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How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "Hello, and thank you for your question. This is a very serious time. I don't mean to frighten you, but you are right to be concerned. The time right after people leave the hospital after receiving psychiatric services is a time of high risk for suicide. It is very important, after hospitalization,\'a0to get\'a0follow-up care with a professional as soon as possible. If your husband has an established therapist, this is the time to call. It is also a good time to alert your support system of friends, family, clergy or others to let them know he is still struggling. This is good support for him AND you.It is important to think about means and opportunity to make another attempt. Means really do matter.\'a0 So, if you have a firearm in the home, it is really important to remove it. You can't remove all things that a person may hurt themselves with, but some things are more lethal than others. Firearms are very lethal. I am not sure what means he used last time, but try to reduce the opportunity for him to access it again. This is where your support system can help out. People can take turns hanging out with him until you are sure the crisis is over.If you believe that an attempt is going to occur, talk to your husband about going back to the hospital. If he refuses, you will want to find out what your options are to have him go even if he doesn't want to. I know the thought of that really hurts, but it can save his life. Calling 9-1-1 is always\'a0a\'a0good option if you are not sure. Usually a suicide crisis, meaning they want to harm themselves right now, lasts a few minutes, hours or days. Sometimes when you get them through the crisis stage, they no longer want to commit suicide. But, as you are indicating, that feeling of wanting to commit suicide can come back again. So, it is always good to have a plan. If you want more information, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They will always answer: 1-800-273-8255. They can help you create a specific safety plan. I do hope things work out alright. Be well. Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPCC, NCC", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This is actually more common then we often realize, and actually understandable, as he has gone through a trauma, an unresolved existential crisis. \'a0He was taken care of by others and now is again left alone with his own internal, and rather horrific inner struggle.In my work with CCT, or Contextual Conceptual Therapy, (see www.suicidetherapy.com) I have learned how trapped suicidal\'a0people are in their own isolation, also called a ""mysterious isolation,"" a form of self protection which cuts the off from their Self, or spirit. \'a0And unless they address this message from their soul, accompany a guide on a journey to discover their own missing information, that is to recognize how their own uncomforted emotional\'a0pain has resulted in a coping stategy which has effectively cut themselves off from their own beauty, their Self, and their ability to receive love from themselves and others.\'a0Their attempt to kill themselves is a cry from their soul or spirit that they cannot live the life they are living any longer. \'a0They take this literally and try to end their life, when in fact what their soul or spirit is saying is they need to begin to live the life they came here to live.", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I'm thankful to read your husband found care and that his suicide attempt wasn't successful.\'a0\'a0 While he was hospitalized, and prior to his release, your husband would've been provided in writing a self-care action plan. This typically includes things like committing to a contract 'not to harm' and what to do if he felt overwhelmed by his anger, depression, and hopelessness (e.g. call 911, call therapist, go to nearest hospital emergency department). Additionally, his protocol would've provided instructions for his taking medication(s) as directed, having a follow-up appointment(s) with his psychiatrist/psychologist/clinical social worker, and participating in some form of small group support.\'a0 If your husband's struggling as you describe, and you are feeling overwhelmed or frightened for his (your) safety, I'd encourage you to seek immediate assistance.", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "Hello, and thank you for your question. This is a very serious time. I don't mean to frighten you, but you are right to be concerned. The time right after people leave the hospital after receiving psychiatric services is a time of high risk for suicide. It is very important, after hospitalization,\'a0to get\'a0follow-up care with a professional as soon as possible. If your husband has an established therapist, this is the time to call. It is also a good time to alert your support system of friends, family, clergy or others to let them know he is still struggling. This is good support for him AND you.It is important to think about means and opportunity to make another attempt. Means really do matter.\'a0 So, if you have a firearm in the home, it is really important to remove it. You can't remove all things that a person may hurt themselves with, but some things are more lethal than others. Firearms are very lethal. I am not sure what means he used last time, but try to reduce the opportunity for him to access it again. This is where your support system can help out. People can take turns hanging out with him until you are sure the crisis is over.If you believe that an attempt is going to occur, talk to your husband about going back to the hospital. If he refuses, you will want to find out what your options are to have him go even if he doesn't want to. I know the thought of that really hurts, but it can save his life. Calling 9-1-1 is always\'a0a\'a0good option if you are not sure. Usually a suicide crisis, meaning they want to harm themselves right now, lasts a few minutes, hours or days. Sometimes when you get them through the crisis stage, they no longer want to commit suicide. But, as you are indicating, that feeling of wanting to commit suicide can come back again. So, it is always good to have a plan. If you want more information, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They will always answer: 1-800-273-8255. They can help you create a specific safety plan. I do hope things work out alright. Be well. Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPCC, NCC", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This is actually more common then we often realize, and actually understandable, as he has gone through a trauma, an unresolved existential crisis. \'a0He was taken care of by others and now is again left alone with his own internal, and rather horrific inner struggle.In my work with CCT, or Contextual Conceptual Therapy, (see www.suicidetherapy.com) I have learned how trapped suicidal\'a0people are in their own isolation, also called a ""mysterious isolation,"" a form of self protection which cuts the off from their Self, or spirit. \'a0And unless they address this message from their soul, accompany a guide on a journey to discover their own missing information, that is to recognize how their own uncomforted emotional\'a0pain has resulted in a coping stategy which has effectively cut themselves off from their own beauty, their Self, and their ability to receive love from themselves and others.\'a0Their attempt to kill themselves is a cry from their soul or spirit that they cannot live the life they are living any longer. \'a0They take this literally and try to end their life, when in fact what their soul or spirit is saying is they need to begin to live the life they came here to live.", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I'm thankful to read your husband found care and that his suicide attempt wasn't successful.\'a0\'a0 While he was hospitalized, and prior to his release, your husband would've been provided in writing a self-care action plan. This typically includes things like committing to a contract 'not to harm' and what to do if he felt overwhelmed by his anger, depression, and hopelessness (e.g. call 911, call therapist, go to nearest hospital emergency department). Additionally, his protocol would've provided instructions for his taking medication(s) as directed, having a follow-up appointment(s) with his psychiatrist/psychologist/clinical social worker, and participating in some form of small group support.\'a0 If your husband's struggling as you describe, and you are feeling overwhelmed or frightened for his (your) safety, I'd encourage you to seek immediate assistance.", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "Hello, and thank you for your question. This is a very serious time. I don't mean to frighten you, but you are right to be concerned. The time right after people leave the hospital after receiving psychiatric services is a time of high risk for suicide. It is very important, after hospitalization,\'a0to get\'a0follow-up care with a professional as soon as possible. If your husband has an established therapist, this is the time to call. It is also a good time to alert your support system of friends, family, clergy or others to let them know he is still struggling. This is good support for him AND you.It is important to think about means and opportunity to make another attempt. Means really do matter.\'a0 So, if you have a firearm in the home, it is really important to remove it. You can't remove all things that a person may hurt themselves with, but some things are more lethal than others. Firearms are very lethal. I am not sure what means he used last time, but try to reduce the opportunity for him to access it again. This is where your support system can help out. People can take turns hanging out with him until you are sure the crisis is over.If you believe that an attempt is going to occur, talk to your husband about going back to the hospital. If he refuses, you will want to find out what your options are to have him go even if he doesn't want to. I know the thought of that really hurts, but it can save his life. Calling 9-1-1 is always\'a0a\'a0good option if you are not sure. Usually a suicide crisis, meaning they want to harm themselves right now, lasts a few minutes, hours or days. Sometimes when you get them through the crisis stage, they no longer want to commit suicide. But, as you are indicating, that feeling of wanting to commit suicide can come back again. So, it is always good to have a plan. If you want more information, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They will always answer: 1-800-273-8255. They can help you create a specific safety plan. I do hope things work out alright. Be well. Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPCC, NCC", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "This is actually more common then we often realize, and actually understandable, as he has gone through a trauma, an unresolved existential crisis. \'a0He was taken care of by others and now is again left alone with his own internal, and rather horrific inner struggle.In my work with CCT, or Contextual Conceptual Therapy, (see www.suicidetherapy.com) I have learned how trapped suicidal\'a0people are in their own isolation, also called a ""mysterious isolation,"" a form of self protection which cuts the off from their Self, or spirit. \'a0And unless they address this message from their soul, accompany a guide on a journey to discover their own missing information, that is to recognize how their own uncomforted emotional\'a0pain has resulted in a coping stategy which has effectively cut themselves off from their own beauty, their Self, and their ability to receive love from themselves and others.\'a0Their attempt to kill themselves is a cry from their soul or spirit that they cannot live the life they are living any longer. \'a0They take this literally and try to end their life, when in fact what their soul or spirit is saying is they need to begin to live the life they came here to live.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "I'm thankful to read your husband found care and that his suicide attempt wasn't successful.\'a0\'a0 While he was hospitalized, and prior to his release, your husband would've been provided in writing a self-care action plan. This typically includes things like committing to a contract 'not to harm' and what to do if he felt overwhelmed by his anger, depression, and hopelessness (e.g. call 911, call therapist, go to nearest hospital emergency department). Additionally, his protocol would've provided instructions for his taking medication(s) as directed, having a follow-up appointment(s) with his psychiatrist/psychologist/clinical social worker, and participating in some form of small group support.\'a0 If your husband's struggling as you describe, and you are feeling overwhelmed or frightened for his (your) safety, I'd encourage you to seek immediate assistance.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "Hello, and thank you for your question. This is a very serious time. I don't mean to frighten you, but you are right to be concerned. The time right after people leave the hospital after receiving psychiatric services is a time of high risk for suicide. It is very important, after hospitalization,\'a0to get\'a0follow-up care with a professional as soon as possible. If your husband has an established therapist, this is the time to call. It is also a good time to alert your support system of friends, family, clergy or others to let them know he is still struggling. This is good support for him AND you.It is important to think about means and opportunity to make another attempt. Means really do matter.\'a0 So, if you have a firearm in the home, it is really important to remove it. You can't remove all things that a person may hurt themselves with, but some things are more lethal than others. Firearms are very lethal. I am not sure what means he used last time, but try to reduce the opportunity for him to access it again. This is where your support system can help out. People can take turns hanging out with him until you are sure the crisis is over.If you believe that an attempt is going to occur, talk to your husband about going back to the hospital. If he refuses, you will want to find out what your options are to have him go even if he doesn't want to. I know the thought of that really hurts, but it can save his life. Calling 9-1-1 is always\'a0a\'a0good option if you are not sure. Usually a suicide crisis, meaning they want to harm themselves right now, lasts a few minutes, hours or days. Sometimes when you get them through the crisis stage, they no longer want to commit suicide. But, as you are indicating, that feeling of wanting to commit suicide can come back again. So, it is always good to have a plan. If you want more information, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They will always answer: 1-800-273-8255. They can help you create a specific safety plan. I do hope things work out alright. Be well. Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPCC, NCC", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This is actually more common then we often realize, and actually understandable, as he has gone through a trauma, an unresolved existential crisis. \'a0He was taken care of by others and now is again left alone with his own internal, and rather horrific inner struggle.In my work with CCT, or Contextual Conceptual Therapy, (see www.suicidetherapy.com) I have learned how trapped suicidal\'a0people are in their own isolation, also called a ""mysterious isolation,"" a form of self protection which cuts the off from their Self, or spirit. \'a0And unless they address this message from their soul, accompany a guide on a journey to discover their own missing information, that is to recognize how their own uncomforted emotional\'a0pain has resulted in a coping stategy which has effectively cut themselves off from their own beauty, their Self, and their ability to receive love from themselves and others.\'a0Their attempt to kill themselves is a cry from their soul or spirit that they cannot live the life they are living any longer. \'a0They take this literally and try to end their life, when in fact what their soul or spirit is saying is they need to begin to live the life they came here to live.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I'm thankful to read your husband found care and that his suicide attempt wasn't successful.\'a0\'a0 While he was hospitalized, and prior to his release, your husband would've been provided in writing a self-care action plan. This typically includes things like committing to a contract 'not to harm' and what to do if he felt overwhelmed by his anger, depression, and hopelessness (e.g. call 911, call therapist, go to nearest hospital emergency department). Additionally, his protocol would've provided instructions for his taking medication(s) as directed, having a follow-up appointment(s) with his psychiatrist/psychologist/clinical social worker, and participating in some form of small group support.\'a0 If your husband's struggling as you describe, and you are feeling overwhelmed or frightened for his (your) safety, I'd encourage you to seek immediate assistance.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "Hello, and thank you for your question. This is a very serious time. I don't mean to frighten you, but you are right to be concerned. The time right after people leave the hospital after receiving psychiatric services is a time of high risk for suicide. It is very important, after hospitalization,\'a0to get\'a0follow-up care with a professional as soon as possible. If your husband has an established therapist, this is the time to call. It is also a good time to alert your support system of friends, family, clergy or others to let them know he is still struggling. This is good support for him AND you.It is important to think about means and opportunity to make another attempt. Means really do matter.\'a0 So, if you have a firearm in the home, it is really important to remove it. You can't remove all things that a person may hurt themselves with, but some things are more lethal than others. Firearms are very lethal. I am not sure what means he used last time, but try to reduce the opportunity for him to access it again. This is where your support system can help out. People can take turns hanging out with him until you are sure the crisis is over.If you believe that an attempt is going to occur, talk to your husband about going back to the hospital. If he refuses, you will want to find out what your options are to have him go even if he doesn't want to. I know the thought of that really hurts, but it can save his life. Calling 9-1-1 is always\'a0a\'a0good option if you are not sure. Usually a suicide crisis, meaning they want to harm themselves right now, lasts a few minutes, hours or days. Sometimes when you get them through the crisis stage, they no longer want to commit suicide. But, as you are indicating, that feeling of wanting to commit suicide can come back again. So, it is always good to have a plan. If you want more information, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They will always answer: 1-800-273-8255. They can help you create a specific safety plan. I do hope things work out alright. Be well. Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPCC, NCC", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This is actually more common then we often realize, and actually understandable, as he has gone through a trauma, an unresolved existential crisis. \'a0He was taken care of by others and now is again left alone with his own internal, and rather horrific inner struggle.In my work with CCT, or Contextual Conceptual Therapy, (see www.suicidetherapy.com) I have learned how trapped suicidal\'a0people are in their own isolation, also called a ""mysterious isolation,"" a form of self protection which cuts the off from their Self, or spirit. \'a0And unless they address this message from their soul, accompany a guide on a journey to discover their own missing information, that is to recognize how their own uncomforted emotional\'a0pain has resulted in a coping stategy which has effectively cut themselves off from their own beauty, their Self, and their ability to receive love from themselves and others.\'a0Their attempt to kill themselves is a cry from their soul or spirit that they cannot live the life they are living any longer. \'a0They take this literally and try to end their life, when in fact what their soul or spirit is saying is they need to begin to live the life they came here to live.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I'm thankful to read your husband found care and that his suicide attempt wasn't successful.\'a0\'a0 While he was hospitalized, and prior to his release, your husband would've been provided in writing a self-care action plan. This typically includes things like committing to a contract 'not to harm' and what to do if he felt overwhelmed by his anger, depression, and hopelessness (e.g. call 911, call therapist, go to nearest hospital emergency department). Additionally, his protocol would've provided instructions for his taking medication(s) as directed, having a follow-up appointment(s) with his psychiatrist/psychologist/clinical social worker, and participating in some form of small group support.\'a0 If your husband's struggling as you describe, and you are feeling overwhelmed or frightened for his (your) safety, I'd encourage you to seek immediate assistance.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
How can I help my husband after a suicide attempt?"After he got home from the hospital he was angry then for a time wonderful. Now he is depressed and hopeless again." | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "Hello, and thank you for your question. This is a very serious time. I don't mean to frighten you, but you are right to be concerned. The time right after people leave the hospital after receiving psychiatric services is a time of high risk for suicide. It is very important, after hospitalization,\'a0to get\'a0follow-up care with a professional as soon as possible. If your husband has an established therapist, this is the time to call. It is also a good time to alert your support system of friends, family, clergy or others to let them know he is still struggling. This is good support for him AND you.It is important to think about means and opportunity to make another attempt. Means really do matter.\'a0 So, if you have a firearm in the home, it is really important to remove it. You can't remove all things that a person may hurt themselves with, but some things are more lethal than others. Firearms are very lethal. I am not sure what means he used last time, but try to reduce the opportunity for him to access it again. This is where your support system can help out. People can take turns hanging out with him until you are sure the crisis is over.If you believe that an attempt is going to occur, talk to your husband about going back to the hospital. If he refuses, you will want to find out what your options are to have him go even if he doesn't want to. I know the thought of that really hurts, but it can save his life. Calling 9-1-1 is always\'a0a\'a0good option if you are not sure. Usually a suicide crisis, meaning they want to harm themselves right now, lasts a few minutes, hours or days. Sometimes when you get them through the crisis stage, they no longer want to commit suicide. But, as you are indicating, that feeling of wanting to commit suicide can come back again. So, it is always good to have a plan. If you want more information, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They will always answer: 1-800-273-8255. They can help you create a specific safety plan. I do hope things work out alright. Be well. Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPCC, NCC", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "This is actually more common then we often realize, and actually understandable, as he has gone through a trauma, an unresolved existential crisis. \'a0He was taken care of by others and now is again left alone with his own internal, and rather horrific inner struggle.In my work with CCT, or Contextual Conceptual Therapy, (see www.suicidetherapy.com) I have learned how trapped suicidal\'a0people are in their own isolation, also called a ""mysterious isolation,"" a form of self protection which cuts the off from their Self, or spirit. \'a0And unless they address this message from their soul, accompany a guide on a journey to discover their own missing information, that is to recognize how their own uncomforted emotional\'a0pain has resulted in a coping stategy which has effectively cut themselves off from their own beauty, their Self, and their ability to receive love from themselves and others.\'a0Their attempt to kill themselves is a cry from their soul or spirit that they cannot live the life they are living any longer. \'a0They take this literally and try to end their life, when in fact what their soul or spirit is saying is they need to begin to live the life they came here to live.", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "I'm thankful to read your husband found care and that his suicide attempt wasn't successful.\'a0\'a0 While he was hospitalized, and prior to his release, your husband would've been provided in writing a self-care action plan. This typically includes things like committing to a contract 'not to harm' and what to do if he felt overwhelmed by his anger, depression, and hopelessness (e.g. call 911, call therapist, go to nearest hospital emergency department). Additionally, his protocol would've provided instructions for his taking medication(s) as directed, having a follow-up appointment(s) with his psychiatrist/psychologist/clinical social worker, and participating in some form of small group support.\'a0 If your husband's struggling as you describe, and you are feeling overwhelmed or frightened for his (your) safety, I'd encourage you to seek immediate assistance.", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "This must be so difficult for both of you. \'a0Watching someone you love suffer so profoundly can bring up lots of difficult feelings. \'a0Without knowing what you are already doing, I have a few thoughts to share with you.\'a0First and foremost, know that you cannot fix this for him, and get support for yourself.As much as you are able, make space in your relationship for him to talk about what he is experiencing. \'a0He might not want to talk, and that is ok.If he wants to talk, try to listen without judgement and without trying to talk him out of his feelings. \'a0Focus on validating his feelings and just sitting with him in his pain.Let him know how you feel...that you love him, that you care, that you are concerned, that this is scary for you too, that you are here.I hope that this is helpful. \'a0On my website (www.sarahmcintyrelpc.com), I've written a series of blog posts about coping with distress. \'a0The techniques I've written about there may be supportive for you and your husband. \'a0Sending warm wishes your way.\'a0\'a0-Sarah", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "I appreciate that you are concerned about your husband's emotions and want to support him as best you can right now. I imagine that you must be going through your own difficult time too. You've had a complicated shock and trauma in your life and in your marriage; it's normal for both of your emotions to move from hope to despair to fear, anger, gratitude... there is no wrong way to feel and there is no particular pattern your emotions or his will follow.\'a0Try not to assume what he is feeling but ask him instead. ""How are you doing today?"" is something that can be asked over and over again and your love and compassion for him will come through. If he has a hard time talking, you can share your observations. ""I notice you're more withdrawn. This worries me."" Certainly it will help you if you know what he's thinking and feeling because he hid his intentions to hurt himself. It's normal that you want to know.\'a0If there is depression and hopelessness, this likely was part of what led to his initial despair. There is help out there. Depression is treatable, and seeking that treatment is important right now at this vulnerable time. This is the kind of complex situation that can be assisted by a therapist who is qualified to help you both understand and manage your emotions. Whether your husband seeks help or not, I hope that you do.", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "A failed suicide attempt is commonly thought of as a \'93cry for help,\'94 however it can also be a serious attempt to find a permanent solution to depression, hopelessness or other feelings a person feels are unbearable. It\'92s wonderful that you want to support your husband, but If your husband is feeling depressed and hopeless, you can best help him by getting him to a mental health professional. Feelings of hopelessness and depression, and previous attempts at suicide are all risk factors for future suicide attempts.\'a0With a mental health professional, or in the emergency room of a hospital, your husband should be evaluated for suicidal thoughts, intent and plan, and if he is a danger to himself he should probably be hospitalized again until he is stable. Without knowing the particulars, your husband may suffer from Major Depressive Disorder or some other illness on the depressive spectrum. In that case medication could help him immensely, at which point you can offer your support and encouragement him to practice gentle self-care. And do not forget to practice it for yourself. \'a0Remember: a suicide attempt not only affects the person, but it is an immense stressor for his or her loved ones as well. As they say, \'93put your oxygen mask on first.\'94 Then you will be better able to provide your husband with calm and loving care and attention.Kayla Schwartz, LMSW[email\'a0protected]", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "The fact that you're reaching out for help here is really helpful.The first thing I would suggest is that you consider seeing a local mental health professional yourself to be able to talk about the details, how this is affecting you, and how you can hold onto you are while also being supportive to you husband.From the way that you describe this, I wonder what has changed since coming home from the hospital. Perhaps you can have a conversation with your husband this and mention that you are asking him questions to learn more about his experience and you can discuss how you notice that things were going much better when he came home from the hospital, and now things are not as good. Perhaps he can tell you about what is different so that you may know him would be most helpful to him.I also hope that you husband is still continuing with his own treatment.There may also be a local peer support telephone number for the county that you live in that they be able to help you determine whether your husband needs more immediate treatment if he is feeling hopeless again. There are national crisis telephone numbers listed below as well.", | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", | "Since as husband and wife your lives are closely joined, how your husband feels greatly influences the way you feel.Give yourself some time to concentrate on how you've been affected by your husband's suicide attempt. \'a0 Even if you decide against immediately telling him how you're feeling, knowing this about yourself will guide how and the topics you bring up with him.Is your husband talking easily with you?Do you have some ideas as to what is creating his feeling of hopelessness?The ideal approach would be if the two of you are able to discuss what bothers him and what bothers you.Depending on how far away you each are from such a position, you may benefit from speaking with a licensed professional therapist who can guide you and or you and your husband on opening up for discussion what feels stressful enough to merit taking one's own life.", |
Why do I feel worthless and tired?I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. Everything I do is crappy. I want to cry all the time. I can't eat or sleep. | "You are describing some of the most common symptoms of depression: low self esteem, difficulty sleeping, changes in appetite, sad mood, feelings of hopeless and feelings of worthlessness. A full assessment/evaluation with a mental health professional is warranted to understand if indeed you meet criteria for a Major Depressive Disorder i.e.., are delressed. One thing I often tell patients is that ""Do you think you are depressed?"" People often answer yes or no, but many individuals respond with a question: How would I know? To that I often explain that if I stopped watching movies or better, stopped enjoying watching movies that would be a clear indication for me that I am delressed. It would be a sign that I have lost pleasure or interest in the activity that I typically enjoy most . I'll ask you to think of one activity which you really really enjoy. \'a0It could be anything from reading, to being with friends, to skiing to watching tv. \'a0I would like to now ask you if you have stopped enjoying that activity or can't find the motivation to engage in it? This is another symptom of depression: loss in pleasurable activities. The good news is that there are many effective, available treatment if you are indeed in a depression or simply, you want to modify/decrease your depressive symptoms i.e., you want to stop feeling so tired and so worthless. Treatment includes one or more of the following: psychotherapy, medication, exercise. Any one or combination of both of these can help to improve your mood. The even better news is that feeling that you are doing something wrong can diminish with appropriate treatment over time. \'a0I hope you find this information helpful. The most important next step is to get evaluated by a mental health professional typically a psychologist or psychiatrist, and for both you and the professional to better understand your symptoms and your mood in the context of what is going on in your life.", | "It seems like you are very receptive of your husband\'92s emotions and want to support him trough this time. \'a0But it is also important of being aware of your emotions. \'a0How are you feeling after the suicide attempt?\'a0 It is common to experience negative feelings while you try to make sense of the incident. \'a0Feelings like anger, shame, guilt and fear are frequent; while, wanting to avoid, minimize and become distant from the person are parts of the defense mechanism to attempt a quick resolution. \'a0Once you understand and overcome those feelings you may be in a better position to help your husband; who may be experiencing some negative feelings as well.First, it is important to have a safety plan in place, which includes removing harming objects from the home, knowing who to call if there\'92s a new attempt (either 9-1-1, or nearby treatment center), have a professional expert who monitors you and your husband\'92s progress, either a Counselor or mental health provider could help you manage negative feelings and identify ways to handle triggering situations.Once the safety plan is in place, \'a0make him feel supported and not judged, saying open ended statements, like: \'93I am glad that you are here, please let me know what I can do to help you through this process\'94.\'a0 Making small changes toward a healthier living may help as well.\'a0 Exercising, eating healthier and practicing new leisure activities may be good ways to start.\'a0 Also, explore your spirituality and your husbands, looking for ways to encourage each other by joining a support group or finding people who share your spiritual beliefs.If you have more questions or concerns I offer teletherapy in the State of Texas, and traditional Counseling in Puerto Rico, call 787-466-5478.\'a0\'bfC\'f3mo puedo ayudar a mi esposo despu\'e9s de un intento de suicidio?Despu\'e9s de que el llego a casa del hospital estaba enojado, luego por un tiempo maravilloso.\'a0 Ahora est\'e1 deprimido y sin \'e1nimos.Parece que estas muy atenta a los sentimientos de tu esposo, y que lo deseas ayudar durante este momento de su vida.\'a0 Pero tambi\'e9n es importante estar consciente de tus propias emociones.\'a0 \'bfC\'f3mo te has sentido luego de este intento de suicidio? \'a0\'a0Es com\'fan que experimentes emociones negativas mientras los recientes sucesos hacen sentido.\'a0\'a0 Sentimientos como coraje, verg\'fcenza, culpa y miedo son comunes, y el querer evitar, minimizar o distanciarte son mecanismos de defensa igualmente comunes.\'a0 Ya que comprendas y superes estos sentimientos,\'a0 estar\'e1s en una mejor posici\'f3n para ofrecerle ayuda, recuerda que tu esposo tambi\'e9n debe de estar experimentando sentimientos negativos.\'a0Es muy importante tener un plan de seguridad, esto incluye remover todos los objetos que pueden ser da\'f1inos o facilitar un futuro atentado, saber a qui\'e9n llamar en caso de una emergencia (9-1-1 o una cl\'ednica de emergencias cercana),\'a0 tener un experto que monitoree tu progreso y el de tu esposo, puede ser un Consejero u otro experto de salud mental que te ayude a manejar los sentimientos negativos y situaciones retantes.Ya que el plan de seguridad sea activado, crea un ambiente donde tu esposo se sienta apoyado y no juzgado.\'a0 Utiliza frases abiertas para comunicarte, dile que estas feliz de que este contigo, y quieres saber c\'f3mo puedes ayudarlo durante esta etapa. \'a0\'a0Tambi\'e9n haz cambios peque\'f1os para mejorar su calidad de vida como pareja.\'a0 Hacer ejercicios, comer m\'e1s saludable y compartir actividades puede ser un buen comienzo. Explorar tu espiritualidad y la de tu esposo tambi\'e9n puede ser de ayuda, y encontrar personas o grupos que compartan esos mismos intereses puede ser una manera de mantenerse motivados.Si tienes m\'e1s preguntas o preocupaciones sobre el tema, ofrezco teleterapia en Texas y Consejer\'eda Tradicional en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478 para m\'e1s informaci\'f3n.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "The fact that you mention that he is ""constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out,"" suggests that Discernment Counseling might be a really good fit for you both. Discernment counseling is a protocol for partners where one or both aren't certain they want to remain in the relationship. It's a brief (1-5 sessions) and intentionally focused on helping partners talk through (primarily individually) their reasons for and against staying in the relationship - as well as confront their own contributions that lead to the relationship crisis. It's aimed at helping the couple reach a clear understanding of which path they are going to take, not asking anyone to change just yet, so it can be a lot less intimidating and more to the point than couples therapy. \'a0You can look to find a local therapist providing this service here.\'a0That said, I agree with other respondents that if he is deciding to leave, seeking out support for yourself would be incredibly helpful.\'a0You may need to accept his decision, but you can certainly feel whatever emotions you have.\'a0\'a0You are allowed to feel exactly how you feel, and it's likely you'll be sad, or angry or hurt or disappointed or scared, or any combination of any/all of those.\'a0Having someone there who can validate those emotions and help you to process the grief that naturally comes with the end of a relationship can be a huge help in finding a place of healing and regaining a sense of self, a sense of hope.", | "I'm sorry for the hurt you're feeling from your husband's decision.Keep in mind that if one partner does not want to be in a relationship and remains in it, then both people will be unhappy, dissatisfied and feel stressed.Imagine being in a relationship that you'd rather leave.All the negative feelings and resentment of being with someone whom you'd rather be without, would not leave very much energy to satisfy your partner.I'm glad you realize that you feel depressed.Depression is a mood that can change once you understand what is causing it.Depression is an area that very often therapists help their patients understand, and emotionally support and encourage them during the course this takes.For now, concentrate on decreasing the tension in your life. \'a0Your husband's indecision may very well be adding to your stress.Only he can make up his own mind.As hard as this may be, all you really can do is take care of how you feel so that you will feel better.From what you write, your husband is too unsure to offer you the love and care you'd like from him.Learning to love oneself is always worthwhile. \'a0 At this stage in your marriage, now sounds like an ideal opportunity for you to teach yourself self-love.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "Although the marriage vows say in sickness and health, each person has the right to choose to stay or to leave, depending on their ability to cope and handle marriage challenges.\'a0 I know is hard not to focus on him and his choice, but the more you put the focus of attention on him the least support you will receive. Focus on increasing self-care activities and building a support system around you.\'a0 A therapist can help you to work with depression symptoms, build up your self-esteem, and developing coping skills.\'a0 Also, invite him to a therapy session so he can clarify any questions and concerns regarding your diagnosis.If you would like to engage in therapy, I am licensed in Texas and Puerto Rico, you can contact me at 787-466-5478.Mi esposo quiere divorciarse despu\'e9s que fui diagnosticada con depresi\'f3n severa.El dijo que intentar\'eda y nunca lo hizo.\'a0 Has pasado nueve meses, y esto me est\'e1 haciendo sentir peor.\'a0\'a0 Hoy, el dijo que yo debo respetar la decisi\'f3n que el tome.\'a0\'a0 \'bfEs eso cierto? \'bfSE supone que respete la decisi\'f3n de irse porque \'e9l no puede manejar lo que yo estoy pasando y me deja llorando y preocupada cada noche?\'a0 El cambia de opini\'f3n todo el tiempo.A pesar de que los votos matrimoniales dicen en la salud y la enfermedad, cada persona tiene el derecho de decidir si se queda o se va, dependiendo en su habilidad de lidiar los retos del matrimonio.\'a0 Entiendo que es dif\'edcil evitar enfocarte en \'e9l y sus decisiones, pero mientras m\'e1s enfocas tu atenci\'f3n en el, m\'e1s vas a resentir la falta de apoyo.\'a0 Enf\'f3cate en aumentar el cuidado personal y en desarrollar tu sistema de apoyo.\'a0 Un terapista te puede ayudar a trabajar con los s\'edntomas de depresi\'f3n, mejorar tu autoestima y desarrollar mecanismos de defensa.\'a0 Tambi\'e9n puedes invitar a tu esposo a terapia para hablar sobre tu diagnosis y que aclare dudas sobre los s\'edntomas y expectativas.Si te gustar\'eda recibir terapia, soy Consejera Profesional Licenciada en Texas y en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478.", | "I'm sorry for the hurt you're feeling from your husband's decision.Keep in mind that if one partner does not want to be in a relationship and remains in it, then both people will be unhappy, dissatisfied and feel stressed.Imagine being in a relationship that you'd rather leave.All the negative feelings and resentment of being with someone whom you'd rather be without, would not leave very much energy to satisfy your partner.I'm glad you realize that you feel depressed.Depression is a mood that can change once you understand what is causing it.Depression is an area that very often therapists help their patients understand, and emotionally support and encourage them during the course this takes.For now, concentrate on decreasing the tension in your life. \'a0Your husband's indecision may very well be adding to your stress.Only he can make up his own mind.As hard as this may be, all you really can do is take care of how you feel so that you will feel better.From what you write, your husband is too unsure to offer you the love and care you'd like from him.Learning to love oneself is always worthwhile. \'a0 At this stage in your marriage, now sounds like an ideal opportunity for you to teach yourself self-love.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "When you are at your lowest, you have an opportunity to learn not just about the people around you and who you can depend on, but also, so much about yourself and why you have come to the place that you have. Take this time to do some introspection and learn yourself. It will give you the power to recover from whatever it is that has broken you. We'd love to talk with you. Please contact us sometime.", | "I'm sorry for the hurt you're feeling from your husband's decision.Keep in mind that if one partner does not want to be in a relationship and remains in it, then both people will be unhappy, dissatisfied and feel stressed.Imagine being in a relationship that you'd rather leave.All the negative feelings and resentment of being with someone whom you'd rather be without, would not leave very much energy to satisfy your partner.I'm glad you realize that you feel depressed.Depression is a mood that can change once you understand what is causing it.Depression is an area that very often therapists help their patients understand, and emotionally support and encourage them during the course this takes.For now, concentrate on decreasing the tension in your life. \'a0Your husband's indecision may very well be adding to your stress.Only he can make up his own mind.As hard as this may be, all you really can do is take care of how you feel so that you will feel better.From what you write, your husband is too unsure to offer you the love and care you'd like from him.Learning to love oneself is always worthwhile. \'a0 At this stage in your marriage, now sounds like an ideal opportunity for you to teach yourself self-love.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "I'm sorry for the hurt you're feeling from your husband's decision.Keep in mind that if one partner does not want to be in a relationship and remains in it, then both people will be unhappy, dissatisfied and feel stressed.Imagine being in a relationship that you'd rather leave.All the negative feelings and resentment of being with someone whom you'd rather be without, would not leave very much energy to satisfy your partner.I'm glad you realize that you feel depressed.Depression is a mood that can change once you understand what is causing it.Depression is an area that very often therapists help their patients understand, and emotionally support and encourage them during the course this takes.For now, concentrate on decreasing the tension in your life. \'a0Your husband's indecision may very well be adding to your stress.Only he can make up his own mind.As hard as this may be, all you really can do is take care of how you feel so that you will feel better.From what you write, your husband is too unsure to offer you the love and care you'd like from him.Learning to love oneself is always worthwhile. \'a0 At this stage in your marriage, now sounds like an ideal opportunity for you to teach yourself self-love.", | "If your husband is changing his mind about whether or not he wants to stay in the relationship, I wonder if you both might benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in couples. In my training working with couples, partners come into counseling with one of three goals in mind: strengthening the relationship, getting a divorce, or making a decision. The decision could be whether or not stay together or it could be any number of other things, such as what state to live in.When you ask whether you have to respect whatever decision he makes, respecting his decision does not mean that you have to agree with what he decides. While you do not have the power to change his decision, he also does not have the power to change yours or how you feel about it. Having said that, if he is changing his mind a lot, chances are that the only decision he has made is that he needs to make a decision. Weighing the options of an important decision (any type of important decision) can be anxiety-producing its own right.The fact that you said you were diagnosed with severe depression leads me to believe that you are already seeing a therapist. Perhaps he or she can assist you in navigating through this. I'm wondering how you feel when you are around your husband. I'm not sure whether you are saying that having him there is a source of comfort for you or that it leads you to feel more sad. Maybe it is a little bit of both.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "Although the marriage vows say in sickness and health, each person has the right to choose to stay or to leave, depending on their ability to cope and handle marriage challenges.\'a0 I know is hard not to focus on him and his choice, but the more you put the focus of attention on him the least support you will receive. Focus on increasing self-care activities and building a support system around you.\'a0 A therapist can help you to work with depression symptoms, build up your self-esteem, and developing coping skills.\'a0 Also, invite him to a therapy session so he can clarify any questions and concerns regarding your diagnosis.If you would like to engage in therapy, I am licensed in Texas and Puerto Rico, you can contact me at 787-466-5478.Mi esposo quiere divorciarse despu\'e9s que fui diagnosticada con depresi\'f3n severa.El dijo que intentar\'eda y nunca lo hizo.\'a0 Has pasado nueve meses, y esto me est\'e1 haciendo sentir peor.\'a0\'a0 Hoy, el dijo que yo debo respetar la decisi\'f3n que el tome.\'a0\'a0 \'bfEs eso cierto? \'bfSE supone que respete la decisi\'f3n de irse porque \'e9l no puede manejar lo que yo estoy pasando y me deja llorando y preocupada cada noche?\'a0 El cambia de opini\'f3n todo el tiempo.A pesar de que los votos matrimoniales dicen en la salud y la enfermedad, cada persona tiene el derecho de decidir si se queda o se va, dependiendo en su habilidad de lidiar los retos del matrimonio.\'a0 Entiendo que es dif\'edcil evitar enfocarte en \'e9l y sus decisiones, pero mientras m\'e1s enfocas tu atenci\'f3n en el, m\'e1s vas a resentir la falta de apoyo.\'a0 Enf\'f3cate en aumentar el cuidado personal y en desarrollar tu sistema de apoyo.\'a0 Un terapista te puede ayudar a trabajar con los s\'edntomas de depresi\'f3n, mejorar tu autoestima y desarrollar mecanismos de defensa.\'a0 Tambi\'e9n puedes invitar a tu esposo a terapia para hablar sobre tu diagnosis y que aclare dudas sobre los s\'edntomas y expectativas.Si te gustar\'eda recibir terapia, soy Consejera Profesional Licenciada en Texas y en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478.", | "The fact that you mention that he is ""constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out,"" suggests that Discernment Counseling might be a really good fit for you both. Discernment counseling is a protocol for partners where one or both aren't certain they want to remain in the relationship. It's a brief (1-5 sessions) and intentionally focused on helping partners talk through (primarily individually) their reasons for and against staying in the relationship - as well as confront their own contributions that lead to the relationship crisis. It's aimed at helping the couple reach a clear understanding of which path they are going to take, not asking anyone to change just yet, so it can be a lot less intimidating and more to the point than couples therapy. \'a0You can look to find a local therapist providing this service here.\'a0That said, I agree with other respondents that if he is deciding to leave, seeking out support for yourself would be incredibly helpful.\'a0You may need to accept his decision, but you can certainly feel whatever emotions you have.\'a0\'a0You are allowed to feel exactly how you feel, and it's likely you'll be sad, or angry or hurt or disappointed or scared, or any combination of any/all of those.\'a0Having someone there who can validate those emotions and help you to process the grief that naturally comes with the end of a relationship can be a huge help in finding a place of healing and regaining a sense of self, a sense of hope.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "The fact that you mention that he is ""constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out,"" suggests that Discernment Counseling might be a really good fit for you both. Discernment counseling is a protocol for partners where one or both aren't certain they want to remain in the relationship. It's a brief (1-5 sessions) and intentionally focused on helping partners talk through (primarily individually) their reasons for and against staying in the relationship - as well as confront their own contributions that lead to the relationship crisis. It's aimed at helping the couple reach a clear understanding of which path they are going to take, not asking anyone to change just yet, so it can be a lot less intimidating and more to the point than couples therapy. \'a0You can look to find a local therapist providing this service here.\'a0That said, I agree with other respondents that if he is deciding to leave, seeking out support for yourself would be incredibly helpful.\'a0You may need to accept his decision, but you can certainly feel whatever emotions you have.\'a0\'a0You are allowed to feel exactly how you feel, and it's likely you'll be sad, or angry or hurt or disappointed or scared, or any combination of any/all of those.\'a0Having someone there who can validate those emotions and help you to process the grief that naturally comes with the end of a relationship can be a huge help in finding a place of healing and regaining a sense of self, a sense of hope.", | "When you are at your lowest, you have an opportunity to learn not just about the people around you and who you can depend on, but also, so much about yourself and why you have come to the place that you have. Take this time to do some introspection and learn yourself. It will give you the power to recover from whatever it is that has broken you. We'd love to talk with you. Please contact us sometime.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "The fact that you mention that he is ""constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out,"" suggests that Discernment Counseling might be a really good fit for you both. Discernment counseling is a protocol for partners where one or both aren't certain they want to remain in the relationship. It's a brief (1-5 sessions) and intentionally focused on helping partners talk through (primarily individually) their reasons for and against staying in the relationship - as well as confront their own contributions that lead to the relationship crisis. It's aimed at helping the couple reach a clear understanding of which path they are going to take, not asking anyone to change just yet, so it can be a lot less intimidating and more to the point than couples therapy. \'a0You can look to find a local therapist providing this service here.\'a0That said, I agree with other respondents that if he is deciding to leave, seeking out support for yourself would be incredibly helpful.\'a0You may need to accept his decision, but you can certainly feel whatever emotions you have.\'a0\'a0You are allowed to feel exactly how you feel, and it's likely you'll be sad, or angry or hurt or disappointed or scared, or any combination of any/all of those.\'a0Having someone there who can validate those emotions and help you to process the grief that naturally comes with the end of a relationship can be a huge help in finding a place of healing and regaining a sense of self, a sense of hope.", | "If your husband is changing his mind about whether or not he wants to stay in the relationship, I wonder if you both might benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in couples. In my training working with couples, partners come into counseling with one of three goals in mind: strengthening the relationship, getting a divorce, or making a decision. The decision could be whether or not stay together or it could be any number of other things, such as what state to live in.When you ask whether you have to respect whatever decision he makes, respecting his decision does not mean that you have to agree with what he decides. While you do not have the power to change his decision, he also does not have the power to change yours or how you feel about it. Having said that, if he is changing his mind a lot, chances are that the only decision he has made is that he needs to make a decision. Weighing the options of an important decision (any type of important decision) can be anxiety-producing its own right.The fact that you said you were diagnosed with severe depression leads me to believe that you are already seeing a therapist. Perhaps he or she can assist you in navigating through this. I'm wondering how you feel when you are around your husband. I'm not sure whether you are saying that having him there is a source of comfort for you or that it leads you to feel more sad. Maybe it is a little bit of both.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "Although the marriage vows say in sickness and health, each person has the right to choose to stay or to leave, depending on their ability to cope and handle marriage challenges.\'a0 I know is hard not to focus on him and his choice, but the more you put the focus of attention on him the least support you will receive. Focus on increasing self-care activities and building a support system around you.\'a0 A therapist can help you to work with depression symptoms, build up your self-esteem, and developing coping skills.\'a0 Also, invite him to a therapy session so he can clarify any questions and concerns regarding your diagnosis.If you would like to engage in therapy, I am licensed in Texas and Puerto Rico, you can contact me at 787-466-5478.Mi esposo quiere divorciarse despu\'e9s que fui diagnosticada con depresi\'f3n severa.El dijo que intentar\'eda y nunca lo hizo.\'a0 Has pasado nueve meses, y esto me est\'e1 haciendo sentir peor.\'a0\'a0 Hoy, el dijo que yo debo respetar la decisi\'f3n que el tome.\'a0\'a0 \'bfEs eso cierto? \'bfSE supone que respete la decisi\'f3n de irse porque \'e9l no puede manejar lo que yo estoy pasando y me deja llorando y preocupada cada noche?\'a0 El cambia de opini\'f3n todo el tiempo.A pesar de que los votos matrimoniales dicen en la salud y la enfermedad, cada persona tiene el derecho de decidir si se queda o se va, dependiendo en su habilidad de lidiar los retos del matrimonio.\'a0 Entiendo que es dif\'edcil evitar enfocarte en \'e9l y sus decisiones, pero mientras m\'e1s enfocas tu atenci\'f3n en el, m\'e1s vas a resentir la falta de apoyo.\'a0 Enf\'f3cate en aumentar el cuidado personal y en desarrollar tu sistema de apoyo.\'a0 Un terapista te puede ayudar a trabajar con los s\'edntomas de depresi\'f3n, mejorar tu autoestima y desarrollar mecanismos de defensa.\'a0 Tambi\'e9n puedes invitar a tu esposo a terapia para hablar sobre tu diagnosis y que aclare dudas sobre los s\'edntomas y expectativas.Si te gustar\'eda recibir terapia, soy Consejera Profesional Licenciada en Texas y en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478.", | "When you are at your lowest, you have an opportunity to learn not just about the people around you and who you can depend on, but also, so much about yourself and why you have come to the place that you have. Take this time to do some introspection and learn yourself. It will give you the power to recover from whatever it is that has broken you. We'd love to talk with you. Please contact us sometime.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "Although the marriage vows say in sickness and health, each person has the right to choose to stay or to leave, depending on their ability to cope and handle marriage challenges.\'a0 I know is hard not to focus on him and his choice, but the more you put the focus of attention on him the least support you will receive. Focus on increasing self-care activities and building a support system around you.\'a0 A therapist can help you to work with depression symptoms, build up your self-esteem, and developing coping skills.\'a0 Also, invite him to a therapy session so he can clarify any questions and concerns regarding your diagnosis.If you would like to engage in therapy, I am licensed in Texas and Puerto Rico, you can contact me at 787-466-5478.Mi esposo quiere divorciarse despu\'e9s que fui diagnosticada con depresi\'f3n severa.El dijo que intentar\'eda y nunca lo hizo.\'a0 Has pasado nueve meses, y esto me est\'e1 haciendo sentir peor.\'a0\'a0 Hoy, el dijo que yo debo respetar la decisi\'f3n que el tome.\'a0\'a0 \'bfEs eso cierto? \'bfSE supone que respete la decisi\'f3n de irse porque \'e9l no puede manejar lo que yo estoy pasando y me deja llorando y preocupada cada noche?\'a0 El cambia de opini\'f3n todo el tiempo.A pesar de que los votos matrimoniales dicen en la salud y la enfermedad, cada persona tiene el derecho de decidir si se queda o se va, dependiendo en su habilidad de lidiar los retos del matrimonio.\'a0 Entiendo que es dif\'edcil evitar enfocarte en \'e9l y sus decisiones, pero mientras m\'e1s enfocas tu atenci\'f3n en el, m\'e1s vas a resentir la falta de apoyo.\'a0 Enf\'f3cate en aumentar el cuidado personal y en desarrollar tu sistema de apoyo.\'a0 Un terapista te puede ayudar a trabajar con los s\'edntomas de depresi\'f3n, mejorar tu autoestima y desarrollar mecanismos de defensa.\'a0 Tambi\'e9n puedes invitar a tu esposo a terapia para hablar sobre tu diagnosis y que aclare dudas sobre los s\'edntomas y expectativas.Si te gustar\'eda recibir terapia, soy Consejera Profesional Licenciada en Texas y en Puerto Rico, llama al 787-466-5478.", | "If your husband is changing his mind about whether or not he wants to stay in the relationship, I wonder if you both might benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in couples. In my training working with couples, partners come into counseling with one of three goals in mind: strengthening the relationship, getting a divorce, or making a decision. The decision could be whether or not stay together or it could be any number of other things, such as what state to live in.When you ask whether you have to respect whatever decision he makes, respecting his decision does not mean that you have to agree with what he decides. While you do not have the power to change his decision, he also does not have the power to change yours or how you feel about it. Having said that, if he is changing his mind a lot, chances are that the only decision he has made is that he needs to make a decision. Weighing the options of an important decision (any type of important decision) can be anxiety-producing its own right.The fact that you said you were diagnosed with severe depression leads me to believe that you are already seeing a therapist. Perhaps he or she can assist you in navigating through this. I'm wondering how you feel when you are around your husband. I'm not sure whether you are saying that having him there is a source of comfort for you or that it leads you to feel more sad. Maybe it is a little bit of both.", |
My husband wants a divorce after I was diagnosed with severe depression"He said he would try and he never did. It's been nine months and this is making me worse. Today he said I have to respect whatever decision he makes. Is that true? Am I supposed to respect the decision to leave because he can't handle what I'm going through and leaves me here crying and worried every night? He's constantly changing his mind on if he wants to work it out." | "When you are at your lowest, you have an opportunity to learn not just about the people around you and who you can depend on, but also, so much about yourself and why you have come to the place that you have. Take this time to do some introspection and learn yourself. It will give you the power to recover from whatever it is that has broken you. We'd love to talk with you. Please contact us sometime.", | "If your husband is changing his mind about whether or not he wants to stay in the relationship, I wonder if you both might benefit from seeing a therapist who specializes in couples. In my training working with couples, partners come into counseling with one of three goals in mind: strengthening the relationship, getting a divorce, or making a decision. The decision could be whether or not stay together or it could be any number of other things, such as what state to live in.When you ask whether you have to respect whatever decision he makes, respecting his decision does not mean that you have to agree with what he decides. While you do not have the power to change his decision, he also does not have the power to change yours or how you feel about it. Having said that, if he is changing his mind a lot, chances are that the only decision he has made is that he needs to make a decision. Weighing the options of an important decision (any type of important decision) can be anxiety-producing its own right.The fact that you said you were diagnosed with severe depression leads me to believe that you are already seeing a therapist. Perhaps he or she can assist you in navigating through this. I'm wondering how you feel when you are around your husband. I'm not sure whether you are saying that having him there is a source of comfort for you or that it leads you to feel more sad. Maybe it is a little bit of both.", |
How do I tell my parents that I think I have some mental problems?I am pretty sure I have depression and anxiety. I also have voices in my head. I have problems sleeping too. I've already been diagnosed with attention-deficit disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. I have self-harmed in the last and used to be suicidal. How do I tell them this and ask for therapy? | "What stops you now from telling your parents the way you are feeling?Do you imagine asking them for therapy would be a surprise for them?If they're paying attention to you at all, then I imagine they'd feel relief to know you're aware of having some feelings within yourself of a problem.If you believe they'd have a negative reaction to you asking for help, this may very well be part of why you are having problems in the first place.What reaction did your parents have when you were diagnosed with the other conditions?I'd separate their willingness to help you from your sense of needing help.If they do not want to help with finding a therapist for you, then start by looking for services available for people in your age group whose parents also do not wish to be involved in their child's emotional and psychological health.", | "Family support is very helpful when having these symptoms. \'a0I suggest looking for therapist within reach (school, through your insurance\'a0or the community, calling 2-1-1). \'a0Once you schedule a session, you can inform them and invite them to come in. \'a0 I have found trough sceptic parents, that once they give it a chance they open up to the process of learning and healing.\'a0 I also understand that parents may become overly concerned and overprotective when hearing about your symptoms, and that\'92s why is important to discuss them with a therapist, normalize them, understand why you experience them, and learn how they could help you. \'bfC\'f3mo les digo a mis padres que yo pienso que tengo problemas mentales?Estoy seguro que tengo depresi\'f3n\'a0 ansiedad.\'a0 Tambi\'e9n escucho voces en mi cabeza.\'a0 Tengo problemas para dormir tambi\'e9n.\'a0 Y he sido diagnosticado con d\'e9ficit de atenci\'f3n y desorden obsesivo compulsivo.\'a0 Me he auto flagelado y sol\'eda tener ideas suicidas.\'a0 Como les dejo saber y les pido ayuda.El apoyo de la familia es muy \'fatil cuando se experimentan los s\'edntomas que mencionas.\'a0 Te sugiero que busques un consejero (en la escuela, a trav\'e9s de tu plan m\'e9dico, o en la comunidad, llamando al 2-1-1). \'a0Ya que tengas tu cita, invita a tus padres.\'a0 He observado que aunque algunos padres son esc\'e9pticos al principio, pero una vez le dan una oportunidad se abren al proceso de terapia y sus beneficios. Tambi\'e9n he observado que algunos padres se vuelven sobreprotectores cuando aprenden de los s\'edntomas que sufren sus hijos, as\'ed que ser\'eda otro beneficio que aprendieran que pueden hacer para ayudarte y apoyarte.", |
How can I bring up my possible depression to my parents?"I am not sure if I am depressed. I don't know how to bring it up to my parents and that makes me miserable." | "I am so sorry you are struggling! \'a0I do think it's a good idea to share your feelings with your parents and perhaps get some help connecting with a counselor or therapist if you feel that might help. \'a0There are lots of ways to tell them, depending on your relationship. \'a0Maybe saying ""I wanted to tell you guys something.. sometimes I worry that I might be depressed."" Or, some folks will write a letter, or even send a text. \'a0The most important thing is that you tell someone you trust so you don't feel so miserable. I hope this helps. \'a0Best of luck.", | "Depending on your relationship with your parents, inviting them to have a conversation might be a good first step. \'a0If they consent then you can have the opportunity to discuss your concerns with them. \'a0Inviting someone to a conversation and getting their agreement is a great first step. I would then make sure your location of the discussion is conducive to the conversation and once all that is considered it might be beneficial that you make a list of your concerns prior to the meeting. \'a0this can help keep you on point.", |
How can I manage my anxiety and depression so I can feel normal again?My motivation has gone away. It's hard to get out of bed. I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm miserable. My anxiety and depression have taken over my life. | "One of the first steps is to manage anxiety and depression symptoms are to establish a good\'a0self-care\'a0routine.\'a0 Start with the most basic things: Eating balanced meals, sleeping at from 6-8 hours and exercise at least 30 minutes a day.\'a0 These will help you to regulate the chemical imbalance that\'a0affects\'a0your mood, plus exercising gives you time to vent and be distracted from your thoughts.\'a0 Once basic\'a0self-care\'a0is established, I suggest that is a good time to start exploring the source of these feelings, and address them trough therapy.\'a0 If you have difficulty initiating\'a0self-care\'a0routine talk to your therapist about what motivates you and pushes you to do things, you might find the key during the process. \'a0You could also contact your physician or a psychiatrist to discuss medication\'a0options\'a0if it\'92s too challenging to begin basic\'a0self-care.\'bfC\'f3mo puedo manejar mi ansiedad y depresi\'f3n para sentirme normal otra vez?Mi motivaci\'f3n se ha ido. Es dif\'edcil salir de la cama.\'a0 No s\'e9 qu\'e9 hacer.\'a0 Soy Miserable.\'a0 Mi ansiedad y depresi\'f3n han tomado el control de mi vida.Uno de los primeros pasos para manejar la ansiedad y la depresi\'f3n es establecer una buena rutina de cuidado personal.\'a0 Comienza con las cosas m\'e1s b\'e1sicas: Comer comidas balanceadas, dormir de 6-8 horas en la noche, y ejercitarte por lo menos 30 minutos al d\'eda. Esto te ayudara a regular el desbalance qu\'edmico que afecta tu estado de \'e1nimo, adem\'e1s de que te da tiempo para desahogarte y distraerte.\'a0 Ya que la rutina de cuidado eta establecida, es un buen momento para comenzar a explorar la fuente de tus sentimientos negativos, y expl\'f3ralos a trav\'e9s de terapia. Si se dificulta comenzar a crear una rutina puedes consultar con tu terapista para identificar motivaciones que te impulsen a comenzar.\'a0 Tambi\'e9n puedes contactar a tu medico primario o psiquiatra para discutir medicamentos que te pueden ayudar a manejar estos s\'edntomas e iniciar cuidado b\'e1sico.", | "It is challenging to maintain motivation at all times, anxiety and depression can set in which can make interacting with others a \'a0struggle, it can lead us to do things that make us not feel good and we become isolated. \'a0This ends up feeding into a cycle that maintains the anxiety/depression loop \'a0and can be really challenging to step out of it. \'a0You are in a place of awareness and this is the first step in making changes that can help you feel better. \'a0It is really one step at a time, a concrete plan, with self-compassion to build the solid ground you need to come out of this.\'a0 |
How can I control my anxiety?"I started having anxiety three months ago. I'm new to having anxiety and it's making me depressed." | "I agree with Cory. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) does seem to help a lot of people who struggle with anxiety. It's not the only type of therapy that can help, but it seems to help people in a way that is more natural and realistic. As Cory mentioned, anxiety is something that is part of life, so therapies that indicate we can get rid of it are questionable. Our natural inclination when we have anxiety is to STOP any and all things that may cause it or provoke it. We do this because we think it will help, but it actually doesn't. Anxiety usually has us rehashing the past or rehearsing the future\'a0while ignoring the present. ACT helps folks who have those kinds of tendencies. Be well..Robin J. Landwehr, DBH, LPC, NCC", | "As a past sufferer of anxiety myself, I have learned that it is a natural part of life, it is a natural part of us, the longer we try to run from it the more it entangles us in its clutches, if we deny certain parts of ourselves we will become depressed or even oppressed, the only way to deal with anxiety is to embrace it and accept it, and in fighting the fight without fighting we will eventually win, I would encourage you to look into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, your answer I think lies in that area of research. Hope this helps,C", |
Why have I been feeling empty lately?"I have a lot on my mind but all I want to do is stay locked in my room and not socialize with anyone. Why do I feel so alone?" | "There is a difference in someone agreeing to try something and agreeing to continue to do it. Have you ever been willing to try something and then decided you did not like it? A type of food? A sport? A new restaurant? A type of dance? So this does not mean that things have changed between you. It does mean that the two of you may need to spend some time to find out what you both like.\'a0Instead of looking at it as a rejection, look at it as a challenge, an adventure that the two of you can go on as explorers together. Some couples have even found it helpful to each write down ten things they would like the other person to try and then each person can pick three things from the other person's list to add into their life together when they chose to over the next few weeks.", | "There are many possible issues to consider as depression \'a0social anxieties, even medical illness. \'a0For some, even grief creates a sense of isolation, pains from relationship break up. \'a0Also, obsessive thinking can be debilitating. \'a0Seeking at least one trusted friend or family member can be a start towards increased personal support. \'a0Some persons may simply feel connected by spending time with someone as this, even if not talking directly on issues, just being around another is positive. \'a0Obviously there is more to explore on this question, given minimal information from two sentences.", |
How can I get over my posttraumatic stress disorder without my parents knowing about it?"I've had posttraumatic stress disorder for years without my parents ever finding out. I want to overcome it but it\'s so vivid it\'s like it\'s happening again. I'm scared and paranoid. I have depression which I have been struggling with since a young age." | "What is the reason you wouldn't want your parents to know you are trying to find your way through PTSD?Would they believe that you've been traumatized?And, do you feel that your parents had a hand in creating your trauma?There is no need to tell your parents you have PTSD unless you feel that doing so will help you. \'a0 Maybe you intuitively realize that they don't want to understand or know about this.How did you come to the conclusion that you have PTSD?If you are working with a therapist, and a minor, then \'a0the laws of your State dictate what information your parents can ask your therapist about you.If you are a grown person and working with a therapist, \'a0you have complete legally protected privacy of what you talk about with your therapist.In any case, a good starting point is to know exactly your own reason for wishing to keep your psychological situation hidden from your parents.", | "Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a very complex issue.\'a0 It is the root cause of many other issues including depression, anxiety and anger to name a few.\'a0 Re-experiencing the event is a telltale symptom of PTSD.\'a0 One of the best things you can do for yourself is to find someone who specializes in this area\'a0to help you work through the symptoms associated with this disorder as well as directly addressing the event/events that initially caused the symptoms.\'a0 There are various treatment methods available to helping professionals that are successful in treating this disorder.\'a0 In the meantime there is a book called ""The Body Keeps the Score"", it is\'a0informative and\'a0may be helpful for you on your journey.\'a0 It is my hope that you are not dealing with this alone.\'a0\'a0 Best wishes!", |
How can I get over my posttraumatic stress disorder without my parents knowing about it?"I've had posttraumatic stress disorder for years without my parents ever finding out. I want to overcome it but it\'s so vivid it\'s like it\'s happening again. I'm scared and paranoid. I have depression which I have been struggling with since a young age." | "What is the reason you wouldn't want your parents to know you are trying to find your way through PTSD?Would they believe that you've been traumatized?And, do you feel that your parents had a hand in creating your trauma?There is no need to tell your parents you have PTSD unless you feel that doing so will help you. \'a0 Maybe you intuitively realize that they don't want to understand or know about this.How did you come to the conclusion that you have PTSD?If you are working with a therapist, and a minor, then \'a0the laws of your State dictate what information your parents can ask your therapist about you.If you are a grown person and working with a therapist, \'a0you have complete legally protected privacy of what you talk about with your therapist.In any case, a good starting point is to know exactly your own reason for wishing to keep your psychological situation hidden from your parents.", | "Unfortunately, ptsd is not something that can be cured. \'a0Ptsd can be managed through therapy. \'a0Mindfulness can assist in redirecting thoughts and gaining further control over paranoia. Therapy is confidential and there are different ways you can obtain treatment. \'a0Mental health professional have availability to provide therapy online, \'a0on the phone or in person.", |
How can I get over my posttraumatic stress disorder without my parents knowing about it?"I've had posttraumatic stress disorder for years without my parents ever finding out. I want to overcome it but it\'s so vivid it\'s like it\'s happening again. I'm scared and paranoid. I have depression which I have been struggling with since a young age." | "Unfortunately, ptsd is not something that can be cured. \'a0Ptsd can be managed through therapy. \'a0Mindfulness can assist in redirecting thoughts and gaining further control over paranoia. Therapy is confidential and there are different ways you can obtain treatment. \'a0Mental health professional have availability to provide therapy online, \'a0on the phone or in person.", | "Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a very complex issue.\'a0 It is the root cause of many other issues including depression, anxiety and anger to name a few.\'a0 Re-experiencing the event is a telltale symptom of PTSD.\'a0 One of the best things you can do for yourself is to find someone who specializes in this area\'a0to help you work through the symptoms associated with this disorder as well as directly addressing the event/events that initially caused the symptoms.\'a0 There are various treatment methods available to helping professionals that are successful in treating this disorder.\'a0 In the meantime there is a book called ""The Body Keeps the Score"", it is\'a0informative and\'a0may be helpful for you on your journey.\'a0 It is my hope that you are not dealing with this alone.\'a0\'a0 Best wishes!", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "The thing I picked up immediately in what you're asking is how you don't like other people because ""they make me nervous and scared."" If someone said that to me in a therapy session, I'd want to understand this much more with them, and what this ""nervous and scared"" experience is all about: perhaps starting with the question, ""what's the earliest memory you have of feeling uncomfortable around people."" The idea would be to try to understand all of what it means for you to be around people, and the history of the experience, without labeling it wrong or passing judgment on it.From there what might come is that certain people, and their character traits, might be harder to be around for you because of experiences that you've had with similar situations in your life. Or, it could certainly be something completely different. It would be most important to understand it much more deeply considering the amount of distress it causes you, and in doing so we could begin to see it as ""normal for me.""", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "What you're experiencing is anxiety, it's actually quite common. Good news - you're not alone in this experience! That being said, it can be so frustrating and upsetting to have to contend with the anxious thoughts that come up in our heads, sometimes without any warning. Additionally, nighttime is a particularly vulnerable time for a lot of people wherein anxiety rears its' ugly head even more so. We aren't as distracted at night and our resources are more depleted so we can't fight back against these thoughts as effectively as usual.\'a0It can be helpful to externalize our anxiety, give it a name, like ""Judy"" or ""Bill"" for example (or perhaps something more sinister like Lord Garmadon??). The naming is all up to you, what comes to mind for you when you think of your anxiety, now what is a name that's fitting? The act of externalizing separates us from the anxiety a bit and makes it a little more tolerable. If you can think of your anxiety as just something else to handle rather than it being a part of your personality, this is usually helpful.\'a0Additionally, I recommend not avoiding the situations that make you feel this way. Our brains have to learn what is an actual threat and what is not. Right now, your brain thinks that crowds are a threat, if you can practice some deep breathing and stay in the crowd, you will start to teach (or rewire) your brain, letting it know that the crowd is not dangerous to you. Think of your brain as an overprotective parent. Your brain is overreacting in these situations to try and keep you safe. It just needs to learn that the situation is not a danger to begin with.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "I think you have a lot of insight into what\'92s going on - being able to pinpoint the issue you\'92re facing and describe the responses it evokes. It sounds like you may be dealing with social anxiety and it may be beneficial to talk to a professional counselor about this. A therapist can help you develop tools (or coping strategies) for dealing with these situations. From what you\'92ve shared, you might benefit from animal assisted therapy. Equine therapy is a great approach, or even just working with a therapist who uses animal assisted therapy integrated with a traditional approach to counseling.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "Reaching out to talk about these issues is an important first step. Finding professional services might be recommended if these issues are happening more and more. A few things to note...Anger is an important secondary feeling to be aware of- it keeps us safe, allows us to stand up for ourselves or others....but it also harbors a myriad of disadvantages. But its secondary. It's more necessary to understand the primary emotions behind the anger- worry, confusion, frustration, fear, loneliness, etc...Anxiety has a lot to do with worrying about the future, especially things that we might not be able to control. If we focus our worry on negative things- mistakes, failures, or messups then we will inherently tell ourselves negative things about ourselves.\'a0 People tend to dwell on the negatives without embracing, or as t least recognizing, the positives.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable in large crowds, or large family gatherings. You may worry about not fitting in, or having anything to say. It is important to have a friend or two. Try to find someone with similar interests. Maybe you can do things that don't involve a lot of face to face contact, like going to see a movie, play or sporting event. Many people are perfectly happy doing things in small groups. If you have ongoing conversations in your head, it is usually due to worry about being judged, and wanting to do or say the exact right thing, as mentioned above. Finding someone to talk to, either a supportive friend or therapist, would allow you to get some of those thoughts our of your head, and realize that you are more accepted than you think. Good luck!", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "Since you're aware of your sensitivity to being among large groups of people, then continue to satisfy this and stay away from crowds as much as reasonably possible.It is also fine to prefer the companionship of animals, as long as it is not to the exclusion of relationships with people.Recognizing this feature about yourself is another example of self-understanding.The only point to consider is the reason you avoid talking with other people.If its because of bad or stressful encounters, betrayals or some type of violation, then having this relationship pattern remain in your mind, may introduce new problems such as loneliness from lack of close friends.What you should do is honestly understand whether you avoid people from fear of being hurt or exploited in some way or because you genuinely prefer solitude.If you have the right combination of people/solitude/animals, then great!If not, then consider the confidential office of a therapist for new understanding of yourself and your social interests.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "Thanks for sharing your concern!\'a0 I think you'd be surprised if you knew how many people feel the same way.\'a0 Being in crowds can provoke anxiety (one of the symptoms of anxiety is irritability or anger, like you described).\'a0 For some people, that's just because of their personality (if you tend to be more introverted, being around lot of people is really draining).\'a0 For others, it can point to a diagnosis of social anxiety.I'd recommend starting by writing down your self-talk.\'a0 It sounds like you are telling yourself a lot of negative messages (as you mentioned, having imaginary conversations and assuming people are judging you).\'a0 Write down the thoughts that are leading to you feeling terrible and crying.\'a0 Maybe that's:\'a0 I'm stupid, Everyone else is having a good time so I should be too, There's something wrong with me.\'a0 Just writing these down is an important starting point because it allows you to be objective to your thoughts.\'a0 When you see them on paper, you can start to identify the lies and reframe them.\'a0 Next to your negative thoughts, write some positives:\'a0 I have something to offer, I'm okay the way I am, It's okay to prefer 1:1 relationships, etc.\'a0 Hopefully even as you read some of those suggestions, you feel a little lighter and more okay with yourself.\'a0\'a0Take care!", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this!\
While animals can be a wonderful way to experience emotional support, you may\
want to consider opening up to a Life Coach or therapist to discuss some of\
your concerns. You are not alone, and many people are experiencing very similar\
anxieties. A Life Coach or professional therapist could help to guide you\
through these emotions and refer you to additional professional help if needed.\
It sounds as though you want to address some of these issues by first asking\
the question. Finding additional support from a trained professional whom you\
feel comfortable with could be the best way to get the help that you need. I\
wish you the best of luck on your journey!", | "So amazing that you are aware of your social anxiety and distress with others you are in relationships with. You have taken the first step toward a journey of healing!\'a0Secondly, make an appointment with a therapist who specializes in neurofeedback and biofeedback treatment. A test is needed to determine which areas of your brain are \'91on\'92 and which areas of your brain are \'91off\'92. Then it will be focused treatment which will speed your healing.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", | "The thing I picked up immediately in what you're asking is how you don't like other people because ""they make me nervous and scared."" If someone said that to me in a therapy session, I'd want to understand this much more with them, and what this ""nervous and scared"" experience is all about: perhaps starting with the question, ""what's the earliest memory you have of feeling uncomfortable around people."" The idea would be to try to understand all of what it means for you to be around people, and the history of the experience, without labeling it wrong or passing judgment on it.From there what might come is that certain people, and their character traits, might be harder to be around for you because of experiences that you've had with similar situations in your life. Or, it could certainly be something completely different. It would be most important to understand it much more deeply considering the amount of distress it causes you, and in doing so we could begin to see it as ""normal for me.""", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", | "What you're experiencing is anxiety, it's actually quite common. Good news - you're not alone in this experience! That being said, it can be so frustrating and upsetting to have to contend with the anxious thoughts that come up in our heads, sometimes without any warning. Additionally, nighttime is a particularly vulnerable time for a lot of people wherein anxiety rears its' ugly head even more so. We aren't as distracted at night and our resources are more depleted so we can't fight back against these thoughts as effectively as usual.\'a0It can be helpful to externalize our anxiety, give it a name, like ""Judy"" or ""Bill"" for example (or perhaps something more sinister like Lord Garmadon??). The naming is all up to you, what comes to mind for you when you think of your anxiety, now what is a name that's fitting? The act of externalizing separates us from the anxiety a bit and makes it a little more tolerable. If you can think of your anxiety as just something else to handle rather than it being a part of your personality, this is usually helpful.\'a0Additionally, I recommend not avoiding the situations that make you feel this way. Our brains have to learn what is an actual threat and what is not. Right now, your brain thinks that crowds are a threat, if you can practice some deep breathing and stay in the crowd, you will start to teach (or rewire) your brain, letting it know that the crowd is not dangerous to you. Think of your brain as an overprotective parent. Your brain is overreacting in these situations to try and keep you safe. It just needs to learn that the situation is not a danger to begin with.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", | "I think you have a lot of insight into what\'92s going on - being able to pinpoint the issue you\'92re facing and describe the responses it evokes. It sounds like you may be dealing with social anxiety and it may be beneficial to talk to a professional counselor about this. A therapist can help you develop tools (or coping strategies) for dealing with these situations. From what you\'92ve shared, you might benefit from animal assisted therapy. Equine therapy is a great approach, or even just working with a therapist who uses animal assisted therapy integrated with a traditional approach to counseling.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "Reaching out to talk about these issues is an important first step. Finding professional services might be recommended if these issues are happening more and more. A few things to note...Anger is an important secondary feeling to be aware of- it keeps us safe, allows us to stand up for ourselves or others....but it also harbors a myriad of disadvantages. But its secondary. It's more necessary to understand the primary emotions behind the anger- worry, confusion, frustration, fear, loneliness, etc...Anxiety has a lot to do with worrying about the future, especially things that we might not be able to control. If we focus our worry on negative things- mistakes, failures, or messups then we will inherently tell ourselves negative things about ourselves.\'a0 People tend to dwell on the negatives without embracing, or as t least recognizing, the positives.", | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", | "It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable in large crowds, or large family gatherings. You may worry about not fitting in, or having anything to say. It is important to have a friend or two. Try to find someone with similar interests. Maybe you can do things that don't involve a lot of face to face contact, like going to see a movie, play or sporting event. Many people are perfectly happy doing things in small groups. If you have ongoing conversations in your head, it is usually due to worry about being judged, and wanting to do or say the exact right thing, as mentioned above. Finding someone to talk to, either a supportive friend or therapist, would allow you to get some of those thoughts our of your head, and realize that you are more accepted than you think. Good luck!", |
I feel really uncomfortable around other people"When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared.\
I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying I have more conversions in my head than I do with actual people. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I feel this way. What should I do?" | "You are a unique individual exhibiting some of the traits of a specific type of temperament. Through temperament counseling you can come to know, accept, and manage your God-given temperament to become all that God intended. There is nothing wrong with you -- God loves you as you are and wants to help you balance your temperament needs.", | "Since you're aware of your sensitivity to being among large groups of people, then continue to satisfy this and stay away from crowds as much as reasonably possible.It is also fine to prefer the companionship of animals, as long as it is not to the exclusion of relationships with people.Recognizing this feature about yourself is another example of self-understanding.The only point to consider is the reason you avoid talking with other people.If its because of bad or stressful encounters, betrayals or some type of violation, then having this relationship pattern remain in your mind, may introduce new problems such as loneliness from lack of close friends.What you should do is honestly understand whether you avoid people from fear of being hurt or exploited in some way or because you genuinely prefer solitude.If you have the right combination of people/solitude/animals, then great!If not, then consider the confidential office of a therapist for new understanding of yourself and your social interests.", |
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