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My fiancée I always knew isn’t the strongest person, she struggles to open jars and lift stuff sometimes, but that never seemed like too much of an issue.
Last week I was watching one of those stupid videos where the guy does 50 push ups a day for a month. My fiancée sat down next to me and commented how impressive it... | YTA
Why is it so important that she can do pushups? ###### |
I have a son [16M] and a daughter [15F]. In the same weekend, my son was broken up with by his girlfriend and my daughter was broken up with by her boyfriend. They were very upset. Since they were going through the same thing, they decided to be there for the other and spend more time together. They are spending all da... | YTA
Why are you sexualising your children's sibling relationship? You should be pleased they are close enough to be of comfort to each other when they're having a bad time, not projecting weird shit on them. ###### |
My fiancée is 7 months pregnant. Pretty exciting and everything's been going according to plan with no complications. Only problem is that my beloved fiancée has the world's weirdest cravings and when they hit, she becomes crazy until she gets it and then she wouldn't eat it saying it's disgusting. Between that, consta... | YTA
What the actual fuck, man? You up and left your heavily pregnant fiancée for a week with a *note*? I understand you're stressed, but you're not the one growing a damn human in your body. What you do if you need a break is TALK to her, not peace out for days on end. I can't imagine how she must have felt waking up... |
So I met this girl through an online video game we both play. We've been talking on and off for about five years now. Here's the thing though, although we've talked for this long, I have only seen maybe a handful of pictures of her. I've reverse image searched the ones I've had and it doesn't return any results, but st... | YTA
What reasons do you have for not respecting the personal boundaries she has clearly set? How does her appearance change your relationship in any way? Why do you feel she owes you anything more? ###### |
I have been running around a lot lately amd my hamstrings are getting kinda tight. I was stretching them in my backyard in a sports bra + shorts. When I was turning over I noticed the neighbour looking out his window at me. As soon as he saw me look he left the window. The next time I looked he was back when he noticed... | YTA
Unless it’s a pattern, he could have literally been cleaning the windows and looking outside and saw you.
You’re causing extra drama by involving more people.
Talk directly to the people who are potentially offending you and clear up any misunderstandings or make clear what is appropriate or not. ###### |
So let me give you some background. My (49M) daughter (19F) came out to me a couple of months ago as bisexual and, I was very supportive of her. I made sure to tell her that i loved her no matter what, The other day, though, she put a post on Facebook telling everyone! I told her that I wished that she would have told ... | YTA
This is HER identity and it is 100% her choice how and when she chooses to come out and to whom. Stop making this about yourself. “One of the worst things that’s ever been done” to you? Congratulations on your extremely sheltered life. ###### |
2 years ago I needed a kidney transplant due to kidney failure and my brother said he would donate one of his. So long story short he gets his kidney removed and I get my surgery, that should be the end of it right? Wrong because after my recovery (They visited me in the hospital btw) my family comes to visit me and I ... | YTA
This has to be a troll. It wasn’t even a creepy joke. Dude literally gave you a kidney and you ghosted him. ###### |
Some background - I (19f) have been staying with my brother -B- (23m) and his long term boyfriend -K- (25m) for the time being for obvious reasons. My only other option was going home to our parents who I don't get along with.
Since living with them I've noticed a few things. Like when my brother cooks he always sets ... | YTA
They are in a relationship, it's perfect normal to do things for your significant other like make thier lunch or do thier laundry.
You are a house guest and even if you paid rent, are not entitled to laundry service. Hes doing his laundry as a nice gesture for his partner, not because he is incapable. You asking... |
Hi - honestly I'm a bit lost and confused here, but please hear me out.
I (25M) started taking dating apps seriously a few months ago. Anyone familiar with these kind of apps will know that it's a lot harder for guys than girls. I know for a fact that several female friends of mine have hundreds of matches whereas I (... | YTA
The right answer: hey I love video games, do you?
The wrong answer: so remember that halo fan art you did when you were 11 ###### |
I'm male, so is my friend. We're both straight?
I don't know how best to describe what my friend does but he "non-sexually fetishizes" homosexual men. He thinks the epitome of masculinity a lot of homosexual men encompass. Things like leather, bears, etc. He tries to put himself into this subculture even if he's strai... | YTA
the dude is gay or bi and figuring himself out.
just because he's "successful" with women doesn't make him straight.
the dude is attracted to men in some fashion. like, honestly, i can't see why you think he's 100% straight after everything you just said.
leave him be, jesus christ. ###### |
So I dated this girl briefly for 2-3 weeks two years ago. We went to 4-5 dates so I thought everything was going fine, she had already come to my place etc. But one day, she suddenly blocked me from everything without saying anything. I honestly was really disappointed and blamed myself, but I didn't try contacting her... | YTA
The correct response to why you couldn't interview her was,"we briefly dated." Not to smear her character. ###### |
I work in an office job (currently WFH now but still applicable). I am frequently bombarded with nonsensical and vague requests with unrealistic deadlines. I am in a customer-service type role, although the 'customers' are people from work, so I'm not dealing with the general public.
I finally got sick of the constant... | YTA
That response is unprofessional as hell. You should never have an auto-responder for all emails unless you're out of the office. And internal clients are still clients. You're expected to maintain a minimal level of professionalism even with your coworkers, and this ain't professional.
If you refuse to change... |
A friend of mine started dating this girl, they are long distance. Now I love my friend he is a super talented engineer but he is a bit socially stupid. He hasn't dated any girls before and now started dating a girl that is nothing but red flags. She is a single mom and the way she describes her life as if she is a per... | YTA
That is entirely untrue. Like 100% bullshit. I have spent over $50 at CVS many many times and I’ve never had need for Plan B. Like the only good thing about working from home is I’m not popping down to CVS wasting all my money like I used to. (There was one in my building.)
Shampoo and conditioner and some mois... |
For the past few months I’ve been going on a few (okay lots) of Tinder dates. I’m single minded and I’d like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. One specific date I went on upset a few of my friends and they’ve since started calling me “Uber”.
I invited a gentleman to meet me for a drink. We’d been cha... | YTA
Tell him whenever you like, but escorting him out of the restaurant like you were continuing the date was a nasty move. If you’re not on a date together anymore, he gets to decide on his own when to leave. ###### |
My (f30) brother (40) met his wife (38) in college, they got married 10 years ago and now have two kids (f8 and m6). I never liked her much because I’ve always felt she’s just with him for his money, and I’ll explain why. They both finished their degrees but she never got a job out of it, he did. He earns a good salary... | YTA
Sounds like you are jealous of her. And you don't know what's going on in their lives, for all you know they could be having a health scare or just struggling with Covid, like most of us are! ###### |
I am honestly so heart broken right now. I can’t believe this is actually happening.
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I’ve been dating my ex for 3 months. The last month we had multiple arguments and I decided to break up with him. None of us were really hurt by it since he also stopped having feelings for me.
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1 week aft... | YTA
Soooo... before you even started dating him, your friend told you up front that she had a crush on him. And YET you chose to hook up with him and cut her out. Did she badmouth you online when you basically jumped on her crush? Or did she do the respectful thing and keep her mouth shut? Sounds like she did the lat... |
Yesterday while I was taking it easy in the backyard with a beer, my son (17) standing by the backdoor and ask what’s for dinner, I didn’t feel like cooking anything. I had got a good price on Boston Butt, so I told him to take that.
Later I noticed that he hadn’t touched it, so I went to his room to ask him. He said ... | YTA
So, let’s get this straight, your son has an issue with seeing blood that has been ongoing and originated with his injury. Instead of talking with him, seeking some counseling, or trying to explore why your son is in pain, embarrassed, and avoiding normal parts of his former life, you choose to just tell him to “... |
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So, the other day I was doing a group video call with 4 of my friends. One of them adds his girlfriend to the chat, and at one point she comments that she’s been feeling a little rundown lately.
I laughed and joked that she’d probably feel better if she ate normal food instead of bat soup. Everyo... | YTA
So you made a racist comment because:
>(she looked Asian, the virus came from wild animal markets, etc etc)
And you're wondering if you're the asshole? What a douche. ###### |
Throw away account because my family is on reddit.
On my cell so please ignore any spelling/grammar
Afternoon Assholes,
Some background, my husband & I decided this January that we were going to try to have our first baby. My sister (who is in a lesbian relationship) has also been trying for a baby for about tw... | YTA
Small point to start off with:
> I didn’t want her old used bottles
You know you can *clean* things right? Or do you just smash your plates after every meal and buy new ones?
Onto the major point:
> “I’m about to be a REAL mom. I don’t want any of your hand-me-downs” ... But it’s true. She isn’t a real mom & ... |
I am a fourteen year old guy.
My birthday is in sixteen days, and my mom is asking for birthday ideas. (Where we should go, what I want, etc)
It’s quite obvious I can’t go to the local amusement park like I wanted. Last year, instead of asking for a gift, I asked if a friend and I could go there. It was really fun, so... | YTA
Simply put dude, dirt bikes can be tough to find reliable and affordable. With pets, there is a lot of care that goes into them, even for cats. Perhaps your mom has reason for the cat like your place of living doesn't allow them or maybe she doesn't like them. Yes its your present but she still has to deal with t... |
The title says it. My fiance wants to open another account for "safety" when i asked her to give me more details about it she said that in case something happens she has savings.
At first i thought it was weird since we already have plenty of money and we have been saving together for a while now but then i looked it ... | YTA
Simply having your own bank account for savings doesn't mean she doesn't believe in you. But the fact is you can never predict how relationships will turn out. It's not like that money is going anywhere if you two go the distance, but in the event that things do go south she'll have her own little nest egg to kee... |
Throwaway etc.
We don’t live together but I spend nearly 5 nights a week at his place which is a lot bigger and nicer than mine. I live with roommates so it’s not as convenient for him to come over.
So recently every time he realizes I’m on my period he’ll change ALL of his bed sheets to a much cheaper set of sheet... | YTA
Sheets are expensive and it’s not like he’s shaming you. He’s changing the sheets himself and everything. Are you that intent on bleeding on his nice, expensive sheets? Are you willing to pay to replace them? ###### |
Clear throwaway, I’m bored at work so I wanna post this issue I had with my gf last year, as it caused a bit of a divide amongst friends who had different opinions on the subject.
I’m from Chicago, a 19 year old male, and have been going to a certain very popular music festival in the city. Such a bummer we won’t hav... | YTA
She's right...what's the difference to a bikini?
Also...you do not own her, she is not your property, you don't get to control what she does or how she looks
It is entirely up to her what she wears. ###### |
Dating for 5 and a half years, living together for 2.
My girlfriend and I both work. I work a standard 9-5 mon-fri while she works 3 days a week, around 45 hours and studies from home for the moment due to the pandemic. So she's home 4 days a week, so obviously she cooks dinner. What's driving me nuts is that she w... | YTA
She works a full time job and studies, you also have a full time job, so the work load should be equal and you should be cooking too, not just her
You should be grateful that she willingly cooks for you, and hasn't called you out on not contributing. If you are that desperate for meat, take over cooking
Also:
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My wife and I have been together for five years, married for three. Everything in our relationship is great, she’s the best partner I’ve ever had which makes this situation even harder for me. Since the start we’ve always split everything 50/50. Dates, bills, rent. I’ve never paid for her but she has paid for me someti... | YTA
She is contributing more proportionately to the household.
She's better off on her own. ###### |
My wife and I have two children, 4, almost 5, and 6.
We’re expecting our third and final child in 3 weeks, her entire pregnancy was exhausting but it’s worse now that she’s closer to giving birth, she spent most of her pregnancy on bed rest as it’s high risk, it was the same with our youngest.
We had a family meal pl... | YTA
She is building an entire human out of her own body's energy and resources and you're calling her lazy? Holy shit man. ###### |
Ok, so I have a few different properties just all over the place, most of them are empty or I rent them out for next to nothing (I’m not big on the idea of making money being a landlord). Anyway, I had a girlfriend for a short time, and things didn’t work out but I said she could live in an apartment I own for as long ... | YTA
She hasn't done anything to warrant being kicked out. Doing this to her contradicts you "doing something nice" for someone else. Especially in the middle of a pandemic. WTF
Also like others have said legally you may be in the wrong as well. ###### |
I (20M) went for dinner with my family (parents in their 50s) right before the lockdown. Anyway, there was a fairly attractive waitress (looked to be in her 20s) serving us.
Afterwards, she left her phone number for me with a smiley face saying she found me cute.
For several reasons, I was quite irritated by this. ... | YTA
She didn't pressure you or push it. She left her number so that the ball was entirely in your court. Instead you humiliated her and got her fired. It was a huge escalation of a minor thing. If it truly made you upset then you should have said something directly to her instead of calling over a manager and then mo... |
Using an old throwaway for this. My sister is pregnant and announced the name of her baby on Facebook. She told our family group chat the gender but didn't mention anything about his name.
The problem is that it is the same name of my ex boyfriend who I dated for 4 years. We ended on pretty bad terms and my family sa... | YTA
She can name HER baby anything she wants. Not your kid, not your say. Her kid has nothing to do with your breakup. Suck it up and deal. ###### |
My last experience in this sub was bad but let’s try again. I (27M) have recently start working at a grocery store. My coworker (we’ll call her Kira) is pretty chill and we’ve become friends lately.
Kira loves trying new stuff with her hair and she’s had a lot of free time lately due to obvious reasons. She has been ... | YTA
She asked you if short hair would suit her.
There’s four answers to that - yes, no, maybe or I don’t know.
You disregarded her question, insulted her hair and are somehow confused as to why that would be received badly? ###### |
This happened a few months ago in January, and I still feel kinda conflicted over this.
I have a mutual friend let’s call H. I don’t how his guy has so many friends, he’s not a bad guy, he seems like a very naive and gullible guy but I find his personality to be quite strange. Most of his personality and interests and... | YTA
OP: 'You shouldn't be such a brainwashed sheep-slave'
Also OP: 'Just change your entire personality and everything you enjoy based on my opinion'' ###### |
To preface, I’m the father of a beautiful 3 year old girl whose mother and I are no longer together. Although my daughter is my world, I hope to be remarried in the future and have more children because I always saw myself having a lot of kids. The other day, I made a comment while on the phone to my friend which I hon... | YTA
OP, I hope you know that studies have shown that gender stereotyping is also linked to environmental and social factors. Although I'm only a semester away from my BA in Psychology and will be going for my PsyD shortly after, I have also taken a few childhood development classes. So I figured I'd share with you so... |
Ill try to make this brief.
My grandma is in her late 60s, was diagnosed with MS 40 years ago. She has difficulty speaking and holding conversations and recently has been showing signs of deterioration.
She had 18 cats when she burned her house down and 13 passed. She had to give up 3 living ones aland was allowed... | YTA
Not for the last choice, that doesn’t matter. But please, please do not give a kitten to an elderly woman who cannot be a responsible cat owner. Kittens require so much care, and she’s already started a house fire. It’s not her fault but she cannot be responsible for another living being. ###### |
So my fiancée hates her parents. They were awful people who ended up getting her kicked out of a prestigious university by having her arrested (charges were dropped but the university still wouldn't accept her readmission).
I don't think they're good people but they've recently been trying to make amends but my fiancé... | YTA
Not for accepting help, but for not communicating any of it with your fiancée. This should have been a decision made between the both of you, not just one person.
It's great and all that you've been talking to them, but lets be real, it's only for the money is it not? I get that times are tough and it seemed li... |
Me (28F) and my gf (26F) had been planning of getting married (as soon as the quarantine ends), but because of an argument we had these plans are on hold.
First some backstory. My MIL is very homophobic and tries to undermine my marriage every chance she can get. When we are with her, she barely interacts with me, onl... | YTA
Not because of the wedding but because you disagreed over something so you started screaming at your fiancée? Seriously? How is that in any way the right thing to do?
I get that you don’t like your MIL, but you do realise that if you carry on behaving like this you don’t need to worry about her, because you won’... |
Well the issue arose when My boyfriend found those texts out.We have each others know codes for emergencies and all and it wasn't an issue until he brought this up and the only way he could've known is if he went through my texts . it showed that he didnt respect my privacy. However the texts were just me and my frien... | YTA
Normally I'm one of those people who thinks that snooping in someone's phone is so egregious it automatically makes them the asshole.
You however, have actually done something that is such a dick move that it overrides my normal phone snooping response.
*Do not shit talk to your friends about your boyfriend's d... |
My boyfriend and I have had conflicts recently because of my singing. I sang for him once. Last week I asked him why he never asks me to sing. He said you can sing if you want. It felt like he wasn’t that into it.
Then a few days ago I mentioned to him again he never asks me to sing. I would’ve thought he would’ve wan... | YTA
My partner is the lead singer in a band. And while I think he's a great singer I dont request that he sing for me. That's pretty strange. He'll occasionally ask me to listen to something he's working on and get my opinion. But I wouldn't ask him to perform just for me.
I don't think your boyfriend has any probl... |
The title says it all really. My son (16) got angry at us for allowing his sister who is twelve to have more digital freedom (more screen time, less content blocking, less privacy checks) because she gets better grades than he does. He believes it's favouritism, which I disagree with, as it's the me and my husband get ... | YTA
My mom did this shit to my brother all the time. She threatened to drop him off at orphanages, send him to our Dad, kick him out. Eventually he left. He does not speak to her. It's been over a decade and she did it to herself. This is your son. Stop acting like he's disposable. ###### |
The title says it all. My wife has very visible acne scars. Obviously, I love her all the same, and I find her stunningly beautiful - but ofc I'd prefer her without the scars. I never told her that because she can't make them go away and it'd be pointlessly rude, of course.
When we go out, my wife wears some makeup, a... | YTA
My god. Why would you marry a woman when you prefer her face to not look like her actual face?
I feel so bad for you poor wife. She deserves so much better.
Edit:
Your edit is...wow. Let’s give you a medal for marrying a woman with acne scars, shall we?
What a brave soul to look past her scars despite being ... |
Ok so to begin this let's just call my mom and stepdad my parents because that's easier and almist correct anyway. My parents are in their 30s so it's not unexpected that they still do it.
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night at like 01 or something. I didn't check but it was late. I obviously got out of my... | YTA
Mild, you know why. But let me tell you, people continue to fuck well into their 80s, so also don't linger in grandma's bedroom at night. ###### |
My girlfriend (21f) and I (20m) have been together about 6 months now. I met her at university but live about three hours away in a really small town. She was visiting at the time lockdown happened, so has been staying with my family and I. It’s been great and my family love her.
With restrictions being eased, my hom... | YTA
Man, what a douchy thing to do. I can really imagine her feeling unbelievably panicked, terrified while falling into the water (especially if she didn't know how deep it is) and totally embarrassed and hurt by your actions.
She's supposed to be able to trust you, and it was in front of people she is meeting for ... |
It’s getting into summer now and (lockdown permitting), my 13 year old son likes to see his friends for sleepovers at their houses (and sometimes they come and stay at our place)?
My son can’t get to sleep in pajamas (he says they’re too restrictive), so he just sleeps in his boxers and shirtless, which is what I had... | YTA
Liberal in your own home is fine. Expectations that whatever goes at yours is acceptable in *someone else's home*, not fine.
If he is sleeping at someone else's house, he should follow their rules (not yours).
It's not unreasonable to expect a 13 year old to wear more than just boxers *at someone else's house.*... |
I (50M) and my wife(45F) have a daughter (16f). A few months ago she was kicked out of school for involving in a fight with a fellow classmate. We tried to send her to counselling , but she refused. She has been repeatedly rude to us for not fault of ours. We did not even ground her after she was kicked out of school.I... | YTA
Let's get this straight, you completely failed at disciplining your child in more conventional and constructive ways, not even grounding her after she got kicked out of school for fighting.
So then to overcompensate you turned the dial to 11 and got rid of a beloved pet?
If this is in anyway demonstrative of yo... |
So first of all its fine that my husband likes the color rainbow and I have no doubt that he is straight, but I'm afraid he will be judged by random people who will most likely think he is gay and talk shit about him. I've known this since day one and I have never really cared since he only really revealed that to my f... | YTA
Let the man wear what he wants. *His own words say it all*: "You know? I am getting tired of being secretive about what color I like, who cares its a color! People who make fun of you for dumb things like that are irrelevant and not worth my time." ###### |
My boyfriend had passed away due to heath complications and I have been crying ever since. My son hasn't really shown any emotion to his passing but I thought that he was just holding it in, so yesterday I called my son downstairs and asked him to talk. I told him that he doesn't have to hold in his emotions about him ... | YTA
Just because you thought he was like a father figure doesn't mean your son saw him that way. And he shouldn't be punished for not being sad about him passing away. I'm so sorry for your loss OP but don't punish your son because your trying to project your grief onto him. ###### |
So this past week it was that time of the month again. Sometimes mine are really bad and last more than a week. It was that way this time. Well my husband had been in the bathroom for a really long time. I knocked and he said he’d be out soon. I tried to open the door and to my surprise it was unlocked. I walked in at ... | YTA
Just because you are in a relationship with someone, doesn’t mean you get to dictate whether or not they masturbate.
This seems like very controlling behavior. ###### |
So some context, me (26m) and my gf(25f) were talking tonight about her childhood. She was watching a video on childhood ptsd and I was kind of eaves dropping in on it.
Now she had an awful childhood filled with abuse of various kinds. She’s always seemed rather tolerant to life despite this and seems to be indenial ... | YTA
Jesus fucking Christ, you're not her therapist. It's not your place to open her up to try to diagnose her and "press buttons" attempting to saw open an emotional wound when she's giving you clear signals she doesn't want to talk about it. I am horrified by your behavior here. And then, without ANY indication that... |
I (18f) has a boyfriend “Ed” (18m) who has a childhood friend “Kate” (18f) who he’s always hanging out with. Kate is friends with almost all of his friends, and lives next door to Ed, so she was almost always around while Ed and I were dating. I got jealous of her. She knows Ed a lot better than I did, is friendlier wi... | YTA
It’s pretty normal for a babysitter to contact the family when a child that wasn’t sick becomes sick. You turned that into her being stupid. Then you turned your bf being reasonable into him fucking her.
You’re insecure and your ex bf is a hero for not putting up with your shit. ###### |
Right so here goes - I'm 17 M and I live at home with my parents and my younger sister.
It was my Dad's birthday a few days ago and he turned 55. My mum was joking around about him being old and my Dad said something like "yeah well in two years you'll be 50" as like a joke as well. And that's when it hit me that m... | YTA
It’s ok to find it odd, or not want to have such an age gap in your own relationships, but to be annoyed that your mum didn’t “give you a younger dad” is so weird it’s actually laughable. Things were different 30-40 years ago and it clearly worked out if they’re still happily together so why make a fuss? ###### |
So my friend rents a room in my house. The woman he had slept with a few times calls him up and says she just found out she's four months pregnant.
He very suddenly moved her into his room. They go to PP to get an abortion and she tells him she got an ultrasound and she is actually 7 months and can't get an abortion.
... | YTA
It's none of your business. If you don't want her there, and have control over who can stay or not, then evict her/them. If not, suck it up until you can get another place.
You may or may not be correct about this. Some of your reasons are valid. Others, well they frankly make you sound like a very young, uninf... |
So around when my son was 10 or 11 I told my wife that I thought he would be gay when he was older. (Or was already gay I reckon since you are born with a sexuality.) She thought I was being ridiculous. Now I want to make sure I say, neither me and my wife are bigots, neither of us care at all if our kids are gay or st... | YTA
It was a silly bet, which she probably thought was a joke and you've made it into a whole big thing. You should have just let it go. ###### |
I have a son [16M] and a daughter [15F]. In the same weekend, my son was broken up with by his girlfriend and my daughter was broken up with by her boyfriend. They were very upset. Since they were going through the same thing, they decided to be there for the other and spend more time together. They are spending all da... | YTA
It sounds like they have a wonderful relationship and are really supportive of one another because they're going through the same experience. I think you're reading too much into this. ###### |
My wife and I have a 6yo son. I grew up racing dirt bikes from the age of 5 and never stopped. My son has been asking to get one so I talked to my wife about it and she said no because it’s “too dangerous”.
Yeah you are bound to fall and break bones, but racing teaches you to not give up, and it’s a lot of fun, and m... | YTA
It doesn’t matter whose opinion about dirt biking is correct, that’s not how you coparent and that’s not how you have a healthy marriage. ###### |
So my friend (we'll call him Nick) has a new girlfriend (we'll call her Amy) who's a professional cosplayer. I've met her a few times and she seems nice and he really likes her. I follow Amy online (on my sort of anime fan twitter, not the one with my name on it) and she does a lot of good cosplays, so I tend to check ... | YTA
If you're not comfortable with her knowing you're subscribed, then you probably shouldn't be. ###### |
So I (24M) have two female friends, C (25F) and E (24F), whom I haven't seen since the plague. The three of us started to organize a small get together for the 3 of us. I suggested going to the local pool, should the weather allow it. E told me bluntly and explicitly that she's having her period at that time, but whate... | YTA
If you think a woman saying "I have my period" is TMI, please don't ever get into a relationship with a woman, you won't survive the bloodshed. ###### |
So, just to preface, my younger sisters (16&13 respectfully) eat all the 'normal' kinds of meat - sausages, bacon, steak, etc. However, my dad asked me to cook a stew and I'd never tried lamb's heart before (my dad has and absolutely enjoys it, so had no issue, but knew my sisters would refuse to even try it), so w... | YTA
If you knew they wouldn't eat it, that should have been a clue.
I'm all for trying new foods, but if someone doesn't want to try something you shouldn't force them too, much less lie and say it's something else. ###### |
So I’m getting married July 21st
(Corona be dammed, I’ll get married if I want) and for my wedding party, I have my bestie, my future sister in law, and my little sister(14). Now I am getting married to a poc, whose family all has this brown hair. My family also has very curly brown hair( not a Afro or anything just ve... | YTA
if this is even real
" I told her if she loved me then she’d do it" Most sentences that start with " if you loved me..." go on with some ridiculous demand. It's her hair and she gets to wear it the way she wants. You can uninvite her from your wedding if thats what you think but that would mean you love your wed... |
Throwaway. This took place awhile ago but the fallout is still hot. My father had health problems for the last few years and he recently succumbed to them.. During this time my brother had gotten married and was on his honeymoon.
I made the choice to be the one to inform my brother of the news. Our mother died years a... | YTA
If the timeline worked out in such a way where you could keep this from him, but he'd get back before the funeral, I'd probably let you slide. But making him miss the funeral is pretty much unforgivable. ###### |
Yesterday me and my girlfriend were talking, we got to Chinese names because I remembered how I had two friends who had the same name as me and said how I liked the system for names in China better because basically you have way more options what to name your kid.
So she said how she likes it too and how the name is o... | YTA
If she's perfectly fine to you, why make a joke like that in the first place? You could have made any other name suggestion, but you decided to go with 'big breasts' and honestly didn't expect it to be offensive? Nah bro, she has every right to be mad at you. ###### |
So unfortunately my mother died a couple weeks ago. I am still in shock and in the process of grieving. My aunt is someone my siblings and I all love and have a great relationship with. I brought up to my siblings about how they felt having someone whom looks exactly like my mother at her funeral and we agreed we'd fee... | YTA
I'm very sorry for your loss. But, you have to remember that this is your mother's sister, she has known you mother her whole life, they literrally shared a womb. How would you feel if you were in her shoes and suddenly you're being told you can't say goodbye to your sibling because your presence would make other... |
My (36M) wife (25F) of two years is pregnant with our first-born child. We've been together for five years. She is 18 weeks pregnant right now. She's a great woman usually . Kind, loyal, and homely. However, I am scared and a bit annoyed by how reckless I've seen her be while pregnant with our child.
First of all... | YTA
I'm not even gonna get into the half of it. ...exercise during pregnancy is fine at the same level prior to pregnancy unless there are negative indicators or a high risk pregnancy
Grocery shopping is fine
Working is fine ..do you expect her to give up all of her independence purely because she is pregnant. Is... |
Bit of a long story but need to post here as we are both completely convinced we are not TA in this situation.
So I went to a rave recently with a group of friends and not my GF. About a week or two after this rave I get a message on Facebook from some random girl I’ve never met or seen asking if I was the guy from *na... | YTA
I was going to write out the reasons you are an asshole, but then I saw that your gf already told them to you. She's absolutely right about all of them. You are a true asshole. ###### |
I'm the 33YO mother of two daughters, 8YO and 7YO. I have no problem with my children watching almost anything on Disney, Nick, and Boomerang, except I \*\*\*HATE\*\*\* a certain show about a sponge under the sea. I WILL NOT let my daughters watch it.
Apparently, 7YO has somehow been exposed to this painful cartoon an... | YTA
I think you're an asshole for this reason: Thinking that every piece of media should be moral and teaching in an obvious way makes children who don't know how to relax because they have to internally start to criticize everything they are doing. High strung adults come out of that.
That doesn't mean watch it all... |
Okay I know the title sounds crazy, but here's the story.
His grandmother was recently moved into a nursing home, and we've been cleaning up her house. It wasn't nightmarish quite yet but it wasn't good either, lots of dirt, and a rat problem.
There were two recliners that were in pretty bad shape. His grandmother ha... | YTA
I think you showed a distinct lack of care and understanding to his situation and feelings.
While I agree they were disgusting and needed to be thrown away, they weren't really affecting you yet. You had no right doing what you did and disregarding him in what was effectively just a disagreement.
Also, don't fu... |
I pay the internet bill for my household. My internet company lets me sort every Wifi- connected device we have into different profiles. My brother, sister and I each have our own profiles that I can set time limits on. Since we’ve been stuck in the house more than usual these past few months I have set time a daily ti... | YTA
I mean, you wrote it very well to make it look like you are super reasonable, but you are not.
You pay ONE bill in the house, likely one if the cheapest. You then decided that since you pay that bill, the internet now in some way belongs to you, and you get to decide what is appropriate for it's use.
Funny how... |
I have two daughters from a previous marriage, a 6 year old and a 4 year old. Their mother and I separated when my oldest was 2. I don’t see them very often because I work a lot so I get them about once or twice a month from Friday to Saturday.
Recently their mother remarried and the girls live with them and their ha... | YTA
I know it hurts, and I'm sorry bud, but it's not your choice. This isn't about you, it's about that kid and her happiness. Don't be the asshole who fucks that up for her. ###### |
Some background first. My sister is a lesbian. She was closeted for most of her life and ended marrying and divorcing a man. She lived a lie for a long time and it messed her up. My son (14M) came out as gay to me a year ago. My son and I are having video calls with my parents once a week. My son told me that he was go... | YTA
I get you thought you were doing the right thing, and I’m very glad your parents had good reactions and that the relationship between them and your son is good. But you violated your son’s personal information and trust. That was *his* thing to tell. And by running off, something in him wasn’t sure if it was the ... |
Hi everyone! I've been a long-time lurker, but the first-time poster! I (26F) am so excited to marry my fiance (27M) this September! Unfortunately, we've had to postpone our bachelorette/bachelor parties for obvious reasons. Additionally, we may have to have a small ceremony of fewer than 10 people on our wedding date... | YTA
I fail to see how them getting married at a courthouse would upstage your wedding, with a full ceremony? Are we missing something?
I also don't see why the condos, and their locations, matter. ###### |
My grandmother is 90 this year.
I'm 34 and SIL is 30.
My SIL visits my grandmother with her children and my brother three times a week, I visit as much as possible which is usually three times a month but we usually Skype or call at least twice a week, I live further away so it just isnt possible for me to visit as f... | YTA
I don't see any concern for the grandmother in your post.
It doesn't seem like SIL or the care workers are doing anything wrong. The SIL told you about the call and told you about your grandma sound for you. But you are considering changing the care workers -- the only stability your grandmother knows now -- ... |
Due to a fire in my apartment I [30m] temporarily moved in with my girlfriend [29f]. I thought it would be great but it has sucked.
She has really bad insomnia, so getting to sleep and staying asleep. She's been to doctors, and sleep tests, and has tried medication but she says the best solution she's found is sle... | YTA
I cannot stress how much you're TA right now. She's doing you a huge favor, **HUGE** by letting you move in since your place had problems. Not only are you not respecting her concerns and medical condition, you've driven her to sleep on the couch because you don't believe that her concerns are valid enough.
But ... |
Whenever my roommate and I go grocery shopping together I notice that she just puts stuff in her basket without looking at how much things cost.
We were at Whole Foods earlier today and we were in the fridge section and she randomly was adding some stuff to her basket that she wanted to try. I asked her how much it c... | YTA
How the f is it any of your business how much money she spends on her *own* groceries? Goddamn.
Also, just want to point out that you were also shopping at Whole Foods. People on food stamps can't afford to shop there, so aren't you "flaunting your privilege" as well? ###### |
AITA: so I have a teacher coworker who runs in my circles. We get along on the surface but she is extremely gossipy and starts a lot of problems that I have to deal with. Lately, she has been posting photos of herself dressed up... racy. Nothing nudity wise, but tops that are mostly see through, crop tops, super short ... | YTA
How she acts in her personal life is none of your business. How she dresses doesn’t affect her ability to teach, and you had no right to send her profile to HR. You’re a major asshole. ###### |
So I’m 19f and my brother is 18. He was adopted when I was 4 and my parents have been nothing but kind to him. They treat us exactly the same and he knows that they’ve given him a good life with amazing opportunities.
My only issue is that he’s very clingy and too attached. He was ALWAYS like that. For example when w... | YTA
He was adopted into your family - that makes him a true part of your family.
> my parents have been nothing but kind to him.
Of course. He is their son. He may look different on the outside but you are the one who is different on the inside. ###### |
My daughter is 23, mother of two, she’s been driving for a little over a year now.
My daughter loves to speed, her driving honestly terrifies me and I can’t stand being in the car with her despite her claims she drives the speed limit.
Tuesday morning she phoned me, sobbing, claiming a car cut her off and her car is... | YTA
From your responses you admit that she was going 60mph in a 60 zone and that you regularly drive under the speed limit everywhere. It sounds like her claims are in fact correct and you are the one generally driving unsafely because you want to go at a slower speed than most everyone else on the road.
She just ha... |
My daughter (16) has been doing online school. Yesterday, we were going over her grades, and there was a 0 that she “forgot” to tell me about. I have a very low tolerance for lying, so I let her have it.
Today is my birthday, but she also had an AP test today, and she needed plenty of rest. However, this morning, she... | YTA
From the sounds of it, you’re the manipulative one. Your daughter did something nice for you, and you made her regret it. And then you grounded her for the whole summer? You don’t own your child.
It definitely wouldn’t hurt for you guys to see a family therapist because this post exposes a lot of toxic traits be... |
So I'm happily married and the father of two boys. My poor wife lives in a house with a lot of testosterone. She's always taught our boys that girls don't fart, which I think is silly and if she doesn't let up they are going to be very disappointed by their future wives someday. Also I think she just needs to relax abo... | YTA
For all the other reasons already mentioned, but especially for this:
> I apologized, got the kids to stop, and stopped threatening to upload it to Facebook
Way to bury the lede there! You threatened to upload videos of your sleeping wife farting to facebook? What the hell is wrong with you? ###### |
Some background. We are pretty well off financially. Me and my wife still work luckily and have 3 kids the oldest is 18 graduated highschool and the youngest is 13. We told our kids we had rules. If they don’t plan to go to college they are out of the house at 21 and if they do, out of the house by 28 so either way the... | YTA
First of all, nobody likes the fact that a college degree is becoming more and more mandatory to get a job. But that's just how the world works.
Second, you don't give your children different circumstances or ambush them with surprise conditions in the last minute. If your daughter is at a company applying for a... |
Hello, I am writing this because my husband just told me I was the asshole but I strongly disagree.
My son is currently in 8th grade and always tells me about the crazy things students do to each other in his class. While I do believe some were inappropriate, I just took it as they being kids and would hopefully grow ... | YTA
Every teacher knows students call them names behind their back. If youd revealed cheating that would be one thing, but she did not need to be regaled with the specific names/insults these creative teens used. It serves no purpose. ###### |
I (F24) am getting married to the most amazing man this summer - we'll call him Ken (M22). He has invited 2 of his best friends from college, Alex (M23) and Nicole (F22). I have hung out with both Alex and Nicole several times, but Ken is closer to them than I am.
So Ken and I both think our religion is really importa... | YTA
Even if only for thinking it's relevant to say Nicole is "very exotic looking". She's one of your fiance's best friends, he knows her better than you do, and if he's not worried about her wearing something inappropriate, you shouldn't be either. You and your fiance both find your religion to be super important, y... |
Me and my wife are 30s m/f
We have two little girls 12 and 9 and their brother is 7. We also have a dog.
My job recently transitioned to wfh and my wife's job recently became much more demanding (she works outside the home).
I have been dealing with the recent stress by cooking. I enjoyed cooking when I was in c... | YTA
Dude, just do the dishes. You have the luxury to work from home, she doesn't at the moment.
She's probably tired and just wants to relax, not clean up a bunch of dishes she doesn't agree to.
Either do the dishes yourself, since you love to cook so much or just order takeout or frozen stuff. That seems fair. ####... |
My brother has started dating a single mother few months ago.
I have quite large Instagram meme page, and me and my brother like trolling each-other so I started uploading more and more single mother memes
Nothing hurting or such
Just dumb stuff like this
https://imgur.com/a/JJoR8Ba
And then I found out my broth... | YTA
Don’t forget a lot of those single mothers are there because deadbeat baby daddies run from their responsibilities. That you would make fun of something like that shows just how much of an AH you are.
I hope you apologized and took that shit down. ###### |
Edit: Thank you for the responses everyone, I appreciate them all. I've decided to take your advice and send everyone a meaningful apology, EXCEPT for the boy. I'll use a mutual friend to pass the message, however I'll tell them only to mention the apology if he happens to mention me. This was a short discussion, but i... | YTA
Don't contact people who have specifically said they don't want to hear from you. It's rude.
Also don't text all your friends a long apology. You are just dragging out the drama. Let it be. With everything that is going on I doubt they care that much about it. ###### |
So my boyfriend (26m) and I (24f) have been pretty bored recently. We were on a zoom call when a friend of ours brought up the idea of the "freebie list" - aka the five people you can cheat on your SO with. Obviously, this isn't actually real and I don't think any couple takes it seriously.
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But we were b... | YTA
By saying your list was "pretty normal," do you mean they were all white? Being attracted to Asians isn't "abnormal." Yeah, it can be a creepy fetish, but it can also be a normal feature of encountering attractive individuals who happen to be Asian. You basically joked that he has a fetish that dehumanizes people... |
Pre-qurantine!
So I (26M) was going on this date.
Context-
This girl (24F) let's call her Lin, was a friend of my friend. He recommended going on a date with Lin, so I said sure.
On to the story-
So we met at this restaurant that I had never heard of, and it was because Lin lived 30 minutes from here and requested ... | YTA
At worst - and I mean worst - you drive her home and she says 'hey. I'm not into you at all. Piss off. Kthanksbye.'. You are no worse off
Most likely is 'thanks I had a great time tonight'. And set up to go out again. That's a good first date.
Or - she invites you inside to hang out and stuff. That's a great... |
So for the people who dont know. ABG is a popular term used in Asian American culture where a asain female goes and takes a lot from black and white culture and is normally talking to a lot of guys at once.
Now this morning I woke to find out my(15M) sister(18F) dyed her hair blond. Which I then made a comment sayi... | YTA
Asian here. Even if you meant to just joke about it, the fact is that you hurt her feelings.
Generally the better way to approach it is to apologize for hurting her, not going “GOd yoU’Re so SeNSitivE” You basically told her she was a bad Asian and then tried to back out of it without taking any responsibility.
... |
My wife and I recently had a child.
Jake looks exactly like me, and not so much like his mother. My wife and I have pretty different phenotypes. She has blue eyes, blonde hair, the perfect member of the Aryan race. I am Indian, pretty brown skin, black hair, brown eyes.
Jake looks like a 30 year old younger versio... | YTA
As a half Indian kid who does not look like one of my parents, your wife will spend the rest of her life dealing with strangers trying to figure out if her child is hers. It’s awful.
The joke you told is funny, but it’s a joke that probably only she can tell. It sounds like she’s already dealing with “jokes” ab... |
This happened last night and I have been told by my partner that I was selfish but idk.
There was a tornado warning last night where I live. This isn't too unusual in our state but we are in a city so we dont typically get actual touchdown or anything like that. When the sirens went off (around 6 pm) we heard a knock... | YTA
An actual tornado is a life or death situation... You wouldn't let your upstairs neighbors into your house *to save their lives*? Seems extreme ###### |
Something I’ve started doing since becoming obsessed with bodybuilding. I don’t have the appetite to finish all the meals so I started just tossing everything in a blender and chugging it in 10 secs because it’s faster and you finish the meal before getting full . My girlfriend cooked dinner last night and I did that a... | YTA
Also, maybe you want to think about your self described "body building obsession". Seems like it's already making you disregard your close relationships and treat the chance for some pleasant social interaction as a mere refuelling stop. I don't mean this snarkily, but are you OK? ###### |
I’m 27/F, my hubs is 29/M, and we have three littles 4, 3, and 18 mos.
My cousin (C) is 26/F. She finally got married to her husband last year. She has been telling everyone that she and her hubs have been trying to get pregnant, but they haven't had success. Naturally people are worried for her and concerned, mea... | YTA
Alright, let's break this down.
>I asked her why LIE to family, and she said that she "wanted them off her back."
Reasonable. It's frustrating having people think your body and your sex life is their business. Because *newsflash*: it's not. It's no one's business what she does with her uterus except her. Women ... |
I am not here looking for advice, I just need someone to tell me like it is.
My danger went into foster care from the ages of 13-15 (She is currently 15). I had her young, i made some mistakes as a parent, but after that wake up call I got my stuff together and got my daughter back. After coming back from homelessnes... | YTA
All those trips and ‘spoils’ she got while she was with them was her being treated like their own daughter, as she should be. You don’t get to have a say in how they raised your daughter. You gave up that right when you messed up so badly that the state decided you were unfit to have her for those two years.
Th... |
Me (28 M) and my cousin (19M) have always been close and in a way I see him as a younger brother. He has never been good with dating/relationships unfortunately, but he ended up going on multiple dates with a girl that goes to his school.
Initially he described the dates as being really fun, that they have a lot to ta... | YTA
1. The other girl is apparently a slut for not sleeping with your cousin? Last I check, calling someone a slut is supposed to mean they sleep around too much
2. Slut-shaming a girl while encouraging a boy to sleep around is blatant misogyny. If you think a boy sleeping around is fine, then a girl sleeping around... |
My wife (23F) is American-born, but her parents immigrated from China and speak nearly no English. Recently, she was on the phone with her mom, who apparently expressed that she wishes her son in law (me, 26M) would start learning some Chinese so that we could communicate better. When my wife told me about this later, ... | YTA
1. She's only asking you to learn a few words/phrases, not an entire language.
2. Your in-laws are a permanent part of your life, and learning at least some of their language demonstrate a lot of respect.
3. Your response of "my wife translates everything and it works out fine" is kind of demeaning. She's your wi... |
I posted a thread last night about an unrelated issue on AITA and mistakenly dropped this information in the comments. Even though the issue I asked about is completely separate, I'm getting crucified over the fact that I once made a Tinder last year while dating my girlfriend.
Here's the thing, though: I only made i... | YTA
>We sat down and I told her how I was feeling unappreciated
Yeah, no. That's the conversation you have **before** you start swiping on people on Tinder, not after you're caught.
>I only made it for a confidence boost.
So you're feigning interest in people (by swiping on them) in the hopes that they'll stroke... |
So I've (25M) lived with my ex (24F) for 5 years, we dated for almost 3 years, this was 2 years ago, she's been with her boyfriend for a while now- they're even planning on moving in with eachother, she's very excited, since breaking up we've just been friends.
I met my girlfriend 5 months ago, dating for 3months.
S... | YTA
>we dated for almost 3 years
>We were recently talking about exs when I said I'd briefly dated roommates name - a silly mistake on my part.
So you were actively keeping it from her, hence the "silly mistake" on my part. Then when you finally tell her you still lied by saying you "briefly dated" someone you were... |
Hi, I’m new to reddit, and only saw it on a YouTube video, so I thought I would give I a try.
My son (15) last year asked about getting a gaming computer. My son has the tendency to really want something for around a week, but then drop it after I say he can’t have it.
He asked about building a computer and we talked... | YTA
>We agreed on a budget of around $1000. I told him if he could save up, he could get it.
>
>The only reason I had even talked about budget was to humor him for a while.
So you lied. How are you not the asshole?
>Me and my husband both think that 1100 is outrageous.
Do you or your husband know anything abou... |
This occured several years ago when I was just 19. It was mentioned during an outing with friends recently, whose immediate responds was I'm an asshole. Judge me Reddit.
I'm a writer.
Well no, not really, but I write stories and post them on writing websites to collaborate with other aspiring authors. I once found a... | YTA
>There wasn't many similarities other than plot, characters and climax
There *weren't many similarities besides the plot, characters, and climax. Otherwise known as all the components of a story. ###### |
My brother has two kids, 9 and 13. Their mother is out of the picture. Our family has been very supportive of him and his kids. My brother remarried and it was more of a "rebound" marriage for him and a marriage of "convenience" for her. My brother is a nice guy and makes good money. He only started to seriously date b... | YTA
>My brother remarried and it was more of a "rebound" marriage for him and a marriage of "convenience" for her.
>I couldn't take her and told her she wasn't a mother and no one seriously saw her as one either. I also told her that no one believes the marriage is going to last anyways and no one is even going to r... |
My fiancé and I were supposed to get married in 2 weeks. However, I’ve been going through a rough time this month, and today has been one of those days. First, my fiancé broke his leg while at work which required surgery, then he was fired and we were both required to work at Walmart to sustain ourselves. Luckily... | YTA
>I promised them that I am going to reschedule my wedding and will re open our money funds for any further gifts since we lost most of the money.
That's so over the top asshole it makes me pretty positive you're trolling. People already donated 25,000, you're refusing to return money for a wedding that DIDN'T h... |
My adult daughter is living with us to help take care of my husband, her step dad. Her day job is nursing so she’s been quite stressed lately, and I blamed that for how distant she’s been.
Thing is, she’s a plenty affectionate person. She tells her dog that she loves him multiple times a day. Before she leaves for wor... | YTA
>I myself was raised knowing full well my parents’ love for me because they expressed it with actions, not words. Likewise, I have communicated love through caring for her needs and providing for her.
You chose to raise your daughter in this manner, not expressing your love with words. You're an asshole if you e... |
I'm going to keep this short. I graduated college last week. I took graduation pictures with my family and friends. I put up a little collage on facebook, twitter etc but I cut out my mum from the pictures before this. I have nothing against my mum but she looks significantly younger for her age and it annoys me. Some ... | Yta
>I have nothing against my mum but she looks significantly younger for her age and it annoys me.
Imagine being this vain and self-centred. It sounds to me like you're jealous of her.
>I have nothing against my mum
>Like she's not part of the family
Which one is it? Do you have nothing against her or not? It ... |
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