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Due to reasons, I’m staying at my parents’ house till i can go back to my city. Unfortunately since none of my other siblings are home, i’m tasked with caring for my sister. She has autism and down syndrome. She’s also 19, and very very moody. I had to buy groceries, and my mom made her tag along with me.
From the m... | ESH (except your sister). Did your mom actually try to ask your sister if she wanted to go to the store or did she just force her along because she's non-verbal and couldn't dispute it? It doesn't sound like your sister wanted to be at the store in the first place and was overwhelmed and stressed out. It may have seem... |
My wife a little while back mentioned to me that she had made a deal with our daughter who just turned 14 that if she gets straight As on her report card she will take her to get her ears pierced again.
I was assuming my wife just meant a 3rd pair of holes as our daughter already had 2 and said it was fine. Well last... | ESH (except for the child of course) - your wife should have let you know, and you shouldn't have undermined the kid's mum in front of her. Sounds like the two of you need to communicate more clearly as the kid will feel like she's getting punished now even though she didn't do anything wrong. ###### |
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Here’s a backstory: My brother (16M) and I (18F) have a horrible relationship. We live in the same house with my parents, and we rarely speak to each other. I’ve never ever touched any of his belongings because frankly why would I want to. He has nothing that I want to do with. La... | ESH - Your brother shouldn't be going into your room and touching your stuff. You're parents also should not be allowing him to do so.
If you wanted your parents to pay for it you should have asked before doing so, you can't just buy something and then demand people give you money for it. You're 18, which means tha... |
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Here’s a backstory: My brother (16M) and I (18F) have a horrible relationship. We live in the same house with my parents, and we rarely speak to each other. I’ve never ever touched any of his belongings because frankly why would I want to. He has nothing that I want to do with. La... | ESH - your brother shouldn't be going into your room and doing god knows what with your things. However, you bought the keypad and THEN told your parents they would have to pay for it. If you wanted to go this route then you should have spoken to your parents first. ###### |
Throwaway for obvious reasons, mandatory apology for the bad formatting.
I (19f) have a friend, lets call him Thomas, basically hes been on a paypig website, ( men will pay money to have women insult them or humiliate them) on this website its mainly anonymous, a fake screen name and a few photos, and there aren't man... | ESH - you’re both terrible ###### |
For context - I'm back in my hometown, staying with my parents, grandfather and sister in a small apartment which has only two bedrooms. Needless to say, this has led to cabin fever.
Today, my sister came to me with some news related to her job offer (they have delayed the joining date and reduced the salary) and I wa... | ESH - you don’t win arguments by saying the meanest thing. But obviously, it’s clear where you learnt this behaviour.
If I was you I would focus less on being right in an argument and really work on learning to respectfully communicate. While, so far, in a family who all fights the same toxic way, you probably haven... |
so i (f38) am a spinster. I live alone, don't have a husband or kids, and i like it that way. My sister (f34) is different, though. She's very [W.A.S.Py](https://W.A.S.Py) and tries to be perfect. She has a husband and 2 kids, and doesn't work. I have no problem with her lifestyle, until now. Her oldest is 12, and her ... | ESH - you could have scolded without cursing out the child. At his age, it isn’t really his fault yet, if he’s a demon child, it’s because your sister condones and allows it. You should have cussed her out, you’re an asshole for yelling at the wrong person. And your sister is a mega asshole. You save her and her child... |
So my friend wanted to buy a Switch and I told her if she found an extra to lmk and I'd give her the money. She said she found someone through letgo and basically was saying how friendly the guy was and he was sending her pictures and he was trying to get rid of them etc etc. When I told her how much was he asking you ... | ESH - you both ignored the clear signs that it was a scam, you told her all the reasons it was a bad idea...and then gave her your money to lose. ###### |
I am the youngest of 3 and I have 2 older brothers who are 21 and 18 while I am 16, don't get me wrong I love my brothers but I'm just tired of them not taking me seriously cause I'm the young and stupid one. The 21yo has been the worst when it comes to disregarding everything I say, and any opinion gets shot down as ... | ESH - this sounds like siblings arguing and you both sound like kids ###### |
I met her 27 years ago. We lived next door to each other for 3 years and she was a very good neighbor to have. Very nice. We reconnected 2 years ago and she's been to several of my parties. But she's really bad about inviting like 20 people to come with her and I'm invaded.
Don't get me wrong! They're super nice peopl... | ESH - she sucks for being do inconsiderate, but you also kinda suck for hinting and not just telling her you don't want to be friends (gently, without telling her she's a moron). I mean, whats the worst that could happen? She stops liking you? Isn't that the goal? ###### |
Throwaway as my sister uses Reddit
I have a 25 year old sister and I am 13. A few years ago my sister moved out and she got her new apartment. I got my own room and got owner ship of the bathroom and closet in the room. Recently my sister has been staying in the guest room off the house as she was evicted.
My sister... | ESH - She shouldn't be consuming all your toiletries or using it when you are sleeping, but it sounds like you are being petty too so, no offense but i think you need to grow up. Try actually talking to her and meeting in the middle. It's a skill you'll need to learn to use eventually, might as well start now. ###### |
First of all, I made my first Reddit account specifically to post this question, so please don't think I'm a troll! This has been bothering me for about a month now.
My BF and I have been together for 2 years and we are starting to talk about possibly getting engaged. He very casually mentioned that he doesn't believ... | ESH - honestly, this is not a ring problem. This is a both of you putting petty ideals over getting along problem.
If he has a problem with the symbolism and expense of diamonds, why would you still feel like a diamond ring he only gave you because you basically threatened to end the relationship over it would be a s... |
My boyfriend (25m) and I (22f) have been together for just over a year.
We have been in a semi long distance relationship for most of that time, as I moved away from our home town to the city for college around 3 months after we got together.
We still see each other at least 3 days a week, as it’s less than two hours... | ESH - He shouldn't clarified all of this before you moved in but you also shouldn't be surprised that you have to pay rent. If y'all can't sort out something basic like this, you're going to have a rough time communicating in the future. ###### |
I recently posted this on r/tifu and they made me wonder if I'm TA
My ex's wedding was in February. And like you could guess, I wasn't personally invited nor was I told anything about it from him even though we spoke daily. Well I found out about it from his grandmother (we're close) and she suggested I 'gate crash' a... | ESH - grandma is a trouble maker, he should have told his fiancée and you knew damn well what you were doing. ###### |
So I have a coworker (25/30F) called “Amy”. She’s single with no kids.
My boss (30/35M) called “Jake” is married to my COUSIN and has two kids.
Amy is in love with jake the way a lion is in love with a zebra. She’s always always trying to start anything with him or anyone else for his attention. I’ve done so good a... | ESH - even if you could make the argument that you would be justified in saying to Amy that it makes you uncomfortable to have Jake's wife talked about like that (because you're her cousin), you didn't say it like that, and you most certainly were not justified in bringing Amy's looks into it. That crossed the line fr... |
A couple years ago I was in a serious relationship with my then girlfriend. The time came and I bought a nice engagement ring for her. The ring had one big diamond in the middle and then two smaller diamonds on the side. Costed me an arm and a leg but it was the only ring that caught my eye so I bought it. My then girl... | ESH - dude, I get it for the saving money. But she will never see the ring as something you bought for her. It will ALWAYS be the ring you bought for your ex. That’s the issue. I’d be hurt and wouldn’t be happy wearing a ring someone bought for someone else.
Also she shouldn’t have thrown it out. That’s ridiculous. ... |
My mother is having mental health issues so I took in my 10yo brother. I'm a single 27yo male and my brother is 25 and married with no kids. Moving in a 10yo and trying to manage a mentally ill person and working full-time is draining and I am doing this with no help. I've asked my brother for help - mainly taking are... | ESH - did airing your family's dirty laundry on social media help? I doubt it. ###### |
So my girlfriend has this habit of interrupting as though as soon as she gets a thought she absolutely *has* to share it then, no matter what, I put up with it as one of her quirks and don’t give it much thought.
We met up with some of my friends who we don’t see often lately since the birth of our son and we were mid... | ESH - Being rude by interrupting people isn't a quirk and should be something you discuss. If it was literally one time that she did it and the other girl reacted like that, that's unnecessary but just letting her get away with it all the time and interrupting you is disrespectful. Her thoughts are not more important ... |
A very well loved resident (nursing home) passed away several months ago. Our normal procedure afterwards is to call EMT to take the body, clean the bed, leave the light on and keep the door open until the family shows up to gather their belongings. Most of the time it's all said and done within a week or so. We do it ... | ESH One, if grown ass adults believe in ghosts, they should probably pick a different field where they aren't going to be driven batshit by daily routine.
You suck, because you're making a petty point, on a petty rule, just because it's "a rule". It's not a rule that has any actual need, reason or logic behind it... |
We casually saw each other for a month and became official a month later, thankfully we never got around to having sex because I have bad experiences with men trying to con their way into my bed only to drop off the face of the Earth later on.
I found out by accident when going through his medicine cabinet looking for... | ESH
He should've disclosed his status once you guys got serious, but the misinformation, ignorance and shaming is egregious here. Not letting him see his niece and nephew??? No one wants him touching anything? Where do you guys live that this is the prevailing thought upon learning of his condition? I guess we don't... |
I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me money for weed, £50 and that I would pay her back next when when I get paid. She said no since she is against weed and drugs in general, I asked why and then she said "well I will lend you money if you give me the double amount back, so £100 because I will put an interest rate... | Definitely YTA she didn’t want to lent you money for drugs, you begged and she offered you a deal which you accepted and now your having a cry about it! Might be time to rethink your budget, habit and also grow up.
Oh and by your replies your definitely need to stand back and look in the mirror, you ask if YTA and th... |
I was talking with my friend who is very sheltered and didn’t know there were people who weren’t straight or cis. Anyway, we were talking and at some point I said “me and my girlfriend have been dying to see each other again” and she said “I thought you hated when girls referred to there girl-friends as girlfriends?” I... | Definitely NTA.
You answered questions from a curious person, and properly. You haven’t ‘corrupted’ her or hurt her in anyway.
Her parents being homophobic is not your fault, so don’t beat yourself up over it. And, unless she tells her parents everything that happens in her day(no teen really does), then I see no p... |
Ok people of reddit I need your help. This situation is weighing heavy on my heart and noggin and I’m completely unsure what to do.
I am dog sitting for an owner and it is very clear to me and others that have seen the dog that this dog is being neglected.
Here is the information/facts I have:
• dog is only fed once ... | Definitely NTA.
When it comes to abuse, you have to report it when you see it. It is hard to report someone because we fear the consequences, but you're one of the few people, if not the only one, who can help this dog have a better life. ###### |
My 3 year old daughter loves to spend time at my mom's house but my mom has never been the "good" parent, she has always tried hard to be the fun one no matter what. Over the last year or so she ha taught my daughter my daughter many bad habits that have been hard to break. Some notable ones are, she taught her to figh... | Definitely NTA. Your mum has zero respect for you or or wife, which she has demonstrated repeatedly. You need to find alternative child care ###### |
Some context: I have a strict "no lending" policy on money, I won't let anyone starve, but I'd rather buy you lunch rather than give you the money. It's something my parents taught me and it helps to weed out who's just lying to get a fix of whatever.
Due to lay-offs, we are all struggling, but I have a savings accou... | Definitely NTA. Your money, you earned it, you decide where it goes. The end. ###### |
I (17M) program as a hobby. I've been pulling all nighters working on a project with my friends and on my free time I play CSGO and Hypixel Skyblock. My mom recently put locks on my laptop and blocked certain programs that are essential to my hobby (vscode, unity, etc) Luckily for me I found a loophole that allows me t... | Definitely NTA. You wouldn't have had to bypass in the first place if she would loosen up ###### |
When I say every single time, I mean every single time she does it in front of me and it's becoming a problem with the family because they think I'm being disrespectful and she's old and doesn't get it. Even my husband is like "I agree with you but she won't budge so just let it go"
No I dont think I will.
My son is... | Definitely NTA. You would be doing your son a disservice not to speak up. ###### |
Sorry for anything misspelled or the format being weird I'm on mobile
Ok so I'm a 17(F) I was born on May 9th my sister (Mia 14(F) not her real name) was born on May 13th. Ever since she was born we've shared a birthday party. That includes the cakes and the presents, the cake is usually an issue for me because I cant... | Definitely NTA. You were born on separate days and so it is appropriate to have separate celebrations.
Have fun at your friend's house at the celebration they're throwing for you! ###### |
I am a 22f living at my parents home due to the state of the world. We live in a nice neighborhood out side of city limits. Each house sits on about three acres so there’s a fair amount of room between houses. Growing up the neighborhood was quiet with very few, if any, disagreements. Within the last few years a new f... | Definitely NTA. You have secondary reasons to back yourself up—noise complaints and whatnot. However, the biggest reason is, like others have said, regarding these kids’ safety. One has already seriously been injured. Now it seems the others are getting wilder in spite of it. Please call the next time it happens. It t... |
I'm due in the fall and where I live, visiting restrictions will probably be lifted so it's caused a rift between me and my MIL.
Title says it all. I just wouldn't be comfortable with my legs spread apart screaming in front of my husband's mother. He's 100% supportive of this and says he's not going to let her come. S... | Definitely NTA. You can have whoever you want in the room, and disallow anyone you want. Make sure to let the medical staff know to restrict access to anyone you don't specifically say is allowed in. ###### |
my six year old daughter died a couple months ago and the mourning process is already difficult enough. my ex-best friend keeps texting me about my daughter and he says things such as “it’s a damn shame” and he’s in “pain” but he never even met my daughter! it’s tearing me to pieces so i blocked him! a bunch of our mut... | definitely NTA. there is nothing worse than when someone takes a tragedy that happened to someone else and make it about themselves. i’m sorry for your loss. ###### |
So my cousin and I(both 22F) are only 6 months apart and her birthday was in early March. A few days ago in the family group chat she sent her cashapp and asked for family to send their birthday gifts there. 1) once you then 18 in my family it’s very rare to get a birthday gift from everyone. 2) she’s 22 with a job and... | Definitely NTA. She’s super entitled and shouldn’t be asking for money as a gift, and definitely should not be begging for it. I get that there’s a crisis going on, but having a birthday 3 months prior and trying to guilt trip people, especially family, into giving money, is messed up ###### |
Throwaway because my parents browse this sub
So today my father set a challenge for me and my mother.
Who ever completed the 5km loop around our house would get anything they wanted( as long as said item was under 100 euros)
So I can do 5k in 27 minutes while it takes my mother 40 ish minutes so I was sure I was gon... | Definitely NTA. She’s got issues ###### |
I live in an apartment that I moved into in September 2019. Since arriving, I have had probably close to 20 packages show up at my door addressed to someone I've never met. Let's say the name is Autumn. The packages all have my address and Autumn's name. Since they're not addressed to me, I just leave them outside and ... | Definitely NTA. PUT A STOP TO THAT. You don't know what's in the packages and if it's illegal, you could be an accomplice ###### |
I moved to this flat a year ago, like most of the Londoners I rented a room in a house share. We don't have any living room which restricts me socialising as much as I desire. That is the main reason I wanted to move out initially.
Since I moved here, I requested from landlord to change just the bath as it was rusty a... | Definitely NTA. Not even close to TA. The rusty bath was always the LL's responsibility from the beginning and the fact he's even trying to lord this over you is laughable. ###### |
A little background: I (20) grew up in a family of Christians farmers and handy workers. I was seen as "very smart" so they had high hopes for me. They are really traditional and we are french.
So when I was about 7 I went to my uncle house and didn't want to kiss them ( they thought I was being impolite and rebelliou... | Definitely NTA. No one should ever be under any obligation to kiss or hug anyone if they’re not comfortable with it. Your family don’t seem to be very open to recognising your needs so to make yourself more comfortable and make your life your own I would say that if cutting them off will make you happier then do it. #... |
First some back story... my sister and I have never been close. I’m a bit older than her but because of life I still love at home with our parents and 2 years ago she moved to the other side of the country with her bf. Because we were never close and now she lives so far are basically just acquaintances at this point. ... | Definitely NTA. Doesn't even really matter what day it is, if you don't want to go then there's no real reason to do so, but especially on your birthday? That's ridiculous and inconsiderate of them. ###### |
My step mom has been my step mom since I’ve been 5. We have a decent relationship but it’s been rocky as of lately. I caught her purging after meals for the last few months. I don’t know if it began during quarantine or I just noticed because I’m always home. My step mom has always been critical of my weight and my hal... | Definitely NTA. Based of this I’d say your step mom is actually pretty abusive. Berating anyone for their weight is disgusting on its own, let alone her hypocrisy. ###### |
Throwaway account for privacy reasons. Also, english is not my first language so I want to apologize in advance for any mistakes.
For context, I’m 18F and he’s 20M. We have been together almost a year now, and from time to time we disagree on how frequent we should be having sex. This happens because he has a much hig... | Definitely nta! That's awful that he kept trying when you weren't into in and for making you feel bad for saying no. You dont owe him sex and it's sad because all he's going to do it make it so you don't want to kiss him at all because you'll worry it'll just be him trying to have sex and not just being romantic. I th... |
My uncle is a doctor, and makes good money. My Dad told him I needed money for school and asked for 1,000 bucks. He even had me thank him for the money and told everyone how my uncle helped him pay for school.
Turns out it was all a sham, my Dad used that money for drugs. My Mom showed me solid evidence of that, and I ... | Definitely NTA, Your Uncle needs to know the truth and your Dad needs serious help if he’s doing drugs. It’s not fair that your uncle had his money used to fuel your Dad’s drug addiction ###### |
So we have a daughter who turned three in January. Personally, I think she's pretty advanced for her age. She has complex conversations with us and can even read simple words already. She's now home with us all day while we work because of recent events. She's definitely getting more screen time than we would n... | Definitely NTA, it seems your daughter understands the show and isn't scared of it or anything. You should try talking to your wife about how she doesn't get nightmares of anything and you don't see the harm in letting her watch. ###### |
I (22f) have a prosthetic glass eye. This guy isn't my boyfriend, but we have gone on a few dates.
We were hanging out when this happened. I accidentally rubbed my eye wrong, and my prosthetic fell out. He screeched and jumped away. I didn't take offence - he didn't know and I could imagine being shocked seeing what l... | Definitely NTA, I get him being surprised but that dude was just being an ass. ###### |
Sorry for anything misspelled or the format being weird I'm on mobile
Ok so I'm a 17(F) I was born on May 9th my sister (Mia 14(F) not her real name) was born on May 13th. Ever since she was born we've shared a birthday party. That includes the cakes and the presents, the cake is usually an issue for me because I cant... | Definitely NTA and your mom seems to be very biased in a negative way towards you.
>(shes tge same as me and cant eat cake so my mom makes her a big cookie).
>for birthdays my mom uses the rule that the birthday girl/boy doesnt have to help with ANYTHING this includes my 26 year old sister.)
Is this something you ... |
This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and I'm still pissed from work. I'm a girl.
My new job is a very labor intensive job, moving heavy objects, pushing carts, packing shipping boxes. It's summer in the south on top of that, so it's hell hot. So of course I'm sweating with all the manual labor and the lack of... | Definitely NTA and I suggest you up the anti by wearing Axe body spray. Then they’ll beg you to go back to old spice ###### |
So this happened a few years ago but I always wonder if I was in the wrong. My brother (21M) and his girlfriend (20F) has been dating less than a year when my fiancé and I started writing our guest list for our wedding. We decided to invite my brother’s girlfriend even though they had only been together for a short tim... | Definitely NTA
it's your wedding' you can invite who you want. It would be bad enough for your brother to ask you to unnvite someone but his girlfriend who you barely know? Ridiculous ###### |
Okay, this is kind of of a weird one. I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I want to preface all of this by saying that I love her and that this post makes her sound worse than she is. She is one of the most genuine, sweetest, and hardworking people I have ever met. But, this whole situation has been so o... | Definitely NTA . I'm curious . . . . you both haven't been dating that long. Who was her bathroom buddy before you? Did she just start doing this with you or has she always been this way?
It's pretty neurotic, and also covertly controlling. I'd suggest she see a therapist because, nope. ###### |
Earlier today, my aunt and her young (seven year old) daughter came to visit to celebrate my father's birthday, with masks and gloves and all that, and I was wearing a short sleeves shirt because it was hot out. My scars are incredibly noticeable, so I wasn't really surprised when my aunt came to me and demanded that I... | Definitely NTA - You're scars are a part of you and you shouldn't be shamed into covering them just because it makes other people uncomfortable. ###### |
My girlfriend (24F) is a very active person. She does a lot of running, yoga and used to do gymnastics as a teenager. She's very fit and athletic.
Now me (24M), I'm skinny fat but I'm strong. Im about 175lbs at 6 foot 1. I don't do much cardio but I've always had natural strength. I did used to work out at age 16-17 ... | YTA— Not for doing more pull-ups, but for taking your girlfriend’s proud moment and making it all about you. You could have taken up doing pull-ups anytime, but decided to do it when your girlfriend wanted to share an important achievement with you. ###### |
Two of my daughters are getting married on the same day (I know smh). The older one thought the younger one did it to be malicious, but we've since confirmed that the wedding hall that the younger one wants to get married at only had a limited amount of slots, and that the next available slot is almost a year later unl... | YTA
You and your younger daughter are assholes. The fact that you easily accepted her reasoning and didn't push her for another venue or waiting a year knowing that this was the SAME date your older daughter had already chosen; tells me that there's a pattern in your family of younger daughter doing as she pleases at ... |
We're from Iowa. Granted nothing ever happened, the weather isn't all that great. She moved to LA to find work behind the scenes on TV. She basically works in an office that reps "social media celebrities" and no one that I've ever heard of. She just talks endlessly about LA-life, the beach, how glamorous it is, etc. I... | YTA
She got out of a no name town, and you’re stuck. Yes, living in LA is difficult, but there’s a certain level of effort that gives satisfaction in return. The cold pressed juice tastes sweeter when you worked your butt off to get it.
Australia isn’t a city, btw. ###### |
I have always tried to teach my daughter to be respectful to others and herself. When she was 16 she had wanted a tattoo and I told her that it was her choice but a condition with living in our house was that such a thing is not permitted. I told her that I felt that tattoos were something that I believed were unnecess... | YTA
Imagine having to explain to people you’re estranged from your daughter over some ink ###### |
Captain should say it all, I’m the male in this situation and I already have established that I’m paying for the pill (it’s not expensive and money isn’t the issue), but it started the CONVERSATION that I thought it was reasonable to go half on it since we both took preventative measures and a simple mistake happened #... | YTA
If moneys not the issue then a fair split is? Well plan B causes cramps and sometimes bleeding so id say you have the better end of the deal since you don't have to actually take the pill. ###### |
I’m her father.
I have told my daughter(age 15) to stop drawing on herself more than 3 times. She has disobeyed my orders and continued to draw on herself. Mainly on her legs and arms. She draws things like Chinese symbols and doodles and scribbles in marker and it looks trashy and ugly. Today I told her to stop drawi... | YTA
Great way to ruin a relationship with your kids. Just an excellent hill to die on. ###### |
Rather simple problem, I have a 4yo and an 18mo daughter, both of whom like to "draw". Their drawing mostly at this point consists of scribbling, but my 4yo is starting to draw people, houses etc. My wife likes to buy the big boxes of markers crayons, I'm talking the 50 pack of markers, 152 count crayons etc. Then when... | YTA
From a child development standpoint, giving them multiple choices is important. It’s also important to use this time to teach them to clean up and take care of their supplies, not to limit them. When your 4 year old goes to school next year, she’s going to have to be able to handle more than just 2 markers at a ti... |
My sister is going to turn 18 next year, since she was very young she has felt bothered by her nose. It's big (think Alba Flores's nose but thicker) and doesn't really suit the rest of her face at all. So, our parents told her that she could get a nose job if she didn't change her mind by the time she was 18.
Fast fo... | YTA
Your title is a bit misleading, because based on what you wrote nobody is upset about you not chipping in for it (which would have been a ridiculous expectation) but because you told your sister that didn't see the point of her dream of many years.
You could just have laughed it off when she made her jokes about... |
About a week ago one of my sister's friends was kicked out of his house by his mom. The kid is very nice but it is sort of a pain to have another person in the house. The house is now really cramped and it's making me very stir crazy. My parents told me the other day he will be with us for another 3 months. They never... | YTA
Your parents are responding to an unexpected, emergency situation. This was not planned and it shows that they have generous hearts and are willing to help in times of need. They did the right thing.
You are reacting in a very entitled and selfish way if you complain about not being consulted. ###### |
A lil backstory: I'm 34M, and have never come close to having a SO. And I don't mean I'm one of those people things never got serious with, I mean I've never even had a woman express the tiniest interest or go along if I did. It goes without saying that I'm a virgin, but I've never even had a kiss or held hands with a ... | YTA
Your insecurities are your problem. Why should everyone around you ignore their partners just so you feel better about yourself? No one is rubbing anything in your face. Jealousy is an ugly color.
Work on yourself. Evaluate why you think women aren’t interested. Build yourself up. Make an effort to meet people.... |
My girlfriend sells used/vintage clothes on the side for extra money. She found some old Levi’s at a thrift store we both go to but she ended up not buying them because she was on the fence about them for some reason. A few days later I texted her from the same store while she was at work. She asked if i would buy the ... | YTA
Your girlfriend asked you to do her a favor and pick them up for her. And your response was, "No, I won't do that favor for you. Also, I'll rub it in your face by buying them for myself!" ###### |
When I was 18 I got pregnant with my boyfriend at the time. He really pushed for an abortion but I had extremely strict parents who were against it, so I had her. She’s now 13, beautiful and very popular. Her father isn’t in her life. I love her, it’s a given I love her, she’s my daughter.
I’ve never been an overly a... | YTA
Your daughter is clearly feeling like she isn't loved at home and literally asked for help. Your reaction was to tell her no.
Is it such an imposition to say the words "I love you"? Expression of affection is a big thing for someone who is struggling with their identity (like most teenagers are). They need to he... |
My son and DIL recently had a baby. They were at our house last night and my wife's God father was there as well. My wife's father was kind of a creep. He had multiple wives and a couple of them were younger than my wife, and this was his best friend so he is a bit of a womanizer, but a very nice man. My children have ... | YTA
your "friend" sounds like he is disappointed that your granddaughter is not up to his standards to start grooming. ###### |
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So our group of friends consists of me (19 F) and 5 guys (20-21 M), one of them being the friend that I will talk about next.
He has a gf about the same age as us, and they've been together for a around a year. The girl is ok, she's ok to have an occasional chat with, but what bothers us is that she h... | YTA
You’ve even said that there is nothing wrong with this girl. You just don’t want another female there. And yes, you don’t mind having other gf there every once in a while. That still doesn’t excuse the fact that this is merely about you wanting to be “one of the guys” at the majority of your meetups. ###### |
Okay, here is some background info. My wife and I are divorced, and my wife remarried a very wealthy man and I believe they are spoiling our daughter (12 F) and attempting to turn her against me (42 M). I work in a restaurant and am a single father, so I can't afford ridiculous luxuries such as new iPhones and air pods... | YTA
You’re kidding. You’re a troll, right? Gotta be. No way someone would genuinely think “they’re spoiling her and _turning her against me_!” and believe **taking her electronics away, forcing her to work, and having 50% of her earnings go towards bills** would do anything other than make her resent you.
We’re tal... |
So I proposed to my fiance around late last year and we are still planning our wedding.However she wanted to do have a big traditional singaporean wedding which could cost upwards of $50,000, and I was against the idea of spending that much money on just one day.So instead of spending a lot of money on the wedding, I b... | YTA
You've bought her an amazing apartment which would be lovely if not for two important things:
1. You have deliberately spent the money she thought would go on the wedding without talking it through with it.
2. You took away the chance for her to house hunt with you and be a part of the decision making.
Perhaps... |
My niece is a college student who moved into her old grandmother's house by herself for the rest of the semester. She doesn't have a car. Due to the current circumstances in our world, I've been coming by every week or so to go grocery shopping with her. I came by to the house yesterday because a plumber came over to f... | YTA
You're not necessarily an asshole because of the kitchen thing (like...if it was bad enough to be a health hazard, although the way you describe it it sounds like you were karening out over some mild clutter), but hooooooly fuck the rest of it sounds like you would be.
Whether she does or does not make potatoes ... |
I'm a RN who works in NYC (I commute from a neighboring county, takes about 45 minutes to get to work with no traffic).
I don't need to explain how horrible the situation is right now on my unit, but today at least I saw more dead patients than alive ones. I wrapped more bodies for the morgue than I ever have in my 6 ... | YTA
You're doing an important job, and if you were rushing to the hospital to save a dying patient, then maybe you'd have a point. But you don't get a pass to arbitrarily break the law just by virtue of being a nurse.
>But today, with everything we are facing, I just felt like it was a slap in the face.
I could eq... |
She has had zero contact with her ex since they broke up years ago. There is no reason for me to feel threatened by this painting or her ex. The painting was a replication commissioned by her ex after she mentioned she really like the original. This painting sits on the kitchen counter in the apartment that I see every... | YTA
You're being insecure and putting far too much stock into a piece of art. She's told you that theres no romantic attachment, she has given valid reasons why she wants it, yet you are still bent out of shape. ###### |
My gf is 28 and has a whole shelf of skincare stuff in our bathroom. I have no clue what she's spent on it in the past but it has to be well over $500. She has a routine that she does first thing in the morning and before bed and it has 5 or 6 steps I believe. It's all fancy creams and face masks and whatever an essenc... | YTA
You're basically adding insult to injury by saying shes a rube for spending all that money (*her* money, since you dont know how much it costs that suggests it wasnt coming out of your shared budget) thinking it would stop from ever getting wrinkles. Unless she believes in immortality she obviously knew she was g... |
So due to recent events, I(20f) am no longer able to live at my college dorms and have moved back in with my parents. My mom has been sick for over 2 weeks now, nothing serious just a pretty bad cold. My dad used to make meals for me and her, but since he has a very strict diet, he was having to make a separate meal fo... | YTA
You're 20 years old, you should be able to cook a meal. Your mother did it for you for years without taking a break. Time to repay that. ###### |
Me and my ex are good terms still talk to each other frequently. I like to catch up on what's going on in her life and vise versa for her. We've been broken up for 3 years .has been going through a hardship recently, so I invited her over to just chill and talk with me.
My girlfriend is one of those people who thinks... | YTA
You want to set up an intimate environment to help your ex through a hard time, and push your current SO out of the house to do so, and you don’t see an issue?
Which relationship is more valuable to you, current gf or ex? ###### |
Since my last post got so much activity & my husband agrees with me I want to know if you think I’m the asshole here.
I planned my first ultrasound for a Wednesday last week and it was amazing, we got to hear our baby’s heart beat and we will never forget that moment.
Unfortunately, I had to call off of work to ... | YTA
You think basking in the bliss^WTF of your ultrasound is more important than your coworker supporting his wife through surgery, so instead you just dumped everything on your coworkers, and screwed up the schedule for the veterinary practice's surgeries, which will have affected all of the patients and their owner... |
Me - 30 year old man
Her - 26 year old woman
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Me and my girlfriend has been together for 8 years, and our relationship is nontraditonal. I've taught her about the universe, freedom and i've told her that i think marriage is a trap and having kids is not a good future. We still hang out and make love, but... | YTA
You sound absolutely insufferable and I have no idea why she's lasted this long. ###### |
This happened a few minutes ago so it's still fresh on my mind, so I ordered chick fil a for lunch with doordash. So the guy finally arrives and he hands me my bag and instead of my Sprite in the chick fil a cup he hands me a sprite bottle and tells me that when he was driving to my house with my food the top wasn't pu... | YTA
You ordered a Sprite, he brought you a Sprite. I don't see the reason why you need to make this guy's job harder because you can't pull ice out of your freezer. ###### |
Basically my (13M) mother cane out as lesbian after 17 years of marriage with my dad.
She filed for divorce and devastated the whole family, she kept trying to convince me everything will be alright and stuff so I called her the stuff I mentioned in the title,
And now I don’t really want to speak to her anymore, h... | YTA
You need therapy. Your whole family probably needs therapy ###### |
Me and my SO have been together for a year and some change. Have talked about long term goals many times like Getting our own place. But we haven't actively looked at apartments together.
For the past 2 months and half I have been staying at his place for the most part. But technically, I still live at home with paren... | YTA
You making a copy of a key shouldn't be a second thought that you just surprise him with. It's a big deal to have a key to someone's house. I'd recommend giving him the key and apologizing and use that to start a serious conversation about moving in together. ###### |
I’ve been having issues with this woman pandering to my son for years (she has known my son since he was 2) but really only took a stand when she moved in and my ex started relying on her to help out with MY kids (like watching them if he is busy, or asleep as he sleeps early for work). HE is the father and it is his ... | YTA
You literally sound like the stereotype of the bitter, jealous ex who can't let go of a relationship that ended ages ago here. You say she's known your son for two and a half years but call her a "stranger". What kind of mother makes no effort to get to know someone who spends that much time around her child? App... |
So, I’ve been dating H for about six months and everything going great, though if I had to pick on thing to change it would be that she’s a pushover, and can’t say no to anyone. Still when we’re alone or around our friends everything is going really well. The biggest issue is her overly zealous mother, who she was fo... | YTA
You licked her chest at a family get together. Where the hell is that ever appropriate? To make matters worse, you know the family’s morals would contradict that action. It’s not the fact you smeared cake. It’s how you proceed after. I wouldn’t expect the family to “like” you any time soon.
You’re also not an “a... |
So my friend and I have been friends for years. I do appreciate her as a friend but her delusions about herself are extremely frustrating to me. She tells me that she is mistaken for being mixed race, has people ask to photograph her eyes because they're so "blue" and that she has dark skin...
1. I find it to be vain... | YTA
You legit have a post two weeks ago about being ashamed of how beautiful you are. Sounds to me like you can’t stand anyone else who likes their own features.
I’m also going to go and guess your really
Pale friend with definitively not blue eyes isn’t anything of the sort. No super pale people think they are real... |
I was mates with a guy back high school until he got involved with my sister. I will admit he wasn't the greatest of guys at all and was deep into drugs but yet again he was the one she chose to sleep with and fell pregnant. She dropped out of college and left to stay with our aunt out of the county during the pregnanc... | YTA
You know she was pregnant when she left, and you know who she was involved with, but you don't know that your connected dots are correct for sure and there may be other aspects to the story you haven't been made aware of because you have no direct connection to it. You don't know who knows what, who has been told... |
My friend \[17f\] has a somewhat popular instagram account-- think 10-20k followers. She posts a lot of photography/artsy stuff with a few pics of her in cute outfits. Our high school is in her bio (like how people put the acronym of their school and their graduating year) and her photos are all tagged with location, s... | YTA
You have your answer right there towards the end—
“ She doesn't have an obligation to answer him“
She doesn’t owe him anything just because you know him. He took his shot and part of growing up is that some people are going to literally not respond and that’s ok! Life goes on, more girls to DM! No one owes a s... |
My BF recently lost his dog of 17.5 years. He’s been in mourning and having a horrible time getting over it, so last week I got him a puppy to surprise him.
Well he wasn’t mean but he did tell me off.
He told me dogs shouldn’t be surprises and if I had told him he would have wanted to be apart of the selection proces... | YTA
You have to be ready for another dog to cone into your life, I would have hated it if someone had sprung a puppy into me when I was grieving the loss of my dog.
Also, I’m kinda with him on the pug thing, I’m not keen either. Sure you didn’t just do this because you wanted a pug? ###### |
The title probably screams NTA, but before you judge him hear my story.
I (f24) cook dinner for my boyfriend (m26) almost every night and he does the dishes, so we have a good system going. I usually try to make something that we can both enjoy, but I have one dish that I love eating and used to make a lot before we m... | YTA
You got something you really wanted, he got something that he really wanted. Why did he have to cook? Getting take out in that scenario is perfectly acceptable ###### |
So my step daughter (20) moved in with me, my husband (her father) and our two children (13F & 15M) at the start of lockdown because I don’t know, she wanted to. She’s was adopted by my husband and his ex wife because her biological mom died when she was almost 5, and had been a druggie and things like that. She ... | YTA
You go to your mother-daughter walks several times a week and the one time your stepdaughter wanted to join you said no? She clearly wanted to spend time with you and you coldly rejected her. And reading between the lines it seems that your attitude towards her is generally cold. I feel bad for the stepdaughter. ... |
So my wife dyed her hair today. While I normally like dyed hair on other people, I have a hard time enjoying it on her. For some reason I just really don’t like that she had tattoos and that she dyed her hair.
The thought of it makes me visibly upset. She already told me she won’t get any more tattoos, but near the s... | YTA
You don’t have to like it but if it’s affecting your relationship, that’s on you. You should love someone no matter what, but especially when they are happy. If she is happy with dyed hair, and you don’t love her when she is free, happy, and expressing herself, who/what do you really love then? You say you want h... |
My 16yo son has always HATED school. He does well, but is bored. His counselor suggested taking short-term elective summer classes. Those classes would count towards his high school credits when he starts his senior year. His counselor also suggested taking community college courses that would satisfied required classe... | YTA
You don't think he is ready? I think you aren't ready. ###### |
I know the title makes it sound worse than it is, bear with me. Also throwaway because my partner uses reddit. Obligatory comment re: formatting because I'm on mobile etc.
I (27F) have a mild dairy allergy, it usually manifests as sniffles, I generally have a chronic runny nose or some sort of cough. I get very frequ... | YTA
You don't have to be this way, but you're choosing it by eating foods your allergic too.
Especially right now with the current crisis, a compromised immune system leaves you as high risk if you catch it, to have terrible complications.
>But I love cheese and I love ice cream so here I am
There is no substitute... |
I'm American, of mostly Irish or German descent i dont know nor do i really give a shit. I went to University in Poland and Lithuania and I speak both languages and know the countries really well since i spent a lot of time there.
I am back in the US at the moment and I was at a work event and everyone had name tags.... | YTA
You do realize he learned how to talk and say his name from the people he got his last name from?
Who are you to correct someone on their own name? If anyone knows how to say their own name it's the person that has carried it their entire life. ###### |
This happened back in February and I really don't think it was that big a deal, but my gf still brings it up whenever she's annoyed with me.
For my birthday, my gf offered to take me and my best friend out for dinner. She said she would pay for everything, as her treat.
Our city has a very hole-in-the-wall type plac... | YTA
You could have checked that place out literally any night with your friend and without your girlfriend.
How do you think it was acceptable to eat in front of her when there wasn’t even a single side dish she could snack on? She had to watch you assholes eat, pay for your meals and then figure out something else... |
For some context, my fiance and I live together in a one bedroom apartment. With quarantine, I've been working from home, and he's been working the overnight shift. As a result, we're always together for all but a few hours of the day. This has been really wearing on me.
Today, a package I ordered arrived, and he i... | YTA
You caused a fight because you didn’t want to take the time to say “it’s water flavor drops” which takes less than two seconds to do. ###### |
I’m going to try to keep this short. I have a 19yo cousin who has never had a job, doesn’t go to school and has severe anxiety. I bring her around my boyfriend and our friends a lot to help with her loneliness. She eventually started talking to my boyfriends band mate. I told calmly told her how I didn’t like that beca... | YTA
You can't set boundaries on someone else's friendship!
Listen to yourself
>I bring her around my boyfriend and our friends a lot to help with her loneliness.
So, originally you encouraged friendship
>She eventually started talking to my boyfriends band mate. I told calmly told her how I didn’t like that be... |
I had 3 kids before getting married my husband has none. We just had our first child together and I got on birth control soon after birth without telling my husband.
He loves our/my kids but wants more but I don't. He also the sole provider and I'm a stay at home mom. AITA for "trying to conceive" knowing it ain't gon... | YTA
You can't just be misleading. You guys have to get on the same page here, and you can't do that if you're lying to him.
You have EVERY RIGHT to take birth control, but pretending to be trying for another kid when you're really not is why you're the asshole.
Again, you DO NOT need his permission to take birth co... |
So I am 19 Male. I am away from college but I am still financially dependent on my parents they pay for my college they pay for my car insurance my gas for my car and give me a month spending budget of 600 a month. Well when I found out that I wasn't getting a stimulus check because my mom claimed me on her taxes last ... | YTA
You can't have the perks of dependency and the perks of independency at the same time. ###### |
Our son is 1. Recently he’s stopped sleeping through the night. Previously he’d wake once or twice and was generally easy to drop back off again. We didn’t do any sleep training or anything, he just sort of did it himself.
For the past few weeks this has increased to 4-5 wake ups. We’re exhausted and don’t even have ... | YTA
You can't decide in the middle of the night when it's your turn to keep the baby happy and asleep that you aren't going to do that anymore.
Is there anything wrong with letting your kid self soothe ? Of course not but the way you went about it was messed up. ###### |
My boyfriend had passed away due to heath complications and I have been crying ever since. My son hasn't really shown any emotion to his passing but I thought that he was just holding it in, so yesterday I called my son downstairs and asked him to talk. I told him that he doesn't have to hold in his emotions about him ... | YTA
You asked, he answered. You can’t tell someone how to feel.
Be careful invalidating this. You will soon teach your son to lie to you about how he’s feeling.
Respect his feelings. ###### |
So I (22F) decided to start an OnlyFans during quarantine and asked my boyfriend (22M) for his opinion. He said he would feel uncomfortable if I started one and that he didn’t want me to do it.
I asked him why and he said that he was allowed to feel uncomfortable about his girlfriend taking pics of her naked body for... | YTA
You asked his opinion. He told you how he (quite reasonably) felt about it.
Posing nude for strangers may not be a big deal for you, but it may be a relationship dealbreaker for him. That's not him being controlling, or necessarily even being insecure. That's a reasonable standard a lot of people have in... |
So I (22F) decided to start an OnlyFans during quarantine and asked my boyfriend (22M) for his opinion. He said he would feel uncomfortable if I started one and that he didn’t want me to do it.
I asked him why and he said that he was allowed to feel uncomfortable about his girlfriend taking pics of her naked body for... | YTA
You asked his opinion and now you're berating him for it.
When BF leaves you, know it's your fault. ###### |
My daughter's fourth birthday was today and a few of our family members dropped off gifts since we couldn't do a face-to-face celebration. One of the gifts was a Barbie; her first Barbie.
I'm a white dude in his late 20s, I know nothing about Barbie but I have the naive notion that a girl's first Barbie is something s... | YTA
You are making way to big a deal out of this.
My favorite Barbie was a Hawaiian Barbie. Her black hair was magnificent. I am neither Hawaiian nor black haired. ###### |
I always thought my neighbor, we'll call him Dave was a great guy. He's retired even though he's in his fifties and oftentimes when I get home he'll be sitting in a lawn chair in his front yard drinking scotch. We'd usually shoot the shit for a while and he started bringing out an extra glass for me.
Anyway, I knew h... | YTA
You are assuming he is a pervert because he has a younger Thai wife...
Asian people are on average smaller than Caucasians, so her height and weight aren't indicators here of anything inappropriate. ###### |
I (37f) am going through a very nasty divorce with my husband (40m). We have a 13 year old daughter.
2 months ago my husband was at his parents house. I went to a bar and had a one night stand for reasons I wont state here. He found out and immediately filed for a divorce and didn't give me time to explain (which I a... | YTA
You allowed your 13 year old child spread rumors about her father, causing him to lose friends and joint custody of his daughter. This is beyond an asshole move. This is something very cynical and evil. ###### |
I love my wife, I really do. We’ve been married since we were 19, together since we were thirteen and have three children together. Our eldest is a thirteen year old girl, and we have two boys aged 7 and 5. Our sons are pretty much carbon copies of me, whereas our daughter is the carbon copy of her mother.
My wife has... | YTA
You \*know\* these are not things that are within anyone's control. It's not your wife's fault she has ADHD, or that it took so long for everyone to figure out what was going on with her.
You should be the first person to have \*more\* compassion and patience for your daughter. Instead you are saying she's 'brok... |
My boyfriend has very long hair. To keep it out of his face while he is at work and to keep comfortable he wears bandannas. to put it simply: he wears them too much. I told him I wanted them to stay in his locker at work or in his truck. He told me that he enjoys wearing them around the house and when he is doing yard ... | YTA
WTF does it matter? Is his comfort not important to you?
You’re controlling and have no right to throw out his stuff. ###### |
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