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I have a 26 year old daughter who can be kind of a bitch. I’m not trying to insult her because I know she got it from me but she isn’t the nicest person. I met my wife when my daughter, Ava, was 14 and her daughter, Riley, was 13. They hated each other and no amount of counseling or family bonding could fix it so we br... | NTA. Your daughter is a grown woman who doesn't get along with her adult step sister, and now people think your daughter's husband needs to subsidize someone she doesn't get along with, and someone who isn't her family and didn't grow up with her? The step daughter has no right to demand to be included by being negati... |
This happened a very long time ago but I've always wondered if I handled the situation correctly.
I am not close with my dad's family; mostly because my mom never liked them and guilt tripped my sister and I when we went with my Dad to visit them. My mom was being unfair, but that's not what this post is about. My ... | NTA. your dad went behind your back and explicit requst to not invite creepy uncle. sorry your day was ruined, but the problem wasnt you getting angry at your dad.
you set your boundaries for your day and he ignored it. he should face the consequences.
edit: also sorry for your day being ruined :/ ###### |
My dad makes a lot of promises, but never keeps them and just says “I never said that” or something similar to go back on it. A little while ago, he told me that if I did the dishes I could have my Netflix permissions back (they took away everything above tv14) so I did, but he said he didn’t remember making that promi... | NTA. Your dad was just mad that he got called out by his kid ###### |
I am 36 year old male who married a wonderful 45 year old female last year. She has a 23 year old daughter from a previous marriage. I know she was an adult but she still lived at home while finishing college and I treated her as if she were my own. Problem is somehow, my daughter and my father 55 fell in love. Apparen... | NTA. Your dad wants to marry your daughter. That's fucked up lol you're definitely right in feeling the way you do. Your dad is horrible for even setting up that kind of scenario. ###### |
Okay, before you judge me please let me explain.
When I was 11(f for anyone wondering) my dad and I got into a fight. I truly don’t remember what it was about but most likely something dumb. I was a very sassy preteen and I will admit that but I still feel like his response was unwarranted.
In the heat of this argu... | NTA. Your dad sounds like a real piece of work. My advice: show him this post. Tell him “this is why”. If he tries to fix it, good. If not, he has his answer ###### |
Okay so I made [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gw4w78/aita_for_blocking_my_dads_number_refusing_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) in here earlier, my cousin - who idolizes my dad - found it, asked if it was mine, and so I admitted to it. Which then led to him c... | NTA. Your dad played a stupid game and he won a stupid prize. ###### |
I'm a teenager, in high school, and I just got a phone at the beginning of this year when my mom upgraded. She'd had the phone for several years, it's a 5s and in relatively good condition (no cracks, scratches, etc) but the battery drains ridiculously fast and, well, it's 7 years old. My siblings both got new phones f... | NTA. Your dad is.
The way he responded, part of me thinks he was never gonna buy you a new phone.
Your phone may still run, but he knows it’s shitty and he made a promise and your school being closed is out of your control. If your grades were good before your school closed and he still refuses, he’s being an asshol... |
I spent a couple hours painting my mom because she always tells me she wants some art of mine to keep, so I thought this would be really nice. I showed my dad and he got pretty mad at me. He suggested I go out and get her a real card. My mom's always been super sappy for my art so I figured it was perfect? I wrote a wh... | NTA. Your Dad is THE asshole. It is beautiful and your mom will love it ###### |
I’m (22F USA) quite embarrassed of this situation and need help finding if I’m the asshole.
I quit my full-time job about a week ago because I am pursuing my bachelors degree and cannot balance my homework while also working more than 40 hours a week. The financial situation this has caused makes it so I can no long... | NTA. Your dad is the asshole for knowing that you need to rely on food banks and yet won’t help you out at all. Fuck that guy. ###### |
I spent a couple hours painting my mom because she always tells me she wants some art of mine to keep, so I thought this would be really nice. I showed my dad and he got pretty mad at me. He suggested I go out and get her a real card. My mom's always been super sappy for my art so I figured it was perfect? I wrote a wh... | NTA. Your dad is probably jealous. Give him a card on Father’s Day and when he asks why mom got the picture just say that by his reaction to the painting, you though he wouldn’t want one. ###### |
So my dad a weird habit of watching pervy videos from YouTube on his phone in front of us, especially while we're eating. They're usually compilations of girls in their underwear twerking or shaking their boobs. So I find this kind of innapropriate especially during family dinner and today I asked him to watch it priva... | NTA. your dad is kinda creepy though :/ ###### |
My dad doesn't realize his actions have killed his fatherly relationship with my brother, and Aidan (fake name) doesn't care enough to bother calling him out or if I do.
When Aidan was younger he did lots of weed in HS, then experimented with more crazy stuff his first few years in college a few times. Aidan is mildly... | NTA. Your dad is actively trying to ruin your brothers life. How long is your dad planning on punishing your brother for his high school behavior. ###### |
My father and his family lost their home and had no place to live. He has a teenage son, my half brother, who is 15 and a known smoker. Because they had nowhere else to go, I offered them to stay at our other house we usually rent out to other people. The house is situated within our property, just next to our home.
... | NTA. Your Dad charged you rent. Your Dad is occupying space you’d otherwise earn income on, your Mom isn’t.
Anyway, even without the above points, you’re allowed to like your Mom more or to give her more support. ###### |
So this is kinda two AITAs but the first happened a month ago and I was confident I was in the right, I'm just double checking because the two events are connected.
I practice a martial art that has weight classes, so I monitor my weight all the time, except when I'm injured or for whatever reason not competing (Chris... | NTA. Your coworker is overly sensitive and needs to seek some form of help if she's going to take everything everyone says personal. Times are tough right now, but I'd also consider finding a new workplace once a suitable option presents itself as your workplace seems to have a policy of punishing first and investigat... |
Hear me out... this happened yesterday. My (44F) cousin (32F) called me in a panic because she wants to call the police on her neighbor for abusing her children because "she left them outside in the heat and won't let them back indoors". Cousin states she saw the children playing and the younger boy (approx 10-11) was ... | NTA. Your cousin needs to mind her own business. It used to be normal for kids to play outside all day every day in the summer. Your cousin is old enough to remember that, surely. It’s not like the kids were toddlers and they clearly had access to shade, snacks, and cold drinks.
ETA: The hottest part of day is closer... |
This happened about a year ago:
I'm female artist, and my niece (6yo) absolutely loves me. One time I let her come into my bedroom when she was visiting and I forgot about the tasteful nude I had pinned to the wall behind my door. It was of a middle-aged naked woman lounging. I created it in a figure drawing class.
M... | NTA. Your conversation with your niece wasn’t the business of this random prudish asshole who felt it necessary to eavesdrop. ###### |
Hey!
So recently my biological dad reached out to me and explained that he is probbably going to die because of kidney falioure and he is at the bottom of the list.
Im 21 female.
I am really scared of doctors, let alone blood donation. So you can't even imagine how scared I really am to even think about this. Surgery i... | NTA. Your choice is valid. You said you see this man as a stranger and you wouldn’t even be comfortable donating a kidney to your own close family— tbh, as much as it’s going to piss them off, I’d tell him just that.
Donating a kidney is major surgery, and you’d be well within your rights to say “no” to anyone.
I do... |
My parents are both working and that leaves me in charge of my 3 younger brothers, its not that bad and my only responsibility is to basically make sure they don't burn down the house and make lunch and sometimes dinner. I was making this stew thing that was sitting in a crock pot close to all day. I made enough so tha... | NTA. Your brothers were fighting and being incredibly unaware of their surroundings. They needed to be more aware and responsible. Sure, you could've been a little less shouty, but after taking possibly hours making stew you have every right to be mad. Your mum should've put herself in your shoes and imagine how angry... |
Every night, my brother(16) calls his cousin and they play Call of Duty Mobile with 3 other family members. However, when he does this, he's loud as hell and ignores literally everything anyone tells him.
He yells into his mic on his earbuds and constantly is asking if the others can hear him. He also snaps at my othe... | NTA. Your brother is being an obnoxious brat. ###### |
So I (15f) was playing the sims today when my younger brother (8m) came into the room. Since it’s pride month in a few days I was looking at the pride flags that they have in sims to find one for my sim. My brother starts asking what these flags are so I explain to him about lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgenders and ... | NTA. Your brother asked about the flags and you tried to explain them in an age appropriate way. Lying to a child to 'protect' them from harmless things such as the LGBTQ community would be much much worse than simply answering his question. Chances are, he won't give it much thought going forward anyway - kids ask lo... |
I’m getting married next year. My fiancé and I were chatting about the wedding, and he asked me who my bridesmaids are going to be. So I list them off, and he just stares at me. So I ask what’s the matter and he says “well what about L(his sister)?” And I told him that she wasn’t going to be one. He gets PISSED. And he... | NTA. Your bridesmaids are for your support, not his. He can ask her to be a groomswoman if he wants her in the wedding that badly.
Also, you don’t have to like or love her just because she’s family. Toxic is toxic regardless of someone’s relation to you. You don’t owe her anything just because you’re marrying her br... |
So today, I got in the car from work, and brought with me, some cotton candy grapes. I offer my fiancé to try one and he refuses. He seems bothered and he said he’s nauseous because of the smell of the grapes, and my grape breath. He says they smell gross and that he can’t handle the smell.
He never eats fruits or ve... | NTA. Your boyfriend sounds like he might need medical help. ###### |
I’ve had my cat Morwen (bonus points if u know where her name is from) for about 6 years and have been dating my boyfriend for a year. Recently we’ve been talking about moving in together, since his lease is up in May and we’ve been together a while, but if we moved into my apartment he would be moving an hour away and... | NTA. Your boyfriend is treating your cat as if it was a fucking lamp or something. Not moving in with him will probably turn out to be one of the best decisions you can make. ###### |
Throwaway account because he'd likely see it if i posted with my main acc.
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some context- I've been doing freelance art for years and usually I charge, say, $90 per character in a piece or more depending on other stuff. My bf didn't know I drew when we started dating and didn't seem to care all that much ... | NTA. Your boyfriend is not entitled to free art. You have already been extremely generous with him.
If he wants more art he can pay, and wait in the commission line like everybody else. ###### |
(TW: miscarriage) This is my third pregnancy. Multiples run very strongly in my family so I always knew there was the potential for more than one. I was shocked though when my first ultrasound revealed triplets. I wasn’t exactly thrilled as this was to be our last baby and I was going for three kids not five but I came... | NTA. Your body, your kids/group of cells (idk how far along the pregnancy was). They should be happy that you or your husband need therapy and are depressed. As long as you are happy then that’s all that matters. ###### |
I haven't left the house in almost 3 weeks, I HATE shaving. It is probably my biggest pet peeve cause whenever I shave I have stuble literally the next day and it pisses me off. Since my mom and dad have forced me to stay and I'm forbidden from leaving I don't see a need to shave. Its been 3 weeks since I've even to... | NTA. Your body, your choice. Your comfort is more important than her perception of your ugliness. ###### |
I hate getting touched, and especially when I’ve already told them I hate getting touched without my permission. I only let few people touch me, and I even get annoyed with family members touching me. My grandmother constantly touches my waist and I hate it, I already told her to not touch me. Yet she did it again, I g... | NTA. Your body & you choose who touches it.
The people forcing you to apologize are AH. So is Grandma for not listening to her granddaughter. ###### |
Before Christmas I fell and broke my hip, nothing extreme becsuse I'm young but still had to have a surgery and till February I only moved to perfom rehabilitative exercises. Then pandemic happened and I wasn't able to do anything. Which made me grumpy as I'm used to at least walk a lot. Finally, 2 months ago I was al... | NTA. Your bf on the other hand is a huge, gaping one. ###### |
AITA: Last night my boyfriend took it upon himself to let our friend group hanging out in discord know that I really don't send him nudes. (I've been through a lot and have ptsd, and I don't trust technology. He knows I'm uncomfortable with sending nude pictures of myself and we see each other on a decently regular bas... | NTA. Your bf is trying to publicly shame you in order to get you to do something you are not comfortable with. You are 100% justified in not sending nudes if you don't want to. Your body, your choice.
He's also showing that if you *were* to send nudes, he likely won't keep his mouth shut about that either. ###### |
My husband and I are currently expecting a baby in November. I have 3 other children from a previous marriage. My husband is off work on Monday, Thursday and Friday and I’m off on the weekend so we only need a sitter for Tuesday and Wednesday while we both work.
My grandmother who raised me has always taken care of my... | NTA. Your baby’s safety is more important than MIL’s need to watch him. She may be hurt but it just doesn’t seem safe to let her watch the baby.
Plus her lack of responsibility with her medication is even more concerning, especially as the baby gets older, mobile, and into toddlerhood ###### |
So this is going to be pretty short and simple.
As me and my partner have been starting to plan out the birth of our child I told him I want the two of us to have some time to just bond with the baby. As I have been looking up the rules due to COVID we realised this wouldn’t be a problem. I am allowed one birthing pa... | NTA. Your baby, your rules. Also, the hospital is likely not going to let her in or let you out or let you two interact AT ALL for safety with the virus. She should stay put until you get home and invite her over. Call the hospital and ask to be sure, and then tell her what they say. ###### |
Earlier today, my aunt and her young (seven year old) daughter came to visit to celebrate my father's birthday, with masks and gloves and all that, and I was wearing a short sleeves shirt because it was hot out. My scars are incredibly noticeable, so I wasn't really surprised when my aunt came to me and demanded that I... | NTA. Your aunt is gross. You are allowed to have your arms and scars out, because what matters here is *your* comfort. All your aunt is going to do is teach her child to be as prejudiced as she is. This could have been a good teaching moment about tolerance (or whatever the word is) IMO. ###### |
AITA (F 26) for asking my husband (M 26) to contribute more to our savings?
He pays most of our bills, excluding some household finances and my debts (student loans, credit card, and my car). I pay for most groceries, our furniture that we financed, and the pet bills (disabled dog).
He makes roughly $4800 a month. I... | NTA. Your accounts are set up wrong. Each of you has an individual account for "fun" money. Then a shared account for shared expenses such as groceries, furniture, bills, savings, etc. Work out how much your expenses are, then savings, then "fun" money. There has to be a limit to "fun" money or you get lifestyle creep... |
It's not a big deal at all and it has been resolved since but it left me unsure if I'm in the wrong.
My girlfriend and I both had our own Spotify premium accounts to begin with, but at one point she decided she didn't want to pay for it anymore, even though she listens to music a lot.
I felt bad for her, as free ... | NTA. Your account, your rules. Either she can open her own account or chip in on a family account you both share. ###### |
My neighbors have always been pretty rude since they moved in a few years ago. But the last year and a half have been hell.
They have:
-called CPS on me on an anonymous report saying that I do crack and lock my daughter in a closet. Disgusting lies, I've never even done crack or anything like that, and I would never d... | NTA. Your 5yo is right to be upset in losing a friend, but when it comes to this family you’re better off seeking out a lawyer in the hopes of pursuing a defamation lawsuit against them. ###### |
FYI, I come from northern India, and do not look like the stereotypical Indian in western media. Indians come in all shapes and sizes. My friend is presumed to be chinese but he is from North East India!
About two months ago, I stopped a couple of people from sexually harassing a woman on my way to get groceries and w... | NTA. Your “girlfriend” was incredibly out of line. I don’t see why she would behave this way (other than being racist) after two months of dating each other. There are a lot of memes/jokes about Indian men being creepy or inappropriate towards women, but obviously that’s not the majority of the population.
Does your... |
I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. I (38m) was about to get into the shower, but my wife (39f) told me that she was going to pick up groceries and was going to be 15 minutes. And she asked if I could shower the kids (5f, 3m) while she was gone. I said okay.
I didn’t want to shower my kids and then go into t... | NTA. You’ve done nothing wrong. She is sexualising the situation which is really fudged up on her part. ###### |
I am (22F), he is (23) and we’ve been dating for 6 months. Quite a short story.
I’m a university student and work part time. I earn a decent amount but it’s not a shit ton so I don’t exactly have thousands in savings but I’m trying to save as much as I can just for my future. I don’t even tell my mother what I save be... | NTA. You’ve been dating for 6 months. You’re not tied in any way financially and your bf is a gigantic Ah. It sounds like he wants to control your money or at least parr’s of you. I’d seriously consider dumping his ass if this is how he’s acting. ###### |
Last night, my (33M) 2 step-children (aged 10 and 11) were watching some funny YouTube videos on TV and since my wife (37F) was already watching, I decided to join in as well.
A clip played where a man was trying to jump from one parking pole to another. He lost his footing and landed right on his crown jewels on one ... | NTA. You’re raising them together. They’re *your* kids. Not just hers anymore. She can’t pull that card anytime you do something she doesn’t agree with.
And it may just be me, but 11 years old is an appropriate age to begin learning about sex ed. How long does she want to wait? Does she realize there are 10 and 11 y... |
I was jogging on a trail next to a somewhat busy public street when I saw a young girl crying on a bench. I figured it was best to avoid, but on the way back home, she was still on the same bench, crying. She was about 15. I asked her if she was OK. She said no. I asked if she wanted to talk about it, and she said yes.... | NTA. You’re not the asshole in any way here. You listened to the girl out of nothing but good intent and made the 4 mile trek back to her house to return her safely to her family. It’s not safe for a girl of that age to be running around on her own, so it’s good that you were there for her instead of someone who might... |
I just moved to my current apartment about six months ago. It comes with its own covered parking behind the apartments which are all clearly labeled and it's common knowledge that covered parking at apartments is usually reserved.
To be honest, I hadn't used the reserved covered parking for the first two or three mon... | NTA. You’re not jumping the gun- you gave them multiple chances with notes. Where are you expected to park if they keep taking the spot you pay for?
If you take down the plate number, perhaps the landlady can send an email letting them know they will be towed next time. Or include that on your next note. ###### |
So basically, this blonde girl kept giving me 50% off my Subway. I wasn't sure if it was a glitch or not but I noticed whenever she served me specifically my bank statement would always show my charge as half the price of what I normally pay. I suspect she was doing this purposely and it was meant to be a sweet gesture... | NTA. You’re not asking for a discount. That was not a way to get continued business from the owner/manager. It sounds like you go in frequently so it’s odd they would attack like that. ###### |
Yesterday was my \[24f\] birthday. My boyfriend already said he'd take me out for dinner to celebrate since last week, and I let my family know maybe 3-4 days ago. (for those of you wondering about lockdown, I live in a country where we have had restrictions relaxed as new cases have been in the low digits for a month... | NTA. You’re not a child, it isn’t a “special” birthday, and your family doesn’t appear to have made any other plans to celebrate it... so what exactly is their problem?!
Your parents are being selfish, petty and immature. ###### |
I (38f, white) foster kittens with a local rescue. I usually go through the alphabet to name each new cat/kitten/group. We are on out second time around the alphabet, we are at the letter U, last time we had Ursula. I was looking for names for 1 female and 3 male kittens. I found Uhura and thought it would be really c... | NTA. You’re naming them all together, after a group of fictional characters. If we are starting talk about race when it comes to felines, then I am starting to be concerned for human evolution. ###### |
My older sister has autism and my parents have made me her caretaker since I was around 7th grade. We were made to go to the same classes in school except language class where I chose Chinese and she chose Japanese. When younger my sister did not have any friends outside our friend circle but me so she’s very close and... | NTA. You’re her sister, not her caregiver. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you’re overwhelmed and want to take care of yourself too. You’re absolutely right - can’t keep someone else afloat when you’re struggling. ###### |
We dated for 2 years, I got pregnant, and he said he wasn't ready to be a dad and left us. He came back when she was about a year old and apologised, stuck around for about 6 months, and then left again. She's now 4 and he wants back in her life.
I've said that's not happening unless we have a custody agreement. I kno... | NTA. You’re handling this absolutely right. Your top priority is protecting your daughter and that’s what you’re doing here. ###### |
My MIL (mother in law) is coming in 2 weeks and staying with us for 2 days while she visits the Eye Hospital...which I was completely fine with. However, she called today and wants to bring 3 of the grandchildren and extend her stay for 4 nights. We already have a 15 month old and 2 children from my husband's previous ... | NTA. You’re going to have your hands full assisting her after whatever she’s doing at the hospital. Adding extra kids is a level of extra work that is greatly unnecessary. You should be talking with your husband about the logistics of who’s going to be caring for all of the children and his mom. ###### |
This wasn't really an issue until lockdown, when friends/flatmates' bfs moved in with us and we went from 3 people (out most of the time) to 6 people (in all of the time) with only 1 bathroom.
I like long showers. Most days I'm in the bathroom for 20-25 minutes (from entering to exiting). Once a week I wash my hair, ... | NTA. you’re going out of your way to be considerate of people who dont even live there. i hope they’re at least helping out with the bills ###### |
Pre-info context: I met these friends in high school, but have been talking to them via Discord recently cuz...yeah. Both of us are 20F.
Pre-info context 2: She has openly discussed having mental & developmental disorders, but to respect her privacy, I can only confirm that they’re socialization-based. Please do n... | NTA. You’re feelings are valid and also deserve consideration. It’s shitty that your “friends” feel the need to coddle her, while doing to you what they’re asking you not to do to her. ###### |
I apologize for my English in advance.
Hi I am a 13 year old male who was born in south Korea and moved to Canada at 11 years old. I have been in Canada for coming on 2 years. Out of my family of 5 I am the worst at English. Today I had a video call doctors appointment for my health. With my English skills I could ... | NTA. You’re doing your best! You wanted to make sure the doctor knew what was going on, it makes sense you would want to be as clear as possible. Learning another language is tough, there’s no shame in needing some help! ###### |
I know it sounds bad but hear me out. I am aware that just because you’re in a relationship that attraction to other people doesn’t just stop, and that’s fine!! I’m chill with my bf finding other people attractive and I’m not mad at that.
However, I do suffer with super low self esteem and some other mental health prob... | Nta. You’re boyfriend it’s totally TA though. You really should break up with him, he doesn’t seem to respect you. ###### |
I (F16) was forced to get a job at 15. At the time I wasn't really doing anything productive, so my dad made me get a job. He said it'd keep me busy, and I'd be able to spend my money however I want as long as I kept 30% of it in the bank.
I wasn't fond of the idea since I'm not really good with people, but my dad ins... | NTA. You’re being responsible by setting some money aside for the future and it’s not like you’re spending your dad’s money on makeup and gag gifts. ###### |
There's actually 2 incidences that lead to this post. Some context: I'm (25F) currently living with my parents due to circumstances & cause I'm doing my PhD. When I'm home, I wear a baggy t-shirt with shorts. My shorts are the sporty type (sorta like jogging shorts), but my t-shirts can cover them cause they're su... | NTA. You’re an adult. Dress how you want. I find it reeeeeally problematic that your step-mother insinuated concern over your dad sexualizing you. Like... what even? That’s gross and incestuous, and I would calmly/tactfully call her out on her own insecurities. She obviously feels threatened and lacking attention. ###... |
I (25F) have been with my fiancé (26M) for 10 years now, and spent the last week with beautiful weather at his house. For context, his family and I re very close as they have seen me grow up and we have always lived around the corner from each other.
I asked my MIL if she minded if I layed out in the backyard and tan... | NTA. You’re an adult and she has no right to tell you what to wear and around who ###### |
Me and my partner relocated temporarily for work due to COVID-19 to a regional town and continue to pay rent on our city house for us to return to which will be a week today.
My partners sister and boyfriend were offered the house to stay in for the duration of our absence under the terms they needed to be ready to le... | NTA. You’re above and beyond with being kind and patient. ###### |
My student Spotify premium plan ran out so I went to the website to buy a regular plan. I noticed that they offer a family plan and figured it would be cheaper if I chose this option and split the cost with the people I invited.
I asked around and got a few coworkers and friends to join. The plan costs $15/mo. Split e... | NTA. You've reminded her twice now. It might be good to send a text and wait for a few days for a response before removing her. ###### |
Sounds terrible, I know, but hear me out.
My grandmother (GM) is 95 years old. She lives with my parents, who are both 70 years old. I (F43) live in the house next to them with my husband, kids and pets. Growing up, GM live with us as well and she was the torment of my childhood. She despised my mother and did her ... | NTA. You've offered to pay for a solution to *their* problem, it's their choice to refuse it. It could be they don't want strangers in their home or they know Grammy is going to cause a ruckus.
If Grammy is as bad as you say, she could be demanding you specifically because she likes watching you be uncomfortable.
... |
First of all, I’d like to state that I’m a black woman (early 20’s) who was adopted into a *mostly* Caucasian family as a baby. I don’t want to go into more specific details for identity reasons but I feel like that’s important to mention.
Anyway, my mom and my younger sister are currently living in another state. I c... | NTA. You've got to call out racism at every turn. Never allow it to be swept along with excuses. Make as much noise about it as possible. ###### |
Okay so my boyfriend atm stays home and I work three 12s a week. That said, I like to meal prep so I don’t have to cook every day for my lunches.
Well, my boyfriend, WHO STAYS HOME ALL DAY, thinks it’s a good idea to eat my lunches while i’m at work. I’ve asked him to stop but he says, “But your food is so good. Plus... | Nta. You've asked him to stop. He didn't. The fact that he's mad because you made YOUR FOOD spicy just sounds super childish. Especially since he's purposely taking your prepped meal. Just keep it spicy. He'll learn or go crazy. Also does he not know how to make himself a meal? Sounds super lazy lol. ###### |
So we’re both vegan and have been for years.
Last year we got a beautiful cat who is the grand baby neither of our parents will ever have.
She’s obviously an obligate carnivore and we’ve been feeding her kibble and wet food.
Unfortunately, where she came from wasn’t a very good situation and she had horrible teet... | NTA. You're vegan because you can, your cat is not because she can't. Seems stupidly simply for me. ###### |
A while back I started buying a house w my boyfriend. We decided to let his brother and his brother's wife and kids live with us.
The wife and I each got pregnant within a few months of each other, and so the house was totally wrapped up in baby preparations.
Well, when it's her turn to give birth, he gets back with ... | NTA. You're the least person to be the asshole here. Obviously your brother-in-law had a lot of anxiety about being the father of the child, and for good reasons. Their happiness was based on very fragile foundations if learning about of hospital works can destroy it.
To blame you seems to be an easy way out for pe... |
So imagine this: my mom comes into my room, flops on my teddy bear and just falls asleep. I sit there, letting her sleep and minding my own business for two hours. Then it's time for me to go to sleep.
So at this point I've tried to wake her up twice already but she only complains and goes back to sleep before I can s... | NTA. you're setting a perfectly reasonable boundary. ###### |
I (F16) was forced to get a job at 15. At the time I wasn't really doing anything productive, so my dad made me get a job. He said it'd keep me busy, and I'd be able to spend my money however I want as long as I kept 30% of it in the bank.
I wasn't fond of the idea since I'm not really good with people, but my dad ins... | NTA. You're right, you're a kid. You have no bills, and you're even so responsible that you're saving more of it than originally agreed.
I got my first job when I was 16. I don't know why, but the first thing I did with my first paycheck was buy a cake. Like a big plain sheet cake. I don't even like cake. But the fr... |
My mom has wanted someone to come professionally deep clean our house for a long time. It’s pretty expensive, so I suggested paying my boyfriend to deep clean since he’s very good at cleaning. She agreed and named her price, but later she made a snide comment about how my boyfriend should’ve offered to clean our house ... | NTA. You're right, she shouldn't expect people to do things for free. Paying him shows that you value his labor, and tbh he shouldn't have to grovel for it. ###### |
My “best” friend of about 8 years is pregnant for the second time. She blames all of her “mood swings” (aka her being pretty rude with words) on her pregnancy hormones. And listen, I get it. You’re more hormonal, you’re more moody, I understand. But that doesn’t give her the right to be downright rude in my eyes.
Whe... | NTA. You're right to call her out on her rude comments. Even if someone is making rude comments because they're hormonal, you're justified in calling them out. People who do/say rude things impulsively due to hormones or an acute stressor usually show remorse for what they say. Your friend isn't showing any of that. #... |
This happened a while ago, before the virus. We were on a college study abroad, and this one girl (21) who ill call M, repeatedly grabbed my (19) butt. It took me raising my voice slightly after telling her to stop multiple times for her to actually stop.
Towards the end of the trip, M told the group that our bus driv... | NTA. You're right that she is totally entitled to feel uncomfortable that the bus driver did that. But double standards don't work. Maybe it will be a wake up call for her. ###### |
About 3 months ago I (24) began seeing a man (27) We are polar opposites (I'm a city girl, he's a country redneck). We've been sexually active the entire time.
About two weeks ago I started throwing up and feeling really weird. I took a test. It was positive. I haven't had an OB confirm it yet.
The issue he is very... | NTA. You're pregnant. He's not. If you decide to give birth he needs to know but it's none of his business if you terminate. ###### |
My father who I haven’t seen since I was 3 recently died. My sister who had been having some troubles moved in with him about a year ago after burning bridges with all of my mom’s family after she got pregnant and ran away from home. She’s only 15. I recently turned 18 and my dads family is looking to me to be invol... | NTA. You're only 18! It's okay to let your father's family handle his funeral. ###### |
So my little sister is 7 and has a mild form of autism which makes her maturity level about a year or 2 behind where she is supposed to be. I usually tuck her in for bed most nights cause she doesn’t really like my mom or dad doing it.
I do food delivery as a job right now, and I was working a lot lik from 8-8. Wh... | NTA. You're not the parent. Your mom is pissed because she had to deal with your sister's mood and is looking for someone to blame; she's not assuming her responsibilities towards your sister's nightly routine. ###### |
My father went to prison two years ago for a crime I don't feel comfortable saying, but it really disturbed me. It completely ruined my trust in him, considering how close we were beforehand. It also really tore apart my family, leaving us with half of our usual income, rumours in our small town etc. It really wasn't e... | NTA. You're not ready yet and noone (even family) should be asking you to do things you're uncomfortable with. ###### |
Sorry for formatting, also English is not my first language.
Throwaway cause she knows my username. I know the title sounds bad.
I (f, 20) have had a boyfriend since 2018, pretty damn healthy relationship. I'm also bisexual with a preference for men.
Basically a few days ago a gay girl (f, 19) told me she liked... | NTA. You're not obligated to return someone's feelings for you, and it's totally inappropriate for her to try and throw a wrench in your relationship. ###### |
My mother left when I (18F) was 9 years old, seemingly never to be heard from again. I was sad about it of course, but not *too* sad as we never got along. She was very cruel to me, and she very obviously favored my brother (20M). She always took his side when we fought, she always wanted to spend time with him and not... | NTA. You're not obligated to have a relationship with her and she absolutely owes you an apology. ###### |
We are stuck at home and I've been helping my 13F daughter and 11M son work on homework while I work from home. It's just the three of us and our house isn't huge, so there's lots of bickering at this point. Today, my dad asked if the kids could come over and mow their lawn to make some money for treats. I said that... | NTA. You're not favouring your son over your daughter. You set the expectations in order to get a reward (if doing chores can be considered a reward even with money!). He met them, she didn't.
Hopefully she learns her lesson and starts doing her homework and chores! ###### |
My boyfriend is allergic to shellfish. His throat closes up within an few hours if we don’t get to the emergency room on time. He doesn’t need an epipen but he does need to get to the emergency room to take a methyl prednisone pill. I am aware of these allergies and always do my best to accommodate them. I would never ... | NTA. You're not even ordering shellfish, so why is Chinese food a problem? ###### |
My husband and I both suffer from depression. For the past few years, I’ve been able to manage mine pretty well with medication and regular therapy. He is on meds and tried therapy once a few years ago but didn’t like his therapist so he stopped and never found a new one. His depression has just gotten worse and worse.... | NTA. You're not complaining about him talking over his worries, you're simply saying you can't be his "only outlet," which is perfectly legitimate. ###### |
Ok so basically I live with my brothers, the oldest is my legal guardian so when they have girlfriends/partners I usually meet them and get to know them.
A couple of months back, my oldest brother (S) was dating a girl (P) and they were pretty serious until she cheated on him and he broke up with her immediately. Befo... | NTA. You're never obligated to spend time with anyone, and it's pretty common to no longer hang out with a bf/gf after they split from your sibling unless you had gotten really close. Especially if the other person had cheated. That's almost always a "fuck you, we're done' situation.
It's weird of P to have gotten s... |
Posting from mobile so please excuse formatting.
My dog has multiple health issues, specifically hypertension and an autoimmune disease in one eye. Daily, she needs to receive a pill in the morning and four drops, two in the morning and two at night. She has gotten used to the drops and pills and doesn't fight you, ju... | NTA. You're mom is a shitty person. She is too lazy to care for the wellbeing of the dog. You'll have to do it yourself ###### |
I can't even believe I'm writing this. It feels so ridiculous but I feel like I'm going out of my mind.
Several of my friends have now expressed that they think it's "covert racism" and "culture appropriation" because my Animal Crossing character is black.
I'm a white female but when I started playing I decided I wo... | NTA. You're just picking a character without the intent of representing yourself. If you had a black bitmoji that would be another thing because that's intended to be an avatar of yourself, but this is more of a roleplay situation. You create whatever character you want, that's the fun of video games. ###### |
So my brother is a twitch streamer he isnt huge but he averages around 100 to 150 concurrent viewers during stream. He does it full time while going to college. When he streams I(14M) use it as background noise and normally lurk. Today I decided to say something in chat and he ignored it which whatever streamers ignore... | NTA. You're just a normal viewer. I'm sorry he's treating you poorly. ###### |
When I was 15, my mom left the family. For a long time, no one knew where she was or even if she was okay. Eventually, it was discovered that she was just “too overwhelmed” and left to handle herself. My brothers and I were raised by our uncle and my dad from that point on, but it was hard. I became like my brothers’ m... | NTA. You're her kid. She did that to you. He has kids with her. Fair warning. If she doesn't like having to own being a shit person, she shouldn't be a shit person in the first place. And it's not your fault she hid her shit. How were you to know she didn't even mention you existed, let alone she bailed on you (and yo... |
Backstory: my older sister (40) is sick. Has been going blind. Not entirely sure what is wrong. This has been going on for about 6 months now. She has her good days and her bad days. However, her bad days are bad. Doesn’t want to get out of bed, headaches, worse vision, etc.
Now here is where my mom comes in. She is ... | NTA. You're definitely right. It is sad that your sister has to suffer but still you deserve your life and your freedom.
Your support won't be less valid if it comes 20 Minutes later, 2 hours later or even 2 days later.
You're not responsible for your sisters condition, you shouldn't be treated as if you were just b... |
Ok so I may sound like a total a hole in the title but hear me out
Disclaimer for bad grammar I’m upset and writing this quick.
Ok so for the last 3 years I have been aware that my brother goes in my room while I’m at school (he gets home an hour early as he’s in elementary and I’m in 8 grade middle school).
Now I ... | NTA. You're brother needs to learn some boundaries and your parents need to take your side on this. ###### |
Backstory. My grandma (64F) has never had her own place and has always lived with someone her whole life. I have a two year old and a five month old and after hearing her complaining about not getting to see family and my mom kicking her out my husband (32M) and I (23F) offered her a place to stay at our house two stat... | NTA. You're being very generous and she's taking advantage of you while also trying to control your household. Kicking her out or forcing her to pay rent are reasonable options. ###### |
My mom was raised in Kashmir. Muslims took over the territory, burned down her house, killed her dad, and they fled to India in the middle of the night. My entire family hateeees Muslims because of this.
So they’re super islamophobic. But also my mom was once robbed by a black person, so she also uses that to say she... | NTA. You're analogy is solid. She just didn't like being called out on her bull shit ###### |
I guess the question isn’t if I’m an asshole for just being on the site in general. It’s more like, I hold the guys I meet on there accountable for the things they promised. For this not familiar with it, but the site is for younger girls to meet older men who are willing to date in exchange for money. It’s not straigh... | NTA. You're an adult. There's very little room for questioning what the purpose of that site is. If the dude is on it, he knows that it's not a standard dating site. The reason you're running into so much push-back is because that website is also full of liars and scam artists. ###### |
This is my first post on this subreddit so here goes nothing.
Hey I’m a (18M) and never had dated before. Never even kissed a girl. Haha embarrassing right? My mom absolutely forbade me from dating in highschool saying “focus on grades, not girls.” I went along with this notion and did pretty well for myself.
Now I h... | NTA. You're an adult, go have fun but stay safe and be responsible!
Also, keeping "close friends" to date later on will not work. There's no guarantee they'll be single at that point, or view you as more than a friend. ###### |
My daughter and I are not close anymore and I've been 'cut off' for the past year due to my opinions on her having a second child at 19 when both her and her fiance are still studying and don't have jobs. It was a hardly necessary and drastic decision on her end but it's what she wishes so I backed off and since we hav... | NTA. You're already raising her first child, and she cut you off because you didn't think it was a good idea for her to have another, especially since it sounded like she wanted you to raise the second one as well. That's a bs reason to cut you off and it sounds like your sons know that. ###### |
This one is kinda a confusing situation that happened a while ago but I still sometimes wonder I’m im the AH. I (17m) has a close friend (17f) my junior year and we planned on going to junior prom together. Well it just so happened that later on in the year I had gotten a girlfriend and she had gotten a boyfriend. I as... | NTA. You're allowed to go to prom with a friend of the opposite gender, you're allowed to hang out with a friend of the opposite gender.
It would be good to have a talk with your GF, try and reasure her, and get her to understand you and this friend are only friends. Cause being with someone who gets this jealous ove... |
I have 3 kids; 8, 6, and 4. They love to ride bikes and we live in a relatively safe neighborhood so I let them ride around the(fairly small) block as long as they stick together and do NOT go off track. Around the block only, no crossing the street
The other day they went off track because they found some mysteriou... | NTA. You're a parent, you made rules, the kids need to know that your rules have to be followed and actions have consequences. That being said, give them an alternative. Like, if they see something cool they come tell you and you go with them/give them one-time permission. And/or sit down with them and explain that, i... |
Sorry for the confusing(?) title, I don’t exactly know how to word this.
I’m 21f, my dad was 46m. To make a long story short: When I was 9, my dad cheated on my mom, while she had cancer, and got married immediately after she died. Stepmom, who is 43f, and her daughter, who is 18f, were not nice people, and made growi... | NTA. You're 21, both your parents are dead, and it sounds like your life from your early years onward has been challenging, to say the least. Your dad presumably realised this, and tried to make up for it by leaving you the bulk of his assets. Was it a wise move on his part? Probably not. He should have foreseen that ... |
I (M 21) am staying with my mom and her boyfriend (M 50) of 2 years at our family home.
This evening, I was being yelled at told “how wrong I am” and how bad my actions are because I simply forgot to put a kitchen appliance away in the cupboard. I usually put it away, but when I was waiting for it to dry, I forgot ab... | NTA. You're 21 and you're not his kid. I used this on my brother (father of 4) once when we were walking and talking it started to sound a lot like a lecture. I told him "Don't use your dad voice with me. I'm not one of your kids." It brought him up pretty short. ###### |
My parents have been divorced since I was like a 2 or 3, my mom remarried when I was around 10 but they were dating when I was like 7. I am an only child but my step dad had 4 kids of his own, 3 girls and 1 boy. at the time when I was 7 they were 10, 8, 7 and the boy was 5 (they are 20, 18, 17 and 15).
The blending wi... | NTA. You're 17 now? That's plenty old enough to decide where you want to stay. ###### |
I (17M) program as a hobby. I've been pulling all nighters working on a project with my friends and on my free time I play CSGO and Hypixel Skyblock. My mom recently put locks on my laptop and blocked certain programs that are essential to my hobby (vscode, unity, etc) Luckily for me I found a loophole that allows me t... | NTA. You're 17 not 12. She should be less controlling. Also, good on you for bypassing them! Lots of kids suffer under North Korea-style surveillance and strict content restrictions imposed by their parents every day. ###### |
So my (22F) parents (50+) were in the backyard doing some gardening and planting flowers today and left the garage door open. They have a few extra of certain supplies and made a care package for one of my friends who is struggling and left it on the front porch.
They have security cameras and were surprised when the ... | NTA. You'd ruin his life anyway by letting him think crime is okay ###### |
Hi everybody! My fiancé and I are expecting a baby in December. I have a lot of bad history with my last name and my fiancé’s family also has a really bad history. For this reason I’ve always wanted my baby to have a new last name to start brand new with no history. We both agree to this and decided this is what we are... | NTA. You will likely get some push back from the family, and you have to decide whether or not it’s worth dealing with the fallout from that. Are you both planning on taking a new last name when you get married? If the two of you and your child would all share a totally new last name, that would make sense. ###### |
All my life I've babysat people when it comes to hanging out. I'll ask, they'll say "I'll get back to you" or "sure maybe next week" or some such thing, and then days will go by and I hear nothing up until the last minute or don't hear anything at all. Recently I decided I'm done doing that. If they don't give me concr... | NTA. You weren’t rude or malicious, you just said it how it is. Hopefully they’ll learn they can’t just leave people waiting on them to make plans. ###### |
My son is 5 years older and ever since his first word I've been speaking to him in Arabic just as my mother did with me. He's picking the language up pretty quickly and I'm also teaching him French and German as I know it's easier for children to pick up languages. I've also been teaching him about Islam through bed ti... | Nta. You weren't forcing your son. You were doing it and like a normal kid, he's copying what his parent is doing
If your son likes it then I don't see why not. Maybe she can learn it as well so that it would be a bonding thing for all of you ###### |
I’m not a tech guy but I know more than anyone in my family and whenever there is a hiccup I am called to fix it. I was full on asleep when my oldest brother yelled for me to wake up. When I got out the WiFi wasn’t working and he basically demanded I fix it’s. I wasn’t looking for a fight and I just humored him.
I... | NTA. You were woken up and then they prevented you from continuing to help. Cussing at siblings depends on the dynamic but I'd assume more often than not siblings are comfortable enough with one another to handle that language. ###### |
I (F23) am currently staying at my girlfriend’s (26) apartment and yesterday she wasn’t feeling well. She had really bad cramps, was throwing up and had a really bad headache. We were out of medicine and groceries so I went out to get some.
I picked up the medicine and went into the grocery store, trying to get to th... | NTA. You were totally fine. Don’t think twice about this. ###### |
This ended up in a breakup and to be honest would have resulted in a break up no matter which way it was handled, and I realized that at the time so I handled it the way I did.
Me and my ex had been together for about four years before this, we adopted a dog together in our first year together and had been raising it.... | NTA. You were put in an impossible situation: try to save the life of your dog (maybe without being 100% sure about the recover) and lose your only income or keeping it but loosing your dog.
I’m sorry about your pet ###### |
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