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muscles support the pelvic organs contract during orgasm aid in childbirth and ejaculation
and provide core stability
Abdominal
Muscle
Rectum
Coccyx Pubic Bone
Bladder
Urethra
Anus
Pelvic Floor Vagina
Muscles
Illustration A Side view of female reproductive anatomy Note the location of the pelvic floor muscles
stretching from the pubic bone to the tail bone coccyx B Frontal view of the pelvic floor musculature which is
similar in women and men Several pelvic muscles are depicted including the ischiocavernosus bulbospongiosus
coccygeus pubococcygeus the urogenital diaphragm and others
In the s Dr Arnold Kegel taught people how to strengthen the perineum the area
between the anus and the genitals He knew that these muscles are often injured in women
during childbirth and he instructed women how to contract them reinstating their strength
in an exercise that came to be known as Kegels Doctors have prescribed Kegels for many
reasons including treating urinary incontinence ameliorating erectile dysfunction and
controlling premature ejaculation Kegels are taught by having the patient repeatedly interrupt
their urinary flow Dr Kegel recommended urinating a spoonful at a time Try this in the
activity below
Sexual Activity Contracting the Urinary Sphincter
The next time you find yourself peeing stop urinating midstream Once you can stop the flow
completely you have found the right muscles Try urinating for only a second at a time until
you have voided your bladder Focus on tightening only the pelvic floor muscles keeping the
abdomen thighs anus and buttocks relaxed This will allow you to isolate the contraction
Doing this several times will help you identify the muscles and gain conscious control of
them At that point you should do this exercise without urinating and from any position
you want
Chapter Stop Sexually Submissive Behavior
Most of us learned to brace the Kegel muscles intensely as young children when
holding it for long periods to avoid the embarrassing experience of urinating in public
Can you remember an incident in which this muscle was likely traumatized by being braced
heavily during the traumatic scenario of trying desperately to find a bathroom as a child
Not only do the muscles surrounding the genitals seize up in these scenarios but distressed
breathing predominates making the strain worse Most people have a strong tendency to hold
their breath when performing Kegels and of course this defeats the purpose Therefore
recommend pairing Kegels with paced breathing
Sexual Exercise Diaphragmatic Kegels
Perform hard Kegel contractions as if you were interrupting the stream of urine Do this while
paced breathing This will build your capacity to activate the pelvic floor muscles without
holding your breath Hold a forceful contraction during a second passive exhalation and
then relax for a few breaths Do this times in a row You might also try performing rapid
Kegels ie one to three per second for a minute
These muscles contract involuntarily during arousal and orgasm So loosening them up and
developing their responsivity may enliven your sex life Also after developing the muscular
strength that comes from pelvic floor exercises men can perform a Kegel at orgasm to
withhold ejaculation effectively allowing them to experience multiple orgasms also believe
that strengthening and unbracing these muscles can facilitate female ejaculation and
squirting
The next section will provide you with an exercise that will dilate these areas rather than
constrict them In a previous chapter we learned how important it is to perform forward bends
after backward bends to neutralize the spine believe that performing Kegels without
exercising the antagonist muscles leads to similar imbalances For example there is evidence
that performing Kegels can lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder and this is a risk factor
for urinary tract infection and other maladies As you might have guessed the counterpose for
a Kegel is complete bladder emptying
Exercise the Muscles that Expel Urine
Interestingly the Kegel contraction is braced involuntarily during social competition
Kegels result in a retraction of the clitoris penis and testicles potentially making them less
conspicuous to a competitor believe that in this they are submissive and intended to hide
the genitalia It is like the sea slug withdrawing its gill or the snail withdrawing its eyestalk
Male monkeys and apes are frequently observed hiding their erections from other males
especially from males above them in the hierarchy They dont want to be attacked for being
aroused This is why think genital retraction due to chronic Kegel contraction is an innate
defense mechanism protecting subordinates from sexually dominant individuals It is yet
another display equivalent to a collapsed posture believe that losing tone and developing
partial contraction in the pelvic region is a selfhandicapping mechanism that assumes
advertising ones level of sexual arousal is dangerous
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
If you have balanced tone in your pelvic muscles your flaccid penis or clitoris will increase
and decrease in size with your arousal level If you have strain or poor tone the flaccid organ
may remain at its smallest possible size until full arousal is reached Most people are aware that
the penis and clitoris shrink in size when exposed to cold In fact penile length decreases by up
to in the defensive response to low temperature believe men with a history of chronic
intimidation and sexual subordination are more likely to exhibit this kind of shrinkage when
flaccid This likely corresponds to the grower vs shower dichotomy referenced in popular
culture The growers may be men with a more extensive history of being sexually intimidated
This may be reversible by performing the opposite of the Kegel
It is easy for both women and men to pinpoint the muscles that expel urine They speed up
the stream These muscles include the lower abdominal muscles and the bladder detrusor
muscle They aid in the expulsion of urine by increasing the pressure applied to the bladder
wall The stream of urine will cease when the bladder has been voided but the muscles
themselves can still be contracted If you continue to squeeze the expulsive muscles very firmly
after you finish urinating you will realize you can flex these muscles through their full range
Most people never use this full range creating a missing corner of dormant muscle
Thus it is also a reservoir that you can tap into and rehab Think of the exercise as an
antikegel As we have seen in previous chapters sometimes the only way to free muscles
from partial contraction is through hard full contractions
Sexual Exercise Contract the Expulsive Muscles
The next time you urinate try to expel the urine more forcefully than usual Steadily increase
the force as you empty your bladder As it nears empty do not let up Instead squeeze the
related muscles hard even after the stream stops Notice the posture that your lower back
and lower abdomen have taken on and remember the feeling of contracting this muscle so
that you can do it later After you have emptied your bladder continue to squeeze the
muscle at to maximum force for an additional seconds It may ache tenderly
but performing this exercise each time you urinate will make this aching disappear within a
matter of days