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3 | 2 | Hello, how may i help you today?
Hello, I'm just having a tough couple of weeks in my marriage.
What seems to be going on in your marriage?
our main problem is communication. We cant talk about anything without one of us getting mad. Its become a habit
I can understand how you are feeling marriage is hard for some.
I need to find some free workshops or something. I think we would both be uncomfortable with therapy. I have looked but cant find any good cheap options.
Communication is key in a marriage
I think we are both willing to end it if we cant get along but both want to fix it but dont know where to start. We have lived together for 6 years but only recently gotten married.
Are you married?
do not let this get the best of you. there are ups and downs in marriage but you have to be able to work through all that with your partner.
no i am not married but one day i do want to get married
My parents are going through a divorce right now. They were together for 25 years.. my dad has been my step dad since I was two. She went to rehab and they were planning to renew their vows when she got out. She left him for a guy she met in rehab.
I know you will two will be able to work through this together
Thanks
I am sorry to hear and i understand how you are feeling my parents recently got a divorce
Yeah i think its bothering me more than I realized.
i can understand but you know you just have to move on with life and not let that get in the way especially your marriage
both of you need to try to sit down and have a talk about the marriage and let your partner know how you are feeling and see how your partner is feeling.
without communication then it will be hard to get through a marriage
youre right
when there is no communication then that is when the trouble starts and the marriage starts failing
We have. We cant talk about whats for dinner without an argument these days.
find the right time to talk to your partner and just explain to your feelings towards what is going on and let your partner know you do not like what is going on
You're right. Thanks for the advice.
if that does not help try to seek help from a marriage counselor i have heard they have saved many marriages from failing
Ok I will. Thank you.
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hi how are you?
Im not doing very well at all.
What's going on?
I am very stressed out with my work.
I feel like I am being over worked but I also feel stuck at this job.
I know the feeling. what do you do for work?
I am a lab assistant.
how long have you been in your role? and do you have any coworkers that feel similar to you that you know about?
I have been in this role for about a year. I am the only one at this level. I take care of a lot of the productivity and logistical work. Im just really stressed recently
Somewhat similarly I'm in a supply chain role, for a year now, and the only one at my level too. I often feel like I'm alone in my job and that I manage my boss... It's pretty frustrating.
is there anything that makes your job less stressful?
I think that being able to have a better work life balance would help but I have a hard time talking to my boss.
do you think your boss would be receptive if you did talk to them? or would they dismiss your concerns?
I am unsure. They are very much all about work. I am afraid they wont see my point and understand my want for a better work life balance.
This has been a pretty hard year for everyone. however you ultimately gotta do whats best for you.
Have you considered searching for a new job?
I have but it is hard to find a job at this time. I also really like what I do but wish I could have more balance. Do you have any advice for how to balance stress at work and your life outside of work?
I'm in the same boat. I would say, the things that work best for me, are to take breaks during my work day and go for walks or as soon as I'm done with work I force myself to go for a walk. I find moving helps me feel better. I also use that time to think about how I can look for a new job or rethink the things that are bothering me
maybe you can try something similar?
I think I could try that. I have a hard time detaching from work especially working from home. I feel like I never really 'leave' the office. I am always working even when I normally wouldnt be.
Change the scenery, it'll help! plus movement releases endorphins which make you feel better.
Thank you! I will try that.
no problem! | {
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4 | 3 | Hi
Helo, how are you?
Can't seem to shake this overall sadness I feel.
Are you feeling sort of depressed? I am sorry
Yes I am
Would you feel happy if you think about after Covid, maybe next year?
I am hoping I will. I just have such a hopeless feeling.
have you been sleeping enough?
Yes, probably too much.
Do you like morning or night?
Probably morning.
Me too. I like morning too. Air feels fresh, although it is little contaminated here. At night time, I feel a little bit anxiety more.
So I sleep really early. Sleeping feels good anyway? Do you feel ok while you're sleeping?
Yes. I just feel sad during the day and can't make it go away.
I suggest listening to sad yet beautiful music. It sometimes helps me. Do you like classical music?
I haven't really tried it.
When you are sad, listening to upbeat music may disturb you. Listening to instrumental music maybe good for you.
Ok, I will give that a try.
I just checked YouTube and searched for some music. Good, I hope it will soothe your mind.
Thank you, I am willing to try that. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there, how are you today?
Hello. Better than usual. What about you?
I am good thank you. Is there anything you want to talk to me about?
Yes. Recently, I broke up with my fiance. And no matter how much I tell myself that life continues, I still feel like there is a void inside of me ever since it happened.
So your relationship ended and you feel that you are struggling to get over it, is that correct?
Yes, that's exactly right.
I am very sorry. I have been through something like this myself in the past so I do understand.
How long did it take you to get over it?
I think it was at least a year before I felt truly myself again and that I was able to enjoy life
That gives me some perspective.
I can tell that it's all very raw to you at the moment. You really need to step away and give yourself some time to heal
I am not sure if I can leave my obligations behind.
What sort of obligations do you feel that you have? You need to be kind to yourself at the moment
I have a job, and my siblings are not doing too well, so I have to make sure their stuff is taken care of, or else my parents will end up babying them, and my parents are not in their peak health. This is not something I can afford to step away from.
It is good of you to be so caring and responsible towards your family. Do you think that perhaps you are taking too much on yourself though, especially at such a difficult time?
It might be so, but the sad truth is that when people don't fulfill their functions, someone else is going to have to do it for them. Maybe tho, I could fix my schedule to where it allows me to have firmer boundaries.
I think that that is an excellent idea and that you are being very mature about this.
Are you in contact with your ex at all?
No, I made a commitment not to contact him.
That seems sensible. I had a problem with not contacting my ex when we split. I kept wanting to talk to him again even though I knew that I should not
What made you stop?
A restraining order :D
This actually made me laugh :D Thank you for elevating my mood
In all seriousness though, with hindsight I realise that our separation was for the best. I think and hope that you will realise this in time too
Thank you. Your analysis is extremely helpful.
You are most welcome. I really hope that things start to go well with you soon.
Might I suggest taking up a new hobby and making some new friends?
Yes, that crossed my mind. I think I should do both. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there, is there anything you'd like to talk to me about?
I have drank too much alcohol and got fired from my job for showing up drunk.
Oh dear that does not sound good. Do you have a problem with alcohol in general or was this a one off?
In general I do. ever since my wife left me for the milk man I drink daily.
Does he give you a discount then?
I can't drink milk so Now i drink alcohol
No, The milkman is my father and we don't get along.
Have you considered getting some sort of help? There is lots out there.
Your wife left you for your father? How very ... redneck.
I have not. I am unaware of what help services there are out there to offer or how to go about requesting these services?
Hmmm I would start with your GP, if you have one.
GP? what's a GP?
Doctor. Sorry I am in England - I think that would be physician for you
Correct. A doctor for me is a physician
Well, perhaps you could see your G ... um, physician and tell them that you think you have a problem? They might be able to provide calcium supplements too.
I am currently needing mental help with this I think? how do I go about finding a provider?
If you have been drinking a long time, you probably need physical help too in case of withdrawal. Your doctor is the best place to start for both.
Okay I will look into receiving both of those
What is your financial situation? Are you in trouble now you have no job?
I have no JOb and no health insurance to help me pay for all of this.
you should live in England. Socialised medicine is the best.
So I hear it is. WE have to pay an arm and a leg for ours.
I've heard :( It's terrifying to think of. Are there any free facilities there for people in your situation or do you just suffer?
They have programs like medicaid. but I'm not poor enough for that program
So you're stuck in limbo? That is really awful, I am sorry.
I am in a limbo. and I need healthcare without going into debt.
Are there any charities who could help? It is just terrible that people who need mental health care cannot get it!
It happens frequently and no one really cares. I don't need charity. I just need 10 turns and 15 minutes.
I am not sure what that means :)
Thamk you for all your help good sir.
madam ;) but you're welcome | {
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5 | 3 | Hi I'm sean how are you doing today?
I'm not doing well, I was angry with my friend who broke up our trust
And you?
what is a frie your boyfriend and how did he break up your trust?
No, it's not my boyfriend, it's a friend
So tell me what happened.
I used to trust my friend but she told everyone what I told her, however I told her that it's not to tell anyone.
Unfortunately, i hate to sterotype but women do this quite often. it depends on the severity of the information you told her.
Yes, I know. I have no idea if i'm going to forgave her. Probably no
Do you think I should forgive her?
If it was something extremley important, say jail worthy, I would get rid of her immediately. If it was something dramatic but not extremely dangerous, I would sit down and haev a serious talk with her.
It all depends on the situation, how long have you known her, what is your trust in her, how close are you?
It was my feelings. I know her for a long time. I can't trust her right now however I think I need time to think about it.
Ok let me think one second.
ok
Good friends are very hard to come by and find. i would suggest sitting down with her and explaining how serious this hurt you and that she cannot let this happen again.
Yes, it's true. But I'll wait one week and I'll talk to her
I would ultimately give an ultimate. You will forgive her this one time. If it happens again, anything even remotely similar, you part ways and say goodbye as you cannot trust her with important information. If you give her important information and she tells everyone that's not a true friend
I would advise to approach the situation as soon as possible to advocate the seriousness of the situation.
Well, i'll do it
Unless you don't think it's a big deal..... ;) I know you can handle this well. I wish you the best of luck darling. I'm sure it will go much easier than expected but look her straight in the eyes and tell her what you want to say. do not move eye contact
But I'm not going to talk to her right now
I'll try it
it's at your leisure. The eyes are the window to the soul and if you make her promise to do it and keep eye contact. then that is a contract that cannot be broken
Very true. It's how you trust them
Thank you.
bye
I am a very wealthy guy i just enjoy helping people. have a nice day.
EYE CONTACT!!!!!! | {
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4 | 1 | Hi, how are you today?
Hello WOrld
Hi
I am disgruntled...
Are you having a good day?
why what happened?
Well It was decent enough until just about an hour ago
I got "taxed" on my packages
Like tax deeezzzz
Are these chats coming in a decent time?
yes. sorry to hear that. How can i help
I just needed to vent about it, I guess its slightly strange to have this issue... It is not like we all don't pay taxes and all that mess..
It is more or less that I got the middle man rate
Pissed me right off
Tell me what happened. That sounds horrible
Well, I ordered my normal uhm, 'package' from my homie... Well he just took off as normal and came back in a few hours.
We agreed on n160 for the whole mess and HE JUST DECIDES that its now 185 cause he needed gas, and what ever..
Nah man, I already fill your tank and food and he can grab some fries from the bag when he gets here.
wow. get him a gas card for christmas then he cant say anything next time
haha YES!
see it is a stupid thing. like dood we hook your ass up all the tome
time
People suck.
Hell ya
Well thanks for the time
Ima bounce outta here
ok
wish you the best
appreciate it
Merry Christmas
Merry christmas
Oh hey, apparently we need 10 messages and 10 minutes to quit.
they read them 10 each
SO one more response from you, and I hope the researchers take this part as I HAVE a time schedule to adhere to, and MUST get back.
ok have a good one | {
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4 | 3 | Hi there, how are things with you right now?
Hi, well to be honest I'm struggling a bit right now. I keep turning to beer when I'm feeling really down.
Ah I hear you - I think that there is a lot of that going around during this pandemic. Did you ever have a problem before?
No, this all actually started about 3-6 months after the pandemic really hit and things shut down.
It has been horrendous hasn't it? Have you been able to at least speak to your doctor, even if you could not see them in person?
Yes! So horrible! And yeah, I have a therapist I see once every two weeks. Although that only helps so much.
It might be time to get some more help? Do you think it is bad enough that you might need inpatient treatment?
No, I'm not quite that bad off. It's sort of a mix of too many rough things. My wife and I are separating right now, I'm in the middle of a PhD program and living far from home, and covid really made it more challenging. I think it's a bit more circumstantial.
It sounds like you have had a really hard time the last eighteen months. As the lockdown is easing, are there any new pastimes you could get involved in that might distract you?
Well, I am starting to hang out with friends more and establish weekly traditions like poker night. So that's definitely helping. The more I can be around others the easier it is for sure. I'm wondering how bad it is to turn to alcohol when I'm in pain.
Poker night does sound like something that might involve a lot of alcohol though :(
Haha, yeah maybe I should have specified that this is typically booze free. Sometimes we split a 12-pack among the 6 of us, but that's the wildest of nights. Engineers make for good sober poker night buddies :)
LOL well I am glad to hear that at least. Splitting a twelve pack between six does not seem like a problem to me
Yeah, I figure 2 beers over 4 hours is not a big deal every once in a while. I just really hope we start opening back up and people get vaccinated. Although, maybe that is just masking some underlying problem, huh?
That is possible as well and it is definitely worth talking to someone, I think, just in case
Yeah, that's a good idea. What do you turn to when you are struggling in life?
Well beer, to be perfectly honest :D
Anyway I hope that I can have been of assistance :)
Hahaha, good so I'm not the only one! I think if it's not over the top and getting in the way of the functioning of my life then that's a good sign.
Yes, thank you. This has been helpful!
Just remember that it can get worse pretty quickly so it's best to talk to someone :) can you press quit first and take the survey? I can't at this end | {
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5 | 2 | Hello
Hi, so tell me, how are you feeling today?
I am feeling depressed
If you tell me what's going on, I will be more than glad to help
I can't pinpoint what exactly is making me feel this way. It could be the pandemic. But basically I started to feel that there is not much point in anything.
The pandemic can definetely be a key factor here. When it first started, I remember feeling lost and unsure about things that I would normally would have no problem with.
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?
I am 30
Do you have any family, girlfriend, boyfriend, children?
I have family and a boyfriend but they all live far and I have not seen them in while.
Not seeing your closed ones or simply being apart from them can be more than enough to make us feel depressed or blue.
Have you tried doing videocalls with them, for example?
Yes sometimes. I don't tell them how I feel though. I don't want them to worry about me.
I understand. However, there is nothing wrong with telling them that you are sad because you miss them. Something as simple as getting it off your chest can already make you feel better.
I suppose. I just worry that I will make them sad too. It's hard time for everyone.
Totally, but remember than they are there for you whenever you need them.
Yes that's true. Do you have any suggestions on what to say?
I bet something as simple as "Hey babe, I really miss you. I can't be glad with your abscence" could make your boyfriend feel loved while at the same time relieving you.
That is true. I believe I have a problem showing vulnerability.
That might be why you were unsure about telling them. Believe me, there is nothing wrong with showing vulnerability. We are all vulnerable in one way or another.
I haven't been with my boyfriend that long before the pandemic started so I still have some fears and trust issues. I fear that being weak pushes people away.
Hey, if he is the right one for you, he will completeley accept you as you are and love you. In the unlikely event that he "rejects" you for being "vulnerable", he wasn't even worth it in the first place. You deserve someone that appreciates you as much as you appreciate them :3
That is true. I should be brave enough to find out if he will be there when the chips are down. I am going to do it
I believe in you!
Thank you for supporting me.
It has been a pleasure!
Enjoy the rest of your day.
You too!
(You have to hit Quit and fill the questionarie) | {
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4 | 3 | Hi.
You there buddy?
I really need your help if possible. Can you lend a hand, please?
hello?
hi, how can i help?
I am stressed out due to this pandemic.
i know a lot of people are. how has the pandemic caused stress for you?
My job stability. I don't know whether I'll have a job in the future or not.
that is rough, and i completely understand. i'm in a similar position
what makes you question your job stability?
Given I am a low level worker at my firm, I fear if the economy turns for the worse, I'll be cut.
i see. so if your firm starts making staff cuts, you think you'll be one of the folks they let go?
Yes, that is correct. I am very stressed due to this.
can you share a bit about what type of work you do?
I am an accountant.
I see. well the great thing about accountants is that every business needs them, regardless of the economy
My company has already cut 10%. With this new lock down order from my state, I am fearful. Is there a lock down where you live?
There is a lockdown, but it isn't as strict as some other states.
Oh ok. How's the economy where you live?
it is pretty rough. unemployment has hit a huge spike and there are a lot of people who are moving away to find better opportunities
Yes. This is what I fear. Homelessness has increased in my city. There are a lot more tents than usual.
i've managed and coached a lot of people in my career, and i think what's important to keep in mind in how you adapt to the current situation
Thanks for everything. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there! How are you feeling today?
Hello
I am OK but I have a bot of a work issue that I'd like some support with if possible?
Of course! What sort of issue is it?
I have done the same job for 7 years but it is now full and boring. It pays OK but it is all I know. I'm scared that I will get resentful in this job if I stay where I am but I haven't got a clue what to do for the best.
I see, so you feel that your position has become stagnant and you know longer take any pleasure in your work?
That's exactly it yes. The question is I don't have any official qualifications, just experience and I'd like a change of career but this scared me to death!
Are there any opportunities for advancement or retraining in your current position? Perhaps strive for a promotion?
Potentially yes but the position above me is not really like for me and I don't like the reporting line. I think I fancy a change but not quite sure how to tackle it. I need the income so can't just leave but also need to do something about it. do you understand the predicament?
Yes I do. I sympathise with you because it must be terrible to feel that you are stuck in something that you really no longer like and yet be afraid to try and change your situation. I am sure that there is some solution though!
Yeah meet too it's just finding a way where I can maybe stay where I am whilst exploring other opportunities to see what I'd like to do. It's a tough one.
Well, you will never know unless you take the plunge into the unknown! I do realise how difficult it is for you to do that though. Perhaps start putting out feelers to other companies? There is no harm in that.
Sue that's actually a good idea. No harm I suppose and my current employer would be none the wiser.
True! it would also be great for your self esteem to realise just how much more there is out there that you could be doing.
I know, it is a big world out there and I have been doing the same thing for so long. It is exciting but also quite unnerving. Is this normal?
Yes, there is nothing to worry about. Do you have any relevant qualifications that might help you find another job?
I have experience and I am pretty hard-working. I have also made quite a few connections over the past 7 years.
It all sounds very promising. If you think they'd not tell your boss why don't you talk to some of your connections and see if they can put you onto something better?
Yeah reaching out to my network is probably a good idea - as long as they keep the fact that I am looking for something else quiet. I'd state on Linked in that I'm looking for work but then everyone would know :-)
One other suggestion - it's a high risk strategy but do you think your boss might be sympathetic if you discussed this with him or her? You never know, they might even have some good suggestions - perhaps they feel the same!
Actually you might be right there. I should be able to open up about this and they should be supporting my development. Great suggestion. I think I'm overthinking things.
No I do not believe that you are overthinking at all. This is a very important aspect of your life and will shape your future!
Yes true thanks for your understanding
You are most welcome - I hope that I have been able to give you some peace of mind.
You have indeed, thanks for this conversation.
Please let me know how things go for you in the future - I am sure that in six months time things will be looking a lot brighter!
Will do, thanks again!
Erm .. cup of coffee? | {
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5 | 1 | Hello how are you?
hello im looking for someone to talk to
im fine how are you
I'm doing ok I'm glad you are good. Is it snowing by you?
Merry Christmas!
thats great and no its not snowing its very cold thow
merry christmas to you also
How can I help you today?
im having some issues with friends not actually being friends
I hear you are having trouble figuring out which friends are really your friends and which ones aren't. Is that about right?
yes
I understand that... Did something happen that makes you feel like that?
yes their is no communication or interaction between me and them nobody answers phone calls txt messages etc
Is this a significant other?
no friends
Are they ignoring you?
when we where younger we all hung out all the time now that we are older its like they talk with each other im not sure if i did anything or not
Are you sure they are okay? Or not away with family for the holidays?
it doesnt matter they still keep open communication with each other
That's no good what do you think the problem is?
I believe its because I am the friend that has financial trouble and normally needs to borrow money
Do you owe someone already?
no anything i owe i always pay back
perhaps they are tired of being asked
That can get in the way of a friendship sometimes, but I try not to get ahead of myself and jump the gun. They may have lost a phone or something may have come up...
That very well could be... Are you working?
no im not currently
I also think sometimes to myself that they don't answer because they think I'm asking for money
I see, Have you tried for unemployment?
yes i dont qualify
I understand that. What if that is the case? You may need to talk to them and let them know how you feel about that.
How long has this been going on?
I'm nervous about asking them why
and it happens on and off like when they feel lie it i guess i will say maybe 4 months
I understand that, but if you want to get to a point that you feel better about it then you will have to speak to them.
yes i know i hope everything be immediately resolved and not lead into other problems and end of friendshps
Do you see them everyday?
I understand that, are you able to go over there.
no i dont live in the same city anymore
when i go out of town i can visit but with covid19 rules
Well I can see that you have put the effort in to try and keep the relationship so it sounds like the ball is in their court if they want to do the same.
yes
Well that is about all that can be done and wait for them to come around...Do you have any hobbies?
yes i like to read and play music
I like to go on runs every morning. It helps to clear my mind and makes it easier to brush things off when they bother me.
What instrument do you play?
my sister goes on runs in the morning time and says it relax her for the day i think i migh
i played the piano when i was in highschool
It is a really good stress reliever. I played when I was younger, didn't ever get very good. Did you?
no i didn't i had to stop because i have what the doctors call a trigger finger it caused great pain when i would practice
Hmm, well maybe take some more lessons, We can always strive to be better at everything we do.
yes that is true
Maybe take a run in order to clear your mind.
I'm sure they will come around.
i think i would start off walking i am not in shape to run
yes i will give them time maybe stop reaching out so much
That may be a good idea. Good talk
yes thank you for talking with me and giving great advice
to them and may find out that it was never anything against you
yes maybe everyone is stressed at some level thanks to covid19
I sometimes get ahead of myself and try to figure out what is going on and thinking that it was something I did. You are right too. COVID has stressed everyone out to the max.
It has been a crazy year I am glad that it is almost over.
yes i hope next year bring blessings for everyone
I'm sure it will. Is there anything else I can help you with today?
no that was all thanks for speaking with me
No problem, I hope everything works out for you and your friends. Have a great New Year!
you to and thanks
Good day!
good bye | {
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4 | 3 | hi how are you today?
I am doing okay.
That is good to hear.
I am a little stressed out this holiday season.
oh no i am so sorry to hear that! What seems to be stressing you out the most about it?
Well my husband recently got his hours cut and we are struggling
i am sorry to hear that i know that must be really stressful this time of the year
Yes i am worried that i wont be able afford my childrens christmas presents
I feel you on that, we are a one income family and trying to find the extra cash to provide for our kids Christmas is always a big factor for us.
Do you have any family or friends that you could talk to that may could help you out until the first of the year?
Yes same here. I have three children under the age of 6 so they are still in the innocent stage
Unfortunately no i am not good terms with my family.
I am sorry to hear that. Have you spoke to your husband about the stress you feel from his hours being cut? Maybe you both could come up with a plan to move some bills around to make it work.
We have been trying for a couple months but nothing seems to work.
Do you have any friends that you could maybe start babysitting for or cleaning houses for? Sometimes I post on my local moms group looking for small jobs and luck up there.
I try to do work from home and i need be here for my youngest.
I think i am feeling better though. I just needed to get it off my chest.
I understand that, my youngest has autism so my schedule is very limited
Yeah my son is developmentally behind . fifteen months and still barely crawling or talking
Thank you for listening and i wish you well.
I wish i could have helped you better. Try not to stress it to much as hard as it is not to be able to give them what they want the bright side is they are so small that they will appreciate anything you can get them | {
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2 | 1 | Hello
Hello! How can I help you today?
I am anxious about an upcoming test.
It's normal to feel nervous whenever we have an important assessment coming.
I myself would always be really anxious whenever I had any finals back in college.
Yes I have a bunch of courses that I need to do for my work, it certainly keeps me busy.
I would suggest that you study as much as you can. The more prepared you are for that test, the more manageable you will find it and the less stressed you will feel.
Yes I am pretty good about that but it just kills my free time because I am working full time.
I understand. However, you need to be able to find some time dedicated to your school activities. You are the one who needs to decide how to insert it in your schedule.
Yes honestly I am the main driver behind me doing all this schooling it is just going to be good for my career and I don't just want to stand still.
I agree, once you have your career set up you won't have to worry about working and studying anymore. You will be doing what you like for a good living. Think about the future.
That is certainly the plan
Just remember not to stress too much about it. It's just one test at the end of the day, you can do this!
Yes I am not super worried about it it is more the stress from not having free time, also insurance textbooks are not extremely exciting.
I know that I told you to try to fit school time into your schedule, but the same goes with leisure time for yourself. Find an activity that you enjoy and try to dedicate at least an hour a day to it, be it exercising, playing videogames, reading a book.
Yes that is good advice, I try to find time for myself but time seems to disappear sometimes
Happens to all of us. I myself sometimes get too invested in work and the days go by without me realizing it, but it should definetely be a priority. Try to maximize your efficiency so you can do your work while having more time for other activities.
That is helpful, I am just glad I will have a few days off after today
That's absolutely great, make good use of them (^_^)
Is there anything else I can help you with today?
You have been very helpful, sorry I left for a bit
Have a wonderful day:)
No worries, you too! | {
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3 | 2 | hello
Hello! How are you feeling at the moment?
nervous and anxious
I am very sorry to hear that - I will help if I can!
Thank you. It is just that my job is ending soon and I have not found another.
Ah that must be very worrying, especially at this pandemic time. What field are you in?
I am in the medical field at the momnet, but the contract is going away.
moment"
I see. Have you already started looking for new work? It might help you feel more secure.
I have, but the location that I am in is scarce with work. Which is quite surprising.
Would you contemplate moving? I hear that there are a lot of opportunities in your field on the East Coast.
I would for sure, but that also makes me a bit nervous as I would not know anyone there. Thinking about all the possibilities raises my anxieties about the situation at hand and I am not sure as to what I should do
I understand - I find it very difficult to meet new people too. Maybe you could join some online groups in new area before actually moving there?
That actually does not sound like a bad idea at all.
I find it much easier to meet people online. And you could get familiarised with local amenities too.
Where would you reccommend finding a group?
Facebook is a good place to meet people I find. There are all sorts of different groups there.
Familiarization would not be too bad, Facebook would be a good start
Are you likely to be in financial difficulty after your job ends or do you have savings as a safety net?
I have a small savings. To be honest I did not know about the contract end until a few days ago. It is a company wide type thing. So I was and still am not fully prepsred
prepared
Is it legal for them to give you such short notice? You might have grounds for a complaint.
I came on after everything was negotiated. apparently everyone else that was there at that time knew that it would no longer be an open location.
I am very sorry to hear that.
Try and see it in a positive light - this could turn out to be a really good thing for you.
it is not your fault,but it does help to talk about it. Hopefully, fingers crossed for sure
I am more than happy to talk any time! Try not to worry too much.
Haha I am always told not to worry too much XD. I try no9t to
not"
Sorry :) I hope that did not sound condescending! Anyway thank you for talking and enjoy the rest of your day!
Well. I really appreciate your time. Have a great day, and not at all
bye! :)
(you need to press quit from your end first as I can't here :)) | {
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4 | 2 | I recently lost my job due to Covid 19 and I'm scared.
When did you lose your job?
About 2 weeks ago.
I feel bad for you, but there are options.
What do you recommend?
I suggest working on your resume and hitting job boards.
Oh that's a great idea. What job boards do you recommend?
I've never used one before.
Was it just you that lost the job or a whole unit/department?
It was jus tme
Google your past job title title and add openings.
Was it a computer job or a job where you have to be working in-person?
I worked in a restaurant as a server. I don't have any other formal job training, I'm not sure what else I can do.
May I suggest Uber, Lyft, Door Dash or Grub Hub or Uber Eats?
Do you have a car to use as a delivery driver?
Wow I never thought of that. I do have a car and I could probably deliver. I wonder how safe that is though.
I read that all you need is to wear a mask as you drive around to put up and deliver food to the masses.
Plus, gas prices are relatively cheap at 2.25 a gallon, nationally.
yeah definitely! Contact free probably! WOw that is great advice.
Ok I will check into food delivery!
You can also send out flyers to do dog walking in the neighborhood.
Do you like doggies?
Unfortunately I am allergic to dogs
Or are you a cat person?
No I can't be around cats either
I feel that you seem to be taking to food delivery.
I did food delivery for three different companies and I have liked it.
Yes definitelh.
Oh wow really? You liked it?
That is good to hear!
You seem to be a real go-getter from the short conversation that we have had so far.
Thank you. You have made me see that my situation is not as hopeless as I thought!
I worked in the restaurant business about a decade ago, but restaurants need so many people to deliver their food.
When I was younger, the food delivery business was minimal.
Yes, I bet they do, and especially now during Covid!
I feel that if you start applying now for those jobs and you have a decent car, there is plenty of opportunity to make money with Grub Hub and Uber Eats
Yes, I really think you are correct! thank you so very much for your help today!
The survivor rate from COVID-19 infections is around 99%, so your chances of dying from the virus are still low.
Yes, this is very true!
I suggest taking Vitamin D3 and Zinc to protect against the virus. I take a ton of vitamins.
Do you? I think I will try them too.
They say that the immune system can combat a lot of nasty crud if it is strong.
yes for sure!
It's really great that you are on here seeking the information that you need. It is important to communicate effectively.
you are so right. I was reluctant at first to try it, but it has been very helpful! Thank you! | {
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5 | 4 | Hello, how are you doing today?
I am sad. I wish my partner would have a better job.
I wish I could have an extra $500 a week to survive.
I have three children who depend on me too.
The pandemic is making work hard as there is not enough work.
Everything is so expensive too.
I need money to buy groceries and basic needs.
I worry for my children.
This is not their fault yet they are suffering.
What would you do?
How are you?
I can imagine how difficult money can be during the pandemic as I had trouble looking for good jobs too.
Thank you!
If I were in your situation, I would probably seek out nonprofit organizations that provide basic supplies look food.
That is a good idea.
I would also apply for unemployment if I were out of a job.
I have a job but it is minium wage. I am still looking everyday for more work.
This is nice to have someone to talk to.
You are doing your best. And I agree. It's always good to get your feelings out there.
Do you have a support system like friends or family or a counselor?
Thank you. The older we get, the more anxiety builts up as we know consequences not like when we were kids.
I have my friends but I don't like to discuss money.
I totally get what you are saying. Adulting is difficult.
Do you think it would help to talk about your money issues with your friends?
I do mturk to help. It's not a lot but it can buy a loaf of bread which is nice.
Yes being an adult is difficult, but life is hard in general.
Have you tried using scripts like hit forker and jr panda crazy? They are basically extensions that help to pick up the higher paying hits for you. I use it myself and it's very helpful!
There are lots of Youtube videos that show you how to use them.
I've never heard of it and I don't know what that is.
Thank you I will look into it.
I do surveys on swagbucks and that earns gift cards.
its not a lot, but still anything helps.
You are very welcome! You could also try going to temp agencies to find employment. They typically set you up with work that you can start almost immediately if not immediately.
You give great advice!
I try. I was working at a bookstore at minimum wage for 2 years so I totally understand where you are coming from and had coworkers that also had kids. The best advice I can give is to continue to put yourself out there and take opportunities as they come even if they are short term because the more experience you have, the easier it is to find a better job even during the pandemic.
thumbs up
Is there anything else you wanted to talk about? | {
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3 | 2 | hi
how are you today
Hello , what is it that is bothering you?
i haven't been feeling too good recently. i have just been generally depressed
i am a bit worried
So you have been just generally feeling down and worried about everything?
i am worried a bit about loosing my job
I understand why that can have you worried. Have you been told this is a possibility?
no but i just don't get a good vib
vibe
Have you talked to co workers or others about this?
my coworkers are almost always unavaible. and be cause we are all working remotely they just dont' answer ims
This is a worry that many others are having right now. Maybe there is an online group that deals in this type of worry.
that's a good idea! you mean within my company though?
If your company has that, otherwise there are online chat groups that would.
o? any recommendations? i don't really want work to know that i'm thinking that they are going to fire me, you know?
I don't have any experience in this area but I am sure that an online search would be easy.
ok, i'll try it out. you don't think i should be worried about losing my job though?
I don't think that worrying about it ever does any good. All you can do is do your job well and display your worth to the company.
that's a good point
I usually find that taking action is a better idea than worrying.
true
Don't forget there are always options if something does happen.
that's great news! thank you! and i feel better already
Glad that I could help. Try to focus on positives.
thank you for all your help
i'm not sure how this works after 15 min?
It's been very nice talking to you. Take care. | {
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5 | 2 | what ever i study, i am not able to remember the contents which is necessary for my academic tests
I'm sorry to hear that. Studying for tests can be very stressful. Do you study by yourself or with someone?
myself
Do you have friends in your class you can plan a study group with?
i recently moved to a new school
It can be hard to make new friends in a new school. I'm sure the stress of being new isn't helping with the studying.
yaaa.. correct.. i am trying to copeup
Is there anyone at home that can help you study?
my brother is helping now virtually
That is awesome that you have support from your brother.
he is the only light in the dark
What type of study strategies do you use?
i usually try to follow the tutorials and do revisions
Can you think of anything you can do, to help make your studying be more successful?
i am currently clueless.. sad
I understand that you are feeling defeated right now. Is there anyone in your class you would feel comfortable reaching out to for help? Maybe the instructer?
there are few people i recently started friends with
I'm glad you are making a few friends. How would you feel about asking them to do a study group?
thats the last hope i am having
thanks for the support
You are welcome. Have a wonderful day.
thanks | {
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4 | 3 | Hello, I am here to talk about my daily stresses
Hi there.
Hi pleased to meet you and hope you're doing well
yes, Thank you. and i hope you are doing well as well
yeah I am okay. Just daily stresses such as disrupted life routines from the pandemic and growing anxiety as my city is facing the beginning of the second wave.
i surely understand you. this pandemic has been really stressful.
yeah you bet
for example, I only go out once or twice a week for my job, and once every two weeks for groceries. And that's it. But even then, when I have to be in close quarters with coworkers and even to go out for groceries, that scares me.
yeah, people are not social distancing enough.
but wearing a mask and then using sanitizer should at least give us a bit of a confidence
like it was only this tuesday when my city finally acknowledge there's community spread and second wave, when it has been happening slowly for the last two weeks!
it's irresponsible and they share information slowly to the public and don't disclose enough information. And they are still not shutting down gyms or restaurants, when they are the main sources right now in my city.
at least now i hope the city will put in more restrictions and mandate mask wearing.
yeah I have been doing all that, with the washing of the hands and so forth. The situation at my job is unavoidable but I am still as careful as I try to cope.
well, it's only today they brought the limit to social gatherings from 10 to 5.
have you tried reaching out to mayor's office to see if there is any way you could request for more restrictions. most of the cities do have a hotline or a channel for residents to give suggestions or request something
too slow and they don't believe in shutting down essential businesses when that will stop it once and for all after two or three weeks. They did that earlier this year for the first wave and that pretty much did the trick. And today they openly said that unless deemed necessary, they will only shut down selective places because restaurants need to stay open for business, etc.
hmm, that's a bummer.
yeah there's a local line but it's a pretty big city and it wouldn't really matter what I say
okay
but anyhow, I have been conferring with my friend pretty much daily on the phone and that does help with social support.
But thanks for that advice, it's a good idea
that's great. having a supportive friend/family is so much a blessing during this pandemic
yes definitely, since I live alone and pretty much self isolated since March of this year.
I have gotten used to it and more comfortable. Before I was more nervous, lonely, and claustrophobic. It is better now but my fear is coming back due to the rising cases.
yeah, i can understand.
do you have any hobbies or interests that you can work on to help you put your mind away for sometime?
yeah thanks for listening. And this does impact my daily routines, from my workout patterns, sleep patterns, and diet.
yeah somewhat
but not productive energy. I tend to be lethargic, immobile at my computer for long times, surfing the net aimlessly when I should be studying, and just distracted.
there are a good number of online forums for most of the hobbies/interests.. that'll help you share your work and also get some additional ideas
and I sleep real late and wake up real late. It's all backwards and unhealthy and I am disappointed in myself. I also work out less because I can work out at home but I have done that less and less as somehow I don't feel motivated.
okay yeah good idea.
I can look for more videos too on such resources
like I don't play any musical instruments but that would be great for a distraction like that or to pass time or to improve on a craft or project.
putting away my phone has helped me a lot. also, i have designed a daily routine to include more of the tasks that i like
Just pretty much my studies with two online courses and not even reading anything outside of school. And even then, my school work ethics suck and I am kind of disappointed at my lapses that way.
ok yeah great ideas
yeah, try to start learning a new musical instrument of your choice. maybe just 30-60 mins everyday.
I have started to put away my phone
as I realize that I use it a lot too
nice
So I put it at the opposite end of my room for example
started doing that lately and so the screen time has reduced somewhat
so just trying to channel my productive energy into finishing school deadlines
social media and then this relentless flow of covid news/info is also stressful
yeah for sure, especially following up news from around the world and in the states
just stressful loads of news just catching up to daily events
and as for daily schedule, yes I have kind of more control on that too as I try to write down what I should do now and set an alarm to start doing this at this time etc, especially in juggling my school work.
but yeah your ideas are great and match my thinking exactly
yepp. i read a book - 'atomic habits'. and kind of designed a daily routine. this helping me a lot and reducing stress as well.
I see. okay I will keep doing that.
I will search that book too, interesting title
and also try and note down things that stress or upset you. and then over a period try to avoid those triggers.
okay then. I am good to go on that note. Thanks for reaching out and listening. It's great that you understand and am providing great advice.
ok
kind of a reminder on what stresses me and to avoid that etc
that's great
like a debriefing
you've given a lot of great suggestions actually. Thanks a lot for that
yepp. and if you try to remove or avoid those triggers, it will really help
you've been quite helpful
for sure. I believe that also
avoiding stressors and cope
sure no problem. hope you get through this and also be able to successfully complete your school courses
yeah I am okay. They are coming to an end at end of this month and next so dialing down so I am at a crunch period.
Thank you again and I hope you well also. And keep staying well and safe.
you are welcome. stay safe and be happy :) | {
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4 | 3 | Hello! Is there anything that you want to talk about today?
I need someone to talk to, I am sad.
I am really sorry to her that. I hope that I can help you a little. Would you tell me what the problem is?
I really love my wife, but I also like other women.
Ah - so I hear you saying you are tempted to be unfaithful to your marriage vows?
Yes. I tried to see if she would let me sleep with other women from the Internet, and she is not allowing it.
Well I must say that as a woman I would not allow it either ;)
Yes I would agree with that. I guess I wanted my cake and be able to eat it too.
It does sound like it. Are there any other problems in your marriage that might be making you unhappy or is it generally okay and you just want someone else too?
I am trying to get my wife to spice up our love-making and she is unwilling to do so, and that makes me super sad.
Have you considered getting some sort of marriage guidance counselling? There are people out there who might be able to help you both
Why would we need counseling to spice up a love life? That should come naturally, is it hard for women to make that change?
I think it sounds as though you might be pushing her into things she is not ready for though. Have you considered that you might be the problem?
That is what makes me sad, I know I am the problem. I am a piece of trash, she is way better than me. I hate myself.
No, I do not think you should say that! At least you recognise that you are not behaving well, which is the first step on the road to making things better.
Maybe I have a sex addiction. I think I watch too much pornography and it gives me weird ideas for sex.
Perhaps you could consider individual counselling to overcome your own problems before you think of couples' therapy?
Porn can be helpful for a relationship but it can also be damaging.
Just for me? I hope I get a male counselor because if it was a female one, I would probably want to sleep with her.
Well, perhaps it would be better for you to learn that you can't just do that even though you want to :)
Yes, I can't control my impulses. I am picturing what you look like now and imagining what we would do together. I think I have a big problem.
I am forty five, fat and married :). I do recommend talking to someone though.
I am forty one, fat and married. I actually prefer heavier ladies, but I get your point. :)
I am glad you were able to confide a little in me and hope it is the first step on the road to a happier marriage. I do recommend not giving into your urges and remembering how much you love your wife. I wish you all the best for the future and have a lovely Christmas!
Thanks, you too.
(you need to end the conversation from your end - I can't ) | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you doing today?
I am well
You?
Great, thank you. What can I help you with today?
My buddy can be an asshole when he is drinking. I was just expressing his in the hit. I guess you are to help me with that situation? Not sure how you are supposed to do this but give it a shot.
Have you tried talking to him about his drinking? Is he otherwise a pretty good friend when he's sober?
Yeah he is a good friend and it doesn't happen all that often but often enough. He knows that he has to cut down. He has talked about laying off the booze but once he starts, he is the kind that drinks to get drunk.
How old are you and where are you from?
male or female?
I'm a early 30s woman from Michigan, and I actually used to have a problem with my drinking as well. People kind of pushed the problem aside though because drinking is so socially acceptable.
But maybe if you talk to him right after it's happened and offer to be a sober friend with him, it could help.
I am not too far from you. In Minnesota. That is not bad advice and could probably help us both to cut back on the sauce a bit
We like our beer up here in the north. =0)
What do you do for a living?
Yeah, I get that, that's why it was so hard for me to quit. I hit it pretty hard for 13 years before I finally got sober! It's a tough thing to do when everyone else is drinking. It's just getting to that realization that you don't have the same relationship as alcohol as everyone else. Hopefully if you have a chat with him he can get to that point.
I'm just staying at home with my kid and homeschooling her right now since the schools are closed.
That is noble. This damn covid is sure a pain in the ass here and across the country. Our school is going to all distance learning starting Monday. YUCK!
Everyone will be home schooling
Ours as well, I just decided to do homeschooling at the beginning of the year so that I wouldn't have to deal with all the back and forth of the districts. I'm hoping they can somehow get a handle on things sooner rather than later because everything is just getting so bad again.
I agree with that. Well nice chatting with you and I hope everything goes well for you and your kids.
Thanks, for you as well. Hope I could help a bit.
I guess we have to have 10 messages
Thought we were close
I think we are, I think this would be my 10th.
ok
Good luck with your mturk earnings.
Thanks you too | {
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4 | 2 | Hi there, how are you feeling today?
Hello
Hi :) Is there anything you'd like to talk about? Something on your mind?
I'm concerned about my job. I have been out of work for the past 5 weeks because I tested positive for COVID-19.
Oh I am so sorry to hear that! Are you at least getting sick pay? If not, are you getting advice about help you might be able to access?
Oh I am so sorry to hear that! Are you at least getting sick pay? If not, are you getting advice about help you might be able to access?
(sorry for duplication, not sure what happened there!)
It just keeps getting better... I applied for the Pandemic Unemployment Assistance and was approved. The next day, I got an email asking me to verify my identity (I am fine with that. It actually makes good sense.)...
So you have been getting some assistance?
So I did as instructed and got the message on the website thanking me for verification. The following week I got a physical letter saying I was approved and the award amount per week.
I have gone online once a week and qualified, as one is supposed to do, and still I have not received a cent.
I see, so you are really financially struggling at the moment? Is there anywhere else you could apply for assistance? What about a foodbank?
Calling the customer service line is futile. The computer just plays a recording that the agents are on other calls and then it disconnects the call.
I hear you there - I spent a long time on hold for an official matter the other day. I guess that everyone is really desperate for help and advice right now.
I have been very fortunate. People in my church have been bringing me food. I plan on trying to go to the food bank Monday, if they are open.
I hope that they can help you. My partner and I have used one before and they were very helpful. I felt a bit ashamed but there was no judgement at all.
I actually got so tired of redialing the Department of Labor and Training that I sent an email to the Lieutenant Governor of the state asking for his assistance in getting the matter resolved.
That sounds like a very positive thing to have done. I really hope that they pay some attention to you. This situation is not your fault!
I have been to this food bank once before, and they actually made me feel very comfortable and welcomed and gave me an information package on other ways the parent organization may be able to assist me.
Yes they are run by lovely people. Ours gave us a pamphlet for cheap and easy to make recipes too.
I am very lucky in that the organization is only 3 miles from me. I will be looking into their rent assistance and employment assistance programs as well.
So, at least it sounds like you have a good handle on this and are doing everything you can to help yourself, am I right?
I have an advantage because I have a professional background in cooking, so I can take random ingredients and turn them into wonderful and nutritious meals. I just need to have the ingredients.
That sounds very encouraging! It's amazing what you can make even with cheap food. Noodles , for instance, are very versatile :)
You are right. I am definitely not going to sit and pout. I am just a bit frustrated with the system.
It's a very strange situation and I suspect that some of the authorities just feel overwhelmed and have no idea how to cope.
I am concerned that my boss may try to not take me back at my job. Because this is an "at will" state, he can terminate me without cause. Although he can not legally fire me for being ill with COVID, he can take me back and simply release me the same day saying that I have become redundant.
That would be incredibly immoral of him. Do you feel that he is likely to do such a thing?
I would not put it past him. Sadly. But I have taken the attitude that if it does occur, there is nothing I can do to change the situation. I would simply pursue a charge against him for wrongful termination, and seek a new job.
That is a very rational way to look at things. I really hope that it does not come to thank though! Thank you for talking and I wish you all the best for the coming months.
I may not win the suit, but I would definitely file one. In 2000, I had an employer fire me without cause. I sued and won that time. Not only did they have to pay me back wages for the 90 days that the investigation took place, which was no minor sum,
I am glad that you'd not roll over and accept ill treatment! Well done :)
they were found to be guilty, so the judge granted me my wages based on the average of 80 hour weeks I had been working, all my vacation time, plus the overtime I would have received, holiday pay, and then to put a nice bow on that gift, he awarded me 5000 dollars in damages because the old company lied and said I had broken the law.
I am afraid I need to leave now but thank you for talking :) (can you press the quit button and take the survey?) Best wishes!
My current employer actually knows this happened, because years ago we discussed it, and I showed him the award letter from the Department of Labor and Training, itemizing the judge's findings and the awards.
Thank you for your time. Have a great holiday.
You too! | {
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3 | 2 | Hello. How can I help you today?
Hi. I am feeling really depressed.
Is there anything particular that you are feeling depressed about?
Well I recently lost my grandfather and since then I have been feeling I am not doing well in life and that it's pointless.
Losing a family member can be very tough. It seems like you are having a hard time going forward.
Yes I am. I
Do you have anyone around you that you feel comfortable talking to about this?
I have talked to my family and my husband. They have helped some. I just feel depressed because I feel like I a not making an impact with my life.
It's great you have family in your life that you can talk to. It sounds like having a strong family is something you can be proud of.
Yes. That is true.
I think the idea that I could also lose the at some point is very hard to deal with.
I agree. I also worry about losing my family
What do you do to help feel better?
From my experience, I just focus on the now and try not to worry about things that may be out of my control.
Have you ever tried meditation?
No i have not. I am kind of a wired person and think I would struggle to meditate.
I understand. That may be exactly what could help you, though. It may be good to Try something that may open yourself up to new experiences.
Okay do you have any advice where to start?
There are several books that you can download from Amazon that can help with meditation, or if you really want to try something out of the norm, there are classes where they help you learn how to meditate.
Thank you that is really helpful.
You're welcome. I think that is a great start and I think it can be really helpful for you.
I do too. I will start there. | {
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4 | 2 | As my coworker and I start to fill her role, I am worried I am not getting all of the information that I need.
I'm sorry. I know how anxious I would feel if I thought I wasn't getting the necessary training to do a job well.
Have you talked to your co-worker or your manager about your concerns?
Not yet. They hadn't talked with us prior today. I am worried I do not have a lot of time and I do not want to seem overanxious.
I completely understand how you are feeling. I think that being proactive with management and letting them know your concerns in a positive way could emphasize that you take your job seriously and want to excel.
Thanks. You don't think it seems needy? Or like I'm telling them what to do?
New jobs and roles are always cause for anxiety. Just being concerned shows what a good employee you are. I think they are lucky to have you!
Thanks, that means a lot. Should I email them my concerns or is this a face-to-face meeting?
Honestly, I from my own experience, which doesn't include management, I think it's all about the approach. As long as you are not negative and don't sound like you are complaining or telling them how to do their jobs you should be fine!
Thank you. I will talk with them tomorrow, or if they call me today.
I would start with an email. This is just my opinion, but with how busy they must be getting people up to speed with training, an email is always a great place to start.
Thanks. I don't want to seem passive aggresssive, and I care about how I am perceived so that is a good idea.
Have confidence in yourself as well! Chances are, others are struggling too.
Thank you. I have tried to talk with others in the district to see how they are doing and most are ok.
Again, at the risk of being repetitive, it's all about the tone! I recently underwent group training. It was online since we are all working virtually. There were a couple of "whiners and know-it-alls" and you could tell from the start. You don't seem that way at all!
Thank you. I try to be part of a larger team and I hope they can see that. I just want to do what is best for the organization.
Good luck! I'm certainly not an expert, but honestly wanting to perform your job well is a positive trait and the sign of a leader. Focus on yourself! You sound like someone that any good manager would want on their team.
Thanks. I hope they see it that way! Your adviec was really appreciated.
I wish you the best of luck with the rest of training! You are going to do great!
Thank you. Anything else I should know?
I think you are doing everything you need to do. Can I help you with any other questions or is there anything else you'd like to talk about?
No, thanks for your help!
Keep up the great work! Good luck, and start with a short email. That's my advice anyways, but do what feels right. Have a great night!
You too. I will start the email now! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello! What brings you to this space today?
Just struggling with the season
Yeah. I hear that. Around when did these feelings start?
About 2 weeks ago
Well i'm really glad to hear that you are reaching out and communicating about it now!
I am alone and on the road so it makes it hard
That makes sense. There is a lot of research that look at isolation and mood. Isolation makes things a lot harder.
While you are on the road, is there anyone in your support system that you may be able to call?
No. I am with my dog. We have been homeless of and on.
My dog is my best friend and support
You're doing your best for you and your dog! That is great.
Yes but it i hard on us both having to move around
My dog's name is Phineas. He is definitely my best friend.
Mine is Garbo. She craves attention as well
She needs attention from someone besides me as well
Do you talk to Garbo? Or bring Garbo to dog parks? That's a great way to do something for both you and Garbo!!
yes I talk with her and if there is a park I will let her run
Dog parks tend to have a lot of owners who also love dogs. They can love on Garbo and give you some connection too.
We lived in Florida and went to the beach everyday
yeah the parks are ok, but I let her run more openly
It sounds like Garbo likes the outdoors.
Yes. She loves it.
Is the weather where you nice enough to take her out?
She does not mind snow either
It is chilly but ok
Ok. My dog, Phineas, love the snow!
Garbo hates small animals also. Especially skunks
Oh Garbo! Hahahaha! She sounds wonderful!
She has been sprayed 4 times
Wow! When was the first time she was sprayed?
3 years ago
Wow! That is almost once a year.
She never learns either
Do you think she will do it again?
Do you think she will do it again?
Yes. She sees the color and off she goes
That is so interesting. Research shows that dogs are color-blind. It must be to contrast!
But she can see the stripes
Right! Good eye, Garbo!
Hey thanks fort the chat. Have to now. laundry | {
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3 | 1 | Hi
hello!!
how is your day?
So this lockdown is making me depressed. I'm doing ok today
What should I do?
what is the reason for depression are you feeling bored or some other reasons?
I have a cold and I am bored too
TRying to keep busy
trying
sorry for the caps
no problem, I am also facing the same problem of being bored during the lockdown
So how are you coping?
It's just I want to start a life with my boyfriend but I can't move away right now
Now I need to recover from being sick on top of everything
the only thing which could entertain us is gadgets. I used to watch many web series and online shows in my mobile
Nice I watch Youtube and play games on my phone or PC
Do you draw?
be cautious in your health as you say that you need to recover from the cold take foods which keeps you warm and some natural medicines
I am
i hate being this way
yes I draw but not so good in drawing
Same so I just mostly game
RPGs are my go to
I love Star Wars
do you have kids in your house?
No, hopefully someday but not right now
Do you?
that's great I too love star wars
What is your favorite movie?
yeah there is a kid in my house who is my entertainer in lockdown
Oh okay
avengers end game
I think it is harder for smaller kids during this time
you are right
I feel for all the teachers in the schools
So I guess me and my bf and friends just have to hang out online for now.
That's not a bad thing though
Among Us is awesome
yeah that's the safest way too
Do you have any other hobbies?
How long have you been an Mturker?
spending time with friends is like creating more funny memories
yeah it is and that's all that matters is memories and being with them
So thank you so much for your help today
I'm starting to feel better now.
yeah i love grow herbs in my house this is one of my favourite hobby
Nice
you are welcome and thanks to spend this time
youre welcome have a nice day
have a wonderful and cheering day!! | {
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5 | 4 | Hello! How are you?
I'm fine, but could be better just not too happy with my situation. Hope you are doing great
I am well. What's going on?
yes, have a friend who I'm very close to , but have noticed she doesn't tell me the truth this days. And not only that she has been distancing as in not calling , always waiting for me to call. I call her about a week ago, but wasn't happy how she dismissed my call within seconds telling me she will call me back only for her not to call till to day. I don 't feel like calling her again.
So it seems like you have been noticing some distance between you and a friend and it also seems like he/she is not putting as much as effort into your relationship as you are. It seems at times that you put in all the work and that it's one-sided. Does that sound about right?
You are absolutely correct and this is someone I care so much about
This must be very hard on you.
How does this make you feel?
Oh it is very depressing, have known her for a very long time about 16years now
Sixteen years is a long time. I recently when through a similar situation with a friend. In my case, sitting down and communicating how I feel about the situation really did resolve many things. It made me understand why all of a sudden she was being distant and in the long run, it made our bond even stronger
That's very good to hear. I would have loved to do ask her what the problem is, but knowing how she is hiding some things from me, I just don't feel comfortable approaching her. I had this feeling she is doing it on purpose, I just don't understand why.
I think you should try to honestly talk to her about how you feel and express to her that you are concerned. If she blows you off or ignores you, maybe consider rethinking your friendship. I know 16 years is a long time, but don't feel like you have to hold on to a relationship that is creating all of these negative feelings and unnecessary stress in your life. Friendships are meant to bring you up, encourage you, and hold you through the dark times. If she does not take your concerns seriously, consider taking a break and being distant.
I know this seems hard, but I believe that you can do it!
I will give it a try, but it's very hard for me to swallow the way she has treated me.
People change sometimes and it is hard to understand. I want you to know that you are ENOUGH! You are smart and beautiful. Maybe it's time for this relationship to come to a close, but other people will come your way that will treat you like you deserve. I know it's painful now, but you will be stronger and better for going through this.
Thanks for understanding, I feel better now. I will give it sometime and if I don't feel like it or don't hear from her any more, I will take it that it's time to move on.
I think that is a good approach. You will get through this!
You have been a big help and I can't thank you enough
Anytime. I hope your feeling even a little better. Is there anything else I can help you with today?
No, you've helped enough already and I thank you once again for your support
I wish I had chatted with you sooner
Glad to be of service to you. If there is nothing else, feel free to click quit whenever your ready.
Aww, I am so glad that I was of help to you.
okay, no problem . Nice chatting with you
Take care and bye
Take care! Bye | {
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4 | 2 | Hi there, how are you doing today?
Hey! Thank you for contacting me. Not too bad so far
What about you?
I am amazing thanks, the sun is shining. Today is a good day! So how can I help you?
Lucky! It's raining and windy here!
I am having this constant problem where I am really tired and so I go to bed but I cannot fall sleep for sooo long
I am sorry to hear that, I used to have sleeping issues as well. What do you do in the hour leading up to bed time and what do you do in bed before you sleep?
I tend to watch TV or check my phone, once in bed I just try to relax and close my eyes
I made a rule in my house where we cannot use any technology 1 hour before bed time. We read a book for example.
That might be something you can start to implement in your schedule. Cutting out technology 1 hour before bed time.
I think that is a good rule, I have to recognize I use too much technology specially towards the evening/night
I will try to stop all that and have a read tonight, what about if that does not work? Have you tried anything else?
Don't feel bad, we all do it in this day and age.
Thank you
I also have a playlist of what's known as "white noise". Think of rain falling on the windows, a stream of water flowing, birds tweeting. This is what I listen to while I'm lying in bed waiting to go to sleep. You could try this as well.
Yes! Thank you for that. I do love music and also the sound of the nature, it relaxes me... so I think that can work
I don't want to have to take pills to sleep or something like that if I can avoid it
Sometimes sleep issues are not about you doing something wrong, just about how you can set your mind in a better place.
No 100%, you shouldn't take pills unless its absolutely necessary, and I don't think it is right now. I think you can do this without pills.
Absolutely, I agree with you. Thank you for your support. I believe I can create a much better sleeping routine
But it's just so easy to take the phone and start browsing news or check up funny videos
No problem at all, its my pleasure. I believe you can as well :)
When did you have this same issue, long ago?
Yes about 2 years ago I started to have sleep issues. I noticed the phone was the first thing I picked up after waking up, and the last thing I put down. It is terrible what technology and social media does to us.
Yes about 2 years ago I started to have sleep issues. I noticed the phone was the first thing I picked up after waking up, and the last thing I put down. It is terrible what technology and social media does to us.
I know! Thank you for your help and sharing your insight
It has been very useful and it's good to know it worked for you
I will try tonight
Thats what I am here for :) I hope you have a great day my friend!
And you too! Lovely talking to you
Have a nice day ahead
Thanks you too. | {
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4 | 3 | Hello, how are you doing? How can I help you?
hello
i have constant anxiety about my future and job applications
I see you are having some anxieties about your future and job applications. When did this start?
probably in the last 3 or so months
Did something happen at that time?
not exactly. I just have started researching programs and the application process that I will have to start soon and it has been overwhelming
That sounds like a challenge but you can be proud that you are working so hard.
thank you I really appreciate that
Do you have anyone who can help support you through the process?
my husband is supportive
he is more easy going than me
so he thinks I stress too much
It seems like your husband is very supportive but feels you stress a lot. Is that right?
yes correct
It sounds like you are stressed about the situation and want to find a path forward.
yes I just feel insecure and that I will not get the job i want
Have you thought about going to a job center to seek out help.
its actually applying for a medical fellowship so it is a little different.
Are there other people in your position that you can talk to or counselors to guide you and encourage you through the process?
yeah there are
Do you think they could help alleviate some of the stress? | {
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5 | 3 | Hi, can I help in any way today? Can you tell me about yourself?
I am a mom of three boys and I work a full time job. I feel like if I didn’t have my kids to take care of I would run away and start a new life somewhere else
I can see how you have a lot on your plate. Yo must get very exhausted.
Are you wanting to run away alone or move away on your own? Do you feel trapped when you say you want a new life?
I am. My husband just got laid off at his job, but he didn’t really help with bills anyway. I’m just so depressed and I feel like I’m going to go crazy and no one even cares
Wow, that is a lot of pressure that you have to endure. Do you feel like you have anyone in your life who cares and listens?
I could never leave my kids. But sometimes I feel like it would be so much easier to just be dead
I am really thankful that you reached out today and I am happy that you are here with me today. You are making a lot of sense and I appreciate you opening up.
My mom cares, but she is having a lot of health problems so I don’t feel like I should bother her with my problems
Have you been able to tell any friends how you are feeling and how alone you feel?
No. I have stopped talking to my friends and just kept to myself. I don’t think they even understand how I feel
I can understand how you feel. I live in a new town and dont have any friends here and it can be very lonely and isolating. Do you have any hobbies or do you have any time for yourself?
I just want to hide in a hole and not talk to anyone
I have felt that way before and I reached out for help like you are today. I was so depressed that I need to start therapy.
I’ve been listening to a lot of audio books, it’s a nice escape
I wish I could afford a therapist
Do you ever write in a journal or are you able to exercise alone? Both of those can begin a path to healing.
I was trying to exercise 5 times a week but when I feel depressed I can’t seem to summon the energy to exercise
I can relate to that. Maybe you can start with journaling and writing out your feelings and thoughts. They may help clear your mind especially in the evenings.
I will try writing. Lately I just go to work and as soon as I get home I just lay on the couch the rest of the day.
It can even be just a few bullets points to start yuor journal. Just think of it as highlighting your day and write a few bullets of what you are thankful for. That can be a five minute task. I will change your head space.
That is a really good idea. I think I need to start focusing more on myself and quit trying to please everyone else
Yes, you deserve some time to be selfish and take care of you and your needs. You can do it in the evenings when hopefully everyone is asleep and you can rest your mind and reset your thinking.
Okay I will try tonight
You have already made great progress today by reaching out and explaining out you feel. Thank you for letting me listen today. | {
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4 | 3 | Hello, How are you doing today?
hi not bad
about you
Thats good to hear, whats on your mind?
feeling depressed
Im sorry to hear that, would you like to go into why you are feeling that way?
here family issue going so depressed
Thats unfortunate. Whats going on with your family?
my dad not understand me
Have you tried to have a real sit down with him and explain how he is making you feel?
i love my dad so much but now a days my dad feel depressed so always angry with everyone. so i am not disturb
Thats a tough cycle. I was in that with my mother. Unfortunately if they do not want to get the help, it wont really go anywhere no matter how hard you try. I would suggest that they try and talk to a professional though. Thats about all you can do.
As for yourself, i would focus on you for now, i would try to do something you enjoy. Get your spirits back up.
i think he is mentally disturb so sometimes i manage and move on other time i feel not well.
Well reaching out and speaking about it, like you are doing right now, really does help. It can be really difficult to live with someone who has issues like that.
yes i am mentally disturb now a days
Then i would suggest to talk to a professional as well. It really does help to lay it all out on the table and try to put the pieces back together.
okay thanks for ur suggest
Not a problem at all. Have you tried maybe going for a walk alone, clearing your mind, seeing where you are at?
meditate myself
That is very good, i usually dont ask that at first as hiking can be a form of meditation. You seem like you know the tools you can use to help yourself. Now you have to use them, right?
i go to professional meditate class
Thats great, do you feel like you are more centered, and feeling better, after a class?
yes its one think i feel relax
Great, how often do you go?
more than 1hour | {
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5 | 3 | Hi, I was wondering if I could talk to you about a problem.
Hi there! My name is Rob, how are you today?
I am doing okay,
Of course! What is the problem?
My boyfriend has been cheating on me, He constantly denies it and I want to believe him, but my family also knows and thinks I need to end things.
So to make sure I understand, have you caught your partner cheating?
I haven't actually caught him myself.
Has someone told you they suspect he is cheating?
Yes, My best friend and my sister have told me.
It is a horrible feeling when that seed has been planted in your head.
Exactly and he denies it. I just don't know what to do or who to believe.
I know you mentioned you want to believe him when he denies it, I guess the important question is what is making you have that shadow of doubt? Has he been unfaithful in the past?
I know he cheated in the past on a previous girlfriend, but not on me.
And know I am not saying I don't believe you, I think your feelings are valid, and I just want to get the full picture
at least no that I am aware of.
Ok. So there has been a past history of this.
yes
And what are your friends and family saying to you? Are their accusations valid?
I can see their point. They think he is using me for my car and money. He is constantly between jobs.
I know for me, sometimes friends and family will say things like this is they personally do not like the partner themselves without taking your feelings into consideration
I don think they dislike him, I think they fell he is using me and I am blind to it.
Ok I see. And for yourself, do you see a future with him? Because in the end it matters how you feel. Do you feel taken advantage of?
I do financially feel taken advantage of.
So possible cheating aside - there is definitely some others issues that needs solving. Have you calmly confronted him saying that he is affecting your personal financial goals?
Yes, and he always promises to do better. I know deep down it should end.
Thanks for listening
I think you may have answered your own question. I know it is hard, but if someone shows a pattern and they do not change their behaviour, most likely they will not anytime soon. Meanwhile, your mental health and finances will suffer. If you want my unprofessional opinion, I think your friends and family care for you, and they will be there to help you through this | {
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5 | 2 | Hello
Hello, how are you doing?
I am hanging in there as well as I can be
What's been going on?
I am worried about losing my job. The company I work for has had layoffs and is talking about it again in a few months. This makes me really nervous
It seems like that fear of losing your job has been taking a toll on you.
It has indeed. I chose an industry that was fairly stable and a company that hadn't done layoffs in a long time but COVID changed all of that.
Yeah, COVID is an unprecedented time where anything can happen.
It must be frustrating knowing the safe path was taken but even then jobs might be taken away for something out of your control.
Yes! Exactly and I cannot stand that. I love my routine and predicability.
I can relate to that. It's always nice when everything falls into place. The prospect of a sudden change stresses me out and I imagine you've been feeling the same way as well.
What's your fear if you lose your job?
Very much so. If I lose my job I can't pay my bills and keep a roof over my head. In a good economy it took me over 300 applications, 50 interviews, and over 6 months to find a job.
I think even if you lose your job, you would still be able to obtain resources through unemployment or even a stay at home temporary job from an employment agency while you look for another one or for your company to return to normal.
I would hope so
I can definitely relate. I've submitted around that many applications if not more before I found my current job. But working as a temp at other companies has helped me provide for myself in the meantime. :)
You have every right to feel the way you do though. It's a scary time but know that things will be okay.
Right. It's just not something I want to go through again. I just got this job 18 months ago. That job hunting dread and feeling hasn't gone away.
I understand. It definitely is an agonizing process but you've gone through it before and have 18 months of experience under your belt from your current job which looks good on any resume. Despite the pandemic, I think this will help make things a lot easier for you.
For the record, you are doing a really really good job. I really appreciate your time and kind words. Thank you for empathizing and relating. I appreciate your assistance. I feel a lot better about this now :)
You are very welcome. (: It's my pleasure to help in any way I can.
It is much appreciated! | {
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5 | 1 | Hello, what would you like to talk about?
How empty my life is.
Why do you feel like your life is empty?
The love of my life is no longer in my life.
I'm really sorry to hear that.
Yes, she left me for her supervisor at work.
Was this a recent event?
Yes, five days ago.
Wow, that's really a hard thing to deal with isn't it?
It sure is. She told me this guy was sexually harassing her at work, then I find out she is leaving me for this guy.
Hmm, it sounds like she isn't being completely honest with you.
I've been left before too. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life.
I think she liked all of the attention he was giving her, and then she got turned on by it. It is sick.
I can't believe anyone would ever leave you, you seem like such a nice person.
Maybe she did like the attention, but that is her own issue. It really doesn't have anything to do with you.
Sometimes low self worth makes a person seek that kind of exterior validation from someone else.
I should have followed and stalked her like this guy did, it seems to turn her on, she said she likes being watched. I told her to see a therapist and she told me to leave our apartmnent.
That doesn't sound healthy to you, does it?
Yes, I think she has low self esteem, but she let me do things with her, we would experiment sexually together, it was wild.
But now I think she is not healthy and has mental issues.
so, do you think that was the only way she could connect with you, through sex?
I think so, she also liked to peg me. It was very intense, I have never submitted like that to anyone.
Is this your first serious relationship?
Yes, I guess I don't have good luck with women. Maybe I need to go back to call girls, they are easier to deal with.
It sounds like you enjoyed the sex a lot, but you also want an emotional connection to a woman.
Yes totally. Some of the prostitutes are very sweet, but they don't want anything too long term. Just a weekend at most.
Well thank you, you have been very helpful, I feel better now.
Ok, be well. | {
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3 | 2 | Hello
Hello?
Hello, How are you?
I am okay
That is wonderful to hear. How is life going?
It's alright. A little stressful with my job crisis.
Oh I know how hard it can be to be stressed out. What is going on with your job?
Well, I've been looking for a proper job for some time now and I just can't find one. I work online every day and it is not something that is stable.
Oh yeah, not being able to find a job can be pretty stressful. Have you checked online, on job websites?
Yes. I have submitted hundreds of applications and I don't even receive an email on most of them.
Oh yes, that happens most of the time when applying for jobs. It's okay, you will definitely find one. Have you tried asking friends/ family? Maybe places that friends and family work at, have job openings.
I've asked a few, but most of the people I know work retail jobs. I make more money than that working online. I just want a normal adult job, you know? I went to college, so it shouldn't be that hard.
Of course! Everyone deserves to have a job that they worked hard for. What kind of jobs are you interested in?
I like museum jobs or jobs that work with animals, but all of those require years of experience that I can't get because no one will hire me
Oh okay, well while looking for job try not to put yourself in position where you take deep breaths and let your mind at piece. Patience is everything. Sometime in life we all have our patience tested, but that is OK because at the end the results are better than anything.
I mean try to put yourself in that position.
That is true. Maybe it just isn't the right time. Maybe I need to learn something before I find a job that I need to do
Of course! Everything comes at a perfect time, and we have to learn to be patient, and while waiting we can indulge in other activities that we like.
While doing your online job maybe you can work in activities that build experience for a job you want to do next time.
I volunteer once a week with animals
That is a great idea! You are working hard and that hard work is going to pay off! Just try to relax and be patient, which can help with your stress.
Thank you! I appreciate your comments. I will try to relax and know that things will eventually work out
Of course! I love to help
Goodbye!
Goodbye and have a wonderful day! | {
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5 | 2 | what should I do?
Can you tell me a little more about your situation so I can better understand?
My friend's husband is spreading false rumors about me because my daughter moved up in soccer and theirs didn't. He's telling people it's because I'm having an affair with the coach - who is married! This is not true! My daughter is a better soccer player.
what do you think I should do?
It sounds like your friend's husband might be jealous of your daughter, or embarrassed that his daughter did not get moved up also. Have you spoken to your friend about this?
I haven't yet. I was deciding whether or not to talk to him directly or just her or both at the same time. I am really upset and don't want to lose her. I know people get all crazy about their kids and sports. I agree that he's jealous but his daughter isn't really that good - didn't make the school team either. Should I talk to my friend alone first?
It depends on the depth of the relationship between the three of you. How long have you all been friends?
About 6 years. Our daughters are also friends, too. I am single so I don't care about the husband but also don't want to come in between their marriage.
Yes, that is a difficult situation to know how to handle. It could be in your best interest to leave your friend out of it so she doesn't feel stuck in the middle or forced to take sides. However she could view the opposite as you going behind her back.
yes that's true. I don't want to go behind her back but also don't want to get her involved. I could have the coach talk to the dad maybe?
Yes, coaches are a great resource for life's dilemmas. Perhaps another option would be to casually mention something to him in passing, like at one your daughters games as to avoid any big blowups or emotional exlosions.
Oh that's a good idea - in public and not making a big deal about it - and before she moves teams and rumors get worse.
That is exactly right. Each person handles and avoids conflict differently and you have the important roll as leader in all of this. There is a chance he is not aware of the strain this has put on you emotionally and he could respond well to not being called out by someone else. Does that make sense?
it does - but doesn't seem that he cares about my strain on my life since he's the one spreading such lies about me. I just hate him!
I can understand how you would feel like he doesn't care about the strain it's placed. Can I ask, are your daughters aware or involved in these rumor's? This could make a difference in how you could respond.
I did tell her because I was so mad when another mom told me. She doesn't care. She still likes the friend but not the dad.
Sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders. Maybe there's something to be learned from her reaction to all of this. I understand how hard this has been for you so perhaps simply ignoring the rumors will allow you to heal quicker, by simply being the bigger person. Because rumors are just rumors, after all. You and your daughter know the truth and that's all that matters.
yes you're right. I will try to just ignore. And figure out what to do with my anger over all this? Maybe go for a run and also avoid him?
If he knows you know and you rise above with a smile on your face, that could show him that you are more mature than his childish games, and that you mean business. By taking ownership of your own feelings and emotions, you might find that will squash your need to let out any anger towards him.
oh I like that and I am willing to try. I am tired of wasting my energy being so angry at this man who like you said is jealous which is HIS problem and shouldn't be might, right?!
Exactly. Let his problems remain his. You worry about you and your daughter and he can watch from a distance confused at his failed attempt to reflect his own dissatisfaction with life onto you didn't work. I think you will feel freed of any stress this has caused.
I really like that and I hope I'm able to do that!! Thank you! | {
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5 | 1 | Hello
Hello?
Hello, how are you?
Anxious. I'm not sure I can get through this semester
What caused your anxiety? Is it because you don't understand your class?
No I understand the course work, its just a high pressure environment. Everyone is ranked, so its competitive.
it feels like everyone is secrectly angling to take each other down so they can get the good jobs
I can understand how you feel being such competitive environment. However, the most important is your well being. I think as long as you do your utmost best, there is no need to stress over rankings
The money investment is just so high. I don't want to get out of my 3L year and get a job making barely enough for the loan interest payment
I think salary and growth takes more than just academic result. Take one step at a time, take care of your own health and this exam first
I've always been hard on myself
That's good and bad at the same time, you will always be motivated, however, if you push too much you will burn out yourself
Have you reviewed all the materials needed for the exam?
I know I can do it its just hard
yeah, i think i got it
okay, then you are good for the most part. Now just some mental preparation and you will nail it
I hope so
I believe a little worry is good for an exam, however, too much of anything is never good. Practice what you will do in the exam room so you can save as much time as possible
It'll be okay. I have a backup plan for after graduation anyways, its just not wanting to have to resort to that
It's also intense doing this during COVID. We haven't gotten the normal learning environment for a young attorney in training. We just get a zoom link
I understand your frustration, I had a discussion a few days ago about this. Online learning is ok but it can't provide you the same benefits and experience as in person
It oddly makes it more competitive too because you don't get the chance to build a relationship with classmates the way we normally would
are you close with anyone? You can ask around and see if they want to form a study group
No this is my first semester and I moved across the country for this school so I have really no connections here | {
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3 | 2 | How are you today?
Feeling down.
I'm sorry to hear that, what's got you down?
I live in a more rural area that has moved into our highest risk tier for Covid. They just seem to be making all the wrong choices amongst our local schools and other agencies.
I can relate to being in a rural area being hit right now. What are the wrong choices that they're making?
The middle school is still in person 100% of the time. There have been >30 cases, most in the last 3 weeks, and they keep sending letters home stating that they don't believe the kids are getting sick in school. It's infuriating.
So, I get mad, then I get anxious, then I get down...
It's such a hard time right now, knowing what is the right thing to do. Does your district offer any virtual options?
They do. It's a pretty poor one though. I'm looking at charter options right now. They only offer ELA, Math, Science, and SS through the public virtual option.
The kid I'm concerned about is taking math 3 grades ahead and high school spanish. I do not think their program is in her best interest, so I'm focusing on the charter option, but it takes time :(
That's frustrating, obviously you want what's best for your kid and it's going to take time.
It does. Like you said, crazy time for everyone.
I think the important thing to remember is that we're all going through similar things. Which probably increases our anxiety because we don't have any good way to express our frustrations since everyone else is in the same or worse position.
True, true. It does help to focus on how you can help, especially if you find people in worse positions.
While we're busy worrying about things like education and jobs, I like to look for the little messages of hope and empathy that we'[re seeing through all of this as well. It's a good teaching moment for our kids and showing how to collectively work to take care of one another.
I like that. I especially like the idea of involving the kids.
Just think of all of the ways our kids are learning to adapt to different life situations as well. That's worth just as much as their formal education. Your concerns are valid, and hopefully finding another safer school works out and this whole thing is over soon.
I have been trying to do projects at home I normally wouldn't to try to help everyone fill time. Things like creating websites, art projects, and such. Those skills will help tremendously.
That's a great idea, helping fill time with things to distract is a good way to relieve stress as well.
So, I guess I'll just keep doing what I can and try to stay away from media and the state's tracking site. I had been doing this, but the announcement for the new tier came from the school!
What region are you in? We're midwest and watching the news is not the best way to lighten the day.
Midwest. Not the worst place to be, although we supposedly hit some statistic that no other state has yet, so we may be heading that direction.
Well my suggestion is to turn off the news.
Consider it done, lol! I'm gonna log out now, but you did give me a couple points to consider that would be better than dwelling on the hopelessness.
Stay safe where you are.
You too, thanks for chatting! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello there, how are you feeling today?
I am feeling a bit sad and down
I am sorry to hear that. Do you want to tell me about it?
I hate the way I look. Everytime I look in the mirror I cry
I see. Can you be more specific? A lot of people are insecure about their looks you know.
When I look in the mirror, I think Im the ugliest person in the world sometimes
How old are you if you don't mind my asking? This is a common thing among young people.
I am 32
I see. Well can you tell me what specific part of your appearance do you hate? Maybe it could be altered?
I hate everything when I see my reflection. I just feel fat and ugly
Well, I have been overweight and I know it sucks. Perhaps you could join a weight loss group?
I have been working out and eating better. Even though I am losing weight, I still feel horrible
Well you should be proud of the progress! Maybe buy yourself some new clothes?
That is a good idea, maybe that will help
Or have a new haircut or something :)
I like that idea too, I will give it a try
Is it just your weight that bothers you about your appearance?
No, I just dont like looking at myself in the mirror. I just feel ugly and gross
I have a feeling that other people do not feel that way about you :)
That is kind of you to say, thank you
You have helped me quite a bit today, I appreciate it
I think a lot of people do see themselves in a much worse light as others see them :) It's a human thing.
Very true, thank you for the perspective
So, what sort of clothes do you think you are going to buy? :)
Possibly a new dress or two
Sounds like a great idea. I bought a fantastic maxi dress recently. Very flattering for those of us carrying an extra pound or two
I love flowy dresses for that reason
do you do anything else when you are feeling bad about yourself?
I like a nice facemask and a bubble bath, do you?
I like doing my makeup and getting dressed up, even if I have nowhere to go
That is a good thing to do .. great for the self esteem. Maybe buy some new jewellery too?
I like the idea of pampering myself. That is something I don't do too often
and I need to do it more. Perhaps I will feel better then
You need to indulge yourself from time to time :) Get yourself a nice bottle of wine too. Though maybe not chocolate :D
Haha, yes, perhaps not those :)
Anyway I hope you are feeling a little better now ! Thank you for talking!
Thank you, you too!
(I can't press quit my end so you have to first :)) | {
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4 | 3 | Hello I am here to talk about my overall daily stresses
Hi! Tell me what's going on.
yeah I guess different factors, just self isolation for months due to the pandemic, and nearing the end of my studies and experiencing that final last-minute crunch with studying and assignments.
I am more stressed and anxious than anything, and not really depression.
Understood. You have a lot on your plate, especially with the "new normal".
yes that's right. The plate issue is more to do with my studies now than the pandemic.
Though the pandemic is adding to my anxiety and fear of the outside world
especially when I have to go out everytime for errands and personal admin.
Are you doing online schooling? And yes, going anywhere can be a bit nerve-wracking
yes I am. I preferred the old-school way. I've completed university before and it's much better to do things in-person. My online studies have been in place even before the pandemic.
Just finishing up with courses and catching up with last minute stuff
I feel like so little time when in fact I had loads of time for the last few months.
I just seem to think and do things slower and more distracted
I understand; sometimes I have moments like that, too.
like time is moving on so quickly and there's so little hours in the day but I feel that I don't do enough in a day with my school, kind of distracted or wasted time and then when I do something, I look at the time and am sometimes surprised at how much time had actually elapsed when it felt like I didn't do much.
What kind of things are you doing for yourself? Do you have a place to or a thing to do to...decompress?
I think this has to do with the pandemic at the start of the year and that changed my momentum and rhythm in life and coupled with social isolation, which puts a damper on my studying mentality, I think.
I spend tons of time at home nowadays. I try to surf the net and read up on stuff, and that takes a lot of my time, and kind of aimless, and what I would say is procrastination. I work out from time to time, but not as much as I used to before the pandemic.
Sure, it sometimes feels like time is different right now. Like your typical life patterns just did a complete circle.
I wanted to set aside hobbies and things to develop, like writing during the pandemic, and improve on that skill, but I never got to do that. And now so many months have gone by, and all that's on my mind and plate now are my studies, because it's like I do things slower and leave it till the last minute, even though I know I can pass, but just not as good a mark as I would have liked and not my usual work and study ethics from before.
yeah not only a complete circle but to me, it's like an aimless road to nowhere, and it goes on and on and repeats day after day
that's how it felt for the last few months
and everyday is the same and at home, and only two months ago I started working in a new part-time position and that got some normalcy back and less stress and alleviated unpredictability with the economy for me.
Understood! I'm not in the exact same situation, but I feel you. There's the thought there would be so much to do things and...there's not. And you feel stuck a bit.
stuck for sure. It still amazes me that it's november and not march, because it still feels like that.
and nowhere as festive, fun, and alive as last november. It's a huge change
Definitely a massive change!
it feels nothing special, and not normal, and not even like a real november, you know? It's like even if it's christmas, I wouldn't ackowledge it's christmas even though it is, because of the changes and we can't do the things w e used to do.
hopefully, scientists can study all these phenomena and our physiological, social, and mental responses to the pandemic. There will be so much that can be learned from all this, I feel.
Of course. We can'r celebrate the way we used to, we might not be able to visit family. Oh yes, this is a learning opportunity about anxiety and isolation
And it's worse because I live by myself so don't have someone here. But I do talk on the phone with my friend daily about things and that does help a lot.
yeah like for me, I am not able to fly back to visit my folks this year, and this is the first time
And I feel bad about it but nothing I can do
That's good that you have people to reach out to.
yeah anyways, thanks for listening and understanding. I appreciate your input very much.
It does help for me to vent I guess and for someone to listen
I am good to go now
thanks a lot for your help
You're welcome! Venting can be great! Take care of yourself and stay in touch with your friends
will do. And best of luck to you. Stay well and stay safe. Thanks again.
Thank you. Have a good day and take care. | {
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5 | 4 | Good Evening
Hello
How are you?
I'm pretty stressed out actually
I'm sorry to hear that. It's rough to get stressed
Would you like to tell me what's going on?
Sure. I just failed a huge test in my college class, and I'm worried it will fail me the entire class, and then I won't be able to get my associates
Oh no! I can totally understand why you're stressing over that! Absolutely valid reason for anxiety.
May I ask how much of the whole grade was the test's percentage?
Yeah it's really weighing down on me. It's the only thing I can think about. The test was worth 75%
What was you're score?
I got a 62% on the test.
That isn't TECHNICALLY a failed grade by the standards of most professors. Albeit a low grade, it's a D. Anything below 59% would qualify as failed.
Yeah, but taking into account my scores on homework, I don't think it's enought to pass the class
Have you done fairly well in other classes? How have your grades been prior to this test in that class?
Honestly it's just kind of all over the place. I am surviving in other classes, but with all this online stuff with the pandemic I barely learn anything. I'm basically faking it til I make it. Which I hate. But I can't learn in these conditions.
I hate that you feel that way about yourself, but I can also relate to having a rough time learning via online classes. I'm the same way. However, that does not disable you from being able to learn. It impedes your quality of learning, no doubt. But it isn't something that YOU can help.
By having an attitude of being unable to learn, you automatically lower your expectations for the success you would potentially have otherwise...
Yeah that's true, I just think it's not my learning style so it's a lot harder for me. I thought about waiting until things are normal enough to physically be able to go back to class before I try and finish my bachelors, but who knows when that will be
OMGoodness no kidding. This whole pandemic has the world in a tizzy!
Yeahhh
Honestly just talking to someone and letting it out was kinda nice
made me feel ebtter
If I were you I would not wait! It may not be the best option for your learning style, and it will certainly prove a greater challenge. However, taking on that challenge will bring on SWEETER rewards when you succeed! Adopt a "Can-Do" state of mind and grab the bull by the horns!
You're so very welcome!
Yeah you are right. I shouldn't wait. I don't want to put my life on hold. Thank you so much | {
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3 | 2 | Hi, how are you today?
Hi there, I'm struggling to be honest.
What are you struggling with?
I've been finding it really hard to motivate myself to do anything for the last year or so, but it's been getting worse recently. Everything feels like hard work.
To be honest, I feel the same way sometimes, too. It is nice to have someone to talk to about this. Have you talked to anyone else about this yet?
I haven't really, I feel like other people have their own issues and I don't want to burden them. It's good that others feel the same. Do you have any advice on what makes you feel better?
Yes. I agree. For me personally, I noticed if I think back of a time before I lost my motivation, sometimes it helps me to reenergize a bit.
What have motivated you in the past?
Hmm, I'm finding it hard to remember a time I didn't feel like this! I feel like this has been going on forever! I used to enjoy walking, and generally getting things done around the house. I am also self employed and loved putting time into my business but I've been finding that hard recently.
I've been watching a lot of Netflix and youtube and not doing much else.
I have been spending a lot of time home by myself as well.
How do you cope with it? How do you not get bored and restless?
I noticed if I try to adhere to a schedule, even a very simple one, such as getting up at a certain time, making breakfast, and showering. My days tend to go better.
I've been finding I have a lot of time alone with my thoughts recently.
That's a good idea, I could try that. At the moment I get up at around 11am but U have been trying to get up earlier but I just can't make myself do it. I've also been sleeping during the day which is maybe not good.
Have you tried reading? I find reading motivates me sometimes, too. Sometimes too much thinking alone leaves me digging a hole for myself.
I used to get a lot of pleasure from reading and would always have a book on the go. Now reading feels like a chore, as if I am making myself do it.
I sometimes force myself to exercise when I get sleepy when I shouldn't be tired during the day.
That's a good idea I could definitely try that.
I suppose that is a little weather dependant though.
Maybe try YouTubing? There are a lot of interesting channels that talks about science, technology, personal health, ... etc. That can be beneficial to you and worthwhile.
I do watch a lot of youtube, but it's mainly true crime I am into. I always forget there is other content on there other than what is in my subscription box.
Certainly. I have a pullup bar and some weights at home. Even without those, sometimes I just do some bodyweight exercises, such as pushups, squats, ... etc.
Home workouts would be good. Do you use an app, or just make up the moves yourself?
Yes, the YouTube algorithm is not always the most helpful sometimes. You can try logging out to see if you see some other recommendations.
I will do that after this chat, and see if I can find any home workout videos on there.
I used to be in the military, so I have a rough idea of what exercises I can perform and how much of it I can do each time. Looking up more information on it is a great idea.
Overall, I noticed if I can stay clean, healthy, and strong, many of my other problems tend to go away or at least appear less severe.
I'll do that then, and see if there are any useful apps I can use on my phone so I can do workouts on the go. I know it will be hard to get myself into the habit of doing it but maybe if I stick at it I'll see rewards.
Yeah I suppose I need to try more to not give in to all the negative thoughts.
I recommend finding a friend or partner to keep you accountable.
I used to have a spreadsheet for my exercises such as running, because I hate running.
Having to fill out that spreadsheet motivated me quite a bit at the time.
I'd love to find a partner! At the moment I can't really go out and dating and I'm finding online dating tedious. That's a good idea, I use excel for work so could set up a spreadsheet for exercise.
Yes, have some fun with the spreadsheet, too! Conditional formatting, plotting graphs, generating statistics.
I'll certainly look into it. Thanks for your help, I'm feeling a little more focused.
My pleasure! | {
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3 | 2 | Hey it is getting difficult day by day .
Hi! I am sorry to heard that. I would be very glad to help if you could please tell me what bothers you
We are unable to meet our friends and families especially during holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas.
I can see why you are concerned. These are certainly difficult times and this pandemic doesn't seem to be stopping anytime now. I understand your frustation.
There should be some other ways to get out of this situation. Its so boring life.
Many apps offer videocalls that you can use to chat with your loved ones though. Zoom is a great one, fore example!
Yes that is one way to connect but meeting in person makes a difference.
It surely does. You can always travel, just make sure that you are maintaining social distancing and your mask at all times. If you and your family members follow the protocols, it is very unlikely that any of you is exposed to the virus.
Its too risky to travel. And with kids you it will be difficult. Besides you never know what will happen so don't want to take risk of travelling.
I understand. It's especially risky when kids are involved.
Hey, you need to remind yourself that things will not be this way forever. A vaccine will be developed soon, and things will be just like they used to!
You can't just stay home all day as you cant go shopping to malls or watch a movie in theatre!! Its so frustrating.
It feels like your life has come to a full stop.!!
When the pandemic first started, I felt like I was frozen in my life. Nothing was happening and any signs of progress had stopped. I can definetely relate. However, I found that exploring new hobbies and focusing on improving as a person were great ways to take good use of time.
Absolutely there could be other ways where you can focus you mind into like gardening was my hobby which I had started again during this pandemic.
That's great! I heard that some people are even deciding to grow their own food as much as possible. That greatly helps the environment and avoids pollution and global warming. Are you planning on applying that as part of your gardenning hobby?
Not really but I like watching the flowers bloom and see how my vegetables were growing each day. I loved watching the birds and butterflies around beautiful blooms.
That gave me a bit of positivity in life.
It's great that you are doing an activity that you enjoy. I can just imagine how beautiful of a scenery that creates.
Yes of course and it helped me to teach my kids a bit about nature too. They seemed to be interested in gardening also.
Teaching your kids is a great idea! Not many kids nowadays enjoy a lot of outdoor activities. Being in connection with nature is important to maintain a balance and increase our happinness overall.
Yes that was the best way to connect with nature . They could just pluck out the fruits from plants and eat them right away which they had not done for quite long time. They surely had fun.
Haha that does sound like fun. Just watch out for any insects on those fruits or any impurities! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hello there
How may i help you today?
I'm really panicking. I just lost my job and I don't know how I'm going to pay my rent.
Don't panic everything is going to be okay i understand how you are feeling
Did you lose your job because of the pandemic?
I worked at a restaurant and they have to close due to the pandemic.
I can understand that it is a tough time for everyone right now that lost their job
have you started looking for another job?
I don't know how to make ends meet now.
I haven't looked yet. I'm not sure where to start.
have you tried to sign up for unemployment?
That's a good idea, I guess I could start there.
I am so worried, I can't get a hold of my emotions
Yes you should do that until you can find another job
Okay, I'll apply on line today.
How can I deal with my stress?
don't worry yourself to much it is going to be okay it is really a tough time that everyone is going through right now
That makes me feel a little better. It's tough times out there.
yes i can understand how you feeling
Thanks, it helps to know I'm not alone.
I will also try to improve my resume.
you are most definitely not alone
yes try to improve your resume to that will be a good idea
So, to recap- today, I'll apply for unemployment. Then, I'll use the extra time to polish up my resume.
the only thing you can really do right now is to just sign up unemployment and start looking for another job i am sure you will find another job soon
Okay, I like the idea of taking little steps.
yes do that and stay positive
Do you have any suggestions to stay positive?
since you not working right now do some hobbies you love doing to keep your mind off of whats going on
Ah ok. I like to knit so I could make a new scarf.
thats a good idea you should do that
I am really sure you will get a job soon as long as you stay looking and putting in applications
I can try but I have to save every penny can't afford yarn right now.
I will look at job postings today.
perfect. remain positive and do not let the stress take control of you. you got this
Okay thank you for the advice
Everything will be okay. your welcome. | {
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3 | 2 | Hello
Hi, how are you doing?
I am doing fine. How are you?
I'm doing alright. Is there anything bothering you?
Yes.. I recently broke up with my partner
Oh no, that must be hard.
I've definitely been there before, it can really hurt.
I am extremely depressed after that..
That makes sense. How long were you guys together?
We have been together for last 2 years.
Oh wow, two years is a long time
Yes.. we had out ups and downs during the time..
It sounds like it might not have been the most healthy relationship while it was going on, but it can still really hurt when something like that ends.
I went through something similar with an unhealthy relationship that needed to end, but it still hurt for a long time after
I did not see this was coming.. happened all on a sudden..
Oh no, being taken by surprise like that can't be pleasant at all.
No it was not.. now I am in depression and don't know how to get out of it.
I'm sorry to hear that. Do you have friends you can talk to? Spending time with friends can be a good distraction, and give you people to rant to who know you best.
I cannot think of anyone I can share my feeling with...
It sounds like you're feeling pretty alone right now
Yes, I am..
You could take the opportunity to try and take up a new hobby. I know it sounds dumb, but finding something to put your energy into could really help
I am into playing musical instruments.. you think I should pick that up again?
That sounds like a great idea! That's an awesome skill and sounds like it would be fun to get back into.
What instruments do you play?
I play flute.. I guess I will start it again.. thanks for the suggestion.
Yeah no problem!
I know it's tough now, but I think after some time you'll start feeling better.
I hope so.. I feel better talking to you.. thanks again..
It was great talking to you too :)
Have a good day..
You too! | {
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3 | 2 | Hello there. In the past 3 years, I have gotten into 2 car accidents. Neither of them were my fault. I sustained a concussion/traumatic brain injury and am experiencing depression and PTSD.
I have nightmares of crashing at least 2x a week. I am seeing a therapist, but due to the pandemic we are not meeting in person to do EDMR for my PTSD
Hello, I'm so sorry to hear that. That sounds like an awful lot to go through in a few years time, which now can feel like the time passes so quickly.
I have a traumatic brain injury that creates a lot of overstimulation in my life. I used to be social and now I can't be in a social setting for too long without feeling exhausted
Have you tried to talk to your therapist through video chat or is that something they offer?
Yes, I talk to my therapist every other week
That's great that they can offer that, I know it's very difficult to get regular care at the moment with the pandemic.
Do you have any family or friends close by or something that you can talk to if you feel like you need some extra support?
I do not have supportive or understanding friends and family
I have lost a lot of them in the last few years or have created boundaries because when I got into my first car accident, legit someone said "are you not better yet?" and another said "can't you just walk it off?"
When I got into my second car accident, people said "again? are you drunk?"
Even though neither were my fault, people were not understanding or asked how scary those situations for me were
I am sorry to hear that, people are very quick to judge so it's very unfortunate that you were treated that way.
After my first car accident, the tow truck guy was towing my car to my aunt's garage to hold for auto insurance appraisal. He said to my aunt "sorry for your loss" My aunt said "oh, she's right over there and alive"
the car accident was so bad the tow truck guy thought I had died
but even after seeing my car, friends and family acted like it was just something that happens to everyone. walk it off
Wow, I can't imagine what the car must have looked like then for such a comment to be made. I'm glad that you here and despite going through that trauma that you are still going.
Thanks.
A women fell asleep at the wheel in 2013 and hit me going through an intersection and totaled by car as well, but I had only had a concussion and pain I had to go to physical therapy for a short time, so I can't imagine how you must have felt.
What are some things you do when you have depression? Have you been in a scary car accident before or know anyone? Have you offered them kindness or you just dismissed them and thought it was their own problem?
That sounds scary. And is extremely unfortunate.
I'm sorry that you didn't get the support you needed after your accidents because it's hard enough to go through the pain and trauma (mental and physical) to begin with and the support is much needed.
Absolutely! But I'm doing better now. You find out who your real friends and family are and you move on. The whole saying of "they don't deserve you at your best when they weren't there when you were at your worst"
You are 100% correct. Have you looked into any support groups at all or tried to connect with anyone with similar experiences through social media?
I don't use social media
I quit in 2016, which is also when I started realizing how vain people are
Some of those same friends and family didn't bother to text me even though they had my number
I did find a local group that did social stuff together but they were all really old like 50 years plus
I'm in my 20s so it was hard to relate
Gotcha! Well I'm glad I was able to connect with you this evening because sometimes it helps just to chat and have someone listen :-)
Thanks! I appreciate it. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year
I hope that for 2021 things can somewhat go back to normal so the routines can get back to what they were and that this next year is your best year yet. You have already been through so much to be in your 20's. | {
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4 | 1 | Hi, how's life?
good, feels better now
I am glad to hear it. Is there anything you'd like to talk about?
about my experience with a friend who stopped communicating
Yes I hear you on that, that happens to me rather a lot of the time. Can you tell me more?
usually we discuss issues or good news, anything day to day, suddenly i felt i am kept in the dark, while other friends in the group were aware of the problems faced by the friend
That does not sound good. Do you feel that it is someone specifically who is blocking you out?
not blocking me out,but i felt that I am not considered close enough to discuss problems or personal issues
Well, trust has to come with time... it cannot happen instantly. Perhaps you are being too hard on yourself?
I was trusted before, but not now
Sometimes you just run up against people who are not trustworthy themselves. It's best to just ignore these toxic people!
Please know that it is NOT your problem, it it's their's!
i understand that. but i feel lonely when friend says i am having issues, i dont want to discuss with anyone, but other friends get to know of the issue and tell me about it in a casual conversation. i feel when some other had got to know of it, why it could not have been discussed with me
I do understand how it feels to be gossiped about - that has happened to me more than once and it is really painful.
i feel sorry for the friend that the trusted ones have not been able to keep up and at the same time, i was not considered trusted one, where i would have kept it to myself
Perhaps you should consider getting some new friends? Are there any societies or anything that you could join?
i like your suggestion. i have started to do prayers and study more texts of my interest and this had surely given me a boost and I have now accepted the friend as it is.
not really thinking too much of it, just accepting it as it is and moving on with my routine
That sounds like a really positive outlook. Make a resolution not to let toxicity into your life in this coming year?
I hope I have been able to help you a little and set your mind at rest. I wish you a very happy New Year!
yes, thank you and happy new year to you as well
goodbye and thanks for talking
good bye and thanks for listening
(you need to end from your end as I can't from mine :)) | {
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5 | 2 | How are you feeling today?
Hi, not so good to be honest.
I've been feeling very depressed recently. I've been doing very bad in this class and that is just not like me.
Oh, so you are usually a pretty decent student? I'm sorry to here that you are experiencing this
I was up until this pandemic started. I feel like this shift to online learning has really taken it's toll on me and my learning.
I've tried reaching out to my professors and doing virtual group study sessions with my class mates, but for some reason, things just don't seem to stick that well.
You know, a lot of students are really struggling with this new learning style, so it's very understandable
Really? I feel like everyone around me is doing fine and that makes me feel that there is something wrong with me.
Maybe I'm just slow?
Most people where masks of content, so you never know how much they are struggling. It's not always beneficial to compare yourself to others
Are you having issues with focusing?
I think so? I think it is just the way the material is taught now. We have these "Zoom" sessions where everything is taught online, but it just all feels so impersonal. We are expected to read things on our own and then come to class ready to do these activities. I just prefer the old style of attending classes, having someone teach me the material, and then going back and studying on my own.
I think it is also the social aspect of this pandemic too. I haven't seen my firends in person in a very long time.
I'm worried that if my poor performance continues, then I might loose my scholarship.
What happened when you reached out to the teacher?
He just gave me some additional books to read, but I did not find that helpful. I really do well when I have someone teach the material to me, not just tell me to read on my own.
But maybe I'm not able to do well because I'm stupid. I know I should be able to understand things on my own, but I just can't seem to do that.
I think if you could teach yourself, the class wouldn't exist.
Does your class have a study group?
Usually schools offer free tutoring, because students volunteer to do it for credits toward a teaching degree. have you heard of that?
There is always a way. You have to be smart to get a scholarship. You deserve to be in that class as much as anyone else
I have tried the group study sessions, but I feel like I don't retain as much. I just get very discouraged when I see how smart everyone else in my class is.
I don't know if my school offers free tutoring now. They used to, but I am not sure if they are still offering it due to the pandemic.
I'll try that though. It might help to get one on one attention from a past student who did well.
Well, they most likely do it over zoom. But it's better because it's one on one
And thank you for the words of encouragement. \
You're absolutely welcome
I'll try your advice. Hopefully, things will take a turn for the better.
I'm confident that it will. | {
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5 | 3 | Hello there! How can I encourage you today?
Hello? Anyone there?
Hi sorry
I'm having trouble getting motivated to finish my senior thesis
Ah! I remember my thesis, a lot of work. One thing for certain, I have a lot of pride over my accomplishment, it was well worth it. When is it due?
In about a month.
I'm sure you will be able to finish it, sometimes we find ourselves in a slump and need some fresh air blown our way.
Do you have an advisor who is holding you accountable?
Yes, but I've been really bad about keeping her in the loop. I feel bad when I fall behind, and then I'm fearful of getting back in touch with her.
Whenever I have a large project and lose motivation, I set my goals on paper, then break it down into smaller bites. For example, I will make sure I work one hour on certain days, or call a friend, I generate ideas to keep me on track.
Yes, I sometimes feel guilty and then don't want to face the music, but actually the best thing to do is recognize you are NOT the first person she knows that got behind. So she is surely experienced with people who need some encouragement. She is the BEST person to go to, actually.
That sounds like a good idea regarding putting it down on paper.
It has always helped me. For example, you can break it down into 4 weeks, then each week write your goals -- maybe put call Advisor or go stop by every week, but I would put that first for the first week.
Then as you check off items, you will see you are moving, even if at a snail's pace, you are moving, and that always encourages me. Sometimes I do not realize how much I AM doing, until I see it on paper. Paper doesn't lie, but my emotions sometimes cloud my thinking.
My other problem is that I'm a perfectionist. I tend to over-analyze and get bogged down, especially when doing research.
Another idea is rewards, when you finish one goal, perhaps put a reward for yourself, a yogurt with sprinkles or something like that
You sound like me! I had to learn that I need to strive for EXCELLENCE, not perfection. Perfection will drain us. Do the best I can, leave the rest to God.
That is why a time line is good. For example, you make a goal that you will work on your reference and citation page for one hour, after that, you are DONE, If you have time at the end, you can revisit it. The hour is my suggestion, you make your own. lol THAT way, you don't get caught going on and on for 6 hours to make it perfect. One hour is reasonable.
That definitely sounds reasonable. Putting micro deadlines in might be what I need to do to keep me focused.
I do this with EVERYTHING in life because I tend to go on and on too focused and lose track of everything. lol For example, I clean each room for 15 minutes a week. If it needs more, I do more, but I set the timer and you would be surprised how well that works, otherwise, I will spend all my time perfecting one room and the rest is a mess.
Also, your Advisor will know tips to help you too. She has advised a lot of people, her objectivity and experience can give get RIGHT to the heart of any problem, quickly too.
My advisor is a tough woman, I'm not going to beat around the bush. She tends to make everything miserable.
Tough advisors are TOUGH. lol But You sound intelligent and you obviously WANT to do this, it is a goal of yours, I'm sure you can take it!
I'll try to keep that in mind. It's something I do feel like I need to finish for my own sake.
It is only one more month of your life. If you buckle down, it will be over and done with before you know it. And I assure you, you will look back in pride at your accomplishments!
That sounds like a wonderful feeling. But so far away.
My Graduation Day was amazing. This is what life is about, working NOW for rewards later. It's like a garden, you sow, you weed, you wait for rain and weed some more. You keep waiting and weeding, then later harvest come. It takes time to work a little each day, then time passes whether you lay on your bed or whether you are in the garden working. If you lay on your bed, you get nothing, if you work a little every day, in time, you reap rewards.
That's a very poetic way of putting it.
Not much in life is easy or free, if we keep working little by little, as time passes, you real a lot of rewards, in fact, you will reap rewards of finishing this thesis for YEARS even decades. It is a great goal and a worthy one to keep at.
I'll keep that in mind as I move forward. I really appreciate your help.
I commend you for doing the thesis and I also know it can get weary as time passes, but with some goals on paper a visit to the ADVISOR (hee hee) will set you up right for continued success.
You are very welcome. Have a blessed evening!!
Thanks, you too! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello How can I help u today?
Hello?
Can you please state your issue?
Have there, I have a work issue that I'm hoping you can help me with
Sure, How can I help you?
I want to get a qualification but I'm working full-time at the moment and I also work very long hours. the problem is the courses that I want to do a huge time commitment. I'm really angry that I can't seem to get better qualifications to improve my life, because I need to work and need the income to keep me going. I feel stuck and don't know how to get past this.
Working and going to school can be tough. It must be very stressful.
Maybe you can take less classes or hours at work?
Or what are some ways you can relax after a long day?
you are right this is very stressful. I've gotten used to the steady income and now we lie on it. the problem is I do work quite late hours so have limited time to study. any suggestions?
I would ask for lesser hours if you can or study during your lunch breaks.
Perhaps I can ask for a different shift pattern yes, or reduce my hours. I may need to take a look at my finances and do a bit of recalculating. Have you ever had a situation like this?
I have not but I know people who are in your situation.
I wonder if there are courses and qualifications that you can get just by studying maybe an hour a day or an hour every other day?
I would look on sites like Skill share.
You can learn a lot on there
There maybe some free courses to but I'm not sure
ok I've never heard of skillshare, is that a website where you can get more information about work based qualifications etc?
I think so
Doesn't hurt to check them out.
yeah that's very true. I've never heard of that before so thanks for the tip.
Youre welcome
Is there anything else I can help you with today?
also I'm not sure why this is making me feel so angry I think it's the stress of the situation. you mentioned what I can do to relax at the end of the day, do you think this will help see things more clearly?
Skill share can help you learn new skills and try out yoga or mediation.
yeah I read that yoga I can be really good for your health and your mental well-being.
There is an app called Calm that you can use for free or you can pay for it to unlock new features.
It can and it keeps you fit
I didn't realise there was so much support available. thanks again for the suggestions!
You are welcome anything else I can help with?
No that's great. Thanks for your help
Youre welcome have a nice day/night! | {
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5 | 2 | Hey there, how's it going?
I am doing good. How are you?
I'm ok, I could be better. I'm trying to find a job currently.
What kind of jobs are you looking for?
Anything involving my college degree. But when I do get to the interview stage, I feel like I don't know anything. I feel like an imposter.
Was it a phone interview or in-person interview?
In-person.
so, you are good with initial assessment and phone interview, and get uncomfortable during in-person interview, is that correct?
Yes, I stumble over my words, I tend to ramble, and I'm afraid I don't even answer the questions the way they are looking for.
Have you tried anything yet to overcome this challenge?
I try to prep myself beforehand by having lines ready for the common questions asked. But I struggle with questions where they present scenarios to me.
There are several technics people use.. first one you can dress up as you are going for interview and practice talking in front of a mirror.
I really like that suggestion, I will have to try it. Do you have any difficulties with interviews?
Not really, but I used one other technique. I asked my wife/gf to interview me. You know spouse or gf/bf would be very critical, and if you overcome him/her.. you would be very comfortable in front of the others.
That makes a lot of sense, I'll have to ask my husband to interview me. I'm feeling a lot better about this now, thank you :)
Did you ever feel silly or out of place when your wife would interview you?
yes, making your self uncomfortable means you are learning
I have never thought about it like that.
That makes a lot of sense, I'm going to keep that in mind in all aspects of my life.
Yes, this is make you over come the fear.
Yeah, I do let fear take control of most of my decision making. That's something I can work on, too. Thank you bird-person
Is there something else I can help you with? If not can you close the discussion?
That is all. | {
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5 | 4 | hello
Hello. How are you?
I need to confide on someone, I just need to say it out so I can be relieve
we met on instagram
Sure, you can tell me anything. I won't judge or anything like that.
that bitchtold me that she is from Cananda, and she will soon come to USA, i do tell her I love her, she will send different naked pictures of herself, I did'nt know she is a bitch
she fuck defraud me with almost 4000$
before I know, she requested for my bank details
last two weeks my bank called me to come that someone is trying to access my account
Oh dear, that sounds like a classic love fraud.... I'm so sorry you were victimized like that.
I called her no not reacheable
chatted her up not replyig
Oh my. I hate to hear that. Bank details should never be given out to people you don't know. This person made you think they cared about you, but they were trying to earn your trust and gain access to your accounts from the start.
she is a bitch
I was lost
thanks to my bank manager, that make my eyes to open
That person is just a scammer. They probably reach out to hundreds of potential victims every day, waiting for someone to bite. I'm sorry you were taken in by them.
Were you able to recover any of your loss?
i can believe now
if u tell me two months ago I will never accept what you are saying
thanks for your time
Scams like that have been going on for years. They just change how they go about it and what platform they use.
You're very welcome. Please be more careful in future.
okay
bye
I do hope you were able to recover your loss. I wish you luck and hope you can find someone honest and true.
I love your time
amen
Goodbye. Have a good night. I hope you feel better.
i really love your confidence
that m oney has gone
Oh, I'm so sorry. At least you won't ever fall for something like that again...
yes
thanks | {
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4 | 2 | Hi, how are you? What would you like to talk about today?
Hi! I have been feeling really sad the last couple of months!
I'm sorry to hear that! What do you think might be making you sad?
I haven't been able to find a decent job in a long time! I have great credentials but i doesn't matter what I do I never get called back!
Have you had someone take a look at your resume? Sometimes employers have their systems set up to cue on special terms and buzzwords. A resume consultant might be able to help with that.
I did it one time but it did not made a difference! I kept getting rejected from every company! It's like there is no place for me
if you have the qualifications, I'm sure that there is a job out there for you. How big a geographical area are you searching in?
I'm currently looking on the NYC area, because it's not an option to move out!
NYC probably has lots of jobs but it's probably also a competitive place, with lots of skilled workers. What kind of job are you looking for?
I'm an Anaesthesiologist and i have a fellow on Regional Anaesthesia and Acute Pain Management
Is it harder to find work because of the pandemic? This is an unusual situation for health care. Things might change for the labor market in the next few months.
Yes i know it has been difficult for everyone! I try to calm down and tell to myself that this are hard time for all of us and that i just have to keep going forward
Ok, how is your life going outside of the work search?
My wife and I have been arguing a lot, she's pregnant and that makes the whole situation more difficult
That's a challenging situation for anyone!
Yes I know! We've been able to keep things going because i had some savings and she is currently working at home! But expenses keep summing up
Is there temporary work that you might be able to do from home for the time being? It might not pay as well as medicine, but it could help with the bills.
I haven't think about that option until now, I guess my mind was set on getting the job I've always dreamed of and didn't look at other options that might help my situation
That's understandable. You've trained for a job and you want to get the job. I think that in the long term, you will be able to achieve that!
I am! But for now I guess I will just focus on finding a job to help with the bill and keep trying as hard as I can to find a job on my field!
That's a great idea. I think that you can find something in the short-term. Companies are always looking for capable employees.
You are completely right! You've been really helpful! I'm so glad i had this talk! I needed to vent and just have someone to listen to me!
I'm glad that I was able to help you! Have a great weekend, and best of luck with the job search.
Thank you! Have a great weekend too! Thanks for your help!
Do you have a button on your end for ending the chat? | {
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5 | 2 | hi there my name is Lisa...how are you feeling today?
Honestly, it's getting to me, COVID-19, not being able to leave my house safely, having a medical issue that puts me at higher risk.
i can totally relate to that, I am feeling the same way
how long have you been feeling this way?
I don't know what to do with myself. A year. I haven't left my house once.
so it sounds like you are feeling cooped up and not knowing what to do, am i right?
Yes, it's more than that.
can you tell me more?
I'm in this house, and scared. Nothing is getting better for me or anyone else I know.
may I ask where you are located?
In Mass.
it's normal to feel scared. Of course it being normal doesn't make it any better...
can you get out for walks?
I live in such a populous area, I am afraid to. Especially with warmer temperatures coming.
i see. are you saying your sidewalks are too busy to be able to social distance properly?
i find getting out for walks is helpful. i live downtown in a small city. i wear a mask while I walk and veer onto the grass, into the bike lane or whatnot if someone comes...or I look ahead and cross the street if it's convenient...that makes me feel safer when i walk. i have a medical condition too.
I just wish I could do that.
what is it that is stopping you, are the sidewalks too crowded?
without my walks I'd go crazy...it's my daily stress reliever....i am at home 23 hours a day
are you planning to get a vaccine and if so do you know how long you have to wait?
i agree with you it's a scary time...but things will get batter....the more people get vaccinnes, the better things will get for all of us
are you still there?
I am here. Just sad.
so if I understand you correctly, being stuck at home for a whole year is making you feel very sad. Do you connect with people by telephone, zoom, online, email and so on? It's important to connect as often as you can with people you care about
I do sometimes.
do you have a back yard or a patio you can go out on, which might be less scary than going for a walk? Sometimes just the fresh air on my face is a relief
I do sometimes each my lunch in the yard.
thats good you are connecting with people, and have lunch outdoors.
Thanks. It feels good.
those are both important strategies for your low mood, keep it up
Thanks so much for talking things through with me.
you are so welcome..stay safe, it's been a pleasure listening to you | {
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3 | 2 | Hello there, how is your day going? Would you like to talk about anything?
My day has been alright, finally got myself to go to the gym today after 4 weeks of not being motivated/ having the time so that's cool.
Is there something specific that has caused you to lose motivation? I am happy to listen.
It is hard to put a finger on it, it's just easy to get complacent for me. Especially when I am not seeing results... but i genuinely like going so I'm glad I forced myself to go.
A lot of gyms have been closed due to the pandemic .. do you think that that knocked your schedule off kilter a bit?
Not necessarily, i mean I have had access for awhile, but definitely when they were closed in my state for a period of time it sucked, this whole pandemic sucks lol
Yes it really does. I know that personally I am much less motivated to do anything at all than I was this time last year.
Do you feel that there are other areas of your life that you are struggling with too?
I mean in school not doing great, and not super happy with my social life
Is there a specific problem with school or is it just 2020 fatigue?
Its hard to stay motivated, I don't really enjoy it, i mean I am sure a lot of people dont' but its very hard to focus and I'm worried I am in school for the wrong reasons, covid stuff def doesnt help tho
I do not know how long you have to go in school but if you have not done very much so far would you consider dropping out and perhaps training for a profession instead?
Sometimes things can be more lucrative than just having a degree, if that makes sense
lol, not that easy, I dont know what profession I would train for... also I have been in college since late 2017 so I am at the final stretch and have already put a bunch of money in, I totally see where ur coming from though, however no trades really jump out to me and interest me. Maybe i can do research but again I am pretty far into college
Well I would say that if you've got as far as you have you might as well get the piece of paper. But the world is your oyster after that - you do not need to be tied to your field!
I agree! I've always worried about money, Im hoping that it becomes a bit of a nonissue, not to get political but the whole capitalism thing is a huge downer lol, Imagine being able to live life without worrying about money, very nice, but then again financial freedom isnt everything.
Certainly I do not think there is any harm in the status quo being shaken up a little .. or indeed a lot!
forreal, our system is really weird, we place value on these random things and then force people to fight for pieces of paper their whole life, its an interesting problem
I find it more interesting how many people dont think about it too deeply, but they are probably happier that way
I totally agree. I am not totally sure what the solution is but I am hoping that there is one
Do you feel as though there is hope for the future though?
Oh definitely, its just scary comparing myself to others that look like they have it all figured out
When I was a student I sometimes felt that everyone else knew where they were going except me. But I later found out that everyone has some insecurities.
That said, I am still not totally sure where I am going a quarter of a century in so I am perhaps not the best person to take advice from :D
haha thats true, and dont sell yourself too short..., it is hard to get out of your own head and look at the other perspective, ill keep everything youve said in mind. anyways thanks for talking to me it was nice! have a great rest of your day!
And to you too!
You have to end it from your end ... I can't ;) | {
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3 | 2 | Hello there, how are things with you today?
well I fear losing my job
I am very sorry to hear that, can you tell me a little about the circumstances?
I work around food all day and it makes me hungry so I have been sneaking bites of food when no ones looking. I am afraid. I will get caught
So, you are feeling guilty that you've been breaking the rules and your conscience is catching up with you?
Well yes. that is correct. but the food looks sooooo good. how can you no eat?
Well, you won't be able to eat if you get fired ;) I can understand the temptation though - I used to work fast food and I would steal fries sometimes
Do you ever have any sort of compulsion to steal other things or is it just food?
see you do it too!!!!!
just food. like fries
I think that everyone is sometimes tempted to do things that they know that they should not do so do not worry too much but you don't want to risk your job
Ok. so are you saying you stopped stealing fries?
Unfortunately I was fired. Though not for stealing fries. I was just a terrible cook.
thanks for saying that. I makes you human. Though I do not know if I will be able to stop eating. how do I stop?
Well, you could try to have a big meal before you go to work so you'd be less tempted?
hey that's not a bad idea. Any others?
Hmm well do you have any friends at work you could confide in who might be able to stop you?
Just tell them to remind you that you might be fired if you keep going!
that's a very good idea. but I could never confide to a co-worker. any other ideas?
you are really helping
Are you religious? You could make pledge to God that you would not steal from work anymore.
religion has not effect on my judgements. I wish I had such faith. perhaps the world would be a safer and more peaceful world if god would punish those who tried to game the system
Yes I agree. Well, what about talking to family members and promising them that you will stop? You do not want to leave your family penniless.
Or, if worse came to worse, would you consider looking for a job that did not involve being around food all day?
Yes perhaps a job with out food would be the solution . like a gambler should not work at a casino.
this is a revelatoin
Do you think you have an addiction to food in general?
There are organisations that will be able to help you if that is the case
Addict to free food perhaps
:) I hope I have been able to help you today and I wish you all the best!
same thanks
you helped
That's what I am here for! | {
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2 | 1 | Hello
Hello
How are you doing today?
I am doing well and how are you feeling today?
I'm feeling okay today, a bit anxious for my finals this week
Thank you for sharing, feeling anxious days before an exam is a normal.
I am also anxious about my upcoming exam this week.
What is the exam for?
I am preparing to sit to become a clinical counselor. I can relate to feeling anxious. You are not alone.
What do you think is triggering your anxiety?
I think it might be the fear of failure that triggered it
Research has shown that fear of failure does stem from feelings of anxiety, but is it possible to look at fear of failure from a different perspective?
I think it might be possible to look at it from a different perspective
Do you think you can channel your fear of failure into positive energy?
I think I probably could
How do you think I could do that?
You can turn your anxiety into extra energy to plan and prepare.
Having anxiety can give you a boost of energy, which gives you an advantage to achieve your goal.
I can probably do that, the anxiety can motivate me to create a studying plan
Yes, indeed. Having anxiety will keep you anchored to your study plan which would increase your ability to perform well for the exam.
I can do that
Awesome! In addition, as you follow your study plan, remember to pace yourself.
I will do that, thank you for your help
You are welcome, I hope this session was helpful.
It was, thank you | {
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2 | 1 | I do not what what to do
Do you think I should just stop being friends wither?
Being friends with who?
My friend does not want to be friends anymore after 13 years, she thinks I am too buys with my kids
She doesn't want to be friends, but what do you want?
To be friends, its been 13 years
So you still want to be friends but she doesn't.
yes
She thinks I put her second to me family
Have you talked with your friend about your feelings?
yes, but she does not understand since she is not married and does not have children
Does she just want to spend more time with you?
I think she feels left out
Is there a way you can help her feel more included?
I guess I can reinforce that she is always invited over! But I am just soooo exhausted after having twins
I understand, that must be exhausting!
No time to sleep... ever.... How do I tell her I have feelings too
She just wants to go out and doesn't offer to help
I understand, I think that you should tell her about your situation and how you feel.
I am not very good at expression my emotions rn with out getting emotional
It is okay to get emotional, it may even help her understand how you feel better.
ugh you are right! I just get scared to break down that all, even after 13 years.
It is okay to be scared, but having emotions and getting emotional is natural.
you are so right
Do you feel like you have a better understanding of what to do?
yes I do! Thank you so much
You are welcome, I hope everything turns out all right.
Thank you! Your help means a lot
Have a great day
Have a great day, and good luck! | {
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5 | 3 | Hello
Good evening!
What's your problem?
I am having anger issues and thinking nasty thoughts toward my husband
Is this because of something he does or you are experiencing angry issue with everything?
Mostly because of how he treats me lately
He makes disrespectful comments.... Are you female or male
So from what I understand, you think your anger is because of your husband's fault. Have you talked to him about his behavior?
I am female
No it wouldn't do any good I am afraid. Whenever I try to stand up for myself he says Oh here we go again Poor you etc
Like just tonight I mopped floor and he came up and said What are you sick ? Youre actually cleaning.
Than I said yes I was actually on my hands and knees last week when I mopped and he
said well get used to being on your knees
and touched himself
That's gross. I can't believe he said all those things to you. I'm sorry you have to hear those words from your husband.
He's always saying stuff like that and constantly trying to refer to lets just say going down
You need to stand up for yourself. I know it's difficult and as you said, won't even do any good. However, if you keep your silence, he'd think it's okay to treat you that way because he has power over you
I know even my good friends that know me and everything that is said agrees with you
I'd advise you to disclose this to a family member and have them with you (on the phone) when he starts talking like that
that way the other person can call him off
My mom already knows and his parents are dead and he has no relations with any other family.
HE wont listen He knows everything and its HIs way or else
He is very controlling
if you want, you can talk to him one last time and let him know it's enough. I fhe doesn't change, you will cut off with him
You have to stand up for you self first before expecting him to do that
Thats true and its time for a change. Thank you so much . I do feel better
If he intimidates you, you should practice what to say and then do the talk in public or when someone else is around
I believe you can do it
Thank you . Its sounds like you know what you are talking about. Ill try it
I hope you at least will be able to settle with your husband
Well I can try and pray it does
I need to get my boys ready for bed as it is a school night. thanks again
Have you ever threatened to leave him?
yes i have years ago
and he threatened to take boys
Then you should do it for real this time and see if he changes.
and he would prove I am an unfit mom
The mom always has an upper hand in these issues
but he has photos of dirty house and that I was dignosed with major clinical depression
You should also have photos of clean house to prove against him
I do
as for depression, as long as you have proof youre seeking treatment, you should be fine
I used to but he wont let me get treatment
He doesnt believe in therapy for me him familly etc
do it secretly, behind his back
there is no way I can
he tracks everything
it all comes down to you have to let him see that you can stand on your own. He's treating you like this because he thinks he can control you
ok I need to go take care keep safe
hope you will be fine | {
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5 | 2 | HI, how are you today?
hi
i have a lot going on. i am depressed because i am soo stressed
Thats sucks, what's going on?
I work full time, do frelance work on the side, i am a single mom of twin 6 year olds and an 8 year old, and i am in college for my masters degree
also my lease is up next month and i was notified they are raising it 300 dollars. i cant afford it. im scared and cant find anywhere cheaper to move
Oh wow, that is a lot. Add a pandemic to the mix. I can see why you'd feel overwhlemed.
sorry, guess i am venting
my boyfriend and i broke up 2 weeks ago. that isnt helping.
Its actually kind of nice to vent on these anonymous things.
ugh i just wish i could get a break
thanks, :)
Boyfriend too. Anybody around to talk to? Family friends?
family is about 8 hours away. i dont really have friends. i havent had time to make or keep any. i would love to i just dont even know how to fit in finding time to talk to anyone
im an army veteran... i have ptsd so i dont do well with crowds. its hard making new friends
How about other moms in your kids friend groups? I've found that cna be an easier way to get to knwo people bc you are all doing childcare anyway?
thats not a bad idea, maybe i can find a moms group on facebook
I'm interested in your free lance work. What kind of stuff are you doing? Is it a passion thing or a paying hte bills thing?
paying the bills. ugh. i do mturk and then i am on upwork. i write articles and edit papers and books.
Got it. Mturk is always there when you can't sleep!
lol my day is so packed i wish i had more time to sleep!
i'm usually up late writing papers for scool
i graduate in september. i keep telling myself to hang in till then
What are you studying? Any connections through your program?
of course then i will need to start delivering food or sometihng as an additiona ljob to pay student loans lol
im doing an online college. i am getting my master's in organizational managment
i really appreciate you talking to me. its actually helping a bit
Yeah, it took me forever to get through my loans but bit by bit got there. Sounds like a good program that can lead to a better job (and maybe only one job someday!) Investing in the future is defintely a good thing
I want to be a good example for my kids :)
I've been to see counselors a few times when going through tough patches (ask me about divorce, job loss and moving to a new countrey in one year) and have found that it helps to be abel to vent to someone who doesn't know you - ha.
lol very true
Kids can be positive motivation for sure. But right now you're in the toughest part of parenthood. Threel ittle ones who need your support and you are doing it by yourself. You are fighting the fight for sure.
thanks for being here today, i hope the rest of your day goes well!
You too!
thanks! | {
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3 | 2 | hello. How are you tonight
Hi, I feel somewhat concerned, I failed a test. I might fail the class. I honestly sometimes feel like college is too hard for me.
I can understand how you feel.i am between classes also
are your classes online in person
A mixture. I currently have 2 online classes and 2 face-to-face ones.
So you have a full schedule
Are these mandatory classes for your degree
May I aks what your major is
Yes, I am in a full schedule. The class I might fail is mandatory for my Computer Science degree. That is why I am so concerned.
Is it online in person
That class in particular is online.
Being online makes it harder.
You think so? I kept telling myself that they were supposed to be easier, since its on the computer.
Maybe the in person classes can be restructured, maybe you can change your schedule
If I fail the class, would you suggest I retake it in person then?
My classes are online and I can chose my load. Are the i person classes more important then this class
I would. But before you fail can you drop the class then pick it up in person
I don't think I can, the withdrawal period ended long ago...
Can you talk with your teacher for extra credits
That could be an option, although he can be very rude at times. I don't think he will accept.
Is there away to talk with him in person to explain your issue
Ask for his advise in person versus the online
I will consider doing that that. What if he doesn't want to give me any extra credit oppourtinities?
I might have to deal with failing the class...
If you get a failing grade you can take what you have learned and use it for the future
That is true, I never looked at it that way. It might not be that tragic after all...
Sometimes what we learn can be used to better ourselves
I agree... I definetely feel a little better now.
More calmed.
Just take a step back and move forward when it is time | {
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4 | 3 | Hi. Currently unemployed and this effects my impression of self as a person, husband and father. Doing mturk work and created a Youtube channel to share information gleaned during prison time.
Hi there. I understand how are you feeling. I have been looking for job for the past 5 months and it is a huge challenge.
Sorry to hear of you own challenge. Job search sites seem to have so much garbage out there.
Have you been looking online and try to apply for other jobs?
Yes, have emails coming in from several sites. At the same time though been helping out elderly parents with doctors, cleaning, cooking, etc. How about you?
I know most of them is not helpful and somethimes waste of time. It is important that you keep ypurself busy during this time
Hence doing the mturk work and creating content for the Youtube channel. This is part creative and hopefully income producing in the future.
I'm doing some kinda gig jobs too. I have been selling a lot things on Ebay, same thing i can use my creativity and dont let my mind go crazy
Yes, I believe Youtube channel is a great source for new opportunities nowadays
Everybody is facing a challenge time right now, we are all together on this
Sounds like a similar situation. Not sure if these efforts will pay off long term but need to do something to maintain sanity. Youtube can pay something if there are enough hits and subscribers.
Sure, in short term is a good choice. The most impoetant thing is looking foward always. For long term we are going to figure out something else
Having a religious base too can help.
For me this is the powerful tool, I pray every single day
We need to be grateful for beeb alive and for been health.
Unfortunately, too many are at the base of the hill of the Lord and not climbing. Followers, not disciples. Hard to have gratitude when seeing other or thinking of our past.
Yes but still has few that are on the right path. We need to keep our faith
Encourage you to continue your journey. This life is but a blip in the eternal spectrum.
Sure soon we are going to see the lights at the end of the tunnel.
Unfortunately making amends in some ways depends on having money which requires a job.
What do like to do on your free time?
Working on a notebook of studies I did during my prison time. Content that is becoming the Youtube channel.
Also work out to stay fit and mentally healthy
Sounds interesting. I wish I had more ideas to do youtube as well but I am not good doing this things.
Thanks for the effort. This task seems to be taking longer than I thought.
Yes Im working out too not much as i wish.
Thank you
Hard to work out when your bummed
Going to sign out now.
Everything seens to be great effort I Know
Okay thank you for your time | {
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4 | 3 | Hi
Hello, how are you doing?
Feeling anxious these days
Those can be really hard feelings to deal with, but reaching out and acknowledging them is a very positive step. Is their anything in particular making you feel anxious?
Yes
I dropped out of graduate school
Now, I need to get a job, but I'm having difficulty finding jobs for my degrees
And it's just stressful and depressig
Drastic changes in our life plans can feel very upsetting and looking for a job in these times is ridiculous.
Yes, it really is
What made you feel the need to drop out of graduate school?
I wasn't finding the program challenging or interesting or a life course I was sure I wanted to go down anymore
The only jobs I really can do with biology are lab jobs, which are somewhat boring. There are some others, but not many
I understand that and that was a really brave choice to make before you cornered yourself into a degree that wouldn't benefit your future paths.
Yea, I think that's true. Other people say that I am a quitter
They say I quit everything
Have you gone and smoke to your local job centers? They can often times find suitable jobs or even creative suggestions that can utilize your skills and even grown them.
No, I'm not aware of any local job centers around me. I mostly have been looking online at places like indeed.com
I'm not sure what you mean by "job center," I guess, either
Refusing to finish something that does not benefit your end goal isn't quitting its merely switching strategies to your personal end goal
Oh, yea. That's a good reframe. I like that.
I suppose, I'm just getting older and wish I had better, more stable options available to me. All this education hasn't really left with me many hard skills, I feel
I am from North Carolina and in every city there are job centers, you can look them up by that title, they have people there who can help you find work based on your personality and skills. as well helping with resumes, interveiws, computers, all kinds of things.
Interesting. I guess I can look into that. I am from Ohio. That's not bad advice.
I am somewhat kicking myself for paying so much money on education that wasn't really worth that much. I guess there isn't much I can do about that, though
Im sorry you feel that way but education is never a wasted effort it can only make you level up even if you choose not to actively use what you acquire. Its always nice to have a big back up arsenal so you have options when something you want does turn up.
Im really glad that suggestion might be helpful for you.
Have you checked to see if any of the credits you have earned already are transferable to another degree you may find of interest?
I suppose there can be truth in that. I had a friend say that as well, that education is never a wasted effort. I agree sometimes. I should have thought about the program more before I went into it, but ah, oh well. Nothing I can do about it, now.
No, it wouldn't be transferable.
I have though about doing some grad school for something bio related. I don't know.
I'm 30 now and getting burned out, to be honest
Anyway, you've said a lot of nice and helpful things. I don't want to take too much time from you. After all, you won your bonus money. But, I really do appreciate you talking to me.
oh man that sucks, I am sorry. Thirty really is not old in our current time. shoot alot of people dont event start school till that age for whatever reason or the other.
Yea, people are going to school older and older. True
Hahaha lol thank you so much. I enjoyed talking to you and really do wish you the best of luck.
Thanks. Well earned money there, for you
Bye
I appreciate your patience with my spelling and grammar. bye bye
No problem. Not bad at all for spelling or grammar, in my opinion
bye | {
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4 | 3 | Hello! How are you doing today?
i am kind of depressed
how are you?
I'm sorry to hear that. These are trying times. Is there anything specific making you feel so down?
I'm doing okay today, thank you for asking
you are so nice. i lost my job and having trouble finding a new on
one
Oh, I'm so sorry. I can empathize a bit. I lost mine earlier this year due to covid, but they did bring us back
that is good for you! i don't think the job i was at is coming back.
I'm sorry. It can definitely be difficult finding a new job, especially these days.
i just feel so discouraged no one is responding to my jobsearch
Have you updated your resume? I always forget to update mine when I'm job searching. I leave out so much important information!
that is a good idea. i updated the contact info. but i could read it again.
That might be good. Try to include all those little details about what you did, even if it doesn't seem significant. I think it shows flexibility and willingness to like cross train and learn new skills
i feel like no one is really hiring because of the holidays i can understand that, except i need employment now. i already cut back on christmas and am just making little inexpensive gifts
can i ask you something?
That's definitely a good way to save money, and I think the homemade gifts are more meaningful and full of love, anyway. And yes, of course!
i hope that the love comes across!
Oh, I'm sure it will! Just knowing that you took the time and made the effort to make something personal for them is amazing!
do you think anyone actually reads the cover letter part of your application?
I honestly don't know. Cover letters are weird, I never know how to do them correctly lol I don't know if they're there just to make sure you're following directions or if they're actually important. I like to think someone does, but I'm really not sure.
Right!?! I agree! Lol.
Applications are so weird! Why do I want to work here? Um, because these bills won't pay themselves lol
thats funny and too real.
i just was thinking about what you said earlier and maybe
if i took the part of the cover letter where i state my transferable skills and put it at the beginging of the resume it might help. after all i think we both decided no one is really seeing it in the letter. what do you think?
I think that's a good strategy. I think it would probably get more attention on your actual resume - there's probably more of a chance of it actually getting read lol
It seems like the resume itself is more important than the cover letter | {
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3 | 1 | Hi! how are you today?
Hi ok I guess
Very worried
What are you worried about?
I am being evicted
I am very scared I will not find a place to go in time
I am so sorry to hear that. When will that happen?
You should start looking through places online, there are tons of sites online.
December 31st the CDC moratorium ends alot of people will be homeless
Many are fake we are in a housing crisis
It's true, it's so horrible. I am so sorry to hear that. Have you tried reaching out to family?
Yes, I may be going to my brother's to wait out the pandemic
Hoping many people will speak up
I think so, it;s great that you have a brother. Family is so important right now to help all of us stay sane in this pandemic.
We definitely should all pull together. I am also hoping to find some grassrooots charities for people like me without families
There are aa ton! If you search online or on social media. I've recently started to get involved with many of them. There are ones providing food, home goods, and even housing for people impacted by the pandemic.
I contacted the community law program, thanks for the idea
Sending them an email after this..
That's so great! IT will make you feel good to be proactive and do something.
You can also take this time to focus on hobbies and other things that you wnat.
Agreed! Thanks for your support!
It was my pleasure.
I am noy allowed to feel better for 3 more minutes so I guess I am still working on it
Where have you found your most useful resources?
No way! you should try to be poistiive. I"ve found most of my useful resources by just googling and spending time looking through results. I also have surprisingly found a lot on social media - like twitter.
Twitter seems to be where I have also found most of mine.
That's great! IT's also a good place because you can ask questions.
yes, and get advice sometimes. I do like to keep the corcle small tho
THank you | {
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5 | 3 | Hello how are you \
I am well than you, and yourself?
I am good, I was wondering if you could help me with advice from a breakup that I went through many years ago
You went throught a breakup a few years ago?
Yes, but I still think about it all the time
It still bothers me
Has something similar happened to you before
How long ago was the breakup?
Many years ago this was not recent at all
I had a bad breakup that I thought about for about 6 months. Then I realized that life moves on. If it did not work out, it was for a reason.
But none of my partners have lived up to her
How did you come to that realization
Was it just time or was there something that you actually did
I thought about the good times and bad. I went over why it didn't work. I realized that it never would have. Then I carried that new knowledge to my next relationship
Oh that is good advice
did it work for you or would you suggest that I do something like this
or something slightly different
It was time and meeting new people/partners. I knew after the breakup more about myself and what I needed in a long term/life long partner
Have you been dating other people?
Yes since that time I have dated other people , and many of them have been great people
They have been great people? You need to learn/remember what you liked most about the partner that you are talking about, what you didn't like most, and find both a new partner.
It still keeps lingering in the back of my head about my ex even though I have had other great partners
Yes this is good advice thank you
I know you will find the rigt person.
Thank you this is very kind and helpful advice, and it is helpful to know that it comes from experience
It took my 2 years after my last breakup to find my now wife! Just be patient and keep looking
Please tell me if there are any other things that I should try that you have not mentioned as well?>
Well, you could read a few books about relationships? Do some research
Are there any particular books or authors that you would recommend
Not really, I would just look online, and type in relationship books and look at reviews.
That is good, I have a friend that only reads these types of books, I could ask him for some suggestions, I don't want to seem like I am being a burdun to him though
He is a counselor and I am sure that he is frequently asked to help people when he just wants to be a normal friend
You think you will burden him? You are not a burden
We all have different gifts that my benefit our friends. That is part of being a good friend.
I just don't want to ever feel like I am being a burden to people,
You are not. Be confident in yourself
That is very true that different people have different gifts that they want to share I never thought of it like that
Glad I could help
Have a great day and thank you
You as well
oh wait
have we reached the appropripriate amount of time
what? | {
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5 | 2 | Hi! How's it going today?
Hello! I'm pretty good today, what about you?
I'm doing really well, thanks. What brings you here today?
I'm just having some old thoughts about a past relationship. IT's making me sad
I can appreciate that. Thinking about lost loves makes me sad too!
What about this particular relationship makes you feel sad?
Yeahhh I re read some old messages from a while back and just started thinking about it again. IT's going to sound quite dramatic, but I regret breaking up with this person. I feel as though they were my soulmate. And I ruined it
Oh...I see, you think s/he's the "one who got away?"
Why did you break up?
Pretty much... but the dumb thing about that is I am the one who broke it off. I was with him since beginning of high school, and so I never knew anything other than him. But Earlier this year I was having second thoughts and thought we should try new things for a while. In the beginning, I was doing fine and he was having a really hard time. But now I miss him more than anything and he is now better off without me
Wow...that does sound painful.
I know how hard it is to let go of a guy you really loved. I've had to break up with a few of them over the years!
Yeah? Do you miss any of them? Or do you feel like it was right for you in the long run
In the long run, I feel that those break-ups were absolutely necessary. I'm in a really good place now. And they are too.
Yeah that is good. That is everything that I'm hoping for. But it's not coming fast enough
I eventually learned to think of it like this: every man I loved taught me something important about myself. ANd I taught them things about themselves. ANd it doesn't happen overnight. But eventually, you will probably be able to see how you grew as a result of the breakup.
Maybe the things you will learn can help you be ready for Mr Right!
I really appreciate that way of looking at it. Of course I will always cherish my memories and the things I learned from him. And I want to think of those things as happy experiences rather than sad memories
That's a really good way of looking at it.
How long did it typically take you to finalyl be over them and happy with what you ecperienced?
Oohh.... I think it really depended on how long I was with them. ANd why I decided to end it. The longer relationships Maybe a few weeks to a few months before I was ready to move on and try again. BUt Only a fraction of that was crying with Ben & Jerry's!
Hahaha yes. That really does help honestly !
For me it just happened that one day, I thought about Gary and I didn't really feel that sad anymore. I just thought...wow, we had some good times.
B&J's and a few good rom-coms ought to put you in a better mood! Lol
Yeah I guess I am just waiting for that day when my thoughts are genuinely me just grateful for the times we shared but not missing them. And honestly, some days I do feel like that! And then it all comes back. I think I am getting there
It really sounds like you are making progress!
Just remember the old saying "time heals all wounds."
Yeah exactly. You are right!
Thanks so much
It's my pleasure! I hope you keep feeling stronger!
:) I definitely will
You know, I believe you! | {
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4 | 3 | Hello
Are you here to help?
Hello! How are you today?
not to good
my wife wants to split and it was after finding out we couldnt have any more kids, we have 1 already
Oh no, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this difficulty. I am here to help and lend a sympathetic ear.
Thanks. Do you think there is any way to fix this?
I think there is a way to handle any situation. Have you had an honest and open conversation with your wife on both of your feelings on the matter?
yes very open and honest. Turns out she has some form of cancer and it is the cause of not being able to have anymore kids.
I am so sorry to hear that your wife has cancer. I have had an ill loved one and I know how difficult that can be, not just for the person going through it but for the family too.
How do you feel about not having any more kids?
yes very stessful. I want more kids. I have only had 2 of my own, 1 with my wfie 1 with my former partner.
I see. And is it a deal breaker for you if you cannot have any more kids? Would you be willing to stay with your wife and be content with the children you already have?
no not a huge deal breaker. But it is at the same time.
Its a hard situation
I understand, it is a very difficult situation
What is more important to you? Your relationship with your wife or having another child?
a little of both i suppose. Its so hard to choose.
I guess time will tell...
Yes, it's tough. Maybe you should think about both scenarios and write down how it would make you feel. Picture being without your wife and how would that make you feel. Then picture being with your wife and your current family and how that would make you feel.
thank you for your help. I appreciate it.
Of course, I am here for whatever you need
of course. I appreciate it so much.
I want to stay with my wife, I really do.
I guess there could be medication available to help perhaps.
Maybe you can tell your wife that?
Yeah could probably do that. We are early in this so things could go either way.
For sure. Is there anything else I can help with?
I hope they go good for my and my wife sake.
me too
I have sleep problems and have been trying different medications. Its hard to get the right amount of sleep.
thank you for all of your help. I hope all goes well. I appreciate it so much! | {
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4 | 3 | Hi
Hello
How may i help you today?
I had misunderstanding with my friend and I have fear that I am gonna loose her
Can you explain to me what the misunderstanding was about?
I was bit busy and wasn't able to talk to her for a few days, so she thought I was ignoring her.
Ok i see so she thinks you are ignoring her?
Yes, she thinks I am ignoring her, but I never meant to do that. I tried to tell her that I was busy with some work, but she thought I was lying to her and now I'm very sad.
I understand how you are feeling about that I would be upset to.
What should I do to still be friends with her? I don't know what to do anymore!
Have you tried to talk to her again recently?
Yes. I even texted her and called her. She opened my messages but didn't respond and she even ignored my calls.
I would give her 2 or 3 days to her self then try to talk to her again
Its been more than 3 days and I have given her time. I don't think I can wait longer. I might loose her.
Maybe you should go up to her house
Due to the COVID cases right now I am trying to not risk the safety of others and myself. I don't know that going up to her house would be the best option at this moment :(
Right i can understand
We have been friends for so many years and I do not know why she is acting like that. I do not want to loose this precious friendship.
I would suggest just keep trying to talk to her and apologize and tell her you been really busy and was not trying to ignore her
Send her a apology card in the mail
I appreciate your suggestions. This sounds like a good option.
Thank you so much for your help!
your welcome I hope yall will work it out
I hope so as well.
Things will get better for you to
Hope you have a wonderful Holiday.
Have a wonderful holiday to | {
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4 | 2 | How do you become happy? How do you find something worth living for?
Hi, I think there are a lot of ways to become happy and to find something worthy living for. Let's start with things that interest you. What do you like doing for fun?
I don't really know anymore, nothing makes me happy these days.
I used to like reading a lot but it's become a chore.
And what kinds of things did you like to read?
Mostly fiction books. Fantasy, historical novels, contemporary fiction, anything really.
That's really great! I used to struggle with finding joy in reading as well. I was a graduate student at the time so I was mostly reading research papers.
Do you like reading again? What helped?
Have you tried picking up a new hobby? Something you have always thought might be fun but haven't ever tried because of lack of time or energy?
I wanted to try rock climbing, but I don't know. I'm not really in the best shape.
I do like reading now. I took some time after school to take care of my mental health by going on walks and being in nature. Overtime, I started to pick up books again. I've found I really like true crime and autobiographies the best
I feel like people will just make fun of me.
Rock climbing is so fun! Have you tried taking a beginners course? I started there. I was very nervous I would be made fun of, but found that it was a really supportive community.
I guess I can give it a try.
But I don't know if it will be enough.
You might find it's just the community of people that you need right now. From my experience, they were all super friendly and open to helping me along the way.
I guess you're right. I tend to get caught up in my own thoughts, which never have anything good to say about me.
Just from chatting with you, you seem like such a nice person. I don't think anyone would have mean things to say about you.
That's kind of you to say.
I really hope you'll take the leap to trying rock climbing! It was so fun for me when I did it and I can't wait to get back out there to learn more (hopefully COVID will be over soon!) :-)
Yeah I think I'll check if any gyms are open right now and try a class.
That sounds great! Hoping they are open and safe! | {
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4 | 3 | Hello.
hello. how was your day?
Not very good. I just learned today that my job will be making layoffs.
that's sounds good, you are learning about your job
No, that isn't good.
People will lose their jobs. Po ssibly me.
don't worry my friend believe on your progress and hardwork and the luck too may be yours
I don't have seniority in my position. I have only been at my job for 5 years.
i could understand your state right now. its hard to be in this position of fear
Yes, the uncertainty is crippling. Especially in these times.
yes, you are right especially during this pandemic many people face these kind of difficulties
I'm not sure what to do and I just want to know what my company plans to do.
Always hope for a best result. This will keep you optimistic
I am definitely trying to stay optimistic and hopeful.
That' sounds too good .At the same time be ready to face whatever the life gives us
I agree. I am keeping my options open in case there are layoffs.
Life is full of surprises and miracles. and the same time life is full of pains and sorrow. it matters how we see even the layoff thing you can take it either as a surprise or pain
Well being laid off could be painful because I really like my job and it will be hard to find similar pay.
i have also faced the same problem before two years but the luck was on my side at that time and not last for long after some months i was asked to leave but now i become normal
Well that's good. I am hoping for the best for myself and my collegues.
colleagues
that's good. you seems to be more optimistic and acceptable in nature and your concern about your colleagues is great
Thank you for your support. | {
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5 | 4 | HELLO HOW ARE YOU TODAY?
Hi! I am feeling down and upset
CAN YOU FIND ONE POSITIVE THING THAT HAPPENED TODAY?
No! I keep hearing the negative cruel remarks being repeated in my head over and over
WHAT DO YOU HEAR?
Also, you typing in all caps consistenly makes it feel like you are yelling at me
How I am worst than a pig. I am white trash! Even pigs are cleaner than I am . I am worthless
I apologize I broke my hand and its easier for me.
Ok no worries . I am so sorry. Please continue in caps. I just sprained my left thumb and wore a splint
It was so difficult and painful so ignore my comment
I am sorry that the world has hurtful people. are these people who can be avoided?
No I currently live with him. My ex was way worst
Can you get away from this situation? I have resources that could help you.
I have two boys and he said if I left him I would never see kids again.
we can get the kids to safety as well
no I know him and he took photos of the house . He has proof I ve been diagnosed with Major clinical depression so he d prove I m unfit
do you think this something to be reconciled?
possibly but he won't go to therapy nor am I allowed to either
Well thats concerning. He could not prove anything if he is keeping you from therapy. essentialoly denying you medical care
Thanks for trying . I am going to go lay down and take a nap!
can i help in anyway
No thank you for your suggestions. I will think about it. Hope you get better soon with arm . Good luck
and Keep safe. | {
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5 | 1 | Good afternoon.
How are you feeling today?
I am feeling okay how are you?
I am glad to hear that I am fine as well. How can I help you?
Thank you. That is good. I feel I am depressed because I have been bullied and it is still continuing today.
I am sorry to hear that. How can I help you deal with the bullies? Can you stand up to them in a safe way?
Well, to be honest, dealing with these bullies are pretty tough, Is there a safe way I can handle them?
I understand your concern, but I feel you have to tell them that you do not deserve to be bullied and they need to stop now.
Okay. I will do that. Thank you.
Also, what if one of the bullies starts a fight with me?
Do you need any more advice on this matter or do you have any other concerns? The bully is the problem, not you. Do you have anyone who can stand up to them with you for support?
I do. One more piece of advice before we part ways. I have my fiance for support.
I would want to know how I can stand up to these bullies.
Have your fiance approach them with you so you are safe. Be strong and firm and do this in a very public area if possible so you have witnesses.
Do you have a meeting place where you feel safe?
Yes he has. I will thank you. Yes. We are meeting in a park and I have people who are coming down.
I hope this is all behind you soon so you can feel better.
I will thank you so much for your help.
When will this meeting take place?
Today at 5 pm.
Please take care and stay safe. Are you nervous?
I will thank you. I am but I think I will be alright.
I am so glad to hear this. Good luck!
Thank you!
You are welcome!
Have a great day!
You too! | {
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3 | 1 | Hello
Hi from Michigan! How are you doing today?
Im going pretty good, just trying to get through laundry
Ugh! That's a never ending battle for me! Do you have a lot of it?
Not too bad, it's more so the folding and putting away afterward that seems to take the longest.
That's the worst part. I've given up on folding.
Do you have something that's bothering this evening?
It does feel good to put things away though, my room has been a tornado recently, just not feeling like doing much these days. The pandemic crazies hit pretty hard recently.
I wish I could just see peoples faces again, and go out to eat. It really sucks to be at home all the time. Like I get it, but it's challenging, and lonely.
I can relate. This whole year has been a mess.
I want to be optimistic but its hard when it feels like you're always on the brink of losing everything. It really sucks.
Do you think you're staying away from people because you're supposed to or you're afraid of getting sick?
I would definitely say both. I also don't live near any family or friends anymore. I moved to a totally new place a few months before the pandemic
Lost the job I moved here for, most of the friends I had made needed to move back in with family, it's just a mess.
And we're on level red these days, so most businesses are closed around here.
It's hard to be optimistic when everything seems so uncertain. I can't imagine how lonely that would feel especially in a new place.
Yup.
Are you still keeping in contact with your friends and family back home?
As much as possible, but it's never the same.
It's strange honestly. Part of the reason I moved away was to get away from my home and everything familiar, and this whole experience kinda reminded me why it's nice to have that around.
It really isn't. That's such a hard situation to be in. I really can't think of much of a solution unfortunately.
There's no need to find a solution, really. It's just sucks, and that's okay
It's perseverance through hardship that make you grateful in the end, but the process still sucks.
I guess in a way this whole thing has been an eyeopener for you. Are you considering moving back home when this is over?
Haha no way that place sucks. :)
I love where I've moved, it's lonely for now, but the small taste I got of the town when I first moved is enough to stay for.
We'll see what the future brings.
Very true about perseverance. I think everyone is feeling a bit depressed at this point.
It's very easy to. Just watching old videos with crowds of people is so strange and nostalgic
You seem to have a good mindset about everything. You should try doing the support side of this next time! lol
Lol for sure dude.
Thanks for chatting :)
It's good to get crap out.
No problem, you too! These are actually pretty decent hits. Slave wage though lol
Agreed. It's better than nothing though
I hope you have a great night, seeya!
True! Keeps it interesting and some cash flow! Have a good night :) Hope ya get to explore the world soon. | {
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4 | 2 | How can I help you today?
It is Christmas, so I expect there to be help for the lonely.
Yeah, I'm pretty stressed today with the news from Nashville
The news from Nashville?
What about it is making you feel anxious?
I had to miss my family Christmas get together yesterday as well
You are totally stressed out?
oh yeah, there was a bomb that went off in Nashville Tennessee this morning
Very stressed
I can tell that you are feeling bad about not seeing loved ones.
Do you have any treadmills you can use or a gym you can access today?
I have a full home gym actually. I just never am motivated enough to use it lol
When I am stressed, I usually take a brisk walk of 30 to 45 minutes.
Yeah, some exercise could help get my mind off of other things
They say that fresh our is really good for releasing stress. Do you have acupuncturists or holistic healers near you?
I try and walk and get fresh air almost daily. I love parks and paths to walk through.
They do but I'm not very into alternative medicine. I did relax outside for a bit though. Its very snowy and pretty here today
we got about an inch of now over the night
Well, shoveling can be good for releasing tension in the body by exercising by shoveling, even though it is short.
That's a good idea actually, I've been tracking snow in going up and down stairs, could clear a path
I like doing a little shoveling but you have to do it right, as to not wear out your back.
Do you like snow? We had a rain storm for hours on Christmas Eve. I wanted a little snow to make things look nice.
Are my suggestions helping any?
I love snow, winter is my favorite season I hate hot weather. It started christmas eve raining a ton here but it got to 15F over the night so it turned to a pretty heavy snow.
They are, helped take my mind off of the stuff I wass stresing over
Well, there are incense pots that allow you to close you eyes and feel the glow of the meditation sticks. Certain scents can release stress. Do you have any on the home that you can burn?
I do have some incense sticks, I usually use palo santo sticks though
I have heard good things about Palo Santo sticks and rosemary / lavender oils that can calm and relax,
I think I have some rosemary essential oil actually
Do you have any music or sound effects that you can listen to as to be able to relax?
I do, have some music on currently
I love music, I'm almost always listening to something lol
I suggest rosemary oils all the time. Getting a few quaffs can calm the nerves.
Listening to calming sound effects like running creek water in the woods or dolphins communicating could put you in a good mood.
They say its best to stop those racing thoughts and breath in a steady pace.
I will definitely try out the roemary oil
Do you need any other insights?
no I think that helped. Gonna try those out in a few minutes, thanks : )
You've done great at telling me your thoughts and deep feelings.
Ok. You are doing great with being more at ease.
I can tell from your responses that my suggestions have got the wheels moving.
Yeah, I feel a lot calmer now
Thank you for all of the help
It sounds like you are really upbeat and happier.
You can click the red finish and exit button to complete the session. :)
do you not have one?
Correct.
It's Christmas Day, so please stay safe out there. | {
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3 | 2 | hello
hey! how are you doing?
I'm stressed about my college finals.
that is a huge stressor! when are finals? what year are you?
They are in 1.5 weeks and I'm a sophomore in college
that gives you a little bit of time to prepare and you have experience with finals, so that's good
yes I'm glad I have time!
what specifically is bothering you or is it usualy exam stress plus covid?
I think I'm just nervous that I won't get all A's in my classes. I have a 4.0 GPA so I really want to keep that.
what a great goal! do you have a plan for preparing for exams? i always found that mapping it out with a study plan helped me
Yes I actually just made that yesterday! Check lists help me to get things done so I'm just going to start checking them off one by one.
you have a plan and you have some time! what else do you need? chocolate? LOL ;-)
haha yes please! that will make me more happy
are you on campus? or at home?
I actually just left for home yesterday and am here now. I
I will also stay home to do finals instead of going back
my freshman has been at home all semester.
Oh wow! Thankfully I was able to go back. It helped to be around friends and not at home.
fortunately he doesn't know any different
yes, it is sad that this semester isn't like last year. That's been hard
i can't imagine how wierd it is for you, knowing how it used to be
yes, it's a bit depressing to be honest. i feel like i'm not living like a college student anymore
i'm sorry it's been so weird for you. but you are killing it with your grades. you shouldbe proud!
thank you! its been an adjustment but thankfully im doing good.
its got to be good being back home
for the most part yes. i do miss my friends obviously
i can tell you your parents have been worried about you
i think they probably have haha
they are glad you are home
thank you for your help!
keep on crushing it at school, please be safe | {
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4 | 2 | Hi
Hello there, how is your day going?
It's going okay. I'm just having a hard time.
Is there something that you'd like to talk about?
It's mainly my husband. His spending habits are out of control. He thinks he need to reward himself for living. We can't survive if he keeps gifting himself.
Wow that sounds like a big problem. Is he aware of how much distress this is causing you?
I've tried talking to him about it, but he claims that he needs to reward himself or he wouldn't do anything. Like, if he gets up and goes to work then he needs to eat out to reward himself.
So you feel that he is misunderstanding life? That he feels that he deserves things just for existing?
Exactly. And if I push further, he compares himself to other people: "Well, at least I don't hit you." or "At least I'm not an alcoholic" Like I should thank him for existing.
It sounds like a really toxic relationship - I hear you! I have been in that position also. In the end I felt that I had no choice but to leave. I cannot tell you what to do, though.
It's hard because we have children. When we were just dating, he was a different person. He didn't start to act this way until after our eldest was born.
Ah, unfortunately a lot of men are like that - before you become seriously committed they seem totally different. Have you considered seeking professional help?
The problem all boils down to money. If I had enough for therapy I wouldn't be worried about his spending habits! lol. But, you're right, that's probably what we both need!
I believe that there are some organisations that will offer free therapy sessions for people in need. Have you considered asking your doctor?
Really? I'd definitely be interested in that. Do they have online therapy like that?
I am not totally sure what is available but I think that there might be such things
Thanks for your help. You said you've been in similar relationships. Is this behavior common for men?
Well no, I don't think that all men are like this by any stretch of the imagination. Unfortunately, however, there are some bad apples who give all men a bad name. I am sure that the same applies to women too though!
Haha, true. I just wondered. I had previous relationships, but they were very short. My dad was always the opposite: he was a penny-pincher. Sometimes I worry that maybe I'm just to stingy with the money, but then I remember that we have none, so Idk how to be more generous lol
You sound to me as though you are being realistic and sensible about your financial situation and are being neither too stingy nor too lavish.
Thank you for your help and feedback. I appreciate it. I'm going to select Finish & Quit
I hope that I have been able to be of some help to you!
Have a lovely rest of day | {
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5 | 1 | Hi! What seems to be the issue?
I'm depressed...
When did this start?
Since as long as I can remember. I've always been depressed.
That sounds really hard. Depression is tough to manage.
I know. It feels like I've tried everything but nothing works.
I can feel that you have a lot of pent up frustration with this, especially after trying so hard.
Yes. I used to be angry but the anger has become sadness...
Lot of research shows that feelings of anger can morph into depression, that is not uncommon.
I never knew that. When I was young, I was very angry but I held it inside.
I can tell that this has been very hard for you, especially since it has gone on so long.
Yes, it has. I'm still hoping that there is a cure.
Why do you think you were angry?
My parents got divorced and it ruined my childhood.
Ouch, that sounds really hurtful, but I know you are doing your best now.
My parents divorced when I was young, but now I understand it has given me the opportunity to grow stronger as an adult
That's a good way to look at it.
Do you participate in any peer support groups? Those can really help let that emotion release?
No, I don't. I could look into it.
Of course, there's lots of information available online for local meetings. Perhaps trying a group like ACA could really connect you with your inner child.
That sounds like a good idea. Thank you so much.
Of course! | {
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3 | 1 | Hello.
I am so upset. It's ridiculous how things keep happening to people around me.
I suppose my supporter is not here.
hello how may I assist you today?
I am just so upset
It's like things never get better
I am sorry to hear that. I know how you feel.
Yeah...
My mom is in Mexico right now for some ex who got deported. Like come on. It's bad enough she sent money to him.
What have you tried in the past to turn things around?
Hm. I tried moving on. And it just appears she gets worst
So you are missing your mom?
Not really...
She just keeps asking me for mone
I gave her like 10k for the house she bought and she hasn't done anything back.
Oh I see my mom has also done this in the past. Sometimes I wonder who raised who?
Yeah. I get that
She rented it to some guy and left before even getting some decent money
so now she is stranded in Mexico with some guy who can't even afford to get her back
That is the worst. I ended up having to cut my mom out of my life.
I wonder if I should do the same...
My grand mother basically gave me a whole speech about how ashamed she is.
Sometimes it is for the best to set clear boundries.
But who knows. Apparently my mom said she'll put the house in my name for all these things I did for her.
Kind of annoying to be frank.
Is Grand mother ashamed of you or her daughter? I feel it should be her ashamed of her daughter.
My grand mother is ashamed of her daughter
I am kind of left with a weird circumstance.
At least that is a good thing to come out of a bad situation.
Only reason she has a house is because I helped. And if I leave it. Everyone in my family said I would be irresponsible to let my mom lose it.
I do not think that would have a reflection on you. It should only reflect on your mom.
Yeah, they said they already know my mother is irresponsible.
Instead they suggested I should provide extra financial security to myself or at least some future children.
Grandma already is giving a home and 2 apartments but... I guess I am the only kid. Christ.
My mom lost my om over 100k to be honest. It was crazy growing up to that
It may be nice to have a bonus house for the future. But even that comes with headaches. In the end you have to do what is best for you.
Yeah. I guess boundaries are good.
I left her without much help to be honest but I guess just hearing it frustrates the crap out of me.
Or sell it now and pocket the money to recoup what was lost.
I would but it isn't even my property
And mom needs a place to stay... sometimes I wonder if she just wants to be homeless
So she is just talking circles and not accomplishing what she says?
More like she keeps talking about doing something crazy like have a police chase
and how she doesn't care for anything
Some people do choose that life to be free of responsibility.
Have you had a talk with her about seeing a mental health professional, She may be having some issues that would benefit from care.
I tried to baker act her after she tried to call the cops on me randomly
It ended up them asking dumb questions like if she knows what day it is
letting her free
somehow ending up with her getting herself hospitalized 2 weeks later for low hemoglobin.
Often police officers are not fully trained in helping mentally ill people, they only access if the person is a danger to themselves or others.
yeah it sucks
Tried to get her on disability but they just denied her
She was brought up with bipolar depression before I was born. She said she just ran out the hospital..
I don't know how she is just getting the consequences of that now
A good first step is taking her to your local mental health provider. Or ask at a major emergency room where this is located as sometimes the places are hard to find.
That was about 30 years ago
Crazy they didn't stop her
Well I do feel better. Thinking about boundaries. It has been less stressful being so involved.
Without treatment she may just be getting worse.
That is good to hear..
I've heard she has a lawyer trying to straighten up the whole disability and tr eatment thing
My girlfriend just won't let me stay out of it
Saying my mom has no one and I would regret it if she just does something crazy
That does make it difficult when a partner encourages you to engage in unhealthy behavior.
Yeah. If it was up to me I would probably just be dead silent
I suggest talking to your girlfriend about how it makes you feel when she insists you continue a relationship that causes so much pain.
Yeah. That's a good point.
Well I think the point about boundaries really stuck with me
I feel so much better now
It was nice talking to you.
You too. | {
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5 | 1 | I am very sad and depressed because of a recent breakup. How can I ever forget it and move on.
Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. What happened?
I thought everything was great and I already had my wedding dress and we planned a wedding and out of nowhere he dumped me. Now his family won't talk to me either.
that must be horrible. You were already engaged?
Yes, we were only engaged for about a month but we have been friends since childhood.
that sounds really hard. that's a long time to know someone.
how long ago did you breka up?
Yeah, it was basically my whole life. We broke up two nights ago and he already changed his number and blocked my on social media.
that's going to be tough for the next little bit, those sound like some pretty fresh wounds. Have you been able to talk to friends?
I would like to talk to talk to friends but they happen to be his sisters. So, I am cut off from all of my support. Thank You for talking to me.
I had a break up last year and while it was painful for a bit, i used it as an opportunity to focus on myself and the things I needed. It ended up being a really good self reflective opportunity. Maybe join a gym or a group of some kind to change your network a bit?
I have been wanting to join the gym. Is it hard going alone or do you go with friends? I hate doing things all alone.
I like going to the gym alone but that's just my personal preference. There are fitness groups like bootcamps that you could join and meet new people. Who knows, you may meet a new friend.
That is a good idea. I need to be around other people who have goals like weight loss. My boyfriend never wanted me to join groups and only wanted me to be friends with his family. That is why I am so alone right now. I made bad choices.
That sounds hard. You deserve to have friends of your own.
I agree with you. Do you think that I should try calling his friends and asking for his new number?
there are lots of different kinds of groups you can join, not just fitness. and you can choose how much you want to actively engage with them. I would suggest taking time for yourself. Maybe give yourself some distance from him. If you both decide to reach out again in the future that may be an opportunity, but definitely take care of you.
Yeah, I can see your point of view. I have been obsessed with our relationship. We had a fight and it was a verbal war between us and he wouldn't forgive me afterwards.
sometimes you just need some distance. I hate that old saying but as it goes "there are plenty of fish in the sea".
It is true and I am a really nice person and have turned down other guys for him. I am going to stop thinking about him and just join the gym today. You have opened my eyes!
Good luck! you got this. Have fun with it, it sounds like you have other guys who are after you ;) | {
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5 | 3 | Hello, how is your head or heart today?
Hello, I would like to talk to someone about my situation at work.
I hear you need someone to talk to. What is your situation at your work?
My company is going through redundancies at the moment and I will not find out for another month if I am going to be included.
I have a huge workload on at work and the bosses just keep piling more on top which makes me more stressed and anxious.
Being stressed and anxious is something I've experienced as well. I use breathing to help keep me centered, calm.
Breathing calmly will not help pay the bills if I am made redundant. It's not fair, I cannot be made redundant if they keep giving me more work.
That sounds tough. Just from chatting with you, I can feel how anxious you are.
It sounds like you don't feel heard by your boss.
Sort of. I feel they have no communication or empathy for their employees. How can a company who is making their staff redundant expect them to work harder?
I have also felt unfairly treated at a workplace. Have you tried to talk to a human resources director or a company hotline?
No, only my direct manager. Do you think that will help?
I believe you deserve to be treated fairly. I hear that you also believe that you deserve to be treated fairly. Calling a hotline or talking to a human resource profession is a suggestion.
I think that's a good idea, I will try that. What kind of things should I say?
Expressing your feelings about the companies redundancies. Also, your feelings about the company having no communication or empathy for their employees.
Ok thanks, i will do that.
Thank you for your help and advice.
You're welcome. I hope this message finds you well.
Yes thank you.
Ah one final thing, other than breathing how else do you recommend for handling anxiety?
In combination with breathing, I suggest using a thought map to clear your mind. Also going for a walk can help you with your mental or emotional health.
Ok thats great, thanks. | {
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4 | 2 | How are you today?
not really well
how about you
What's wrong? How can I help you?
I'm doing pretty well.
i lost my job last week
that really shatters me
That’s a tough situation. I feel for you. Losing a job is hard, but now, with the pandemic, it's especially hard.
Do you live by yourself? Is there someone you can talk to?
yes the worst situation i met in this year.
I hear you. This is tough! It is important to be around other people. Don't isolate yourself.
yes i have someone but they are not ready to talk with me
That's too bad. Is there another person, a family member? By the way, how long had you worked at the job?
I know it, but people aroud me are angry because i lost my job
That's unfair of them. You don't need to discuss the problem. Just chatting with someone can change your mood.
i worked for six years and 4 monts
yeah thats why im here
Six years...That's a long time. I bet you were good at your job.
I want to help you.
yes i am, but the compay lay off me to reduce their expences
and thats my worst time
The economy really has gotten bad. Many people are in a similar situation. I worry too that I might lose my job.
dont think like that, it is very hard in that situation
Many people are angry with you. Have they tried to help you with the job search? Do you want to reach out to them for that?
try to stay in your job whatever may happen
I try to stay positive. I talk to people. I think about after the pandemic and how things will be.
I ask them to do so, but they don't give any informaton back
Hmm. That's not supportive. Is there an agency in your city that can help you get that kind of info?
yes, there is one i know
but it is closed because of the pandemic
That's too bad. Normally I would send them an email, see if you can schedule an online chat.
I'm not sure what to do in this case. Have you applied for unemployment?
yeah i would like to get any othe job
That might not be possible at the moment. Work is scarce. I've looked for extra online work, but so many people are trying to get the same work!
no i did not apllied it
That's the next thing for you to do. You might get cash coming in. It will help you stay optimistic.
i see, i will try to apply for it
Great! I hope that this chat has been helpful.
yes i think so
thankyou very muck
much
You're quite welcome! Best of luck with the job search!
thank you
i hope i will get a better obe
one
I hope so too.
thank you
By the way, you need to press the submit button on your end.
oh sorry i forgot
for some doubt, are you not able to subit it by your side
No. The supporter cannot submit. The two buttons to the right of the text box should have an option for you.
ok, ill get it | {
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5 | 2 | Hi, How are you today?
I'm not good today. Not good at all.
I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
Probably living alone and being on my own.
I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
Hmm, First of all stop being scared
You can do it on your own
I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
Definitely an opportunity.
Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
That's great advice. thank you so much.
Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too
That's very true, I'm not alone.
I hope you feel better now and DECIDE to alter things, tomorrow is a new day
You've made me feel a million times better, thank you so much.
Tomorrow is a new day.
And don't worry, life is full of surprises, maybe you find love one day
You're right. I will.
If there is anything else I can help you with
No there is not. Thanks for taking the time to talk with me today
Thank you for sharing your feelings with me, Good luck with your future endeavours
Bye
Goodbye | {
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5 | 1 | Hi! How are you tonight?
I'm doing okay
That's good to hear.
How are you?
I'm doing great, thank you!
You're welcome
Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
Ya, I just feel down recently
I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
My best friend and I constantly argue
That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings.
What was really helpful for me, was having us all spend time together so she could get to know him.
Ok I will give that a try. He's very good to me and I care deeply for him.
You should try setting up a fun day for them where they can get to know each other.
That's a great idea! Like bowling?
Bowling is gret!! would your best friend be open ot it?
Yes she would
That's great!!! this way you can keep them both in your life.
Okay we will try bowling. Thank you for the help
Anytime! Do you need anything ese?
No that was it! | {
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4 | 1 | Hello there! How are you today?
Im okay
How do you want to do this?
Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
Thank you
Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :)
Is there anything else I can help you with?
Haha thank you
What do you think i should do when i feel this way next time
Good question! Don't let the feeling consume you. After all , you are dealing with another person who genuinely might be busy or held up with some important work.
Thats true
So, even if they don't respond, just think they are driving or working, and try to avoid thinking that you are being ignored.
I always assume since im not busy that they arent too
I guessits a little self involved
Yes, sometimes assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Always talk it out when you get a chance.
It could be, but always bear in mind that there could be factors beyond your immediate control. | {
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4 | 1 | Hello! How are you doing today?
I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
How long have you guys been together?
It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?
Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.
I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing.
It's great that you understand this. I think being the man puts more pressure on me to look after her and make sure she
she's safe etc
I want to reassure you, that doing what's best for you is what is most important! Your partner will understand this if they truly care for you. Things will be tough for a while, but you both will be able to grow from this experience. And just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, doesn't mean that you don't care about her!
Staying friends after the fact might take the pressure off of you a little bit. You can still help her out and be there for each other, but as friends instead of partner's.
To be honest, it's amazing that you have suggested this. It's really hard to balance my needs and feelings without breaking her heart. It's hard for the person that's dumped but actually I think it is equally hard for the dumper!
Yes exactly! It's so difficult for the dumper as well, because of course you still have strong feelings for this person. They just aren't romantic anymore.
And that is okay. You don't need to feel guilty for things that you can't control. You can still be there for her without pretending to be in love
That's exactly it. So do you think I should just talk to her and tell her how I feel? The thing is it's not like she can move out immediately. It's going to be a long drawn out experience.
I think talking to her and being transparent about your feelings is definitely the right move. In doing this, reassure her you still want to be friends and you aren't just "kicking her to the curb." Things will obviously be awkward for the first little bit, because continuing to live together will bring it's own difficulties. But the beautiful thing about that is, you guys are already used to it. :) So it's only hard if you make it hard
Yes, I think I need to emphasize the friends element of it and potentially support her to move on. I suppose I'm fearful that it will never end but I'll need to face into that and stay strong, and obviously avoid being intimate as this would really hurt her if I continued to sleep with her. I need to be careful about that I think!
Yes exactly. And from chatting with you, I can tell that you are a very caring person. You don't want to hurt her. I believe that you have the understanding of the situation, and you know what you should and shouldn't do in order to make it work. The hard part is simply getting the courage to finally discuss it. But I think you are going to be able to do that just fine!
I must say, you have been fantastic to talk to about this, we have had a similar experience so I think the advice is coming from experience. Thanks for that!
What I've gathered about you as a person, makes me confident that you probably chose a partner that will be able to have this talk with you and you both will come to an understanding.
Yes I think it's very great we were able to connect on our issues! It definitely helps. You are welcome! :)
Thank you for a great conversation. To continue as is wouldn't be fair on her and I see that now.
Of course! And it wouldn't be fair to her, just as much as it wouldn't be fair to you. Your happiness is just as important!
Yeah, I need to put myself first but also be considerate of her feelings. Thanks for that
Take care and enjoy your day.
Of course! I'm glad that you are feeling a bit better about everything! You as well! | {
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5 | 1 | Hello. How are you?
Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
I understand you. I went through similar situation
I just don't know what to do.
Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
That sounds wonderful.
You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman!
Thanks for the support. Is it too early to start a new relationship?
If you are sure you are ready for it then No. However make sure you dont judge them by previous relationships.
I have to think about it more but I am lonely already
I understand but wouldnt you rather be alone and focusing on yourself instead of miserable relationship?
I am thinking of pursuing a new relationship and hoping to move forward
I think that would be a wonderful idea for you.
I just don't know where to find someone.
Dont go looking for someone . Let them find you. Just live your life and love will find you.
I have to think positive and love will come when I don't expect it.
Exactly. | {
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5 | 2 | Hi! How are you today/
I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
Doesn't it? So you understand.
You can feel so helpless.
I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
I think it helps him if I do.
He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
How did your mom do?
If you don't mind my asking.
Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
It's just felt like a lot.
Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
Yes! Definitely.
And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
He's been a lifesaver.
Even though puppies are crazy.
I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.
Now just need to get through this week.
But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.
You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.
I really appreciate you saying that.
It's true! i hope this has been helpful.
I try to be, for him. Every so often, I hear a song and want to cry.
Crying can be therapeutic so that's good!
I should take a bath and cry now! Thank you so much. You've been a true help.
Have a nice holiday, if you're here in the States.
You too! hAppy thanksgiving!!
Take care.
You too | {
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5 | 4 | I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
Hi there! I'm glad you're here
hi
So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
Yes legally married
Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
She cheated.
And as far as I know is still with the person
I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
How long were you with her?
Don't laugh
Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated
I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you?
It's hard to see that. I feel like a failure and not good enough
Like why even get married in the first place if you are just going to cheat
I can completely understand that as well. I blamed myself for quite some time as well.
Ya you wish you could go back in time and change things or never get married lol
When you go to bed at night, if you can drift off to dream with a clear conscience, then you're doing significantly better than her!
What are you doing to take care of you during this time?
Not much at all
I feel like I'm in a funk and can't get out of it. My house is a disaster. I have a small business I am not in the mood to work on....I"ve been slacking in everything
You are important! You matter! Why not do something that is relaxing to you?
I do need to do something
Do you have any post-it notes? Or paper and scotch tape?
I do
Here's what I've done for myself, and other folks that are close to me, going through struggles...
ok
Jot down inspirational messages and hang them up on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator, car, etc. "You matter", "You deserve the best", "You are the shiznit", etc
the shiznet lol
I will try that
I need to do something
Then, for the tasks that might be getting a bit behind, make a list, in order of importance -- and include a little reward for each task completed.
Thats a good idea
We have to take care of ourselves. After doing it for awhile, it just might become second nature to ya. And -- if continued, will show gals in the future exactly how you expect to be treated because they'll see you taking care of you (and not settling for nor accepting any doodie)
I know I keep telling myself if I get my act together (physically, financially, etc) that I would attract better people....the kind I want to be with
Whether you "have your act together" or not, it's up to you to determine who is worthy of being an active part of your life.
Very true
Ok well thank you for talking to me and the help | {
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4 | 2 | Hi I am seeking support to assist me with better sleep patterns.
Hi there, let me get a deeper understanding of your existing sleep pattern. Do you suffer from insomnia or another type of sleep disorder?
No, it is not insomnia.
Okay, are you drinking enough water and eating a healthy diet?
I could improve my water intake and eat more vegatables.
I like to analyze my own habits every now and then, it helps me stay in check. You can definitely benefit from meditating and self reflecting.
Thanks! What other ideas do you have?
Of course! I always knock right out after a workout. But if you aren't able to, just simple things like turning all the lights off at the same time every night and laying in bed will help. It will align your circadian rhythm!
Great, but I wake up frequently thinking about the recent events surrounding police and how they treat black people.
It definitely is a valid reason to be kept awake. The only good part about something so horrible, is that you have the power to make sure you will continue to be a good person. If everyone was as empathetic as you, the world would be a better place. Thank you for caring so deeply about such a brutal matter.
I wish there were more caring people in the world.
Kindness is contagious, and you definitely have a kind heart. As long as you remain soft in a hard world, people will recognize that and follow suit. The world is becoming more aware, and we have the power to raise future generations with more knowledge and love for one another. Caring doesn't come naturally to many unfortunately, but the ways of inspiring the people that don't care, are endless. We as a society can definitely think of more ways to care for one another.
Correct, but having a kind heart does not keep me from waking up & worrying about my son and other black men in my family.
I worry about my sons and husband and father all the time... I shift my focus on loving them and cherishing every moment we have together. Police or not, the time we have is not promised..
That's good advice.
Are you still there?
A hot cup of tea never hurt too! But in all seriousness, I can completely understand your sleep troubles. It is much deeper than just that. Perspective is the key to life. You are a strong and empathetic soul.
okay
Love conquers all
That is so beautifully true
I'm looking forward to a fulls night rest.
That is good, lavender baths or showers will also ease and relax the troubled mind.
Relaxing is good therapy.
I like to relax with a book and a blanket sometimes too.
Self care is needed.
Self care is definitely something we can overlook accidentally. Being self aware is a daily practice.
I agree. Loving ourselves & the ones we care about too.
It is good that we spoke today, I am going to hug my sons a little harder when I see them tonight. | {
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5 | 1 | Hello how are you?
Hi I am not fine at all
Whats going on?
This pandemic is really causing a lot trouble and anxiety to us
It definitely is... Whats going on COVID wise with you?
Firstly last three month a go my company cut off my salary and next month they are planning to layoff some staffs
That isn't good, are you one of them?
What a trouble year!
It really has been a troubled year
We can only hope this year can be better.
What kind of hobbies do you have?
This is not a hobbies matter now it is about my life and future, my job is as stake here, I don't know what do
Have they told you that you were losing your job?
Every one in the company are talking about it
I'm just trying to figure out exactly what you need help with.. Have you lost your job?
We are all scaring
Because to find another job is not easy
I agree with you there, we have all had to sacrifice something. You are right. it is difficult to find work right now.
Pandemic is causing a lot of problem and the second face of it is coming
You may be able to look into unemployment at least if it comes down to it.
We don't know what is going to happen if it comes
That is the scary part. It could come around again and cause more damage than it did the first time.
It is really serious,
Besides the basic hand washing and hygiene, I don't think we can prepare anymore for it. I think at this point, we will either get it or not until they figure if the vaccine will work or not.
It is a very scary thing
People are losing job everyday by day,
Have you looked into unemployment?
I pray the vaccine will work if it is approved
I am try to look for another job now before layoff from this company
I'm there with you buddy, I hope it eradicate this from our planet. First and second versions.
That is smart
Nice chatting with you it time to go thanks
Bye for now
No problem I hope you enjoy the rest of your day | {
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4 | 1 | Hi
Hello! How are you doing today?
I'm doing better now that I have someone to chat with!
I've been feeling down and anxious about getting older lately because I've lost may parents and I'm worried about losing my aunts.
I understand, you feel like your losing everyone close to you and wondering about your own mortality now as well?
Exactly, I worry about losing my aunts because they are in their 70s and 80s. I worry about my own mortality as well.
Have you told your aunts how much you love them? It may comfort you to know that you've shared exactly how you feel with them while they are here.
I tell them every time I talk to them and try to spend as much time with them as I can.
I try to let everyone know I love them too just because we never know when we aren't going to be here anymore. I definitely understand where you are coming from.
Have you tried looking at any YouTube videos about life and mortality?
I agree! We never know
I haven't but I will check some out. I love You Tube but never thought to look there.
I personally have found some comfort in hearing other people struggle with their own mortality or their beliefs in an after life or different things. Maybe that could be something you could try looking into.
I will definitely try that. It makes me feel better to know that you have found some comfort in hearing other people's struggles with their mortality or beliefs.
It sounds to me like you've felt alone in your struggles and you are not alone! Yes I have and I've heard from many others who have as well.
That and there are some great books out there also!
I have felt alone in my struggles. It's good to know that I'm not alone!
I'm so happy I could be here for you! It's not fun to feel alone, if we can all lean on each other in times of need the world will be a better place.
do you have a favorite video or book, or one that you found most helpful?
I appreciate you being here for me. You have given me some great ideas, listened to me, and have made me feel better. I feel calm and relaxed now. Thank you so much!
I've personally enjoyed looking into all the different types of religions and spiritual beliefs from around the world. It's nice hearing about different beliefs on life and death.
I agree, the world would be a much better place if we could all lean on each other in times of need!
You are very welcome! Again I am happy to help and would love to chat any time you are feeling anxious about anything at all!
I am always here for you!
Thank you so much! You have helped me more than you know!
So nice to have such a supportive friend to talk to!
You are very welcome! I hope you have a great rest of your day and please don't hesitate to message if you want to chat again!
I hope you have a great rest of your day as well! If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me!
Thank you I will! Take care! | {
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5 | 1 | Hi how are you today
Hi, I;m not too good. Just trying to get over a really bad breakup, still haven't wrapped my head around it to be honest
I am so sorry to hear that you want to tell me what happened?
Yeah, apparently the covid situation was getting to him and after he lost his job, he decided he wanted to find himself and try the single life after ten years together
oh no that is terrible, are you able to support yourself financially without him?
Yeah, thankfully, I was basically supporting us both. It was just the shock of it all. I came home from work and he was packing his things, no discussion, nothing just it's over and I've literally been crying all day. I don;t even think I miss him, I'm just mad about how he went about it
That is cruel, I am sure you are in shock, to leave without an explanation, or a real one is terrible. So you have no contact withim what so ever?
No contact, I sort of lost my temper when he tried to talk things over because I think he was going to use this as a threat but I was so disgusted after being tired from work that I just threw my phone and now my way of contacting him is gone
Maybe that is not all bad, gives him time to think and you too. And if he regrets what he did he will return. But then you would have to make a decission, if you would want him back.
I sort of don't think I want him back. Not when he thinks our relationship is some sort of pawn for him to hold over my head. It sucks because my parents didn't even like him, I stuck my neck out for him and now this happens
Well I am sure it sucks and feels a bit lonely. But if you dont want him back have a glass of wine and celebrate the you, you deserve the best and nothing less.
I think I'm more scared of being alone because we were together for so long, you know? Like I haven't ever lived on my own. It sounds dumb but I think I'm going to miss the company more than my relationship
I believe it is hard to home is all of a sudden much more quiet, maybe invite a friend over? I am sorry you are going through this.
Or I could get a cat, to be honest being a cat lady might be less stressful
A cat would definitely be cheaper
They are fun to have LOL, now that is the spirit go to the shelter and safe one of those poor souls. And you can pet it and it is happy to see you any time,
Thanks for listening to me gripe about this, I was just shocked, you know? Like ten years gone down the drain but I guess that's life
A kitten definitely sounds like a good idea
Sometimes it just is, but out of all the bad things something good comes out of it you might not just see it now
Take care of yourself
Thank you and you too
Bye, you need to close the conversation please | {
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5 | 3 | hello. I'm very nervous about my job
hello. im so sorry to hear you're nervous about your job. what are you nervous about specifically?
Well, I just finally got my job about a month ago. I haven't worked for most of covid. But, I think they may start letting go staff because its getting really slow
FYI, it's new york, and it has gotten really cold. People might be worried about getting sick.
i mean regular sick, as well as covid
So you are feeling worried about potentially losing your job? That does sound very difficult. Especially after not working for months and just finally getting a job.
I personally lost work for a bit of time due to covid. It can be tough, especially in New York things are not that great health-wise.
That's true, but they're not as bad as they were. I feel pretty safe. They make us get tested twice a week
I can't be unemployed again. I just got on a lease!
I am glad they make you get tested and you feel safe. That is the most important thing.
It was like one day we were soooo busy that we had a waiting list the whole day, then the next it was crickets
It didnt help when they forced us to start closing by 10
We just created this amazing winter wonderland and i get to go in this little hut out there and stand by a heater and serve people holday drinks all by myself. its amazing
i cant lose that
That sounds like an amazing job!
I'm depressed just thinking about it. I only got to work in there because its only for christmas. Before I had to stand outside by the door under a heat lamp and seat people. But I didnt mind
Should i pre-emptively start looking for new jobs?
Is the job good only temporarily? Like do you aim to keep this job or is it only a holiday job?
I plan to keep it as long as possible. Its the most amazing working environment I've ever had
Would it be unprofessional if I ask my manager if my job is in danger?
What do you think i should do?
How would you approach asking the manager if your job is in danger if you were to do that?
Idk, really. What should I say?
Well, I remember once being unsure of my job. I approached my manager and with all professionalism, I asked if there was any way I can do more for the work. That helped me at the time. I never specifically asked if my job was in danger, though.
so you mean, demonstrate my willingness to be helpful?
Yeah, exactly.
Ok thats great advice
Do you feel comfortable talking to your manager?
yes. thank you
I am glad I was able to help. I hope I helped you feel at least a little better today. | {
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5 | 1 | Hi! Hope you are doing well. How may I help you today?
Good afternoon
I am not good at all
I seems like you are not feeling well. Am I correct?
Not about feeling well, it is about layoff from my job
Sorry to hear about it. Due to COVID most of us are trap with certain problem
It very serious here in my company firstly it was cut off and now it is layoff
It's really hard time but we should keep hopes. It will end soon
Seriously! What I am scare of now is how to secure now job
I can understand it could be a hard time for you. You try to keep working on your skill. For sure you will find a way
I pray it works for me, I don't even dream about this at all I don't believed it can happen to me
I felt the same way when 50% people were laid off from my previous company. Situation was really stressful all around. I was trying to stay positive and kept working.
I know sometime its hard to believe what happen with us suddenly, At that time we should keep moving and try to find a way.
I don't even know where to star from now I am confused
Due to COVID Unemployment rate has increased drastically. Most of the people are facing tough time somehow.
I would suggest you to keep trying or working on. Try to explore your strength. I am pretty sure you will get it.
That is it my friend! A lot of people are losing their jobs on daily basis, that one a lone is scaring
I can understand its hard to find a job right now. The situation will not gonna stay the same, we should keep trying.
Thanks friend! That is what I was thinking about
Hope my words will help you stay positive at this tough time which all of us are facing. The very important thing right now is to stay healthy and safe. Take care
I will keep on try on till I secure a new job I will not rest
You are too good friend! I like your advice.
It is time to go now. Thanks and good bye. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, How are you today?
I'm doing okay.
Do you like to ask something?
How can I manage the stress of school?
Are you studying from home?
Yes, and it's depressing not being able to go out because of covid.
well, it is tough. But it is safe, too.
And you do not need to drive, you are close to the fridge, too.
Yes, I have a fridge in my apartment?
I do go out for fun, it can be relaxing.
That's true.
I find it difficult to stay motivated if I'm in my apartment all day.
Do you have a balcony? Or can you go out to a back-yard? Or is it too cold now?
Yes, but it is very cold
Well, the school is almost over. we are facing Christmas, New Year...
Yes, but my school starts soon, in a few weeks.
It will be stressful again.
We all need some break from staying in front of computes all the day long.
After holidays, who knows...
Yes, there is hope.
We do not need to face a risk of driving through the snow....
and be in a good shape...
Listening to meditation and concentration music might help....
Ah, I see.
I think meditation can be very helpful for calming the mind. That's good advice.
I use some small weights u to keep muscles in tonus.
I see. Thanks for talking to me, I feel more confident about my school.
I am sure your grades will be excellent. Best of luck! | {
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5 | 2 | Hello! How are you?
not too good
how are you too
I'm doing okay. What's going on? What has you so down?
i was furloughed
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that! So many people have been furloughed this year.
Do you think they will bring you back?
i don't know for sure
I'm sure that has you anxious and probably a little depressed. Are you looking for other employment opportunities yet?
i am beyond depressed but luckily i found a place but the take-home can't cut it
It's good that you were able to find another job, but I completely understand about the take home not being enough. Do you work full time, or is it just part time for now?
its just part time and i am even scared of covid 19 exposure
the take-home is just too small
Oh, I understand being nervous about covid exposure, especially if you're working with the public, who may not abide by mask mandates and social distancing. Is there anything you can do to limit exposure?
Also, are you able to look for a second job at all? The extra hours may bring in extra income while you try to find a single job that would pay enough.
it took me time to find this job, there is no work anywhere.
It sounds like you're really frustrated. That's completely understandable.
and there is nothing i can do about the covid exposure because folks around here sees nose mask as treat to Pres. Trump
i am beyond frustrated. it s soo depressing
That is very frustrating. I know I find it very annoying when I see people out and about without masks. It drives me crazy, just thinking about how they're keeping this stupid pandemic going and keeping people out of work.
you got my point
I wish I had more suggestions for you. I think the only thing you can do is keep looking, make sure your resume is updated and current. If there are any employment agencies in your area, they may be worth looking into. And if there are any public assistance programs you qualify for, there's no shame in seeking help when you need it.
i will keep doing that, may be something will show up
I sure hope it does. I wish you all the luck in the world.
thanks, it's nice talking about it
thanks for hearing me out
You're very welcome. I'm glad I could be here for you.
yea
Is there anything else you'd like to talk about?
that will be all for now
Okay. Have a good night!
you too | {
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3 | 2 | Hi there, can you help me?
I'll do my best. What do you need help with?
I feel depressed because I had to quit my job and stay home with my kids because of their remote school.
I can understand why that would make you feel depressed.
Do you have any advice on how to feel better?
Yes of course. It's good that you are acknowledging your feelings. To improve your mood you could practice hobbies or other things you enjoy doing.
I see. Yes I do enjoy knitting. I just don't feel like I have time to do that.
I can understand how you feel that you don't have time.
When I do have time I feel too exhausted to do anything else.
Parents need to learn to take care of their own needs first before their children. Only then can you be truly available for anyone else.
You're right, I need to find time for me.
Indeed, once you free up some time for yourself, I bet you'll start to feel better.
Do you have other suggestions?
Yes, try meditation for a few minutes each morning.
What do I do to meditate?
Take a few deep breaths and clear your mind of negative thoughts.
That sounds good, but how will it help.
meditation allows you to set up your day in your mind and let you be calm.
Will that help me get through the day and be happy?
Yes, it won't happen overnight but be patient with it.
Ok thanks.
do you have any other concerns?
no I think you helped me enough.
I'm hearing that I have helped enough and you don't have any more concerns?
Yes and thank you!
You are welcome, and good bye. | {
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5 | 1 | Hello. How are you tonight?
Hi, I am doing ok.
That's good to hear. Can I encourage you in some way?
I am afraid about changing my job during COVID but I am not happy at my current job.
So you are unhappy at your job and want to do something else? What exactly are your fears?
I have found writing out a pro and con list helps me -- On one side I look at the benefits, then I put the cons on the other side. They I weigh them, even if there are more cons, sometimes the PROS are much better.
I am a helpdesk associate for a large telecom company. I don't like the hours and the pay here but I am afraid if I can get a job outside in this time.
I can understand that looking for a job can be stressful and challenging at this time, but one thing is for certain, you will never know if you don't try.
I have tried the Pros & Cons method. Pros are better pay and hours, cons are tougher interviews and more rounds
Yes, I think I need to give a try but I lack the confidence to put my resume out in the market.
I like the "Do it afraid!" method. I can still try even if I feel nervous. You really do not need confidence to put your resume out there, you just need to do it afraid. And when I "do it afraid" I realize it was easier than I thought.
"Do it afraid"? Do you mean do it even if I am afraid? It sounds a bit too optimistic to me.
I used to be paralyzed with self confidence, but the truth is, your confidence doesn't come from your job, your confidence comes from being a lovable person. The confidence that you are the person you want to be.
It sounds optimistic but it is the truth, when I step out to perform, I'm always nervous. BEING nervous looking for a job, that is NORMAL. To expect to feel like you are super confident is unrealistic. Most people are nervous, but they do it anyway.
Ok, I think it makes sense. I may have to give it a try.
I always felt awkward and nervous looking for a job, I think I went to one interview calm and cool, in 30 years! Hahaha.
I am a good team player, I don't have any inter-personal or communication issues. Just that I need to be at a higher pay to reach some financial goals
You have nothing to lose, really, you have weighed out that there is only good things that can come, but you think you must "feel" a certain way. You don not have to feel confident, you just have to do the work. For example, you don't FEEL like walking your dog, changing a diaper or helping someone, but you DO IT anyway.
Cool! I will try to get motivated and start applying. Your words are just what I needed in this gloomy atmosphere.
Inter personal skills can be learned. I was very shy as a child and I learned how to be more friendly. And I was VERY shy.
Ya, I think the key is to keep my current job and start looking elsewhere.
Last time I made a grave mistake of quitting my job and then searching! I was very new, and over confident
I'm very outgoing now. I had to learn a lot of skills to be this way and I like myself more too. Hahah. I'm old though, 59. You have nothing to lose, consider it a learning opportunity.
Life is a journey. We all make mistakes in the past. I think you are very intelligent actually because you thought of the pros and cons. You just needed a boost.
Thank you sir, I will definitely try it! You have shared Pure words of wisdom
I'm a lady! I pray to God and read the Bible and get wisdom there. Plus I have been to the school of hard knocks! lol
I'm a lady! I pray to God and read the Bible and get wisdom there. Plus I have been to the school of hard knocks! lol
Oh my apologies, mam!!
I look forward to your new job! And celebrate with you. Take deep breaths and forge ahead!!
Definitely! Thanks a lot for your mentorship
Have a great week ahead :)
You are welcome! Thank you for sharing your life with me! | {
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