm sorry you have to go through this.
I feel guilty to fight with him
Perhaps you can take some time for yourself with a friend?
Do you suggest anything else?
Yes i could do that. But that won't resolve my issue
What do you suggest?
As my father is getting older, he is often frustrated.
It's harder to move, you have more aches and pains and this virus is scary.
How should i deal with him?
True that
Perhaps you could suggest him taking some deep breaths to calm down.
It's very hard to convince him of anything. He thinks he is always right.
I understand as my father is the same way. I often have to just hear him out and take time away in another room.
It's hard on me, because i have a child to look after too. And my dad keeps interfering in my parenting with my child.
Do you have any other family support who understands your position?
It's hard honestly. My spouse and me are separated.
And i have a child who stays with me.
Perhaps there is some support in your community? I have a child with autism and my father doesn't understand the behaviors and is critical of my parenting too. I often seek support from an autism group with parents in my position. Perhaps there is a group of single parents you could gain support from?
I have a six year old child. Yes, maybe i would look for some support groups somewhere.
Autistic child must be huge challenge i am sure
It sounds like you are really trying hard to do the best you can.
Sometimes i suggest to my dad that he should seek therapy. But he won't listen at all.
That must be frustrating that you try to have him seek therapy, but he doesn't want to follow your suggestions.
Yes, i would have joined a support group. But, this covid won't let me now. I have to be very careful since i have a child and dad at home. I step out only for necessities.
Do you think communicating in a different way like writing may help? Have you tried different ways to communicate?
It would be awkward since he is in the same house
But i could try sending a text message
That's a good advice
Do you think maybe some way of showing you care like making dinner or something encouraging him in a way he likes could help?
Yes, could work. I will try that.
Thanks for the advice
You are welcome. I wish you well. Have a good night.
You too. | {
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4 | 3 | I need support to feel ok during the pandemic
Hello.
HI there
What type of things are you worried about during the pandemic?
That I may not find a job soon which is making me depressed
So just to make sure I understand, you are anxious about possibly loosing your job due to the pandemic
I am not working at the moment, I am looking for a job but it has been really difficult to find one
Have you looked into a hiring agency? They are great at helping find people jobs, especially in these hard times.
I have but seems like there are no entry level jobs currently and also some employers have ceased hiring
After interviews have you been following up to show interest again in the job?
Yes I have emailed every employer where I was interviewed. Also I follow up with every hiring agency I have signed up to.
Have you networked with any previous co-workers? They might be able to help you find something as well,
They all suggest to wait for a few months till things are bit normal. They also advice to keep trying.
Just from chatting with you for a few I can tell this is making you very anxious/
Yes it indeed is
I have also been worried recently about finding another job because of the pandemic, but I found that getting back into my hobbies has helped keep me distracted and get my mind off of it.
It is very difficult to stay home doing nothing, it is very upsetting
I have started to paint which I have always enjoyed doing but again when I see others close me work and settled it makes me feel sad that I don't have a job
I think painting more would be very helpful!
I should try doing that, thanks
No problem! If you have any other issues just chat in!
No issues other than this at the moment. Have you found a new job?
I have! I went through hiring agencies and got one. It did take a while, but it was super helpful.
Glad to hear, Congratulations!! Hope I find a job soon
I know you will find something soon!
Thanks!!
You're welcome! | {
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5 | 3 | Hello! How are you feeling today?
Started out ok but now I am so angry and depressed
Can I ask why you feel angry and depressed?
Can I ask why you feel angry and depressed?
As I explained, had a fight with my preteen son.
It sounds like you are frustrated. Do you mind sharing what the fight was about?
I told him to work on maths worksheet and he did but not very concentrated. I tried to help him and asked him to neatly write out the formula but then he just started raging and yelling at me.
Then he said he has no life after he had played video games for like 3 hours.
I am sorry to hear that you two fought! What made you feel that he was not concentrating on his homework?
Does he often struggle with homework?
he just didn't like doing things sometimes
but generally is fine.
It sounds like you feel he has a loss of motivation towards school work, is this correct?
no, he just didn't want to be told what to do.
very emotional these days for kids
Alright, so you feel he has an issue with following instructions? Have you ever tried disciplinary action like taking away video games when he feels he does not want to listen to you?
Yes I did. But no point, he just upset on things like didn't get to be with his friends, or having no friends, no life etc.
Do you feel he could possibly be depressed?
I think so
But so am I .
It must be even harder during times of the virus!
Yes
I am sorry to hear that, have you thought about seeing a counselor through the internet?
yes may be i have to reach out for his school counseler
thanks for listening .
I think that is a very nice idea. I also might suggest finding activities that you both could enjoy and spend time together. Maybe finding a show you both could enjoy will open up room for a greater connection!
It could also help both of you feeling lonely during these hard times!
Thanks... I need to find some motivation to do so as well...
Do you have any self-care activities that you enjoy doing? This could help feelings of depression. Even taking some time out of the week to do something you enjoy can help lift up one's mood.
I don't have much hobbies but I tried to stay active like going to swim, doing yoga, reading books. So I kept myself busy already but more for the sake of getting my mind of things, like people playing video games and watching tv.
Well I am glad to hear that you have some activities you enjoy! In relation to your son, how do you feel when he plays video games constantly?
He usually is ok but now is holiday I let him play more but got even worst!
As if playing games made him even more depressed
Have you ever thought about using the video games as an incentive. For example, if he finishes his homework, he can play for two hours or something?
Yes he usually only play after he finished all his homework on school days.
But now school is out I just let him play whenever.
But it doesn't make him happier
It is good to hear that the video games did not get in the way of him completing his work. Do you have any other ideas as to what hobbies makes him happy or interested?
I don't know whatelse he wanted to do. It is like he didn't really have a preference.
Thanks for listening.
I think starting with the school counselor is a great idea, I feel she will have more of an idea of how your son functions in school and maybe give ideas to helping his mood.
Yes, no problem! I hope you can find a solution to helping your son.
Thanks! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Good afternoon! What can I help you with today?
I've been feeling a lot of pressure and stress lately due to school
Oof, yes, school can be a tough situation. Are you close to the end of the semester?
That can be both a relief and stressful, because a break is near, but all the exams and projects are due.
Yes, I am a little more than halfway done with the semester
The thing is that I am in a doctoral program, so even though the semester is close to the end, I always need to continue working
Ahh, I see. That is a great deal of time and work. What are you studying?
It is... I am in psychology
I have to work on my thesis on the side even with all of my classes and I have a hard time managing my time and keeping track
Time management can be very difficult with a normal class load, that sounds exhausting.
It is!
Do calendars help you at all? I am a super visual person, so calendars and planners are invaluable to me, as well as different colors of ink and labels so I can visually divide my attention
Getting a million different colors of pens and highlighters changed my organization for the better.
I do keep a physical and electronic agenda, but I feel like even if I write down my tasks, I find a way to procrastinate which is what I am having trouble with
Also, setting clear boundaries for your study/work and relax times may help. I like to set a timer for, say, 45 minutes, and work/write/read/study for that long, then, I get a 10 minute break. I'll go outside, refresh my coffee, grab a snack, dance to some music, stretch, then set another timer for 45 minutes, then another break for 10 minutes. That allows my brain to take a second and refresh from the work.
That is actually very helpful, I'll take note of it
I think it would help to fix break times so I can actually focus on working
Or, like, today, I woke up and spent half an hour allowing myself to drink my coffee and scroll through Reddit. Then it was time to work on my group project for 45 minutes, then a break, then I worked again, took a break, went to a class, etc. Scheduling your breaks can be helpful too so your lizard brain doesn't freak out and go "WE ARE GOING TO BE WORKING FOREVERRRR"
I agree!!! That really is helpful, thank you
which, for me at least, is where the fatigue sets in. You're very welcome! I hope I was helpful. You seem positive and willing to try new things, and I think you will be successful even if you are tired.
The pandemic hasn't really helped either
I'm always locked in my apartment and staying sitting down in front of my computer all day
Definitely not. Everyone's Maslow hierarchy getting knocked out from under them is extremely disconcerting.
Hahaha, Maslow, i like it.
Like how is a person supposed to study, self-actualize, when we literally don't know what will happen next?
I agree! I've also been turning to drugs a lot lately due to the situation. Procrastinating makes me feel guilty, and I end my day too early to smoke and focus my mind on something other than studying....
Are there aspects of your study that you dislike, or are you just ready to be done with school? Little of column A + column b?
Hm, I think it has less to do with liking or disliking, and more with starting a very hard and lengthy degree online without any social contact
Ah, yes, that makes sense. And working from home is infamously hard, again, for lack of boundaries, so in addition to just not seeing people and getting the casual affirmation and confirmation messages on a daily basis of like "hey Jim you did a great job on that spreadsheet" or "Haha Jessica you're so funny", we also are writing papers in our pajamas and bedclothes, which makes it seem interminable.
Ugh exactly
Listening to lectures while the doorbell is ringing and it's just so strange and we aren't set up to do it. That's why I'm a big fan of specific spaces in my house since March. I tried to sit in bed with my laptop and do things but 1. I'm old and it hurts my wrists and 2. my headspace is so completely different from being my computer chair and at my desk. I try to be really strict about where I do my work., maybe trying to structure that a bit could help you feel a little more in control of the work load and your day's schedule.
I agree, that makes a lot of sense! Thank you
You have been a big help today and I really feel listened and understood. I really appreciate it
I am very glad to hear that! You sound motivated to succeed and I think that you deserve to take care of yourself and stay healthy to complete your studies. It will be hard but it will also be worth it, and you should be proud. Good luck with everything!
Wow, thank you!
Have a great day
Thank you! You too! | {
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5 | 2 | Hello, how are you doing today?
Hi there. I am not doing very well today. I am really angry.
I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling angry today. Tell me more about that.
I recently discovered some discrepancies in my paycheck. I am not sure what to do to correct the situation. I am just so upset right now.
I can definitely understand why this could make someone upset. What are you considering doing about the situation?
I'm not sure. I thought about quitting but I have been working there for over 7 years. I haven't even told my boss yet.
That sounds really tough. Sometimes people who are in your situation find it comforting to talk to someone they are close with . What do you think about this?
I think that could be helpful. I might call my sister and ask her advice. It is probably not a good idea to quit my job.
It sounds like your sister might be able to help you figure out this situation. It can always be helpful to make a list of pros and cons about the situation. You originally said you were angry because of a discrepancy with your paycheck, but on the other hand it sounds like you are considering quitting your job altogether. What are your thoughts about this?
Wow that is a great idea. A list of pros and cons might help me decide if I should stay there. I think I will make one today. I also need to tell my boss. Maybe it was just a clerical error. I hope I'm not reading too much into it.
It always seems easy to read to much into things. Another suggestion is to think about how the clerical error happened. Was it because of your boss? Or perhaps just an accident?
That is what I am unsure about. I think I have to tell my boss so they can look into this issue. I hope my sister is able to give me some good advice about what to say!
It sounds like you are wanting to tell your boss about this. How do you imagine you will go about telling your boss?
I think he will be apologetic. He has always treated me fairly. It is difficult for me to put my anger aside sometimes, which is why I have not said anything yet. I am afraid I will not remain calm and might say something mean to him. That would be terrible.
It sounds like you are nervous about saying something mean. What do you think would be helpful for you to do do in order to prepare? Some people in your situation might find it helpful to role-play with someone.
Yes! That is a wonderful suggestion! Maybe I can ask my sister to pretend to be my boss when I talk with her. I m
OOPS! I mean to say I'm sure she would be happy to help.
That sounds like a great idea! Then when you actually talk with your boss, it will be easier since you already talked about it with your sister.
Yes you are right. I am so glad you suggested that! I think the pros and cons list will help me a lot also. I feel less angry now that I have a plan. :)
It sounds like you have a great plan in place! I'm glad to hear you are feeling less angry now! :)
I was so angry, I could not see the situation any differently. Thank you so much for helping me make a plan.
I can understand how you feel. Sometimes I let my anger get the best of me, but it is always important to remember to stay calm and think about your options and have a plan!
I hope things go well for you!
And don't forget about asking for help! Sometimes that is the hardest part.
Thanks! I hope so too!
Absolutely! Always asking for help when you need it is a great idea. | {
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