prompt stringlengths 264 2.01k | completion stringlengths 12 4.29k |
|---|---|
The title probably screams NTA, but before you judge him hear my story.
I (f24) cook dinner for my boyfriend (m26) almost every night and he does the dishes, so we have a good system going. I usually try to make something that we can both enjoy, but I have one dish that I love eating and used to make a lot before we m... | YTA
>I can't help but feel like my cooking isn't really needed
It's needed to you because you like the dish you're making.
You know he doesn't like it and so why would you get upset he's getting something different.
How is him getting a pizza different to making an omelette? Because you like pizza? Why does he ha... |
Ive (25m) just recently moved in with my GF (26f) - I am black, and she is white.
Growing up my parents drummed it into me that white people using fake tan is equivalent to black face, and i thoroughly believed this until I met my GF.
For context my GF was raised by her mum, her dad died after her sister was born, ... | YTA
>Growing up my parents drummed it into me that white people using fake tan is equivalent to black face
Mainly your parents suck though. ###### |
My girlfriend (24F) and I (35M) have been together for almost a year. She comes from a wealthy family. They own several houses and buy my gf everything she wants whenever she wants it. They’re good people, but I think they need to treat her like a woman instead of a child. I worked hard for everything I have, which isn... | YTA
> Well anyone can become a doctor with the endless opportunities that she has.
No, they can't. Even without having to worry about finances, medical school is *hard fuckin' work*. Most people can't cut it.
>I was really mad knowing they probably spent 3 months of what could be someone’s rent on a computer that... |
I (F38) and my husband (M42) have 3 daughters. Jessica (14), Samantha (12) and Melissa (4.5).
Both my husband and I work, my youngest attends kindergarten and my daughters are in school.
Melissa is not reaching her milestones as quickly as her sisters. She's very bright, but she's still not fully potty trained (still... | YTA
> theres no armchair, and they can't make noise or read, they have to basically lay in a trundle bed next to her and pretend to sleep until Melissa falls asleep.
OMG I can't imagine being forced to just lay next to someone until they fall asleep. This is not at all comparable to babysitting for this exact reaso... |
To preface this debacle, my wife is 37 weeks pregnant is also very religious, but i'm not. I'm currently on a deployment as well, and have been away from her since 3rd trimester hit. On to the story.
​
My wife is a very emotional person and someone who stresses easily, being 37 weeks just multiplied this ... | YTA
> I say "Well, it's probably just God testing your strength and wants to see how far you go since he has a plan for you."
Even if you meant it genuinely (and I question that, I can absolutely see it being a passive aggressive comment) then how is that in any way helpful? No matter what she was going to have to h... |
My daughter is 23, mother of two, she’s been driving for a little over a year now.
My daughter loves to speed, her driving honestly terrifies me and I can’t stand being in the car with her despite her claims she drives the speed limit.
Tuesday morning she phoned me, sobbing, claiming a car cut her off and her car is... | YTA
​
When i first read this you i was gonna say ESH as you said it at the wrong time, and she was speeding.
​
However after reading through your comments, she was NOT speeding and she got cut off by a crappy driver, so you saying that after she just survived a serious accident was rude but also not... |
I (17m) live with my mom and my little brother (12m). My mom, right before we all got stuck inside, went and bought my brother a bunch of books in this series about cats. I think it’s called Warriors or Survivors, I don’t really know. My brother’s been reading them cover to cover since he got them.
Yesterday I was pla... | YTA
​
>I was just telling him my opinion on the books.
>
>and his favorite character died. He was really upset.
>
>no normal person would read about "fucking kitty cats"
you were calling him abnormal, called what he was reading stupid, and asked if he wanted to be a cat because he was reading someth... |
Obligatory user on mobile warning:
So I have an anxiety and this rule stems from it.
I only have two rules: be open and honest/don't lie to me
And Don't share bodily fluids
I do not want my boyfriend sharing fluids with anyone, as in, no sharing drinks, cigarettes, food etc
It's been three rule I've had since befo... | YTA
Your boyfriend is right. That’s a ridiculous rule.
I mean... right now under the whole global pandemic thing it’s perfectly reasonable to not want him sharing saliva in any form because of the pandemic.
But in normal times, it simply isn’t a big deal.
And your anxiety doesn’t give you the right to police... |
I have lived in the same neighborhood for a few years. It's pretty Vanilla here. Recently, someone bought the house across the street. They seem nice enough. I have had no problems with them at all. Another neighbor came by recently and asked me if I had noticed the star. I hadn't. When they moved in, they had turned a... | YTA
This is a good time to teach your kids not run around the neighborhood looking into people's houses. I bet your neighbors won't have a bunch of other people's kids riding bikes in their driveway or screaming in front of their house. ###### |
Using an old throwaway for this. My sister is pregnant and announced the name of her baby on Facebook. She told our family group chat the gender but didn't mention anything about his name.
The problem is that it is the same name of my ex boyfriend who I dated for 4 years. We ended on pretty bad terms and my family sa... | YTA
Mostly, because my wife's sister pulled almost the exact same sh!t when we were having our daughter. Eventhough, we had had picked out this name years earlier, we had to change it because my SIL had a conniption fit. My daughter is 13, and I'm still irritated about it. I'm glad your sister is standing her ground... |
My husband and I just bought a house. It has a big extra room with its own bathroom. I told my sister that she could move into it, since she could use a leg up. When I mentioned this to my husband (btw it’s something we’ve discussed before) he said that he wanted to move his sister into it, because she needs a place cl... | YTA
>I told my sister that she could move into it
>I mentioned this to my husband
>I don’t like his sister
>I already told my sister that she would be moving in
>I said that it was sort of a done deal
>as if this isn’t our house and our marriage and our life.
I don't even need to use MY words ###### |
My niece usually hang around me when I play video games or watch movies on my computer. Recently I decided to quit smoking so I had a small bowl filled with chewing gums, candies, etc. on my desk. Whenever I felt the urge to smoke I would just grab em.
My niece also enjoys them and I never mind at all.
Today my can... | YTA
"She's just acting like a child", dude, SHE IS A CHILD, she's six. You're the adult, you need to apologize and take responsibility for your actions. She doesn't understand that you quit smoking or what it does to you in terms of mood and you took her anger our on her. ###### |
I (20M) live with my large family, and I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation. It's been a tough month, and my mother (47F) has been looking for ways to make money.
She's had some credit card debt. Nothing major, but because her businesses' incomes have dried up, she hasn't had any way to pay her d... | YTA
" she's always on the lookout for more cash to support the family. "
" how she feeds and houses me "
"rusting in a corner of our storage"
What are YOU doing to help support the current housing and food situation? I mean seriously I get that you don't like it where you are and want to move out... but you're sti... |
This is kind of confusing and hard to understand without knowing the layout of our house.
Last night at around 9:00pm, my girlfriend (22) and I (26) had a big fight. She decided to go on a walk and left me with our 1 year old. Before leaving she asked me to stay awake so I could let her in the house when she got back.... | YTA
*ohmygod*
You heard the doorbell and knew it was her
You couldn't be that lazy that you couldn't unlock the door. You also triggered a panic attack which hasn't happened in 4 years
How could you not be TA?? ###### |
When I was zoomin with the boys a little bit ago and we were all adding funny backgrounds. I decided to step it up a notch an found an ISIS flag image that worked as zoom background (it’s harder than you think). Well it was a hit with the boys so I kept it on there.
Well today my fiancée joined a zoom using the IPAD ... | YTA
it's the fact that it's a shared device and what's fine as a joke between your friends may not be the same for her and anyone else she video chats with while using it. ###### |
To be clear I dont intend to pick up the phone and just start complaining to him about her. The issue is that he and my MIL think I'm a bad provider for my family because we frequently have money troubles. My wife however ...likes to spend money, as in last year in 7 months she spent 18000 dollars out of budget that I ... | YTA/ESH. You need to sit your wife down and get her spending under control, not tattle to her father. ###### |
So I (16M) once last year found my English teacher(23F) on tinder and she had some freaky bio, I ignored it and went on with my life.
Then at the beginning of this year, she kinda got upset with me and told me to leave the class (in a very rude manner just a step away from cussing)
So being dumb me I told her if she ... | YTA.
You can’t undo the damage now unfortunately ###### |
I just met my neighbor yesterday officially and we’re talking and we brought up handwriting. I said schools need to stop teaching cursive because it’s beyond outdated and useless. She got offended because she is a graphologist(someone who studies hand writing) she also wrote her dissertation on it. I told her we’re in ... | YTA.
You can disagree and not insult someone. Maybe apologize and say simply that you disagree but respect her choice to study a topic of interest to her...no need to be rude because you have different points of view. ###### |
About a month ago a stray cat showed up on my doorstep. She had no identification or microchip. I took her in, fed her, named her Bertha, but I was also actively looking for her owners. I don't have the ability to permanently take care of another pet, but I wanted to do the right thing and make sure she had the best ch... | YTA.
First, of course the cat came back. You fed her.
Second, you can't take another person's pet and give to a shelter. How do you even get this idea?
You can contact animal protection services and they can come and see if the cat is really neglected, which maybe isn't even the case as cats like to roam around and b... |
I can't believe this trivial issue has exploded into a huge right but here goes. I've been cooking at home almost every meal for the last month. Cooking makes a lot of dishes. I have told my boyfriend several times that he needs to do the dishes since I'm coming the food. Ordering out isn't an option and we need to eat... | YTA.
At first I was on your side when I saw the title. However, after reading the post and seeing your whole "taking back my thank you", you're seriously TA.
While you don't NEED to thank someone for doing their task, telling them you appreciate it and then pulling what you did is totally immature and I can only imagi... |
So my fiancée hates her parents. They were awful people who ended up getting her kicked out of a prestigious university by having her arrested (charges were dropped but the university still wouldn't accept her readmission).
I don't think they're good people but they've recently been trying to make amends but my fiancé... | YTA.
Your wife knows her parents have money. She didn't ask them for it because that money comes with strings attached: giving the people who abused her access to her and her child. For her, that risk isn't worth it because it endangers everything, and so she holds them at a distance.
You just sold the security of t... |
Disclaimer: This happened last February. My colleagues have been giving me shit for it ever since.
I am a High School English teacher. Last February, I was teaching mythology. During the test on the subject matter, I caught a student peeking off another student's paper. I took the test from him and he got an automatic... | YTA.
Your initial reaction was appropriate.
Your second punishment was vindictive. You did this because you wanted to further punish the student, not for any legitimate reason. That is mean, unfair, and inappropriate.
What kind of lesson does this teach this student? That someone with authority can use that author... |
When I was 18 I got pregnant with my boyfriend at the time. He really pushed for an abortion but I had extremely strict parents who were against it, so I had her. She’s now 13, beautiful and very popular. Her father isn’t in her life. I love her, it’s a given I love her, she’s my daughter.
I’ve never been an overly a... | YTA.
Your daughter needs you to say three words to her, and give her an occasional hug. ###### |
I know I’m sorta in the wrong for making the bet in the first place, but let’s see.
My sister-in-law-to-be announced that she was pregnant two months ago. I was really suspicious about this. I’ve heard rumors of her faking a pregnancy before. Again, I didn’t blurt it out, but that’s what I thought. The timing was too... | YTA.
Your brother probably had really high hopes that he was gonna be a father and betted on it because he had a glimpse of hope that he was going to start his family. Not only did his dreams get crushed but he also realized his wife isn't in the greatest of mental states.
Don't ask him for the money. ###### |
My husband and I just bought a house. It has a big extra room with its own bathroom. I told my sister that she could move into it, since she could use a leg up. When I mentioned this to my husband (btw it’s something we’ve discussed before) he said that he wanted to move his sister into it, because she needs a place cl... | YTA.
You’re mainly the asshole because you are hiding critical details in comments that you omitted from the original post.
Specifically:
1. The previous discussion was for an entirely different house that you did not buy. *That* discussion is not the same as agreeing for *this* house.
2. Your sister is disabled... |
I can’t believe I have to post this but this is getting out of control. Hopefully once I show him that 20+ people disagree with him he will apologize and understand that kids are kids and they will obviously make mistakes.
Yesterday, I went with my 2 children (lets call them Tom\[9M\] and Elise\[8F\]) to my brothers ... | YTA.
You’re kidding, right? While I don’t agree with your brother screaming, you **absolutely** owe your brother a repair or a replacement iPad. YOUR children broke his tablet while under YOUR supervision. It doesn’t get much more cut and dry than this. ###### |
My girlfriend bought an outfit online. It’s a tube top and a short skirt. The tube top just covers her boobs and the skirt is short enough to where her ass hangs out. I think it’s really hot, but I told her I didn’t feel comfortable for her wearing it in public because I felt like it was too revealing. She told me she ... | YTA.
You wouldn't be TA if you said you don't like it and left it like that but you became TA when you said you have a say in what she wears because you guys been together for a while. She wears what she likes, you wear what you like. ###### |
I (F38) and my husband (M42) have 3 daughters. Jessica (14), Samantha (12) and Melissa (4.5).
Both my husband and I work, my youngest attends kindergarten and my daughters are in school.
Melissa is not reaching her milestones as quickly as her sisters. She's very bright, but she's still not fully potty trained (still... | YTA.
You need to speak to y our daughter's pediatrician about her sleep issues.
But on top of that, it is *hugely* damaging to expect your other kids to help you parent. While this wouldn't be an issue once in a while, you cannot ask your daughters to routinely be involved in this. ###### |
I (17m) will be moving out soon to go to uni. My sister (12) has made jokes about how she can't wait for me to move out so she can have my room, which is substantially bigger than hers. I said she couldn't have it as I plan to stay with my family a lot and don't want to be kicked out of the room I grew up in. When I sa... | YTA.
You don't own this room. They do.
If they want to give it to your lil sis they can and should.
You've got no claim to this ###### |
Ok, so I have a few different properties just all over the place, most of them are empty or I rent them out for next to nothing (I’m not big on the idea of making money being a landlord). Anyway, I had a girlfriend for a short time, and things didn’t work out but I said she could live in an apartment I own for as long ... | Yta.
You cant evict people in a pandemic. Straight up ta legally and morally. Also housing an ex girlfriend and saying stay as long as you want. Your an idiot. You don't make that promise to someone then renegade and expect it to go well. You should have given a time frame rent free then moved to a contract. The prop... |
I've \[M29\] known this person \[F32\] since 2004. That would make me 14. We live in different countries, so our friendship has been always via technology. Back at 2004 even the most basic webcam was a luxury and only few had it. Now it's 2020 and videocalls and streaming is within the reach of almost everyone, and hen... | YTA.
You are not entitled to an invite in the first place.
You are not entitled for someone to change their wedding and set-up webcams.
Just because she's friends with you, doesn't mean you are entitled to her day. Not even family are entitled to her day.
If this causes you to shun her and think of yourself in a "... |
So let me give you some background. My (49M) daughter (19F) came out to me a couple of months ago as bisexual and, I was very supportive of her. I made sure to tell her that i loved her no matter what, The other day, though, she put a post on Facebook telling everyone! I told her that I wished that she would have told ... | YTA.
Why does she need to warn you before telling everyone, again? If she wants her grandparents/aunts/uncles to know ahead of time, she can tell them herself. You're not her agent, or her press manager. You don't get to dictate how she disseminates this information, and to whom, and in what order.
> it was one of t... |
So my boyfriend was abused as a child and he has a big fear of putting his face near sinks because his mom used to semi drown him as punishment by putting his head under the kitchen sink. I’m a big believer of washing your face twice a day and while he does wash it in the shower, that means he only washes his face once... | YTA.
Unless you’re a fully certified therapist, it’s not your job to use exposure therapy to try to help your BF get over his issues.
More so: why the fuck do you care that he’s only washing his face once a day in the shower? Why do you think you’re right about needing to wash it twice a day? ###### |
We've been married for close to 10 years now (I'm 37M and she is 35F). We have two beautiful and amazing boys (7M and 9M).
In spite of this, something has been up with my wife lately. She's been acting very melancholy and distant. Just prior to getting married, there was a pregnancy scare. Honestly I was terrified...... | YTA.
To be clear, you're entitled to feel happy about the fact that your wife had an abortion. And there is a respectful way for you to express your feelings as part of a back and forth conversation.
What struck me about the description you provided is that it is centered in your own experience with no apparent rega... |
On march 10th my son got expelled from school. I wont get into detail about what happened but he gave his friend a knife. He got expelled from regular school for 1 year and got sent to an academy. I gave him a choice, If he went to the academy for the rest of the year i would let him do online/homeschool for his next y... | YTA.
This was out of his control. He did everything right. You're teaching him that your authority is capricious and inconsistent. ###### |
I don’t mind that my girlfriend hasn’t shaved her legs in a few months, because we’ve just been home together, and she has always worked from home so shaving her legs really only happens when we’re going out somewhere nice and she’s wearing a dress and doesn’t want to wear tights or if we’re having a beach trip.
Well... | YTA.
This is a "you" problem.
Bodies grow hair, we don't choose to.
Your girlfriend gets to choose if she wants to shave her legs.
If you don't shave yours, I also want to point out your legs will itch hers too, but clearly you haven't worn anything to cover them.
If you don't like it, then you get to cover your ... |
My friend just gave birth, and I offered to help out around the house during the day to help lighten her load. She asked me if I could come over and do some dishes- of course I said yes!
When I pull up, I see her husband’s car in the driveway. I text her and ask if she’s home. She says yes.
I turn my ass around and ... | YTA.
So let me make sure I understand:
You offer to come over and help.
She accepts your offer and you confirm you're coming over.
You get there, see her husband's car in the driveway, and ask her if he's there. She says he is.
You vanish, never to be heard from again.
You don't know the circumstances. Maybe... |
My wife (30F) and I (28M) have an 8 month old daughter. Since she was born my wife has not done anything besides go to work, and take care of baby. I, on the other hand, have gone to work, gone skiing, played golf, done yard work, and done other house projects and of course, taken care of baby too.
And before anyo... | YTA.
She is being a mom. Kid is 8 months not 8 years old.
This is all about you and your guilt.
This isnt about her. ###### |
I (28f) have trouble with social interactions. Some time I say things with a tone that sounds really rude without realizing it. I think I'm being playful or helpful given the situation. My husband (30m) has only recently told me that I do this and thats why people get upset with me so often. I was upset that he hadn't ... | YTA.
Maybe you can practice fixing your social interactions with your husband for starters? At the end of the day, there wasnt a need to be yelling at him. ###### |
Next year I (f23) will be marrying my future husband (m26). I have had the same group of best friends since we were all four years old. When we were in our early teens we made a circle system so that we would all each get the opportunity to be maids of honour at one of our weddings. This friend, lets call her Grace was... | YTA.
Judging by your replies, I bet my bottom dollar you really did bully Grace when you were seven. ###### |
So my gf’s bestfriend usually crushes at ours for weeks, but since quarantine began she has refuged to creating online sexual content, something I’m deeply against, so when my gf told me she was coming over -and she had told me she started creating such content- I told her I wouldn’t allow her in my house and I was sor... | YTA.
Interesting how it's "our" house when a friend is crashing but "my house" when you decide to be judgemental, BTW. ###### |
Throw away for obvious reasons. On Saturday night I (32 F) and my boyfriend (33 M) went to have dinner at his parent’s house. This was a big next step. I hadn’t met anyone in his family yet. We’ve been dating for about 6 months now.
So last week I got sick and have been taking penicillin to get over an infection and ... | YTA.
If you knew this would be a problem, why didn’t you reschedule? This was your first chance to make an impression on his parents, and your relationship is still very young as well.
How did you process the thought “oh, it would be so rude to leave mid conversation” but never once think “it would be rude to conti... |
I very recently had my first daughter, she’s 9 weeks right now.
I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, he has a 10y/o and a 9y/o with an ex - they’re still very much friendly and split custody equally.
I want to move back home, my mother is sick and I want to give her a chance to know the baby- even if we only stay f... | YTA.
If you just wanted to move for a couple of months so that your mum could get to know your kid, I'd say N.A.H. But you obviously have ulterior motives here and are being manipulative.
If you genuinely think it's a good idea to separate your husband from his kids and uprooting their lives, then you're an AH beyo... |
To preface, I’m the father of a beautiful 3 year old girl whose mother and I are no longer together. Although my daughter is my world, I hope to be remarried in the future and have more children because I always saw myself having a lot of kids. The other day, I made a comment while on the phone to my friend which I hon... | YTA.
If you can't throw a ball around with your daughter, or roughhouse with her, that's _your_ inclination to not want to do that. My daughter loves wrestling with me, we play sports when we go outside. ###### |
Throwaway cause my girlfriend is on reddit.
​
So my girlfriend and I were out for the dinner tonight and after we both finished my plate was clean and she still had a decent amount of food left. I was still hungry, and we often share food so I asked her if I could have what was left of hers. This happens a... | YTA.
If you *routinely* are still hungry and need her leftovers, you aren't ordering enough food. Further, it takes 20 minutes to feel full, so sometimes you need to chill.
You're putting her in a hard spot because she may want to keep some for lunch the next day, but she may feel like she can't say she's full becau... |
Throw away account because my family is on reddit.
On my cell so please ignore any spelling/grammar
Afternoon Assholes,
Some background, my husband & I decided this January that we were going to try to have our first baby. My sister (who is in a lesbian relationship) has also been trying for a baby for about tw... | YTA.
I’ve got 3 (bio kids, since you seem to think that matters) so I outrank you, since you want to play that game. Listen up:
You are in for a super steep learning curve and you’re going to be eating a lot of crow if you don’t change your attitude fast. I’m not saying you should take what she says as gospel — a lo... |
Throwaway for obvious reasons. Also this is long.
I (35F) married my husband (56 M) 5 years ago and his family has been awful to me and our son (7M) because I was the other woman. His ex-wife dragged him through a two year long contentious divorce and got the house, pretty much everything he owned except his business,... | YTA.
I'm not sure why you think you're entitled to any sort of warm-and-fuzzy hug treatment from his children and ex-wife, when you are as you say "the other woman". I wouldn't invite you to my wedding, either.
On the other hand, it's pretty wretched for your son's grandparents to treat him poorly. He's an innocent ... |
I shared an apartment with 2 other guys. At some point I wanted to have sex so I invited girls over. The website that used host fake accounts. I got scammed and my room mates found out. They objected to me having prostitutes over.
For a little background. I lived with these guys for some time and me living was hardly ... | YTA.
I'm going to preface this by saying, I don't care if you fuck prostitutes, that's none of my business
However, both of the points your roommates bring up are valid, and you completely dismiss them out of hand. Whether or not they use bodyguards isn't the point, and of course you're not going to let them roam ar... |
So I used to live with my roommate and she had a friend who needed to stay for 2 weeks. I won't go into to much detail but shwas escaping an abusive situation and she had to wait to move in to her new apartment. I never really saw her, she was out most of the time and only came back to sleep but I was still uncomfortab... | YTA.
I would sympathise somewhat with having a stranger in your house - but they weren't in any way disruptive, and they were there for just two weeks. Also, imagine if you were trying to escape an abusive situation. Have some empathy.
With your roommate moving out, she continued to pay rent so you were fine financi... |
My daughter is an 8th grader entering 9th grade. All incoming students had to go to a sort of orientation today, where they would get their schedules, IDs, the like. She had planned for my wife to take her.
I am physically disabled from an injury and can’t walk. She didn’t want me to take her because she knew I wouldn... | YTA.
I think your daughter hit the nail on the head quite succinctly.
Orientation is not some "event" to be shared and enjoyed. It's a battleground of tedium, paperwork, and getting hundreds of kids various fees paid, pictures taken and IDs made, laptops deployed, locker assignments and books handed out. If you're ... |
Hi - honestly I'm a bit lost and confused here, but please hear me out.
I (25M) started taking dating apps seriously a few months ago. Anyone familiar with these kind of apps will know that it's a lot harder for guys than girls. I know for a fact that several female friends of mine have hundreds of matches whereas I (... | YTA.
I get that your intentions were good, but you lost me at "profile from 10 years ago."
If it was her public Instagram or something, that'd be different. But, if somebody mentioned a band from my Myspace page in high school while I was on a date with them, I'd be a bit unnerved.
I wouldn't call it stalking (it i... |
My ex and I have split custody of our daughter, I get certain days of the week and he gets the others and we split through weekends.
This year, Father’s Day comes on a day that my daughter stays with me for the weekend up until the week, and I told her that she couldn’t go to his house on Father’s Day because of that... | YTA.
I feel really bad for your daughter.
That part where you say you don't take any bullshit? Apparently you find your daughter having a healthy relationship with both parents to be part of the bullshit.
Little do you realize, you aren't hurting her relationship with him. You're hurting her relationship with you. ... |
I'll try to make this short. I'm (38m) and my wife (33f) have been married for 11 years. When we met I had a 7 year old cat that was my bff I had since he was a kitten. He was literally my whole life as cheesy as that sounds. Well he lived to be 18 and I had to have him put to sleep last summer before the world shut d... | YTA.
I feel bad for you, especially because I know the pain of losing a beloved animal friend. But, dude, flying to Mexico without telling your wife? That's nuts. Not because you need permission, but because she's your partner, your friend, the person you are supposed to rely on.
If you really can't show her your g... |
To start it off, I (39 M) work as an online art critic, and it truly is the love of my life. I have always been incredibly fascinated by art and it's many, many forms. My daughter (11 F) has taken notice of this recently and had put a LOT of dedication in to becoming a good artist. However, the results... were not the... | YTA.
How you don't see that is baffling to me. She's 11, you asshole. If you shit on everything she tries right now, she won't keep trying, and she'll never get better. ###### |
I met my (42M) wife (34F) 9 years ago, her son John is 14.
My wife has John 3 weeks of the month.
My wife is due to give birth any day, she was actually due last week, her pregnancy has been extremely stressful and she’s been on bed rest for most of it.
Her son has been extremely difficult lately; saying I’m not his... | YTA.
He is home.
He's 14.
He's experiencing a MASSIVE change in his surroundings (during a pandemic). Of course, he's gonna be a turd. The kid might want to see a therapist or a family therapist for you all because this sounds like the new baby is coming in to a nightmare.
Sending him away is going to probably go... |
So I met this girl through an online video game we both play. We've been talking on and off for about five years now. Here's the thing though, although we've talked for this long, I have only seen maybe a handful of pictures of her. I've reverse image searched the ones I've had and it doesn't return any results, but st... | YTA.
Have you gone to any of these crazy lengths to check out the guys you play with online? Most likely not. You are being a creep. ###### |
This happened a while ago*
A few weeks ago a mutual friend who I don’t know really well hosted a dinner party and invited me and a couple of our mutual friends. I’m just going to throw it out there but I don’t eat vegetables, yes I’m an adult. I’ve never liked them and growing up my parents never forced me to eat any... | YTA.
Firstly, not eating vegetables is not relevant to your story but the way you seem proud of it does give a little insight into your maturity.
Secondly, she is rightly proud of growing her own vegetables and saving water in doing so. You embarrassed her and caused a scene like a baby. You know vegetables have b... |
So last July my brother announced he had proposed and the wedding was scheduled for mid 2020 ish (they didn't lock in a date thankfully because they'd have to postpone it due to this lockdown stuff) and the girl seems really nice. A little uptight tbh but definitely someone who can be chill and fun to be around after y... | YTA.
Either you know she wouldn't have found the "gift" funny or you're not close enough that sending a NSFW gift is "appropriate". ###### |
Without going into too much detail my job is very stressful right now, I’m on constant meetings and I am constantly having work thrown at me last minute.
I have two children, 2&4, we are also expecting our third child in October.
My wife is an interior designer, she usually works nights since our youngest is al... | YTA.
Comparing how much sleep each of you gets in average, you are a giant asshole. She gets by your estimate under 5 hours of sleep a day and you get an average of 8 hours of sleep daily.
This doesn't seem...off... to you?
Your *Me time* doesn't get to come at the expense of her sleep time when there is such ... |
So I'm 18M and I live with my older sisters(20F/23F) our parents pay all our expenses and we go to college and stuff. Well today we had to go grocery shopping but since only one person can go at a time I was picked to go. When my sister(23F) texted me the list I asked if I can not buy the tampons and someone else can g... | YTA.
Come on. It's just a hygiene product and no one is looking at you or gives a fuck if they happen to see. ###### |
My husband works for a corporate company. When the craziness started, he was off of work for almost 2 weeks until they changed protocol. Since then, he's back at work with apparently "nothing" to do all day until he receives certain supplies that he needs to actually work. But he has to stay at work to be paid, so I'v... | YTA.
Being forced to stay in a place with nothing to do for hours on end is mentally taxing.
You are resentful about your situation and taking it out on him. ###### |
Me: 30s/F
Brother (Sean): 30/M
His fiancé: (Ashley): 31/F
Ashley’s sister: 33/F (I’ll call her Kate)
My brother Sean has been dating Ashley for 2 years, and they got engaged about two months ago.
Ashley has always been very kind to me and my family. But she isn’t close with her blood siblings. And by not clos... | YTA.
100%
You think it's rude for your future sister in law to evade your questions about her family, with whom she has almost no contact? How is that rude?
You go behind her back, contact the sister, make snap judgments based on nothing, and stick your nose where it doesn't belong.
You are very nosy, strangely en... |
Throwaway for reasons. So a few weeks ago the new Animal Crossing came out. I bought it immediately. My best friend is an Animal Crossing super fan, but is pretty poor and didn’t have a switch. She has no cable or TV or anything, and I wanted to do something nice. I tell her if she can come up with half the money for a... | YTA.
>Why say something you’re not gonna do?
Exactly. YOU are the one who said things you did not follow through on, however, not your friend. She said she “may” pay you back the money, YOU told her the Switch was a gift and not to worry about it.
Your girlfriend is right, you did act inappropriately.
ETA:
>UPDA... |
GF and I were talking and she wants to get on Birth Control to help with her cramps, which I was iffy about because of the effects it can have on her body (hormonal changes, lower libido, lack of natural lubrication, weight gain, etc). I pretty much condensed it down to it's your choice, but consider my input and keep ... | YTA.
>I told her that if that's her point of view, then by that logic, whether I wear a condom or not should by my choice and she shouldn't have to part in it because it's my body.
It is. It's also her choice to not sleep with you because of that. Likewise, it's your choice not to sleep or otherwise be with her if s... |
My son (15M) is very social, he has many friends and he talks to me a lot about some problems, school etc.
My husband feels he favours me then him, and I have tried to do something things to set them up. Like fishing, but he hates it, and hates doing it and sometimes the 2 have fights about it. Hunting, my husband lik... | YTA.
>and now he's treating us like strangers, and isn't the same again
And he may well never be.
Let me share with you a story. My father once did almost exactly this, except that instead of a diary it was Myspace messages.
I don't trust him any more. The end.
Interesting story?
What your husband did, and wh... |
My son (15M) is very social, he has many friends and he talks to me a lot about some problems, school etc.
My husband feels he favours me then him, and I have tried to do something things to set them up. Like fishing, but he hates it, and hates doing it and sometimes the 2 have fights about it. Hunting, my husband lik... | YTA.
> I've done everything, baked him a cake (which he did say thank you but it was obvious he didn't care), gave him space, brought him gifts.
I’m sorry, but this is almost comical. You don’t repair broken trust with cake and gifts. Trust takes seconds to break but immense effort and time to rebuild. You are bein... |
Throw away because my girlfriend is on Reddit and knows my account.
Yesterday, my girlfriend showed me a building she was building in Minecraft. I asked her if I can look around the place, and when she went to the bathroom, I found a lot of TNT in one of the chests and thought it would be funny to prank her by explod... | YTA.
> I think she's so invested in it to the point that she cares about her Minecraft cat more than actual people in her life.
Maybe it's because the people in her life are assholes who destroy things she put a lot of work into? ###### |
Some background:
My cousin and my aunt have been staying with my parents and I for a little over a month. She separated from my uncle and had to leave the house .
I live in my parents basement apartment and when I was working and going to school I only saw them briefly. Now that we are home together, I have been taki... | YTA.
> I make this walk without even thinking about it daily.
Yeah, but if you'd never done it before? You'd probably need to work up to it at least a little. And something tells me your idea of a "brisk pace" doesn't necessarily match up with what someone who doesn't have a daily routine might be prepared for.
A... |
My daughter \[14F\] has been drawing ever since she was 9. Her drawings are really good and I am honestly impressed by how realistic she manages to draw certain things on her iPad. My son \[10M\] also wants to start drawing and hopes to become as good as his sister. I told him to use his sisters cartons and crayons to ... | YTA.
You say you're very proud of how hard he's tried.
You say it's beautiful. Because the start of any hobby is.
You don't tell him it's a waste. Now he's going to feel guilty...
Congratulations. You'll only have one artist. ###### |
I am a landlord in a relatively small city in New England (less than 15,000 year-round residents). I inherited several rental properties but my company has been steadily growing so that we are now the largest property holders in the city and control roughly 60% of residential rentals. This problem has cropped up over t... | YTA... it would be different if you owned 3 houses but you’ve kinda got a monopoly on the market here.. ###### |
Me and my daughter have been haven’t been getting along so well recently and I feel as though I’ve been under-appreciated because she doesn’t seem to realise how much I really do around the house. I’m a single parent (there’s just us in the house) with disabilities that stop me from doing certain things such as taking ... | YTA...
You treat your daughter like a maid.
Your daughter is under extreme pressure with her exams.
Instead of helping her with the workload, you went to help a friend.
You came home and acted like a spoilt child.
The term parenting means the clue is in the title.
You are her parent. She is not yours.
Gro... |
My cousin Luke (fake name) has always been a bit on the feminine side. He changed his gender to become a female last month. He now wants to go by the name Lucy.
Him and his parents came over for lunch and we were all talking. I told them about how my exams were going and how I bought my first car last week. After we ... | YTA...
Its really saddening that you have to come here to have it spelled out for you.
You don't know what your cousin is going through inside.. the absolute LEAST you can do is call them by their preferred name, especially considering that the rest of the family is clearly not supportive of them. My heart breaks... |
Me (20f) and my sister (22f) fought yesterday and im not sure if im in the wrong here.
So my sister is already working in another city, but since the lockdown happened she decided to stay here with the family. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of 7 years because she found out he is cheating on her. We all comfo... | YTA.. You say that you were "very supportive of her' in one line and then you tell her to F off, avoid her and you think she is a crappy person? Her life has had 3 major upheavals (r/ship, home & COVID) maybe offer her a shoulder to lean on and a bit of support and you might actually improve your relationship and pote... |
I didn’t pay for it all me and my brothers chipped into it and helped buy her a new car (which is essential to her right now). My wife doesn’t need a new car right now as much she she might want one. Her car is a little old (2012) and has had some problems but I fixed those issues.
My wife’s angry and bitter right no... | YTA..
You didnt bother telling her you were doing it- sneaky or terrible communication?
That's a large amount if money to take from the family without some kind of discussion. Even if you knew for sure it wouldn't hurt anything, its basic courtesy to confirm that everyone is okay with the purchase.
You dismis... |
So my friends and I \[all 17M\] were talking on discord while playing league of legends. We were about to win but my friend did something stupid causing us all died. I got mad and jokingly cursed my friend's dead mother and hoped he would join her in the grave. When I did this though, he ended the call and fucking exit... | YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA.
You are absolutely the most massive AH here. I say this with the full authority of someone whose mother has passed. Is it not okay to joke about that. He didn't overreact, you joked about one of the worst moments in his life, in most people's lives. What's even worse is that it happened recen... |
On my way to bed, I realized I had to send an important email before tomorrow.
While I was writing this email, my wife asked me if the parent of our kid's friend's full name was [redacted]. I told her I didn't know. Then she wanted to know what autodeposit on electronic funds transfer was. I told her it was pretty muc... | YTA. Your wife was innocently trying to ask some questions and because you can’t multi task you snapped at her. If you really wanted that time to focus you could have nicely said “I can help you in x minutes I just need to finish this.” and she would have realized that you needed to focus. She can’t read your mind and... |
My daughter (26F) got married December 2019 to her partner of 6 years.
My daughter came out 13years ago but started dating a boy when she was 14, they dated for 4 years when she got pregnant and things ended between them, he isn’t involved.
My daughter eventually told me her mother had convinced her she wasn’t normal... | YTA. Your wife made your daughter's teenage/young adult years quite difficult, those scars will probably take a lifetime to heal. Just because your wife has come around recently doesn't mean the slate is wiped clean. You should always support your child and not prioritize your asshole of a spouse. ###### |
One of my sons is in his mid twenties, a recently qualified doctor and has seemingly no regard for his own life. My other son showed me his youtube channel (fake name, face covered etc but it's without question his poorly hidden voice) where he's recorded himself doing idiotic things such as 100mph wheelies on his moto... | YTA. Your son is an adult with a high-pressured job. So he enjoys doing extreme sports. He isn't hurting anyone. It's none of your business and you crossed the line. You were unhappy with him so you called up his work and jeopardise his position. I am surprised if he ever wants to have anything to do with you again. ... |
My 16yo son has always HATED school. He does well, but is bored. His counselor suggested taking short-term elective summer classes. Those classes would count towards his high school credits when he starts his senior year. His counselor also suggested taking community college courses that would satisfied required classe... | YTA. Your son has worked hard to accumulate credits. You're robbing him of the benefits of his hard work. If he graduates early, he can go to college early, get a career started early, etc.
You should be encouraging his work ethic, not throttling it. ###### |
About a week ago one of my sister's friends was kicked out of his house by his mom. The kid is very nice but it is sort of a pain to have another person in the house. The house is now really cramped and it's making me very stir crazy. My parents told me the other day he will be with us for another 3 months. They never... | YTA. Your sister’s friend isn’t a foster kid. She was basically kicked out of her family’s home.
And what were they supposed to do if you said no: “Oh no, we can’t take you in because [OP] doesn’t want another person. Sorry, you’re on your own.”
It’s okay if you’re annoyed and frustrated with an extra person in the ... |
This has been an ordeal for over a year. My ex-fiancé and I broke up over a year ago. Since then, I have moved in with my bf. I have been trying to get my bed back since fall of last year. After we broke up, I moved out and agreed to give him a few months to look for a new bed. In the fall I asked for my bed, and he co... | YTA. Your relationship problems have nothing to do with his work. Itd be highly unprofessional of you to mix the two.
If he works for your current boyfriend, your boyfriend should himself get fired if he terminated an employee without legitimate cause, because his girlfriend told him to. ###### |
So I’m not very good at cooking, I can make about two dishes, fried eggs, and scrambled eggs. Except the scrambled eggs are bad. I don’t enjoy cooking and I don’t have the time for it either.
My girlfriend loves cooking, it’s one of her favourite hobbies and she is great at it, can even make her own pasta and all.
S... | YTA. Your posting history, even here in AITA, makes me think that you refuse to cook partially because you view women as subservient — you called a woman “property” in another AITA comment specifically. Learning to cook doesn’t make you effeminate, look at all the cooking shows hosted by men if you need someone to loo... |
A just over 3 years ago while I was at work my ex packed up and left with the kids. I had gone to work on the road cause she was always complaining about money. I dont know what her deal was sometimes the bills were late. She was a stay at home mom cause I think kids need a parent at home.
Anyways it was her paren... | YTA. Your kids, your responsibility.
It’s not their fault the adults in their lives have issues to work out. But you all need to figure it out so your kids don’t get caught in the crossfire. ###### |
I’m 23, my gf is 20, and we’ve been together for 2.5 years.
I’m in a group chat with a few of my boys and some girls. These particular girls do not like my girlfriend. They’ve never really known each other but my gf caught them talking crap about her so she confronted them and since then, they don’t like her. I wouldn... | YTA. Your gf proved she trusted you by not making a big deal about you going to a cabin with them or talking to them in general. But you didn't show she could trust you when you didn't stick up for her. The girls are clearly trying to drive a wedge between the 2 of you, and your gf knows that but trusted you. You're a... |
Ok so I asked her if she wanted to play a game with me sense we can't meetup in person and the only one that fit the criteria was dbx2.
We both start playing around the same time and I get past the tutorial and decide to wait for her to finish. I start doing random story and side missions while I wait, she sits there d... | YTA. Your gf is clearly not comfortable/good at that particular video game. It takes some people a long time to learn and get comfortable with the controls for certain games. You acted like a huge asshole by essentially calling her an idiot for not getting the game with the same ease you do. This is a huge red flag an... |
A close friend of mine that I’ve known for a number of years decided to pull me aside and tell me it was yucky to invite my newish gf to a get-together and not grab her bill at the end of the night. His point was that it was a small amount (around 20 bucks per person) and that my gf said she was a student meanwhile I w... | YTA. Your friend is nosy, but correct. Hanging out with your friends is a little bit a favor she is doing you. Hopefully she gets along with your friends, and it's a favor she enjoys doing. But especially on a student budget, it would be nice if she didn't have to pay to hang out with your friends. ###### |
So I used to live with my roommate and she had a friend who needed to stay for 2 weeks. I won't go into to much detail but shwas escaping an abusive situation and she had to wait to move in to her new apartment. I never really saw her, she was out most of the time and only came back to sleep but I was still uncomfortab... | YTA. Your entire attitude was shitty. There was someone in your apt whom you never even saw and you got this aggressively angry and uncompromising?? You’re a huge asshole for your complete and total lack of communication skills. Quite honestly I think you got exactly what you deserved and you were never in the right. ... |
She’s 6 months away from being 18 so by then it’ll be out of my hands but until then I don’t want her to cut her hair, and I’d rather see her not get it cut for a very long time. She has beautiful long brown hair (down to her hips) and she wants it cut just below her ears but that would mean a lot of hair to be cut off... | YTA. Your daughter is not a doll ###### |
I have a daughter (16F) and a few weeks ago she sat me down and told me that she was struggling with purging. She said it was due to mental issues going on with school and her friends, and she talked about how she was feeling sad all the time.
In response, I told her to start a journal and think of at least three pos... | YTA. Your daughter has literally come to you asking for help and you’re blatantly ignoring her. My parents thought I was a happy kid too until I took a bottle of pills at 13. Then they thought I was fine without therapy until I was 18 and they saw my scars. How would you feel if she hurt herself after asking for help ... |
My wife is terminally ill. Because of that, she has been unable to show me any forms of physical affection and the spark in our marriage is nonexistent.
We cannot divorce because the legal logistics would rattle shareholders in our company. Therefore, she agreed I could see others if I kept it away from the family.
I... | YTA. Your daughter *isn't* older. She is a young teenager who is about to lose her mother, has been made fun of by classmates because her father is openly involved in an affair, and is now being contacted by her father's mistress. The agreement you made with your wife included you keeping your affairs away from the fa... |
Throwaway I did not want to use my main account
Two years ago my sisters ex boyfriend told us what my sister thinks of my child. My child free sister thinks that my two kids are accidents and she thinks they ruin events and stuff. So after that comment I have stopped going to family events. Recently my mother called a... | YTA. Your comments keep changing your story, you keep saying "child free sister" like it's disgusting, and you're dragged your whole family in instead of having an adult conversation with her. ###### |
I’m 17, and I have a foster sister (16) that’s been with us for around 8 months.
I’m cordial with my foster sister but we don’t really get along. When she first got here I caught her several times trying to wear my clothes, makeup, and trying to use other things that belong to me. We got into big arguments about it, ... | YTA. Your attitude sucks. Your parents bought her stuff without buying you stuff? Probably because she didn’t have much when she joined your household. That’s also probably the reason for her borrowing your clothes and makeup etc
Have you tried being welcoming?
Ugh. ###### |
I’ve been FWB/best friends with this girl for 7 years, since we were 20. We’re monagomous, stay over at each other’s, emotionally support each other and definitely not the typical arrangement. She just graduated with a PHD and due to covid couldn’t really have a party so she was doing a dinner at her place. I’ve made i... | YTA. You’ve been “monogamous” fwb? You’re “best friends”? Buddy you’re IN a relationship even if you don’t want to admit it. Call a spade a spade. ###### |
Hi guys,
So my sister said I should share this here. I volunteer with middle school kids doing science type stuff because I am a science major about to go to medical school. Anyways, I went to judge at a science fair and they told us there was this big emphasis on them being able to explain things correctly. One litt... | YTA. You’re TA for calling her, “sweetheart”. That’s super condescending. Would you have addressed a male student in the same way? She’s not your sweetheart. She’s a student trying to present her project at a science fair. I used to judge middle school science fairs, too, & speaking to adults whom the student may neve... |
So due to recent events, I(20f) am no longer able to live at my college dorms and have moved back in with my parents. My mom has been sick for over 2 weeks now, nothing serious just a pretty bad cold. My dad used to make meals for me and her, but since he has a very strict diet, he was having to make a separate meal fo... | YTA. You’re living at home rent free, you can cook. ###### |
Right so here goes - I'm 17 M and I live at home with my parents and my younger sister.
It was my Dad's birthday a few days ago and he turned 55. My mum was joking around about him being old and my Dad said something like "yeah well in two years you'll be 50" as like a joke as well. And that's when it hit me that m... | YTA. You’re 17, and they were consenting adults, and things were different 35+ years ago. Different responsibilities meant that perhaps they weren’t necessarily in different stages of their lives and could see eye to eye.
Neither you mom nor your dad seem resentful, angry, sad, or anything of the sort, and they’re st... |
I have an 18 and 21yo boys. My relationship with my 18yo is strained because I do far more for my other son and have no shame about it. The reason is that my 21yo is fiercely independent and rarely asks for help even when he should. He feels uncomfortable asking or getting help from anyone. On the rare times that he do... | YTA. You've told your younger son he's manipulative and spoiled since he was 11, all the while showing clear favouritism for his older brother. You've given your older son gifts and help he didn't ask for, and seem to be waiting for your younger son to get upset about it so you can continue to call him spoiled and ent... |
While the company I [21F] intern at was preparing to switch to wfh protocol, my boss’s [38?M] wife [3?F] came into the office to help him move his computers and stuff more quickly. I saw her car idling outside the building and stopped to say hello. She snarked back something about telling it to my coworker, who would d... | YTA. You've gotten a great lesson in the importance of discretion in the workplace. Not only is your boss looking at you differently now, but many other people also probably see you as envious of the wife and as trying to insert yourself into their relationship. You're awfully judgmental of the wife's career in an ass... |
Happened earlier today. I decided to go for my evening run that I have been conducting everyday for the past couple weeks. On the route I take, there is a particular house that is a little bit worn down and has a small dog that does ape shit crazy every time someone walks by the house. The house is fenced off and the f... | YTA. You're running PAST the house. Realistically, how long could the dog be barking at you anyway? 30 seconds? What kind of person can't ignore a dog barking in their own yard for 30 seconds? You're behavior was extremely immature. And then to verbally attack the owner after she defended her dog? WTF? Honestly...🤦... |
My daughter \[14F\] has been drawing ever since she was 9. Her drawings are really good and I am honestly impressed by how realistic she manages to draw certain things on her iPad. My son \[10M\] also wants to start drawing and hopes to become as good as his sister. I told him to use his sisters cartons and crayons to ... | YTA. You're right: his deciding not to pursue drawing is 100% your fault for the discouragement there. Nice job! ###### |
Subsets and Splits
No community queries yet
The top public SQL queries from the community will appear here once available.