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My [M33] girlfriend [F32] is curled up under the blanket right in this moment. We just had an argument about me being the strict parent, the one that says No and her being the Yes cool parent.
It all started yesterday. We took a little walk with our toddler [M2]. It's cold outside (3 or 4 celsius) mom says she cold, ... | ESH. She shouldn't be letting him get soaking wet when it's that cold. And it's not fair that you feel like you always have to be "bad cop". I'm on your side there. But you went way overboard telling her to "start acting like a mom".
Talking to a 2 year old about their emotions is good parenting. My son is 2, somet... |
Hi all!
My wife and me just found out we are going to have a baby, we have tried several times.
The thing is, my wife is a weed addict, she smokes 7 days a week the whole day and I told her that if she smoked weed while pregnant I would leave the house.
This was because last pregnancy I found she smoked weed seve... | ESH. She has a lot of obvious problems and needs help, and you shouldn’t feel bad about trying to get her help. You *should* feel bad about having another baby with her when you *knew* this would be an issue and hadn’t done anything about it yet. That was very irresponsible of you, and you can’t fix that by walking ou... |
I have backyard that I built a fence around about 3 years ago when we got our dog.
My neighbor has 2 boys, around ages 10 and 12. Long story short, my neighbors boys somehow managed to put a HUGE hole in the side of my fence, no idea how they did it. This was about 3 weeks ago. My neighbor apologized profusely and sa... | ESH. Put a tarp over your side and pay attention to where you dog is. If the dog is unsupervised in the neighbor's yard, you have no idea if there's a gate open to the road or other opportunities to escape and get lost or hurt. ###### |
So my brother Jared (28) had a birth defect that had cleared up by the time he was 2 years old. I had a stroke when I was fairly young and I'm still struggling with the aftermath 20 years later. Jared is 4 years older than me.
We got into a fight and things got very heated very fast. I told him that he didnt know wha... | ESH. Playing the “who has it worse” game is immature and ridiculous. ###### |
A little context, my wife and I live in a house that's less than 0.1mi from her parents house. Any time I say or do something that really pisses her off she tells me to leave and/or stay somewhere else for the night.
Now, I could go to my parents(they live about 8 miles away), but why should I let my wife kick me out... | ESH. Nobody should be kicked out of their home. You guys have a toxic relationship. Go to marriage counselling and learn to resolve conflicts the healthy way. ###### |
My Mother in law (MIL) chewed me out on the phone for not being more sympathetic towards my sister in law (SIL) after she experienced her sixth miscarriage. We have expressed condolences after each and every miscarriage but apparently, I didn’t sound “sorry enough” this time around. I reminded her that SIL has a beauti... | ESH. MIL for grading your amount of sorry and you for discounting your SILs struggles by saying she should just be grateful to have one kid. Your struggles with fertility don't give you the right to be callous nor should your in laws pester you about your own fertility. ###### |
I've been balding for like 5 years. Not fully bald, just mostly losing hair at the crown of my head. I don't like to admit it too people but I am insecure about it. I wear a baseball cap around almost everywhere. Going to stores, at the house, everywhere for the most part.
I don't see the problem with it. I like the ... | ESH. Maybe sit down and have a talk with her that her comments really bother you. She might not realize how much it hurts you. If she still jokes about it, try couples' therapy. ###### |
I am 14M and my sister is 17F. Recently, under quarantine, tensions have been high. I have been dieting and doing exercise to lose fat. I am really short and scrawny, but I have a belly. A few years ago, my sister started to tease me about it, as she can eat shit and not exercise but stay in shape. I have started to no... | ESH. Literally, all of you.
Your mom is the biggest asshole for letting shit escalate to this level and for not coming down on your sister for an inappropriate fat joke.
Your sister is old enough to know better than making an inappropriate fat joke and if she's gonna give it out, she should be able to take it.
You'... |
I live with my girlfriend. I own a Switch but don't play it much; I was, however, excited for the new Animal Crossing game, so I bought it at release and still have yet to play it. My girlfriend asked if she can play it since I'm busy with work for the foreseeable future and I didn't see a problem with it.
So she's cl... | ESH. Lack of maturity on both sides. There were better ways to handle it. Flushing something you knew would upset her sounds like something a shitty parent would do before bragging about it on Facebook. *i hAd to teaCh Her A leSsON! My HOUsE, MY RULeS!*
And good luck with all of the weeds growing down there now... |
My wife and I are getting divorced and haven’t lived together for six months. It was her choice not mine.
During a digital clear out I decided I don’t want to see the wedding photos anymore. She has the physical prints in our old house and I have a hard drive with the digital copies. Below is the full text, AITA:
ME:... | ESH. Jfc. Just put the photos on a memory stick and post them to her. You’re clearly not able to be civil to each other but you jointly own the photos so if you don’t want them, give them to her and she can throw them out if she doesn’t want them. This doesn’t have to be an epic saga 🤷🏻♀️ ###### |
My roommate has said I'm a selfish cunt and that I should even move out so I guess I want the internet to say the same thing.
Yesterday a dog showed up and was barking under my window at my cat, who was in my window. I made a commotion and my roommate, who is a dog lover, got up and she got the dog.
We spent the mo... | ESH. it’s not your dog; it was forcing you to lock your cats away and was nonstop whining / causing an annoyance. i understand why you’d be upset and want the dog out immediately.
*however*, that does not give you the OK to send the dog right back out into the streets where it is vulnerable to harm from not-so-nice f... |
I (22F) have lived in an apartment with 3 other people (all 22F) since August of 2019. For the last year, my roommates have been rude and condescending to me. They’ve belittled me for having what I see as a normal college experience, such as spending time with friends and going out on weekends. They are all extremely T... | ESH. I know how shitty roommates can be. But, you still lived there for two years. Swallow your ego and help them clean. ###### |
I went on a 3 week long international trip with a group of ~15 other recent college graduates (last year, pre-coronavirus). We all mostly knew of each other, but weren't really friends ahead of time.
Early on in the trip, "Kimberly" was particularly loud about what a picky eater she was. She would proudly exclaim tha... | ESH. I get your frustration, but it's not a "rich" thing. I've known kids who grew up poor who were *incredibly* picky eaters. Actually I'd say I probably know more of them that are than the reverse. ###### |
Sorry for any bad formatting, I'm on mobile, And I'm so pissed off right now.
My (M43) stepdaughter (F13) has been living with us for eight years now and she lacks a massive mount of respect for me and for everybody else.
She's so aggressive and loud and does not like being told to do anything. Especially by me.
Alw... | ESH. How do I say this? We (parents/adults) do this thing where we enter a relationship with someone, we fall in love with them and they become very important to us. We accept them as our partner and we value their opinion. But we also do this thing where we expect our children to develop the same attachment and res... |
So a little backstory, when I was 7, my mum had a baby with another man who wasn't my dad, and she decided to give the baby up to the father and his family.
So fast forward 4 months ago and I get some messages on instagram from my sister who is now 16 and this honestly made me happy. I cried tears of happiness. We tal... | ESH. Her insulting your family like that was completely uncalled for, but you had no right to tell her she couldn't contact your mom and zero grounds for threatening to involve the police. ###### |
She decided to put away a bottle of edibles in the pantry, then they somehow were moved to the dinner table. It's a pastel pink colored bottle. The kids could easily mistake them for candy. I have pre teens and 2 younger kids.
My one year old was able to open the bottle with ease. Thankfully none of the kids consum... | ESH. Her for obvious reasons. You because you shouldn't be screaming at your wife, especially when your kids could possibly hear. You have every right to be angry. But screaming at the object of your anger does literally nothing to help anything. What did yelling solve that a quieter conversation wouldn't have? The wa... |
My daughter recently moved back in with us after her relationship with her husband ended following his discovery of an affair she was having with a co-worker.
Her husband is a good man, and I will be sorry to see him leaving our family. He did not deserve this. She admits as much, but I wanted him to know how sorry I... | ESH. Her for cheating, and you for trying to control and discipline an adult child in hopes that she learned her lesson. It's all fine trying to mend everything and let her exhusband know that you love him and consider him part of the family still, etc etc... but to call him and make your daughter listen REEKS of for... |
So yesterday my gf and i went to the beach with her friend.
My gf is southern european (italian) and her friend is Northern European(Danish),when we arrived at the beach her friend offered her sunscreen ,my gf refused her offer and she said”i am italian i can handle the sun”,my gf has VERY pale skin that burns easily u... | ESH. Her for being needlessly stupid and stubborn, you for being over the top in making fun of her. ###### |
So to cope with everything and make sure I'm being productive I have started making schedules, for example itll be like 8am wake up, do work from 9 am to 12pm, call boyfriend 12pm to 3PM, hang out with my mother 3pm to 5pm etc.
I generally make them in the evening the day before and check with everyone who is on it if ... | ESH. He’s too needy and you’re too rigid. ###### |
Our kids are playing in the sprinkler and my husband took the leaf blower and started blowing it all over them to dry them off. The loud blower was very close to the children. The kids were having fun with it. I scolded him to turn it off because it would cause ear damage. He was hostile and called me an idiot in front... | ESH. He was doing something fun with the kids, you raised a concern about it. No problems there. But because you were scolding him instead of raising the concern like you were both part of the same team, he felt attacked and got defensive. He called you a name because of it. That makes you both the asshole. ###### |
I (f/18) woke up one morning covered in blood. This wasn’t a shock. I went to the bathroom, cleaned up a bit, and went on my day. Right before I left the bathroom I noticed some blood inside the toilet but I didn’t think anything of it—it was inside the toilet seat right?
A few minutes later my dad calls into my room... | ESH. He should flush and you should clean up your mess whether it's in the toilet or not. Natural or not, no one wants to see his urine or your period blood. ###### |
I have a 25 year old son who I think has some growing up to do. He still blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life and he is incredibly rude to his stepmother. My marriage to his mother wasn't bad in the sense that it was volatile, but we were never in love. We were young and pressured into marriage by our p... | ESH. he got caught cheating on his own wife and still expects you to apologize? Also if you don't discuss the openness of a marriage, it ain't open. ###### |
My brother and I are classmates and are now working on a math project together. We got our subject 4 weeks ago.
At the start, we split the project into two parts, one that was purely math and the other that was the programming part. We agreed that I would take on the math part and he would take on the programming part... | ESH. Harsh snap, slacking... though, when programming, there comes a point where it actually impossible to proceed, because the coder does not have the blueprint to continue coding.
Can’t program if you do not know what exactly you need to program. ###### |
I (f/18) woke up one morning covered in blood. This wasn’t a shock. I went to the bathroom, cleaned up a bit, and went on my day. Right before I left the bathroom I noticed some blood inside the toilet but I didn’t think anything of it—it was inside the toilet seat right?
A few minutes later my dad calls into my room... | ESH. Guys who get this offended by period are ridiculous - that said, clean up after yourself. You saw the blood still there and purposely left it. ###### |
Hello!
My mother and I are having an argument right now over my stimulus check. For background information: I’m 24 years old. I graduated from university in Fall 2018 while I was in college my mother claimed me as a dependent. I don’t dispute that I was. I lived at home rent free while commuting to school in one of he... | ESH. Get turbo tax and do your own taxes so you don't have to worry about this. SO EASY.
Your mom should tell you if she claimed you, and let you know if she received a stimulus check for you as well as herself based upon dependent filing. They started processing the checks a month ago, if you were not listed as a de... |
My brother is 25 and I am 28. We are very, very tight. He's been seeing this girl for a few years and eventually wants to marry her. Because my brother and I are tight, we hang out a lot and I do not get along with his girlfriend. One of the reasons why my bro and I are so tight is because we were raised in the foster ... | ESH. For clarity you have every reason to not like this girl and clearly she's not great given she's judging you for things that were out of your control in your childhood.
However you were wrong to go into her home (assuming she lives with your brother), make a dig at her and then react by saying you don't like her.... |
Can't believe I need to post this for validation, so here goes.
Summer is coming and the weather is getting hot, so I figure I'd cut my 2 year olds hair, it was so long that it almost reached her elbow. Have to admit, I did a pretty bad job so in the end I shaved her bald. Everything was fine, she was okay with it an... | ESH. First of all, if you suck so badly at cutting hair that your attempt ends in a need to shave someone’s head, you shouldn’t be cutting hair. Secondly, your husbands comments to your daughter are bullshit and emotionally abusive. Finally, don’t forget to put sunscreen on that poor child’s head. ###### |
I’ve been with my husband for 21 years. I grew up with hamsters, ferrets, cats, dogs. He doesn’t like cats and has allergies, so I’ve given him that. I came into the relationship with a small breed dog and we got a large breed dog.. all learning experiences for him, but he loves our dogs. His only allergies that presen... | ESH. Except your daughter, she sounds awesome.
You and your husband needed to discuss this issue and come to an agreement. Both of you just went your own ways on what should have been a joint decision. ###### |
This is a unique situation I've found myself in and I dont exactly know what to do.
I (34f) have been with my partner (39m) for 15 years. He is the stepfather to my daughter, "Jane"(17f).
Now, over the past, oh I'd say, 2 years she has started to shame me and my partner for having sex.
Now we aren't having loud, rock... | ESH. Everybody in your house needs to dial it back.
Objectively, you have to know that as a parent it is ludicrous to even consider kicking a child out of the house. For ANY reason, so long as they aren’t a legal adult yet. C’mon. Telling her she can find a new place is effectively the same.
Your daughter is a piec... |
We have a discord server with about 20 people. It's a collection of people we found from games or friends of friends. In the general chat we usually just chill and have light hearted conversations with each other. It's just a place to relax and talk.
Anyways along with the story, I'm 17(M) and there's this person name... | ESH. C sucks because yeah, she always makes it about her in an extremely negative way, but you suck for the way you handled it. You could've got your point across without stooping to insults. When has insulting someone ever resulted in a light bulb going off for them saying, "Yeah, maybe I should change my ways." A ca... |
I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant. As I’m sure many of you are aware, wearing clothes can feel very restrictive when it’s already hard for you to move. Since we’re on lockdown and I’m not going to work, I decided it would be nice to just not wear anything while here at home. I already do this anyway after work, but now I... | ESH. As a fellow pregnant lady I was 100% on your side until you argued about him wanting to close the curtains and blinds while you're naked.
Of course he wants to close the curtains and blinds while you're naked! It's your prerogative to be naked at home, but if you're putting yourself on display for the neighbour... |
So I have a coworker (25/30F) called “Amy”. She’s single with no kids.
My boss (30/35M) called “Jake” is married to my COUSIN and has two kids.
Amy is in love with jake the way a lion is in love with a zebra. She’s always always trying to start anything with him or anyone else for his attention. I’ve done so good a... | ESH. Amy’s behavior is extremely unprofessional and, IMO, unethical. As manager, Jake should have put a stop to Amy’s comments long before they got to this point. Your public chastising of your coworker was out of line, regardless of your boss’s marital status or relation to you. ###### |
So I have a coworker (25/30F) called “Amy”. She’s single with no kids.
My boss (30/35M) called “Jake” is married to my COUSIN and has two kids.
Amy is in love with jake the way a lion is in love with a zebra. She’s always always trying to start anything with him or anyone else for his attention. I’ve done so good a... | ESH. Amy for acting this way at work. Jake for allowing it. You for the way you handled it. I understand you are looking out for your cousin, but you could have just told your cousin, or warned Jake that you are going to tell your cousin. Lashing out at her on a work call makes you look bad (not as bad as them imo) ##... |
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I finished working last night and drove to her place which I normally do in weekends, instead of going inside right away I decided to clean my car, she messaged me where I was to which I responded with I was here but cleaning. She called about 15 mins later asking what was t... | ESH.
YTA (slightly)Why not just address the dog puke immediately, rather than letting it sit there for a week and a half then passively-aggressively deal with it? Your girlfriend said she was going to clean it up so it would have made sense to follow up with her about this the next day at the very latest, or (prefer... |
So I have a somewhat good job, my sister doesn’t because of corona virus and she tends to old people so she could catch it. She is calling my dad for money, my dad says no because he told her not to get pregnant and that’s what she did. Then she calls me at work, (boss is chill and let’s me take the call) here’s what I... | ESH.
Your sister was a bit of an asshole for trying to guilt trip you after you said you couldn't afford to lend her money, but
I think you were the worst in this situation, what you said is wholly unacceptable to say to ANYBODY. That's not okay, you should listen to your mom and call your sister and apologise, I'm... |
So this happened before quarantine but my boyfriend still gives me shit and calls me an asshole for it so I need other people’s opinions on this situation.
My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) go to different universities so we don’t usually see each other because we are a about 2 hours apart. When he visited my apartment o... | ESH.
Honestly the fact your bf hasn’t told her that he has a gf is a bit odd on his part.
However you need to let him handle it and not butt in. It’s really weird to find a girl you’ve never spoken to to tell her off for something she didn’t know she was doing wrong. ###### |
My fiancé (25F) and I (23M) are getting married in a few months from now. My fiancé has a couple friends that consistently encourage her (and now me) to make some questionable decisions. I love almost all of her friends, but these two always seem to be stirring up trouble.
At some point a couple weeks ago, her friend... | ESH.
But I do need more info. Was it not apparent that your fiance was uncomfortable?
Honestly this sounds like the kind of reckless behavour that does end engagements. I don't know why you would risk it.
You don't do this kind of thing while drunk and under peer pressure. **It's a massive consent issue.** Let a... |
Additional info, her dad came around the car, asked what my problem was and I told him your daughter threw her glove on the ground and he said "What do you want me to do about it?". I was a little dumbfounded because I'd think the answer is pretty simple and just said "tell her to throw it away". He then started scream... | ESH. Your not the asshole for telling them not to litter. You are the asshole and a hypocrite for littering with smaller items. All litterers are assholes. ###### |
The Starbucks in my town has recently reopened for take out business only. These people have been put of a job for about a month now, so I don't exactly expect them to be stellar at their jobs at the moment. My gf and I had to get her car from the shop, so we decided to get Starbucks for ourselves and the family while ... | ESH. You probably should have asked her if she was okay with an iced drink. I personally hate iced coffee. Mistakes are fine but you are entitled to ask for what you order and paid for.
The “asshole” comment was extreme, but it was just between you two. It could have been just hyperbole for effect. Your title ... |
My stepmom has always been a very insecure person. Same with my dad. He married way out of his league but his own insecurity drove my mom away.
My mom is now married to a really nice guy she met at work. My mom is very well-respected professor and really beautiful. I mean she is my mom so I'm biased but she gets a lo... | ESH. You can call your stepmom out on being unnecessarily nasty without being unnecessarily nasty back. ###### |
So to keep it short and sweet, we have been dating for 5 years and after the first year our sex life started to dwindle when I became pregnant. Since then we have sex maybe once every 3 months. I'm always up for it but have stopped initiating it because of the constant rejection (too tired, not in the mood, don't want ... | ESH. Sounds like this relationship needs some *serious* couples therapy ###### |
Just want to say first that it wasn't supposed to be an insult.
So we've been staying with my father in law and my sister in law. My SIL is a bit on the overweight side and since she's a stand up comedian, she often uses that in her routine. She's very comfortable in her body and always has been according to my husban... | ESH. SIL sucks for trying to undermine your parenting, and you suck for insulting her. Remember how in Mean Girls "too gay to function" was only OK when Damian said it about himself? Yeah, this is a similar situation. Apologize, but also tell SIL to mind her own beeswax about what your daughter eats. ###### |
My brother is 25 and I am 28. We are very, very tight. He's been seeing this girl for a few years and eventually wants to marry her. Because my brother and I are tight, we hang out a lot and I do not get along with his girlfriend. One of the reasons why my bro and I are so tight is because we were raised in the foster ... | ESH. She is wrong for judging your upbringing which she can't possibly begin to understand. You are wrong because you knew what you were doing when you made that remark. You said it to purposefully hurt and embarrass her in front of other people.
If you have a problem with her you should be an adult and speak to h... |
Basically my girlfriend (22) of 2 years was scheduled to undergo a knee replacement surgery next month, I decided to pay for it.
The surgery is kinda necessary, she is having trouble walking and if not done in the next 6-8 months she could risk walking with crutches for the rest of her life as the success rate of the ... | ESH. It's fair enough to not want to pay for her surgery, but you really should break up with her. There is no way to sustain a relationship with you resenting her for cheating, and her resenting you because she may be disabled for the rest of her life. ###### |
I met her 27 years ago. We lived next door to each other for 3 years and she was a very good neighbor to have. Very nice. We reconnected 2 years ago and she's been to several of my parties. But she's really bad about inviting like 20 people to come with her and I'm invaded.
Don't get me wrong! They're super nice peopl... | ESH. If you don't like her and don't want to hang out with her, then you don't want to hang out with her. But calling someone "brain-damaged" even behind their back is out of line, especially when it sounds like you're mostly just annoyed by how loud she is. And while she should probably get the hint from all the e... |
I’ve lived in the Charlotte North Carolina area since I was 16 and my wife has lived here since her first year of college (we both went to UNCC)
We have kids 3 kids and one on the way. Matthew (7),
Hunter and Holly (4). These were names I suggested but my wife loved them where I suggested them and agreed to them w... | ESH. Hi, fellow Charlottean! Why the hell would you keep that from her? It’s really kinda dumb, but I can see why she would be irritated. Marriage is based on honesty, and deception (intentional or not) has no place in a good marriage. ###### |
My boyfriend cheated on me a while back. He went on a date with someone he met on Tinder, and slept with his sisters best friend repeatedly. During these times, he’d be unresponsive over text, at the time I never really thought much of it though, because we’re both busy adults with lives.
I agreed to take him back, I... | ESH. He sucks for cheating, you suck because like you said you're planning on willfully violating his privacy.
If you can't trust him, end the relationship. ###### |
I went on a 3 week long international trip with a group of ~15 other recent college graduates (last year, pre-coronavirus). We all mostly knew of each other, but weren't really friends ahead of time.
Early on in the trip, "Kimberly" was particularly loud about what a picky eater she was. She would proudly exclaim tha... | ESH. For what it's worth, her only liking chicken nuggets screams "grew up poor" to me much, much more than "grew up rich." ###### |
So this is pretty silly, but I’m currently in the doghouse over it.
Since COVID began in March my wife and our two kids have been isolating at home. My wife and I have flexible work schedules so we’ve been alternating mornings and evenings taking turns looking after the kids. For example I’ll work 8 AM - noon one day,... | ESH. Don't know how you manage to have children without learning to compromise first.
Showers are not work. Showers are personal care/relaxation and should not be taken during hours that she is being paid for. ###### |
My step brother and me have never gotten along. He's very opinionated (atheist, feminist, Marxist, lgbt, etc) and always makes his opinions known, usually causing massive drama at family gatherings. Mum says he has histrionic personality disorder. I'm not sure if that's her diagnosis or his psychologist's.
Anyway, I ... | ESH. But especially you.
You're planning your WEDDING and you're doing it with your stepbrother in mind? wtf????
You don't sound mature enough to be getting married. ###### |
I work in a place with several thousand people and we have a gym for employees. One time I was training there when a guy comes in and starts making "HRNNNNRNNNGGG" noises while training. On every. Single. Repetition. I've worked out for years and I've never heard anyone be this loud. It just kept going on and on and on... | ESH. You don’t get a pass on being an obnoxious jerk just because the other guy was an obnoxious jerk first. Why couldn’t you just have quietly said something to him instead of being so passive aggressive about it? ###### |
TL;DR: I took someones test for them and they are refusing to pay. Would I be the asshole if I emailed his college?
BACKSTORY:
Since the whole pandemic has happened, people are taking online tests which leads to them wanting to cheat. I go to a good university and have been contacted through acquaintances of friends ... | ESH, y'all are morally bankrupt ###### |
I'm M24 my gf is F23 and her friends are f23 and just finished their first year of law school. They're always talking about how much money they're gonna make and always debating on issues and I join in a lot of the time and its a good discussion.
Recently we were talking about our governments assault rifle ban and I ... | ESH, though you slightly more so- sounds like you were having a debate about an idea, someone questioned your qualifications, and you came back at them with an ad hominum attack which is pretty much always an asshole move. Their earning potential had nothing to do with the topic of debate, at least her questioning you... |
I have two adult children. My daughter has a five year old daughter and my son's girlfriend is pregnant with their first child. I've always got the impression that she doesn't like me, but that's fine. I don't particularly like her either but we are civil for my son's sake. I'm Brazilian. I grew up in Brazil and I go b... | ESH, this whole post is a solid thirty second cringe. ###### |
So I will keep this as short as possible because I don’t want it to blow up and risk people figuring out my identity.and I’m just looking for genuine advice and judgment from few comments and not more
So I found out my 14 year old daughters isn’t my biological daughter but my wife’s Ap’s daughter.
And tbh I always s... | ESH, this child is not at fault for what the adults around her have done. ###### |
There's a backstory, basically a few days ago I redownloaded Skype and saw he reached out to me saying "I need to ask you something" I'm assuming it was just the only thing I haven't blocked him on and his only way to reach me. I replied even though I was several months late and he said he'd forgot the question he was ... | ESH, the moment he started saying he had feelings still you should have ended the conversation. When she called and started screeching, you should have hung up and blocked the number. That’s his problem to deal with, not yours and there was no need to keep feeding into the drama.
If he contacts you again ignore it. ... |
With the current world climate the worry of mortality has been brought up in the minds of many including my(20) half-sister sister (32). My half-sister was discussing with me on the phone how difficult it will be to divide everything evenly if our dad passed away (he has health problems so it may happen sooner rather t... | ESH, the level of entitlement from both you and your sister here is intense.
It's up to your dad how things are divided. His will should make it clear how to proceed.
I always cringe when people start dividing up the inheritance before the person is actually dead, it comes across so grabby. ###### |
A couple things. I did “agree” to my wife that she’ll name our first kid, and the middle name will be named after my father, but I did say that I can veto names.
Recently, her dad passed away. It’s been a real tough time for her and us. She’s pregnant, it’s a very scary time.
She recently said to me that she wants ... | ESH, tbh. She’s being ridiculous if she thinks Robert E Lee wouldn’t be a problem.
However..... why does your dad’s name need to be used for this child?
It seems her father dying is enough of an event to warrant a completely new approach to naming the baby. Why not use your dad’s name later? Or make Robert the middl... |
I (19F East Asian), was out at the pub with my mum and dad (both Caucasian, I'm an adoptee) a few months back. We were at a table for the 3 of us and dad left to get drinks. A young woman came over and asked if we were using the chair, I was on my phone so mum told her 'yes' and left it at that. The woman didn't leave ... | ESH, someone else being an asshole does not give you a free pass on being an asshole ###### |
I met this American guy who asked me if I were British based on my accent. I said no, I was Australian. He laughed and said that Australians and British people are the same so it made no difference. I tried to explain that we are not one in the same but he wouldn't listen. I asked him if he was American and he said he ... | ESH, obviously. ###### |
Boyfriend (34M) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years (actually celebrated our anniversary just a few days ago). We're *very* different people and we argue a lot, but we always seem to make it work and we care about each other a lot regardless.
Anyway, last night we had probably the stupidest argument in the his... | ESH, it's shitty to use autism as an insult, even more so when he might actually have it. But your BF was being a massive dick to you over literally nothing, and it concerns me that he got so incredibly demeaning and nasty. ###### |
I really don't like my wife's parents. Her mom acts dumb for attention, has to be treated like a child, and has emotional outbursts. Her dad is super judgmental, condescending, and doesn't seem to really like his own children. I wish my wife would just go no contact, because she doesn't enjoy them at all, but she keeps... | ESH, is this for real? It sounds like a made up story. You all (except your wife) sound like awful people. ###### |
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As of now, I’m 4 months pregnant, and this argument took place last night.So basically, my husband and I got into an argument when we were discussing the baby. We were talking about possible names, and I brought up that I would prefer that the baby and future babies have my last name... | ESH, give the baby one name. Like Cher. ###### |
I (28M), have been taking care of my sisters (30f) two dogs for the last three weeks. My sister and her husband (32) are trying to sell their condo. I live in a house with a back yard and at first I agreed to taking care of their dogs even though I have issues with their dogs. In the past they have attacked one of mine... | ESH, for a couple of reasons. you took in a dog that you KNEW was violent towards yours and then blamed your sister when something happened? you should never have taken the dogs in the first place. your dog got hurt because of a mistake YOU made, and now you're misplacing that anger in your sister.
you also didn't...... |
Like a lot of families we have a group chat which is the most common way we talk to each other. It's been really nice because I feel like we are closer as a family because of it, and it's led to a lot of inside jokes and fun memories.
It can be sort of cliquey at times when we have family events because of the inside... | ESH, except your wife. If I were in your situation, I would be extremely hurt by and angry with every person that voted no. The fact that you don’t seem bothered by your family not wanting to include your wife doesn’t speak very highly of you. ###### |
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Recently my son had a child with his now ex. He told me he is not planning to raise the kid or being involved with the kid and he is just sending child support. My daughter overheard this and came to the room saying he is not a man because he does not want to raise a child.
My son is 19 ... | ESH, except your son.
You're TA because your daughter has a right to have an abortion. I've never met someone who has had an abortion who was thrilled with the idea, they made the hard, best choice for them and the fetus, and you shamed your daughter for that. Gross.
Your daughter is also TA for shaming her brother... |
This happened a couple months ago. It had snowed a bunch and so I went out to clear a spot for my girlfriend at the time for when she got home from work as she is a doctor. I spent a while digging it out, and as I was finishing up some girl drove up and parked in it (**while I was still shoveling it**!). I told her th... | ESH, but you're the right kind of asshole. Hopefully she learned there can be consequences for being entitled. ###### |
Hey everyone,
So my boyfriend and I have been together for two years, I live in Germany, he's Dutch but works in Germany, this Easter he wanted to go see his family in the Netherlands, I was fine with it, I love his family, they're really nice and sweet and honest people.
I have online classes since I'm in uni and ... | ESH, both of you. This Easter I saw so many Germans coming to my hometown for the weekend (I am Dutch). Both our governments asked everyone to stay home and only cross the border if it was for work that you can't do at home. I can't see my family either, it's super hard, but I am putting up with it so we don't all get... |
I was talking to my sister who is considering having kids in the future. The topic of baby names came up and I had a visceral reaction to the name she preferred, which I thought was a bizarre name.
The context is that she moved to NYC a few years ago to pursue her dream of writing YA fiction. I read her stories and tr... | ESH, also what is it with white Americans really trying to find an ounce of minority in their family tree to capitalise on it and steal from actual people from that minority?
Note - I am angry about her wanting to be a minority author, I don't care about the name. ###### |
I get it, it's his money so I can't tell him not to spend it, but please hear me out.
I'm 19 and still live with my parents, I've been saving up with the little amount of money I make while working so that I can move out of my parents house. It's crowded and they've made it obvious that I'm a nuisance in their life, ... | ESH-- that is, a very soft ESH and some advice. You're only 19. Don't make your future revolve around your boyfriend. He likes things how they are- few responsibilities and money to blow on whatever he likes. He hasn't saved any money *because he doesn't want to*. Moving in with him will mean supporting him while he s... |
When I was thirteen, I had a Bar Mitzvah, and was given some shares of Apple stock by my grandparents. Like any dumb kid, I was not thinking of saving for the future, so I asked my parents to cash it in and I wanted to buy stuff with it. My dad was hesitant, but he gave me the $3200 and I blew it in a few months on ... | ESH- you all are spoiled rotten by wealth and this is by far the most first world problem I’ve ever heard.
Edited from NAH to ESH ###### |
It’s in the title, my gf has been feeling insecure about her own body (she’s gorgeous) and she made me unfollow this girl from work because supposedly she has a “nicer body than her” (find her average imo). The coworker came up to me and asked me why I unfollowed her and I said it was because my girlfriend made me unfo... | ESH- there is an unwritten rule of never letting anyone getting one up on your girl, or even making someone else feel like they got the best of her- especially people she doesn’t even know.
However, girlfriend shouldn’t ask you to unfollow pretty girls that’s dumb and not helping anything- you still see coworker eve... |
I (M16) really don't like kids and they usually don't like me. I don't have any experience with them and I think in general it's better if I'm just not around them. I always make this clear.
My sister (F24) has two kids (F4 and M6). Yesterday she wanted to go do some activity with her friends so she stopped by my hous... | ESH- Look, I’m not to keen on kids either; but those kids are innocent in all of this and despite the anger you feel towards your sister you’re partially TA for leaving them alone and keeping them out of harms way. Your sister is partially TA for just dumping her kids without any warning or agreement. You need to talk... |
I (42f) get so angry at my sister (45f) there is so much back story there is no way I can put it all here.
The meat of the problem is, I have had a phone account for 20 some years give or take. I added our parents years ago to get them up to date. When my sister got divorced she was struggling because her husband bas... | ESH- just going by the phone situation, she shouldn’t have added the phone costs if you are paying the bill. But bringing her ex into an argument about a phone is a low blow, and the insult isn’t worth the aggravation. Particularly as it sounds like maybe there’s more to that since he left for a online girl.
It feel... |
Boyfriend (34M) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years (actually celebrated our anniversary just a few days ago). We're *very* different people and we argue a lot, but we always seem to make it work and we care about each other a lot regardless.
Anyway, last night we had probably the stupidest argument in the his... | ESH your boyfriend flipping out and screaming at you really wouldn't be appropriate when he is on the spectrum or not. Don't use ASD as an insult. Your boyfriends behaviour is inappropriate. ###### |
When I was thirteen, I had a Bar Mitzvah, and was given some shares of Apple stock by my grandparents. Like any dumb kid, I was not thinking of saving for the future, so I asked my parents to cash it in and I wanted to buy stuff with it. My dad was hesitant, but he gave me the $3200 and I blew it in a few months on ... | ESH you're all kind of greedy. Your dad does not suck because he didn't sell the Apple stock. He should keep that money for himself and have fun and not spend it on unappreciative offspring ###### |
So this all started about a year ago, one of my close friends had her house broken into and had a large amount of valuables stolen. By the looks of it, the burglar had planned it out and taken his time. The burglar is still on the loose and the police don't currently have any suspects, I doubt he will ever be caught. S... | ESH You were given a golden opportunity to turn around your asshole nieghbour's opinion, and play the hero of the nieghbourhood. Instead, you were petty and spiteful, only making things worse. ###### |
Hey guys! So this is an issue that's been weighing on me for some time now. A few weeks ago, my girlfriend and I were on a Zoom call with her parents. I've never felt 100% comfortable with her parents, partially because her mom is known to make derogatory comments about my height. She often refers to the pair of us as ... | ESH you should’ve been the mature one and not insult her back. calling your girlfriend fat in front of her parents wasn’t a good way to “salvage your dignity” ###### |
My brother and I are classmates and are now working on a math project together. We got our subject 4 weeks ago.
At the start, we split the project into two parts, one that was purely math and the other that was the programming part. We agreed that I would take on the math part and he would take on the programming part... | ESH you should have not snapped but calmly explained why you are not swapping again. Your brother should have not asked. He knows very well that he is making life easier for himself by swapping again. ###### |
So my friend wanted to buy a Switch and I told her if she found an extra to lmk and I'd give her the money. She said she found someone through letgo and basically was saying how friendly the guy was and he was sending her pictures and he was trying to get rid of them etc etc. When I told her how much was he asking you ... | ESH You repeatedly warned her against it and she did it anyway. Obviously you should make her pay it back. HOWEVER if you knew it was a scam why on Gods green earth did you give her the money?? ###### |
When my husband and I got married last year, we threw the wedding together quickly to coincide with another event. As the date approached, we realized that we never planned a honeymoon. We met while traveling and thought it would be insane to not take a honeymoon, but we weren't financially prepared and put the whole t... | ESH why are you guys going on vacations you can't afford and then complain about the financial burden of it afterwards? How about you both sit down and talk about your finances and stop living above your means. ###### |
I live in an eight-unit apartment building for the last year. It's quiet. except for this woman who lives above me. I work early mornings so I go to bed at 8PM. All late night long she's slamming cupboards, doors, moving shit, etc. all night long. This is LOUD. I did mention it to her and suggested that if she needs to... | ESH she was being obnoxious with loud noises but you deliberately went out of your way to wake her up. ###### |
I am involved in a non-monogamous relationship with a couple. I am their unicorn. I have met up with them twice but its easier for me to meet him separately so he came to my house a few weeks ago.
Anyway I try to be friends with the wife outside of sex. I got insanely sick Tuesday night and spent all of Wesnesday and ... | ESH or NAH (can't decide)
I appreciate a little dark humor OP AND I can see where the wife would be upset.
My gut is telling me you might want to quit this particular arrangement and find another, I think the well may be poisoned now. Take care! ###### |
I am the youngest of 3 and I have 2 older brothers who are 21 and 18 while I am 16, don't get me wrong I love my brothers but I'm just tired of them not taking me seriously cause I'm the young and stupid one. The 21yo has been the worst when it comes to disregarding everything I say, and any opinion gets shot down as ... | ESH nothing wrong with being at home when you’re 21 as long as you contribute to the household. Both of you are acting childish and honestly you’re at an age where you aren’t a a child. You’re old enough to drive both of you need to grow up. ###### |
So I was recently talking to a girl over text after she saw my photo with my cousin on instagram, and she knows my cousin. My cousin then gave her my number, and this is where it all took place.
So we started chatting, when she abruptly asked me how tall I am out of no where. I answered and she sent a sighing emoji te... | ESH it's fine that she has a preference, but she sucks for insulting short guys. It's fine that you have a preference, but you suck for pretending like you didn't know exactly what you were doing. ###### |
I’ve been with my husband for 21 years. I grew up with hamsters, ferrets, cats, dogs. He doesn’t like cats and has allergies, so I’ve given him that. I came into the relationship with a small breed dog and we got a large breed dog.. all learning experiences for him, but he loves our dogs. His only allergies that presen... | ESH I guess? You and your husband should've talked and come to an agreement. However, it did bother me though when I read the "rodent" thing because I had a hamster for almost three years who passed away recently, and he was my best (and a lot of the time only) friend to me and not just a "rodent." I feel like it's im... |
Pretty much it. It was a big crowd waiting for a subway. When the subway came. She started cussing under her breath, telling people to move. Then she started shoving people away with her purse.
She started shoving me hard while mumbling smth and so I grabbed her purse and threw it behind her.
I wasn't trying to hurt... | ESH grabbing someones purse and throwing it is not a "quick relfex" lol you threw the purse because you felt slighted therefore everyone is an asshole. ###### |
I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant. As I’m sure many of you are aware, wearing clothes can feel very restrictive when it’s already hard for you to move. Since we’re on lockdown and I’m not going to work, I decided it would be nice to just not wear anything while here at home. I already do this anyway after work, but now I... | ESH Girl, cover the windows. What type of person calls a neighbor to say he saw his wife naked? Tell your husband that your body is not solely reserved for sex with him and your nudity isn't only there to please him. ###### |
Each yeah, my neighborhood hosts a potluck for Mother's Day. It's supposed to be a fun way for moms, grandmothers, families, etc to celebrate. Several people have a common food allergy (lactose intolerance) so we usually set aside a separate table for dishes that don't have cheese.
This year a new neighbor (Sally) ca... | ESH for partying in a pandemic. Don’t give a damn how many people in your neighborhood have had the virus - it’s risk with terrible consequences. ###### |
I've been married to my wife for the past year three years and dated her for five before that. She's extremely family orientated. She loves family and being with family. Her picture of a refreshing day is spending the day with family members. Since her mother died pretty young, she became really attached to my mother w... | ESH except your wife. Your parents sound awful. Who cares about an ex you had over 8 years ago. You suck for letting this go on for as long as you did! If I was your wife I’d be absolutely heartbroken. ###### |
I really don't like my wife's parents. Her mom acts dumb for attention, has to be treated like a child, and has emotional outbursts. Her dad is super judgmental, condescending, and doesn't seem to really like his own children. I wish my wife would just go no contact, because she doesn't enjoy them at all, but she keeps... | ESH except your wife. Grow up dude. And if you don't like them don't see them. Kinda hypocritical of you to go to their lake house and take advantage of their hospitality when you three despise each other so much.
I empathize with your wife. ###### |
My Mother in law (MIL) chewed me out on the phone for not being more sympathetic towards my sister in law (SIL) after she experienced her sixth miscarriage. We have expressed condolences after each and every miscarriage but apparently, I didn’t sound “sorry enough” this time around. I reminded her that SIL has a beauti... | ESH except the SIL. I don’t see any point apologizing to the MIL. Toxic group the lot of you. ###### |
I know the title sounds bad but hear me out.
First off, the baby is ok, he cried a lot when I dropped him but it wasn't a huge fall and he didn't land with his head.
I \[25M\] and my wife \[24F\] have a 2-month baby. Usually, during the night, I am the one that changes his diapers, while she goes to the sink to empty... | ESH except for the baby. Both of you need to follow the ABCs of safe sleep. Non-optional. [https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/family-resources-education/700childrens/2014/09/the-abcs-of-safe-sleep](https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/family-resources-education/700childrens/2014/09/the-abcs-of-safe-sleep) ###### |
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Recently my son had a child with his now ex. He told me he is not planning to raise the kid or being involved with the kid and he is just sending child support. My daughter overheard this and came to the room saying he is not a man because he does not want to raise a child.
My son is 19 ... | ESH except for honestly, your son.
When a woman is pregnant, she has two choices, keep or abort the baby (I'm counting giving up the baby for adoption as "keeping").
The guy has two choices, be part of the baby's life, or not (but still fulfill his legal financial obligations). He's giving child support, he's actua... |
So this happened before quarantine but my boyfriend still gives me shit and calls me an asshole for it so I need other people’s opinions on this situation.
My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) go to different universities so we don’t usually see each other because we are a about 2 hours apart. When he visited my apartment o... | ESH but the girl. You decided to attack the girl WHO DIDN'T EVEN KNOW THAT HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND instead of having a conversation with your boyfriend about why he isn't telling her about you.cthis is a problem with you and your boyfriend. Not the innocent girl. ###### |
For some backstory, my mom is a lesbian and is now engaged. My future stepmom has an ex wife of 15 years who has caused a LOT of issues in regards to their daughter and grandchildren, along with trying to break up my mom and stepmom. She would often accuse my stepmom of stealing and cheating on her despite clear eviden... | ESH but mostly this is on you. You’re dealing with a bitter ex but you asked for this interaction when you friended her. Stalking her on Facebook was a mistake but now know what you need to know. Stop interacting with her. ###### |
I am 14M and my sister is 17F. Recently, under quarantine, tensions have been high. I have been dieting and doing exercise to lose fat. I am really short and scrawny, but I have a belly. A few years ago, my sister started to tease me about it, as she can eat shit and not exercise but stay in shape. I have started to no... | ESH at different levels. Your mom is the worst for laughing at what your sister said and then choosing sides. Your sister has been doing this for a while so she goes second. Your reaction is justified but still quite petty.
Hopefully you'll be able to explain that what your sister has been saying is mean and pretty ... |
I’m a clerk at one of only three places in a pretty small town that’s open right now and sells tobacco products.
Recently an older woman came in and said she recognized I was the one usually working there in the hours her husband buys cigarettes and he’s been repeatedly warned his health is in jeopardy if he doesn’t... | ESH
You for accepting the bribe in the first place.
Her for offering it can cutting off her husband
While I’m personally against the entire concept of smoking and tbh applaud the wife for her creativity at solving the problem, quitting is a personal decision and shouldn’t be forced on someone.
To quote the phr... |
I (a woman) have a 9 year old son with my ex wife. We got divorced 5 years ago and he lives with his birthmom and her girlfriend for 4 years. Although I am not his birthmom, I am his adoptive mom and has the same legal rights as a father would have with shared custody and i have him every other weekend. My son has alwa... | ESH
All of the parents here suck, it should be left up to **HIM** as far as his comfort level and what he wants to refer to the parental figures that didn’t birth him as.
No one should be forcing him at all. ###### |
Not too long ago, I fell in love with veganism and I honestly feel much healthier and happier ever since. I learned how to cook a variety of different foods but the thing is, my children do not eat the things I cook. They are really ‘meat reliant’ and refuse to eat dinner without meat (ok I am overreacting a bit but mo... | ESH (of the adults, that is) and you clearly have a lot of deeper issues that you need to work on. Something more fundamental than who cooks what is broken here. Meanwhile your kids are suffering over this disconnect—not because of the food itself but the way you and your hubby are making power plays through it.
If t... |
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