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My child will be 2 in just a few months and I plan to switch his car seat from rear to forward facing at that point. He'll still be a few pounds below the max weight for his rear facing, but I'm going to switch him anyways. My reasons are he gets carsick and I'm hoping that will help, I'm the only one who loads or unlo... | NAH, but this should be a compromise. Having said that, my third child was always car sick. Changing from rear to forward doesn't help that. But covering kid in a blanket during travel does. Or at least it kept puke from getting in the buckles of the straps, which, imo, was the worst part. ###### |
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I own a business in a state where weed is not legal. Recently some new tenants moved into the apartments above my store and since they have moved in, most mornings when I come to work my store smells like pot. I have no problem with people who smoke pot, I've been around it many times at parties, a... | NAH, but talk to the people first before you report them. Just something like, “hey, I don’t have a problem with either you or weed but I work here and the smell is bad for business. Is there anyway you could smoke somewhere else?” ###### |
This happened last year, but I’ve been thinking about it again.
My birthday is a few days before Christmas. I was turning 25. My family is my Mom and Dad (50’s) and my brother (then 10).
Presents for Christmas and birthdays in my family are usually quite big (not new cars levels of extravagant, but usually a new te... | NAH, but pots and pans isn’t enough info. That could be a cheap crap gift to way more valuable than the iPad Pro or iPhone. Getting someone who is independent a good cookbook and quality kitchen stuff could have been the most expensive gift anyone got. Unfortunately, once you move out you are in a different categor... |
My current girl's first and last relationship was kind of abusive as far as she has told me, so she tells me everything she does at any given time.
I have told her that I just want her to be happy and not feeling oppressed or any kind of pressure with me. When I ask her to do something and she says no, I just say okay... | NAH, but is she in therapy? Abusive relationships significantly alter one’s sense of self and habits in a relationship, and she would benefit from working with a professional to address those things. ###### |
I (20F) will go to university in October. I'll study in a dual system, roughly 60% of it will consist of practical working hours in my home town and 40% of taking classes at a university 3 hours away from my home.
Now, my boyfriend and I will move to the city my university is in together. The plan was (for the longest... | NAH, but ironic that you are upset at the lack of communication when you also lack communication... ###### |
My elderly neighbor is hard of hearing, and lives across about 30 yards from me in a different building. Our patios face each other. With all of my windows closed and curtains drawn I can tell faintly that he is watching tv when he keeps his patio door closed. When it is open, which he does during warm weather, I ca... | NAH, but if he's elderly and hard of hearing, my guess is that the headphones will be too big of a change for him and could be a waste of your money. Best to spend on beefing up the soundproofing of your own workspace instead. ###### |
Ok so I have a step child that my SO and I see every other weekend. Every year on Mother's Day my MIL sends flowers or a card and signs the step child's name to the gift.
Now, MIL is a VERY kind and well intentioned person and I honestly do appreciate the gifts. My issue is that stepchild has made it clear that they... | NAH, but I wouldn't hurt her feelings over this. If you and child both know it's not a mother's day thing between you, then ignore the note and just accept them as a gift of appreciation from MIL. ###### |
My fiancé of a few years and I got into a heated conversation about having a phone tracker on each other. She says it’s for safety and to calm her if I’m late at work or she can’t reach me, or if to the extreme of if she was kidnapped. I can see the point of the extreme but I’m very against anyone having my on a gps ... | NAH, but I wouldn't do it either. Some people don't have a problem with it, but I think it's weird and unnecessary.
Why don't you try telling her that a phone tracker doesn't tell her where you are, just where your phone is? And follow up with, which is the most likely scenario? That you lose your phone, or that you... |
Context: I have a condition that people usually die pretty young; although there are a few new treatments that look promising and are letting people live a lot longer. Other people with my condition also make these types of jokes.
I was talking today with my (16f) sister (18f) about college and planning for the future... | NAH, but I understand where your sister is coming from. Your sister probably doesn't want to think of you dying where as you're just doing what you have to to cope with the fact that your lifespan will likely be shorter than most.
I went to college with a guy who had cistic fibrosis. Guy spent his whole life just tak... |
My (25F) fiancé (26M) and I have been together since our junior year of college. He was always such an insanely hard worker who was very goal oriented. Back then he’d spend pretty much all of his time chasing his career goals.
He was successful in landing his dream job which is a combination of high pay and very high... | NAH, but I think you need to step back at this point. You've shared your piece, and now it's on him what decision he makes. I would gently suggest that by trying to push him either way, you're implying that you know better than he does what's best for him.
The fairer side of things to bring up is the needs you *both*... |
I’m in the processing of writing a character letter, which has been infuriation and emotional for our family already. Minimal detail: wrongly arrested at protest while providing medical aid.
We’re less than a year into my sib requesting they/them pro-nouns and we’ve made great progress in re-learning. I don’t live clo... | NAH, but I think the best thing to do here might be a white lie. Text your sib and be like, “Hey, got your letter all written up, and I just thought about how much the legal system here sucks for anyone not straight, white, and cis. Want me to do you a version with she/her pronouns too, in case the lawyer thinks that’... |
My daughter is 18. She got pregnant and decided to keep the baby. She wants me to be in the room when she delivers her baby. I love her and want to support her but I really don't want to be in the delivery room because I don't want to see her naked. Is dads being in the delivery room for when their daughter's give birt... | NAH, but consider: if it’s a standard delivery, and you sit by her head and hold her hand, you’re not really in much danger of seeing anything that will freak you out. And you’ll be honouring the trust your kid is placing in you in one of her most vulnerable moments. ###### |
A little background for you. I am a 30 year old female and my fiance is a 35 year old male who has an 11 year old son. My finace and I have been engaged for a little over a year and have been together a total of 2 years.
A few months ago at one of the custody visits my Fiances son asked if he could call me mom. I... | NAH, although if you don’t want to be seen as a “mom” figure, you probably shouldn’t marry someone who already has a kid.
The kid wants to call you mom for the 24 days a year he sees you, there’s no harm in it. ###### |
My girlfriend and I was playing a game and we were answers questions and that question came out and the game is about being 100% honest and we both had been up to that point and when that question came up and she went then it was my turn I said “ how much you say Um mind sentence” mood shattered in seconds the laughs ... | NAH, although I lean a bit to you being the AH - playing a game like that can be a great and fun way to get to know each others true unfiltered opinions. And it seems to have been going fine, so I guess she wasn't just oversensitive to everything you said.
But answering "what's most annoying about me" with something y... |
I(M18) bought a new-ish computer by myself after working my butt off for it, but since I had no desk in my room, I put it downstairs. My family (mom, dad, and brother 15) uses it like a family computer. Now that I have a desk, I want to keep it in my room so I can keep in touch with friends and play games.
I understa... | NAH-just give them a warning that you are going to be moving it so they have time to get a new computer and/or your brother has time to get a chrome book from the district. ###### |
A year ago I gave birth to twin girls. I work 50+ hours a week and my husband is a stay at home dad. We have a 5 year old who didn’t sleep through the night til he was 2, so I was prepared for sleepless nights. I also breastfeed and so I assumed there wouldn’t be much my husband could do. Well to my surprise, one baby ... | NAH- you guys have a lot to deal with and it sounds tough. However, if you're husband says something is ruining your marriage you should listen and you guys both need to come up with a solution to fix things. Maybe it's counseling or naps together in your bed during the day. But you owe it to him to try and find a sol... |
AITA if I tell my fiancé I don’t want to get married the same year as his sister?
Basically his sisters wedding was supposed to be this year. She just decided to move it to one year from now.... three months before my wedding is supposed to happen.
Now, I love weddings but I just feel that having weddings so close t... | NAH- You arent TA for wanting to move it, and your SIL isn't TA for moving it. It's your party, you're paying for it, and ultimately the decision is entirely yours and your fiance's. You want people to be excited to be there, you want it to feel like an event rather than "another family wedding". However, weddings ha... |
Pretty sure this is on me, but anyway
So I (32M) got given my birthday presents this morning by my wife (32F), straight after breakfast. We've been together for 5 years, and without fail, she always mentions that I'm really hard to buy for. So in the run up to this year, she's mentioned that she had to search aro... | NAH- She’s probably just feeling a bit embarrassed. It sounds like you were kind and gentle in how you responded to her. Hopefully she’ll be able to laugh about it once the initial embarrassment subsides- this is actually pretty funny and sweet. ###### |
I am 27F and the only child of my mother. My parents split when I was 16y. Up until this point, I assumed that I had truthful parents.
When I was 15y, I received a message on a social media platform from someone who claimed to be my half-sister (Anna). I confronted my mother who had no idea who she was. We confronted... | NAH- other than your Dad.
You don't have to have a relationship with them if you don't want. But they don't suck for wanting to get to know you. ###### |
So my wife always says that she hates dark chocolate because according to her it tastes bitter and weird. In the three years that we’ve been together, she never bought dark chocolate for herself or tried it when offered, and she always teases me when I eat it by saying “You’re eating awful chocolate again”. Our familie... | NAH- Normally I would say you should have asked, but she specifically told you they were there, and the dark chocolate dislike is well known and vocalized by her. She should have mentioned she wanted to try one at some point, they sat there more than long enough. Yes maybe could have mentioned you were going to finish... |
I know the title makes me sound entitled, but hear me out first before making a judgement, please.
When I was born, my mom put my first name, 2 middle, and 2 last names on my birth certificate. Back then, you had to register separately for a social security number.
In between the time I was born and her registering fo... | NAH- Although, changing your name might be a even bigger hassle. How much does it cost to get your name changed? Have you looked into fees already? ###### |
My girlfriend is black (I am white). We bumped into my teacher (black), recently.
It was very nice and pleasant but my teacher left me a comment the other day. I am fully on top of my workload, so I was curious as to what it could be.
It was a note saying how my relationship fills her with a lot of happiness at a tim... | NAH Your teacher is trying to support you, not get involved in your relationship. ###### |
I'm moving in with my husband, long story but I have to move countries.
His son is living there. I have questions and I feel like I'm not being told the whole story so here it goes:
\- He moved a few years ago after saying he need a few months to sort himself out. I didn't agree to looking after a man-child when I ma... | NAH You’re not an AH but so far you’re husband isn’t either. Your stepson could well be, but that’s not clear. Regardless, you need to sort out your accounts. If there’s an opportunity for an no owner of that account to draw on it you obviously need to shot that down. ###### |
In my grad program, a fellow student announced they were having a baby. I am an avid crocheter and decided I would make a unisex baby Afghan and stuffed toy since they didn’t learn the sex until after the birth.
I participated in buying a mommy wellness gift as well. I also reached out to the dad twice asking for the... | NAH You reached out a bunch and so you've done your part to try and get this to them, I think it's fine to give it to someone else if they don't respond before another friend of yours has a child. However, they are new parents. Even if they've read your message, and even if on social media it seems like a "complete br... |
This one really hurt me.
It’s my birthday today and my Dad came home and handed me a gift, I hugged all my family. I opened the gift and it was an Xbox One S. I was shocked, I didn’t want my Dad to spend such money on something my Older Brother had already bought around two years ago which I hardly use anyway. He then... | Nah you had good intentions. You felt like you didn't need the Xbox. You were worried about money I get that. I think you should just take the Xbox or sell it and buy something you really want. ###### |
So.. Let me set the scene: we have been planning our wedding from the beginning of 2019.
We set a date for next June, and sent out invites just a couple of weeks ago.
We descided for multiple reasons to make it a kids free wedding.
Well, just after we sent out our rsvp's, I got a message from my sister, asking what ... | NAH you can decide to have a child free wedding, lots of people do, but she's not an AH for not wanting to leave her child with a sitter at that *very* young age. ###### |
Throwaway, because said person browses reddit.
So recently my sister released her first album, and it is AMAZING. Like, I think there is a very high chance that she will make it in her genre of music. She wanted to see my reaction before she released it, and awkwardly watched me as I heard it for the first time. Howe... | NAH why don't you just asked what her inspiration for the song was (without mentioning yourself), or that you really identified with that song and wondered if she wanted to talk about it. If she doesn't want to share, let it be and don't bring it up again ###### |
For starters it's nothing against her ring at all. It's beautiful and has sentimental value.
It's just my parents are divorced and my siblings and I had a very crappy childhood due to abuse and neglect.
I have a semi steady relationship with both my parents but every time I look at my mothers ring it fills me with ... | NAH wear whatever you like. Its your wedding, your finger, your life ###### |
Currently I'm enrolled in 2 dance classes on Mon and Tues. Due to everything being shut down, the studio has closed. The teachers figured out a way to teach classes online via Zoom for the little kids, but the adult classes are all pre-recorded.
Before this was given the green light they asked what we thought of it.... | NAH we're hashing out the details for this right now with my job (also in the fitness industry). Everyone is trying different things and trying to stay afloat. It's difficult and not everyone's gonna get it right.
They'll probably understand if you just cancel your membership, and you \*might\* be able to get credit... |
So this is a weird situation. I'm really bad at saying no to people, its for sure a fault of mine and something im working on. When guys ask me for my number I typically just give them it awat to not deal with the awkwardness of rejecting them. My boyfriend obviously has a problem with this, so I've been working on say... | NAH to NTA, depending. Giving a fake number rarely works because they usually call you right away to make sure you didn’t give a fake number. I’ve had plenty of negative experiences and I understand where you’re coming from. It’s so easy for people to say “you should just say no,” when they haven’t experienced street ... |
I'm a 42 year old gay man, married to my wonderful partner of 11 years.
When I was in college, I was a sperm donor. I didn't really think of it much - I was young, healthy, they paid me.
Recently I got a message request from this girl on Facebook. (I guess you can see where this is going). She claims to be one of th... | NAH they are curious about you which is understandable and you always intended for your donation to be anonymous so it's clearly come as a shock.
It may be worth taking a bit of time to think things over before outright dismissing them, you have a lot to take in and process. There's no script for how something like t... |
My girlfriend is a vegetarian and wants to raise our future kids to be vegetarian. I don’t want to raise them vegetarian because I eat meat and I think it would be better to raise them in a way that they can make that decision for themselves when they are old enough. I just feel like forcing a lifestyle like vegetarian... | NAH there's no right answer here, but y'all need to agree.
BUT raising kids to eat meat is as much "forcing a lifestyle" on them as is raising them to be vegetarian. The fact that eating meat is more common and you see it as the default doesn't change the fact that it is also a lifestyle choice that kids can exercise... |
So my sister recently gave birth, and her husband died ~2 months before that. She called me today asking if I could stay with her because she’s having trouble with the kid. I told her I would have to ask my wife.
I asked, and she said it would be fine. I asked if she would come with me, and she said she would. We thin... | NAH the reason she may not want your wife there is because she cannot bear to see a relationship right now though. ###### |
Quick question. My GF was sending me some nude pictures. I was complimenting her body in reponse, kind of a sexting was happening. Then I noticed the background, the room was from her previous house. So I connected the dots and thought they must've been made way before, for her previous partner. I asked about that, she... | NAH she probably was like "a nude is a nude" but I get if you think it's a bit weird. ###### |
My girlfriend and I, both 21, have been together for about a year now. I love the girl to bits, she’s my best friend and I absolutely love being with her. We had very different childhoods, I was brought up with both my parents in a stable environment. My girlfriend experienced the death of her father suddenly when she ... | NAH my friend it sounds like your girlfriend really needs counselling, her fears are definitely irrational but outside of her control.
You care about each other which is great, because you’ll need to support her in getting some help to put her fears to rest. ###### |
Last week my (23M) coworker (25\~M) sent me a message on Facebook and deleted it shortly after but not before I saw it that said "Honey, can you grab me some ice cream?". We normally only use Facebook to organise roster swaps and shortly after he asked me if we could swap shifts yesterday. I said not a problem, and the... | NAH maybe was was more upset the usual because it involved his wife and their privacy ###### |
I’ve been with my partner for 8 years, I’m 32M and he’s 29M.
We’re using a surrogate, it’s his genetic material, she’s due in less than two months.
Now my husbands father raised him by himself, my husbands mother wasn’t around.
My husbands father is German, my husband is Germany too although his mother was from Cuba... | NAH maybe leaning Y T A
I think making the name a middle name is a good compromise. People don't tend to use their middle names for anything, so your kid won't get teased about it. Your partner wants to honor his late father, which is reasonable. You could further compromise by giving the child two middle names, whic... |
Context: I have a condition that people usually die pretty young; although there are a few new treatments that look promising and are letting people live a lot longer. Other people with my condition also make these types of jokes.
I was talking today with my (16f) sister (18f) about college and planning for the future... | NAH making jokes about things like these is a common coping method and you are not an asshole for making these jokes. I wouldn't call your sister an asshole though since she is probably quite emotional about this. She is upset that she might lose her sister. I would reccomend that you dont make these jokes around her ... |
Obligatory throwaway and such.
I have severe phobias and delusions related to things like hacking, surveillance, government monitoring, along with things like cameras and microphones. It's a legitimate phobia, I'm in therapy and am on medications.
My family has been trying to arrange many group Zoom meetings lately a... | Nah its a family meeting not anything super important like University class or something. Plus Zoom has had security problems, you would be better off using skype. Or video chat on whatsapp. ###### |
When my boyfriend (now fiance, I'll call him John) proposed to me, he proposed with his mum(Susan)'s old engagement ring. His dad (Warren) had passed away when John was a kid, and when John was discussing with Susan that he wanted to propose to me Susan gave him the engagement ring, so it could be passed down the famil... | NAH it’s nice that he wanted to pass down a family heirloom but the one in this situation represents the opposite of the purpose. it’s good that susan and warren has a good relationship but when you found out the truth it tainted the object for you. i’m glad you got a new ring but it will probably take some time for y... |
Some backstory: My ex had a child with a woman I'll call Karen. They split up when their child was a baby. We got together and had a child. We broke up, he got back with Karen, and they had another child. So my child was the middle child in that house and they were very close in age, but there was no infidelity.
One ... | NAH it's not your fault, but seeing you probably reminds her that both of her child's are dead and she feels envy (?) as well. How is your kid coping with the loss of his siblings? Hope he's fine. ###### |
Recently i (16F) lost a very close friend of mine. she had an eating disorder (anorexia) and passed due to it. Now, due to everything that is happening im not sure of details about her funeral, but i was discussing this with another friend of mine, A (17M.) we were talking about the funeral and whether there would be o... | NAH It's fine for him to find comfort in humor, but not okay for him to impose his method of coping on other mourners. Now that he knows that you aren't the person to share those particular thoughts with, no assholes as long as neither of you throws fuel on the fire. ###### |
My fiance and I were planning to get married this year anyway. We obviously can't do a "full" wedding, but we need to legally marry now for legal reasons and health insurance. In my area, weddings can only have a maximum of 15 people, and that includes the officiant, the bride and groom, and any vendors they have.
So ... | NAH Is anyone in your family a decent photographer? Because there's a solution. Who isn't in the family, but is invited? The officiant and the photographer. Get the best picture taker in the family to do that, and pick another to officiate (you can usually get an online license to do that). Bam, a whole family wedding... |
So my younger bro (19) was really scrawny. He's as tall as me (24M) at 6"1, but his build was really small. I think he weighed about 140lbs with 0 muscle. He didn't have any health issues or anything, was just scrawny.
It was no surprise to me when he confided in me that he couldn't attract many girls. He wanted a gi... | NAH in this instance but only because it seems to have worked out for your brother. In the same way women shouldn't be told they need to lose/gain weight in order to attract a partner, men shouldn't be told to gain/lose weight to attract a partner. I think your brother's issues were likely more about the confidence su... |
AITA for telling my dad he’s being creepy?
So this happened before the world became weird but I just want to have some perspective on what’s going on here. It’s been bothering me a little bit.
I’m 20. My dad came to visit me in the city where I live. He spent a lot of time talking about his break-up which had happened... | NAH in relation to the comment about people thinking you were on a date - to me that's just an observation. Once when I was 14/15 I was in town with my dad and a salesman approached us and thought we were a couple. I was mortified. My dad thought it was hilarious and was flattered that the man thought he looked young;... |
Ever since COVID, jobs have been hard to come by, especially in my [M21] and my girlfriend's [F20] fields.
The other day, she got a request for an interview at this decently sized company in the city we live in. She did really well on the first interview, got a second, and did fairly well on that interview as well. I... | NAH If you provide her the information that you’ve seen online and suggest she do some more research before accepting the job. You would definitely venture into asshole territory, however, if you turn this into an opportunity to steamroll her with your own opinion or berate her for wanting to try something out before ... |
My son(19) has been in a relationship for a few months now. He recently introduced her(19) to us and it turns he has been fucking his second cousin.
He had never met her before and they both had no idea they were second cousins. Now, obviously they should break up because this is just i*cest-lite but they want to con... | NAH if you just find it a bit squicky. YTA if you force them to separate or sabotage the relationship. The DNA link is pretty small, IIRC. If they are serious (i.e., talking kids) then they probably do need to get some advice ([3.5% genetic similarity, according to Google](https://genetics.thetech.org/ask-a-genetic... |
My fiancé wants to invite his ex to our wedding. I said that would be weird for me and I would rather he did not. He said they are on good terms and it would be as friends.
I stand by that it is perfectly normal to not want her there.
My fiancé stands by it is perfectly normal for people to invite past partners to ev... | NAH if she is his legitimate friend. Please explore this further with your partner, can you rationally explain your reasons why you do not want this person there? Do they pose an active threat to your relationship or do you just feel uncomfortable at the thought of them there? ###### |
I'm 26F and when I was 20 I was diagnosed with cancer. I have since then completely recovered, no recurrences thankfully! Before I started chemotherapy, I was informed there's a chance I could be infertile afterwards due to the drugs so I opted to get my eggs frozen. This was very expensive, around $8000 and my parents... | NAH I’d pay back 50%. Thats a LOT of money to drop on you and while you have no obligation to breed I’d personally start paying them back on small increments. ###### |
My dad died before I was born, and until I was about 7 it was just me and my mom. She started dating this guy at her work, he had 4 kids of his own all around my age. At first I liked it, cause it was nice to have a dad around and his kids were nice enough to me. The dated for about 7 years and though they weren't r... | NAH I totally get what you are saying, have you sat down with your mum? Maybe write it in a letter like you have done here and give it to her. Other idea is maybe plan something with them so it looks like you are trying. They have to understand it's all a big change for you and you are missing you old life ###### |
I (25F)have struggled with depression and eating disorders for years finally got help .i love cats of course I have one of mine own. shes very affectionate and cuddly which for me is such a wonderfully calming a thing. my therapist suggested i have my cat registered as an ESA just in case i move out to a place that doe... | NAH I read an article where cats (who are quite territorial) who are used to having alone time are becoming stressed because they have basically lost their “territory “ with people home all day. Is there any way you can give your cat a zone? Like your bedroom where they can be alone for part of the day? ###### |
This ended up in a breakup and to be honest would have resulted in a break up no matter which way it was handled, and I realized that at the time so I handled it the way I did.
Me and my ex had been together for about four years before this, we adopted a dog together in our first year together and had been raising it.... | NAH I fully understand why you didn't refund the cello and sympathize but I likely would've dumped you too. I know the dog wouldn't have had the same life and I play trumpet and have had similar situations, so I get it. But I don't think I would be able to ever see that cello or hear my SO play it if it was just a pai... |
My (24m) girlfriends (23) mom recently decided to invite herself over to our house once a week because she has virtually nothing better to do but sit around at our house and complain about most things in her life. When she is over she wants to see our three month old baby.
My girlfriends sister is in town right now ... | NAH i don't think you're an asshole but i bet even if she doesn't it say it your gf would really appreciate you spending time with every one. ###### |
My grandfather died at the age of 83. He had like 5 or 6 brothers/sisters, so the family is quite big and almost everyone (4 generations) came to his funeral.
Everyone met at the cemetery reception/outside. There were more people than I could even count, and I didn't even know half of them. So, as people gravitated to... | NAH I completely understand the intention behind it. I also understand your sister for not liking it. Funerals are really tricky social interactions. Some people think it's good to make it a little bit lighter. Some think it should be very serious. Everyone has a right to their feelings, as long as nobody is deliberat... |
So, I really like to eat big leaves of romaine dipped in hummus. Like it is literally my FAVORITE snack—the fresh crunchiness, the garlic, the salt.
But my fiancé HATES the sound I make when I munch on it. He always makes me get up and go in the other room if we’re both in the kitchen (even if he’s not eating). It bo... | NAH i can understand both of you and i think the best solution would be to snack in another room. If he actually wants you to stop entirely and can't stand hearing it from one room over, maybe he should get himself checked because that level of misophonia would be far too high for a normal human ###### |
For context I'm Scottish and from a working class background. Most of my family come from Glasgow and as a result my grandparents and dad have quite strong accents.
I 18m, don't have quite as strong an accent due to my mum when I was younger punishing me for pronouncing words "incorrectly" and "not speaking properly... | NAH I can understand being able improve annunciation. It helps in customer service roles and the like to sound professional. I've got a phone voice as does my man. Off the phone he's proper born and bred bridgeton. I see she has her reasons for it but the accent is part of who we are. ###### |
I got a scholarship to a really good college out of high school just like my brother did, and my sister wasn't as lucky as us and would have to pay her way through college. Our parents set an amount of money for all 3 of us for college but me and my brother didn't end up needing it. My parents but me and my brother's... | NAH I agree with some of the other guys, not getting a scholarship while your other siblings did might be a touchy subject ###### |
Hey everyone, so this happened tonight and I’m not really sure what to think.
So here we go, please bear with me:
When my daughter was born a few years ago one of the things my wife would do every night is sing a bedtime lullaby to our daughter that she made up. It goes like this:
Goodnight [insert daughters name] goo... | NAH how about you and your wife get together one night and tell your daughter that when mom puts her to bed she should sing Mom's song and when you put her to bed she sings yours? You can turn this into a lesson about hurt feelings and compromise. I can be simple like " mommy is sad when you only want to sing daddy'... |
AITA for telling my dad he’s being creepy?
So this happened before the world became weird but I just want to have some perspective on what’s going on here. It’s been bothering me a little bit.
I’m 20. My dad came to visit me in the city where I live. He spent a lot of time talking about his break-up which had happened... | NAH here, are you sure he wasn’t projecting the conversation about your sister and her much older BF? Maybe he was trying to make a joke in that vein? I dunno, I wasn’t there, but perhaps consider other causes rather than the more you-centric (but understandable) takes you’ve thought of?
ETA: the tinder thing, he cou... |
Ignore username, old burner account just incase.
I’ll start by saying that I am SO incredibly unaffectionate. I’m awful at handling emotions. I always have been. I’m also notoriously insensitive, hence the post to see what other people think.
That said, I love my boyfriend with my whole heart. We’ve been together... | NAH he probably likes saying it to you and hearing it back, meanwhile you don’t really care to say it or hear it. You both love each other equally (as far as I can tell) but just like to express it in different ways.
I think a balance of your two ways might be the best option, to keep you both happy. That’s my sugges... |
MIL freak out. Potentially my fault?
So my almost MIL hates me and has told me so, as well as my fiancé. She hates me for being vaccinated, anti weirdness, and for introducing her son to modern medicine.
Anyway, she said super hurtful things about how he should “never knock her up and pass on her genes.” I was so ups... | nah girl you're good, fuck that lady. ###### |
AITA
A quick preface all of this is said with no vocal escalation unless otherwise indicated and my wife does know I have very high functioning aspergers we have been together since 2014 and were married in 2015. Also we both are on good terms with her mom. Her mom is 78.
Okay so tonight my wife tells me her mum has ... | NAH from what I can tell it just seems like you moved to practical plans to fast for her and she just needs some time to deal(like she said) before she can approach planing. ###### |
My fiancee and I are scheduled to get married next month, but for obvious reasons that's all in question right now. My state has started the process of reopening, but everything is still up in the air as to when restrictions will be fully lifted.
Now to the problem. We picked a date that has major personal significan... | NAH From the title I went into this thinking you would be an AH. Uninviting everyone is the only thing to do given we are in a pandemic. In five years you can renew your wedding vows and invite all your friends and family. Congratulations to you. ###### |
I was on an international flight (12 hour flight) a few months ago that was dead empty. Maybe 10% capacity.
I was flying premium economy so I was in the seat just behind business class. I could see the entire section and no one was sitting in it, and maybe only 2 or 3 people were in premium economy with me.
The fli... | NAH Former flight attendant here. I don't think it's bad mannered but it's annoying af because it brings the cabin crew in the uncomfortable position to have to decline. It would also anger the paying business class passengers and mess up the service. ###### |
My maternal grandmother passed way because of throat cancer when I was in the seventh grade. She left all of her granddaughters a necklace that she has custom made for them (she asked us which was our favorite gem). At the time I was crazy about rubies and she actually got me a custom made necklace with rubies. It was ... | NAH except for your Mum if she knows the sentimental value of the necklace.
Also, is this your cousin or your sister? Because you keep saying "cousin sister" and that's confusing. ###### |
My daughter is 18. She got pregnant and decided to keep the baby. She wants me to be in the room when she delivers her baby. I love her and want to support her but I really don't want to be in the delivery room because I don't want to see her naked. Is dads being in the delivery room for when their daughter's give birt... | NAH but your daughter obviously needs you and wants you there so it’s the right thing to do. You can likely stand near her head, you may not even see all that much ###### |
This fall I(F20) should begin my last year of college, but during the previous year I realized that I don't fit in the field (business, which my mom picked) that I'm studying and will be hard to get a job where I live with that diploma.
I decided to drop out and work a year or 2 to have some money and then apply to an... | NAH but you would be an idiot if you are that close to graduating. Finish the degree, then get a graduate or second degree in something scientific. I dropped out my senior year for a variety of reasons, including, I started to hate my major, and I am just now able to go back to school in my 40s. Life can throw some sh... |
My girlfriend is a vegetarian and wants to raise our future kids to be vegetarian. I don’t want to raise them vegetarian because I eat meat and I think it would be better to raise them in a way that they can make that decision for themselves when they are old enough. I just feel like forcing a lifestyle like vegetarian... | NAH But you two need to agree. Although your rationale is kind of assholish. If you raise them as omnivores, they can choose to be vegetarian when they are older. If you raise them as vegetarian, they can choose to be omnivores when they are older. You have to make a choice for a child too young to choose for themselv... |
So I was an RA for 3 years at a big state university, in a state where pot isn't legal, not even medicinally. I lived in a building of upperclassmen and freshman and you were allowed to have alcohol in your room as long as you were of age. My wing had 60 people total, so this job took A LOT out of me- especially for 3 ... | NAH but you should know that that's not what a mandated reporter is and what you described isn't real. You being arrested was never a legitimate concern. Whoever told you that it was is wrong. I'm a criminal defense attorney. ###### |
Okay I know that most stories that start with “hear me out first” end up being terrible, but genuinely hear me out.
For background when me sister was seven her mom died. My parents became her guardians because our moms were best friends. I was nine at the time and i quickly went from being an only child to having a l... | NAH but you need talk about how you want to spend some one on one time with your mom.
Edited judgment ###### |
I have 2 daughters Graelynn and Charlie. They are both 7. I never expected to adopt a kid. Adopting Graelynn was sudden and unexpected. She was one of the girls that came to my afterschool daycare that I worked at. Her parents were addicts and she was living with her grandmother who recently passed. I didn't want her t... | NAH but you might want to look into some kind of therapy for the girls and look for support groups of parents with both adopted and biological children.
I’ve known a few kids who were adopted into a family with biological children and it’s tough for everyone to adjust without the right help. Good luck! ###### |
I'm a musician. I play guitar in a well-known rock band. Please, please, respect my choice to stay anonymous. Thank you.
I'm in my mid 30's, and I transitioned from female to male when I was in my late teens. A few years later, I joined the band, and we made it big. I get asked by fans every once and a while whether ... | NAH but you might be interested in the story of Nikkie de Jager, known on YouTube as Nikkietutorials. She is a trans woman who transitioned very young and did not intend to come out. She got very famous in the YouTube beauty community, did multiple successful brand collaborations and worked as a makeup artist with sta... |
My wife and I are buying a house. Closing date is in early July, and fast approaching. The house we bought has the main house and something like a studio apartment attached. We are taking the master bedroom in the main house, 2 of our roommates are taking the studio apartment, and 2 other roommates are taking a room in... | NAH but why are you letting these people move in in the first place? They don’t seem to reliable with payments on small things let alone rent. Also has splitting groceries with a large group of roommates ever lasted long term? I’ve seen this come up but never really understood it, like when you buy chips/snacks so you... |
This happened last year, but I’ve been thinking about it again.
My birthday is a few days before Christmas. I was turning 25. My family is my Mom and Dad (50’s) and my brother (then 10).
Presents for Christmas and birthdays in my family are usually quite big (not new cars levels of extravagant, but usually a new te... | NAH but omg, I wish someone would buy me a decent set of pots and pans!
I can understand why you might be disappointed if its not the usual gift you would get, but all those things you got were good practical gifts... Pots, pans and a lamp will last you for years to come, unlike an ipad or similar xxx ###### |
A couple things. I am of Indian descent, this means I am an American citizen, but both my parents were born in India. I can’t legally be an Indian citizen because India does not allow dual citizenship. My late grandparents own a lot of land in India, and since my mom and I are both only children, half of their land wen... | NAH but it's crazy how you can legally own the land but can't legally sell it. Are you really "technically a millionaire" if you're just sitting on high-value assets you can't sell?
What's on the land currently? What happens if you don't want to run a farm or be a landlord? Does the property just sit there, unoccupie... |
My fiance and I have been together for 3 years, and yesterday he made dinner, and set up candles, and designed a whole romantic evening for us, and then asked me to marry him. I of course said yes. He got me a tiffany's ring, and its absolutely gorgeous. The stone is huge. It was big enough that I had to ask how much i... | NAH but it sounds like you both need to talk about what sharing and/or combining finances means for each of you and what you envision for your future. Please avoid calling him names during this conversation.
Your boyfriend isn't TA for getting you a ring that he was willing to spend the money on and get for you.
You... |
My fiancé of a few years and I got into a heated conversation about having a phone tracker on each other. She says it’s for safety and to calm her if I’m late at work or she can’t reach me, or if to the extreme of if she was kidnapped. I can see the point of the extreme but I’m very against anyone having my on a gps ... | NAH but it is your choice if you want to do it or not. If she is worried about not being able to be found in the extreme situation then she can turn hers on so you can track her but you dont necessarily need to reciprocate.
True story, my son was hit by a car while riding his bike on an isolated stretch of road. It w... |
Due to current events, I appreciate that normal routine doesn’t really exist anymore. However, my children (twins 15m) have been waking up very late (12-1pm) and they’re up until about 3-4am. I know this because I found them playing FIFA when I went to get some water last night.
I’m not happy with this, as in my view... | NAH but I’d absolutely drop the weekend restriction. There’s no reason for them to have to be up by 9. ###### |
I’m adopted. I was adopted by a wonderful family and I love my parents very much. They literally mean the world to me. When I was 14 they finally confirmed( my cousin had always said it but the grown ups denied it) that I was adopted. I started looking for my biological parents, with the help of my adopted parents, sho... | NAH but i'd like to point out the life this baby is gonna have is not the life u would have had being raised by a 15 year old girl. That being said feelings r not always logical and you can't help how you r feeling. ###### |
My wife is Indian-American, she was born here. She grew up ‘not wanting’ to be Indian and kind of shucked that aspect of herself, until she was older. We’ve been married for 3 years and since we’ve been together she’s accepted more and more of her family culture which I love and and am so proud to be next to her in tha... | NAH but I will add that, as an Indian cultural practice, ear piercing is practiced as an acupuncture thing rather than a fashion thing. Whether or not you and your wife choose to do it for your daughter is something you both need to work out but it would be good to understand the “why” behind it.
https://timesofind... |
I know the title makes it sound worse than it is, bear with me. Also throwaway because my partner uses reddit. Obligatory comment re: formatting because I'm on mobile etc.
I (27F) have a mild dairy allergy, it usually manifests as sniffles, I generally have a chronic runny nose or some sort of cough. I get very frequ... | NAH but I kinda agree with him more... having to live with someone who’s consistently sick would get pretty gross after a while
Ultimately it’s your decision but there’s some pretty amazing vegan ice creams out there if you look
(Vegan cheese is much harder to find but some are still pretty good) ###### |
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We are quite serious- saving for a house, talking about timelines for an engagement, etc.
Since I have known him he has always been a smoker. He smokes about a pack a day, everyday. It averages to $460 a month in cigarettes. I smoke pot regularly (a few times a week) ... | NAH but don’t surprised if he gets upset. If my SO of 1 year were to break up with me over a trait that they had known I’ve had the entire time, I’d be pretty angry and confused.
My first question (from his perspective) would be “if smoking bothered you so much, why didn’t you end things way sooner?” Be prepared ... |
My brother and I are extremely close, he got engaged a few months back and we are all happy for him and his fiance. I am also close with his fiance, she is a sweet girl but suffers from chronic migraines at least 4 times a month (these are so bad that she literally just sleeps all day when these hit) and is very depres... | Nah but depending on how strict your laws, and depending where you live are NOT hiring a person based on them having a disability is grounds for a lawsuit. Saying that was your reason could have been a huge mistake. ###### |
So this is an awkward one. I moved in with my sister when my college closed because our parents are insane. I’m grateful she’s letting me stay with her, but there’s a slight issue.
The walls are wafer thin and my room is right up against the master, and her bed is up against the wall. And her boyfriend and her have se... | NAH and I'm sorry but your description is amusing lol and if sex for you is only lasting 5-10 minutes, you're doing it wrong.
She's not the A for having sex with her own boyfriend in her own place, that you're a guest in. You're not the A for not being able to help overhearing or for letting her know that you can ove... |
I'm a middle school teacher. Once a week there's a meeting with the principal, vice principal, special ed teacher, guidance counselor and the 4 subject matter teachers. One of the things we talk about is particular kids and how they are doing. A few years ago we had a kid who had a spectacularly horrible home life (the... | NAH ~~NTA~~
There is wisdom in recognizing your limitations and requesting help from those who can actually handle the issue.
~~Your principle is the A here. A good leader also knows when additional resources are necessary to solve a problem.~~
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I'm changing my vote...
"This is above my pay grade" is ... |
tl/dr: My mom has a horrible voice and wants to online audition for a benefit concert. WIBTA if I tell her it’s for experienced singers to save her the embarrassment of having her audition tape go viral?
Long version: My mom is such a sweetheart and she loves singing. Unfortunately she’s not very good. Today she jumpe... | NAH
Practice and have fun :) then maybe see if you want to submit or still think she will end up on a cringe compilation ###### |
New account for privacy.
I (39F) have been with my boyfriend (40M) for a little over two years. Recently, I have come into a significant amount of money that would allow me to quit my day job and pursue my dream career, or if saved and invested carefully, retire fully. I haven’t disclosed this information to my boyfr... | NAH
This is probably more along the lines of r/relationshipadvice versus being an asshole.
If you saw it moving forward, I wouldn’t do anything without a prenup or some sort of legal representation for your money to keep it for yourself to use at your discretion. ###### |
Hear us out. We can’t agree who the asshole is.
We have been together for a while and my boyfriend falls asleep way ahead of me. Sometimes, but not always, (if it was always then I wouldn’t do it) he takes these very shallow breathes, his chest doesn’t move, I can’t feel or hear him breathe. I panic and nudge him to s... | NAH
That sounds like sleep apnea. It's a serious condition that can lead to heart attacks and death if untreated. It's *usually* caused by excess weight but I know of one slender person who has it, so don't let him put you off by saying he's not far enough to have this.
Treatment is wearing a mask that pushes air d... |
I've been married to my wife for about 3 months now, and we had her out first serious argument when I got angry with her for calling her mom to take her somewhere while I'm home and not doing anything. She always does things like this. Calling her parents for rides or help instead of me. My friends tell me that I shoul... | NAH
I was going to say NTA, but then you said you're both 21. It seems like she hasn't left the nest yet, even after getting married. You're looking at it thinking "we're married, we should be independent and not relying on parents" and she's thinking "I'm 21, it's totally still acceptable to get help from my parent... |
I got a scholarship to a really good college out of high school just like my brother did, and my sister wasn't as lucky as us and would have to pay her way through college. Our parents set an amount of money for all 3 of us for college but me and my brother didn't end up needing it. My parents but me and my brother's... | NAH
Doesn’t sound like you were rubbing it in so you’re not the asshole.
She was obviously shocked and needed time to process so she’s not an asshole anyway. ###### |
This is me (15), my brothers (13 and 12) and my younger sister (11) writing. We’re back at our mums house now but this happened from Monday 11th May - Friday 15th May.
Our dad has a new girlfriend who’s from Japan. She’s a bit rude and we don’t really like her. She’s ok when our dad is around but when he isn’t she ge... | NAH -I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt since you’re a child in an awkward situation. But you need to check yourself. You cannot eat jacket potatoes and baked beans all your lives. You don’t have to love it and it’s stretch to go from the blandest diet in the world to Japanese food, but you sound as if you’re no... |
I got a scholarship to a really good college out of high school just like my brother did, and my sister wasn't as lucky as us and would have to pay her way through college. Our parents set an amount of money for all 3 of us for college but me and my brother didn't end up needing it. My parents but me and my brother's... | NAH - your intention was not to offend and she was blindsided by information she didn't have.
However, parents are supposed to be FAIR not EQUAL. This was smart on their part as it enabled all three kids to get a good education with limited funds. They did not give her a handout at your expense, they got all their ... |
My brother split with his gf about 2 months ago and he has been living with me. Before my brother moved in, it was just me and my dog. Anyway, he has three small children who I love to spend time with but he has them on his days off. They usually sleep Friday and go home Sunday. He also has them before or after work de... | NAH - Your brother is going through a rough time and wants to spend more time with his kids that makes sense. You're letting him stay in your house and his kids are causing problems, plus beggars can't be choosers. You're NTA for wanting to compromise on the kids situation.
Your brother's not in a great situation, ... |
My GF has been protesting frequently. I have gone with her a few times but I think it's time to stop. I want to enjoy my summer. There's other stuff I wanna do.
She asked me if I wanted to protest for pride today (were not even gay) but she has a friend who is. I said no, and this is like my third time in a row sayin... | NAH - you're free not to go, but she's also not obligated to "do other activities" if she wants to be politically involved. In the end, there might be a difference in values between you two. ###### |
For the context, i’m 17F
Last year, i went to the USA for an exchange year. It was one of the best years of my life, i quite enjoyed it, but I had to return back to my home country early. Obviously, i was sad to have to leave my host family, as well as all my friends and teachers there.
Since i got home, i noticed t... | NAH - you sound a bit like you resent the fact that you don't get to live with a wealthy family with lots of space, your mum has probably missed your for the last year but possibly is a bit annoyed if you keep going on about how great America was, making her feel inferior for not being able to give you the life you ha... |
So I found out from my grandma that my half brothers mom died and that he needs somewhere to live. She was telling me because she’s not physically capable of taking care of him herself. She had asked my mom and stepdad first, so that maybe he could grow up with our other siblings, but they of course didn’t want to be ... | NAH - You must chose what is right for you and you must accept that there will be some people that will not agree with your decision. They might even call you an asshole but you're not. Your GF gave you a good example, she laid out her choice for you. She understands there might be painful consequences but that is her... |
We were casually chatting yesterday and he brought up that he was looking at the /gonewild subs. I personally am okay with looking at porn and the general /gonewild subs, but when he was looking at specifically the Asian subs I feel extremely uncomfortable. Something about the intimacy (as opposed to porn) and the rese... | NAH - You have the right to discuss with your boyfriend the acceptable boundaries of your relationship. Many people consider the viewing of pornography to be a relationship or fidelity issue. Many couples have both benefited or suffered from the porn habits of one or all partners. It is not prudish or weird of you t... |
My brother is 19. I'm 23. When he was 14, I asked to borrow his laptop to send an email because mine was installing updates. He said sure, so I took his laptop downstairs, opened it up, and there was a forum that my brother was posting on about being gay and trying to come to terms with it. I didn't read any of his pos... | NAH - you couldn’t have known that he wanted you to know. In fact, i would have done the same thing you did. You shouldn’t force people out of the closet, and you had no way of knowing that’s what he wanted ###### |
I (31F) am my father’s only biological child. I have an older half sister, and our mother was married to my father until she died in 2001. Later that year he met and married SM, who had three adult children (21-25). Over the years, my dad has said several times that, in the event of his and SM’s deaths, he would want t... | NAH - you can bring up your concerns to your father, but just remember that no matter what he decides it is his money and his decision. ###### |
My (30f) stepdad was great and raised me like his own. He never had biological children of his own. We were very close and it absolutely devastated me that around my 18th birthday, he and my mom divorced and he moved out without me.
I'm grown enough to understand why he needed to leave on his own and we've tried to ha... | NAH - you called him out on a situation you felt genuine discomfort or disappointment about. He in turn responded reasonably and apologised, asking you to cut him some slack.
I don't think you handled the aftermath of this all together well but that doesn't make you an asshole. Give each other space a while and try a... |
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