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AITAH for requesting that roommate pays rent for 1 month? | AITAH for asking my roommate to cover our split rent for 1month? We share an apartment with separate bathrooms. He had installed a bidet in his bathroom that burst on November 11th, 2025. It is January 12th as I'm writing this and we still haven't been able to move back in.
The burst pipe flooded the apartment, and a... | If you were renting, you should have renters insurance. Basically all landlords require it. That should be covering your losses, not your roommate. |
AITAH for thinking I don't have to ask my friend to sit with me after my cat died? | I (16F) find out my cat died. I recently went on a trip to see family for 10 days and when I came back I couldn't find my cat Lo'ak who was 2. Me and my family found a door that we never open open and went looking for him outside. We have outside cats and some other cats sometimes come around, so when I found him in ou... | People don't know what you need or want if you don't communicate. |
AITAH for getting mad at my bf for not helping me with the babies | my 17f bf 17m have been together for 3 year we have 8 month old twin girls
last week my bf told its not up to him to raise MY babies wen all i ask was for him to feed one of them as she wass crying n i was feeding the other one he got mad at me and said if i cant look after them why have them in the first place
for ... | Go after child support and also talk to his family. Unless they are just like him. Updateme |
AITAH for telling the bf’s Boys about his “new” fetish after learning he lied to me about every detail! | We will call him My Man (40/M) as he claimed to want to be & I (43/F) dated for 1.5 yrs and the entire time he claimed to never have…”finished” whether for solo play or with me…and stated due to his MS that it had been a problem well over a year prior to him & I even meeting. He would cry and say he felt like a failure... | YTA - get your bs post outta here |
AITAH I don’t want to be friends anymore | Hello everyone, I am 19(f) and my best friend is 20(f). Let’s call her Jamie, she’s dating a 42 year old, who’s my friends dad, David. She met him at my house and they had tension which I thought was awkwardness but it might have been chemistry. I confronted her when I found his wedding ring in her car. HE IS MARRIED W... | No, you’re not the AH. What your friend is doing is morally and legally wrong, and it’s understandable that you can’t support it. Ending a friendship when someone repeatedly crosses serious boundaries isn’t cruel, it’s protecting yourself. You don’t owe her your loyalty over the harm she’s causing others. |
AITAH for wanting to drop out of college despite my mother working hard to keep me in? | I’m a 17M and am currently doing a UK advanced computing course and I love computing, it’s all I ever want to do in my life however actually getting the qualifications for it is hell.
I need to wake up early every morning following the same extremely boring routine to go catch a bus that has incredibly inconsistent t... | >I need to wake up early every morning following the same extremely boring routine to go catch a bus that has incredibly inconsistent timing, sometimes being 20 minutes late and sometimes being dead on time.
Oh boy, are you in for a shock when you go out into the working world. |
AITAH for not moving my wedding date so my friend could attend? | I (40F) have been friends with her for about 20 years. She used to be my best friend, but she emigrated \~15 years ago (7–8 hour time difference), which naturally changed things.
Back then, we talked a lot at night. I was a single mom working part time but had very stressful life, had sleep issues, and was always “on.... | NAH. You have some social anxiety and people-pleasing to unpack, I agree. |
AITAH for not moving my carry-on from the overhead bin? | I was on a flight yesterday in first class on a CRJ-900. For anyone not familiar with this aircraft, the layout is 1 seat on one side (A), aisle, then 2 seats (C/D). The important detail is that in first class there are **overhead bins only on the C/D side**. There are **no overhead bins above the A seats**.
I was sea... | "Reddit, Am I the Asshole for acting like a normal human on a flight?" Come on man, is this just karma bait? You're an adult, right? |
AITAH for uninviting my friend from a girls trip? | So basicall, me and 4 of my friends have been talking about going on a girlstrip for over a year now for when we graduate this year.
Weve just started planning everything and one of my friends is trying to convince us to reduce the budget because she wont have enough money for the current budget (around £900pp for 5 n... | NTA
U want a full package holiday so that's ur right, she could just say "sorry that's overpriced for me" |
AITAH for choosing to call it quits with my bf because of what he says is a misunderstanding? | I (31f) have been with my bf (32m) for 9 months. We’ve known each other for 18 years since we were kids basically. We’ve tried dating twice in the past once when i was in high school and once when we in our early twenties.
The reasons things didn’t work out those two times are because the first time he cheated and had... | NTA when people show you who they are, you really should believe them. How many chances are you gonna give somebody that clearly has so many red flags?
Breaking up is a good idea. I don’t think you two are on the same wavelength about what a real relationship looks like. Good luck. |
WIBTAH if I ask my mother-in-law to pay my fiance’s half of the bills? | My fiance and I have been together for 14 years and started dating when I was 18. He was employed and we split bills fairly based on income for our entire relationship after moving in together up until he lost his job 2.5 years ago. Since losing his job, he decided unilaterally that he was going to ride out his unemplo... | Why are you staying with a hobosexual |
AITAH for getting mad at a wedding date? | Am I the asshole? My fiancé and I finally decided on a date to get married, (March 14th 2026). We picked a venue, planned everything, and invited all of our friends and family to the event. I picked 3 of my friends to be my bridesmaids and my mom as my maid of honor. Everyone was so excited for our wedding and ordered ... | If people didn't make such a big deal about weddings, we'd have fewer AHs. |
AITAH for breaking up with my bf of 8 months? | For context, I am a 24F and he is 22M. We had been arguing a lot over a couple of weeks about how he wasn't spending much time with me already then I got sick and it became basically me alone and I had been bringing it up and nothing was changing. Then I got mad that nothing had been changing and let him know that and ... | nta |
AITAH for refusing to pay for an out-of-network therapist after I tripled our insurance premium for free mental health/therapy coverage? | My wife has depression and mental health challenges, so she regularly receives therapy to help with that. Our previous insurance, had a benefit where providers that were in-network would only charge a $50 copay per session. However, my wife refused to take advantage of that and would insist on doing therapy sessions th... | NTA. Your wife is the problem. It would be different if she had been seeing them for years but after only two sessions? |
AITAH for being upset with my brother and his wife for constantly letting me down? | I'm 18f, brother "Ridge" is 21m, his wife "Jackie" is 26f. I'm sorry if this is a little long; most of the length comes from the context. Throwaway account because I'm not on here much.
Every time I try to rewrite this, it seems that I've started in the middle of a sentence, and it's confusing, so bear with me and th... | Your feelings are completely valid, your brother and his wife repeatedly led you on and made promises they didn’t keep, and you went through all the effort to prepare for this move. Being frustrated, hurt, and angry in this situation is 100% normal. You deserve your peace and a living space that respects your needs. |
AITAH for asking my wife to stop wearing tight outfits for work due to her itches not getting cured instead getting prolonged? | Using a throwaway account since this is such an awkward topic to address. I didn't know whether I should post this or not but here we go.
My wife likes to wear tight outfits for work from casual, semi-casual to professional. It makes her look good and powerful to carry out day-to-day responsibilities.
But ever since... | Don't ask her to stop, ask the doctor if there are any fabrics that may be contributing to the problem and let the doctor advise if loose cotton and linen would be better than tight acrylic or polyester.
Your wife can then decide if she wants to follow the doctors advice or not |
AITAH for not wanting to form a deep bond with dad’s gf and daughter | I (23F) live abroad and I come home for christmas and summer. My dad (60M) got a new gf (40F) about 2 yrs ago and he gave her papers during this time. Not gonna lie, she is sweet but was a little overbearing at first and I’m not used to that bc my dad has been divorced from my stepmom for almost 10 yrs now so it was ju... | NTA, i don’t think you’re wrong for prioritizing your fiancé and the family you’re building. that’s where your long-term emotional investment is now. i feel a little bad for the 14 y/o but she isn't your responsibility and imo its even harder to form a connection at this phase since the two of you didn't really grow up... |
AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he let his friend sleep in our basement? | My ex boyfriend (32m) decided to let his friend stay in our basement for a few days.. whatever I was given no choice. He stayed for a couple days mostly sleeping on a made up blanket bed on the floor.
He finally leaves and my ex refused to clean up after him.
So I’m downstairs cleaning up after this man when I find a... | Nope. If he won’t be responsible and prefers to make you clean up after him there’s really not much you can do but leave rather than be treated badly. |
AITAH I don’t reply to my relatives? | So, relatives from mom’s side are great and I’m in a good relationship with them, but my dad’s side is just ew.
Mol told me how father’s mom was doing spells against us, talked shit about me….and tbh, I’m not surprised because each time when I would visit dad’s grandma, she would act first ten mins nice, but then tur... | My father's family was horrible. They treated him like crap, and my mother and I were treated even worse. They repeatedly tried to break my parents up, and always blamed my mom for the death of my father's grandmother. His grandmother told him that if he married my mom, it would kill her, and true to her word, she dr... |
AITAH for trying to stop my mom from getting robbed blind | G'day folks,
So my 70yr old mom and 90yr old gran live together on the same property as the guesthouse my mom runs, My mom employs four people to help her with the guesthouse, and my gran has a carer.
Things have been going missing for a while, but over the last few months my mom and gran keep mentioning that lots of... | NTA. People who takes advantage of vulnerable people sickens me so much |
AITAH for wanting to stop being friends with my 2 oldest friends after they brought an unwelcome guest to the house. | I 21F have been friends with 2 girls the first for about 8yrs and the second for about 6yrs, the first we will call Annie, 20, the second we will call Ashley, 21. For a little bit of context I met Annie in middle school during a time when I struggled to make friends. At the time we were very close. Hanging out regularl... | NTA. They need to move, because it's just going to continue and perhaps get even worse. They've been taking advantage of you in all sorts of ways. Give them a move out date and stick to it. |
AITAH for getting angry at my wife after she accused me of watching porn? | My wife and I had a really good day. Our 1-year-old went to sleep easily, we planned out the week ahead, and everything felt calm and positive. Later that night, she suddenly turned to me and accused me of watching porn/sexually explicit content on my phone while she was asleep.
She specifically said she saw blonde gi... | NTA but looking at your prior posts it seems she has PPD..
Have a chat with her and request her to seek treatment |
AITAH for asking my Mom if she loves my sisters more than me? I hope if I am people don't be so harsh on me because I am really not in a great mood right now and another post yesterday encouraged me to post this. | So my family is me (18M), my 3 sisters (18F, 16F, 17F) and our mom (39F) and our dad ( 41M) we are pretty close family we all hang out whenever and with whoever and my mom and dad treats as all equally, hang out with all of us and spends time with us even more than my dad cuz most of the time he is busy at work more th... | And you’re 18? Really? |
WIBTAH for not going to my sister's baby shower? | I'm using a throwaway account since I don't want this on my main one.
So for some background, my parents broke up a bit before I was born. This has resulted in my dad being in and out for the first half of my life. Even then, I still spent time with my dad's side of the family as I grew up. Near the tail end of middl... | You can have whatever relationship you want with people and it sounds like you genuinely dont want to have one. So go, dont go, its your choice.
Just one random aunt telling you to come doesnt make you an AH. |
Alcoholic STBXW w/o Custody wants Her Family to Stop Helping Her Kids—AITAH? | I have been going through a very long divorce for the last three years. I got sober three years ago and I did it by moving out and away from her drinking. She has been in and out of rehabs constantly the past three years and it ramped up substantially the last year with a felony DUI and a trip to the ER for alcohol poi... | Divorce her and file for full custodial custody. She will have to pay child support and insurance for the kids and hopefully it will be more than the 20% and schooling. |
AITAH for ghosting my high school friends | I had a friend group and we had 9 members. We met when we were in high school and when we graduated, we went our separate ways and had different programs and colleges. Though we still kept in touch through our messenger group chat.
One of our members had a child during pandemic and we had this celebrations after every... | That passive aggressive message proves you were right to leave. It hurts because you were a genuine friend to people who were only convenient friends to you. You deserve better people in your life. |
AITAH for not believing my wife? |
Hey everyone,
I need some help with this one.
My wife and I have had a huge fight. Earlier today we went shopping, then went to pick up the kids. She stayed in the car while I waited outside school and I left my phone for her to use as she left hers at home on charge.
I was gone for about 5 minutes.
Later on I... | You have 2 programs confirming she lied to you. It's up to you what you do with that information. Her going to stay at her Dad's is pretty extreme. And telling. |
AITAH for telling my boss to have another drink even though she's struggling with alcoholism? | Our company had been struggling for nearly 4 years while my boss just kept emptying the coffers. She took 315K in cash to buy her son a house, & over 300K to fix their houses after a hurricane. She made a claim against her insurance policies & with FEMA. So, as the Controller (like a CFO but without the extra work) the... | Not at all, and I hope you win the lawsuit |
WIBTAH to correct someone in a birthday video? | My husband and I have a friend, really more of my husband’s friend for multiple reasons I won’t get into here. We’ve known him for about 10 years. From the moment he was introduced to me, he’s been calling me by a nickname that I do not like him to use, despite being gently corrected many times over the years.
The tr... | NTA, you have the right to ask anyone not to call you a specific name regardless of the reason. I would 100% do what you mentioned in the birthday video just out of spite. Also, the AH here is your husband for not having your back in the matter, his friend clearly doesn’t respect you and that’s the real problem |
AITAH for cutting off a former friend who refused to respect boundaries? | ok so this is gonna be long but like here goes, also fake names btw
there’s this guy i used to be kinda close with like basically bffs but omg over time he got soooo exhausting and manipulative and obsessed with getting what he wanted
so basically before winter break he got with this homie hopper bc his friend told h... | YTA for making people read this drivel. |
AITAH for not even caring if my grandma's dead or not, now that she's sick? | I have PTSD. I haven’t been able to sleep properly for nine years because of this. When I was around 10, on the day my grandpa died, my grandma—while crying—looked directly at me for a moment and said, “So you’re done eating your grandpa?”
There were my other cousins and relatives around her to support her, and they ... | Wth, why would they say that?
NTA, family or not, doesn't matter. |
Nightmare gf… imo, you decide AITAH | Don’t really know where to start but just gonna go with what comes to mind first, been dating This woman for 2-3 years (moved in less than a year) fyi big mistake. But routinely surprise her with nights out or take her out for breakfast dates.
Our birthdays are just before Christmas so I went all out and I literally... | Stop talking and just end it! |
AITAH if I don't answer the phone anymore when it's my (25m) brother who call? | that post will be long, so sorry
I (22f) struggle to get my drivers license and my life together.
Got my diploma and my first book published last year, so I know what I want to do in life.
And, before assuming anything, you should know that no girl on earth will love my brother as much as I do. He's my older broth... | [removed] |
AITAH for not having my brother-in-law as a groomsman and now wanting to confront him for giving my wife the silent treatment? | So my wife (32f) and I (33m) got married in September. We chose our wedding party over a year in advance. She picked her sister, cousins, best friends and her sister-in-law (her brother’s wife) so 7 bridesmaids and MOH. I picked my cousin and my closest friends as my 5 groomsmen. I did not choose her brother (40m) as a... | NTA, but for my wedding I gave males on my wife's side jobs like usher or something along those lines. Let them feel included, but I didn't have to mess with my wedding party. He's acting like a child though. |
AITAH for not having my wife's back at a family gathering? | My nephew's birthday was on the 3rd we went over to celebrate. My wife has four sisters, the two from Gerogia take care of their mom. The two from Gerogia came down to celebrate nephew turned 13, they brought their mother with them. People were asking them how they are doing and they were quick to throw my wife and the... | If it was JUST your wife and her sisters hashing it out then thats fine. But when other men hop on the train it is your duty to get involved period. Whether you agree with her or not is a private discussion the two of you can have after, but allowing another man to also come at her sideways for any reason is off the ta... |
AITAH for making my boyfriend cry after a hike? | My bf(21M) and I(22F) went on a group hike together where my boyfriend ended up crying after.
My boyfriend wanted to go on a hike at night that led to this campfire with some of his friends. He invited me and said I could invite anyone so I invited my friends also. He tells everyone to meet him at his place so we can... | So much drama.. |
AITAH after my mom cut me off | Hi everyone, this will be a long one. I, [20M] am currently a sophomore at college, coming off an argument I had with my step father over text during Christmas break, and have seemingly been permanently cut off from both him and my mother.
My apologies in advance, there's a lot of backstory that has led up to this, an... | NTA. You made a concerted effort to make good on any damages that resulted from scratching the car. Your mother and Step father (him especially) sound toxic AF. You sound more mature than they do.
As a 43 year old mom to a 20 year old college Sophomore- yes, it’s good to teach adult children responsibility and taking... |
AITAH for wanting my boyfriend banned from entering my country | For reference me (F23) and my bf (M23)have been up together for almost a year. Things started out great, we met at a bar and he asked for my number.
he’d pick me up every weekend in my city to take me out to dinner or go do fun things together , eventually it was time for him to go back to his home country after 4 mon... | Protecting yourself is not revenge it is survival and he lost every right to access your life the moment he put his hands on you |
AITAH for speaking in a harsh tone | My partner and I were trying to trim off some mats off my cats bum who is very weird about people touching him in that area. The cat started going mental and so I said let's stop and my boyfriend said no he's just being mardy keep going he's always like this.
The cat continued to get more worked up and my boyfriend y... | NTA. Yelling at a confused animal is not only cruel and pointless, it demonstrates immaturity. The pouting afterward shows that he did not even consider why you called him out on his behavior. |
WIBTAh If I do not go 50/50 on a hotel room with my parents? | I'm going to try and keep this as simple as possible. I (31F) recently learn that my mother and I enjoy the same comedian/magician who is going to be doing a show later this year in a city 4 hours away. I asked if she would like to go see her with me. She agreed, and so she and my father are going to the show. We all c... | NTA. Split 3 ways makes the most sense here since it's 3 people in the room. |
WIBTAH To want to end a friendship of almost 10 years with a friend? | So, I have a group of friends consisting of 5 girls (including me) and we have all known each other for almost 10 years. In the last few years one of these (we'll call her Lola) has had a complete change.
While we're out, she uses her phone ignoring us or completely tunes out any conversation we're having and isolate... | People change and grow apart. That's exactly what happened here. Your and Lolas values aren't compatible anymore and you guys clearly prioritize different things.
You showed initiative to save the friendship and to see if it's just a miscommunication, she didn't take it. There's no reason in forcing the friendship wit... |
Aitah for being a b*tch? | So my bf (42) and I (38) have a this friend for about 10 years, good friend for the most part, even a roommate for a while, never really had any big issues with him ever. Untill one night/morning I was sleeping on my couch as I usually do and I wake up to the friend with his hand in my fu*king pants, I'm shocked to say... | this was hard to read icl
nta?? |
AITAH for going no contact with my father? | I (19F) am a full time college student. My father (61 M) has been mostly not present in my life. He left our family when I was 6 or 7 months old and has been distant since. We would mostly only speak on the phone once in a while. Fast forward to me about to graduate high school, he started coming back around a little m... | NTA but at least you learned that it isn't a good idea to rely on someone who has spent your whole life showing you that they are unreliable. |
AITAH for not backing my sister up in an argument? | My sister(26) is pregnant. She, being a massive football fan, wants to name her son Ronaldo. My BIL opposes this though, saying ‘What if he grows up and doesn’t like or is bad at football?’
That’s why my sister asked me(20) to back her up. Now I actually see my BIL’s point first hand. My dad’s as big a football fan as... | Bergkamp 😂😂😂 you poor sod ahah. Why didn’t he call you Dennis atleast….
Yeah, you’re right. She’s nuts, but would she compromise? If your sister likes CR7 would they agree to something like Cristinano or Christian or even Chris? |
I just broke up with my boyfriend and I don’t know if it was valid AITAH? | Hi I’ll just start the text off by saying that my ex and I are pretty young and it is both of our first relationships. So I broke up with my boyfriend 3 days ago and we dated for 13 months. I broke up with him because I didn’t feel appreciated. My ex went to this camp 7 months ago and when he came back he seemed really... | NTA - perfectly valid to break up with someone who doesn’t want to be around you! Period. End of story. You deserve better! |
AITAH for reporting a shop to Trading Standards | In the UK, you have to be 16 to purchase energy drinks.
When I was putting something in the recycling, I saw an energy drink can in there and asked my 14 year old daughter if it was hers. She said it was, and she wanted to see what the fuss was about but didn't like it and it made her feel "weird" and "jittery." She ... | That much caffeine can be harmful to a young person.
Did we not learn anything from Jesse's experience in that *Saved by the Bell* episode? NTA |
AITAH for asking my Mom if she loves my sisters more than me? I hope if I am people don't be so harsh on me because I am really not in a great mood right now and another post yesterday encouraged me to post this. | So my family is me (18M), my 3 sisters (18F, 16F, 17F) and our mom (39F) and our dad ( 41M) we are pretty close family we all hang out whenever and with whoever and my mom and dad treats as all equally, hang out with all of us and spends time with us even more than my dad cuz most of the time he is busy at work more th... | NAH but you need to tell your family exactly what happened. Maybe show them this post, just be honest and open with them. They know you overthink. This was a mistake that hurt someone you love, but they love you and just wanna know what’s going on. Talk to your mom about it honestly. |
AITAH for losing my mind at my husband this morning because of his alarm? | I (30f) have been married to my husband (29M) for 6 years, together to 10. No kids. I’m a very light sleeper and have issues with insomnia. I need an entire system of fans to keep me asleep at night. If my husband snores or moves too much, I wake up. He’s been very accommodating by trying to minimize movement, wear hea... | Separate bedrooms may be helpful, if you can swing it. |
AITAH for keeping the things I bought for my friend after kicking her out? | For purposes well call her Bailey
My friend (f22) Bailey was living with us during a rough time. During this time, my bf and I gave her very cheap rent and even put that rent for a few months towards getting a bed for her room and when I had a reward with my phone service for a free phone as long as it kept service for... | NTA this woman is blind to what you did for her, these people only see negatives |
AITAh for wanting my ex to get my name tattooed before we get back together? | F22 dated M24 for 2 years. He struggled with mental health and he warned me about it before we started dating. Neither of us listening to the warning because feelings were so strong at the beginning. He constantly accused me of cheating on him, asked me to see my phone and when i stopped letting him see my messages he ... | Just stay broken up |
AITAH for showing the partner of the guy who f’;d my girlfriend the transcript of how she described everything that happened! | So this happened recently, ide been away on business, and such, I can’t really access socials etc when I’m away. But we all know our So’s right?.. when something isn’t right.
So I knew she’d fucked another guy, I had it narrowed to two from a her FB posts, after some interrogation to her about it, she come clean and s... | NTA - It's obviously defensive denial. Eventually she will find out that you were truthful, and most likely in a far more painful manner. |
AITAH For going no contact? | I recently filed and was issued a restraining order against my father. He is the definition of a narcissist, but he also suffers from BPD. During childhood there was a lot of abuse, verbal and emotional mostly. He also allowed a family member to SA me for many years. He knew it was happening, but he never did anything ... | Rarely are children who cut off their parents the AH |
AITAH for going to my best friends mom about her relationship | I recently visited my best friend in another state. She’s in a toxic and abusive relationship. While I was there her boyfriend gave her the ultimatum that it was either me or him. She chose him. I was extremely worried about her so I talked to her mom about it. She doesn’t have the best relationship with her mom as the... | https://www.reddit.com/r/abusiverelationships/s/2iUHnDrtFf |
AITAH because I am over my husbands negativity? | long story short- My hubs complaining and negativity is starting to affect me.
I love my hubs. He is loyal, treats me well mostly (we will get into the not so much stuff), and honestly provides a good life for us. I am grateful for him. This is the man I see myself having children with and really making a life out of ... | He enjoys being a martyr. He doesn't want suggestions or solutions, he just wants sympathy. I've know people like that. Always negative, always complaining, always wanting sympathy for the situation. I don't socialize with those people anymore.
Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? He won't change, ... |
AITAH FOR NOT HELPING MOM | Ok guys so lest start this off by saying this is a long story but here we go. My mother let's call her pam (F53) just recently told my siblings m26, f31, and me f33 that her boyfriend of 22 years told her their relationship of 22 years is over, and he has been cheating on her for over a year. Keep in mind pam is on dis... | Your mom sounds like a textbook dumpster fire who wants you to clean up her mess.
She is an adult (F53) and her terrible 22-year relationship is over because she was cheated on. That is not your problem to fix. She weaponized her history before you even asked.
What you need to do is block her number and focus on your... |
AITAH for not giving my dad a kiss? | I (16F) am not a very physically affectionate person with my family, that is a well known fact with them. I don’t really give hugs or kisses, at most, I give side hugs when asked for (I will give real hugs when the moment is very emotional and calls for it) and fist bumps in between rounds of Super Smash Bros.
About a... | nta at all! stick to your stance if it makes you uncomfortable.
you don't owe anyone a kiss. |
AITAH for being ungrateful for what my bf is doing for me during my extended hospital stay including not being able to fully cover my portion of rent | Im sorry if this is long - I have no idea how to tell stories without writing a novel. (My toxic trait) I (27 f) live with my boyfriend (28m)- let’s call him Josh. In June of last year (2025) i started having a serious medical problem. I don’t want to get into it and frankly, it’s way too much to type.
At first (Jun... | I'm sorry, but you don't have a partner. This is not what a relationship is supposed to look like. Have some self-respect and break it off. |
AITAH or more so my husband, for not giving his sons mom more parenting time when she asks? | I need to know yalls opinions... AITAH or more so is my husband?
For starters, I do not make decisions for my husband when it comes to his baby momma. He does ask my opinion but ultimately, he makes the decisions.
My husband has full primary custody of his son. He is extremely strict with the court order due to issu... | No. There’s your validation |
AITAH for getting mad at my mom | I’ve been going through a really rough year and sometimes I really consider suicide. I have also engaged in self harm. My mother does not know this. She works overtime and has a lot of stress on her plate. Today after work I asked her a simple question that needed to be answered, but she kept asking for specifications ... | To clarify the question wasn’t about animals lol it was about something on my college application |
AITAH for asking this girl if she likes me for about 4 times | So this sounds bad, but please hear me out.
So there's this girl i like right, and i got her number from an old friend, and texted her to see if she liked me back. I used to go to school with her and we chatted sometimes. She reacted kind of shocked and unsure, and asked me if I could give here some time to think. I r... | YTA and for future reference "I have to think" is a no. |
AITAH for not being friends with a person anymore? | So I'm currently 15 F , and i am friends with this girl who is the same age as me (for now I'll call her ' S ') . In 8th to 9th grade we used to be in a group of 3 with another girl who was also the same age as us (for now I'll call her 'P') . I and 'S' met in 7th grade and became friends, at first it was nice being fr... | NTA. From what I've read, 'S' is TA. Along with that, it appears 'S' was being toxic towards you, as they told you not to be friends with 'W', betrayed your trust, and from the looks of it, ruined your other friendships. You did the right thing. |
Aitah for not wanting my daughter to go stay with my mil | I 20 female and my mil 43 female don’t agree on a lot and I need advice or something bc she wants my daughter every two weeks and I don’t agree with it bc she has been in my daughters life 24/7 for little bit more back story I used to live with her but we butted heads and I didn’t want that around my daughter so we mov... | That is *your* daughter. If MIL can't handle your boundaries, she can get to stepping. None of my family is in my kids lives bc I don't want them exposed to the lifestyles they live. Stand on business mama. It's exhausting having a kid strapped to you 24/7, but at least you know she's safe 💚 |
AITAH for not sneaking out late at night? My boyfriend wants me to. | \*\*not wanting to sneak out\*\* and we've missed out on opportunities to do so and he's pissed at me saying he thinks I'm a coward.
I'm 18 f and a senior in high school and recently I started dating a 24 year old man I met on Tinder on November 3rd. My parents are supportive and he's a great guy except for he wants m... | He doesn’t love you and I can’t believe your parents are entertaining this bullshit.
If you tank semester 2 of 12th. Your acceptances can and WILL be rescinded.
Go to college and live your life. Leave this loser behind. He WILL ruin your future. |
AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend when he never fully forgave me for leaving him a year ago? | I (18f) and my boyfriend (18m, lets call him Chase) of 6 months/2 years (we broke up in December of 2024, and got back together in August of 2025; had been together 2 years before breaking up the first time) broke up last night and I'm still kind of processing what happened.
*P.S. Yes I know we are young, and it will... | You broke up with Chase before you tried to shoot your shot with Will. You didn't do anything wrong in that instance. It wasn't cheating if you broke up with Chase first.
I think your second try with Chase was a mistake, because clearly Chase remained bitter and angry with you, and wanted to make you feel bad. Why wou... |
AITAH for refusing to visit my wife’s home country again because it's literally a shithole? | We're 29M, 28F. My wife is originally from a third-world nation. Till now, We've visited her home country together for two times -
* For our wedding in 2021.
* 2 months during winters of 2023.
I won't say the country's name, but it was full of filth, EXTREMELY overcrowded (I hate crowd), street animals, trash, large ... | There are some places I have been that I wouldn’t visit again either. Can you pay for her parents to come and visit you instead? |
AITAH for getting angry when my husband stays out late drinking and I can’t go to sleep? | My husband and I share a studio apartment. Sometimes after his shift (he’s a cook), he’ll stay late and drink. Since we share a studio apartment, I can’t fall asleep until he comes home because he’ll just wake me up and then I have trouble falling back asleep. AITAH for getting angry when he does this? | I’m gonna be honest and say I’d be really unhappy if my partner gave me a curfew. I’d be looking at white noise machines, eye masks, sleeping in separate rooms when he’s back late. |
AITAH for asking that whoever uses the last of something in the fridge to let me know? | This is my first time ever posting something like this but I really want to know if I'm in the wrong.
I want to start this off by saying I don't police the food in the house. Everyone can eat whatever they want whenever they want. I only have two rules to it. Clean up after yourself and if you are using something tha... | First, if a new rule is in play, you need to understand that others aren't going to slot it into their priority box. They will mess up and need to be reminded...with kindness, not shame. You want them to tell you right away, you might not be there, they may be in a rush and not present. Instead, maybe put a dry-erase ... |
WIBTAH if I charge my Aquintence gas money for driving him with me to work | So basically I work with an acquaintance from school for a internship at work. We live in the same dorm and I drive him to work with me whenever we go, and ontop of that whenever we leave the city to go back to our homes on the weekend, i take him with me to drop him off at his hometown since its on the way to my homet... | NTA. Ask the freeloader for gas money, a share on insurance & maintenance, etc. |
AITAH for not telling my best friend a girl was making very ugly fun? | So three years ago me and my three now best friends went to our new school , we met on our first day , where we found out we share a dorm and had been inseparable since (lets call them Ginger and Penny, me and Ginger go to the same Grade and Penny goes to the opposite so we don’t share any classes but we are at the sam... | NTA. there is no reason you need to tell her she was being insulted |
AITAH for refusing to sell a bag to a customer? | So for context I sell preloved handbags on a selling site and have been doing this for three years. I pick up the handbags cheap and I flip them and make money off doing so. This is my full time job.
Now onto the problem, I have had several interactions with a certain customer who keeps buying bags off of me, only to ... | NTA. It's just a smart business practice to protect yourself. Your friends obviously don't own small businesses. |
Aitah for wanting my mom out of my life | I'm 20 years old, female, and my fiancé is 25 years old, male. We've been happily together for almost a year, except for a baby in July. However, whenever I found out I was pregnant, I was already in my second trimester. When my mom and step-dad found out, they accused me of being disrespectful. Whenever I said I had s... | Jeebus, learn to punctuate. The period, comma, semi-colon, and colon are all friends you should cultivate. |
AITAH for not wanting reconciliation and them subsequently getting me fired? | About a year ago, a few of my "friends" started treating me like shit without explanation, and I happened to work with one of them, who I will call S. During the summer, I left that place of work to do some seasonal work, and the poor treatment was ongoing until I left. When the seasonal job ended, I returned to work i... | As a woman reading this my heart sank because you tried to communicate and set boundaries like an adult and they weaponized discomfort against you, and while losing a job hurts deeply this doesn’t define you it shows exactly who was willing to silence you instead of being honest. |
AITAH for having my stepdad walk me down the aisle instead of my father? | My parents divorced when I was 6 years old, I was their only kid together, at first they both loved me but when they both got remarried things changed with my dad, his wife had a son who was my age and he immediately became my dad’s favourite kid and I was pushed to the side, and I was pushed away even more when they h... | NTA Your dad is more worried about how he will be perceived in your wedding than your actual relationship. Do what feels right for you and Congratulations! |
AITAH for considering wanting out of 30 year marriage? | I'm just tired and I want out. But it would blow up our lives and our kids' lives. AITA for wanting out?
For the past five years, his health has gone to crap. I've done everything I can to help him and based on medical appointments last week, he will be reasonably okay. There have been massive health scares in the pas... | You’re not an asshole for wanting to leave, you’re reacting to years of stress plus a serious breach of trust.
* You’re burnt out from years of caregiving and constant emergencies.
* Trust took a hit: he hid a big purchase and prioritized himself over the family.
* It’s not a partnership right now: you’re carrying the... |
AITAH for asking my Mom if she loves my sisters more than me? I hope if I am people don't be so harsh on me because I am really not in a great mood right now and another post yesterday encouraged me to post this. | So my family is me (18M), my 3 sisters (18F, 16F, 17F) and our mom (39F) and our dad ( 41M) we are pretty close family we all hang out whenever and with whoever and my mom and dad treats as all equally, hang out with all of us and spends time with us even more than my dad cuz most of the time he is busy at work more th... | Do you love my sisters more" Post: "NAH (No Assholes Here). It’s normal to have these insecurities at 18, even in a loving family. The fact that you feel your mom and sisters are your best friends is a great sign. Just talk to her—she’ll likely be happy to reassure you. |
AITAH: Need Advice on Friendship Situation/Argument | for context i am F(23) my friend lets call her Samanatha is F(22) as well, we’ve been on and off friends for about 5 years but recently just became close in the last 3ish years i’d say. a few months ago she found out she was pregnant. i was over the moon could not be happier for her, i congratulated her everyday asked ... | NTA at alllll, you tried your hardest to make it work with rides and excitement but life threw curveballs and Samantha turned a legit transportation issue. Pregnancy hormones can make people extra emotional but that doesn’t excuse blasting you, dragging up old stuff, and letting her sister unadd you like you’re the vil... |
AITAH for firmly believing it’s my partner’s responsibility to solve for their snoring? | LSS: My partner’s snoring has gotten increasing worse and nothing I do to help me sleep better works. They refuse to seek medical input/help, and firmly believe it’s my responsibility to find ways to deal with their snoring so I can sleep better/more easily.
Background: My partner and I have been together for 6 yea... | NTA-record your partner snoring and then play it at full volume the next time they are trying to fall asleep. See how they like it. |
AITAH for getting my dad to tell my brother to move his stuff out of my house… even though his room is locked? | Here’s the situation: I pay for the **entire house**, and my brother’s stuff has been sitting in his old room for **8 months**. I’ve asked him repeatedly to move it, but he keeps delaying—“next week,” “I’m busy,” etc.
Now here’s the kicker: **the room is locked**, and he refuses to open it. He just bought a **new hous... | If it’s “your house”, why would you dad need to be involved?
Also, how many times are you planning on deleting and reposting this? Bolding more words each time won’t change things.
If your parents don’t mind keeping your brothers things at their house (your home), then too bad for you. |
AITAH for touching myself during sex | Aitah for touching myself during sex.
My boyfriend 29m randomly bought up that he finds it weird when I 26f give myself clitoral stimulation to orgasm during sex.
We’ve been together for 2 years and I’ve always enjoyed our sex life. I’ve had several sexual partners before but consider sex with my bf to be the best.... | [deleted] |
AITAH for dyeing my hair pink behind my boyfriends back? | So ever since I knew that hair dying was possible, Ive been wanting to have pink hair. I am now a teenager and can legally dye my hair without my parents consent.
However, my boyfriend had been asking me not to. He said he disliked dyed hair and tattoos and piercings, etc. I really love him and I dont want him to ... | I assume you are a young teenager. Your bf does not get to tell you whait to do with your hair. |
Stuck em with kittens AITAH for laughing? | My neighbor was having some remodeling done on his 19th century home. It was quite a lengthy project. As the contractor was there a while I’d say hello in passing etc. On weekends he sometimes would bring his 3 young children to play. It’s a safe area but on a busy road. One Saturday, as I was pulling in he came walkin... | NTA
I probably would have laughed too. |
AITAH for going no contact with my child’s father | So long story short, I made a bad decision and slept with a man I barely knew and ended up getting pregnant. (I know it was dumb and I shame myself enough for it so I don’t need anyone else’s opinion on that part) When I first found out, the father asked me to get an abortion I told him I couldn’t do that and he said o... | NTA. Take care of yourself and your baby. |
WIBTAH if I didn't tell my ex of 7 years about my new relationship until after he moved out? | I (27F) was with my ex (25M) for 7.5 years. We broke up in May after repeated letdowns and broken promises to change behaviour, get help for his issues and make a proper effort with me. I love him, but I'm not in love with him and haven't been since we broke up. We signed a 1 year tenancy in June of last year while in ... | [removed] |
AITAH for wearing a wedding dress to the bar? | I (19F) and my friend (19F) saw this Instagram video of two friends thrifting wedding dresses and pulling up to the bar in them. We thought this would be super funny to recreate in our own local college bar so the other day we ordered the cheapest white dresses online that we could and we went off to the bar in some wh... | NTA, what's his problem? You sound like fun. 😘 |
UPDAYE:aitah for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because he won’t kiss me | today i decided to break up over text (lousy i know), he didn’t take it quite well but decision was final. the whole situation was causing me a lot of stress so i just decided to end things.
old post below!
AITAH for wanting to break up with my boyfriend for not wanting to kiss me
me (16) and my boyfriend (18) h... | you’re right to protect your own peace. if he can’t handle basic affection without freaking out, that’s a red flag. break up without guilt. |
AITAH for not believing my ex-girlfriend was SA'd by my brother? | We (both 25 now) had been together for going on 3 three years at the time of the incident.
Last Christmas (2024) we were at my parents place to celebrate the holidays. My sister and my brother had gone to the shops to pick up some things. I was not in town then, but when I came back, my girlfriend told me my brother h... | YTA I was on your side until I saw your comments. You’re an asshole, a major one. Your brother having a reputation of being predatory towards women is ABSOLUTELY RELEVANT to a sexual assault case. You sound like you’re just as bad as your brother, I pray you are single for the rest of your life to keep women safe from ... |
AITAH for threatening my uncle over my little brother’s wedding? | TW: mentions of CSA
I’m finally using this throwaway, though I wish I’d never had to.
To get right into the issue: I (30) found out a few months ago that my little brother (27) was sexually abused by our uncle for at least 3 years when we were kids. Nobody ever suspected a thing, and allowed the uncle to take him out... | NTA, but man I would have stomped him into a puddle the second he said "it was consensual". |
AITAH for telling my former cohort I don’t want to stay in contact after graduating? | I recently graduated with a degree in audio. Throughout my program, it became increasingly clear that the school was passing people regardless of skill level or effort. I don’t think I knew everything—but I *did* come in with prior experience in live sound, so even the final semester (which was supposed to be the harde... | You’re NTA. You set a boundary and were honest about why you don’t want to stay in touch, it’s not rude to prioritize your own professional and personal growth. In a hands-on industry, experience and reliability matter, and it’s reasonable to want peers who match your work ethic. |
AITAH for Snarking at My BF's Christmas Gift for Me because he's gotten it for his ex gf | my BF(17) and I(17) have been dating for nearly 6 months and we were revealing what we were getting each other for xmas. After I revealed my gift (an instax camera because I knew he likes polaroid pictures), he revealed his which was a kendra scott necklace.
I immediately got quiet instead of giving him a happy react... | “I started snarking at the gift and he didn't know why until I said "think about it, we both know”.
If he wanted to know why, you should have just told him why. Don’t say things like this. Communication is important in relationships, & it’s really not hard to just say what you mean. |
Told my (34M) GF about (30F) past sex habits/stories. AITAH? | My GF and I have been together for about 7.5 months. She is a bit more conservative than I and has only been with a few people. We started talking about sex and stuff and I mentioned about my body count (around 55-60). She was shocked by that. I also admitted to getting happy ending massages and just spending lots of m... | You aren't compatible, your values don't align. She doesn't want a wiener that has been in any bun it can slide into, who would? How often do you get tested? |
AITAH for blocking my dad and “ruining” his birthday? | So I (16F) have a very poor relationship with my dad (49M). I won’t get into too much detail but it is very obvious his favourite child is my older sister (18F) and I’m a burden to him.
In December 2024, my dad decided to move 3 and a half hours away to live with his parents to “start his new life”. It didn’t really b... | The only a-hole is your dad. |
WIBTAH if I threaten to watch my family while they’re using the bathroom because they refuse to shut the door? | Sounds creepy and even worse, sounds like a ragebait title but I am absolutely serious, let me explain.
I (F26) live with my mother (F60) and older brother (M32). I am moving out in approx. 3 months while purchasing a place of my own. My mother had always been a little “my way or the highway” and schedule obsessed and... | Look, I get how insane this must be, but I don’t think creeping them out is going to fix the issue. I mean, they *are* kind of being inconsiderate of your space, so I totally understand why you’re fed up. But the staring thing is kinda *not it*. You’ve been clear, they’ve ignored you, and you’re 3 months from being out... |
AITAH for thinking my mum is emotionally manipulating me and for not being able to cope anymore? | Buckle up, grab a brew, because this is a long one. I’ve been writing this on and off for weeks, adding bits as things happened. I’m trying very hard to keep emotion out of it and just stick to facts.
I’m a 34F. My mum is 64F.
Background:
I was adopted by my mum and dad as a baby. When I was about 3, my dad announced... | My dear, if your boyfriend is still interested, then he is definitely a “keeper”. I don’t know many people who would willingly support a relationship with someone from such a toxic family situation. Do you realize that as long as you continue to be abused by this woman you are sabotaging your own life? I strongly su... |
AITAH for not trusting a family member who constantly lies about his/her life? | It just makes me (f29) nervous that someone (cousin) who is 4 years older than me feels the need to lie about their life and accomplishments. It’s either she is trying to compete with me and she’s insecure or she has a mental problem. You’re clearly not as close with someone as you may think if the person has to lie to... | NTA. Trust your gut. Keep your distance. You don't want to be around when karma comes for her |
AITAH for starting to hate my friend? | I (19F) have known my friend (20F) Mia, since high school. We were good friends, but I started to distance myself from her because she would make derogatory statements about my attractiveness compared to hers. We stayed friends though, and graduated the same year. I hadn’t spoken to Mia in two years, until she reached ... | why are you still hanging out with her after all that girl?
she sounds exhausting.
nta. |
WIBTAH if I reported my locally owned pharmacy for “fraud, waste, and abuse” to my health insurance? | Hello, throwaway account because this contains semi-personal information. I’m torn at what to do and my friends/family support going after the pharmacy. I would like to understand if there’s an angle here I haven’t thought of.
I recently moved apartments within Washington DC and needed to change pharmacies. I’m a typ... | NTA. I would file the claim. |
AITAH I found photos of my girlfriend | I've been dating for about 3 years and I've always taken this relationship very seriously, even thinking about the future and marriage.
Recently, while looking through my girlfriend's phone, I discovered that in 2022 — before we started dating — she was posting photos on her Instagram "close friends" wearing lingerie a... | People change, learn, and grow. She says she feels disgust and repulsed by what she used to do… I think you should move forward in your relationship based on who she is today and not who she was before you started dating. |
AITAH My 31M Wife 34F made me change swimsuits on vacation. | My wife and I recently went to the San Diego area and stayed at a hotel with 21+ pools. Back home, I swim laps every day, and packed swim briefs hoping to wear them on vacation as well as swim some laps in the larger pools.
On the first day, we went to the pools. I had a swim brief on under shorts. She went into a ho... | Why did you listen?
She doesn't get to police your clothing or body shame you.
Next time she does, tell her you'll be picking her swimsuit next time...see how she likes that. |
AITAH for accidently leaving my drunk boyfriend with a friend while I went to the bathroom? | **OR: AITAH for accidently waking up my friend after leaving my drunk boyfriend while i went to the bathroom?**
I want to preface this story by saying that this happened a while ago, but I've been thinking about it recently and wanted to get a public opinion.
At the time, I, 18F and my (now ex) boyfriend, 19M, who I ... | Marie being a drama-stirring liar is the problem. NTA |
AITAH for never wanting to date a man with no support system again. | I,21F, started dating my ex boyfriend,22M, 1.5 years ago. When it started it was nice, he had everything in life, a nice paying job, a car, lots of friends and etc. Fast forward 6 months I decide to move in with him, he got a new place and at the time he had been living alone and i thought it’d be nice since rent is ch... | You don't owe anyone a relationship with you, so you don't need strangers to validate your criteria for which human you think will add value to your life.
If you were like, "I want only men that look NOTHING like my father, so no small noses," as long as you're not out bullying the small-nosed dudes, you're okay. You... |
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