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My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Hello. Even though legally you are an adult, it is a matter of courtesy to respect the homes of your parents. As long as you live there, you should be considerate of their needs. At the same time, there should be conversation about what each of you considers appropriate as it pertains to communication between a parent... | "You're among many millennials who live with their parents due to financial reasons.Does your mother mean rules pertaining to the way your family household organizes its daily or does she mean something else?Every household needs rules as responsibilities to keep the house clean, who does the grocery shopping, the way ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately I think most of us have heard this, so you are not alone. \'a0If you are still under her roof she has leverage as to what her expectations are while you are living there. \'a0I would consider therapy for the both of you to see if there could be a middle ground that could be agreed upon. \'a0Often times a... | "Unfortunately you seem to have yourself in a double bind. By living with your mom she is not going to stop her attempts at what you perceive as ""controlling"". There is no use in trying to debate or get her to ""see your point"". As long as your there and you personalize her attempts at control, then you will find yo... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately you seem to have yourself in a double bind. By living with your mom she is not going to stop her attempts at what you perceive as ""controlling"". There is no use in trying to debate or get her to ""see your point"". As long as your there and you personalize her attempts at control, then you will find yo... | "Hello. It sounds like you and your parents are not balanced in your communication and awareness\'a0of\'a0expectations. Your growth is not only reflected in your ability to understand and apply new knowledge and skills, it is also reflective of your parents acceptance of your understanding and application. Have you tri... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately you seem to have yourself in a double bind. By living with your mom she is not going to stop her attempts at what you perceive as ""controlling"". There is no use in trying to debate or get her to ""see your point"". As long as your there and you personalize her attempts at control, then you will find yo... | "That is a really tough situation that a lot of young people are experiencing right now. The first thing to under is that you can\'92t change who your parents are and cannot change their behavior. The thing to keep in mind is that you can control your responses and actions. \'a0You may need to keep living at home with ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately you seem to have yourself in a double bind. By living with your mom she is not going to stop her attempts at what you perceive as ""controlling"". There is no use in trying to debate or get her to ""see your point"". As long as your there and you personalize her attempts at control, then you will find yo... | "You're among many millennials who live with their parents due to financial reasons.Does your mother mean rules pertaining to the way your family household organizes its daily or does she mean something else?Every household needs rules as responsibilities to keep the house clean, who does the grocery shopping, the way ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately I think most of us have heard this, so you are not alone. \'a0If you are still under her roof she has leverage as to what her expectations are while you are living there. \'a0I would consider therapy for the both of you to see if there could be a middle ground that could be agreed upon. \'a0Often times a... | "Hello. It sounds like you and your parents are not balanced in your communication and awareness\'a0of\'a0expectations. Your growth is not only reflected in your ability to understand and apply new knowledge and skills, it is also reflective of your parents acceptance of your understanding and application. Have you tri... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately I think most of us have heard this, so you are not alone. \'a0If you are still under her roof she has leverage as to what her expectations are while you are living there. \'a0I would consider therapy for the both of you to see if there could be a middle ground that could be agreed upon. \'a0Often times a... | "That is a really tough situation that a lot of young people are experiencing right now. The first thing to under is that you can\'92t change who your parents are and cannot change their behavior. The thing to keep in mind is that you can control your responses and actions. \'a0You may need to keep living at home with ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Unfortunately I think most of us have heard this, so you are not alone. \'a0If you are still under her roof she has leverage as to what her expectations are while you are living there. \'a0I would consider therapy for the both of you to see if there could be a middle ground that could be agreed upon. \'a0Often times a... | "You're among many millennials who live with their parents due to financial reasons.Does your mother mean rules pertaining to the way your family household organizes its daily or does she mean something else?Every household needs rules as responsibilities to keep the house clean, who does the grocery shopping, the way ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Hello. It sounds like you and your parents are not balanced in your communication and awareness\'a0of\'a0expectations. Your growth is not only reflected in your ability to understand and apply new knowledge and skills, it is also reflective of your parents acceptance of your understanding and application. Have you tri... | "That is a really tough situation that a lot of young people are experiencing right now. The first thing to under is that you can\'92t change who your parents are and cannot change their behavior. The thing to keep in mind is that you can control your responses and actions. \'a0You may need to keep living at home with ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "Hello. It sounds like you and your parents are not balanced in your communication and awareness\'a0of\'a0expectations. Your growth is not only reflected in your ability to understand and apply new knowledge and skills, it is also reflective of your parents acceptance of your understanding and application. Have you tri... | "You're among many millennials who live with their parents due to financial reasons.Does your mother mean rules pertaining to the way your family household organizes its daily or does she mean something else?Every household needs rules as responsibilities to keep the house clean, who does the grocery shopping, the way ... |
My mother is trying to control my life and I don't know what to do"I am in my early s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.\
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do?" | "That is a really tough situation that a lot of young people are experiencing right now. The first thing to under is that you can\'92t change who your parents are and cannot change their behavior. The thing to keep in mind is that you can control your responses and actions. \'a0You may need to keep living at home with ... | "You're among many millennials who live with their parents due to financial reasons.Does your mother mean rules pertaining to the way your family household organizes its daily or does she mean something else?Every household needs rules as responsibilities to keep the house clean, who does the grocery shopping, the way ... |
My toddler wants her daddy to die when she's mad at him"I told her that if daddy dies we will never see him again. She started crying because I wouldn't make her daddy die." | "Toddlers don't have the intellectual capacity to conceptualize.Better to find out why she wants daddy to die than explain the future consequences of death to your toddler.A person must be around 9, possibly 8 years old before absorbing the potential effects of an action taken in present time.Pretty much your toddler d... | "It's normal for a child to be so angry she wanted someone to die, but this seems to be heading into a dangerous realm. I think it would be wise to have her seen by a child psychologist just to rule out anything more serious.", |
Should my step-daughters be told that their step-father has a child pornography addiction?"My husband\'s ex-wife married a man who was charged with seven felony counts of pandering involving a minor. He by his own admission is addicted to child pornography. My step-daughters are now all teenagers. They do not know. My ... | "The information from the other therapists here is sound and prudent. There are what sounds to be real legal (is this man a RSO [registered sex offender]; is he prohibited from being in proximity to minors? use/possession of child porn violates any # of state and federal statues...) and safety issues at play here. Your... | "Lorain, you're correct that your husband's ex-wife is (seriously) minimizing this problem. I have a very strong opinion here. In my book, the safety of children trumps potentially insulting or hurting the feelings of adults.\'a0Of course the girls should be told, because they have the right to know. Their voice is not... |
My son plays alone at recessIs this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it? | "I recommend asking your son about the reasons he chooses to play alone at recess. If he is happy on his own and you know he has some friends, I would not be very concerned. However, there may be bullying going on at school. In the case of bullying, it may be a situation where you as his parent will need to step in.", | "My son plays alone at recess.Is this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it?Every mom is the expert on their children\'92s behavior.\'a0 First of all, I suggest checking with your son, asking him if he is happy while playing alone, or does he complain that no one wants to play with him?\'a... |
My son plays alone at recessIs this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it? | "My son plays alone at recess.Is this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it?Every mom is the expert on their children\'92s behavior.\'a0 First of all, I suggest checking with your son, asking him if he is happy while playing alone, or does he complain that no one wants to play with him?\'a... | "Humans are social creatures so this can be an alarming thing for a parent to deal with, just like adults children are not the same and some children are more social than others, if he plays alone at recess (all the time) it would worry myself as well, however recess is only one domain of life, does he have friends out... |
My son plays alone at recessIs this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it? | "My son plays alone at recess.Is this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it?Every mom is the expert on their children\'92s behavior.\'a0 First of all, I suggest checking with your son, asking him if he is happy while playing alone, or does he complain that no one wants to play with him?\'a... | "The answer depends on how the other areas of your son's life are doing.Is he happy or does he seem happy, playing alone during recess?Does he have friends in other social circles besides the students whom he's with at recess?How is his academic progress?How is his social integration among his classmates?Are there any ... |
My son plays alone at recessIs this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it? | "I recommend asking your son about the reasons he chooses to play alone at recess. If he is happy on his own and you know he has some friends, I would not be very concerned. However, there may be bullying going on at school. In the case of bullying, it may be a situation where you as his parent will need to step in.", | "Humans are social creatures so this can be an alarming thing for a parent to deal with, just like adults children are not the same and some children are more social than others, if he plays alone at recess (all the time) it would worry myself as well, however recess is only one domain of life, does he have friends out... |
My son plays alone at recessIs this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it? | "I recommend asking your son about the reasons he chooses to play alone at recess. If he is happy on his own and you know he has some friends, I would not be very concerned. However, there may be bullying going on at school. In the case of bullying, it may be a situation where you as his parent will need to step in.", | "The answer depends on how the other areas of your son's life are doing.Is he happy or does he seem happy, playing alone during recess?Does he have friends in other social circles besides the students whom he's with at recess?How is his academic progress?How is his social integration among his classmates?Are there any ... |
My son plays alone at recessIs this something I should be worried about? Should I do something about it? | "The answer depends on how the other areas of your son's life are doing.Is he happy or does he seem happy, playing alone during recess?Does he have friends in other social circles besides the students whom he's with at recess?How is his academic progress?How is his social integration among his classmates?Are there any ... | "Humans are social creatures so this can be an alarming thing for a parent to deal with, just like adults children are not the same and some children are more social than others, if he plays alone at recess (all the time) it would worry myself as well, however recess is only one domain of life, does he have friends out... |
"My daughter calls me crazy and I\'m not sure how to handle that""I am divorced and happily remarried. Our blended family of children are in their s. My youngest age continues to call me crazy and favors her dad. He was abusive to me and I left with injuries. He never wanted kids and I did. He paid child support only ... | "Hi, I understand what you're going through. Your daughters favor him because he has done no wrong in their eyes. Im guessing they lived with you? Growing up I was the same way.. I favoured my dad, thinking he has done no wrong. He also abused my mother multiple times, and that never came to mind. kids like their other... | "It sounds really difficult to know that your daughter may be ""choosing"" her dad over you, perhaps I can help by saying her intense emotional reactions towards you actually acknowledge how much safer and connected she feels towards you. We tend to have big emotions around those we care for most. I would suggest to le... |
"How do I cope with ""never being good enough?""""I'm always told I'm not good enough or trying hard enough. I put % in to every thing. I'm worn out I've worked on all of my family relationships I'm doing great in school I'm kind to those in need and otherwise. I stick to my religious beliefs and leave room for mistake... | "It sounds like you are aware of your positive traits but you\'a0are struggling with someone who does not acknowledge nor celebrate your efforts or achievements.\'a0\'a0 It seems like that is affecting your inner voice, which allows you to accept yourself for who you are.My suggestion is to explore that relationship\'a... | "The feeling of never feeling good enough usually stems from our early relationship with our\'a0parents or significant role models who made us to feel we were never good enough to meet their standards. In the healing process, you'll need to work on discovering the root source of where these thoughts and feelings come f... |
"How do I cope with ""never being good enough?""""I'm always told I'm not good enough or trying hard enough. I put % in to every thing. I'm worn out I've worked on all of my family relationships I'm doing great in school I'm kind to those in need and otherwise. I stick to my religious beliefs and leave room for mistake... | "The feeling of never feeling good enough usually stems from our early relationship with our\'a0parents or significant role models who made us to feel we were never good enough to meet their standards. In the healing process, you'll need to work on discovering the root source of where these thoughts and feelings come f... | "Hi, I'm Amelia! Oh, this is a common problem, unfortunately! Let me say first of all, that doing more, giving more, loving more, performing more will never provide you with a sense of worth. Nor will it satisfy those that are critical and judgmental. I am so sorry to hear that this is what you've heard all your life! ... |
"How do I cope with ""never being good enough?""""I'm always told I'm not good enough or trying hard enough. I put % in to every thing. I'm worn out I've worked on all of my family relationships I'm doing great in school I'm kind to those in need and otherwise. I stick to my religious beliefs and leave room for mistake... | "It sounds like you are aware of your positive traits but you\'a0are struggling with someone who does not acknowledge nor celebrate your efforts or achievements.\'a0\'a0 It seems like that is affecting your inner voice, which allows you to accept yourself for who you are.My suggestion is to explore that relationship\'a... | "Hi, I'm Amelia! Oh, this is a common problem, unfortunately! Let me say first of all, that doing more, giving more, loving more, performing more will never provide you with a sense of worth. Nor will it satisfy those that are critical and judgmental. I am so sorry to hear that this is what you've heard all your life! ... |
I feel like I failed myselfMy grandma had a stroke and passed away recently. I lost my home and job. I'm looking but haven't found a job. I've been binge watching television and binge eating. | "Wow, you got hit with some serious stuff all at once. Work, relationships, and housing/security are major needs for us and to lose all that at once has got to affect you. When things go wrong, it is natural for us to look for blame----and the easiest person for us to blame is ourselves. Put that with grief and you've ... | "Please practice being kind to yourself!! You lost your grandmother, your home and your job! \'a0Huge changes have just taken place and it would be challenging for anyone to be unfazed. \'a0And having said that, you wrote that you have been looking for a job, so that tells me that you have most definitely not failed yo... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "Self love and self acceptance is something that many of my clients struggle with, so I can assure you that you are not alone. We are bombarded by media and advertisements everyday that try to sell us things to make us somehow better, thus leading us to believe that we are not enough. Unfortunately, I believe that low ... | "Self-doubt and self-hatred are such common and unpleasant experiences and really worth \'a0understanding! Therapy with the right person can really help. When in your life do you feel the most confident? What gets in the way of you accepting and loving yourself (big question!). You can and will uncover that confident s... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "The most important word here is ""sometimes."" I know it is quite painful, and I can imagine that at times this pain doesn't feel like it will subside. But it sounds like it is not all the time, which means we can easily say that this ""hate myself"" experience is one part of you. There are many other parts, if you gi... | "Self-doubt and self-hatred are such common and unpleasant experiences and really worth \'a0understanding! Therapy with the right person can really help. When in your life do you feel the most confident? What gets in the way of you accepting and loving yourself (big question!). You can and will uncover that confident s... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "The answer would require a more in-depth knowledge of you and your situation.\'a0A lot of times, these feelings are the result of the people in your life treating you a certain way. You internalize it and accept it as your reality.\'a0The first step is to evaluate the people close to you, especially your parents. Even... | "Self-doubt and self-hatred are such common and unpleasant experiences and really worth \'a0understanding! Therapy with the right person can really help. When in your life do you feel the most confident? What gets in the way of you accepting and loving yourself (big question!). You can and will uncover that confident s... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "This happens slowly and can be done.You already are at the first step of realizing that you hate yourself, not that the feelings of self-loathing are the best of what you're able to expect from life.A way to start building confidence is to pay close attention to the way you handle interactions and make decisions.If yo... | "Self-doubt and self-hatred are such common and unpleasant experiences and really worth \'a0understanding! Therapy with the right person can really help. When in your life do you feel the most confident? What gets in the way of you accepting and loving yourself (big question!). You can and will uncover that confident s... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "The most important word here is ""sometimes."" I know it is quite painful, and I can imagine that at times this pain doesn't feel like it will subside. But it sounds like it is not all the time, which means we can easily say that this ""hate myself"" experience is one part of you. There are many other parts, if you gi... | "Self love and self acceptance is something that many of my clients struggle with, so I can assure you that you are not alone. We are bombarded by media and advertisements everyday that try to sell us things to make us somehow better, thus leading us to believe that we are not enough. Unfortunately, I believe that low ... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "The answer would require a more in-depth knowledge of you and your situation.\'a0A lot of times, these feelings are the result of the people in your life treating you a certain way. You internalize it and accept it as your reality.\'a0The first step is to evaluate the people close to you, especially your parents. Even... | "Self love and self acceptance is something that many of my clients struggle with, so I can assure you that you are not alone. We are bombarded by media and advertisements everyday that try to sell us things to make us somehow better, thus leading us to believe that we are not enough. Unfortunately, I believe that low ... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "This happens slowly and can be done.You already are at the first step of realizing that you hate yourself, not that the feelings of self-loathing are the best of what you're able to expect from life.A way to start building confidence is to pay close attention to the way you handle interactions and make decisions.If yo... | "Self love and self acceptance is something that many of my clients struggle with, so I can assure you that you are not alone. We are bombarded by media and advertisements everyday that try to sell us things to make us somehow better, thus leading us to believe that we are not enough. Unfortunately, I believe that low ... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "The most important word here is ""sometimes."" I know it is quite painful, and I can imagine that at times this pain doesn't feel like it will subside. But it sounds like it is not all the time, which means we can easily say that this ""hate myself"" experience is one part of you. There are many other parts, if you gi... | "The answer would require a more in-depth knowledge of you and your situation.\'a0A lot of times, these feelings are the result of the people in your life treating you a certain way. You internalize it and accept it as your reality.\'a0The first step is to evaluate the people close to you, especially your parents. Even... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "This happens slowly and can be done.You already are at the first step of realizing that you hate yourself, not that the feelings of self-loathing are the best of what you're able to expect from life.A way to start building confidence is to pay close attention to the way you handle interactions and make decisions.If yo... | "The most important word here is ""sometimes."" I know it is quite painful, and I can imagine that at times this pain doesn't feel like it will subside. But it sounds like it is not all the time, which means we can easily say that this ""hate myself"" experience is one part of you. There are many other parts, if you gi... |
I Sometimes I feel like I hate myselfI feel like I hate myself physically and emotionally sometimes. How can I start accepting myself and be more confident? | "This happens slowly and can be done.You already are at the first step of realizing that you hate yourself, not that the feelings of self-loathing are the best of what you're able to expect from life.A way to start building confidence is to pay close attention to the way you handle interactions and make decisions.If yo... | "The answer would require a more in-depth knowledge of you and your situation.\'a0A lot of times, these feelings are the result of the people in your life treating you a certain way. You internalize it and accept it as your reality.\'a0The first step is to evaluate the people close to you, especially your parents. Even... |
How do I handle being wanted in a relationship when I'm used to feeling unwanted?"I've always thought that there wasn't much good out there for me. Now that things are actually going well it kind of scares me. I spent most of my life feeling unwanted and figured I would be alone. I recently met a great woman who seems ... | "Hi! Thank you for your question. It's tough to be in a healthy and loving relationship when we believe we are not worth it. Quite often being in such a relationship is very uncomfortable as it goes against everything we believe about ourselves.\'a0First, I want to say you are very brave to open up yourself to the rela... | "You're in a lot of good company and it's great that you're in a positive relationship. Congratulations!I often hear people talk about loving yourself and self esteem. We often seem to blame ourselves for not ""loving ourselves"" enough or put ourselves down for having low self esteem. It seems to me that since we are ... |
How do I handle being wanted in a relationship when I'm used to feeling unwanted?"I've always thought that there wasn't much good out there for me. Now that things are actually going well it kind of scares me. I spent most of my life feeling unwanted and figured I would be alone. I recently met a great woman who seems ... | "This can be really anxiety-producing when you have not felt it before. It may be helpful to work through some of this with a local therapist so you can get more specific ideas.Some other things that come to my mind are maybe talking about spending about 10 minutes or so discussing how you are feeling and seeing if you... | "You're in a lot of good company and it's great that you're in a positive relationship. Congratulations!I often hear people talk about loving yourself and self esteem. We often seem to blame ourselves for not ""loving ourselves"" enough or put ourselves down for having low self esteem. It seems to me that since we are ... |
How do I handle being wanted in a relationship when I'm used to feeling unwanted?"I've always thought that there wasn't much good out there for me. Now that things are actually going well it kind of scares me. I spent most of my life feeling unwanted and figured I would be alone. I recently met a great woman who seems ... | "This can be really anxiety-producing when you have not felt it before. It may be helpful to work through some of this with a local therapist so you can get more specific ideas.Some other things that come to my mind are maybe talking about spending about 10 minutes or so discussing how you are feeling and seeing if you... | "Hi! Thank you for your question. It's tough to be in a healthy and loving relationship when we believe we are not worth it. Quite often being in such a relationship is very uncomfortable as it goes against everything we believe about ourselves.\'a0First, I want to say you are very brave to open up yourself to the rela... |
Should I break up with my live-in girlfriend?"I'm a male in my s. My girlfriend is in her late s. She's great. She's funny and smart she has a big heart and we have an excellent sex life. She recently moved in with me partially because she wanted to and partially because she had no place to go. We fight a lot. It\'s mo... | "Are you possibly mixing up an impulse to nurture and protect someone, such as by offering housing, and your own need to feel loved and appreciated as a romantic partner?Maybe your feeling of jealousy is really your awareness of a reasonable need to be loved by a partner.Even though you are quite detailed in your descr... | "It sounds like there are assumptions being made regarding how she feels about you and why she is with you. I would not suggest breaking up with her without first attempting to resolve your own issues. You may not only regret your decision, but might find that the exact same problem arises in future relationships. I wo... |
My relationship is suffering from severe abandonment issues"I feel as though I'm suffering severe abandonment issues stemming from childhood. I convince myself I'm not worthy of happiness and I\'m always afraid I'm doing something wrong. It's as if I create little scenarios in my mind and I start to believe them." | "I\'92m glad that you are reaching out for help. What you are experiencing is common for people who have experienced abuse, neglect, or other forms of trauma. When people experience trauma they develop a feeling of shame and start becoming self critical. Therapy can help regulate these thoughts and feelings of abandonm... | "I would like to offer my compassion that you are struggling with with these feelings. With the information provided and not knowing what your childhood was like or what you've experienced, I will say that from my experience working with people, these feelings are normal, and a normal part \'a0of the process \'a0of hea... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "First I think we have to acknowledge that you are doing something amazing.\'a0 You are putting yourself out there and becoming a Water Safety Instructor.\'a0\'a0 We often times will focus on the negative and forget about the positive.\'a0 Next, you had an incident where someone pointed something out which may have cau... | "As far as I can tell, you received unwanted attention, but you didn't do anything wrong. \'a0What did your instructor say? Anything? If the outfit was not appropriate then the instructor should tell you--If he/she didn't then assume the swimsuit was okay, but the gentleman in the class wanted your attention and took i... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "First I think we have to acknowledge that you are doing something amazing.\'a0 You are putting yourself out there and becoming a Water Safety Instructor.\'a0\'a0 We often times will focus on the negative and forget about the positive.\'a0 Next, you had an incident where someone pointed something out which may have cau... | "Everybody does something or a few things in their life which looking back, the person wishes they hadn't.The key to feeling better is to realize that as long as you learn something for the future from your mistake, then you will be doing all that any human being is capable of doing.Your mistake sounds genuine, not tha... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "First I think we have to acknowledge that you are doing something amazing.\'a0 You are putting yourself out there and becoming a Water Safety Instructor.\'a0\'a0 We often times will focus on the negative and forget about the positive.\'a0 Next, you had an incident where someone pointed something out which may have cau... | "Sometimes we make ourselves feel worse with our own thoughts about things we can't change. We know that it is possible to overcome embarrassment and self-blame, but why does it seem so difficult to overcome it sometimes? If you tune into your own thoughts, or your ""internal dialogue"", you'll notice that your thought... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "First I think we have to acknowledge that you are doing something amazing.\'a0 You are putting yourself out there and becoming a Water Safety Instructor.\'a0\'a0 We often times will focus on the negative and forget about the positive.\'a0 Next, you had an incident where someone pointed something out which may have cau... | "First of all, congratulations to you on becoming a Water Safety Instructor.As far as how to forgive yourself, this is probably one of the toughest things that we ask of ourselves, no matter the subject. On the other hand, it sounds like the location of the mistake means that after you get through the class, you won't ... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "As far as I can tell, you received unwanted attention, but you didn't do anything wrong. \'a0What did your instructor say? Anything? If the outfit was not appropriate then the instructor should tell you--If he/she didn't then assume the swimsuit was okay, but the gentleman in the class wanted your attention and took i... | "Everybody does something or a few things in their life which looking back, the person wishes they hadn't.The key to feeling better is to realize that as long as you learn something for the future from your mistake, then you will be doing all that any human being is capable of doing.Your mistake sounds genuine, not tha... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "Sometimes we make ourselves feel worse with our own thoughts about things we can't change. We know that it is possible to overcome embarrassment and self-blame, but why does it seem so difficult to overcome it sometimes? If you tune into your own thoughts, or your ""internal dialogue"", you'll notice that your thought... | "As far as I can tell, you received unwanted attention, but you didn't do anything wrong. \'a0What did your instructor say? Anything? If the outfit was not appropriate then the instructor should tell you--If he/she didn't then assume the swimsuit was okay, but the gentleman in the class wanted your attention and took i... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "As far as I can tell, you received unwanted attention, but you didn't do anything wrong. \'a0What did your instructor say? Anything? If the outfit was not appropriate then the instructor should tell you--If he/she didn't then assume the swimsuit was okay, but the gentleman in the class wanted your attention and took i... | "First of all, congratulations to you on becoming a Water Safety Instructor.As far as how to forgive yourself, this is probably one of the toughest things that we ask of ourselves, no matter the subject. On the other hand, it sounds like the location of the mistake means that after you get through the class, you won't ... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "Sometimes we make ourselves feel worse with our own thoughts about things we can't change. We know that it is possible to overcome embarrassment and self-blame, but why does it seem so difficult to overcome it sometimes? If you tune into your own thoughts, or your ""internal dialogue"", you'll notice that your thought... | "Everybody does something or a few things in their life which looking back, the person wishes they hadn't.The key to feeling better is to realize that as long as you learn something for the future from your mistake, then you will be doing all that any human being is capable of doing.Your mistake sounds genuine, not tha... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "First of all, congratulations to you on becoming a Water Safety Instructor.As far as how to forgive yourself, this is probably one of the toughest things that we ask of ourselves, no matter the subject. On the other hand, it sounds like the location of the mistake means that after you get through the class, you won't ... | "Everybody does something or a few things in their life which looking back, the person wishes they hadn't.The key to feeling better is to realize that as long as you learn something for the future from your mistake, then you will be doing all that any human being is capable of doing.Your mistake sounds genuine, not tha... |
How do you overcome an embarrassing mistake and forgive yourself?I am becoming a Water Safety Instructor but I didn't have enough for a proper swimsuit. I was told by a boy in class that my top was displaying everything. I was very embarrassed. | "Sometimes we make ourselves feel worse with our own thoughts about things we can't change. We know that it is possible to overcome embarrassment and self-blame, but why does it seem so difficult to overcome it sometimes? If you tune into your own thoughts, or your ""internal dialogue"", you'll notice that your thought... | "First of all, congratulations to you on becoming a Water Safety Instructor.As far as how to forgive yourself, this is probably one of the toughest things that we ask of ourselves, no matter the subject. On the other hand, it sounds like the location of the mistake means that after you get through the class, you won't ... |
I am very self conscious about my bodyOn the first day of school I wore a bra that was too big so that it would look like I had bigger boobs. I did that the whole school year and my parents never found out. But now I can never hang out with my friends at my house or invite them over because it would be around my parent... | "Wear baggy clothes to disguise the problem and if you do this for a long enough time, then your friends may forget what size boobs you have.Can you tell your parents what you wrote here? \'a0If yes, then maybe they will be empathetic and this always helps.They may also agree to not make any comments about your boobs w... | "Sometimes we let our insecurities get the best of us, causing us to make some interesting choices.\'a0Honesty is always the best policy, but honesty comes with risk. \'a0Perhaps you may want to start with your family first, explaining to them what you have done and why. \'a0Perhaps they can help you to practice talkin... |
How can I forgive myself?"Something happened this summer that I cannot forgive myself for. When I think about what happened I feel ashamed and guilty even though my loved ones forgave me." | "Realize that you are human, not perfect and will make the wrong decisions at times.\'a0\'a0 That is OK, we all have.\'a0 However, the best way is to say OK, I did it, learned from it, will not do that again.\'a0 EVER!!!\'a0 You can get pass it; grow from it.\'a0 Unfortunately, we forgive others faster than we do ourse... | "A lot of times it is not about forgiveness but learning from experiences. As an example, as a child we continously fall in an effort to learn how to walk. Then when we begin walking we know we have to put one foot in front of the other in order to move forward. Experiences allow us to grow, find a balance and what to ... |
How can I forgive myself?"Something happened this summer that I cannot forgive myself for. When I think about what happened I feel ashamed and guilty even though my loved ones forgave me." | "A lot of times it is not about forgiveness but learning from experiences. As an example, as a child we continously fall in an effort to learn how to walk. Then when we begin walking we know we have to put one foot in front of the other in order to move forward. Experiences allow us to grow, find a balance and what to ... | "What a beautiful discussion of guilt and shame Lynda offers! Those\
two demons start out as pesky and little when we are young, then grow with us to\
become quite formidable. I'd like to throw in a technique I learned from Randy\
Rausch (author of\'a0The Last Lecture)\'a0called The 3-Step Apology.\
I teach this import... |
How can I forgive myself?"Something happened this summer that I cannot forgive myself for. When I think about what happened I feel ashamed and guilty even though my loved ones forgave me." | "A lot of times it is not about forgiveness but learning from experiences. As an example, as a child we continously fall in an effort to learn how to walk. Then when we begin walking we know we have to put one foot in front of the other in order to move forward. Experiences allow us to grow, find a balance and what to ... | "Hi Ohio, I totally get how it can be more difficult to forgive ourselves than to forgive others. My guess is that you tend to come down too hard on yourself a lot. That's a huge barrier to happiness that you can work to reduce. I'll get you started.You feel shame in a debilitating way that is probably way out of propo... |
How can I forgive myself?"Something happened this summer that I cannot forgive myself for. When I think about what happened I feel ashamed and guilty even though my loved ones forgave me." | "Realize that you are human, not perfect and will make the wrong decisions at times.\'a0\'a0 That is OK, we all have.\'a0 However, the best way is to say OK, I did it, learned from it, will not do that again.\'a0 EVER!!!\'a0 You can get pass it; grow from it.\'a0 Unfortunately, we forgive others faster than we do ourse... | "What a beautiful discussion of guilt and shame Lynda offers! Those\
two demons start out as pesky and little when we are young, then grow with us to\
become quite formidable. I'd like to throw in a technique I learned from Randy\
Rausch (author of\'a0The Last Lecture)\'a0called The 3-Step Apology.\
I teach this import... |
How can I forgive myself?"Something happened this summer that I cannot forgive myself for. When I think about what happened I feel ashamed and guilty even though my loved ones forgave me." | "Realize that you are human, not perfect and will make the wrong decisions at times.\'a0\'a0 That is OK, we all have.\'a0 However, the best way is to say OK, I did it, learned from it, will not do that again.\'a0 EVER!!!\'a0 You can get pass it; grow from it.\'a0 Unfortunately, we forgive others faster than we do ourse... | "Hi Ohio, I totally get how it can be more difficult to forgive ourselves than to forgive others. My guess is that you tend to come down too hard on yourself a lot. That's a huge barrier to happiness that you can work to reduce. I'll get you started.You feel shame in a debilitating way that is probably way out of propo... |
How can I forgive myself?"Something happened this summer that I cannot forgive myself for. When I think about what happened I feel ashamed and guilty even though my loved ones forgave me." | "What a beautiful discussion of guilt and shame Lynda offers! Those\
two demons start out as pesky and little when we are young, then grow with us to\
become quite formidable. I'd like to throw in a technique I learned from Randy\
Rausch (author of\'a0The Last Lecture)\'a0called The 3-Step Apology.\
I teach this import... | "Hi Ohio, I totally get how it can be more difficult to forgive ourselves than to forgive others. My guess is that you tend to come down too hard on yourself a lot. That's a huge barrier to happiness that you can work to reduce. I'll get you started.You feel shame in a debilitating way that is probably way out of propo... |
Am I going to be alone forever?I feel like I'm trying to convince myself that I'm okay when I'm not. I'm always blocking out the bad things and forgetting. I also feel like nobody cares for me and they never will. I feel truly alone. | "I'm glad you're aware of how you honestly feel. \'a0Knowing one's personal truth is always the first step in finding what is necessary to be and develop.Reflect a little more on the type of care you'd like in your life.""Care"" means anything from checking in on someone to deep, intimate connection between two people.... | "As social creatures, we humans all long for deep human connection. To know that we belong and are part of something larger. It is so important to us that when we feel alone - it can feel almost unbearable. You are not alone in feeling alone. While it can take time to build deep relationships there are moments in each ... |
How do I get my sex drive back after my rape?"I was raped by multiple men and now I can't stand the sight of myself. I wear lingerie to get my self excited enough to have sex with my wife." | "I am very sorry to hear about your rapes. \'a0Traumatic events, such as rape, can have some lasting effects. \'a0Issues with sex drive are one of these effects. \'a0Therapy can help to decrease the impact that traumatic events have upon our lives as we process through some of our experiences. \'a0 EMDR can be a partic... | "I'm sorry for your being taken advantage of and for all the negative feelings created by being exploited.If you have not already explained to your wife about what caused your great distress, then please consider doing this. \'a0A conversation that happens in a safe relationship, will give her a chance of being support... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "That's a loaded question.\'a0 Typically, if we are contemplating if we should or not, it is for a reason.\'a0 To really come to a place of decision, you need to know where you are right now, what is not working, what the potential resolution would be and if it is realistic.\'a0 If you can answer those questions, you m... | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "The decision to end a relationship is difficult. There are a few questions you might want to ask yourself like, ""Why am I asking myself if i should end it?"", ""What else am I looking for in a relationship that this one doesn't give me?"", ""is my boyfriend willing to discuss my doubts and willing to work at making t... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "The decision to end a relationship is often very difficult. It is important that you are aware of your personal ""deal breakers"". Some common deal breakers are abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, sexual, or emotional) or substance abuse; however, anything that is detrimental to your well being can be considered a de... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "Previous counselors have discussed very good points about your situation so I would like just to confirm what seems essential to me on this topic.\'a0When you ask yourself this question, it shows you are not happy or have doubts about the way things have evolved so far. Relationships require time and work for them to ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "Deciding to end a relationship is a big question that deserves your full care and attention.\'a0 One of the first questions you may ask of yourself and consider for your boyfriend is whether you are both willing to work on the relationship.\'a0 A relationship, no matter how great or hard, can't work unless both people... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "Deciding to end a relationship is never easy, especially if there is not any strong reason or incident standing out to help define the unhappiness in the relationship, such as infidelity or abuse.\'a0 All relationships go through low periods where one or both people may feel unhappy in the relationship, this is normal... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "Hi there, that's a big question and really something no one can answer except you. Here are some things to consider to help you make your decision.What is leading you to ask the question? Has something happened recently or repeatedly that is making you question your relationship? If so, what is it. Can you rank it on ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "That you are questioning if you should end your relationship with your boyfriend tells me that you are unhappy with him. Spend sometime by yourself exploring the reasons for that unhappiness. Are these things likely to change or not?", |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "Without knowing the details, it would be very difficult to say! But, that's also the point of my response. Because even with the details, it's very hard to say, as no one is experiencing the relationship in your shoes, except for you. It might be helpful to process this in therapy, or with your boyfriend directly and ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very difficult question to answer. Without knowing anything else about the situation - it makes me wonder - what makes you feel like you should break up with him? What brought up thinking about ending things? It will be important to decide if the relationship is safe, if it is healthy, and if it makes yo... | "If you're asking the question, then probably you are pretty close to ending your relationship.Make a list of what you don't like and then decide whether you'd like to tell these topics to your boyfriend as a discussion about your relationship.He may have similar feelings and together the two of you may figure out new ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "That's a loaded question.\'a0 Typically, if we are contemplating if we should or not, it is for a reason.\'a0 To really come to a place of decision, you need to know where you are right now, what is not working, what the potential resolution would be and if it is realistic.\'a0 If you can answer those questions, you m... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "The decision to end a relationship is difficult. There are a few questions you might want to ask yourself like, ""Why am I asking myself if i should end it?"", ""What else am I looking for in a relationship that this one doesn't give me?"", ""is my boyfriend willing to discuss my doubts and willing to work at making t... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "The decision to end a relationship is often very difficult. It is important that you are aware of your personal ""deal breakers"". Some common deal breakers are abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, sexual, or emotional) or substance abuse; however, anything that is detrimental to your well being can be considered a de... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "Previous counselors have discussed very good points about your situation so I would like just to confirm what seems essential to me on this topic.\'a0When you ask yourself this question, it shows you are not happy or have doubts about the way things have evolved so far. Relationships require time and work for them to ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "Deciding to end a relationship is a big question that deserves your full care and attention.\'a0 One of the first questions you may ask of yourself and consider for your boyfriend is whether you are both willing to work on the relationship.\'a0 A relationship, no matter how great or hard, can't work unless both people... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "Deciding to end a relationship is never easy, especially if there is not any strong reason or incident standing out to help define the unhappiness in the relationship, such as infidelity or abuse.\'a0 All relationships go through low periods where one or both people may feel unhappy in the relationship, this is normal... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "Hi there, that's a big question and really something no one can answer except you. Here are some things to consider to help you make your decision.What is leading you to ask the question? Has something happened recently or repeatedly that is making you question your relationship? If so, what is it. Can you rank it on ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "That you are questioning if you should end your relationship with your boyfriend tells me that you are unhappy with him. Spend sometime by yourself exploring the reasons for that unhappiness. Are these things likely to change or not?", |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "Without knowing the details, it would be very difficult to say! But, that's also the point of my response. Because even with the details, it's very hard to say, as no one is experiencing the relationship in your shoes, except for you. It might be helpful to process this in therapy, or with your boyfriend directly and ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | This is a very personal decision that you make when you have evaluated the issues in your couple that you feel are affecting your happiness and well being in your couple. I recommend completing a compatability checklist to evaluate which areas are making you unhappy. It is important to discuss these feelings with your ... | "If you're asking the question, then probably you are pretty close to ending your relationship.Make a list of what you don't like and then decide whether you'd like to tell these topics to your boyfriend as a discussion about your relationship.He may have similar feelings and together the two of you may figure out new ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "That's a loaded question.\'a0 Typically, if we are contemplating if we should or not, it is for a reason.\'a0 To really come to a place of decision, you need to know where you are right now, what is not working, what the potential resolution would be and if it is realistic.\'a0 If you can answer those questions, you m... | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "The decision to end a relationship is difficult. There are a few questions you might want to ask yourself like, ""Why am I asking myself if i should end it?"", ""What else am I looking for in a relationship that this one doesn't give me?"", ""is my boyfriend willing to discuss my doubts and willing to work at making t... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "The decision to end a relationship is often very difficult. It is important that you are aware of your personal ""deal breakers"". Some common deal breakers are abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, sexual, or emotional) or substance abuse; however, anything that is detrimental to your well being can be considered a de... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "Previous counselors have discussed very good points about your situation so I would like just to confirm what seems essential to me on this topic.\'a0When you ask yourself this question, it shows you are not happy or have doubts about the way things have evolved so far. Relationships require time and work for them to ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "Deciding to end a relationship is a big question that deserves your full care and attention.\'a0 One of the first questions you may ask of yourself and consider for your boyfriend is whether you are both willing to work on the relationship.\'a0 A relationship, no matter how great or hard, can't work unless both people... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "Deciding to end a relationship is never easy, especially if there is not any strong reason or incident standing out to help define the unhappiness in the relationship, such as infidelity or abuse.\'a0 All relationships go through low periods where one or both people may feel unhappy in the relationship, this is normal... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "Hi there, that's a big question and really something no one can answer except you. Here are some things to consider to help you make your decision.What is leading you to ask the question? Has something happened recently or repeatedly that is making you question your relationship? If so, what is it. Can you rank it on ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "That you are questioning if you should end your relationship with your boyfriend tells me that you are unhappy with him. Spend sometime by yourself exploring the reasons for that unhappiness. Are these things likely to change or not?", |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "Without knowing the details, it would be very difficult to say! But, that's also the point of my response. Because even with the details, it's very hard to say, as no one is experiencing the relationship in your shoes, except for you. It might be helpful to process this in therapy, or with your boyfriend directly and ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This is a tough decision to make for anyone that has ever been involved in a relationship.\'a0 My advice is for you to consider what is making you unhappy in this relationship.\'a0 Sometimes we think we are ready to move on but don't know the reason why and then we regret it.\'a0 The worst thing you want after the fac... | "If you're asking the question, then probably you are pretty close to ending your relationship.Make a list of what you don't like and then decide whether you'd like to tell these topics to your boyfriend as a discussion about your relationship.He may have similar feelings and together the two of you may figure out new ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "That's a loaded question.\'a0 Typically, if we are contemplating if we should or not, it is for a reason.\'a0 To really come to a place of decision, you need to know where you are right now, what is not working, what the potential resolution would be and if it is realistic.\'a0 If you can answer those questions, you m... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "The decision to end a relationship is difficult. There are a few questions you might want to ask yourself like, ""Why am I asking myself if i should end it?"", ""What else am I looking for in a relationship that this one doesn't give me?"", ""is my boyfriend willing to discuss my doubts and willing to work at making t... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "The decision to end a relationship is often very difficult. It is important that you are aware of your personal ""deal breakers"". Some common deal breakers are abuse of any kind (physical, verbal, sexual, or emotional) or substance abuse; however, anything that is detrimental to your well being can be considered a de... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "Previous counselors have discussed very good points about your situation so I would like just to confirm what seems essential to me on this topic.\'a0When you ask yourself this question, it shows you are not happy or have doubts about the way things have evolved so far. Relationships require time and work for them to ... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "Deciding to end a relationship is a big question that deserves your full care and attention.\'a0 One of the first questions you may ask of yourself and consider for your boyfriend is whether you are both willing to work on the relationship.\'a0 A relationship, no matter how great or hard, can't work unless both people... |
Should I end it?How do I decide if I should end my relationship with my boyfriend? | "This can be a very challenging decision, and it may take time for you to sort through all of your feelings about the relationship and its possible end. Therapy can help you have a space to be completely honest with yourself about your relationship as you grapple with your decision of whether to remain with your boyfri... | "Deciding to end a relationship is never easy, especially if there is not any strong reason or incident standing out to help define the unhappiness in the relationship, such as infidelity or abuse.\'a0 All relationships go through low periods where one or both people may feel unhappy in the relationship, this is normal... |
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