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I’m a clinical psychologist and have been working in trauma for the last decade. Shortly after I got my license, an opportunity came up for me to provide my services in a hostile environment overseas.
It’s an organization similar to Doctors Without Borders, but n... | NAH - you are a human being in addition to being a parent, and your daughter isn't being abandoned. People take jobs that require specialized geography all the time, and this is a time-sensitive opportunity.
It's less about AITA and more about, "If this went sideways, would my husband and daughter be ok without me... |
I graduated before my boyfriend so I've been working for 4 months drawing a decent salary while my boyfriend is finishing up his final semester in uni. We started discussing about our next chapter in life, including marriage and finances plans.
We both plan to pool a fixed amount of our income together into a joint acc... | NAH - this is a great conversation to have pre-marriage.
Relationship advice: once you’re married even if you keep your finances somewhat separate, you’re still going to be accountable for how you spend money.
Your both on the same “team” and that means discussing things like new cars, vacations, large “fun” purch... |
I (34f) met my husband while I was doing an exchange semester in Australia when I was 20. We later got married and I moved to Australia permanently. We have two kids 6f and 4f and I'm 4 months pregnant.
My husband passed away 3 months ago. It was and still is horrible. With my husband not being here anymore I want to... | NAH - These situations just come up when a loved one dies. You need your family, and they need theirs. I'm not going to call someone an asshole for reacting adversely during their grief, and I'm not going to call someone an asshole for wanting a support system. ###### |
I’m a 27 year old Asian guy. Half my friends are other Asian guys. My girlfriend is a 25 year old white girl.
Recently, due to intense work stress, I’ve decided to seek counseling. I believe it would help me handle the streets a lot.
I told my girlfriend this, and she was nice enough to find me a list of people she... | NAH - the whole point of counseling/therapy is that you seek to feel understood. It’s only natural that you feel like the easiest way for you to be understood is by talking to someone who has shared some life experiences with you. The problem comes in two ways here though:
1) Not every Asian guy is gonna see through ... |
Yesterday my(16) dad(42) asked me if I wanted to go out onto the lake with him on the boat. I said no thank you, and he got upset. At this point it's understandable.
I don't like the water, and I don't care for boating. It's not my kinda thing. But he's been giving me a bit of silent treatment and isn't really say... | NAH - Sounds like you guys are kind of circling each other emotionally. It’s hard to tell from your post which one of you has trouble communicating or both.
You love each other. He wants to spend time with you. Just try to figure something out. Did you do anything for Father’s Day? It might not be so bad to extend ... |
A year ago I gave birth to twin girls. I work 50+ hours a week and my husband is a stay at home dad. We have a 5 year old who didn’t sleep through the night til he was 2, so I was prepared for sleepless nights. I also breastfeed and so I assumed there wouldn’t be much my husband could do. Well to my surprise, one baby ... | NAH - Sleep deprivation can do terrible things to your mental health, and obviously to your relationship too. I think it's important that you make sure you get a good night's sleep and separate beds is sometimes the simplest solution to that.
BUT - I also think it's totally normal for your husband to want to fal... |
The other day, I ordered a package on Amazon. The app said it was delivered, but it wasn't outside or in my apartment complex's mailroom.
The next day the package had been left haphazardly on my doorstep without an explanation, and had been opened with a knife along the tape and the protective seal missing from the pr... | NAH - Not gonna be a popular verdict, I can tell. But if the neighbor who opened it had also been expecting a package, they might have thought it was theirs, opened it, realized it’s not what they ordered, and then gave it back to you. I don’t blame you for being upset about the open package, but if this is the first ... |
A couple things. I did “agree” to my wife that she’ll name our first kid, and the middle name will be named after my father, but I did say that I can veto names.
Recently, her dad passed away. It’s been a real tough time for her and us. She’s pregnant, it’s a very scary time.
She recently said to me that she wants ... | NAH - May I suggest 2 middle names? My brother and I both have two middle names, and his are our maternal and paternal Grandfather's names. You could come up with a different first name and have you son be named (First Name) Robert Eui-Tae Lee. Or, (First Name) Eui-Tae Robert Lee. ###### |
My 12yo and 10yo sons are very close and it's not unusual for them to hang out with each other's friends when they are around. However, my 10yo much rather hang out with his brother and his friends. My 12yo is at that age where their interests and issues are changing. Those interests and issues are over the head of my... | NAH - it’s part of growing up unfortunately. The 12yo shouldn’t be forced to constantly have his 10yo brother hang out with him and his friends, but neither should you allow him to always be excluded. My advice would be to help your 10yo find some new activities in which he could make new friends of his own. ###### |
For about four years, I had a 2001 Toyota Corolla that got me where I needed to go without many issues. It was my first car, pretty inexpensive and definitely reliable. I just finished grad school and I’m looking into getting my career started, so my plan was to get a newer car within the next two years and give the ol... | NAH - it's not just 500 you're out of pocket for. It's 6500. I think the fair thing is for him to match what your insurance has evaluated your car to. You're not TA for holding a grownup accountable for their behaviour. You are TA for not holding him accountable. He's likely a reckless driver because people keep enabl... |
I was jogging on a trail next to a somewhat busy public street when I saw a young girl crying on a bench. I figured it was best to avoid, but on the way back home, she was still on the same bench, crying. She was about 15. I asked her if she was OK. She said no. I asked if she wanted to talk about it, and she said yes.... | NAH - in a situation like this, you have to follow your gut. Well done on your handling of the situation.
Your girlfriend is also not the AH as she is protecting you. I presume she is thinking of the damage false allegations would do. ###### |
I’m pretty sure I already know the answer to this, but here it goes anyway:
After 20 years of being a content screw-up, I finally decided to better myself and finish college. After earning my bachelor’s, I immediately went to grad school and earned my MBA this May.
Anyway, around the same time I initially decided to ... | NAH - I think it's normal to feel a little peeved that he is equating your achievement with his own, because yours was obviously more difficult, and of course more prestigious. But you're not the asshole because you recognize that his achievement is valuable as well and you didn't embarrass him by pointing out the di... |
Since everything is closed, my mom has told me to eat all the food we have in the fridge. Only problem is, all we've had is lunch meat and cheese for weeks. I'm really tired of eating the same thing every day. So today, my mom came upstairs and told me that there was meat and cheese for lunch in the fridge. I internall... | NAH - I get why you're sick of having the same thing every day, but I also get that she probably bought what she could when grocery stores were/are crazy because of COVID, and she doesn't want you unnecessarily going out and risking bringing in the virus. ###### |
So my boyfriend and I were having a really lazy day and spent it all in bed watching series off Netflix. We eventually got bored and both took a nap and when we woke up we just played with each other's faces (just something we do). We started talking about life and out of the blue he said I was amazing. We joked around... | NAH - Holy hell to the YTA's there's a world of options between a grand ass gesture and a proposal where the other party doesnt even know they're being proposed to.
OP let him calm down, he feels regected at the moment. When hes calm, the two of you need to talk so you can explain your side and reasoning and allow h... |
We were casually chatting yesterday and he brought up that he was looking at the /gonewild subs. I personally am okay with looking at porn and the general /gonewild subs, but when he was looking at specifically the Asian subs I feel extremely uncomfortable. Something about the intimacy (as opposed to porn) and the rese... | NAH - he’s not an asshole for having a preference, especially considering he’s dating someone with those same traits he finds attractive. And you’re not an asshole for feeling uncomfortable about it. If you bring it up to him and be vulnerable about how you feel it’s a simple request. He’d be the asshole if he didn’t ... |
So, I (M29) have a step son who is 6 years old. I love the little fucker. He is hilarious and very articulate for his age. Better than I am honestly. Little shit.
He speaks ALL DAY LONG. Every morning he wants waffles for breakfast. Doesn't matter what morning it is or what we have in the house. Waffles. Just waffles.... | NAH - he’ll get over it. It’s hilarious. I mean, it sucks that he became distressed, but come on. Telling kids that you are what you eat and you’ll turn into it if you refuse to vary your diet is a time honored and generally harmless tradition. ###### |
I get it, it's his money so I can't tell him not to spend it, but please hear me out.
I'm 19 and still live with my parents, I've been saving up with the little amount of money I make while working so that I can move out of my parents house. It's crowded and they've made it obvious that I'm a nuisance in their life, ... | NAh - he is just not as keen to move out as you, he probably is saving some of his money, he doesn't have ti save all his car money to go o something for you both, a laptop and university course are good things spend money on. It's not his fault you're unhappy in your home life. ###### |
I’ll try and keep the backstory as short and to the point as I can because I’m in a real turmoil at the moment.
I was estranged from my dad until my mum died early last year. He came back into my life at her funeral.
He lives in a different country from me with a family I haven’t seen or spoken to in years.
He aske... | NAH - he has every right to die on his own terms. You have every right to walk away and not watch the process. ###### |
Ok, now let me explain.
My sister got married last year shortly after coming out to my whole family as being gay. My family was/is firmly opposed to it, and it's been a point of contention ever since, and she's now estranged from our parents.
Nevertheless, my sister invited all of us to her wedding last summer, she ... | NAH - given you were dependent on them, you weren't really in a position to cut your family off for the sake of public photos and it wasn't fair for her to ask that. I can also somewhat understand your sister's reaction though - she'd already been estranged by the rest of her family.
I'm surprised you couldn't agree... |
Context: I have a condition that people usually die pretty young; although there are a few new treatments that look promising and are letting people live a lot longer. Other people with my condition also make these types of jokes.
I was talking today with my (16f) sister (18f) about college and planning for the future... | NAH - everyone copes differently with mortality. and I know from experience it's SUPER uncomfortable to hear someone you care about joke about their life-threatening condition. If that's how you deal, that's ok - it's your life after all - but it's also ok for your sister to feel like it's overwhelming to be reminded ... |
I really don’t know if I’m the asshole.
My son recently turned 16, and he’s super interested in genealogy and history now. He wants to get an AncestryDNA test, so for his birthday I got him one. Apparently according to his results, he was half Indian, which makes sense since I’m Indian.
My ex-wife got super mad. S... | NAH - but I would never get one of those tests. My issue is not with "the government" having my DNA, it's with a private for-profit company having my DNA. Sure, they promise not to sell your information to other companies, and if they did they would be in trouble -- but that wouldn't undo the fact that your DNA was ... |
My girlfriend Dana and I have been dating for almost a year. I’ve introduced her via video call to my female best friend Maddie, who lives one state over, but they’ve never met in person. Maddie is the type who takes a while to warm up to people and she and Dana don’t really have any reason to interact right now so the... | NAH - but also no adults here. You can't have a 5 second conversation with your best friend about if she's interested in meeting your girlfriend? ###### |
Alright. This just happened like an hour ago and it's very uncomfortable in my house right now.
I'm 21, in school, living at home. I had the door closed to my room and the lights off, and my mom knocked on the door and asked if she can come in. I said I needed a second, and the she asked what I was doing.
In the br... | NAH - As a Mom of 4 teenage boys I just always assume that's what ya'll are doing anyways. ###### |
I (19f) have a nonbinary friend (16m) who I’ve known for years and years, and we’ll call him Corbin. He has become like a little brother to me.
Corbin likes people to rank how much they like something (a movie, food, etc) on a scale of 1-10, or to use an emoji on how they are feeling. Everyone I’ve seen talk to him do... | NAH - before I throw this out there, I just wanna say I've been awake for about 26 hours, so this idea might not be as helpful as I think it is.
If it were me, I would do a one time reference sheet from one to ten, have 1 be "hated it", 5 be "meh" or "it was okay" and 10 be "loved it".
Your friend could fill in th... |
OK so I (26F) in a bit of a predicament. I love my dad very much, and we have a great relationship. We share a lot of interests and we have a special bond. I have no doubt that my dad has my best interests at heart, but he can be a little distracted at times.
My step-mom and I also have a good relationship, but she c... | NAH you should talk to your father about it and explain your concern . First talk to him alone and see what he thinks about this, then discuss this with whole family ###### |
My older brother's (23M) GF, Linda (24F) has been living with us since November after her parents kicked her out. She's really nice and we normally get along. She's a huge fashion girl and wears the most beautiful clothes, and she's been a great help for fashion advice.
Me (17F) and my younger brother and sister (13F... | NAH
It's not just the dirt, that could still mark her shoes in some way. But I don't see how either part is an AH. Simple request, simple deny lol ###### |
This is embarrassing but here goes.
I [18M] have been with my girlfriend [18F] for 11 months. She spends the night with me once in a while and we share a bed. The bed is small, we both sleep on our sides and our bodies touch, and she always sleeps naked. This makes it way more difficult for me to go to sleep as it mak... | NAH
You had a problem and tried to find a solution. Your solution was understandably frustrating to your girlfriend.
I understand not suggesting that she puts clothes on to go to sleep to not be controlling, but you should have talked to her and gone over other possible solutions instead of just deciding what... |
When my sister and I were in high school we had a group project where we had to set up a business and make an actual real business plan. The idea for the business was actually pretty cool and we got an A on the project.
A couple years ago I brought up actually doing the business idea, but she didn’t have any money f... | NAH
I would suggest telling her that she is first on the list for new hires once the business requires two people but for now there's simply not enough revenue to support the both of you. Since you supplied the start up costs and did the work that one person is you.
> I don’t need the money as much since I have ... |
On mobile, please excuse spelling mistakes.
I finished working last night and drove to her place which I normally do in weekends, instead of going inside right away I decided to clean my car, she messaged me where I was to which I responded with I was here but cleaning. She called about 15 mins later asking what was t... | ESH
Your car sounds so gross that a bit more or less of dog puke isn't going to make a big difference. ###### |
I am 24 and live with my parents, though I’m working on moving out. There are lots of reasons why we are not close, but this last thing just takes the cake for me. I’m posting here to see if I’m possibly overreacting since I suppose it was a “mistake”.
My parents aren’t really fans of dogs or pets in general, but I a... | ESH
You’re essentially making people who didn’t sign up for a dog take care of YOUR dog. Your reaction if over the top.
Yeah, she shouldn’t have forgotten the dog. But it was an accident. It’s easy to forget things when you start doing something else. ###### |
I have a boss who's highly religious. I realise this on about the 4th day of work after I saw his home screen on his computer which was a picture of Jesus. I personally hate religion and the vast majority of people who are involved in it. And my experience that drives people apart and use it's power in corrupt ways.
A... | ESH
You’re being a hypocrite, and basically a brown nose to get ahead.
They shouldn’t promote based off religious belief. ###### |
I'm M24 my gf is F23 and her friends are f23 and just finished their first year of law school. They're always talking about how much money they're gonna make and always debating on issues and I join in a lot of the time and its a good discussion.
Recently we were talking about our governments assault rifle ban and I ... | ESH
You: "just because this is your area of expertise does not make you an expert!!"
Her: "I feel attacked, so I'm going to say some elitist bullshit about wages"
You: "I also feel attacked now, so I am going to make fun of your student debt"
You both sound hugely exhausting to be around ###### |
My roommate has said I'm a selfish cunt and that I should even move out so I guess I want the internet to say the same thing.
Yesterday a dog showed up and was barking under my window at my cat, who was in my window. I made a commotion and my roommate, who is a dog lover, got up and she got the dog.
We spent the mo... | ESH
You shouldn't be forced to keep an animal that poses danger to you or your current animal(s). If the animal wasn't in distress or clearly sick/hurt then there was no reason not to move it elsewhere such a friend's/neighbor's house while waiting to take to the shelter.
That being said you're an AH for letting th... |
Throwaway Cause I know my daughter uses social media but I don't know which social media platform she uses plus I am not going to post this on my main account.
I have two kids a 30 year old daughter and a 20 year old son. I remarried with my new wife after my old one cheated with me two times. My new wife is my daught... | ESH
You can do whatever you want to do with your money. That doesn’t mean that with that freedom doesn’t come responsibilities or consequences. I have a hard time conceiving why you wouldn’t want to let your daughter and son have at least some of the money to make their lives a little more financial secure and comfor... |
Yes, I know that today is Mother's Day, but apparently my husband didn't and he hasn't offered an apology or even attempted to make up for it. This is the second year in a row that he's ruined it and he thinks I should just get over it. The thing is that he gets rather upset when we don't celebrate Father's Day to his ... | ESH
Yes, you will be an asshole, like he is an asshole for not making an effort for you. It's a subject for a conversation, not pettiness. ###### |
My mother is having mental health issues so I took in my 10yo brother. I'm a single 27yo male and my brother is 25 and married with no kids. Moving in a 10yo and trying to manage a mentally ill person and working full-time is draining and I am doing this with no help. I've asked my brother for help - mainly taking are... | ESH
Yeah they suck for not helping but you suck for airing it all out on social media ###### |
So I (28m) am currently living with my GF (26f) of 2 years cause of quarantine and after the restrictions were lifted in the area, we decided to keep living together for a bit longer. I'm a personal trainer and a fitness model and my GF is a model.
So cause of the lockdown, my gf started following this weird Vegan gi... | ESH
Y'all seem petty as hell. Maybe have actual discussions about things rather than dropping things like "I'm not sexually attracted to you anymore" when she initiates sex, or going and getting a tattoo without telling her. You can say that you're not telling her what to do with her body, but when you basically say ... |
I've (43M) been with my wife (43F) for 26* years, married for 17 of those and we have a 25 year old daughter together.
Don't get me wrong; my wife was a great mother but she wasn't the responsible one, I did everything, i cooked, cleaned, took our daughter to her clubs- everything, my wife was there for emotional supp... | ESH
Why are you having a child with someone when you can't trust them to take care of a dog? What exactly is the plan if you die? Because that happens and now your kid is with a person you don't trust to take care it. Your wife should not be having kids if she is not maternal and has no interest in taking care of kid... |
My best friend and his wife have been married for 8 years (they’re our neighbors). His wife works on a cruise ship and has worked there for about 2 years up until March. He has been telling me he has been getting weird vibes all the time where something didn’t seem right every time she got off the ship. It’s tough to d... | ESH
We have an asshole who is spying on his wife instead of communicating with her, an asshole who is cheating on her husband, and an asshole who thinks it's OK to break the law by [recording private conversations.](https://www.mwl-law.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/RECORDING-CONVERSATIONS-CHART.pdf)
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I (22F) have lived in an apartment with 3 other people (all 22F) since August of 2019. For the last year, my roommates have been rude and condescending to me. They’ve belittled me for having what I see as a normal college experience, such as spending time with friends and going out on weekends. They are all extremely T... | ESH
They suck for being bad room-mates. but you would very much suck if you don't go and help clean a place that you have lived in for two years.
It's just common decency, especially if it is just going to be helping with the common areas, especially if over the past two years you have often used them.
The question... |
I met this American guy who asked me if I were British based on my accent. I said no, I was Australian. He laughed and said that Australians and British people are the same so it made no difference. I tried to explain that we are not one in the same but he wouldn't listen. I asked him if he was American and he said he ... | ESH
There is a level of stupid we as humans need to learn to identify as, simply pointless to engage. ###### |
Hey guys! So this is an issue that's been weighing on me for some time now. A few weeks ago, my girlfriend and I were on a Zoom call with her parents. I've never felt 100% comfortable with her parents, partially because her mom is known to make derogatory comments about my height. She often refers to the pair of us as ... | ESH
The remark she made was rude. So was yours. If the height comments bother you, the way to handle it is to say something and ask them to stop. Insulting her in return is completely counterproductive and everyone ends up angry and hurt.
I'm not sure calling your girlfriend fat is the best way to "salvage your dign... |
So my gf(18) and me(20) have been going out for 10 months now. It had been long distance with me going back home from uni to see her every 3 weeks and while it's been hard at times, we're both happy and it was working. Since lockdown has begun, we've been getting into stupid arguments multiple times a week, because one... | ESH
So you think „putting your foot down“ is going to help her anxiety? You are not going to be able to resolve this by forcing something upon her that makes her uncomfortable. Consent is important in ALL areas of a relationship.
And she thinks your long distance relationship is going to last if she doesn’t make an... |
Sorry for the weird title, I wasn’t sure how to summarize my situation. I (24F) am getting married this October, providing corona is over by then. One of my bridesmaids is my friend/ cousin “Mila” (25F).
For whatever reason, Mila has been gaining a lot of weight over the past few months, and I’d estimate she’s up 30-... | ESH
She shouldn't have just assumed that you could/should/would fork out for a brand new dress. You shouldn't assume she can lose that weight again by october, and you certainly shouldn't tell her to do so.
There are a couple of ways to handle this. Firstly, you could just explain that it's not in your budget so she... |
My boyfriend has a female friend that I have never met for a series of real reasons and some of my own excuses. He is getting exasperated with me but I'm not sure how to tell him the truth as to why I don't want to meet or whether I should just suck it up and give in.
The main issue I have is that she is a cocaine us... | ESH
She is an asshole for neglecting her kids to get high. You are also an asshole for being perfectly okay with this situation so long as you get to keep your distance.
When neglected kids wind up dead on tv, everyone always says "how could so many people have been aware and done nothing?"
This is how. They distan... |
Pretty much it. It was a big crowd waiting for a subway. When the subway came. She started cussing under her breath, telling people to move. Then she started shoving people away with her purse.
She started shoving me hard while mumbling smth and so I grabbed her purse and threw it behind her.
I wasn't trying to hurt... | ESH
She acted like an asshole.
In return, you acted like an asshole.
Bunch of assholes here. ###### |
Additional info, her dad came around the car, asked what my problem was and I told him your daughter threw her glove on the ground and he said "What do you want me to do about it?". I was a little dumbfounded because I'd think the answer is pretty simple and just said "tell her to throw it away". He then started scream... | ESH
No trash can handy? Keep your trash until you get to one. I put my gum wrappers in my pocket until I can put them in a can where they belong. If my girl-pants can accommodate a gum wrapper, so can yours.
She's an asshole for throwing her gloves on the ground.
Her dad's an asshole for the parenting fail. Even if... |
I (f/18) woke up one morning covered in blood. This wasn’t a shock. I went to the bathroom, cleaned up a bit, and went on my day. Right before I left the bathroom I noticed some blood inside the toilet but I didn’t think anything of it—it was inside the toilet seat right?
A few minutes later my dad calls into my room... | ESH
Neither one of you should be leaving visible biological material in your obviously filthy bathroom. Yes, you are responsible for cleaning up your own blood. ###### |
So my brother Jared (28) had a birth defect that had cleared up by the time he was 2 years old. I had a stroke when I was fairly young and I'm still struggling with the aftermath 20 years later. Jared is 4 years older than me.
We got into a fight and things got very heated very fast. I told him that he didnt know wha... | ESH
Life isn’t the trauma olympics. It doesn’t matter who has it worse and therefore there was no reason to bring up his defect.
Nobody ever truly knows what other people are going through and that’s okay. What matters is that we all have different experiences and are all able to support each other. It’s not okay t... |
(Throwaway because she knows my main)
Some background: I love my older sister more than just about anything. She practically raised me when my parents were too busy to do so, and I owe a lot of my personal accomplishments to her because she’s always been the one to push me. She is, however, incredibly competitive and ... | ESH
If your sister genuinely expects you to wait for these things until after she achieves them, then she obviously sucks. But the fact that you're even considering her in your choices tells me you're too immature to be taking those steps.
When you and your bf are ready to get engaged, get married, have a baby, buy ... |
So I (28m) am currently living with my GF (26f) of 2 years cause of quarantine and after the restrictions were lifted in the area, we decided to keep living together for a bit longer. I'm a personal trainer and a fitness model and my GF is a model.
So cause of the lockdown, my gf started following this weird Vegan gi... | ESH
I think you are both being kinda petty here. If you didn't like her not shaving to the extent that you lose your attraction to her when she doesn't I think thats something she needed to know before she wanted sex. Was really insensitive of you to leave it to that moment, she must have felt rejected.
On the other... |
There's a backstory, basically a few days ago I redownloaded Skype and saw he reached out to me saying "I need to ask you something" I'm assuming it was just the only thing I haven't blocked him on and his only way to reach me. I replied even though I was several months late and he said he'd forgot the question he was ... | ESH
I cannot stand every type of person we have here.
He’s an ex who cheated on you, WTF are you Skyping him.
She’s dating him, WTF are you answering her calls.
Drop the drama, you look just as bad as the rest of them.
Also, word of advice, men who’ve previously cheated on you asking for you back is NOT a complim... |
Yesterday, I was talking in a group chat and this one person who I would be friendly with started to text in homophobic slurs, saying 'all gays should be sent away' etc. These comments have been a recurring issue with this guy for years and he has seemed never to back down on them even after I and others condemn them. ... | ESH
Him for obvious reasons.
You for doing something that you had no right to do, then act all shocked pikachu face when it blows up. Honestly, what the fuck did you expect to happen? They’d had a chat with him? They were his employer, not his parents.
Who the fuck contacts someone’s boss to ask them to have a wor... |
My mother and I had a falling out earlier this year. She gave a bunch of my father's things to my sister's son even though my dad had said they would go to me when he passed! This is after I had asked her repeatedly for them too! She acknowledges both of these things but decided for whatever reason that he deserved the... | ESH
Her for giving away your dad's things despite knowing you wanted them and had asked for them.
You for using your kids as weapons in this fight with her, yes you are.
(Also, is it a normal thing for grandchildren to give grandparents gifts on mothers day? I literally never knew people do that.) ###### |
My wedding was a few months ago, and I deliberately didn't invite my uncle. He'd hit on my wife in a really weird way at a family event that year. (My wife and I are both women for the record)
And on my wedding day, there he is... I guess his brothers invited him along?
One of my friends is a total firecracker, she... | ESH
He sounds like a creep, but the way that this was handled was pretty over the top. ###### |
I (19F) am going into my second year of university, and I’m really excited to live in a new place with my 4 of my first year friends. I love all of them a lot and it’s going to be really great spending more time with them.
The layout of the apartment means there’s three fairly large rooms, and one which is perfectly n... | ESH
Given that you all pay the same amount you all have the same rights for the bigger rooms. (Side question: The one who goes back home until October, do they still pay rent during that time?)
Neither do I think it's fair to make a run on the rooms and whoever has their luggage in first wins, nor do I think it's fa... |
My daughter recently moved back in with us after her relationship with her husband ended following his discovery of an affair she was having with a co-worker.
Her husband is a good man, and I will be sorry to see him leaving our family. He did not deserve this. She admits as much, but I wanted him to know how sorry I... | ESH
Daughter is an asshole for cheating.
You're an asshole cause you seem bent on not just telling your daughter she screwed up, but rubbing her face in it.
Mom is right, and I feel bad for soon to be ex son in law. ###### |
I know the title sounds bad but hear me out.
First off, the baby is ok, he cried a lot when I dropped him but it wasn't a huge fall and he didn't land with his head.
I \[25M\] and my wife \[24F\] have a 2-month baby. Usually, during the night, I am the one that changes his diapers, while she goes to the sink to empty... | ESH
Bedsharing with an infant is reckless, but on top of that you’re stone cold asleep with ear plugs???
You two are both assholes. The unsafe conditions led to you dropping the baby, completely unaware of his presence! You could have easily rolled and crushed him.
Get a bassinet and have the baby sleep in his own ... |
There was a family reunion planned this month that got canceled for the obvious reasons, and that was where I was going to come out to my dad's side of the family. I don't care that much about coming out (I'm very privileged that I never had to guess if the important people in my life would love me regardless), and I w... | ESH.
You shouldn’t have gone to the house for dinner, for obvious reasons.
They can’t fix you with a dude.
You can’t really blame your dad for your sexuality.
I think they’ll take that as sooo she’s only into women to spite me which will try to amp up their efforts.
You could’ve just said, if they don’t like your... |
I have four sons, ranging in age from twelve to five. My wife died four years ago and I've been dating my girlfriend for about five months now.
There have been multiple times now where one of my children have gone up to her, trying to show her something or asking to watch a television show with her or something along... | ESH.
She is being *ridiculous* about the kids. Of course they're immature - they're kids! They're not supposed to be anything else! What kind of monster can't bring themselves to encourage a kid who's learning to read?
I don't know whether to be glad you're introducing her early, so that the incompatibility comes t... |
Context: Every year I like to get a portrait taken of my family in the summer and then hang them above my stairs since I love looking at them as I walk up and down the stairs ( looking at them really is the best part of my day lol). I told my kids ( I have 4) that even when they're adults , I would like them (with thei... | ESH.
If he were her life partner and they lived together and didn’t believe in marriage that would be one thing. If they were building a life together on their own, I’d say you’d be the AH. Married or not, they’d be their own family.
You are the AH for shaming your daughter for the number of partners she’s had. ... |
So, 2 weeks ago I started online school. I have 2 computers, a school provided one and my personal computer. I let him use my personal one, just for school. He asked for it a few minutes early, which is fine because I also started school a little earlier.
Apparently he was mad at me because I was cuddling one of my f... | ESH.
Are you honestly complaining about *having to read for an hour every night as a punishment*? Fucking hell, how old are you? ###### |
So, my (22 F) mom (55) is a very passive-aggressive person. She’s not a nice lady, so much so that if my dad (an amazing human being) wasn’t around, I’d write her off forever and not regret a second of the rest of my life. She makes snide and downright tasteless comments about everything in my life, but this time was ... | ESH....but give it time, she'll eventually forget it ever happened ###### |
I (19F East Asian), was out at the pub with my mum and dad (both Caucasian, I'm an adoptee) a few months back. We were at a table for the 3 of us and dad left to get drinks. A young woman came over and asked if we were using the chair, I was on my phone so mum told her 'yes' and left it at that. The woman didn't leave ... | ESH... except your poor mom. ###### |
I recently just started going to the gym because I am unhappy with my weight. I’m working with a personal trainer and doing a program that requires I do meal preparation from a specific cookbook. I now have to prepare seperate lunch and dinner from my wife, who refuses to eat what I’m cooking. This means that I buy my ... | ESH. Your wife for not being willing to compromise at all. You suck because I think the way you reacted was petty when she left the butter on the shelf. ###### |
Throwaway as my sister uses Reddit
I have a 25 year old sister and I am 13. A few years ago my sister moved out and she got her new apartment. I got my own room and got owner ship of the bathroom and closet in the room. Recently my sister has been staying in the guest room off the house as she was evicted.
My sister... | ESH. Your sister sucks for being a whiny brat. Especially as an ADULT. But you suck for swearing and calling her a slur at the EARLIEST AGE. ###### |
So, my mother (39F) brought a new dog about a year ago. She knew I (19F) was uncomfortable with getting a new dog given that we already own 2 cats. When i first met it she could tell i was pissed but decided not to address it and told me the dog was named 'Lucy'.
I got more annoyed over this as time went on with her ... | ESH. Your mom should train her dog. You are being petty and ungrateful if you think you can have a say in who your mother adopts into her household. You are 19, it is your mother’s house, she can do what she wants. ###### |
Around two years ago, my mother slipped on a patch of ice in the parking lot at her job. She fractured her ankle in the fall, and needed surgery to have a plate put in. She went through physical therapy and can function without issue during her day to day activities. Her ankle is achey and can swell during rainy days, ... | ESH. Your Mom for complaining non-stop, you for not being more supportive. Keep in mind that there is something called maximum healing. Once an injury like your mother’s reaches this point, it begins to slowly get worse. The swelling is most likely painful and could indicate permanent circulation damage. She could be ... |
I am 20, living with my parents and at the moment I am the only person in my house working; my parents and younger brother have been staying home. I’ve made it a point to ONLY leave the house if I’m going to work or to do something alone, like go on a walk. We were all tested for COVID on Tuesday and all results came b... | ESH. Your dad is TA for obvious reasons, wanting to invite his friend over and compromising all of you. You're TA because you are fighting fire with fire. It's just kind of a petty comeback and it didn't do anything to dissuade him. ###### |
So I(21m) have a twin brother and he brought two pet parrots against my parent’s will a couple years ago. My parents are retired and not in the best of health and the birds wake up early every single morning and make constant noise. My brother however couldn’t be bothered as he continues to sleep in his room until 10 o... | ESH. Your brother should take care of his birds, but you can't sell them or give them away if they're not yours. If your mom defends him, and it's her and your dad's house, then it sounds like you either need to let it go or move out. ###### |
Hello!
My mother and I are having an argument right now over my stimulus check. For background information: I’m 24 years old. I graduated from university in Fall 2018 while I was in college my mother claimed me as a dependent. I don’t dispute that I was. I lived at home rent free while commuting to school in one of he... | ESH. You’re an adult and should be filing your own taxes. This would have eliminated the entire issue. However, your mother is likely a) trying to claim you for 2019 or b) has already filed, claimed you, and is trying to cover her own ass.
File your own taxes. TurboTax isn’t that expensive and it will tell you if you... |
My daughter just turned 16 last month and she’s a very pretty girl who also happens to have made some bad decisions. She was a gifted kid but got mixed with the wrong group and started smoking pot - she has been diagnosed with ADHD, moderate severe depression, and severe anxiety. This was all last year and since then s... | ESH. You've essentially trained her to do this. This sort of overly strict parenting teaches children deception. Of course she isn't going to be open with her parents when her father has anger issues and trouble respecting boundaries. It sounds like her relationship with you is at least good enough to have a frank dis... |
I recently posted this on r/tifu and they made me wonder if I'm TA
My ex's wedding was in February. And like you could guess, I wasn't personally invited nor was I told anything about it from him even though we spoke daily. Well I found out about it from his grandmother (we're close) and she suggested I 'gate crash' a... | ESH. You're TA for gatecrashing a wedding you weren't invited to. That's never cool. Grandmother is the TA for sneaking you in. Your ex is TA for not telling their bride you were expecting his baby. The only innocent person here is the bride tbh. ###### |
So this prof apparently “likes” my last name and he insists on calling me by it. I don’t dislike my last name but it’s just awkward to be called by it in class. It feels like I’m in the military. I told him not to but he did it again.
So I decided I’d do the same. I called him by his first name. He straight said “that... | ESH. You're fighting fire with fire, and no good can really come out of it. ###### |
Hello, throwaway because I don't like to post.
I (21M) recently moved in with my girlfriend (21F), her friend (22F) and her gay friend (22M), while we are looking for a house, was supposed to be temporary, about 3-4 months. It has been three weeks of her gay friend making sexual comments about everything he finds a jo... | ESH. You're both adults. You could have told him he was making you uncomfortable. Yes, he took the comments a bit far without checking in with you, and that was wrong. But you should have calmly told him you didn't like those comments before you blew up on him. ###### |
For some backstory, my mom is a lesbian and is now engaged. My future stepmom has an ex wife of 15 years who has caused a LOT of issues in regards to their daughter and grandchildren, along with trying to break up my mom and stepmom. She would often accuse my stepmom of stealing and cheating on her despite clear eviden... | ESH. You shouldn’t have added an ex you knew liked to cause drama, had you not then this whole situation would have been avoided. She’s the asshole for obvious reasons. Delete her, move on, and don’t add anymore of your mums ex’s on Facebook. ###### |
hey reddit, so recently my best friend passed away due to personal issues going on in her life. i was really sad about it, and wouldnt call with my bf at all since i was sad and just couldnt get over the fact she had died. he noticed that i never wanted to call and asked what was wrong, and i told him that it was perso... | ESH. You should have let your boyfriend know that you needed time to yourself to deal with this, rather than leaving him in the dark. He was a massive dingus for responding the way he did. ###### |
My son moved back in after moving out for a short time. He asked if his girlfriend come move in too. This was supposed to be temporary. A few months at the most and rent was to be paid weekly.
My husband and I agreed. It has been over five years now. She can't keep a job so has not paid any rent in over a year. W... | ESH. You reap what you sow. And you've let them both ride this gravy train for 5 yrs. You can't let a situation happen and continue to allow it to happen and then be upset about it, if you're not going to do anything about it. You're not teaching them anything except how to use ppl and manipulate the ppl that care abo... |
hey reddit, so recently my best friend passed away due to personal issues going on in her life. i was really sad about it, and wouldnt call with my bf at all since i was sad and just couldnt get over the fact she had died. he noticed that i never wanted to call and asked what was wrong, and i told him that it was perso... | ESH. You must not be very close to your boyfriend if you couldn't even tell him your best friend died. You didn't communicate a very critical life event to him.
He reaction sucked. Dude lacks empathy.
Throw the whole relationship away if this is how you talk to each other. ###### |
I (24m) dated my ex-girlfriend (20f) for about 8 months. I thought I had found my soulmate and wanted to marry her. Fast forward to me finding explicit photos of cheating on me with some mutual friend (33m). Turns out this friend was married to a lovely lady and was having multiple affairs. I immediately confronted her... | ESH. You know you were an asshole to her and wanted her to feel bad - that was the point of laughing in her face and telling her she got what she deserved. It might be justified assholery, but assholery nonetheless - you weren't exactly taking the high ground here. You were probably the least assholish out of everyone... |
Due to reasons, I’m staying at my parents’ house till i can go back to my city. Unfortunately since none of my other siblings are home, i’m tasked with caring for my sister. She has autism and down syndrome. She’s also 19, and very very moody. I had to buy groceries, and my mom made her tag along with me.
From the m... | ESH. You handled the situation like an asshole, but why the fuck did your mom make you take your sister to the grocery store in a pandemic in the first place? That goes precisely against the social distancing guidelines and put your entire family at heightened risk. ###### |
So I am 18M I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my sister(20F) and my other sister(23F). Our PARENTS pay for the apartment and they let us live in it. We 0 expenses towards the apartment. Now both my sisters names our on the lease but mine isnt. The reason for that was because I didnt live her when they first moved in... | ESH. You for not respecting shared spaces, and her for threatening to kick you out of a place she doesn't even own over pizza. Legally speaking, she could try to kick you out because you aren't on the lease though, so do be mindful. ###### |
My son moved back in after moving out for a short time. He asked if his girlfriend come move in too. This was supposed to be temporary. A few months at the most and rent was to be paid weekly.
My husband and I agreed. It has been over five years now. She can't keep a job so has not paid any rent in over a year. W... | ESH. You don’t know what to do? Be the adult and tell them five years is long enough and they need to find somewhere else to live. ###### |
I’m (17) quite slim although I don’t think I’m underweight (99 last checked pounds, 5’5) and I have a friend (19) who is quite obese. Now I never made any comments about her body as it can come off as offensive + I hate it when people comment about mine.
However for the past couple of weeks she’s been making small co... | ESH. You both body-shamed eachother and are just tearing eachother down. ###### |
Throwaway title sounds bad
I bought animal crossing recently as a reward for getting a raise and other stuff. I love this game. Unfortunately my girlfriend demanded me to let her have the game so she can try. I refused and said hell no. I told my girlfriend she will hog the game card and won't let me play it at all.
... | ESH. Yeesh. You guys are definitely that couple that *nobody* wants to be around. ###### |
So my sister (14) ALWAYS steals my (16F) clothes, like I swear every time I go into my closet or jewelry chest there is always something missing. Her friends who live next door, have a pool in their backyard and she is always over there swimming with them, for the longest time my parents didn't let her wear a 2 piece ... | ESH. Yeah your sister shouldn’t be stealing your clothes so often, but you should own up to it that she was telling the truth and your swimsuit was still there. ###### |
I got with my ex when I was 21 and he was 32, it was unhealthy but I had problems going on at the time, he had two children who at the time were 2 and 5months (Amy and Nina) , biological mother wasn’t involved with the children and I was never told why.
I raised the children as my own for ages, I did everything for th... | ESH. Wow. What a horrible situation. These poor young ladies - how could it have gotten to this that they dont even know who their birth mother is. Totally fucked up.
Your not their biological mother so you don't owe them anything. However, you did help to create this situation. You (both) clearly were never open wi... |
I have backyard that I built a fence around about 3 years ago when we got our dog.
My neighbor has 2 boys, around ages 10 and 12. Long story short, my neighbors boys somehow managed to put a HUGE hole in the side of my fence, no idea how they did it. This was about 3 weeks ago. My neighbor apologized profusely and sa... | ESH. With the COVID going around, I don’t know if repairmen are even available. Your neighbor, however, should have fixed it by now, even if he had to do it himself. That being said, your dog shitting on other people’s properties is your fault. It doesn’t matter who created the whole in the fence - the dog is your res... |
This was a Skype call. I'm not sure if it's the most relevant but it's relevant to the story. I'm a 24 year old guy with good gaming knowledge, I've won at more than 40 different video games. I'm currently playing a game and she is playing a game, I'm a total newbie to this.
Here's the thing: she was playing a game a... | ESH. Who the fuck cares who's a real gamer? Jesus christ, what is with the whiny children trying to prove this crap?
Go outside. ###### |
TL;DR: I took someones test for them and they are refusing to pay. Would I be the asshole if I emailed his college?
BACKSTORY:
Since the whole pandemic has happened, people are taking online tests which leads to them wanting to cheat. I go to a good university and have been contacted through acquaintances of friends ... | ESH. While I’m against cheating and consider you ratting him out as the correct choice, I wonder what you would do if he reciprocated in kind by notifying your uni or workplace that you cheated on behalf of him. ###### |
So I (28m) am currently living with my GF (26f) of 2 years cause of quarantine and after the restrictions were lifted in the area, we decided to keep living together for a bit longer. I'm a personal trainer and a fitness model and my GF is a model.
So cause of the lockdown, my gf started following this weird Vegan gi... | ESH. Toxic af. You both are too old to behave like this. ###### |
To be clear I dont intend to pick up the phone and just start complaining to him about her. The issue is that he and my MIL think I'm a bad provider for my family because we frequently have money troubles. My wife however ...likes to spend money, as in last year in 7 months she spent 18000 dollars out of budget that I ... | ESH. The problem is your wife, dude. Don't go running to her daddy to fix it, either get your marriage in order or get a divorce. ###### |
So this all started about a year ago, one of my close friends had her house broken into and had a large amount of valuables stolen. By the looks of it, the burglar had planned it out and taken his time. The burglar is still on the loose and the police don't currently have any suspects, I doubt he will ever be caught. S... | ESH. The neighbor was wrong to ask you to remove something from your property that wasn’t effecting him, but if his car bring broken into was captured by your camera, his property is, in fact, being taped. And then to refuse to turn the footage over to help someone who was robbed his really petty. ###### |
Our kids are playing in the sprinkler and my husband took the leaf blower and started blowing it all over them to dry them off. The loud blower was very close to the children. The kids were having fun with it. I scolded him to turn it off because it would cause ear damage. He was hostile and called me an idiot in front... | ESH. The kids were only having fun and if it’s for just a short while I don’t see how it could have a major impact. Teenagers who listen to loud music everyday is definitely more dangerous than a few min of leaf blower. He definitely should not have called you an idiot ###### |
Hey everyone,
So my boyfriend and I have been together for two years, I live in Germany, he's Dutch but works in Germany, this Easter he wanted to go see his family in the Netherlands, I was fine with it, I love his family, they're really nice and sweet and honest people.
I have online classes since I'm in uni and ... | ESH. Stay the fuck at home. I normally visit my family for Easter, too, but like a reasonable person i stayed home. He can visit them later. You can see your friend later. ###### |
My boyfriend (25m) and I (22f) have been together for just over a year.
We have been in a semi long distance relationship for most of that time, as I moved away from our home town to the city for college around 3 months after we got together.
We still see each other at least 3 days a week, as it’s less than two hours... | ESH. Sounds like some very important discussions never happened.
On one hand, yeah. He should cknsider your commute costs.
On the other, you should know better than to think youre gonna live somewhere rent free ###### |
Recently I started driving a manual transmission, I used to ride a motorcycle but it’s been years so there’s been a bit of an adjustment. For reference I live in a large city that is synonymous with bad traffic, so most drivers are pretty aggressive. Today I wanted McDonalds (don’t judge) and currently only the drive t... | ESH. Sorry you are a massive noob with that manual. There is no reason you should need that much space to transition safely on the clutch. You need to practice with your car more, because that is potentially dangerous. ###### |
Pretty much it. It was a big crowd waiting for a subway. When the subway came. She started cussing under her breath, telling people to move. Then she started shoving people away with her purse.
She started shoving me hard while mumbling smth and so I grabbed her purse and threw it behind her.
I wasn't trying to hurt... | ESH. she was very rude, but you need to learn to keep your cool. Your response was childish.
>She wasn't schizophrenic or anything.
How do you know? ###### |
I'm M24 my gf is F23 and her friends are f23 and just finished their first year of law school. They're always talking about how much money they're gonna make and always debating on issues and I join in a lot of the time and its a good discussion.
Recently we were talking about our governments assault rifle ban and I ... | ESH. She was being an elitist jerk, but your response was childish. It sounds like you felt insulted and came up with the first response you could think of that would cut her back. ###### |
This happened years ago but a post here today made me remember it. I used to play games regularly with same group, one of which wasn't the best sport. We will call her R. Anyways one member loves the game ticket to ride, I HATE it. They wanted to play one night and I said due to hating the game (not not enjoying as in ... | ESH. She sucks because she shouldn't have went off on you for not playing, not backing down, and for throwing a tantrum when you ruined the game. You, because you really didn't have to play (no matter what she was saying) and ruin the game. The only reason you played was to get her to stop pestering you to play and al... |
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