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2 years ago, I (26f) inherited a home in Barcelona from my Spanish grandmother. I work remotely so I made the decision to move there for a few years, enjoying the culture and of course, lack of mortgage/rent. But I came home to the US to ride out this pandemic with family.
My friend, Sofia (25f) in Barcelona has to mo... | NTA. Your property, and it's for you to decide who you trust to take care of it. ###### |
So my mum started randomly coming into the bathroom to wash her hands, brush her teeth, go to the toilet etc while I was in the shower. I asked her to stop because it made me uncomfortable. she said she would stop but recently she’s been coming in more and more casually again and i got pretty annoyed at her.
Me: can y... | NTA. Your privacy is important. If she doesn't respect it, then she can do better. Also, how old are you, and do you have some family member you can talk to about this? ###### |
Today when my sister in law came over (she's also our neighbour) her 10 year old son also came along and instantly started tellimg me about his tik tok account which has many followers.Initially, I was happy for him but then he asked me if he could download tik tok on my phone, so that i can like his videos... | NTA. Your phone, your business. You can say no just because you don’t want the app. conversation done.
They sound entitled ###### |
I am just wondering if this was wrong for me to say. I’m on letrazol and I have endometriosis, the letrazol forces me to ovulate and is giving me some nasty side effects. To avoid being on it as long as possible, I asked if my partner to avoid masturbating and instead just hold out for our sex every second day. He got ... | NTA. Your partner very much sounds like someone that doesn't actually want a child. And even if they do, they also plan to let you shoulder the majority of the load when a child comes along. They're already letting you take on too much of the load right now by making you plead with them not to masturbate when anyone w... |
So, this happened way last year, but it's still been on my mind, and some clarification would be nice so I can make up my mind and tell them "I'm sorry' and whatnot. When I (16m at the time, 17m now) lived with my parents, they'd constantly peg me to clean the entire house for them, do their laundry, and even go as far... | NTA. Your parents were abusive. They neglected you and your siblings and then forced you to step in as a surrogate parent for your siblings. ###### |
My parents always think im a careless person like sometimes i forgot bring my wallet, forget where i place my key. They always remind me anything , always lock the door before going out, and i never forget to lock the door so why always remind me of that. sometimes people forget, its normal i think. They almost regulat... | Nta. Your parents sound like control freaks. But you shouldn't beg your daughter to to anything. If there are rules or regulations she has to follow them. You are her "boss" not the other way around. ###### |
So my(16f) sister(23f) was studying abroad in Italy but the whole corona virus thing happened and she had to come back. She left all of her stuff with her roommate who lived there, including her computer.
My mom lent her her computer for about a month because she wasn’t really using it, but now she needs it for work ... | NTA. Your parents shouldn’t have said the computer was for you if they’re just going to give it to your sister. Also, no offence to your sister but she’s 23. She can earn money and buy herself a computer. If you were to try and earn money to buy a computer then it would take you much longer because 16 year olds are pa... |
I (f/20) am planning to move together with a friend (same age) of mine next summer, once I have graduated.
My parents do know this said friend, as we know each other since high school. At first, my parents once I confronted them about my plans, didn't say anything and were actually even happy that I won't live lonely ... | NTA. Your parents need to start figuring out a way to get themselves out of debt that doesn’t include you. You shouldn’t feel obligated to stay. ###### |
Growing up my mom was big in to charity work (not donating money but giving things to people who they thought needed it), it might sound like a good thing but a lot of the times it was taking something from me (yes most of it was given to me by her but they didn’t limit it to things purchased by her) giving it to someo... | NTA. Your parents didn’t quite hit the mark in helping you develop charitable approach they hoped for. By taking your things, they made acts of charity something that created resentment and possibly guilt. Instead they should have focused on creating charitable experiences that create human connection or a sense of pu... |
I (17f) get uncomfortable around my father often as he is very touchy and (in my opinion) often inappropriate. He will often playfully smack my butt if he is walking by me in the house, put his hand on my hip or butt if we are taking a picture, or pat my butt if we are hugging. He also implies that I am sexually invol... | NTA. Your parents both suck. Your father for being a creepy asshole and your mother for making it your responsibility to accept his behavior. He has no right to touch you in anyway that makes you uncomfortable. Period. Please consider talking to a trusted adult about all of this. ###### |
AITA for not wanting to my brother to move in with me?
I (f24) rent a house from my parents with my husband and my daughter(6 years old) my brother(26years old) is being discharged from the navy for some mental issues (extreme depression and substance abuse issues) we have an extra room in our house that my parents of... | NTA. Your parents are very ignorant. They seem like they don't care about your emotions at all. They didn't even ask for your permission. Why don't they just let him move in with them?
Don't let your brother move in. Keep your daughter safe from experiencing the same things you had to go through. ###### |
Hey everyone I am very conflicted about this as everyone around me has called me TA and a bad sister.
My brother (16M) and I (18F) don’t get along. Although it is only a 2 year age gap we are polar opposites.
I go to the top university in my country and am studying to become a doctor. I have been a pretty strong st... | NTA. Your parents are spoiling your brother instead of helping him get his shit together. Expecting you to do the same just because they can't be assed to send him to rehab or get him therapy is just lazy and selfish of them. ###### |
Bg: I'm 17 years old. I live with my mom and dad but for the past few months, my sister's 3 kids have been living with us. They have no manners, are disrespectful, and are destructive. For example, they scribbled over my expensive drawing tablet (their mom blamed me), ripped up the dining room chairs, and threw things ... | NTA. Your parents are putting you in a impossible situation and it's not fair. ###### |
I've been diagnosed with S.I.H. my brain is nearly constantly inflamed and my veins are full up of blood or something else . either way , my brainstem is very inflamed and this causes me to hear things constantly, along with pain, feeling sick, hearing loss, fluid building up in my head , seizures, brain fog etc .
my... | NTA. Your parents are horrible people, you need to try and get out of there. ###### |
So my parents love movies like fast and furious and movies with lots of action and guns. (Die hard ect..)
They do occasionally pick a different movie but that’s incredibly rare and so it’s normally a die hard clone or a movie with some super buff guy shooting a gun.
I’m not a huge fan of those types of movies and woul... | NTA. Your parents *are* hypocrites, and they don't like having to confront that. This is a prime example of "do as I say, not as I do".
But in the spirit of making the quarantine tolerable for everyone OP, maybe you could suggest to them that you all try broadening your horizons together, and watch some well-review... |
I’m 19, sister in question is 9. I became paralyzed a couple of years ago and now rely on a wheelchair, it’s basically my legs. I’m completely non-ambulatory, meaning I can’t walk at all or anything and I rely on my wheelchair not only for basic movement but for a sense of independence. Just some perspective before sta... | NTA. Your mother’s behaviour is appalling. She should have talked with your sister. ###### |
I’m 19, sister in question is 9. I became paralyzed a couple of years ago and now rely on a wheelchair, it’s basically my legs. I’m completely non-ambulatory, meaning I can’t walk at all or anything and I rely on my wheelchair not only for basic movement but for a sense of independence. Just some perspective before sta... | NTA. Your mother's reasoning does not make any sense at all. She's basically comparing your wheelchair to a toy which it isn't. It's something that you need in order to be able to get around and function. Would your mother feel the same if your sister either hurt herself or damaged the wheelchair while she was playing... |
This was a good while ago but I just realized maybe I could confirm what I thought.
My Context: I wrote a story and it was one of the best I had written in a good long while. My mom loved it and wanted to post it to Facebook. I was excited, I love sharing my stories! So she posts it and then later I go on Facebook for... | NTA. Your mother sounds like the student that always mooches off your homework. If I were you, I’d probably try and maybe report the post or something, or point out who the real writer was. ###### |
My mom is graduating from her PhD program. She’s been using a hand me down MacBook Air for over 5 years, and it’s basically falling apart at the seams. So as a surprise my bro and I got her a brand new MacBook Air.
My mom has a lot more money than me. She can easily buy herself a laptop but she doesn’t like to spend... | NTA. Your mother sounds like a spoiled child, not like a grown woman. ###### |
So before I start I 1000% know I’m petty but I wanna know if I’m TA because she’s now crying and I feel like I’ve gone too far...
So the other day she lost something, we were both looking for it and I was actively searching in front of her for this thing. During the search I got a text from my best friend that he’d be... | NTA. Your mother seems extremely dramatic to cry over you not caring that her friend got called a fat cow. Your mother is also a HUGE AH, for completely dismissing your worry for your friend and saying she doesn't care. ###### |
I (17f) have a variety of socks. They range from the regular knee high patterned ones, to knit socks, to old fashioned lace ones. I don’t collect them or anything, I just like having different kinds of socks. I live with my dad (56m), and he knows that I buy socks fairly regularly. He doesn’t have an issue with it.
Si... | NTA. Your mother is ridiculous. First of all, she has no right to throw out your property. Second of all, to call your own daughter a slut is abhorrent. I hope your father has your back. ###### |
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So my mother was a middle school teacher and she would tutor this boy who was around 13 or 14 years old. He would come over our house for tutoring.So, they ended up having sex and mom get's pregnant.
At that time, me (19M) and dad didn't know about the affair and thought the baby was ... | NTA. Your mother is guilty of statutory rape, you did exactly the right thing by turning her in
It’s understandable you’re going to have difficulty bonding with your brother given the circumstances, and it sounds like your still reasonably young yourself. Remember though, the circumstances of your brother’s birth are... |
Last Thanksgiving, my mom (53F) and I (24F) got into a fight about how my aunt treats me and my younger cousin who is transgender (13M). Side note: my mom adopted my little cousin several years ago, and he came out as transgender last year. He prefers to be referred to as male, which I will do in this post.
My aun... | NTA. Your mother is asking your cousin to purposefully dehumanize himself. Being trans and being gay is nothing shameful, and shouldn’t be hidden because “there are kids around”. News flash. Some kids are gay, and some kids are trans. ###### |
I (f,21) have been buying icecream from our local icecream shop since the corona crisis forced it shut. They now deliver. I love their icecream and I want to support local buisinesses now as much as possible, which is why I buy from them as opposed to the supermarket.
Their icecream is however really expensive. I can... | NTA. Your mother is a grown woman. Why can't she go buy her own ice cream? ###### |
I ( 18F) live with my mother and I recently asked for a key to lock my door because my family members keep barging in, my mom refused even though she clarified she trusts me completely because I live under her roof and she wants access to every part of the house "what if there's a fire and you fall asleep and I wouldn'... | NTA. Your mom was a volunteer firefighter but cant come up with a solution to get through a locked door in the event of a fire? ###### |
Gday all
I’m 21, just turned 21 a week ago or something. I’m also Australian where being 21 means sweet fuck all, whereas I know in the US it’s a big deal. Over here when we turn 18 that’s like your 21. Anyway.
Despite being 21, my mother still likes to tell me when I get home from work (full time, 8-14 hour days, t... | NTA. Your mom sounds very very annoying. She can't accept that you aren't a child anymore. ###### |
This happened about 5 years ago, but my mom has brought it up recently and renewed the debate.
A bit of background: my parents got divorced when I was 4 (17 now) and they VERY strongly dislike each other. The only reason they act somewhat civil is because of me. They have shared custody, so I live with each for half t... | NTA. Your mom sounds like she needs to find other ways to fulfill her life. ###### |
I got an IUD in August and told my mom I was getting it, she paid because i’m her daughter and she wanted to.
Fast forward to October and my mom calls me at college and says she has a funny story. Mind you, we both tend to joke about my dad because he’s a character and they’re divorced. She says that my dad found out ... | NTA. Your mom is right, you’re 18 and it’s your body, so it’s your choice. You didn’t have to ask permission from anybody, including your dad, or even talk about it if you didn’t feel comfortable with it. Besides, he’s a guy. What reason could he reasonably give for preventing you from getting an IUD if you’ve already... |
Backstory: my older sister (40) is sick. Has been going blind. Not entirely sure what is wrong. This has been going on for about 6 months now. She has her good days and her bad days. However, her bad days are bad. Doesn’t want to get out of bed, headaches, worse vision, etc.
Now here is where my mom comes in. She is ... | NTA. Your mom is insulting you and your siblings and doing a disservice to your sister by equating "failure to immediately text" with "does not care about medical issues." Start a private text message chain with your ill sister to let her know how much you care. Next time your mom criticizes you, you can say "she an... |
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When lockdown happened in March my mum asked could she stay with my wife and I while lockdown was happening as she was worried she'd get lonely during it. I asked my wife and we agreed as we both get on with her well and often go on holidays together abroad.
I thought things ... | NTA. Your mom is insecure. If you guys say you love each other all the time, that means you have a strong relationship. Don’t stop saying it. ###### |
Was I in the wrong doing this?
I(M18) was taking my brother (M16) to Target to get some things he needed/wanted, we get into the parking lot and as we are getting in, this car comes in next to us, and by the time I finish parking, a group of 5-6 girls our age comes out.
As I was getting ready to get out of the car, ... | NTA. Your mom is enabling his behaviour that honestly would make me super uncomfortable as a woman. If I’m going to Target with my friends, we’re going shopping not to get creeped on. Honestly, I think it was a very kind and considerate thing of you to do. I hate when I pull up somewhere and have some creep staring at... |
I'm 20 years old and am looking to move out of my parents house. While looking for a house/apartment, my mother has made it clear that she wants me to put the tracking app Life360 on my phone and join the circle with her, my dad, and my younger brother. I used to have this app, but deleted it once I graduated high scho... | NTA. Your mom has to learn to let you grow up and leave the nest. Giving her the access that a tracker has on your life will mean she will forever hover and give unsolicited opinions about how you live your life. You’re an adult and when you move out it really isn’t her business where you are and what you’re doing day... |
Hey Reddit, I want to know if AITA for telling my mom off bcoz of her ignorance about mental issues faced by teenagers?
So this started off when I started talking about how Anorexia disorder has the highest mortality rate among all the eating disorders which affect teens and she laughed and told me that no such thing... | NTA. Your mom has to be blind. Anorexia has been around for a very long time. ###### |
So before I start I 1000% know I’m petty but I wanna know if I’m TA because she’s now crying and I feel like I’ve gone too far...
So the other day she lost something, we were both looking for it and I was actively searching in front of her for this thing. During the search I got a text from my best friend that he’d be... | NTA. Your mom has some serious issues. ###### |
So, this is the story. I (17M) have a girlfriend (17F), we have been together for 2 years now. Since we started dating my mom has always had some things she dislikes, for example, me going to her house (while her parents were there) because she doesnt approve that. And I respect her opinion and have said to her she can... | NTA. Your mom has some pretty outdated views. Ignore her and just enjoy being with your GF. ###### |
I'm (17M) required to eat breakfast at 10:30am sharp and to finish by 11:00am (Lunch and Dinner also have their respective eating times but it was specifically a "violation" of the breakfast time schedule that caused me to write this). It's not the amount of time that's absurd, but rather the fact that I can't eat when... | NTA. Your mom has an eating disorder and is instilling it in her family. This is some weird shit. Move out when you can. ###### |
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My mom cheated on my dad and went and married her friend who is single. I am 30 years old and my salary is 120,000 dollars . My father recently went homeless.He was not able to pay rent as he was fired for his job.
I live in a nice cozy two bedroom apartment in south Carolina. Since my dad was homeless f... | NTA. Your mom cheated, the gender of the person she cheated with is irrelevant. Furthermore, holding her duty as a parent (to feed you and put a rood over your head) is a toxic thing to do. It honestly sounds like your mother wrecked her relationship with you a long time ago and that's on her as the parent. ###### |
When I was 6, my mom hand picked out a dresser and bed frame and says that she “won’t let me” sell it. I am 26 (F) and have been living with my parents for the last few years to pay off my student debt- I am now mostly paid off and want to get back to having my own place, as at my age, that is of course what I prefer. ... | NTA. Your mom bought furniture. Not you. Don't take it. She can store it or sell it or use it herself. The emotional attachment here is hers, not yours. Let her care for it. ###### |
I (37F) was recently (as in about a month ago) diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder. I have since told my husband, and my close friends, but my in-laws, including my BIL and SIL, don't know. This is mostly due to COVID-19 related SIP, (I wanted to tell them in person) but also I haven't had the words to tell t... | NTA. Your mental health status is not something they are entitled to be notified of - especially when they've made it clear that honest discussions about the same are not going to be entertained in good faith. ###### |
Pre-info context: I met these friends in high school, but have been talking to them via Discord recently cuz...yeah. Both of us are 20F.
Pre-info context 2: She has openly discussed having mental & developmental disorders, but to respect her privacy, I can only confirm that they’re socialization-based. Please do n... | NTA. Your mental health is just as valid, you should be able to get support from them as well. I have a chat with 3 friends, and the other night all of us had had pretty bad days, but we all talked it through with each other rather than focusing one just one person all night, and it’s easily doable. NTA ###### |
I (16f) have to take meds twice a day. I have “trained” my cat to remind me to take them by giving her a treat at the time I take my meds, and now she’ll start begging me for a treat at the time I take my meds, and it reminds me. My cat is not quiet when she reminds me. She’s rather loud, but not as loud as my sister’s... | NTA. Your meds are important for you to take and the system with the cat is great as the cat certainly won't forget treat time.
Your sister is a hypocrite for complaining about your cat if her dog is really as loud as you say (and also barks at these times), and she'd suck big time too if she actually put your cat ou... |
I moved to this flat a year ago, like most of the Londoners I rented a room in a house share. We don't have any living room which restricts me socialising as much as I desire. That is the main reason I wanted to move out initially.
Since I moved here, I requested from landlord to change just the bath as it was rusty a... | NTA. Your landlord did not do any of those things for you, he did them to increase the value of his home and enable it to give him a better profit. You two are in a business relationship, you have no obligation to his feelings. Do not stay somewhere you don't like because the landlord guilt trips you, always have your... |
So my husband (50) and I (47F) have four kids, two 13 year olds, a 15 year old and an 18 year old. Both me and my husband work long hours, especially now because both our companies have been affected by everything going on. Despite this, my husband or I try to cook a healthy meal every night for the family. Usually we ... | NTA. Your kids will be better prepared in the future by having this system. ###### |
AITA if I ask my neighbors to keep their kids from bouncing the basketball so early in the morning. They start about 6:30-7 am. I work nights as a nurse so this is the time I’m getting in bed. I’ve tried everything even earplugs,not the harming 3m ones lol, but I swear I can still hear it. Idk. Their screaming at top o... | NTA. Your job is stressful enough by itself. You need sleep to function. Ask them and their parents if they could do it later as you need sleep more than anyone at the moment. ###### |
Hi. So my whole life I (f16) have loved the taste of coffee but I have a sensitivity to caffeine. Normally I order decaf because it's so little caffeine it doesn't really negatively affect me. Today I went to a local chain coffee shop and ordered a decaf coffee. I was careful to mention my caffeine sensitivity and doub... | NTA. Your insensitive friends is TA, and if it were me I'd cut ties with her if she didn't apologize. I'd also alert the management, because they obviously weren't paying attention when you ordered and could make someone else very sick too. ###### |
Because of covid a lot of events had to be cancelled/postponed. As it happens, my nephew (let’s call him Zack) had his first birthday delayed. And that obviously sucks, I get it: celebrating the first birthday is a great milestone.
Fast forward to now, and my in-laws are now planning to throw a delayed “quarantine pa... | NTA. Your in-laws are TA’s for saying you’re being difficult and unreasonable for wanting to celebrate your sons birthday. ###### |
My husband and I (early 30s) extended our lease for 6 months back in February, planning to buy a house between then and July. Our landlords are selling our house, so they will not extend further. Unfortunately, my husband was furloughed, so we’ve put the house hunt on hold until he’s landed a new gig.
We live in the s... | NTA. Your in-laws are being overbearing. You and your husband are old enough to live wherever you choose. ###### |
Last week my BIL was arrested for domestic assault. He is out pending a hearing and is at my house because he isnt allowed near his wife for minimum 30 days. All day he has been whining about it and I told him off. He got drunk and threw something at her head and pinned her against the wall. He deserves what he gets im... | NTA. Your husband sucks for even letting him stay since he’s a wife beater, and apparently admittedly so... but I understand his want to help out family. ###### |
My husband (47m) and I (35f) want a public opinion on my actions today. Obligatory, sorry I'm on mobile disclaimer.
This morning I left to get groceries. I packed my car with insulated bags and a cooler with ice. This is my method when I know I'm going to several stores and want to keep cold items as cold as possible.... | NTA. Your husband sounds paranoid and controlling ###### |
I have gestational diabetes so I’ve had to learn to use the lancet device and glucometer. Every chance he gets, my husband tries to grab the lancet device before me when he knows it’s time for me to do it. Today, I refused and he is furious and hurt. He says it’s a way for him to be involved in my prenatal care but the... | NTA. Your husband sounds like a bit of a prick to be honest. ###### |
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I'm currently breastfeeding my month old daughter. I do it wherever I happen to be in the house but mainly in my chair in the living room. Before my daughter was even born, I had chats with my 6 year old son and almost 4 year old step daughter. I explained what breasts were, what they're for, why daughter w... | NTA. Your husband sounds immature, so does your step daughters mom, the girl is only 4 and all 4 year olds have a wild imagination or copy things they see, it’s normal and you breastfeeding is COMPLETELY natural, anyone who disagrees is ridiculous. ###### |
My husband is very upset with me for a situation that happened yesterday, just wanting some outside opinions on it.
I am a stay at home mum to a 10 month old and 3 year old. Yesterday my mum invited us around for lunch to catch up with the family which we went to and was fine and my friends wanted to catch up for afte... | NTA. Your husband needs to step it up. He’s a father. He should know how to care for his kid. It’s not like it’s his first, either.
Women are expected to just know all this shit, and it’s never questioned that dad goes out and leaves the kids with mom. But reverse it? Suddenly it’s babysitting and mom needs to leave ... |
We have been married for 7 years. The first half, at least was pretty rough. He kept several flirtationships hidden. Some went too far. We have worked on things and it’s been pretty quiet but I know I still have some lingering trust issues. A few days ago he started messaging the woman that cuts his hair to see if she ... | NTA. Your husband is very inappropriate and if his behavior doesnt change drastically it may be time to think about changing his title to (ex) husband. ###### |
[Slyvy Bear](https://www.flickr.com/photos/69228620@N03/49777975553/in/dateposted-public/) is 16 and sadly it looks like she's nearing the end of her life.
She's struggling to put on any weight and has a bowel tumor. I'm heart broken. I bottle fed her. She's my girl. I'm not ok, I'm not sure I'll ever be ok once she's... | NTA. Your husband is though. ###### |
My husband is cooking dinner tonight. He told me to go for a walk after he finished work because it had been a long day inside with the kids. I happily obliged and went for a 10 minute jog. I got home, he had started dinner and the house smelled great. I told him this as well. He declared though that I would so not lik... | NTA. Your husband is honestly coming across really passive aggressive. He knows you don't like chickpeas, and has gone out of his way to have a one sided fight with you about it. This also doesn't sound like the first time he's done something like this. Is there something bothering him where he feels the need to behav... |
Yesterday my husband told me that he wasn’t feeling that great, his head hurt and his stomach was bothering him. I told him that’s fine, I’d handle the kids, he could rest. But the issue became that he chose to rest on the couch, in the living room. We don’t have a huge house. Our living room is where most of our kids’... | NTA. Your husband is being unreasonable and acting like an entitled child. Why should he get to commandeer the social areas of your home because he’s sick?
You’re right, he should sequester himself to the bedroom and stop acting like a child. ###### |
I've had a sinus infection the last few days. Mild fever, congestion, light sensitivity, vomiting, etc. Told him I was going to bed early since I wasn't feeling well, 30 minutes later baby starts crying. "Damn, I don't want to get up." So, husband got up, picked up baby, and handed him to me and sat back down. I glared... | NTA. Your husband is an adult parent. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to know that when your partner is sick, you pick up some of the slack to let them rest and recover. That includes parenting your own dang child. You shouldn’t have to ask, he should know. I’m betting he DOES know, and he’s just using this aw... |
So 10 months ago my fiancé and I bought a home which was in good repair but for a few renovations and personal touches. I had a townhouse that needed to be sold in order for us to make up the asking price along with a partial home loan but we were going to lose out on the house as the townhouse hadn't sold. My parents ... | NTA. Your House, Your Rules.
Ask them to respect your boundaries. ###### |
So I'm 20 and recently bought a house last July. I spent the next couple months renovating and moved in last December, into what was basically a brand new house. I had redone absolutely everything, most of it myself. Anyways, a couple months later in February my uncle came over, and I have no problem with him but I tol... | Nta. Your house your rules. I would expect money for the repairs too. Even though it was something small like a hole in the wall. What if she cloghed your toilet with something causing damage and burst pipes I would expect them to pay.. he should have been watching her and stopped it before it happened. ###### |
This happened some time ago but I haven't mentally resolved this yet, so now I am asking Reddit to hopefully give me some closure!
I (M) once hosted a home party for my best (guy) friend and about five girls that came along. I know all of these people so I was fine with it, But during the party, some of the girls aske... | NTA. Your house so it’s your space. Don’t have to have people over who you don’t want to have in your space. Simple as that. ###### |
for context: i 19M am a really big, overweight and somewhat hairy guy. when i am home, i love to be without a shirt because i get pretty hot (especially now with spring being here) and really sweaty, plus it's more comfortable.
i lived alone up until january this year. i pay all my bills and go to work everyday. in f... | NTA. Your home your rules.
He can look the other way, buy you an extremely comfortable shirt or move out. ###### |
I have 3 kids, 2 of whom look like carbon copies of my husband. My husband is a light skinned black man and I am white. My third child is very dark, much darker than anyone in my husband's extended family with the exception of one great aunt.
This led to a lot of "jokes" and snarky comments about my son not really bei... | NTA. Your great-aunt-in-law clearly had a sense of humor and understood how it felt to look so different in a light-skinned family. She had a witty comeback that simultaneously helped her great-nephew feel included and also the comment-maker feel like an ass. Good on her and on your for keeping her sharp wit alive.
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Back story: my cousin is 13 and has some learning delays. She cant. Be left alone due to her have a very childlike mindset and get into things.
I was told by my grand parents (who I live with when not at school) that my cousin would be coming to live with us over the summer. Now I normally have no problem with her vis... | NTA. Your grandparents have to understand that if she comes to live with you guys then *they're* responsible for her care, *not* you. ###### |
Me (16f) and my girlfriend (17) have been dating for about two years. When I first came out to my family they were a little skeptical at first but have ultimately been pretty supportive of me and accepting. My gf met them about a year ago and her and my family hit it off immediately. Since then she’s been invited to ma... | NTA. Your grandma cannot control her memory loss.
I also think your friends and gf are insensitive. They may not have ever had to deal with an aging grandparent, so they may have no idea. But it’s really not an excuse. ###### |
I (26M) had been dating my girlfriend (23F) for a few months now. We were at her house trying to tidy the attic and then we found some pictures of her as a teenager with some friends. I asked her how popular she was at school. I was quite popular, had a lot of friends, and was just wondering.
What she said turned my m... | NTA. Your girlfriend isn't a teenager anymore. She's well past the age where she should realize that shit isn't okay. I would have said everyone sucks here if she felt bad about who she used to be, and you didn't give her a chance. But it sounds like she has no remorse. In which case, yeah. She's the asshole. ###### |
FYI, I come from northern India, and do not look like the stereotypical Indian in western media. Indians come in all shapes and sizes. My friend is presumed to be chinese but he is from North East India!
About two months ago, I stopped a couple of people from sexually harassing a woman on my way to get groceries and w... | NTA. Your girlfriend is a racist. Break up with her. ###### |
So this might be a long one but here goes. My girlfriend (F22) and I (M25) have been living together for about 2 years, during those 2 years I have been studying while at the same time working a part time job while my girlfriend has been working full time.
We have seperate accounts but we split rent, electricity and ... | NTA. Your girlfriend changed her mind when her own rule came back on her slightly. ###### |
My girlfriend was hanging out with a friend and was drunk by the time her friend left. She came upstairs and hung out on the couch with me. I was looking for food on Uber eats. I asked if she wanted anything. Her response was, "I can't imagine eating anything right now. Just get food for yourself." I took her statemen... | NTA. Your girlfriend acts like an AH when she’s drunk/high. That’s not unusual, but it’s also not an excuse. ###### |
This happened when I was 14 in 2001, but it comes up sometimes.
I was living with my parents and brother, we were pretty broke so we never got gifts.
For my brothers birthday he was giving a CD player/radio boom box thing for his room. For him that meant entertainment and fun and mind expansion etc.
For my birthday I w... | NTA. Your gift was wrapped in shame and punishment. Sad. ###### |
I was brought up as a Muslim and to all intents and purpose I still consider myself as one. I try to follow the religion as best as I can and I figure the disagreements are between me and God. My GF really really loves Ru Paul's Drag race, it's not my thing and I have no interest in it. After this current issue is over... | NTA. Your gf is being really overbearing and controlling.
Even if you *did* support drag, it puts you under NO obligation to dress in drag. ###### |
I've already posted here before but I'm going to post again because I had something else happen to me recently.
Background: I have a slight lisp that's easy to hear whenever I speak. Friends have pointed it out and joked about it but they know when to stop since I'm insecure about it. Often times, they'll repeat how ... | NTA. Your friends seem to know what your boundaries are. Your family members not.
This post reminds me a lot about the guy messing with the deaf girl and making her bad about her deafness.
In example when someone is small, friends can maybe make joke if everything is well received. But to overlook someone consistent... |
OK, this is a throwaway, on mobile, English isn’t my first language, etc.
So I (M20) live with another guy (M19), who I’ll refer to as Red. Red’s autistic, and he’s not a party person. I am. He also is extremely camera-shy, like he’ll go out of his way to hide if someone is taking a photo that he could appear in. That... | NTA. Your friends in the other hand...
They're "demanding" entry? That's just plain rude.
They think you're "allowing" Red to distance himself? I disagree, you are just being a good roommate who has come up with a creative solution to your roommate's needs. Sharing the room would defeat it's purpose so good for you ... |
Recently, one of my close friends that I have known since high school passed away. I reached out to his mother the night that I found out, and she told me that I was very special to her because I was his friend, I would always be welcomed in her home, and she would give me the details regarding his service when she had... | NTA. Your friends girlfriend doesn’t get to dictate who can attend his funeral. ###### |
Recently, one of my close friends that I have known since high school passed away. I reached out to his mother the night that I found out, and she told me that I was very special to her because I was his friend, I would always be welcomed in her home, and she would give me the details regarding his service when she had... | NTA. Your friends family wants you there. You should go. ###### |
So my freinds found out about a way to get American Netflix when we are in Australia. And one of my freinds didn't want to tell me. But the other one convinced that friend to tell me. So they told me and I was happy. I went home to my dad and told him all about it. He then proceeded to tell me about how it will never w... | NTa. Your friends are opportunistic, selfish assholes. Get new ones. ###### |
Hi. So my whole life I (f16) have loved the taste of coffee but I have a sensitivity to caffeine. Normally I order decaf because it's so little caffeine it doesn't really negatively affect me. Today I went to a local chain coffee shop and ordered a decaf coffee. I was careful to mention my caffeine sensitivity and doub... | NTA. Your friend sucks. Call into the store and explain the problem and be very kind about it. 9/10 times they'll be super horrified and train their staff to be more careful. Sorry that happened! ###### |
My close friend and I are dating 2 girls that are also close friends.
When it comes to relationships, my friend is a psycho. He made her delete every guy off of her Snapchat, he has her location and her instagram log in and her Snapchat log in. He has 0 trust for her, cusses her out all the time, she can’t do anythin... | NTA. Your friend is an abuser who was abusing his GF, you are never TA for encouraging an abuse victim to safely leave their abuser. Honestly your friend shouldn’t be in *any* relationship until he’s gotten some serious individual therapy to change his abusive ways. ###### |
I have a friend, we'll call him Ted, who I have been friends with since freshman year of high school. We're both 22, and I have a younger sister who is 17.
For the past few weeks, Ted has been making the same remark that my sister is turning 18 very soon. They're not the worst comments in the world, but it's still we... | NTA. Your friend dropped something: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Warn your sister. She should be prepared for when he comes onto her. I say “when” and not “if”, because no matter what you say he’s going to go after her. ###### |
So back story first. I rewatched both “Narcos” series on netflix, and I ended up downloading several songs from the soundtrack. I love all kinds of music, and I got really into the dramatic songs, like the intro “Tuyo”, or “No me hables de ese amor”. I sing along to my music when I’m working or alone, and one day recen... | NTA. Your friend calling singing a foreign song racist is ridiculous. Is singing a Latin song racist? Are non-English pop songs with English words mixed in also racist?
Is singing *Feliz Navidad* during the winter holidays racist? Does she also get offended when *Gangnam Style* gets played on non-Korean radio? Or is ... |
Please excuse grammar and punctuation on PC but not good at writing anything.
My in-laws blatantly ignore my 2 year old daughter but idolize my 5 year old son. it finally came to a head when they just randomly shower him with gifts and, would regularly say "my grandson and the other one". I finally went up to them an... | NTA. Your first responsibility is to protect your kids. Well done! You can't accept this kind of favouritism. ###### |
I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant, which was unexpected. One symptom that I have is EXTREME gas. I belch like a frat boy 24/7, and I can’t help it. They just slip out. I’ve tried bicarbonate with water, EVERYTHING.
fast forward to yesterday, my fiance and I were laying down on the couch, and as I was getting up, i let o... | NTA. Your fiance is not ready to be a dad if he's offended by burps and farts. He knows babies do much worse right? ###### |
I (25F) have been with my fiancé (26M) for 10 years now, and spent the last week with beautiful weather at his house. For context, his family and I re very close as they have seen me grow up and we have always lived around the corner from each other.
I asked my MIL if she minded if I layed out in the backyard and tan... | NTA. Your fiancé was okay with it, and so were his mom and dad. Great Aunt Gertrude can go pound sand.
Next time she complains, look her dead in the eye and say: "Well bless your heart". ###### |
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So my mother was a middle school teacher and she would tutor this boy who was around 13 or 14 years old. He would come over our house for tutoring.So, they ended up having sex and mom get's pregnant.
At that time, me (19M) and dad didn't know about the affair and thought the baby was ... | NTA. Your feelings are valid. But one thing to consider is how your half brother will feel. Obviously right now he’s too young to understand it all. But eventually he will know what happened and he won’t deserve to feel guilty for it. He is an innocent person in this. He didn’t ask for his mom to have him the way she ... |
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So my dad recently passed away from cancer and in his will, he clearly stated that I am to inherit everything, and my 3 younger siblings get nothing, the reasoning behind my father's decision is because my siblings had cut contact from him when he divorced my mum, (it was a mutual divorce but m... | NTA. Your father was clear on what he wanted. You're not an asshole for enforcing that. They clearly only care about the money, as they did when he was alive. ###### |
This isn’t such a big deal but it’s a constant argument between my father and I, almost a daily thing. My father is always saying how he’s just an affectionate man he likes to hug and just hold onto people but I don’t fucking like it. I don’t like being touched all the time to me it’s just annoying and feels restrictiv... | NTA. Your father needs to learn how to respect your boundaries. You shouldn’t have to feel guilty for speaking up for yourself and voicing your discomfort. There are millions of ways he can show you affection without forcing you to hug him. ###### |
My school has decided to continue with a graduation ceremony despite current events. They have given each student 1 ticket that allots 4 people entry into the ceremony.
I have essentially two separate families, one with my father and stepmom and the other with my mom and stepdad. Father and stepmom live in another st... | NTA. Your father kicked your out or his house and allowed his wife to abuse you and you’re worried about driving a wedge between the two of you? Why? ###### |
My school has decided to continue with a graduation ceremony despite current events. They have given each student 1 ticket that allots 4 people entry into the ceremony.
I have essentially two separate families, one with my father and stepmom and the other with my mom and stepdad. Father and stepmom live in another st... | NTA. Your father kicked you out, he should be lucky you invited him at all. ###### |
I (17f) get uncomfortable around my father often as he is very touchy and (in my opinion) often inappropriate. He will often playfully smack my butt if he is walking by me in the house, put his hand on my hip or butt if we are taking a picture, or pat my butt if we are hugging. He also implies that I am sexually invol... | NTA. Your father is way out of line. Do you have anyone who isn't your mom (who is also being T A) who you trust that you can talk to about this? ###### |
I’m only 22, but my dad has mentioned numerous times that he expects me to not put him in a nursing home, and he always includes ‘wiping his ass’ as something we better be ready to do.
Personally, fuck that. I’d literally pay someone to do that before I do it myself. Hopefully by that point I’ll have kids of my own an... | NTA. Your father is holding his ‘I raised you’ card high over your head. It is his responsibility to save and prepare for retirement, including having someone to wipe his ass. ###### |
As the daughter in my family I've taken the duties of buying the groceries, and I'm usually the one to cook. It's our dynamic and it works. I love my family too but my dad can be a jerk sometimes.
Something he has done since my childhood is burp and fart and cough whenever he wants an area to himself. It's disgusting ... | NTA. Your father is disgusting. Quite frankly, you’d have every right to leave the room anytime he enters and stop cooking for him all together. ###### |
For Mother’s Day this year I decided to give my mother plane tickets to japan (her home country) for us to go on a girls trip together. I thought this was a nice gesture, since she loves going visiting japan. We never really go on girls trip and since I could actually afford to pay for it myself I thought it would be a... | NTa. Your father is an overbearing asshole. Period. Point blank. That said, if this is their marriage dynamic and your mother is content with that and wants to obey your father, there’s really nothing you can do here except accept her decision. ###### |
We are muslims and unlike them, I sorta neglect my religious tasks. Sometimes I don’t pray, and sometimes I’m not fasting in this ramadan. So basically, after each feast, my roommates go pray together, and they ask me to join them. I prayed with them before but yesterday and the day before I said nah, I’ll pray by myse... | NTA. Your faith and the practice of it is your concern and yours alone. ###### |
I've been there for about 4 years. I can handle the run-of-the-mill "are you fucking incompetent/learn to do your job/etc" side-handed shit from customers.
Several months back I answered the phone and the customer asked if "that one n***** was working because [they] wanted to make sure the food wasnt fucked with and m... | NTA. Your exactly right in saying that you are not paid to put up with that sort of abuse. The manager/owner, or whatever, should not be telling you that you essentially have to accept the abuse. They should be asking you to hand the situation over to them as it is part of what managers should be paid and trained to h... |
Aita for telling people about a "closed" meeting with management? I work for a national discount retail chain that we will call amilyfa ollarda. My mum, who lived in europe, passed away three weeks ago from coronavirus. Trying to give work advanced notice, I told my manager I would need 2 weeks off to go to europe... | NTA. Your employer is unsympathetic, which is a separate issue. Unless you’re talking about the meeting on social media, who cares if you talk about what was discussed behind closed doors? I’m so very sorry for your loss, but please don’t stress over talking about a closed door meeting. I suppose they could argue it’s... |
I have a dog, she's 6. And very healthy. Potty trained. So she never makes any messes. Unless I'm gone for long hours which is understandable. When you gotta go, you gotta go. I clean it up. No big deal.
I walk her 3 times a day. Morning. Afternoon. Evening. So she can use the bathroom and get a lil bit of exercise. ... | NTA. Your dog was shitting and pissing in the house because she neglected a basic thing: regular walking. She also didn't properly feed the dog. She didn't do anything right. Homework isn't a good excuse, you wouldn't be spending **all day** doing it. She doesn't deserve to be paid. ###### |
My husband and I are getting a divorce, it was pretty out of the blue, we had a fight and then he said he wanted one. He said that we didn’t have to go to court, he only wanted a small amount and just wanted it to be over with. He’s currently staying with a friend.
He was a stay at home dad for most of our daughters c... | NTA. Your divorce settlement is absolutely not the business of anyone but you and your ex. If he only wants a certain amount, and you’re comfortable with that, everyone else can mind their own business. Period. ###### |
I (37F) was recently (as in about a month ago) diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder. I have since told my husband, and my close friends, but my in-laws, including my BIL and SIL, don't know. This is mostly due to COVID-19 related SIP, (I wanted to tell them in person) but also I haven't had the words to tell t... | NTA. Your diagnosis isn't the business of your inlaws. ###### |
So I basically (17f) had been diagnosed with ADHD a year ago . I'm pretty school smart but I don't notice many Things around me and I have a problem with sitting or doing the same thing for more then 30 minutes . After I got the diagnosis from my therapist . I wanted to proceed to book other sessions to see what I can ... | NTA. Your daughter's mental health issue is a serious thing, not something you pretend it's not there just to bring it up when it's convenient. ###### |
Alt account be I'm pretty sure my daughter is on reddit.
My daughter is 17. We have shared custody of her but she is at my place more often than her mom's. A lot of the times on her mom's days she just asks if she can stay home and most of the time her mom allows it. So technically we do have shared custody but my dau... | NTA. Your daughter is pretty much an adult. She chose to cut her hair. You supported her. Nothing wrong with supporting your child. She knew mom wouldn’t be happy but she’s 17. Mom shouldn’t be controlling her hairstyle. No one should but herself. ###### |
My husband is from the DR. He and I met when I traveled abroad as a nurse in my twenties. We’re still married, he’s a fantastic man.
Our 15 year old daughter, the oldest of our kids, has recently decided that she doesn’t have to respect me based on my race. We’ve raised her to be conscious of the racial issues in the ... | NTA. Your daughter is exploiting real race issues to be a disrespectful little shit. Asking your kid to do the dishes is typically met with eye rolling and whining, not accusing you of enslaving her. She needs a reality check. ###### |
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